♪ MTV ♪
[Tami] I'm Tami Roman.
I have been cheated on before.
You [bleep] my man when I was married to him.
I even wrote a book about it.
And I've made it my mission
to help suspicious lovers catch their cheating partners...
Oh, they're kissin', too!
-[Tami] ...in the act. -Mother[bleep]--
You want all these people, yo?
How many [bleep] cameras are in this room?
Oh, my God! Sunny!
Together with my relationship expert...
He will never value you unless he fears losing you.
[Tami] And stealthy investigation team.
Oh, [bleep]. Who's he talkin' to?
[Tami] We won't stop until we find the truth.
Oh, [bleep]! He's comin' out the window.
Do you, in fact, wanna see what I have to show you today?
Once our investigation is complete,
the suspicious lover can
team up with their partner's other lover.
He tryin' to get me to move my whole family up here.
-And he havin' sex with you. -This is ridiculous.
[Tami] Or take down both of them in an undercover ambush.
What the hell is Tami Roman doin' here?
I came to find out what y'all was doin'.
Cheaters, beware!
[dramatic music]
You stupid piece of [bleep]!
This is why it doesn't work!
You're communicatin' like a tyrant.
-[Woman] Stop him! -Oh, [bleep]!
Bitch! What the [bleep] are you doing?
[Woman] I can't take it no more, Tami!
Listen to me!
-I can't [bleep] take it! -You got me [bleep] up, bro!
Both of y'all are actin' crazy.
You should be havin' that energy towards the man playin' y'all!
This is "Caught in the Act: Unfaithful."
♪ I'ma give it to you real quick ♪
♪ I'ma give it to you like this ♪
♪ You ain't never met nobody like me ♪
♪ I already know that you're gonna wanna try me ♪
-[Tami] Hi. How are you? -[Demoya] Hi. I am fine.
-Now, I know you're a designer? -Yes.
-Did you design this? -Yes.
Super cute! I love the cutouts!
-Thank you. -Very cute. Well, come on in.
Let's have a talk.
[upbeat music]
So I heard a little accent. Where are you from?
-I'm from Jamaica. -I love Jamaica.
When I go to Jamaica, the people are very carefree.
The people are very loving. The people are very kind.
Would you say that's how you were raised?
Yes, from both sides of my family
'cause I went, like, back and forth.
Oh, so they weren't together?
No, but my mom, she's really a strong woman.
Um, she had me when she was 16, so she makes me wanna be,
like, the best person I could ever be in life
'cause I wanna make her proud.
-You know what I mean? -[Tami] I love that.
Okay, so now enter the relationship
you're here to talk to me about.
So I met Derek when my cousin...
he was interested in getting a website built for his business.
And Derek was perfect at building websites.
And that's what Derek does for a living?
He's a graphic designer and a website designer?
Yeah... So we went up there and...
I was just chillin' in the lobby area at first and he saw me
and he stopped me and was like making some little weird jokes.
That was like, "Okay, you kinda corny funny."
-Uh-huh. -But my cousin was telling him
that I'm interested in starting my own website,
getting into designs and stuff like that.
So that's how he built my website.
-Okay. -So I got with him
because I was like, "This is an opportunity."
And I see that he liked me. Let me get into this.
[Demoya] You know what I mean?
-Girl, no! -[Demoya] Yes.
-[Tami] So you used the man? -At first I did.
I mean, come on, you got a big opportunity in front of you.
You gonna let it slide just because?
No, you gotta get into it. You know what I'm sayin'?
[chuckles]
I feel like you...
You come off a little bit like an opportunist.
I'm just sayin', on the outside looking in,
there was an opportunity presented and you jumped on it
even though you didn't like the person.
You just didn't wanna pay for the website.
Yeah. So I guess I was an opportunist.
I'ma stand firm in that decision.
-I'm glad I did. -Okay!
So how long was it before there
was a transition from "I just need to get my stuff done" to...
-Hm? -Well, we started drinking.
[Tami] I already see where this is going.
We started drinkin'; like, I'm a light [bleep] drinker.
[Tami] Me too.
So he convinced me to go back to his place or whatever.
[Tami] Oh! He convinced you!
Y'all ended up sleepin' together that night.
