- ♪ MTV ♪
- I'm Tami Roman.
I have been cheated on before.
You [bleep] my man when I was married to him.
I even wrote a book about it, and I've made it my mission
to help suspicious lovers catch their cheating
partners in the act. Hold up.
- And you brought this to my place of business?
How dare you! What is this?
- Ooh. - ♪ Hey ♪
- But catching a player is not a one-person game.
- We all know he's been lying to everybody.
- Together with my relationship coaches...
- You have to say, I'm gonna step up and do what's right.
- And stealthy investigation team, we won't stop
until we find the truth.
- They think they slick.
Well, we slicker.
- Are you ready to see the footage?
Once our investigation is complete,
the suspicious lover can team up with their partner's
other lover... - Yeah.
- Are you willing to, like, team up with me, though?
Because I would like you to do this with me.
- Oh, [bleep].
- Or take down both of them in an undercover ambush.
- Who the [bleep] you think you are?
- Why the [bleep] y'all got cameras
in my [bleep] crib?
What the [bleep] is wrong with you?
- Cheaters beware.
- Don't play with me about my son.
- Your son?
- The truth doesn't cost anything.
There was a pregnancy scare.
- [crying]
- But a lie could cost you everything.
- You gotta fundamentally say, I'm gonna be different.
- You know I love you. - You love me? Act like it.
- You've been playing with me for a year,
and I ain't never did [bleep].
- We can't even figure out
what the [bleep] is going on in here.
- Stop it! Stop it!
- Nobody should think
they're better than anybody else
because y'all all been [bleep] played,
and that's just the truth.
This is "Caught in the Act: Unfaithful."
[upbeat music]
- ♪ Diggity-boom, down to make history soon ♪
♪ Had to flip on the moon just to let the energy move ♪
♪ It's the passion inside ♪
♪ That's made the trigger the fuse ♪
♪ Charged up, watch me give them the juice ♪
Monika? - Hello.
- Hi, how are you? Let me give you--
- Tami!
- Nice meeting you.
You as well.
- Hi.
- Thank you so much for coming in.
- Yes, ma'am.
- So before we find out what's going on,
why you here,
tell me all about your relationship with Ken.
- Okay, so we met in December of 2019...
- Okay. - At the gas station.
- Now, how did that work?
You just was pumping gas, and he said, hey, boo?
- He approached me.
He exchanged numbers.
So the next day, he called me.
We went on our first date, and we got serious.
A month later, I ended up pregnant.
- A month later? - A month later.
- Okay, so I have to ask it this way.
Do you have children?
- I do.
I have one daughter by him. - Okay.
- I have two boys by a sperm donor.
- A previous relationship.
How has he been with that?
- He's been great with it.
Like, he took my kids in immediately.
- Okay.
- Ken is a loving father, and it just draws me more to him
because, like, he moved me and my kids here.
- Okay.
- Yeah, I'm from Birmingham, Alabama.
- Oh.
- So I was traveling back and forth for modeling gigs.
- And that's what brought you to Atlanta...
- Yes, ma'am.
- Where you ended up at the gas station to meet Ken?
- Ken, yes.
- Got it, okay.
What does he do?
- He is a manager of a gym.
- Okay. - Yes.
- He's the manager of a gym. - Yes.
- Okay.
- He proposed to me, so we got married.
- Y'all got married?
- We got married in Vegas.
- Were family and friends at the wedding?
- Yes. - Oh.
- His family is so supportive.
Like, I love them so much.
- What's your family like?
- I lost two brothers back to back...
- Oh, wow.
- 13 years ago.
- Mm.
- My brother was shot 50 times.
- 50 times?
- Yes, four months later, my younger brother was shot.
- Mm.
- So it's just like, I don't like to go back home,
because it's just too many emotions.
- Yeah, I know how you feel.
My mom, you know, passed away.
And so, it felt like everywhere I drove around,
it was always a memory.
Oh, I remember this.
I remember that.
And I couldn't emotionally take it.
It was like, I just can't stay here.
I'm gonna go crazy.
So I get why you went away.
But what's bothering you now in your relationship with Ken?
- Ken--oh, god, woosah.
- Yeah, woosah.
- So when I got pregnant and I had the baby, when I got
back home, I seen some messages in his phone
while he was in the shower. - Okay.
