1 00:00:01,866 --> 00:00:04,033 [indie rock music] 2 00:00:04,616 --> 00:00:05,991 [Tami] I'm Tami Roman. 3 00:00:06,033 --> 00:00:08,032 I have been cheated on before. 4 00:00:08,116 --> 00:00:10,866 You -- my man when I was married to him. 5 00:00:10,908 --> 00:00:12,699 I even wrote a book about it. 6 00:00:12,783 --> 00:00:16,158 And I've made it my mission to help suspicious lovers 7 00:00:16,199 --> 00:00:18,366 catch their cheating partners in the act. 8 00:00:18,491 --> 00:00:20,991 What the [bleep] is all these cameras doing here? 9 00:00:21,033 --> 00:00:22,533 They naked, but they not afraid. 10 00:00:22,658 --> 00:00:23,866 That lying bitch. 11 00:00:24,449 --> 00:00:27,199 [Tami] Together with my relationship expert... 12 00:00:27,366 --> 00:00:29,199 [Ken] You've got to be willing to communicate 13 00:00:29,366 --> 00:00:31,824 what you're feeling on a primal level. 14 00:00:31,866 --> 00:00:34,241 This is the kind of [bleep] that happens when we tell lies. 15 00:00:34,783 --> 00:00:36,908 [Tami] ...and stealthy investigation team... 16 00:00:37,033 --> 00:00:39,408 Oh, dude's married. 17 00:00:39,491 --> 00:00:40,908 Oh, hell, no. 18 00:00:40,991 --> 00:00:43,408 -[Tami] ...we won't stop... -What the [bleep]? 19 00:00:43,533 --> 00:00:44,908 [Tami] ...until we find the truth. 20 00:00:45,033 --> 00:00:46,949 Oh, she treacherous for real. 21 00:00:47,616 --> 00:00:50,408 Do you in fact want to see what I have to show you? 22 00:00:50,449 --> 00:00:52,574 Once our investigation is complete, 23 00:00:52,699 --> 00:00:56,366 the suspicious lover can team up with the partner's other lover. 24 00:00:56,408 --> 00:00:58,824 There's another gentleman outside of you. 25 00:00:58,908 --> 00:01:00,408 I think we should go to the buffet. 26 00:01:00,491 --> 00:01:01,741 What the [bleep] is going on? 27 00:01:01,908 --> 00:01:03,533 [Tami] Or take down both of them 28 00:01:03,574 --> 00:01:04,908 in an undercover ambush. 29 00:01:04,949 --> 00:01:06,866 Why we got people in my mother[bleep] house? 30 00:01:06,908 --> 00:01:08,074 I'll explain it to you. 31 00:01:08,241 --> 00:01:09,741 [Woman] Get the [bleep] out of here, bitch! 32 00:01:09,866 --> 00:01:11,366 Cheaters, beware. 33 00:01:11,908 --> 00:01:14,241 What the [bleep] is he doing there overnight?! 34 00:01:14,908 --> 00:01:17,116 You did it! You [bleep] her friend! 35 00:01:18,074 --> 00:01:20,116 [Tami] Don't you break my damn gate! 36 00:01:20,241 --> 00:01:21,574 [Man] [screaming] 37 00:01:21,616 --> 00:01:24,824 You asked me for help, but you didn't give me all the facts. 38 00:01:24,949 --> 00:01:28,783 I'm so tired of going through the same [bleep] 39 00:01:28,908 --> 00:01:30,408 over and over again! 40 00:01:30,783 --> 00:01:32,616 -Let's go, Sin. -What do you mean? 41 00:01:32,783 --> 00:01:34,116 My woman, right? Let's go, bro. 42 00:01:34,199 --> 00:01:35,408 Sit the [bleep] down! 43 00:01:35,449 --> 00:01:38,574 You don't dictate how my conversations are going. 44 00:01:38,616 --> 00:01:42,699 This is Caught in the Act: Unfaithful. 45 00:01:46,824 --> 00:01:48,158 ♪ Yeah ♪ 46 00:01:48,283 --> 00:01:49,616 ♪ Yes, sir ♪ 47 00:01:49,658 --> 00:01:52,491 ♪ Nobody wanna hear that talking ♪ 48 00:01:52,658 --> 00:01:56,158 ♪ You ain't calling and you sure ain't flossing ♪ 49 00:01:56,199 --> 00:01:59,658 ♪ I know the truth and so do you ♪ 50 00:02:00,241 --> 00:02:01,324 [door shuts] 51 00:02:01,366 --> 00:02:03,033 Yeah, man. Uh... 52 00:02:03,074 --> 00:02:06,366 Just give me a minute. I'll call you back. 53 00:02:07,074 --> 00:02:09,866 I'm sorry, I get a lot of calls, a lot of business calls. 54 00:02:10,491 --> 00:02:12,366 -How you doing? -Hi, Sam, right? 55 00:02:12,408 --> 00:02:13,908 Yeah, yeah. 56 00:02:14,533 --> 00:02:15,699 It's a lot going on. 57 00:02:15,824 --> 00:02:17,366 I want to hear all about it, Sam, 58 00:02:17,491 --> 00:02:20,824 but I want to know about you first. 59 00:02:20,866 --> 00:02:23,866 What was your childhood like? 60 00:02:23,908 --> 00:02:25,824 You grew up in a two-parent household? 61 00:02:25,866 --> 00:02:27,908 Yeah, yeah, my mom and dad, they met in high school. 62 00:02:28,033 --> 00:02:29,783 My dad was in the military. 63 00:02:32,116 --> 00:02:34,033 My mom was pregnant, but they came back. 64 00:02:34,116 --> 00:02:35,366 -They came home. -Yeah. 65 00:02:35,449 --> 00:02:36,533 Did you go to college? 66 00:02:36,699 --> 00:02:37,949 No, I didn't go to college. 67 00:02:38,033 --> 00:02:40,074 My dad took me to my first concert. 68 00:02:40,241 --> 00:02:43,741 I seen Jam Master Jay coming down in like the space shuttle, 69 00:02:43,866 --> 00:02:45,574 -DJing, run, run. -Yeah. 70 00:02:45,699 --> 00:02:46,908 [Sam] I looked at my dad, I said, 71 00:02:47,033 --> 00:02:48,408 "I want to do that for a living." 72 00:02:48,491 --> 00:02:50,574 He went out a couple of days later and went to the pawn shop, 73 00:02:50,658 --> 00:02:51,908 came back with turntables 74 00:02:51,991 --> 00:02:53,574 and mixers and speakers and stuff. 75 00:02:53,658 --> 00:02:56,908 And I'm like, "I don't know how to hook this stuff up, man." 76 00:02:56,949 --> 00:02:58,908 -[laughing] -But I learned. 77 00:02:58,949 --> 00:03:00,699 Is that what you do now for a living? 78 00:03:00,741 --> 00:03:03,033 -No, no, no. I do rap. -You rap? 79 00:03:03,074 --> 00:03:04,366 Yeah, I'm one of the Eastside Boys. 80 00:03:04,408 --> 00:03:05,866 Lil Jon and the Eastside Boys. 81 00:03:05,908 --> 00:03:07,533 [hip-hop music] 82 00:03:07,574 --> 00:03:09,074 [Tami] Are you serious? 83 00:03:09,241 --> 00:03:11,908 [Sam] Yeah. I drink out of gas cans. 84 00:03:12,033 --> 00:03:17,074 Do you know how turnt I used to get to your music? 85 00:03:17,158 --> 00:03:20,366 -I believe. -Legendary. 86 00:03:20,783 --> 00:03:22,783 -[Sam] I appreciate that. -[Tami] Legendary. 87 00:03:24,074 --> 00:03:28,866 Your professional life remains legendary. 88 00:03:29,449 --> 00:03:31,783 But in order for you to be sitting on my couch, 89 00:03:31,908 --> 00:03:36,116 some things personally haven't quite worked out. 90 00:03:36,241 --> 00:03:37,283 Yes. 91 00:03:37,449 --> 00:03:40,741 My process is I like to hear about relationships 92 00:03:40,783 --> 00:03:43,783 that meant a lot to you before you got to this one. 93 00:03:43,949 --> 00:03:46,366 Yeah. That would be my late wife. 94 00:03:47,283 --> 00:03:48,616 -[Tami] Your late wife? -[Sam] Yeah. 95 00:03:48,741 --> 00:03:50,574 We was together for like 10 years 96 00:03:50,616 --> 00:03:51,949 before we got married. 97 00:03:51,991 --> 00:03:54,116 But all in all, we was together for 32 years. 98 00:03:54,199 --> 00:03:56,116 -Married for 22. -Oh. 99 00:03:56,241 --> 00:03:58,283 That was my best friend. You know, I had fun. 100 00:03:58,366 --> 00:03:59,574 I miss her. 101 00:03:59,616 --> 00:04:02,116 If you don't mind my asking, what did she pass from? 102 00:04:02,324 --> 00:04:04,116 Breathing complications. 103 00:04:04,616 --> 00:04:06,283 I was at the club, doing a hosting gig, 104 00:04:06,324 --> 00:04:07,991 and I come back home and she was like, 105 00:04:08,074 --> 00:04:09,116 "I can't hardly breathe." 106 00:04:09,158 --> 00:04:10,574 I said, "You want to go to the hospital?" 107 00:04:10,658 --> 00:04:12,866 Paramedic got there about two minutes later 108 00:04:12,991 --> 00:04:14,949 and somebody gave her a shot 109 00:04:14,991 --> 00:04:17,616 that didn't go with the medicine that she takes. 110 00:04:17,658 --> 00:04:18,824 -That she takes. -Yeah. 111 00:04:18,866 --> 00:04:20,491 It automatically made her flatline. 112 00:04:20,616 --> 00:04:23,199 -[dramatic music] -[sighs] 113 00:04:26,158 --> 00:04:28,533 I try not to get emotional, but... 114 00:04:29,366 --> 00:04:32,533 You can't even hear it without getting emotional. 115 00:04:34,616 --> 00:04:36,658 How long ago did she pass? 116 00:04:36,783 --> 00:04:38,241 Two years now. 117 00:04:39,241 --> 00:04:41,991 So this is still relatively fresh. 