1 00:00:02,169 --> 00:00:04,271 - ♪♪ MTV ♪♪ 2 00:00:07,007 --> 00:00:08,341 - ♪♪ Let's move ♪♪ 3 00:00:08,408 --> 00:00:10,411 - What's, like, the latest update with Ryan? 4 00:00:10,477 --> 00:00:12,045 - Bentley is actually getting to know-- 5 00:00:12,112 --> 00:00:13,680 - His dad? 6 00:00:13,747 --> 00:00:15,949 - --him, not someone who's intoxicated on something. 7 00:00:16,016 --> 00:00:18,252 - Yeah. 8 00:00:18,319 --> 00:00:19,319 - How long you been sober now? 9 00:00:19,386 --> 00:00:20,320 - Five months. 10 00:00:20,387 --> 00:00:21,322 I go to meetings. 11 00:00:21,389 --> 00:00:22,590 I got a sponsor. 12 00:00:22,656 --> 00:00:24,324 I do everything they tell me to do. 13 00:00:24,391 --> 00:00:25,926 - Amazing. 14 00:00:25,993 --> 00:00:27,228 - Oh, my gosh. 15 00:00:27,294 --> 00:00:28,629 Don't bring it up right now. 16 00:00:28,696 --> 00:00:30,798 - I'm not gonna be naive to you guys, um, 17 00:00:30,865 --> 00:00:33,433 having little crushes in school. 18 00:00:33,500 --> 00:00:35,469 Middle school is an awkward stage, you know? 19 00:00:35,535 --> 00:00:37,037 Your bodies are changing. 20 00:00:37,103 --> 00:00:39,406 You guys are three years away from the age 21 00:00:39,473 --> 00:00:42,009 I was when I had you guys. 22 00:00:42,076 --> 00:00:45,478 - IVF pregnancy rates are around 65% to 70%. 23 00:00:45,545 --> 00:00:46,980 We would leave the tubes alone. 24 00:00:47,047 --> 00:00:48,615 We wouldn't have to do any types of surgeries. 25 00:00:48,682 --> 00:00:49,950 - I think-- - IVF. 26 00:00:50,017 --> 00:00:51,051 - --IVF is the best option. - OK. 27 00:00:51,118 --> 00:00:52,352 - Yeah. 28 00:00:52,419 --> 00:00:54,621 - So now our only stress is my blood sugars. 29 00:00:54,688 --> 00:00:56,657 - We got to get that on point. 30 00:00:56,723 --> 00:00:58,759 - But she didn't say I couldn't start IVF. 31 00:00:58,826 --> 00:01:01,028 She said I would have to get it down 32 00:01:01,094 --> 00:01:03,697 before they impregnated me. 33 00:01:03,763 --> 00:01:05,399 - I just don't want my kids to look at me 34 00:01:05,465 --> 00:01:06,967 and be like, you kept me from my grandma. 35 00:01:07,033 --> 00:01:08,869 Nova's the oldest, so I don't want it to affect her. 36 00:01:08,935 --> 00:01:10,104 - Checking in with her, she's very wise. 37 00:01:10,171 --> 00:01:11,472 She's smart. 38 00:01:11,539 --> 00:01:12,773 - Tyler, you and I have been talking 39 00:01:12,840 --> 00:01:14,141 about your feelings of giving up 40 00:01:14,208 --> 00:01:16,310 your first child for adoption. 41 00:01:16,376 --> 00:01:17,978 - I'm really, really sorry. 42 00:01:18,045 --> 00:01:19,313 [crying] 43 00:01:19,380 --> 00:01:20,714 - Sorry for what? 44 00:01:20,781 --> 00:01:22,750 - We didn't get to parent her. 45 00:01:22,817 --> 00:01:25,919 - My mom went to a rehab center. 46 00:01:25,986 --> 00:01:28,955 You have to make a promise to me and the kids 47 00:01:29,022 --> 00:01:33,260 that you are gonna stay there for as long as you need. 48 00:01:33,326 --> 00:01:36,764 At the end of the day, for me, I still see her as the most 49 00:01:36,830 --> 00:01:38,498 important person in my life. 50 00:01:38,565 --> 00:01:39,967 - Oh, 'cause she is. 51 00:01:40,033 --> 00:01:41,902 But just because she is an important person 52 00:01:41,969 --> 00:01:44,171 don't mean she's a good person to me or, like, she did good. 53 00:01:44,237 --> 00:01:45,272 You know? - Yeah. 54 00:01:45,339 --> 00:01:48,241 [upbeat music] 55 00:01:48,308 --> 00:01:55,448 ♪♪ ♪♪ 56 00:01:59,419 --> 00:02:00,487 - Girls. 57 00:02:00,554 --> 00:02:02,823 I have some big and funny news. 58 00:02:02,889 --> 00:02:05,425 If anyone is available, hop on the Zoom, 59 00:02:05,492 --> 00:02:07,360 because I'm logging on right now. 60 00:02:07,427 --> 00:02:08,429 - Hi. - Hi. 61 00:02:08,496 --> 00:02:09,529 - Hey, guys. 62 00:02:09,596 --> 00:02:10,831 - Hi, guys. - Hey. 63 00:02:10,898 --> 00:02:11,665 - How are y'all? 64 00:02:11,732 --> 00:02:13,400 - Thanks for jumping on. 65 00:02:13,467 --> 00:02:15,402 Oh, guys, Leah just texted me. 66 00:02:15,468 --> 00:02:16,870 She's trying to join. 67 00:02:16,937 --> 00:02:19,206 She's just having some technical difficulty. 68 00:02:19,273 --> 00:02:21,042 - Mackenzie, How's Khes doing? 69 00:02:21,108 --> 00:02:22,642 - Khes is good. 70 00:02:22,709 --> 00:02:26,847 We just decided that we are going to be doing IVF. 71 00:02:26,914 --> 00:02:29,749 So Khesanio doesn't have any kids, 72 00:02:29,816 --> 00:02:32,419 and we didn't know if he had good sperm. 73 00:02:32,485 --> 00:02:35,789 So he had to go give a sperm sample. 74 00:02:35,856 --> 00:02:38,692 - We have the magazines right there to make this process 75 00:02:38,758 --> 00:02:39,894 as smooth as possible. 76 00:02:39,960 --> 00:02:41,595 - Oh. 77 00:02:41,662 --> 00:02:43,230 - How was it? 78 00:02:43,297 --> 00:02:45,332 - One of the hardest things I've ever done in my life. 79 00:02:45,399 --> 00:02:48,702 - The sperm concentration, yours came back at 41 million. 80 00:02:48,769 --> 00:02:52,572 An average or normal sample is above 15 million, 1-5. 81 00:02:52,639 --> 00:02:54,808 So you're more than above average. 82 00:02:54,875 --> 00:02:55,910 [laughs] 83 00:02:55,976 --> 00:02:57,311 - Wow. 84 00:02:57,377 --> 00:02:58,712 - He's got good sperm. 85 00:02:58,779 --> 00:03:00,513 - Swim, swim, swim. 86 00:03:00,580 --> 00:03:01,815 [laughter] 87 00:03:01,882 --> 00:03:03,850 - So, Maci, how are things with you? 88 00:03:03,917 --> 00:03:06,353 I see that Ryan has a new girlfriend. 89 00:03:06,420 --> 00:03:07,821 - What does Bentley think about her? 90 00:03:07,888 --> 00:03:09,657 - Her and Bentley get along really well. 91 00:03:09,723 --> 00:03:12,359 And even, like, when Ryan's at work 92 00:03:12,426 --> 00:03:14,394 and Bentley has a game or something, 93 00:03:14,461 --> 00:03:17,131 like, she will come to the game, like, by herself. 94 00:03:17,197 --> 00:03:18,165 - Wow. 95 00:03:18,232 --> 00:03:19,399 - I like that. 96 00:03:19,466 --> 00:03:20,835 - Don't say that. 97 00:03:20,901 --> 00:03:22,569 - Damn. - OK. 98 00:03:22,636 --> 00:03:24,138 We got it. - Damn. 99 00:03:24,205 --> 00:03:25,272 - We got it. 100 00:03:25,339 --> 00:03:26,573 Zach, come get him! 101 00:03:26,640 --> 00:03:27,574 He's cussing! 102 00:03:27,641 --> 00:03:28,842 [laughter] 103 00:03:28,909 --> 00:03:29,810 - Get him! 104 00:03:29,877 --> 00:03:31,778 - ♪♪ My people my crew ♪♪ 105 00:03:31,845 --> 00:03:34,247 ♪♪ My D1s and my boos ♪♪ 106 00:03:34,314 --> 00:03:36,083 ♪♪ We ride or die through day and night ♪♪ 107 00:03:36,149 --> 00:03:37,418 - And go! 108 00:03:37,484 --> 00:03:40,253 - Go! 109 00:03:40,320 --> 00:03:43,457 [laughter] 110 00:03:43,524 --> 00:03:46,993 - [giggles] 111 00:03:48,262 --> 00:03:49,229 - I drew a picture. 112 00:03:49,296 --> 00:03:50,230 - Oh, wow. 113 00:03:50,297 --> 00:03:51,399 Let me see. 114 00:03:51,465 --> 00:03:52,499 Is that us on a swing? - Yeah. 115 00:03:52,565 --> 00:03:54,201 - In a tree? - Yeah. 116 00:03:54,268 --> 00:03:55,269 - I totally see it. 117 00:03:55,336 --> 00:03:56,303 - [giggles] 118 00:03:56,370 --> 00:03:57,771 - That is so cool. 119 00:03:57,838 --> 00:04:00,407 "I love you so much, and I'm so happy that I 120 00:04:00,474 --> 00:04:01,708 "have you as my father. 121 00:04:01,775 --> 00:04:03,176 When the daddy and the daughter"-- 122 00:04:03,243 --> 00:04:04,578 - "When the daddy and daughter dance happens"-- 123 00:04:04,644 --> 00:04:05,579 - I know. 124 00:04:05,646 --> 00:04:07,114 It's tomorrow! 125 00:04:07,181 --> 00:04:08,983 Are you so pumped? 126 00:04:09,050 --> 00:04:11,151 That's so sweet. 127 00:04:11,218 --> 00:04:12,719 All right. 128 00:04:12,786 --> 00:04:13,754 - And then you guys are gonna go out to dinner, right? 129 00:04:13,820 --> 00:04:15,389 - Yeah, right before. 130 00:04:15,456 --> 00:04:17,124 - You have to show her how a real man treats a lady. 131 00:04:17,191 --> 00:04:19,426 - Daddy-daughter dance. - Daddy-daughter dance. 132 00:04:19,493 --> 00:04:21,128 Are you pumped? - Yes. 133 00:04:21,195 --> 00:04:22,229 - I'm excited. 134 00:04:22,296 --> 00:04:23,730 I can't wait. 135 00:04:23,797 --> 00:04:25,399 We get dressed up, feel good, go out to, like, 136 00:04:25,465 --> 00:04:27,168 a really nice restaurant. 137 00:04:27,234 --> 00:04:28,702 - It's just very special. 138 00:04:28,769 --> 00:04:30,838 And sometimes it's only a one life experience, 139 00:04:30,904 --> 00:04:32,806 so you got to love it. - Yeah. 140 00:04:32,873 --> 00:04:35,942 - ♪♪ Hey now listen love ♪♪ 141 00:04:36,009 --> 00:04:39,313 ♪♪ Run down, hear me out ♪♪ 142 00:04:39,380 --> 00:04:41,648 - Oh, my god. 143 00:04:41,715 --> 00:04:43,617 My first daddy-daughter dance. 144 00:04:43,684 --> 00:04:45,486 - I think next year you'll have-- 145 00:04:45,553 --> 00:04:46,520 - Veda too? 146 00:04:46,587 --> 00:04:47,722 - --Veda and Nova. 147 00:04:47,788 --> 00:04:49,323 - Yeah, that'll be fun, actually. 148 00:04:49,390 --> 00:04:51,758 - I think things like this, it's also important 149 00:04:51,825 --> 00:04:54,061 because it shows daughters how they're 150 00:04:54,128 --> 00:04:57,064 supposed to be treated by guys, even if it is her dad. 151 00:04:57,131 --> 00:04:58,765 - And it's just, like, nice that like, you know, 152 00:04:58,832 --> 00:05:00,234 these things-- 153 00:05:00,300 --> 00:05:01,568 first off, they're not gonna last forever. 