- I went through his phone... - Okay.
- Because... - Now, you know
if you look for something, you're gonna find it.
- But it was flipped over.
It's always flipped over.
So in the back of my head, I'm like,
why is your phone always flipped over?
I went through the phone.
I seen a couple of video messages...
- Okay.
- From other women, and I seen emails
of nude pictures of other women.
- Nude pictures?
- Nude pictures.
I went in the shower. - [sighs]
- I threw the phone at him while he was in the shower.
- Okay. - And I was like, what is this?
He denied it to the fullest, of course.
- Mm-hmm.
- That was a friend through another guy, whatever.
And she didn't mean nothing.
But why is you giving these people any type of interaction
when you--you like--
- So he interacted with it?
- You interacting with it, yes.
- Okay.
- Like, he's talking to these people.
- Okay.
- Like, oh, what you need?
Like, volunteer his services, basically.
- Got it, okay.
- So after that, I went through--
I seen some more stuff of him supposed to be client,
texting her, "Good morning, beautiful.
How are you?"
- I hate, "Good morning, beautiful."
- "I'm glad I met you." Like, I hate it.
- I hate it. I hate it with a passion.
- I hate it. - It's such a corny line.
Has there been anything else
since you guys have been married?
- Yes, he butt dialed me.
He was supposed to be on his way home.
- Ooh, I love a good butt dial.
What happened on the butt dial?
- I answered the phone.
- Ooh, what did you hear?
- I heard women in the background laughing,
music extremely loud.
- Okay.
- So I guess when he realized that his phone was on...
- Mm-hmm.
- And I'm blowing his phone up,
and he finally answered the phone, he like, oh, babe,
I was in the gas station.
- [sighs]
- Really?
I locked the garage.
I threw his [bleep] on the front porch.
And I told him, don't come in the house.
- You collected all the man's stuff
and threw it out on the porch?
- And burnt some of it up.
- You did? - I did.
- Okay.
Was this a one-time occurrence where
you picked up all his stuff and threw it out the house?
- Mm-mm, it's happened multiple times.
This not the first time.
- Okay.
- Yeah.
- So you know, I always gotta keep it real.
- I know.
- You have a pattern of lashing out...
- Mm-hmm.
- When things don't feel right to you.
- Mm-hmm.
- But you do know that when you do that enough times,
you cause distance in your relationship...
- Mm-hmm.
- With the person that you're trying
to have a relationship with.
- Right. - Right?
- But he caused these things, Miss Tami.
Like, he make me.
Like, I don't want to go back to the past
of what I already endured.
Like, don't bring that pain back.
- And I'm in no way trying to put this off on you.
What I'm saying is I recognize the behavior because
I was the exact same way. - Right.
- I'm you. You're me.
We are she, okay?
It's like, all of those things create blocks, right?
- Right.
- And then eventually, they are the things
that build the wall up,
and the person stands behind them.
- Mm-hmm. - Right?
So when somebody tries to break down that wall...
- Mm-hmm, you get defensive.
- You get defensive. Uh-uh, I need my--
I need my bricks back up.
- Right.
- And if you're doing that with your husband,
that makes him feel unsafe in the relationship,
which could inevitably push him to someone else
where he doesn't have to endure that type of dynamic
in the relationship.
So when you throw the phone...
- Mm-hmm.
- When he in the shower,
and when you cut up all his stuff
and put it out on the porch,
that's a form of emasculation to a man.
- Right, but you can go cheat?
- No, now I didn't say that was right.
I didn't say that was right, but doing all of that
is sabotaging the relationship that you clearly care about.
- So this--does that make me toxic?
- Yeah, girl.
- [sighs] Maybe you're right.
- It's a toxic situation.
- He's a toxic ho. That's the difference.
- Child, everything that you have told me today,
I have got to ask you, why now are you trying
to figure out what's happening?
- Because at the time, my kids were young,
and now they getting older.
And I just need more clarity, and I need to just make sure
that I'm in a good headspace before I do anything crazy
and them children is not gonna be nowhere involved.
- So it's really about the kids for you?
- It's really about my kids, our kids.
- Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.
I'm gonna take the case, Monika.
- Thank you.
Thank you.
- Now, listen here, child. - Thank you.
Thank you. - Now, listen here, child.
So this is the way it happens around here.
