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within how the family was changing.
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-I have to kind of explain this 'cause…
-Oh, I got chills.
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If someone is in the middle of,
like, a breakup,
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-or a custody battle…
-Ooh.
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…and then this person dies.
This is what they're giving me.
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Who would that be for?
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It's okay.
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-That would be my dad.
-Your dad.
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Um, how old was he when he passed?
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-He was in his thirties.
-Yeah, 34.
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Yeah. So I feel like
he's important today to talk about.
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It's gonna be a big one.
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He had a girlfriend at the time
and was getting ready to leave her.
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He was here one day and gone the next.
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One thing our dad never did
was pick us up from school.
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-Yeah.
-The day before he passed away, he did.
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He told us that he was going away
for a while, but he was coming back.
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Then the next day, he was killed.
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Yeah.
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When I lost my dad, I was young,
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and so I felt like I lost
that male figure that I needed.
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I still don't know how to shave.
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And small things like that,
shaving and having to learn how to drive.
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I taught myself how to drive.
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Having my dad around
would have been different
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because I would've had
that father figure I'd longed for.
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All right, I'm gonna keep going.
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Dad. Dad. Dad.
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With Dad, are there any questions
that you guys have about him,
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about how he passed?
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Anything unresolved that
I might be able to help with?
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One of my biggest questions
that I wanted to ask him.
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It's probably been like, four years now.
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-Um, I came out to my mom.
-Nice.
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-Um, and my family.
-Yeah.
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And I've always questioned
because obviously it's been something
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-I've dealt with my whole entire life.
-Yeah.
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There was a comment that I felt like
he made when I was six years old.
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My dad, uh, whether it was caught me
doing something,
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or I said something.
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But I remember him saying specifically
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that he knows that I'm gonna grow up
and live a different life.
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-But he better not see me doing it again.
-Yeah. Yeah.
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And I want to know how he felt about…
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-Sure.
-…that now.
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Sure, sure.
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Being a Black gay man
raised in a small town in Alabama,
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that still carries shame.
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I felt like I wasn't
as confident of a person,
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as far as sharing
my authentic self, and who I was.
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So when I was 23 years old,
I came out to my family,
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and I always wondered
what he thought about it.
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If he was okay with it.
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It's not something
he's super comfortable with.
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Not knowing, you always have
that part in the back of your head,
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like, "What if?"
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Um, okay.
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Give me one sec.
Looks like he's switching gears.
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Okay. Gotcha.
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He's having me now go into his passing,
which feels a little tough.
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The interesting thing is, um, for him,
it feels like it was a blink of an eye.
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Um, and it's really interesting.
Blink of an eye.
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I don't know why,
but he keeps bringing it up.
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"I'm here, and I'm gone."
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Typically, sometimes people
get diagnosed with cancer,
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they have a long thing. Not that.
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This feels very fast.
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The way it's hitting me,
where it's like a blink of an eye.
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One day, I'm here. One day, I'm gone.
So the way this came through
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was I felt almost, like, whiplash
is the only way to describe it.
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I felt like there's some external force
that comes in on my body,
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and then it stops at my body.
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But it sends a whole, like,
reverberation through my body.
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It's such a weird thing to describe,
and I hope I'm not…
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-I think I get it.
-It's…
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I mean, uh, how my dad passed away
was in a car accident.
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-Gotcha.
-And he always wore his seat belt.
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This part behind him.
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-Yes.
-And, um…
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It was a head-on collision,
and so his chest went into the dashboard.
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-Yeah. I'm sorry.
-And crushed his lungs.
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And that's how he lost his life.
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-Because of how he wore his seat belt.
-Makes sense.
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In the crash, crushing his chest.
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Oh, I'm so sorry, guys.
you guys have to go through that.
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A very sudden though,
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and I wanna let you know.
He doesn't acknowledge pain, suffering.
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The thing that comes through with this,
he's showing me a lot. I'll keep going.
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There's this weird thing about
you not being able to grieve right away.
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-No.
-It's almost like you couldn't.
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You had to be strong
for everybody else.
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-That seems like a big thing.
-That's it.
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-He's honoring that, which is important.
-That's sweet.
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Yeah. I'm gonna keep going
'cause he has a lot to say.
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It's interesting 'cause you're not
the only family member that is gay.
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-Good to keep in mind.
-You're right.
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He's having me highlight this.
He's acknowledging more than one.
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Um, gives me the feeling
of thumbs up with that.
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But yeah. Very positive
'cause you're not alone there.
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But he wants to commend you
on how you handled things also.
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Proud of you for how you've been able
to navigate afterwards.
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He kept acknowledging
this feeling of like,
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it was an honor to have you as a son.
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You need to know that,
that it was an honor to him
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in a really beautiful way. So…
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After this reading,
now that my father came through,
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and he told me he was proud of me,
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I feel like I could be authentic myself.
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You know, Black gay rainbows everywhere.
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Without any care in the world.
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-All right. Bye. Thank you.
-Bye.
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I'm very happy that I came.
I would do it again.
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I wish I could have a mini Tyler
in my pocket and pull him out any time.
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Right.
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-How did it go?
-It was great. It was really healing. And…
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-Yeah.
-The men are so cute around here!
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And, uh… It was just nuts.
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It was nuts.
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That's awesome.
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Yeah. It's stuff like that
that's, like, so healing.
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-Yeah.
-For people to hear.
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-I visioned some ducks this morning.
-Really?
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Yeah, it was like, "Okay."
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-How funny.
-Little duckies.
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So how are you feeling?
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I'm hanging in there.
I had a rough night. I had a panic attack.
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It was more intuitive feelings.
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-Like someone's life was robbed from them.
-Tell me.
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That's a very unique feeling,
with something being robbed.
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How long did the panic attack last?
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About three hours.
It came through very strongly.
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Wow.
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When I have a panic attack,
it feels like I can't breathe.
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I feel anxious.
Like the world's collapsing around me.
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It usually indicates to me
that there's a serious loss
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I'm about to kind of delve into.
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-Okay, I'm gonna scribble.
-Okay. There you go. And I'll be quiet.
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Well, that'll be rare.
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-Rare? Did you say that?
-Rare. Yep.
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Smarty.
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I'm just kidding.
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You just scribble,
and I won't talk.
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Look at this tiny little house.
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-I can't look at anything.
-Sorry.
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-I'm concentrating.
-Okay.
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-I'm not gonna talk anymore, so… Sorry.
-Okay.
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Oh, this goes straight. But we…
Oh, they have to stop too. Okay.
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What's going on today?
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This reading is
for someone really close to me.
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-Great. Fabulous.
-Who is a big fan.
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And so, have to let you know,
the person who we're doing a reading for
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is, um… has no idea that you're here.
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-Wow. Oh my goodness.
-So it's a surprise.
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-Quite a surprise. Exciting.
-It's quite a surprise. Big fan.
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-It'll be really good.
-Oh, hello.
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-Aw.
-Oh.
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Precious!
