1 00:00:03,837 --> 00:00:05,171 - [whispering] I'm gonna snuggle the [bleep] out of you. 2 00:00:06,214 --> 00:00:07,632 - You are? Is this the plan? - Yeah. 3 00:00:07,674 --> 00:00:10,593 - David and I have been having a really good connection. 4 00:00:12,512 --> 00:00:15,515 [screams] Oh, my God! 5 00:00:15,557 --> 00:00:17,600 My ex-husband is here. 6 00:00:17,642 --> 00:00:19,519 Do you feel pretty good with us? 7 00:00:19,561 --> 00:00:21,813 - It's so hard for me to detach still. 8 00:00:21,855 --> 00:00:23,773 - Yeah. - It's complicated. 9 00:00:27,277 --> 00:00:29,821 - I know that's awkward. 10 00:00:29,863 --> 00:00:31,698 - So, even if Dede found someone else, 11 00:00:31,740 --> 00:00:33,783 you would still not be happy about it? 12 00:00:33,825 --> 00:00:35,702 - It would just take me, like, a minute. 13 00:00:35,744 --> 00:00:37,537 You know what I mean? - Yeah. 14 00:00:38,747 --> 00:00:40,665 - I'm taking it really slow with Dede. 15 00:00:40,707 --> 00:00:42,625 I can see it with Thakur. 16 00:00:42,667 --> 00:00:45,253 It still does hurt his feelings, you know, in a way. 17 00:00:45,295 --> 00:00:46,713 - I know. I like you. I want to hang out with you. 18 00:00:46,755 --> 00:00:48,298 I want to get to know you more, 19 00:00:48,340 --> 00:00:50,216 and that's the point I'm at in my life. 20 00:00:50,258 --> 00:00:53,261 - [chuckles] I am picking up what you're putting down. 21 00:00:53,303 --> 00:00:55,513 - Costa Rica Dean is like, "Hey, let's have a good time." 22 00:00:55,555 --> 00:00:57,640 At the end of the day, like I love women. 23 00:00:57,682 --> 00:00:59,309 - [screaming] 24 00:00:59,351 --> 00:01:02,479 - Dean, is this yours? Why you making that face? 25 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:04,689 - Now that Amber is in the house, 26 00:01:04,731 --> 00:01:07,150 Dean, he went from the life of the party 27 00:01:07,192 --> 00:01:09,194 to a whole different Dean. 28 00:01:09,235 --> 00:01:10,570 - Like, we're having a conversation. 29 00:01:10,612 --> 00:01:13,198 - Shut up. - What do you mean shut up? 30 00:01:13,239 --> 00:01:14,783 - Is your purpose, now that Amber is here, 31 00:01:14,824 --> 00:01:16,117 is to get back with her? 32 00:01:16,159 --> 00:01:17,744 - I can't fool myself 33 00:01:17,786 --> 00:01:21,414 and not think that she's not my first choice. 34 00:01:21,456 --> 00:01:25,335 [tango music] 35 00:01:25,377 --> 00:01:27,420 - * Shame on me * 36 00:01:27,462 --> 00:01:30,757 * Double shame on you * 37 00:01:30,799 --> 00:01:33,760 * One more piece is all I need * 38 00:01:33,802 --> 00:01:37,847 * My transformation near complete * 39 00:01:37,889 --> 00:01:40,350 * * 40 00:01:40,392 --> 00:01:44,270 - * Yeah, yeah * 41 00:01:44,312 --> 00:01:46,690 - The whole family is still here, 42 00:01:46,731 --> 00:01:49,359 and so is Ben! - Hey! 43 00:01:49,401 --> 00:01:51,528 - No one has ever been more excited. 44 00:01:51,569 --> 00:01:53,363 - I know. - If Ben's taking a shot, 45 00:01:53,405 --> 00:01:54,781 I'll take a shot. - Look what I found! 46 00:01:54,823 --> 00:01:56,700 [cheering] 47 00:01:56,741 --> 00:02:00,161 - I'm so glad Ben and I are getting another week here, 48 00:02:00,203 --> 00:02:01,830 because we have so much potential. 49 00:02:01,871 --> 00:02:05,792 And I want him to close this chapter with Angelique 50 00:02:05,834 --> 00:02:08,378 and start focusing on himself. 51 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:14,342 - * Don't you ever think I'm gonna say goodbye * 52 00:02:14,384 --> 00:02:17,721 * I ain't leaving, no, I ain't leaving * 53 00:02:17,762 --> 00:02:19,431 [laughter] - No! 54 00:02:19,472 --> 00:02:21,516 I look way too pretty right now to dunk the head. 55 00:02:21,558 --> 00:02:24,936 - I don't know. I feel like maybe you deserve a dunk. 56 00:02:24,978 --> 00:02:26,646 - So... 57 00:02:26,688 --> 00:02:28,773 - So here we are. 58 00:02:28,815 --> 00:02:30,483 Costa Rica. 59 00:02:30,525 --> 00:02:33,987 - [chuckles] - [chuckles] 60 00:02:34,029 --> 00:02:35,780 - You know what I'm saying? - She's great. 61 00:02:35,822 --> 00:02:38,616 - I always felt safe with Ben 62 00:02:38,658 --> 00:02:41,411 and felt very comfortable in this deep friendship. 63 00:02:41,453 --> 00:02:44,497 But being intimate was pretty difficult 64 00:02:44,539 --> 00:02:46,833 because I knew I married the wrong person 65 00:02:46,875 --> 00:02:49,627 and I wanted that passion and love and excitement 66 00:02:49,669 --> 00:02:52,672 and all those things that we crave in a partner. 67 00:02:52,714 --> 00:02:54,466 - I remember even before we were, 68 00:02:54,507 --> 00:02:56,009 like, really serious dating, 69 00:02:56,051 --> 00:02:57,969 I just enjoyed being around her, and she's fun. 70 00:02:58,011 --> 00:02:59,637 Like, I think we can still have 71 00:02:59,679 --> 00:03:02,640 some elements of that and not have the romance, 72 00:03:02,682 --> 00:03:04,768 and we could be okay. 73 00:03:04,809 --> 00:03:06,353 But I still want to-- 74 00:03:06,394 --> 00:03:07,729 I still want to slit his throat. 75 00:03:07,771 --> 00:03:09,689 - Yeah. - It was a joke. 76 00:03:09,731 --> 00:03:11,858 - But... - But probably too far. 77 00:03:11,900 --> 00:03:15,278 - But you know the good thing-- - And now-- 78 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:18,448 - Right now my heart is just breaking. 79 00:03:18,490 --> 00:03:20,325 It's hard for Ben to watch this, 80 00:03:20,367 --> 00:03:22,369 and he's not wrong. 81 00:03:22,410 --> 00:03:24,454 I'm just sitting here like, "Oh, my girl." 82 00:03:24,496 --> 00:03:27,707 And then I'm over here like, "Oh, poor Ben, my crush." 83 00:03:27,749 --> 00:03:30,877 You know? So, aah! This is so [bleep] weird. 84 00:03:30,919 --> 00:03:33,546 [chuckles] 85 00:03:33,588 --> 00:03:35,256 - Are these tits? - Is it? 86 00:03:35,298 --> 00:03:36,591 - [laughing] 87 00:03:36,633 --> 00:03:39,928 - As real as these titties, bitch! 88 00:03:41,429 --> 00:03:42,722 - Do we sit on the floor or on the couch? 89 00:03:42,764 --> 00:03:44,557 - I'd rather sit on the floor. 90 00:03:44,599 --> 00:03:45,892 I think it's more comfortable. - Okay, I would, too. 91 00:03:45,934 --> 00:03:47,727 - The person that I have 92 00:03:47,769 --> 00:03:49,729 my eye on is Jo. 93 00:03:49,771 --> 00:03:51,648 We just really enjoy each other's company. 94 00:03:51,690 --> 00:03:55,485 And all I want to do is just plant the seeds 95 00:03:55,527 --> 00:03:57,487 and kind of let things grow from there. 96 00:03:57,529 --> 00:03:59,572 And I hope, you know, 97 00:03:59,614 --> 00:04:01,741 we can take our friendship to a different level. 98 00:04:01,783 --> 00:04:03,827 - I don't think anything that was said tonight 99 00:04:03,868 --> 00:04:05,704 when we were all talking was something that 100 00:04:05,745 --> 00:04:08,456 any of us would have a problem saying. 101 00:04:08,498 --> 00:04:11,543 Just Amber seeming to... 102 00:04:11,584 --> 00:04:13,837 hover around or always just kind of be, like, 103 00:04:13,878 --> 00:04:16,506 not following but kind of following 104 00:04:16,548 --> 00:04:17,757 with Dean and them. 105 00:04:17,799 --> 00:04:19,050 But I could tell there's definitely 106 00:04:19,092 --> 00:04:20,760 a big shift in, like, his energy. 107 00:04:20,802 --> 00:04:22,095 - Yeah. - For sure, but-- 108 00:04:22,137 --> 00:04:23,555 I was reconciled with the fact 109 00:04:23,596 --> 00:04:25,056 that I was the lone wolf 110 00:04:25,098 --> 00:04:27,475 because now Amber and Dean had kind of cliqued off. 111 00:04:27,517 --> 00:04:30,895 But maybe I really will hit it off with Thakur. 112 00:04:30,937 --> 00:04:32,605 - Do you want anything from the kitchen? 113 00:04:32,647 --> 00:04:34,482 - You want me to do that so you don't have to, like, 114 00:04:34,524 --> 00:04:36,443 get up and walk around? - No, it's okay. I got it. 115 00:04:36,484 --> 00:04:38,069 [grunts, chuckles] 116 00:04:38,111 --> 00:04:40,113 - As you're, like-- - I can do it myself. 117 00:04:40,155 --> 00:04:42,574 [both laugh] 118 00:04:42,615 --> 00:04:46,369 [upbeat music] 119 00:04:46,411 --> 00:04:48,580 - So what you think, though? You told me communication-- 120 00:04:48,621 --> 00:04:50,331 like, y'all need to work on that. 121 00:04:50,373 --> 00:04:51,958 Have you thought about getting a chance to sit down 122 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:53,918 with Dr. Jada, both of y'all? - Yeah, yeah-- 123 00:04:53,960 --> 00:04:56,588 - That [bleep] be official, like, for sure. 124 00:04:56,629 --> 00:04:57,839 - I mean, you know what I'm saying? 125 00:04:57,881 --> 00:04:59,632 That's one thing I do like about you. 126 00:04:59,674 --> 00:05:01,926 - I'm hungry. I'm gonna try to make something. 127 00:05:01,968 --> 00:05:03,845 - You can cut me up some bananas 128 00:05:03,887 --> 00:05:06,097 and a apple or something like that? 129 00:05:06,139 --> 00:05:07,098 - No. 130 00:05:07,140 --> 00:05:08,933 - Damn, girl. 131 00:05:08,975 --> 00:05:10,977 I bring you breakfast every morning. 132 00:05:11,019 --> 00:05:12,479 - Yeah. - Hey, though, 133 00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:13,772 I'ma say this, man. You a little punk 134 00:05:13,813 --> 00:05:15,774 when your girl come around, though. 135 00:05:15,815 --> 00:05:17,525 We be sitting and talking, 136 00:05:17,567 --> 00:05:19,611 and then you just go off 137 00:05:19,652 --> 00:05:21,821 and just [bleep] the whole mood up, for real. 138 00:05:21,863 --> 00:05:23,406 - Hey, man, I can't help it, man. 139 00:05:23,448 --> 00:05:25,033 - Yeah, but help it. - What I got is special. 