1 00:00:06,658 --> 00:00:06,789 Are you guys gonna be okay without me? 2 00:00:07,616 --> 00:00:08,660 No! 3 00:00:09,531 --> 00:00:11,575 I'm about to step into 4 00:00:11,576 --> 00:00:13,448 someone else's life. 5 00:00:17,887 --> 00:00:19,801 I can't believe I get to be a Real Housewife. 6 00:00:19,802 --> 00:00:21,107 I'm having breakfast made for me. 7 00:00:21,108 --> 00:00:22,413 Sounds like a vacation. 8 00:00:23,675 --> 00:00:25,850 Oh, my God. 9 00:00:25,851 --> 00:00:27,852 We don't really have bedtimes. 10 00:00:27,853 --> 00:00:29,854 Am I in the Twilight Zone? 11 00:00:29,855 --> 00:00:32,248 "You must be awake no later than 5:30 AM!" 12 00:00:32,249 --> 00:00:34,294 You're kinda lazy? 13 00:00:34,295 --> 00:00:37,514 I have preserved this carpet for years. 14 00:00:37,515 --> 00:00:39,255 Paint! 15 00:00:39,256 --> 00:00:41,127 - Only for Alethea... - Oh, my gosh! 16 00:00:41,128 --> 00:00:41,519 That one's gonna leave a mark. 17 00:00:42,129 --> 00:00:42,259 ...to ruin it. 18 00:00:43,739 --> 00:00:46,393 Everyone revolves around you. 19 00:00:59,624 --> 00:01:01,930 Let's go. Without a schedule, all things fail. 20 00:01:01,931 --> 00:01:04,193 Karter. 21 00:01:04,194 --> 00:01:05,629 If you don't have a schedule, what are you doin' in life? 22 00:01:05,630 --> 00:01:07,675 Kruz, come on. We're gonna be late. 23 00:01:07,676 --> 00:01:09,198 - I'm Wendy Osefo. - And I'm Eddie Osefo. 24 00:01:09,199 --> 00:01:10,547 We have three kids. 25 00:01:10,548 --> 00:01:12,158 Kruz, pass the ball! 26 00:01:12,159 --> 00:01:14,116 Karter, Kruz... 27 00:01:14,117 --> 00:01:15,639 Uh, but you still suck. 28 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:17,511 And Kamrynn. 29 00:01:17,512 --> 00:01:19,513 In my Nigerian culture, 30 00:01:19,514 --> 00:01:23,256 education is the main focal point. 31 00:01:23,257 --> 00:01:25,997 I want my kids, above all, to be happy. 32 00:01:25,998 --> 00:01:27,303 So, what are you guys gonna learn today at school? 33 00:01:27,304 --> 00:01:29,436 I wanna learn science and math. 34 00:01:29,437 --> 00:01:32,570 Happy with multiple degrees. 35 00:01:35,182 --> 00:01:38,009 I don't like my mom's rules, 36 00:01:38,010 --> 00:01:39,750 but, like, we have to obey them. 37 00:01:39,751 --> 00:01:40,100 Let's do a little healthy snack. 38 00:01:40,752 --> 00:01:41,144 - Okay. - No. 39 00:01:42,276 --> 00:01:44,146 I don't like healthy snack. Boo. 40 00:01:44,147 --> 00:01:47,410 I don't do chips. I don't do sugary drinks. 41 00:01:47,411 --> 00:01:49,674 Is that one of my kids? What are you eatin'? 42 00:01:50,110 --> 00:01:51,806 You see, that's what I'm sayin'. 43 00:01:55,158 --> 00:01:57,028 I wake up first at, like, 5:00. 44 00:01:57,029 --> 00:01:59,422 The kids are dressed by 7:00. 45 00:01:59,423 --> 00:02:01,729 They eat breakfast and are ready by 7:15. 46 00:02:03,079 --> 00:02:05,254 Dinner between 5:30 and 6:00. 47 00:02:05,255 --> 00:02:07,213 Seven o'clock is bathtime. 48 00:02:07,214 --> 00:02:09,432 Eight forty-five is prayer. 49 00:02:09,433 --> 00:02:10,346 - Mm-hmm. - Nine o'clock is bedtime. 50 00:02:10,347 --> 00:02:12,827 Lights out! 51 00:02:12,828 --> 00:02:15,830 Wendy's rules for me are follow Wendy's rules. 52 00:02:15,831 --> 00:02:19,747 I'm pretty much her supporting staff. 53 00:02:19,748 --> 00:02:22,880 My love of structure comes from having no structure. 54 00:02:22,881 --> 00:02:24,926 I was a latchkey kid. 55 00:02:24,927 --> 00:02:26,928 My mom worked all the time. 56 00:02:26,929 --> 00:02:28,712 I wanted to make sure that when I had kids, 57 00:02:28,713 --> 00:02:30,540 I was more present in their life. 58 00:02:30,541 --> 00:02:33,064 - You gonna miss us? - Of course. 59 00:02:33,065 --> 00:02:35,502 I feel like someone is coming to take my place, 60 00:02:35,503 --> 00:02:37,765 and that's never happened. 61 00:02:37,766 --> 00:02:39,941 I think it needs to be a-a balance. 62 00:02:39,942 --> 00:02:41,290 If I were to give you advice, 63 00:02:41,291 --> 00:02:43,466 I would say balance your scheduling. 64 00:02:43,467 --> 00:02:43,598 There was no question that said, 65 00:02:45,077 --> 00:02:45,208 "What advice would you give me?" 66 00:02:46,078 --> 00:02:46,209 Okay. 67 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:50,256 Worst case scenario, I swap lives with someone 68 00:02:50,257 --> 00:02:52,997 who has no rules, whatsoever. 69 00:02:52,998 --> 00:02:53,825 Yeah, count me out. 70 00:02:57,220 --> 00:02:59,395 Ahh! 71 00:02:59,396 --> 00:03:02,006 Hello. 72 00:03:02,007 --> 00:03:03,834 I'd like for you to meet Breck. 73 00:03:03,835 --> 00:03:06,097 Ferrets are just amazing pets. 74 00:03:06,098 --> 00:03:09,449 The only bad thing is, they're a little stinky. 75 00:03:09,450 --> 00:03:11,929 I'm Alethea. I'm a stay-at-home mom. 76 00:03:11,930 --> 00:03:13,583 My husband, Craig, we are college sweethearts. 77 00:03:13,584 --> 00:03:14,932 We have four children. 78 00:03:14,933 --> 00:03:16,282 My oldest is Hailey. 79 00:03:16,283 --> 00:03:17,283 Then, I have Dylan, 80 00:03:17,284 --> 00:03:18,545 Shane, 81 00:03:18,546 --> 00:03:21,288 and Skyler. 82 00:03:22,419 --> 00:03:26,509 I have created the life of my dreams 83 00:03:26,510 --> 00:03:28,468 where I've surrounded myself by everything I love 84 00:03:28,469 --> 00:03:30,383 and all my hobbies. 85 00:03:30,384 --> 00:03:33,995 We embrace a philosophy of low demand parenting. 86 00:03:33,996 --> 00:03:35,736 Low demand parenting basically means 87 00:03:35,737 --> 00:03:39,261 empowering your children to be independent. 88 00:03:39,262 --> 00:03:41,263 So, that looks like packing your own lunches. 89 00:03:41,264 --> 00:03:41,395 I don't know what you want. 90 00:03:42,613 --> 00:03:42,744 You know what you want. 91 00:03:44,311 --> 00:03:44,441 You-you have two hands. You can do it. 92 00:03:46,095 --> 00:03:50,316 I hate helicopter parenting, 93 00:03:50,317 --> 00:03:54,015 hovering over your kid, like, enh-enh-enh. 94 00:03:54,016 --> 00:03:56,235 I don't like to be a dictator to my children. 95 00:03:56,236 --> 00:03:59,412 Okay, good luck. Cook me a delicious meal. 96 00:03:59,413 --> 00:04:03,111 They go to bed late. They play basketball inside. 97 00:04:03,112 --> 00:04:05,026 We don't really have a bedtime, but we don't, 98 00:04:05,027 --> 00:04:07,594 like, stay up around, like, 1 AM, or 12, or 11. 99 00:04:07,595 --> 00:04:09,378 On a school night. 100 00:04:09,379 --> 00:04:12,381 A few years ago, we lived in New York. 101 00:04:12,382 --> 00:04:13,861 We lived such an overscheduled life. 102 00:04:13,862 --> 00:04:16,211 Everything had to be perfect. 103 00:04:16,212 --> 00:04:18,735 They were booked out playdates eight weeks in advance. 104 00:04:18,736 --> 00:04:21,956 It was so suffocating. 105 00:04:21,957 --> 00:04:24,480 And, ultimately, that lead to burnout. 106 00:04:24,481 --> 00:04:27,135 Bro, stop. 107 00:04:27,136 --> 00:04:28,484 When we moved to Florida, I found another way to parent. 108 00:04:28,485 --> 00:04:30,660 It's way more stress-free. 109 00:04:30,661 --> 00:04:32,575 You don't have to be scheduled, 110 00:04:32,576 --> 00:04:34,751 and I wanna share it with another family. 111 00:04:34,752 --> 00:04:36,405 Like, our mom just, like, does her own thing. 112 00:04:36,406 --> 00:04:38,102 Like, it's usually, like, crocheting, 113 00:04:38,103 --> 00:04:39,930 playing with the animals. 114 00:04:39,931 --> 00:04:41,802 I wish my mom would cook dinner more often. 115 00:04:41,803 --> 00:04:43,978 And also, a mom that's not lazy. 116 00:04:43,979 --> 00:04:45,675 I think a real housewife needs to learn 117 00:04:45,676 --> 00:04:48,939 about the real world, how real Americans live. 118 00:04:48,940 --> 00:04:51,378 Gotcha! 119 00:04:53,293 --> 00:04:56,469 So, we're doing addition stories. 120 00:04:56,470 --> 00:04:58,209 I know. I know. I know. I'm practicing. 121 00:04:58,210 --> 00:04:58,341 Okay. 122 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:00,864 - Found out? - Yes. 123 00:05:00,865 --> 00:05:04,868 Karter, Kruz, pause the match! 124 00:05:04,869 --> 00:05:08,655 So, you know I'm going to a new family. 125 00:05:08,656 --> 00:05:11,005 I have no idea where they're sending me. 126 00:05:11,006 --> 00:05:11,354 We're gonna find out together. 127 00:05:12,616 --> 00:05:15,139 - Stop, stop glazing. - One, two, three. 