154 00:05:01,635 --> 00:05:03,170 - No. - You know? 155 00:05:03,237 --> 00:05:04,704 They're gonna grow up and they're not gonna ever gonna 156 00:05:04,771 --> 00:05:05,772 want to do anything like that. So-- 157 00:05:05,839 --> 00:05:08,141 - Yeah. Have fun with your kids. 158 00:05:08,208 --> 00:05:09,743 - Yeah. 159 00:05:09,810 --> 00:05:11,778 Nova's the first daughter that I'm actually raising. 160 00:05:11,845 --> 00:05:12,847 And so it's super important for me 161 00:05:12,913 --> 00:05:14,848 to make her feel special. 162 00:05:14,915 --> 00:05:16,283 I just wonder, like, does Brandon and Carly, 163 00:05:16,350 --> 00:05:17,984 do they go-- do they go on those dances? 164 00:05:18,051 --> 00:05:19,320 - Right? - Like, you know what I mean? 165 00:05:19,386 --> 00:05:20,787 Like, I wonder. 166 00:05:20,854 --> 00:05:21,755 - I feel like they're a popular thing to do, 167 00:05:21,822 --> 00:05:23,256 so I would think so. 168 00:05:23,323 --> 00:05:24,925 I don't know. 169 00:05:24,992 --> 00:05:27,328 - I mean, like I said, I didn't get to do it with Carly and I-- 170 00:05:27,394 --> 00:05:28,996 it's my first daddy-daughter dance-- 171 00:05:29,062 --> 00:05:30,397 - Well, you get to do it with these three ones. 172 00:05:30,464 --> 00:05:31,331 - --and I get to do it with them. 173 00:05:31,398 --> 00:05:32,833 And, I don't know. 174 00:05:32,899 --> 00:05:34,301 It just makes you appreciate stuff a lot more. 175 00:05:34,368 --> 00:05:36,737 - I think that's, like, good core memories, 176 00:05:36,804 --> 00:05:38,138 some good quality time. 177 00:05:38,205 --> 00:05:39,540 - Yeah. 178 00:05:39,607 --> 00:05:40,707 You got to, like, really just not take it for granted 179 00:05:40,774 --> 00:05:42,176 and really treasure it. 180 00:05:42,242 --> 00:05:43,243 You know what I mean? 181 00:05:45,512 --> 00:05:49,283 - ♪♪ Ocean tide that I'm pulling into ♪♪ 182 00:05:49,350 --> 00:05:52,552 ♪♪ You can try to hide but it's coming for you ♪♪ 183 00:05:52,619 --> 00:05:54,655 ♪♪ Only think you know ♪♪ 184 00:05:54,722 --> 00:05:56,657 - What you doing? 185 00:05:56,724 --> 00:05:57,657 - Studying. 186 00:05:57,724 --> 00:05:58,925 - Are you? 187 00:06:01,528 --> 00:06:03,030 So how are your classes going? 188 00:06:03,097 --> 00:06:03,864 - Good. 189 00:06:03,930 --> 00:06:04,931 - How about your friends? 190 00:06:04,998 --> 00:06:06,700 How is your friend circle? 191 00:06:06,767 --> 00:06:07,901 - Good. 192 00:06:07,968 --> 00:06:09,069 - Do your friends have boyfriends? 193 00:06:09,136 --> 00:06:10,637 - Yeah, well, some of 'em. 194 00:06:10,704 --> 00:06:12,373 - Yeah? - Yeah. 195 00:06:12,439 --> 00:06:13,807 - And what about you? 196 00:06:13,874 --> 00:06:16,310 - Yeah, I got me a little boyfriend myself. 197 00:06:16,376 --> 00:06:17,978 - OK. 198 00:06:18,045 --> 00:06:20,548 A little boyfriend. 199 00:06:20,614 --> 00:06:22,649 It's typical teenage stuff. 200 00:06:22,716 --> 00:06:23,917 But, you know, the-- 201 00:06:23,984 --> 00:06:25,619 of course you know the rules. 202 00:06:25,686 --> 00:06:27,921 Open communication-- I want to be able to listen to you 203 00:06:27,988 --> 00:06:29,723 and not be talking at you. 204 00:06:29,789 --> 00:06:31,625 I would-- I would like to see your path in life 205 00:06:31,692 --> 00:06:33,460 look a lot different than mine was. 206 00:06:33,526 --> 00:06:37,798 If you have any questions with your dating and social life, 207 00:06:37,864 --> 00:06:40,434 definitely let me know. - Mm-hmm. 208 00:06:40,501 --> 00:06:42,836 - ♪♪ Here in the moment ♪♪ 209 00:06:42,903 --> 00:06:46,139 ♪♪ Chasing the stars into the night ♪♪ 210 00:06:46,206 --> 00:06:48,876 ♪♪ I wanna see what I can find ♪♪ 211 00:06:48,942 --> 00:06:50,577 [line trilling] 212 00:06:50,644 --> 00:06:52,479 - Hello? - Hello. 213 00:06:52,546 --> 00:06:53,613 - Hey. - Hey. 214 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:56,750 What's up? 215 00:06:56,817 --> 00:06:58,318 - One of the reasons I was calling 216 00:06:58,385 --> 00:07:00,921 is because, did you know that Aaliyah is dating a boy? 217 00:07:00,988 --> 00:07:02,590 I don't know how to feel about it. 218 00:07:02,656 --> 00:07:04,124 Is this a normal age? 219 00:07:04,191 --> 00:07:05,793 - Yeah. 220 00:07:05,860 --> 00:07:06,860 I mean, I think, you know, if they want to go on a date, 221 00:07:06,927 --> 00:07:08,362 then, yeah, we should-- 222 00:07:08,429 --> 00:07:10,264 I think we should be open to that, you know? 223 00:07:10,330 --> 00:07:11,398 - Oh, no. 224 00:07:11,465 --> 00:07:12,766 [laughs] I don't know what to think. 225 00:07:12,832 --> 00:07:14,334 I can't believe we're here. 226 00:07:14,401 --> 00:07:15,636 Um-- 227 00:07:15,702 --> 00:07:17,337 - Yeah, I mean, probably time to start 228 00:07:17,404 --> 00:07:18,672 talking about birth control and, you know, 229 00:07:18,739 --> 00:07:19,973 stuff like that. - Well, and I think the way 230 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:21,609 to go into that-- it has nothing 231 00:07:21,675 --> 00:07:23,144 to do with the boyfriend. 232 00:07:23,210 --> 00:07:24,444 At the age of 13, they're actually supposed 233 00:07:24,511 --> 00:07:26,113 to go and see a gynecologist. 234 00:07:26,180 --> 00:07:28,349 But I was like, I thought that was a little too soon. 235 00:07:28,415 --> 00:07:30,651 So I was like, all right, you know, maybe now 236 00:07:30,718 --> 00:07:32,252 that they're 14. 237 00:07:32,319 --> 00:07:34,254 OK, maybe a gynecologist will open those conversations 238 00:07:34,321 --> 00:07:37,691 and talk to them about all of this stuff, as well. 239 00:07:37,758 --> 00:07:39,226 - All we can do is-- 240 00:07:39,292 --> 00:07:42,429 is provide a very open door of communication. 241 00:07:42,496 --> 00:07:45,098 - I think, overall, we're doing the best we can as long as we 242 00:07:45,165 --> 00:07:46,800 stay on the same page. - All right. 243 00:07:46,867 --> 00:07:48,035 - All right, bye. 244 00:07:48,101 --> 00:07:49,269 - All right, bye. 245 00:07:52,339 --> 00:07:53,807 - ♪♪ Light flash, photograph ♪♪ 246 00:07:53,874 --> 00:07:56,276 ♪♪ Looking like I found a way ♪♪ 247 00:07:56,343 --> 00:07:59,813 ♪♪ ♪♪ 248 00:07:59,880 --> 00:08:01,915 ♪♪ Done that, there and back ♪♪ 249 00:08:01,982 --> 00:08:03,617 ♪♪ Looking like I found a way ♪♪ 250 00:08:03,684 --> 00:08:07,754 ♪♪ ♪♪ 251 00:08:07,821 --> 00:08:09,723 - What are you working on? 252 00:08:09,790 --> 00:08:10,858 - Just cleaning up the website. 253 00:08:10,924 --> 00:08:12,859 I put some stuff on sale. 254 00:08:12,926 --> 00:08:15,528 [cell phone ringing] 255 00:08:16,564 --> 00:08:17,598 - Hello? - Hey. 256 00:08:17,664 --> 00:08:18,832 Hey, how are you? - Good. 257 00:08:18,899 --> 00:08:21,001 How are you? - I'm good. 258 00:08:21,068 --> 00:08:23,136 So I was talking to Amanda this week, 259 00:08:23,203 --> 00:08:25,539 and we're gonna go have lunch tomorrow 260 00:08:25,606 --> 00:08:27,574 and wondered if you wanted to join. 261 00:08:27,641 --> 00:08:28,876 - Yeah, definitely. 262 00:08:28,943 --> 00:08:30,210 That sounds cool. - OK, awesome. 263 00:08:30,277 --> 00:08:31,445 - Yeah. 264 00:08:31,512 --> 00:08:32,613 Just let me know where. I'll be there. 265 00:08:32,680 --> 00:08:33,781 - OK. - All right. 266 00:08:33,848 --> 00:08:34,682 Thank you. - See you then. 267 00:08:34,748 --> 00:08:35,716 - Bye. 268 00:08:35,783 --> 00:08:37,551 - Bye-bye. 269 00:08:37,618 --> 00:08:39,252 - That'd be interesting. 270 00:08:39,319 --> 00:08:40,554 - It will be. 271 00:08:40,620 --> 00:08:42,055 I haven't really got to, like, spend like, 272 00:08:42,122 --> 00:08:43,824 a significant amount of time with her 273 00:08:43,891 --> 00:08:45,459 without, like, a bunch of people 274 00:08:45,526 --> 00:08:47,527 around or, like, at a sporting event 275 00:08:47,594 --> 00:08:48,595 where so much is going on. 276 00:08:48,662 --> 00:08:50,364 You know? - Mm-hmm. 277 00:08:50,430 --> 00:08:52,065 - It'd be cool. 278 00:08:52,132 --> 00:08:53,800 - Did you know Amanda before her and Ryan got together? 279 00:08:53,867 --> 00:08:55,502 - No, but kind of, yes. 280 00:08:55,569 --> 00:08:57,003 She was in my class. 281 00:08:57,070 --> 00:08:59,239 She was in the "16 and Pregnant" episode. 282 00:08:59,306 --> 00:09:02,509 ♪♪ ♪♪ 283 00:09:02,576 --> 00:09:03,510 - Oh, my god. 284 00:09:03,577 --> 00:09:04,545 What is that? 285 00:09:04,612 --> 00:09:05,579 [gasps] 286 00:09:07,748 --> 00:09:08,683 - Bentley. 287 00:09:08,749 --> 00:09:09,716 - That's funny. 288 00:09:09,783 --> 00:09:11,251 - Isn't that crazy? 289 00:09:11,318 --> 00:09:13,687 - Well, Ryan's come a long way in the last year. 290 00:09:13,754 --> 00:09:15,923 He seems like he's doing good. 291 00:09:15,990 --> 00:09:17,190 Fingers crossed. 292 00:09:17,257 --> 00:09:18,892 And, you know, the little bit I've 293 00:09:18,959 --> 00:09:20,627 been around him and Amanda, they seem to be doing good. 294 00:09:20,694 --> 00:09:21,929 So-- 295 00:09:21,996 --> 00:09:23,630 - Yeah. 296 00:09:23,697 --> 00:09:27,100 How do you feel about, like, our kids being around people 297 00:09:27,167 --> 00:09:29,537 that haven't had the easiest road 298 00:09:29,603 --> 00:09:31,004 or made the best decisions? 299 00:09:31,071 --> 00:09:33,974 [upbeat guitar music] 300 00:09:34,041 --> 00:09:39,112 ♪♪ ♪♪ 301 00:09:39,179 --> 00:09:40,480 - I mean, it's fine. 302 00:09:40,547 --> 00:09:42,215 I'm always gonna to put my kids first. 303 00:09:42,282 --> 00:09:44,651 But, like, I'd rather get to know somebody first. 304 00:09:44,718 --> 00:09:46,320 - Definitely. 