- ♪ MTV ♪
- I'm Tami Roman.
I have been cheated on before.
You [bleep] my man when I was married to him.
I even wrote a book about it.
And I've made it my mission to help suspicious lovers
catch their cheating partners in the act.
- Hey, you brought this to my place of business?
How dare you! What is this?
- [bleep]! - Oh!
- Together with my relationship coaches...
- You gotta tell her about the insecurities that you have.
That's how y'all work through it.
- This is a situation where you have to say,
"I'm gonna step up and do what's right."
- And stealthy investigation team...
- They think they slick? Well, we slicker.
- We won't stop until we find the truth.
Cheaters, beware.
- I'm [bleep] torn. I love them both.
- You gotta fundamentally say, "I'm gonna be different."
- Who the [bleep] you think you are?
- Why the [bleep] y'all got cameras in my place?
What the [bleep]'s wrong with you?
- [screaming] Tami! Tami!
- Nobody should think they're better than anybody else
'cause y'all all [bleep] been played.
And that's just the truth.
This is "Caught in the Act: Unfaithful."
[upbeat music]
- ♪ I just wanna live life ♪
♪ All the times in sunshine ♪
♪ I just wanna good time ♪
♪ No worries up in my mind ♪
♪ I'll never come down ♪
♪ Having fun is all we do ♪
- Hello. - Hey!
- How are you? - I'm doing wonderful, queen.
How you doing? - I'm doing well.
Oh, my goodness. - [groans]
- Oh, fabulous. - [sighs]
'Cause I gotta get into your eyes.
- You're gonna get into my eyes?
- Dow! - I appreciate that,
'cause I'm gonna get into your eyes as well.
- Thank you so much.
- So you contacted me
because there's something going on in your relationship,
which I do wanna hear all about,
but I wanna hear about you first.
- So I'm a lot. - Okay.
- Like my walk, when I walk into a room,
I'm gonna own it, always. - Uh-huh.
I know from your social media, you're known as Big Sexy.
What is it that you do on social media?
- I'm a content creator.
I'm a viral sensation.
And do you look this fabulous everywhere you go?
- Dow! All the time. - There's never a down moment.
- Never a down moment.
- And have you always been that way?
- Okay, as far as being myself, yes.
But I had to fight to be who I am, you know?
It could be a real battle to literally wake up
in the morning sometimes
because you don't wanna go to the bus stop
because you know immediately you're going to be judged.
I literally remember going to the bus stop one time
and literally, it was boys at the top of the building
throwing glass bottles down at me.
- Mm-hmm.
- It got real tough.
But I had a phenomenal father who raised me.
So I called him one day, I said,
"Hey, Daddy, they bullying me."
He said, "Okay, son, I'm gonna take you to karate."
I literally had to fight to be who I am--
physically fight to be who I am.
I get it, because I was-- I come from the same.
I was raised as a Muslim,
and I used to have to wear the hijab.
I was you-- don't wanna go to school,
I don't want these people trying
to pull off my hijab, you know.
And I fought that.
So I'm sure you go through that
because I can see in your personality
the minute somebody says something,
oh, you gonna give it to 'em.
- When you so used to people coming at you,
that's the only way that you know
how to defend yourself.
I did change those ways about me,
but it's still a struggle.
- Mm-hmm.
And so now we're an adult,
and you're starting to form relationships.
Because by now, you're fully you.
You're walking in your truth.
What was your first relationship like?
- It was moreso rooted in him using me,
and that is the thing what a lot of times,
when gay men deal with down-low men.
- Oh, your first relationship, he was down-low.
- Down! - Got it.
- A lot of times, as gay men, we desire this man
who really don't desire you,
but he know that he can get $2 out of you.
So he'll deal with you for that money,
but he really don't desire you in that way.
- Did you try to buy friendship at a young age, and it worked?
- Yes, I did.
Now that you asked that question,
I remember being in high school,
and the only way I was accepted
is if I bought the snack for everybody.
So I think that is rooted in that, definitely.
When you're dealing with a down-low man,
it's a whole different dynamic.
You are a secret. - Mm-hmm.
- So you do have certain down-low men like,
their parents don't know, their homeboys don't know,
they would never post on social media,
they would never get married to you,
but they'll take you to brunch.
They'll take you to the movies where it's dark,
where they're not necessarily being seen.
