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[Patrick] Previously on
"90 Day: The Last Resort."

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Wait, what is this?

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[Shekinah]
We're, like, in a fairy tale.

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We'll see.

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[eerie, classical music plays]

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- [Paola] Oh!
- [Thaís] Oh, hello.

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- Hello, hello!
- Oh, my God.

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Our marriage is like--
like a roller coaster.

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- A lot of ups and downs.
- For sure.

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I know you're gonna come here
and get drunk.

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- Baby, I'm here to enjoy.
- OK, then go enjoy.

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[Jenny speaking]

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I was scrolling the other day,
and I got a suggestion

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to follow you, meaning,
you removed me as a follower.

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Who cares?

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I'm not here to deal
with these crazy people.

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This whole decision
you're making right now?

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To have this be
your answer is wild.

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[Persia]
Welcome, everyone.

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You are here
because your marriages are

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in a place of crisis
and dysfunction.

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With this Brazil trip,
there was, like, this

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like, random charge
on the credit card

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for like, almost $2,000.

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Wow.

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Our family's not a priority.

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He doesn't trust me.

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I said,
"No, I'm going.

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You're not taking my son
away from me."

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[Persia]
So, how?

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Are you here to try
and fix this?

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I feel like I'm very confused
about my feelings,

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what I feel about him.

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[tense music plays]

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We have a power struggle.

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But you have to earn respect.

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[Sarper speaking]

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For sure.

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The way that you want
to control her?

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It pisses me off.
I'm just being honest.

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You're triggered?

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Shut up.

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- [Shekinah] Girl...
- Hold, hold.

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Don't talk to my husband
like that, first of all.

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Shut up.

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[tense music ends]

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[eerie, classical music plays]

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♪

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We're all here to give feedback
on each other's relationships.

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There's no need to-- he's not
telling you to shut up.

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[Sarper speaking]

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Jeez, Louise.

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Shut up.

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Don't say, "Shut up."
Shut up.

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[Sarper speaking]

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[Rebecca] You're supposed
to be a partnership

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against the world, first.

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- What do you mean?
- Not against each other.

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Yeah, I agree with that.

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Yeah.

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[Persia]
OK, so what I'm hearing is

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that you're not working
as a partnership.

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So what we really can work on
is primarily your communication

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so that you feel supported
and you feel respected.

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[Sarper]
Yeah.

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[Zied speaking]

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I think Sarper is just
a chauvinist.

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Respect is earned,

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and I don't want you getting
any ideas from Sarper, at all.

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All right.
Thank you guys for that.

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Up next, Jenny and Sumit.
Talk to me,

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how are you guys feeling
jumping into all of this?

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Don't know where to start.

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Like, right now,
we're living with his parents,

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so that's causing problems.

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But, I mean,
we have other issues, too.

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Like, last night, we went out,
and Sumit likes to drink,

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but I don't want him drinking.

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And he doesn't listen,

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and I feel like
he's disrespecting me.

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So, that's problem number two.

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Problem number three, I'd say,

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he hides things,

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like when you went and invested
$50,000 without telling me.

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Oh, damn.

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No, you did not.

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[tense music plays]

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We're married, I'm in this too.

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It is both our money.

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You have to be honest.

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It's a very interesting
difference there between,

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you know, having an issue
with communication

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and choosing when and when
not to communicate.

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Sumit, why are you so afraid
to tell Jenny the truth?

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That is not true.

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I pretended like it,
but not in real.

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Oh, my God.

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I think that Sumit has
pushed her

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to the breaking point,

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and she's ready
to start swinging.

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[Shekinah] Yeah.

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The finger's gonna
turn into a...

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Don't mess with Jenny.

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[Paola speaking]

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Yeah, note to self.
Not gonna do that.

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Note.

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So we have some issues around
trust and communication

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and potentially,
anger management as well.

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There's gonna be some work here
to try and meet in the middle.

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- Are you both willing
to compromise?
- I agree.

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- Yeah.
- [Sumit] I always compromise.

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Because I--

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Clearly, there is still a lot
of love between the two of you.

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[Sumit speaking]

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[Dr. Tara]
Interesting.

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Yeah, in the moment,
it just happens.

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You want it, it happens.

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So when it happens,
is it good for you, Jenny?

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- [Jenny] Yeah.
- Is the sex good?

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Of course.
He's young.

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[everybody laugh]

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Girl, young don't mean good.

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Honestly, listening to Jenny
and Sumit's sex life is

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not really my thing.

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Like, I wish I had
some earmuffs.

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- Well, I can help you.
- Oh, thank you.

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Is this better?
Ah, perfect.

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- Yeah.
- You know, fun fact.

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My dad had me at 64.

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So, it's in my blood.

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OK, well, yeah,
there's makeup sex,

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there's morning sex,
there's vacation sex.

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Ah...

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Like we had last night?

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[Rebecca laughs]

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You know what?
There is something in common.

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- Passion, right?
- Yeah.

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Like, passion, intimacy,

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and fighting it and argument.

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They're both heat.

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- [Sumit] Oh...
- So that's why.

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[Dr. Tara]
Not always healthy.

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So we'll address that later.

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- Oh, OK.
- Right, I agree.

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[Sumit]
Yeah.

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And he wants it more than I do.

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I'm older than him.

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It's not always that way,
and you know it.

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Not always, not always.
Women love sex too.

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- [Kara] Woo!
- We just love good sex.

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- Amen.
- Yeah.

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OK, so next we're gonna be
moving on to Rebecca and Zied.

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So tell us what's been going on
with you guys?

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Well, so far, we've been
together for what,

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almost seven years?

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So, for like
the first three years,

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it was amazing.

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We were literally
like best friends,

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but about three years ago,

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he just started going
to the gym all the time.

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He started dressing different.

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It's just slowly eroded
to where now

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we never wake up
at the same time.

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We never go to bed
at the same time.

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Half the time, he doesn't even
sleep in the same bed.

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And if I ask,
"What are you doing?
What's going on?"

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You're like, "I'm going out
with my friends."

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And nothing else is any
of my freaking business.

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Yeah, 100%.

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I hate to have to worry about

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where you are
and what you're doing.

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No, don't make it sound
like I'm obsessive.

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- No.
- I literally...

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- No, no, no.
- No, hang on.

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I used to be a private
investigator.

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You checked off
the top three boxes.

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You started going to the gym.

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You changed the way
you were dressing.

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You stopped letting me get
anywhere near your phone.

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Sometimes I feel the same way

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as Zied, tracked, you know?

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I just always put Airtags
on my keys,

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and you took the keys.

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You AirTagged yourself.

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He knew that she was
a private investigator

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when you first met her, right?

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So he kind of
signed up for this.

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[Rebecca] Ladies, let's see
what y'all think about this.

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We get into a fight.

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He throws a mortal fit,
packs a bag, and disappears.

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He had done this several times
before, and every single time,

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he is gone for the entire day.

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I fell asleep and woke up
at midnight,

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two o'clock in the morning,
something like that,

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and he's 400 miles away
in a hotel in Virginia.

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[Patrick]
Holy crap.

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So what were you doing there?

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Uh-oh.

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[Guillermo]
The actual problem...

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Have you had sexual relations

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with other people during
your separation?

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[Zied speaking]

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Why are you
in this relationship, then?

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I mean, I see you unhappy.

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Let Zied and Sarper,
his little boyfriend,

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go stand outside.

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I'm really kind of sick
and tired of both of them

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right now.

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Zied, don't forget
what we talked.

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Sometimes the trash
takes itself out.

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[tense, classical music plays]

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So what were you doing there?

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Uh-oh.

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I'm not focused where
I'm going, you know?

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He says he slept in his car.

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[Thaís speaking]

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Oh, I'm glad
you understand that,

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because that's how I feel

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when I can't get a hold
of you forever.

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Maybe next time I'll hire
Rebecca to find you.

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No, I know you can't drive
400 miles, so...

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[both laugh]

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You don't do that [bleep].

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The problem is
you can't run forever.

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- [Rebecca] Yes, you can--
- Like, it's gonna come back.

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You can cool off,
and then come back.

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[Zied] Yes, I'll--

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[Zied] Yeah.

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[Rebecca] That is such--
you know what?

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- No, it's--
- If you're dating somebody,

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do that.

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- No, it's not-- no.
- Once you get married,

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you don't do that [bleep].

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You're a grown-ass man,

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and you took your grown-ass out
to be angry with me.

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- Come on, you see--
- [Shekinah] I would just like
to say something really quick.

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I think you talk disrespectful, period.

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[Rebecca] OK.

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And I think if you soften
your tone a little bit,

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you'll be heard a lot more,

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and you'll be received
differently.

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I don't need to soften
my tone to be heard.

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[Shekinah]
OK.

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OK, then you're gonna keep
getting the same result.

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You should talk.

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You have been popping off this
whole time in a rude way.

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I'm sorry you had--

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[Shekinah]
I don't think anyone likes it.

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OK, so it seems like this has
been an ongoing problem.

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Ew!

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He said, next time you're gonna
drive to Canada.

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What's wrong with Canada?

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[Kara] No, is that's even
farther away.

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[Rebecca]
No, but it's even farther away
because I'm so awful.

255
00:14:44,217 --> 00:14:45,885
- I didn't say you are awful.
- [Rebecca] I know that.

256
00:14:49,013 --> 00:14:51,473
I really feel bad
for Rebecca because

257
00:14:51,474 --> 00:14:54,476
I feel like Sarper,
Shekinah and Zied is trying

258
00:14:54,477 --> 00:14:56,144
to gang up against her.

259
00:14:56,145 --> 00:14:58,106
- Like, that's unfair.
- I don't know.

260
00:14:58,231 --> 00:15:00,023
Rebecca doesn't seem like
the easiest person

261
00:15:00,024 --> 00:15:01,274
to get along with.

262
00:15:01,275 --> 00:15:04,027
I kind of speak like Rebecca
sometimes, so.

263
00:15:04,028 --> 00:15:05,612
You don't say.

264
00:15:05,613 --> 00:15:07,698
Yeah, I'm feeling for Zied
at this point.

265
00:15:11,327 --> 00:15:13,870
[Persia]
OK, so, Rebecca and Zied.

266
00:15:13,871 --> 00:15:17,166
Clearly, there are
some trust issues.

267
00:15:17,291 --> 00:15:20,336
- Are you both willing
to work on this?
- [both] Yes.

268
00:15:20,461 --> 00:15:22,045
You're here for a reason,
you're willing to work on it,

269
00:15:22,046 --> 00:15:23,338
you both still love each other?

270
00:15:23,339 --> 00:15:24,507
- [Zied] Yeah.
- Very much.

271
00:15:29,637 --> 00:15:31,304
And you're willing to do
whatever it takes

272
00:15:31,305 --> 00:15:32,473
to work through this issue?

273
00:15:34,308 --> 00:15:35,768
- Yeah.
- And you believe it's possible?

274
00:15:37,311 --> 00:15:38,812
Yes.

275
00:15:38,813 --> 00:15:39,981
Yeah.

276
00:15:44,026 --> 00:15:45,986
OK, moving on
to the next couple.

277
00:15:45,987 --> 00:15:48,905
Kara and Guillermo,
why don't you share a little bit

278
00:15:48,906 --> 00:15:52,160
about what's been going on
in your relationship recently?

279
00:15:53,453 --> 00:15:55,746
Well, we've been apart for...

280
00:15:57,582 --> 00:15:58,999
over a year.

281
00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:03,420
What was it that caused you
to separate a year ago?

282
00:16:03,421 --> 00:16:08,175
I was feeling really like
everything was like on me,

283
00:16:08,176 --> 00:16:11,554
the logistics in the household,
like, to cook meals,

284
00:16:11,679 --> 00:16:14,556
to take care of our,
at that time, really small baby,

285
00:16:14,557 --> 00:16:16,726
also while working several jobs.

286
00:16:16,851 --> 00:16:18,518
Like, I felt like
I was drowning,

287
00:16:18,519 --> 00:16:21,022
and he was just, like,
not helping, you know?

288
00:16:22,315 --> 00:16:23,440
- And then it got--
- Right, listen.

289
00:16:23,441 --> 00:16:25,734
This had some bull[bleep].

290
00:16:25,735 --> 00:16:28,904
The actual problem--
she likes to go out.

291
00:16:28,905 --> 00:16:30,114
She likes to drink.

292
00:16:37,330 --> 00:16:39,749
Or, like going out with friends,

293
00:16:39,874 --> 00:16:41,667
like doing like a girl's night,
then going...

294
00:16:47,298 --> 00:16:48,549
[Dr. Tyrone] Please.
Clarify that, please.

295
00:16:48,674 --> 00:16:50,718
Yeah, can you just explain what
exactly you're talking about?

296
00:16:50,843 --> 00:16:52,302
[Kara] I can tell you
what he's talking about,

297
00:16:52,303 --> 00:16:53,470
if you want.
- Go on.

298
00:16:53,471 --> 00:16:55,722
So I slept with a guy in 2011.

299
00:16:55,723 --> 00:16:57,558
We both agreed,
"Hey, whoops, misstep.

300
00:16:57,683 --> 00:16:59,267
Let's rein that back.
We're better friends."

301
00:16:59,268 --> 00:17:01,478
It was weird.
So we moved on.

302
00:17:01,479 --> 00:17:03,731
From then on, we've only ever
been friends.

303
00:17:03,856 --> 00:17:07,317
But at the same time,
she was in that man's house

304
00:17:07,318 --> 00:17:08,569
when we were married.

305
00:17:08,694 --> 00:17:09,819
So can I just clarify,

306
00:17:09,820 --> 00:17:13,323
you were at this man's house
until 4:00 AM?

307
00:17:13,324 --> 00:17:14,991
Yeah.
But not just the two of us.

308
00:17:14,992 --> 00:17:16,160
It was a party.

309
00:17:17,328 --> 00:17:18,454
Wait, no.

310
00:17:18,579 --> 00:17:20,248
- I was with--
- But was he always
invited to be there?

311
00:17:20,373 --> 00:17:22,290
Yes.
Did he ever wanna go? No.

312
00:17:22,291 --> 00:17:24,043
[Guillermo speaking]

313
00:17:37,473 --> 00:17:39,475
- That didn't happen.
- Don't-- come on.

314
00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:41,227
[tense music plays]

315
00:17:56,284 --> 00:17:58,828
[eerie, classical music plays]

316
00:18:04,792 --> 00:18:07,502
So Kara, can you tell us
what happened that night?

317
00:18:07,503 --> 00:18:09,171
I have nothing to hide from him.

318
00:18:10,548 --> 00:18:12,382
I went to have drinks
with my friends,

319
00:18:12,383 --> 00:18:14,302
and we all had drinks,
and then we came home.

320
00:18:17,346 --> 00:18:20,390
So, I don't know where
this story comes from,

321
00:18:20,391 --> 00:18:22,892
where I was making out
with a man.

322
00:18:22,893 --> 00:18:24,686
Because that guy that's
recounted it to him

323
00:18:24,687 --> 00:18:25,688
wasn't there.

324
00:18:25,813 --> 00:18:29,191
So I don't know who he got
his information from.

325
00:18:29,317 --> 00:18:31,693
That guy that he was spoke to
wasn't there?

326
00:18:31,694 --> 00:18:33,571
[Kara] No, he wasn't there.

327
00:18:33,696 --> 00:18:35,739
Why the [bleep] would
I jeopardize

328
00:18:35,740 --> 00:18:37,282
our entire marriage?

329
00:18:37,283 --> 00:18:38,783
[Kara]
Why would I do that?

330
00:18:38,784 --> 00:18:39,868
Yeah, I was gonna say.

331
00:18:39,869 --> 00:18:41,037
[Kara]
No, but why would I do that,

332
00:18:41,162 --> 00:18:43,747
when you know all the [bleep]
that I did every [bleep] day

333
00:18:43,748 --> 00:18:45,707
to keep our lives together?
- I have no idea.

334
00:18:45,708 --> 00:18:48,126
- Why would I actively
go out and [bleep] it up?
- Then I don't know.

