Previously on "90 Day: The Last Resort."
Alright, so now you've gotta go over the ledge
further to the right.
You got it, you got it, you got it.
- You're doing it, yeah! - Yeah!
I mean, not only did we kill this challenge, but, like,
I think we made a really good team.
- Yay! - Amazing!
- Good job! - Did you have fun?
Good job.
I find out that you've been lying to me about loans.
Being married, you're supposed to talk to me about it first.
That makes no sense.
Yeah, I'm, I'm, not ready to have another child right now.
You wanna see?
Oh!
Not pregnant, OK.
Even though I really wanna have more kids, I don't wanna
bring another kid in this world
and have our marriage fall apart.
- I planned an activity. - Yeah.
I was not expecting this.
Happy 12-year anniversary. What you got there for me?
Oh my God, please, Russ, don't be a necklace.
What's wrong with the necklace?
Because you have given me necklace so often.
Yeah, well, necklaces are my favorite gift to you.
I can tell.
There's been a fair amount of conflict going on.
How are we all doing?
Shekinah, telling my wife to go back to her country is
not OK.
So you guys have no room for understanding.
Right. We're the problem, Shekinah.
I'm seeing a pattern here, how everyone else is wrong
and never you. - I could have chosen
different words at the pub.
But to me, actions cut deeper than words, and I don't hear
Thaís apologizing. - Sarper, you should run.
We have got to find a way to figure this out.
I'm not saying that all of you need to be
best friends, OK?
But we've gotta find a way to move forward.
It sucks 'cause I-- I could see myself getting along
with Sarper.
I mean, Shekinah, you're so wrong here, and the fact that
you can't see it is scary. - Right, right.
It's not scary just 'cause you say it is.
- Everyone-- - Look...
- It's scary to us. - And it's not wrong just 'cause you say it is.
- It's scary to us and that's why we're staying away from you. - We're talking now.
You know what?
Shekinah is a difficult person, yes.
I am the first person to know it.
But this is so harsh. Let's keep the peace.
That's what I want.
We are in the middle of this retreat.
We've gotta find a way to move forward.
I mean,
Can we agree to be cordial and civil to each other
at the very least? - Yes.
- Yeah. - Yes.
OK.
In spite of everything, I'm still sitting here.
I'm trying to process what just happened.
And, you know, I can see that there's all these puppets,
and it seems like a playful, fun activity.
I'm gonna try my best to be open to this exercise for now.
But these people need way more
than puppets to fix all their issues.
OK, so we are going to be doing some puppet therapy.
So a little bit of a light reprieve from the conversation
we've just had.
I am going to pick one partner from each couple,
and they are going to be the puppeteer,
and come up with a story to show their partner.
The play can depict the core issues
that the puppeteer wants to express.
This stage here is going to be your canvas.
It's clear to me that some of the partners are having
problems expressing what's going on within them.
So I think puppet therapy will be really helpful
because it enables couples to use a bit of lightness
and levity to take away some of that intensity.
I'm really excited for them
to try something completely new and out of the box.
OK, so, Thaís.
Oh, me?
You're going to be our first puppeteer.
- I don't know any story. - You can.
- I don't know what to do. - I believe you're
gonna be phenomenal. - Just maybe you'll be inspired by the puppets.
Aw.
Which puppets are you feeling inspired by?
It's so funny.
I talked to my brother, and there's still things that,
like, I don't know what happened.
- Hi. - OK, everyone.
Can you put your hands together?
Hey, hey, OK, everybody.
Wait.
- Yes, thank you. - Puppet.
- Oh! - Oh, there you go.
Hey, Mrs. Patrick.
Mr. Patrick?
Hi, Mommy, Daddy. Hi.
Hey, you guys. You sparkles.
I don't wanna talk to you today, because you were
rude to me last night. You remember that?
No, I don't.
I don't see nothing wrong here, guys.
Uh, I'm out, bye.
I enjoy so much seeing my mom and my daddy together with me.
- Yeah. - Woo, yeah, good job.
Yay, well done.
OK, just stay there for a moment.
So Patrick, what is your immediate reaction?
It looked like she wants us to all get along, but I've always
kind of just felt like she has hated John.
Yeah. Piggy in the middle.
She wanted to everyone be...
Mm-hmm.
Get along and be there for her.
- Mm-hmm. - So I do everything for her.
If she needs that from me, I'll do for her.