He turned me straight out.
-I know he did! Wow! -[laughs] Yeah.
And then I just really grew to like him more.
And then I started, like, "Okay, Derek is nice."
-So how long you been together? -Four years.
Okay. So you've been hanging in there?
-Mm-hm. -So y'all live together?
Yeah.
Y'all... Y'all are a for real couple.
-Yes! That's my man! We engaged. -Y'all engaged too?
-Yes. -How long y'all been engaged?
We got engaged around Valentine's Day.
-Has your family met Derek? -Yes.
Do they like him?
-They don't like him for me. -Why?
Because he's older. He's the age of my parents.
They do appreciate that he's a provider.
And he, you know, take care of me,
make sure I'm not wanting for anything.
So they just don't like him for you.
But if that's what you want,
-girl, go ahead, type energy? -Yes.
[Tami] Now, four years have gone by.
It's just... it's just...
strange that you're sitting here after the proposal.
[Demoya] Mm-hmm.
[Tami] So then why are you on my couch?
He invested in my fashion line.
Like, he's the one that got everything off the ground.
So yeah, he invested over, like, 50K a year.
Demoya, what?
He helped me set up my website. He helped me find distributors.
Now, if I ask him for [bleep] something,
he's makin' it look like it's a bother.
You know what I mean? Like, I'm bothering you.
I'm getting on your nerves. Or he, like, brush it off.
Like, "Who the [bleep] do you think you're talking to?"
-You know what I mean? -Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. Anything else?
Well, he's on his computer all the [bleep] time.
Okay... that's what he does for a living.
I'm just playing devil's advocate because that's
what he does for a living, is deal with computers.
Yeah, but do you want your man to be in his phone,
on his computer, all the [bleep] time?
Like, where's the time for you?
So you want him to have some work-life balance?
-[Demoya] Balance, yeah. -Basically...
And you feel like now he appears to be
-all work, no life balance. -He's droppin' the [bleep] ball.
Because he used to be so invested.
He used to be all touchy-feely, all over me, like...
So you actually think he's cheating?
Yes.
Like, one day I was calling the [bleep] out and it was,
like, three [bleep] a.m.
What the [bleep] are you doin' at work?
-Yeah. -[Demoya] You know what I mean?
So I know for sure he was up there with somebody.
So I went up there, and when I went up there...
He was there by himself.
-He was there by himself? -[Demoya] Yeah.
-So I was embarrassed. -Yeah, wasn't nothin' goin' on.
You did the pull up and wasn't nothin' goin' on.
Do you think you could
just be making all of this up in your head?
I could be, but it's just a lotta stuff,
like, where I know you used to do,
and it's just like, "Where's the effort now, you know?"
[Tami] But you started
this relationship with improper intent.
You started this by saying, "If he gon' trick off..."
-[Tami] "I'ma get what I need." -Right.
He takes care of everything, and you let him.
I mean, we are planning a whole wedding, okay?
We speak about our future, our life.
Like, we're supposed to get married next year.
I'm not tryin' to be sitting here playin' with somebody
that's gonna be, you know, in somebody else's space.
Okay.
The only thing I wanted to point
out to you was, at the beginning of the relationship,
your heart may not have been in it, but now it is
and you don't like that things have shifted.
I mean, I do have strong feelings for Derek; I love him.
You know what I mean?
[Tami] Here's what I can do for you, Demoya.
Since you and Derek live together, I wanna ask,
would you give me permission
to put hidden cameras in your home?
Yeah.
Along with addresses and places he frequents,
all of his social media handles, just give me everything I need.
I will share it with my team.
They will put Derek under surveillance.
And we'll see what if they come up with something.
And he better be a good [bleep] boy.
♪ Workin' and grinding, I grind ♪
♪ I've been goin' hard all day, I know I've been M.I.A ♪
♪ Ain't no stoppin' my wave, Hey ♪
This is the first day of our investigation into Derek.
Fortunately, in this case, they live together.
Demoya gave us permission to rig the house with cameras.
♪ The grind is never ending, Yeah, yeah ♪
♪ Never gettin' down, I keep replenishin', yeah, yeah ♪
So today I expect that Derek is going to be going to work.
That's about all the information we have
on what he does with his day.