- So in your situations,
people could see you guys together,
but there would never be any action
that would let people know,
"we are together." - Yes.
- All of your other relationships
were with down-low men?
- Every last one.
- And then there's the relationship
that you're here about. What's his name?
- Eric. - Eric.
- Eric is not necessarily down-low,
but he is not out loud.
He'll be out in public with me.
- But do they know you guys are a couple?
- [sighs]
They know but they don't know. - This heavy sigh...
[laughs] That came with that.
[both sigh theatrically]
- Because he's not down-low to the point
where we can't be out in public with each other.
But he is not parading who he is.
He's bisexual.
- Is he still dating women now?
- He's not-- no, he's dating me now.
He appreciates me walking in my truth.
He appreciates me being who I am.
He loves my size, he loves my legs,
my feet, how I handle myself.
He just enjoys who I am as a person.
So it's just like, I love that about him.
It's been a year.
- Wow. - Yeah.
- Now...
I have to ask you.
Did you buy him anything?
I know. You judging me!
- Now, let me hear this. - [sighs]
I'm real big on my man matching my fly.
You gotta be fly,
so I've invested into his wardrobe.
He came to me, he say he wants to start his business,
and so I said, "Around this time next year,
"if we are really locked in and we are really serious
"and I have no second thoughts, I will invest
$10,000 into his new business."
- You have been using this strategy
that comes from your trauma from your past
of love-bombing people,
giving them whatever it is they need, right?
None of those worked.
And you're still using the same strategy.
- And that's why I'm here, 'cause I gotta break the cycle.
- Yeah.
- I'm getting down to the fact of,
rather he should be permanently moving here with me.
- Mm!
This is a long-distance relationship!
- Dow!
That's why I'm trying to make sure
he's being faithful. - Mm-hmm.
- It's getting a little weird.
Because usually, I have his undivided attention.
- Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
- I'm the only person that you know here for the most part.
You do have maybe two homeboys here,
but that's it--you from Philly. - Yeah.
- So when you come here,
I need to have your undivided attention.
- Have you met his family? - No, I haven't.
- Has he met your family? - No.
- Mm-hmm. But he's met your friends.
- Yes. - Mm-kay.
What do your friends think about him?
- They like him.
- So what brought you here?
- So one time, he told me
that he was leaving to go back to Philly.
When I went on my business Instagram page,
I seen that his story was hid from me
on my official Instagram page.
So when I confronted him about it,
he said he only did that
because he wanted to hang out with his homeboys
and he didn't want me to have an issue.
Why would it be an issue now when you been doing that?
That's very much playing in my face.
- Mm.
Okay.
Why is this important to you?
- [sighs] It's important to me
because I have felt myself at 28 years old
wanting to be with somebody who is faithful to me
so that I can give my full love.
I think right now, I'm not able to give my 100%.
I'm giving 80%; I want to give 100%.
But I wanna make sure the 100% is getting back to me 100%.
- So I will help you figure out what's going on.
I can definitely put my team out there
to investigate for you.
- And guess what, Miss Tami?
He drives my car.
He stays at my home.
Do what y'all have to do. - Okay.
- [sighs]
- So what I heard was,
I can talk to my team, and we've got permission
to put cameras in your house and in your car.
- Yes. - Okay.
Thank you, honey.
- ♪ My lifestyle, dripping wet ♪
♪ Chick is in the building ♪
♪ You wanna see me, cool, better not have a ceiling ♪
- Day one. New case.
So I'm on the way to Bryant's house.
Tami gave me the heads-up. They're not home.
Bryant is pretending to be working late all this week,
so we're gonna find out what Eric does
when he's on his own time.
And I'm gonna be planting some cameras
in Bryant's vehicle.
[suspenseful music]
♪ ♪
All right, guys, that was easy.
So I planted the cameras in Bryant's car.
Got good video, and we'll have good audio.
So now I'm just going to find a spot,
set up the surveillance, and wait.
♪ ♪
Oh, [bleep], he's coming out.
He's coming out right now. There he is.
All right, we're gonna follow him, guys.
And there he goes.
We're still downtown.
Let's see where this guy goes.
Oh, shoot, he just pulled into a car wash.
I'm gonna follow him right in.
I'm hidden in plain sight.
Let me see what the live feed looks like.
All right, there he is.
Vacuuming, he working hard for Bryant, his man.
So nice.
He's backing out. I'm gonna follow him out.
You know what, guys?