Now that I've heard your story, I need you to act normal.
- Okay.
- Okay?
Because I just want to check.
There's nobody in particular that you think
he's cheating with, right?
- I don't know.
- Okay, so then I'm gonna need you to give me some locations.
You can text me and let me know where he hangs out,
where he's often at, and then I will relay that information
to my investigation team.
And then we just gonna try to figure it all out for you.
Here we go.
- Thank you so much.
- You're welcome. You're so beautiful.
- Thank you. - Okay.
[upbeat music]
- ♪ Tell me, is you with it ♪
♪ Is you with it ♪
♪ Only get one shot ♪
- We found out that Ken is working
as a general manager at one of these local gyms out here.
We're gonna drop our eyes on Ken
today just to see what he up to, you know,
see if there's a new Barbie in the playhouse
that he's playing with.
We know he is inside, so I'm gonna put these on.
These are some covert glasses.
It has a microphone and a camera to them.
[suspenseful music]
♪ ♪
- All right, just left from out the gym.
Ken got some food delivered to him.
I really didn't see anything inappropriate.
I'm just kind of disappointed right now
I didn't get anything on him today.
I just knew we was gonna get something.
- ♪ Can't stop when we start ♪
♪ We gonna, we gonna get it done ♪
♪ Start and we stop ♪
♪ We gonna, we gonna get it done, get it ♪
♪ And we start ♪
- Here go my man, Ken.
He just left.
We gonna go ahead and follow him, see what he doing.
He kind of dressed up tonight.
- ♪ And that's a race against my past ♪
♪ Whenever they clock me, that's 2,000 on the dash ♪
♪ When it kind of tickles me and everything, I laugh ♪
- [sighs]
There go my subject, Ken, to a little restaurant.
Oh, Ken and Barbie.
Come on now.
Okay, oh, they out in public kissing.
Ain't that the chick from the gym?
Come on, focal--focus, focus.
Let's see what you about to do.
Happy-happy joy-joy going on.
We're gonna stick it out and see what he do.
All right, look like he's going home.
I'm just gonna go ahead and wrap it up for tonight.
I'm gonna pick him back up tomorrow.
- ♪ And if the beat live ♪
♪ I'm a problem nobody solvin' ♪
♪ You can keep hating, I'm poppin' regardless ♪
♪ He want a bitch look like Megan Thee Stallion ♪
- All right, Ken on the move.
He came out semi Dapper Dan.
But he's solo-dolo right now.
I'm willing to bet my career that he gonna lead us
to the same chick that we just saw
yesterday with all that PDA.
[upbeat music]
All right, we followed Mr. Ken down here to a restaurant.
So what we gonna do at this time,
we're gonna use two different covert cameras, a key fob.
We're also gonna go back to the glasses.
So we're gonna go see what Ken is up to.
Lights, camera, action.
- He supposed to be at home.
He out there gallivanting.
- Jackpot. [bleep]. Got him.
[mellow music]
♪ ♪
- Monika, how are you?
- Hello, how are you?
- This is Coach Ken, our relationship expert.
Have a seat, baby.
- Yes, ma'am.
- So, Monika, I have the footage.
- Okay.
- Okay?
I want you to know that if you watch this footage,
it could potentially change the dynamic of your relationship
forever going forward.
So I want to make sure you want to see it.
- I want to see it.
- Okay, here we go.
This is him leaving out of the gym, of course.
We continue to watch it.
This is later on in the evening.
And he ends up here, and he's having...
- What the [bleep] is he doing now?
- Dinner, lunch.
- What the [bleep]?
- Now, we continue to watch him,
and we waited to see if they were
gonna do a little sneaky link situation.
- That's [bleep] Keiarah.
- Who?
- That's supposed to be a friend of mine.
- How long have y'all been friends?
- We been friends for about a year.
- This woman right here is supposed to be your friend?
- Yes!
- Then clearly, she knows that he's married to you.
- She knows.
- So you have her at your house around him?
Like, that's--I'm just trying to get an understanding.
- And around my kids.
- And around your kids?
On our additional day of surveillance,
he's showing up with the same person
from the restaurant before.
- And he too close.
Ah, stop it! Stop it! Stop it!
- Okay, all right, okay.
She ran off to the ladies' room.
Let me go check on her.
