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- ♪ MTV ♪
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- Previously on "Teen Mom:
Family Reunion."
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- This year, I decided we
need to bring our own moms.
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- Hi.
- Hello.
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- Hi, you guys.
- Hello.
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- I actually like all
the girls and their mom,
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except Tea and Ashley.
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- There's been a lot
of weird internet drama.
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- I was having lunch
with Briana.
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I went on social media.
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Briana didn't like that.
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- Mind your business.
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- Love for my family!
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- I'm literally having
a panic attack.
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- OK, breathe.
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- I don't find it encouraging.
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I find it to be peer pressure.
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[screaming]
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- The reunion has
literally just begun.
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[upbeat music]
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- Hey, girls.
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Hi.
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- Surprise, bitches.
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"Young and Pregnant" is here.
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- You can feel
the negative energy
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coming from Kiaya and Ashley.
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- I'm not that fond of Ashley.
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- I'm going to do me.
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And if she wants to do me,
we can do us.
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And if not,
she could stay away.
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[dramatic music]
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- ♪ Got to let you know ♪
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♪ ♪
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♪ All about it ♪
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- Day two, we're sharing rooms
with our moms.
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I'm really excited
that my mom is here.
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I'm hoping maybe that we can
kind of see
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what things could be opened up
and maybe, like, healed.
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But also, I'm kind of nervous
at the same time
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because my mom can
be unpredictable.
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It's one of my triggers.
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♪ ♪
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- Day one was a lot.
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It's like we were on 100.
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I need day two to be
at, like, a level 30.
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I don't want to jump
off anything.
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I don't want to be
in the dirt.
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I don't want to see
any animals.
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I don't care about the trees.
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Like, just sit me somewhere
with a nice drink,
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and I'll be happy.
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♪ ♪
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- [snoring]
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[alarm ringing]
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- I didn't get a lot
of sleep last night.
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It's very hard to share
a room with your mom.
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My mom has sleep apnea.
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She'll be snoring all night.
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- [snoring]
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Love my mom.
Love her to death.
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Want to sleep separate.
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- ♪ The good, good news ♪
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- I just wake up
extremely nauseous.
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But now that I'm up,
I'm extremely hungry.
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♪ Boom boom, baby ♪
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♪ ♪
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- Good morning.
- Good morning.
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How are you?
- Good.
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There's food over there.
- Fire. Fire.
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The weather's beautiful.
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My friends are here.
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And I just can't wait to
have a great time with them.
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I'm tired as a mother[bleep].
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But Ashley and Tea
are in the kitchen
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when I walk into the house.
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I'm going to keep my distance.
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- Mom, do you want
some scrambled eggs?
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- Sure.
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[tense music]
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- Tea tried to say
good morning to me,
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but I didn't say anything back.
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There's no reason to.
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I don't want to talk to them.
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I know the type of people
that they are, fake as [bleep].
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[intense music]
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- Hey, Maci.
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- So Roxanne ignores me,
and I'm just like, OK.
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Hi, Maci, since you
don't want to talk to me.
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- I don't like looking
at Ashley or Tea.
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I see right through them.
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They've done a lot of damage
on social media.
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- Roxy and Bri don't really
talk to Tea and Ashley.
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And Tea and Ashley don't
really talk to them.
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And I'm like, damn,
guys, we're starting
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the day off like this?
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- Waking up here today
in Oregon was good.
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I'm super, super excited
to be here with Kayla.
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We're just really
ready to enjoy
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the experience with everybody
and get to know everybody.
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- Good morning.
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- Hi.
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- How are y'all?
- Good morning, everybody.
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Kiaya and Kayla
are finally here.
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And I'm super excited
to get to know them more
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and build bonds with everybody.
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- I feel like
for, like, a week,
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I'm just going to
walk around like, hey,
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I jumped off a bridge.
How are you?
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[laughter]
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Have you jumped off a bridge?
Because I have.
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- ♪ I just want to go out ♪
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♪ I just wanna stay out ♪
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♪ I just want to be out ♪
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- Good morning.
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- I ate two plates
[indistinct].
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- I'm not a morning person.
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- Neither am I.
[indistinct chatter]
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I got my daughter at school.
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I'm like, you hungry?
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Go get yourself a little snack.
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[laughter]
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- I am excited to, like,
get to meet the girls
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and get to know them better.
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I think they could be good
role models in certain things
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and have some good advice.
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- Yeah, he has the kids.
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- I don't really know much
about Kayla or her mom.
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I've seen stuff online, but
this will be an opportunity
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to really connect and bond.
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Are you living together?
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- Yeah.
- How's that?
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- It's awkward.
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So I met Luke when we were
both going to college.
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We had moved in
together in October.
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And I got pregnant,
like, end of November.
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Like, I feel like he proposed,
like, to save the relationship
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instead of like, oh, we're
at part in our relationship
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we should get married.
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Luke and I were
previously engaged.
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And then I ended up
calling off the engagement.
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So right now, currently, we're
technically not together,
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but we live together
at my mom's house
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as, like, co-parenting
partners.
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So that can be pretty messy.
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Like, the lines right
now are kind of blurry.
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You know what I mean?
So--
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- It's weird as [bleep].
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- Really?
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- They act like a couple.
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- No, we don't.
We don't hook up.
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We're not intimate.
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So to me, that's not
acting like a couple.
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- But I don't know what
the hell they're doing
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in their bed because they
sleep in the same room.
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- We have the kids in the room.
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Where are we supposed to go?
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- But It's just like, they
do everything together.
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I don't know if they're
the best for each other
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as a couple,
at least right now.
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What's going on?
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- Well, the past year
of our relationship
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has not been good.
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I told him I needed him to
do a few things, you know?
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Either start going to the gym
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or taking care
of his mental health.
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And he didn't try.
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Like, I just don't understand.
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Like, I asked
for the most basic,
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and he couldn't even do it.
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- And I thought the turning
point was when you got engaged
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and he was going
to get his act together.
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And obviously,
that didn't happen.
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I think they
both need some work
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if they're going
to work it out.
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- I think we need to, like,
draw the line in the sand,
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whether we like decide
to stay together
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and make it work or be like,
hey,
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we're better off as friends
and co-parents.
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During this trip,
I think I just really want
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to get some clarity
going back home like,
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look, we can't keep
living together,
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but we're not
"really together."
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Like, either we need
to decide we want
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to be together
and work on these issues,
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or we need to call it quits.
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[phone ringing]
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- Hello?
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- You are receiving
a call from an inmate
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at Henderson Detention Center.
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- Bar calls me every day
multiple times a day
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from jail.
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He's just being held.
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Like, he's not
even being charged.
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This is a case that
he's been handling,
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but he missed a court date
in California
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because we moved to Nevada.
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So once they realized that
they know where he is,
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he's going to show up.
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They're going to release him.
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It's going to be fine.
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- What?
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- [crying]
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Yeah.
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- I'm not really sure
what's going on.
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But her mom's with her.
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And I hope she's all right.
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- Well, that sucks.
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[crying]
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OK.
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[tense music]
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OK.
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- What did he say?
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He is being extradited,
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which means that California
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has decided to come
and pick him up
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and make him fight the case
from a California jail.
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It's just much more time
not seeing him.
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[sobbing]
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This case actually does
hold a lot of weight.
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And if he can't
fight it from home
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and he fights it from jail,
and then he also gets time.
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It's a lot going on
with Ashley right now.
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And she shouldn't have
to deal with this.
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Bar is not here.
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And her plate
is really overwhelmed.
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♪ ♪
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And this couldn't have come
at the worst timing,
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the worst timing.
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[dramatic music]
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- Want me to come
in there and help?
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- Hearing that Bar
is going to be extradited
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makes me feel scared,
very scared.
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He's facing a lot
of jail time.
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[interposing voices]
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- This is, like,
the worst news that
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I could be getting
while I'm away.
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Ugh.
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Oh, [bleep].
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- Yeah.
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I just-- I'm so depleted.
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I like some of the people here,
but I don't want any of them
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in my business.
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I just need a break.
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[interposing voices]
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Roxanne's going
to keep trying me,
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and I'm going to
push that [bleep]
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down there on the ground.
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- [inaudible]
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- Every time she walk
past me, she walked
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past me this morning so close.
I didn't move.
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I bumped right into
that [bleep].
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She's playing too many
mother[bleep] games, [bleep].
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Stay the mother[bleep]
away from me.
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I would rather
just sleep and then
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show up when my mood
and my energy
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and my vibe is much better.
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- ♪ Hey, what you need? ♪
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♪ 'Cause there ain't nothing
that I can't do ♪
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♪ Car low on grease? ♪
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♪ I'll get that engine
running real smooth ♪
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- It's pretty, right?
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- Yeah, this place
is beautiful.
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- I wanna play golf.
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- I need me a rich man
in my life.
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♪ ♪
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- It's kind of chilly out here.
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- A little bit.
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But we can sit in
the sun though.
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- Yeah.
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- So what's been going on?
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I feel like there's some
tension or something going on.
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- Between?
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- Like, with Ashley and stuff.
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- We got into, like,
a social media--
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it was really
bull[bleep], honestly.
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I had started a business,
and she has started a business.
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It came out that she
was copying my business ideas
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or whatever the case may be.
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She gets on Instagram,
and she makes
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this whole post about how
she doesn't have to steal
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anyone business ideas.
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And she just was throwing,
like, low blows in there,
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things that I knew
had to do with me
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without her having to say it.
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When I confronted her and
asked her if it was about me,
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she goes, no, but if
the shoe fits, wear it.