He's going back to Bryant's house right now.
All right, we're just gonna sit here for a little bit
and make sure he doesn't leave again.
♪ ♪
There's a car pulling up by his house right now.
Okay--oop, someone's coming out of the house.
Oh, that's Eric. He's all dressed up.
He's getting into that rideshare.
It's on.
All right, let's see where you're going tonight, Eric.
Oh, boy. What the heck's in here?
What do we have?
It's a little club.
Okay, he just got out of his car.
I'm going in.
So I have my crucifix.
Great camera for low light,
and it's very inconspicuous. No one will notice it.
Thank you.
[indistinct chatter]
Who the hell is this guy he's talking to?
All right.
Well, he's at the bar,
he's flirting with this other guy.
We gotta wait and see what he does.
Oh, Eric's out of the bar,
and he's with the guy that he was at the bar with.
Okay.
He's got his phone out.
Well, it's not-- it's not enough.
I gotta follow him.
All right, Eric.
So who you going to now?
Looks like he actually is going back home.
All right, guys, it's 2:00 a.m.
We'll just call it a night,
and we'll start back up in the morning.
- ♪ Might be out all night ♪
♪ Might stay... ♪
- Day two. Here we are again.
- ♪ No ♪
♪ Might drop in for a bite ♪
- Oh, there is Eric.
And we are off.
[suspenseful music]
♪ ♪
All right, guys, he's pulling in here.
I don't know where the hell we're going,
but this is a pretty dead street.
It's, uh, it's actually a dance studio.
Oh, someone just came outside of the door.
Oh, [bleep].
She's getting into Eric's car!
You know I have it all wired up like a friggin' Christmas tree.
It's got audio, video.
Okay, let's see what we got here.
- Oh, I think they're friends.
All right, here we go, guys.
♪ ♪
All right, they're at a drive-through, guys.
Let's listen in.
- [gasps]
It's like--I can't make this stuff up.
He's totally with this girl.
We're in residential again, so let's see now where
he is going.
♪ ♪
And here we are, guys.
This must be her house.
Okay, walking in.
They're in.
We're just gonna sit here now on the house.
♪ ♪
Oh, here he is, guys.
He's coming out solo.
Well, he did his business.
Here we go.
And we're off.
Eric, where you going now?
He's going right into Bryant's house.
And then I think we're gonna call it a night.
See you tomorrow, Eric.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
Oh, God, guys, I've been here all day.
Nothing. No movement.
No movement.
[suspenseful music]
Oh, here he comes.
He just got out.
He's leaving the house right now.
Eric's all dressed up, going out again.
Let's see where he goes tonight.
This is that house with that woman.
That girl is coming out right now.
All right, we should get something good tonight.
This is crazy.
Where the hell is he taking here?
♪ ♪
There's no name on the building.
I think a necklace camera's gonna be good.
I brought my necklace camera, so.
All right, there they go. Can't miss her.
She's got pink pants on. Love that.
This is a full-blown couple.
He called his penis a "thingmaster."
- ♪ You got them silent shades ♪
♪ Tattoos on your bottom place ♪
♪ You got my arrows raised ♪
♪ Now I'm stuck up in this place ♪
- You got everything.
I'm sure you had a chance to review it.
- Yeah. - This one's a lot.
- Yes. Hey there!
- You look so good! - Thank you. You too.
How are you? - I'm doing wonderful.
- Love this color on you. - Thank you so much.
How you doing? - How you doing?
- That is DJ Envy. - Nice to meet you.
- Have a seat on this side.
Thank you for coming in.
I told you that once my investigation team
was able to secure some footage
that I would have you come back in.
I do have DJ Envy here because in the event
that you see something today
that makes you feel some type of way,
I think that Envy can come
from a place of personal experience
being able to help you navigate those emotions.
So what have you been thinking? What's been going on?
- I'm ready.
Like, when I tell you I'm ready,
like, I'm on the edge of my seat, I wanna see.
- Are you sure? - I'm positive.
[suspenseful music]
- This is our first day of surveillance.
I'm sure you recognize your place.
We see Eric coming out,
getting into your vehicle.
Ends up at the car wash.
- Oh! Oh, I'm jittery.
- He's making sure your car is clean.
- Long as it's clean, 'cause he drives it.
So it should be clean. - Yes. Yes.
- So we follow him-- - [yells]
I'm always at that club.