335
00:18:48,127 --> 00:18:49,545
- I don't know!
- Why would I do that?

336
00:18:49,670 --> 00:18:51,212
I have no idea!
I have the same question.

337
00:18:51,213 --> 00:18:52,923
No, because I'm asking you
to just use your logic.

338
00:18:53,049 --> 00:18:56,718
Like I show up every single day
in so many [bleep] ways.

339
00:18:56,719 --> 00:18:58,970
Why, why then would I go
and throw it all away

340
00:18:58,971 --> 00:19:00,222
to make out with a guy at a bar?

341
00:19:00,348 --> 00:19:02,224
Because drinking
removes logic.

342
00:19:02,350 --> 00:19:03,434
That's why.

343
00:19:03,559 --> 00:19:06,062
Like, when you're drunk,
you're not logical anymore.

344
00:19:09,190 --> 00:19:10,315
I've never cheated on Guillermo,

345
00:19:10,316 --> 00:19:11,941
but he has it in his mind
that I have,

346
00:19:11,942 --> 00:19:13,110
even though I've explained

347
00:19:13,235 --> 00:19:16,321
the facts to him
many, many times.

348
00:19:16,322 --> 00:19:18,615
And I think he's leaning
on this cheating angle

349
00:19:18,616 --> 00:19:20,450
because I feel like maybe
he's, like, trying

350
00:19:20,451 --> 00:19:22,244
to make me look bad,

351
00:19:22,370 --> 00:19:25,246
but he doesn't wanna have
to take accountability.

352
00:19:25,247 --> 00:19:26,582
Like, it's not fair.

353
00:19:28,584 --> 00:19:31,419
OK, so these are some of
the reasons why you separated,

354
00:19:31,420 --> 00:19:34,131
but let's talk about what were
some of the barriers

355
00:19:34,256 --> 00:19:36,132
to you reconciling?

356
00:19:36,133 --> 00:19:37,927
You know, it reminds me
of a time that

357
00:19:38,052 --> 00:19:40,638
she actually came to me.

358
00:19:40,763 --> 00:19:42,431
She was like,
"Hey, I wanna fix it."

359
00:19:42,556 --> 00:19:45,935
And that gave me so much hope.

360
00:19:46,060 --> 00:19:48,687
And I said, "In order
to fix these problems,

361
00:19:48,688 --> 00:19:51,148
"you need to stop drinking
how you do it.

362
00:19:51,273 --> 00:19:54,652
"Number two, you need to stop
going out how you do it.

363
00:19:54,777 --> 00:19:58,948
And listen, I promise you,
I will do whatever you want."

364
00:19:59,073 --> 00:20:01,951
And she said,
"Yes, let's do it."

365
00:20:02,076 --> 00:20:03,953
But then, she never did that.

366
00:20:05,204 --> 00:20:07,288
[Kara] He just, like,
doesn't take accountability

367
00:20:07,289 --> 00:20:11,334
and then wants to accuse me
of being flagrant

368
00:20:11,335 --> 00:20:12,628
or being out or whatever.

369
00:20:12,753 --> 00:20:15,673
And, like, he's over here
sending bitches Venmo

370
00:20:15,798 --> 00:20:17,633
on Valentine's Day, saying,

371
00:20:17,758 --> 00:20:21,345
"Can't wait to see you,
smiley face, here's $150."

372
00:20:21,470 --> 00:20:22,805
Ooh.

373
00:20:22,930 --> 00:20:25,223
Could you say when I sent
those messages?

374
00:20:25,224 --> 00:20:26,808
- When I sent that?
- Yeah, Valentine's Day.

375
00:20:26,809 --> 00:20:27,977
Were you together?

376
00:20:28,102 --> 00:20:29,894
This is when
we were separated.

377
00:20:29,895 --> 00:20:31,147
But when we separated,

378
00:20:31,272 --> 00:20:32,815
there were not clear parameters.

379
00:20:32,940 --> 00:20:35,276
She's also been doing things.

380
00:20:37,778 --> 00:20:40,364
[Persia] OK, let's just make
this really clear.

381
00:20:40,489 --> 00:20:42,991
Have you both had
sexual relations

382
00:20:42,992 --> 00:20:46,120
with other people,
during your separation?

383
00:20:48,414 --> 00:20:49,539
I have.

384
00:20:49,540 --> 00:20:51,125
- [gasps]
- Oh...

385
00:20:53,502 --> 00:20:54,919
- Mm-hmm.
- You have?

386
00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:56,297
Mm-hmm.
Yes.

387
00:20:58,758 --> 00:21:00,049
[Thaís]
This is crazy to me.

388
00:21:00,050 --> 00:21:01,051
- Yeah, I mean--
- That's sad.

389
00:21:01,177 --> 00:21:03,052
I mean, how do they come back
from that?

390
00:21:03,053 --> 00:21:06,514
Like, some of these problems,
they're massive.

391
00:21:06,515 --> 00:21:08,392
They need more than a therapist.

392
00:21:08,517 --> 00:21:09,852
They need a magician.

393
00:21:13,063 --> 00:21:14,857
[Persia]
So the question is,

394
00:21:14,982 --> 00:21:16,566
do you wanna work
through this?

395
00:21:16,567 --> 00:21:18,026
Do you still love each other?

396
00:21:18,027 --> 00:21:20,236
Even though both of you have
been with other people,

397
00:21:20,237 --> 00:21:21,655
during your separation.

398
00:21:23,073 --> 00:21:24,949
I love him.
I love you.

399
00:21:24,950 --> 00:21:27,369
- It's not a question.
- Are you in love with him?

400
00:21:34,043 --> 00:21:35,127
Hmm.

401
00:21:36,253 --> 00:21:38,422
That's a hard one.
I don't know.

402
00:21:40,090 --> 00:21:41,926
Is that something you want
to explore while you're here?

403
00:21:42,051 --> 00:21:43,218
Yeah.

404
00:21:43,219 --> 00:21:46,347
I need to know that we did
everything that we could.

405
00:21:55,689 --> 00:21:57,608
[Persia]
Guillermo?

406
00:21:57,733 --> 00:21:59,902
- Yes, ma'am?
- Do you still love Kara?

407
00:22:03,823 --> 00:22:05,074
Uh...

408
00:22:08,410 --> 00:22:10,079
She's the mother of my kid.

409
00:22:10,204 --> 00:22:12,580
I will never...

410
00:22:12,581 --> 00:22:14,958
stop feeling love for her.

411
00:22:14,959 --> 00:22:16,293
- She--
- Are you in love with her?

412
00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:22,173
I have no idea.

413
00:22:22,174 --> 00:22:23,926
Are you willing to explore
that while you're here?

414
00:22:24,051 --> 00:22:25,302
Yes, yes.

415
00:22:25,427 --> 00:22:26,554
OK.

416
00:22:31,642 --> 00:22:34,352
So, Kara and Guillermo,
there is a lot of tension,

417
00:22:34,353 --> 00:22:35,770
there's a lot of conflict.

418
00:22:35,771 --> 00:22:38,356
But I also feel hopeful
because the very fact that

419
00:22:38,357 --> 00:22:40,651
they have been willing
and brave enough to come here

420
00:22:40,776 --> 00:22:43,152
and to show up
and expose themselves,

421
00:22:43,153 --> 00:22:47,282
it shows that they care enough
to give it a go.

422
00:22:47,283 --> 00:22:49,158
We have a long journey
ahead of us.

423
00:22:49,159 --> 00:22:51,328
We have a lot of work to do.

424
00:22:51,453 --> 00:22:53,454
But if you keep showing up
like you did today,

425
00:22:53,455 --> 00:22:55,832
then I think that there's a lot
of hope for us all.

426
00:22:55,833 --> 00:22:58,168
So, thank you,
and have a good night.

427
00:22:58,294 --> 00:22:59,670
- Thank you.
- Thank you.

428
00:22:59,795 --> 00:23:01,088
Thanks, guys.

429
00:23:07,678 --> 00:23:09,387
- [Dr. Tyrone] We have a lot.
- That was quite a session.

430
00:23:09,388 --> 00:23:12,056
- [Dr. Tyrone] Yeah.
- A lot of work to do.

431
00:23:12,057 --> 00:23:13,976
[Thaís speaking]

432
00:23:16,061 --> 00:23:19,064
♪

433
00:23:26,071 --> 00:23:27,072
[Sumit speaking]

434
00:23:30,409 --> 00:23:32,828
[Jenny & Sumit speaking]

435
00:23:47,343 --> 00:23:48,719
[Jenny] No.

436
00:23:48,844 --> 00:23:51,721
[Sumit speaking]

437
00:23:51,722 --> 00:23:53,599
[Jenny] I don't know.
Maybe it's not.

438
00:24:11,033 --> 00:24:13,035
[chanting music plays]

439
00:24:15,037 --> 00:24:16,538
[Patrick speaking]

440
00:24:26,340 --> 00:24:27,549
[Patrick]
That's bull[bleep]...

441
00:24:28,717 --> 00:24:30,719
Yeah, because when I tell you,
like, it's not--

442
00:24:30,844 --> 00:24:32,012
I tell you, like...

443
00:24:33,097 --> 00:24:34,931
Are you gonna do it again?

444
00:24:34,932 --> 00:24:36,057
Huh?
No.

445
00:24:36,058 --> 00:24:37,434
[Patrick speaking]

446
00:24:37,559 --> 00:24:38,686
[Thaís] I'm not.

447
00:24:45,734 --> 00:24:46,610
[Kara]
Well, that was interesting.

448
00:24:46,735 --> 00:24:48,028
[Guillermo] Mm-hmm.

449
00:24:52,324 --> 00:24:53,951
How do you really feel?

450
00:24:58,497 --> 00:25:00,499
[Guillermo speaking]

451
00:25:01,959 --> 00:25:02,960
When?

452
00:25:04,211 --> 00:25:05,963
Why is this relevant?

453
00:25:16,098 --> 00:25:18,099
No, no, no-- it was on a trip,
but not to Europe.

454
00:25:18,100 --> 00:25:20,436
- [Guillermo] Oh.
- It was in the United States.

455
00:25:20,561 --> 00:25:21,978
I don't-- I don't know.
What?

456
00:25:21,979 --> 00:25:23,272
- With who?
- No, I'm not.

457
00:25:23,397 --> 00:25:24,815
No.

458
00:25:24,940 --> 00:25:26,649
I just don't know
that I understand

459
00:25:26,650 --> 00:25:29,611
why those details are
really important.

460
00:25:31,697 --> 00:25:36,285
I feel like if we want
to actually have--

461
00:25:36,410 --> 00:25:37,994
fix something,

462
00:25:37,995 --> 00:25:40,330
we need to be clear
with each other.

463
00:25:40,456 --> 00:25:41,498
Yeah.

464
00:25:45,085 --> 00:25:46,086
Mnh-mnh.

465
00:25:47,129 --> 00:25:48,589
So only one time?

466
00:25:50,132 --> 00:25:52,092
- Twice.
- Oh, yeah?

467
00:25:53,594 --> 00:25:56,345
Do you wanna tell me
about this girl?

468
00:25:56,346 --> 00:25:58,015
How many times
did you have sex?

469
00:25:58,140 --> 00:25:59,682
Two times.

470
00:25:59,683 --> 00:26:01,726
Actually, same way.

471
00:26:01,727 --> 00:26:06,690
So can you just tell me
when did you have sex?

472
00:26:06,815 --> 00:26:09,151
I went to New York.
In the fall.

473
00:26:09,276 --> 00:26:11,320
I don't know, I feel like
I-- I had sex

474
00:26:11,445 --> 00:26:14,490
for the very first time
after you, way longer.

475
00:26:15,657 --> 00:26:17,534
We both did the same thing.

476
00:26:17,659 --> 00:26:19,243
Mine was just slightly
sooner than yours.

477
00:26:19,244 --> 00:26:20,578
Slightly?
No.

478
00:26:20,579 --> 00:26:22,205
It was like five months
of difference.

479
00:26:22,206 --> 00:26:24,415
I feel like you just constantly
wanna villainize me

480
00:26:24,416 --> 00:26:27,044
and make me like the bad person.

481
00:26:27,169 --> 00:26:30,214
You agree that, like,
it took two of us

482
00:26:30,339 --> 00:26:32,091
to get to where
we currently are?

483
00:26:33,509 --> 00:26:35,260
Sure.
Yes.

484
00:26:36,512 --> 00:26:39,389
Definitely I did something
that upset you.

485
00:26:39,515 --> 00:26:41,391
And definitely I did something
to make you take

486
00:26:41,517 --> 00:26:43,685
different decisions
that you had probably before.

487
00:26:45,354 --> 00:26:46,855
- Yeah.
- OK.

488
00:26:46,980 --> 00:26:49,273
And that may be the rest,
we should like talk about

489
00:26:49,274 --> 00:26:51,151
with a professional,
like with a therapist.

490
00:26:52,444 --> 00:26:54,321
Uh-huh.
I agree.

491
00:26:57,574 --> 00:26:58,575
Cool.

492
00:27:02,538 --> 00:27:05,040
♪

493
00:27:07,167 --> 00:27:09,002
[Sarper & Shekinah speaking]

494
00:27:26,895 --> 00:27:28,105
[Rebecca shouting]
Do you think that what you--

495
00:27:28,230 --> 00:27:30,065
the-- the real problem is

496
00:27:31,066 --> 00:27:33,735
that out of all of the [bleep]
that I put up with,

497
00:27:33,861 --> 00:27:38,322
your main argument is that
I'm on my phone too much?

498
00:27:38,323 --> 00:27:42,952
Do you know how bad I wanted
to just stand up and scream?

499
00:27:42,953 --> 00:27:44,287
[Zied]
Why you scream?

500
00:27:44,288 --> 00:27:47,081
[Rebecca]
Because-- because...

501
00:27:47,082 --> 00:27:48,750
Zied, because I'm not gonna--

502
00:27:53,005 --> 00:27:56,674
Do not come here and act
like my problem is

503
00:27:56,675 --> 00:27:58,759
what is keeping us
from being intimate

504
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:01,137
or close or having a connection.

505
00:28:01,138 --> 00:28:04,974
The problem is you have not
deserved to be trusted.

506
00:28:04,975 --> 00:28:07,435
I have no idea
who you're talking to,

507
00:28:07,436 --> 00:28:08,978
what you're doing.

508
00:28:08,979 --> 00:28:10,605
You have made it clear
that I'm not allowed

509
00:28:10,606 --> 00:28:12,273
to touch your phone anymore.

510
00:28:12,274 --> 00:28:14,151
You can, I never stop you.

511
00:28:14,276 --> 00:28:15,443
- Any time.
- [yelling] No!

512
00:28:15,444 --> 00:28:17,028
You specifically told me no.

513
00:28:17,029 --> 00:28:18,946
In fact, I have asked you
for your phone

514
00:28:18,947 --> 00:28:20,323
for like a setting or something.

515
00:28:20,324 --> 00:28:23,160
You literally will move it
to that section,

516
00:28:23,285 --> 00:28:24,620
hand it to me,

517
00:28:24,745 --> 00:28:26,537
and then, immediately
take it back.

518
00:28:26,538 --> 00:28:28,999
Like, oh, oh.

519
00:28:29,124 --> 00:28:32,460
So why would I not be worried
that you might be cheating on me

520
00:28:32,461 --> 00:28:35,297
if that is the constant attitude
that I get from you?

521
00:28:38,467 --> 00:28:42,553
The one time I wanted to go
prove to myself

522
00:28:42,554 --> 00:28:44,640
that you were doing
nothing wrong,

523
00:28:44,765 --> 00:28:47,183
you're in a freaking parking lot
with a blonde!

524
00:28:47,184 --> 00:28:48,810
And then the whole time
since then,

525
00:28:48,936 --> 00:28:50,895
you have been doing nothing
but gaslighting me

526
00:28:50,896 --> 00:28:54,358
and telling me that every single
thing that concerns me

527
00:28:54,483 --> 00:28:55,943
is really my fault.