♪ Let me kiss myself, with my ego, let me kiss myself ♪
♪ Tell the truth Let me kiss myself, yeah ♪
♪ Let me kiss myself, myself ♪
♪ Tell the truth I don't need nobody, thinkin' with my ego ♪
♪ Man I can't take no zero You don't see no cape ♪
♪ Baby, I can't be your hero ♪
♪ I can't be the fool and let you juice me like a veto ♪
[smooth music]
[Jennifer] Yes, he's on the move.
[smooth music continues]
[Jennifer] So this is where Derek works.
[smooth music continues faintly]
[suspenseful music]
Oh, sweet. Okay.
[suspenseful music continues]
He went into a... it's a salon, a hair salon.
I'm gonna get out.
I'm just gonna do a walk by, see what I can see.
[tense music]
The man's just in there gettin' a haircut.
[upbeat music]
Got his fresh cut. Now, where are we off to?
- [upbeat music] -[car rumbles]
[Jennifer] Well, he's headed home.
[upbeat music continues]
[suspenseful music]
Derek's coding, working late.
[suspenseful music continues]
[Jennifer] Nothing exciting.
[suspenseful music continues]
[Jennifer] Hold on, that's a....
[computer beeps]
Private message box just popped up.
[tense music]
[Jennifer] Maybe somebody he's workin' with.
-[suspenseful music continues] -[computer beeps]
I can't see... Bella! Who is Bella?
[tense music continues]
♪ Dope boy, shut up, You need to calm down ♪
♪ All that slick [bleep] gonna keep you in the dog house ♪
I'm back for day two. Derek chatted around online.
So I'm curious who that is
and to see if that's a lead and where that might go.
But until he gets up and gets movin',
I'm just sittin' and waitin'.
[suspenseful music]
[Jennifer] This looks like a co-working space,
so I am going to use my glasses cam.
[electronic warbling]
I've got a camera and audio,
and I'm gonna get in there and see what I can see in terms
of who he's meeting with and what he's up to.
I too want to know how the Bella project's going,
so I need to know more about this Bella.
I'm gonna stay on Derek and hopefully find out.
[suspenseful music continues]
[laughing] Oh, [bleep]! It's a sex shop!
I'm gonna use my wig cam
to see what he's doin' in the sex shop.
[suspenseful music continues]
[Derek] Bella... Bella... Bella...
♪ I'm that girl in pink But I'm that girl, play maker ♪
♪ I'm that girl, trendsetter I'm that girl ♪
-[Tami] Hi, Demoya. -[Demoya] Hi.
[Tami] This is Coach Ken.
-[Demoya] Hey. Nice to meet you. -How are you?
-[Demoya] I'm doing good. -Good.
[Tami] I have to ask you before I show you, because you can say,
"Tami, you know what? I thought I wanted to do this.
I no longer wanna do it" if that is your choice.
Or you can agree to see the process through to the end.
Well...
You know, you see my ring still on this finger.
So, you know, I ultimately wanna get to the bottom of it.
Then let's get started. There's your home.
This was our first day of surveillance.
And there is Derek.
And we follow him and track him to work.
[Demoya] He better be at work.
[chuckling]
He work hard for the money.
Now he bout to head home...
-But he didn't. -[bleep] you mean?
He goes into that establishment.
So we try to get
a closer look and we see he's getting a haircut.
[laughing]
That got me there for a second, y'all.
-Y'all doing that thing! -He went to get a haircut.
[Demoya] Oh, Lord, my heart is jumping, girl.
-[Tami] Well-groomed. -[Demoya] Let me calm down.
After the haircut, he did, in fact, go home.
[Demoya] Okay. That's good.
Mm-hmm... But he does continue to work.
Day does turn to night.
We're still sitting out to see if he leaves again.
-He did not. -Okay.
[Tami] But we do catch him working on his laptop.
Okay.
[computer beeps]
Then these messages start coming through.
-[tense music] -[Tami] "Hey, Bella."
Bella?
[Tami] I was gonna say somethin',
but I'ma hold it 'til the end.
We continue the surveillance.
So our second day, he does, in fact, leave.
Once he's inside, it's, like, a workspace-type environment.