- Now, let me tell you something.
I've never been to this place, but it is busy.
- Hold on the camera. Hold on. Wait. Hold on.
'Cause I can't even-- 'cause I see him--
no, I don't like all that.
I don't play them type of games,
doing all that talking and stuff and people think--
I don't do that.
I don't play them type of games with people.
- All we could see was him speaking with this guy
at the bar until they came outside.
Looks like they exchanged numbers,
and then Eric goes on about his business
and the guy goes back inside the club.
- I don't like all that exchanging numbers.
- You wanna see the next day?
- What else you got, Miss Tami?
- All right. - I don't play them games.
What's mine is mine.
- There's your boo.
It turns out to be a dance studio.
- He called somebody and said, "Come outside."
He picked up this young lady.
Do you know who that young lady is?
- Mm-mm.
- They go to this restaurant, they're in the drive-through.
Thank you for letting us put the cameras in your car.
We truly appreciate that.
- Take me to Eric. I wanna go to Eric now.
- You don't wanna see the end of this?
- No, I don't wanna see-- I wanna go to Eric now.
I don't play them games. - No, no, no.
- Eric is in my-- - Sit on down.
Sit on down. - It's gonna be an issue.
- Sit on down. - It's gonna be an issue.
- Let's watch everything that happened.
- Yeah, I think you should see everything.
- Okay, let me see the next day.
- All right.
- This is date night.
[Eric laughs]
- I'm so blown at the fact that this is in my car.
This is in my car!
- The question I have for you is, seeing all of this,
it's not "why is he doing this?"
"Why is he doing it in my car?" - Mm-hmm.
- All right, everything is "my car."
Like, it's more about what you pay for
than how you actually feel.
And if you're saying that to me and Tami,
I can imagine what you're saying to him.
It seems like you're making him feel a way
where it's almost like it's not a relationsh--
it's not a 50/50 relationship.
Do you really like him? Do you really love him?
- I like him a lot; that's why he's with me.
- I hope he knows that, and I hope he doesn't think
that you're his sugar daddy.
♪ ♪
- Now, the thing you need to know about this moment is,
they drove a long time.
Outside of the city.
So nobody knew them here.
Very intimate, in the corner.
- He said, "We could do it in the truck."
- He wanna [bleep] that like a mango.
- Do you think this is acceptable?
- Now, let me ask you this.
Does he call his penis "The Thingmaster" with you?
- No, it's a lot of things that he doing with her
that he don't do with me.
- Well, how did it make you feel
when the girl he was with knows the family?
And you don't?
- I'm gonna always be a secret.
He's not gonna be able to bring me around
like he'll be able to bring her around.
I want nothing to do with him after this.
I wanna see him.
- We do it two ways, okay?
So I can get my surveillance team back out there
to find out who this young lady is.
Once they find out who she is,
I can take you to have a conversation with her.
You guys can speak,
and then you guys can go together
to talk to Eric.
That's called a Team-Up.
Or put the team back out there,
wait till they find those two together,
and then you can go approach them
and catch them in the act.
That's called a Takedown.
♪ ♪
- I wanna do a Takedown.
Because my issue is with him,
I wanna do a Takedown immediately.
- Okay. Then that's what I'll do.
Do not leave here and call Eric.
I would like to be present
to help facilitate this conversation.
- Okay. [sighs] - Okay?
All right.
- Now, Big Sexy, can I ask you a question?
- Yes, you can.
- Why'd you take your shoes off in here?
- 'Cause I was being overheated and my feet was hurting.
- Yo, yo, hey, look.
♪ I brag so much 'cause I am so much ♪
♪ Let's stay fresh... ♪
- Hello. - How you doing?
- I'm doing well.
- Good. - Let's get it.
- The team called me, and they have
Eric and the young lady together at the dance studio.
So I contacted Big Sexy... - Okay.
- And told him that we're on the way to come get him.
- Everybody comes with anger first, right?
And anger gets nobody anywhere, right?
Because once you come at me with anger,
whether I'm right or wrong, my first mechanism is defense.
- Yeah. Mm-hmm.
- So I think it's one of those things--
have a conversation.
And then you start asking the questions
that you need to ask, you know?
Are you using me? Do you not love me?
Are you embarrassed by me?
Why would you show her your family and not me?
You know, what made you wanna step out?
- Yeah. Well, we are here.
Ooh, he look like he ready.