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Surprise.
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-Can I give you a hug?
-Is it okay?
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Yes, of course.
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Ooh!
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I'm Tyler.
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I know.
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You're the only reason I'm okay.
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Oh, sweetheart. Oh my goodness.
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When Justine and I met,
we were at a conference.
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A music conference.
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And I saw her,
and I was like, "Oh my gosh!"
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I felt a feeling I'd never felt before.
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Like, I felt like
I had known this person forever.
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I knew the moment we met
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that we're going to be connected
for the rest of our lives.
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We talked about, you know, future,
and I looked at rings, but I was like,
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"Okay, that's…" kinda doing
some fishing a little bit.
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Then I think after everything happened,
I just kind of,
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said, "Yeah, I can't go there right now."
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And, and, uh, just kind of put it aside.
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I had no clue where I was even going.
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I saw him, I was like,
"I'm gonna read him." But it's for you.
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-I'm sorry.
-It's okay.
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-This is a big surprise.
-I feel you. It's all good.
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We'll get comfortable,
and we'll figure it out.
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Here. These are couple of things for you.
To give to… for the reading.
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I'm excited to do this today.
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-Thank you so much for everything.
-Of course. Yes.
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-Thank you.
-Absolutely.
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-See you later. Bye.
-See you in a bit.
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Lovely to meet you.
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Today we'll kind of go through this.
I'll scribble.
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-I see you have some objects.
-Yes.
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Those will come in handy.
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I'll hold on to them.
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Then I'll see what I receive.
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We'll go from there. All right?
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-Well, at this point you can--
-Okay.
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Take those out.
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Lets me kind of get a sense. Thank you.
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Aw.
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Okay.
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Who is this?
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Last night, I was getting the sense
of a younger presence who had passed.
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Prematurely. The younger male
that I feel I would need to highlight.
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-Does that make sense?
-Yes.
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Okay.
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When this passing happened to him,
there was a lot to look forward to.
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There were exciting things coming up,
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maybe even in the coming weeks or months.
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But he wants you to know
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that he feels like he passed
at a high point in his life.
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In the way this kind of comes across…
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This person feels full of life,
full of life, full of life.
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Like, I keep getting this feeling of,
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my smile's lighting up
as I'm smiling and thinking about him.
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He's showing me… Weird! Uh…
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He's being silly. Let's see.
He's trying to make me laugh.
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Funny!
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Let me see try
to see what this is.
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He just does this…
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How funny!
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I don't know
if he had a little dance he would do.
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-Or like a--
-Yes.
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The only way I can describe it is like a…
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It's very hard to convey,
but he's having me
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do a jig.
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I think. I'm a horrible dancer,
so I can't do this.
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But he's funny when he's coming across.
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-And do you know about that?
-Yes. Yes, yes.
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He's cracking me up.
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Okay, sync that.
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Aw!
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I'm seeing doves,
like, releasing doves, which is strange.
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-We did it here.
-No way.
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Okay, 'cause I'm seeing
all these doves flying away.
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A lot of excitement
in the way this comes through.
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Yep.
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Okay. He's showing me…
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Yeah, like "Number One Mom."
It's just sweet.
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You know, things kids make
in second grade, first grade?
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He's showing me this "Number One Mom."
It's really funny.
240
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-That's so sweet.
-So, this was your son?
241
00:12:47,266 --> 00:12:49,268
What was his name? How old was he and--
242
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I'd love to tell you.
His name is Damani Elijah Chadly.
243
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And he was 17.
244
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He's my only son.
245
00:13:02,156 --> 00:13:06,494
I was a pretty young mom
by today's standards.
246
00:13:06,577 --> 00:13:09,497
I was only a sophomore in college.
247
00:13:11,081 --> 00:13:14,835
He's putting everything on you
and saying you had to do everything.
248
00:13:16,337 --> 00:13:19,006
You know, uh, which is kinda interesting.
249
00:13:19,673 --> 00:13:22,051
-Were you not with his dad?
-Single mom.
250
00:13:22,134 --> 00:13:23,385
Gotcha. Okay.
251
00:13:24,845 --> 00:13:27,723
I mean, me and this little boy,
we just did everything.
252
00:13:27,807 --> 00:13:32,394
We went everywhere
with such passion and joy.
253
00:13:32,478 --> 00:13:34,897
Singing, dancing, laughing.
254
00:13:34,980 --> 00:13:36,440
Always laughing.
255
00:13:37,107 --> 00:13:39,860
It was short,
but we lived a lot of life together.
256
00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:44,949
He's referencing three people.
257
00:13:45,533 --> 00:13:49,411
I'm trying to figure this out.
It's in relation to before he passed.
258
00:13:49,912 --> 00:13:52,498
He was one of the three,
or there were three.
259
00:13:53,207 --> 00:13:54,375
-Do you--
-Can I answer?
260
00:13:54,458 --> 00:13:56,210
-Please do.
-He's one of the three.
261
00:13:56,293 --> 00:13:58,629
Okay, gotcha.
In the way this comes through,
262
00:13:58,712 --> 00:14:02,508
there's an acknowledgment of a decision
that somebody made last minute.
263
00:14:02,591 --> 00:14:06,387
This was a decision that they're holding
guilt around, for some reason.
264
00:14:10,015 --> 00:14:12,935
It was his decision to leave that evening.
265
00:14:13,018 --> 00:14:15,479
He shouldn't have. It was a school night.
266
00:14:15,563 --> 00:14:18,941
-I'm so sorry.
-So, he knows he shouldn't have.
267
00:14:19,441 --> 00:14:23,070
Yeah, just feels tragic and…
268
00:14:26,824 --> 00:14:28,367
It's the weirdest thing.
269
00:14:35,416 --> 00:14:38,961
Click., click.
I keep hearing this "click, click" thing.
270
00:14:39,044 --> 00:14:40,462
It keeps coming through.
271
00:14:42,172 --> 00:14:43,799
Click, click. Click, click.
272
00:14:44,425 --> 00:14:47,344
Click. I'm trying to figure out
what this "click" thing is,
273
00:14:47,428 --> 00:14:51,599
'cause there's emphasis on, like,
a seatbelt and trying to get out of a car,
274
00:14:51,682 --> 00:14:55,227
but then I'm trying
to figure out what this is,
275
00:14:55,311 --> 00:14:56,353
where it's like,
276
00:14:57,021 --> 00:14:59,189
I feel like I had my seat belt on,
277
00:14:59,273 --> 00:15:03,152
but then I feel like I go to unclick it,
and then something kinda happens.
278
00:15:03,235 --> 00:15:04,612
It's the weirdest thing.
279
00:15:05,112 --> 00:15:07,698
I don't mean to have
to get into the details.
280
00:15:07,781 --> 00:15:12,369
But was he in the actual car
of the vehicle when he was…
281
00:15:12,453 --> 00:15:14,496
-He was in the passenger seat.
-…killed? Okay.