[somber music]
- [groaning]
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no!
- Monika?
♪ ♪
Miss Tami...
- You gotta calm down so that you can see.
Come on, stand up.
- I'm weak.
Okay, I'm hot.
- Come on.
- Okay. - Okay.
All right, I was able to calm her down.
Oh, Lord.
- You have a right to feel everything
that you're feeling right now.
And I want you to express that because you gotta get it out.
It definitely hurts.
So we're gonna watch the rest of the video.
Are we gonna be able to get through it?
- I want to see it.
- Okay, all right, we're gonna get through it.
- Okay, well, then let's see how your friend...
- Bitch, really?
- This bitch is on his lap!
- Love you?
- Oh.
- So he's buying her lingerie.
- Ah, stop it!
Stop it! Stop it! Stop it!
[tense music]
♪ ♪
- So he's buying her lingerie.
- Ah, stop it!
- Calm down.
- Breathe, breathe.
You wanted to know about everything.
- You want to see the rest of this.
So they leave the restaurant.
- Together?
- Together.
And they end up...
at a hotel.
- No!
No!
- I really wanted you to be able to see
everything that's going on.
♪ ♪
What's her name? - Keiarah.
- Keiarah, okay.
So when you kick him out,
he's running to Keiarah.
- I got a headache. This ain't real.
It's not. [laughs]
- Tell me how you're feeling right now.
- I'm angry.
My heart is broken.
- I get it.
It hurts.
It definitely hurts.
Somebody you trusted, the betrayal of it all.
- Ah!
Like, that's not how you do your mate.
Like, it's supposed to be a [bleep] team.
We was a team.
- That's her husband.
- And that's your friend and--well,
supposed to be your friend.
- Mm-hmm, not no more.
- There's no reason that that man should
be out intermingling with somebody
who's supposed to be her friend.
- Right, he gotta take responsibility for that,
and we gotta hold him accountable.
- And I should have been the one cheating!
I should!
I work just like you.
I got a career.
I take care of the kids most of the times.
Yeah, you provide.
I can provide, too, because I've been doing it
before I [bleep] met you,
and what make you think it's gonna stop?
- Do you want to save the marriage?
- I don't know.
- Okay.
- And you gotta start from somewhere.
Like, I begged for counseling.
You won't even [bleep] do that.
How you do it?
Like, you could have came to me as a man
and told me, like, how you was feeling, bruh.
- So you feel like the communication between y'all--
- It sucks. - It sucks.
- Yes, he's dead wrong.
That [bleep] is not right on any level.
But what I want you to do is, both of you
have to take responsibility for your part in the relationship.
We all have to because it never happens with just one person.
That is the result of something.
What he told this woman, he said,
I don't feel appreciated.
I don't feel validated.
There's no peace in the house.
I keep getting thrown out.
What I'm-- and I'm not blaming you,
but the only way this relationship is gonna be saved
is each person says that I'm willing
to take 100% responsibility for my part in it.
- I wouldn't be a bitch if I wouldn't have seen
the text messages from the beginning.
I wouldn't even be this person.
But you brought this out of me.
- Right.
- There's two things that we do around here.
- Mm-hmm.
- Based on what you've seen,
you can either sit down with Keiarah
and have a conversation with her, okay?
That's what we call a team-up.
And then you guys can go and approach Ken together.
Or you can wait until they are together like how
they was at the restaurant with her sitting on his lap,
and kissing, and hugging, and he loving,
and he--she his piece, okay, and catch them in the act.
That's called a takedown.
- Let's take them down. - You want a takedown?
- I want to-- taking no [bleep].
I'm positive. - Okay, take [bleep] down.
- It is.
- Takedown, it is, because it needs to be a takedown.
- It's gonna be a [bleep] takedown.
- It don't need to be no team-up, because you've been
talking to her. - It's gonna be a takedown.
- Make sure you don't say nothing.
- I'm not.
- Don't saying nothing to Ken.
- I'm not calling either one of them, but they gonna see me.
- I'm gonna call you when I got something.
- Okay.
♪ ♪
- It needed to be a takedown.
This is a marriage.
This is a contract...
- Right, yes.
- Between two people.
He was supposed to honor that and respect that.
- Is she pushing him away, though?
- Yeah.
- Her temper is no joke.
- Because what I explained to her was
you're emasculating this man.