118 00:04:42,116 --> 00:04:44,033 -Yeah, yeah. -And new. 119 00:04:44,116 --> 00:04:45,866 You know, I had to be strong for my kids. 120 00:04:45,991 --> 00:04:48,033 Like, we got three girls. 121 00:04:48,074 --> 00:04:50,491 But when I'm alone in my room or whatever, 122 00:04:50,533 --> 00:04:52,699 I have my breakdowns. I have my moments and stuff. 123 00:04:52,741 --> 00:04:54,366 -I can still-- -Still today? 124 00:04:54,533 --> 00:04:57,199 -Yeah. -Two years. 125 00:04:57,283 --> 00:04:59,908 I don't know if I would have been ready 126 00:05:00,033 --> 00:05:01,783 to enter into a relationship, 127 00:05:01,866 --> 00:05:03,533 but you felt that you were. 128 00:05:03,699 --> 00:05:05,324 I mean, it came on suddenly, 129 00:05:05,366 --> 00:05:08,533 but I just like that companionship. 130 00:05:08,574 --> 00:05:10,199 -Patricia, she-- -"Patricia," okay. 131 00:05:10,324 --> 00:05:11,449 Yeah, she helped me a lot 132 00:05:11,533 --> 00:05:13,199 because she went through the same thing I did. 133 00:05:13,241 --> 00:05:14,033 [Tami] Mm. 134 00:05:14,199 --> 00:05:15,324 [Sam] Her husband passed away 135 00:05:15,366 --> 00:05:17,533 three years before my wife passed away. 136 00:05:17,616 --> 00:05:19,491 I mean, we started off as friends first. 137 00:05:19,533 --> 00:05:21,699 I just knew her by going to events and stuff. 138 00:05:21,824 --> 00:05:22,783 Okay. 139 00:05:22,866 --> 00:05:24,699 Once my wife passed, she was like, "I'm sorry. 140 00:05:24,866 --> 00:05:26,574 You know, my condolences," you know. 141 00:05:26,699 --> 00:05:27,616 Yeah. 142 00:05:27,741 --> 00:05:29,408 How did y'all get to the first date? 143 00:05:29,491 --> 00:05:31,241 -Who propositioned? -I did. 144 00:05:31,366 --> 00:05:33,408 You know what I'm saying? We was at the club 145 00:05:33,491 --> 00:05:34,699 and I just went for it. 146 00:05:34,741 --> 00:05:37,741 I just gave her a kiss and it just went from there. 147 00:05:37,824 --> 00:05:39,908 And how long have you and Patricia been together? 148 00:05:40,074 --> 00:05:41,908 The entire time from that moment? 149 00:05:41,991 --> 00:05:43,366 Yeah, the entire time, yeah. 150 00:05:43,408 --> 00:05:44,574 Okay. 151 00:05:44,699 --> 00:05:46,741 She's staying over here with her four-year-old daughter 152 00:05:46,783 --> 00:05:48,741 that I'm getting to know 153 00:05:48,783 --> 00:05:50,366 and the daughter's getting to know me. 154 00:05:50,408 --> 00:05:53,241 And I just said, "You know what? My house is lonely. 155 00:05:53,824 --> 00:05:55,408 -My kids grown." -Mm-hmm. 156 00:05:55,533 --> 00:05:57,574 So I moved her and the kid in. 157 00:05:57,741 --> 00:05:59,366 Is that the only child she has? 158 00:05:59,408 --> 00:06:01,241 -No, she got five kids. -Huh? 159 00:06:01,283 --> 00:06:05,074 But the other kids are older, so they don't stay with her. 160 00:06:05,158 --> 00:06:10,574 So you feel now that there's some aspect of family 161 00:06:10,616 --> 00:06:13,783 which you no longer were experiencing 162 00:06:13,949 --> 00:06:17,283 and you wanted to have some companionship in the house. 163 00:06:17,783 --> 00:06:19,658 [sighs] I'll be honest with you. 164 00:06:19,783 --> 00:06:21,116 It don't hurt that she can cook. 165 00:06:21,241 --> 00:06:22,116 [laughing] Okay. 166 00:06:22,241 --> 00:06:23,616 I'm just saying, you know. 167 00:06:23,741 --> 00:06:25,616 Does she pay any bills at the house at all? 168 00:06:25,741 --> 00:06:28,908 I mean, I ain't got no mortgage, so it's regular bills, water, 169 00:06:28,949 --> 00:06:30,783 light, and all that, so, yeah... 170 00:06:30,866 --> 00:06:33,616 -Has she met your kids? -Yeah, she met my three kids. 171 00:06:34,283 --> 00:06:35,241 They like her? 172 00:06:35,283 --> 00:06:37,116 I ain't gonna say they don't like her. 173 00:06:37,408 --> 00:06:39,449 They're mad with me, personally, 174 00:06:39,616 --> 00:06:41,449 because they say I'm moving too fast. 175 00:06:41,574 --> 00:06:43,074 I agree. 176 00:06:43,116 --> 00:06:46,116 It has only been two years, Sam. 177 00:06:46,158 --> 00:06:51,658 I get it, but I feel like God and my wife sent her to me. 178 00:06:51,741 --> 00:06:53,949 -She's a good friend now. -Good friend. 179 00:06:55,033 --> 00:06:56,658 -She's a good communicator. -Good communicator. 180 00:06:56,699 --> 00:06:58,199 -She listens, and, um-- -She listens. 181 00:06:58,658 --> 00:07:00,158 And sex was good? 182 00:07:00,283 --> 00:07:02,616 -You guys are intimate? -Whew. 183 00:07:02,658 --> 00:07:04,158 I can't keep up. 184 00:07:04,616 --> 00:07:06,033 I tapped out one night. 185 00:07:06,158 --> 00:07:08,074 I like it because she a hustler. 186 00:07:08,158 --> 00:07:09,158 Mm-hmm. 187 00:07:09,283 --> 00:07:10,783 -She has her own business. -What'd she do? 188 00:07:10,824 --> 00:07:14,033 She owns, like, a beauty spot where you go get your makeup, 189 00:07:14,158 --> 00:07:15,283 skin care. 190 00:07:15,324 --> 00:07:18,116 I gave her the money to start it up and everything. 191 00:07:18,158 --> 00:07:19,616 [dramatic music] 192 00:07:19,658 --> 00:07:20,991 I don't know if that's smart. 193 00:07:21,074 --> 00:07:23,616 I mean, I take care of her like she take care of me. 194 00:07:25,866 --> 00:07:30,324 If all is well, then why are you here? 195 00:07:30,491 --> 00:07:33,033 Well, with her business, 196 00:07:33,158 --> 00:07:34,741 like, you know, I pop in on her. 197 00:07:34,866 --> 00:07:37,366 Sometimes she being real flirty with the guys. 198 00:07:37,491 --> 00:07:38,366 Okay. 199 00:07:38,491 --> 00:07:40,366 Rubbing on their hands, putting the oil 200 00:07:40,408 --> 00:07:41,866 -and the lotion on their hands. -Got it. 201 00:07:41,991 --> 00:07:44,366 To me, it's just like, with her sex drive-- 202 00:07:44,491 --> 00:07:45,533 Yeah. 203 00:07:45,574 --> 00:07:47,866 When I'm out of town, what's she doing? 204 00:07:47,991 --> 00:07:49,699 Is there anything else? 205 00:07:49,783 --> 00:07:51,616 I got one more thing I'll tell you. 206 00:07:51,699 --> 00:07:52,699 Oh, Lord. 207 00:07:52,866 --> 00:07:56,366 She went to Alabama, "supposedly." 208 00:07:56,449 --> 00:07:58,533 -Okay. -To see her grandmother. 209 00:07:58,658 --> 00:07:59,741 Okay. 210 00:07:59,866 --> 00:08:02,908 But she didn't know I put an AirTag in her bag. 211 00:08:03,033 --> 00:08:05,199 -You put an AirTag? -Yeah. 212 00:08:05,366 --> 00:08:06,908 -In her bag? -Yeah. 213 00:08:08,574 --> 00:08:10,283 And that came up. She was in Miami. 214 00:08:11,033 --> 00:08:12,699 -Hmm. -So she come home. 215 00:08:12,741 --> 00:08:14,158 I said, "How your grandmama doing?" 216 00:08:14,241 --> 00:08:15,241 "Oh, she's great." 217 00:08:15,324 --> 00:08:17,241 So I know you lying to me now. 218 00:08:18,241 --> 00:08:20,783 And she keep pushing for a ring. 219 00:08:21,199 --> 00:08:22,241 Okay. 220 00:08:22,324 --> 00:08:23,616 I don't got no problem with getting married, 221 00:08:23,741 --> 00:08:25,366 but I told her we had to get a prenup. 222 00:08:25,408 --> 00:08:26,574 That started an argument. 223 00:08:26,699 --> 00:08:28,033 Then I started thinking, like, 224 00:08:28,074 --> 00:08:30,491 "So are you just trying to marry me 225 00:08:30,574 --> 00:08:34,033 so you can divorce me and get my money or something?" 226 00:08:34,073 --> 00:08:35,741 I'm in my 50s now. 227 00:08:35,866 --> 00:08:37,241 So it's like, I don't want 228 00:08:37,366 --> 00:08:39,158 to think love don't exist no more. 229 00:08:39,241 --> 00:08:42,241 It absolutely does. I'm right there with you. 230 00:08:42,283 --> 00:08:44,533 But you want my help. We gonna figure out 231 00:08:44,574 --> 00:08:46,366 what's going on with Patricia. 232 00:08:46,408 --> 00:08:48,741 I would like to be able to put cameras in your home. 233 00:08:48,866 --> 00:08:51,074 You know, really watch her activity. 234 00:08:51,116 --> 00:08:52,824 I need all of her social media. 235 00:08:52,908 --> 00:08:55,241 I need other places she frequents 236 00:08:55,283 --> 00:08:58,783 so that I can give you a full picture of her activity. 237 00:08:58,866 --> 00:09:01,116 Then I'll call you back into the office. 