282
00:15:14,580 --> 00:15:16,582
Maybe he's saying he wanted to get away.
283
00:15:16,665 --> 00:15:18,918
It feels like, I'm trying to, like,
284
00:15:19,418 --> 00:15:20,836
unclick this.
285
00:15:21,337 --> 00:15:23,839
Then I feel like something happens.
So it…
286
00:15:24,673 --> 00:15:27,635
There's this acknowledgment of that,
for blindsided by this.
287
00:15:27,718 --> 00:15:29,637
With that, he shows me no pain.
288
00:15:29,720 --> 00:15:32,932
I don't feel any pain
when this comes across.
289
00:15:33,015 --> 00:15:34,475
If it's not too painful,
290
00:15:34,558 --> 00:15:37,686
do you have an idea
of what led up to the passing?
291
00:15:38,395 --> 00:15:42,149
-It's so hard to talk about that part.
-Yeah.
292
00:15:42,816 --> 00:15:46,987
What happened to my son
is that he was a senior in high school,
293
00:15:47,571 --> 00:15:50,783
musician, doing his best.
294
00:15:50,866 --> 00:15:53,243
My son was
295
00:15:53,911 --> 00:15:55,329
with a friend.
296
00:15:56,914 --> 00:15:59,750
And was doing what teenagers do
297
00:15:59,833 --> 00:16:02,419
and went out one night
when he wasn't supposed to.
298
00:16:05,381 --> 00:16:06,882
And he didn't come home.
299
00:16:11,011 --> 00:16:12,096
He was murdered.
300
00:16:14,181 --> 00:16:15,432
In a car.
301
00:16:16,141 --> 00:16:18,268
And he was supposed to be coming home.
302
00:16:21,230 --> 00:16:25,234
The police think that these two boys
went to meet someone else,
303
00:16:26,068 --> 00:16:30,072
and that there was
some interaction between them
304
00:16:30,155 --> 00:16:33,826
that led this person to
305
00:16:34,660 --> 00:16:37,287
shoot my son and his friend.
306
00:16:45,713 --> 00:16:48,507
I just wish I could hug him.
He had the best hugs.
307
00:16:48,590 --> 00:16:49,425
Yeah.
308
00:16:49,508 --> 00:16:52,803
All you wanna
do is keep your kids safe.
309
00:16:52,886 --> 00:16:56,974
There's nothing worse
than not being able to do that.
310
00:16:57,725 --> 00:16:59,309
Yeah, understandable.
311
00:17:01,603 --> 00:17:04,273
Yeah. Thank you for being so open.
312
00:17:05,983 --> 00:17:07,026
I can't imagine.
313
00:17:11,864 --> 00:17:15,451
He just keeps trying to hug you.
It's sweet. I love that.
314
00:17:15,534 --> 00:17:16,368
Aw.
315
00:17:16,869 --> 00:17:19,747
-You can see him try to hug me?
-He's showing me a visual.
316
00:17:19,830 --> 00:17:21,874
It's just so interesting from behind.
317
00:17:21,957 --> 00:17:24,043
I feel like he wanted
to hug you from behind.
318
00:17:24,126 --> 00:17:25,335
It's so sweet.
319
00:17:25,419 --> 00:17:26,754
So, so sweet.
320
00:17:28,088 --> 00:17:29,965
-I love you. I love you.
-Aw.
321
00:17:30,632 --> 00:17:33,218
I'm glad it happened today.
It makes my heart happy.
322
00:17:33,302 --> 00:17:34,553
Me too.
323
00:17:35,095 --> 00:17:39,433
It was funny. I often will get
impressions long before I even show up.
324
00:17:39,516 --> 00:17:40,642
I woke up.
325
00:17:40,726 --> 00:17:42,186
I had a vision of ducks.
326
00:17:42,936 --> 00:17:45,355
-Does that make any sense?
-Oh yes.
327
00:17:45,439 --> 00:17:48,358
It's the funniest thing.
I woke up, I was like, "Duckies!"
328
00:17:52,071 --> 00:17:54,031
That's incredible. Um…
329
00:17:54,114 --> 00:17:57,576
So when he was just about, just over one,
330
00:17:57,659 --> 00:17:59,912
we lived right down here,
right by the water,
331
00:17:59,995 --> 00:18:04,708
and two ducks were in our condo complex,
swimming around all the time.
332
00:18:04,792 --> 00:18:07,836
We'd always point them out,
which is why the bench is here.
333
00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:09,254
This is dedicated to him?
334
00:18:09,338 --> 00:18:11,590
-Oh, you didn't even know that.
-No.
335
00:18:11,673 --> 00:18:14,760
-I wasn't sure. I love that.
-It's dedicated to him.
336
00:18:14,843 --> 00:18:17,096
This is also kinda left field.
337
00:18:17,763 --> 00:18:20,140
There's gonna be a situation
where there's a tree.
338
00:18:20,224 --> 00:18:22,643
I'm like seeing
that he's like, "Plant the tree."
339
00:18:23,727 --> 00:18:26,271
-"Plant the darn tree. Gotta do the tree."
-Okay.
340
00:18:26,355 --> 00:18:28,482
He's like, "You gotta do the full thing."
341
00:18:28,565 --> 00:18:30,526
So, this is something you've discussed?
342
00:18:30,609 --> 00:18:32,820
They plant trees here
in people's honor too.
343
00:18:32,903 --> 00:18:36,406
And I thought,
"We can't have two. That's selfish." Oh!
344
00:18:36,490 --> 00:18:38,951
-You gotta plant the tree.
-Oh my God.
345
00:18:39,034 --> 00:18:41,620
All the little things
that act as reminders, right?
346
00:18:41,703 --> 00:18:43,831
And that's important. So, um…
347
00:18:43,914 --> 00:18:46,667
-You are just incredible.
-Oh. It's a privilege.
348
00:18:46,750 --> 00:18:48,418
I'm glad he came through for you.
349
00:18:48,502 --> 00:18:52,089
Yes. In all honesty, I was feeling him
this morning and last night.
350
00:18:52,172 --> 00:18:58,137
It was just, like, overwhelmed with
how… horrible it was that it happened,
351
00:18:58,220 --> 00:19:00,973
but simultaneously,
I could feel that strength from you.
352
00:19:01,056 --> 00:19:03,225
-And I really--
-Means so much.
353
00:19:03,725 --> 00:19:05,936
I hope that you leave
this experience today
354
00:19:06,019 --> 00:19:08,480
reminded that
he never is gonna leave your side.
355
00:19:08,564 --> 00:19:10,774
-Okay.
-So thank you for this.
356
00:19:10,858 --> 00:19:13,068
-Thank you.
-I'm gonna give you a big hug.
357
00:19:13,735 --> 00:19:16,113
I'm so overwhelmed with emotion.
358
00:19:16,196 --> 00:19:20,117
You don't think you're ever going to have
a conversation with your child again.
359
00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:22,244
Communicating with Tyler felt like
360
00:19:22,327 --> 00:19:25,122
I was having a conversation with my boy.