305 00:09:46,386 --> 00:09:49,156 But I also feel like it's important as parents to, like, 306 00:09:49,223 --> 00:09:50,657 let people show up-- 307 00:09:50,724 --> 00:09:51,759 - Yeah. 308 00:09:51,825 --> 00:09:53,494 - --and show who they are-- 309 00:09:53,560 --> 00:09:54,861 - Mm-hmm. 310 00:09:54,928 --> 00:09:58,832 - --before just saying, like, oh, you've made 311 00:09:58,899 --> 00:10:01,235 this mistake or this mistake. 312 00:10:01,302 --> 00:10:03,170 I don't want anything to do with you. 313 00:10:03,236 --> 00:10:05,506 Like, I don't want my kids to be like that 314 00:10:05,572 --> 00:10:06,940 or treat people that way. 315 00:10:07,007 --> 00:10:08,075 - Yeah. 316 00:10:08,141 --> 00:10:11,044 [rock music] 317 00:10:11,111 --> 00:10:18,085 ♪♪ ♪♪ 318 00:10:18,151 --> 00:10:21,489 - What are you doing? 319 00:10:21,555 --> 00:10:22,823 How has your day been? 320 00:10:22,890 --> 00:10:24,491 - Good. 321 00:10:24,558 --> 00:10:27,127 - So I'm having lunch with Maci and your mom tomorrow. 322 00:10:27,194 --> 00:10:28,162 - Are you nervous? 323 00:10:28,228 --> 00:10:30,898 - I'm always nervous. 324 00:10:30,965 --> 00:10:34,935 I want a friendship with Maci just because, for one, having 325 00:10:35,002 --> 00:10:37,271 the father of your kids new girlfriend, 326 00:10:37,338 --> 00:10:39,073 you want to know who they are. 327 00:10:39,139 --> 00:10:40,607 And you want your kid to be comfortable around 'em, 328 00:10:40,674 --> 00:10:42,209 trust 'em. 329 00:10:42,276 --> 00:10:45,813 I just want them to have that security with me, so-- 330 00:10:45,879 --> 00:10:47,414 - I think it'll be OK. 331 00:10:47,481 --> 00:10:49,350 - It is important that they like me 332 00:10:49,417 --> 00:10:51,785 because I just want them to be comfortable around me. 333 00:10:51,852 --> 00:10:54,888 I want 'em to know the things they've heard or read 334 00:10:54,955 --> 00:10:56,022 is not me. 335 00:10:56,089 --> 00:10:57,691 It's just very important to me. 336 00:10:57,757 --> 00:11:00,861 Family is very important to me and that their kids 337 00:11:00,928 --> 00:11:02,195 are OK around me. 338 00:11:02,262 --> 00:11:06,333 I just want-- everything to be OK. 339 00:11:16,743 --> 00:11:19,680 [rock music] 340 00:11:19,747 --> 00:11:25,986 ♪♪ ♪♪ 341 00:11:26,053 --> 00:11:27,088 - Hey, guys. 342 00:11:27,154 --> 00:11:30,724 So my mom has been at the treatment 343 00:11:30,791 --> 00:11:35,128 center for about three weeks now for substance use. 344 00:11:35,195 --> 00:11:37,230 And it's really hard, 'cause I'm only able to talk 345 00:11:37,297 --> 00:11:38,632 to her once a week. 346 00:11:38,699 --> 00:11:39,967 But every time that I do talk to her, 347 00:11:40,034 --> 00:11:42,769 she just sounds more and more better. 348 00:11:42,836 --> 00:11:44,905 All the feedback has been really positive. 349 00:11:44,972 --> 00:11:48,776 So I'm glad that she's taking this treatment center seriously 350 00:11:48,842 --> 00:11:52,713 and she's getting the help that she needs. 351 00:11:52,780 --> 00:11:55,149 [cell phone rings] 352 00:11:55,215 --> 00:11:58,819 I think she's calling. 353 00:11:58,886 --> 00:11:59,987 Hi, Mom. 354 00:12:00,054 --> 00:12:01,689 - How are you, baby? You OK? 355 00:12:01,756 --> 00:12:03,557 - Yeah, I'm good. How are you? 356 00:12:03,624 --> 00:12:05,525 - I'm doing good. I have to tell you something. 357 00:12:05,592 --> 00:12:06,593 You're not gonna believe it. 358 00:12:06,660 --> 00:12:08,562 Today, I ended the detox. 359 00:12:08,629 --> 00:12:10,631 - Wow. Are you-- 360 00:12:10,698 --> 00:12:12,899 - Are you excited? 361 00:12:12,966 --> 00:12:15,435 - I was shocked, 'cause I thought I had, 362 00:12:15,502 --> 00:12:16,937 like, two more weeks to go. 363 00:12:17,004 --> 00:12:18,439 - Yeah? 364 00:12:18,506 --> 00:12:19,906 - But when they said that I don't have it no more, 365 00:12:19,973 --> 00:12:21,141 I was like, wait. What does that mean? 366 00:12:21,208 --> 00:12:22,243 She goes, you're already detoxed. 367 00:12:22,309 --> 00:12:23,944 - Do you feel better? 368 00:12:24,011 --> 00:12:25,879 - I'm just exhausted because I haven't slept all week. 369 00:12:25,946 --> 00:12:26,880 It's OK. 370 00:12:26,947 --> 00:12:28,048 I'll fall asleep eventually. 371 00:12:28,115 --> 00:12:29,783 - Well, are you proud of yourself? 372 00:12:29,850 --> 00:12:31,752 - Yeah, I really am. 373 00:12:31,819 --> 00:12:33,053 - You sound great. 374 00:12:33,120 --> 00:12:34,154 You sound happy. 375 00:12:34,221 --> 00:12:36,023 You sound alive. 376 00:12:36,090 --> 00:12:38,425 - Yeah, I'm optimistic, that's for sure, Briana. 377 00:12:38,492 --> 00:12:41,828 The fact that I stopped drinking methadone 378 00:12:41,895 --> 00:12:43,864 is blowing me the [bleep] away. 379 00:12:43,931 --> 00:12:46,767 It actually made me sad to think that I stood 380 00:12:46,834 --> 00:12:48,768 in that [bleep] for pain, and they 381 00:12:48,835 --> 00:12:51,538 never advised me to get off. 382 00:12:51,605 --> 00:12:52,573 - Yeah. 383 00:12:52,639 --> 00:12:53,774 But look at you. 384 00:12:53,840 --> 00:12:55,408 - I know. I love you. 385 00:12:55,475 --> 00:12:56,643 I got to go. OK? 386 00:12:56,710 --> 00:12:58,445 - OK. - I love you. 387 00:12:58,512 --> 00:12:59,580 - I love you. - I love you. 388 00:12:59,646 --> 00:13:00,547 I love you, baby. Bye. 389 00:13:00,614 --> 00:13:01,682 - Bye. - Bye. 390 00:13:01,749 --> 00:13:04,651 [gentle music] 391 00:13:04,718 --> 00:13:07,121 ♪♪ ♪♪ 392 00:13:07,187 --> 00:13:10,724 [line trilling] 393 00:13:14,094 --> 00:13:14,862 - Hello? 394 00:13:14,928 --> 00:13:17,465 - Hey, I spoke to Mom. 395 00:13:17,531 --> 00:13:18,498 - How was that? 396 00:13:18,565 --> 00:13:20,334 - It was-- it was great. 397 00:13:20,401 --> 00:13:23,937 She sounds absolutely amazing. 398 00:13:24,004 --> 00:13:25,639 - How do you feel about talking to her, then? 399 00:13:25,706 --> 00:13:26,707 - It was fine. 400 00:13:26,773 --> 00:13:28,241 It was a good conversation. 401 00:13:28,308 --> 00:13:30,010 I don't think there's ever been a bad conversation 402 00:13:30,076 --> 00:13:32,212 since she's been out there. 403 00:13:32,278 --> 00:13:34,982 I'm also gonna reach out to her therapist, 404 00:13:35,048 --> 00:13:37,117 'cause I think that's much, much, much needed. 405 00:13:37,184 --> 00:13:38,151 We cannot-- 406 00:13:38,218 --> 00:13:39,486 - Yeah. 407 00:13:39,553 --> 00:13:40,688 - She cannot come back home without 408 00:13:40,754 --> 00:13:43,790 us doing a session together. 409 00:13:43,857 --> 00:13:45,793 - Yeah, I agree with that one, 1,000%. 410 00:13:45,859 --> 00:13:47,861 - All right, love you. 411 00:13:47,928 --> 00:13:49,196 - OK, bye. - All right. 412 00:13:49,263 --> 00:13:53,000 Love you. Bye. 413 00:13:53,066 --> 00:13:55,669 - OK. 414 00:13:55,736 --> 00:13:57,070 [The Fancee's "feelin' Fancy"] 415 00:13:57,137 --> 00:13:59,706 - ♪♪ Feeling fancy ♪♪ 416 00:13:59,773 --> 00:14:02,776 - 5, 7, and 1, 3. 417 00:14:02,843 --> 00:14:05,379 Straight, Jaxie. 418 00:14:05,446 --> 00:14:09,282 1, 3-- back handspring. 419 00:14:09,349 --> 00:14:10,417 Thank you. 420 00:14:10,483 --> 00:14:11,752 Guess what, girls. 421 00:14:11,819 --> 00:14:13,554 A huge opportunity fell into my lap, 422 00:14:13,621 --> 00:14:16,256 and I bought a cheer gym with one of my friends. 423 00:14:16,323 --> 00:14:18,559 And I'm having a big grand opening 424 00:14:18,625 --> 00:14:19,593 in a couple of months. 425 00:14:19,660 --> 00:14:21,262 7, hands, 1-- 426 00:14:21,328 --> 00:14:24,898 It's gonna be a lot of work, but so worth it. 427 00:14:24,965 --> 00:14:27,167 And I'm so excited. 428 00:14:27,234 --> 00:14:28,401 Much better. 429 00:14:28,468 --> 00:14:30,270 There's a lot going on, and today I 430 00:14:30,337 --> 00:14:32,973 do have another appointment with the fertility clinic 431 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:37,611 to get more information about IVF. 432 00:14:37,677 --> 00:14:39,480 OK, we're here. 433 00:14:39,547 --> 00:14:42,449 [light music] 434 00:14:42,516 --> 00:14:46,319 ♪♪ ♪♪ 435 00:14:46,386 --> 00:14:47,354 - Hello. 436 00:14:47,421 --> 00:14:48,856 - Hi, I'm Brandy. 437 00:14:48,923 --> 00:14:51,391 I'm one of the IVF coordinators here at our Tampa office. 438 00:14:51,458 --> 00:14:54,995 So I printed a sample calendar so we can go over, 439 00:14:55,061 --> 00:14:57,864 and then it'll give you an idea of what a cycle looks 440 00:14:57,931 --> 00:14:59,066 like with us. 441 00:14:59,132 --> 00:15:00,367 - OK. 442 00:15:00,433 --> 00:15:01,768 - During your first week of birth control, 443 00:15:01,835 --> 00:15:02,836 we usually have you do something 444 00:15:02,903 --> 00:15:04,905 called a trial transfer. 445 00:15:04,972 --> 00:15:07,307 - So I had to take birth control to get pregnant. 446 00:15:07,374 --> 00:15:08,909 - We have you take birth control so that we 447 00:15:08,976 --> 00:15:10,744 can get a hold of your cycle. 448 00:15:10,811 --> 00:15:12,179 So that's the goal. 449 00:15:12,246 --> 00:15:14,614 - I am a Type I diabetic, so anything 450 00:15:14,681 --> 00:15:19,653 that messes with my hormones, especially birth control-- 451 00:15:19,720 --> 00:15:21,154 - Yeah. 452 00:15:21,221 --> 00:15:23,223 - --will, like, literally cancel my insulin. 453 00:15:23,290 --> 00:15:25,626 And then my sugars will be high, which is very dangerous. 454 00:15:25,693 --> 00:15:27,294 - Yeah. 455 00:15:27,360 --> 00:15:29,563 - But also, I tried birth control once in my entire life 456 00:15:29,630 --> 00:15:33,066 and it made my sugar go through the roof and mess with 457 00:15:33,133 --> 00:15:35,469 my physical and mental health. 