Every time you throw him out, where does he go?
You're pushing him away instead of being
mature enough to sit down and have a conversation with him.
- Absolutely, I agree with that.
Listen, as far as the reaction goes,
I'm surprised that she-- that's all she did.
- I knew from when I had the consultation,
she was gonna tear that place up.
- My heart just now slowing down.
- [laughs]
- ♪ Bad girls bad ♪
♪ Bad, bad, bad girls bad ♪
- The investigation team actually found him
and Keiarah together.
- Did they?
- Yes, so we on the way. - Okay.
- And I gotta show you this video that she just sent me.
Start it over, child.
Ooh.
- Tami, what the hell?
- Luckily, she sent me this video, okay,
and her husband hasn't seen it yet.
She still deserves the opportunity
to confront him with the other woman.
So we're gonna coach her through this.
- I don't know why my heart rate just started
to go up like I did earlier.
- There she is. - Hey there.
- Hello. - Hey, Monika.
- Hey, Miss Tami.
- I was in a state of panic
when I got that video from you.
You went home and tore stuff up?
- I did.
I kind of got in my feelings, and I let my emotions
get the best of me.
- I understand.
My investigation team came up on him and Keiarah together...
- Again?
- Mm-hmm, at the gym.
So that's where we're headed.
- Okay.
- The investigation team is inside.
- Okay.
- We'll be able to actually watch
what's going on in the gym on our monitors here.
- Okay. - Okay?
All right, so I'm gonna turn this on,
and let's see what's going on inside.
- This is sexual in nature.
- It is!
- This--this is not--
this is not exercise in nature.
This is sexual in nature.
- Man, please let me go.
Please, please, please.
- Okay, all right, okay, all right.
- Look. - Please!
- But you gotta go in and ask the questions.
- Okay.
- And that's what I need you to do...
- Okay. - Nothing else but that.
- Let me help you down.
Come on.
- How the [bleep] you get in here?
- [laughs] Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- Let me go! - Oh, [bleep].
- [laughing] - Come on, bitch!
- What's going on? - You think it's funny?
I'm gonna [bleep] you up, bitch.
- What's wrong with you?
- You brought cameras, baby girl?
What you doing? - You little damn ho! I'm--
- I don't know why the [bleep] you bringing cameras.
- Bitch! - What is wrong with you?
You been playing with me for two years.
- You not no victim, baby.
This [bleep] don't even want her.
- She's taunting her.
- I already cut your [bleep] up, ho.
- Oh, so you cut my clothes up again?
- That's why he leave her. - Again?
- She do too much.
- You been burning stuff, destroying my stuff,
accusing me of cheating since we've been together.
And I ain't never did [bleep]. - You want to fight?
- Shut your--bitch, I want your bitch ass, ho.
- Her smug attitude.
[groans] - Come on, let's go.
- You need the help, baby.
He's gone.
He out the door.
- What is you doing?
- You talk too goddamn much, ho!
- Calm down.
- It's giving very much fraudulent.
- But you--
- Hey! - [screaming]
- Hey, hey, hey, hey.
Hey, hey. - [bleep] you up.
- Ken, how are you? - This girl got anger problems.
- That bitch is crazy.
- My name is Tami Roman. - Hey, Tami.
- And you are on a show called
"Caught in the Act: Unfaithful."
- What?
- Monika came to me because she thought
there may be some infidelities.
She asked if we could surveil you.
We did just that, only to find that you were
engaging in a situation with this young lady,
who we've since found out is Keiarah,
who's supposed to be her friend.
- Yeah, they friends.
- Bitch, you know you've been playing with me, [bleep]!
- Man, you been playing with me for years.
- But Ken, does that-- does that make it right,
what you did rather than...
- [bleep]! - Having a conversation?
- [bleep]!
- I'm not defending what I'm doing,
but what I'm going to is this.
She just said she cut up my clothes.
- [bleep]! - All right, number one,
do you know how many of my stuff
she's destroyed of mine?
- She all in her feelings
about a fraudulent ass [bleep].
- With your bitch ass!
- A fraudulent ass [bleep] that ain't even worth
[bleep] getting cameras over.
- I got receipts, bitch. You ain't even worth [bleep].
Get the [bleep] out of here. - There's no excuse for that.
- Shut the [bleep] up!