528
00:29:03,242 --> 00:29:04,743
[Zied speaking]

529
00:29:21,009 --> 00:29:22,927
We have to be together.

530
00:29:22,928 --> 00:29:25,179
I mean, we are in the middle
of a freaking castle

531
00:29:25,180 --> 00:29:26,473
in United Kingdom.

532
00:29:35,023 --> 00:29:36,400
- [laughing]
- Oh, my God.

533
00:29:36,525 --> 00:29:40,027
I kind of get, like,
60% of his jokes.

534
00:29:40,028 --> 00:29:41,363
They don't all land.

535
00:29:46,827 --> 00:29:49,663
[chanting music plays]

536
00:29:57,921 --> 00:29:59,588
- [Sarper] Hello.
- [bartender] Hi, hello.
How are you?

537
00:29:59,589 --> 00:30:01,425
- Good.
- What can I get for you?

538
00:30:03,260 --> 00:30:04,677
- Yeah, we do.
- Thank you so much.

539
00:30:04,678 --> 00:30:05,887
No worries.

540
00:30:09,266 --> 00:30:10,309
[Sarper speaking]

541
00:30:10,434 --> 00:30:11,434
[bartender] No.

542
00:30:11,435 --> 00:30:12,602
[laughs] All right.

543
00:30:18,191 --> 00:30:19,234
OK.

544
00:30:39,671 --> 00:30:40,963
[Sumit speaking]

545
00:30:40,964 --> 00:30:42,299
[Patrick] This way?
Where's the bar?

546
00:30:42,424 --> 00:30:43,467
- This way?
- [Sumit] Yeah.

547
00:30:45,135 --> 00:30:46,218
[indistinct conversation]

548
00:30:46,219 --> 00:30:47,803
- Hey, guys.
- What's going on?

549
00:30:47,804 --> 00:30:48,847
- [Thaís] Hi.
- Good.

550
00:30:48,972 --> 00:30:50,181
- Welcome.
- You're already here.

551
00:30:50,182 --> 00:30:52,016
Well, yeah.

552
00:30:52,017 --> 00:30:53,352
[Sumit speaking]

553
00:30:53,477 --> 00:30:55,354
In the room, sleeping.

554
00:30:55,479 --> 00:30:57,730
- Yeah.
- What?

555
00:30:57,731 --> 00:30:59,231
[Thaís speaking]

556
00:30:59,232 --> 00:31:01,150
[Jenny] Yeah,
it was exhausting.

557
00:31:01,151 --> 00:31:02,402
[Patrick] Yeah.

558
00:31:04,738 --> 00:31:05,864
[bartender] Yeah, absolutely.

559
00:31:07,115 --> 00:31:08,325
Do you want it on the rocks
as well?

560
00:31:14,456 --> 00:31:15,999
- [Sumit] Hey.
- What's up, guys?

561
00:31:17,459 --> 00:31:18,335
How are you?

562
00:31:18,460 --> 00:31:20,337
[Sumit & Zied speaking]

563
00:31:42,484 --> 00:31:44,861
I forgot how exhausting
therapy is.

564
00:31:44,986 --> 00:31:46,905
Like, I did it
for a while myself,

565
00:31:47,030 --> 00:31:48,365
and my whole day would
be wrecked.

566
00:31:48,490 --> 00:31:50,075
- Yeah, exactly.
- Because I'd just be like,

567
00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:51,618
talking about feelings.
- It is exhausting.

568
00:31:53,412 --> 00:31:57,289
[Sarper]
Boys, will you join me?

569
00:31:57,290 --> 00:31:59,417
There's a bonfire outside, huh?

570
00:31:59,418 --> 00:32:01,086
[Rebecca speaking]

571
00:32:04,923 --> 00:32:07,426
[Patrick] I'll join you.
Bonfire time?

572
00:32:07,551 --> 00:32:09,093
[Sarper]
Zied, if you can.

573
00:32:09,094 --> 00:32:10,428
[Zied speaking]

574
00:32:10,429 --> 00:32:11,763
[Sarper]
You are welcome.

575
00:32:11,888 --> 00:32:13,432
[Rebecca] Oh, so you're
going out with him?

576
00:32:15,434 --> 00:32:17,101
Whatever.

577
00:32:17,102 --> 00:32:19,145
I cannot believe
my husband right now.

578
00:32:19,146 --> 00:32:21,064
We just had a therapy session,

579
00:32:21,189 --> 00:32:22,941
where we talked about him
running away.

580
00:32:23,066 --> 00:32:25,568
And the second that things
get tense with us,

581
00:32:25,569 --> 00:32:26,944
he runs away,

582
00:32:26,945 --> 00:32:28,654
and starts drinking
with the other couples,

583
00:32:28,655 --> 00:32:30,240
and doesn't tell me.

584
00:32:30,365 --> 00:32:31,575
I don't care anymore.

585
00:32:31,700 --> 00:32:33,743
Let Zied and Sarper,
his little boyfriend,

586
00:32:33,869 --> 00:32:35,077
go stand outside.

587
00:32:35,078 --> 00:32:36,579
I'm really kind of
sick and tired

588
00:32:36,580 --> 00:32:38,122
of both of them right now.

589
00:32:38,123 --> 00:32:40,000
Sometimes the trash
takes itself out.

590
00:32:45,046 --> 00:32:46,298
[Sarper]
Today, I felt something.

591
00:32:46,423 --> 00:32:49,009
I mean, we need a union,
like man union, you know?

592
00:32:50,594 --> 00:32:51,803
Oh, my God.

593
00:33:02,189 --> 00:33:03,273
[Patrick]
She was rough on you.

594
00:33:17,329 --> 00:33:19,789
The way Sarper talks
about Shekinah, like,

595
00:33:19,915 --> 00:33:21,458
I don't know
why they're together.

596
00:33:21,583 --> 00:33:25,337
Eh, maybe he's joking.
I don't know.

597
00:33:25,462 --> 00:33:30,007
I kind of get, like,
60% of his jokes.

598
00:33:30,008 --> 00:33:32,135
I think a lot of his language
barrier or something,

599
00:33:32,260 --> 00:33:33,512
they don't all land.

600
00:33:33,637 --> 00:33:35,305
But one thing's for sure,

601
00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:37,807
I wouldn't wanna be
married to Shekinah.

602
00:33:39,226 --> 00:33:41,185
- Hello.
- Hi, guys.

603
00:33:41,186 --> 00:33:43,355
- Oh, pink, pinky.
- Pink, pink, pink.

604
00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:45,815
- [Thaís] We love that.
- [Rebecca speaking]

605
00:33:45,941 --> 00:33:47,149
[Jenny] Love the coat.

606
00:33:47,150 --> 00:33:48,526
Thank you.

607
00:33:48,527 --> 00:33:51,195
I think I want to sit in here
just, like, I can see you guys.

608
00:33:51,196 --> 00:33:52,530
[Rebecca]
Sit where I can see your face.

609
00:33:52,531 --> 00:33:53,531
Cheers.

610
00:33:53,532 --> 00:33:55,741
- Cheers, y'all.
- Cheers.

611
00:33:55,742 --> 00:33:57,327
- Put a little bit of like...
- To independent women.

612
00:33:57,452 --> 00:33:58,744
- Oh, hell, yeah!
- Right.

613
00:33:58,745 --> 00:34:00,412
[Jenny]
Yeah.

614
00:34:00,413 --> 00:34:01,830
- Hi.
- [all] Hi!

615
00:34:01,831 --> 00:34:03,374
Oh, my ladies.
Thank you, Jesus.

616
00:34:03,375 --> 00:34:06,418
Look at you just wafting in.
So beautiful.

617
00:34:06,419 --> 00:34:07,671
[Kara]
Yeah, thank you.

618
00:34:07,796 --> 00:34:11,507
I'm glad you guys feel that way,
because I feel like a mess.

619
00:34:11,508 --> 00:34:13,176
[Rebecca]
No, you look gorgeous.

620
00:34:14,678 --> 00:34:16,595
Can I can I ask you,
I was gonna say,

621
00:34:16,596 --> 00:34:18,097
because obviously I know
a little bit about

622
00:34:18,098 --> 00:34:20,225
you all's relationship, um,

623
00:34:20,350 --> 00:34:23,936
but not like what I really wanna
know, which is, like,

624
00:34:23,937 --> 00:34:26,523
can you elaborate more
on the position that

625
00:34:26,648 --> 00:34:28,650
you refer to as the dead cow?

626
00:34:30,193 --> 00:34:31,777
I've never heard of
that position.

627
00:34:31,778 --> 00:34:33,612
- I wanna know how to execute.
- [Paola] I don't know.

628
00:34:33,613 --> 00:34:35,447
Just imagine a dead cow just
laying down on the bed,

629
00:34:35,448 --> 00:34:36,366
like that.
- [Kara] OK, but--

630
00:34:36,491 --> 00:34:37,867
And the guy, like
a taurus, like...

631
00:34:37,993 --> 00:34:39,911
Wait, but I imagine a dead cow
would be on their side.

632
00:34:40,036 --> 00:34:41,620
- Yeah, but it's not--
- [all laugh]

633
00:34:41,621 --> 00:34:43,205
- I'm trying to be--
- Wait, he's over there?

634
00:34:43,206 --> 00:34:44,708
That's actually
a good position.

635
00:34:44,833 --> 00:34:46,250
I know, that's why I'm like,
wait, what?

636
00:34:46,251 --> 00:34:48,586
So it's like when the guy
chose do all the job,

637
00:34:48,587 --> 00:34:50,045
but it's like,
I just feel like--

638
00:34:50,046 --> 00:34:52,298
We have an English version
called a starfish.

639
00:34:52,299 --> 00:34:53,883
- [Paola] The starfish?
- Yeah, yeah.

640
00:34:54,009 --> 00:34:55,552
Yeah, you just all the--

641
00:34:57,053 --> 00:34:58,387
all the limbs out.

642
00:34:58,388 --> 00:35:02,892
A lot of these women feel
adventurous in bed,

643
00:35:03,018 --> 00:35:04,936
but they're all still young.

644
00:35:05,061 --> 00:35:09,982
To me, there's nothing wrong
with the dead cow because

645
00:35:09,983 --> 00:35:14,446
that seems kind of nice.
I don't have to do any work.

646
00:35:17,032 --> 00:35:18,741
- Like, I'm a sexual person.
- [Kara] Me too.

647
00:35:18,742 --> 00:35:20,326
- And I'm very sensual too.
- Me too.

648
00:35:20,327 --> 00:35:23,245
But if I don't have that,
like, reciprocate, like,

649
00:35:23,246 --> 00:35:26,332
you know, I feel like, why am I
even trying to be all of this,

650
00:35:26,333 --> 00:35:29,835
when I'm gonna get the same way?
- [Thaís] He doesn't do
anything to you.

651
00:35:29,836 --> 00:35:32,421
- Yeah.
- So it's like,
it's no motivation.

652
00:35:32,422 --> 00:35:33,922
I wonder what the guys
are talking about.

653
00:35:33,923 --> 00:35:35,257
They're bitching about us.

654
00:35:35,258 --> 00:35:37,343
- "This [bleep]."
- Better not.

655
00:35:37,344 --> 00:35:38,637
- [laughing]
- [conversation overlaps]

656
00:35:38,762 --> 00:35:40,430
[Thaís] We don't even
need them, do we?

657
00:35:40,555 --> 00:35:41,931
Need is a strong word.

658
00:35:42,057 --> 00:35:44,059
- Need is a strong word.
- Need is a strong word.

659
00:35:57,405 --> 00:35:58,697
- [Zied] Ew, what's up?
- [Guillermo] Hello.

660
00:35:58,698 --> 00:36:00,116
[Sarper] Just like this.
Hola, brother.

661
00:36:00,241 --> 00:36:01,617
- How you doing?
- [Patrick] What's going on?

662
00:36:01,618 --> 00:36:03,286
- Join the party.
- Oh, man, yeah, thank you.

663
00:36:03,411 --> 00:36:04,663
This is a union, guys.

664
00:36:07,415 --> 00:36:10,000
[Sarper]
Yes, we have to be together.

665
00:36:10,001 --> 00:36:12,295
I mean, we are in the middle
of a freaking castle

666
00:36:12,420 --> 00:36:13,630
in United Kingdom.

667
00:36:15,799 --> 00:36:17,676
Freedom!

668
00:36:17,801 --> 00:36:20,678
"Braveheart," I mean, I just
will paint my face to the blue,

669
00:36:20,679 --> 00:36:21,763
and we will run.

670
00:36:25,308 --> 00:36:27,059
I mean, we're just
all begging for mercy.

671
00:36:27,060 --> 00:36:28,061
Yeah.

672
00:36:29,688 --> 00:36:34,692
I'm happy that we're all
connecting and having fun,

673
00:36:34,693 --> 00:36:37,027
but I kind of wish
Shekinah was here.

674
00:36:37,028 --> 00:36:38,154
[Paola] Oh, my God.
Shekinah.

675
00:36:38,279 --> 00:36:39,322
[Kara] Oh, my God,
where is Shekinah?

676
00:36:39,447 --> 00:36:41,324
Where is she?
I asked, I think
that she's sleepy.

677
00:36:41,449 --> 00:36:44,828
[Jenny]
I felt so bad for her today.
She just looks so upset.

678
00:36:44,953 --> 00:36:47,705
I can't imagine what it's like
to be married to Sarper.

679
00:36:47,706 --> 00:36:49,039
[Jenny] Yeah.

680
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:51,375
[Thaís speaking]

681
00:36:51,376 --> 00:36:53,878
you can literally tell,
like, he is...

682
00:36:54,003 --> 00:36:55,338
he controls everything.

683
00:36:56,464 --> 00:36:57,507
He wants to.

684
00:36:59,926 --> 00:37:01,009
You know?

685
00:37:01,010 --> 00:37:02,594
Like, Sarper is who he is.

686
00:37:02,595 --> 00:37:03,680
- Yeah.
- Right?

687
00:37:03,805 --> 00:37:05,931
I'm just like...

688
00:37:05,932 --> 00:37:08,059
Well, did you not see
this coming?

689
00:37:08,184 --> 00:37:09,728
She said, "He's mean to me."

690
00:37:11,187 --> 00:37:13,356
I think that's something that
she really wants to address

691
00:37:13,481 --> 00:37:14,858
very strongly.
- Yeah.

692
00:37:14,983 --> 00:37:16,568
He just rubs me the wrong way.

693
00:37:20,780 --> 00:37:22,406
We are so easy to be happy, bro.

694
00:37:22,407 --> 00:37:25,201
I know, but the thing is,
they want us to be complex.

695
00:37:25,326 --> 00:37:27,202
We can't.
I can't.

696
00:37:27,203 --> 00:37:29,080
- [Patrick] I know.
[Sarper speaking]

697
00:37:29,205 --> 00:37:31,207
I just had this conversation
while we ride.

698
00:37:44,596 --> 00:37:46,889
- You and Rebecca?
- Yeah, bro.

699
00:37:46,890 --> 00:37:49,058
Brother, I just want to say
something to you about,

700
00:37:49,184 --> 00:37:52,811
I mean, I am so sorry for today.

701
00:37:52,812 --> 00:37:54,897
I mean, I couldn't stop myself.

702
00:37:54,898 --> 00:37:56,732
I'm so sorry for that.
I just want to say that.

703
00:37:56,733 --> 00:37:58,610
I appreciate you, bro.
I appreciate that.

704
00:37:58,735 --> 00:38:00,904
And I'm sorry for
what she told you.

705
00:38:01,029 --> 00:38:02,280
Like, "Shut up,"
I don't like it,

706
00:38:02,405 --> 00:38:03,615
to be honest with you.

707
00:38:24,928 --> 00:38:26,596
[Patrick] Oh, damn.

708
00:38:30,016 --> 00:38:31,975
Why are you in
this relationship, then?

709
00:38:31,976 --> 00:38:34,311
I mean, I see you unhappy.