458 00:15:35,535 --> 00:15:38,405 Yeah. 459 00:15:38,472 --> 00:15:40,607 - The only thing is if you don't do the birth control, 460 00:15:40,674 --> 00:15:44,111 if for some reason you ovulate or your blood level's off, 461 00:15:44,178 --> 00:15:45,612 we might have to postpone your cycle. 462 00:15:45,679 --> 00:15:48,048 So that's why we like to really do the birth control, 463 00:15:48,114 --> 00:15:50,851 so that we can get your hormones down to a baseline. 464 00:15:50,918 --> 00:15:52,319 We control it. 465 00:15:52,386 --> 00:15:54,287 And then we build on top of it with the hormones. 466 00:15:54,354 --> 00:15:55,822 - What else is involved? 467 00:15:55,889 --> 00:15:57,991 - So if that appointment goes well, 468 00:15:58,058 --> 00:16:00,895 we would have you start your injections the next-- 469 00:16:00,961 --> 00:16:02,463 usually the next day. 470 00:16:02,529 --> 00:16:04,031 - OK. 471 00:16:04,098 --> 00:16:05,633 So there's a lot of medications involved, which 472 00:16:05,699 --> 00:16:08,369 all mess with your hormones. 473 00:16:08,436 --> 00:16:10,437 [somber music] 474 00:16:10,504 --> 00:16:12,606 - Well, we are-- you're trying to have a baby. 475 00:16:12,673 --> 00:16:13,673 [laughs] 476 00:16:13,740 --> 00:16:15,175 - Right. 477 00:16:15,242 --> 00:16:17,311 I also went through awful, awful, awful, awful, 478 00:16:17,378 --> 00:16:20,614 awful depression-- 479 00:16:20,680 --> 00:16:21,681 - Mm-hmm. 480 00:16:21,748 --> 00:16:22,816 - --after having my third. 481 00:16:22,883 --> 00:16:23,951 - Yeah. 482 00:16:24,018 --> 00:16:25,452 - That's due to off hormones. 483 00:16:25,519 --> 00:16:28,756 Like, when I say awful, I mean, it was crippling. 484 00:16:28,822 --> 00:16:31,591 - Mm-hmm. 485 00:16:31,658 --> 00:16:34,494 - Also, you didn't have any help, too, with anything. 486 00:16:34,561 --> 00:16:35,562 So that could be it. 487 00:16:35,629 --> 00:16:37,030 - I don't want to be depressed. 488 00:16:37,097 --> 00:16:38,765 - Don't worry, baby. Don't worry. 489 00:16:38,832 --> 00:16:40,166 I'll be strong for you. 490 00:16:40,233 --> 00:16:42,503 - I-- yes, I finally have a good partner. 491 00:16:42,570 --> 00:16:48,709 But I'm just saying, like, I was, like, suicidal. 492 00:16:48,775 --> 00:16:49,977 Yeah. 493 00:16:50,044 --> 00:16:52,846 So, like, this medicine scares me. 494 00:17:12,766 --> 00:17:15,102 - ♪♪ 2, 3, ready ♪♪ 495 00:17:15,169 --> 00:17:22,109 ♪♪ ♪♪ 496 00:17:22,176 --> 00:17:23,143 - Is that OK? 497 00:17:23,209 --> 00:17:24,478 - Yes. 498 00:17:24,544 --> 00:17:26,346 - It's a nice day, isn't it? 499 00:17:26,413 --> 00:17:28,215 - Yeah. 500 00:17:28,282 --> 00:17:30,650 - You guys are 14. 501 00:17:30,717 --> 00:17:33,020 And since you're 14 now, I think 502 00:17:33,086 --> 00:17:34,955 it's important that we get you established 503 00:17:35,022 --> 00:17:37,324 with a gynecologist. 504 00:17:37,391 --> 00:17:38,659 I think it's about that time. 505 00:17:38,726 --> 00:17:40,460 Based off of what I've been reading, 506 00:17:40,527 --> 00:17:44,331 they say that you should be around the age of 13. 507 00:17:44,398 --> 00:17:47,501 But didn't think at 13 you guys were exactly ready. 508 00:17:47,568 --> 00:17:50,270 But now I hear conversations of social life, 509 00:17:50,337 --> 00:17:54,074 friends having boyfriends, you guys have a boyfriend-- 510 00:17:54,140 --> 00:17:55,242 - Not me. 511 00:17:55,308 --> 00:17:56,777 - --all that kind of stuff. 512 00:17:56,844 --> 00:17:58,512 [chuckles] But I know that it's around that age. 513 00:17:58,579 --> 00:18:01,848 Either way, it's important to get established 514 00:18:01,915 --> 00:18:05,552 with a gynecologist, not just because of a social life 515 00:18:05,619 --> 00:18:07,821 and dating life, but also because it's 516 00:18:07,888 --> 00:18:10,190 extremely important that you keep up with your health. 517 00:18:10,257 --> 00:18:12,659 - What's the gynecologist appointment gonna be like? 518 00:18:12,726 --> 00:18:14,395 - I think you'll learn about women's health. 519 00:18:14,462 --> 00:18:16,696 I think you'll learn about the options you have, 520 00:18:16,763 --> 00:18:19,766 if you have heavy flows, if you have light flows. 521 00:18:19,833 --> 00:18:21,568 I think they'll do breast exams. 522 00:18:21,635 --> 00:18:23,336 Us women go through a lot at the end of the day. 523 00:18:23,403 --> 00:18:25,205 Do you guys feel like it's embarrassing sometimes? 524 00:18:25,272 --> 00:18:27,775 It's OK, 'cause I-- if it is-- 'cause I feel like 525 00:18:27,841 --> 00:18:29,276 you guys are at that age where it is like, 526 00:18:29,343 --> 00:18:30,310 oh, my god. 527 00:18:30,377 --> 00:18:32,079 - I don't get embarrassed. 528 00:18:32,146 --> 00:18:33,513 Well, I only get embarrassed if you'd say it around my friends. 529 00:18:33,580 --> 00:18:35,049 - Yeah. 530 00:18:35,116 --> 00:18:36,350 - 'Cause I'm like, come on, like, this is enough. 531 00:18:36,416 --> 00:18:38,051 - Mm-hmm. 532 00:18:38,118 --> 00:18:40,821 So I feel like I lacked that education, 533 00:18:40,887 --> 00:18:43,857 so sometimes I'm over the top with trying 534 00:18:43,924 --> 00:18:47,394 to express it to you guys and teach you guys about it. 535 00:18:47,460 --> 00:18:48,762 And I can understand. 536 00:18:48,829 --> 00:18:50,698 But by the time I did get information, 537 00:18:50,764 --> 00:18:52,966 I was already pregnant with you guys. 538 00:18:53,033 --> 00:18:55,569 Let me just be on top of it because you're gonna date. 539 00:18:55,635 --> 00:18:56,870 You're gonna have fun. 540 00:18:56,937 --> 00:18:58,705 You're gonna have a social life. 541 00:18:58,772 --> 00:19:01,208 - I think I'm ready to go and learn more from them. 542 00:19:01,275 --> 00:19:02,476 - What about you? 543 00:19:02,542 --> 00:19:03,944 - Yeah, I feel ready. 544 00:19:04,010 --> 00:19:05,312 - OK. 545 00:19:05,379 --> 00:19:06,914 - And you guys know you can always talk to me. 546 00:19:06,980 --> 00:19:11,285 Your health and wellness is always my priority. 547 00:19:11,352 --> 00:19:12,286 I love you guys. 548 00:19:12,353 --> 00:19:15,455 - Love you, too. 549 00:19:15,522 --> 00:19:17,057 - I'm proud of you. 550 00:19:17,124 --> 00:19:21,996 - ♪♪ Today what it brings is what it brings ♪♪ 551 00:19:22,063 --> 00:19:24,764 ♪♪ And it feels like the summer vibes go on endlessly ♪♪ 552 00:19:24,831 --> 00:19:27,334 - Are you so excited to go with your dad? 553 00:19:27,401 --> 00:19:28,369 - Yeah. 554 00:19:28,436 --> 00:19:29,870 - Let's go change. 555 00:19:29,937 --> 00:19:31,438 - When you think about being a parent 556 00:19:31,505 --> 00:19:33,239 and then you think about being a birth parent-- 557 00:19:33,306 --> 00:19:35,242 and I've done both-- adoption is crazy. 558 00:19:35,309 --> 00:19:36,643 It feels different. 559 00:19:36,710 --> 00:19:40,714 You do a lot of-- a lot of thinking, and wondering, 560 00:19:40,781 --> 00:19:41,748 and questioning. 561 00:19:41,815 --> 00:19:44,551 - You are so pretty. 562 00:19:44,618 --> 00:19:46,487 - I mean, there's always the what-ifs. 563 00:19:46,553 --> 00:19:48,489 Like, sometimes you think about it and it makes you happy. 564 00:19:48,555 --> 00:19:50,557 And then sometimes you think about it and it makes you sad. 565 00:19:50,624 --> 00:19:53,660 What would it have been like to be able to take Carly 566 00:19:53,727 --> 00:19:55,095 on a daddy-daughter dance? 567 00:19:55,162 --> 00:19:56,864 I don't want to take this time for granted. 568 00:19:56,931 --> 00:20:00,000 I didn't get to do anything with Carly special, 569 00:20:00,067 --> 00:20:02,102 like, for her just being her. 570 00:20:02,169 --> 00:20:04,037 And so I need to make sure that I do it with Nova 571 00:20:04,104 --> 00:20:06,407 and do it with Veda and Rya as they get older, 572 00:20:06,473 --> 00:20:08,642 because it goes by so fast. 573 00:20:08,708 --> 00:20:10,144 [doorbell rings] - Somebody's here. 574 00:20:10,211 --> 00:20:11,211 - Oh, wait. 575 00:20:11,278 --> 00:20:13,313 What? What? 576 00:20:13,380 --> 00:20:14,381 But it's raining. 577 00:20:14,448 --> 00:20:15,883 - Answer the door. 578 00:20:15,949 --> 00:20:18,285 - I know. 579 00:20:18,351 --> 00:20:19,286 - Hello-- 580 00:20:19,353 --> 00:20:20,387 - [chuckles] 581 00:20:20,454 --> 00:20:22,489 - --beautiful child. 582 00:20:22,556 --> 00:20:23,691 I got you flowers. 583 00:20:23,758 --> 00:20:25,225 - Thank you. 584 00:20:25,292 --> 00:20:27,361 - Are you ready to go on our date? 585 00:20:27,428 --> 00:20:29,229 - Yeah. 586 00:20:29,296 --> 00:20:30,263 - Stand right here. 587 00:20:30,330 --> 00:20:31,398 Big smile. 588 00:20:31,465 --> 00:20:32,632 OK, ready? 589 00:20:34,635 --> 00:20:37,404 - I love it. 590 00:20:37,470 --> 00:20:39,006 You look so pretty, Nova. 591 00:20:39,073 --> 00:20:40,173 - So pretty. 592 00:20:40,240 --> 00:20:41,308 [giggles] OK. 593 00:20:41,375 --> 00:20:42,810 You ready? 594 00:20:42,876 --> 00:20:45,646 - ♪♪ That it's ever gonna be this good ♪♪ 595 00:20:45,713 --> 00:20:47,347 - Rock and roll. 596 00:20:47,414 --> 00:20:52,453 ♪♪ ♪♪ 597 00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:53,520 OK, Novalee. 598 00:20:53,587 --> 00:20:54,855 Thank you. 599 00:20:54,922 --> 00:20:56,256 Can you guys make a Shirley Temple? 600 00:20:56,323 --> 00:20:57,224 She wants to try one of those. 601 00:20:57,291 --> 00:20:58,191 I'm fine with the water. 602 00:20:58,258 --> 00:20:59,526 OK. 603 00:20:59,593 --> 00:21:00,594 Shrimp and Brussels sprouts-- - OK, sound good. 604 00:21:00,661 --> 00:21:01,561 - --just to start. 