So we were able to go in to kinda overhear what's goin' on.
Typical meeting, helping his client.
What he just say?
The Bella project? So is this his client? Like...
Oh, my [bleep] God! This man is such a liar!
I'm using the money I make off my design!
So what the [bleep] I spend with my money,
that ain't got [bleep] to do with you, bro!
Like, the [bleep]?
I can buy whatever the [bleep] I want!
I agree with that.
That's not the way he presented it, though.
Wear your [bleep] stupid-ass hat backwards, like--
Well, Demoya, once he left the meeting,
we followed him to this sex toy shop.
I know you [bleep] Bella.
[suspenseful music]
Are you [bleep] serious?
And that is the lady
-that was cutting his hair. -This is an actual bitch!
[Tami] Yeah, the hair stylist at the salon?
That's who that is.
-[Derek] Oh, yeah, yeah. - [Bella] Let's try...
I know you [bleep] lyin'!
I know you're [bleep] lyin! That ain't Derek right there.
-Are you serious? -[Tami] Mm-hmm.
[tense music continues]
They then leave to get to this house,
which isn't yours,
and they go in together
with the toys that they just purchased.
[tense music continues]
[bleep]! Man, you got me [bleep] up, bro!
[dramatic music]
[tense music]
Tell me what you're feelin' right now.
I'm feelin' so betrayed and heartbroken!
I can't believe it.
You are in a situation that, in the beginning,
you said to me,
"He was willing to pay for stuff and so I let him."
He knows he not the most attractive guy.
So he love bombed y'all.
And y'all fall for it every time.
If there was no real attraction,
then that means you were attracted
to what he could provide and not him as the individual.
And now when things shift,
he's no longer givin' you what you need.
You're bothered. You used him.
He used me, too.
[Tami] Come on back over here.
I'm sure Ken got a term for what it's called.
And I do: compensatory intimacy.
It's where a person uses emotional closeness,
physical closeness to get something of value.
And so it becomes transactional.
And I think there's a deeper part too.
Now you see someone being
valued at the same level that you're valued at.
And now it seems like it's not genuine.
Do you love him now or do you love what he can do for you?
I love him.
[Ken] Okay... Okay.
So if he were to take away all finances, financial support,
and you just got the nerd,
the computer guy, are you okay with that?
-Mm-hm. -Okay... Tami don't believe you.
I don't believe that.
I mean, that's fine.
[Tami] I don't believe that.
[Demoya] But I just wanna make it clear.
Like, I can fully provide for myself.
[Tami] I'm not saying that that's all it was for you,
because you admitted, "I actually fell in love with him."
That's [bleep] up what he's done.
He was wrong in this situation.
So I wanna be able to finish this process with you,
and I wanna provide you options on how we do that.
The first option is called a team-up.
And that is where I would find the young lady Bella, right?
Take you to have a conversation with her,
and then the two of you go to confront Derek together.
Or get my team back out there.
They wait until Bella and Derek are together.
I wanna see him first.
Derek is going to definitively lie.
-He'll lie. -[Tami] So before you see him,
you need to see her
so that you can get all the information, right?
Don't you think that's smarter?
Yeah.
I can take you where she is right now.
-Right now? -[Tami] Yeah.
She worked at the hair salon
where he went and got his haircut.
I can take you there right now. Is that what you wanna do?
-Yeah. -Okay. Let's go.
♪ Face down, yes, he good, nah, nah, nah, nah ♪
♪ I can't seem to find, I mean it, between it ♪
♪ The lies leak through your teeth ♪
♪ I see it, I read it ♪
♪ You know I can't believe that you really ♪
As promised, I told you I would bring you
to have a conversation with her.
I wanna make sure that you are clear
on what questions you have to ask her.
How long they've been messin' around
or talkin' with each other.
Do they intend on having a future together?
♪ I said, give me-- Give me one more reason ♪
♪ I should call, all your girls are the same girl ♪
So we are here, Demoya. This is where Bella works.
So let's take a look and see what Bella's got going on.
So she is definitely there.
[tense music]
Is she packin' up?
[Ken] She look like she getting ready to go.
Is she... Oh, she packin' up. You probably need to get on it.
-Let's go. We're with you. -Yeah.