238 00:09:01,199 --> 00:09:03,783 We'll look at everything I have to show you together. 239 00:09:03,908 --> 00:09:05,074 Okay. 240 00:09:05,116 --> 00:09:06,574 And then you can make a decision on whether you want 241 00:09:06,616 --> 00:09:09,074 to continue the relationship with Patricia or not. 242 00:09:09,116 --> 00:09:10,616 -That works fine to me. -Okay. 243 00:09:10,741 --> 00:09:13,074 -Eastside Boys. -Foreva and eva. [laughs] 244 00:09:13,116 --> 00:09:14,283 Oh, my goodness. 245 00:09:14,324 --> 00:09:16,908 ♪ I've been thinking I know you want it ♪ 246 00:09:16,949 --> 00:09:19,449 ♪ What, what I have [indistinct] ♪ 247 00:09:19,574 --> 00:09:22,658 ♪ Excess pleasure There is no pressure ♪ 248 00:09:22,783 --> 00:09:24,324 [Kevin] So right now it's day one. 249 00:09:24,449 --> 00:09:25,449 Client name is Sam. 250 00:09:25,616 --> 00:09:27,199 He's been in a two-year relationship 251 00:09:27,283 --> 00:09:28,949 with a woman named Patricia. 252 00:09:29,741 --> 00:09:31,574 He gave us permission to rig the house 253 00:09:31,616 --> 00:09:32,949 with audio and camera. 254 00:09:33,033 --> 00:09:35,199 We're going to see what's going on inside that house. 255 00:09:36,158 --> 00:09:37,574 That's Miss Patricia. 256 00:09:37,658 --> 00:09:41,199 Looks like she's just getting herself ready to leave. 257 00:09:45,158 --> 00:09:48,574 [pensive electronic music] 258 00:09:48,658 --> 00:09:53,991 Sam is used to being in a long-term committed relationship 259 00:09:54,116 --> 00:09:55,866 without infidelity issues. 260 00:09:55,991 --> 00:09:57,783 We just want to check off everything 261 00:09:57,824 --> 00:09:59,658 to make sure that if she's going to be 262 00:09:59,783 --> 00:10:01,658 the one that he's going to marry, 263 00:10:01,699 --> 00:10:03,824 then there's no issues or no surprises 264 00:10:03,991 --> 00:10:06,199 coming up later on down the line. 265 00:10:12,074 --> 00:10:14,949 [suspenseful music] 266 00:10:16,658 --> 00:10:18,158 All right. So we're at the mall. 267 00:10:18,199 --> 00:10:21,366 So she has a boutique inside the mall. 268 00:10:21,699 --> 00:10:23,033 I usually use glasses, but... 269 00:10:23,199 --> 00:10:24,908 [electronic whooshing and chittering] 270 00:10:25,033 --> 00:10:27,033 Probably going to use the necklace today. 271 00:10:27,158 --> 00:10:30,283 There's my camera. There's my microphone as well. 272 00:10:31,158 --> 00:10:37,283 [suspenseful music] 273 00:11:16,324 --> 00:11:18,241 [dramatic music] 274 00:11:32,533 --> 00:11:35,324 [Kevin] She's very flirtatious. 275 00:11:35,408 --> 00:11:37,116 If this is how she's going to make her bag, 276 00:11:37,158 --> 00:11:39,491 by flirting with people to get them to buy her product, 277 00:11:39,658 --> 00:11:41,533 I can't knock her for her hustle. 278 00:11:41,658 --> 00:11:45,199 But it could also mean that she will cross that line. 279 00:11:45,366 --> 00:11:49,033 [thrilling music] 280 00:11:49,158 --> 00:11:51,658 There go Miss Patricia. 281 00:11:53,116 --> 00:11:58,449 -[camera snapping] -[suspenseful music] 282 00:12:11,866 --> 00:12:13,699 Patricia's home. 283 00:12:14,699 --> 00:12:16,783 Sam's not home. 284 00:12:25,324 --> 00:12:29,324 She done slipped into her little nightwear. 285 00:12:46,033 --> 00:12:47,408 [Kevin] Hold up. 286 00:12:47,741 --> 00:12:49,366 That ain't Sam. 287 00:12:50,658 --> 00:12:52,408 Oh, [bleep]. 288 00:12:57,533 --> 00:13:01,283 [dramatic music] 289 00:13:23,616 --> 00:13:28,283 [unsettling music] 290 00:13:28,408 --> 00:13:30,366 [camera whirring] 291 00:13:31,408 --> 00:13:33,449 [Kevin] Day two, Sam and Patricia. 292 00:13:33,616 --> 00:13:35,741 So we're back at the house. I would like to know 293 00:13:35,783 --> 00:13:37,783 who that guy was that she was FaceTiming, 294 00:13:37,866 --> 00:13:41,324 but we'll see what Patricia does for us today. 295 00:13:47,824 --> 00:13:50,033 All right. There goes Sam. 296 00:14:04,533 --> 00:14:07,074 Mm. That ain't right. 297 00:14:08,824 --> 00:14:14,783 [rhythmic drum & bass music] 298 00:14:15,658 --> 00:14:18,324 This look like a little sports bar. 299 00:14:20,033 --> 00:14:22,991 All right, so let's see. 300 00:14:24,366 --> 00:14:26,533 I'll go with the black hat cam. 301 00:14:30,074 --> 00:14:34,949 [bustling bar chatter] 302 00:14:44,866 --> 00:14:50,199 [unsettling music] 303 00:14:56,991 --> 00:14:58,533 The guy she in there with right now, 304 00:14:58,616 --> 00:15:02,033 it's the same guy that she was on FaceTime with last night. 305 00:15:02,158 --> 00:15:05,366 [thrilling music] 306 00:15:05,408 --> 00:15:06,699 Oh, [bleep]. 307 00:15:06,783 --> 00:15:10,158 She just picked buddy up and put him on the hood of the car. 308 00:15:20,491 --> 00:15:25,616 [thumping hip-hop music] 309 00:15:25,658 --> 00:15:27,949 [Tami] Now what is this you have with you? 310 00:15:28,699 --> 00:15:31,116 Not the can! 311 00:15:31,199 --> 00:15:32,449 [Sam] Oh, you drink... 312 00:15:32,533 --> 00:15:33,949 Drink some of that, you gonna be laying on the floor. 313 00:15:33,991 --> 00:15:35,283 I ain't drinking that. 314 00:15:35,408 --> 00:15:36,908 [laughs] How you doing? 315 00:15:36,949 --> 00:15:38,949 -I'm doing good. -Come on, have a seat. 316 00:15:39,033 --> 00:15:41,783 Give your can its own seat. 317 00:15:41,949 --> 00:15:44,116 -Oh, that'll work too. -Yeah, yeah. 318 00:15:44,199 --> 00:15:45,366 How y'all doing today? 319 00:15:45,449 --> 00:15:46,658 [Tami] Doing well. 320 00:15:46,783 --> 00:15:50,949 You know, I'm still a little starstruck 321 00:15:50,949 --> 00:15:52,616 with you being here. 322 00:15:52,658 --> 00:15:54,158 But that's not why we're here. 323 00:15:54,283 --> 00:15:57,283 We're here to talk about your relationship with Patricia. 324 00:15:57,324 --> 00:15:58,283 [Sam] Yes. 325 00:15:58,324 --> 00:16:00,241 [Tami] This gentleman is Coach Ken. 326 00:16:00,324 --> 00:16:03,033 Sometimes people say, "I really want to know," 327 00:16:03,158 --> 00:16:04,491 and then when they find out, 328 00:16:04,574 --> 00:16:07,116 they don't like what they see or hear. 329 00:16:07,158 --> 00:16:10,283 And he's here to help you process those emotions 330 00:16:10,324 --> 00:16:12,158 in the event that happens with you. 331 00:16:12,283 --> 00:16:13,324 Okay. 332 00:16:13,449 --> 00:16:16,574 So are you ready to see what I have to show you? 333 00:16:17,449 --> 00:16:19,241 I need to know. 334 00:16:19,324 --> 00:16:20,824 Let's get into it. 335 00:16:21,491 --> 00:16:23,949 This is our first day of investigation 336 00:16:23,991 --> 00:16:25,616 at your lovely home. 337 00:16:25,658 --> 00:16:30,699 There's Patricia dressed for the gods, honey. 338 00:16:31,533 --> 00:16:34,533 Headed on her way out, she gets into her vehicle, 339 00:16:34,658 --> 00:16:37,158 and she ends up in this small parking lot. 340 00:16:37,199 --> 00:16:40,033 So clearly she was on her way to work. 341 00:16:40,074 --> 00:16:41,533 Once she goes inside, 342 00:16:41,574 --> 00:16:45,199 we put on the hidden cameras, and we follow her. 343 00:16:45,699 --> 00:16:47,866 This gentleman walks up. She hugs him. 344 00:16:47,949 --> 00:16:49,616 Do you know who he is? 345 00:16:49,699 --> 00:16:51,366 I have no idea who that is. 346 00:16:51,449 --> 00:16:54,533 [Tami] Well, she's real close. A lot of hugging. 347 00:16:54,699 --> 00:16:58,741 So our investigator pretends to be the customer. 348 00:17:04,949 --> 00:17:08,324 But I told you, she gets close with the guys for some reason. 349 00:17:09,324 --> 00:17:12,657 Once she's finished for the day, she gets back into her vehicle. 350 00:17:12,699 --> 00:17:15,699 She does eventually end up back home. 351 00:17:16,741 --> 00:17:18,532 She goes upstairs. 352 00:17:19,074 --> 00:17:21,907 Now, when she comes back down, she got this on. 353 00:17:24,741 --> 00:17:26,574 This phone call happens. 