128 00:05:15,140 --> 00:05:18,360 Ahh! - Oh! 129 00:05:18,361 --> 00:05:20,101 You're going to Naples, Florida. 130 00:05:20,102 --> 00:05:22,277 Naples, Florida? 131 00:05:22,278 --> 00:05:22,365 You know, Florida has crocodiles. 132 00:05:23,714 --> 00:05:23,845 Crocodile-- oh! 133 00:05:25,673 --> 00:05:26,804 - Florida has crocodiles. - It's the swamp people! 134 00:05:27,718 --> 00:05:30,372 I'm gonna pray for you. 135 00:05:30,373 --> 00:05:35,290 Welcome to Potomac, Maryland! 136 00:05:35,291 --> 00:05:37,466 All right. That one took me by surprise. 137 00:05:37,467 --> 00:05:39,077 Google the cast. 138 00:05:39,730 --> 00:05:42,732 - You know to spell it? - No. 139 00:05:42,733 --> 00:05:44,125 Are you guys gonna be okay without me? 140 00:05:44,126 --> 00:05:45,256 - No! - I don't know. 141 00:05:45,257 --> 00:05:46,170 I'll be back very soon. 142 00:05:46,171 --> 00:05:47,868 No. 143 00:05:47,869 --> 00:05:49,391 Good luck. 144 00:05:49,392 --> 00:05:50,827 - Bye, mommy. - Bye, mom. 145 00:05:50,828 --> 00:05:51,959 Ciao. 146 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:54,483 Bye! Whoo! 147 00:06:01,056 --> 00:06:04,711 Naples is known for its beaches, but is it, like, 148 00:06:04,712 --> 00:06:07,975 Naples, or is it, like, the Everglades? 149 00:06:12,197 --> 00:06:14,677 I'm very nervous about, like, the fancy factor 150 00:06:14,678 --> 00:06:16,462 because that's what housewives are. 151 00:06:16,463 --> 00:06:19,726 They're fancy, and I'm literally wearing 152 00:06:19,727 --> 00:06:21,423 sweatpants and a sweatshirt. 153 00:06:21,424 --> 00:06:24,252 So, we shall see. 154 00:06:24,253 --> 00:06:25,993 Looks nice. Here we go. 155 00:06:37,571 --> 00:06:41,270 Honey, I'm home! 156 00:06:42,140 --> 00:06:44,360 Where's the furniture? 157 00:06:47,015 --> 00:06:51,105 Okay, there's a game zone. 158 00:06:51,106 --> 00:06:53,020 I feel like I'm in a makeshift Dave and Buster's. 159 00:06:53,021 --> 00:06:53,760 What's going on here? 160 00:06:57,808 --> 00:07:00,593 So pretty! 161 00:07:00,594 --> 00:07:04,945 Oh, I love it, a nice, brick Colonial house. 162 00:07:04,946 --> 00:07:06,947 Dorothy's not in Kansas anymore. 163 00:07:06,948 --> 00:07:08,688 She's in Maryland. 164 00:07:08,689 --> 00:07:10,037 Okay. 165 00:07:12,170 --> 00:07:15,651 Hi. Oh, you look like a Pomeranian. 166 00:07:15,652 --> 00:07:17,914 Hi, baby. 167 00:07:17,915 --> 00:07:21,440 This is Wendy's family. 168 00:07:21,441 --> 00:07:27,707 So, it looks like boy, boy, girl, amazing. 169 00:07:27,708 --> 00:07:30,405 Doesn't look, like, ball friendly in here. 170 00:07:30,406 --> 00:07:33,408 It looks like a lot of things need to stay in position 171 00:07:33,409 --> 00:07:35,497 and not be broken. 172 00:07:35,498 --> 00:07:38,761 Continue on the tour. Lead the way. 173 00:07:38,762 --> 00:07:43,766 Oh, four kids-- so cute. 174 00:07:43,767 --> 00:07:45,899 Can I go in? 175 00:07:45,900 --> 00:07:47,553 Can I open this? 176 00:07:47,554 --> 00:07:50,294 Ahh, sh--! What is that? 177 00:07:50,295 --> 00:07:52,993 Ahh! What is that? 178 00:07:52,994 --> 00:07:55,300 Oh, another one. 179 00:07:58,303 --> 00:08:01,741 Oh, sh--. Oh, sh--. What's in there? 180 00:08:01,742 --> 00:08:04,091 I don't even wanna see. What is it? 181 00:08:04,092 --> 00:08:05,658 What in the Dr. Doolittle is this place? 182 00:08:05,659 --> 00:08:06,355 Ahh! 183 00:08:13,623 --> 00:08:14,884 Are there animals in here? 184 00:08:14,885 --> 00:08:16,625 Oh, this is my room. 185 00:08:16,626 --> 00:08:18,540 Relax. 186 00:08:18,541 --> 00:08:18,672 I don't know if I'm gonna relax, 187 00:08:20,195 --> 00:08:20,325 not with them cats running around. 188 00:08:21,631 --> 00:08:23,676 What's this? "Dear new"-- 189 00:08:23,677 --> 00:08:27,027 Chile-- the rules-- 190 00:08:27,028 --> 00:08:29,551 Okay, she didn't wanna use a computer. Okay. 191 00:08:29,552 --> 00:08:31,945 "Welcome to Casa de Osefo. 192 00:08:31,946 --> 00:08:33,424 I want to welcome you, but also..." 193 00:08:33,425 --> 00:08:35,426 Uh-oh, the but. 194 00:08:35,427 --> 00:08:37,820 "Dear New Mom, my animals are a big part 195 00:08:37,821 --> 00:08:39,648 of our family, so please treat them 196 00:08:39,649 --> 00:08:43,130 like your fur babies." Jesus, oh. 197 00:08:43,131 --> 00:08:44,000 "In this house, we don't sweat the small--" 198 00:08:47,439 --> 00:08:49,484 Who are you? 199 00:08:49,485 --> 00:08:50,398 I like dogs. Come here. What's your name? 200 00:08:50,399 --> 00:08:53,053 I-I'm the new mom. 201 00:08:53,054 --> 00:08:54,707 "There is a clear schedule in this house, 202 00:08:54,708 --> 00:08:56,839 and the schedule must be adhered to. 203 00:08:56,840 --> 00:08:58,188 That means, you, my dear friend, must be awake 204 00:08:58,189 --> 00:09:00,714 no later than 5:30 a.m." 205 00:09:02,237 --> 00:09:05,761 "In this house, we don't have a lot of rules, 206 00:09:05,762 --> 00:09:07,763 and routines are hard for us to stick to-- 207 00:09:07,764 --> 00:09:09,809 bedtimes, chores, and homework." 208 00:09:09,810 --> 00:09:13,029 Oh, they don't have a schedule. Hmm... 209 00:09:13,030 --> 00:09:16,206 "Karter and Kamrynn need to be ready for school by 7:15. 210 00:09:16,207 --> 00:09:19,296 House is vacuumed and organized by 10:00. 211 00:09:19,297 --> 00:09:21,037 Begin dinner prep by 1:00-- 212 00:09:21,038 --> 00:09:21,169 dinner served no later than 6:00. 213 00:09:22,344 --> 00:09:22,518 Bathtime begins at 7:00. 214 00:09:23,867 --> 00:09:24,259 Nighttime prayer is by 8:45. 215 00:09:25,347 --> 00:09:28,828 Everyone in bed by 9:00." Yikes. 216 00:09:28,829 --> 00:09:31,004 "We moved to Florida from New York four years ago." 217 00:09:31,005 --> 00:09:32,919 Okay, "To embrace a no stress lifestyle. 218 00:09:32,920 --> 00:09:34,311 Good luck." 219 00:09:34,312 --> 00:09:37,184 There's no schedule, no rules. 220 00:09:37,185 --> 00:09:40,317 There's nothing here. What am I reading? 221 00:09:40,318 --> 00:09:42,842 Her rules, it was almost like down to, like, 222 00:09:42,843 --> 00:09:44,974 five-minute intervals, and that is, like, 223 00:09:44,975 --> 00:09:47,542 the life I left. I did that in New York. 224 00:09:47,543 --> 00:09:49,501 So, that's gonna be interesting. 225 00:09:52,069 --> 00:09:54,941 What is this? 226 00:09:54,942 --> 00:09:57,813 Oh, I love it. 227 00:09:57,814 --> 00:10:00,381 - Hi. - Hi. 228 00:10:00,382 --> 00:10:03,297 - I'm Craig. - Okay. 229 00:10:03,298 --> 00:10:04,951 This is my laundry room office. 230 00:10:04,952 --> 00:10:07,127 - Oh, okay, hi. - So nice to meet you. 231 00:10:07,128 --> 00:10:07,519 I'm Wendy. So good to meet you. 232 00:10:08,477 --> 00:10:08,869 So nice to meet you, as well. 233 00:10:09,783 --> 00:10:11,305 - Are you working? - Yeah, 234 00:10:11,306 --> 00:10:11,436 for a little bit. - What do you do? 235 00:10:13,264 --> 00:10:13,395 I do some trading and some financial consulting. 236 00:10:15,223 --> 00:10:17,790 We decided to put my office in the laundry room. 237 00:10:17,791 --> 00:10:21,054 Um, so, I have the dual purpose of doing 238 00:10:21,055 --> 00:10:22,534 my full-time job and doing the laundry. 239 00:10:26,321 --> 00:10:29,236 He's in the laundry room, 240 00:10:29,237 --> 00:10:31,499 like, in a little-- a little nook, a corner. 241 00:10:31,500 --> 00:10:35,764 Washer and dryer has more space than he does. 242 00:10:35,765 --> 00:10:38,158 Uh, it-it does work. It-it works for me, though. 243 00:10:40,117 --> 00:10:42,423 What does mom do around this time? 244 00:10:42,424 --> 00:10:43,859 She's in her room crocheting 245 00:10:43,860 --> 00:10:43,991 or playing with the animals. 246 00:10:45,688 --> 00:10:47,167 I think you met some of the cats outside. 247 00:10:47,168 --> 00:10:49,648 - How many cats is there? - There's five. 248 00:10:49,649 --> 00:10:52,346 And two ferrets and a chinchilla, 249 00:10:52,347 --> 00:10:55,131 and then-then we have some ducks outside. 250 00:10:55,132 --> 00:10:57,873 Love it. 251 00:10:57,874 --> 00:10:58,787 I wasn't expecting someone kinda dressed to the nines, 252 00:10:58,788 --> 00:11:00,571 high heels. 253 00:11:00,572 --> 00:11:01,835 That's a bit formal for-for our style. 254 00:11:04,664 --> 00:11:06,447 Come inside. 255 00:11:06,448 --> 00:11:08,318 Hello. - Hi. 256 00:11:08,319 --> 00:11:10,625 - Hi. - I'm new mom. 257 00:11:10,626 --> 00:11:12,583 - You're new mom. - I'm Alethea. 