- How y'all doing? What's up? - Hi.
- Good to see y'all again. - Same here.
The surveillance, they finally called
and said that they are actually together.
I know you're angry, 'cause I feel it all in it.
It's all in your spirit.
What do you plan to ask this man?
- I wanna know,
does he plan on being with women moving forward,
and then I mainly wanna know, does she know who I am?
- Great questions.
So we're here at her studio.
There are cameras on the outside of this van.
Because we don't have actual cameras
inside of the studio, there's no audio.
Now, when you step outside of this van,
that is when our cameras are gonna follow you on in.
- I'm ready to go in. - You're ready to go in?
- Dow! - Are you sure?
- I'm r--I'm positive.
- We'll be watching everything. - Yeah.
♪ ♪
- He done--he done took off running in.
- Really, Eric? [yelling]
No! No! No! - Oh, my God.
- Wait! I'm gonna talk! Hold on!
No! Let me talk! Let me talk!
[overlapping shouting]
Let me talk!
- No--I'm not talking about nothing.
- You will never touch me again!
- Go! - You will never touch this...
[overlapping shouting]
- You will never touch me again!
- Go! - You will never touch this...
[overlapping shouting]
- Are you [bleep] with him? - Yeah!
- Are you [bleep] serious?
I met your family! - That's what you do to me?
- No! No!
- No. - Hold--hold--hold, everybody.
Let me explain to y'all what's going on, so--
- Please explain. - I'm going to.
- My name is Tami Roman, and you are on a show
called "Caught in the Act: Unfaithful."
- "Caught in the Act"? - Yes.
- This is some embarrassing [bleep] right now.
- I'm gonna talk to Eric.
You are never touching me again, baby.
You see it?
You are never touching me again.
- Big Sexy, Bryant, came to me
because he thought there was something going on
in your relationship.
- In his relationship?
- You will never touch me again!
- All this? For real? - You will never--
- All this? For what? What are you doing?
All this when you could've just came and talked to me?
- He thought that you were being unfaithful
in your relationship,
so we put you under surveillance.
And we found out that you were, in fact,
engaging with this woman...
- Get this off of me! - Yo, Bryant! Come on.
- Don't wanna talk.
Don't wanna talk.
- I mean, I love both of them.
- No, you don't [bleep] love me.
Hell the [bleep] no. - Okay. What is your name?
- I'm Quanna. - Okay, well, Quanna,
you're in a relationship with Eric, but Eric--
- Five months.
- Okay, well, Eric's in a relationship
with Bryant for a year. - Hell the [bleep] no.
- For a year.
- Just breathe, just breathe.
- Do they have a cold [indistinct]?
- Did you know about Bryant at all?
- I did not know about him at all.
- Okay.
- You've been dishonest with both people, Eric,
and that's why we're here.
Are you willing to have the conversation with Bryant
and explain what you've been doing with Quanna?
- No, yeah, I'll ta--I'll talk.
- Okay, let me go see if I can get him.
- [sighs] This just got me [bleep] up.
It really is. It's so [bleep] crazy.
- Bryant.
- I don't even wanna be on camera anymore, y'all.
- All right, take your time.
- Like, I'm so embarrassed right now.
- He's coming in.
[dramatic music]
- We got a chair for you to just--
just sit down, take a seat. Breathe, brother.
- Here. We got this chair for you.
Quanna, I want you to have a seat, baby.
Everybody is gonna get an opportunity to speak,
and we're gonna address everybody's concerns.
Now, Eric, you have been unfaithful with Bryant...
- I'm [bleep] faithful as [bleep].
- And dishonest with these people.
- Hold on, one second, one second.
I can't breathe, for real.
For real, I might need a medic.
- All right, let's-- - So let's go get a medic.
- Let's get the medic. - Let's get a medic.
- Do you have asthma?
- Not asthma, but I ain't moved like that in years.
I can't breathe.
- Yes. I can't.
- Look at all this drama you done caused.
- Come on, Eric. Come with me.
- Just breathe. Control your breathing.
In and out slowly. In and out slowly.
- [crying] This is so [bleep] crazy, like...
- What inspired you
to step out on your relationship with Bryant?
- I love him.
Like, I just feel like sometimes,
with me dating him,
I feel like he takes away from my masculinity.
Just, like, thinking just because he do something
that he can just, you know, just tell me what to do.
You know, you do it, that's cool.