140 00:05:25,075 --> 00:05:26,826 You gon' get it, too. - Yeah, it's special. 141 00:05:26,868 --> 00:05:28,495 But you ain't got to be lover boy all the time. 142 00:05:28,536 --> 00:05:29,788 [bleep] let her walk past you one or two times. 143 00:05:29,829 --> 00:05:31,664 - And that's your problem, Dean. 144 00:05:31,706 --> 00:05:33,833 - I mean, but let her walk-- - You're not focused on that. 145 00:05:33,875 --> 00:05:35,168 - I mean, let her walk past sometime. 146 00:05:35,210 --> 00:05:36,711 - Now that Amber is here, 147 00:05:36,753 --> 00:05:38,505 Dean is kind of more aggressive. 148 00:05:38,546 --> 00:05:40,465 Dean knows that Devin's working on his temper. 149 00:05:40,507 --> 00:05:42,509 I don't know why he wants to keep 150 00:05:42,550 --> 00:05:43,510 poking and poking 151 00:05:43,551 --> 00:05:44,511 at my teddy bear. 152 00:05:44,552 --> 00:05:45,804 - Like, nothing against 153 00:05:45,845 --> 00:05:47,430 the lovey-dovey part, but, like, 154 00:05:47,472 --> 00:05:49,140 I like when I'm just talking to your man alone 155 00:05:49,182 --> 00:05:50,892 and then--but I hate when you come past, 156 00:05:50,934 --> 00:05:52,519 and then he just act all-- 157 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:54,062 - I mean, it's hard not to stare, baby. 158 00:05:54,104 --> 00:05:56,773 I mean... - Okay, but he-- 159 00:05:56,815 --> 00:05:58,566 - Come on, now. - Both of y'all weird. 160 00:05:58,608 --> 00:05:59,776 - That's love. 161 00:06:01,736 --> 00:06:03,530 - I'm tired. 162 00:06:03,571 --> 00:06:05,532 Got a lot on my mind right now, let's just say that. 163 00:06:05,573 --> 00:06:07,200 We need to talk more, we need to talk more, 164 00:06:07,242 --> 00:06:09,119 so I'm at the point where I need to start being 165 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:11,830 a little more selfish-- that's where my thoughts are. 166 00:06:11,871 --> 00:06:14,874 - Dede wants more. We can all feel it. 167 00:06:14,916 --> 00:06:16,710 She wants something with him. 168 00:06:16,751 --> 00:06:19,087 And Blair, he really hasn't given her the time. 169 00:06:19,129 --> 00:06:21,047 I'm feeling so bad for her. 170 00:06:21,089 --> 00:06:22,465 - I'm just like, "What the [bleep]? 171 00:06:22,507 --> 00:06:24,217 What do I do? Like, what"-- 172 00:06:24,259 --> 00:06:26,052 Not what do I do, I know what I need to do. 173 00:06:26,094 --> 00:06:27,595 I'm gonna stay true to my heart. 174 00:06:27,637 --> 00:06:29,097 That's all that matters. - Yeah. 175 00:06:29,139 --> 00:06:31,182 When you guys finally do have a conversation, 176 00:06:31,224 --> 00:06:32,684 I hope that he's like, 177 00:06:32,726 --> 00:06:35,228 "I'm not opposed to... 178 00:06:35,270 --> 00:06:37,105 moving forward." - Yeah. 179 00:06:37,147 --> 00:06:40,108 [upbeat music] 180 00:06:40,150 --> 00:06:41,609 * * 181 00:06:41,651 --> 00:06:43,570 - Good morning, good morning! 182 00:06:43,611 --> 00:06:44,696 - Whoo! 183 00:06:44,738 --> 00:06:47,574 - JoJo, looking good! 184 00:06:47,615 --> 00:06:50,160 - Come on in, come on in. - Come on over. 185 00:06:50,201 --> 00:06:52,829 All right, time is flying by. 186 00:06:52,871 --> 00:06:54,998 We're already at the halfway point of this process 187 00:06:55,040 --> 00:06:58,126 to find the one couple that's moved on from the past 188 00:06:58,168 --> 00:07:00,795 and is truly committed to each other. 189 00:07:00,837 --> 00:07:02,756 This week, we'll be ending the journey 190 00:07:02,797 --> 00:07:04,591 for not just one, 191 00:07:04,632 --> 00:07:06,593 but for two of our singles. 192 00:07:06,634 --> 00:07:08,219 - Oh. both: Oh, my God! 193 00:07:08,261 --> 00:07:09,846 - Oh, God. 194 00:07:09,888 --> 00:07:11,681 - This next elimination is going to be 195 00:07:11,723 --> 00:07:13,558 a double elimination. 196 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:15,060 I'm nervous that I could be the one to be going home 197 00:07:15,101 --> 00:07:16,728 because I've been so hung up on the drama 198 00:07:16,770 --> 00:07:18,605 between Thakur and I. 199 00:07:18,646 --> 00:07:20,482 But I don't want 200 00:07:20,523 --> 00:07:22,275 my time with Blair to end just yet. 201 00:07:22,317 --> 00:07:23,943 Like, it's just nice hanging out with him, 202 00:07:23,985 --> 00:07:25,737 and I don't want that time to end. 203 00:07:25,779 --> 00:07:27,864 - So, in honor of y'all making it this far 204 00:07:27,906 --> 00:07:29,616 and reaching the halfway point, 205 00:07:29,657 --> 00:07:31,201 there is no exercise 206 00:07:31,242 --> 00:07:32,869 because we're sending you all out on a date! 207 00:07:32,911 --> 00:07:34,662 - Yeah! [all screaming] 208 00:07:34,704 --> 00:07:37,290 Yes, whoo! 209 00:07:37,332 --> 00:07:39,125 - You guys are going on a catamaran 210 00:07:39,167 --> 00:07:41,544 to enjoy a fun day in the sun 211 00:07:41,586 --> 00:07:44,673 and snorkeling on the crystal-blue waters 212 00:07:44,714 --> 00:07:46,841 of Las Catalinas Islands, 213 00:07:46,883 --> 00:07:48,051 - There's snorkeling. 214 00:07:48,093 --> 00:07:50,679 This is what the house needed. 215 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:52,013 We needed a mental break. 216 00:07:52,055 --> 00:07:53,098 We needed no drama. 217 00:07:53,139 --> 00:07:54,265 We needed positive vibes, 218 00:07:54,307 --> 00:07:56,601 and we need to just relax. 219 00:07:56,643 --> 00:07:58,103 And I am so excited. 220 00:07:58,144 --> 00:07:59,979 - The good news doesn't end there, 221 00:08:00,021 --> 00:08:02,524 because tonight we're throwing you a party. 222 00:08:02,565 --> 00:08:05,527 - Let's get it, baby! Let's get it! 223 00:08:05,568 --> 00:08:07,987 - Let loose, have some fun. You guys deserve it. 224 00:08:08,029 --> 00:08:09,739 - Have a blast on your date, 225 00:08:09,781 --> 00:08:11,866 and we will see you later this evening, all right? 226 00:08:11,908 --> 00:08:14,035 - Yay, thank you. [applause] 227 00:08:14,077 --> 00:08:17,872 - * You know who I am, I am * 228 00:08:17,914 --> 00:08:20,166 * On that hurt, so are you with me? * 229 00:08:20,208 --> 00:08:21,876 * Make some noise * 230 00:08:21,918 --> 00:08:24,963 - * We're going on a boat, going on a boat * 231 00:08:25,005 --> 00:08:27,674 * * 232 00:08:27,716 --> 00:08:29,009 - Don't lose it. 233 00:08:29,050 --> 00:08:30,301 - Do you have any string? 234 00:08:30,343 --> 00:08:32,220 - I mean, I got my drawer string 235 00:08:32,262 --> 00:08:35,015 but I need it for my drawers. - No, I think you'll be fine. 236 00:08:35,056 --> 00:08:37,058 - Ah, pura vida. - Pura vida. 237 00:08:37,100 --> 00:08:40,186 [laughter] 238 00:08:43,606 --> 00:08:45,066 - Seeing Angelique and, like, how-- 239 00:08:45,108 --> 00:08:46,735 - Physical they are? - Physical. 240 00:08:46,776 --> 00:08:49,029 Like, they've, like, upped the PDA 241 00:08:49,070 --> 00:08:50,321 to, like, a crazy level. 242 00:08:52,073 --> 00:08:53,700 - Right now? 243 00:08:53,742 --> 00:08:55,702 - And it's just, like, very much in kind of my-- 244 00:08:55,744 --> 00:08:57,746 - In your face, yeah. - In my face. 245 00:08:57,787 --> 00:08:59,831 And I don't know. It's just--it's still painful. 246 00:08:59,873 --> 00:09:01,833 All this accelerated since I've been here. 247 00:09:01,875 --> 00:09:04,377 And now it's like just an insane amount 248 00:09:04,419 --> 00:09:06,046 of, like, torture. 249 00:09:06,087 --> 00:09:08,214 I think it's hit me now more than ever. 250 00:09:08,256 --> 00:09:10,091 - You need to talk to her and just let her know, like, 251 00:09:10,133 --> 00:09:11,843 look, it's a little in your face. 252 00:09:11,885 --> 00:09:15,138 And I see that. We all see that. 253 00:09:17,307 --> 00:09:20,226 - So what are you wanting to get out of this? 254 00:09:20,268 --> 00:09:21,895 I mean, not necessarily-- what are your intentions? 255 00:09:21,936 --> 00:09:23,396 - A sexual partner, that's it. 256 00:09:23,438 --> 00:09:25,065 - Oh, okay, cool. Perfect. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. 257 00:09:25,106 --> 00:09:26,733 Nothing more. You know, we've had all these 258 00:09:26,775 --> 00:09:28,151 deep conversations, and I was like, "Oh"... 259 00:09:28,193 --> 00:09:29,986 - You're just ready to canoodle now. 260 00:09:30,028 --> 00:09:31,196 - I don't know. I'm like, "Yeah, I don't know 261 00:09:31,237 --> 00:09:32,614 if it's really doing it for me." 262 00:09:32,655 --> 00:09:34,324 - [laughing] Shut up. - No. 263 00:09:34,366 --> 00:09:37,160 - So wait, is that your way of saying you like me, though? 264 00:09:37,202 --> 00:09:39,829 - Maybe. - [laughs] Okay, I'll take it. 265 00:09:39,871 --> 00:09:42,665 There is no denying that Thakur is charming. 266 00:09:42,707 --> 00:09:44,668 I mean, he's funny. He's endearing. 267 00:09:44,709 --> 00:09:46,294 There's definitely some attraction there. 268 00:09:46,336 --> 00:09:48,129 You know, we're taking baby steps, 269 00:09:48,171 --> 00:09:51,299 but it's something that I think we're both really excited 270 00:09:51,341 --> 00:09:53,093 to see what happens after this. 271 00:09:53,134 --> 00:09:55,095 - I thought that was your foot. I was like, "Ooh!" 272 00:09:55,136 --> 00:09:56,888 [laughter] 273 00:09:56,930 --> 00:09:59,265 "We're playing footsie on a catamaran." 