[bleep] everybody in this bitch.
♪ ♪
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
- I said shut the [bleep] up!
Everybody in this bitch!
Now, we ain't getting [bleep] accomplished
when everybody's [bleep] yelling.
Y'all done pissed me the [bleep] off.
That's not why I do this [bleep].
Come on to the back.
Come sit here because they both going crazy
because they feel like they've both been told
something different by you.
- She's your friend. - We acquaintance.
- Okay. - Yeah.
- Was she your friend--
- I'm gonna acquaint your ass across the [bleep] gym.
- Was you and her friends? - Anyway.
- I'm gonna acquaint your ass, ho.
- Did you call her friend?
- Yeah, we--yeah, if you want to say that.
I've known them for about three years.
They've been on some [bleep].
- Okay.
- So it been rocky.
He been [bleep] not wanting to be with her no more.
I met him at a bar around my place
probably, like, six or seven months ago.
He just was confiding in me.
We were friends.
Time went on, it became a relationship
because I was like, damn, Ken is a real good guy.
Like, whey the [bleep] she treating him like that?
He do too much for her.
Like, but he already told me, like, I'm done with her.
I'm out the door.
Like, this bitch is crazy.
And I seen this bitch, how she treated him,
even when I was at the house one time.
- You put yourself in this situation.
- I did.
- Because you did not have to step out on your marriage.
- I did not.
- Okay, and you did.
- I did.
- And then it's somebody that she happens to know.
- He came to me talking about-- talking mad [bleep] about her.
Like, the fact that she even trying to defend,
like, do all this, this [bleep] talks trash
about her all the time.
He comes to me, talking about her, saying he out the door.
He told me he don't even live with this bitch no more.
He ready to sign the papers.
He told me he was done with her.
- The thing about is that for over two
years before this happened, I get
treated like I ain't [bleep].
And that's how I get treated on a daily basis.
- But she didn't start that way.
- When we was having those problems,
it was really about social media stuff.
That's really what--when she was going through my phone,
all the stuff. - Mm-hmm.
- It was about that.
Boom, let's cut this off, cut this off.
Let's do this.
We ain't had an argument about that since.
The stuff that we have arguments about
is more than just cheating.
- And--and so what are those things?
- She's OCD.
She's distrustful.
Like, she's OCD with a problem.
If I--if I leave the plate right here
and I leave it there, and I walk out that door, and I go--
and I go to work, I'm blocked for the whole day.
Like, she won't--like, it--
it's a plate.
- At what point do you then say, I love this woman.
I married this woman.
I want to be in a relationship with this woman.
So I'm gonna make an extra attempt
to compromise and not do the things that I think
are going to set her off.
- And what you said is exactly the point
that needs to happen, and that's the reason.
I don't know what the hell--
I would never leave my wife for her or nobody.
I don't want to--
I don't want to leave her.
- And because you would never do that,
that's the main reason why--
- But she divorces me and breaks up with me
every other day, though.
I'm being--I've been--
this right here is the culmination and the result
over years and years of her messing with me
emotionally and mentally.
And I probably sound soft as hell
because normally, women are, you're emotionally
and verbally abusing me. - No, I don't--
- But guess what.
I'm the one being verbally and emotionally abused.
- My question to you is... - Okay.
- You--she was confiding in you.
- She confided in me.
- She was telling you about the relationship.
- She did. - And essentially,
you used that information against her.
- I ain't used nothing against her.
He said he done with her.
Like, and, you know, after I got to know Ken,
me and Ken really just started having feelings for each other.
And that's just how it was.
He said we was gonna get a apartment
and all that [bleep].
- Oh, so he promised you that--
- Yeah, yeah. - Oh, when I'm leaving her--
- He gonna get me a apartment.
- We gonna-- we gonna get together.
- We gonna move in together.
Like, he was trying to take [bleep]
to a whole nother level.
Like, even if it wasn't me,
[bleep], she's pushing this [bleep] away.
- Medic, medic.
- Yeah. [laughs]
- Relax, relax. Water, water, water.
- Concentrate.
In through the nose, in through the nose,
out through the mouth.
Listen to me. Listen to my voice, right?
- [groaning]
- In through the nose, out through the mouth.
♪ ♪
- I was about to pass out.
- How are you doing now?
- I'm better.