258 00:11:12,584 --> 00:11:14,281 Can I give you a hug? 259 00:11:14,282 --> 00:11:15,674 What's your name? 260 00:11:15,675 --> 00:11:15,805 - Karter. - Nice to meet you. 261 00:11:17,154 --> 00:11:17,285 How old are you? - Twelve. 262 00:11:18,982 --> 00:11:20,417 Oh, nice. I have a 12-year-old son, too. 263 00:11:20,418 --> 00:11:21,723 - Oh, okay. - What's your name? 264 00:11:21,724 --> 00:11:22,942 - Kamrynn. - Nice to meet you. 265 00:11:22,943 --> 00:11:24,117 Can I give you a hug? 266 00:11:26,686 --> 00:11:28,991 - What's up? - What's up? - Hi. 267 00:11:28,992 --> 00:11:30,906 Boys are home. 268 00:11:30,907 --> 00:11:33,387 - Hi. - Hey. 269 00:11:33,388 --> 00:11:34,388 How are you guys doin'? 270 00:11:34,389 --> 00:11:35,650 - Good. - Good. 271 00:11:35,651 --> 00:11:37,870 Oh, you guys are so cute. 272 00:11:37,871 --> 00:11:38,001 - Thank you. - I'm Wendy. 273 00:11:39,524 --> 00:11:39,655 What's your name? - Hi-- Shane. 274 00:11:41,135 --> 00:11:41,265 - And what's your name? - Skyler. 275 00:11:42,266 --> 00:11:42,440 Hi, Skyler. 276 00:11:43,615 --> 00:11:44,746 - Hi. - Hi, Dylan. 277 00:11:44,747 --> 00:11:46,226 Nice to meet you. 278 00:11:46,227 --> 00:11:47,706 You drove yourself home? 279 00:11:47,707 --> 00:11:47,837 Yeah, I just came home from school. 280 00:11:49,056 --> 00:11:50,752 Oh, that is so cool. 281 00:11:50,753 --> 00:11:52,319 I didn't really know what I was expecting-- 282 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:55,322 high heels, makeup, hair, everything. 283 00:11:55,323 --> 00:11:58,586 I'm learning how to feed the animals. Eww. 284 00:11:58,587 --> 00:12:00,327 I was just kinda taken aback. 285 00:12:00,328 --> 00:12:02,503 Okay. 286 00:12:02,504 --> 00:12:05,027 5:30 a.m., is that real? 287 00:12:05,028 --> 00:12:05,159 Your mom really wakes at that time? 288 00:12:06,290 --> 00:12:06,464 - Mm-hmm. - Yeah. 289 00:12:07,465 --> 00:12:07,639 Yeah, oh, yeah. 290 00:12:09,119 --> 00:12:09,250 What time do you normally wake up? 291 00:12:10,686 --> 00:12:10,817 Like, I don't set my alarm. 292 00:12:12,383 --> 00:12:12,514 So, is that, like, uh, 6:00-ish? 293 00:12:14,385 --> 00:12:16,125 No. 294 00:12:16,126 --> 00:12:17,561 So, morning routine 295 00:12:17,562 --> 00:12:18,998 is my department. - Uh-huh. 296 00:12:18,999 --> 00:12:21,087 I get to sleep in? 297 00:12:21,088 --> 00:12:21,218 What time does mom usually wake up, you think? 298 00:12:22,219 --> 00:12:22,654 Like, 12:00. 299 00:12:24,526 --> 00:12:26,527 - She sleeps in and-- - Every day? 300 00:12:26,528 --> 00:12:28,659 Yeah. 301 00:12:28,660 --> 00:12:29,009 First thing I got, as a parent, I just-- 302 00:12:30,184 --> 00:12:32,751 I filled my yard with kid toys, and ATVs, 303 00:12:32,752 --> 00:12:33,969 and all that fun stuff. 304 00:12:33,970 --> 00:12:35,144 Is that, like, chaos? 305 00:12:35,145 --> 00:12:37,059 - It is. - Ahh. 306 00:12:37,060 --> 00:12:39,018 We do something called low demand parenting. 307 00:12:39,019 --> 00:12:40,280 So, you allow them to do whatever they wanna do. 308 00:12:40,281 --> 00:12:41,803 I kind of do, actually, yeah. 309 00:12:41,804 --> 00:12:43,326 How do you guys feel about that? 310 00:12:43,327 --> 00:12:44,806 Ahh, you-- Of course, you will like it. 311 00:12:44,807 --> 00:12:46,068 She's definitely way less strict 312 00:12:46,069 --> 00:12:47,766 than our mom is. 313 00:12:47,767 --> 00:12:50,029 Her kids have ATVs and a lot of pets. 314 00:12:50,030 --> 00:12:52,335 Yeah, she's cool. 315 00:12:52,336 --> 00:12:55,904 What else can I do to be like your mom today? 316 00:12:55,905 --> 00:12:59,038 She likes to cuddle with the animals. 317 00:12:59,039 --> 00:13:01,867 Hmm, okay. 318 00:13:01,868 --> 00:13:03,172 And-and her clothes are a little more, like, 319 00:13:03,173 --> 00:13:05,044 casual and, like, comfortable. 320 00:13:05,045 --> 00:13:07,089 Mm-hmm. 321 00:13:07,090 --> 00:13:09,396 Here we go. 322 00:13:09,397 --> 00:13:11,573 For the record, maxi dresses are super comfortable. 323 00:13:12,095 --> 00:13:14,880 For the next 24 hours, 324 00:13:14,881 --> 00:13:17,447 I have to live by Alethea's rules. 325 00:13:17,448 --> 00:13:19,755 So, for now, I just crochet and play with animals? 326 00:13:20,364 --> 00:13:22,976 Okay. 327 00:13:23,324 --> 00:13:26,630 I'm comfortable. 328 00:13:26,631 --> 00:13:29,198 I'm ready-- I even changed my shoes for you. 329 00:13:29,199 --> 00:13:30,373 A little fluffy action. - Good-good enough. 330 00:13:33,856 --> 00:13:37,554 I mean, cooking in a suit is definitely a choice, 331 00:13:37,555 --> 00:13:39,818 so I guess suit it is. 332 00:13:39,819 --> 00:13:41,645 I'm nervous, 'cause I don't like to cook. 333 00:13:41,646 --> 00:13:43,691 So, I have to make a good first impression. 334 00:13:43,692 --> 00:13:44,953 Grandmothers are pressure. 335 00:13:45,999 --> 00:13:47,173 - Hi. - Hi. 336 00:13:47,174 --> 00:13:49,740 Hello. 337 00:13:49,741 --> 00:13:50,133 - This is my son, Kruz. - Hi. 338 00:13:51,134 --> 00:13:53,005 - Hi. Nice to meet you. - Hi. 339 00:13:53,006 --> 00:13:53,136 - Can I give you a hug? - This is Alethea. 340 00:13:54,572 --> 00:13:54,703 - Yeah. - Thank you. Aww, hi. 341 00:13:56,444 --> 00:13:57,792 - This is Grandma Sue. - Can I give you a hug? 342 00:13:57,793 --> 00:13:58,706 - Uh, yeah. - Hi. Nice to meet you. 343 00:13:58,707 --> 00:14:00,795 Muah. - Muah. 344 00:14:00,796 --> 00:14:04,320 I would describe Wendy's mom as very loving, 345 00:14:04,321 --> 00:14:06,018 but she's not gonna shy away from telling you her opinion. 346 00:14:06,019 --> 00:14:07,541 Do we pray now or wait? 347 00:14:07,542 --> 00:14:09,499 I'm praying. 348 00:14:09,500 --> 00:14:13,547 I'm supposed to pray. They are my children. 349 00:14:13,548 --> 00:14:14,853 I'm gonna leave you guys to do what you do. 350 00:14:14,854 --> 00:14:15,245 - Okay. - Mm-hmm. 351 00:14:16,333 --> 00:14:17,551 And then, I'll see you later. 352 00:14:17,552 --> 00:14:19,858 I'm gonna make okra soup. 353 00:14:19,859 --> 00:14:22,164 So... - I've never really eaten okra. 354 00:14:22,165 --> 00:14:24,297 So, what's a typical dinner you cook for your family? 355 00:14:24,298 --> 00:14:28,779 Uh, I didn't inherit that trait. 356 00:14:28,780 --> 00:14:31,087 Is there anything that you want me to get started? 357 00:14:31,305 --> 00:14:35,222 Ahh, all right. Am I doing it right? 358 00:14:38,312 --> 00:14:42,055 No, you-you- you're doing it too big. 359 00:14:42,707 --> 00:14:45,927 One, two, three, slice. 360 00:14:45,928 --> 00:14:48,451 Even my five-year-old granddaughter knows 361 00:14:48,452 --> 00:14:50,714 how to cook okra more than Alethea does. 362 00:14:50,715 --> 00:14:52,194 You have to get it together. 363 00:14:52,195 --> 00:14:54,327 You have to treat it with respect. 364 00:14:54,328 --> 00:14:56,633 Do you need help cooking with your kids? 365 00:14:56,634 --> 00:14:59,071 My mom comes over and teaches my daughters 366 00:14:59,072 --> 00:15:00,681 how to cook-- and my sons. 367 00:15:00,682 --> 00:15:02,509 - And you just stay in bed? - Yeah. 368 00:15:02,510 --> 00:15:03,640 What kind of person are you? 369 00:15:03,641 --> 00:15:05,992 Uh... 370 00:15:07,732 --> 00:15:11,997 Maybe she's trying to test me, to break me, 371 00:15:11,998 --> 00:15:13,955 but I will not be broken. 372 00:15:13,956 --> 00:15:15,609 Uh, it makes me very happy... - Oh, my goodness. 373 00:15:15,610 --> 00:15:15,740 ...that she's passing on the skills. 374 00:15:17,481 --> 00:15:19,787 I can't get you. And you are the bystander. 375 00:15:19,788 --> 00:15:22,008 - Yes. - God, help me. 376 00:15:23,357 --> 00:15:25,662 We don't have structured bedtimes. 377 00:15:25,663 --> 00:15:27,360 No bedtime? 378 00:15:28,623 --> 00:15:29,884 Jesus... ugh... 379 00:15:37,066 --> 00:15:38,501 Do you need help cooking with your kids? 380 00:15:38,502 --> 00:15:41,678 God, help me. 381 00:15:41,679 --> 00:15:43,811 I don't feel like you need to cook to be a good mother. 382 00:15:43,812 --> 00:15:46,205 The best reflection of my parenting style 383 00:15:46,206 --> 00:15:48,468 is that I always get glowing reviews 384 00:15:48,469 --> 00:15:50,035 about my children. 385 00:15:50,036 --> 00:15:52,472 They all do really well in school, 386 00:15:52,473 --> 00:15:54,735 even without me enforcing homework. 