274 00:09:59,307 --> 00:10:01,267 - * I'm yours, you're mine * 275 00:10:01,309 --> 00:10:03,937 * I don't ever want to leave * 276 00:10:03,978 --> 00:10:05,730 * Ooh, ooh, ooh * 277 00:10:05,772 --> 00:10:08,274 * Let's get lost in paradise * 278 00:10:08,316 --> 00:10:10,777 - * Getting drunk on the weekend * 279 00:10:10,819 --> 00:10:12,946 - Whoa, whoa, hold up! - [screams] 280 00:10:12,987 --> 00:10:15,198 - * We're just out of our minds * 281 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:17,367 * Living that young, young life * 282 00:10:17,409 --> 00:10:20,370 * * 283 00:10:20,412 --> 00:10:22,997 - Did you have fun today? - I did, I did. 284 00:10:23,039 --> 00:10:26,793 - You know, based on our last conversations 285 00:10:26,835 --> 00:10:29,379 and just, like, you know, elimination night, 286 00:10:29,421 --> 00:10:31,756 I feel like our pride is what got us 287 00:10:31,798 --> 00:10:33,800 into a divorce the first time. 288 00:10:33,842 --> 00:10:35,719 - What ultimately led to our divorce is 289 00:10:35,760 --> 00:10:37,804 I wanted to move out to LA, and, you know, 290 00:10:37,846 --> 00:10:39,889 she kind of felt that, you know, we had just 291 00:10:39,931 --> 00:10:41,808 kind of settled in in Dallas. 292 00:10:41,850 --> 00:10:43,727 We kind of were pushing our own agenda on one another. 293 00:10:43,768 --> 00:10:45,270 We fell into a resentful stage 294 00:10:45,311 --> 00:10:47,022 because one person wanted to do one thing 295 00:10:47,063 --> 00:10:49,190 and the other person didn't want to do it. 296 00:10:49,232 --> 00:10:51,860 - Do you feel like you're willing to put your pride aside 297 00:10:51,901 --> 00:10:54,070 at times so that we can grow? 298 00:10:54,112 --> 00:10:56,740 - I understand I can be hard at times. 299 00:10:56,781 --> 00:10:58,825 I'm realizing that I failed. 300 00:10:58,867 --> 00:11:02,495 For you to feel like you're not on top of the world 301 00:11:02,537 --> 00:11:05,999 when you're with me... 302 00:11:06,041 --> 00:11:08,501 that hurts me. 303 00:11:08,543 --> 00:11:11,129 And like, for me, that's the biggest reason 304 00:11:11,171 --> 00:11:13,006 why, like-- 305 00:11:13,048 --> 00:11:16,217 like, why I had to divorce you... 306 00:11:16,259 --> 00:11:18,803 is because I was ashamed. 307 00:11:18,845 --> 00:11:23,224 So, instead of, like, beating a dead horse... 308 00:11:23,266 --> 00:11:26,811 I had to walk away from it... 309 00:11:26,853 --> 00:11:30,190 'cause that horse was beating me. 310 00:11:30,231 --> 00:11:34,736 [voice breaking] And I ain't want to be whupped no more. 311 00:11:34,778 --> 00:11:37,489 - And I think, going forward, 312 00:11:37,530 --> 00:11:40,492 we need to start considering each other's feelings more. 313 00:11:40,533 --> 00:11:42,202 And I think that's the first step 314 00:11:42,243 --> 00:11:45,372 of really making our marriage work. 315 00:11:45,413 --> 00:11:48,375 [dramatic music] 316 00:11:48,416 --> 00:11:53,380 * * 317 00:11:53,421 --> 00:11:55,173 - Should we have a seat? 318 00:11:55,215 --> 00:11:57,801 That was pretty amazing today. - It was incredible. 319 00:11:57,842 --> 00:12:00,470 - Um... - Yeah, did you have fun? 320 00:12:00,512 --> 00:12:02,389 - I mean, today's been a little weird. 321 00:12:02,430 --> 00:12:05,767 I mean, obviously you and David, like, 322 00:12:05,809 --> 00:12:09,854 the constant PDA, like, right in front of me... 323 00:12:09,896 --> 00:12:11,439 it's just been really hard. 324 00:12:11,481 --> 00:12:14,359 I just don't want to, like, be around it and see it. 325 00:12:14,401 --> 00:12:15,902 - Yeah, I understand that. 326 00:12:15,944 --> 00:12:17,904 - But I've also, like, I've seen you 327 00:12:17,946 --> 00:12:19,447 where you've fallen for some people 328 00:12:19,489 --> 00:12:21,533 and, like, really quickly, 329 00:12:21,574 --> 00:12:26,371 and then it can kind of, like, fizzle out. 330 00:12:26,413 --> 00:12:29,290 - I am trying to enjoy this experience. 331 00:12:29,332 --> 00:12:31,126 [voice breaking] It's just hard, it's hard. 332 00:12:31,167 --> 00:12:32,460 To tell you the truth, 333 00:12:32,502 --> 00:12:34,796 me and David's connection's growing, 334 00:12:34,838 --> 00:12:38,008 and I'm feeling really strongly for him. 335 00:12:38,049 --> 00:12:39,509 Why not get excited? 336 00:12:39,551 --> 00:12:42,429 Even if it goes tomorrow, why not be excited 337 00:12:42,470 --> 00:12:44,139 and feel that? - Yeah. 338 00:12:44,180 --> 00:12:47,017 - Why stifle it to make someone else comfortable? 339 00:12:47,058 --> 00:12:49,394 It would be like, "Oh, I'm gonna hold back." 340 00:12:49,436 --> 00:12:51,021 I'm not holding back. 341 00:12:51,062 --> 00:12:53,106 I don't want to hold back. 342 00:12:53,148 --> 00:12:57,277 * * 343 00:12:57,318 --> 00:12:59,446 You have to let me go, Ben. 344 00:12:59,487 --> 00:13:02,615 * * 345 00:13:02,657 --> 00:13:04,951 - I just really... 346 00:13:04,993 --> 00:13:07,287 I'm just... 347 00:13:07,328 --> 00:13:10,373 You're really hard to let go. [both crying] 348 00:13:13,043 --> 00:13:14,836 - Just as much as I can choose 349 00:13:14,878 --> 00:13:18,298 to adjust to fit what you need, 350 00:13:18,340 --> 00:13:20,842 you can choose and feel empowered 351 00:13:20,884 --> 00:13:22,886 to do what you need to do, too. 352 00:13:22,927 --> 00:13:25,096 And maybe we can meet in the middle somehow. 353 00:13:25,138 --> 00:13:26,931 - I was married for 14 years, 354 00:13:26,973 --> 00:13:29,017 so I have these unresolved feelings. 355 00:13:29,059 --> 00:13:31,644 And I didn't realize how strong they were, 356 00:13:31,686 --> 00:13:34,147 but I do have the desire to move on, 357 00:13:34,189 --> 00:13:36,483 and I hope I can get to that point. 358 00:13:36,524 --> 00:13:42,113 * * 359 00:13:42,155 --> 00:13:45,492 [both sobbing] 360 00:13:57,045 --> 00:13:57,712 - * We're party people * 361 00:13:58,296 --> 00:14:02,926 * Party people * 362 00:14:04,094 --> 00:14:06,513 - * Step up, gather round * 363 00:14:06,554 --> 00:14:09,349 * Everybody wants to see me * 364 00:14:09,391 --> 00:14:11,559 - It's party time! 365 00:14:11,601 --> 00:14:13,395 [upbeat music] 366 00:14:13,436 --> 00:14:15,021 - Yes, sir! 367 00:14:15,063 --> 00:14:16,564 - Sushi! - Aah! 368 00:14:16,606 --> 00:14:18,108 - Let's go party, let's go turn up. 369 00:14:18,149 --> 00:14:19,317 You better twerk on me. 370 00:14:19,359 --> 00:14:22,362 [all speaking at once] 371 00:14:22,404 --> 00:14:25,365 * * 372 00:14:25,407 --> 00:14:27,367 - Yeah! 373 00:14:27,409 --> 00:14:30,078 - * Got me wrapped right round your finger... * 374 00:14:30,120 --> 00:14:32,080 - * Party time, party time * 375 00:14:32,122 --> 00:14:33,331 I'm getting ready to freak. 376 00:14:33,373 --> 00:14:36,584 - Is that foreshadowing? [chuckles] 377 00:14:36,626 --> 00:14:39,170 - * What the hell am I supposed to do * 378 00:14:39,212 --> 00:14:41,631 * When you got trouble on the brain? * 379 00:14:41,673 --> 00:14:43,508 * Gravity can't bring me down * 380 00:14:47,053 --> 00:14:49,180 - It's hard for Ben to watch David and Angelique, 381 00:14:49,222 --> 00:14:51,433 but I think we all need to dance. 382 00:14:51,474 --> 00:14:53,059 That's the answer 383 00:14:53,101 --> 00:14:54,477 to all of our problems right now. 384 00:14:54,519 --> 00:14:56,688 - Okay, bitch! 385 00:14:56,730 --> 00:14:59,315 Bitch! 386 00:14:59,357 --> 00:15:01,609 [shouting indistinctly] 387 00:15:01,651 --> 00:15:04,571 - I can see his body language, and I can tell 388 00:15:04,612 --> 00:15:06,698 that he's just like, "It's time to let go." 389 00:15:06,740 --> 00:15:09,325 - * I'm gonna get wild, and I want to play * 390 00:15:09,367 --> 00:15:11,202 - Hey! 391 00:15:11,244 --> 00:15:13,288 - Whoo! - This is amazing! 392 00:15:15,707 --> 00:15:19,044 - The last few days have been really tough. 393 00:15:19,085 --> 00:15:21,629 Just seeing her with him 394 00:15:21,671 --> 00:15:24,299 has just been really painful. - Yeah. 395 00:15:24,341 --> 00:15:26,051 - And I'm sorry. Like, I really, like-- 396 00:15:26,092 --> 00:15:27,635 - Don't be sorry. 397 00:15:27,677 --> 00:15:29,721 - Ultimately, I am grateful that you've been here. 398 00:15:29,763 --> 00:15:31,389 Like, you've made it a lot easier. 399 00:15:31,431 --> 00:15:33,141 - We have, like, similar situations 400 00:15:33,183 --> 00:15:35,018 but in an opposite manner. 401 00:15:35,060 --> 00:15:37,020 At the end of the day, black and white, 402 00:15:37,062 --> 00:15:39,064 Brooks and I are divorced. 403 00:15:39,105 --> 00:15:42,525 I am single, and I deserve 404 00:15:42,567 --> 00:15:45,695 to go after what I want and what makes me feel good. 405 00:15:45,737 --> 00:15:48,031 So look at that from your ex-wife's side. 406 00:15:48,073 --> 00:15:50,033 Same [bleep]. - Yeah. 407 00:15:50,075 --> 00:15:52,660 - Angelique has literally moved the [bleep] on. 408 00:15:52,702 --> 00:15:54,454 - Yeah. - You need to, like, wake up 409 00:15:54,496 --> 00:15:56,331 and smell the coffee and be like, "It's my turn." 410 00:15:56,373 --> 00:15:59,334 - I totally get where you're coming from. 411 00:15:59,376 --> 00:16:00,835 I don't want to be the sad guy. 412 00:16:00,877 --> 00:16:02,796 I'm done with that. I really am. 413 00:16:02,837 --> 00:16:05,131 I feel really connected to Casey in this moment. 414 00:16:05,173 --> 00:16:06,675 We're learning more about each other 415 00:16:06,716 --> 00:16:08,802 and hopefully be more present 416 00:16:08,843 --> 00:16:12,055 and be more interested in her and not so, like, 417 00:16:12,097 --> 00:16:14,391 focused on all the stuff I've been dealing with. 418 00:16:14,432 --> 00:16:17,227 - There are so many things about you, 419 00:16:17,268 --> 00:16:20,105 so you deserve someone who's 100% for you, you know? 420 00:16:20,146 --> 00:16:22,357 - Yeah. Thank you. That's really sweet. 