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That pissed me off because--
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- Rightfully so, yeah.
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- --because if it's not about
me, then leave it at that.
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She just kept coming
at me, like, in the DM.
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So you know, I'm going
to talk my [bleep] back.
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Who the--I did not [bleep]
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say [bleep] about you
stealing [bleep] from me.
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When somebody
asked me that [bleep],
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I said, that's her business.
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If she wants to sell eyelashes,
let her [bleep] do that.
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If she wants to
start a business,
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let her [bleep] do that.
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I just feel like she
picks on certain people.
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- Yeah.
- And that's not OK.
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And then I think my mom
and Tea's situation
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just kind of made me
further just not
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want anything to do with them.
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- So they have a
situation going too then?
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- Yeah, because
Tea's big grown ass
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decided to get on social media
and talk [bleep] about me.
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I just don't think
that they are genuine people.
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- So they're kind of the same.
Like, they kind of--
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- Yeah, Tea's just
an old version of her.
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- What I'm hearing from Kiaya
and a lot of the other girls,
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I don't know if Ashley
can't just talk to people
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or if she just feels
protected by the screen
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that she can go behind
people and talk about them.
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But I always give everybody
the benefit of the doubt.
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We should all be able to be a
[bleep] group of people that
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support each other because
at the end of the day,
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like, even some
of our close friends
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can't relate
to what we go through.
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- Yeah.
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I really appreciate Cate
pulling me to the side
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because I really want
to get to know her.
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So it's really nice to see
some effort from the moms
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to just make me feel included.
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- I'm excited to get
to know you even more.
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- Thank you.
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I'm excited to get to know
all of y'all and have fun.
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- Right?
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That's what it's
supposed to be about.
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[bleep] the drama.
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- ♪ One, two, three times
in a row ♪
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♪ You gotta switch it up ♪
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♪ ♪
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- Oh, yeah.
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Don't mind if I do.
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- After a crazy first day, I
think it's great that we could
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just hang out by the pool.
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But it's hot as hell in Oregon.
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I want a piña colada.
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- We can't order [inaudible]?
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- This is just so me
right now.
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I'm in my element,
and I'm in the [bleep] zone.
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- ♪ You can't believe
your eyes ♪
343
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- I have teen pregnancy
in my family.
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[interposing voices]
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- My grandmother was a teen.
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My dad was a product
of a teen pregnancy.
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- Back in the day,
they were all [bleep] teens.
348
00:13:26,581 --> 00:13:28,283
- Yeah, getting married at 12.
349
00:13:28,283 --> 00:13:29,651
- 12 years old
with a 40-year-old.
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- Yeah.
- [bleep] pervs.
351
00:13:32,153 --> 00:13:33,855
- I still can't believe that
I jumped off a [bleep] bridge.
352
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- Oh, my God.
353
00:13:35,290 --> 00:13:36,991
Cate, you gave me a
freaking anxiety attack.
354
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And them people, I know
they're-- they're doing
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what they do and everything.
356
00:13:40,228 --> 00:13:41,596
But I just was like--
because I'm your mom.
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- Yeah.
358
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- So I was like,
get away from my kid!
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She said no.
- Right.
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- Don't you know what no means?
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00:13:46,267 --> 00:13:47,969
I felt like,
quit pressuring her.
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00:13:47,969 --> 00:13:49,771
When someone says no,
that means no.
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00:13:49,771 --> 00:13:51,139
- I want you to, like--
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I don't know give,
Coach B a chance.
365
00:13:52,941 --> 00:13:55,476
She does seem very,
like, sincere.
366
00:13:55,476 --> 00:13:57,712
You know, I'm really
excited that my mom is here.
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I'm hoping maybe that I can,
like, break her out
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of her comfort zone
in some aspects,
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like, maybe do different
things that she never
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thought she would ever do.
371
00:14:05,253 --> 00:14:07,155
I, like, want her
to just open up.
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00:14:07,155 --> 00:14:08,957
I feel like there might be
things that she might open
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our eyes up to where it's like,
all [bleep]--
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00:14:10,258 --> 00:14:11,826
- Oh, I-- I'm open,
but you know,
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00:14:11,826 --> 00:14:13,127
like, I don't want to cry.
376
00:14:13,127 --> 00:14:15,129
I know Caitlin's
really big on therapy.
377
00:14:15,129 --> 00:14:17,665
I'm just worried
that Coach B is going
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to portray me as a bad mom.
379
00:14:20,101 --> 00:14:21,636
- You automatically
go to anger because I
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think that's what you had
to do growing up as a kid.
381
00:14:23,671 --> 00:14:25,940
I think it comes from,
like, your childhood.
382
00:14:25,940 --> 00:14:28,009
Like, were you not able to
express feelings
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and emotions maybe
or were you afraid to?
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00:14:30,278 --> 00:14:31,579
- Both.
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00:14:31,579 --> 00:14:34,782
Like, I remember as a kid
going to hug my mom
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and my mom pushing me away.
Like--
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00:14:36,551 --> 00:14:38,019
- And that's [bleep] sad.
388
00:14:38,019 --> 00:14:39,687
- I remember feeling like
my mom didn't love me.
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00:14:39,687 --> 00:14:41,222
- Right. Well, of course,
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because that's what she was
showing you in those times.
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My mom is definitely
the type of person
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that will hold in her
feelings and her emotions.
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00:14:47,161 --> 00:14:49,063
They end up coming out
in, like, anger.
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00:14:49,063 --> 00:14:51,899
I am really hoping
that my mom can kind of
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00:14:51,899 --> 00:14:53,635
learn some new things here.
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00:14:53,635 --> 00:14:55,937
She should definitely
give Coach B a chance.
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00:14:58,339 --> 00:14:59,440
And I like it.
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00:14:59,440 --> 00:15:00,608
I'm glad I did it.
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00:15:00,608 --> 00:15:02,210
I'm glad because
a lot of people talk--
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00:15:02,210 --> 00:15:04,612
say, like, the implants, like,
oh, so round and--
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00:15:04,612 --> 00:15:06,180
but I-- I was glad I didn't.
402
00:15:06,180 --> 00:15:07,649
- Yeah, they're so soft.
- I didn't do it.
403
00:15:07,649 --> 00:15:09,217
- They're squishy, though.
[interposing voices]
404
00:15:09,217 --> 00:15:10,652
- They are squishy, right?
- Yeah.
405
00:15:10,652 --> 00:15:11,886
- I don't want no titties.
406
00:15:11,886 --> 00:15:13,021
Cut them off.
407
00:15:13,021 --> 00:15:13,988
- You want to take them out?
408
00:15:13,988 --> 00:15:15,123
- I'm taking them out.
409
00:15:15,123 --> 00:15:16,457
I hit them up already.
410
00:15:16,457 --> 00:15:17,825
I want nothing.
411
00:15:17,825 --> 00:15:19,327
- Bri says that
she wants to get
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00:15:19,327 --> 00:15:21,295
her breast implants taken out.
413
00:15:21,295 --> 00:15:24,332
And all I'm thinking is why?
414
00:15:24,332 --> 00:15:25,967
- I don't want
to be a big girl.
415
00:15:25,967 --> 00:15:27,735
- Your boobs look fine,
I feel like.
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00:15:27,735 --> 00:15:29,270
- Hi, ladies.
417
00:15:29,270 --> 00:15:30,438
Hi.
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00:15:31,739 --> 00:15:33,207
- As I see Coach
B come out,
419
00:15:33,207 --> 00:15:34,776
I'm getting a little bit
anxious.
420
00:15:34,776 --> 00:15:36,077
[interposing voices]
421
00:15:36,077 --> 00:15:37,645
- I need a piña colada.
422
00:15:37,645 --> 00:15:39,547
- Oh, [bleep].
423
00:15:39,547 --> 00:15:41,349
- Hi.
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00:15:41,349 --> 00:15:44,285
- I'm apprehensive because
the last time I saw her,
425
00:15:44,285 --> 00:15:47,288
Briana jumped off that cliff.
426
00:15:47,288 --> 00:15:51,059
- I have another surprise
team building exercise.
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00:15:51,059 --> 00:15:53,361
[tense music]
428
00:15:53,361 --> 00:15:56,798
- It's about to go down.
[laughs]
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00:15:56,798 --> 00:15:59,300
♪ ♪
430
00:16:00,477 --> 00:16:03,146
[up-tempo music]
431
00:16:03,146 --> 00:16:05,015
- Hi. Hi. Hi.
432
00:16:05,015 --> 00:16:06,583
There's some new faces, right?
433
00:16:06,583 --> 00:16:07,651
- Hi.
434
00:16:07,651 --> 00:16:08,685
- I do have a question.
435
00:16:08,685 --> 00:16:09,920
Where's Ashley and her mom?
436
00:16:09,920 --> 00:16:11,922
- I guess Ashley
wasn't feeling well.
437
00:16:12,823 --> 00:16:14,458
- We're hanging back
from the pool today
438
00:16:14,458 --> 00:16:16,126
because Ashley's
not feeling good.
439
00:16:16,126 --> 00:16:18,695
And even though I was
dressed and ready to go,
440
00:16:18,695 --> 00:16:20,797
I couldn't just leave
her because everyone's
441
00:16:20,797 --> 00:16:22,266
waiting for me at the pool.
442
00:16:22,266 --> 00:16:23,967
So I had to be a dud
with my daughter.
443
00:16:25,435 --> 00:16:27,437
- I'm so excited not
just to have the moms here,
444
00:16:27,437 --> 00:16:29,072
but I also got
the grandmas here.