361
00:19:25,831 --> 00:19:29,501
Felt like he was right there,
and I don't know how else to explain it.
362
00:19:30,002 --> 00:19:31,587
You just feel lighter.
363
00:19:31,670 --> 00:19:33,964
You feel like smiling a little more.
364
00:19:35,883 --> 00:19:38,927
Connecting with my son through Tyler
365
00:19:39,011 --> 00:19:40,179
lifts everything.
366
00:19:41,889 --> 00:19:44,266
Thank you so much.
I can't believe you did this.
367
00:19:44,349 --> 00:19:45,642
I love you.
368
00:19:45,726 --> 00:19:47,644
Thank you so much!
369
00:19:49,354 --> 00:19:51,356
My heart is, like, skipping.
370
00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:53,775
I know. Mine has been all day like that.
371
00:19:53,859 --> 00:19:56,862
He was dancing
for Tyler the way he dances.
372
00:19:56,945 --> 00:20:00,199
-The little shuffle he does?
-Tyler was trying to dance like him.
373
00:20:00,282 --> 00:20:03,243
-Oh, that's awesome.
-Tyler said, "I cannot dance."
374
00:20:04,578 --> 00:20:07,623
But I said, "That's what he did
to make everybody laugh."
375
00:20:07,706 --> 00:20:12,544
And you should have seen Tyler smile.
It was like I was smiling at Damani.
376
00:20:12,628 --> 00:20:16,131
Because his smile was so big,
and he said he felt his big smile.
377
00:20:18,675 --> 00:20:22,763
This is all I wanted,
and I don't know how you did it.
378
00:20:22,846 --> 00:20:24,056
I don't know how you did it.
379
00:20:24,139 --> 00:20:28,185
I feel comforted knowing
that Tyler sees him as happy.
380
00:20:28,268 --> 00:20:30,729
-Yeah.
-He seems to be happy.
381
00:20:33,732 --> 00:20:37,152
I didn't want our relationship
to be defined and built on tragedy.
382
00:20:37,236 --> 00:20:40,864
What I want for our relationship
is to be built on healing and peace.
383
00:20:40,948 --> 00:20:44,159
I want for us to build a life together.
384
00:20:44,243 --> 00:20:47,496
One that's, that we can…
always be there for each other.
385
00:20:47,579 --> 00:20:49,706
And I'll always be there for you.
386
00:20:50,290 --> 00:20:52,042
Oh my goodness.
387
00:20:54,753 --> 00:20:58,423
From the moment I met you,
I knew you were the woman for me.
388
00:20:58,507 --> 00:21:00,217
I had no doubts in my mind.
389
00:21:00,300 --> 00:21:03,428
Every day I wake up,
and I just want to be with you.
390
00:21:03,512 --> 00:21:06,890
-Will you marry me, Justine?
-Yes. Yes.
391
00:21:08,934 --> 00:21:11,228
Oh my goodness.
392
00:21:12,229 --> 00:21:14,273
Oh my goodness, Tom.
393
00:21:15,399 --> 00:21:17,150
I cannot believe this.
394
00:21:18,902 --> 00:21:20,279
I love you so much.
395
00:21:32,040 --> 00:21:33,292
What a day!
396
00:21:34,251 --> 00:21:35,419
I love it.
397
00:21:43,343 --> 00:21:45,137
I don't know if people believe
398
00:21:45,220 --> 00:21:49,308
that you just really jump in bed
and stay there until the next day.
399
00:21:49,391 --> 00:21:51,310
I'm very boring outside of my job.
400
00:21:51,393 --> 00:21:54,104
I know, but it takes
a lot out of you doing the reading.
401
00:21:55,147 --> 00:21:59,609
It does. I spend a lot of time
very stationary, just under the covers.
402
00:21:59,693 --> 00:22:00,694
Yeah.
403
00:22:01,862 --> 00:22:04,990
When you were taking a shower,
I was in here cleaning in your room.
404
00:22:05,073 --> 00:22:06,783
I heard you talking to someone.
405
00:22:06,867 --> 00:22:07,993
Having a conversation?
406
00:22:08,076 --> 00:22:10,537
Yeah.
In the shower, with yourself.
407
00:22:10,620 --> 00:22:12,539
-It wasn't with myself, but…
-Really?
408
00:22:12,622 --> 00:22:16,084
-Yeah, yeah. It's when I let things go.
-Yeah.
409
00:22:16,168 --> 00:22:21,048
-I have to clear myself of head stuff.
-I know.
410
00:22:21,131 --> 00:22:25,052
I have to really get into
a certain state of consciousness
411
00:22:25,135 --> 00:22:27,012
in order to do my job effectively.
412
00:22:27,095 --> 00:22:31,016
That requires me to…
detach from everything else
413
00:22:31,099 --> 00:22:33,268
and attach to it,
414
00:22:33,352 --> 00:22:34,686
whatever "it" is.
415
00:22:34,770 --> 00:22:38,565
It doesn't seem to want me to know,
but that's a different story.
416
00:22:39,483 --> 00:22:41,068
Well, whatever it is,
417
00:22:41,151 --> 00:22:44,279
I guess they picked
the right person to give you this gift.
418
00:22:44,363 --> 00:22:48,075
Well, I am thankful
to have the abilities, you know.
419
00:22:48,158 --> 00:22:50,410
I wouldn't be able to do it on my own.
420
00:22:50,494 --> 00:22:51,995
And I know that,
421
00:22:52,079 --> 00:22:55,123
but it feels a bit
like jumping out of a plane,
422
00:22:55,207 --> 00:22:58,960
and just trusting that the parachute's
going to open. 'Cause they'd always--
423
00:22:59,044 --> 00:23:00,045
Oh my God.
424
00:23:00,128 --> 00:23:02,381
They've always been
my parachute, so to speak.
425
00:23:02,464 --> 00:23:05,384
I mean, they… them.
426
00:23:07,260 --> 00:23:09,096
That's a shitty feeling.
427
00:23:10,430 --> 00:23:14,893
Well, I mean, it's a way to frame it.
I think it's exhilarating and fun.
428
00:23:14,976 --> 00:23:16,937
-It all comes at a price.
-I know.
429
00:23:17,020 --> 00:23:19,481
It's just part of it, part of the job.
430
00:23:19,564 --> 00:23:22,943
I know it takes its toll on you,
and I'm so sorry.
431
00:23:23,026 --> 00:23:24,986
I can see it in your little face now.
432
00:23:25,070 --> 00:23:26,613
-I can--
-I'm really fine.
433
00:23:26,696 --> 00:23:28,365
-Okay.
-I'm really good.
434
00:23:28,448 --> 00:23:30,700
It's… this is nothing new to me.
435
00:23:30,784 --> 00:23:32,411
This ain't my first rodeo.
436
00:23:43,964 --> 00:23:48,593
-Aw. This is Tom and Justine.
-I should have glasses. Let me see.