387 00:15:54,736 --> 00:15:55,824 - You're against homework. - I am. 388 00:15:56,477 --> 00:16:00,001 - Oh, my Lord! - Yep. 389 00:16:00,002 --> 00:16:02,438 And you're taking credit for your kids coming out right. 390 00:16:02,439 --> 00:16:03,526 - Yes. - The way you-- 391 00:16:03,527 --> 00:16:05,311 You know what? 392 00:16:05,312 --> 00:16:08,705 They have no choice but to work hard. 393 00:16:08,706 --> 00:16:09,969 So, you're kinda lazy? 394 00:16:17,802 --> 00:16:21,327 Come outside! Wendy, come! Hailey's home! 395 00:16:21,328 --> 00:16:23,155 - Hi, how are you? - Nice to meet you. 396 00:16:23,156 --> 00:16:23,286 I'm Hailey. - Nice to meet you. 397 00:16:24,287 --> 00:16:24,418 Hi, Hailey. 398 00:16:25,419 --> 00:16:25,593 Hi, Shaney. 399 00:16:26,724 --> 00:16:28,987 Come here. - Aww. 400 00:16:28,988 --> 00:16:29,075 I like having Hailey home because, like, 401 00:16:30,293 --> 00:16:31,467 she's like a second mom. 402 00:16:31,468 --> 00:16:33,252 She'll take care of us. 403 00:16:33,253 --> 00:16:34,862 She'll tell us what to do and what not to do, 404 00:16:34,863 --> 00:16:37,082 and she'll just overall guide us. 405 00:16:37,083 --> 00:16:38,431 - Welcome home. - Oh, my God. Oh, thank you. 406 00:16:38,432 --> 00:16:39,823 I hope you're enjoying the farm. 407 00:16:39,824 --> 00:16:42,522 Oh, we are loving the farm. 408 00:16:42,523 --> 00:16:45,307 - Hey, boys. How ya doin'? - All good, man. 409 00:16:45,308 --> 00:16:46,526 - How was school? - It was good-- 10-4. 410 00:16:46,527 --> 00:16:49,094 Hi, Simon. 411 00:16:49,095 --> 00:16:49,443 So, when you guys eat dinner, where do you eat? 412 00:16:50,357 --> 00:16:52,314 - Oh, right here. - Here? 413 00:16:52,315 --> 00:16:53,533 I mean, it's not-not always-- sometimes on the couch. 414 00:16:53,534 --> 00:16:55,274 Okay. 415 00:16:55,275 --> 00:16:56,275 But we broke out the fine China. 416 00:16:56,276 --> 00:16:58,320 I see. 417 00:16:58,321 --> 00:17:00,192 Yeah. 418 00:17:00,193 --> 00:17:02,020 And you guys do phones at dinner? 419 00:17:02,021 --> 00:17:05,806 - Yeah. - It-it works for us. 420 00:17:05,807 --> 00:17:08,026 I have a question. So, you walk the dog. 421 00:17:08,027 --> 00:17:09,114 - I walk the dog. - And you do the laundry. 422 00:17:09,115 --> 00:17:09,245 I do laundry, yeah. 423 00:17:10,855 --> 00:17:12,900 You take all the kids to their sports? 424 00:17:12,901 --> 00:17:14,511 I do take the boys to their sports. 425 00:17:15,034 --> 00:17:17,339 But mom comes to your games. 426 00:17:17,340 --> 00:17:19,602 And she doesn't even watch them. 427 00:17:19,603 --> 00:17:19,690 - That's not true. - You said she doesn't watch your games? 428 00:17:21,344 --> 00:17:21,475 It's true. I think she's on her phone. 429 00:17:22,302 --> 00:17:22,476 Aww. 430 00:17:24,478 --> 00:17:27,567 Alethea doesn't really alter her desires for her family. 431 00:17:27,568 --> 00:17:28,959 Does she welcome you at the door with, like, 432 00:17:28,960 --> 00:17:31,179 a hug and say-- - No, she's not-- 433 00:17:31,180 --> 00:17:33,094 she's mostly on the couch most of the time. 434 00:17:33,095 --> 00:17:34,922 At the very least, you can give your children a hug. 435 00:17:34,923 --> 00:17:36,663 Hugs are free. 436 00:17:36,664 --> 00:17:38,404 I'm here to fill her shoes. 437 00:17:38,405 --> 00:17:40,058 So, whatever she does, I'll do. 438 00:17:40,059 --> 00:17:41,495 - Perfect. - Go, team, go. 439 00:17:48,893 --> 00:17:51,808 All right, guys. We have to stick to schedule. 440 00:17:51,809 --> 00:17:53,680 We are behind. 441 00:17:53,681 --> 00:17:56,639 So, let's clean up, and we gotta-- 442 00:17:56,640 --> 00:17:58,772 Now, I'm gonna pretend I'm, like, really strict. 443 00:17:58,773 --> 00:18:00,861 This is why I don't like to cook-- too much work. 444 00:18:00,862 --> 00:18:02,472 But she didn't do any work. 445 00:18:04,735 --> 00:18:06,606 Okay, well, it's getting dark. 446 00:18:06,607 --> 00:18:07,781 - Yeah. - Yeah. 447 00:18:07,782 --> 00:18:07,956 It's getting very dark. 448 00:18:10,567 --> 00:18:12,742 Yawning... 449 00:18:12,743 --> 00:18:14,222 We-we don't really have structured bedtimes. 450 00:18:14,223 --> 00:18:16,485 - Okay. - We typically, uh, 451 00:18:16,486 --> 00:18:18,357 do go our separate ways. - Okay. 452 00:18:18,358 --> 00:18:20,315 And they figure out when they wanna go to bed. 453 00:18:20,316 --> 00:18:22,012 No bedtime?! 454 00:18:22,013 --> 00:18:23,579 Am I in the Twilight Zone? 455 00:18:23,580 --> 00:18:25,668 All right, good night, team. 456 00:18:25,669 --> 00:18:25,800 - Good night. - Good night. See you tomorrow. 457 00:18:27,193 --> 00:18:27,323 - Good night. - Good night. 458 00:18:28,498 --> 00:18:28,890 Ready for prayers. 459 00:18:30,021 --> 00:18:31,326 Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit. 460 00:18:31,327 --> 00:18:32,763 Amen. 461 00:18:34,069 --> 00:18:37,071 Sorry. 462 00:18:37,072 --> 00:18:39,639 Okay. Forgive us whichever sins against you today. 463 00:18:39,640 --> 00:18:41,989 Everything's so calculated 464 00:18:41,990 --> 00:18:43,686 down to the, like, the minute. 465 00:18:43,687 --> 00:18:44,687 See ya in the mornin'. - See ya in the mornin'. 466 00:18:44,688 --> 00:18:47,125 8:25, 8:30, 8:35. 467 00:18:47,126 --> 00:18:48,691 Sweet dreams. 468 00:18:48,692 --> 00:18:50,129 All right, bye. 469 00:18:51,608 --> 00:18:55,045 Seven hours until I wake up. 470 00:18:55,046 --> 00:18:57,657 Gotta be up at 5:30, on the dot. 471 00:18:57,658 --> 00:18:59,573 God, I'm gonna die. 472 00:19:09,974 --> 00:19:12,498 Jesus... ugh... 473 00:19:29,516 --> 00:19:32,605 Too early. 474 00:19:32,606 --> 00:19:34,695 I'm to organize the bags and wake up the kids. 475 00:19:36,305 --> 00:19:38,873 Rise and shine. 476 00:19:49,100 --> 00:19:53,191 I'm so used to being up at 5 a.m. 477 00:19:53,192 --> 00:19:56,803 and gettin' on with the day. 478 00:19:56,804 --> 00:19:58,021 There was no breakfast to make, 479 00:19:58,022 --> 00:20:00,328 no one to wake up. 480 00:20:00,329 --> 00:20:01,678 The kids make their own lunches. 481 00:20:03,637 --> 00:20:07,206 Okay. 482 00:20:08,424 --> 00:20:11,644 Nothing. Absolutely nothing. 483 00:20:11,645 --> 00:20:13,124 Just wake up. 484 00:20:13,777 --> 00:20:16,257 All right, guys! 485 00:20:16,258 --> 00:20:18,216 We're runnin' late! 486 00:20:18,217 --> 00:20:19,217 Hi. - Are we ready? 487 00:20:19,218 --> 00:20:21,567 Ready. 488 00:20:21,568 --> 00:20:23,612 - To take 'em to school. - Yeah, let's go. 489 00:20:23,613 --> 00:20:27,094 As Wendy, I think Alethea is doing her best, 490 00:20:27,095 --> 00:20:29,314 but if she's trying to fill a size nine shoe, 491 00:20:29,315 --> 00:20:31,359 she's about a four and a half, right now. 492 00:20:31,360 --> 00:20:32,665 - Okay. - You're coming with, right? 493 00:20:32,666 --> 00:20:34,362 - Yeah, sure. - Okay. 494 00:20:34,363 --> 00:20:35,798 Okay, does, uh, she usually wear pajamas? 495 00:20:35,799 --> 00:20:37,061 No, she doesn't. 496 00:20:41,979 --> 00:20:44,981 You having fun? - Fun, yeah. 497 00:20:44,982 --> 00:20:46,418 It's a lot of work. - Oh, oh, it is. 498 00:20:46,419 --> 00:20:48,028 It is, the morning. - It's crazy. 499 00:20:48,029 --> 00:20:49,159 And we're running late this morning, too. 500 00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:50,639 Yep. 501 00:20:52,076 --> 00:20:53,903 - Hi. - Good morning. 502 00:20:53,904 --> 00:20:55,340 I'm just doing some homework. 503 00:20:55,341 --> 00:20:55,471 - Could I sit? - Come sit, yeah. 504 00:20:57,081 --> 00:20:58,256 Okay, I'm so not used to being idle, 505 00:20:58,257 --> 00:21:00,170 and I don't know what to do. 506 00:21:00,171 --> 00:21:00,259 I mean, we could go downstairs, and we could, 507 00:21:01,825 --> 00:21:04,263 um, go do the animal morning routine. 508 00:21:07,657 --> 00:21:11,791 Ahh! 509 00:21:11,792 --> 00:21:13,662 I'll hold him back, and you're gonna get the poo. 510 00:21:13,663 --> 00:21:13,794 And here, you're gonna be great. 511 00:21:14,882 --> 00:21:16,622 Okay, all right. 512 00:21:16,623 --> 00:21:19,581 And this goes in here? - And, yeah, put it-- yeah. 513 00:21:19,582 --> 00:21:21,453 And you did it. That was it. 514 00:21:21,454 --> 00:21:25,718 The kids said that mom's job was to do that. 515 00:21:25,719 --> 00:21:28,286 It's-it's, like, five minutes worth of work. 516 00:21:28,287 --> 00:21:31,724 Oh, Breck, Bobo, why y'all movin'? 