445
00:16:29,072 --> 00:16:30,741
- Call us glam-mas.
446
00:16:30,741 --> 00:16:32,075
- Glam-mas, OK.
447
00:16:32,075 --> 00:16:33,343
- We're glam-mas, you know?
448
00:16:33,343 --> 00:16:35,279
Because we're glamorous women.
449
00:16:35,279 --> 00:16:37,414
We're not old frumpy women.
450
00:16:38,215 --> 00:16:40,817
- I got the mama bears
and the glam-mas here.
451
00:16:40,817 --> 00:16:42,019
Is that better?
- Yeah.
452
00:16:42,019 --> 00:16:43,320
- OK?
453
00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:45,222
- This is my first time
meeting Coach B.
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00:16:45,222 --> 00:16:46,757
And my first impression
is just immediately,
455
00:16:46,757 --> 00:16:49,993
like, her presence just makes
you feel, like, at ease.
456
00:16:49,993 --> 00:16:52,562
- I am interested
in talking to Coach B
457
00:16:52,562 --> 00:16:54,197
and looking for
different ways to cope
458
00:16:54,197 --> 00:16:57,200
with things and
different ways to, like,
459
00:16:57,200 --> 00:16:59,903
just handle my own emotions.
460
00:16:59,903 --> 00:17:02,005
- This reunion,
we want to work on
461
00:17:02,005 --> 00:17:03,707
the intergenerational issues.
462
00:17:03,707 --> 00:17:06,510
- Intergener-- what?
463
00:17:06,510 --> 00:17:08,312
[laughs]
464
00:17:08,312 --> 00:17:10,814
- Issues that
were there with mom,
465
00:17:10,814 --> 00:17:14,084
with dad, with family, things
that happened in the past.
466
00:17:14,084 --> 00:17:16,453
- Intergenerational
issues are basically
467
00:17:16,453 --> 00:17:20,123
when your ancestors,
grandparents, whoever,
468
00:17:20,123 --> 00:17:25,362
passed down attributes
or trauma.
469
00:17:25,362 --> 00:17:27,030
And our grandparents,
or parents
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00:17:27,030 --> 00:17:28,532
are still passing them down.
471
00:17:28,532 --> 00:17:30,600
- So with all that being said--
472
00:17:30,600 --> 00:17:32,669
- What's the bomb
you're going to drop?
473
00:17:32,669 --> 00:17:36,406
- I have another surprise
teambuilding exercise.
474
00:17:36,406 --> 00:17:39,710
Get in something that you're
OK with getting very dirty.
475
00:17:39,710 --> 00:17:41,078
- Very?
- OK.
476
00:17:41,078 --> 00:17:42,746
- Very?
477
00:17:42,746 --> 00:17:44,848
I got no sneakers for that.
478
00:17:44,848 --> 00:17:46,383
- Fix your face.
479
00:17:46,383 --> 00:17:48,285
- Getting dirty, I can do that.
480
00:17:48,285 --> 00:17:51,988
But I am concerned for these
other girls and their moms
481
00:17:51,988 --> 00:17:54,691
because I'm not sure some
of them want to get dirty.
482
00:17:54,691 --> 00:17:56,259
- How dirty?
483
00:17:56,259 --> 00:17:58,395
- I'm super nervous
and scared for this.
484
00:17:58,395 --> 00:18:01,932
I'm nervous about explaining
certain things to my mom
485
00:18:01,932 --> 00:18:05,068
that I never have before and
how she's going to take it.
486
00:18:05,068 --> 00:18:06,269
What is it going to be like?
487
00:18:06,269 --> 00:18:07,437
- You have 30 minutes.
488
00:18:07,437 --> 00:18:09,873
And I will see you ladies soon.
489
00:18:09,873 --> 00:18:12,609
- ♪ Every time I walk in,
I'm the best thing ♪
490
00:18:12,609 --> 00:18:14,578
♪ I'm the best thing,
they all watching ♪
491
00:18:14,578 --> 00:18:16,079
♪ Every time we walk in ♪
492
00:18:16,079 --> 00:18:17,314
- Let's see what Tea's doing.
493
00:18:17,314 --> 00:18:19,549
I missed her at the damn pool.
494
00:18:19,549 --> 00:18:23,086
- So I know there has been
some bad tension between Ashley
495
00:18:23,086 --> 00:18:24,488
and the other moms.
496
00:18:24,488 --> 00:18:26,690
But I'm, like,
a very neutral person,
497
00:18:26,690 --> 00:18:28,392
so I'm going to check
on Ashley and Tea
498
00:18:28,392 --> 00:18:30,026
because I feel like
they really should
499
00:18:30,026 --> 00:18:32,429
be involved in the things
that we are doing.
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00:18:33,964 --> 00:18:35,732
- Mama Tea.
501
00:18:35,732 --> 00:18:40,570
- I'm sleeping,
and all I hear is "Mama Tea!"
502
00:18:40,570 --> 00:18:42,739
- Mama Tea.
503
00:18:42,739 --> 00:18:45,242
- "Mama Tea!"
504
00:18:45,242 --> 00:18:47,144
- Are you OK?
- Yeah.
505
00:18:47,144 --> 00:18:50,080
- I'm just trying to
avoid overexerting myself
506
00:18:50,080 --> 00:18:52,115
because I had a rough morning.
507
00:18:52,115 --> 00:18:54,618
I have a lot going on,
and I'm just--
508
00:18:54,618 --> 00:18:58,922
I-- I genuinely, truly
truthfully cannot process
509
00:18:58,922 --> 00:19:00,957
it here with these people.
510
00:19:00,957 --> 00:19:02,325
- Get up, Mama.
511
00:19:02,325 --> 00:19:04,261
Where were you?
512
00:19:04,261 --> 00:19:05,962
- You said you were
going to swim with me.
513
00:19:05,962 --> 00:19:08,365
- Yeah, were waiting for
you at the pool, Mama Tea.
514
00:19:08,365 --> 00:19:10,367
- So what are we doing now?
515
00:19:10,367 --> 00:19:11,701
What are we doing?
516
00:19:11,701 --> 00:19:13,403
- I guess, some
teambuilding exercise.
517
00:19:14,504 --> 00:19:15,439
- OK.
518
00:19:15,439 --> 00:19:16,940
- If you guys want to come.
519
00:19:16,940 --> 00:19:18,909
♪ ♪
520
00:19:18,909 --> 00:19:21,378
- I don't know if that's the
news I need just waking up.
521
00:19:21,378 --> 00:19:23,880
However, I do love April,
and I do love Cate,
522
00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:26,883
so I'm going to get ready,
and I'm going to show up.
523
00:19:26,883 --> 00:19:28,185
- All right, girls.
524
00:19:28,185 --> 00:19:29,586
I'm super excited
that they're coming.
525
00:19:29,586 --> 00:19:32,322
I don't want none of the
tensions that are happening
526
00:19:32,322 --> 00:19:35,192
stop people from working
on some of the things
527
00:19:35,192 --> 00:19:36,760
that we need to work on
while we're here.
528
00:19:36,760 --> 00:19:40,464
- ♪ It's all about the ride ♪
529
00:19:40,464 --> 00:19:42,399
♪ So watch me hit my stride ♪
530
00:19:42,399 --> 00:19:45,702
♪ I do it every single time ♪
531
00:19:45,702 --> 00:19:47,170
- What is this?
532
00:19:47,170 --> 00:19:48,505
- Uh-oh.
533
00:19:49,739 --> 00:19:50,907
- Watch your step.
534
00:19:50,907 --> 00:19:52,075
[interposing voices]
535
00:19:52,075 --> 00:19:54,211
- Oh, my God.
536
00:19:54,211 --> 00:19:57,080
- We walk up this
little trail, and boom.
537
00:19:57,080 --> 00:19:59,382
[dramatic music]
538
00:19:59,382 --> 00:20:00,817
♪ ♪
539
00:20:00,817 --> 00:20:01,985
A mud pit.
540
00:20:01,985 --> 00:20:04,154
[laughs]
541
00:20:04,154 --> 00:20:05,922
[interposing voices]
542
00:20:05,922 --> 00:20:07,858
- Are we some [bleep] pigs?
543
00:20:07,858 --> 00:20:09,359
This is mud.
544
00:20:09,359 --> 00:20:12,863
I don't want to roll
around in the mud.
545
00:20:12,863 --> 00:20:14,164
- It look nasty.
546
00:20:14,164 --> 00:20:16,166
- That looks like it's deep.
547
00:20:16,166 --> 00:20:17,501
- Cheyenne,
you can get in there,
548
00:20:17,501 --> 00:20:19,269
but I'm not getting
in that mud.
549
00:20:19,269 --> 00:20:21,671
♪ ♪
550
00:20:21,671 --> 00:20:24,774
- Today's all about the
mother-daughter relationship.
551
00:20:24,774 --> 00:20:27,444
♪ ♪
552
00:20:27,444 --> 00:20:31,314
It's all tied into
the intergenerational trauma
553
00:20:31,314 --> 00:20:34,117
and how to become
unstuck from that.
554
00:20:34,117 --> 00:20:37,087
- I'm nervous and scared
that it's going to bring up
555
00:20:37,087 --> 00:20:39,356
some things that maybe are--
556
00:20:39,356 --> 00:20:41,424
like, it's hard to talk about.
557
00:20:41,424 --> 00:20:43,360
But then again,
part of me is like,
558
00:20:43,360 --> 00:20:45,428
you got to bring stuff
to the surface
559
00:20:45,428 --> 00:20:47,230
in order to heal stuff.
