1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:07,000 Downloaded from YTS.BZ 2 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:13,000 Official YIFY movies site: YTS.BZ 3 00:01:09,194 --> 00:01:12,030 I struggle now to remember much of my childhood. 4 00:01:13,532 --> 00:01:15,826 It only comes back to me in small fragments, 5 00:01:15,993 --> 00:01:18,870 and even those memories are hard to trust. 6 00:01:20,372 --> 00:01:22,124 I do remember his maps. 7 00:01:25,002 --> 00:01:28,088 It's true I spent most of my life being angry at him. 8 00:01:29,006 --> 00:01:33,343 The older I get, the more I feel like I never even knew him at all. 9 00:01:34,428 --> 00:01:39,224 My image of him now, I know, falls flat compared to reality. 10 00:01:40,559 --> 00:01:42,060 Thank you for your memories. 11 00:01:43,353 --> 00:01:44,479 They're all I have now. 12 00:01:50,110 --> 00:01:52,321 I have four pillows in my car right now. 13 00:03:13,985 --> 00:03:18,657 Okay. Boys, grab each one thing and come with me in the house. 14 00:03:18,824 --> 00:03:19,741 Now. 15 00:03:20,450 --> 00:03:23,453 - Look after her, okay? - Okay. 16 00:03:24,621 --> 00:03:26,998 Jeremy, help me with the mattress, please. 17 00:04:11,293 --> 00:04:13,295 Say hello to little Miss Mousey. 18 00:04:16,047 --> 00:04:17,340 Turn your eyes to the left. 19 00:04:20,218 --> 00:04:22,888 Closing her eyes. 20 00:04:23,889 --> 00:04:26,016 She's eating your leg. 21 00:04:32,189 --> 00:04:36,067 Uh-huh. But why, what did she say? 22 00:04:38,612 --> 00:04:41,323 At least everyone, or almost everyone, 23 00:04:41,490 --> 00:04:42,949 will have their own room. 24 00:04:43,116 --> 00:04:47,913 Because I didn't want Jeremy to take that big ferry to school. 25 00:04:48,413 --> 00:04:49,414 Mm-hmm. 26 00:04:53,168 --> 00:04:55,670 You never want to hear about the problems. 27 00:04:55,837 --> 00:04:58,590 You always want to hear about the nice and good things. 28 00:05:02,177 --> 00:05:05,388 Yes, but this way we can't discuss anything! 29 00:05:05,972 --> 00:05:07,390 I don't know... 30 00:05:08,892 --> 00:05:12,229 No. You know the answer is no. 31 00:05:15,690 --> 00:05:17,317 You should come up here. 32 00:05:18,026 --> 00:05:19,903 You pay us a visit. 33 00:05:22,572 --> 00:05:25,283 Are you ready to leave? 34 00:05:25,450 --> 00:05:26,576 I should be working. 35 00:05:26,743 --> 00:05:28,245 Yes, yes, in a minute. 36 00:05:28,787 --> 00:05:32,082 Okay, I've got to hang up. We must go. 37 00:05:32,541 --> 00:05:34,459 Mom, your car keys. 38 00:05:34,626 --> 00:05:38,171 - Oh, thank you. - Come on. Get out of my way. Come on. 39 00:05:40,757 --> 00:05:42,300 - Come. Okay. - No... 40 00:06:27,053 --> 00:06:29,514 "...and eventually become an evergreen forest. 41 00:06:29,681 --> 00:06:31,683 The first plants to occupy a disturbed site 42 00:06:31,850 --> 00:06:33,226 are called 'pioneer' species, 43 00:06:33,393 --> 00:06:36,771 the process of processing into the forest called 'succession.'" 44 00:06:51,286 --> 00:06:53,330 The heron has two methods of fishing: 45 00:06:53,496 --> 00:06:55,457 Either he waits for the prey to come to him, 46 00:06:55,624 --> 00:06:57,709 or else he stalks it very carefully. 47 00:07:32,619 --> 00:07:35,163 While one protects the nest, the other fishes 48 00:07:35,330 --> 00:07:37,374 to meet the daily increasing need for food. 49 00:07:39,876 --> 00:07:43,213 As time passes, the ritual exchanges between adults 50 00:07:43,380 --> 00:07:45,006 become less and less frequent, 51 00:07:45,173 --> 00:07:48,093 and the strong bond between them begins to weaken. 52 00:07:48,259 --> 00:07:50,679 By the time they finally leave the colony, 53 00:07:50,845 --> 00:07:52,973 these bonds will have completely disappeared. 54 00:07:55,392 --> 00:07:58,436 His flight path is sometimes obstructed by other birds. 55 00:07:59,854 --> 00:08:03,316 The direction and force of the wind can also prevent him from landing, 56 00:08:04,067 --> 00:08:06,569 so he takes off again and tries a new approach. 57 00:08:08,738 --> 00:08:11,741 No, please. No, no, no. No touching. 58 00:08:11,908 --> 00:08:12,701 Well... 59 00:08:12,867 --> 00:08:15,245 The young herons have now reached their full growth 60 00:08:15,412 --> 00:08:16,663 and are left on their own. 61 00:08:22,043 --> 00:08:24,337 They find food either guided by their instinct 62 00:08:24,504 --> 00:08:27,132 or by following the adults to the feeding grounds. 63 00:08:30,468 --> 00:08:31,553 It's amazing. 64 00:09:07,756 --> 00:09:09,257 - Thank you. - Yeah. 65 00:09:10,592 --> 00:09:12,010 - Come on, let's go. - Yeah. 66 00:09:14,888 --> 00:09:17,974 - Let's go to my place first. - I can't wait. 67 00:09:18,683 --> 00:09:21,811 Maybe you can ask your mom if we can go in the pool. 68 00:09:21,978 --> 00:09:24,022 I would love to go in the pool. 69 00:09:24,606 --> 00:09:27,192 We could borrow some of your swimsuits. 70 00:09:27,358 --> 00:09:28,318 Let's go. 71 00:09:29,152 --> 00:09:30,403 Right over here. 72 00:09:37,577 --> 00:09:40,371 - Did you do your dance? - Yes, I did do my dance. 73 00:09:40,538 --> 00:09:42,540 - I don't... I didn't see you. - Your dance? 74 00:09:42,707 --> 00:09:44,042 - I know. - I danced. 75 00:09:44,209 --> 00:09:45,960 We have to do a dance before we go. 76 00:09:46,127 --> 00:09:48,379 - Make sure you do a dance. - It's our tradition. 77 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:53,802 Wait. Whoever gets this thing, you're first. 78 00:09:54,928 --> 00:09:56,304 She's right there. 79 00:10:32,423 --> 00:10:35,135 Is she there? Can you be the lookout? 80 00:10:39,055 --> 00:10:41,349 You guys! 81 00:10:41,516 --> 00:10:43,434 - Help! - Just stay calm. 82 00:10:44,144 --> 00:10:46,187 - Help! - Here, grab ahold of this. 83 00:10:46,354 --> 00:10:47,313 Just stay calm. 84 00:10:48,022 --> 00:10:49,190 Here we go, here we go. 85 00:10:49,357 --> 00:10:52,986 Yeah, just hold on. Why'd you do that, sweetheart? 86 00:11:33,484 --> 00:11:36,362 He wants to upset me. He wants to upset you. 87 00:11:37,280 --> 00:11:39,908 Why are you talking to me in English? 88 00:11:40,074 --> 00:11:42,702 Because this was our agreement. 89 00:11:44,245 --> 00:11:45,079 Okay. 90 00:11:45,246 --> 00:11:47,248 - I can talk in Hungarian. - No. 91 00:11:47,415 --> 00:11:50,084 He's... he's troubled, but he's not crazy. 92 00:11:50,251 --> 00:11:53,213 - And-- - Crazy means something else. 93 00:11:53,379 --> 00:11:56,591 I just don't want you to say something like this 94 00:11:56,758 --> 00:11:57,926 about my son. 95 00:11:58,092 --> 00:12:00,887 He is my son too, you know that. 96 00:12:02,138 --> 00:12:06,017 I mean, it's crazy to leave him like this. 97 00:12:06,184 --> 00:12:08,603 That's what they told us: Don't react. 98 00:12:08,770 --> 00:12:11,105 Just let him get bored of his own jokes. 99 00:12:11,272 --> 00:12:12,982 Well, I don't know. 100 00:12:14,817 --> 00:12:17,195 Please check on him. Please. 101 00:12:46,724 --> 00:12:48,393 Is he still out there? 102 00:12:49,769 --> 00:12:50,812 Mm-hmm. 103 00:12:58,861 --> 00:13:01,906 What do you think about Jeremy, how he's behaving? 104 00:13:03,324 --> 00:13:04,409 I don't know. 105 00:13:09,414 --> 00:13:11,749 Why do you think he's like this? 106 00:13:11,916 --> 00:13:13,459 I don't know, Mom. 107 00:13:15,211 --> 00:13:16,462 How did it go? 108 00:13:16,629 --> 00:13:18,423 Why is your hair wet? 109 00:13:19,924 --> 00:13:22,051 We played in the sprinkler. 110 00:13:27,223 --> 00:13:29,058 Would you pick it up? 111 00:13:30,351 --> 00:13:31,561 Hello? 