421 00:16:22,399 --> 00:16:24,693 - The ugly truth. - Right? 422 00:16:26,236 --> 00:16:28,279 - Whoa! 423 00:16:28,321 --> 00:16:29,698 - Okay. 424 00:16:29,739 --> 00:16:31,199 - Whoa. - Here we go. 425 00:16:31,241 --> 00:16:33,326 - Okay. 426 00:16:33,368 --> 00:16:34,494 - Whoa! - Damn! 427 00:16:34,536 --> 00:16:36,329 - Whoo! 428 00:16:36,371 --> 00:16:38,206 - Ow! - Yes. 429 00:16:38,248 --> 00:16:39,582 all: Whoa! 430 00:16:39,624 --> 00:16:41,209 - Okay! 431 00:16:41,251 --> 00:16:44,212 - She's got this talent, these moves, the fire. 432 00:16:44,254 --> 00:16:46,756 She's got this, like, seductive look in her eyes. 433 00:16:46,798 --> 00:16:49,342 And I'm officially horny, so there's that. 434 00:16:49,384 --> 00:16:51,136 Well, I'm lesbian. Goodbye. 435 00:16:52,721 --> 00:16:54,514 - Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa! - What? 436 00:16:54,556 --> 00:16:55,598 - Whoo! - What? 437 00:16:55,640 --> 00:16:56,766 - All of us are kind of 438 00:16:56,808 --> 00:16:58,768 with our person at this point. 439 00:16:58,810 --> 00:17:00,645 Oh, God, how many hookups are gonna happen tonight? 440 00:17:00,687 --> 00:17:02,397 [chuckles] 441 00:17:02,439 --> 00:17:03,773 - So turned on right now. 442 00:17:03,815 --> 00:17:05,150 - Oh, Ben! 443 00:17:05,191 --> 00:17:06,735 Me included. 444 00:17:06,776 --> 00:17:08,653 [cheering] 445 00:17:08,695 --> 00:17:10,447 - I am mesmerized. 446 00:17:12,365 --> 00:17:15,702 I'm sitting next to this guy that I've been connecting with. 447 00:17:15,744 --> 00:17:17,746 I'm giddy 448 00:17:17,787 --> 00:17:21,499 and feeling like a schoolgirl. [laughs] 449 00:17:21,541 --> 00:17:23,752 all: Whoo! 450 00:17:23,793 --> 00:17:26,296 - Yeah! 451 00:17:28,423 --> 00:17:31,384 - You know, we're having this great moment. 452 00:17:31,426 --> 00:17:32,802 And then I look over, 453 00:17:32,844 --> 00:17:34,763 and that bubble burst pretty fast. 454 00:17:34,804 --> 00:17:37,182 I feel stupid. 455 00:17:38,683 --> 00:17:41,770 I put myself out there to show affection, 456 00:17:41,811 --> 00:17:44,272 and I was also inadvertently sharing that moment 457 00:17:44,314 --> 00:17:45,774 with his ex-wife. 458 00:17:45,815 --> 00:17:49,152 [dramatic music] 459 00:17:49,194 --> 00:17:51,154 * * 460 00:17:51,196 --> 00:17:54,157 It's hard for me to put myself out there. 461 00:17:54,199 --> 00:17:57,410 I felt like I was letting my guard down. 462 00:17:57,452 --> 00:18:00,622 And, ultimately, it was thrown my face. 463 00:18:00,663 --> 00:18:02,207 - Just sit down. - I'm gonna get a water. 464 00:18:02,248 --> 00:18:05,293 I'm gonna get a water. - Okay, what's up? 465 00:18:05,335 --> 00:18:08,338 - Obviously I've expressed interest in you. 466 00:18:08,380 --> 00:18:09,673 And I felt like 467 00:18:09,714 --> 00:18:11,883 we were kind of on the same page, 468 00:18:11,925 --> 00:18:15,303 and it felt very natural for me 469 00:18:15,345 --> 00:18:18,723 to, like, reach out and, like, hold your hand. 470 00:18:18,765 --> 00:18:21,726 And it sucked when I looked over 471 00:18:21,768 --> 00:18:23,436 and saw that you were holding Dede's hand, too. 472 00:18:23,478 --> 00:18:24,813 - No, no, no. You have to-- 473 00:18:24,854 --> 00:18:26,481 - It made me feel like an asshole. 474 00:18:26,523 --> 00:18:28,274 - Yeah, so let me just cut you off right there-- 475 00:18:28,316 --> 00:18:29,567 No, no, no, but you're still talking. 476 00:18:29,609 --> 00:18:31,820 So let me just finish my sentence. 477 00:18:31,861 --> 00:18:34,322 When it comes to Dede and I, I love the [bleep] of her. 478 00:18:34,364 --> 00:18:37,409 And if I hold her hand, like, 479 00:18:37,450 --> 00:18:38,702 whatever, like, it just-- 480 00:18:38,743 --> 00:18:40,745 - I get y'all's dynamic. I know-- 481 00:18:40,787 --> 00:18:42,914 - We're friends. - I understand that. 482 00:18:42,956 --> 00:18:45,583 I have so much [bleep] respect for Dede. 483 00:18:45,625 --> 00:18:48,962 I'm just saying it made me feel like I looked stupid. 484 00:18:49,004 --> 00:18:50,714 - To who? 485 00:18:52,298 --> 00:18:53,842 - Everyone. 486 00:18:53,883 --> 00:18:56,511 - But, like, what about that makes you feel stupid? 487 00:18:56,553 --> 00:18:58,847 Or any stupider than you feel any other day? 488 00:18:58,888 --> 00:19:00,515 What would that-- 489 00:19:00,557 --> 00:19:02,934 what would make you feel stupid about that? 490 00:19:14,738 --> 00:19:16,448 Oh, [bleep], no. 491 00:19:16,489 --> 00:19:17,824 [bleep]. - Are you okay, baby? 492 00:19:17,866 --> 00:19:20,577 - You don't have to dress me down 493 00:19:20,618 --> 00:19:23,496 and make me feel less than 494 00:19:23,538 --> 00:19:27,709 or like I'm being silly for putting myself out there 495 00:19:27,751 --> 00:19:30,462 and not having that reciprocated. 496 00:19:30,503 --> 00:19:33,548 He made me feel about... 497 00:19:33,590 --> 00:19:36,760 I don't know, this small, like, that big. 498 00:19:36,801 --> 00:19:39,554 I'm not--I'm not okay. I'm not okay. 499 00:19:39,596 --> 00:19:41,431 Please, just--please leave. I'm not okay. 500 00:19:41,473 --> 00:19:42,974 No, I'm serious. Like, please go away. 501 00:19:43,016 --> 00:19:44,934 I'm not okay. 502 00:19:44,976 --> 00:19:47,395 - You're okay, you're okay. 503 00:19:54,611 --> 00:19:55,445 - [crying] I [bleep] hate this. 504 00:19:56,821 --> 00:19:58,823 - All right, it's okay. 505 00:19:58,865 --> 00:20:00,950 You're doing amazing right now. You're feeling-- 506 00:20:00,992 --> 00:20:02,994 - I hate this. - Honey... 507 00:20:03,036 --> 00:20:05,121 - It's not about like, you know, Thakur. 508 00:20:05,163 --> 00:20:07,791 It's like, all this is [bleep] triggers, 509 00:20:07,832 --> 00:20:10,085 because when he's sitting there holding her hand-- 510 00:20:10,126 --> 00:20:12,754 And it's like, when am I ever just, like, enough? 511 00:20:12,796 --> 00:20:14,589 Or, like, when is somebody gonna, like, step up 512 00:20:14,631 --> 00:20:16,091 to the plate for me? 513 00:20:16,132 --> 00:20:18,343 And I'm, like-- I'm putting myself out there. 514 00:20:18,385 --> 00:20:21,680 What the [bleep] was I thinking? 515 00:20:23,556 --> 00:20:24,683 - Come here, baby. Come here, come here. 516 00:20:24,724 --> 00:20:26,559 come here, sit down. 517 00:20:26,601 --> 00:20:28,061 This bullshit that's going 518 00:20:28,103 --> 00:20:29,813 in the house right now, 519 00:20:29,854 --> 00:20:32,941 it's actually bullshit that's going to help me 520 00:20:32,982 --> 00:20:34,401 rebuild that relationship 521 00:20:34,442 --> 00:20:36,569 with my ex-wife. 522 00:20:36,611 --> 00:20:38,655 I want to see these other people 523 00:20:38,697 --> 00:20:42,784 and their relationship work if it can. 524 00:20:42,826 --> 00:20:45,995 But it's allowed me to, like, 525 00:20:46,037 --> 00:20:48,581 value the relationship I once had with you. 526 00:20:48,623 --> 00:20:52,002 Like, I'm able to put my ex-wife 527 00:20:52,043 --> 00:20:54,671 in a position 528 00:20:54,713 --> 00:20:58,758 to where I can see her not competing, 529 00:20:58,800 --> 00:21:02,846 but I can see her in the mix of other women. 530 00:21:02,887 --> 00:21:05,849 - I-I came in here with one intention. 531 00:21:05,890 --> 00:21:08,101 Like, when I tell you-- like, I'm ready. 532 00:21:08,143 --> 00:21:12,605 Like, I have blossomed to a totally different person. 533 00:21:12,647 --> 00:21:15,859 When I was taking in my friends' advice, 534 00:21:15,900 --> 00:21:19,529 I should have been listening to you. 535 00:21:19,571 --> 00:21:20,989 And it hurts me 'cause I feel like, 536 00:21:21,031 --> 00:21:23,908 in so many ways, like... 537 00:21:23,950 --> 00:21:27,620 [voice breaking] Like I failed you. 538 00:21:27,662 --> 00:21:29,831 [sobs] - Nah, come on, come on. 539 00:21:29,873 --> 00:21:32,208 Hey, hey, hey. Come on, come on, come on. 540 00:21:32,250 --> 00:21:33,877 - I think the biggest thing that broke up 541 00:21:33,918 --> 00:21:35,712 our marriage was just, 542 00:21:35,754 --> 00:21:39,049 I felt like he was choosing his career over me. 543 00:21:39,090 --> 00:21:40,884 So like when I would vent to my friends 544 00:21:40,925 --> 00:21:42,969 or vent to the people close around me, 545 00:21:43,011 --> 00:21:45,096 they always would take up for me. 546 00:21:45,138 --> 00:21:46,514 And they would never point out 547 00:21:46,556 --> 00:21:48,224 my flaws and what I need to fix. 548 00:21:48,266 --> 00:21:50,143 They would just be like, "Oh, Dean, he was wrong. 549 00:21:50,185 --> 00:21:51,853 Maybe he should've done this." 550 00:21:51,895 --> 00:21:53,897 And I listened to the outsiders. 551 00:21:53,938 --> 00:21:56,816 I'm so happy to be here with you 552 00:21:56,858 --> 00:21:59,235 because I want to make this work. 553 00:21:59,277 --> 00:22:02,238 - Being around other people and their situations, 554 00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:04,949 it has allowed me to, like, appreciate you even more, 555 00:22:04,991 --> 00:22:08,953 to know that I pick you and us every time. 556 00:22:12,582 --> 00:22:13,958 - Talk to me. 557 00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:16,544 What's going on? 558 00:22:16,586 --> 00:22:17,754 - Whatever. 559 00:22:17,796 --> 00:22:19,589 You are so critical of me. 560 00:22:19,631 --> 00:22:20,965 - I'm not being critical at all. 561 00:22:21,007 --> 00:22:22,676 I'm asking what's going on. - [bleep]. 