560
00:20:47,230 --> 00:20:49,132
- And as you see,
we have a mud pit here.
561
00:20:49,132 --> 00:20:52,435
We are going to have
moms in the mud,
562
00:20:52,435 --> 00:20:54,804
glam-mas outside the mud.
563
00:20:54,804 --> 00:20:58,375
And we are going to identify
an issue we see
564
00:20:58,375 --> 00:21:01,278
within yourself
and your partner.
565
00:21:01,278 --> 00:21:03,146
The rope represents
the relationship
566
00:21:03,146 --> 00:21:04,681
between mom and glam-ma.
567
00:21:04,681 --> 00:21:07,484
The mud represents your
issues and your challenges.
568
00:21:07,484 --> 00:21:09,686
Once that issue is identified,
569
00:21:09,686 --> 00:21:11,755
you're going to use not only
your strength, glam-ma,
570
00:21:11,755 --> 00:21:14,224
but also, your effective
communication
571
00:21:14,224 --> 00:21:16,126
to pull your daughter out.
572
00:21:16,126 --> 00:21:17,827
Without effective
communication,
573
00:21:17,827 --> 00:21:19,829
you can't get through
and support one another
574
00:21:19,829 --> 00:21:21,598
in getting through
your issues.
575
00:21:21,598 --> 00:21:25,435
The exercise is complete
once you have gotten out
576
00:21:25,435 --> 00:21:27,804
of the mud pit
onto the other side
577
00:21:27,804 --> 00:21:30,240
and you are unstuck
from the mud.
578
00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:31,708
Who's going first?
579
00:21:32,909 --> 00:21:35,145
Ash and mom?
Let's rock and roll.
580
00:21:35,145 --> 00:21:36,780
Come on, ladies.
581
00:21:36,780 --> 00:21:38,615
- Ultimately, I'm looking
forward to this experience
582
00:21:38,615 --> 00:21:40,216
with my mom being here.
583
00:21:40,216 --> 00:21:42,052
And I do really respect
Coach B.
584
00:21:42,052 --> 00:21:44,854
In the last reunion,
she really opened my eyes
585
00:21:44,854 --> 00:21:46,389
to some things
with my husband.
586
00:21:46,389 --> 00:21:48,291
And I feel like she can
have the opportunity
587
00:21:48,291 --> 00:21:49,759
to do that between me
and my mom.
588
00:21:49,759 --> 00:21:52,862
- Ashley, what is it that
you want to work on with mom?
589
00:21:52,862 --> 00:21:55,599
[tense music]
590
00:21:55,599 --> 00:21:58,268
- She doesn't trust me
to make the decisions
591
00:21:58,268 --> 00:22:00,070
that she raised me to make.
592
00:22:00,070 --> 00:22:03,273
And sometimes, we have conflict
because it's like, Mom,
593
00:22:03,273 --> 00:22:04,507
I got this.
594
00:22:04,507 --> 00:22:06,176
You can let go.
595
00:22:06,176 --> 00:22:08,678
If I'm going to make a mistake,
I'm going to make the mistake.
596
00:22:08,678 --> 00:22:10,880
And it's-- she can't
protect me from it all.
597
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:13,750
♪ ♪
598
00:22:13,750 --> 00:22:16,820
- I'm trying to protect you
from all the hurt I felt.
599
00:22:16,820 --> 00:22:18,088
- From?
600
00:22:18,088 --> 00:22:19,289
- Abuse.
601
00:22:19,289 --> 00:22:21,825
♪ ♪
602
00:22:21,825 --> 00:22:22,859
Rape.
603
00:22:22,859 --> 00:22:25,695
♪ ♪
604
00:22:25,695 --> 00:22:26,830
Dope.
605
00:22:26,830 --> 00:22:31,134
♪ ♪
606
00:22:31,134 --> 00:22:32,802
Molestation.
607
00:22:34,971 --> 00:22:37,540
Lies, abandonment.
608
00:22:37,540 --> 00:22:39,743
I am the way I am because
I don't want you to ever
609
00:22:39,743 --> 00:22:42,545
have to see it,
have to deal with it
610
00:22:42,545 --> 00:22:44,414
because I already paid
the price for the family.
611
00:22:44,414 --> 00:22:45,982
- Stop. Stay there.
612
00:22:47,317 --> 00:22:48,585
What does that stuff represent?
613
00:22:48,585 --> 00:22:50,020
- I think I just--
614
00:22:50,020 --> 00:22:51,988
I carry it because
she carries it.
615
00:22:51,988 --> 00:22:53,056
- You got to release it.
616
00:22:53,056 --> 00:22:54,290
How does it show up?
617
00:22:54,290 --> 00:22:55,492
- I don't know.
618
00:22:55,492 --> 00:22:56,893
- Come on, Ashley.
You know.
619
00:22:56,893 --> 00:22:58,128
Dig deep, honey.
620
00:22:58,128 --> 00:23:00,030
You've got this. Come on.
621
00:23:00,030 --> 00:23:05,969
- I think the way I respond,
my quickness to cut you down
622
00:23:05,969 --> 00:23:08,438
instead of understand
where you're coming from,
623
00:23:08,438 --> 00:23:09,973
my defensiveness.
624
00:23:09,973 --> 00:23:12,642
- 'Cause you're trying to
protect you the way she's been
625
00:23:12,642 --> 00:23:14,110
trying to protect you.
626
00:23:14,110 --> 00:23:15,879
- Yeah.
627
00:23:15,879 --> 00:23:17,180
Yeah.
628
00:23:17,180 --> 00:23:19,683
- Mom, anything else
you're protecting her
629
00:23:19,683 --> 00:23:22,419
from that you want to let out?
630
00:23:22,419 --> 00:23:23,887
- I'm mama bear.
631
00:23:23,887 --> 00:23:25,055
I'm Mama Tea.
632
00:23:25,055 --> 00:23:27,524
I will always protect her.
633
00:23:30,393 --> 00:23:32,028
I think sometimes,
I feel like I want
634
00:23:32,028 --> 00:23:33,930
to protect her from Bar.
635
00:23:33,930 --> 00:23:36,599
[dramatic music]
636
00:23:36,599 --> 00:23:39,402
♪ ♪
637
00:23:40,370 --> 00:23:42,139
[dramatic music]
638
00:23:42,139 --> 00:23:43,607
♪ ♪
639
00:23:43,607 --> 00:23:45,008
- Anything else
you're protecting her from
640
00:23:45,008 --> 00:23:46,877
that you want to let out?
641
00:23:46,877 --> 00:23:49,313
- Sometimes I feel like I
need to protect you from Bar.
642
00:23:49,313 --> 00:23:51,915
♪ ♪
643
00:23:51,915 --> 00:23:53,917
- What did you hear her say?
What does that mean to you?
644
00:23:53,917 --> 00:23:57,087
- I think she feels like she's
the end of me and Bar's story
645
00:23:57,087 --> 00:23:59,656
because my dad
and Bar are so similar.
646
00:23:59,656 --> 00:24:00,691
- So tell me, what
does that mean?
647
00:24:00,691 --> 00:24:01,858
What's the similarities?
648
00:24:01,858 --> 00:24:03,227
What are you
protecting her from?
649
00:24:03,227 --> 00:24:04,895
♪ ♪
650
00:24:04,895 --> 00:24:07,197
- Dynamite.
651
00:24:07,197 --> 00:24:08,799
I know when her and--
652
00:24:08,799 --> 00:24:11,268
her dad and I were together,
653
00:24:11,268 --> 00:24:12,669
it was dynamite.
654
00:24:12,669 --> 00:24:14,204
And I know that her
and Bar have that.
655
00:24:14,204 --> 00:24:16,440
And if you don't know
how to will it correctly,
656
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:18,242
it can be dangerous,
extremely dangerous.
657
00:24:18,242 --> 00:24:19,676
- Let's regroup.
658
00:24:19,676 --> 00:24:21,111
The whole reason you're
[bleep] that [bleep]
659
00:24:21,111 --> 00:24:22,846
is because you want
the clout and [bleep] from it.
660
00:24:22,846 --> 00:24:24,214
- Oh, really?
- Yes, [bleep].
661
00:24:24,214 --> 00:24:25,515
Yes. Yes.
662
00:24:25,515 --> 00:24:26,617
- Well, guess what?
663
00:24:26,617 --> 00:24:29,353
♪ I'ma keep [bleep] him ♪
664
00:24:27,784 --> 00:24:29,353
♪ I'ma keep [bleep] him ♪
665
00:24:29,353 --> 00:24:31,888
I'ma going to keep [bleep] him
because I'm not [bleep] you.
666
00:24:31,888 --> 00:24:33,557
- Go ahead.
I don't want to [bleep] you.
667
00:24:33,557 --> 00:24:35,325
- You want to talk that
[bleep]?
668
00:24:35,325 --> 00:24:36,960
Don't play with me.
669
00:24:36,960 --> 00:24:40,264
- My family is just known for
having a mouth, regardless.
670
00:24:40,264 --> 00:24:42,032
- But the lower you cut
671
00:24:42,032 --> 00:24:43,667
is the lower
you place yourself.
672
00:24:43,667 --> 00:24:45,902
We only give who we are.
673
00:24:45,902 --> 00:24:49,106
So when she goes low,
it's because she feels low.
674
00:24:49,106 --> 00:24:50,374
- Is that true, Ashley?
675
00:24:50,374 --> 00:24:51,408
- [bleep] yeah.