[Ken] We're with you, we're with you, we're with you.
-[Demoya] Thank you. -[Ken] Okay.
[suspenseful music]
Oh!
Oh my goodness. What's going on? Who are you?
[Demoya] Demoya... Do you know Derek?
Who? Girl... Bitch, you done came over to my place
of business with all these [bleep] cameras, bitch?
-Bitch, do you know Derek? -Bitch, who are you?
-Bitch, I'm askin' a question. -Don't question me
about no [bleep] body!
I'm tryin' to have a normal conversation with you, babe.
-Oh... -You was on ten.
You ain't even know what the [bleep] I was about to say, hoe.
[Bella] What the [bleep] you gonna do with that?
-The [bleep]? -[Bella] Bitch, you...
-Oh, no! -[dramatic music]
[Demoya] You was on ten.
You ain't even know what the [bleep] I was about to say, hoe.
What the [bleep] you gonna do with that?
Bitch, you!
-Oh! Here we go. -[Bella] You came up in here
with the cameras.
You must have wanted a show, hoe.
[Tami] This woman done threw the water at the lady.
[dramatic music]
Y'all better get this hoe the [bleep] up
outta my place of business.
Coming up in here with all these [bleep] people and cameras.
Okay. Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa!
Okay... Hey, listen, my name is Tami Roman.
This is Coach Ken.
This is a show called Caught in the Act: Unfaithful.
Demoya came to me because she's in a relationship.
She's actually engaged to Derek.
Oh, really?
[Tami] Yes. Let me talk to you. You sit right there.
Demoya has been in a relationship
with Derek for about four years.
They are engaged.
-He proposed in February. -Oh!
But she thought something was going on, right?
So she came to me to find out the truth.
We put Derek under surveillance.
[Bella] That's not true.
Well, we put him under surveillance.
-[Bella] Really? -Yes.
And we saw that he was involved with you, unbeknownst to her.
He told me about an ex.
He didn't tell me he was with a whole bitch.
And I wouldn't have cared to check
'cause he do everything that I need him to do.
What does he do for you?
He pays all my bills.
He literally takes care of me and my daughter.
We get whatever we want.
I don't need to question about the next bitch.
-Clearly, she the one bothering. -Do you like Derek?
He's buyin' me a salon, Tami.
Do you know that's what he said to her when he got with her?
All of the things that you're saying he's doing for you,
he did for her in the beginning.
Well, if she's feeling like he's not
and he's pullin' back
it's 'cause he's givin' it to me, Tami.
-[Tami] Well, we see that now. -What do you want me to do?
We're not asking you to do anything
other than acknowledge that he may be playing you, too.
I mean, he can't be playin' me. We've been together for a year.
I literally get everything I want,
so I don't have any complaints.
If the relationship is transactional for you,
then no, you wouldn't be bothered.
-Exactly. -You don't love Derek?
[sighs deeply]
That long, heavy sigh told me all I needed to know.
She's in my [bleep] face doin' the [bleep] most, like, "Bitch,
I'm just trying to ask you a [bleep] question?"
-You know what I mean, the [bleep]? -Right.
This is what I would like to see happen.
I would like for you and Demoya to have a conversation
like women without going at each other.
Well, I'll talk to her if she behave.
If she's not gonna, you know...
she needs to tone all the way down
Like, you know, come all the way down...
Demoya...
Bella has agreed to have a conversation with you.
She does not want it to be combative because the mission
is not for you two ladies to be at odds with each other.
The real culprit in this situation is Derek.
So let's go.
[dramatic music]
Now, Demoya, what is it that you want to ask Bella?
Bella's going to answer.
Then any questions Bella has for you...
you be gracious enough to answer.
All right. So, did you know about me?
No, I didn't know about you.
So how long have y'all been together?
We just had our one-year anniversary.
So before he proposed to you, he was already with Bella.
He pays all my bills.
[Tami] And takes care of her daughter.
-My daughter, yeah. -She has a child.
Are you [bleep] serious?
But Bella doesn't love Derek. She told me that.
I'm learning to love him for all that he does.
And just for him just always being--
Girl, bye! You know, you're not tryin' to love nobody.
I'm trying. I'm learnin' to love him.