112 00:13:34,439 --> 00:13:36,607 Um, yeah, we've seen him. 113 00:13:38,609 --> 00:13:40,486 Yeah, he's just acting out. 114 00:13:51,039 --> 00:13:52,957 No. No, I appreciate it. 115 00:13:59,547 --> 00:14:01,758 Um, yeah, yeah. 116 00:14:01,924 --> 00:14:03,885 No, I'm... I'm with you. Yes, yeah. 117 00:14:08,014 --> 00:14:11,434 - Who was that? - Jason, from across the street. 118 00:14:11,601 --> 00:14:15,438 He wanted to let us know that our son is dead on the front step. 119 00:14:16,272 --> 00:14:17,899 My God. 120 00:14:18,066 --> 00:14:20,651 I told him we are aware and not to worry. 121 00:14:20,818 --> 00:14:22,945 He will come back to life soon. 122 00:14:25,323 --> 00:14:26,324 Hmm. 123 00:14:47,887 --> 00:14:51,140 I woke up... I woke up at 6:47. 124 00:14:51,307 --> 00:14:55,436 Same, around maybe 7:00. 125 00:14:55,603 --> 00:14:58,064 Did you know that in the ocean, uh...? 126 00:14:58,231 --> 00:15:01,067 You know how... You know a fun fact about dolphins? 127 00:15:01,234 --> 00:15:03,027 - Wanna know a fun fact? - No. 128 00:15:03,194 --> 00:15:06,572 Sometimes dolphins will find a puffer fish and gang up on it 129 00:15:06,739 --> 00:15:12,328 and bite onto it and then toss it around like a football just to get high. 130 00:15:12,954 --> 00:15:13,955 It's true. 131 00:15:26,509 --> 00:15:29,512 - Stop it. - I don't wanna watch you eat. 132 00:15:30,346 --> 00:15:33,182 Finish eating. We are leaving in five minutes. 133 00:15:39,272 --> 00:15:43,234 Boys, do you know where's your swimsuit? 134 00:15:43,901 --> 00:15:45,153 I don't have one. 135 00:15:45,862 --> 00:15:49,365 Okay, then you should wear these underwears, 136 00:15:49,532 --> 00:15:51,576 so no one will notice anyways. 137 00:15:51,742 --> 00:15:52,702 Yeah. 138 00:16:09,677 --> 00:16:13,181 Listen, you gotta stop this nonstop... "work." 139 00:16:15,850 --> 00:16:19,437 I can't entertain the kids every day during the whole summer. 140 00:16:21,731 --> 00:16:22,648 Oh, God... 141 00:16:23,316 --> 00:16:24,817 I'm going crazy. 142 00:16:26,068 --> 00:16:27,320 Even more? 143 00:16:37,705 --> 00:16:40,625 Sasha, come. Let's go. 144 00:16:42,877 --> 00:16:43,878 Bye. 145 00:17:04,857 --> 00:17:07,026 Jeremy. Come. 146 00:17:09,862 --> 00:17:10,863 Jeremy. 147 00:17:15,117 --> 00:17:16,202 Jeremy! 148 00:17:20,122 --> 00:17:21,541 Jeremy, come! 149 00:17:24,168 --> 00:17:25,753 Come with me now. 150 00:17:47,316 --> 00:17:48,568 Seat belts on. 151 00:18:58,179 --> 00:19:00,681 No. You can't do it. It's too heavy, dude. 152 00:19:00,848 --> 00:19:02,266 It's like 50 pounds. 153 00:19:05,686 --> 00:19:06,979 There's not a lot. 154 00:19:07,146 --> 00:19:08,773 - Let me see. - Like four. 155 00:19:08,939 --> 00:19:11,025 Oh, there's a decently big one right here. 156 00:19:11,192 --> 00:19:12,652 Oh, he lost an arm. 157 00:19:12,818 --> 00:19:14,528 - Gross. - Aw, put him back. 158 00:19:20,826 --> 00:19:22,161 I got you! 159 00:19:22,828 --> 00:19:24,163 No, do it again. 160 00:19:25,706 --> 00:19:27,667 Got me! Come and get it! 161 00:19:27,833 --> 00:19:28,793 Got you! 162 00:19:35,257 --> 00:19:37,259 We're gonna play that game, okay. 163 00:19:45,893 --> 00:19:47,019 Don't. 164 00:21:15,357 --> 00:21:17,234 Did he take the money I gave you? 165 00:21:19,904 --> 00:21:20,946 Hmm? 166 00:21:22,531 --> 00:21:23,574 No. 167 00:21:24,575 --> 00:21:26,619 Come on, let's go to the car. 168 00:21:43,135 --> 00:21:45,679 How long has it been since Mom's been gone? 169 00:21:46,639 --> 00:21:48,808 I don't know. I just wanna go. 170 00:21:52,144 --> 00:21:53,312 Where's Jeremy? 171 00:21:54,438 --> 00:21:56,273 Where's Mom? Where's Jeremy? 172 00:21:56,982 --> 00:21:58,108 There's Mom. 173 00:22:23,676 --> 00:22:26,679 ...704, 705, 706, 174 00:22:26,846 --> 00:22:30,307 707, 708, 709... 175 00:22:31,851 --> 00:22:35,437 710, 711, 712, 176 00:22:35,604 --> 00:22:39,191 713, 714, 715. 177 00:22:53,789 --> 00:22:55,958 Come. Come now. 178 00:23:19,690 --> 00:23:21,775 Stop it. 179 00:23:22,568 --> 00:23:24,236 Do you want me to crash? 180 00:23:48,719 --> 00:23:50,095 ♪ My friend ♪ 181 00:23:51,472 --> 00:23:55,601 ♪ Don't just sit there and ruminate ♪ 182 00:23:56,810 --> 00:24:01,273 ♪ With your navel to contemplate ♪ 183 00:24:02,274 --> 00:24:06,820 ♪ It's a beautiful day outside ♪ 184 00:24:07,613 --> 00:24:10,366 ♪ Time's passing you by ♪ 185 00:24:22,628 --> 00:24:23,545 Ah! 186 00:24:24,463 --> 00:24:26,423 Here, let me try. 187 00:24:30,302 --> 00:24:31,428 Ah, damn. 188 00:24:31,595 --> 00:24:33,639 It didn't even land over there. 189 00:24:37,142 --> 00:24:39,061 - Ugh. - Oh, that was so close. 190 00:24:39,561 --> 00:24:41,146 Ah! It's in my hair. 191 00:24:41,855 --> 00:24:43,983 Can I have some? 192 00:24:44,858 --> 00:24:48,320 Yeah, sure. Just don't stuff them in the sausages. 193 00:24:56,745 --> 00:24:58,539 Dad, where's Mom? 194 00:25:00,666 --> 00:25:02,376 She's at her appointment. 195 00:25:02,543 --> 00:25:04,211 What kind of appointment? 196 00:25:14,388 --> 00:25:17,141 Dad. What kind of appointment? 197 00:25:19,727 --> 00:25:21,603 Come, draw something for me. 198 00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:28,527 Ba-dum. 199 00:25:30,362 --> 00:25:31,363 Sit. 200 00:25:32,698 --> 00:25:33,699 Yay. 201 00:25:35,868 --> 00:25:36,869 Ooh. 202 00:25:37,953 --> 00:25:39,788 What's this do? 203 00:25:43,083 --> 00:25:44,334 Try. 204 00:25:44,501 --> 00:25:45,836 Wow. 205 00:25:46,545 --> 00:25:47,588 That's nice. 206 00:25:50,924 --> 00:25:52,176 Now I need to... 207 00:25:53,719 --> 00:25:54,970 Mm, that one. 208 00:25:55,929 --> 00:25:57,514 It's gonna be Miss Mousey. 209 00:25:57,681 --> 00:25:58,640 Yeah. 210 00:25:59,683 --> 00:26:00,684 I know. 211 00:26:01,643 --> 00:26:03,937 - Ooh, that's big. - That's one ear. 212 00:26:07,274 --> 00:26:08,609 Can move it back. 213 00:26:08,776 --> 00:26:12,362 Oh. Wait, wait. I'll do them properly. 214 00:26:13,155 --> 00:26:16,158 - Pull some way just a little. - Oh, no. 215 00:26:22,790 --> 00:26:25,501 Yeah, and then this, you have to do it, like, slowly. 216 00:26:25,667 --> 00:26:27,169 And can you take this? 217 00:26:33,509 --> 00:26:35,594 - A boat. - There. 218 00:26:39,848 --> 00:26:40,849 There we go. 219 00:26:44,937 --> 00:26:46,355 Yeah, dude. 220 00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:50,192 Hey, mine has water. 221 00:26:50,943 --> 00:26:53,070 Hey, blue boat is still alive. 222 00:26:54,279 --> 00:26:55,656 Yeah, so are mine. 223 00:26:55,823 --> 00:26:58,075 - Looking kind of rough, though. - Yeah. 224 00:27:01,620 --> 00:27:03,455 - Look at this. - You want one? 225 00:27:04,081 --> 00:27:05,082 No. 226 00:27:06,500 --> 00:27:07,793 You wish. 227 00:28:04,266 --> 00:28:07,186 Just try to find nice shapes 228 00:28:07,686 --> 00:28:11,315 and focus on the arrangements, okay? 229 00:28:11,481 --> 00:28:12,858 - Mm. - Mm-hmm. 230 00:28:17,237 --> 00:28:19,114 Nice so far, nice. 231 00:28:19,740 --> 00:28:21,950 Lesson number one, never do that. 232 00:28:22,743 --> 00:28:23,744 Henry. 233 00:28:27,456 --> 00:28:29,041 Time now... 234 00:28:39,635 --> 00:28:40,802 Who is that? 235 00:28:41,887 --> 00:28:43,764 - Wow. - Me. 236 00:28:43,931 --> 00:28:46,683 Time is going backwards. It's a time warp. 237 00:28:48,268 --> 00:28:49,519 Yeah. 238 00:28:49,686 --> 00:28:53,565 - It's awesome. - That's really cool. Wow. 239 00:29:01,490 --> 00:29:02,824 Hey! 240 00:29:07,079 --> 00:29:10,165 You spot instantly during this-- 241 00:29:10,624 --> 00:29:13,335 Jeremy, can you put it in the fixer, please? 