676
00:24:51,408 --> 00:24:53,243
[somber music]
677
00:24:53,243 --> 00:24:54,611
- The whole family is dealing
678
00:24:54,611 --> 00:24:56,046
with the same dysfunctional
patterns,
679
00:24:56,046 --> 00:24:58,348
and it's time to interrupt
and break that pattern,
680
00:24:58,348 --> 00:24:59,983
so that her daughter
doesn't have
681
00:24:59,983 --> 00:25:01,852
to deal with this stuff
and be stuck
682
00:25:01,852 --> 00:25:03,487
on some stuff that's not hers.
- Right.
683
00:25:03,487 --> 00:25:04,921
- Got it?
684
00:25:04,921 --> 00:25:06,690
- I think it's clear
that my mom's temper
685
00:25:06,690 --> 00:25:08,158
has been passed down to me.
686
00:25:08,158 --> 00:25:12,596
I think we need to
work on being more open
687
00:25:12,596 --> 00:25:14,865
to communicate how
we feel instead of jumping
688
00:25:14,865 --> 00:25:16,566
so quickly to be defensive.
689
00:25:16,566 --> 00:25:18,735
We're here to work
on our relationships
690
00:25:18,735 --> 00:25:20,137
with our mothers.
691
00:25:20,137 --> 00:25:23,373
But also, you know,
with every relationship,
692
00:25:23,373 --> 00:25:27,577
it requires you to be
vulnerable and open sometimes,
693
00:25:27,577 --> 00:25:28,945
probably when you
don't want to.
694
00:25:28,945 --> 00:25:30,714
[applause]
- Don't fall now, girl.
695
00:25:30,714 --> 00:25:32,449
- I ain't going to fall.
696
00:25:32,449 --> 00:25:33,850
- Good job, ladies.
697
00:25:35,252 --> 00:25:36,420
Thank you for opening up.
698
00:25:36,420 --> 00:25:38,055
- Thank you.
699
00:25:38,055 --> 00:25:41,024
- I can't change anything
that happened in the past.
700
00:25:41,024 --> 00:25:44,361
But I definitely hear what
Coach B and Ashley are saying.
701
00:25:44,361 --> 00:25:45,829
It's definitely a revelation.
702
00:25:45,829 --> 00:25:47,597
I mean, I'm open to growth.
703
00:25:47,597 --> 00:25:48,899
- Thank you for trusting me.
704
00:25:48,899 --> 00:25:50,467
- Of course, Coach B,
of course.
705
00:25:50,467 --> 00:25:52,669
- Good job.
706
00:25:52,669 --> 00:25:54,371
- What Coach B
says about Ashley
707
00:25:54,371 --> 00:25:56,373
and her mom is clearly true.
708
00:25:56,373 --> 00:25:57,741
The rage, and the anger,
709
00:25:57,741 --> 00:25:59,476
and its transfer from
the mom to the daughter,
710
00:25:59,476 --> 00:26:01,011
from the daughter to the mom.
711
00:26:01,011 --> 00:26:02,346
♪ ♪
712
00:26:02,346 --> 00:26:03,680
- It just felt fake.
713
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:05,882
Like, was tears really coming
out of Tea's face
714
00:26:05,882 --> 00:26:08,051
when she talked about
her experiences?
715
00:26:09,152 --> 00:26:11,254
[indistinct chatter]
716
00:26:11,254 --> 00:26:12,422
- All right, ladies.
717
00:26:12,422 --> 00:26:13,757
OK, ladies. Come on.
718
00:26:13,757 --> 00:26:16,226
We got--
we got Bri and Roxanne.
719
00:26:16,226 --> 00:26:18,161
[tense music]
720
00:26:18,161 --> 00:26:21,098
- I'm struggling as to what
I want to say to my mom.
721
00:26:21,098 --> 00:26:23,333
Whatever comes to my mind
and to my heart
722
00:26:23,333 --> 00:26:24,835
is what I'm going to say.
723
00:26:24,835 --> 00:26:27,838
- Briana, what is it that
you want to work on with mom?
724
00:26:27,838 --> 00:26:30,907
- So I feel like
you are so strong,
725
00:26:30,907 --> 00:26:32,776
that you made me to be strong,
726
00:26:32,776 --> 00:26:36,546
that I don't know
how to show emotion
727
00:26:36,546 --> 00:26:39,583
because I feel like I can only
be strong.
728
00:26:39,583 --> 00:26:42,719
And I feel like you taught me
that, which is a good thing.
729
00:26:42,719 --> 00:26:46,123
But I want to feel my feelings,
730
00:26:46,123 --> 00:26:48,258
and I never know how.
731
00:26:48,258 --> 00:26:50,727
And I feel like that
was because of you.
732
00:26:50,727 --> 00:26:52,763
- I know you want her
to have her daddy.
733
00:26:52,763 --> 00:26:56,566
Bri, sometimes some daddies
are not willing
734
00:26:56,566 --> 00:26:58,568
to want to make it work.
735
00:26:58,568 --> 00:27:00,337
You're going to
have to stay strong.
736
00:27:00,337 --> 00:27:02,406
[patting baby]
737
00:27:02,406 --> 00:27:04,141
[somber music]
738
00:27:04,141 --> 00:27:06,810
It's OK. Don't cry.
739
00:27:06,810 --> 00:27:09,212
She don't want
to see you crying.
740
00:27:10,547 --> 00:27:12,315
- Where do you
put your emotions,
741
00:27:12,315 --> 00:27:13,884
and why do you suppress?
742
00:27:13,884 --> 00:27:16,186
- Like, I dropped
the ball so many times.
743
00:27:16,186 --> 00:27:18,188
- It's OK.
- You're not perfect.
744
00:27:18,188 --> 00:27:20,323
- I don't want my [bleep]
kids to see me struggling,
745
00:27:20,323 --> 00:27:22,259
so I have to suppress
all my [bleep],
746
00:27:22,259 --> 00:27:24,428
so that they don't really
see me going through it.
747
00:27:24,428 --> 00:27:25,629
- Stay there. Stay there.
748
00:27:25,629 --> 00:27:26,830
Stay.
749
00:27:26,830 --> 00:27:29,032
- Watching Bri and her mom go,
750
00:27:29,032 --> 00:27:32,402
my heart just hurts because
I can see the literal pain
751
00:27:32,402 --> 00:27:34,604
on Roxanne's face.
752
00:27:34,604 --> 00:27:36,440
- Did you hear
what she said, Briana?
753
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,341
- She realized she [bleep] up.
754
00:27:38,341 --> 00:27:40,410
But I want you
to hear the number one thing
755
00:27:40,410 --> 00:27:41,812
that your mom said.
756
00:27:41,812 --> 00:27:44,815
She has mommy guilt.
- I got the worst guilt.
757
00:27:44,815 --> 00:27:46,683
- Because of her words,
she dropped the ball,
758
00:27:46,683 --> 00:27:48,318
and she [bleep] up on her kids.
759
00:27:48,318 --> 00:27:50,053
That's what--
that's what she said loudest.
760
00:27:50,053 --> 00:27:52,789
That's the stuff that's
keeping her in bondage.
761
00:27:52,789 --> 00:27:54,324
Let me ask you this.
- I love you.
762
00:27:54,324 --> 00:27:56,460
- Are you-- are you open
to working through that
763
00:27:56,460 --> 00:27:58,261
for the sake of your daughter?
764
00:27:58,261 --> 00:27:59,563
- Yes.
765
00:28:00,764 --> 00:28:03,400
- Pull your baby up.
766
00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:05,202
[applause]
There you go.
767
00:28:05,202 --> 00:28:06,403
- Good job, girl.
768
00:28:06,403 --> 00:28:08,305
- Yes.
769
00:28:08,305 --> 00:28:10,774
That was the truth, though.
770
00:28:10,774 --> 00:28:13,777
- Being vulnerable
is hard as hell.
771
00:28:13,777 --> 00:28:16,480
It was nice to see
my mom get emotional.
772
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:19,483
It was nice to see something
different from my mom.
773
00:28:19,483 --> 00:28:21,551
- I'm so proud of you, sis.
774
00:28:21,551 --> 00:28:23,086
You did it.
- It's heavy.
775
00:28:23,086 --> 00:28:24,588
And you don't realize
how much you've
776
00:28:24,588 --> 00:28:26,990
been carrying
until you identify it
777
00:28:26,990 --> 00:28:29,125
and acknowledge it.
778
00:28:29,125 --> 00:28:31,127
I want to be strong for her,
you know?
779
00:28:31,127 --> 00:28:32,562
I want her to know
that I'm always going
780
00:28:32,562 --> 00:28:34,197
to be there and have her back.
781
00:28:34,197 --> 00:28:37,567
But I feel like if you're
not strong, what are you?
782
00:28:37,567 --> 00:28:39,469
What can you do?
It's [bleep] life.
783
00:28:39,469 --> 00:28:42,772
I got my own battles I got to
fight, my own internal issues.
784
00:28:42,772 --> 00:28:44,875
I need to work on
being vulnerable.
785
00:28:46,076 --> 00:28:47,777
- I'm down to go.
- Let's go.
786
00:28:47,777 --> 00:28:49,179
Let's rock and roll.
787
00:28:49,179 --> 00:28:50,514
- We got to cheer y'all
on because y'all been
788
00:28:50,514 --> 00:28:51,882
cheering on everybody.
789
00:28:51,882 --> 00:28:53,717
- Somebody's got to
[bleep] cheer me on.
790
00:28:53,717 --> 00:28:55,785
- I'm nervous and scared.
791
00:28:55,785 --> 00:28:58,622
Like, do I have
the strength to be
792
00:28:58,622 --> 00:29:00,624
100% open and honest
with my mom?