But with John, my brother-in-law, I feel like
he comes to my home, he gets along with Patrick
and Aleesi, but he ignore me.
Right.
I don't wanna feel like that in a family.
What I'm seeing here is when you're zooming out and you're
zooming into the future, that actually you both want
the same things.
You both want everyone to get along for your daughter,
and, of course, for yourselves as well.
Yeah, I mean, that's everything
I wanted, too.
So with that being said, I think what would be helpful
is bringing John here for family therapy, and John is,
in fact, going to be coming here.
I think it's easy for me to realize, like, I'm always
in the middle between John and Thaís, but Thaís helped me
realize that our daughter's also in the middle now.
This is the type of thing that,
like, of why I wanted to come here.
We just didn't have the capacity to have
these type of conversations on our own.
And I'm excited for family therapy.
OK. Guillermo.
- Oh. - You are up next.
You got this.
Guillermo's like, "You guys are not ready for this."
I know. I don't know if I'm ready.
- Hi. - Hi, are you ready?
- Yeah. - OK.
Ah, oh.
- Oh, that's scary. - Hi, hi.
I have a beautiful wife. She's an incredible singer.
Let me show you.
There was a time that actually, hmm,
I made a little mistake.
But my problem is like, right after the show,
I'd be afraid that she will do more stuff than just sing.
So I didn't go.
Aw.
And she got sad.
Aw.
Uh-oh.
For a lot of people, alcohol is not a problem.
But it was a problem for me because I've had
a beautiful brother that sadly passed away because of it.
It's hard to understand.
But that's what it is.
It doesn't have to do anything with her.
And I'm sorry.
Anyway.
Aww.
- Yay, that was good! - Yay!
Very good.
- Good job. - That was amazing.
Good job, good job, good job.
So Kara, how did that feel watching that play?
Are you aware of the connection between what happened with
Guillermo's brother and alcohol?
Yeah, and I can't not take accountability.
But, like, it was just another way he was showing me that
he doesn't support my goals. - Mm-hmm.
You know?
Like, seeing you after the show and be, like,
flirty with other guys and accepting drinks
from other people.
I don't see myself being flirty.
It's just how I am.
You know?
So like, I wish you had trust in me
to know I wouldn't do that.
I actually would like you to just go up and stand
next to him. - Oh, God, yeah, really?
I just want you to look at each other and that degree
of vulnerability that you shared in that puppet production.
I just wanna see if you can
give that to Kara, just directly to her.
I apologize
for maybe not showing up
in times that you really wanted me to be there.
I wanted you to be super famous and sing every beautiful word.
But at the same time, I wanted you to come back home...
to me.
I hear you. And I'm sorry that if
me being out made you feel unsafe.
'Cause I didn't want it to be that way, you know?
And I'm sorry.
You maybe give each other a hug?
Good job, guys.
The power of the puppets.
I want us to take another baby step in the direction of
potential reconciliation.
And I would like you both to go on a date as though you are
two strangers meeting for the first time.
So not talking about the past. Do you think you can do that?
Yeah.
OK, well done.
- Good job. - Good job.
OK, so our next performer is...
Shekinah.
Do you wanna come over here with me?
This doesn't feel like a safe space for me
to express myself at all.
I feel like doing this exercise takes a certain level
of vulnerability, and I was just attacked by a whole group
of people, very hostile, angry people.
This is not a safe space.
Like, if we were doing trust falls, they would just
let me fall on my ass.
OK, guys, so is there a way that we can make this feel like
a supportive space for her? - Yep.
- To do this? - 100%.
- Yeah. - OK.
Yeah, we all said we were gonna be cordial.
- OK. - Can I say something?
- Yeah. - I don't think so.
So what would a normal day look like if it were better for you?
I didn't spend years building my career just to trade
my manager's badge for an apron.
Pao, I wanna say something. Russ is a real man.
If I was in his shoes and, like, you treated me
the way you treat Russ, like, I would have been gone
a long time ago. - Well, OK...
So is there a way that we can make this feel like
a supportive space for her? Yeah?
- I don't think so. - OK.
Go on.
Well, if you ask for respect, you should give respect.
And when I was back there you were like kind of like
putting your eyes closed and like sleeping
on your-- on Sarper.
I have no capacity--
I have no capacity to absorb anyone else's issues,
to process anything going on right now.
I'm not in a good headspace, and I'm sorry that you feel
disrespected that I was disassociating,
but I need to do that right now to survive this experience.