517 00:21:31,725 --> 00:21:33,987 My rules cannot come soon enough. 518 00:21:33,988 --> 00:21:35,336 Somebody call Delta and get my flight. 519 00:21:35,337 --> 00:21:37,556 Get my flight. 520 00:21:37,557 --> 00:21:38,600 Oh, my gosh. 521 00:21:38,601 --> 00:21:40,298 - Dad. - Oh! 522 00:21:40,299 --> 00:21:45,260 Kruz, what are you doing? 523 00:21:53,355 --> 00:21:56,227 Time to vacuum. 524 00:21:57,185 --> 00:21:59,491 Vacuuming with heels, 525 00:21:59,492 --> 00:22:00,144 definitely a first. 526 00:22:08,196 --> 00:22:11,459 Wendy is really particular about vacuuming, 527 00:22:11,460 --> 00:22:12,547 and vacuuming in straight lines, 528 00:22:12,548 --> 00:22:15,768 and leaving lines 529 00:22:15,769 --> 00:22:18,685 in order to know where you vacuumed. 530 00:22:20,295 --> 00:22:22,862 And it-it doesn't look like she's really focused 531 00:22:22,863 --> 00:22:24,951 on what she's vacuuming, either. 532 00:22:24,952 --> 00:22:25,082 It's a lot of different directions 533 00:22:26,214 --> 00:22:27,388 that she's goin' in. 534 00:22:28,434 --> 00:22:31,045 Oh! 535 00:22:35,484 --> 00:22:37,746 Being a Real Housewife is a lot more work 536 00:22:37,747 --> 00:22:39,966 than I expected. 537 00:22:39,967 --> 00:22:41,663 Wendy's rules just have no room for error 538 00:22:41,664 --> 00:22:44,057 and no room to relax. 539 00:22:44,058 --> 00:22:46,015 I cannot wait to change the rules of the house. 540 00:22:46,016 --> 00:22:49,976 Dog break-- hi. 541 00:22:49,977 --> 00:22:52,544 - Welcome home from school. - The boys are home. 542 00:22:52,545 --> 00:22:53,980 Hey, Skyler, how are you? 543 00:22:53,981 --> 00:22:55,155 - Hello. - Hey. 544 00:22:58,551 --> 00:23:01,117 Aww, you got Hailey, too. - Did you have a good day? 545 00:23:01,118 --> 00:23:04,077 Just by her embracing her brothers, 546 00:23:04,078 --> 00:23:08,081 it's clear that Hailey is the mom of this house. 547 00:23:08,082 --> 00:23:11,780 These kids, and now Hailey, needs a hands on mom. 548 00:23:11,781 --> 00:23:13,434 I'm ready for it to be my rules. 549 00:23:17,831 --> 00:23:21,399 All right, guys, we're done with the rules. 550 00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:23,749 So, we're gonna throw them away. 551 00:23:23,750 --> 00:23:25,011 It's time to make the big switch. 552 00:23:25,012 --> 00:23:26,273 This is my rules now. 553 00:23:26,274 --> 00:23:29,015 Welcome to Wendy's world! 554 00:23:29,016 --> 00:23:31,539 Now, it's my rules. 555 00:23:31,540 --> 00:23:34,150 The first order of business, 556 00:23:34,151 --> 00:23:36,283 structure. 557 00:23:36,284 --> 00:23:39,329 Family dinner at 7 p.m., no devices. 558 00:23:39,330 --> 00:23:42,420 No! 559 00:23:42,421 --> 00:23:44,160 Okay, how about, like, should we add 560 00:23:44,161 --> 00:23:45,510 some more, like, fun? 561 00:23:45,511 --> 00:23:46,815 - Yes. - Yeah. 562 00:23:46,816 --> 00:23:48,861 Some more kids stuff into it? 563 00:23:48,862 --> 00:23:50,906 The kids have no rules now, 564 00:23:50,907 --> 00:23:52,647 and it's gonna be okay. 565 00:23:52,648 --> 00:23:54,562 - Woosah. - It's fine. 566 00:23:54,563 --> 00:23:56,695 Just keeping an eye on the kids, 567 00:23:56,696 --> 00:23:59,959 who now have no rules, uh, is gonna require more work. 568 00:23:59,960 --> 00:24:03,223 Bye. See ya soon. 569 00:24:03,224 --> 00:24:04,877 I don't know if I'm necessarily looking forward to that. 570 00:24:04,878 --> 00:24:07,619 I want us to all come together. 571 00:24:07,620 --> 00:24:10,622 And I'm going to spend one-on-one time 572 00:24:10,623 --> 00:24:13,755 with each of you kids, doing what you like to do. 573 00:24:13,756 --> 00:24:13,887 - Sounds great. - Let's do it. 574 00:24:15,018 --> 00:24:15,192 Okay, let's do it. 575 00:24:16,933 --> 00:24:18,586 I hope the kids get out of my new rules that, 576 00:24:18,587 --> 00:24:20,545 with everything I do, the children know 577 00:24:20,546 --> 00:24:22,460 that they are the center. 578 00:24:22,461 --> 00:24:24,070 Let's crochet in the office. 579 00:24:24,071 --> 00:24:26,638 And they matter to me. 580 00:24:26,639 --> 00:24:29,467 We're kinda just, like, creating, like, a baseline 581 00:24:29,468 --> 00:24:32,208 of, like, links. - Oh, sh--. 582 00:24:32,209 --> 00:24:34,210 You're doing really good. 583 00:24:34,211 --> 00:24:35,951 So, do you do this with your mom often or... 584 00:24:35,952 --> 00:24:37,213 Yeah, she taught me. 585 00:24:37,214 --> 00:24:40,260 It was, like, really fun. 586 00:24:40,261 --> 00:24:42,218 You know, baby Skyler was talking about football. 587 00:24:42,219 --> 00:24:44,482 Like, he was talking about how your mom 588 00:24:44,483 --> 00:24:46,614 really doesn't go to his games. 589 00:24:46,615 --> 00:24:46,702 Maybe she's, like, a little, like, aloof 590 00:24:48,225 --> 00:24:48,356 and in her own world. - Mm-hmm. 591 00:24:50,314 --> 00:24:50,445 In the sense that's, like, maybe she's on her phone, 592 00:24:52,099 --> 00:24:52,229 but, like, when I was growing up, like, 593 00:24:53,796 --> 00:24:53,927 she was, like, a PTA mom. - Mm-hmm. 594 00:24:55,406 --> 00:24:55,537 Me and Dylan were in theater... 595 00:24:56,973 --> 00:24:57,104 - Yeah. - ...and she was, like, 596 00:24:58,235 --> 00:24:58,409 making the costumes. 597 00:25:00,150 --> 00:25:00,281 So, the mom you grew up with is not the mom 598 00:25:01,848 --> 00:25:01,978 that Skyler that Shane grew up with. 599 00:25:03,632 --> 00:25:05,503 Like, she was very type A in New York. 600 00:25:05,504 --> 00:25:07,417 And, like, since moving to Florida, kind of, like, 601 00:25:07,418 --> 00:25:09,811 laid back a little bit, 602 00:25:09,812 --> 00:25:12,466 that it's kind of like two different people. 603 00:25:12,467 --> 00:25:14,250 I'm glad that my mom honestly is not as stressed out 604 00:25:14,251 --> 00:25:16,383 as she used to be in New York. 605 00:25:16,384 --> 00:25:17,863 But sometimes, I would wish that my mom could be 606 00:25:17,864 --> 00:25:19,212 a little more present for my brothers, 607 00:25:19,213 --> 00:25:20,605 kind of like how I had it when I-- 608 00:25:20,606 --> 00:25:22,868 me and my sister were growing up. 609 00:25:22,869 --> 00:25:25,000 It's so interesting because when you came home, 610 00:25:25,001 --> 00:25:27,873 I saw the way you embraced Shane. 611 00:25:27,874 --> 00:25:29,004 There was a sense of motherness to him with you. 612 00:25:29,005 --> 00:25:31,964 Yeah. 613 00:25:31,965 --> 00:25:32,052 So, do you ever feel like you and your mom switched roles, 614 00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:35,576 like, she's the child, and you're, like, the mom? 615 00:25:35,577 --> 00:25:37,665 I kind of, like, parent the kids 616 00:25:37,666 --> 00:25:39,885 how I wanna parent my kids when I'm older, 617 00:25:39,886 --> 00:25:41,887 like, with more structure and with more regimen. 618 00:25:41,888 --> 00:25:43,715 Like, I don't know if that makes me sound, like, crazy. 619 00:25:43,716 --> 00:25:43,846 No, it doesn't make you sound crazy. 620 00:25:45,544 --> 00:25:45,631 Or like a military person, but, like-- 621 00:25:47,241 --> 00:25:47,371 No, I completely get it. 622 00:25:48,634 --> 00:25:51,766 Hailey has to be a mom 623 00:25:51,767 --> 00:25:53,855 because her mom isn't stepping up to the plate. 624 00:25:53,856 --> 00:25:56,423 She's only 19. 625 00:25:56,424 --> 00:25:56,772 At this point, I don't know. - You don't even know. 626 00:25:57,773 --> 00:25:57,904 - I don't know. - I was like-- 627 00:25:59,688 --> 00:25:59,775 I was like, does she know what she's doing? 628 00:26:01,211 --> 00:26:01,342 I don't know what this is. 629 00:26:03,126 --> 00:26:05,084 Who is ready? 630 00:26:05,085 --> 00:26:08,043 We're gonna have fun, creativity time, 631 00:26:08,044 --> 00:26:09,915 and get a little messy. 632 00:26:09,916 --> 00:26:10,960 - A little messy? - Yep. 633 00:26:12,048 --> 00:26:15,050 This is crochet. 634 00:26:15,051 --> 00:26:15,182 - Oh, I know what that is. - I know how to knit. 635 00:26:16,792 --> 00:26:16,923 So, have you ever crocheted before? 636 00:26:18,446 --> 00:26:18,794 Uh, in my class, in art, I have. 637 00:26:19,665 --> 00:26:19,795 Really? That's so cool. 638 00:26:21,014 --> 00:26:22,710 Paint. - I knew it. 639 00:26:22,711 --> 00:26:24,843 When I was trying to heal from burnout, 640 00:26:24,844 --> 00:26:27,889 I started to craft. 