He loves my daughter, always puts us together,
paints this picture about our relationship
-and how we could be a family. -But you don't love him.
But you don't love him, Bella.
Uh, well, you know, I love what he does for me.
-That's the thing. -You love the money.
You like what you're getting out of it.
But it's cool. He deserves that [bleep].
And I hope you run him dry.
Can we agree that Derek is the problem?
I mean, at the end of the day--
I think for sure that she, definitely,
needs to have a conversation with him.
[Tami] And what makes you think
that it's gonna be different with you?
Let me ask you this:
Would you be willing to find out the truth about Derek?
And what I mean by that is have him come in.
He's going to pick you up.
[smooth music]
-Sure. -[Tami] Okay.
I know Derek don't want her. When he come, I'll prove it.
Okay. We'll go back to the van.
We'll see when Derek comes in,
the engagement and interaction that y'all have,
and then Demoya will come out
and confront him while he's with you.
I'm gonna go ask the owner of this establishment
if we can figure out how to get their cooperation.
[upbeat rock music]
♪ Bring it on, yeah Bring it on ♪
♪ Yeah, in the zone, head in the game, now it's on ♪
♪ Bring it on, yeah, bring it on ♪
♪ Yeah, yeah, in the zone Bring it on ♪
[upbeat rock music continues]
[Tami] There he is.
He better [bleep] not.
[Demoya] He better [bleep] not.
[Demoya] Why is he rubbing her down?
Like, he's such a [bleep] simp, bro!
Oh, my God! Look at this man!
-[Demoya] That could be! -Look. Didn't I tell you?
[bleep] no! [bleep] no! No! Are you serious?
I'm about to break the [bleep] out of this [bleep] face, bro!
I swear to God!
[dramatic music]
And she said her [bleep] was ashy.
[dramatic music continues]
[indistinct] Bitch! You stupid piece of [bleep]!
You [bleep] bitch! [indistinct]
[bleep] you, you piece of [bleep]!
Don't tell me, you piece of [bleep]!
You look like a [bleep] simp, you [bleep] idiot bitch!
[Tami] Where did he go, Ken?
-Where the [bleep] is he goin'? -[Tami] Derek!
[dramatic music continues]
-[Derek] [bleep], [bleep] this! -[Tami] Derek.
[Derek] Oh, no, no, no. I got to go.
Let me tell you what's goin' on. My name is Tami Roman.
I know your name is Derek.
Demoya came to see me
because she thought there was infidelity in your relationship.
This is a show called Caught in the Act: Unfaithful.
We saw you in a relationship with Bella.
-That's my hairdresser! -No, no, no, baby.
[Derek] Yeah, she my hairdresser!
I saw you suckin' toes.
[Derek] No, I do that.
I saw you suckin' toes. So come on, let's go on inside.
Let's go on inside.
You ain't gonna be able to escape this.
Oh, no no, no, no; I don't wanna go in there with her.
Come this way. Come this way.
-They got... Ken got her. -She go crazy.
Ken got her.
[Derek] That girl crazy. Oh, my goodness.
Look...
Y'all make sure y'all keep her away from me.
[dramatic music]
[Tami] Derek, sit down and talk.
[Derek] Oh, my goodness.
Have a conversation with me because I wanna hear your side.
-What she say? -[Tami] Okay.
She said things have changed in the relationship:
that you no longer communicate, you're always on your computer.
Yeah!
You used to invest in her business.
-I do! I kinda... -You no longer do that?
You is not on my level, bitch! You is not on my level, bitch!
[Bella] Look at you with the ring, getting nothing!
-Look at me, bitch! -[Ken] Yo, yo!
[Demoya] I have nothing to do with you, bitch.
He could never get me that worked up. You know why?
'Cause I don't have a [bleep] ring.
I would have never told him yes. You told him yes.
I would have never told him yes.
Look, we have a... we had a good relationship, right?
We had one for about two and a half years.
Okay.
It probably, you know... it was... we was havin' sex.
We was doin' this. We was doin' that.
-[Derek] She used to cook. -Okay.
She used to clean.
She used to rub my feet. She was my bag.
She [bleep] me good. She [bleep] me to sleep.
-All that stuff, right? -Okay.