354 00:17:30,074 --> 00:17:32,241 -That's not me on the phone. -[Tami] I know. 355 00:17:34,866 --> 00:17:36,366 What? 356 00:17:41,241 --> 00:17:42,241 Hmm! 357 00:17:42,324 --> 00:17:44,283 Hey, man, this some bull[bleep] for real. 358 00:17:44,408 --> 00:17:48,533 When you come home, she done got off the phone with him. 359 00:18:03,449 --> 00:18:04,449 Man. 360 00:18:04,574 --> 00:18:07,449 Then you hand her your jacket. 361 00:18:11,116 --> 00:18:13,783 [Tami] And then you go on up to take a shower. 362 00:18:14,116 --> 00:18:16,616 Now, here's the thing, Sam. 363 00:18:17,741 --> 00:18:22,616 There wasn't anything about what Patricia did once she got home 364 00:18:22,658 --> 00:18:23,908 that was right. 365 00:18:24,283 --> 00:18:26,533 But I also want to acknowledge 366 00:18:26,616 --> 00:18:31,658 there was not a bit of attention paid to her. 367 00:18:32,449 --> 00:18:34,449 It's just the part, I just got off the road 368 00:18:34,533 --> 00:18:35,949 and I be... I'm tired. 369 00:18:36,033 --> 00:18:38,491 So when I get home, I just wanna relax 370 00:18:38,574 --> 00:18:40,491 and take a minute to shower and just go to sleep. 371 00:18:40,658 --> 00:18:42,658 In my past relationship with my wife, 372 00:18:42,699 --> 00:18:43,949 she understood all that. 373 00:18:43,991 --> 00:18:46,949 Guess I'm thinking that Pat should understand that too. 374 00:18:46,991 --> 00:18:48,241 -No. -[Sam] But, obviously, she-- 375 00:18:48,324 --> 00:18:50,324 Because Pat is not your late wife. 376 00:18:50,449 --> 00:18:51,824 [Sam] Yeah, obviously, she don't. 377 00:18:51,949 --> 00:18:53,949 But she was on the phone with another [bleep], though. 378 00:18:53,991 --> 00:18:55,116 What's up with that? 379 00:18:55,158 --> 00:18:56,158 I am under the impression 380 00:18:56,283 --> 00:18:59,366 that he probably pays attention to her. 381 00:19:02,449 --> 00:19:05,324 This was the next day of surveillance. 382 00:19:10,658 --> 00:19:12,199 [Tami] She ended up at this bar. 383 00:19:13,158 --> 00:19:14,491 Your woman said she was going to the depot. 384 00:19:14,616 --> 00:19:16,158 What kind of supply is she going to get? 385 00:19:16,241 --> 00:19:17,658 She end up at the bar. 386 00:19:17,783 --> 00:19:19,866 We follow her with the hidden cameras. 387 00:19:19,991 --> 00:19:22,199 And she met that man right there. 388 00:19:22,324 --> 00:19:24,199 That same guy that was just on the phone? 389 00:19:24,283 --> 00:19:26,199 That's him, right there. 390 00:19:26,324 --> 00:19:27,866 Oh, hell no, man. 391 00:19:27,908 --> 00:19:29,199 What the [bleep] going on, man? 392 00:19:29,324 --> 00:19:30,991 [Tami] Well, they having a good old time. 393 00:19:31,033 --> 00:19:32,866 Oh, no. I'm going to get me a drink. 394 00:19:33,033 --> 00:19:34,824 Once they get up, we decide 395 00:19:34,866 --> 00:19:36,533 to follow them to see where they're going, 396 00:19:36,658 --> 00:19:38,574 thinking they're going to leave. 397 00:19:39,533 --> 00:19:40,991 Oh, hell, no. 398 00:19:41,033 --> 00:19:43,491 She said she don't even like short dudes. 399 00:19:43,533 --> 00:19:45,033 [dramatic music] 400 00:19:45,199 --> 00:19:47,199 [Tami] She picks him up, puts him on the car. 401 00:19:47,908 --> 00:19:48,908 Oh, they... 402 00:19:49,033 --> 00:19:50,366 [Tami] And they're tongue kissing. 403 00:19:50,408 --> 00:19:52,658 Oh, [bleep] this, man. Y'all... 404 00:19:52,699 --> 00:19:54,574 Oh, hell no... 405 00:20:00,741 --> 00:20:03,158 [thrilling music] 406 00:20:03,283 --> 00:20:05,824 [Tami] She picks him up, puts him on the car. 407 00:20:06,741 --> 00:20:08,491 And they're tongue kissing. 408 00:20:09,824 --> 00:20:11,324 Oh, [bleep] this, man. Y'all... 409 00:20:11,408 --> 00:20:13,366 Man... Hell, no. 410 00:20:14,199 --> 00:20:16,533 Patricia goes on home. 411 00:21:08,866 --> 00:21:11,533 I want you to understand, Sam, that I don't like 412 00:21:11,616 --> 00:21:13,491 when anybody steps outside of their relationship. 413 00:21:13,533 --> 00:21:14,658 I don't like it at all. 414 00:21:14,699 --> 00:21:16,699 [Tami] Patricia didn't come to see me, though. 415 00:21:16,824 --> 00:21:17,991 You did. 416 00:21:18,033 --> 00:21:23,491 And there are so many instances where you are not present 417 00:21:23,533 --> 00:21:27,449 in the relationship that you have with this woman. 418 00:21:27,574 --> 00:21:28,741 She's trying to have 419 00:21:28,824 --> 00:21:30,741 a conversation with you about your kids, 420 00:21:30,908 --> 00:21:32,158 why they don't like her. 421 00:21:32,241 --> 00:21:34,699 You said, "Man, I'm tired." 422 00:21:35,866 --> 00:21:38,908 And the same thing I said to you the first time that I met you. 423 00:21:39,741 --> 00:21:44,074 You have not taken the amount of time necessary 424 00:21:44,241 --> 00:21:47,574 to grieve your late wife. 425 00:21:47,616 --> 00:21:50,408 And that's why you're not present! 426 00:21:50,449 --> 00:21:53,408 -The heart wants what it wants. -It do, don't it? 427 00:21:53,533 --> 00:21:55,241 [Ken] So I want to give you a quick story. 428 00:21:55,408 --> 00:21:57,074 When my momma died, right, 429 00:21:57,241 --> 00:22:00,074 my dad had been with my momma like 45 years. 430 00:22:00,241 --> 00:22:01,866 And then my dad finally got 431 00:22:01,908 --> 00:22:04,074 in a relationship like a year afterwards. 432 00:22:04,158 --> 00:22:05,699 And I said, "Dad, are you healed?" 433 00:22:05,741 --> 00:22:07,616 He like, "I'm good, I'm good." 434 00:22:07,658 --> 00:22:09,783 But every time he talked about another woman, 435 00:22:09,908 --> 00:22:12,783 he talked about her in context to my mother, 436 00:22:12,949 --> 00:22:15,283 "Well, she don't do things like your momma used to do!" 437 00:22:15,366 --> 00:22:17,533 And so what happens is the other woman 438 00:22:17,616 --> 00:22:21,116 could never get close to my father 439 00:22:21,241 --> 00:22:25,283 because the image of my mother was between them. 440 00:22:25,408 --> 00:22:27,741 And there's a thing called a widow's halo. 441 00:22:27,783 --> 00:22:31,283 When I put my former spouse on a pedestal, 442 00:22:31,408 --> 00:22:35,783 I'm running everything the other person does through this image. 443 00:22:35,949 --> 00:22:37,741 No one will ever replace your wife. 444 00:22:37,783 --> 00:22:41,533 But you have to look at this person for who they are. 445 00:22:41,616 --> 00:22:45,866 And I'm not blaming you because I saw it with my dad. 446 00:22:46,366 --> 00:22:47,616 It is your way 447 00:22:47,658 --> 00:22:52,074 to psychologically, emotionally cope with loss. 448 00:22:53,658 --> 00:22:56,658 And equally for her, too, because she's a widow, too. 449 00:22:56,699 --> 00:22:57,949 -She lost somebody, too. -[Ken] Yes! Yeah. 450 00:22:57,991 --> 00:23:00,324 [Tami] We don't even know if she's healed. 451 00:23:00,449 --> 00:23:02,533 Patricia's still searching 452 00:23:02,658 --> 00:23:04,741 for whatever her husband offered her. 453 00:23:04,824 --> 00:23:07,491 And when you don't provide it, she go to the next person 454 00:23:07,574 --> 00:23:09,199 that she feel gives it to her. 455 00:23:10,324 --> 00:23:11,991 That's just the truth. 456 00:23:12,158 --> 00:23:15,324 But I still have more to show you. 457 00:23:15,658 --> 00:23:17,991 -More than that? -Yes, sir. 458 00:23:18,658 --> 00:23:20,783 We returned to your house. 459 00:23:21,074 --> 00:23:22,908 You had already gone. 460 00:23:22,991 --> 00:23:25,574 She comes back down in that. 461 00:23:25,699 --> 00:23:27,324 Where she get the outfits from? 462 00:23:27,366 --> 00:23:28,824 I never seen 'em. 463 00:23:28,908 --> 00:23:31,283 He going up to the house. 464 00:23:35,449 --> 00:23:37,408 [excited screaming] 465 00:23:57,324 --> 00:23:58,366 Man. 466 00:23:58,491 --> 00:24:00,199 Come on, man. I can't even believe this [bleep]. 467 00:24:00,283 --> 00:24:02,408 She got this little [bleep] sitting on my couch, 468 00:24:02,533 --> 00:24:05,574 drinking my beer, talking about bringing him into my house. 