641 00:26:27,890 --> 00:26:31,110 This is about to be messy. 642 00:26:31,111 --> 00:26:33,547 The Osefo kids lead such a structured life. 643 00:26:33,548 --> 00:26:34,983 I figure crafting was such a great way 644 00:26:34,984 --> 00:26:35,115 to just blow off some steam 645 00:26:36,682 --> 00:26:38,378 and have some unstructured fun time. 646 00:26:38,379 --> 00:26:40,206 - Water soluble? - We'll find out. 647 00:26:40,207 --> 00:26:42,991 - We'll find out. - Yeah. 648 00:26:42,992 --> 00:26:45,864 Try to make each of your loop the same size. 649 00:26:45,865 --> 00:26:47,256 - Oh, my gosh! - Dad. 650 00:26:47,257 --> 00:26:50,433 What? Oh, that wasn't me. 651 00:26:50,434 --> 00:26:52,479 Dad, this is your fault, not my fault. 652 00:26:52,480 --> 00:26:56,222 Oh, my gosh. Kruz. 653 00:26:56,223 --> 00:26:57,397 That one's gonna leave a mark. 654 00:26:57,398 --> 00:26:59,007 Kruz, what are you doing? 655 00:26:59,008 --> 00:27:03,099 I'm not taking the fall for this one. 656 00:27:07,321 --> 00:27:09,496 - Oh, my gosh! - Dad. 657 00:27:09,497 --> 00:27:11,977 Oh, that wasn't me. 658 00:27:11,978 --> 00:27:13,761 Kruz, I-- 659 00:27:13,762 --> 00:27:15,023 That one's gonna leave a mark. 660 00:27:15,024 --> 00:27:16,416 Kruz, what are you doing? 661 00:27:16,417 --> 00:27:17,939 It wasn't my fault, dad. 662 00:27:17,940 --> 00:27:18,071 How is it not your fault? 663 00:27:19,550 --> 00:27:21,116 Mom's not gonna like it at all. 664 00:27:21,117 --> 00:27:24,119 No. 665 00:27:24,120 --> 00:27:25,381 I don't know what happened. 666 00:27:25,382 --> 00:27:27,122 I know exactly how it happened. 667 00:27:27,123 --> 00:27:31,039 Kruz spilled the paint under Alethea's watch. 668 00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:32,911 Dad is secretly dying inside. 669 00:27:32,912 --> 00:27:34,652 - Secretly? - Look. 670 00:27:34,653 --> 00:27:36,610 - Ooh, that's amazing. - Amazing. 671 00:27:36,611 --> 00:27:38,699 Alethea taught me how to crochet. 672 00:27:38,700 --> 00:27:40,962 She is fun. 673 00:27:40,963 --> 00:27:42,921 I'm gonna show mama my crochet work. 674 00:27:42,922 --> 00:27:44,705 Wow! 675 00:27:44,706 --> 00:27:46,490 I wanna teach mom how to crochet. 676 00:27:47,448 --> 00:27:49,318 No. 677 00:27:52,932 --> 00:27:54,889 Get it, Shane! 678 00:27:54,890 --> 00:27:57,283 Every child wants to be seen. 679 00:27:57,284 --> 00:27:59,546 So, I wanna do what makes them happy. 680 00:27:59,547 --> 00:28:01,591 Shane likes the beach. We're goin' to the beach. 681 00:28:01,592 --> 00:28:02,897 Yay! 682 00:28:02,898 --> 00:28:03,855 Oh! 683 00:28:07,381 --> 00:28:09,599 Dylan likes the piano. Call me Mozart. 684 00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:09,731 - Yeah, okay. - I got it? 685 00:28:11,341 --> 00:28:12,690 - That's really good, though! - Aah! 686 00:28:12,691 --> 00:28:14,213 Skyler likes football. 687 00:28:14,214 --> 00:28:15,736 I know that's right. 688 00:28:15,737 --> 00:28:17,129 I'm his number one cheerleader. 689 00:28:17,130 --> 00:28:19,609 Let's go, Skyler! 690 00:28:19,610 --> 00:28:21,307 There you go! - Yes! 691 00:28:21,308 --> 00:28:23,135 Touchdown! 692 00:28:23,136 --> 00:28:25,834 That's my baby! 693 00:28:26,356 --> 00:28:28,749 What about, like, this right here? 694 00:28:28,750 --> 00:28:30,795 Yes. 695 00:28:30,796 --> 00:28:32,231 So, you-you guys are about to do that? 696 00:28:32,232 --> 00:28:33,623 Hey. - Look how-- 697 00:28:33,624 --> 00:28:35,277 look how happy they are. 698 00:28:35,278 --> 00:28:37,410 - He almost got it. - Oh, my gosh. 699 00:28:39,282 --> 00:28:42,633 Thank you so much. 700 00:28:42,808 --> 00:28:48,160 Dinner is served. - That's a lot. 701 00:28:48,161 --> 00:28:50,728 This is an example of a typical night 702 00:28:50,729 --> 00:28:52,512 for the Shapiros. 703 00:28:52,513 --> 00:28:54,688 Ordering in means no dishes. 704 00:28:56,038 --> 00:28:59,040 And that means more fun time. 705 00:29:02,915 --> 00:29:04,785 All right, family, let's do dinner. 706 00:29:04,786 --> 00:29:04,917 Yes. Come on, guys. 707 00:29:06,353 --> 00:29:07,570 Okay, so, first things first. 708 00:29:07,571 --> 00:29:10,096 Cell phones. 709 00:29:10,618 --> 00:29:14,490 Cell phone, cell phone. 710 00:29:14,491 --> 00:29:16,579 I want all hands on deck in the kitchen. 711 00:29:16,580 --> 00:29:17,842 Gram's got the garlic bread. 712 00:29:17,843 --> 00:29:20,453 Who wants to do the salmon? 713 00:29:20,454 --> 00:29:20,584 Dylan and I could help with that. 714 00:29:21,585 --> 00:29:22,281 Awesome, okay. 715 00:29:22,282 --> 00:29:23,978 Close. 716 00:29:23,979 --> 00:29:26,198 High five. - Wendy! 717 00:29:26,199 --> 00:29:29,897 - Yes? - I'm bored. 718 00:29:29,898 --> 00:29:32,073 Ahh! 719 00:29:32,074 --> 00:29:34,641 Come here, my child. 720 00:29:34,642 --> 00:29:35,860 Come here, Shane. 721 00:29:37,863 --> 00:29:37,993 Talk to me. What's going on? 722 00:29:39,647 --> 00:29:41,735 No. 723 00:29:41,736 --> 00:29:43,737 That's right in the thick of dinner. 724 00:29:43,738 --> 00:29:45,957 My mom would let me. 725 00:29:45,958 --> 00:29:48,046 - Different rules. - Grandma said no. 726 00:29:48,047 --> 00:29:49,743 - No. - Dang. - So, it's no. 727 00:29:49,744 --> 00:29:51,266 Don't worry. You'll enjoy this. 728 00:29:51,267 --> 00:29:53,051 This, right here, is an example 729 00:29:53,052 --> 00:29:55,749 of the lack of the structure in this house. 730 00:29:55,750 --> 00:29:58,404 Bro, get off the table. What are you doing? 731 00:29:58,405 --> 00:30:00,449 It does not take four degrees to understand 732 00:30:00,450 --> 00:30:03,061 that these kids need some rules. 733 00:30:03,062 --> 00:30:05,890 Let's do this. Salmon... 734 00:30:05,891 --> 00:30:08,588 - Let's eat. - Let's eat. 735 00:30:08,589 --> 00:30:08,719 - That's good. - Broccolini. 736 00:30:10,156 --> 00:30:10,286 This is a home cooked meal. 737 00:30:11,592 --> 00:30:13,767 Mmm. Yummy. 738 00:30:13,768 --> 00:30:15,508 - The salmon is good. - The salmon is very good. 739 00:30:15,509 --> 00:30:17,553 Good job. 740 00:30:17,554 --> 00:30:19,991 If Shane likes something, he likes it. 741 00:30:19,992 --> 00:30:21,122 When was the last time everyone sat at a table 742 00:30:21,123 --> 00:30:22,994 like this? 743 00:30:22,995 --> 00:30:24,778 Um, probably not since New York. 744 00:30:24,779 --> 00:30:26,867 Really? 745 00:30:26,868 --> 00:30:29,130 I have really enjoyed you guys. 746 00:30:29,131 --> 00:30:31,045 I have learned from you so much. 747 00:30:31,046 --> 00:30:32,742 Did we meet your expectations? 748 00:30:32,743 --> 00:30:35,441 - You exceeded them. - Aww. 749 00:30:35,442 --> 00:30:38,226 I felt like you're my own. 750 00:30:38,227 --> 00:30:38,358 Like, I feel like you're my own now. 751 00:30:39,925 --> 00:30:42,317 I wanna make sure you guys are okay. 752 00:30:42,318 --> 00:30:43,841 You really listen, and I really appreciate that. 753 00:30:43,842 --> 00:30:46,582 Like, you hear me. We see each other. 754 00:30:46,583 --> 00:30:49,237 - Aww, that's very nice. - That's my girl. 755 00:30:49,238 --> 00:30:49,586 I'm so glad you're here. We're having such a great time. 756 00:30:50,283 --> 00:30:51,893 Aww, thank you. 757 00:30:52,111 --> 00:30:54,634 There's no spaghetti, grandpa. It's gone. 758 00:30:54,635 --> 00:30:54,809 - It's over. - We ate it all? 759 00:30:56,115 --> 00:30:56,245 We ate it all. 760 00:30:57,464 --> 00:30:58,986 That's how good it was. 761 00:30:58,987 --> 00:31:00,683 - Very good. - Very good. We ate it all! 762 00:31:02,991 --> 00:31:05,210 What time is it, guys? 763 00:31:05,211 --> 00:31:07,212 - I don't have my phone. - Is it, like-- 764 00:31:07,213 --> 00:31:09,170 is this usually your bedtime? - We'd probably be praying. 765 00:31:09,171 --> 00:31:11,042 I was just gonna say, you'd be doing your prayers. 766 00:31:11,043 --> 00:31:12,695 But guess what. No bedtime. 767 00:31:12,696 --> 00:31:14,175 Right. Isn't this more fun, Eddie? 768 00:31:14,176 --> 00:31:15,742 What do you think? - Uh, I'm tired. 769 00:31:15,743 --> 00:31:18,876 You're excused. 770 00:31:18,877 --> 00:31:20,660 All right, boys, 9:30, bedtime. 771 00:31:20,661 --> 00:31:20,791 Good night. - Good night. You, too. 772 00:31:21,705 --> 00:31:21,880 Be good. 773 00:31:23,359 --> 00:31:25,883 See ya in the a.m. for breakfast. 