710
00:38:34,312 --> 00:38:36,147
I'm not happy
in my relationship,

711
00:38:36,272 --> 00:38:38,107
but I love her.

712
00:38:38,233 --> 00:38:40,318
I hope you decide
the best thing for yourself.

713
00:38:40,443 --> 00:38:42,820
Exactly.
Yeah, but we'll see, bro.

714
00:38:42,821 --> 00:38:46,449
- We'll see what's going on.
- Make it or break it, bro.

715
00:38:47,784 --> 00:38:48,827
[laughing]

716
00:38:48,952 --> 00:38:50,327
[Patrick]
Oh, my goodness.

717
00:38:50,328 --> 00:38:52,121
[conversation overlaps]

718
00:38:52,247 --> 00:38:53,832
[Paola] Oh, hello.
I'm sorry to ruin the fun.

719
00:38:53,957 --> 00:38:55,166
[Kara]
Hello, hello.

720
00:38:55,291 --> 00:38:56,835
[Thaís]
What are you guys doing?

721
00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:58,503
Hi.
How's it going?

722
00:38:58,628 --> 00:38:59,963
[Kara]
How are you doing, guys?

723
00:39:01,881 --> 00:39:03,173
- [Kara] Oh, yeah?
- [Thaís speaking]

724
00:39:03,174 --> 00:39:04,299
Sounds so serious.

725
00:39:04,300 --> 00:39:05,634
- No, we're talking about work.
- [Thaís] So serious.

726
00:39:05,635 --> 00:39:07,846
- I know, God.
- [Paola] Talking about sports.

727
00:39:07,971 --> 00:39:09,681
- It wasn't convincing, Zied.
- Nope.

728
00:39:09,806 --> 00:39:10,848
[Guillermo speaking]

729
00:39:10,849 --> 00:39:12,725
Guys, I wanna excuse myself.

730
00:39:15,270 --> 00:39:17,522
Zied, don't forget
what we talked.

731
00:39:17,647 --> 00:39:19,231
- See you, buddy.
- Bye.

732
00:39:19,232 --> 00:39:21,401
[Kara] Besties.
You guys are like besties.

733
00:39:29,617 --> 00:39:30,660
Nothing.

734
00:39:31,661 --> 00:39:34,163
- That's OK.
- [Kara] Glad you and Sarper
really have, like, bonded.

735
00:39:34,289 --> 00:39:35,664
- Yeah.
- [Zied speaking]

736
00:39:35,665 --> 00:39:37,166
And it doesn't matter how
he talks to people.

737
00:39:38,418 --> 00:39:39,669
Like your wife.

738
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:43,214
Oh, he apologized to you?

739
00:39:43,339 --> 00:39:45,300
That says a lot.
He was talking to me.

740
00:39:48,011 --> 00:39:50,179
- Oh, shh.
- [group] Oh.

741
00:39:50,305 --> 00:39:51,763
- [Thaís] Really?
- [Rebecca] On that note.

742
00:39:51,764 --> 00:39:53,433
- [Kara] Oh, my god, Queen.
- [Sumit] On that note.

743
00:39:54,434 --> 00:39:56,019
[tense music plays]

744
00:39:56,144 --> 00:39:57,437
Going to bed, y'all.

745
00:39:59,689 --> 00:40:00,857
[Thaís speaking]

746
00:40:03,568 --> 00:40:04,694
[Kara]
But not right now?

747
00:40:09,198 --> 00:40:10,450
[Rebecca speaking]

748
00:40:14,203 --> 00:40:17,916
I want you to both give
each other a compliment.

749
00:40:18,041 --> 00:40:22,210
I believe, Kara, that you are
very beautiful in the inside.

750
00:40:22,211 --> 00:40:24,212
Do you feel proud when
you look at her and think,

751
00:40:24,213 --> 00:40:25,714
that's the mother of my child?

752
00:40:25,715 --> 00:40:28,468
[tense music intensifies]

753
00:40:37,852 --> 00:40:39,854
[eerie, classical music plays]

754
00:40:47,278 --> 00:40:48,780
- [group] Bye.
- Good night.

755
00:40:53,785 --> 00:40:55,786
[chanting music plays]

756
00:40:55,787 --> 00:40:57,664
[Paola & Russ speaking]

757
00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:21,813
[Kara speaking]

758
00:41:24,565 --> 00:41:25,984
[Guillermo]
All right.

759
00:41:35,994 --> 00:41:38,537
It makes me sad that he feels
like he can't, like,

760
00:41:38,538 --> 00:41:39,831
share a bed with me.

761
00:41:39,956 --> 00:41:42,499
I mean, I feel like we were
making a lot of progress.

762
00:41:42,500 --> 00:41:44,835
We did a whole day of therapy,
and we were able to talk about

763
00:41:44,836 --> 00:41:47,546
some hard stuff, and he slept
in the bed yesterday.

764
00:41:47,547 --> 00:41:51,008
And so him moving to the couch
kind of does feel

765
00:41:51,009 --> 00:41:53,218
like a step back in a way,

766
00:41:53,219 --> 00:41:55,429
but I mean, I guess the fact
that he's willing to even sleep

767
00:41:55,430 --> 00:41:57,055
in the same room with me,

768
00:41:57,056 --> 00:42:00,017
even though it's on the couch,
is better than nothing.

769
00:42:00,018 --> 00:42:03,103
I just wish that he would be
like a little more relaxed

770
00:42:03,104 --> 00:42:05,106
and not so rigid.

771
00:42:09,777 --> 00:42:11,696
[chanting music continues]

772
00:42:11,821 --> 00:42:13,364
[Zied speaking]

773
00:42:18,703 --> 00:42:19,912
I mean, like...

774
00:42:20,038 --> 00:42:22,789
You literally did that to me
at the party earlier.

775
00:42:22,790 --> 00:42:24,249
And did you text me?
Did you call me?

776
00:42:24,250 --> 00:42:25,251
Did you come back up and go,

777
00:42:25,376 --> 00:42:26,711
"Hey, there's a party
going on downstairs,

778
00:42:26,836 --> 00:42:28,546
do you want to come with me?"
- No-- no.

779
00:42:28,671 --> 00:42:30,214
So maybe don't walk out here

780
00:42:30,339 --> 00:42:32,090
and ask me why
I left you there.

781
00:42:32,091 --> 00:42:33,425
You went down by yourself.

782
00:42:33,426 --> 00:42:34,719
You can come back up
by yourself.

783
00:42:34,844 --> 00:42:36,554
[tense music plays]

784
00:42:36,679 --> 00:42:38,097
Right.
You're right.

785
00:42:41,559 --> 00:42:43,477
[Rebecca]
This is what happens when
you buddy up with somebody

786
00:42:43,478 --> 00:42:45,938
that your wife obviously
has an issue with.

787
00:42:47,523 --> 00:42:49,733
Why you make it issues?
You don't have any issues.

788
00:42:49,734 --> 00:42:51,777
Because of the way
he talked to me earlier.

789
00:42:51,778 --> 00:42:54,654
Now I'm supposed to just shut up
and not say anything else

790
00:42:54,655 --> 00:42:56,240
to him because
he apologized to you?

791
00:42:56,365 --> 00:42:57,450
That's bull[bleep].

792
00:42:58,701 --> 00:43:00,786
What you want me to do, Rebecca?

793
00:43:00,787 --> 00:43:03,830
Someone, he say something
to my wife, he come to me,

794
00:43:03,831 --> 00:43:06,792
apologize, I say,
"No, don't apologize to me."

795
00:43:06,793 --> 00:43:08,418
"Wait when she come here
and apol-- "

796
00:43:08,419 --> 00:43:10,670
- What you talking about?
- Or, or maybe,

797
00:43:10,671 --> 00:43:12,798
"OK, hey, I appreciate that,
thank you."

798
00:43:12,799 --> 00:43:13,800
[Zied]
OK, that's what I said.

799
00:43:13,925 --> 00:43:14,966
- That's it.
- Not done talking.

800
00:43:14,967 --> 00:43:16,426
- No, that's what I said.
- Not done talking.

801
00:43:16,427 --> 00:43:18,261
You're not hearing me
and you're not letting me talk.

802
00:43:18,262 --> 00:43:19,806
- Yeah, I'm-- yeah.
- Which is completely normal.

803
00:43:19,931 --> 00:43:21,431
It's just me, I'm talking.

804
00:43:21,432 --> 00:43:22,767
[bleep], bro.

805
00:43:24,268 --> 00:43:25,436
[sighs]

806
00:43:39,534 --> 00:43:41,368
- Should we wait for Jenny?
- [Shekinah] Yeah.

807
00:43:41,369 --> 00:43:42,787
[Paola]
OK.

808
00:43:42,912 --> 00:43:45,832
We just find out that we have
a fancy banquet tonight.

809
00:43:45,957 --> 00:43:48,126
So we have to dress to impress,

810
00:43:48,251 --> 00:43:50,795
which is obviously my specialty.

811
00:44:02,890 --> 00:44:04,142
[Paola]
Oh, it's so nice outside!

812
00:44:04,267 --> 00:44:06,184
[Shekinah] This place is
so magical, isn't it?

813
00:44:06,185 --> 00:44:07,727
[Paola]
Yeah.

814
00:44:07,728 --> 00:44:09,896
- [both] Jenny!
- Hi, girl.

815
00:44:09,897 --> 00:44:11,524
[Shekinah]
Hi.

816
00:44:11,649 --> 00:44:14,192
- You look adorable.
- You do.

817
00:44:14,193 --> 00:44:15,361
I love your outfit.

818
00:44:15,486 --> 00:44:16,529
- I love yours too.
- Little two-piece.

819
00:44:16,654 --> 00:44:18,531
Matches? I think that
our colors are matching.

820
00:44:18,656 --> 00:44:20,658
And you're beautiful as usual.

821
00:44:23,828 --> 00:44:25,872
I haven't gone out often
with Russ, so I just kind of

822
00:44:25,997 --> 00:44:28,833
like, want to give a great
impression tonight.

823
00:44:31,836 --> 00:44:34,171
Jenny and I invited Shekinah
because she didn't come out

824
00:44:34,172 --> 00:44:37,008
last night and she already got
into multiple fights

825
00:44:37,133 --> 00:44:38,718
with womens in here.

826
00:44:38,843 --> 00:44:41,720
I just really want to find out
if she's having a really

827
00:44:41,721 --> 00:44:44,055
hard time in here or...

828
00:44:44,056 --> 00:44:45,683
she's being a brat.

829
00:44:45,808 --> 00:44:48,561
[Shekinah] Riding backwards
is such a trip.

830
00:44:48,686 --> 00:44:49,770
- [laughs]
- Right?

831
00:44:55,067 --> 00:44:56,526
Well, this is gonna
be fun today.

832
00:44:56,527 --> 00:44:58,695
Are you excited for tonight...
what did you say?

833
00:44:58,696 --> 00:45:00,197
- I can't say that word.
- Banquet.

834
00:45:00,198 --> 00:45:01,532
[Paola] Banquet.

835
00:45:02,700 --> 00:45:03,783
- Buffet?
- [laughing]

836
00:45:03,784 --> 00:45:04,784
I was like, "Wait, that's a..."

837
00:45:04,785 --> 00:45:06,369
Have you been to a banquet
before, Jenny?

838
00:45:06,370 --> 00:45:07,788
[Jenny]
Oh, in India.

839
00:45:16,589 --> 00:45:19,716
- Jackpot.
- Gosh, this is interesting.

840
00:45:19,717 --> 00:45:21,052
[Thaís speaking]

841
00:45:21,177 --> 00:45:22,719
[Patrick] All right, well,
we each get a ball.

842
00:45:22,720 --> 00:45:25,514
And then, basically, we got to
try to get it through that.

843
00:45:26,724 --> 00:45:28,391
[Thaís] But that ball is bigger
than that thing.

844
00:45:28,392 --> 00:45:29,727
- No, it's not.
- Isn't it?

845
00:45:31,354 --> 00:45:33,730
[Thaís] Oh, OK.
OK.

846
00:45:33,731 --> 00:45:35,440
[Thaís speaking]

847
00:45:35,441 --> 00:45:38,027
It's kind of like the English
version of mini golf.

848
00:45:39,195 --> 00:45:40,112
- Oh.
- Yeah.

849
00:45:40,238 --> 00:45:41,905
You got a mallet,
you get the ball,

850
00:45:41,906 --> 00:45:43,574
but the ball doesn't go
in the hole.

851
00:45:44,742 --> 00:45:47,078
So, to be honest with you,
it's not that fun.

852
00:45:49,580 --> 00:45:50,748
- Huh?
- 'Cause there's no holes.

853
00:45:53,584 --> 00:45:54,751
I like your [bleep].

854
00:45:54,752 --> 00:45:56,712
[chuckles] Stop.

855
00:45:59,173 --> 00:46:00,383
Aye...

856
00:46:02,134 --> 00:46:03,594
- [mocks]
- Damn it.

857
00:46:03,719 --> 00:46:05,596
[Thaís laughs]
You're horrible.

858
00:46:05,721 --> 00:46:08,432
- OK, now my turn.
- Now swing that booty.

859
00:46:09,725 --> 00:46:11,143
- Oh!
- Whoa!

860
00:46:11,269 --> 00:46:12,728
[sighs]
Yeah.

861
00:46:14,438 --> 00:46:15,605
Ah!

862
00:46:15,606 --> 00:46:18,192
[laughs] You missed it?
How did you miss it?

863
00:46:19,652 --> 00:46:20,986
[Patrick] I think
you're about to tie it up.

864
00:46:20,987 --> 00:46:22,320
[Thaís] Ah!
[laughs]

865
00:46:22,321 --> 00:46:23,614
You barely got...

866
00:46:23,739 --> 00:46:26,617
[Patrick] This is a lot more
confusing than mini golf.

867
00:46:26,742 --> 00:46:27,618
[Patrick grunts]

868
00:46:27,743 --> 00:46:29,661
- Oh, no!
- [Thaís laughs]

869
00:46:29,662 --> 00:46:30,621
[bleep].

870
00:46:30,746 --> 00:46:33,457
You're horrible.
[chuckles]

871
00:46:33,582 --> 00:46:34,750
I won!

872
00:46:36,335 --> 00:46:37,377
I mean, how could you have won?

873
00:46:37,378 --> 00:46:38,629
We don't even know
if we're playing it right.

874
00:46:38,754 --> 00:46:40,506
No, I did win.

875
00:46:40,631 --> 00:46:42,758
I was actually ahead,
and I was just being nice.

876
00:46:43,759 --> 00:46:45,303
Oh, always an excuse.

877
00:46:46,679 --> 00:46:47,679
[Patrick]
Isn't this fun?

878
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:49,681
Like, having one-on-one time.

879
00:46:49,682 --> 00:46:51,642
I love this.
I love having time with you

880
00:46:51,767 --> 00:46:53,644
we just, like, being distant

881
00:46:53,769 --> 00:46:55,688
and we don't have that much
time together.

882
00:46:56,814 --> 00:46:59,025
We got married, have a child--
had the child.

883
00:46:59,150 --> 00:47:02,485
You have really taken this,
you know,

884
00:47:02,486 --> 00:47:05,697
prioritize yourself
thing really far.

885
00:47:05,698 --> 00:47:07,240
And I don't think you realize

886
00:47:07,241 --> 00:47:08,533
how much it's affected me.
- What do you want?

887
00:47:08,534 --> 00:47:10,035
You want me not to do anything?

888
00:47:10,036 --> 00:47:13,163
No, I just want you to realize
like there's a balance to it.

889
00:47:13,164 --> 00:47:14,706
[Thaís] Yes.
OK.

890
00:47:14,707 --> 00:47:16,000
I know.

891
00:47:16,125 --> 00:47:17,335
You used to be the one

892
00:47:17,460 --> 00:47:19,837
that don't like to talk
about things, right?

893
00:47:19,962 --> 00:47:22,506
Yeah, but that's, I mean,
we're here to talk.