469 00:24:07,658 --> 00:24:10,366 She really told this fool she love him. 470 00:24:10,824 --> 00:24:12,449 [Patricia] Ooh, bae. 471 00:24:12,574 --> 00:24:14,408 [Sam] What the? 472 00:24:14,491 --> 00:24:16,033 [dramatic music] 473 00:24:16,116 --> 00:24:18,574 Man, come on, man. Come on. 474 00:24:18,658 --> 00:24:20,116 Oh! 475 00:24:20,866 --> 00:24:22,949 Hell no, man! 476 00:24:23,074 --> 00:24:25,408 Hell no. That's some bull. 477 00:24:25,908 --> 00:24:27,741 Come on, watch this, Sam. 478 00:24:29,116 --> 00:24:30,283 [Mystery Man] Yes, sir! 479 00:24:30,408 --> 00:24:32,324 She ain't never shook no ass like that for me. 480 00:24:32,449 --> 00:24:34,408 I believe that she's doing this 481 00:24:34,533 --> 00:24:37,616 because you don't pay her any attention. 482 00:24:38,824 --> 00:24:40,949 So let me tell you how it works around here, Sam. 483 00:24:41,074 --> 00:24:43,741 I normally give people two options. 484 00:24:43,824 --> 00:24:46,741 One is called a team-up, where you would go 485 00:24:46,783 --> 00:24:49,324 and have a conversation with the mystery man, 486 00:24:49,449 --> 00:24:50,741 and then y'all would go together 487 00:24:50,866 --> 00:24:52,574 and have a conversation with Patricia. 488 00:24:52,616 --> 00:24:54,116 Or I can take you 489 00:24:54,241 --> 00:24:56,491 to talk to both of them at the same time. 490 00:24:56,616 --> 00:24:58,699 That is called a takedown. 491 00:24:58,824 --> 00:24:59,991 Is that what you'd like to have? 492 00:25:00,116 --> 00:25:01,366 Yeah, I'd like the takedown. 493 00:25:01,449 --> 00:25:02,491 Y'all know where they at now? 494 00:25:02,616 --> 00:25:04,616 I do know where they at, 'cause you know why? 495 00:25:04,658 --> 00:25:06,574 She still think you on the road, 496 00:25:06,658 --> 00:25:09,116 and so they at your house together. 497 00:25:09,199 --> 00:25:11,658 -In my house. -Mm-hmm. 498 00:25:11,783 --> 00:25:14,908 -We can get to the end of this. -Taking you to the house now. 499 00:25:15,158 --> 00:25:17,116 ♪ Show up, show out ♪ 500 00:25:17,158 --> 00:25:19,074 ♪ Stack up, be wild ♪ 501 00:25:19,158 --> 00:25:23,241 ♪ Get up, get out Rise up, live it up ♪ 502 00:25:24,658 --> 00:25:26,116 I just want to tell y'all, 503 00:25:26,158 --> 00:25:29,116 you know, I thought a lot about what you said. 504 00:25:29,199 --> 00:25:30,616 It makes a lot of sense. 505 00:25:30,741 --> 00:25:33,158 Maybe I did move too fast here and now, 506 00:25:33,283 --> 00:25:35,824 but, you know, love is love. 507 00:25:35,949 --> 00:25:40,158 Hey, if you love Patricia, and if she loves you, 508 00:25:40,199 --> 00:25:45,283 we are not here to determine whether you two continue. 509 00:25:45,366 --> 00:25:49,158 If you two decide "We're gonna try to make this work," 510 00:25:49,283 --> 00:25:51,324 you've got to hear each other. 511 00:25:51,366 --> 00:25:52,991 We really have got to have a conversation. 512 00:25:53,074 --> 00:25:54,783 [Tami] Yeah, y'all have to have a conversation. 513 00:25:54,866 --> 00:25:57,241 We got to have a real sit-down conversation. 514 00:25:58,699 --> 00:26:04,908 [suspenseful music] 515 00:26:06,074 --> 00:26:08,324 We are here at your home. 516 00:26:08,824 --> 00:26:10,533 They are inside. 517 00:26:10,658 --> 00:26:12,991 What they're doing, we'll be able to see 518 00:26:13,033 --> 00:26:16,366 by way of the cameras you've allowed us to install. 519 00:26:16,533 --> 00:26:18,366 He is really staying at my house. 520 00:26:18,449 --> 00:26:19,949 He still is. 521 00:26:32,949 --> 00:26:35,824 He's got a lot of whipped cream on them pancakes. 522 00:26:41,408 --> 00:26:43,408 [kissing] 523 00:26:43,533 --> 00:26:44,866 -Ooh. -[laughter on video] 524 00:26:44,908 --> 00:26:48,033 Once you get out, my cameras are gonna follow you. 525 00:26:48,074 --> 00:26:49,741 -You can open that door, man. -[Ken] All right. 526 00:26:49,866 --> 00:26:51,741 [Sam] All the outfits I ain't never seen. 527 00:26:51,866 --> 00:26:53,866 -[Ken] We right behind you. -[Sam] All right. 528 00:26:55,408 --> 00:26:57,366 -[Ken] Tami, I like him. -I do too. 529 00:26:57,449 --> 00:26:59,324 [Sam] [bleep]. I left my keys in the car. 530 00:26:59,408 --> 00:27:00,616 Open the door. I know you in there. 531 00:27:00,741 --> 00:27:03,283 Open the door. I know you in there. 532 00:27:03,408 --> 00:27:05,116 [Sam] Open this damn door. 533 00:27:05,949 --> 00:27:07,408 Damn, I left my keys in the car. 534 00:27:07,491 --> 00:27:09,741 Not in the closet, child. 535 00:27:10,408 --> 00:27:12,074 [Sam] I forgot my keys. Open the damn door. 536 00:27:12,116 --> 00:27:13,783 I know you in there. 537 00:27:14,158 --> 00:27:15,158 Hey. 538 00:27:15,241 --> 00:27:17,033 -[Sam] What the hell you got on? -How you doing? 539 00:27:17,116 --> 00:27:18,491 [Sam] I know how you doing. 540 00:27:18,574 --> 00:27:19,908 [Patricia] I can't look sexy for you? 541 00:27:20,033 --> 00:27:21,741 Wait a minute. What is all of this, bae? 542 00:27:21,866 --> 00:27:24,074 [Sam] No, don't worry about it. I seen, I seen everything. 543 00:27:24,116 --> 00:27:25,074 Come here. 544 00:27:25,116 --> 00:27:26,908 -I seen everything. -[Patricia] Baby. 545 00:27:27,033 --> 00:27:28,949 Now he looking in the undercabinet 546 00:27:29,074 --> 00:27:30,491 Now he looking under the cabinet. 547 00:27:30,616 --> 00:27:31,616 Not in the undercabinet. 548 00:27:31,741 --> 00:27:32,908 What are y'all doing in my house? 549 00:27:32,949 --> 00:27:34,908 -Get out of my house! -[Sam] They here with me. 550 00:27:34,991 --> 00:27:36,074 [Patricia] What are you talking about? 551 00:27:36,199 --> 00:27:37,324 I was seeing. 552 00:27:37,408 --> 00:27:38,908 [indistinct overlapping yelling] 553 00:27:39,033 --> 00:27:40,449 Oh, [bleep]! There's that mother[bleep] right now. 554 00:27:40,616 --> 00:27:42,116 [Tami] Come on. 555 00:27:42,199 --> 00:27:44,533 [Patricia] Run, CJ, run! 556 00:27:44,616 --> 00:27:46,366 [Sam] Oh, hell, no! 557 00:27:51,575 --> 00:27:53,908 What are y'all doing in my house? Get out of my house! 558 00:27:54,575 --> 00:27:56,533 Oh, no, bae! Bae, no! 559 00:27:56,658 --> 00:27:58,200 -[exclaims] -Come on. 560 00:27:58,241 --> 00:27:59,450 [Sam] Oh, hell, no! 561 00:27:59,575 --> 00:28:01,533 [Patricia] Run, CJ, run! 562 00:28:01,575 --> 00:28:03,033 [Ken] Hey, my dude. 563 00:28:03,075 --> 00:28:04,241 What the [bleep] going on? 564 00:28:04,366 --> 00:28:06,533 You on a show called Caught in the Act: Unfaithful. 565 00:28:06,575 --> 00:28:09,450 -Caught what?! -We caught you cheating. 566 00:28:09,950 --> 00:28:12,866 Now, you did know she had somebody, right? 567 00:28:12,908 --> 00:28:15,200 Yeah, I did, but I love Patricia. 568 00:28:15,283 --> 00:28:16,700 -You love her? -Yes! 569 00:28:16,783 --> 00:28:17,866 Do she love you? 570 00:28:17,908 --> 00:28:19,408 Yeah, she does, what she told me! 571 00:28:19,533 --> 00:28:20,575 What is going on? 572 00:28:20,700 --> 00:28:23,700 Well, let me tell you. My name is Tami Roman. 573 00:28:23,783 --> 00:28:26,741 This is a show called Caught in the Act: Unfaithful. 574 00:28:26,783 --> 00:28:27,783 No... 575 00:28:27,908 --> 00:28:30,408 [Tami] And Sam came to me because he thought 576 00:28:30,491 --> 00:28:33,408 you were being a little shady in the relationship. 577 00:28:33,491 --> 00:28:35,658 So you can't come to me and talk to me about this? 578 00:28:35,741 --> 00:28:38,575 It wasn't until we put you under surveillance 579 00:28:38,658 --> 00:28:43,116 that we found out you were actually having a relationship. 580 00:28:43,241 --> 00:28:44,616 His name is CJ. 581 00:28:44,741 --> 00:28:46,825 I feel like I want to talk to you, Patricia. 582 00:28:46,908 --> 00:28:49,075 I want to talk to you because I want to get to know you. 583 00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:50,908 Yeah, y'all talk. I'm going, I'm going. 584 00:28:50,950 --> 00:28:52,116 [Tami] I know Sam. I know Sam. 585 00:28:52,241 --> 00:28:53,908 [Patricia] Hey, stay away from him! 586 00:28:53,991 --> 00:28:55,325 Well, let me ask you. 587 00:28:55,450 --> 00:28:56,741 There he is right there. 588 00:28:56,783 --> 00:28:58,408 [CJ] Man, man, what you brought the police here for, bro? 589 00:28:58,491 --> 00:28:59,408 Bruh, it ain't no police. 