242 00:29:17,005 --> 00:29:18,966 - How did it go? - Hmm? 243 00:29:19,132 --> 00:29:20,259 How did it go? 244 00:29:21,301 --> 00:29:22,803 What do you mean? 245 00:29:23,178 --> 00:29:25,264 It was terrible. But what is this? 246 00:29:26,014 --> 00:29:27,307 What are you doing? 247 00:29:28,767 --> 00:29:29,977 You're not working. 248 00:29:30,769 --> 00:29:33,897 Where is... Where are the children? 249 00:29:34,064 --> 00:29:36,191 I was showing them something in the darkroom. 250 00:29:38,151 --> 00:29:43,740 So now you get to be the hero, and I'm going to the child psychologist? 251 00:29:44,950 --> 00:29:46,702 I don't know. It's... 252 00:29:48,704 --> 00:29:54,167 It seems like you don't really see that we are in a crisis somehow. 253 00:29:54,334 --> 00:29:55,335 - So... - I... 254 00:29:57,170 --> 00:29:59,589 Badly, I guess. 255 00:30:00,799 --> 00:30:03,093 Did they have any advice this time? 256 00:30:11,268 --> 00:30:15,147 You can listen to this whole thing. 257 00:30:18,108 --> 00:30:19,443 He let you record it? 258 00:30:21,361 --> 00:30:24,031 It's difficult, you're correct, yes. 259 00:30:24,197 --> 00:30:27,284 It's not clear entirely what's causing this disruptive behavior, 260 00:30:27,451 --> 00:30:29,494 even after meeting with him several times. 261 00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:33,457 Can you say what he was telling you or no? 262 00:30:33,957 --> 00:30:35,751 No, I can't tell you that. 263 00:30:35,917 --> 00:30:37,961 But I can tell you my professional opinion. 264 00:30:38,545 --> 00:30:40,088 You mean a diagnosis? 265 00:30:40,255 --> 00:30:42,215 I know that's what you're after, 266 00:30:42,382 --> 00:30:45,552 but a diagnosis is not always as helpful as you might think. 267 00:30:45,719 --> 00:30:46,887 You don't have one? 268 00:30:47,054 --> 00:30:50,223 While areas of weakness have been identified 269 00:30:50,390 --> 00:30:53,310 in his learning abilities, they do not alone seem sufficient enough 270 00:30:53,477 --> 00:30:55,854 to account for the level of social difficulty, 271 00:30:56,021 --> 00:30:57,230 the relationship issues, 272 00:30:57,773 --> 00:31:00,067 the adaptive-living issues you reported to me. 273 00:31:01,401 --> 00:31:03,445 As far as a diagnosis is concerned, 274 00:31:03,612 --> 00:31:07,240 I would really only feel confident in suggesting that Jeremy has signs 275 00:31:07,407 --> 00:31:10,035 of what we would call "oppositional defiant disorder." 276 00:31:10,619 --> 00:31:11,787 What is this? 277 00:31:12,287 --> 00:31:14,498 It's what it sounds like. It-- 278 00:31:15,582 --> 00:31:17,459 He is such an asshole! 279 00:31:17,959 --> 00:31:20,170 He didn't get me at all. 280 00:31:20,337 --> 00:31:22,881 Switch it back. I want to hear the end of it. 281 00:31:23,507 --> 00:31:25,425 That somewhere along the line, 282 00:31:25,592 --> 00:31:27,594 he decided that he's the boss. 283 00:31:27,761 --> 00:31:30,847 And you just have to show him, and I mean really show him, 284 00:31:31,014 --> 00:31:32,057 that that's not the case. 285 00:31:32,224 --> 00:31:34,309 You're... you are the boss. 286 00:31:37,646 --> 00:31:39,898 Okay, now I see what you mean. 287 00:31:40,524 --> 00:31:42,484 - This didn't help. - No. 288 00:31:42,651 --> 00:31:44,194 - What an asshole! - Yeah. 289 00:31:44,361 --> 00:31:46,196 That's what he is. 290 00:31:46,363 --> 00:31:49,324 Sasha. You're too old for this now. 291 00:31:49,825 --> 00:31:51,201 And too big. 292 00:31:51,952 --> 00:31:53,787 Aw, but I can't sleep. 293 00:31:54,371 --> 00:31:55,789 Oh, you. 294 00:31:58,166 --> 00:32:00,585 I'll slide this off. 295 00:32:00,752 --> 00:32:02,129 It's so flavorful. Now... 296 00:32:02,295 --> 00:32:04,297 Look at that, folks. That is so... 297 00:32:04,464 --> 00:32:08,510 We are having now, um, a girls' night. 298 00:32:09,386 --> 00:32:11,430 - Well, am I kicked out? - Uh-huh. 299 00:32:11,596 --> 00:32:14,558 Sasha, Miss Mousey and me, we're sleeping here. 300 00:32:14,724 --> 00:32:17,269 - Miss Mousey. - You can sleep in her bed. 301 00:32:17,436 --> 00:32:18,812 Ay, ay, ay. 302 00:32:18,979 --> 00:32:21,440 - Bye. Good night. - Good night. 303 00:32:22,566 --> 00:32:25,610 - Night, night. - I'm gonna take the spit rod... 304 00:32:25,777 --> 00:32:27,195 And you forget about it. 305 00:32:27,362 --> 00:32:29,197 You just set it and then forget it. 306 00:32:29,364 --> 00:32:32,826 - You just set it and forget it. - Set it and forget about it. 307 00:32:32,993 --> 00:32:34,411 Just set it and forget it. 308 00:32:34,578 --> 00:32:36,955 - Set it and forget it! - Of course... 309 00:32:37,122 --> 00:32:38,665 Is she asleep? 310 00:32:39,916 --> 00:32:42,043 Yeah, I think so. 311 00:32:42,669 --> 00:32:45,464 ...the inventor himself, Ron Popeil. 312 00:32:46,756 --> 00:32:48,091 I'm taking her out. 313 00:32:52,012 --> 00:32:54,514 - Welcome! - Thank you, thank you. 314 00:32:56,057 --> 00:32:59,102 That took very little effort. You don't have to be too strong. 315 00:32:59,769 --> 00:33:02,522 Absolutely. Let me put the grill on the top over here. 316 00:33:02,689 --> 00:33:03,648 Come on. 317 00:33:05,484 --> 00:33:08,945 - Is this easy, folks? Huh? - Here, I'll take it... 318 00:33:09,112 --> 00:33:10,780 Miss Mousey. 319 00:33:11,406 --> 00:33:15,118 Slide it back, turn up the window, and... 320 00:33:15,285 --> 00:33:18,747 - Set it and forget it! - If you could lift that up... 321 00:33:18,914 --> 00:33:20,832 - You got it. - I'll do it... 322 00:33:21,917 --> 00:33:23,919 Oh, no. Can I run through it? 323 00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,428 Let's keep it going. It's going so fast. 324 00:33:33,595 --> 00:33:35,847 Guys, look how fast it's going. 325 00:33:38,391 --> 00:33:39,726 Faster, faster, faster! 326 00:33:41,311 --> 00:33:44,105 Wait, she's gonna pick it up and pop it this time. 327 00:33:46,483 --> 00:33:50,028 Emma! Um, Becky, Becky, drop it! 328 00:33:50,195 --> 00:33:51,404 Okay, okay, okay. 329 00:33:52,697 --> 00:33:54,491 - Okay. Pick it up. - Pick it up. 330 00:33:56,952 --> 00:33:58,078 Three, two-- 331 00:34:10,549 --> 00:34:12,300 You're it! I got you! 332 00:34:12,801 --> 00:34:14,261 Hey, I got you. 333 00:34:16,012 --> 00:34:18,807 - I got you back! - No take-backs! 334 00:34:19,933 --> 00:34:21,810 No take-backs! 335 00:34:23,144 --> 00:34:25,272 - Everyone try to get me. - Okay. 336 00:34:25,438 --> 00:34:27,315 Not yet, not yet! 337 00:34:27,482 --> 00:34:28,942 Now, now! 338 00:34:36,449 --> 00:34:39,786 - Is my hair wet? - It's really wet. 339 00:34:44,541 --> 00:34:46,001 Can you hold this for me? 340 00:35:13,236 --> 00:35:16,197 Ma'am, is this your son? He gave us this address. 341 00:35:17,157 --> 00:35:18,199 Yes. 342 00:35:19,826 --> 00:35:23,371 Your son was caught shoplifting. We apprehended him in the parking lot. 343 00:35:25,248 --> 00:35:29,836 Okay. Can you... can you take off these, please? 344 00:35:30,003 --> 00:35:31,671 He'll need to appear in court. 345 00:36:02,452 --> 00:36:04,746 Man, talk to me. What... 346 00:36:06,498 --> 00:36:07,707 What's happening? 