She ain't done that [bleep] in two years.
So I say to you, Derek, why didn't you have a conversation?
-I did! -[Tami] What did you say?
Look, I said, "Why don't you give me some [bleep]?"
She was like, "I'm tired."
That's how you feel you needed to ask the woman
that you want to be your wife is,
"Why don't you give me some [bleep]?"
Well, I gave her some money!
You ain't half as good, bitch!
Come on now, stop playin' with me!
-[Ken] Hold on. -[Demoya] The [bleep]?
[Ken] Sit down, calm down, calm down, sit.
Bitch [bleep] playin' in my face!
Don't try to [bleep] attack me!
Calm down, calm down. Listen, I know you're mad.
Both of you all have been
what we call exchange-based relationships.
In an exchange-based relationship,
people will give something to get something.
For both of you, he was giving both of you financial support.
And in return for that, you gave him what he got.
I mean, to be honest, I didn't trust him.
And I think that's why I literally just was on the basis
of just like, "Okay, I'm just gonna see how far this goes."
I think he just saw two beautiful girls...
-Mm-hmm. -[Demoya] And he used us.
That's just what it was. And...
Well, not only. Ho, ho, ho, y'all...
Y'all used him too, right?
This is what I wanna do for you.
[clapping]
I wanna give you a round of applause
because this mother[bleep] character is phenomenal.
You need to take it out on the road
and start doin' stand-up,
'cause this is not the real mother[bleep] Derek.
What you wanna know?
Now we gonna have a real [bleep] conversation.
What you wanna know?
Where do you come from, Derek?
What type of household were you raised in?
Oh, man, you want... So I'm... My mother is a single mother.
-Two children... -Mm-hm.
I remember one time, man, it was, like, for a whole month,
we ate nothing but, like, tomato soup.
-Damn. -[Derek] Oh, man!
My mother did her best, but...
So what the [bleep] would make you,
as a man, come from seeing all of that and decide
to take this course of action with the women in your life?
[sighs] Maybe I...
do stuff like this to boost my self-esteem a little bit.
I mean, this ain't the first time I've cheated on women.
It probably won't be the last.
Well, if you're not ready for a committed relationship,
then you shouldn't take people on that journey with you.
But they wanted...
But look, they wanted me to do stuff for them.
If I remember, they wanted me to take care of the businesses,
both of them.
They wanted me to handle everything.
They wanted me to pay for everything.
They come to me first.
I think that, when you met both of those women,
they told you what their dreams and aspirations were.
-[Tami] And you finance it-- -I do love them!
I do love them. I love both of them.
Actually, I wouldn't mind all three of us gettin' together.
I wanna thank you for coming in to talk to me one-on-one.
Because I think all of this is bull[bleep]
and I'm not interested.
[upbeat music]
[bleep] outta here. I ain't got time for this [bleep].
It's raining and [bleep].
[upbeat music continues]
Where's these other bitches?
Because this mother[bleep]'s back there playin',
and I don't got time for this; I do this [bleep] for real.
If you wanna be for real and you're serious
and this was real for you, Derek,
bring your ass the [bleep] back out here!
Otherwise, let us go!
[dramatic music]
Derek, bring your ass the [bleep] back out here!
-Otherwise, let us go! -[Derek] Look, I'm really sorry.
[Bella] Is this your [bleep] fiancé?
Come sit down right here. Come sit down.
Sit your ass down!
[tense music]
Let me tell you somethin'.
I feel like we're not getting to the truth.
We're not getting to the bottom of things.
People aren't being their real,
authentic selves, outside of you two ladies.
That's what I feel. I will say this, Demoya.
You came to me because you
wanted to know if something was going on in your relationship.
Although it started as transactional,
you actually grew to love Derek.
You wanted to know if something was going on.
I said I would provide you with the truth.
We found out that Derek was involved with Bella, okay?
Lo and behold, Bella don't even like you.
So let that be known.
Which is why I said to you, "You buy [bleep]."
You don't wanna acknowledge that.
But that's exactly what you do. And why do you wanna buy it?
Because these are two beautiful,
strong Black women that you wanna be associated with.
[tense music continues]
What is the future for all of these relationships?
I'm going to start with you Demoya.