590 00:28:59,533 --> 00:29:00,741 [CJ] What you brought the police for? 591 00:29:00,825 --> 00:29:02,075 -They with me. -They with you-- 592 00:29:02,116 --> 00:29:03,616 They better be with you! They gonna need you! 593 00:29:03,658 --> 00:29:05,450 -You better move out the house! -[CJ] You gonna need them! 594 00:29:05,533 --> 00:29:08,033 You gonna need them! I'll be in the house, of course. 595 00:29:08,158 --> 00:29:11,491 Lord, they're fighting out in the street, in Jesus' name. 596 00:29:11,616 --> 00:29:14,450 Listen, tell me about you. 597 00:29:14,950 --> 00:29:18,200 Because he told me you lost your husband. 598 00:29:18,325 --> 00:29:19,950 How long ago was that? 599 00:29:20,033 --> 00:29:21,616 Almost four years ago. 600 00:29:21,658 --> 00:29:23,366 See, this is what I'm saying. 601 00:29:23,491 --> 00:29:26,283 Do you feel like you've grieved? 602 00:29:26,408 --> 00:29:27,991 [somber music] 603 00:29:28,116 --> 00:29:30,991 When my husband passed away, him and I were separated. 604 00:29:31,116 --> 00:29:32,491 So it's a different dynamic 605 00:29:32,616 --> 00:29:34,950 between my marriage and Sam's marriage. 606 00:29:35,033 --> 00:29:36,325 So y'all had moved on. 607 00:29:36,450 --> 00:29:38,450 Yes, we had already moved on. I understand that I might 608 00:29:38,533 --> 00:29:40,200 have been healed a lot faster than Sam, 609 00:29:40,325 --> 00:29:42,950 but Sam has an issue with vulnerability with me. 610 00:29:43,075 --> 00:29:44,950 He will break down and cry in the bathroom, 611 00:29:45,033 --> 00:29:46,158 but he won't cry to me. 612 00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:47,783 He said that. He told me that. 613 00:29:47,866 --> 00:29:51,158 But if there's "love," why not come to me and cry to me? 614 00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:52,700 Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. 615 00:29:52,825 --> 00:29:54,241 Getting into a relationship 616 00:29:54,325 --> 00:29:56,366 with you in two years' amount of time 617 00:29:56,491 --> 00:29:59,658 is just not enough time for him to honestly process 618 00:29:59,783 --> 00:30:02,825 -what he's going through. -You sound like his kids. 619 00:30:02,908 --> 00:30:05,075 And they say the exact same thing you just said. 620 00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,325 I think that's being truthful. 621 00:30:07,408 --> 00:30:13,533 And all you want is attention, respect, and love. 622 00:30:14,158 --> 00:30:16,033 And he's not giving you that. You know why? 623 00:30:16,158 --> 00:30:19,658 Because he's trying to make you fit the mold 624 00:30:19,741 --> 00:30:24,325 that was already established with his late wife. 625 00:30:24,450 --> 00:30:25,866 Not really understanding 626 00:30:25,991 --> 00:30:29,700 who you are and what you need in a relationship. 627 00:30:30,866 --> 00:30:33,366 I need you to hear what this man has to say. 628 00:30:33,408 --> 00:30:35,366 Walk me through this timeline again. 629 00:30:35,450 --> 00:30:36,700 Okay, so listen. 630 00:30:36,825 --> 00:30:38,950 We met on a dating app, about five, six months ago, right? 631 00:30:39,033 --> 00:30:40,241 [Sam] A [bleep] dating app? 632 00:30:40,366 --> 00:30:41,533 [CJ] We started talking, whatever. 633 00:30:41,575 --> 00:30:43,366 She didn't really know how I was or what, 634 00:30:43,408 --> 00:30:45,450 because I don't really post no body pictures and stuff. 635 00:30:45,575 --> 00:30:46,950 I just post chest up and everything. 636 00:30:47,033 --> 00:30:49,033 Okay, first of all, she told me she don't like short men. 637 00:30:49,075 --> 00:30:50,116 [indistinct overlapping arguing] 638 00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:51,450 Man, he wasn't talking to you, Sam. 639 00:30:51,575 --> 00:30:53,075 She kept talking about she don't like short men. 640 00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:54,783 Listen, it's two grown men talking. 641 00:30:54,908 --> 00:30:56,200 Sam, I'm trying to tell my part! 642 00:30:56,241 --> 00:30:57,866 -I just want to know-- Okay. -This is what happened. 643 00:30:57,908 --> 00:30:59,491 I came over to this Patricia house, right? 644 00:30:59,575 --> 00:31:01,200 -[Ken] Okay. -She opened up the door for me. 645 00:31:01,325 --> 00:31:02,616 That's when she finally noticed. 646 00:31:02,741 --> 00:31:05,033 At first, she looking at me like, "I want to thank you--" 647 00:31:05,075 --> 00:31:06,575 Like, "Damn, do I really want to let him in?" 648 00:31:06,700 --> 00:31:09,158 But I told her, "Listen, baby, it's not about my height, baby. 649 00:31:09,241 --> 00:31:10,658 "It's about the love that I give you, 650 00:31:10,783 --> 00:31:11,616 the time that we share." 651 00:31:11,741 --> 00:31:12,950 And that's how it went from there. 652 00:31:13,075 --> 00:31:14,575 You did know about this man? 653 00:31:14,616 --> 00:31:16,908 I know about him! I don't give a [bleep] about him 654 00:31:17,033 --> 00:31:18,283 'cause he finna to get out the picture. 655 00:31:18,408 --> 00:31:19,408 He finna leave here today? 656 00:31:19,450 --> 00:31:20,700 Man, you don't know [bleep] about me. 657 00:31:20,783 --> 00:31:23,283 Man, man, forget you! I'm gonna get my lady. 658 00:31:23,408 --> 00:31:25,408 [dramatic music] 659 00:31:25,491 --> 00:31:26,450 I saw y'all. 660 00:31:26,575 --> 00:31:28,991 Where my lady at? Baby, you know about this? 661 00:31:29,075 --> 00:31:30,408 You know about this? 662 00:31:30,450 --> 00:31:34,450 Well, CJ, my name is Tami Roman. 663 00:31:34,575 --> 00:31:36,075 [CJ] So I guess you know me too, huh? 664 00:31:36,158 --> 00:31:37,116 I do know you. 665 00:31:37,241 --> 00:31:38,741 And I've been watching you for a minute. 666 00:31:38,825 --> 00:31:43,158 Patricia, while CJ is sitting here, do you want to be with CJ, 667 00:31:43,241 --> 00:31:45,408 or do you want to be with Sam? 668 00:31:45,450 --> 00:31:47,158 [ominous music] 669 00:31:47,283 --> 00:31:50,033 I want to be where I'm loved. 670 00:31:50,491 --> 00:31:51,908 [CJ] I not loving you right? 671 00:31:51,991 --> 00:31:53,533 I never said that. 672 00:31:54,116 --> 00:31:55,783 I come out here for a reason, 673 00:31:55,866 --> 00:31:58,533 and every reason has to have a... 674 00:31:59,283 --> 00:32:00,616 Because when you call Sam here, 675 00:32:00,700 --> 00:32:02,783 I want him to know who the man is in this house. 676 00:32:02,866 --> 00:32:04,283 Oh, my God. 677 00:32:11,158 --> 00:32:12,408 [dramatic music] 678 00:32:12,491 --> 00:32:14,241 Tami, listen. I want Sam, okay? 679 00:32:14,325 --> 00:32:16,575 I'll be with Sam if he gonna love me and give me the ring! 680 00:32:16,700 --> 00:32:17,741 That's crazy. That's crazy. 681 00:32:17,866 --> 00:32:19,408 She talking about she want to be with Sam. 682 00:32:19,491 --> 00:32:20,575 You got it. 683 00:32:20,616 --> 00:32:22,158 Baby, you just ain't got enough. I love you, baby! 684 00:32:22,283 --> 00:32:23,908 And everything ain't small about you, 685 00:32:23,950 --> 00:32:25,366 but you just ain't got enough, baby! 686 00:32:25,450 --> 00:32:26,783 [CJ] Go, go, go, go in your house! 687 00:32:26,908 --> 00:32:28,450 She want to be with you. Go in your house. 688 00:32:28,575 --> 00:32:31,033 -[Tami] Sam. Come on in, Sam. -[CJ] She want to be with you. 689 00:32:31,116 --> 00:32:33,616 Come on in, Ken. Come on in. 690 00:32:33,658 --> 00:32:36,950 Talking about she want Sam. This [bleep] stupid, man. 691 00:32:37,783 --> 00:32:38,825 [indistinct chatter] 692 00:32:38,950 --> 00:32:41,283 First off, you don't know 693 00:32:41,366 --> 00:32:43,866 how to communicate very well, do you? 694 00:32:44,533 --> 00:32:46,283 Why you acting crazy in this? 695 00:32:46,408 --> 00:32:49,991 I got to! I been through so much as a little person! 696 00:32:50,116 --> 00:32:51,658 I'm just trying to love somebody the right way! 697 00:32:51,783 --> 00:32:53,450 -That's all I'm trying to do! -I understand. 