I thought this relationship was 50/50.
But at the end of the day, I'm still a man.
I'm also still the dominant one,
so you're taking from--
you're taking from that from me.
- Come on. Bryant, here. There's a van here.
There's AC, okay?
- Have you ever had that conversation with Bryant
about how you're feeling emasculated
in your relationship? - No.
- Well, don't you think that would've been
probably step one, to let him know how you feel,
and then if things don't change,
then rather than stepping out,
it's like maybe he's not the person for you?
And I wanna be sure that
you're not succumbing to "what people feel is normal,"
and so with Quanna,
that's the easier route to take.
- Right.
Well, I told Quanna, it helps me
because she just makes me feel like I'm in charge.
I just really felt comfortable, like, just traveling with her.
Um, also introducing her to my family.
She don't emasculate me.
- [sighs] - You know Eric was bisexual?
- I didn't know Eric was bisexual.
He presented himself, right, as he's a straight,
cisgender man.
I actually am bisexual myself.
I'm in the community.
He's never mentioned it, you know.
- So you didn't know he was gay,
you didn't know he had a boyfriend, nothing?
- No.
- I'm also finding myself.
When I started dating him,
me being bisexual and also not being fully out,
he also helps me, like, you know, like,
just feel good about myself and, like, being around me,
like, he's a person-- a beacon of light.
So he's comfortable with it,
and so he make me feel comfortable.
I'm bisexual, I have no problem saying that.
And it was hard before I met him.
[siren wailing]
- Do you really want to be with Bryant,
or is it, the opportunity of being with him
helps you further what it is you need to do?
- Well, I actually have to be honest, like,
at first, it was moreso probably the opportunity,
but then also, he grew on me. - Okay.
- Me and he started hanging out all the time.
Like, just being around him, he's an inspiration.
Like, I fell in love with him. I did fall in love with him.
- Okay. Okay.
- You having a hard time breathing?
When did this start?
- Probably, like, 20 minutes ago.
- 20 minutes ago. Okay.
Listen, I'm gonna check some vitals on you.
[siren wails]
[tense music]
- Just breathe. Control your breathing.
In and out slowly. In and out slowly.
- With Bryant, you haven't introduced him
to anybody in your family at all.
- Being bisexual and all, they wasn't okay with that.
And, you know, and he just told me, like,
"You're you, and you have to live for you.
"And if you not comfortable with yourself,
how are you gonna go on with life?"
- Do you want to start a life with him here?
- I do.
- I think the only way to fix it
is let him know, "This is how you talk to me,
"these are the things you do,
and for me, that belittles me in our relationship."
Now, with Quanna, how are we handling that?
- Um, I definitely feel like I owe her an apology.
- Let's try to go and give her one.
- Okay. Yes. - Okay? Come on.
- Crazy thing is, is he's telling you one thing,
but he's telling Bryant the same thing.
He's telling Bryant he's moving out here with him.
- He living a double life,
and I don't know if I'm the beard
or whatever the [bleep] they call it,
but it ends today.
- So I have had a conversation with Eric.
A very nice conversation.
And Quanna, he has something that he wants to say to you.
I'll let him start.
Um, I basically wanna start by saying, I apologize
for just leading you on.
But the love that I had for you is real,
It is genuine, it is real.
- I just have, like, a real question.
Like, did you really love me?
Was you truly trying to move in?
Like, what was the plan here?
Like, was you gonna move in with me,
was you gonna keep this going on?
Like, what if this never happened?
Would we be doing this for a year?
- I didn't mean to ever have this--
make this happen or bring this into your life.
I'm sorry, and I apologize.
- As a queer person myself, I told you, like,
all types of stuff that's happened to me as a child,
and I feel like if you was confused,
you had space and opportunity to say something, like...
- Do you see a future with any of them?
Or do you want a future with any of them?
- I do. - With who?
- Not me.
- Bryant.
- You know, Bryant, right now, he feels used.
You know, he feels like his love language is gifts,
and he gave you gifts,
and he felt like you took advantage of that.
- Let me go check on him.
See if he's all right.
How you doing, Bryant?
- I could barely even breathe. Take this--take this off of me.
- What you need off, baby? - This microphone [bleep].
[soft somber music]
- Can I just make sure Bryant okay?
What's going on right now?
- Let me go check with Tami and make sure he's okay,
and then I'll be back. - Okay.
♪ ♪
- Hey, Tami.