437
00:23:48,677 --> 00:23:50,137
I didn't get to meet them.
438
00:23:50,220 --> 00:23:52,806
-Him I said "hi" to, but that was it.
-Let's watch.
439
00:23:53,849 --> 00:23:55,851
-Hi, Tyler!
- Hi, Tyler!
440
00:23:55,934 --> 00:23:57,352
I'm still decompressing.
441
00:23:57,436 --> 00:24:01,398
My mind is blown that I met you
and had the most extraordinary reading.
442
00:24:01,481 --> 00:24:04,526
-I'm grateful. One exciting piece of news.
-Big news!
443
00:24:04,609 --> 00:24:06,862
-After the reading, this happened.
444
00:24:06,945 --> 00:24:08,196
Oh my God.
445
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:10,699
…because of you.
We are so grateful.
446
00:24:10,782 --> 00:24:15,412
And big hug to your mom.
Just wanted to give you both a big hug.
447
00:24:15,495 --> 00:24:16,413
Oh.
448
00:24:16,496 --> 00:24:18,039
Thank you so much. Bye!
449
00:24:18,123 --> 00:24:20,041
I would've loved
to have met her.
450
00:24:20,125 --> 00:24:22,419
-That is so sweet.
451
00:24:22,502 --> 00:24:26,673
-That is so awesome. Oh my gosh.
-I'm gonna, like, full on Kim K ugly cry.
452
00:24:26,756 --> 00:24:28,425
-That is so sweet.
-Wow.
453
00:24:40,854 --> 00:24:43,398
-I really love New Orleans.
-Me too.
454
00:24:43,482 --> 00:24:47,986
-It has a whole newfound meaning to me.
-Yeah.
455
00:24:48,069 --> 00:24:49,321
I'm here in New Orleans.
456
00:24:49,404 --> 00:24:52,908
I'm really hoping I can get
any clarification on my family history.
457
00:24:53,783 --> 00:24:56,119
I feel I look tired today 'cause I am.
458
00:24:56,912 --> 00:24:59,122
-You've been through a lot this week.
-Yeah.
459
00:24:59,206 --> 00:25:04,503
It's been a lot
of emotional stress every single day so…
460
00:25:05,587 --> 00:25:09,257
I've hit a wall with the research
that my Aunt Mary has done and Clint.
461
00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:14,930
We haven't gotten solid answers as much as
we've gotten clarification on timelines.
462
00:25:15,430 --> 00:25:17,265
It's extremely frustrating.
463
00:25:17,349 --> 00:25:20,393
Especially considering
my situation is very unique.
464
00:25:20,477 --> 00:25:22,938
My ability is very unique.
It's tough for mediums.
465
00:25:23,021 --> 00:25:26,942
We're expected to have the answers,
but I don't. I need help.
466
00:25:27,025 --> 00:25:28,693
Lovely to meet you. I'm Tyler.
467
00:25:28,777 --> 00:25:31,112
-Good to meet you. I'm excited!
-Good to meet you.
468
00:25:31,196 --> 00:25:32,489
-Thank you so much.
-Hi.
469
00:25:32,572 --> 00:25:36,201
I decided to call Pamela Slaton,
an investigative genealogist.
470
00:25:36,284 --> 00:25:39,329
She's an expert
in DNA analysis and family tracing.
471
00:25:39,412 --> 00:25:42,415
If anyone can track down
the missing pieces for us, it's her.
472
00:25:42,499 --> 00:25:46,044
This is obviously a new territory for me,
so we really appreciate it.
473
00:25:46,127 --> 00:25:49,464
-To give you a rundown of why we're here.
-Yeah.
474
00:25:49,548 --> 00:25:52,717
My mom, three years ago,
through a 23andMe test,
475
00:25:52,801 --> 00:25:56,096
discovered that she was taken as a baby.
476
00:25:56,179 --> 00:25:59,224
Her parents were not actually her parents.
477
00:25:59,307 --> 00:26:02,978
-They were lying.
-The DNA, you never suspected anything?
478
00:26:03,061 --> 00:26:07,732
-Never suspected anything. Never.
-You do this test just like everyone else.
479
00:26:08,233 --> 00:26:10,402
You think,
"I'm gonna get my nationalities."
480
00:26:10,485 --> 00:26:11,861
"This is gonna be awesome."
481
00:26:11,945 --> 00:26:14,698
All of a sudden,
you get the shock of a lifetime.
482
00:26:14,781 --> 00:26:19,494
-Exactly. I'm sure.
-It happens so often, you'd be blown away.
483
00:26:19,578 --> 00:26:23,039
We're in a unique situation.
The woman I thought was my grandmother,
484
00:26:23,123 --> 00:26:24,124
Stella was her name,
485
00:26:24,207 --> 00:26:26,334
was convicted of two homicides.
486
00:26:26,418 --> 00:26:30,297
She was involved in a number
of people's deaths in one way or another.
487
00:26:30,380 --> 00:26:32,299
She spent over 30 years in prison.
488
00:26:32,382 --> 00:26:34,175
-Can I slow you down a little?
-I know.
489
00:26:34,259 --> 00:26:37,345
'Cause you just loaded me up
with a lot of information.
490
00:26:37,429 --> 00:26:39,973
-It's a lot.
-So, okay. Bio-Grandma.
491
00:26:40,056 --> 00:26:42,767
Did she give your mom over to Stella?
492
00:26:42,851 --> 00:26:45,020
She did, but we don't know why.
493
00:26:45,103 --> 00:26:48,940
So when your aunt, your mom's half-sister,
494
00:26:49,024 --> 00:26:52,611
reaches out to your mom,
what does she say happened?
495
00:26:53,361 --> 00:26:55,780
We know that
my mom was born in New Orleans.
496
00:26:55,864 --> 00:26:58,617
And my aunt was able to do some research,
497
00:26:58,700 --> 00:27:01,202
and found there was
stuff going on at this hospital
498
00:27:01,286 --> 00:27:03,079
around when my mom was born.
499
00:27:03,830 --> 00:27:06,333
Do you think Stella had
anything to do with this?
500
00:27:06,416 --> 00:27:08,918
-That's what we're trying to determine.
-Additionally?
501
00:27:09,002 --> 00:27:11,046
In my mind,
she had to have had help.
502
00:27:11,129 --> 00:27:13,214
My mom's birth certificate was forged.
503
00:27:13,298 --> 00:27:14,924
There were things altered on it.
504
00:27:15,842 --> 00:27:20,096
Typically, a birth certificate
is done in the hospital.
505
00:27:20,180 --> 00:27:21,973
You give birth, and they come.
506
00:27:22,057 --> 00:27:25,185
They take the information,
and the certificate's created.
507
00:27:25,268 --> 00:27:28,688
What I'd love to see is
your mom's original birth certificate,
508
00:27:28,772 --> 00:27:31,024
which I'm guessing is nowhere to be found.
509
00:27:31,107 --> 00:27:32,984
That's been the missing answer.