562 00:22:22,717 --> 00:22:24,761 I hate the fact that you're so critical of me 563 00:22:24,803 --> 00:22:26,179 all the time. 564 00:22:28,098 --> 00:22:29,683 - What are you thinking right now? 565 00:22:29,724 --> 00:22:31,768 What are you feeling? 566 00:22:31,810 --> 00:22:33,603 - You know what, Dede? It doesn't [bleep] matter. 567 00:22:33,645 --> 00:22:34,896 - It does matter. - It doesn't [bleep] matter. 568 00:22:34,938 --> 00:22:36,147 - It does matter. - So you know what? 569 00:22:36,189 --> 00:22:37,691 Hey, guess what. 570 00:22:37,732 --> 00:22:39,067 Your [bleep]--you have your relationship 571 00:22:39,109 --> 00:22:40,610 with my [bleep] best friend. 572 00:22:40,652 --> 00:22:42,737 So good for you, you enjoy that. 573 00:22:42,779 --> 00:22:44,864 And to have to deal with all this. 574 00:22:44,906 --> 00:22:46,658 [glass shatters] - [bleep] done with this. 575 00:22:46,700 --> 00:22:49,202 [dramatic music] 576 00:22:49,244 --> 00:22:50,870 - Thakur, hold on. Thakur, let her cool down. 577 00:22:50,912 --> 00:22:53,748 Let her cool down, let her cool down. 578 00:22:53,790 --> 00:22:55,917 - What did he say? Why-- - He goes from like, 579 00:22:55,959 --> 00:22:57,544 "You know what Dede? You're in a [bleep] 580 00:22:57,585 --> 00:22:59,045 relationship with my best friend." 581 00:22:59,087 --> 00:23:00,839 I'm sorry. I didn't plan this [bleep]. 582 00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:03,758 I'm not like, "Oh, okay, that's his best friend." 583 00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:05,218 - What was that? - What do you mean 584 00:23:05,260 --> 00:23:06,636 what is that? - Why are you breaking things? 585 00:23:06,678 --> 00:23:08,221 - Can you please walk away from me? 586 00:23:08,263 --> 00:23:09,848 - Why are you breaking things? - I need some space. 587 00:23:09,889 --> 00:23:11,641 I'm asking you right now to please walk away 588 00:23:11,683 --> 00:23:13,226 and give me some space. - I gave you--I asked you-- 589 00:23:13,268 --> 00:23:15,311 - Thakur, give me some space. 590 00:23:15,353 --> 00:23:16,771 - And you think it's appropriate 591 00:23:16,813 --> 00:23:18,106 to break [bleep] on the ground? 592 00:23:18,148 --> 00:23:19,315 - Can you just walk away from me, please? 593 00:23:19,357 --> 00:23:20,984 - Thakur. 594 00:23:21,026 --> 00:23:22,610 - No. - You've got to let-- 595 00:23:22,652 --> 00:23:24,237 Let her cool off for a second. - Just stop. 596 00:23:24,279 --> 00:23:27,157 You got upset because I said Blair was my best friend? 597 00:23:27,198 --> 00:23:30,118 Why did that trigger you? Because I said that-- 598 00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:31,953 - You're being a jerk about it right now. 599 00:23:31,995 --> 00:23:33,329 - Because--because-- 600 00:23:33,371 --> 00:23:34,914 - Why is that wrong? Why is that wrong? 601 00:23:34,956 --> 00:23:36,624 - Because you get to have a relationship 602 00:23:36,666 --> 00:23:38,835 with my best friend, but then I'm trying 603 00:23:38,877 --> 00:23:40,670 to have a relationship with somebody else, 604 00:23:40,712 --> 00:23:42,297 and you're like, "Okay, awesome." 605 00:23:42,339 --> 00:23:44,049 - What are you talking about? - Not at all. 606 00:23:44,090 --> 00:23:45,717 - I have no issues with you hanging out with Jo, 607 00:23:45,759 --> 00:23:47,093 and she knows that. 608 00:23:47,135 --> 00:23:48,887 - Whoa, whoa, whoa. Wait, wait, sorry. 609 00:23:48,928 --> 00:23:51,181 I don't mean to interrupt, I don't mean to interrupt. 610 00:23:51,222 --> 00:23:54,142 Thakur, can we talk? 611 00:23:54,184 --> 00:23:56,227 Obviously, I know Thakur is uncomfortable 612 00:23:56,269 --> 00:23:57,354 with Dede dating anyone. 613 00:23:57,395 --> 00:23:59,022 I think Dede needs 614 00:23:59,064 --> 00:24:00,899 to handle that part of her life first, 615 00:24:00,940 --> 00:24:02,650 before any kind of relationship, 616 00:24:02,692 --> 00:24:04,694 you know, where it would be just me and her, 617 00:24:04,736 --> 00:24:06,696 not me, her, and Thakur. 618 00:24:06,738 --> 00:24:09,866 I don't know--it's just, there's so much [bleep] drama. 619 00:24:09,908 --> 00:24:11,242 - It's pretty crazy. 620 00:24:11,284 --> 00:24:13,036 - You're kidding me, right? - Wait, Thakur-- 621 00:24:13,078 --> 00:24:14,829 - You're [bleep] kidding me, right? 622 00:24:14,871 --> 00:24:16,664 - No, no, no. Like, please, don't. 623 00:24:16,706 --> 00:24:18,583 No, no, no, please [bleep] don't! 624 00:24:18,625 --> 00:24:20,001 - Thakur, stop. 625 00:24:20,043 --> 00:24:21,961 Blair and you are, yes, very close 626 00:24:22,003 --> 00:24:23,713 and close friends, but also at the same time, 627 00:24:23,755 --> 00:24:25,006 you're digging at her 628 00:24:25,048 --> 00:24:26,257 for being in a relationship with him. 629 00:24:26,299 --> 00:24:28,051 - [voice breaking] I am [bleep] not. 630 00:24:28,093 --> 00:24:30,762 She--she--[sobs] 631 00:24:30,804 --> 00:24:33,181 - I don't deserve that. - No, you don't. 632 00:24:33,223 --> 00:24:35,058 And this is why you are divorced. 633 00:24:35,100 --> 00:24:36,726 Tomorrow we have a decision. 634 00:24:36,768 --> 00:24:38,311 Do you want to go? Do you feel that way? 635 00:24:38,353 --> 00:24:40,230 'Cause I don't want you to go, but if that's what makes 636 00:24:40,271 --> 00:24:42,232 you and Blair happier so that you guys 637 00:24:42,273 --> 00:24:44,234 can actually [bleep] have an actual relationship 638 00:24:44,275 --> 00:24:46,653 outside of [bleep] Thakur-- 639 00:24:46,695 --> 00:24:48,071 - We're not gonna get that opportunity. 640 00:24:48,113 --> 00:24:49,781 - Casey, please stop. 641 00:24:49,823 --> 00:24:51,908 Seriously, you give literally the worst advice. 642 00:24:51,950 --> 00:24:54,077 - Okay, cool, that's fine. Go ahead, Thakur. 643 00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:55,704 - Okay, seriously, you guys-- 644 00:24:55,745 --> 00:24:57,914 [all speaking at once] 645 00:24:57,956 --> 00:25:00,625 Because you give everybody the same [bleep] advice. 646 00:25:00,667 --> 00:25:02,085 - All right, good, yeah. 647 00:25:02,127 --> 00:25:03,753 'Cause you're a piece of [bleep], good job. 648 00:25:03,795 --> 00:25:05,422 - You give equal horrible advice to everybody. 649 00:25:05,463 --> 00:25:07,298 - Goodbye. Get some help. 650 00:25:07,340 --> 00:25:09,259 What the [bleep] is happening? 651 00:25:09,300 --> 00:25:10,969 Flame people are gone, 652 00:25:11,011 --> 00:25:12,846 but there's flames all over this [bleep] house. 653 00:25:12,887 --> 00:25:15,682 Thakur, he has started three fights right now. 654 00:25:15,724 --> 00:25:17,267 He is having a fight with Dede, 655 00:25:17,308 --> 00:25:19,019 he's having a fight with Jo. 656 00:25:19,060 --> 00:25:20,770 and he's having a fight with me. 657 00:25:20,812 --> 00:25:22,856 - We need to talk about it tomorrow, buddy. 658 00:25:30,947 --> 00:25:31,740 - * Say you'll die for me * 659 00:25:33,825 --> 00:25:36,369 * Say you're mine * 660 00:25:36,411 --> 00:25:39,789 * Got a devil on my shoulder * 661 00:25:39,831 --> 00:25:42,709 - Last night was definitely hard. 662 00:25:42,751 --> 00:25:44,294 I do feel, in retrospect, 663 00:25:44,336 --> 00:25:46,713 my behavior last night is a call for help, 664 00:25:46,755 --> 00:25:50,342 and I really need to talk to Dr. Jada. 665 00:25:50,383 --> 00:25:52,385 - Catch me up. 666 00:25:52,427 --> 00:25:54,220 - Rough night. 667 00:25:54,262 --> 00:25:56,056 All I know is that I spiraled off 668 00:25:56,097 --> 00:25:58,224 because I started to get jealous. 669 00:25:58,266 --> 00:26:00,226 I don't have any control over my relationship 670 00:26:00,268 --> 00:26:01,728 with Dede anymore. - Okay. 671 00:26:01,770 --> 00:26:02,812 - I guess that's what it boils down to. 672 00:26:02,854 --> 00:26:04,189 - So let's go with that now 673 00:26:04,230 --> 00:26:06,232 because that's not necessarily jealousy, 674 00:26:06,274 --> 00:26:07,776 that's something else. 675 00:26:07,817 --> 00:26:11,863 So is that pride? - No, it's not pride. 676 00:26:11,905 --> 00:26:13,156 I think it's fear. - Okay. 677 00:26:13,198 --> 00:26:14,866 - Because when I grew up, 678 00:26:14,908 --> 00:26:17,535 I was, like, physically abused. 679 00:26:17,577 --> 00:26:20,372 I always felt like I was... 680 00:26:20,413 --> 00:26:22,040 abandoned by my mom. 681 00:26:22,082 --> 00:26:24,876 I didn't really feel like I had any control. 682 00:26:24,918 --> 00:26:27,212 My parents did not do right by me, 683 00:26:27,253 --> 00:26:31,341 and I didn't do right by Dede. 684 00:26:31,383 --> 00:26:34,260 [somber music] 685 00:26:34,302 --> 00:26:36,096 [exhales deeply] I just want to fix it. 686 00:26:36,137 --> 00:26:38,890 [voice breaking] Like, I want to fix that. 687 00:26:38,932 --> 00:26:41,976 - Mm-hmm. - [sniffles] 688 00:26:42,018 --> 00:26:44,396 - How are you connecting 689 00:26:44,437 --> 00:26:47,107 those two events in your life? 690 00:26:47,148 --> 00:26:49,234 Your parents not doing right by you 691 00:26:49,275 --> 00:26:50,944 and you not doing right by Dede, 692 00:26:50,985 --> 00:26:53,446 - [sighs] - what's the correlation? 693 00:26:53,488 --> 00:26:56,241 - She was my family. - Mm-hmm. 694 00:26:56,282 --> 00:26:59,285 - And I betrayed her. 695 00:26:59,327 --> 00:27:02,080 - Okay, but you've taken on this burden 696 00:27:02,122 --> 00:27:07,043 of rectifying this harm that you've done to Dede, 697 00:27:07,085 --> 00:27:11,006 but it seems like she's coming to a place of closure. 