It has nothing to do with you.
I'm just so sick of Shekinah's BS.
She just wants to be the victim.
OK so Sarper, how would you feel about taking Shekinah's place?
Yeah?
OK.
I don't feel like you have to.
Oh, my God, Sarper's version is gonna be hilarious.
My baby, when I show any possessiveness to her,
she gets offended.
No, not acceptable.
Thank you, guys, listening to me.
- Good job. - Aww, whoo, that was good.
Puppet Sarper did use quite a strong word.
- He called his wife "Bitch" in the performance. - Yeah.
So I'm interested to hear from you, Shekinah.
Is that energy something that you've experienced
in your marriage? - I think he's just being funny.
When it's surrounded in Turkish swear words,
then I know it's not good. Like, it's startling.
Like, can you do it right now?
- Babe, who are you looking at? - Yeah, .
- Yeah, it's-- and this-- and it's... - Like, you see, I mean.
- Do you see how it's like, "tss, tss", like sharp and-- - It's like a consonant, yeah.
And it startles me and it like makes my heart jump.
- I feel like he's losing control. - Mm-hmm.
And I want him to be in control.
Can you just try cursing a little bit softer in Turkish?
Yes.
I don't think I've ever heard you swear softly in Turkish.
Let me hear it.
- Oh, that actually sounds cute. - Really?
Yeah, it sounds like a kind of romantic.
I know you're not saying nice things.
- Am I? - I know you're not.
Disrespect, this is a core theme that plays out
in your relationship again and again.
Mm-hmm.
I'm interested to understand how you guys have felt in terms
of respect with your partners since the royal banquet.
Patrick and Thaís,
how about you?
The disrespect in our relationship is more about
when I'm talking outside our relationship.
I say too much and then she views it as disrespect.
Thaís, you feel that Patrick over shares.
Yes, I feel like Patrick over shares, especially
with his brother.
He's not like someone that Patrick would ask for advice
and he would give like a good advice.
Hey, can you shut the [bleep] up?
- Other people are talking. - I'm not talking to you
or other people. - Yeah, it's so [bleep] rude though.
- You're being rude. - No, you're being [bleep] rude.
I'm not even talking to you.
- Bro. - You're talking when someone else is sharing.
'Cause my husband is having to stand listening to all
of this for hours. - He's just standing.
This was about us and now it's about them.
If it's somebody else's turn, can he come sit here, please?
- That's all I'm saying. - Can you go home?
OK, let's come back to the two of you.
I just want it to be over though.
I don't even want to talk about us anymore.
- Like, this space is so toxic for me. - Patrick, Shekinah.
This is not even about us.
- This girl just won't pipe down. - This is group therapy.
You've just never been a part of it to understand
how it works. - Like, I wanna leave the resort.
- I wanna be done with all of this. - OK, OK, look, look.
- I'm so done. - Sarper, go, go and sit down.
- Go and sit down. - Enough.
Oh, my God.
OK.
Let's take five minutes and reset, OK?
- Thank you. - Thank you.
I'm so cold.
I came here because my marriage is struggling and I wanted help.
I never expected that my biggest challenge here would be
my relationship with the other couples.
OK.
This might be the last straw for me,
I'm seriously considering going home.
So Sarper and Shekinah have decided to leave group therapy
for this session.
As always.
So we're gonna let them take some space,
but I want us to keep going, because there has been
some really good progress made so far.
So we have one final performance.
- Da-da-dum. - Where is Zied?
Zied, it is your starring moment.
- It is your time to shine. - I genuinely want to see this.
- This should be good. - You can do it.
- Go, Zied! - It's gonna be so good.
- I never do this before, so... - It's alright.
- I'm sure you'll be great. - Yeah.
- Hi, guys. - Hi, Zied.
Today, I'm gonna tell you about one single day,
how I'm living my last five [bleep] years.
I just wake up
by myself.
I go work, and I go back home.
but no,
because she be in her office all the single mother[bleep] day.
Oh, wow.
Hey, babe. How are you, babe?
Are you still at work?
I go away.
She goes sleep.
And I stay alone.
This is my day every single day.
I have the love of my life.
But we're not close enough.
Hopefully you enjoy my story.
Zied's puppet show is funny, but also deeply sad.
It's hard.
There's a lot of Americans that they don't understand,
even some of the Americans here.
Not only do we have our own marriage problems...
- Good job, babe. - Yay!