793
00:29:00,624 --> 00:29:02,025
- I got her.
794
00:29:02,025 --> 00:29:05,295
Even though I'm going to
bawl my eyes out, I got her.
795
00:29:05,295 --> 00:29:07,631
I'm a little worried
about what Cate's got to say
796
00:29:07,631 --> 00:29:09,499
now that we're standing
at this mud pit.
797
00:29:09,499 --> 00:29:10,800
- All right.
798
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:12,969
Cate.
- Yeah?
799
00:29:12,969 --> 00:29:14,838
- What is it that we're
working on with mom
800
00:29:14,838 --> 00:29:16,540
that you want to address?
801
00:29:16,540 --> 00:29:19,442
[somber music]
802
00:29:19,442 --> 00:29:23,280
- I'm sick of being
the perfect child.
803
00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:26,683
♪ ♪
804
00:29:26,683 --> 00:29:28,518
I'm sick of always
being the one
805
00:29:28,518 --> 00:29:30,887
that has to have it together.
806
00:29:30,887 --> 00:29:33,256
And I'm sick of it.
807
00:29:33,256 --> 00:29:36,960
- Cate, in what ways have
you had to be perfect?
808
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:39,930
- I'm the one that
has no problems.
809
00:29:39,930 --> 00:29:43,567
I'm the one that has, like,
a "perfect" relationship.
810
00:29:43,567 --> 00:29:45,669
I'm the one that--
811
00:29:45,669 --> 00:29:47,037
- She's the good one.
812
00:29:47,037 --> 00:29:48,738
- Don't need nothing from her.
813
00:29:48,738 --> 00:29:50,574
- I need you though.
814
00:29:50,574 --> 00:29:53,009
- Cate, who's-- who's
the mom in the relationship?
815
00:29:53,009 --> 00:29:55,412
- She is, but personally,
I feel like I am.
816
00:29:55,412 --> 00:29:57,514
- Caitlin has been
telling me what to do
817
00:29:57,514 --> 00:30:00,917
and how to act since she
was, like, [bleep] 12.
818
00:30:00,917 --> 00:30:02,652
- How has mom
been there for you
819
00:30:02,652 --> 00:30:04,054
if you're the mom
in the relationship?
820
00:30:04,054 --> 00:30:05,488
How is she there emotionally?
821
00:30:05,488 --> 00:30:07,357
- We talked about this
today in the pool.
822
00:30:07,357 --> 00:30:09,025
I don't feel like my
mom has a very good way
823
00:30:09,025 --> 00:30:10,694
of expressing her emotions.
824
00:30:10,694 --> 00:30:12,262
It always comes out in anger.
825
00:30:12,262 --> 00:30:13,530
- Go away.
826
00:30:13,530 --> 00:30:15,065
- You're getting mad
at me for no reason.
827
00:30:15,065 --> 00:30:16,766
- You're irritating me.
Get out of my [...] face.
828
00:30:16,766 --> 00:30:18,802
- OK. For no reason.
829
00:30:20,003 --> 00:30:21,838
- Condescending [bleep].
830
00:30:21,838 --> 00:30:23,506
- OK, Ma.
831
00:30:23,506 --> 00:30:26,309
- Shut your mouth, Caitlin,
before I shut it for you.
832
00:30:26,309 --> 00:30:29,512
- I feel like sometimes, when
I express my true feelings
833
00:30:29,512 --> 00:30:32,649
and how I feel, she'll
throw my husband in the mix
834
00:30:32,649 --> 00:30:35,218
and be like, oh, that's what
Tyler would tell you to do.
835
00:30:35,218 --> 00:30:37,654
- So then she gaslights you
to make you think
836
00:30:37,654 --> 00:30:40,190
that your opinions
are coming from somebody else?
837
00:30:40,190 --> 00:30:41,558
- Yes.
838
00:30:41,558 --> 00:30:43,426
And so for me, it comes
from a point of, like,
839
00:30:43,426 --> 00:30:46,396
just realize that you raised
a strong [bleep] woman.
840
00:30:46,396 --> 00:30:47,831
- OK. That's right.
841
00:30:47,831 --> 00:30:49,265
- [bleep], you don't
think I know that?
842
00:30:49,265 --> 00:30:50,834
- But that's where
it comes from for me
843
00:30:50,834 --> 00:30:53,136
where it's like, you raised
a strong enough [bleep] woman
844
00:30:53,136 --> 00:30:54,537
to stand up for what
the [bleep] she believes in.
845
00:30:54,537 --> 00:30:56,272
- I don't worry about
you because you're
846
00:30:56,272 --> 00:30:58,875
so [bleep] strong, I don't
have to worry about you.
847
00:30:58,875 --> 00:31:00,243
You always have been.
848
00:31:00,243 --> 00:31:01,945
You've been the
best [bleep] kid
849
00:31:01,945 --> 00:31:03,079
in the whole [bleep] world.
- Stop.
850
00:31:03,079 --> 00:31:04,314
Stop.
Stay right there.
851
00:31:04,314 --> 00:31:05,448
Stay right there.
852
00:31:05,448 --> 00:31:06,716
- I've never had
to worry about you.
853
00:31:06,716 --> 00:31:08,618
- April was so aggressive.
854
00:31:08,618 --> 00:31:10,086
It was such a weird situation.
855
00:31:10,086 --> 00:31:11,855
Like, that was too
aggressive for me.
856
00:31:11,855 --> 00:31:13,723
- Ma.
- And you wanted [bleep] rules,
857
00:31:13,723 --> 00:31:15,692
but I never gave them to you.
- Cate, stay there.
858
00:31:15,692 --> 00:31:17,127
Stay there.
859
00:31:17,127 --> 00:31:18,528
- No, I'm not stopping
because it's the truth.
860
00:31:18,528 --> 00:31:20,163
- Mom.
- Watching Cate and April,
861
00:31:20,163 --> 00:31:23,800
it made me honestly really
feel sad.
862
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:26,436
And Cate wasn't really
beating her up at all.
863
00:31:26,436 --> 00:31:28,905
I think it was April
beating herself up.
864
00:31:28,905 --> 00:31:30,640
- You have to stop
making this about you
865
00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:31,841
and let her have her moment.
866
00:31:31,841 --> 00:31:33,176
- I'm not trying
to make it about me.
867
00:31:33,176 --> 00:31:34,711
- But this is
what you're doing.
868
00:31:34,711 --> 00:31:36,479
And you just gave up on her.
869
00:31:36,479 --> 00:31:38,548
♪ ♪
870
00:31:40,450 --> 00:31:43,287
[dramatic music]
871
00:31:43,287 --> 00:31:44,855
♪ ♪
872
00:31:44,855 --> 00:31:46,490
- You have to stop
making this about you
873
00:31:46,490 --> 00:31:47,624
and let her have her moment.
874
00:31:47,624 --> 00:31:48,792
- I'm not trying
to make it about me.
875
00:31:48,792 --> 00:31:50,394
- But this is
what you're doing.
876
00:31:50,394 --> 00:31:52,262
- Her letting go
of the rope really was
877
00:31:52,262 --> 00:31:54,565
like a true
visual representation
878
00:31:54,565 --> 00:31:58,435
of how we communicate and kind
of how our relationship is.
879
00:31:58,435 --> 00:32:00,938
- Cate, how did it feel
when she dropped the rope?
880
00:32:00,938 --> 00:32:03,040
- That she was, like,
mad and upset at me.
881
00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:04,708
- Because that's my reaction.
882
00:32:04,708 --> 00:32:07,311
If it's not the way
it goes for her--
883
00:32:07,311 --> 00:32:08,845
- Yeah?
884
00:32:10,881 --> 00:32:12,849
- Oh.
885
00:32:12,849 --> 00:32:14,384
- I know.
886
00:32:14,384 --> 00:32:16,153
- That's not nice.
887
00:32:16,153 --> 00:32:19,389
- Coach B is irritating me
very much right now.
888
00:32:19,389 --> 00:32:21,992
But I know that I have
to get through this.
889
00:32:21,992 --> 00:32:25,429
And hopefully, it will
help me and Caitlyn
890
00:32:25,429 --> 00:32:26,930
in some sort of way.
891
00:32:26,930 --> 00:32:28,498
- This is what I
want you to do, OK?
892
00:32:28,498 --> 00:32:32,102
Gently pull her in at a
pace that will work for her.
893
00:32:33,170 --> 00:32:35,038
Can you do that?
- Yeah.
894
00:32:35,038 --> 00:32:37,074
- Cate, you just let
her gently pull you in.
895
00:32:37,074 --> 00:32:38,508
- Let her be your mom.
896
00:32:39,776 --> 00:32:41,812
- Come on, baby. Come on.
897
00:32:41,812 --> 00:32:45,282
I got you.
898
00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:45,282
I got you.
899
00:32:45,282 --> 00:32:47,050
[inaudible]
900
00:32:47,050 --> 00:32:48,719
- Telling my mom,
like, you know,
901
00:32:48,719 --> 00:32:50,587
I'm sick and tired of feeling
like the perfect child,
902
00:32:50,587 --> 00:32:52,089
I'm sick and tired of
feeling like I always have
903
00:32:52,089 --> 00:32:53,924
to do all the right things--
904
00:32:53,924 --> 00:32:55,425
I've never told my
mom these things,
905
00:32:55,425 --> 00:32:57,694
so to be able to get
them off my chest
906
00:32:57,694 --> 00:32:59,596
was like, I feel lighter.
907
00:32:59,596 --> 00:33:01,298
- Your job is to give love.