347 00:36:10,835 --> 00:36:12,212 Are you out of your mind? 348 00:36:13,296 --> 00:36:14,631 Calm down. Stop it. 349 00:36:14,798 --> 00:36:16,883 Talk to me. Hey. Talk to me. 350 00:36:17,050 --> 00:36:18,468 Get away from me! 351 00:36:20,136 --> 00:36:21,638 - Hey. - Get away from me! 352 00:36:21,805 --> 00:36:24,099 Stop it. Calm down. 353 00:36:25,141 --> 00:36:27,018 Calm... calm down. 354 00:36:27,894 --> 00:36:29,062 Calm down. 355 00:36:29,604 --> 00:36:31,606 Hey. Hey. Hey. 356 00:36:57,674 --> 00:37:00,135 ♪ Said the straight man ♪ 357 00:37:00,927 --> 00:37:03,221 ♪ To the late man ♪ 358 00:37:04,889 --> 00:37:09,102 ♪ "Where have you been?" ♪ 359 00:37:10,395 --> 00:37:15,275 ♪ I've been here And I've been there ♪ 360 00:37:15,442 --> 00:37:21,406 ♪ And I've been in between ♪ 361 00:37:23,450 --> 00:37:27,078 ♪ I talk to the wind ♪ 362 00:37:29,664 --> 00:37:33,543 ♪ My words are all carried away... ♪ 363 00:37:33,710 --> 00:37:35,754 - Can I try? - Yeah. 364 00:37:35,920 --> 00:37:39,924 ♪ I talk to the wind ♪ 365 00:37:41,718 --> 00:37:46,139 ♪ The wind does not hear ♪ 366 00:37:47,557 --> 00:37:51,519 ♪ The wind cannot hear ♪ 367 00:37:52,061 --> 00:37:57,358 ♪ I'm on the outside looking inside ♪ 368 00:38:04,908 --> 00:38:06,993 - Whoa. - Mm-hmm. 369 00:38:08,620 --> 00:38:09,913 It's hard to see. 370 00:38:11,164 --> 00:38:12,207 Yeah. 371 00:38:16,127 --> 00:38:17,253 And... 372 00:38:19,380 --> 00:38:21,674 we are putting it here. 373 00:38:23,760 --> 00:38:26,221 - Like this? - Yeah. Like... 374 00:38:27,722 --> 00:38:29,140 Yes. 375 00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:34,521 Can Emma come over for dinner? 376 00:38:35,939 --> 00:38:37,273 Um... 377 00:38:39,150 --> 00:38:40,944 I don't know. I... 378 00:38:42,028 --> 00:38:43,988 I think it's not a good idea. 379 00:38:45,406 --> 00:38:48,743 So I'm really very, very happy that you are making friends, 380 00:38:48,910 --> 00:38:54,874 and... you can go to their houses anytime. 381 00:38:57,043 --> 00:38:58,253 But, um... 382 00:39:00,672 --> 00:39:04,133 I don't want you to feel embarrassed, um... 383 00:39:05,510 --> 00:39:08,179 because what is happening here, you know? 384 00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:10,557 I'm not embarrassed. 385 00:39:12,475 --> 00:39:15,144 But you don't know what people are saying. 386 00:39:17,438 --> 00:39:21,818 So it... you know, it feels natural for you, 387 00:39:21,985 --> 00:39:23,444 but it shouldn't. 388 00:39:24,237 --> 00:39:25,405 What do you mean? 389 00:39:25,905 --> 00:39:28,283 If Jeremy is coming home by the police, 390 00:39:28,449 --> 00:39:30,410 then people are talking about it. 391 00:39:30,577 --> 00:39:31,494 You know? 392 00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:46,593 You... Yes, I think it's... it's... it's better like this, 393 00:39:46,759 --> 00:39:47,719 believe me, 394 00:39:48,803 --> 00:39:51,097 to keep it separate, you know? 395 00:40:38,645 --> 00:40:40,396 Listen, come out already! 396 00:40:40,980 --> 00:40:43,983 Listen, do you hear me? Come out already! 397 00:40:44,150 --> 00:40:45,985 - Come, for fuck's sake! - What is it? 398 00:40:46,152 --> 00:40:48,154 - What is it? He's up there! - Who? 399 00:40:48,321 --> 00:40:49,280 Jeremy! 400 00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:05,672 Hey, hey, hey. 401 00:41:08,424 --> 00:41:11,844 Devil got into you? Out of your mind? 402 00:41:17,558 --> 00:41:19,686 - He's gonna die. - He's out of his mind. 403 00:41:19,852 --> 00:41:21,813 Hey, stop this now, okay? 404 00:41:22,313 --> 00:41:23,314 Come down. 405 00:41:27,735 --> 00:41:29,904 Jeremy, can you hear me? 406 00:41:30,571 --> 00:41:34,283 - Please, get down, please. - Jeremy. 407 00:41:37,203 --> 00:41:38,371 Jeremy... 408 00:41:39,414 --> 00:41:40,540 look at me. 409 00:41:42,542 --> 00:41:43,918 Look at me, please. 410 00:41:52,301 --> 00:41:53,469 Jeremy. 411 00:41:56,305 --> 00:41:57,348 Get down, please. 412 00:42:07,025 --> 00:42:08,026 Jeremy... 413 00:43:16,719 --> 00:43:19,597 Give me the towel. Thanks. 414 00:44:03,307 --> 00:44:04,767 Jeremy... 415 00:44:06,644 --> 00:44:07,979 what have you done? 416 00:44:51,147 --> 00:44:54,609 Oh, there she is. She's such a loser. 417 00:44:54,775 --> 00:44:55,818 I know. 418 00:44:55,985 --> 00:44:58,571 What a geek. 419 00:45:07,538 --> 00:45:08,831 Get lost. 420 00:45:11,083 --> 00:45:13,586 Words hurt. Don't be a part of it. 421 00:45:14,128 --> 00:45:17,548 The North American house hippo is found throughout Canada 422 00:45:17,715 --> 00:45:20,051 and the eastern United States. 423 00:45:20,218 --> 00:45:23,804 House hippos are very timid creatures, and they're rarely seen. 424 00:45:24,472 --> 00:45:26,933 But they will defend their territory if provoked. 425 00:45:27,642 --> 00:45:30,353 They come out at night to search for food, water 426 00:45:30,519 --> 00:45:32,521 and materials for their nests. 427 00:45:32,688 --> 00:45:35,441 The favorite foods of the house hippo... 428 00:45:35,608 --> 00:45:38,986 ...are chips, raisins, and the crumbs from peanut butter on toast. 429 00:45:39,153 --> 00:45:41,530 They build their nests in bedroom closets, 430 00:45:41,697 --> 00:45:44,116 using lost mittens, dryer lint, 431 00:45:44,283 --> 00:45:45,576 and bits of string. 432 00:45:45,743 --> 00:45:48,162 The nests have to be very soft and warm. 433 00:45:48,329 --> 00:45:51,540 House hippos sleep about 16 hours a day. 434 00:45:52,541 --> 00:45:54,460 That looked really real. 435 00:45:54,627 --> 00:45:56,879 But you knew it couldn't be true, didn't you? 436 00:45:57,046 --> 00:45:59,715 That's why it's good to think about what you're watching on TV 437 00:45:59,882 --> 00:46:02,677 and ask questions, kind of like you just did. 438 00:46:02,843 --> 00:46:05,221 A message from Concerned Children's Advertisers. 439 00:46:10,059 --> 00:46:10,977 - Hi. - Hello. 440 00:46:11,143 --> 00:46:12,645 I'm from Social Services. 441 00:46:12,812 --> 00:46:14,522 We had scheduled a house visit. 442 00:46:14,689 --> 00:46:16,482 - Yes. - Thank you. 443 00:46:17,358 --> 00:46:18,693 This way, please. 444 00:46:20,027 --> 00:46:23,906 I wanted to come by and see how things are with Jeremy. 445 00:46:25,700 --> 00:46:27,868 Oh, we have moved so many times. 446 00:46:28,035 --> 00:46:32,707 And I always worry what the neighbors are thinking of us, 447 00:46:32,873 --> 00:46:34,709 that maybe we are bad parents. 448 00:46:35,209 --> 00:46:39,463 The thing is that... now in the last couple of days... 449 00:46:39,630 --> 00:46:42,842 - Mm-hmm. - ...were some, uh... 450 00:46:43,926 --> 00:46:47,763 Some moments were not that easy 451 00:46:48,264 --> 00:46:49,557 with him again. 452 00:47:36,520 --> 00:47:39,106 She suggested... 453 00:47:46,113 --> 00:47:47,114 um... 454 00:47:48,074 --> 00:47:51,619 to... um... 455 00:47:55,373 --> 00:47:58,084 She takes him away. 456 00:48:01,879 --> 00:48:02,880 And... 457 00:48:05,549 --> 00:48:06,550 And I... 458 00:48:08,302 --> 00:48:09,387 I said yes. 459 00:48:16,185 --> 00:48:18,270 I just... I said yes. 460 00:48:46,632 --> 00:48:49,635 It is like some big ping-pong. 461 00:48:49,802 --> 00:48:52,388 The doctor says to talk to the psychologist. 462 00:48:52,555 --> 00:48:56,142 The psychologist says, "You need to call the police 463 00:48:56,308 --> 00:49:00,438 when he's acting like this," but the police do nothing. 464 00:49:00,604 --> 00:49:02,189 Mm-hmm. I know. 465 00:49:04,442 --> 00:49:07,403 I... I just can't get over this. 466 00:49:09,488 --> 00:49:11,866 Uh, I don't think anyone expects you to. 467 00:49:12,491 --> 00:49:15,453 It's a very complicated situation, 468 00:49:15,619 --> 00:49:17,872 and I think, you know, you know that. 469 00:49:19,915 --> 00:49:23,419 I just worry that if someone else had him... 470 00:49:25,504 --> 00:49:28,299 Maybe... You know, maybe it was me. 471 00:49:28,466 --> 00:49:31,093 It's my fault. 472 00:49:31,844 --> 00:49:35,473 That maybe with someone else, he could be a superstar. 