698 00:32:53,533 --> 00:32:54,533 [Tami] Let's sit down. 699 00:32:54,616 --> 00:32:55,783 My first love left me for somebody 700 00:32:55,908 --> 00:32:58,116 that she thought she loved. He didn't love her. 701 00:32:58,158 --> 00:32:59,658 She came back to me! 702 00:32:59,783 --> 00:33:01,825 -I hear you, baby. -[CJ] Do you? 703 00:33:01,950 --> 00:33:04,116 I do hear you. That's why I'm sitting here, 704 00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:06,283 and I want to hear your side of things. 705 00:33:06,408 --> 00:33:09,450 Patricia got kids, and I just want to be 706 00:33:09,533 --> 00:33:11,408 the father figure that's in the picture. 707 00:33:11,491 --> 00:33:13,658 That's all I want to do. I want to be the father figure. 708 00:33:13,783 --> 00:33:15,158 'Cause Sam is in and out the picture. 709 00:33:15,241 --> 00:33:17,075 One minute he's on the road, one minute he's on... 710 00:33:17,158 --> 00:33:18,491 No, kids need somebody there 711 00:33:18,575 --> 00:33:20,033 to see their mama happy all the time. 712 00:33:20,158 --> 00:33:23,158 I think both of you and Sam both want to be 713 00:33:23,241 --> 00:33:24,991 the father figure to her children. 714 00:33:25,033 --> 00:33:28,991 What I wish you had not done was allow yourself 715 00:33:29,033 --> 00:33:31,241 to be used as a pawn in this moment. 716 00:33:31,366 --> 00:33:33,325 I wasn't getting used, and I really don't care about that. 717 00:33:33,366 --> 00:33:34,741 All I'm trying to do is love Patricia. 718 00:33:34,825 --> 00:33:36,700 You don't think Patricia was using you? 719 00:33:36,825 --> 00:33:38,075 Man, listen, she wasn't using me! 720 00:33:38,158 --> 00:33:39,491 You don't think so? 721 00:33:39,533 --> 00:33:41,658 She wasn't getting no money out of me, so she wasn't using me. 722 00:33:42,533 --> 00:33:43,908 Everything is not financial. 723 00:33:44,033 --> 00:33:45,783 Okay, so why she is with Sam? 724 00:33:46,658 --> 00:33:47,991 Everything I do, "Well, my wife, 725 00:33:48,033 --> 00:33:51,200 my late wife did it like this. My late wife did it like that." 726 00:33:51,325 --> 00:33:53,825 And then not just you, your children as well! 727 00:33:53,950 --> 00:33:55,908 Like, I'm an evil stepmother or something 728 00:33:56,033 --> 00:33:58,533 and I ain't getting up and trying to love you and them! 729 00:33:59,575 --> 00:34:02,075 If I knew all you could give me was financial stability, 730 00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:04,950 I wouldn't be here. 'Cause I want love, compassion. 731 00:34:05,075 --> 00:34:06,200 I want a real family. 732 00:34:06,283 --> 00:34:08,283 I'm a widow just like you a widow, okay? 733 00:34:08,408 --> 00:34:11,408 I want to start all over and build a family too. 734 00:34:12,449 --> 00:34:13,949 -In a perfect world... -Jesus. 735 00:34:14,033 --> 00:34:15,908 ...and Sam could give you everything you wanted, 736 00:34:16,033 --> 00:34:18,533 -what would that look like? -More attention. 737 00:34:18,658 --> 00:34:20,158 What does that look like? What do you mean? 738 00:34:20,241 --> 00:34:21,699 -It looks like... -What do you mean? 739 00:34:21,783 --> 00:34:23,116 [Patricia] Let's sit down and cuddle on our beautiful couch. 740 00:34:23,241 --> 00:34:24,616 You made this beautiful home for us, 741 00:34:24,741 --> 00:34:26,366 but we never share it. 742 00:34:26,491 --> 00:34:27,741 [Ken] What else? 743 00:34:28,199 --> 00:34:30,116 -I want him to hear it. -Honestly? 744 00:34:30,241 --> 00:34:32,283 -Honestly. -Yeah, be honest. 745 00:34:32,408 --> 00:34:33,866 Be honest. 746 00:34:35,366 --> 00:34:36,741 A ring. 747 00:34:37,366 --> 00:34:39,741 [unsettling sting] 748 00:34:41,241 --> 00:34:43,033 I ain't saying that can't be done. 749 00:34:43,116 --> 00:34:45,449 Without a prenup too. That's another thing. 750 00:34:45,574 --> 00:34:46,658 What? Why would-- 751 00:34:46,741 --> 00:34:47,866 -But wait a minute. -Wait. 752 00:34:47,949 --> 00:34:49,783 He just caught you with another guy! 753 00:34:49,908 --> 00:34:51,449 [Patricia] I'm talking about before all of this. 754 00:34:51,574 --> 00:34:52,783 I cheated because he triggered me. 755 00:34:52,908 --> 00:34:54,241 -No, he didn't. -He triggered me. 756 00:34:54,366 --> 00:34:55,574 Yes, you triggered me! 757 00:34:55,699 --> 00:34:57,074 No, you cheated because you wanted to. 758 00:34:57,200 --> 00:34:59,075 The way you treat me gives me my abandonment issues I had 759 00:34:59,158 --> 00:35:00,241 from when I was a child, 760 00:35:00,283 --> 00:35:01,741 when my mother did me the way she did. 761 00:35:01,783 --> 00:35:04,575 -When my father did-- Huh? -What did your mom do to you? 762 00:35:04,658 --> 00:35:07,950 When I was 14, my mama left me in a condo, in an apartment 763 00:35:08,075 --> 00:35:10,241 by myself to go stay with her man. 764 00:35:10,283 --> 00:35:12,325 So from 14 to 16, I worked at Big Lots 765 00:35:12,408 --> 00:35:14,783 and went to school and paid my own damn bills! 766 00:35:14,908 --> 00:35:17,366 -[Ken] Hmm. -Abandonment issues. 767 00:35:17,450 --> 00:35:19,700 I got them. I told you about that! 768 00:35:21,450 --> 00:35:23,491 Why do you think you love Patricia? 769 00:35:23,616 --> 00:35:25,950 Listen, I love Patricia. She there. 770 00:35:25,991 --> 00:35:28,950 She comforts me the right way when she's holding me at night. 771 00:35:29,033 --> 00:35:30,075 There's so much [bleep] 772 00:35:30,158 --> 00:35:32,825 that Patricia do for me to make me love her. 773 00:35:32,950 --> 00:35:35,325 You're settling for people 774 00:35:35,450 --> 00:35:39,366 who are not capable of being entirely yours. 775 00:35:39,450 --> 00:35:44,033 I don't know if she was ever actually really loving you 776 00:35:44,158 --> 00:35:45,616 and committed to being with you. 777 00:35:45,658 --> 00:35:47,283 Well, when can we find out the truth? 778 00:35:47,366 --> 00:35:49,616 -You want to find out the truth? -I want to find out the truth. 779 00:35:49,741 --> 00:35:53,158 Okay, so then I think we should go back inside. 780 00:35:53,283 --> 00:35:55,116 Yeah, because I've been done talking to you. 781 00:35:55,241 --> 00:35:56,950 I'm trying to figure out what my girl want. 782 00:35:57,033 --> 00:35:58,616 I'm trying to figure out what my girl want. 783 00:35:58,658 --> 00:36:00,491 Babe, you made up your mind yet? 784 00:36:01,241 --> 00:36:02,991 -You made up your mind yet? -CJ, we're talking. 785 00:36:03,075 --> 00:36:04,908 You talking to me? Well, we need to wrap this up 786 00:36:04,991 --> 00:36:06,575 'cause I'm trying to figure out who you want. 787 00:36:06,700 --> 00:36:07,866 -CJ. -Who you want? 788 00:36:07,991 --> 00:36:09,700 Where have y'all gotten, Coach Ken? 789 00:36:09,825 --> 00:36:11,325 -[Sam] Nowhere. -Tami, look at me. 790 00:36:11,366 --> 00:36:12,575 Nowhere. I'm going out the front door. 791 00:36:12,700 --> 00:36:13,991 We ain't got nowhere. 792 00:36:14,033 --> 00:36:17,866 Okay, I do want to be able to go around and let everybody 793 00:36:17,991 --> 00:36:20,033 get their final words in. 794 00:36:20,158 --> 00:36:24,408 CJ, do you want to be with Patricia still, 795 00:36:24,491 --> 00:36:26,325 knowing all of this? 796 00:36:26,866 --> 00:36:28,366 Yes, I do. 797 00:36:28,825 --> 00:36:30,033 [Tami] Patricia, 798 00:36:30,158 --> 00:36:34,658 do you want to be with Sam or CJ? 799 00:36:34,991 --> 00:36:41,158 [swelling dramatic music] 800 00:36:41,908 --> 00:36:43,283 Sam. 801 00:36:43,408 --> 00:36:45,366 I love you and I want to be with you. 802 00:36:45,408 --> 00:36:48,366 [light piano music] 803 00:36:48,450 --> 00:36:49,950 [Ken] CJ, can I ask you one question? 804 00:36:50,033 --> 00:36:51,283 What? What you want to ask me? 805 00:36:51,366 --> 00:36:52,866 She accepts you for who you are. 806 00:36:52,950 --> 00:36:53,991 Yep. 807 00:36:54,075 --> 00:36:55,450 [Ken] And I think that's what you're drawn to. 808 00:36:55,575 --> 00:36:56,408 [CJ] Okay. 809 00:36:56,533 --> 00:36:57,616 And I think the same thing with you. 810 00:36:57,741 --> 00:37:00,408 I think the acceptance of who you are 811 00:37:00,533 --> 00:37:02,241 draws you into both of you. 812 00:37:02,366 --> 00:37:03,575 Duh. That's love. 813 00:37:03,700 --> 00:37:05,366 She talking about Patricia don't love me. 814 00:37:05,450 --> 00:37:06,533 No, that's acceptance. 