774 00:31:29,626 --> 00:31:31,105 Rules change went really well. 775 00:31:31,106 --> 00:31:31,237 Okay, here we go. 776 00:31:32,891 --> 00:31:35,718 Okay. Here we go. 777 00:31:35,719 --> 00:31:38,591 Low stress, high energy, high fun. 778 00:31:38,592 --> 00:31:40,332 I need to get my beauty rest. 779 00:31:40,333 --> 00:31:41,811 I need to rest. You see these bags? 780 00:31:41,812 --> 00:31:44,510 Oh, my gosh. 781 00:31:44,511 --> 00:31:46,338 Wendy, please come home. 782 00:31:46,339 --> 00:31:48,471 Hey! So what? 783 00:31:48,907 --> 00:31:51,387 Go to sleep! 784 00:31:51,648 --> 00:31:53,867 - Hi. - Nice to meet you. 785 00:31:53,868 --> 00:31:55,216 How are you? - I'm great. How are you? 786 00:31:55,217 --> 00:31:56,391 - Don't look at the carpet. - Huh? 787 00:31:56,392 --> 00:31:57,566 - Oh. - Kruz did it! 788 00:31:57,567 --> 00:31:57,959 - What? - Kruz did it. 789 00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:00,091 - It wasn't me. - Kruz did it. 790 00:32:00,092 --> 00:32:04,574 Welcome home! 791 00:32:07,708 --> 00:32:09,752 Off we go. 792 00:32:09,753 --> 00:32:12,451 Alethea is taking us to see alpacas. 793 00:32:12,452 --> 00:32:13,756 And I didn't take my allergy medicine. 794 00:32:13,757 --> 00:32:15,889 So, that will be interesting. 795 00:32:15,890 --> 00:32:15,977 - Jeez... - Yeah, that was not smart of me. 796 00:32:17,674 --> 00:32:17,805 Sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. 797 00:32:18,719 --> 00:32:20,807 Exactly. 798 00:32:20,808 --> 00:32:23,418 I love finding spontaneous, fun, 799 00:32:23,419 --> 00:32:25,768 new adventures for my family. 800 00:32:25,769 --> 00:32:27,422 There's so many other ways to enrich your life 801 00:32:27,423 --> 00:32:28,641 other than school. 802 00:32:28,642 --> 00:32:30,208 Hi, guys. 803 00:32:30,209 --> 00:32:32,340 - Hi. - Hi. 804 00:32:32,341 --> 00:32:34,995 - Welcome to Black Barn. - Thanks for having us. 805 00:32:34,996 --> 00:32:37,693 Little Devonte was born 12 days ago. 806 00:32:37,694 --> 00:32:38,043 The alpaca's name is Devonte? 807 00:32:38,782 --> 00:32:40,261 Yeah. 808 00:32:42,221 --> 00:32:44,701 I wanna feed that one. 809 00:32:45,398 --> 00:32:48,269 Look, it's fine. You're a pro. 810 00:32:48,270 --> 00:32:51,533 I like feeding the alpacas. 811 00:32:51,534 --> 00:32:52,839 Why are you chasing after me? 812 00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:55,189 Am I your favorite lover? 813 00:32:55,190 --> 00:32:57,800 I'm excited for my mom to come here 814 00:32:57,801 --> 00:33:00,716 and feed the alpacas, but she might be scared. 815 00:33:00,717 --> 00:33:00,848 Hey, look at this guy. He has, like, boogers. 816 00:33:01,980 --> 00:33:03,632 Ooh. 817 00:33:03,633 --> 00:33:05,374 Hey, stop. Calm down. Calm down. 818 00:33:05,896 --> 00:33:09,596 Oh, my God, they're bustin' down on my hand. 819 00:33:10,684 --> 00:33:13,903 - Is this part of our bonding? - Yeah. 820 00:33:13,904 --> 00:33:17,995 Okay, Shane. 821 00:33:17,996 --> 00:33:21,476 Why does it just, like-- eww, nah. 822 00:33:21,477 --> 00:33:23,913 He's just chilling. He's tired. 823 00:33:23,914 --> 00:33:28,875 Okay, let's bond. I will hold your friends. 824 00:33:28,876 --> 00:33:32,879 Okay. Ehh, it's slinking. 825 00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:37,362 I will always remember Shane for making me hold a ferret, 826 00:33:37,363 --> 00:33:40,104 and the only reason I held it, was for him. 827 00:33:43,151 --> 00:33:44,934 This is fun. Thanks, Alethea. 828 00:33:44,935 --> 00:33:47,807 - Yeah, do you like it? - Yeah. 829 00:33:47,808 --> 00:33:49,722 When we get back home, are you leaving? 830 00:33:49,723 --> 00:33:51,419 Tomorrow, your mom is coming home, 831 00:33:51,420 --> 00:33:54,161 and then I leave. 832 00:33:54,162 --> 00:33:56,033 Aww, are you guys gonna miss Alethea? 833 00:33:56,034 --> 00:33:58,383 - Mm-hmm. It was a fun time. - Yeah. 834 00:33:58,384 --> 00:33:59,993 You guys never let us have fun. 835 00:33:59,994 --> 00:34:00,994 - We never let you have fun? - No. 836 00:34:00,995 --> 00:34:03,866 - Dude. - Ha-ha. 837 00:34:03,867 --> 00:34:06,217 Once my mom comes home, the rules are gonna change back, 838 00:34:06,218 --> 00:34:08,915 and then it's gonna be boring, again. 839 00:34:08,916 --> 00:34:11,657 Do you think there is any of Alethea's rules 840 00:34:11,658 --> 00:34:14,442 you guys will be instituting moving forward? 841 00:34:14,443 --> 00:34:18,838 I learned a few things from the, uh, Alethea rule book. 842 00:34:18,839 --> 00:34:20,666 You know, coming out and seeing nature and the animals, 843 00:34:20,667 --> 00:34:23,060 and spending time with the kids in outdoors, 844 00:34:23,061 --> 00:34:25,323 and just watching them smile, I think that is something 845 00:34:25,324 --> 00:34:25,672 I definitely would love to implement in our household. 846 00:34:26,107 --> 00:34:29,718 Yes! 847 00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:31,721 - The old alpaca loves me. - Right. 848 00:34:49,174 --> 00:34:50,348 You ready for some breakfast? 849 00:34:50,349 --> 00:34:52,263 - Mm-hmm. - Yum, yum, yum. 850 00:34:52,264 --> 00:34:54,091 All right. What do we have? 851 00:34:54,092 --> 00:34:55,309 - Good morning. - Good morning, Craig. 852 00:34:55,310 --> 00:34:57,094 How are you? - Good. 853 00:34:57,095 --> 00:34:59,313 Today is my last day with the Shapiro family. 854 00:34:59,314 --> 00:35:05,014 Bobo, get the hell off the counter. 855 00:35:05,015 --> 00:35:08,017 It's been a real treat to see the way that 856 00:35:08,018 --> 00:35:09,976 they're all excited when I start cooking. 857 00:35:09,977 --> 00:35:13,501 I could get used to this. 858 00:35:13,502 --> 00:35:15,547 I hope that, from this experience, 859 00:35:15,548 --> 00:35:18,289 Craig and the kids understand that 860 00:35:18,290 --> 00:35:22,206 it's actually an act of love to have a schedule 861 00:35:22,207 --> 00:35:25,078 and to prioritize your family. 862 00:35:25,079 --> 00:35:26,514 - Can I have more egg? - More eggs? 863 00:35:26,515 --> 00:35:28,125 More eggs, good. Are the eggs good? 864 00:35:28,126 --> 00:35:30,649 - Mm-hmm. - Oh, good. 865 00:35:30,650 --> 00:35:33,739 Thank you, guys, for welcoming me into your home. 866 00:35:33,740 --> 00:35:35,784 We do appreciate everything that, uh, you brought to us. 867 00:35:35,785 --> 00:35:37,917 We had a great time with you. - Aww. 868 00:35:37,918 --> 00:35:44,271 And, I'd like to manifest that we change for the better. 869 00:35:44,272 --> 00:35:46,360 - And change for the better. - Yeah. 870 00:35:46,361 --> 00:35:48,667 It's important that we remember that t-the moments are fleeting, 871 00:35:48,668 --> 00:35:50,843 and there's not gonna be that many of them forever. 872 00:35:50,844 --> 00:35:53,062 So, putting some of that together time 873 00:35:53,063 --> 00:35:56,196 back into the routine, I think will go a long way 874 00:35:56,197 --> 00:35:57,937 to just creating even stronger bonds 875 00:35:57,938 --> 00:35:59,982 than the kids already have. 876 00:35:59,983 --> 00:36:01,462 All right, guys, it was so good seeing you. 877 00:36:04,727 --> 00:36:06,685 I definitely appreciate how Wendy took the time to, like, 878 00:36:06,686 --> 00:36:08,948 learn about me and my siblings. 879 00:36:08,949 --> 00:36:10,906 Wendy definitely went the extra mile to, like, 880 00:36:10,907 --> 00:36:12,865 be invested in our lives. 881 00:36:12,866 --> 00:36:14,301 She kind of, like, embodied, like, a second mom. 882 00:36:14,302 --> 00:36:17,652 all: Bye! 883 00:36:29,665 --> 00:36:29,796 Just know, this is the last time 884 00:36:31,363 --> 00:36:33,147 you're gonna be playing in the kitchen. 885 00:36:33,930 --> 00:36:37,542 Oh, my God! 886 00:36:37,543 --> 00:36:40,022 - Hi. - Oh, look who it is! 887 00:36:40,023 --> 00:36:41,676 Mama! Mama! 888 00:36:41,677 --> 00:36:44,984 Wow! Aww. Welcome back. 889 00:36:44,985 --> 00:36:45,898 - Hi, mom. - Oh. 890 00:36:45,899 --> 00:36:49,031 Hi. 891 00:36:49,032 --> 00:36:50,250 - Hi. - Hi. Nice to meet you. 892 00:36:50,251 --> 00:36:53,253 How are you doing? 893 00:36:53,254 --> 00:36:54,950 Wendy, this is Alethea. Alethea, this is Wendy. 894 00:36:54,951 --> 00:36:55,082 - It's so nice to meet you. - Hi, Alethea. 