473 00:50:51,298 --> 00:50:53,551 How are you all? How are your days? 474 00:50:58,347 --> 00:50:59,390 Nice to meet you. 475 00:51:01,809 --> 00:51:03,018 Nice to meet you. 476 00:51:22,538 --> 00:51:24,206 Thank you for meeting me. 477 00:51:31,630 --> 00:51:34,008 - Hi. - Hi. Nice to meet you. 478 00:51:34,174 --> 00:51:36,260 Nice to meet you. Hi. Come right in. 479 00:51:37,052 --> 00:51:38,637 Hi. Nice to meet you. 480 00:51:39,430 --> 00:51:40,431 Hi. 481 00:51:41,473 --> 00:51:44,268 Hi. Hi. Nice to meet you. 482 00:52:02,161 --> 00:52:04,705 Hi. 483 00:52:04,872 --> 00:52:06,081 - Hi. - Hello. 484 00:52:06,248 --> 00:52:07,541 How's everybody doing? 485 00:52:07,708 --> 00:52:09,460 Good. 486 00:52:09,627 --> 00:52:11,420 As you can tell, you're on camera. 487 00:52:12,087 --> 00:52:15,758 And I'm a filmmaker here to present you with a case file. 488 00:52:16,884 --> 00:52:20,638 There is an eldest child who's presenting issues 489 00:52:20,804 --> 00:52:23,891 within the family, some risk-taking behaviors, 490 00:52:24,058 --> 00:52:28,479 and was assessed, treated, evaluated over the course of many years. 491 00:52:28,646 --> 00:52:31,440 The family sort of rightfully felt some frustrations 492 00:52:31,607 --> 00:52:34,109 in their availability to care. 493 00:52:34,276 --> 00:52:36,028 And so I would love to get a sense 494 00:52:36,195 --> 00:52:39,573 of how you see this case and assess it 495 00:52:39,740 --> 00:52:42,534 and see how those options are different now, 496 00:52:42,701 --> 00:52:44,578 how the case might be handled differently now. 497 00:52:49,667 --> 00:52:52,169 How old was the... how old was the child 498 00:52:52,336 --> 00:52:55,297 when he first started experiencing some of these things? 499 00:52:55,464 --> 00:52:58,258 Um, I would say there was an observation 500 00:52:58,425 --> 00:53:03,305 of, um, sort of behavioral concerns at like three or four, 501 00:53:03,472 --> 00:53:07,309 but 14, 15 years was really around the time things started escalating. 502 00:53:07,476 --> 00:53:08,227 Right. 503 00:53:08,394 --> 00:53:11,438 I have some information here about, um... 504 00:53:12,106 --> 00:53:14,400 That gives some insight into his goals. 505 00:53:14,566 --> 00:53:15,734 - Sure. - Uh... 506 00:53:16,985 --> 00:53:18,529 I'll just read it to you here. 507 00:53:19,029 --> 00:53:22,741 Um, he describes the best time of his life as "Can't think of one." 508 00:53:23,742 --> 00:53:27,788 He says the best thing that could happen to him would be "to be rich and famous." 509 00:53:28,414 --> 00:53:30,207 He feels the worst time of his life was 510 00:53:30,374 --> 00:53:32,501 "when I got caught stealing twice in a row." 511 00:53:33,335 --> 00:53:35,838 He feels the worst thing that could happen to him would be 512 00:53:36,004 --> 00:53:38,882 "to be like a junkie, to have a life I don't like." 513 00:53:39,675 --> 00:53:41,135 He describes his three wishes as 514 00:53:41,301 --> 00:53:44,763 "to have something to travel through time in the universe," 515 00:53:45,639 --> 00:53:48,600 "to have lots of money," and "be old enough to drive." 516 00:53:50,894 --> 00:53:52,855 There are suggestions of personality disorder, 517 00:53:53,021 --> 00:53:56,066 and then there's sort of a backtracking of that. 518 00:53:56,233 --> 00:53:57,651 So... so... 519 00:53:58,986 --> 00:54:02,448 there's a lot of confusion, I find, in the document itself 520 00:54:02,614 --> 00:54:06,827 about how to assess his well-being, his sense of himself, 521 00:54:06,994 --> 00:54:10,205 his sense of himself when talking to different professionals. 522 00:54:10,372 --> 00:54:14,877 Um, but this is what we have of how he felt. 523 00:54:15,419 --> 00:54:19,548 Uh, I'm curious how that changes anybody's perspective. 524 00:54:19,715 --> 00:54:23,719 Uh, the report talks a lot about requiring considerable support. 525 00:54:23,886 --> 00:54:26,513 Um, and I know that this is, you know, 20 years ago. 526 00:54:26,680 --> 00:54:30,017 I wonder what sort of support was available for this young person. 527 00:54:30,184 --> 00:54:31,602 Now, I think us as social workers, 528 00:54:31,769 --> 00:54:33,771 we see that, you know, fast-forward 20 years, 529 00:54:33,937 --> 00:54:35,773 there's still not a lot of support out there 530 00:54:35,939 --> 00:54:40,903 to help transition these folks from crises to stabilization 531 00:54:41,069 --> 00:54:45,908 and going down a path that's going to be, uh, helpful 532 00:54:46,074 --> 00:54:47,618 and goal-oriented. 533 00:54:47,785 --> 00:54:50,996 And so I can't imagine what it looked like 20 years ago. 534 00:54:51,747 --> 00:54:55,417 The piece I read about around having a bit of respite, 535 00:54:55,584 --> 00:54:56,710 I think, sounds important, 536 00:54:56,877 --> 00:54:59,713 provided that it's qualified with it not being punitive. 537 00:54:59,880 --> 00:55:01,507 I think that's really important. 538 00:55:01,673 --> 00:55:03,884 If this young man... He's the eldest, you're saying? 539 00:55:04,051 --> 00:55:06,345 - So I'm clear in terms of family history. - Yes. 540 00:55:06,512 --> 00:55:08,096 He's the eldest, and he is the result 541 00:55:08,263 --> 00:55:10,432 of the mother's relationship with another man, 542 00:55:10,599 --> 00:55:13,101 and the younger three children are the mother's relationship 543 00:55:13,268 --> 00:55:16,021 - with a different biological father? - Yes, that's correct. 544 00:55:16,188 --> 00:55:18,774 Um, so as the eldest... 545 00:55:18,941 --> 00:55:22,945 And given what I'm hearing here, this whole family is in crisis. 546 00:55:23,111 --> 00:55:26,073 They're feeling, I'm sure, at their wits' end... 547 00:55:26,240 --> 00:55:29,326 - Mm-hmm. - ...um, and probably holding two things: 548 00:55:29,493 --> 00:55:34,289 wanting to get their son help and protect their other children. 549 00:55:34,456 --> 00:55:38,252 Right, so the suggestion would be to sort of, uh, 550 00:55:38,418 --> 00:55:42,047 ask the family to implement more of a structure 551 00:55:42,214 --> 00:55:44,341 to involve and provide... 552 00:55:44,508 --> 00:55:46,885 - With support, you know? - Yeah. 553 00:55:47,052 --> 00:55:50,013 Because they're not necessarily feeling good about him. 554 00:55:50,180 --> 00:55:51,181 So how does... 555 00:55:51,348 --> 00:55:55,519 How do we change that, and using things he's interested in? 556 00:55:56,311 --> 00:55:57,396 Yeah. 557 00:55:57,563 --> 00:56:01,441 And so sometimes voluntary placements can be a good intervention 558 00:56:01,608 --> 00:56:03,861 and then looking towards reunifying the family, 559 00:56:04,027 --> 00:56:06,446 and doing that work to help reunify the family. 560 00:56:06,989 --> 00:56:09,783 And sometimes it could, yeah, create these voids 561 00:56:09,950 --> 00:56:12,286 and vacuums and more problems, right? 562 00:56:12,786 --> 00:56:17,875 And often, um, it's hard to see what the outcome's gonna be, 563 00:56:18,041 --> 00:56:20,168 and the initial decision is just made on... 564 00:56:20,335 --> 00:56:23,714 is more made on, okay, the here and now, 565 00:56:23,881 --> 00:56:25,716 what's happening intersectionally, 566 00:56:26,341 --> 00:56:29,720 in terms of, like, risk and danger 567 00:56:29,887 --> 00:56:32,890 and "best interest" of the child, whatever that means. 568 00:56:33,640 --> 00:56:36,894 And so, um... So it's hard to... it's hard to predict. 