815 00:37:06,658 --> 00:37:10,283 It's a foundation for love, but it's acceptance. 816 00:37:10,408 --> 00:37:12,450 I think that Patricia got love for you. 817 00:37:12,575 --> 00:37:14,533 -[Ken] Right. -And I stand on that. 818 00:37:14,616 --> 00:37:16,283 Y'all don't know what y'all talking about. 819 00:37:17,366 --> 00:37:19,075 [Patricia] Sam, I'm sorry. 820 00:37:19,200 --> 00:37:21,491 You gotta let me make it up to you. 821 00:37:21,575 --> 00:37:24,241 I really don't know how you can make it up. 822 00:37:27,658 --> 00:37:29,908 We can have a conversation, if you feel like that. 823 00:37:29,991 --> 00:37:31,158 So you're willing to have a conversation? 824 00:37:31,283 --> 00:37:32,450 [Sam] I'm willing to, we have a conversation. 825 00:37:32,575 --> 00:37:34,033 [Tami] You're willing to try to figure it out? 826 00:37:34,116 --> 00:37:38,158 If this relationship is going to go forward, 827 00:37:38,283 --> 00:37:42,283 Sam, this woman is not your late wife! 828 00:37:42,408 --> 00:37:47,825 You've got to find out what she needs in a relationship. 829 00:37:47,908 --> 00:37:50,408 She requires different things. 830 00:37:50,450 --> 00:37:56,075 And, Miss Patricia, this man needs a level of commitment 831 00:37:56,158 --> 00:38:01,283 that mirrors the 32 years he just lost. 832 00:38:04,283 --> 00:38:07,825 I want you to know I got you the ring, but had 'em-- 833 00:38:07,950 --> 00:38:09,158 [CJ] [indistinct] 834 00:38:09,283 --> 00:38:12,450 -You said you wanted the ring. -[CJ] That's fake, baby! 835 00:38:12,491 --> 00:38:14,366 I see that ring on two movies. 836 00:38:14,450 --> 00:38:16,200 -[Patricia] Sam. -[CJ] That ain't real. 837 00:38:16,283 --> 00:38:17,658 [Sam] You said you wanted a ring. 838 00:38:17,783 --> 00:38:20,283 I'm just going to keep it right now until we have a nice talk. 839 00:38:20,408 --> 00:38:22,866 -Okay. -Then I might revisit it. 840 00:38:23,700 --> 00:38:25,241 And you gonna get on down the highway. 841 00:38:25,325 --> 00:38:26,825 -[Sam] [indistinct] -[Patricia] I love you. 842 00:38:26,950 --> 00:38:28,825 I bet you still don't know how she got on that dating app. 843 00:38:28,950 --> 00:38:30,616 -You gonna get on down... -[Patricia] I love you, baby. 844 00:38:30,700 --> 00:38:32,658 I bet you don't know how she got on that dating app. 845 00:38:32,783 --> 00:38:33,950 -She'll be back! -[Tami] [indistinct] 846 00:38:34,033 --> 00:38:35,783 [Patricia] I love you. [smooch] I love you. Mwah. 847 00:38:35,825 --> 00:38:36,908 Sam gonna leave off again. 848 00:38:36,991 --> 00:38:38,491 He ain't gonna love her like he supposed to. 849 00:38:38,616 --> 00:38:39,783 And she gonna be back on my phone. 850 00:38:39,825 --> 00:38:40,950 It's cool, though. It's cool, though. 851 00:38:40,991 --> 00:38:42,991 'Cause I'mma ask her again. 852 00:38:44,325 --> 00:38:48,408 ♪ Are you going to leave me unforgiven ♪ 853 00:38:49,325 --> 00:38:52,908 ♪ Are you going to leave me unforgiven ♪ 854 00:38:53,783 --> 00:38:56,491 [electronic buzzing] 855 00:38:56,575 --> 00:38:58,075 Oh, my goodness! 856 00:38:58,158 --> 00:38:59,991 Look who's in the building. 857 00:39:00,033 --> 00:39:02,491 -Hi, Tami. -Hi, Patricia. Hi, Sam. 858 00:39:02,575 --> 00:39:04,408 [Sam] Hey, how you doing, huh? 859 00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:07,575 -What is going on? - [giggles] 860 00:39:07,700 --> 00:39:11,575 Now, there was a very big betrayal that happened 861 00:39:11,658 --> 00:39:14,491 in this relationship, Miss Patricia. 862 00:39:14,991 --> 00:39:17,325 But, Patricia, your concerns were valid. 863 00:39:17,366 --> 00:39:20,575 Any time you're in a relationship with someone 864 00:39:20,700 --> 00:39:21,991 and you don't feel seen, 865 00:39:22,075 --> 00:39:24,783 heard, or valued, that can take a toll. 866 00:39:24,866 --> 00:39:27,158 Have those concerns changed? 867 00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:28,450 Clearly, they have, but... 868 00:39:28,533 --> 00:39:29,658 [laughs] 869 00:39:29,783 --> 00:39:32,200 Well, he's clearly more affectionate 870 00:39:32,283 --> 00:39:33,366 and more attentive. 871 00:39:33,408 --> 00:39:35,825 And I realized how I was doing her, 872 00:39:35,908 --> 00:39:37,408 I didn't realize I was doing you like that. 873 00:39:37,533 --> 00:39:39,866 You know what I'm saying? And I just took a step back, 874 00:39:39,991 --> 00:39:42,366 looked in the mirror, and I was just like, "You know what? 875 00:39:42,450 --> 00:39:43,783 I can't treat her like that." 876 00:39:43,908 --> 00:39:47,700 I can't put her on the same pedestal as I had my wife. 877 00:39:47,783 --> 00:39:49,366 I got to put her on another pedestal. 878 00:39:49,408 --> 00:39:51,866 [Tami] On her own pedestal. That's right. 879 00:39:51,950 --> 00:39:53,616 Have you talked to CJ? 880 00:39:53,741 --> 00:39:55,866 No. I cut all ties. 881 00:39:55,908 --> 00:39:57,325 And that was what I needed to do 882 00:39:57,408 --> 00:39:59,533 in order for me to lock in on me and Sam. 883 00:39:59,616 --> 00:40:01,116 You know, I had to hold 884 00:40:01,241 --> 00:40:03,200 accountability that I hurt people. 885 00:40:03,325 --> 00:40:05,741 But I'm not the average woman. 886 00:40:05,866 --> 00:40:08,450 I'm a BBW. I'm a plus-size woman, you know? 887 00:40:08,575 --> 00:40:10,575 And we don't get chosen all the time, you know? 888 00:40:10,700 --> 00:40:12,700 So for me to meet someone 889 00:40:12,783 --> 00:40:14,325 and have a connection with this person, 890 00:40:14,408 --> 00:40:16,408 and they're different, that was a turn-on. 891 00:40:16,450 --> 00:40:19,241 But I hurt Sam, and I hurt, you know, CJ. 892 00:40:19,366 --> 00:40:22,158 So I had to take accountability for that. 893 00:40:22,241 --> 00:40:23,783 Now, Patricia, I'm going to be honest with you. 894 00:40:23,908 --> 00:40:25,658 I usually say if you find somebody cheating, 895 00:40:25,741 --> 00:40:27,450 just go on, get on down the highway. 896 00:40:27,575 --> 00:40:29,616 -Yeah. -There have not been many 897 00:40:29,741 --> 00:40:34,158 instances where I've changed that perspective. 898 00:40:34,241 --> 00:40:36,200 And you two were one of them, 899 00:40:36,283 --> 00:40:38,283 where I felt like you do legitimately 900 00:40:38,408 --> 00:40:40,741 want to be in a relationship with each other, 901 00:40:40,783 --> 00:40:43,241 and just did not know how. 902 00:40:43,575 --> 00:40:45,241 And I didn't see no ring. 903 00:40:45,616 --> 00:40:49,116 Is that still on the table, this marriage? 904 00:40:49,241 --> 00:40:52,241 It's still on the table. We're just going to wait. 905 00:40:52,283 --> 00:40:53,991 Both of us have got to hear. 906 00:40:54,116 --> 00:40:55,950 [Patricia] And I think he's going to come around. 907 00:40:55,991 --> 00:40:57,575 [Tami] Okay. Ooh! 908 00:40:58,116 --> 00:40:59,491 Ooh, there he go on the shoulder. 909 00:40:59,616 --> 00:41:00,950 Oh, my goodness gracious. Yikes. 910 00:41:00,991 --> 00:41:02,866 [Patricia] Good to see you. You look great, Tami. 911 00:41:02,950 --> 00:41:04,283 -Thank you. You too. -Bye, Tami. 912 00:41:04,325 --> 00:41:06,241 -Nice seeing you, Tami. -[indistinct] Bye bye. 913 00:41:07,283 --> 00:41:09,075 Cheaters, beware. 914 00:41:09,158 --> 00:41:10,366 How long this been going on? 915 00:41:10,450 --> 00:41:12,033 -Six-plus years. -Oh, Lord! 916 00:41:12,116 --> 00:41:14,283 [Tami] Next time you want to be unfaithful, 917 00:41:14,325 --> 00:41:16,866 -think again. -Eat cake, bitch! 918 00:41:16,991 --> 00:41:18,450 [Tami] Because I just might... 919 00:41:18,533 --> 00:41:20,283 You are a [bleep] pig! 920 00:41:20,366 --> 00:41:21,825 [Tami] ...catch you in the act. 921 00:41:21,950 --> 00:41:24,325 I have had enough! 922 00:41:30,741 --> 00:41:35,533 [majestic jingle] 923 00:41:38,617 --> 00:41:44,700 [hip-hop outro music]