605 00:21:01,628 --> 00:21:02,730 Thank you. 606 00:21:02,796 --> 00:21:04,198 This is your first dance. 607 00:21:04,264 --> 00:21:05,733 It's my first daddy-daughter dance. 608 00:21:05,799 --> 00:21:07,268 Never done it before. - Cool. 609 00:21:07,335 --> 00:21:08,602 - Thank you. 610 00:21:08,668 --> 00:21:09,970 - A couple plates-- you're welcome. 611 00:21:10,037 --> 00:21:11,605 - I think I brought your mom here. 612 00:21:11,671 --> 00:21:12,606 - Really? 613 00:21:12,673 --> 00:21:13,640 - Yeah. 614 00:21:13,707 --> 00:21:14,675 - Like, on a date? 615 00:21:14,742 --> 00:21:16,209 - Yeah. 616 00:21:16,276 --> 00:21:17,377 - Why were you and mom kissing when you were 14? 617 00:21:17,444 --> 00:21:18,479 - That's my-- 618 00:21:18,545 --> 00:21:19,480 - Why were we kissing at 14? 619 00:21:19,546 --> 00:21:20,647 - --biggest question. 620 00:21:20,714 --> 00:21:22,249 - Because we liked each other. 621 00:21:22,316 --> 00:21:24,852 - And you couldn't hold back, let me guess. 622 00:21:24,919 --> 00:21:26,487 - I guess not, no. 623 00:21:26,553 --> 00:21:28,622 We met when we were 13, so-- 624 00:21:28,688 --> 00:21:30,123 - Oh! 625 00:21:30,190 --> 00:21:32,292 - Why, do you think that's weird that me and Mom-- 626 00:21:34,127 --> 00:21:36,397 - [chuckles] When we were 14. 627 00:21:36,463 --> 00:21:38,132 - No. 628 00:21:38,199 --> 00:21:40,401 I mean, like, if you guys loved each other that much, I'm fine. 629 00:21:40,467 --> 00:21:43,871 Because if you didn't-- if that didn't happen, then 630 00:21:43,937 --> 00:21:45,606 this would be not happening. 631 00:21:45,672 --> 00:21:47,007 - Yeah, that's very true. 632 00:21:47,074 --> 00:21:48,209 Thank you. 633 00:21:48,275 --> 00:21:51,145 - And I'm glad that I'm your child. 634 00:21:51,211 --> 00:21:52,079 - Yeah, me too. 635 00:21:52,145 --> 00:21:53,747 I'm glad you're my kid, too. 636 00:21:53,813 --> 00:21:55,916 It's been a while since I was young like you were. 637 00:21:55,982 --> 00:21:58,185 So, like, what does it mean when you're, like-- 638 00:21:58,251 --> 00:22:01,722 what do boyfriends and girlfriends do in your grade? 639 00:22:01,788 --> 00:22:02,790 Like, what do they do? 640 00:22:02,856 --> 00:22:04,357 - They just hang out a lot. 641 00:22:04,424 --> 00:22:06,393 They hug each other. 642 00:22:06,460 --> 00:22:08,729 They're very clingy together sometimes. 643 00:22:08,795 --> 00:22:09,930 - OK. 644 00:22:09,997 --> 00:22:11,065 Do they kiss each other? - No. 645 00:22:11,131 --> 00:22:12,465 - Oh, OK. I don't know. 646 00:22:12,532 --> 00:22:13,534 I don't know. All right. 647 00:22:13,601 --> 00:22:14,802 - [laughs] - I don't know. 648 00:22:14,869 --> 00:22:15,802 I'm just asking. 649 00:22:15,869 --> 00:22:17,737 - [laughs] 650 00:22:18,539 --> 00:22:19,840 - Well, that's good. 651 00:22:19,906 --> 00:22:21,308 - You would notice if I was doing it. 652 00:22:21,375 --> 00:22:22,375 - No, I would not. 653 00:22:22,442 --> 00:22:23,811 That's why I'm asking you. 654 00:22:23,877 --> 00:22:24,812 I'd hope that you would tell-- you know, 655 00:22:24,878 --> 00:22:26,046 that's why I'm asking. 656 00:22:26,113 --> 00:22:27,314 - I'm telling the truth right now. 657 00:22:27,381 --> 00:22:28,715 I have never kissed a boy. - No, no, no. 658 00:22:28,782 --> 00:22:31,952 I trust you. I trust that you'll tell me. 659 00:22:32,019 --> 00:22:33,153 All right. You ready, Freddy? 660 00:22:33,220 --> 00:22:35,122 Off to the-- - Off to the dance. 661 00:22:35,189 --> 00:22:36,489 - --the dance. 662 00:22:36,556 --> 00:22:39,993 - ♪♪ Ain't nothing better than this ♪♪ 663 00:22:43,997 --> 00:22:46,834 [killbunny's "Cruel"] 664 00:22:46,901 --> 00:22:50,738 - ♪♪ I know love can be so cruel ♪♪ 665 00:22:50,804 --> 00:22:52,806 ♪♪ Do you think that we deserve this ♪♪ 666 00:22:52,873 --> 00:22:54,642 - Hey, y'all, I'm actually heading out 667 00:22:54,708 --> 00:22:59,646 to have lunch with Jen and Ryan's girlfriend, Amanda. 668 00:22:59,713 --> 00:23:01,382 You know, Ryan and I have worked really hard 669 00:23:01,449 --> 00:23:04,551 over the last couple of years to have just a more stable 670 00:23:04,618 --> 00:23:06,120 co-parenting relationship. 671 00:23:06,187 --> 00:23:08,689 And therapy and Al-Anon has made me more confident 672 00:23:08,756 --> 00:23:10,991 in creating new relationships. 673 00:23:11,057 --> 00:23:12,893 So I'm going to lunch. 674 00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:13,928 Hey. 675 00:23:13,994 --> 00:23:15,062 - Hey. 676 00:23:15,129 --> 00:23:16,163 - How are you? - Good. 677 00:23:16,230 --> 00:23:17,498 How are y'all? - Good. 678 00:23:17,564 --> 00:23:18,799 - Hey, how are y'all doing? - Good. 679 00:23:18,866 --> 00:23:19,900 How are you? - Good. How are you? 680 00:23:19,967 --> 00:23:21,167 - I'm good. 681 00:23:21,234 --> 00:23:22,169 What can I start y'all off to drink with? 682 00:23:22,236 --> 00:23:23,737 - I want a water, please. - Water. 683 00:23:23,803 --> 00:23:26,373 - I'll have a pinot grigio. - I'll take an Angry Orchard. 684 00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:28,108 - Is that not crazy that we've known 685 00:23:28,175 --> 00:23:29,677 each other since high school? 686 00:23:29,744 --> 00:23:30,911 - That is crazy. 687 00:23:30,978 --> 00:23:32,412 I loved that school. 688 00:23:32,479 --> 00:23:34,481 How did you end up at the adult high school? 689 00:23:34,548 --> 00:23:36,717 - I got kicked out of public schools just from drugs, 690 00:23:36,783 --> 00:23:40,821 and fighting, and getting in trouble, getting 691 00:23:40,888 --> 00:23:42,122 arrested at a young age. 692 00:23:42,188 --> 00:23:44,291 I mean, I don't know why it took so long to learn, 693 00:23:44,357 --> 00:23:47,294 but I've went through, like, the ringer. 694 00:23:47,360 --> 00:23:48,762 Like, I'm not going back out there. 695 00:23:48,828 --> 00:23:49,797 - Mm-hmm. 696 00:23:49,864 --> 00:23:51,398 Have you ever had this long sober? 697 00:23:51,465 --> 00:23:53,801 - So I had almost two years sober. 698 00:23:53,868 --> 00:23:56,270 And then that's when my parents ended up passing away. 699 00:23:56,336 --> 00:23:57,404 - OK. 700 00:23:57,471 --> 00:23:59,273 - My mom was related to drugs. 701 00:23:59,339 --> 00:24:00,674 She was always in active addiction, so-- 702 00:24:00,741 --> 00:24:04,477 and then she started using with me. 703 00:24:04,544 --> 00:24:06,146 I don't want to make out like she's a bad parent. 704 00:24:06,213 --> 00:24:07,848 Like, she was young. 705 00:24:07,915 --> 00:24:10,517 And then, shortly after, my father just got bone cancer, 706 00:24:10,584 --> 00:24:13,153 stage 4, and passed away, which is also 707 00:24:13,220 --> 00:24:14,355 not an excuse to go back out. 708 00:24:14,421 --> 00:24:16,824 But, yeah, it was very hard. 709 00:24:16,891 --> 00:24:20,026 - So-- and you will be sober a year? 710 00:24:20,093 --> 00:24:22,529 - I'm happy where I'm at in life and-- 711 00:24:22,596 --> 00:24:23,531 - You should be really proud. - Yeah. 712 00:24:23,597 --> 00:24:24,898 You should be very proud. 713 00:24:24,965 --> 00:24:26,433 - And even when I was sober before, 714 00:24:26,500 --> 00:24:27,835 I've never been just, like, mentally, emotionally happy. 715 00:24:27,902 --> 00:24:31,204 - I wouldn't want somebody to judge me based off 716 00:24:31,271 --> 00:24:32,839 anything I've done in my past. 717 00:24:32,906 --> 00:24:34,240 And that's been a lot of-- like, 718 00:24:34,307 --> 00:24:35,542 she and I have talked about it. 719 00:24:35,608 --> 00:24:38,179 That's been big for me the last few years, 720 00:24:38,245 --> 00:24:39,380 especially with me and Ryan just, 721 00:24:39,446 --> 00:24:40,981 like, trying to co-parent-- - Yeah. 722 00:24:41,048 --> 00:24:45,051 - --and trying to get on a better and a more healthy 723 00:24:45,118 --> 00:24:47,354 co-parenting relationship. 724 00:24:47,421 --> 00:24:48,956 And it's like, I can't-- 725 00:24:49,022 --> 00:24:52,426 I can't hold any of the bull[bleep] against anybody. 726 00:24:52,492 --> 00:24:55,028 - I know, like, we've known each other since high school. 727 00:24:55,095 --> 00:24:58,932 But even, like, reuniting with you, I was, like, so nervous. 728 00:24:58,999 --> 00:25:01,935 Like, I didn't know how your energy was gonna be. 729 00:25:02,002 --> 00:25:05,873 But I was like, she makes me feel, like, so comfortable. 730 00:25:05,939 --> 00:25:08,142 - It's-- for me, I don't know, it was your energy. 731 00:25:08,209 --> 00:25:10,577 But also, like, I just feel like you can't really 732 00:25:10,644 --> 00:25:13,147 move forward or start anywhere if you're just 733 00:25:13,214 --> 00:25:14,481 constantly thinking about-- - You're very open-minded. 734 00:25:14,547 --> 00:25:15,682 Yeah. 735 00:25:15,749 --> 00:25:16,750 - --or listening to other people. 736 00:25:16,817 --> 00:25:18,451 - Yeah, I respect that. 737 00:25:18,518 --> 00:25:21,388 - I just have to say that you and Ryan getting together, 738 00:25:21,455 --> 00:25:22,556 I didn't understand. 739 00:25:22,623 --> 00:25:26,460 I didn't want it at all. 740 00:25:26,527 --> 00:25:27,661 - Yeah, I know. - You know. 741 00:25:27,728 --> 00:25:29,162 [laughter] - Yeah. 742 00:25:29,229 --> 00:25:30,731 - Amanda knows. - I was so scared to meet you. 743 00:25:30,797 --> 00:25:32,132 - I'm, like, in my head, like, I felt 744 00:25:32,199 --> 00:25:33,533 the exact same way in my head. 745 00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:35,168 I'm like, ugh. 746 00:25:35,235 --> 00:25:36,870 - It was just like, Ryan, you've been through all this 747 00:25:36,937 --> 00:25:38,038 so far. 748 00:25:38,105 --> 00:25:39,406 You're doing good, and then you're 749 00:25:39,473 --> 00:25:40,740 going to get into a relationship 750 00:25:40,807 --> 00:25:41,942 with somebody that's in recovery. 