-[Demoya] I'm done with him. -[Derek] No you're not.
[Tami] Bella, what about you?
Once everything came to light
and it was obvious that we both were tellin' the truth.
Yeah, it's over.
Like, I would have never even entertained him this far
if I woulda known she was in the picture.
-[Derek] I'm really sorry. -[Tami] Oh, Lord.
-[Demoya] Shut the [bleep] up. -I know,
I'm a sorry man right now.
You know what, though? It's probably good.
Actually, you know what?
I actually did y'all two a favor.
Okay, two things.
One is both of them are in better
situations than they were before they met me.
That's one.
Number two: look, they can start their own journeys.
They don't need me anymore.
-[Derek] They don't have to-- -[Demoya] I don't [indistinct].
They don't have to take my money anymore.
And that's unfortunate that you think so little of yourself
that you have to lead with money rather than your personality,
rather than what you have to offer someone, the love.
If there's honesty in you, if there's commitment in you--
-I love both of them! -[Tami] If there's communication
in you, you should lead with those things.
The truth is, dude, you won't let them see who the real you is
'cause you don't even know who the real you are.
That's my point.
You don't even know
because you're living out this character.
It's just fearful.
[Tami] The real him is hurting from somethin'--
-Something else. -He just doesn't wanna face
and doesn't wanna disclose.
And that's why he can't be his true self
in any scenario or relationship.
And that's unfortunate because you don't know who you are.
And I'm not gonna sit the [bleep] here
and let you try to explain it to me.
I got [bleep] to do.
-[Tami] Come on, Ken. -[Ken] All right.
[Derek] Yeah, I think both girls are done with me.
I mean, she had some valid points.
Maybe I am usin' my money as to, you know, get women.
But at the end of the day, man,
ain't no girls lookin' like that gonna hang out
with this unless I'm spendin'.
Like, me, movin' forward?
I'm gonna continue to do
what I've been doin' before the [bleep] he ever existed
and move on.
[bleep]... He ain't [bleep] to lose anyway.
I feel like I just wasted four years of my life
that I'm not gonna get back.
But I've learned,
ultimately, don't settle for less than what you deserve.
♪ This is for the broken hearted ♪
♪ This is for the ones abandoned ♪
♪ Who never had hope but stood their ground, never had life ♪
♪ They marched on through This for the kid in me ♪
♪ Who had those constant nightmares ♪
♪ Of being left in darkness, 'cause he ain't broken vanity ♪
-Hello there, Demoya. - Hey!
Listen, the last time we were together,
there was so much foolery goin' on.
How have you been since that moment?
It's definitely heartbreaking, you know?
Just tryin' to cope with my new reality.
Which is?
Single... Tryin' to be independent by myself,
tryin' to get my business back up and runnin'
from the ground up.
Well, I tell you, I wasn't expecting to hear that,
although I am pleased to hear it
because Derek seemed to feel that you
were going to definitely
be crawling back no matter what came out that day.
- He's stupid. -[Tami] Clearly.
Has Derek tried to reach out to you?
He definitely have.
But I'm not tryin' to hear nothin'
that he has to say, for real.
Okay... Have you seen Bella again?
-No. -So you really are doin' you?
You really are just focusing on you.
I told you, like, them toes broke my heart.
Like, how could you even... That is so disgusting to me.
- Like... -Now, come on, Demoya.
Because there was a part of you that liked some of that stuff
when y'all first got together now.
-If it's benefiting me, right? -Uh-huh!
[both laughing]
[Tami] You just wanna be the only one.
If y'all freakin' each other like that,
you gots to be the only one.
-Yeah. -[Tami] Mm-hmm.
But if you need help, Coach Ken is available.
I'm busy.
Thank you, Demoya, for lettin' me check in with you.
And it's wonderful talkin' to you.
It was wonderful talkin' to you as well.
All right, bye!
Cheaters, beware.
How long has this been goin' on?
-Six plus years! -Oh, Lord!
[Tami] Next time you wanna be unfaithful, think again.
I'm quicker than you!
[Tami] Because I just might...
Get out this damn truck!
[Tami] ...catch you in the act.
-You a cheatin'-ass female! -Yeah!
-He's playin' me! -I would play your ass, too!
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