895 00:36:56,301 --> 00:36:56,431 - Hi. - How are you? 896 00:36:57,780 --> 00:36:57,911 I'm great. How are you? 897 00:36:59,434 --> 00:36:59,565 - Don't look at the carpet. - Huh? 898 00:37:00,827 --> 00:37:00,957 - Oh. - Kruz did it! 899 00:37:02,307 --> 00:37:02,437 Kruz did it! - It wasn't me! 900 00:37:03,830 --> 00:37:03,960 Kruz did it! Kruz did it. 901 00:37:05,179 --> 00:37:05,310 - What? - It wasn't me. 902 00:37:06,746 --> 00:37:06,876 - Kruz did it. - Welcome home! 903 00:37:09,357 --> 00:37:11,011 Welcome home! Kamrynn! 904 00:37:12,230 --> 00:37:15,928 Kruz did it! Kruz did it! 905 00:37:15,929 --> 00:37:20,324 I have preserved this carpet for years-- 906 00:37:20,325 --> 00:37:23,152 spit up, diaper blowups-- 907 00:37:23,153 --> 00:37:26,373 only for Alethea to ruin it. 908 00:37:26,374 --> 00:37:29,246 It wasn't even my fault. 909 00:37:29,247 --> 00:37:30,856 - Zen needs to go for a walk. - Okay. 910 00:37:30,857 --> 00:37:30,987 You gonna take the kids? - 'Cause Zen-- 911 00:37:32,598 --> 00:37:32,728 Yeah, I'm gonna take the kids with us. 912 00:37:34,077 --> 00:37:34,252 - Let's have a seat. - Okay. 913 00:37:36,123 --> 00:37:36,254 So, I can have a better view of the spot you left 914 00:37:37,820 --> 00:37:40,387 on my carpet. - Oh, God, I'm nervous. 915 00:37:40,388 --> 00:37:42,302 Would really love to know your honest opinion. 916 00:37:42,303 --> 00:37:44,391 Do you really wake up at 5:30 a.m.? 917 00:37:44,392 --> 00:37:46,741 - Yeah, I wake up at 5:00. - Wow. 918 00:37:46,742 --> 00:37:48,743 I mean, I wish I was a morning person. 919 00:37:48,744 --> 00:37:50,397 Like, it's such an amazing thing to be-- 920 00:37:50,398 --> 00:37:52,878 - I'm not, though. - Oh, really? 921 00:37:52,879 --> 00:37:56,664 I made myself a morning person because of my kids. 922 00:37:56,665 --> 00:37:59,798 I know, but I also feel like I did that so many years. 923 00:37:59,799 --> 00:38:02,409 I got that you do your own thing, 924 00:38:02,410 --> 00:38:04,150 you take up space in the house, 925 00:38:04,151 --> 00:38:08,546 and everyone revolves around you. 926 00:38:08,547 --> 00:38:11,549 And then it really struck me because that daughter of yours, 927 00:38:11,550 --> 00:38:14,595 Hailey, who is so amazing-- - Thank you. 928 00:38:14,596 --> 00:38:18,120 She gives to your other children 929 00:38:18,121 --> 00:38:20,863 the type of mothering that she wishes she had. 930 00:38:22,648 --> 00:38:28,522 She said, "You see me." 931 00:38:28,523 --> 00:38:31,177 I felt like that means that she has felt unseen. 932 00:38:31,178 --> 00:38:33,571 Mm-hmm. 933 00:38:33,572 --> 00:38:35,486 From one mom to another, 934 00:38:35,487 --> 00:38:39,054 try to meet your kids where they are. 935 00:38:39,055 --> 00:38:41,056 A part of them still wants to be seen by you. 936 00:38:41,057 --> 00:38:46,410 Yeah, yeah. 937 00:38:46,411 --> 00:38:47,498 I noticed that Craig takes the kids to school every day. 938 00:38:47,499 --> 00:38:49,630 Mm-hmm. 939 00:38:49,631 --> 00:38:52,503 I know he's doing what he does in the house 940 00:38:52,504 --> 00:38:54,418 out of love for you. - Mm-hmm. 941 00:38:54,419 --> 00:38:57,072 I would, like, impart upon you, like, 942 00:38:57,073 --> 00:38:59,684 maybe a day or two during the week, 943 00:38:59,685 --> 00:39:01,250 like, help him out. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. 944 00:39:01,251 --> 00:39:04,819 Because what I foresee happening, 945 00:39:04,820 --> 00:39:08,214 is you guys are going to just exchange burnout. Like-- 946 00:39:08,215 --> 00:39:11,827 He also, like, he's a little bit of a martyr. 947 00:39:12,045 --> 00:39:15,439 Also, wait, I just-- can I say something, real quick? 948 00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:17,745 Yeah, give it to me 'cause I-I gave it right to you. 949 00:39:17,746 --> 00:39:19,747 - I know you did. - Welcome to Housewives 101. 950 00:39:19,748 --> 00:39:22,010 Okay, go ahead. 951 00:39:22,011 --> 00:39:23,838 I think that my biggest takeaway, 952 00:39:23,839 --> 00:39:25,840 is that the kids feel like it's too scheduled, 953 00:39:25,841 --> 00:39:29,540 and there's not enough fun. 954 00:39:29,541 --> 00:39:32,804 I want you to build in some more flexible free time. 955 00:39:32,805 --> 00:39:34,849 Flexible free time, okay. 956 00:39:34,850 --> 00:39:38,853 So that they can find their passions, their hobbies, 957 00:39:38,854 --> 00:39:41,334 and they can find joy. You can find joy. 958 00:39:41,335 --> 00:39:44,990 Flexibility, fun, and free time. 959 00:39:44,991 --> 00:39:46,818 - Yes. - I love that. 960 00:39:46,819 --> 00:39:46,949 Do you think that you're gonna keep 961 00:39:48,081 --> 00:39:51,039 the basketball hoop? 962 00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:51,171 That's the first thing I'm taking down when you leave. 963 00:39:52,477 --> 00:39:52,607 - Really? - It has to go. 964 00:39:54,522 --> 00:39:54,609 - There's nothing breakable. - Take that with you. 965 00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:55,610 Why? 966 00:39:57,133 --> 00:39:57,264 What is the worst case scenario? 967 00:39:58,265 --> 00:39:58,396 I don't know. 968 00:40:00,180 --> 00:40:01,572 Maybe coming home to a red carpet, Alethea. 969 00:40:01,573 --> 00:40:01,703 I don't know. 970 00:40:03,052 --> 00:40:04,836 - It'll be okay. - Girl... 971 00:40:08,014 --> 00:40:12,365 But, also, thank you for opening up your home to me. 972 00:40:12,366 --> 00:40:14,062 Yes. 973 00:40:14,063 --> 00:40:15,803 Thank you for ruining my carpet. 974 00:40:15,804 --> 00:40:18,023 Yes. 975 00:40:18,024 --> 00:40:20,591 My conversation with Wendy, she reminded me that 976 00:40:20,592 --> 00:40:22,114 as much as I want to empower my kids, 977 00:40:22,115 --> 00:40:24,421 and I want them to be independent, 978 00:40:24,422 --> 00:40:25,987 they still need a mom. They still want their mommy. 979 00:40:25,988 --> 00:40:27,815 - Hey, moms. - Hey. 980 00:40:27,816 --> 00:40:28,208 - Hey, guys. - We're back. 981 00:40:28,774 --> 00:40:28,904 Hey, guys. 982 00:40:30,297 --> 00:40:31,993 Alethea's about to go bye-bye. 983 00:40:31,994 --> 00:40:33,560 I think I have a lot of work to do, 984 00:40:33,561 --> 00:40:36,911 being even a better team player with Craig 985 00:40:36,912 --> 00:40:39,914 and maybe doing a little bit more housework, 986 00:40:39,915 --> 00:40:41,481 and I don't like that, but I will do it. 987 00:40:41,482 --> 00:40:43,962 Bye. - Bye. 988 00:40:43,963 --> 00:40:46,312 Aww, I hope you get to keep the basketball, guys. 989 00:40:46,313 --> 00:40:49,837 I-I really, like, I-I really campaigned for ya. 990 00:40:49,838 --> 00:40:51,926 So, we'll see what happens. 991 00:40:51,927 --> 00:40:52,319 All right. - Thank you so much. 992 00:40:53,189 --> 00:40:54,712 - Yes. - You're so great. 993 00:40:54,713 --> 00:40:56,191 Thank you. - Thank you so much. 994 00:40:56,192 --> 00:40:56,541 Send my love to my kids over there. 995 00:40:57,455 --> 00:40:59,020 I will. Love you, guys. 996 00:40:59,021 --> 00:41:00,500 - Bye. - See you soon. 997 00:41:00,501 --> 00:41:00,588 All right. Thank you for everything. 998 00:41:01,981 --> 00:41:02,111 - Safe travels. - Thank you. 999 00:41:03,591 --> 00:41:03,722 I learned from the Shapiro family 1000 00:41:05,811 --> 00:41:09,074 there is space to give my kids more latitude for free play. 1001 00:41:09,075 --> 00:41:10,641 I think I'll leave the basketball hoop 1002 00:41:10,642 --> 00:41:12,556 in the kitchen for a few days. 1003 00:41:12,557 --> 00:41:14,906 By the weekend, it's gone. 1004 00:41:17,823 --> 00:41:19,867 - The fun time's gonna be gone. - Back to the rules we go. 1005 00:41:19,868 --> 00:41:22,696 I don't want your rules. I want Miss Alethea's rules. 1006 00:41:22,697 --> 00:41:24,568 Alethea gave me this bracelet, 1007 00:41:24,569 --> 00:41:27,875 and it says "It's okay. You're okay. Breathe." 1008 00:41:27,876 --> 00:41:30,922 Oh, how transformational. 1009 00:41:30,923 --> 00:41:33,054 Almost home. 1010 00:41:33,055 --> 00:41:37,058 Hey, oh, Skyler, oh! 1011 00:41:37,059 --> 00:41:38,582 ! 1012 00:41:43,588 --> 00:41:47,112 What'd you think about my eggs that I made? 1013 00:41:47,113 --> 00:41:49,462 - They were egg-cellent. - Oh, that was a good one! 1014 00:41:55,164 --> 00:41:57,122 - You're 11. - Oh, my God! 1015 00:41:57,123 --> 00:41:58,602 Y'all are crocheting? 1016 00:42:09,744 --> 00:42:13,744 Let's breathe.