I just wanna ask if Bryant's okay.
He's getting up. That's a step. That's a step.
- The crazy thing is, I was talking to Eric,
and Eric was like, "I just want Bryant."
Like, he's by the door.
He wants to see if his boo is okay.
♪ ♪
- Okay, Eric.
I'ma walk you over there.
We gonna stay back enough,
but you know, if you wanna ask is he okay,
let him hear your voice, let him know, you know, okay?
All right.
- You know, if you love him, tell him you love him.
Tell him you're sorry.
'Cause he's got a case where he's hurt.
Be honest.
- Bryant.
So I've got Eric here. - Hey, baby.
- I want you to just sit here and allow him the opportunity
to apologize and explain.
Can you do that for me?
Okay.
All right.
- Baby, I'm sorry.
I did not mean for any of this to happen
or for you to even be going through this
'cause you don't deserve it.
You are really, like, the love of my life,
and I'ma be honest with you.
I went through so much as a kid, like,
just watching how my family talked to people
when they are coming out.
So by me being bisexual and being around you,
you just opened my eyes that it doesn't matter
what anybody thinks.
It doesn't matter who you love
'cause can't nobody tell you who to love.
Also, I just feel like when it came to us,
sometimes, you would...
give me money, but then also the moment you get upset
or get mad, or if I don't answer my phone,
you send me ignorant text messages basically saying,
like, "Give me my money back, you ain't [bleep],"
this, that, and other, like, belittling me.
And I should've just came to you
and told you how I felt
instead of me going elsewhere
and involving somebody else in this.
I love you...
Please.
[tense music]
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- I really wanna work things out with you,
and I love you...
Please.
[tense music]
- No.
I can't.
- And so when you say you can't,
what--what--what--
- I can't do this situation no more.
And I'm so embarrassed.
I have nothing to say to him.
- I'm okay with that,
but I just wanna make sure that you--
you at least heard what he said.
- Miss Tami, I heard it,
and the apology is not accepted.
- Okay.
♪ ♪
- Go on. I have nothing to say to you.
- You shouldn't feel embarrassed at all.
He should be embarrassed for what he did
and the way he cheated,
so you shouldn't feel that way at all.
- My life is gonna continue.
I'm gonna continue being great. I have nothing against her.
I can't compete with her-- she's a Black woman doing her--
I have nothing to say to her.
- Okay.
- I mean, hopefully, me and him can work it out possibly.
The only thing I can do is continue to show my love
and me being sorry to him,
and if he can't take that, I mean,
I just have to just go on and move on.
- I'm glad you're feeling better.
You're back on your feet.
Listen, the bottom line is,
you came to me because you wanted the truth
about your relationship.
Although it wasn't pleasant, I feel like I got you that.
So I'm gonna let you go.
Envy and I are gonna get up out of here.
And you staying fabulous, so stop it.
- All right. - [laughs]
- All right.
- The panic attack that I had was very scary.
A lot of times, the only way I know how to deal
with my anger and my hurt
is to act out.
This whole experience really taught me
a lot about my future
and how I'm gonna move forward with dealing with me.
- ♪ I know that I'm like it ♪
♪ I stay standing, shining ♪
♪ Can't hold me down I'm flying ♪
♪ If I sailed on by ♪
♪ And I got the keys, I'm driving ♪
- Bryant.
- Hey, Miss Tami!
- How are you, baby?
- I'm doing good.
- There was so much going on
the last time we got together.
How's your health? - It's good.
Literally, it just was a lot that day
for me to take on, and a lot to see,
so I just got overwhelmed
with everything that was going on,
but I'm healthy, I'm living, I'm good,
I feel good, I look good.
- So tell me, with Eric, is there any part of you
that's like, "He could potentially
get a second chance"?
- I can see us having a friendship,
but as far as relationship,
I would have to see some changes in him
for me to really dig deep down inside
to give him that second chance.
I learned a lot from this experience,
I learned a lot from it, and...
- Right.
I wish you all the best, all right?
It's good talking to you, love.
- Good talking to you. Mwah! Love you!
- Same here. Bye! - Thank you!
- Cheaters, beware.
- You [bleep] kissed her, you idiot.
- Next time you wanna be unfaithful, think again.
- Let me tell you one mother[bleep] thing!
- Oh, Lord, oh, Lord, oh, Lord!
Because I just might catch you in the act.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