751 00:25:42,008 --> 00:25:42,943 - I understand. 752 00:25:43,010 --> 00:25:44,144 Like, if it was my son-- 753 00:25:44,211 --> 00:25:45,479 - Yeah. 754 00:25:45,545 --> 00:25:47,615 - --you know, I'd be like, hold on. 755 00:25:47,681 --> 00:25:48,849 - Are we sure about this? 756 00:25:48,915 --> 00:25:50,550 - Whoa, whoa, whoa. [laughter] 757 00:25:50,617 --> 00:25:51,718 - Can't we wait a little bit? - So I get it. 758 00:25:51,785 --> 00:25:52,653 Like, I try to be open-minded. 759 00:25:52,719 --> 00:25:54,321 Like, I get it. 760 00:25:54,388 --> 00:25:56,623 And we had a serious talk about it, and he has told me 761 00:25:56,690 --> 00:25:59,693 and I have told him, like, if you relapse, like, 762 00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:00,961 you need to leave me and vice versa. 763 00:26:01,027 --> 00:26:02,430 - Mm-hmm. 764 00:26:02,496 --> 00:26:03,931 - And he's like, if I relapse, like, I'm leaving you 765 00:26:03,998 --> 00:26:05,499 and there'll be no strings attached. 766 00:26:05,566 --> 00:26:09,302 And, you know, we agreed upon that. 767 00:26:09,369 --> 00:26:14,674 But I also feel like if you, like, love someone-- 768 00:26:14,741 --> 00:26:16,777 and, like, so all I want to do is see him do 769 00:26:16,843 --> 00:26:18,612 good, like, see him be a dad. - Mm-hmm. 770 00:26:18,679 --> 00:26:19,946 - Because, like, I've been through this-- 771 00:26:20,013 --> 00:26:21,214 - Right. 772 00:26:21,281 --> 00:26:22,349 - --literally since I was 12 years old. 773 00:26:22,416 --> 00:26:23,650 Like, it's consistency. 774 00:26:23,717 --> 00:26:24,919 The more you do it, the more you-- 775 00:26:24,985 --> 00:26:26,486 - The easier it gets type of thing. 776 00:26:26,553 --> 00:26:27,988 - It is. 777 00:26:28,054 --> 00:26:29,756 Like, you will never be happy, like, using. 778 00:26:29,823 --> 00:26:32,359 And active addiction, like, it's never-- 779 00:26:32,426 --> 00:26:33,460 - It always kind of ends up at the-- 780 00:26:33,527 --> 00:26:35,229 - It always ends. 781 00:26:35,295 --> 00:26:36,664 - The end of the road is the same every time type of thing. 782 00:26:36,730 --> 00:26:37,864 - Yes, every single time. - Yeah. 783 00:26:37,931 --> 00:26:41,034 [gentle guitar music] 784 00:26:41,101 --> 00:26:42,703 ♪♪ ♪♪ 785 00:26:42,770 --> 00:26:46,040 [tense music] 786 00:26:46,107 --> 00:26:47,574 - OK, guys. 787 00:26:47,641 --> 00:26:50,611 I just received a message from my mom's therapist 788 00:26:50,678 --> 00:26:52,713 at the treatment center, and she says that she's 789 00:26:52,779 --> 00:26:54,581 gonna give me a call. 790 00:26:54,648 --> 00:26:56,483 She's basically telling me that my mom 791 00:26:56,550 --> 00:26:57,818 isn't doing too well. 792 00:26:57,885 --> 00:26:59,419 And I'm a little confused, because I 793 00:26:59,486 --> 00:27:02,756 personally thought that everything has been going well. 794 00:27:02,823 --> 00:27:04,725 This is just stressing me out. 795 00:27:04,792 --> 00:27:08,596 [cell phone rings] 796 00:27:08,662 --> 00:27:09,630 Hello? 797 00:27:09,696 --> 00:27:11,231 - Hey, it's me. 798 00:27:11,298 --> 00:27:12,232 - Hey, how are you? 799 00:27:12,299 --> 00:27:13,534 - Good. 800 00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:15,235 So, yeah, I went over there right now. 801 00:27:15,302 --> 00:27:16,770 They told me she didn't do any of their groups 802 00:27:16,837 --> 00:27:18,239 or anything today. 803 00:27:18,305 --> 00:27:19,639 - Why? - Yeah. 804 00:27:19,706 --> 00:27:20,974 I mean, this is ridiculous. 805 00:27:21,041 --> 00:27:22,877 I mean, she's not doing anything. 806 00:27:22,943 --> 00:27:24,812 - So, like, what is she doing, just sitting there and being 807 00:27:24,878 --> 00:27:26,546 silent the whole time? 808 00:27:26,613 --> 00:27:29,016 - So she's just being in a bad mood 809 00:27:29,083 --> 00:27:31,352 or she'll go outside with a blanket wrapped around her. 810 00:27:31,418 --> 00:27:33,987 And I just ignore her, 'cause I'm not gonna deal with that. 811 00:27:34,054 --> 00:27:36,723 I said, you know, Roxy, this isn't doing any good. 812 00:27:36,790 --> 00:27:38,425 I'm not doing this anymore. 813 00:27:38,492 --> 00:27:40,461 While you're here, you've got to work this program. 814 00:27:40,527 --> 00:27:41,729 - Wow. 815 00:27:41,795 --> 00:27:43,630 She's been lying to us for so long. 816 00:27:43,697 --> 00:27:49,002 ♪♪ ♪♪ 817 00:27:52,939 --> 00:27:55,943 [rock music] 818 00:27:56,010 --> 00:27:57,511 - ♪♪ The things that you say ♪♪ 819 00:27:57,578 --> 00:27:59,513 ♪♪ And the way you react ♪♪ 820 00:27:59,580 --> 00:28:01,314 ♪♪ You learn your own patterns ♪♪ 821 00:28:01,381 --> 00:28:03,917 ♪♪ And trace them all back to the sword ♪♪ 822 00:28:03,984 --> 00:28:06,253 - Going through IVF while running a new gym 823 00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:07,854 is gonna be a lot. 824 00:28:07,921 --> 00:28:09,824 - I'll do your classes. I'll go in there and jump. 825 00:28:09,890 --> 00:28:11,124 Hey! Hey! 826 00:28:11,191 --> 00:28:14,161 Mack is not here, but I am here. 827 00:28:14,228 --> 00:28:16,463 Mack is not here, but I am here. 828 00:28:16,529 --> 00:28:18,065 To the right, to the right, to the right. 829 00:28:18,132 --> 00:28:20,100 To the left-- 830 00:28:20,167 --> 00:28:21,134 - Yeah. - Yeah. 831 00:28:21,201 --> 00:28:22,736 - You look stressed out. 832 00:28:22,803 --> 00:28:26,540 - Yeah, I am, because there's more medication involved 833 00:28:26,607 --> 00:28:29,143 that puts my diabetes at risk. 834 00:28:29,209 --> 00:28:31,111 There's so much that goes into this. 835 00:28:31,178 --> 00:28:33,747 But when I say we're talking about 836 00:28:33,814 --> 00:28:36,383 medicine that's going to mess with my mental health-- 837 00:28:36,449 --> 00:28:37,884 - I mean, it's not necessarily that you're 838 00:28:37,951 --> 00:28:39,720 gonna end up back there. 839 00:28:39,786 --> 00:28:41,054 There's a possibility. 840 00:28:41,121 --> 00:28:42,622 At the end of the day, like, I wouldn't just 841 00:28:42,689 --> 00:28:45,392 have you go through this whole thing on your own. 842 00:28:45,458 --> 00:28:48,329 - What if I go so crazy you will leave me? 843 00:28:48,395 --> 00:28:51,398 What if I just do and say crazy things? 844 00:28:51,464 --> 00:28:53,333 I mean, Josh literally couldn't handle it. 845 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:54,668 He just left. 846 00:28:54,735 --> 00:28:56,270 Like, he was like, this is too much. 847 00:28:56,337 --> 00:28:59,206 I don't-- I can't be with someone depressed. 848 00:29:01,708 --> 00:29:05,446 - I ain't going nowhere, Mackie Boo. 849 00:29:05,513 --> 00:29:08,581 We just got to do our best to get to where we want to. 850 00:29:08,648 --> 00:29:11,518 - I know that, like, you're so good at shutting 851 00:29:11,585 --> 00:29:14,755 down any negativity and just, like, keeping positive. 852 00:29:14,822 --> 00:29:15,989 And I love you for that. 853 00:29:16,056 --> 00:29:17,558 - Yeah, which is different for you, though. 854 00:29:17,625 --> 00:29:19,894 - Sometimes, though, you need to let me just let 855 00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:21,829 out some negative emotions. 856 00:29:21,895 --> 00:29:26,166 - ♪♪ Write the same story over again ♪♪ 857 00:29:26,233 --> 00:29:27,567 - I love Khesanio. 858 00:29:27,634 --> 00:29:30,571 But anytime I try to explain my fears, 859 00:29:30,638 --> 00:29:33,740 his response is simply, let's just be positive. 860 00:29:33,807 --> 00:29:35,542 [laughs] So that's hard. 861 00:29:35,609 --> 00:29:38,245 But Khesanio is my rock. 862 00:29:38,311 --> 00:29:41,315 I think that's the only reason I'm even willing to do this, 863 00:29:41,382 --> 00:29:45,519 is because I know I do have a solid partner. 864 00:29:45,586 --> 00:29:48,655 I am going to see an endocrinologist, a doctor 865 00:29:48,722 --> 00:29:50,758 who specializes in diabetes, 866 00:29:50,825 --> 00:29:53,093 to make sure IVF is safe for me. 867 00:29:53,159 --> 00:29:58,465 I am definitely scared, but this is my best shot at having 868 00:29:58,532 --> 00:30:01,368 a baby with Khesanio. 869 00:30:01,434 --> 00:30:02,936 - ♪♪ Take my hand ♪♪ 870 00:30:03,003 --> 00:30:04,371 ♪♪ Let's move together ♪♪ 871 00:30:04,438 --> 00:30:07,674 ♪♪ We don't have to walk alone ♪♪ 872 00:30:07,741 --> 00:30:12,446 - Come on, my pocket full of sunshine. 873 00:30:12,512 --> 00:30:14,515 - Why does it stink in here? 874 00:30:14,582 --> 00:30:15,949 - Today, we're picking up your sisters 875 00:30:16,016 --> 00:30:18,886 and going to their gynecologist appointment. 876 00:30:18,952 --> 00:30:20,387 It's a doctor's appointment. 877 00:30:20,454 --> 00:30:22,356 You'll learn more about it the older you get there, 878 00:30:22,422 --> 00:30:23,456 soon-to-be middle-schooler. 879 00:30:23,523 --> 00:30:25,159 - I already know about it. 880 00:30:25,226 --> 00:30:28,128 [light music] 881 00:30:28,195 --> 00:30:30,730 ♪♪ ♪♪ 882 00:30:30,797 --> 00:30:31,899 - Hello. 883 00:30:31,966 --> 00:30:34,034 - Hi, baby. 884 00:30:34,101 --> 00:30:35,302 Hi, Aleeah. 885 00:30:35,368 --> 00:30:36,837 - Where are you going? 886 00:30:36,904 --> 00:30:38,405 - We got to get to the gynecologist appointment. 