- Okay, how's your vision?
- Blurry. - Blurred?
Blurred right now? - Very.
- All right, well, let's just take a minute, okay?
- Lean back, put your head-- put your hands on your head.
- This too much for me.
I don't got time for this [bleep].
- So basically, what's happening in your relationship
is she's just not feeling safe enough.
- But I don't understand why.
I feel like we both played a part in this turning
into this, but you can't tell her that.
- Your kids need you, okay?
They gotta see a strong woman who can
be resilient and bounce back.
And I understand you have given a lot of yourself to this man,
to this marriage.
But what I'm saying to you is don't let any
of this compromise who you are, your self-worth,
your integrity, your value because you're
worth everything to your children, to yourself.
- I want us all to have a conversation.
We're all gonna sit down and roundtable
this thing together.
- I know you're upset, but what does that--what does that
get you at the end of the day? - Nowhere.
You understand that?
Yeah.
- Thank you.
- I appreciate you.
So Ken's here?
- We just gonna park it like that.
- Okay. - Ken's gonna be right there.
- All right.
- Monika, I'm gonna start with you.
And I want you to express how you--how finding out
about all of this has hurt you.
Go ahead.
- What made you do this with her, out of all people?
- I'm just gonna say this.
I just want my family back.
The reason I ain't--
I won't leave my wife is because the good times
outweigh the bad times. - You won't leave your wife,
[bleep], you [bleep] need to keep it real
with your bitch, because that's not what you're telling me.
- Bitch, shut up.
- This bitch not no victim.
Tell her what you been telling me.
You need to keep it real and tell her
exactly what [bleep] was [bleep] saying
about not wanting to be with her.
- Listen to me.
- You said that this bitch is crazy.
She throw your [bleep] out. She burn your [bleep].
- I'm not leaving my wife for you.
- All right, [bleep], that's fine, [bleep].
- I'm not leaving my wife for you.
- You're a [bleep] Cornish hen. You--
- Well, then whatever the [bleep] ever.
- The Cornish hen. You not the turkey.
- I got kids by her. - Not the chicken, [bleep].
- I got a daughter by her.
- Your new name is [bleep] Cornish hen.
I don't give a [bleep].
- I reserve the right to change my mind.
- All that [bleep].
- And you acting like I take my ring off when I'm with you.
[bleep], you [bleep] me with my ring on.
You know I'm married, so you can't talk.
I told you I wanted to be with you, but guess what.
I changed my mind.
- [bleep], you fraudulent.
You is [bleep] Cornish hen,
my [bleep]. - I'll be--
- Bitch, he's still my husband, ho.
- I'm out. I'm out. I'm out.
- Put your hands on me. - I'm out. I'm out.
- I'll drag your ass out of this bitch.
- I'm out. He's done. That [bleep] is trash.
I don't give a [bleep].
- Listen, I ain't gonna point no fingers.
Listen to me.
I just want my family back. - You dead.
- Monika? - I want my family.
- Yes, ma'am?
- You came to us, baby, because you wanted to find out
if there was something going on in your relationship with Ken,
if there was infidelity.
My job was to get you the truth, which I think I did.
But right now, we need to find out
what the final decision is.
Ken has already said he wants his family,
and he wants to be with you.
I need to know, do you want to move on with Ken
or move on by yourself?
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
[dramatic music]
- Ken has already said he wants his family,
and he wants to be with you.
I need to know, do you want to move on in your relationship
with Ken... - No, ma'am. No, ma'am.
- Or move on by yourself for good?
- He need to move out.
- Repairing your relationship together
is not something that you can do independently of each other
because you both have issues.
You both have concerns.
You both have traumas.
And you guys gotta work through those
together in order for it to be the relationship that...
- I'm willing. - You envision.
She's willing too.
- She just said she ain't.
- This moment--this moment,
she's just saying that because she's mad.
Now you guys gotta do the real work
past this moment to save the relationship.
- I have no problem with it.
I have no problem.
But the both of you have devalued each other.
And at the end of the day, it's what if there was a way
that we could bring y'all together
and we could show you how
to communicate with each other in an effective way
so that there is no misconception about anything?
- And I'm all for that.
- God gonna have to come down because I'm done with your ass.
- Ken, listen, I'm gonna leave you with one thing.