510
00:27:33,568 --> 00:27:35,695
If the original birth certificate
comes back,
511
00:27:35,779 --> 00:27:38,573
and it did have
Stella's name on it from the get-go,
512
00:27:38,657 --> 00:27:40,283
it'll reflect the greater truth
513
00:27:40,367 --> 00:27:42,994
that my grandmother was not able
to take care of my mom,
514
00:27:43,078 --> 00:27:44,788
that she was in a desperate position.
515
00:27:44,871 --> 00:27:47,248
And that position
got taken advantage of by a person.
516
00:27:47,332 --> 00:27:50,752
I have another question,
going in a completely different direction.
517
00:27:50,835 --> 00:27:51,878
Who's Bio-Grandpa?
518
00:27:51,961 --> 00:27:56,466
Bio-Grandpa?
Uh, it was basically a one-time fling.
519
00:27:56,549 --> 00:27:59,928
Anything that you happen to get
about the paternal side would be helpful.
520
00:28:00,011 --> 00:28:02,055
-Do I have your permission to nudge?
-Of course.
521
00:28:02,138 --> 00:28:03,431
Yes. Absolutely.
522
00:28:03,515 --> 00:28:04,974
-Yeah?
-Absolutely.
523
00:28:05,058 --> 00:28:07,268
Obviously, this is a lot
and very convoluted,
524
00:28:07,352 --> 00:28:10,230
and any answers you can provide
we'll really appreciate.
525
00:28:10,313 --> 00:28:14,109
I know what it means
to want the answers and to want closure,
526
00:28:14,192 --> 00:28:18,738
and to wanna just
know where you come from.
527
00:28:18,822 --> 00:28:20,657
We have a habit.
528
00:28:20,740 --> 00:28:22,951
I'm an adoptee, and I totally get it.
529
00:28:23,034 --> 00:28:25,120
Have a habit of pushing down information.
530
00:28:25,203 --> 00:28:27,997
-Pushing down things that are hurtful.
-Sure.
531
00:28:28,081 --> 00:28:31,459
And we can kinda just keep
a brave front, you know, face.
532
00:28:31,543 --> 00:28:34,129
-And pretend as though it's all okay.
-Yeah.
533
00:28:34,212 --> 00:28:37,173
But it really
can affect someone deeply.
534
00:28:37,257 --> 00:28:40,218
I guess at this point our question is,
what's the next step?
535
00:28:40,301 --> 00:28:43,888
Okay. So first, let's figure out,
is Stella really Stella?
536
00:28:43,972 --> 00:28:49,018
Then I also wanna see if there's a way
of getting the original birth certificate.
537
00:28:49,102 --> 00:28:52,605
Then I'm gonna go poke and prod
a little bit on the paternal family.
538
00:28:52,689 --> 00:28:53,898
That'd be incredible.
539
00:28:53,982 --> 00:28:55,692
I can't guarantee you anything.
540
00:28:55,775 --> 00:28:58,445
I never guarantee my clients success,
541
00:28:58,528 --> 00:29:02,615
but I can guarantee you
that I will not give up.
542
00:29:13,585 --> 00:29:16,629
It was the weirdest thing.
I was awake around two in the morning.
543
00:29:16,713 --> 00:29:22,343
It was this tall shadow that obstructed
the light coming from outside, inside.
544
00:29:22,427 --> 00:29:24,471
-Made it dark for a moment.
-You were awake?
545
00:29:24,554 --> 00:29:27,891
I was wide awake.
Then I realized I'm 11 stories up.
546
00:29:27,974 --> 00:29:29,517
God, you're giving me the creeps.
547
00:29:29,601 --> 00:29:31,644
Which meant whatever it was
was in my room,
548
00:29:31,728 --> 00:29:32,979
walking past the window.
549
00:29:33,062 --> 00:29:38,651
And so I spoke to it and was like,
"Hello, uh. Hi. Hope you're all good."
550
00:29:38,735 --> 00:29:39,986
"I need some rest."
551
00:29:40,069 --> 00:29:43,531
And then it just got
noticeably freezing cold in the room.
552
00:29:43,615 --> 00:29:46,493
-Not air-conditioner cold. Freezing cold.
-No way.
553
00:29:46,576 --> 00:29:48,161
I got full-body chills. I was like,
554
00:29:48,244 --> 00:29:51,080
"Gonna hide under the blanket.
Appreciate it if you go away."
555
00:29:51,164 --> 00:29:53,875
-I hid under the blanket.
-Oh my God. No way.
556
00:29:53,958 --> 00:29:56,544
It creeped me out. I was like,
"We're not doing this now."
557
00:29:56,628 --> 00:29:58,463
"I'm off the clock."
558
00:29:58,963 --> 00:30:01,299
That is so freaky.
559
00:30:04,260 --> 00:30:05,637
Wonderful to meet you.
560
00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:07,138
-Come on in.
-Happy to be here.
561
00:30:07,222 --> 00:30:09,808
It's the most
gorgeously landscaped house.
562
00:30:09,891 --> 00:30:11,059
Thank you so much.
563
00:30:11,142 --> 00:30:13,520
It's chilly out here.
I have to have a blanket.
564
00:30:13,603 --> 00:30:14,938
It is chilly. My goodness.
565
00:30:15,021 --> 00:30:17,357
That's why
I brought a jacket just in case.
566
00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:19,818
-Unusual for this time of year.
-Yeah.
567
00:30:19,901 --> 00:30:21,110
In the South.
568
00:30:21,194 --> 00:30:23,488
Well, thank you for having me today.
569
00:30:23,571 --> 00:30:25,657
I'm excited to see what comes through.
570
00:30:25,740 --> 00:30:27,617
-Do you have an object for me?
-I do.
571
00:30:27,700 --> 00:30:29,452
-You can put it on the table.
-Okay.
572
00:30:31,287 --> 00:30:33,665
Okay, so I'm just gonna scribble.
573
00:30:35,124 --> 00:30:36,668
So you got that.
574
00:30:38,253 --> 00:30:39,838
Gonna see where we go with this
575
00:30:39,921 --> 00:30:44,467
'cause I have a few people striking me
initially as being pretty interesting.
576
00:30:46,594 --> 00:30:47,595
Okay.
577
00:30:48,763 --> 00:30:49,597
Okay.
578
00:30:50,265 --> 00:30:53,184
I'm getting a Leo reference,
which means one of two things.
579
00:30:53,268 --> 00:30:54,686
Either somebody's a Leo,
580
00:30:54,769 --> 00:30:56,104
or there's a Leonard.
581
00:30:57,105 --> 00:31:00,692
-Oh my God.
-Who's Leonard?
582
00:31:00,775 --> 00:31:02,819
-Does that make sense?
-Yes. Are you serious?
583
00:31:02,902 --> 00:31:04,571
-Yeah, yeah, yeah.
584
00:31:04,654 --> 00:31:06,072
That's my grandfather.
585
00:31:06,155 --> 00:31:09,158
He's like, "Don't forget me,"
in the way this comes across.