887 00:30:38,472 --> 00:30:39,840 Are you guys ready for it? - Yeah. 888 00:30:39,906 --> 00:30:41,341 - OK. 889 00:30:41,408 --> 00:30:42,276 Do you guys want me to go in there with you? 890 00:30:42,343 --> 00:30:43,944 - Yeah. - Yeah. 891 00:30:44,011 --> 00:30:46,279 - I'll do my best to bounce back and forth to each room 892 00:30:46,346 --> 00:30:47,715 since it's your first appointment. 893 00:30:47,781 --> 00:30:49,649 But the older you get, the more independent 894 00:30:49,716 --> 00:30:52,753 you'll become when going to your doctor's appointments. 895 00:30:52,820 --> 00:30:53,720 - How's it gonna be? 896 00:30:53,787 --> 00:30:55,889 - It won't be invasive at all. 897 00:30:55,956 --> 00:30:59,360 Basically, you're just gonna get established with them. 898 00:30:59,427 --> 00:31:00,927 - All right. 899 00:31:00,994 --> 00:31:02,362 - You guys got this. 900 00:31:02,429 --> 00:31:06,199 - ♪♪ We all get by on a little love ♪♪ 901 00:31:06,266 --> 00:31:10,404 ♪♪ ♪♪ 902 00:31:10,471 --> 00:31:11,505 - Sit there. 903 00:31:11,572 --> 00:31:12,940 - Addie made you guys something. 904 00:31:13,007 --> 00:31:14,207 - Oh. - Careful. 905 00:31:14,274 --> 00:31:15,308 - Is it hot? - Thank you. 906 00:31:15,375 --> 00:31:16,377 - Yeah. It's hot chocolate. 907 00:31:16,444 --> 00:31:18,646 - Grab it by the handle. - Hot. 908 00:31:18,712 --> 00:31:20,014 - So I wanted to check in on you guys, too. 909 00:31:20,081 --> 00:31:21,047 So was it scary? 910 00:31:21,114 --> 00:31:22,182 - No. - No? 911 00:31:22,249 --> 00:31:23,317 - Not really. 912 00:31:23,384 --> 00:31:24,518 I mean, going in was kind of-- 913 00:31:24,584 --> 00:31:25,786 - Just nerve-racking? 914 00:31:25,853 --> 00:31:26,953 - Yeah. 915 00:31:27,020 --> 00:31:28,288 But once you talk to them, they don't 916 00:31:28,355 --> 00:31:29,857 make you feel like you're new. 917 00:31:29,923 --> 00:31:31,825 They make you feel like you've been there for years. 918 00:31:31,892 --> 00:31:34,428 - Was there anything that you learned at the doctor's office 919 00:31:34,494 --> 00:31:36,297 that isn't taught in school? 920 00:31:36,363 --> 00:31:38,131 - I knew all of it from you. 921 00:31:38,198 --> 00:31:40,201 But the school didn't teach me anything about it. 922 00:31:40,267 --> 00:31:41,936 - No. 923 00:31:42,002 --> 00:31:44,004 - I don't think that it's fair that other parents don't 924 00:31:44,070 --> 00:31:45,306 teach their kids this stuff. 925 00:31:45,372 --> 00:31:46,806 - I mean, there's a lot of girls, 926 00:31:46,873 --> 00:31:48,575 especially at your school-- and we've had 927 00:31:48,642 --> 00:31:51,278 conversations about it-- that don't have this access. 928 00:31:51,344 --> 00:31:53,681 - I think when you're in sixth grade 929 00:31:53,747 --> 00:31:55,616 you should know everything. Like, there should be-- 930 00:31:55,683 --> 00:31:57,284 - Really? - I agree. 931 00:31:57,351 --> 00:31:58,686 - What do you guys think that we could 932 00:31:58,752 --> 00:32:02,289 do to help change the access that women 933 00:32:02,356 --> 00:32:04,458 do have in our area, or girls? 934 00:32:04,525 --> 00:32:05,692 - We could change laws. 935 00:32:05,759 --> 00:32:06,960 - Yeah. 936 00:32:07,027 --> 00:32:08,295 They could learn about it in school more. 937 00:32:08,362 --> 00:32:09,964 - Yeah. 938 00:32:10,030 --> 00:32:11,998 - So we can look up local state delegates, legislators, 939 00:32:12,065 --> 00:32:15,536 and reach out to them and voice our concerns and what 940 00:32:15,602 --> 00:32:18,639 we would like to see happen. 941 00:32:18,706 --> 00:32:20,340 If I was you, Aleeah, I would look up 942 00:32:20,407 --> 00:32:23,710 Charleston, West Virginia, lawmakers, female lawmakers. 943 00:32:23,777 --> 00:32:25,145 - I mean, I found Kayla Young. 944 00:32:25,211 --> 00:32:26,146 - Yes. 945 00:32:26,212 --> 00:32:27,714 Love her. 946 00:32:27,781 --> 00:32:29,850 If you're serious about this, send her a message. 947 00:32:29,917 --> 00:32:31,385 Hey, Kayla Young. 948 00:32:31,451 --> 00:32:33,019 Be like, I have some concerns about, you know, 949 00:32:33,086 --> 00:32:37,891 women's health if you're willing to help us. 950 00:32:37,958 --> 00:32:38,859 You messaged her? 951 00:32:38,926 --> 00:32:42,529 OK, my future little lawmaker. 952 00:32:42,596 --> 00:32:44,665 Teens will be teens. 953 00:32:44,732 --> 00:32:47,901 And if I would have had sex education in school, 954 00:32:47,968 --> 00:32:49,770 maybe I wouldn't have been a teen mom. 955 00:32:49,836 --> 00:32:54,208 There were dreams I had that didn't happen because I 956 00:32:54,274 --> 00:32:55,809 had an unplanned pregnancy. 957 00:32:55,876 --> 00:32:57,811 And I can teach them all day, every day. 958 00:32:57,878 --> 00:33:01,348 But that's why I still think it's important to have 959 00:33:01,415 --> 00:33:05,652 comprehensive sexual education and a gynecologist 960 00:33:05,719 --> 00:33:08,188 for them to go to. 961 00:33:08,255 --> 00:33:12,292 [gentle music] 962 00:33:12,359 --> 00:33:15,362 - ♪♪ Are you keeping your door open? ♪♪ 963 00:33:15,429 --> 00:33:18,131 - So after the phone call with my mom's therapist, 964 00:33:18,198 --> 00:33:21,168 they suggested that me and Brittany and my mom 965 00:33:21,235 --> 00:33:24,771 do a virtual therapy session over the phone to figure 966 00:33:24,838 --> 00:33:26,440 out what's been going on. 967 00:33:26,506 --> 00:33:27,974 I was shocked, because all the other phone 968 00:33:28,041 --> 00:33:30,344 calls that I had with my mom were good phone calls. 969 00:33:30,411 --> 00:33:32,446 Like, she seemed happy. 970 00:33:32,513 --> 00:33:33,546 She seemed alive. 971 00:33:33,613 --> 00:33:34,982 She even sounded different. 972 00:33:35,048 --> 00:33:38,451 So, to me, I took that as that was all a front. 973 00:33:38,518 --> 00:33:39,520 Hi. 974 00:33:39,587 --> 00:33:40,788 - I bring goodies. 975 00:33:40,855 --> 00:33:41,922 - I wanted to show you the pool. 976 00:33:41,989 --> 00:33:43,123 - Mm, let me see. 977 00:33:43,189 --> 00:33:44,524 - Let's go outside so I can show you. 978 00:33:44,591 --> 00:33:48,061 Hey, look at how cute this is. 979 00:33:48,128 --> 00:33:49,129 Is it a vibe? 980 00:33:49,196 --> 00:33:50,898 This is gonna be so fun. 981 00:33:50,964 --> 00:33:52,866 - Me and my Lupus are gonna have a great time this summer. 982 00:33:52,933 --> 00:33:55,102 - Are you ready for the session today? 983 00:33:55,169 --> 00:33:57,271 Do you have anything you may want to say to her? 984 00:33:57,338 --> 00:33:58,305 - Yeah. 985 00:33:58,372 --> 00:34:00,006 I don't like her. 986 00:34:00,073 --> 00:34:01,741 She's a liar and I don't trust her, 'cause how she pretend she 987 00:34:01,808 --> 00:34:03,144 was doing good on the phone to you. 988 00:34:03,210 --> 00:34:04,612 - Yeah, and then she really wasn't. 989 00:34:04,678 --> 00:34:06,013 - Like, I'm not having that. 990 00:34:06,079 --> 00:34:07,648 - I think I just want to, like, ask her, 991 00:34:07,715 --> 00:34:09,115 like, what's really going on with you? 992 00:34:09,182 --> 00:34:11,084 Like, what's the tea? 'Cause we're lost here. 993 00:34:11,151 --> 00:34:12,552 - The tea is gonna be lies, girl. 994 00:34:12,619 --> 00:34:14,221 Why are you even asking? 995 00:34:14,288 --> 00:34:15,456 - Well, she can't lie because somebody's gonna be there. 996 00:34:15,523 --> 00:34:16,757 - I don't want-- 997 00:34:16,823 --> 00:34:18,191 I want my life to be stress-free. 998 00:34:18,258 --> 00:34:19,526 I'm gonna tell her, you bring me no peace-- 999 00:34:19,593 --> 00:34:20,628 - Mm-hmm. - --just chaos. 1000 00:34:20,694 --> 00:34:21,862 So stay the [bleep] away. 1001 00:34:21,929 --> 00:34:24,197 [phone rings] - Oh, [bleep]. 1002 00:34:29,469 --> 00:34:30,438 Hello? 1003 00:34:30,504 --> 00:34:31,472 - Hey, Bri. 1004 00:34:31,538 --> 00:34:32,939 - Hi. 1005 00:34:33,006 --> 00:34:35,342 - Are you ready to merge with me and Brittany? 1006 00:34:35,409 --> 00:34:38,312 - Yeah, she's actually here with me right now. 1007 00:34:38,379 --> 00:34:45,518 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1008 00:34:46,987 --> 00:34:49,089 - I don't give a [bleep] what you say, Roxanne. 1009 00:34:49,156 --> 00:34:51,625 Because at the end of the day, you 1010 00:34:51,692 --> 00:34:53,794 have never been a good parent. 1011 00:34:53,860 --> 00:34:55,228 You're just selfish, Mom. 1012 00:34:55,295 --> 00:34:57,731 [bleep]. 1013 00:34:57,798 --> 00:34:59,332 I'm [bleep] out of here. 1014 00:34:59,399 --> 00:35:01,902 - I told her how I felt. 1015 00:35:01,969 --> 00:35:04,572 [bleep] out of here, bitch. You're not [bleep] my life. 1016 00:35:04,638 --> 00:35:06,139 They were like, oh, we're working 1017 00:35:06,206 --> 00:35:07,875 on her breathing exercises to get into her trauma. 1018 00:35:07,942 --> 00:35:10,111 And I said, can I say something? 1019 00:35:10,177 --> 00:35:12,346 I don't give a [bleep] about her breathing exercises 1020 00:35:12,412 --> 00:35:13,747 or her mother[bleep] trauma. 1021 00:35:13,814 --> 00:35:15,216 Don't want you in my life if you're going 1022 00:35:15,282 --> 00:35:17,351 to keep up the bull[bleep]. 1023 00:35:17,417 --> 00:35:18,719 So, yeah, that's how I feel. 1024 00:35:18,786 --> 00:35:19,953 Case closed. 1025 00:35:28,195 --> 00:35:31,131 [somber music] 1026 00:35:31,198 --> 00:35:32,533 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1027 00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:34,835 - My sister just went off on my mom. 1028 00:35:34,902 --> 00:35:36,970 And then my mom is saying all these mean things 1029 00:35:37,037 --> 00:35:40,574 to my sister like [bleep] you, shut the [bleep] up. 1030 00:35:40,641 --> 00:35:42,876 Like, it was just a back and forth thing. 