908
00:33:01,298 --> 00:33:04,735
- Caitlin telling me that
she's tired of feeling
909
00:33:04,735 --> 00:33:08,472
like she has to be the perfect
child kind of devastated me,
910
00:33:08,472 --> 00:33:12,009
kind of, a little bit because
I guess, I never realized
911
00:33:12,009 --> 00:33:13,677
I treated her that way.
912
00:33:13,677 --> 00:33:15,078
I don't want to let go now.
913
00:33:15,078 --> 00:33:17,281
- No, it's OK.
914
00:33:17,281 --> 00:33:20,284
This is tough, but I'm
super proud of myself
915
00:33:20,284 --> 00:33:23,186
that I was able to express
some of these things.
916
00:33:23,186 --> 00:33:24,821
And it's just showing,
like, we have
917
00:33:24,821 --> 00:33:28,158
a long, long journey to get
918
00:33:28,158 --> 00:33:30,994
to where we need to be
and should be.
919
00:33:30,994 --> 00:33:33,563
- Last, but certainly,
not least...
920
00:33:33,563 --> 00:33:34,564
[applause]
- Yes.
921
00:33:34,564 --> 00:33:35,999
- Ready?
- Let's go.
922
00:33:35,999 --> 00:33:37,567
- Come on, Mama.
923
00:33:37,567 --> 00:33:40,203
I'm a little nervous because
I know what I'm about to say,
924
00:33:40,203 --> 00:33:43,240
but I don't really know
how she's going to take it.
925
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:46,443
- So Kayla, what is it
that you want to work on
926
00:33:46,443 --> 00:33:49,112
or address with Mom?
927
00:33:49,112 --> 00:33:52,416
- I want my mom to, like,
respect me as a mom.
928
00:33:54,418 --> 00:33:57,154
- Mom, what did
you hear her say?
929
00:33:57,154 --> 00:34:02,292
- That she wants
me to let her learn
930
00:34:02,292 --> 00:34:06,997
how to handle everything on
her own and not fix it for her.
931
00:34:06,997 --> 00:34:08,398
- But I don't--
932
00:34:08,398 --> 00:34:09,866
I don't feel like
you do fix it for me.
933
00:34:09,866 --> 00:34:11,501
I feel you just criticize.
934
00:34:12,703 --> 00:34:14,638
- How much of yourself
do you feel is
935
00:34:14,638 --> 00:34:16,273
not good enough as a mother?
936
00:34:16,273 --> 00:34:18,141
[soft dramatic music]
937
00:34:18,141 --> 00:34:19,876
- I failed you.
938
00:34:19,876 --> 00:34:22,512
I--I didn't make it work
with your dad.
939
00:34:22,512 --> 00:34:24,748
I didn't make it work
with my second husband.
940
00:34:24,748 --> 00:34:26,783
I see her doing
the same things that I did,
941
00:34:26,783 --> 00:34:28,352
and I want her to stop.
942
00:34:28,352 --> 00:34:30,320
I don't want to see
her being cheated on.
943
00:34:31,788 --> 00:34:34,825
I want to work on
empowering you.
944
00:34:34,825 --> 00:34:36,526
You are a great mom.
945
00:34:36,526 --> 00:34:37,794
You are--
- Stop.
946
00:34:37,794 --> 00:34:39,162
What does she do
as a great mom
947
00:34:39,162 --> 00:34:40,731
that makes her a good mom?
948
00:34:40,731 --> 00:34:46,670
- You are a single mom living
with their dad in my house.
949
00:34:47,437 --> 00:34:49,206
- You were trying to
give me a compliment.
950
00:34:49,206 --> 00:34:50,807
But to me, that was like--
951
00:34:50,807 --> 00:34:52,976
that was an attack because
that's like, I'm not--
952
00:34:52,976 --> 00:34:54,277
I'm not doing well
enough even if you
953
00:34:54,277 --> 00:34:55,912
meant it as a compliment.
954
00:34:55,912 --> 00:34:59,049
- And that's exactly what she's
talking about she experiences.
955
00:34:59,049 --> 00:35:00,484
I'm going to empower you.
956
00:35:00,484 --> 00:35:02,652
And then I'm going
to disempower you
957
00:35:02,652 --> 00:35:04,421
by showing you
what I'm doing for you.
958
00:35:04,421 --> 00:35:07,424
So it negates the whole
purpose of empowerment.
959
00:35:07,424 --> 00:35:09,726
But let me say this
to you because obviously,
960
00:35:09,726 --> 00:35:12,062
right now, mom doesn't have
the tools to do that yet.
961
00:35:12,062 --> 00:35:13,397
And that's OK.
We're going to work on that.
962
00:35:13,397 --> 00:35:15,399
Her pain is talking to you--
963
00:35:15,399 --> 00:35:16,433
- Yeah.
964
00:35:16,433 --> 00:35:18,034
- Not her heart.
965
00:35:18,034 --> 00:35:21,238
- I'm too negative, and I never
tell her she's good enough.
966
00:35:21,238 --> 00:35:22,973
And I always feel like I do.
967
00:35:22,973 --> 00:35:25,041
Or I don't know how.
968
00:35:25,041 --> 00:35:27,010
You are such a good mom.
969
00:35:27,010 --> 00:35:30,080
And it's not about--
- Ahh.
970
00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:31,648
That's-- you're a great mom.
971
00:35:31,648 --> 00:35:33,049
- OK.
972
00:35:33,049 --> 00:35:34,985
- And what else
is amazing about her?
973
00:35:34,985 --> 00:35:36,219
- She's a great daughter.
974
00:35:36,219 --> 00:35:38,088
She's a great friend
to her friends.
975
00:35:38,088 --> 00:35:40,690
[uplifting music]
976
00:35:40,690 --> 00:35:42,225
[applause]
977
00:35:45,328 --> 00:35:47,030
- It feels good to
get it off my chest
978
00:35:47,030 --> 00:35:49,199
because it's something I've
been feeling for a long time.
979
00:35:49,199 --> 00:35:51,902
I hope my mom took in what
Coach B is saying to her
980
00:35:51,902 --> 00:35:53,470
and learns how to communicate.
981
00:35:53,470 --> 00:35:56,106
And then on my part, I want to
work on having more positive
982
00:35:56,106 --> 00:35:57,641
outlook on finding a solution.
983
00:35:57,641 --> 00:35:59,543
I know you didn't
mean it like that.
984
00:35:59,543 --> 00:36:02,612
- As far as giving Kayla
encouragement down the road,
985
00:36:02,612 --> 00:36:06,850
say the positive and not
have a but after that.
986
00:36:06,850 --> 00:36:09,252
I'm hopeful to be
able to use that.
987
00:36:09,252 --> 00:36:12,155
It's going to be a
learning, but I'm ready.
988
00:36:12,155 --> 00:36:14,357
- I'm so proud of
the vulnerability
989
00:36:14,357 --> 00:36:16,660
from the moms
and the glam-moms.
990
00:36:16,660 --> 00:36:19,663
- I'm hoping I can, like, take
the moms and the grandmas,
991
00:36:19,663 --> 00:36:22,966
like, what they're talking
about or working through
992
00:36:22,966 --> 00:36:26,236
and either relate
to it with my mom
993
00:36:26,236 --> 00:36:28,805
or learn some
things that I might
994
00:36:28,805 --> 00:36:30,941
be doing as it
pertains to, like,
995
00:36:30,941 --> 00:36:33,643
my parenting with my children.
996
00:36:33,643 --> 00:36:35,512
- Kudos to y'all.
I'm so proud.
997
00:36:35,512 --> 00:36:36,980
My heart smiling,
like, this big.
998
00:36:36,980 --> 00:36:38,815
[laughter]
999
00:36:38,815 --> 00:36:41,017
- This mud bath
is definitely not
1000
00:36:41,017 --> 00:36:42,953
the same mud bath that I had
at a spa.
1001
00:36:42,953 --> 00:36:45,322
I am 100% ready
to take a shower.
1002
00:36:45,322 --> 00:36:46,690
- Now we're all traumatized.
1003
00:36:46,690 --> 00:36:48,558
- You can tell just
from the whole group
1004
00:36:48,558 --> 00:36:51,294
that a lot of people
feel a lot lighter.
1005
00:36:51,294 --> 00:36:54,064
It feels amazing just
to get it all out.
1006
00:36:54,064 --> 00:36:55,932
- Everybody, get in!
1007
00:36:55,932 --> 00:36:58,835
[upbeat music]
1008
00:36:58,835 --> 00:37:01,972
[cheering]
1009
00:37:01,972 --> 00:37:03,373
- ♪ Shake it up ♪
1010
00:37:03,373 --> 00:37:05,442
♪ You've got to get loose ♪
1011
00:37:05,442 --> 00:37:07,210
♪ Get loose, get loose ♪
1012
00:37:07,210 --> 00:37:09,312
♪ ♪
1013
00:37:09,312 --> 00:37:10,914
- Oh, my God.
1014
00:37:10,914 --> 00:37:13,049
[indistinct shouting]
1015
00:37:14,610 --> 00:37:17,346
- ♪ Wait and see for yourself ♪
1016
00:37:17,346 --> 00:37:19,014
♪ What I've been through ♪
1017
00:37:19,014 --> 00:37:21,049
- There's so much mud right
in this ear, I couldn't hear.
1018
00:37:21,049 --> 00:37:22,317
I'm like, hello? What?
1019
00:37:22,317 --> 00:37:24,820
What'd you say?