- Well done. - Good job.
Excellent, I think you have a new career in puppetry.
- I know. - Yeah.
Can I ask, Rebecca, can I ask you just to go and stand
next to Zied up there? I just want you to be together.
- OK. - Have a moment together.
Yep.
Rebecca, I'd love you to share with Zied just how it felt
watching that puppet show.
It was hard.
It was really hard to understand how lonely you are.
I feel so accomplished at my job, and I love it so much,
and the pay is great, but it's coming at a cost
of our relationship.
Are you both willing to work on this?
- Very much. - Yeah.
But something needs to change.
Yes, exactly.
So I have some homework for you.
I want you to write a list about the things that you like
about each other.
Does that make sense to you?
Mm-hmm.
- OK. - Yeah?
You guys can come and sit down now.
- Thank you, doctor. - Yay, good job, guys.
- Yeah. - Well done.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I'm honestly shocked that it took playing with puppets
for me to see things from your point of view.
No puppets in the bedroom.
You and the puppets can have a romantic night alone.
You do that.
I don't need to hear about it later.
What happens with the puppets,
stays with the puppets, I guess.
Great job today. You're free to go.
Alright, thank you. Thank you so much.
Thank you.
- That was fun. - That was so cute.
- It's so pretty. - Mm-hmm.
- You wanna sit here? - Mm-hmm.
OK.
Ready to do some homework?
Hmm.
You're gonna write a list of things you like about me.
OK, you want me to go first?
- Go ahead. - OK.
I like that you are always up for an adventure.
I like that you care so much for your family and my family.
- Mhm. - I like that you are funny.
And I like that you are so sexy and romantic.
So what would a normal day, what would that look like
if it were better for you?
So like...
[bleep].
I already cook for you.
I do not want to go back to 1980.
Zied saying that he wants, you know, a wife from the '80s.
He wasn't even born in the '80s.
How does he know what a wife was like?
And I didn't spend years building my career just
to trade my manager's badge for an apron.
You don't want me to quit my job because you enjoy the money.
But you wanna make me feel like [bleep] for working so much.
- No. - What the [bleep] am I supposed to do?
I don't see that.
You want someone to wait on you hand and foot.
'Cause that's your culture.
Because you are putting me up against a standard that
is [bleep] impossible. - I don't say that.
You want a wife that makes the money
and also takes care of you. You cannot have both.
Then just go ahead and leave.
Why waste any more time?
To be honest,
I'm feeling worse about our relationship right now
than I ever have.
Come in.
- Hi, guys. - Oh, my God.
- How are you doing? - Thanks for coming by.
No problem.
I felt that I needed to go to Sarper and Shekinah's room
because that was a really uncomfortable situation
in puppet therapy earlier, which is not a good thing.
They are here to work on their issues as a couple,
and it concerns me that what's happening with the group
right now is just a big distraction.
Pff, so how are you guys feeling after that?
I feel like it couldn't have gone worse.
Yeah.
I'm the least racist person on the planet.
People are very sensitive about those words.
They are loaded.
Whether you mean it or not, it's how they're
gonna interpret it. - OK.
- Yeah, - And I understand why they did it.
I'm not saying it's right.
- I just understand their side of it. - Mm-hmm.
And so I'm wondering, would you be
willing to,
you know, say something to Thaís along the lines of,
- "You know, listen, it was a poor choice of words." - Mm-hmm.
"I regret, I shouldn't have said those in the moment.
"I didn't mean them in the way they came out,
but I can understand why they were triggering" or whatever. - Mm-hmm.
So that you were doing your best to diffuse and acknowledge
your part in that. Would you be open to that?
I mean...
You would be able-- you'd all be able to carry on.
I feel like everyone else would as well.
I just don't feel comfortable sitting
across the table from her. - I think you have to be,
because, I mean, we are adults, you know?
But at least you can
explain yourself more.
I don't know. It's just weird.
OK.
Hey, hey! Yo, wait for me.
- Oh, OK. - Hi.
- Coach. - Hello.
- Oh, this is so nice. - Oh, this is so cute.
Oh, there's a little duck here.
It's so cute.
- Oh. - Ooh, wow.
Wait, this feels so good.
Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh.
- Oh! - There he is.
- You guys ready to party? - Oh, my, hell yeah.
Yes!
Alright, I'll pour some glasses.
- I know, because I was like... - Oh.
Uh.
He got you, he got you, yeah.