894
00:47:24,300 --> 00:47:25,717
Like, I don't wanna
ignore everything

895
00:47:25,718 --> 00:47:27,970
and then, go back home
and everything's the same.

896
00:47:29,013 --> 00:47:30,181
Yeah, me neither.

897
00:47:46,364 --> 00:47:48,574
- [Paola] Ooh, look at that.
- [Shekinah] Thank you.

898
00:47:48,699 --> 00:47:50,034
[Paola]
This is getting much better.

899
00:47:50,159 --> 00:47:53,370
- This looks amazing.
- Thank you so much.

900
00:47:53,371 --> 00:47:56,540
[Shekinah] I get massages, like,
every single week at home.

901
00:47:56,665 --> 00:47:58,708
- [Paola] Oh, really?
- Full-body, two-hour massages.

902
00:47:58,709 --> 00:48:00,544
- [Shekinah] Yes.
- I need to feel the friction.

903
00:48:00,669 --> 00:48:02,087
[Jenny]
Oh, I don't like that.

904
00:48:02,088 --> 00:48:03,463
- Oh, I love it.
- You don't like it, Jenny?

905
00:48:03,464 --> 00:48:04,547
It hurts.

906
00:48:04,548 --> 00:48:06,466
When was the last time you had
your makeup done

907
00:48:06,467 --> 00:48:08,052
or you got glammed up, Jenny?

908
00:48:08,177 --> 00:48:10,220
[Jenny]
I can't even remember.

909
00:48:10,221 --> 00:48:13,973
I'm just staying in my room.
His parents are there.

910
00:48:13,974 --> 00:48:16,102
I'm hiding out.

911
00:48:16,227 --> 00:48:18,604
[Paola] That's a lot, because
it happened to me with Russ

912
00:48:18,729 --> 00:48:20,606
at the beginning,
when I moved to US.

913
00:48:20,731 --> 00:48:22,899
I went to live with his parents
at the beginning and I'm like,

914
00:48:22,900 --> 00:48:24,067
"You got to get me out of here."

915
00:48:24,068 --> 00:48:25,403
[Shekinah]
Yeah.

916
00:48:25,528 --> 00:48:28,739
So, I missed out on last night
because I was so tired.

917
00:48:28,864 --> 00:48:29,907
- I just--
- [Jenny] Yeah.

918
00:48:30,032 --> 00:48:31,409
I didn't know you guys
were separated.

919
00:48:31,534 --> 00:48:33,119
I thought it was
everyone together.

920
00:48:33,244 --> 00:48:34,620
You don't know
what happened with the guys,

921
00:48:34,745 --> 00:48:35,912
'cause you weren't even
with them?

922
00:48:35,913 --> 00:48:37,248
- [Jenny] Right.
- No, but my husband kind of,

923
00:48:37,373 --> 00:48:39,250
like, filled me in a little bit.
- [Shekinah] What did he say?

924
00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:44,588
- [Jenny laughs]
- [Shekinah]
That makes me worried.

925
00:48:47,675 --> 00:48:48,968
Oh, my God,
get over yourselves.

926
00:48:49,093 --> 00:48:50,677
They're giant babies.

927
00:48:50,678 --> 00:48:53,138
Did you guys get to talk
after the therapy?

928
00:48:53,139 --> 00:48:54,514
We haven't said a word
to each other.

929
00:48:54,515 --> 00:48:55,808
That's crazy.

930
00:48:57,685 --> 00:49:00,645
I do really like that Sarper is
a little more of

931
00:49:00,646 --> 00:49:04,691
a strong type than Sumit
and Russ, for example.

932
00:49:04,692 --> 00:49:06,693
Like, I just feel like
they come across

933
00:49:06,694 --> 00:49:08,361
as very weak men.

934
00:49:08,362 --> 00:49:11,323
And, like, I would've
already left Russ

935
00:49:11,449 --> 00:49:12,825
if I was in Paola's situation.

936
00:49:12,950 --> 00:49:14,325
She has so much to offer,

937
00:49:14,326 --> 00:49:17,203
and I feel like
he's just, like, weight,

938
00:49:17,204 --> 00:49:18,456
pulling her down and keeping her

939
00:49:18,581 --> 00:49:20,332
from reaching
her true potential.

940
00:49:22,126 --> 00:49:25,712
Yeah, I feel like I do want Russ
to have a little bit, like,

941
00:49:25,713 --> 00:49:27,213
alpha male on him.
- Yeah.

942
00:49:27,214 --> 00:49:29,716
But not in a controlled way
because I'm an alpha female.

943
00:49:29,717 --> 00:49:32,845
But I do want him just to be
a little bit more strong

944
00:49:32,970 --> 00:49:35,388
in a way, like I can actually
be more feminine

945
00:49:35,389 --> 00:49:38,517
because I feel like I'm more
like a man sometimes.

946
00:49:39,727 --> 00:49:40,977
And I just don't like that.

947
00:49:40,978 --> 00:49:42,688
[Shekinah] Because you're just
being put in that position.

948
00:49:42,813 --> 00:49:44,063
I want some changes

949
00:49:44,064 --> 00:49:45,649
because I'm tired of that.
- [Shekinah] Yeah.

950
00:49:46,984 --> 00:49:48,818
I'm doing this just to give it
one more try,

951
00:49:48,819 --> 00:49:51,696
but I feel like I feel like I--

952
00:49:51,697 --> 00:49:53,324
I don't know.
I feel like I'm just--

953
00:49:53,449 --> 00:49:54,742
I'm done trying.

954
00:49:59,705 --> 00:50:00,831
[Shekinah] Oh, no!

955
00:50:03,250 --> 00:50:04,752
[Paola speaking]

956
00:50:36,033 --> 00:50:38,743
Welcome to your royal banquet.

957
00:50:38,744 --> 00:50:39,786
[Patrick]
All right.

958
00:50:39,787 --> 00:50:40,871
- [Thaís] Love that!
- [Zied] Thank you.

959
00:50:40,996 --> 00:50:44,415
[Persia] A crucial element
to these high-society events

960
00:50:44,416 --> 00:50:46,709
is etiquette.

961
00:50:46,710 --> 00:50:48,711
Want watch where we're putting
that fork, Sumit?

962
00:50:48,712 --> 00:50:49,713
[Sumit] Sorry?

963
00:50:53,050 --> 00:50:56,261
There are a few people who are
eating with their bare hands.

964
00:50:56,262 --> 00:50:59,473
Some are even eating with
their mouths open.

965
00:51:01,225 --> 00:51:03,352
I can see that there is
a lot of work to do.

966
00:51:08,190 --> 00:51:10,192
[eerie, classical music plays]

967
00:51:14,113 --> 00:51:15,113
He told to my son, like,

968
00:51:15,114 --> 00:51:16,781
"Oh, Mommy's
breaking up the family."

969
00:51:16,782 --> 00:51:18,200
- Like, he tell-- yeah.
- [Shekinah] Oh, no.

970
00:51:20,119 --> 00:51:21,828
He'll suffer from
the dysfunction

971
00:51:21,829 --> 00:51:23,121
that you guys had.

972
00:51:23,122 --> 00:51:24,872
You will think Russ is
the sweetest guy,

973
00:51:24,873 --> 00:51:27,125
but you will never think that
he actually, like,

974
00:51:27,126 --> 00:51:29,127
"Oh, it's not gonna be easy."

975
00:51:29,128 --> 00:51:30,336
- [Shekinah] I'm sure.
- Like, yeah.

976
00:51:30,337 --> 00:51:32,172
- And, like, he does that.
- It's the quiet, sweet ones

977
00:51:32,298 --> 00:51:34,174
that are the most scary when
they don't get what they want.

978
00:51:34,300 --> 00:51:35,717
- [Paola speaking]
- Yeah.

979
00:51:35,718 --> 00:51:38,470
[Shekinah] I went through
a really scary experience

980
00:51:38,596 --> 00:51:40,848
when I was leaving
my daughter's dad.

981
00:51:40,973 --> 00:51:42,474
He also said something similar,

982
00:51:42,600 --> 00:51:44,517
that he was gonna--
it was gonna be hell for me.

983
00:51:44,518 --> 00:51:48,646
And he tried to take
full custody of my daughter,

984
00:51:48,647 --> 00:51:51,191
and I didn't have money
to get my own attorney.

985
00:51:51,317 --> 00:51:52,985
I was representing myself.

986
00:51:53,110 --> 00:51:55,528
I don't know anything
about the legal system.

987
00:51:55,529 --> 00:51:58,991
And when I got to court,
he was like, "Just kidding."

988
00:51:59,116 --> 00:52:00,701
- I'm not gonna try to take...
- Oh, really?

989
00:52:00,826 --> 00:52:01,994
...our daughter from you.

990
00:52:02,119 --> 00:52:03,370
He was just trying to scare me.

991
00:52:03,495 --> 00:52:06,999
I've been divorced for, like,
20-something years now.

992
00:52:07,124 --> 00:52:09,376
- Was it an easy breakup?
- Yeah.

993
00:52:09,501 --> 00:52:11,003
He wanted-- he left.

994
00:52:11,128 --> 00:52:15,841
My daughters were still young,
so I took them to court,

995
00:52:15,966 --> 00:52:20,012
made sure I-- made sure
he paid child support,

996
00:52:20,137 --> 00:52:21,555
spousal support,

997
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:23,890
and I got everything
I asked for.

998
00:52:23,891 --> 00:52:25,016
[Shekinah]
Good for you.

999
00:52:25,017 --> 00:52:26,685
See, I never did any of that.
I didn't know...

1000
00:52:27,853 --> 00:52:29,562
how to do anything.

1001
00:52:29,563 --> 00:52:32,816
[Paola speaking]

1002
00:52:51,085 --> 00:52:52,960
- [Shekinah] It's gorgeous.
- Wow, yeah.

1003
00:52:52,961 --> 00:52:54,629
[Paola] Look at those eyes
how are popping.

1004
00:52:54,630 --> 00:52:56,214
[Shekinah] Do you think Sumit is
gonna love it?

1005
00:52:56,215 --> 00:52:58,050
- Yeah, of course.
- Will he notice?

1006
00:52:58,175 --> 00:53:00,093
- Does he notice
things like this?
- Yeah.

1007
00:53:00,094 --> 00:53:03,222
Yeah, he'll notice,
especially the eyelashes.

1008
00:53:04,390 --> 00:53:07,101
- OK, you're welcome.
- Yeah, nice job.

1009
00:53:15,109 --> 00:53:16,109
- [Rebecca] Hello.
- [Dr. Tyrone] Hey there.

1010
00:53:16,110 --> 00:53:17,485
- How are you guys?
- Good.

1011
00:53:17,486 --> 00:53:18,653
- How are you?
- Good.

1012
00:53:18,654 --> 00:53:20,239
Good to see you.
Feel free to take a seat.

1013
00:53:20,364 --> 00:53:22,573
[Zied]
Thank you.

1014
00:53:22,574 --> 00:53:24,117
How's the start
to your day so far?
Not too bad?

1015
00:53:24,118 --> 00:53:25,243
- Yeah.
- Yeah?

1016
00:53:25,244 --> 00:53:27,120
- Better than yesterday.
- Yeah?

1017
00:53:27,121 --> 00:53:28,914
[Rebecca]
Things are still frosty
between Zied and I

1018
00:53:29,039 --> 00:53:30,748
after our fight last night.

1019
00:53:30,749 --> 00:53:33,418
But we do have our one-on-one
therapy today.

1020
00:53:33,419 --> 00:53:35,295
And I'm just really hoping
this session

1021
00:53:35,421 --> 00:53:38,339
can give us both
some insights.

1022
00:53:38,340 --> 00:53:40,758
So how did you feel about
the group session yesterday?

1023
00:53:40,759 --> 00:53:41,969
Um...

1024
00:53:49,435 --> 00:53:50,685
That setting is good for that.

1025
00:53:50,686 --> 00:53:53,604
You know, you get to kind of
know that you're not alone.

1026
00:53:53,605 --> 00:53:57,943
For me, yesterday was draining
and I was uncomfortable

1027
00:53:58,068 --> 00:54:03,490
with the fact that he got
so buddy-buddy with Sarper

1028
00:54:03,615 --> 00:54:06,452
after Sarper became very
disrespectful to me.

1029
00:54:07,619 --> 00:54:10,204
As soon as we got back
upstairs to our room,

1030
00:54:10,205 --> 00:54:12,124
it turned into a huge argument.

1031
00:54:12,249 --> 00:54:14,668
Then I felt like there was zero
support from him.

1032
00:54:26,513 --> 00:54:27,681
[Dr. Tyrone]
Mm-hmm.

1033
00:54:27,806 --> 00:54:29,099
[Rebecca] I said it twice.

1034
00:54:35,063 --> 00:54:37,190
- OK, I'm gonna pause.
- Shouldn't it be more important

1035
00:54:37,191 --> 00:54:39,359
that he was disrespectful to me,
than whether or not

1036
00:54:39,485 --> 00:54:40,819
I told him something?

1037
00:54:40,944 --> 00:54:44,031
Why couldn't you just be
on my side?

1038
00:54:44,156 --> 00:54:46,158
[Zied] In this moment, yesterday.

1039
00:54:46,283 --> 00:54:47,742
When he start talking,

1040
00:54:47,743 --> 00:54:51,579
I'm not think he talk about--
to her specifically, but

1041
00:54:51,580 --> 00:54:54,499
I thought he be in men's side,

1042
00:54:54,500 --> 00:54:56,001
and she not like it.

1043
00:54:56,126 --> 00:54:57,543
She told him, "Shut up."

1044
00:54:57,544 --> 00:54:59,046
- When he talk about...
- [Rebecca] No.

1045
00:54:59,171 --> 00:55:01,672
...men's side, about,
like, me and him.

1046
00:55:01,673 --> 00:55:03,175
- We men and like--
- [Rebecca] No.

1047
00:55:03,300 --> 00:55:04,884
- [Dr. Tyrone] Mm-hmm.
- Can I finish talk?

1048
00:55:04,885 --> 00:55:06,552
[tense music plays]

1049
00:55:06,553 --> 00:55:08,346
Don't stop me.
Let me finish say what--

1050
00:55:08,347 --> 00:55:09,556
[Rebecca]
Don't be rude.

1051
00:55:09,681 --> 00:55:11,849
You see, like, to con--
you wanna control me.

1052
00:55:11,850 --> 00:55:13,185
No, you're just repeating
the same thing

1053
00:55:13,310 --> 00:55:14,519
over and over again.

1054
00:55:14,520 --> 00:55:15,896
The point is

1055
00:55:16,021 --> 00:55:18,357
I thought it was disrespectful.

1056
00:55:18,482 --> 00:55:21,108
And you hurt my feelings
worse than he did.

1057
00:55:21,109 --> 00:55:23,695
When we got back to the room,
you hurt my feelings.

1058
00:55:23,821 --> 00:55:26,364
Even if I'm wrong about
those feelings,

1059
00:55:26,365 --> 00:55:28,407
you still hurt my feelings.
- [Zied] OK, OK.

1060
00:55:28,408 --> 00:55:30,368
And you're still arguing
that you didn't say

1061
00:55:30,369 --> 00:55:31,954
or do anything wrong.

1062
00:55:39,211 --> 00:55:42,296
I honestly can't even
look at him.

1063
00:55:42,297 --> 00:55:44,383
- Why?
- There's so much distance.

1064
00:55:44,508 --> 00:55:46,467
I feel stupid dressed up.

1065
00:55:46,468 --> 00:55:48,219
I feel like
I don't belong here.

1066
00:55:48,220 --> 00:55:49,388
Aw.

1067
00:55:57,437 --> 00:55:58,647
♪ Ooh-ooh ♪

1068
00:55:58,772 --> 00:56:00,524
[tense, classical music plays]

1069
00:56:02,943 --> 00:56:04,361
♪ Ooh-ooh ♪

1070
00:56:05,946 --> 00:56:07,114
You hurt my feelings.