1020
00:37:24,820 --> 00:37:26,955
- Truth be told, like,
literally, watching everyone
1021
00:37:26,955 --> 00:37:29,358
without my mom, I'm like,
damn, I got a lot of [bleep]
1022
00:37:29,358 --> 00:37:31,326
I got to talk to my mom about.
1023
00:37:32,761 --> 00:37:33,996
- Babe, listen.
1024
00:37:33,996 --> 00:37:36,231
Listen. Listen. Listen. Listen.
1025
00:37:36,231 --> 00:37:37,766
Baby, not right now, OK?
1026
00:37:37,766 --> 00:37:38,901
I know.
1027
00:37:38,901 --> 00:37:41,069
I'm eating as much as I can.
1028
00:37:41,069 --> 00:37:42,104
Bar's in jail.
1029
00:37:42,104 --> 00:37:43,805
And I do wish he was here.
1030
00:37:43,805 --> 00:37:46,241
I don't think there's
going to be a day
1031
00:37:46,241 --> 00:37:48,443
that I don't wish he's here.
1032
00:37:48,443 --> 00:37:51,213
I am so [bleep] exhausted.
1033
00:37:51,980 --> 00:37:54,249
- I guess, the question
is, am I really ready
1034
00:37:54,249 --> 00:37:55,651
to open up and talk to her?
1035
00:37:55,651 --> 00:37:58,020
- Are you ready
to deal with the trauma?
1036
00:37:58,020 --> 00:37:59,488
- No.
1037
00:37:59,488 --> 00:38:00,789
- I'll have your back
because I know that feeling.
1038
00:38:00,789 --> 00:38:02,758
I've been there
because we know how.
1039
00:38:02,758 --> 00:38:04,059
- So what do you
think about the work
1040
00:38:04,059 --> 00:38:05,260
that Coach B--
1041
00:38:05,260 --> 00:38:07,196
- I think that [bleep]
is smart.
1042
00:38:07,196 --> 00:38:08,664
- She better get
out of my business.
1043
00:38:08,664 --> 00:38:10,365
[laughter]
1044
00:38:10,365 --> 00:38:12,868
I work really hard to have a
good relationship with Ashley.
1045
00:38:12,868 --> 00:38:15,571
I would like to work on
when she gets stressed,
1046
00:38:15,571 --> 00:38:18,140
her not completely
shutting down.
1047
00:38:18,140 --> 00:38:20,342
I didn't even
realize that Ashley
1048
00:38:20,342 --> 00:38:22,644
is carrying so much of me.
1049
00:38:22,644 --> 00:38:24,112
- You learned a lot,
didn't you?
1050
00:38:24,112 --> 00:38:28,617
- Bar being in jail couldn't
be at the worst timing,
1051
00:38:28,617 --> 00:38:32,454
especially with us coming here
and feeling so vulnerable.
1052
00:38:32,454 --> 00:38:34,756
It's a trigger, definitely.
1053
00:38:34,756 --> 00:38:37,159
But I did notice, you know,
as she's getting older,
1054
00:38:37,159 --> 00:38:38,961
I look at her, and I see me.
1055
00:38:38,961 --> 00:38:41,330
And I'd be like, I don't like
that because I see myself.
1056
00:38:41,330 --> 00:38:43,332
♪ ♪
1057
00:38:43,332 --> 00:38:46,635
[upbeat music]
- Thank you for cooking.
1058
00:38:46,635 --> 00:38:47,803
- Yum.
1059
00:38:47,803 --> 00:38:51,173
♪ ♪
1060
00:38:51,173 --> 00:38:52,641
- I think it was
a good exercise.
1061
00:38:52,641 --> 00:38:54,109
- No, it was.
It was.
1062
00:38:54,109 --> 00:38:55,143
- That was intense.
1063
00:38:55,143 --> 00:38:56,478
- Yeah, it was intense.
1064
00:38:56,478 --> 00:38:58,213
- But I learned a lot,
like, about everybody
1065
00:38:58,213 --> 00:39:00,415
and the different,
like, dynamics
1066
00:39:00,415 --> 00:39:02,651
between mother and daughter.
1067
00:39:02,651 --> 00:39:04,386
And it's, like, out
of everyone's stories,
1068
00:39:04,386 --> 00:39:06,788
I can relate to something
and find something, like,
1069
00:39:06,788 --> 00:39:09,191
within our own
relationship or my own self
1070
00:39:09,191 --> 00:39:10,692
that I could work on.
1071
00:39:10,692 --> 00:39:12,327
- We think we're different,
but we're really not.
1072
00:39:12,327 --> 00:39:13,795
- No, we're not.
- We're all alike.
1073
00:39:13,795 --> 00:39:15,764
I think there's a lot
of trauma at the table,
1074
00:39:15,764 --> 00:39:18,767
but I also think it's
a lot of love here too.
1075
00:39:18,767 --> 00:39:20,669
- Well, I feel like-- like
we're the only ones that can
1076
00:39:20,669 --> 00:39:22,571
truly understand each other,
so we should not be going
1077
00:39:22,571 --> 00:39:24,006
behind each other's backs.
1078
00:39:24,006 --> 00:39:25,607
We should not be talking
[bleep] about each other.
1079
00:39:25,607 --> 00:39:26,908
- Thank you.
- Yes.
1080
00:39:26,908 --> 00:39:29,011
- And to get it from a
mom in the group is bad.
1081
00:39:29,011 --> 00:39:30,212
[tense music]
1082
00:39:30,212 --> 00:39:32,748
I think moms should
not be harassing
1083
00:39:32,748 --> 00:39:33,949
or talking [bleep] about
1084
00:39:33,949 --> 00:39:36,718
someone else's daughter
on the show.
1085
00:39:37,552 --> 00:39:39,388
- Let's talk about it.
- Right about now.
1086
00:39:39,388 --> 00:39:41,156
- What's the problem, Roxanne?
1087
00:39:41,156 --> 00:39:43,525
- The problem is that
your daughter
1088
00:39:43,525 --> 00:39:45,794
inserted herself
in a situation that
1089
00:39:45,794 --> 00:39:47,596
she had no business
inserting herself.
1090
00:39:47,596 --> 00:39:49,598
- No.
Tone it down.
1091
00:39:49,598 --> 00:39:52,367
- So I know there
has been some drama
1092
00:39:52,367 --> 00:39:54,970
and bad tension between
Tea and Ashley
1093
00:39:54,970 --> 00:39:56,638
and Roxanne and Bri.
1094
00:39:56,638 --> 00:39:58,373
But, like, leaving the meeting
with Coach B
1095
00:39:58,373 --> 00:39:59,708
at the mud pit activity,
1096
00:39:59,708 --> 00:40:01,910
I definitely think
there would be able to be
1097
00:40:01,910 --> 00:40:03,412
adult conversations.
1098
00:40:03,412 --> 00:40:05,213
- It's OK.
Let them talk about it.
1099
00:40:05,213 --> 00:40:08,450
- Inserted herself on a lie
1100
00:40:08,450 --> 00:40:10,619
when she had no business
to do what she did.
1101
00:40:10,619 --> 00:40:13,121
Briana was having a falling
out with Kail.
1102
00:40:13,121 --> 00:40:16,591
Ashley went on live
and started talking [bleep].
1103
00:40:16,591 --> 00:40:19,328
And then her mom just
ran her mouth
1104
00:40:19,328 --> 00:40:21,029
on social media
about my daughter.
1105
00:40:21,029 --> 00:40:23,899
And I'm [bleep] done with
the bullying of my daughter.
1106
00:40:23,899 --> 00:40:25,934
She was so [bleep]
disrespectful.
1107
00:40:25,934 --> 00:40:27,502
Shame on her.
1108
00:40:28,370 --> 00:40:30,072
My daughter would never
talk to any mother
1109
00:40:30,072 --> 00:40:32,974
in this [bleep] table the way
your daughter speaks to me.
1110
00:40:32,974 --> 00:40:35,277
♪ ♪
1111
00:40:35,277 --> 00:40:37,179
And I don't care
what trauma she has.
1112
00:40:37,179 --> 00:40:38,980
There's no excuse for it.
1113
00:40:39,881 --> 00:40:42,217
And then you want to go on
live and talk and discuss
1114
00:40:42,217 --> 00:40:43,452
my daughter [bleep] like,
1115
00:40:43,452 --> 00:40:45,020
who she's dating,
who she's [bleep].
1116
00:40:45,020 --> 00:40:47,189
It's none of your business,
none of your [bleep] business.
1117
00:40:47,189 --> 00:40:49,725
♪ ♪
1118
00:40:49,725 --> 00:40:51,393
- Well, Roxanne--
- I don't want to hear it.
1119
00:40:51,393 --> 00:40:53,628
You have nothing to say to me.
1120
00:40:53,628 --> 00:40:58,266
- I just know a war
is about to go down.
1121
00:40:58,266 --> 00:41:00,469
- I don't give a [bleep],
[bleep].
1122
00:41:00,469 --> 00:41:02,371
[indistinct shouting]
I don't give a [bleep].
1123
00:41:02,371 --> 00:41:07,509
I don't give a [bleep].
1124
00:41:04,373 --> 00:41:07,509
I don't give a [bleep].
1125
00:41:07,509 --> 00:41:08,577
- You're [bleep] crazy.
1126
00:41:08,577 --> 00:41:09,945
- I don't give a [bleep].
1127
00:41:09,945 --> 00:41:12,047
I don't give a [bleep].
Let's get it straight.
1128
00:41:12,047 --> 00:41:15,517
Your old [bleep] don't
have nothing to say, [bleep].