569 00:56:37,060 --> 00:56:40,647 And I've seen it, in the instances that I have been involved with, 570 00:56:40,814 --> 00:56:44,568 uh, go quite well and not go so well. 571 00:56:44,735 --> 00:56:46,278 It's just hard to say. 572 00:56:48,030 --> 00:56:49,031 Hmm. 573 00:57:29,905 --> 00:57:32,407 Simple, straight-up assurance 574 00:57:32,574 --> 00:57:35,077 is such a strong currency, just providing that reassurance 575 00:57:35,243 --> 00:57:39,623 to the parents that, okay, you're feeling a vortex of things right now, 576 00:57:39,790 --> 00:57:40,707 and it's okay. 577 00:57:40,874 --> 00:57:43,543 Similar to what we're training the parents to teach the child: 578 00:57:43,710 --> 00:57:46,964 It's okay that you're feeling those things or that or feeling these things, 579 00:57:47,130 --> 00:57:48,632 and this is why you're feeling them, 580 00:57:48,799 --> 00:57:50,717 and you have every right to feel these things. 581 00:57:50,884 --> 00:57:54,596 And I think even just that currency of reassurance 582 00:57:54,763 --> 00:57:59,017 can just maybe, just maybe, help them take that breather 583 00:57:59,601 --> 00:58:01,895 and try again, try again tomorrow. 584 00:58:30,716 --> 00:58:33,260 She suggested... 585 00:58:38,015 --> 00:58:39,141 um... 586 00:58:40,100 --> 00:58:43,603 to... um... 587 00:59:17,846 --> 00:59:21,183 I'm getting married, Walter, and I'm also getting as far away 588 00:59:21,349 --> 00:59:24,061 from the newspaper business as I can get. 589 00:59:24,227 --> 00:59:26,688 - What? - I am through. 590 00:59:26,855 --> 00:59:29,775 Get mad all you want, Hildy, but you can't quit the business. 591 00:59:29,941 --> 00:59:31,151 - Why not? - I know you. 592 00:59:31,318 --> 00:59:33,278 - I know what quitting would mean to you. - What? 593 00:59:33,445 --> 00:59:36,031 - It would kill you. - You can't sell me that. 594 00:59:36,198 --> 00:59:39,117 - Who says? You're a newspaperman. - That's why I'm quitting. 595 00:59:39,284 --> 00:59:41,078 I wanna go someplace where I can be a woman. 596 00:59:41,244 --> 00:59:43,413 - You mean be a traitor. - A traitor to what? 597 00:59:43,580 --> 00:59:45,832 A traitor to journalism. You're a journalist! 598 00:59:45,999 --> 00:59:47,793 A journalist? What does that mean? 599 00:59:47,959 --> 00:59:50,212 Peeking through keyholes? Chasing after fire engines? 600 00:59:50,378 --> 00:59:53,632 Waking people up to ask them if Hitler's gonna start another war? 601 01:00:29,668 --> 01:00:30,710 Hecky. 602 01:00:34,422 --> 01:00:35,423 Ready? 603 01:00:38,927 --> 01:00:39,928 Yeah. 604 01:00:51,398 --> 01:00:54,651 I've been working on, um, a project 605 01:00:54,818 --> 01:00:59,489 that looks back at my time with my family and that period of time in my life. 606 01:00:59,656 --> 01:01:03,076 And, um... I thought of you 607 01:01:03,243 --> 01:01:08,165 because you, in many ways, are the key to those memories. 608 01:01:08,331 --> 01:01:11,334 And I'm just so grateful to talk to you about it. 609 01:01:11,501 --> 01:01:14,546 It's funny, because I remember these... 610 01:01:15,547 --> 01:01:18,049 More feelings, these moments of chaos. 611 01:01:18,216 --> 01:01:23,263 And then I remember moments that, you know, were not so disruptive, um... 612 01:01:23,430 --> 01:01:27,642 - Yeah. - Not so... Not so dramatic. 613 01:01:27,809 --> 01:01:32,939 And I remember Jeremy being, you know, as sweet as he was unpredictable. 614 01:01:33,106 --> 01:01:34,608 So it's very hard 615 01:01:34,774 --> 01:01:39,362 to square some of my memories sometimes of that time. 616 01:01:39,946 --> 01:01:44,201 You know, he... He certainly was struggling. 617 01:01:44,367 --> 01:01:47,913 And, you know, that was, I think, why your parents reached out 618 01:01:48,079 --> 01:01:51,374 for as much help as they did, because he just... 619 01:01:51,541 --> 01:01:53,168 He really... Yeah, I don't... I just... 620 01:01:53,335 --> 01:01:55,962 You know, your mom, in particular, just didn't know what to do 621 01:01:56,129 --> 01:01:58,298 or where to get the help for him. 622 01:01:58,465 --> 01:01:59,633 - Yeah. - Such a... 623 01:01:59,799 --> 01:02:02,969 I really had a lot of respect for your parents 624 01:02:03,136 --> 01:02:06,348 and everything that they were trying to do to raise you and your brothers. 625 01:02:06,514 --> 01:02:07,933 - Mm. - In many families, 626 01:02:08,099 --> 01:02:09,434 they hit a breaking point, 627 01:02:09,601 --> 01:02:12,520 and it becomes unsafe not just for that person 628 01:02:12,687 --> 01:02:15,315 that is going to move into a home, a foster home, 629 01:02:15,482 --> 01:02:18,109 but it becomes unsafe for the other people in the home, 630 01:02:18,276 --> 01:02:20,278 and it's a very difficult decision, so... 631 01:02:20,445 --> 01:02:23,240 - Yeah. - He had some pretty unique behaviors, 632 01:02:23,406 --> 01:02:25,867 and they were really upsetting for your mom. 633 01:02:26,034 --> 01:02:29,579 She was always very worried about, you know, where that would lead 634 01:02:29,746 --> 01:02:33,708 and disappointed in the services and support and answers that she got. 635 01:02:33,875 --> 01:02:35,877 She didn't get answers that really made sense 636 01:02:36,044 --> 01:02:37,504 or that were supportive. 637 01:02:37,671 --> 01:02:40,215 - Yeah. - He didn't have a lot of friends. 638 01:02:40,382 --> 01:02:44,636 And he... when he would come out of his room, he just had the ability 639 01:02:44,803 --> 01:02:47,347 to just take whatever was happening in the room 640 01:02:47,514 --> 01:02:50,308 and just upset it and spin it. 641 01:02:50,475 --> 01:02:54,062 And, you know, he demanded a lot of attention in that moment. 642 01:02:54,229 --> 01:02:57,691 And so I do remember that he would have gasoline in his room. 643 01:02:57,857 --> 01:03:01,027 He just would have it... Not very much, but he would have some in his room. 644 01:03:01,194 --> 01:03:04,364 And I remember your mom being so scared, because he had made this threat 645 01:03:04,531 --> 01:03:07,158 that he was going to burn the house down with everybody in it. 646 01:03:07,659 --> 01:03:11,204 I can't even imagine, as your parents, being in the house, 647 01:03:11,371 --> 01:03:14,249 you know, knowing that that threat has been made 648 01:03:14,416 --> 01:03:17,419 and there are things in place 649 01:03:17,585 --> 01:03:19,921 that could make it happen in a split second. 650 01:03:22,090 --> 01:03:24,676 You know, that's something I always wondered, you know, 651 01:03:24,843 --> 01:03:26,761 is maybe why he didn't get a diagnosis. 652 01:03:26,928 --> 01:03:28,388 But I... We'll never know. 653 01:03:28,555 --> 01:03:31,182 We'll never know, you know, the truth, I don't think. 654 01:03:31,349 --> 01:03:33,643 It's really hard to sort of sort that through. 655 01:03:33,810 --> 01:03:34,728 Um... 656 01:03:35,895 --> 01:03:36,938 But he... 657 01:03:37,814 --> 01:03:42,027 He... The character that I saw, the person that I saw, 658 01:03:42,193 --> 01:03:44,571 certainly demonstrated or looked like someone 659 01:03:44,738 --> 01:03:47,907 who was really suffering, who was really struggling, 660 01:03:48,074 --> 01:03:51,828 who was really... alone and isolated 661 01:03:51,995 --> 01:03:54,831 and invested in... 662 01:03:56,916 --> 01:03:59,419 Yeah, invested in the chaos. 663 01:03:59,586 --> 01:04:01,546 Really invested in the chaos. 664 01:04:03,256 --> 01:04:07,302 I hope someday to be able to, you know, be in the presence of your parents again. 665 01:04:07,969 --> 01:04:11,681 They're both very strong people. They're very resilient, you know? 666 01:04:11,848 --> 01:04:14,225 And I have a lot of respect for them, for sure. 667 01:04:14,392 --> 01:04:18,021 So I hope someday that I cross paths with them too. 668 01:08:08,710 --> 01:08:11,212 ...watching on TV and ask questions, 669 01:08:11,379 --> 01:08:12,630 kind of like you just did. 670 01:08:13,798 --> 01:08:15,842 A message from Concerned Children's Advertisers. 