698 00:27:11,047 --> 00:27:12,298 - Yeah. 699 00:27:12,340 --> 00:27:15,093 - But if you are constantly looking 700 00:27:15,135 --> 00:27:17,929 outside of yourself 701 00:27:17,971 --> 00:27:19,264 to have the validation, 702 00:27:19,305 --> 00:27:20,849 the affirmation, 703 00:27:20,890 --> 00:27:25,061 and the peace that you want, 704 00:27:25,103 --> 00:27:27,605 you're gonna be like this all the time. 705 00:27:27,647 --> 00:27:29,899 That's when you find yourself 706 00:27:29,941 --> 00:27:34,404 in this perpetual cycle of behaviors 707 00:27:34,446 --> 00:27:36,448 that can get you in trouble. 708 00:27:36,489 --> 00:27:40,452 [serene music] 709 00:27:40,493 --> 00:27:43,038 - This whole thing has been a struggle for me 710 00:27:43,079 --> 00:27:45,290 because I have had a lot to work on, 711 00:27:45,331 --> 00:27:46,958 and I still have a ton to work on. 712 00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:51,338 I'd rather put my energy and my effort into you. 713 00:27:51,379 --> 00:27:53,298 And I'd like to see 714 00:27:53,340 --> 00:27:57,260 if there are, like, you know, legs to this. 715 00:27:57,302 --> 00:27:59,262 But it would be nice to get to know you a little bit better. 716 00:27:59,304 --> 00:28:01,097 - For me, it's water under the bridge. 717 00:28:01,139 --> 00:28:02,557 I'm the queen of second chances. 718 00:28:02,599 --> 00:28:05,101 I'll give grace. 719 00:28:05,143 --> 00:28:07,312 - I appreciate that. - Just don't-- 720 00:28:07,354 --> 00:28:09,147 don't make me look like a [bleep]. 721 00:28:09,189 --> 00:28:10,940 - I think I regret letting myself 722 00:28:10,982 --> 00:28:13,443 fall into unhealthy, bad patterns 723 00:28:13,485 --> 00:28:15,153 that I've followed before. 724 00:28:15,195 --> 00:28:17,489 I feel really fortunate that I found Jo, 725 00:28:17,530 --> 00:28:19,032 and I know that I'm gonna put the work in 726 00:28:19,074 --> 00:28:21,076 that I have to put in to make myself 727 00:28:21,117 --> 00:28:23,036 the best and healthiest person that I can be. 728 00:28:23,078 --> 00:28:24,996 I love you a ton. Thank you. 729 00:28:25,038 --> 00:28:27,916 * * 730 00:28:27,957 --> 00:28:29,876 [upbeat music] 731 00:28:29,918 --> 00:28:32,337 - Can we talk? - Mm-hmm, yeah. 732 00:28:32,379 --> 00:28:34,506 - I'm sorry everything got kind of crazy. 733 00:28:34,547 --> 00:28:38,551 I really appreciate you... 734 00:28:38,593 --> 00:28:40,303 doing what you're doing for him 735 00:28:40,345 --> 00:28:42,180 and being that friend for him-- he needs that. 736 00:28:42,222 --> 00:28:44,307 He needs all of this. - Mm-hmm. 737 00:28:44,349 --> 00:28:45,684 - The progress I've seen in him, 738 00:28:45,725 --> 00:28:47,644 as difficult as things have been, 739 00:28:47,686 --> 00:28:50,230 as difficult as last night was, this has been so good for him. 740 00:28:50,271 --> 00:28:52,190 - Mm-hmm. 741 00:28:52,232 --> 00:28:53,608 - Do you feel like 742 00:28:53,650 --> 00:28:55,402 there's still stuff that needs to be resolved 743 00:28:55,443 --> 00:28:57,987 in order for you to be more open 744 00:28:58,029 --> 00:29:00,073 to something with me, for example? Like-- 745 00:29:00,115 --> 00:29:02,033 - Right, okay. That's more-- 746 00:29:02,075 --> 00:29:03,493 - That's kind of what I was trying to get into. 747 00:29:03,535 --> 00:29:06,037 - That's a good question. Okay, yeah, totally. 748 00:29:06,079 --> 00:29:07,914 Why don't you get some shoes on? 749 00:29:07,956 --> 00:29:09,374 We'll go down there so it's more private. 750 00:29:09,416 --> 00:29:11,042 - Okay, I like that idea. 751 00:29:11,084 --> 00:29:13,003 I feel like I can't be friends with Blair 752 00:29:13,044 --> 00:29:14,629 here in the house in front of Thakur, 753 00:29:14,671 --> 00:29:16,381 because he was obviously triggered 754 00:29:16,423 --> 00:29:18,341 last night, and it caught me off guard. 755 00:29:18,383 --> 00:29:20,093 I hate the situation that just puts Blair in, too, 756 00:29:20,135 --> 00:29:21,511 because that puts him in the middle of things, 757 00:29:21,553 --> 00:29:23,555 and it's very awkward and uncomfortable. 758 00:29:23,596 --> 00:29:26,016 - You know, it's just-- I expect to have, 759 00:29:26,057 --> 00:29:27,600 like, a relationship with you and Thakur 760 00:29:27,642 --> 00:29:30,186 after this just because I do like you as people. 761 00:29:30,228 --> 00:29:33,023 Like, you're both very real. And... 762 00:29:33,064 --> 00:29:34,274 - Thank you. 763 00:29:34,315 --> 00:29:37,402 - Yeah, and I do like you. I mean... 764 00:29:37,444 --> 00:29:39,195 - Like I said, I am into you. - Mm-hmm. 765 00:29:39,237 --> 00:29:40,572 - But if you don't feel like 766 00:29:40,613 --> 00:29:44,576 this is something that you are ready to... 767 00:29:44,617 --> 00:29:47,245 have more conversations about and kind of feel out, 768 00:29:47,287 --> 00:29:49,080 then I want to respect your space 769 00:29:49,122 --> 00:29:50,665 and what you need right now, too. 770 00:29:50,707 --> 00:29:55,170 - That makes total sense. It's just for me, I'm-- 771 00:29:55,211 --> 00:29:56,463 I'm just not at that point yet, you know? 772 00:29:56,504 --> 00:29:58,381 - Okay. - And I know 773 00:29:58,423 --> 00:30:00,759 it's disappointing, and it's hard to hear... 774 00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:02,677 - That's not disappointing. That's your truth. 775 00:30:02,719 --> 00:30:05,972 That's where you're at. - Yeah, I appreciate it. 776 00:30:06,014 --> 00:30:08,683 [birds cawing] 777 00:30:08,725 --> 00:30:10,393 - So how do you feel about tonight? 778 00:30:12,645 --> 00:30:15,106 - What are you thinking for elimination? 779 00:30:15,148 --> 00:30:16,358 - Like, it's something we got to do, 780 00:30:16,399 --> 00:30:17,650 and you know what I'm saying? 781 00:30:17,692 --> 00:30:19,569 Hopefully we do it the right way. 782 00:30:19,611 --> 00:30:21,154 And, you know, if we don't, 783 00:30:21,196 --> 00:30:22,781 then we'll do it the right way the next time. 784 00:30:22,822 --> 00:30:24,491 - Yeah. 785 00:30:24,532 --> 00:30:26,242 - With Blair and Dede, I just don't know. 786 00:30:26,284 --> 00:30:27,619 Sometimes it looks like he pushes away, 787 00:30:27,660 --> 00:30:29,287 and then sometimes it looks like, 788 00:30:29,329 --> 00:30:31,122 "Okay, I'm ready to do this." 789 00:30:31,164 --> 00:30:33,041 And then with Jo and Thakur, 790 00:30:33,083 --> 00:30:35,043 you would think it would be an easy decision. 791 00:30:35,085 --> 00:30:37,128 Like, okay, we know we're gonna have to eliminate Thakur. 792 00:30:37,170 --> 00:30:40,799 But I really like Jo and Thakur relationship so far. 793 00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:42,509 And I think that's exactly what he needs. 794 00:30:42,550 --> 00:30:44,719 He needs a extremely strong, confident woman. 795 00:30:44,761 --> 00:30:46,513 - I can't keep running around the house 796 00:30:46,554 --> 00:30:48,390 trying to figure out this and trying to figure out that. 797 00:30:48,431 --> 00:30:50,642 - But you have an idea, right? - Thing about me-- 798 00:30:50,684 --> 00:30:54,479 I don't want my idea to run off on someone else. 799 00:30:54,521 --> 00:30:58,316 So I'ma keep my idea until I get to the game. 800 00:30:58,358 --> 00:31:00,485 - I say Dede...off the rip. I don't care. 801 00:31:00,527 --> 00:31:03,071 I keep it straightforward. - Mm-hmm. 802 00:31:03,113 --> 00:31:05,532 - I ain't afraid of it. - That's cool, be that way. 803 00:31:05,573 --> 00:31:06,825 But I'm just saying, too, you don't have 804 00:31:06,866 --> 00:31:08,410 to run around everybody else 805 00:31:08,451 --> 00:31:09,661 for them to get to start thinking about-- 806 00:31:09,703 --> 00:31:11,329 - I ain't got to run on them, man. 807 00:31:11,371 --> 00:31:13,498 [all speaking at once] 808 00:31:13,540 --> 00:31:15,333 I don't have to run up on nobody. 809 00:31:15,375 --> 00:31:16,793 - No, I ain't saying--okay-- 810 00:31:16,835 --> 00:31:18,628 - No, what I'm saying is I don't have to-- 811 00:31:18,670 --> 00:31:20,171 - Let me slow me down so I can get you so you're not-- 812 00:31:20,213 --> 00:31:21,506 - I'm good, bro. 813 00:31:21,548 --> 00:31:22,841 - You be good, but I'ma tell you this. 814 00:31:22,882 --> 00:31:25,844 You give me your [bleep] feelings, though. 815 00:31:25,885 --> 00:31:27,679 I don't have to, baby, 'cause I respect you 816 00:31:27,721 --> 00:31:29,472 and I like you as a man, and you will not change that. 817 00:31:29,514 --> 00:31:31,391 That's what I'm saying like-- - I'm good, bro. 818 00:31:31,433 --> 00:31:33,518 - So we misunderstanding there. - Ain't no misunderstanding. 819 00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:35,645 [both speaking at once] 820 00:31:35,687 --> 00:31:38,398 - Hey, we got big, bad Dev in the back. 821 00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:39,774 - [bleep], I'll beat a bitch ass, though. 822 00:31:39,816 --> 00:31:41,443 I like that [bleep]. 823 00:31:42,694 --> 00:31:44,696 It's a joke man. [bleep] joke. - This is true. 824 00:31:44,738 --> 00:31:47,282 - A joke, dog. - Dean's an idiot. 825 00:31:47,323 --> 00:31:49,451 - Why does he even do that? 826 00:31:49,492 --> 00:31:52,078 - You see how he come in here, right? 827 00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:53,496 And I tell him exactly what it is. 828 00:31:53,538 --> 00:31:54,539 Say that [bleep] again. 