1071
00:56:07,239 --> 00:56:09,283
Even if I'm wrong about
those feelings,

1072
00:56:09,408 --> 00:56:11,284
you still hurt my feelings,

1073
00:56:11,285 --> 00:56:13,328
and you're still arguing
that you didn't say

1074
00:56:13,453 --> 00:56:14,621
or do anything wrong.

1075
00:56:17,040 --> 00:56:18,292
So I'm going to pause
you right there,

1076
00:56:18,417 --> 00:56:19,960
because you feel like he doesn't
understand your experience

1077
00:56:20,085 --> 00:56:22,004
and he doesn't understand that
you were disrespected,

1078
00:56:22,129 --> 00:56:25,298
but we may need to help him get
there and understand exactly

1079
00:56:25,299 --> 00:56:26,800
what your perspective is.

1080
00:56:26,925 --> 00:56:29,677
We have to slow down in these
conversations or arguments

1081
00:56:29,678 --> 00:56:31,346
and break it up piece by piece.

1082
00:56:31,471 --> 00:56:32,681
Yes, sir.

1083
00:56:33,807 --> 00:56:35,182
[Dr. Tyrone]
There's an emotional disconnect

1084
00:56:35,183 --> 00:56:37,352
because I think
the language barrier is huge.

1085
00:56:37,477 --> 00:56:38,854
And it's not only
a language barrier,

1086
00:56:38,979 --> 00:56:40,479
it's a cultural barrier,
as well,

1087
00:56:40,480 --> 00:56:41,689
where it puts Zied in a place

1088
00:56:41,690 --> 00:56:43,984
where he constantly is trying
to explain himself

1089
00:56:44,109 --> 00:56:46,485
and it puts Rebecca
in a position where

1090
00:56:46,486 --> 00:56:48,822
she doesn't feel like
he ever understands anything

1091
00:56:48,947 --> 00:56:50,157
that she's saying.

1092
00:56:50,282 --> 00:56:51,658
And that's gonna be
a major challenge,

1093
00:56:51,783 --> 00:56:53,534
as they continue
to move through this.

1094
00:56:53,535 --> 00:56:55,162
So Rebecca was asking

1095
00:56:56,622 --> 00:56:58,664
for an apology
or acknowledgment

1096
00:56:58,665 --> 00:57:00,167
that her feelings were hurt.

1097
00:57:02,044 --> 00:57:04,922
I got you and I'm sorry
if I hurt your feelings.

1098
00:57:06,089 --> 00:57:07,090
Alright?

1099
00:57:08,759 --> 00:57:10,343
How do you feel
about the apology

1100
00:57:10,344 --> 00:57:11,553
that he's giving you?

1101
00:57:13,180 --> 00:57:14,556
- Thus far?
- I-- I appreciate it.

1102
00:57:17,392 --> 00:57:20,770
But you see how quickly
an argument just

1103
00:57:20,771 --> 00:57:23,565
almost happened just
because of the misunderstanding.

1104
00:57:23,690 --> 00:57:25,567
You guys are from
two completely different

1105
00:57:25,692 --> 00:57:26,860
ends of the world, right?

1106
00:57:26,985 --> 00:57:28,194
- Yeah.
- Exactly.

1107
00:57:28,195 --> 00:57:29,863
And certain things that
you may not see a problem with

1108
00:57:29,988 --> 00:57:32,239
or you think are just
how it should be,

1109
00:57:32,240 --> 00:57:34,533
might be difficult for her
to understand.

1110
00:57:34,534 --> 00:57:36,953
So both of you guys get
very frustrated

1111
00:57:36,954 --> 00:57:38,955
and you guys have your own
internal response

1112
00:57:38,956 --> 00:57:40,082
that is happening.

1113
00:57:40,207 --> 00:57:42,416
For you, you wanna
fix it right away

1114
00:57:42,417 --> 00:57:43,876
and you start
talking to him about it,

1115
00:57:43,877 --> 00:57:46,045
and if he doesn't give you
that validation,

1116
00:57:46,046 --> 00:57:47,880
it does spark something in you
where it just--

1117
00:57:47,881 --> 00:57:49,549
it puts you on that--
in a defensive space

1118
00:57:49,675 --> 00:57:51,760
and doesn't feel good.

1119
00:57:51,885 --> 00:57:54,262
And Rebecca, when you approach
a situation aggressively

1120
00:57:54,388 --> 00:57:57,431
or angrily, he's going
to shut down.

1121
00:57:57,432 --> 00:58:00,310
I could certainly learn to be
less aggressive with my tone.

1122
00:58:02,062 --> 00:58:03,647
[Zied speaking]

1123
00:58:18,495 --> 00:58:20,288
[Dr. Tyrone] Stop?
OK, OK.

1124
00:58:22,916 --> 00:58:24,834
[Rebecca] I've tried to be
patient with the fact

1125
00:58:24,835 --> 00:58:26,294
that he's not great
with English,

1126
00:58:26,420 --> 00:58:28,714
but I'm sure that
I've screwed that up at times.

1127
00:58:30,048 --> 00:58:34,094
So I think that if you guys can
maybe pause an argument

1128
00:58:34,219 --> 00:58:37,305
before it stops, it's OK for you
to go to another room.

1129
00:58:37,431 --> 00:58:39,598
You can sit outside
on the front porch.

1130
00:58:39,599 --> 00:58:43,519
You can get your emotions
more clear, so it's easier

1131
00:58:43,520 --> 00:58:44,937
for you to express,

1132
00:58:44,938 --> 00:58:47,523
and it's gonna be easier
for her to listen

1133
00:58:47,524 --> 00:58:49,692
and allow you that space
because she understands

1134
00:58:49,693 --> 00:58:52,154
what you're trying to do
in that moment.

1135
00:58:52,279 --> 00:58:53,988
[Rebecca]
Dr. Grandison's right.

1136
00:58:53,989 --> 00:58:56,657
My initial instinct whenever
Zied and I are fighting

1137
00:58:56,658 --> 00:59:00,620
is to push for a response,
right away.

1138
00:59:00,746 --> 00:59:03,999
But Zied responds to things
way more differently than I do.

1139
00:59:05,542 --> 00:59:07,544
And honestly,
I tend to feel like I'm...

1140
00:59:08,545 --> 00:59:12,882
I feel like I'm right more often
than I probably really am right.

1141
00:59:12,883 --> 00:59:16,135
And so I need to be
a little bit more patient,

1142
00:59:16,136 --> 00:59:18,055
instead of assuming
that he doesn't care.

1143
00:59:19,806 --> 00:59:22,308
I'll set up a--
what do they call it,

1144
00:59:22,309 --> 00:59:24,310
one of those actions on my phone

1145
00:59:24,311 --> 00:59:26,562
that automatically sets
a 15 minute timer.

1146
00:59:26,563 --> 00:59:28,148
- Timer? Oh.
- [Zied] You see?

1147
00:59:30,025 --> 00:59:31,485
[Dr. Tyrone]
Rebecca and Zied's relationship,

1148
00:59:31,610 --> 00:59:33,527
they're gonna need
a lot of work.

1149
00:59:33,528 --> 00:59:36,030
Both of them definitely have
some fiery personalities,

1150
00:59:36,031 --> 00:59:38,866
but the love,
the care is still present,

1151
00:59:38,867 --> 00:59:41,828
and hopefully they can
give each other a chance

1152
00:59:41,953 --> 00:59:43,997
to actually explain
and express what they need to.

1153
00:59:45,165 --> 00:59:47,375
I like the conversation
with you, by the way.

1154
00:59:47,501 --> 00:59:48,584
[Dr. Tyrone] Oh, yeah?
Good.

1155
00:59:48,585 --> 00:59:50,586
We're a work in progress,
and this is step one.

1156
00:59:50,587 --> 00:59:52,089
This is definitely step one.

1157
01:00:06,269 --> 01:00:07,604
I'm back!

1158
01:00:09,189 --> 01:00:11,565
Wow, baby.
You're looking pretty.

1159
01:00:11,566 --> 01:00:12,691
It's OK.

1160
01:00:12,692 --> 01:00:15,695
It's just different
from how I do my makeup.

1161
01:00:19,699 --> 01:00:21,742
True.
Good point.

1162
01:00:21,743 --> 01:00:23,245
Yeah, but really,
I'm telling you,

1163
01:00:23,370 --> 01:00:25,538
you're looking very pretty.

1164
01:00:25,539 --> 01:00:26,790
Thank you!

1165
01:00:29,376 --> 01:00:32,045
- [Sumit laughs]
- Oh, you don't recognize me.

1166
01:00:34,589 --> 01:00:37,592
[eerie, classical music plays]

1167
01:00:40,387 --> 01:00:41,555
[Guillermo]
Kara, we're gonna be late.

1168
01:00:42,806 --> 01:00:44,057
[Kara]
I'm almost-- I'm done.

1169
01:00:44,182 --> 01:00:45,558
- Huh?
- I'm done.

1170
01:00:45,559 --> 01:00:46,893
Ooh!

1171
01:00:47,018 --> 01:00:49,395
[Guillermo]
Oh, let me see.

1172
01:00:49,396 --> 01:00:50,897
- Yeah.
- Girl...

1173
01:00:51,022 --> 01:00:52,816
- Uh-uh-ooh.
- [Guillermo] No way.

1174
01:00:54,359 --> 01:00:56,111
- It's giving...
- What's it giving?

1175
01:00:56,236 --> 01:00:57,945
- It's giving... wine.
- Tudor.

1176
01:00:57,946 --> 01:00:59,780
It's giving wine.

1177
01:00:59,781 --> 01:01:01,116
Burgundy.

1178
01:01:01,241 --> 01:01:02,491
It's giving red wine.

1179
01:01:02,492 --> 01:01:03,743
Grape juice.

1180
01:01:05,162 --> 01:01:06,579
It's giving castle?

1181
01:01:06,580 --> 01:01:08,164
It's giving castle-ish.

1182
01:01:08,165 --> 01:01:09,791
Like I feel like I could blend
into the floor.

1183
01:01:09,916 --> 01:01:11,084
[Guillermo] Huh?

1184
01:01:18,049 --> 01:01:20,427
[Paola speaking]

1185
01:01:33,190 --> 01:01:35,608
Actually, it's really cold here,
but I don't even know

1186
01:01:35,609 --> 01:01:37,152
why am I sweating so much?

1187
01:01:37,277 --> 01:01:39,112
I'm very anxious for tonight.

1188
01:01:39,237 --> 01:01:41,447
Personally, I'm hoping
for some good food.

1189
01:01:41,448 --> 01:01:42,698
[Paola] But for me,

1190
01:01:42,699 --> 01:01:45,160
I'm not like the person
who can experience new stuff.

1191
01:01:45,285 --> 01:01:47,161
With food, mnh-mnh, no.

1192
01:01:47,162 --> 01:01:48,704
So I won't be eating,

1193
01:01:48,705 --> 01:01:51,750
unless they have rice and beans
and pineapple pizza.

1194
01:01:53,335 --> 01:01:55,420
I'm pretty sure the British
would take offense to that.

1195
01:01:57,589 --> 01:01:59,840
I haven't seen you wearing
a turtleneck in a while.

1196
01:01:59,841 --> 01:02:01,717
[Paola speaking]

1197
01:02:01,718 --> 01:02:02,843
[Russ]
You look great, too.

1198
01:02:02,844 --> 01:02:04,095
- Thank you.
- Shiny.

1199
01:02:06,473 --> 01:02:08,016
[Paola] OK, let's go.
Let's do this.

1200
01:02:10,560 --> 01:02:13,605
[eerie, classical music plays]

1201
01:02:16,608 --> 01:02:18,151
- Oh, it's here.
- All right.

1202
01:02:18,276 --> 01:02:19,611
Time to have some fun.

1203
01:02:21,613 --> 01:02:24,824
Oh, wow.
Look at this.

1204
01:02:24,950 --> 01:02:27,035
- [Thaís] Hello, wow!
- [Patrick] Champagne.

1205
01:02:31,539 --> 01:02:32,499
[Thaís] Wow.

1206
01:02:32,624 --> 01:02:36,503
So we're gonna be
queens tonight?

1207
01:02:36,628 --> 01:02:38,879
[Patrick] I'm excited,
because there might be

1208
01:02:38,880 --> 01:02:41,508
pig with, like,
an apple in the mouth

1209
01:02:41,633 --> 01:02:43,551
and just, like, turkey legs.

1210
01:02:44,552 --> 01:02:46,178
They might have a jester, too,

1211
01:02:46,179 --> 01:02:47,973
someone that just tells jokes.

1212
01:02:52,894 --> 01:02:54,520
- Oh, Sumit and Jenny.
- Hi, guys!

1213
01:02:54,521 --> 01:02:55,896
- [Thaís] Hi!
- [indistinct]

1214
01:02:55,897 --> 01:02:57,190
- Wow!
- What's going on?

1215
01:02:57,315 --> 01:02:58,858
Oh, my God.
You guys look so good.

1216
01:03:00,026 --> 01:03:01,527
Yeah.

1217
01:03:01,528 --> 01:03:03,779
[Thaís]
Oh, I wanna try.

1218
01:03:03,780 --> 01:03:05,364
- Aw, that's so...
- Oh, my God.

1219
01:03:05,365 --> 01:03:07,075
- Uh-oh.
- Yeah, yeah, I get it.

1220
01:03:07,200 --> 01:03:09,369
- There you go.
- You have to put it on right.

1221
01:03:10,537 --> 01:03:11,579
Hi!

1222
01:03:11,705 --> 01:03:13,707
[Jenny] Look at her sneaking
in the door.

1223
01:03:13,832 --> 01:03:15,207
[Shekinah]
Oh, you look like a queen!

1224
01:03:15,208 --> 01:03:16,542
- You look gorgeous.
- Hi!

1225
01:03:16,543 --> 01:03:18,420
- Thank you, so do you.
- Beautiful.

1226
01:03:18,545 --> 01:03:19,421
- [Sarper] Hello, guys.
- Hi!

1227
01:03:19,546 --> 01:03:20,422
[Sarper] Nice.

1228
01:03:20,547 --> 01:03:21,630
- Looking good.
- You look great.

1229
01:03:21,631 --> 01:03:22,965
- Looking good, let's--
- [Shekinah] Hi, guys.

1230
01:03:22,966 --> 01:03:24,133
- [Patrick] Hey, oh.
- [Thaís] Hi!

1231
01:03:24,134 --> 01:03:25,385
Don't knock me over.

1232
01:03:49,117 --> 01:03:52,328
Ooh, wow!
This is beautiful.

1233
01:03:52,329 --> 01:03:54,539
Oh, girl, my goodness.

1234
01:03:55,874 --> 01:03:57,292
[Kara]
Sounds like a party!

1235
01:03:57,417 --> 01:03:59,501
- [everyone] Hi!
- You guys look so pretty!

1236
01:03:59,502 --> 01:04:01,296
And you're all wearing crowns!

1237
01:04:01,421 --> 01:04:02,297
I know, right?

1238
01:04:02,422 --> 01:04:04,424
[Thaís] There is a tiara
for you in there.

1239
01:04:05,425 --> 01:04:07,427
I feel like this one's supposed
to be like that, no?

1240
01:04:09,262 --> 01:04:11,431
- Hi, everyone!
- [group] Hello.

1241
01:04:13,433 --> 01:04:16,685
Welcome to your royal banquet.

1242
01:04:16,686 --> 01:04:18,187
- [Patrick] All right.
- [Zied] Thank you.

1243
01:04:18,188 --> 01:04:21,941
A crucial element to these
high society events

1244
01:04:22,067 --> 01:04:23,317
is etiquette.

1245
01:04:23,318 --> 01:04:26,446
Etiquette is particularly
important in British culture,

1246
01:04:26,571 --> 01:04:29,490
but really, it's important
in all relationships,

1247
01:04:29,491 --> 01:04:31,284
how we listen to each other,

1248
01:04:31,409 --> 01:04:33,327
how we communicate
with each other.

1249
01:04:33,328 --> 01:04:35,329
It's a mark of respect.