671 01:08:20,722 --> 01:08:21,889 - Hello. - Hi. 672 01:08:25,602 --> 01:08:26,519 Uh... 673 01:08:27,312 --> 01:08:30,732 - You're from Social Services, yes? - Yes. Sorry, that's right. 674 01:08:30,898 --> 01:08:31,941 It's nice to meet you. 675 01:08:36,446 --> 01:08:37,780 This way, please. 676 01:08:41,159 --> 01:08:43,328 Do you mind if I look around first? 677 01:08:43,494 --> 01:08:44,704 Yeah, that's fine. 678 01:09:04,515 --> 01:09:06,434 - Miss Mousey. - Mm. 679 01:09:15,193 --> 01:09:19,405 First we will hear a waltz written by Johann Strauss. 680 01:09:21,449 --> 01:09:23,660 And as we hear the rhythmic strains 681 01:09:23,826 --> 01:09:25,453 of the haunting refrain, 682 01:09:25,620 --> 01:09:28,539 listen to the whistling rhythm of the woodwinds 683 01:09:28,706 --> 01:09:31,793 as it rolls around and around 684 01:09:32,377 --> 01:09:33,503 and comes out here. 685 01:11:07,597 --> 01:11:09,640 ♪ Come on out ♪ 686 01:11:10,349 --> 01:11:14,729 ♪ Don't just sit there catatonic ♪ 687 01:11:16,564 --> 01:11:20,234 ♪ I'm feeling supersonic ♪ 688 01:11:21,944 --> 01:11:26,073 ♪ The warm wind is sweeping by ♪ 689 01:11:26,616 --> 01:11:29,202 ♪ The sun's full in the sky ♪ 690 01:11:29,368 --> 01:11:34,040 ♪ And there's no way of knowing ♪ 691 01:11:34,207 --> 01:11:36,876 ♪ No way to know ♪ 692 01:11:53,226 --> 01:11:56,813 - Can I turn this light on? - Yes, it's okay now. 693 01:12:27,093 --> 01:12:28,678 - Hi. - Hi. 694 01:12:29,554 --> 01:12:31,138 It's nice to meet you. 695 01:12:31,305 --> 01:12:33,933 - Nice to meet you too. - Please, have a seat. 696 01:12:34,100 --> 01:12:35,226 Thank you. 697 01:12:43,067 --> 01:12:45,778 - Hi. - Hi, hello. 698 01:12:47,071 --> 01:12:49,782 Um... how are you both doing? 699 01:12:51,158 --> 01:12:54,287 Yeah... we are fine, thanks. 700 01:12:54,453 --> 01:12:56,455 How are things with Jeremy? 701 01:12:59,375 --> 01:13:03,129 - You can talk too, you know. - Yes, I will. 702 01:13:03,296 --> 01:13:04,839 But, please, you start. 703 01:13:06,382 --> 01:13:07,383 Um... 704 01:13:12,263 --> 01:13:13,723 It feels like... 705 01:13:15,933 --> 01:13:17,435 somehow I'm cursed. 706 01:13:20,938 --> 01:13:23,733 He's... so troubled. 707 01:13:24,442 --> 01:13:25,943 We've tried everything. 708 01:13:27,778 --> 01:13:29,322 Mm, therapy... 709 01:13:30,239 --> 01:13:32,909 special school, homeschooling. 710 01:13:34,076 --> 01:13:36,245 It didn't work. 711 01:13:38,539 --> 01:13:40,917 He doesn't want to listen to anybody. 712 01:13:41,083 --> 01:13:45,796 Not us, not any adult, could ever control him. 713 01:13:51,260 --> 01:13:52,345 Mm... 714 01:13:53,429 --> 01:13:55,598 He was six years old 715 01:13:56,307 --> 01:14:00,436 when one day something happened with his eyes. 716 01:14:00,603 --> 01:14:02,063 You can tell this, no? 717 01:14:03,814 --> 01:14:06,776 We were playing catch with a ball, 718 01:14:06,943 --> 01:14:08,611 just back and forth, and... 719 01:14:09,654 --> 01:14:12,156 When suddenly he could not catch it anymore. 720 01:14:13,324 --> 01:14:14,659 I would throw it for him, 721 01:14:16,118 --> 01:14:19,538 and his hands would cross the air in front of him, 722 01:14:20,873 --> 01:14:24,293 but he just could not see the ball anymore. 723 01:14:24,877 --> 01:14:28,089 It was something very strange, 724 01:14:28,255 --> 01:14:31,926 but his eyes just suddenly went crossed. 725 01:14:34,095 --> 01:14:35,888 It was very bizarre, and, uh... 726 01:14:36,722 --> 01:14:38,474 And I think it scared him. 727 01:14:39,183 --> 01:14:41,185 - It scared us too, of course. - Yeah. 728 01:14:44,563 --> 01:14:46,941 So I don't know. 729 01:14:48,567 --> 01:14:52,071 This is one of the unlucky things that comes to my mind. 730 01:14:53,155 --> 01:14:55,741 Mm, he had to get these big glasses 731 01:14:55,908 --> 01:14:58,119 with such a very young age. 732 01:14:59,036 --> 01:15:00,454 And I think because of this 733 01:15:00,621 --> 01:15:04,625 and from his accent at the beginning, 734 01:15:05,668 --> 01:15:09,046 mm, the kids at the school were not nice to him. 735 01:15:10,131 --> 01:15:12,508 - You mean he was picked on? - Yes. 736 01:15:14,301 --> 01:15:17,179 Did he talk to either of you about this? 737 01:15:19,181 --> 01:15:21,058 Mm, he... 738 01:15:23,978 --> 01:15:29,942 He doesn't care about what others saying about him. 739 01:15:30,735 --> 01:15:34,905 He never cared about... making friends. 740 01:15:36,282 --> 01:15:37,283 He just... 741 01:15:37,950 --> 01:15:40,786 He likes to be the clown 742 01:15:41,829 --> 01:15:43,122 to everyone. 743 01:15:44,206 --> 01:15:45,666 He was always like this. 744 01:15:47,251 --> 01:15:49,503 And how is he with his siblings? 745 01:15:52,506 --> 01:15:57,178 Mm, sometimes he's really nasty with them, 746 01:15:57,344 --> 01:16:00,056 but sometimes he's very sweet. 747 01:16:03,267 --> 01:16:04,310 Mm. 748 01:16:09,440 --> 01:16:11,233 Why do you think he's like this? 749 01:16:26,624 --> 01:16:29,251 He's uncontrollable, completely. 750 01:16:30,002 --> 01:16:33,547 He's doing really big and risky things. 751 01:16:34,215 --> 01:16:38,844 And he can hurt himself or... others. 752 01:16:39,553 --> 01:16:43,140 And he doesn't care if he's getting caught. 753 01:16:43,766 --> 01:16:46,310 So one day, 754 01:16:46,477 --> 01:16:49,563 he stole a bicycle from a yard. 755 01:16:50,231 --> 01:16:52,858 And he came home totally beaten up, 756 01:16:53,025 --> 01:16:55,152 and his face was blue. 757 01:16:55,986 --> 01:17:01,075 I don't know what he was thinking. And he told me it was just for fun. 758 01:17:02,576 --> 01:17:04,286 I don't know what... 759 01:17:05,246 --> 01:17:06,831 what is he thinking. 760 01:17:09,041 --> 01:17:10,126 And... 761 01:17:11,293 --> 01:17:12,795 And he's stealing from us. 762 01:17:13,379 --> 01:17:15,631 We can't keep any money where he can find it. 763 01:17:17,508 --> 01:17:18,884 He takes whatever he sees. 764 01:17:19,844 --> 01:17:22,263 Sometimes he's taking things from the house 765 01:17:22,429 --> 01:17:25,224 and brings them to the pawnshop just to get a few dollars. 766 01:17:25,641 --> 01:17:27,852 He would even steal from his siblings. 767 01:17:28,018 --> 01:17:32,690 Yeah, he thinks that he's... some kind of gangster guy. 768 01:17:33,691 --> 01:17:38,070 He tried to sell fake drugs to some boys on the street 769 01:17:38,237 --> 01:17:39,947 at 14 years old. 770 01:17:42,366 --> 01:17:43,367 I... 771 01:17:44,743 --> 01:17:46,162 So we can't... 772 01:17:46,996 --> 01:17:49,748 we can't tell him anything. 773 01:17:51,417 --> 01:17:53,002 He doesn't listen to us. 774 01:17:53,544 --> 01:17:56,338 Grounding, rules, nothing. 775 01:18:00,718 --> 01:18:04,346 Is it true that he once threatened to burn the house down? 776 01:18:08,809 --> 01:18:11,687 Yeah, I know he hates me, you know, and... 777 01:18:11,854 --> 01:18:14,732 What should we do now? That's what we need to know, yeah? 778 01:18:14,899 --> 01:18:16,192 What are we supposed to do? 779 01:18:17,610 --> 01:18:19,570 From what I understand, 780 01:18:19,737 --> 01:18:24,116 the best option would be something called "voluntary placement." 781 01:18:36,295 --> 01:18:40,090 Voluntary placement, what does it mean, exactly? 782 01:18:42,301 --> 01:18:46,055 It means he would be placed with a foster family, essentially. 