829 00:31:54,581 --> 00:31:56,166 - Seeing Dean's personality, 830 00:31:56,207 --> 00:31:57,834 we see that he's an antagonizer. 831 00:31:57,876 --> 00:32:00,170 We see that it's toxic for the whole household. 832 00:32:00,211 --> 00:32:02,756 I mean, he is poking the bear. 833 00:32:02,797 --> 00:32:04,341 We're ready to get rid of Dean. 834 00:32:10,430 --> 00:32:12,849 - Let me tell you, if you keep [bleep]-- 835 00:32:12,891 --> 00:32:14,559 - Devon. - I promise you, [bleep]. 836 00:32:14,601 --> 00:32:16,561 - Devon. 837 00:32:16,603 --> 00:32:18,772 - I'ma have your ass for this [bleep]. 838 00:32:18,813 --> 00:32:20,565 You a insecure mother[bleep], man. 839 00:32:27,989 --> 00:32:28,406 [club music] 840 00:32:30,909 --> 00:32:32,786 * * 841 00:32:32,827 --> 00:32:34,245 - Knock, knock. 842 00:32:34,287 --> 00:32:35,413 - Are we interrupting something? 843 00:32:35,455 --> 00:32:37,207 - Hey, guys! - Oh, my God! 844 00:32:37,248 --> 00:32:39,250 Look at this couple right here. 845 00:32:39,292 --> 00:32:40,794 - What is up? 846 00:32:40,835 --> 00:32:42,962 - So tonight will be a double elimination. 847 00:32:43,004 --> 00:32:47,217 I truly feel like the best choice would be Thakur, 848 00:32:47,258 --> 00:32:50,178 but then again, everyone keeps sympathizing for him 849 00:32:50,220 --> 00:32:51,680 and keeps giving him chances. 850 00:32:51,721 --> 00:32:53,598 So, if I'm here to protect 851 00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:55,558 my growth and my relationship, 852 00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:58,645 Thakur, you got to go. 853 00:32:58,687 --> 00:33:02,232 - Tonight both a woman and a man will be leaving us. 854 00:33:02,273 --> 00:33:03,983 - This is a double elimination. 855 00:33:04,025 --> 00:33:06,778 So we have two very difficult decisions to make. 856 00:33:06,820 --> 00:33:08,822 We're going ladies first, so, fellas, 857 00:33:08,863 --> 00:33:11,324 I'm gonna ask you guys to step aside for a few minutes 858 00:33:11,366 --> 00:33:12,951 and give them some time to speak openly. 859 00:33:12,992 --> 00:33:15,328 [dramatic music] 860 00:33:15,370 --> 00:33:17,372 - [sighs deeply] 861 00:33:17,414 --> 00:33:18,540 - I don't want to go home. 862 00:33:18,581 --> 00:33:20,333 I feel like I've been sucked 863 00:33:20,375 --> 00:33:22,377 into, like, everything going on with Thakur. 864 00:33:22,419 --> 00:33:24,587 And I came here for more than just Thakur. 865 00:33:24,629 --> 00:33:26,589 I came here for me. 866 00:33:26,631 --> 00:33:29,509 - Where's y'all's head at on who needs to be leaving? 867 00:33:29,551 --> 00:33:31,594 Amber, let's start with you. 868 00:33:31,636 --> 00:33:33,847 - Um, Thakur. 869 00:33:33,888 --> 00:33:35,515 I think we all have felt this, 870 00:33:35,557 --> 00:33:38,476 that Thakur has prevented Dede 871 00:33:38,518 --> 00:33:40,228 from reaching her full potential. 872 00:33:40,270 --> 00:33:43,523 Just to see her last night in an emotional state, 873 00:33:43,565 --> 00:33:45,233 I can tell that she was hurt. 874 00:33:45,275 --> 00:33:47,444 I feel like Dede deserves better than that. 875 00:33:47,485 --> 00:33:50,030 - I understand. You know, I have a history with him. 876 00:33:50,071 --> 00:33:51,614 I understand the way his brain works, 877 00:33:51,656 --> 00:33:52,991 and I can see that he's still struggling. 878 00:33:53,033 --> 00:33:56,036 But Thakur also deserves the opportunity 879 00:33:56,077 --> 00:33:59,289 to strengthen his relationship with Jo. 880 00:33:59,330 --> 00:34:02,709 - Jo, do you feel like you and Thakur have a connection? 881 00:34:02,751 --> 00:34:05,879 - Yeah, we did. And I will say this. 882 00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:08,381 Thakur came and woke me up this morning. 883 00:34:08,423 --> 00:34:10,550 First thing, we squashed it. 884 00:34:10,592 --> 00:34:12,677 I've seen 885 00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:15,055 a lot of growth in Thakur, 886 00:34:15,096 --> 00:34:18,308 and I see so much potential in him. 887 00:34:18,350 --> 00:34:21,811 And it meant a lot that Thakur really reassured me 888 00:34:21,853 --> 00:34:23,563 that he, you know, 889 00:34:23,605 --> 00:34:25,315 wants to see what happens here. 890 00:34:25,357 --> 00:34:27,442 For the first time since I've been here, 891 00:34:27,484 --> 00:34:29,069 I am really excited. 892 00:34:29,110 --> 00:34:31,571 - Angelique, do you have a decision made up in your mind 893 00:34:31,613 --> 00:34:33,406 for who should go? 894 00:34:33,448 --> 00:34:35,283 Amber, I'm sure you're great, 895 00:34:35,325 --> 00:34:37,577 but I was coming into this elimination 896 00:34:37,619 --> 00:34:38,870 to vote you and Dean off. 897 00:34:38,912 --> 00:34:40,747 * * 898 00:34:40,789 --> 00:34:43,541 That was my goal, because, selfishly, 899 00:34:43,583 --> 00:34:47,420 your guys's energy is kind of [bleep] things up in the house. 900 00:34:47,462 --> 00:34:49,798 - I came here with the goal to fix my marriage. 901 00:34:49,839 --> 00:34:51,591 This is not a game to me. 902 00:34:51,633 --> 00:34:53,760 I'm not worried about being the last person standing. 903 00:34:53,802 --> 00:34:55,929 This is my life. 904 00:34:55,970 --> 00:34:58,348 As far as everybody's opinion on Dean, 905 00:34:58,390 --> 00:35:00,642 when he takes that turn on changing 906 00:35:00,684 --> 00:35:02,811 and is no longer, you know, the clown of the house 907 00:35:02,852 --> 00:35:05,730 and being the party god, they have a problem with it. 908 00:35:05,772 --> 00:35:08,400 They think that the energy in the house is bad 909 00:35:08,441 --> 00:35:11,778 because he's doing what's best for our marriage. 910 00:35:11,820 --> 00:35:13,029 - Right. 911 00:35:13,071 --> 00:35:14,864 - Dede, let's talk about you, girl, 912 00:35:14,906 --> 00:35:16,783 because you had your eye on Blair. 913 00:35:16,825 --> 00:35:18,618 Where is your head at when it comes to that? 914 00:35:18,660 --> 00:35:20,036 - Him and his integrity, 915 00:35:20,078 --> 00:35:21,705 like, it really is such a big turn-on to me. 916 00:35:21,746 --> 00:35:23,498 And regardless of what our relationship 917 00:35:23,540 --> 00:35:25,125 becomes in the future... - Mm-hmm. 918 00:35:25,166 --> 00:35:26,793 - This is where we need to be right now. 919 00:35:26,835 --> 00:35:28,628 The more time I've spent with him, 920 00:35:28,670 --> 00:35:30,046 the more that I've seen him 921 00:35:30,088 --> 00:35:31,965 stick to him and his values and his virtues, 922 00:35:32,007 --> 00:35:33,883 the more I realize that's what I needed in a man. 923 00:35:33,925 --> 00:35:35,510 All of my past relationships, 924 00:35:35,552 --> 00:35:37,595 including my relationship with Thakur, 925 00:35:37,637 --> 00:35:39,097 moved really, really fast. 926 00:35:39,139 --> 00:35:40,640 And I feel like because of that, 927 00:35:40,682 --> 00:35:42,100 I never had a strong foundation. 928 00:35:42,142 --> 00:35:43,977 So, even having that, if Blair and I are never 929 00:35:44,019 --> 00:35:46,104 anything more than friends, 930 00:35:46,146 --> 00:35:49,024 I know we're gonna be solid no matter what. 931 00:35:49,065 --> 00:35:53,153 I got to be honest, um... 932 00:35:53,194 --> 00:35:56,156 I came in thinking Dean. 933 00:35:56,197 --> 00:35:58,491 However, I do feel like what Dede said, 934 00:35:58,533 --> 00:36:00,493 they're here in this situation, they're gonna be 935 00:36:00,535 --> 00:36:02,787 the same situation outside of this house. 936 00:36:02,829 --> 00:36:04,789 So I feel like we're doing them a disservice 937 00:36:04,831 --> 00:36:06,833 by keeping them here. 938 00:36:06,875 --> 00:36:09,669 So I'm going to vote for Blair. 939 00:36:09,711 --> 00:36:11,421 - Just because we're not gonna run away and get married, 940 00:36:11,463 --> 00:36:12,839 That doesn't mean that our time here in the house 941 00:36:12,881 --> 00:36:14,549 isn't just as beneficial for our relationship 942 00:36:14,591 --> 00:36:16,176 as it is for somebody who is ready 943 00:36:16,217 --> 00:36:18,553 to just, like, get married in, like, two seconds. 944 00:36:18,595 --> 00:36:20,847 And it sucks being made to feel like, 945 00:36:20,889 --> 00:36:22,515 because we're on a different level 946 00:36:22,557 --> 00:36:24,392 with one another, like we're doing things wrong. 947 00:36:24,434 --> 00:36:26,061 - Sincerely appreciate the honesty. 948 00:36:26,102 --> 00:36:27,645 Honestly. - Yeah. 949 00:36:27,687 --> 00:36:29,522 - So let's swap you out with the guys, 950 00:36:29,564 --> 00:36:31,900 and we'll get an idea of what they're thinking as well. 951 00:36:31,941 --> 00:36:33,193 But we appreciate it. 952 00:36:33,234 --> 00:36:35,028 - Thanks, guys. - Thank you. 953 00:36:35,070 --> 00:36:38,198 - Yeah. - Welcome back, guys. 954 00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:40,450 - Which one of the ladies are you guys not vibing with, 955 00:36:40,492 --> 00:36:41,785 are you not feeling? 956 00:36:41,826 --> 00:36:43,453 - Um... 957 00:36:43,495 --> 00:36:44,996 my decision would be Amber. 958 00:36:45,038 --> 00:36:46,664 - What is it about Amber? 959 00:36:46,706 --> 00:36:48,792 - It's because she's a representation of you. 960 00:36:48,833 --> 00:36:50,627 You've got two stubborn people 961 00:36:50,669 --> 00:36:54,547 who are in denial of things that they need to work on. 962 00:36:54,589 --> 00:36:56,216 - You said we need to work on-- I appreciate it. 963 00:36:56,257 --> 00:36:57,884 - Listen. - I'm listening. 