1031 00:35:42,943 --> 00:35:46,680 We have, like, this, like, toxic triangle going on 1032 00:35:46,747 --> 00:35:49,182 and it has to stop. 1033 00:35:50,851 --> 00:35:53,387 - Did you tell that to your mom? 1034 00:35:53,454 --> 00:35:56,556 [tense music] 1035 00:35:58,659 --> 00:36:01,128 - She understood because I have kids. 1036 00:36:01,194 --> 00:36:04,030 And they play a big role in my kids' life, 1037 00:36:04,097 --> 00:36:07,634 both my mom and my sister. 1038 00:36:07,701 --> 00:36:10,170 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1039 00:36:10,237 --> 00:36:12,172 It's too much to handle. 1040 00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:14,808 We had an hour to talk to my mom and she hung up 1041 00:36:14,875 --> 00:36:16,509 30 minutes in. 1042 00:36:16,576 --> 00:36:18,678 And we didn't even really get to talk about anything. 1043 00:36:18,745 --> 00:36:20,580 My mom's time there is very limited. 1044 00:36:20,647 --> 00:36:21,882 And then why am I the only one that 1045 00:36:21,949 --> 00:36:24,184 is, like, acting like an [bleep] adult 1046 00:36:24,251 --> 00:36:26,153 in this situation? 1047 00:36:26,219 --> 00:36:29,990 It's unfortunate because there's kids involved. 1048 00:36:30,057 --> 00:36:33,627 It's literally just me and the two girls 1049 00:36:33,694 --> 00:36:36,730 and my mom and my sister. 1050 00:36:36,797 --> 00:36:40,300 At the end of the day, we all have one goal. 1051 00:36:40,367 --> 00:36:42,770 And that's for everybody to be able to get 1052 00:36:42,837 --> 00:36:45,472 along and come together as a big, happy family. 1053 00:36:45,539 --> 00:36:47,340 And if we all have the same goal in mind, 1054 00:36:47,407 --> 00:36:50,777 why are we all not working together to make that happen? 1055 00:36:50,844 --> 00:36:53,847 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1056 00:36:57,752 --> 00:37:00,787 [Layup's "Feels Like Family"] 1057 00:37:00,854 --> 00:37:07,261 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1058 00:37:07,328 --> 00:37:11,598 - Trying to decide what area will 1059 00:37:11,665 --> 00:37:14,568 be the next declutter area, but I can't overthink it. 1060 00:37:14,635 --> 00:37:16,169 Because if I overthink it, I'll get 1061 00:37:16,236 --> 00:37:18,071 overwhelmed and not want to do it. 1062 00:37:18,138 --> 00:37:19,640 - How did lunch go with Amanda? 1063 00:37:19,707 --> 00:37:20,641 - It was good. 1064 00:37:20,708 --> 00:37:21,709 I don't know. 1065 00:37:21,776 --> 00:37:23,510 She's just really easy to talk to. 1066 00:37:23,577 --> 00:37:25,779 Like, I just feel like they are both very much aware 1067 00:37:25,846 --> 00:37:29,650 that you're supposed to be in recovery for a year 1068 00:37:29,716 --> 00:37:31,752 before you get into a relationship. 1069 00:37:31,819 --> 00:37:33,787 But, I mean, they're already like, nine months into it. 1070 00:37:33,854 --> 00:37:35,256 At this point, I mean, what are you 1071 00:37:35,322 --> 00:37:37,224 gonna do, break up for a few months 1072 00:37:37,290 --> 00:37:38,959 till they're both out a year? Like-- 1073 00:37:39,025 --> 00:37:40,260 - Let me ask you this. 1074 00:37:40,327 --> 00:37:41,428 Does it make you nervous now they've 1075 00:37:41,495 --> 00:37:43,097 been together for a while? 1076 00:37:43,163 --> 00:37:47,234 It's almost like, we don't have to worry about just Ryan-- 1077 00:37:47,301 --> 00:37:48,235 - Yeah. 1078 00:37:48,302 --> 00:37:50,971 - --but Amanda too. 1079 00:37:51,037 --> 00:37:52,639 - I mean, yeah. 1080 00:37:52,706 --> 00:37:55,909 - It seems like things are going really well and headed 1081 00:37:55,976 --> 00:37:57,744 in the right direction, that it would 1082 00:37:57,811 --> 00:38:00,647 kind of be devastating to have a setback like that. 1083 00:38:00,714 --> 00:38:02,883 - I would be lying if I said it didn't-- 1084 00:38:02,950 --> 00:38:03,917 - Right. 1085 00:38:03,984 --> 00:38:05,419 - --worry me. 1086 00:38:05,486 --> 00:38:08,021 But, at the same time, I think it's out of my control. 1087 00:38:08,088 --> 00:38:13,694 So I'm not gonna let the worry or the anxiety control me. 1088 00:38:13,761 --> 00:38:14,728 - Yeah. 1089 00:38:14,795 --> 00:38:16,797 - You know? 1090 00:38:16,864 --> 00:38:19,966 [light music] 1091 00:38:20,033 --> 00:38:25,239 You know, it's been a very long road for Ryan, obviously, 1092 00:38:25,305 --> 00:38:26,941 but you know, for everyone. 1093 00:38:27,007 --> 00:38:29,109 - You feel good about where Bentley's at? 1094 00:38:29,176 --> 00:38:30,411 - Yeah, I do. 1095 00:38:30,478 --> 00:38:32,146 I mean, I'm having conversations 1096 00:38:32,213 --> 00:38:34,781 with Bentley as like, you can hope for the best, 1097 00:38:34,848 --> 00:38:37,384 and keep hoping, and always have hope. 1098 00:38:37,451 --> 00:38:41,422 But it's-- it's a tough road, so-- 1099 00:38:41,489 --> 00:38:43,757 From what I see with Amanda and Ryan, 1100 00:38:43,823 --> 00:38:45,859 they both really care about each other. 1101 00:38:45,926 --> 00:38:48,896 And with her past and everything, 1102 00:38:48,962 --> 00:38:53,100 she is a very positive light for not 1103 00:38:53,166 --> 00:38:55,002 only Ryan, but Bentley too. 1104 00:38:55,069 --> 00:38:57,638 But also, if this doesn't work out, 1105 00:38:57,705 --> 00:38:59,039 how will that affect Ryan's sobriety? 1106 00:39:02,709 --> 00:39:07,547 - ♪♪ Make 'em do a double take ♪♪ 1107 00:39:07,614 --> 00:39:09,449 ♪♪ Show 'em what your mama made ♪♪ 1108 00:39:09,516 --> 00:39:12,619 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1109 00:39:12,686 --> 00:39:15,922 ♪♪ Let 'em know your name ♪♪ 1110 00:39:15,989 --> 00:39:17,157 - [laughs] 1111 00:39:17,224 --> 00:39:19,326 - I can't wait to get these heels off. 1112 00:39:19,392 --> 00:39:20,828 - Pain is beauty, kid. 1113 00:39:20,894 --> 00:39:22,329 - Did you have fun? - It was great. 1114 00:39:22,396 --> 00:39:23,931 I had a blast. - Did you? 1115 00:39:23,998 --> 00:39:25,165 - Not a lot of the dad's movin' and groovin', though. 1116 00:39:25,232 --> 00:39:26,132 I'll tell you that. 1117 00:39:28,969 --> 00:39:30,838 - I'm getting old. I'm getting old. 1118 00:39:30,905 --> 00:39:31,972 That's how I know I'm getting old. 1119 00:39:32,039 --> 00:39:33,640 Raging with kids, I'm getting tired. 1120 00:39:33,707 --> 00:39:35,743 - Baltierras tearing up the dance floor. 1121 00:39:35,810 --> 00:39:37,244 - Oh, yeah. 1122 00:39:37,311 --> 00:39:39,080 Our area, everyone-- I mean, they were like, get away. 1123 00:39:39,146 --> 00:39:41,881 That was me whipping-- spinning and whipping around. 1124 00:39:41,948 --> 00:39:44,551 [laughter] 1125 00:39:44,617 --> 00:39:46,186 - Yeah, a couple of girls looked at us like-- 1126 00:39:46,253 --> 00:39:47,754 [laughter] 1127 00:39:48,655 --> 00:39:51,024 I'm stuffed and I'm tired. 1128 00:39:51,091 --> 00:39:52,525 - I told her, I was like-- 1129 00:39:52,592 --> 00:39:53,693 - And your feet were killing you, weren't they? 1130 00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:54,928 - Oh, yeah. She kept-- yeah. 1131 00:39:54,995 --> 00:39:57,931 - Welcome to heels. 1132 00:39:57,998 --> 00:39:59,833 - I think you're an awesome, kid. 1133 00:39:59,900 --> 00:40:01,468 - I think you're an awesome-- - You're so smart. 1134 00:40:01,535 --> 00:40:02,603 You're wise. 1135 00:40:02,669 --> 00:40:04,671 You think deep about things. 1136 00:40:04,738 --> 00:40:06,706 - Well, I think you're an amazing father. 1137 00:40:06,773 --> 00:40:08,008 I love you very much. 1138 00:40:08,075 --> 00:40:10,477 And you always answer my questions 1139 00:40:10,544 --> 00:40:12,346 when I get very curious. 1140 00:40:12,413 --> 00:40:14,448 I'm very grateful for you taking me to the dance. 1141 00:40:14,515 --> 00:40:18,785 - Oh, I loved it. 1142 00:40:18,852 --> 00:40:21,588 - ♪♪ I'm taking it as it comes ♪♪ 1143 00:40:21,655 --> 00:40:23,156 ♪♪ I'm splashing down ♪♪ 1144 00:40:23,223 --> 00:40:24,458 ♪♪ It's all so wrong ♪♪ 1145 00:40:24,525 --> 00:40:27,661 ♪♪ It's me I'll measure ♪♪ 1146 00:40:27,727 --> 00:40:30,531 ♪♪ But the glory comes after the fight ♪♪ 1147 00:40:30,598 --> 00:40:33,233 ♪♪ 'Cause we face it together ♪♪ 1148 00:40:33,300 --> 00:40:36,036 ♪♪ And what you feel is home now ♪♪ 1149 00:40:36,103 --> 00:40:42,443 ♪♪ You got to take it as it comes ♪♪ 1150 00:40:42,510 --> 00:40:45,545 ♪♪ I'm taking it as it comes ♪♪ 1151 00:40:45,612 --> 00:40:47,948 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1152 00:40:48,015 --> 00:40:53,887 ♪♪ I'm taking it as it comes ♪♪ 1153 00:40:53,954 --> 00:40:56,623 ♪♪ I'm taking it as it comes ♪♪ 1154 00:41:04,631 --> 00:41:06,033 - Are you gonna show your sister what they do 1155 00:41:06,100 --> 00:41:09,136 with a tampon? 1156 00:41:09,203 --> 00:41:11,672 - You might not be able to do what you want to do. 1157 00:41:11,739 --> 00:41:14,408 - I just feel like it's like a mother-son conversation. 1158 00:41:14,475 --> 00:41:16,610 - You think that's affecting your guys', like, relationship? 1159 00:41:16,677 --> 00:41:18,079 - 100%. 1160 00:41:18,145 --> 00:41:22,616 - All my time, money has been poured into this gym. 1161 00:41:22,682 --> 00:41:24,685 - I went to look at rings the other day, 1162 00:41:24,752 --> 00:41:26,920 but I want to ask you first if I can marry her. 1163 00:41:26,987 --> 00:41:29,689 [gentle music]