Are you the thermometer or the thermostat?
- I mean--
- Now, I want you to hear with it.
What does a thermometer do? It--
- I think I would be the thermostat.
- Exactly.
- So I'm the thermostat.
- So the thermostat is responsible
for the temperature going up...
- Or going down. - Or going down.
The thermometer just reads it.
She's the thermometer.
- You're right.
- You're the one who's got to initiate this.
If you want your family back,
it's your responsibility to set the temperature, period.
- To hear Monika say we're done is--
I guess it's a reality check.
I'm scared.
Like, I don't want to lose my wife.
I should have never did this.
- I don't--I don't think I can be around him right now.
I don't.
- I want my family.
I don't want to lose my kid.
I want to be able to see my daughter
and the kids every day.
I want them to grow up in a two-parent household.
I want all that,
and that's more important to me.
- I don't know even if I could tell
my kids what happened
because I don't want to hurt them.
A lot of things just gonna have to change.
Not--I know stuff don't change overnight,
but him saying it's gonna change,
I gotta see it before I even put my trust in you again.
And I don't even know if I can do that, honestly.
[dramatic music]
- ♪ I can't believe my eyes ♪
♪ I can't believe the time we wasted ♪
♪ Can't get it out of my mind ♪
- Hey there, Monika.
- Hey, Miss Tami, how are you?
- Child, it was a lot going on that night.
I have to ask, are you and Ken still together?
- [sighs]
- She--how you doing?
- [laughing] - Talking about me?
Are you talking about me?
- I am talking about you.
So you guys are still together?
- Yes, ma'am, we are.
- Listen, I would-- I would have never thought.
- I just really had to do some soul searching.
- Right. - You know what I'm saying?
We got a family. Everybody make mistakes.
And we can grow from our mistakes.
- Has anyone spoken to Keiarah?
- No, absolutely not.
- The experience as a whole, I know,
Monika, it wasn't easy for you to find out
what you found out about Ken.
And, Ken, I know it wasn't easy for you to have to endure
that moment of confrontation.
- Emotionally scarred for life.
- Really?
- Absolutely.
- So then that's something that you won't do again.
But what do you really feel is the overall lesson
that you both learned as a couple?
- Just work it out.
Talk or sit down and really open up and communicate
because it shouldn't have to go that far
if we just communicate. - Yeah, I agree.
- Correct. - Before it happens.
Like, instead of letting-- leaving things bottled up,
try to understand each other a little bit more.
- Absolutely. - You know?
- That makes me feel better because that's what it's
all about, healthy communication.
Here again, surprised to see you together,
but happy that you're together.
- Miss Tami, I ain't even gonna lie.
If he do make me mad, I will lock his ass
out the door again.
- I'm done with y'all.
I can't do it no more.
Thank you for the check-in.
It's so good to see you guys.
Blessings to the family, and you guys take care.
Bye. - Bye.
- Cheaters, beware.
- You [bleep] kissed her, you idiot.
- Next time you want to be unfaithful, think again...
Let me tell you one [bleep] thing!
- Oh, Lord, oh, Lord, oh, Lord, oh, Lord.
- Because I just might... Oh, God, she's running.
Catch you in the act.
- I now have the footage.
You sure you want to see it?
- I want to see it.
- Okay, here we go.
[dramatic music]
This season on "Caught in the Act: Unfaithful"...
What have we here?
That's our guy.
- What the [bleep] is that?
Did he just kiss her?
- You cannot internalize as though it's your fault.
- There was a pregnancy scare.
Now that you've seen everything,
you can either team up...
- There's a secret part of me
that's always wanted to do this.
- Oh, [bleep].
- Or catch them in the act.
- No! Close the door.
- Oh, God, she's running.
And that's what we call a takedown.
- I want to do the takedown.
- Who the [bleep] you think you are?
- You don't just break [bleep] in the [bleep] crib like that.
- You had to fake a baby to keep him, honey.
Fake!
- The truth is he's a damn liar.
- Not you dating your daddy friend.
- What is the gardener doing here?
- You played me.
- You know I love you. - You love me?
Act like it. - You can be mad at her.
That does not change what he did.
- Y'all got this. I can't.
- You said you love her.
[all shouting] - [bleep]!
- Shut the [bleep] up!
On this season's "Caught in the Act: Unfaithful."