1250
01:04:35,330 --> 01:04:38,123
And it is a sad truth,
unfortunately,

1251
01:04:38,124 --> 01:04:41,502
that we are often rudest
to the people that we love

1252
01:04:41,503 --> 01:04:42,712
and care about the most.

1253
01:04:44,381 --> 01:04:47,841
What I've noticed so far about
the way these couples interact

1254
01:04:47,842 --> 01:04:51,470
is that there is a really
notable lack of respect

1255
01:04:51,471 --> 01:04:53,222
for the most parts.

1256
01:04:53,223 --> 01:04:54,849
They talk over each other.

1257
01:04:54,974 --> 01:04:57,226
Some of the partners are,
quite frankly,

1258
01:04:57,227 --> 01:04:59,478
yelling and screaming
at their partner,

1259
01:04:59,479 --> 01:05:02,315
and they're doing this
in front of other people.

1260
01:05:02,440 --> 01:05:04,900
So, what I'm really looking for
this evening is

1261
01:05:04,901 --> 01:05:08,028
that the couples exhibit
respect for each other.

1262
01:05:08,029 --> 01:05:09,905
They pay attention
to etiquette,

1263
01:05:09,906 --> 01:05:13,075
not just for their partner,
but for everyone in the group,

1264
01:05:13,076 --> 01:05:16,578
because the key to a happy
and thriving relationship is

1265
01:05:16,579 --> 01:05:20,834
to understand how your partner
desires to be treated.

1266
01:05:22,585 --> 01:05:25,379
So, the first instruction
you were given was

1267
01:05:25,380 --> 01:05:28,590
to dress your best
in proper formal attire.

1268
01:05:28,591 --> 01:05:31,344
So, Russ,
how do you think Pao looks?

1269
01:05:31,469 --> 01:05:33,595
Stunning.
She looks great.

1270
01:05:33,596 --> 01:05:35,014
- Thank you.
- Shiny.

1271
01:05:35,140 --> 01:05:36,932
- She's beautiful.
- [Persia] Thank you.

1272
01:05:36,933 --> 01:05:38,017
[Paola] Thank you.

1273
01:05:38,143 --> 01:05:39,686
And how do you think
your man looks?

1274
01:05:39,811 --> 01:05:41,229
I chose his outfit.

1275
01:05:43,231 --> 01:05:45,023
[Persia] What are we thinking of
the shoes, everyone?

1276
01:05:45,024 --> 01:05:47,025
- [Thaís] Oh, amazing.
- [Shekinah] They're amazing.

1277
01:05:47,026 --> 01:05:50,238
But can you notice that Pao is
looking at you very differently

1278
01:05:50,363 --> 01:05:52,197
from how she was looking
at you yesterday?

1279
01:05:52,198 --> 01:05:53,700
Look how much she's smiling!

1280
01:05:55,243 --> 01:05:56,535
Look how much she's smiling!

1281
01:05:56,536 --> 01:05:58,078
- Look how easy a fix that is.
- Now, I'm blushing.

1282
01:05:58,079 --> 01:05:59,747
Yes, you're red.

1283
01:05:59,873 --> 01:06:01,623
How does that feel
for you, Russ?

1284
01:06:01,624 --> 01:06:04,544
It's good, and it is good
to see her looking at me

1285
01:06:04,669 --> 01:06:07,754
and admiring the way
I'm looking.

1286
01:06:07,755 --> 01:06:08,923
You are handsome.

1287
01:06:10,175 --> 01:06:11,717
I'm not much of
a turtleneck guy,

1288
01:06:11,718 --> 01:06:13,427
but I'm digging it.

1289
01:06:13,428 --> 01:06:17,389
There is something hot and sexy
on a guy wearing a turtleneck,

1290
01:06:17,390 --> 01:06:19,266
and Russ is actually
looking very hot.

1291
01:06:19,267 --> 01:06:20,809
And like, he's kind of
turned me on.

1292
01:06:20,810 --> 01:06:22,562
- He looks so hot.
- Grr.

1293
01:06:25,190 --> 01:06:28,610
OK, so what we can really
establish from this is just

1294
01:06:28,735 --> 01:06:32,070
by putting in that little bit
more effort into our appearance,

1295
01:06:32,071 --> 01:06:36,576
into dressing up, how much that
makes your partner feel seen,

1296
01:06:36,701 --> 01:06:38,785
feel respected,
feel that connection.

1297
01:06:38,786 --> 01:06:42,498
Most importantly,
feel that desire for you.

1298
01:06:42,499 --> 01:06:44,000
- 100%.
- OK, go on.

1299
01:06:45,084 --> 01:06:48,962
He has a very unique style
and he's very

1300
01:06:48,963 --> 01:06:50,631
opinionated about it.
- That's me?

1301
01:06:50,632 --> 01:06:52,133
- Yes.
- Thank you.

1302
01:06:52,258 --> 01:06:55,677
But I'm grateful that
he looks amazing tonight.

1303
01:06:55,678 --> 01:06:58,056
Sarper, how do you think
Shekinah looks this evening?

1304
01:07:02,101 --> 01:07:03,853
[Persia]
And how about Sarper?

1305
01:07:04,979 --> 01:07:06,231
He looks great.

1306
01:07:13,321 --> 01:07:14,447
Our first date.

1307
01:07:16,533 --> 01:07:19,993
How did it make you feel
when you saw him this evening?

1308
01:07:19,994 --> 01:07:21,453
[Shekinah]
I'm gonna cry.

1309
01:07:21,454 --> 01:07:22,871
It makes me feel sad.

1310
01:07:22,872 --> 01:07:24,832
I honestly can't even
look at him.

1311
01:07:26,292 --> 01:07:28,210
- [Persia] Why?
- Because yesterday was so hard

1312
01:07:28,211 --> 01:07:30,755
and he hasn't spoken to me
since then and I just feel like

1313
01:07:32,006 --> 01:07:33,299
there's so much distance.

1314
01:07:34,467 --> 01:07:36,636
I feel stupid dressed up
right now.

1315
01:07:36,761 --> 01:07:38,303
I feel like I don't belong here.

1316
01:07:38,304 --> 01:07:39,430
Ow...

1317
01:07:41,432 --> 01:07:42,683
[Patrick]
Why is Shekinah crying?

1318
01:07:42,684 --> 01:07:45,812
- Already, it's way--
- Is this just for attention?

1319
01:07:45,937 --> 01:07:48,313
I just feel like everything
Shekinah does is pretty cold

1320
01:07:48,314 --> 01:07:49,607
and calculated, so...

1321
01:07:55,154 --> 01:07:59,741
[tense music plays]

1322
01:07:59,742 --> 01:08:01,369
What you said
in the other room,

1323
01:08:01,494 --> 01:08:02,787
that was harsh.

1324
01:08:03,913 --> 01:08:05,123
How'd you get there?

1325
01:08:11,504 --> 01:08:13,047
- Like what?
- You said,

1326
01:08:13,172 --> 01:08:15,675
"I will never be naked
in those pictures."

1327
01:08:15,800 --> 01:08:17,176
- [gasping]
- [Patrick] Oh...

1328
01:08:22,765 --> 01:08:25,810
[tense, classical music plays]

1329
01:08:31,316 --> 01:08:32,733
[Shekinah]
Yesterday was so hard.

1330
01:08:32,734 --> 01:08:34,736
I feel stupid dressed up
right now.

1331
01:08:34,861 --> 01:08:36,737
I feel like I don't
belong here.

1332
01:08:36,738 --> 01:08:37,905
Aw.

1333
01:08:39,282 --> 01:08:42,243
What do you feel would help
close that distance between you?

1334
01:08:45,413 --> 01:08:47,081
I don't know, to be honest.

1335
01:08:50,335 --> 01:08:52,753
Whenever we have a big fight,
Sarper gets defensive,

1336
01:08:52,754 --> 01:08:55,089
and I have to be the one
to eventually coax him

1337
01:08:55,214 --> 01:08:56,506
out of the corner.

1338
01:08:56,507 --> 01:09:00,303
And I hate myself for doing it,
but I do it anyways.

1339
01:09:00,428 --> 01:09:02,764
I feel like he should be
the one coming to me

1340
01:09:02,889 --> 01:09:04,474
and apologizing,

1341
01:09:04,599 --> 01:09:08,144
but he actually refuses
to talk to me.

1342
01:09:09,729 --> 01:09:12,148
I would like to know, what is
the most meaningful

1343
01:09:12,273 --> 01:09:16,152
compliment that Sarper's ever
given you, Shekinah?

1344
01:09:17,904 --> 01:09:21,783
He told me that he saw
my inner child and he loved her.

1345
01:09:21,908 --> 01:09:23,159
And that meant a lot.

1346
01:09:23,284 --> 01:09:24,494
[Persia]
And when was that?

1347
01:09:24,619 --> 01:09:26,204
It was when we first met.

1348
01:09:45,473 --> 01:09:46,933
Why don't you do it right now?

1349
01:09:48,476 --> 01:09:51,144
Why don't you turn to her,
take each other's hands,

1350
01:09:51,145 --> 01:09:53,648
and tell her
how you feel about her?

1351
01:09:56,234 --> 01:09:58,319
And how do you feel
when you look at her now?

1352
01:10:03,658 --> 01:10:04,826
I love her.

1353
01:10:04,951 --> 01:10:05,827
- [Persia] Say it to her.
- I do.

1354
01:10:05,952 --> 01:10:06,953
I love you.

1355
01:10:19,006 --> 01:10:22,343
I really want you to both work
on just trying to stay with it,

1356
01:10:22,468 --> 01:10:26,096
and letting that connection
develop between you.

1357
01:10:26,097 --> 01:10:27,849
Can you work on that
this evening?

1358
01:10:27,974 --> 01:10:29,016
[Shekinah]
Mm-hmm.

1359
01:10:30,685 --> 01:10:33,855
There was a real tension
and energy between them.

1360
01:10:33,980 --> 01:10:37,358
I could feel she was still
very much holding back.

1361
01:10:37,483 --> 01:10:40,194
I noticed her looking down
at the floor a lot,

1362
01:10:40,319 --> 01:10:42,404
not wanting to catch
Sarper's eyes,

1363
01:10:42,405 --> 01:10:43,905
let alone anyone else's eyes.

1364
01:10:43,906 --> 01:10:46,576
I think she's got a lot going on
within her at the moment.

1365
01:10:46,701 --> 01:10:48,202
And I can see that there is

1366
01:10:48,327 --> 01:10:49,912
a lot of work to do
with this couple.

1367
01:10:51,080 --> 01:10:54,208
Jenny, how do you think Sumit
looks this evening?

1368
01:10:54,333 --> 01:10:56,710
I mean, he looks great.

1369
01:10:56,711 --> 01:10:58,546
I like to see him dress up.

1370
01:10:58,671 --> 01:11:01,424
And how do you think
your wife looks today, Sumit?

1371
01:11:04,927 --> 01:11:06,929
[Sumit & Jenny laugh]

1372
01:11:18,941 --> 01:11:21,943
Well, aren't you lucky to have
a wife who always looks good?

1373
01:11:21,944 --> 01:11:24,238
Yeah, I am.
That's true.

1374
01:11:25,740 --> 01:11:26,948
[Kara] That's hard.

1375
01:11:26,949 --> 01:11:29,243
I mean, it's hard to hear,
I think, as your wife.

1376
01:11:29,368 --> 01:11:31,661
But also, like, if that's
his truth, like,

1377
01:11:31,662 --> 01:11:33,789
you know, I--
- Mnh-mnh.

1378
01:11:33,790 --> 01:11:37,919
Personally, if I was him,
I would keep my mouth shut.

1379
01:11:38,044 --> 01:11:40,295
I mean, we are in therapy,

1380
01:11:40,296 --> 01:11:43,466
so you don't need to lie
in this situation.

1381
01:11:43,591 --> 01:11:45,426
It's not like you are ugly.

1382
01:11:46,594 --> 01:11:48,262
Who is him to say it?

1383
01:11:48,387 --> 01:11:50,348
With his fake, giant glasses?

1384
01:12:01,943 --> 01:12:03,527
Kara and Guillermo,

1385
01:12:03,528 --> 01:12:06,196
what is the most meaningful
compliment you've given

1386
01:12:06,197 --> 01:12:09,158
each other throughout the course
of your relationship?

1387
01:12:09,283 --> 01:12:12,202
OK, and here's a thing
that happens maybe more recently

1388
01:12:12,203 --> 01:12:14,538
is like he'll give me
a compliment, like today.

1389
01:12:14,539 --> 01:12:16,331
He said, "Yeah, I think
you're really smart,

1390
01:12:16,332 --> 01:12:17,750
But I don't think
you use it."

1391
01:12:18,960 --> 01:12:20,837
OK, so you start well.

1392
01:12:20,962 --> 01:12:22,338
It's like he wants to be nice,

1393
01:12:22,463 --> 01:12:24,130
but it's like too hard
for him to be nice.

1394
01:12:24,131 --> 01:12:26,008
So, then he has to end it
with like a dig.

1395
01:12:26,133 --> 01:12:28,135
And I'm like,
"Well, that didn't feel great."

1396
01:12:28,261 --> 01:12:32,515
So, what if you just right now
gave her a compliment

1397
01:12:32,640 --> 01:12:33,975
without the dig?

1398
01:12:35,810 --> 01:12:38,437
The person that
I fell in love with,

1399
01:12:39,772 --> 01:12:42,650
it have been the most beautiful
person I ever met in my life,

1400
01:12:43,901 --> 01:12:44,902
and that is you.

1401
01:12:47,113 --> 01:12:50,240
And what was it that
when you first met Guillermo

1402
01:12:50,241 --> 01:12:53,201
that made you fall for him?

1403
01:12:53,202 --> 01:12:54,328
I'm gonna cry.

1404
01:12:59,458 --> 01:13:03,211
I just felt like
I had really found, like,

1405
01:13:03,212 --> 01:13:04,505
a good person.

1406
01:13:06,799 --> 01:13:08,759
So why don't you look
at each other for a moment?

1407
01:13:10,469 --> 01:13:11,846
Take her hands.

1408
01:13:13,222 --> 01:13:16,850
And I want you to both give
each other a compliment,

1409
01:13:16,851 --> 01:13:19,437
something sincere, something
that you really do mean.

1410
01:13:25,192 --> 01:13:29,529
I believe, Kara, that
you're a very authentic person

1411
01:13:29,530 --> 01:13:33,951
and actually, friendly
and beautiful in the inside.

1412
01:13:37,872 --> 01:13:39,789
Do you feel proud
when you look at her and think,

1413
01:13:39,790 --> 01:13:41,875
"That's the mother of my child?"

1414
01:13:41,876 --> 01:13:43,377
Does it make you feel proud?

1415
01:13:49,592 --> 01:13:50,884
No.

1416
01:13:50,885 --> 01:13:52,887
[intense music plays]

1417
01:14:08,152 --> 01:14:11,280
[tense, classical music plays]

1418
01:14:12,281 --> 01:14:14,283
♪ Eh-eh-eh-ye ♪

1419
01:14:16,285 --> 01:14:19,872
♪ Na-na-na
Eh-eh-eh-ye ♪

1420
01:14:21,290 --> 01:14:22,958
♪ Uh-uh-uh-uh ♪

1421
01:14:22,959 --> 01:14:24,876
Do you feel proud when you look
at her and think,

1422
01:14:24,877 --> 01:14:27,295
"That's the mother of my child?"

1423
01:14:27,296 --> 01:14:28,296
No.

1424
01:14:28,297 --> 01:14:31,049
♪ Ooh-ooh-ooh ♪

1425
01:14:31,050 --> 01:14:33,802
♪ Mmm-mmm
Ooh-ooh ♪

1426
01:14:33,803 --> 01:14:35,220
[Persia] Why not?

1427
01:14:35,221 --> 01:14:36,554
I don't think that is
something that

1428
01:14:36,555 --> 01:14:39,225
I would like to talk
about right now.

1429
01:14:43,562 --> 01:14:45,855
OK, so this is something

1430
01:14:45,856 --> 01:14:49,485
we can dig into and explore,
at dinner.