586
00:31:09,242 --> 00:31:12,579
-We are not forgetting you.
-He's absolutely connected.
587
00:31:12,662 --> 00:31:14,539
But he's important, so…
588
00:31:14,622 --> 00:31:17,292
God, there's a lot here.
Okay, I'm gonna keep going.
589
00:31:20,003 --> 00:31:22,213
-Okay. He was cute.
-Yeah.
590
00:31:22,297 --> 00:31:23,506
When he comes across.
591
00:31:23,590 --> 00:31:27,218
You know when people start going bald,
and then they've really gone bald?
592
00:31:27,302 --> 00:31:31,139
But they still jokingly act
like they're combing their hair.
593
00:31:31,222 --> 00:31:32,849
-Like, doing this.
-Yes.
594
00:31:33,516 --> 00:31:36,144
He's giving me a joke of,
like, "Luscious locks!"
595
00:31:36,227 --> 00:31:38,062
But he's clearly bald.
596
00:31:38,146 --> 00:31:40,481
-Or at least balding very heavily.
-Oh my gosh.
597
00:31:40,565 --> 00:31:43,401
He had the comb over,
like, the hair comb over.
598
00:31:43,484 --> 00:31:46,195
-"I'm working with what I have."
-Yeah.
599
00:31:46,279 --> 00:31:49,616
-He's self-aware of it, and it's funny.
-Okay.
600
00:31:49,699 --> 00:31:53,036
So I'm gonna hold onto this,
now that I know I've got a connection.
601
00:31:53,953 --> 00:31:56,289
And see if I get anything here.
602
00:31:59,417 --> 00:32:00,376
Okay.
603
00:32:01,836 --> 00:32:03,379
I'm gonna put the object down.
604
00:32:05,882 --> 00:32:08,134
It's a younger individual
I have to highlight.
605
00:32:08,217 --> 00:32:10,136
I can tell this would've been a male.
606
00:32:10,219 --> 00:32:12,555
He's giving me this feeling
of being a contemporary,
607
00:32:12,639 --> 00:32:17,226
and a contemporary would usually be
on our same generational level typically.
608
00:32:17,310 --> 00:32:19,979
-My heart is racing right now.
-It's all good.
609
00:32:20,063 --> 00:32:23,316
This guy keeps coming in,
and he's showing me glasses.
610
00:32:23,399 --> 00:32:26,861
Like glasses that you would wear.
Like, "Huh? Spectacles."
611
00:32:26,945 --> 00:32:29,364
It's just a funny thing that strikes me.
612
00:32:29,447 --> 00:32:32,617
When he comes through,
he's not wanting me to get too serious.
613
00:32:32,700 --> 00:32:34,786
He's giving me light-hearted feelings.
614
00:32:34,869 --> 00:32:37,497
He wants that to be
the focus and the emphasis today,
615
00:32:37,580 --> 00:32:39,207
not the sadness around how he went.
616
00:32:39,290 --> 00:32:42,418
He strikes me as the type
that when he would enter into a room,
617
00:32:42,502 --> 00:32:44,879
I feel like he had an undeniable presence.
618
00:32:44,963 --> 00:32:46,756
It's like, you couldn't ignore him,
619
00:32:46,839 --> 00:32:50,259
but he didn't want to be noticed,
if that makes sense.
620
00:32:50,343 --> 00:32:51,552
Well, he was six-three.
621
00:32:51,636 --> 00:32:55,264
-You notice when he walks in.
-A tall guy.
622
00:32:55,348 --> 00:32:57,642
Yeah, he's like,
"Rather be the wallflower."
623
00:32:57,725 --> 00:32:59,894
-Yeah, exactly.
-Yeah, it's cute.
624
00:32:59,978 --> 00:33:01,729
Um, I'm gonna scribble.
625
00:33:02,438 --> 00:33:03,564
Okay.
626
00:33:09,404 --> 00:33:11,614
There is a reference there.
627
00:33:12,115 --> 00:33:13,324
Okay.
628
00:33:13,408 --> 00:33:15,493
When he comes in, it feels like
629
00:33:15,576 --> 00:33:20,206
he… he lived a solid life
in the time that he had.
630
00:33:20,289 --> 00:33:23,126
But his life was cut short,
in the way this comes across.
631
00:33:23,209 --> 00:33:25,128
This feels very, um, tragic.
632
00:33:25,837 --> 00:33:26,963
Phew.
633
00:33:28,589 --> 00:33:33,011
Okay. Yeah, he is having me bring up
kind of the Valentine's Day thing.
634
00:33:33,094 --> 00:33:36,806
I don't know why he's bringing this up,
but this was a hard time for somebody.
635
00:33:36,889 --> 00:33:39,100
That's about the time that he had passed.
636
00:33:39,183 --> 00:33:41,269
Gotcha. Yeah, there.
637
00:33:41,978 --> 00:33:42,812
Um…
638
00:33:43,438 --> 00:33:45,523
It feels extremely…
639
00:33:46,858 --> 00:33:48,484
like, "I'm here, and then I'm gone."
640
00:33:48,568 --> 00:33:51,612
Um, I don't feel like
there's room for a deterioration.
641
00:33:51,696 --> 00:33:54,741
-Absolutely not.
-I feel my heart stop.
642
00:33:54,824 --> 00:33:57,076
And it's all he's giving me about it.
643
00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:59,203
-Yeah.
-There's something weird.
644
00:33:59,287 --> 00:34:01,122
The way it comes across. Feels like,
645
00:34:01,205 --> 00:34:03,666
people, when they heard,
they'd be like, "Really?"
646
00:34:03,750 --> 00:34:05,668
"Are we sure? Can we double-check?"
647
00:34:05,752 --> 00:34:07,587
-Like--
-That was my response.
648
00:34:07,670 --> 00:34:09,714
I was like, "Are you sure?" Like, "What?"
649
00:34:09,797 --> 00:34:11,924
I mean, he was 33.
650
00:34:12,425 --> 00:34:15,303
He does bring up… That's so weird.
651
00:34:15,386 --> 00:34:19,557
I'm trying to determine the passing thing.
It's such a specific way someone goes.
652
00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:23,102
-Yeah.
-And not one that I'm super familiar with.
653
00:34:23,186 --> 00:34:25,188
I was hoping to get
some answers with that.
654
00:34:25,271 --> 00:34:27,273
-Can I talk about it? Okay.
-Yeah.
655
00:34:27,356 --> 00:34:32,195
Um, so what we know of is,
he had been working all day long.
656
00:34:32,278 --> 00:34:36,240
And then he ended up going to
a bar to meet his wife to hang out.
657
00:34:36,324 --> 00:34:37,700
He had a couple of drinks.
658
00:34:37,784 --> 00:34:41,120
-Not something that'd cause him to be ill.
-Sure.
659
00:34:41,204 --> 00:34:44,082
At all. But he was in the parking lot.