783 01:18:51,185 --> 01:18:52,478 Uh, I'm sorry. 784 01:18:52,645 --> 01:18:55,898 This is a very hard thing for us to hear. 785 01:18:57,191 --> 01:18:59,902 I'm sure you understand, we are trying so hard 786 01:19:00,694 --> 01:19:02,571 for so many years with Jeremy. 787 01:19:03,614 --> 01:19:07,368 Listen, do something, 'cause she wants to take my child. 788 01:19:07,534 --> 01:19:10,663 - What should I do? - I don't know, but... 789 01:19:10,829 --> 01:19:14,500 She thinks we're horrible parents, and she wants to take him. 790 01:19:14,667 --> 01:19:16,919 No! She didn't say that! Calm down! 791 01:19:17,086 --> 01:19:17,962 She did. 792 01:19:18,128 --> 01:19:21,423 - You're the one who's too calm, okay? - We have to say something, don't we? 793 01:19:21,590 --> 01:19:23,133 You talk to her, then! 794 01:19:23,592 --> 01:19:25,052 Where are you going now? 795 01:19:25,219 --> 01:19:26,804 I need some water. 796 01:19:28,764 --> 01:19:30,015 I'm sorry. 797 01:19:31,100 --> 01:19:32,893 I didn't mean to upset her. 798 01:19:37,231 --> 01:19:38,732 It's okay. Uh... 799 01:19:40,025 --> 01:19:43,487 We're just both so exhausted from all of this. 800 01:19:45,447 --> 01:19:47,950 And we feel like there is no good options left. 801 01:19:57,001 --> 01:20:01,755 Have you ever heard... about a family like this? 802 01:20:04,842 --> 01:20:06,343 How come... 803 01:20:06,510 --> 01:20:09,847 ...nobody has to give their children away? 804 01:20:10,556 --> 01:20:13,225 Just alcohol addicts 805 01:20:13,392 --> 01:20:15,978 or people who are beating their children. 806 01:20:17,771 --> 01:20:19,690 I don't understand why. 807 01:20:21,859 --> 01:20:23,986 I wish I had a better answer. 808 01:20:32,619 --> 01:20:34,872 What if we try this... 809 01:20:35,039 --> 01:20:36,457 ...just for a little while? 810 01:20:37,166 --> 01:20:40,294 Maybe if he goes away, he can do better. 811 01:20:41,462 --> 01:20:42,880 And then he comes home. 812 01:20:47,217 --> 01:20:49,261 Could we see him still? 813 01:21:08,238 --> 01:21:09,531 You will see him again. 814 01:21:12,034 --> 01:21:16,622 You will try many, many times to keep him at home. 815 01:21:19,458 --> 01:21:22,419 You will do everything in your power to help him. 816 01:21:23,003 --> 01:21:25,297 It will consume you entirely. 817 01:21:29,510 --> 01:21:30,552 You won't give up. 818 01:21:31,470 --> 01:21:35,307 But you will get tired as the years go on and on. 819 01:21:38,310 --> 01:21:39,937 He will go to foster care, 820 01:21:40,771 --> 01:21:43,107 but it will be a temporary solution. 821 01:21:46,485 --> 01:21:48,612 You will doubt yourself as a parent... 822 01:21:50,823 --> 01:21:52,157 and, at times, your life. 823 01:21:54,993 --> 01:21:57,621 You will begin to close yourself from the world. 824 01:22:02,584 --> 01:22:04,169 No one will understand. 825 01:22:06,505 --> 01:22:07,923 And it will only worsen. 826 01:22:11,635 --> 01:22:13,887 He, himself, will have no explanation... 827 01:22:15,180 --> 01:22:16,974 other than he cannot manage. 828 01:22:21,186 --> 01:22:24,356 You will beg for change and solutions. 829 01:22:27,776 --> 01:22:29,486 He will grow into an adult... 830 01:22:30,654 --> 01:22:32,698 and the help he needs, he will not get. 831 01:22:37,536 --> 01:22:38,745 It won't get better. 832 01:22:40,372 --> 01:22:43,750 Countless professionals will come in and out of your life. 833 01:22:47,254 --> 01:22:49,423 But it won't change. 834 01:22:51,967 --> 01:22:54,511 Despite what you know of him and yourself... 835 01:22:55,804 --> 01:22:56,889 you will lose him. 836 01:23:13,447 --> 01:23:16,742 This does not have to be a permanent solution. 837 01:23:16,909 --> 01:23:18,911 It could also be a temporary one as well. 838 01:23:19,703 --> 01:23:22,122 To... to send him... 839 01:23:22,873 --> 01:23:26,251 to a totally stranger family... 840 01:23:28,629 --> 01:23:31,089 Do you think that... 841 01:25:01,221 --> 01:25:03,181 Did you have a friend named Elijah? 842 01:25:04,683 --> 01:25:05,767 Mm-hmm. 843 01:25:07,811 --> 01:25:09,813 How come I don't remember that? 844 01:25:10,439 --> 01:25:12,816 I think there's a lot you don't remember. 845 01:25:21,658 --> 01:25:22,784 "Dear Sasha... 846 01:25:24,703 --> 01:25:26,580 I grew up with your brother Jeremy. 847 01:25:29,541 --> 01:25:31,126 We were never really close, 848 01:25:31,293 --> 01:25:34,421 but he was one of the most memorable of my friends from school. 849 01:25:37,174 --> 01:25:40,761 In grade ten, we were suspended together for stealing from lockers. 850 01:25:42,346 --> 01:25:46,141 That's a long story, but... Jeremy wasn't really involved. 851 01:25:49,144 --> 01:25:52,022 Even though I took the blame, Jeremy still got in trouble. 852 01:25:52,189 --> 01:25:53,815 And I felt pretty bad about that. 853 01:25:55,942 --> 01:25:58,111 He invited me over to hang out one time, 854 01:25:58,278 --> 01:26:00,906 and he showed me his maps of towns and cities. 855 01:26:02,949 --> 01:26:05,494 They remain some of the most unique art I've seen. 856 01:26:08,413 --> 01:26:12,250 I would sometimes see him out with people who were not very good influences. 857 01:26:14,252 --> 01:26:16,004 I was really unsure how to help. 858 01:26:20,133 --> 01:26:22,052 I began seeing less and less of him. 859 01:26:24,471 --> 01:26:26,640 After high school, I didn't see much of him, 860 01:26:26,807 --> 01:26:28,517 but I would think of him often. 861 01:26:31,061 --> 01:26:33,230 Recently, I tried to look him up on Facebook 862 01:26:33,397 --> 01:26:34,981 but couldn't find anything. 863 01:26:37,567 --> 01:26:39,111 But I came across you... 864 01:26:40,737 --> 01:26:41,988 and your films. 865 01:26:45,701 --> 01:26:47,828 That's where I learned about his passing. 866 01:26:52,916 --> 01:26:55,127 I am so very sorry for your loss. 867 01:26:58,130 --> 01:27:01,967 I saw in your film what you said about being angry at Jeremy 868 01:27:02,968 --> 01:27:04,803 and your regrets about that now. 869 01:27:08,181 --> 01:27:10,726 I also have a brother who I've been angry with 870 01:27:10,892 --> 01:27:12,102 for most of my life. 871 01:27:14,563 --> 01:27:17,190 I just wanted to share my memories of your brother 872 01:27:18,150 --> 01:27:21,153 and that I always knew him as a special soul 873 01:27:22,154 --> 01:27:23,447 who had a kind heart." 874 01:28:38,146 --> 01:28:39,773 ♪ Your picture ♪ 875 01:28:42,484 --> 01:28:44,194 ♪ Is still ♪ 876 01:28:46,655 --> 01:28:48,490 ♪ On my wall ♪ 877 01:28:51,076 --> 01:28:52,661 ♪ On my wall ♪ 878 01:28:55,664 --> 01:28:57,833 ♪ The colors ♪ 879 01:29:00,126 --> 01:29:02,254 ♪ Are bright ♪ 880 01:29:05,090 --> 01:29:07,050 ♪ Bright ♪ 881 01:29:09,135 --> 01:29:10,846 ♪ As ever ♪ 882 01:29:13,557 --> 01:29:16,893 ♪ The red is strong ♪ 883 01:29:17,352 --> 01:29:21,022 ♪ The blue is pure ♪ 884 01:29:22,023 --> 01:29:28,029 ♪ Some things last a long time ♪ 885 01:29:31,366 --> 01:29:37,038 ♪ Some things last a long time ♪ 886 01:29:48,592 --> 01:29:50,302 ♪ Your picture ♪ 887 01:29:53,263 --> 01:29:55,348 ♪ Is still ♪ 888 01:29:57,475 --> 01:29:59,603 ♪ On my wall ♪ 889 01:30:02,022 --> 01:30:03,940 ♪ On my wall ♪ 890 01:30:06,610 --> 01:30:08,570 ♪ I think ♪ 891 01:30:11,031 --> 01:30:12,991 ♪ About you ♪ 892 01:30:16,244 --> 01:30:17,746 ♪ Often ♪ 893 01:30:20,749 --> 01:30:22,250 ♪ Often ♪ 894 01:30:24,961 --> 01:30:29,299 ♪ I won't forget ♪ 895 01:30:29,466 --> 01:30:33,261 ♪ All the things we did ♪ 896 01:30:33,845 --> 01:30:39,309 ♪ Some things last a long time ♪ 897 01:30:42,729 --> 01:30:48,401 ♪ Some things last a long time ♪