1431
01:14:49,610 --> 01:14:52,822
Because this whole evening
really is about respect

1432
01:14:52,947 --> 01:14:55,658
and etiquette, and what these
two things can do

1433
01:14:55,783 --> 01:14:57,076
for our relationships.

1434
01:14:59,078 --> 01:15:01,205
[Kara]
It's just unbelievable to me.

1435
01:15:01,330 --> 01:15:02,832
It's one of the worst things,

1436
01:15:02,957 --> 01:15:04,834
I think, you can say
to a mother.

1437
01:15:04,959 --> 01:15:06,544
And I don't know
if he's doing it

1438
01:15:06,669 --> 01:15:07,877
because he really
believes that,

1439
01:15:07,878 --> 01:15:11,256
or if he's trying to
just hurt me because he's hurt.

1440
01:15:11,257 --> 01:15:13,091
I don't know, just--

1441
01:15:13,092 --> 01:15:15,177
I don't know what goes through
his mind sometimes.

1442
01:15:17,263 --> 01:15:19,557
So, we're gonna move
to the next section

1443
01:15:19,682 --> 01:15:23,018
of our evening together,
which is the dinner.

1444
01:15:23,019 --> 01:15:24,269
- [Paola] Yay.
- Yes!

1445
01:15:24,270 --> 01:15:25,854
- [Patrick] All right, let's eat.
- [Zied] So...

1446
01:15:25,855 --> 01:15:27,898
- [Paola] Starving.
- After you.

1447
01:15:29,525 --> 01:15:32,569
[eerie, classical music plays]

1448
01:15:32,570 --> 01:15:36,239
♪ La-la-la-la-la
La-la-la-la-la-la ♪

1449
01:15:36,240 --> 01:15:38,783
- [Patrick] Oh, wow.
- [Thaís] Oh, my God.

1450
01:15:38,784 --> 01:15:40,036
[Patrick]
Look at this.

1451
01:15:44,248 --> 01:15:46,042
[Kara] Wow.
Oh, my God, what?

1452
01:15:46,167 --> 01:15:47,876
- [Paola] Thank you.
- [Guillermo] You're welcome.

1453
01:15:47,877 --> 01:15:49,211
Thank you.

1454
01:15:51,255 --> 01:15:52,923
[Sarper]
I love that.

1455
01:15:53,049 --> 01:15:55,051
I feel like I've never seen
that in, like,

1456
01:15:55,176 --> 01:15:56,552
well, the movies.
- [Kara] Real life?

1457
01:15:58,512 --> 01:15:59,430
[Thaís]
Oh, wow.

1458
01:15:59,555 --> 01:16:02,265
We don't eat with that much
fork and spoons.

1459
01:16:02,266 --> 01:16:03,975
Personally, I don't like
using forks.

1460
01:16:03,976 --> 01:16:05,394
I just like to eat everything
with a spoon.

1461
01:16:07,063 --> 01:16:08,271
With my hands.

1462
01:16:08,272 --> 01:16:10,231
You're a caveman.

1463
01:16:10,232 --> 01:16:11,609
Then when you eat, too,

1464
01:16:11,734 --> 01:16:13,276
you're just slurping
all the time.

1465
01:16:13,277 --> 01:16:14,278
I slurp?

1466
01:16:24,080 --> 01:16:25,289
Nargh.

1467
01:16:27,041 --> 01:16:30,251
So, as you're eating,
I will keep an eye on you.

1468
01:16:30,252 --> 01:16:33,422
And if I notice
any egregious mishaps,

1469
01:16:33,547 --> 01:16:36,633
I will, gently, let you know.

1470
01:16:36,634 --> 01:16:38,176
Bon appetit.

1471
01:16:38,177 --> 01:16:39,637
- Thank you.
- Thank you.

1472
01:16:41,889 --> 01:16:46,268
[anticipating music plays]

1473
01:16:47,770 --> 01:16:49,271
[Thaís]
Oh, vegetables.

1474
01:16:51,649 --> 01:16:53,651
[Sarper speaking]

1475
01:16:55,236 --> 01:16:56,653
[whistles]

1476
01:16:56,654 --> 01:16:58,781
I actually took etiquette
classes when I was younger.

1477
01:16:59,782 --> 01:17:01,950
My mom sent me to, literally,

1478
01:17:01,951 --> 01:17:04,161
learn to walk
with books on my head.

1479
01:17:04,286 --> 01:17:05,454
You can tell it was the '80s,

1480
01:17:05,579 --> 01:17:08,040
but we'll definitely have
the best etiquette manners.

1481
01:17:11,836 --> 01:17:13,170
[Sarper]
To therapy, guys.

1482
01:17:13,295 --> 01:17:15,548
Sarper, be very careful
where you point that.

1483
01:17:18,300 --> 01:17:19,676
- [gasping]
- Whoo-hoo!

1484
01:17:19,677 --> 01:17:21,178
[everyone] Oh...

1485
01:17:21,303 --> 01:17:24,181
[Patrick] Bro, that's not
good etiquette.

1486
01:17:24,306 --> 01:17:25,307
[Kara]
Bad etiquette.

1487
01:17:27,309 --> 01:17:29,186
I wanna watch where we're
putting that fork, Sumit.

1488
01:17:29,311 --> 01:17:30,187
[Sumit]
Sorry?

1489
01:17:30,312 --> 01:17:32,230
Just watch where
we're putting that fork.

1490
01:17:32,231 --> 01:17:33,232
This one?

1491
01:17:34,233 --> 01:17:36,234
You raised it to her face.

1492
01:17:36,235 --> 01:17:38,946
- Nah, you're pointing at me.
- Oh, I'm sorry.

1493
01:17:43,951 --> 01:17:48,247
Can anyone tell me the correct
way to hold a wine glass?

1494
01:17:49,248 --> 01:17:52,250
Correct.
Excellent wine etiquette.

1495
01:17:52,251 --> 01:17:53,334
Cheers.

1496
01:17:53,335 --> 01:17:55,545
[Persia] So in terms of
the couple's manners,

1497
01:17:55,546 --> 01:17:58,047
we have a mixed bag.

1498
01:17:58,048 --> 01:18:01,260
There are a few people who are
eating with their bare hands.

1499
01:18:02,678 --> 01:18:04,972
Some are even eating
with their mouths open.

1500
01:18:07,266 --> 01:18:10,018
But at the same time,
given what happened earlier

1501
01:18:10,019 --> 01:18:11,687
with Sarper and Shekinah

1502
01:18:11,812 --> 01:18:14,356
and Kara and Guillermo,
it's clear to me

1503
01:18:14,481 --> 01:18:18,109
that the focus right now of
this banquet has to become

1504
01:18:18,110 --> 01:18:20,404
less about the formal
eating etiquette

1505
01:18:20,529 --> 01:18:25,909
and all about, can the couples
exhibit respect for each other?

1506
01:18:25,910 --> 01:18:28,536
Can they demonstrate care
and consideration

1507
01:18:28,537 --> 01:18:30,039
for their partners?

1508
01:18:30,164 --> 01:18:33,416
I just wanna remind everyone
that the theme of this evening

1509
01:18:33,417 --> 01:18:36,211
is respect and etiquette,

1510
01:18:36,212 --> 01:18:39,047
not just dining etiquette rules,

1511
01:18:39,048 --> 01:18:42,634
also, the way that we interact
with one another.

1512
01:18:42,635 --> 01:18:45,553
Is there anything that
your partner does that feels,

1513
01:18:45,554 --> 01:18:47,222
maybe it's a very subtle thing,

1514
01:18:47,223 --> 01:18:49,933
that makes you feel
very respected?

1515
01:18:49,934 --> 01:18:51,227
[Kara]
Just feeling seen.

1516
01:18:52,228 --> 01:18:54,229
What makes you feel
seen, Kara?

1517
01:18:54,230 --> 01:18:56,231
Just the work that I do,
everything that I've done

1518
01:18:56,232 --> 01:18:57,233
as a mom.

1519
01:19:00,236 --> 01:19:01,987
- So it's acknowledging.
- Yeah.

1520
01:19:12,248 --> 01:19:14,791
Um, like the stuff he just--

1521
01:19:14,792 --> 01:19:16,794
like what he just said
in the room over there.

1522
01:19:19,755 --> 01:19:20,923
It's hard for me.

1523
01:19:23,384 --> 01:19:25,426
He can look me square
in the eye,

1524
01:19:25,427 --> 01:19:28,012
as a mother,

1525
01:19:28,013 --> 01:19:30,473
and tell me that he's not proud

1526
01:19:30,474 --> 01:19:32,017
that I'm the mother
of his child.

1527
01:19:33,435 --> 01:19:34,519
Yeah.

1528
01:19:34,520 --> 01:19:36,772
That was not nice,
to be honest, to hear it.

1529
01:19:39,775 --> 01:19:42,152
I mean, what you said
in the other room,

1530
01:19:42,278 --> 01:19:44,280
like... that was harsh.

1531
01:19:45,489 --> 01:19:46,657
How'd you get there?

1532
01:19:47,783 --> 01:19:51,035
There are some decisions
that she take in life

1533
01:19:51,036 --> 01:19:53,622
that I definitely
feel embarrassed of.

1534
01:19:54,623 --> 01:19:56,792
Was that when you guys were
married and together?

1535
01:19:57,793 --> 01:19:59,877
Yeah.

1536
01:19:59,878 --> 01:20:01,130
Like what?

1537
01:20:03,382 --> 01:20:05,300
OK, let me elaborate my thing.

1538
01:20:05,301 --> 01:20:10,555
Um, you decided to start
selling pictures

1539
01:20:10,556 --> 01:20:11,848
and videos online.

1540
01:20:11,849 --> 01:20:13,349
[tense music plays]

1541
01:20:13,350 --> 01:20:15,893
Yeah, I mean, I thought...

1542
01:20:15,894 --> 01:20:18,313
a platform where I can sell
pictures of myself,

1543
01:20:18,314 --> 01:20:19,522
I can take pictures at home,

1544
01:20:19,523 --> 01:20:21,316
I can still take care
of my son at home.

1545
01:20:21,317 --> 01:20:23,027
- No, no, no, no, no...
- So I came to you and I said,

1546
01:20:23,152 --> 01:20:24,653
"Hey, this is something that
I'm interested in doing"

1547
01:20:24,778 --> 01:20:26,738
...OK, listen.
I want you to please listen,

1548
01:20:26,739 --> 01:20:29,657
and then after--
I'm gonna let you know,

1549
01:20:29,658 --> 01:20:31,701
and you can talk.

1550
01:20:31,702 --> 01:20:33,704
Is that OK?
Cool.

1551
01:20:33,829 --> 01:20:35,538
OK, can we just remember

1552
01:20:35,539 --> 01:20:38,542
that we're here to try
and practice being respectful

1553
01:20:38,667 --> 01:20:40,043
to our partners?

1554
01:20:40,044 --> 01:20:42,504
Just being aware of the language
that we're using,

1555
01:20:42,629 --> 01:20:44,173
and most importantly, the tone

1556
01:20:44,298 --> 01:20:46,424
that we're communicating
our words in.

1557
01:20:46,425 --> 01:20:47,634
[Guillermo speaking]

1558
01:20:48,635 --> 01:20:50,304
[Persia] What kind of pictures
are we talking about?

1559
01:20:55,059 --> 01:20:56,310
Implied nudity.

1560
01:20:57,311 --> 01:20:59,188
- [gasps]
- Oh...

1561
01:20:59,313 --> 01:21:00,897
Wait a minute,
wait a minute, wait a minute.

1562
01:21:00,898 --> 01:21:02,857
Hold on.

1563
01:21:02,858 --> 01:21:04,942
I remember two years ago,

1564
01:21:04,943 --> 01:21:07,196
in the first conversation
that she had with me,

1565
01:21:07,321 --> 01:21:09,198
she said very clear,

1566
01:21:09,323 --> 01:21:12,201
"Hey, I will be literally
posting the same pictures

1567
01:21:12,326 --> 01:21:14,203
"that I post on my social media,

1568
01:21:14,328 --> 01:21:16,205
in bikini, you know,
being sexy."

1569
01:21:16,330 --> 01:21:18,790
You said,
"I will never be naked."

1570
01:21:18,791 --> 01:21:21,668
And I was like, "Hey, listen.
I don't like this."

1571
01:21:23,712 --> 01:21:25,463
Yeah, I mean,
he had his reservations,

1572
01:21:25,464 --> 01:21:26,382
but I think ultimately,
we were like,

1573
01:21:26,507 --> 01:21:27,757
"OK, cool.
Yeah, that's fine."

1574
01:21:27,758 --> 01:21:29,384
So that's what I did.

1575
01:21:29,385 --> 01:21:31,803
So what happened,
from that place

1576
01:21:31,804 --> 01:21:34,264
of healthy communication
to where you are now?

1577
01:21:35,641 --> 01:21:38,267
So, now I have this platform.

1578
01:21:38,268 --> 01:21:39,561
Yeah.

1579
01:21:39,686 --> 01:21:43,272
And I'm like, "I really wanna
get back into music."

1580
01:21:43,273 --> 01:21:45,441
Music is something
I've done my entire life.

1581
01:21:45,442 --> 01:21:47,068
How can I do that?
It costs money.

1582
01:21:47,069 --> 01:21:48,736
I'm like, "OK, well,
I have this income source.

1583
01:21:48,737 --> 01:21:51,989
Let me use that
to pay for my music."

1584
01:21:51,990 --> 01:21:53,783
In the meantime,
him and I are fighting a lot.

1585
01:21:53,784 --> 01:21:55,576
He tells me
he doesn't like my music.

1586
01:21:55,577 --> 01:21:57,328
I feel completely unsupported.

1587
01:21:57,329 --> 01:22:00,290
And so, then we have a blow up,
and then, he moves out.

1588
01:22:01,917 --> 01:22:04,794
Now I'm thinking, uh oh,
single-momhood is expensive.

1589
01:22:04,795 --> 01:22:05,796
[Rebecca] Yep.

1590
01:22:07,464 --> 01:22:09,007
So guess what?
My tits came out.

1591
01:22:10,676 --> 01:22:12,594
- [Thaís] Wow.
- [Patrick] Goddamn.

1592
01:22:19,059 --> 01:22:20,601
[tense music plays]

1593
01:22:20,602 --> 01:22:23,147
[Patrick] Next time
on "90 Day: The Last Resort."

1594
01:22:23,272 --> 01:22:25,606
I pay for him to go
to get massages,

1595
01:22:25,607 --> 01:22:27,276
which I don't remember the last
time I paid you for one,

1596
01:22:27,401 --> 01:22:29,193
and you said, "Thank you."
- Why do you have to bring up

1597
01:22:29,194 --> 01:22:31,612
that you pay for it?
- Because I do.

1598
01:22:31,613 --> 01:22:35,159
I don't have the support.
I just have lash, lash, lash.

1599
01:22:35,284 --> 01:22:36,785
And it just tears me down.

1600
01:22:39,288 --> 01:22:42,499
Welcome to our first
sex therapy session.

1601
01:22:42,624 --> 01:22:45,169
Who was your first
celebrity crush

1602
01:22:45,294 --> 01:22:47,004
that you masturbated to?

1603
01:22:53,302 --> 01:22:54,678
This is when you were young?

1604
01:22:58,807 --> 01:23:00,516
I think Sumit's a little freak.

1605
01:23:00,517 --> 01:23:02,311
- My freak radar goes off
around him.
- Yeah.

1606
01:23:05,314 --> 01:23:06,315
[Thaís]
But this guy--

1607
01:23:16,992 --> 01:23:18,785
Are you curious
if he's a sex addict?

1608
01:23:23,332 --> 01:23:25,334
[tense music intensifies]

1609
01:23:31,924 --> 01:23:33,090
- That's my perspective.
- It's not, what--

1610
01:23:33,091 --> 01:23:34,843
What is an easy--
what is easy about--

1611
01:23:38,263 --> 01:23:39,848
[tense music ends]