660
00:34:44,165 --> 00:34:46,459
And he literally just passed out.
661
00:34:46,542 --> 00:34:48,878
From what I remember,
he fell to his knees.
662
00:34:48,961 --> 00:34:50,421
Then he fell back.
663
00:34:50,505 --> 00:34:52,465
He hit the back of his head.
664
00:34:52,548 --> 00:34:54,967
They said it was because he hit
the back of his head
665
00:34:55,051 --> 00:34:56,260
and had a brain bleed.
666
00:34:56,344 --> 00:34:59,639
I'm like, "he couldn't have
hit the ground that hard."
667
00:34:59,722 --> 00:35:02,058
That's what I'm thinking.
If you're on your knees…
668
00:35:02,141 --> 00:35:03,267
-Yeah.
-Yeah.
669
00:35:03,351 --> 00:35:07,438
I'm… that's not what I'm getting
as far as what caused him to pass.
670
00:35:07,522 --> 00:35:08,648
So that's the thing.
671
00:35:08,731 --> 00:35:13,111
It reminds me of people who sometimes
have pulmonary embolisms, strokes,
672
00:35:13,194 --> 00:35:14,403
or heart attacks.
673
00:35:14,487 --> 00:35:17,532
But he gave me this feeling
of a jolt with internally.
674
00:35:17,615 --> 00:35:20,284
-And then I feel my heart stop.
-Wow. Okay.
675
00:35:20,368 --> 00:35:22,954
Something had to be going on internally.
676
00:35:23,037 --> 00:35:25,206
Okay. They did an autopsy, of course.
677
00:35:25,289 --> 00:35:27,375
So we know that he had an enlarged heart.
678
00:35:27,458 --> 00:35:30,169
-Okay.
-But there was no sign of a heart attack
679
00:35:30,253 --> 00:35:31,879
or anything like that.
680
00:35:31,963 --> 00:35:33,756
-He didn't suffer.
-Okay.
681
00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:36,384
He comes through
lighthearted, happy, and jovial.
682
00:35:36,467 --> 00:35:37,802
My interpretation is,
683
00:35:37,885 --> 00:35:41,097
there could have been a brain bleed
with the heart problem.
684
00:35:41,180 --> 00:35:43,975
Those two things
could have facilitated this,
685
00:35:44,058 --> 00:35:46,602
but heart seems like the answer for me.
686
00:35:46,686 --> 00:35:48,646
-In the way this is coming through.
-Okay.
687
00:35:48,729 --> 00:35:51,524
He had a beautiful heart in spirit,
but he had a bad organ.
688
00:35:51,607 --> 00:35:53,818
It runs in our family. Heart issues do.
689
00:35:53,901 --> 00:35:55,486
-Makes sense.
-Gotcha.
690
00:35:55,570 --> 00:35:58,531
I just want to know who this was to you?
What was his name?
691
00:35:58,614 --> 00:36:00,032
My brother, Brian.
692
00:36:01,450 --> 00:36:06,080
Brian was a little quirky, kind of funny.
693
00:36:06,164 --> 00:36:07,999
Very tall.
694
00:36:08,499 --> 00:36:11,377
"String Bean" was
kind of a nickname for him.
695
00:36:11,460 --> 00:36:16,424
We actually weren't that close
because I was five years younger than him,
696
00:36:16,507 --> 00:36:18,092
but I wanted to be closer to him,
697
00:36:18,176 --> 00:36:21,179
but with the age gap,
it just didn't happen,
698
00:36:21,262 --> 00:36:22,722
as much as I wanted it to.
699
00:36:22,805 --> 00:36:25,975
And then he suddenly just passed away.
700
00:36:26,726 --> 00:36:30,396
I didn't really get to bond with him.
701
00:36:30,980 --> 00:36:33,983
And wanting to be close. It was very hard.
702
00:36:37,111 --> 00:36:38,279
All right.
703
00:36:38,362 --> 00:36:40,781
He's bringing up your mom,
pretty strongly.
704
00:36:40,865 --> 00:36:43,826
Yeah. He has some stuff for her.
705
00:36:43,910 --> 00:36:46,454
He also refers to Dad,
in the way this comes through.
706
00:36:46,537 --> 00:36:47,955
So is Dad living?
707
00:36:48,039 --> 00:36:49,665
-Yes, he is.
-In the picture.
708
00:36:49,749 --> 00:36:52,335
-Both of my parents are still alive.
-Yeah.
709
00:36:55,630 --> 00:36:56,797
Mm-mm.
710
00:37:00,551 --> 00:37:04,513
Uh, let me look here.
Trying to figure out what this is. Um…
711
00:37:06,974 --> 00:37:08,017
Okay.
712
00:37:12,188 --> 00:37:13,648
Um…
713
00:37:13,731 --> 00:37:16,025
Trying to think of how to handle this.
714
00:37:17,693 --> 00:37:21,155
Some of these people
on the other side had a hand in
715
00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:22,990
helping your mother
716
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:25,368
figure something out.
717
00:37:25,868 --> 00:37:27,828
I'm trying to figure out what this is.
718
00:37:27,912 --> 00:37:30,623
-There's some people who've passed.
-Okay.
719
00:37:30,706 --> 00:37:32,583
They feel like they led
720
00:37:32,667 --> 00:37:35,878
your mother to come
to an understanding of something.
721
00:37:35,962 --> 00:37:38,047
I know it's vague, but I gotta keep going
722
00:37:38,130 --> 00:37:40,299
because it's getting
progressively specific.
723
00:37:40,383 --> 00:37:41,509
Let me look.
724
00:37:42,969 --> 00:37:45,596
So many people here,
I'm having a hard time managing.
725
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:47,682
It's your mom. Um…
726
00:37:47,765 --> 00:37:52,270
I kinda wonder with her upbringing,
if there isn't something big there.
727
00:37:52,353 --> 00:37:54,146
In the way this comes across.
728
00:37:54,230 --> 00:37:57,525
The weird thing is,
it's not just upbringing.
729
00:37:57,608 --> 00:37:59,652
-Oh my gosh.
-This is gonna blow my mind.
730
00:37:59,735 --> 00:38:02,822
If this is accurate.
We've been following my mom's journey.
731
00:38:02,905 --> 00:38:05,825
-Really?
-And there's something kind of similar.
732
00:38:05,908 --> 00:38:09,245
I don't want to say it's exact,
but it's similar in the feeling of,
733
00:38:09,328 --> 00:38:12,999
discovery, coming to an awareness,
a conclusion.
734
00:38:13,082 --> 00:38:16,877
And I feel like the people on
the other side tried to make this happen.
735
00:38:16,961 --> 00:38:19,338
The people on the other side
tried to make it happen?
736
00:38:19,422 --> 00:38:23,467
They were pushing events to
happen, so that your mom could get this.
737
00:38:23,551 --> 00:38:27,346
-If that makes sense. Does it make sense?
-Yes. This is so awesome!
738
00:38:27,430 --> 00:38:28,389
Oh my God.