- What cross, cross crop dust means? - Crop dusting?
It's like the other day when you called me into the room
for a charger, and I walked in there and almost threw up.
No, no, no.
- That's what that's like. - Stop.
Don't say that.
- Oh! - Hello.
Hello!
- Look who it is. - Hi, mamacita!
What's up?
¿Cómo van?
- Happy anniversary. - Congratulations, you guys.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
I'm pissed that Pao left at the end of archery
'cause I had a full day for us.
Archery, a nice dinner, and in the night with a nice
a nice romantic bathtub, a little massage.
- Imagine-- oh! - Hey, hey!
Alright.
12 years is a lot of hard work,
and there's a lot of ups and downs.
How was your day today?
It started out great, we went...
We had-- I planned this whole thing for archery...
but apparently she doesn't like my gift.
And what did you get?
It's a swan necklace.
The first place we went to is the Swan.
- And then here, the royal family actually owns all the swans. - What?
- So it was, like, really significant to... - Here.
To here.
And I told him that I was not happy with the freaking
necklaces anymore.
I hear you, I hear you.
Right.
Swan or not,
she literally said, "Please don't get me another necklace."
I feel like Russ is really in a class of his own.
You know, if she had a peanut allergy that
he would give her a bag of chocolate covered peanuts or something.
Like, I don't know.
Something, he's missing something up here.
Pao, I feel like you're really hard
on Russ.
I'm tired of being criticized, tired of feeling
like a failure. And I'm not a failure.
Well, don't put words in my mouth.
I'm not saying you said it, but that's how I feel.
Pao, I wanna say something. Russ is a real man.
And you're trying to push this guy away,
and he won't do it.
That is a strength that most men don't have.
If I was in his shoes, like,
I would have been gone a long time ago.
You are pushing him away with all your might,
with everything you have.
You are trying to make this guy miserable.
I'm very done with this.
Have fun.
I'm never gonna meet your expectations.
You are not listening to me, Russ.
This necklace is different.
You will nitpick everything, and I'm tired of it.
- Hey. - Hey.
I just feel that I'm never gonna meet
your expectations.
You are not listening to me, Russ.
You have these high expectations,
and you literally find a reason for that expectation
to never be met.
Pao.
- This necklace is different. - OK, yeah.
What, but do you see why I don't see that it's different?
You don't want to see, you're refusing to see
what I'm putting behind the thought of the necklace.
Oh, Russ.
Because I chose to have something that would signify
this therapy session.
But I guess you don't know me at all, Russ,
because that's not what I want. - Then what?
Then you don't know me?
- I'm trying to change. - What do I know that I don't-- how do...
I'm trying to make the effort, trying to put meaning
behind everything.
You literally find every reason to be upset.
- Russ, do you think it was-- - You will nitpick everything.
You nitpick it all.
And I'm tired of it.
I really needed a good day with you, Russ.
I love you. And I wanna make this work.
I want this to work.
Next time on "90 Day: The Last Resort."
- Oh, hi. - Hi.
- Guillermo. - Kara.
- It's a pleasure. - Yeah, nice to meet you.
So good to see you.
Our homework is to go on a first date with each other
and pretend like we've just met.
- These flowers are for you, yeah. - Aw, thank you.
Cheers to getting to know someone new.
OK, what is cool about Guillermo?
I used to have a motorcycle.
That's one of the things that I'm gonna get as soon
as I get back home.
Guillermo, don't you think
you should handle your [bleep] back home
before you try to move on to something else?
What the [bleep]?
It's just really hard to cycle away from five years of issues
when all of these red flags are just right in front of me.
I don't feel heard. I don't feel protected.
Shekinah.
The other night, come to find out that
marriage doesn't really mean anything to him.
Is that what you told her?
Yeah.
Because you have to tell
the truth to somebody else.
Sumit, you're putting yourself in a position
where you're suffering.
- Your marriage is suffering. - Yeah.
Zied, he was like, "Well, I just, I want you to cook
"for me every once in a while
without me having to ask for you."
- Like, what you thinking? - Who are you with?
Yes, exactly.
And if I'm not a real wife for him,
maybe he's out looking for the right one.
- John, you made it. - I made it.
Today's the day that John arrives to the castle for
family therapy. And I'm terrified.
I was talking to your father, and I thought
when I interpreted it, he mentioned ex.
Oh, my God.
John is going to blow everything apart.
Did you see your ex in Brazil?