964 00:36:57,926 --> 00:36:59,552 - Let me tell you what you are! - Okay. 965 00:36:59,594 --> 00:37:01,554 - I have scrapped you, I break you down! 966 00:37:01,596 --> 00:37:03,098 Dog, you a façade! 967 00:37:03,139 --> 00:37:04,766 You came in with this persona, 968 00:37:04,808 --> 00:37:06,726 "I got this player thing. I'm this and that." 969 00:37:06,768 --> 00:37:10,438 If you that, be that 24-7! 970 00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:13,525 Be that when she in this crib! - I am that. 971 00:37:13,566 --> 00:37:16,486 - You not that! You know why you not that? 972 00:37:16,528 --> 00:37:18,238 You a joke! 973 00:37:18,279 --> 00:37:21,574 It's no [bleep] joke to waste somebody's [bleep] time here 974 00:37:21,616 --> 00:37:23,118 with this bullshit! 975 00:37:23,159 --> 00:37:24,994 - Pay attention. Please pay attention. 976 00:37:25,036 --> 00:37:27,038 - Oh, I'm paying attention. I'm ready when it's my time. 977 00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:28,581 I just got a few words to say. 978 00:37:28,623 --> 00:37:30,125 - Pick your poison, because, listen, 979 00:37:30,166 --> 00:37:31,751 everyone here has a life. 980 00:37:31,793 --> 00:37:33,545 It's just about being real. 981 00:37:33,586 --> 00:37:35,922 - I don't play about me being me. 982 00:37:35,964 --> 00:37:38,174 I didn't come here for acceptance. 983 00:37:38,216 --> 00:37:40,593 But it's not my job to convince you. 984 00:37:40,635 --> 00:37:43,805 The reason why I tell a joke... 985 00:37:43,847 --> 00:37:45,515 because I ain't one. 986 00:37:45,557 --> 00:37:47,100 - It sucks, man, you taking away from people 987 00:37:47,142 --> 00:37:48,977 that can actually do some shit. 988 00:37:56,860 --> 00:37:57,610 - It's about real connection! 989 00:37:58,570 --> 00:38:00,572 - Your problem is not with Amber. 990 00:38:00,613 --> 00:38:02,574 Your problem is with me. 991 00:38:02,615 --> 00:38:05,660 But you can't teach me or rush me 992 00:38:05,702 --> 00:38:08,079 through my process with Amber. 993 00:38:08,121 --> 00:38:10,999 All I'm asking you guys, let me have my opportunity, 994 00:38:11,041 --> 00:38:13,585 and Amber will show her-- who she is. 995 00:38:13,626 --> 00:38:15,170 And I think that it'd be something 996 00:38:15,211 --> 00:38:16,963 that you guys will respect. 997 00:38:17,005 --> 00:38:20,842 - I just know, based on kind of the vibe with Amber, 998 00:38:20,884 --> 00:38:24,095 I think we could maybe work on ourselves and progress better 999 00:38:24,137 --> 00:38:27,015 without having a negative energy in the house. 1000 00:38:27,057 --> 00:38:28,975 So I'd vote Amber. 1001 00:38:29,017 --> 00:38:31,853 - Okay. Thakur, what do you think? 1002 00:38:31,895 --> 00:38:34,647 - Amber, she definitely has some growing up to do. 1003 00:38:34,689 --> 00:38:38,943 As much as I think it would be easy to write Amber off, 1004 00:38:38,985 --> 00:38:41,112 she does deserve to be given the opportunity 1005 00:38:41,154 --> 00:38:42,906 to explore herself. 1006 00:38:42,947 --> 00:38:45,325 And after that, if she really wants to be with Dean, 1007 00:38:45,367 --> 00:38:46,701 she's got to work on that, too. 1008 00:38:46,743 --> 00:38:47,994 - I can appreciate that. 1009 00:38:48,036 --> 00:38:50,205 - The other person who I think 1010 00:38:50,246 --> 00:38:52,040 hasn't been a part of the discussion, 1011 00:38:52,082 --> 00:38:53,875 but I think should be a part of the discussion is Dede. 1012 00:38:53,917 --> 00:38:55,168 - [clicks tongue] 1013 00:38:55,210 --> 00:38:58,338 - I still have really bad jealousy issues, 1014 00:38:58,380 --> 00:38:59,964 without question. 1015 00:39:00,006 --> 00:39:02,217 Doesn't matter how tight I am with Blair. 1016 00:39:02,258 --> 00:39:03,802 It doesn't matter how much I love Dede 1017 00:39:03,843 --> 00:39:06,805 and how much I want to see her happy. 1018 00:39:06,846 --> 00:39:10,350 - Blair, where has it gone in this last week together? 1019 00:39:10,392 --> 00:39:12,310 - I've--I mean, to be honest-- 1020 00:39:12,352 --> 00:39:16,147 kind of been the fire extinguisher. 1021 00:39:16,189 --> 00:39:17,816 We are just friends. 1022 00:39:17,857 --> 00:39:19,818 I cannot continue a relationship with Dede 1023 00:39:19,859 --> 00:39:21,319 because I have my own priorities. 1024 00:39:21,361 --> 00:39:23,238 The name of the game is love, 1025 00:39:23,279 --> 00:39:26,741 and I don't want to leave her in this environment 1026 00:39:26,783 --> 00:39:30,203 because I know-- you can see what it's created. 1027 00:39:30,245 --> 00:39:32,163 - This decision is really, really difficult 1028 00:39:32,205 --> 00:39:35,125 because people are now very clearly either 1029 00:39:35,166 --> 00:39:37,252 with somebody or not with somebody. 1030 00:39:37,293 --> 00:39:40,338 So my goal right now is to be in a relationship with Jo. 1031 00:39:40,380 --> 00:39:41,840 And, like, if Dede left, 1032 00:39:41,881 --> 00:39:43,925 it would be a breath of fresh air, 1033 00:39:43,967 --> 00:39:45,885 because I feel like I can finally pursue 1034 00:39:45,927 --> 00:39:47,971 a relationship with somebody that I really care about. 1035 00:39:48,013 --> 00:39:49,848 - All right, welcome back, ladies. 1036 00:39:49,889 --> 00:39:52,058 Both sides have made a decision. 1037 00:39:52,100 --> 00:39:53,893 We're actually gonna start with the men tonight. 1038 00:39:53,935 --> 00:39:55,270 So, guys... 1039 00:39:55,311 --> 00:39:57,814 - This is very difficult. This is not easy. 1040 00:39:57,856 --> 00:39:59,941 The two people that it boiled down to 1041 00:39:59,983 --> 00:40:02,277 were Amber 1042 00:40:02,318 --> 00:40:04,320 and Dede. 1043 00:40:04,362 --> 00:40:08,158 Amber, when it comes to being your own person 1044 00:40:08,199 --> 00:40:11,077 and being in a relationship with Dean, 1045 00:40:11,119 --> 00:40:13,413 I think that you have a lot of work to put in. 1046 00:40:13,455 --> 00:40:18,126 Dede, it was really nice seeing you genuinely smile again, 1047 00:40:18,168 --> 00:40:21,087 but we're here to find new love, 1048 00:40:21,129 --> 00:40:24,174 or we're here to develop a relationship 1049 00:40:24,215 --> 00:40:26,718 with the person that we came with, our ex. 1050 00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:28,678 Amber, Dede... 1051 00:40:28,720 --> 00:40:31,306 [dramatic music] 1052 00:40:31,348 --> 00:40:32,432 Dede, you're going home. 1053 00:40:32,474 --> 00:40:34,309 * * 1054 00:40:34,351 --> 00:40:36,061 - Dede, it was not an easy decision. 1055 00:40:36,102 --> 00:40:38,772 It was talked about a lot, but it is their decision. 1056 00:40:38,813 --> 00:40:40,273 Anything you want to say to the group? 1057 00:40:40,315 --> 00:40:41,858 - I think it's the right decision. 1058 00:40:41,900 --> 00:40:43,193 I'm ready to go home. 1059 00:40:43,234 --> 00:40:44,736 I feel like my journey here is done. 1060 00:40:44,778 --> 00:40:46,279 Everybody here has their connections 1061 00:40:46,321 --> 00:40:48,156 with people they're building their relationships with 1062 00:40:48,198 --> 00:40:49,741 and trying to find love again. 1063 00:40:49,783 --> 00:40:51,201 And they deserve their time here. 1064 00:40:51,242 --> 00:40:52,994 And I want to be able to give that to them. 1065 00:40:53,036 --> 00:40:54,996 - Well, Dede, we had a pleasure getting to know you. 1066 00:40:55,038 --> 00:40:56,289 You were nothing but positive energy. 1067 00:40:56,331 --> 00:40:58,208 We appreciate that. - Thank you. 1068 00:40:58,249 --> 00:40:59,918 - All right, so now it's time to hear 1069 00:40:59,959 --> 00:41:02,337 from the ladies about what their decision is. 1070 00:41:02,379 --> 00:41:05,006 - It was definitely a difficult decision. 1071 00:41:05,048 --> 00:41:07,175 We are considering Dean. 1072 00:41:07,217 --> 00:41:10,470 I hope the energy in the house can get back on track, 1073 00:41:10,512 --> 00:41:12,806 but it's not. 1074 00:41:12,847 --> 00:41:15,725 Second person is Blair. 1075 00:41:15,767 --> 00:41:18,728 He's made great relationships with Thakur and Dede, 1076 00:41:18,770 --> 00:41:22,190 but he does just see this as a friendship. 1077 00:41:22,232 --> 00:41:26,361 The last person that we are considering 1078 00:41:26,403 --> 00:41:27,904 is Thakur. 1079 00:41:27,946 --> 00:41:29,364 Some people have questioned 1080 00:41:29,406 --> 00:41:33,368 your ability to handle things in a healthy way. 1081 00:41:33,410 --> 00:41:36,162 With that being said... 1082 00:41:36,204 --> 00:41:38,456 we think that... 1083 00:41:38,498 --> 00:41:40,750 * * 1084 00:41:40,792 --> 00:41:42,836 - Next time on "The Big D"... 1085 00:41:42,877 --> 00:41:44,838 - I feel like I'm pulling away. 1086 00:41:44,879 --> 00:41:46,464 - We were just so ready to do this, 1087 00:41:46,506 --> 00:41:48,758 and then all of a sudden, done, kaput. 1088 00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:50,135 I don't know what's going on. 1089 00:41:50,176 --> 00:41:52,137 - Well, something I've been wanting to do 1090 00:41:52,178 --> 00:41:53,096 for a long time-- 1091 00:41:56,349 --> 00:41:58,059 - I actually really do have a crush on Ben. 1092 00:41:58,101 --> 00:41:59,894 - Casey, are you still interested or not? 1093 00:41:59,936 --> 00:42:01,229 - Yeah, I'm interested. 1094 00:42:01,271 --> 00:42:03,982 - Jo flips the script. 1095 00:42:04,024 --> 00:42:06,276 She's lying about her motives. 1096 00:42:06,317 --> 00:42:07,777 It's all [bleep] right now. 1097 00:42:07,819 --> 00:42:09,904 - [bleep] this-- I'm done going bat 1098 00:42:09,946 --> 00:42:11,781 for that [bleep]-up piece of [bleep].