1 00:00:00,700 --> 00:00:03,036 - ♪ MTV ♪ 2 00:00:03,803 --> 00:00:07,374 - Previously on "Teen Mom: Family Reunion." 3 00:00:07,374 --> 00:00:10,744 - This year, I decided we need to bring our own moms. 4 00:00:10,744 --> 00:00:12,779 - Hi. - Hello. 5 00:00:12,779 --> 00:00:14,447 - Hi, you guys. - Hello. 6 00:00:14,447 --> 00:00:16,416 - I actually like all the girls and their mom, 7 00:00:16,416 --> 00:00:18,118 except Tea and Ashley. 8 00:00:18,118 --> 00:00:22,288 - There's been a lot of weird internet drama. 9 00:00:22,288 --> 00:00:23,923 - I was having lunch with Briana. 10 00:00:23,923 --> 00:00:25,158 I went on social media. 11 00:00:25,158 --> 00:00:26,726 Briana didn't like that. 12 00:00:26,726 --> 00:00:28,795 - Mind your business. 13 00:00:28,795 --> 00:00:31,264 - Love for my family! 14 00:00:31,264 --> 00:00:32,732 - I'm literally having a panic attack. 15 00:00:32,732 --> 00:00:33,767 - OK, breathe. 16 00:00:33,767 --> 00:00:35,001 - I don't find it encouraging. 17 00:00:35,001 --> 00:00:36,970 I find it to be peer pressure. 18 00:00:36,970 --> 00:00:39,439 [screaming] 19 00:00:39,439 --> 00:00:42,308 - The reunion has literally just begun. 20 00:00:42,308 --> 00:00:43,676 [upbeat music] 21 00:00:43,676 --> 00:00:44,711 - Hey, girls. 22 00:00:44,711 --> 00:00:46,045 Hi. 23 00:00:46,045 --> 00:00:47,247 - Surprise, bitches. 24 00:00:47,247 --> 00:00:49,549 "Young and Pregnant" is here. 25 00:00:49,549 --> 00:00:51,618 - You can feel the negative energy 26 00:00:51,618 --> 00:00:53,586 coming from Kiaya and Ashley. 27 00:00:53,586 --> 00:00:55,889 - I'm not that fond of Ashley. 28 00:00:55,889 --> 00:00:57,290 - I'm going to do me. 29 00:00:57,290 --> 00:00:59,058 And if she wants to do me, we can do us. 30 00:00:59,058 --> 00:01:00,160 And if not, she could stay away. 31 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:01,795 [dramatic music] 32 00:01:16,409 --> 00:01:18,912 - ♪ Got to let you know ♪ 33 00:01:18,912 --> 00:01:20,280 ♪ ♪ 34 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:22,816 ♪ All about it ♪ 35 00:01:22,816 --> 00:01:26,619 - Day two, we're sharing rooms with our moms. 36 00:01:26,619 --> 00:01:28,621 I'm really excited that my mom is here. 37 00:01:28,621 --> 00:01:30,924 I'm hoping maybe that we can kind of see 38 00:01:30,924 --> 00:01:32,826 what things could be opened up and maybe, like, healed. 39 00:01:32,826 --> 00:01:34,894 But also, I'm kind of nervous at the same time 40 00:01:34,894 --> 00:01:36,262 because my mom can be unpredictable. 41 00:01:36,262 --> 00:01:37,664 It's one of my triggers. 42 00:01:37,664 --> 00:01:39,232 ♪ ♪ 43 00:01:39,232 --> 00:01:40,900 - Day one was a lot. 44 00:01:40,900 --> 00:01:42,602 It's like we were on 100. 45 00:01:42,602 --> 00:01:45,672 I need day two to be at, like, a level 30. 46 00:01:45,672 --> 00:01:47,474 I don't want to jump off anything. 47 00:01:47,474 --> 00:01:48,741 I don't want to be in the dirt. 48 00:01:48,741 --> 00:01:50,276 I don't want to see any animals. 49 00:01:50,276 --> 00:01:51,778 I don't care about the trees. 50 00:01:51,778 --> 00:01:54,380 Like, just sit me somewhere with a nice drink, 51 00:01:54,380 --> 00:01:55,982 and I'll be happy. 52 00:01:55,982 --> 00:01:57,650 ♪ ♪ 53 00:01:57,650 --> 00:01:59,352 - [snoring] 54 00:01:59,352 --> 00:02:01,321 [alarm ringing] 55 00:02:02,789 --> 00:02:05,358 - I didn't get a lot of sleep last night. 56 00:02:05,358 --> 00:02:07,994 It's very hard to share a room with your mom. 57 00:02:07,994 --> 00:02:09,529 My mom has sleep apnea. 58 00:02:09,529 --> 00:02:11,097 She'll be snoring all night. 59 00:02:11,097 --> 00:02:13,433 - [snoring] 60 00:02:13,433 --> 00:02:15,468 Love my mom. Love her to death. 61 00:02:15,468 --> 00:02:17,070 Want to sleep separate. 62 00:02:17,070 --> 00:02:18,872 - ♪ The good, good news ♪ 63 00:02:18,872 --> 00:02:21,274 - I just wake up extremely nauseous. 64 00:02:21,274 --> 00:02:25,178 But now that I'm up, I'm extremely hungry. 65 00:02:25,178 --> 00:02:27,981 ♪ Boom boom, baby ♪ 66 00:02:27,981 --> 00:02:33,586 ♪ ♪ 67 00:02:33,586 --> 00:02:35,321 - Good morning. - Good morning. 68 00:02:35,321 --> 00:02:36,689 How are you? - Good. 69 00:02:36,689 --> 00:02:38,424 There's food over there. - Fire. Fire. 70 00:02:38,424 --> 00:02:39,959 The weather's beautiful. 71 00:02:39,959 --> 00:02:41,361 My friends are here. 72 00:02:41,361 --> 00:02:44,230 And I just can't wait to have a great time with them. 73 00:02:44,230 --> 00:02:45,832 I'm tired as a mother[bleep]. 74 00:02:45,832 --> 00:02:48,701 But Ashley and Tea are in the kitchen 75 00:02:48,701 --> 00:02:50,303 when I walk into the house. 76 00:02:50,303 --> 00:02:51,838 I'm going to keep my distance. 77 00:02:51,838 --> 00:02:53,973 - Mom, do you want some scrambled eggs? 78 00:02:53,973 --> 00:02:55,308 - Sure. 79 00:02:58,745 --> 00:03:00,580 [tense music] 80 00:03:00,580 --> 00:03:02,315 - Tea tried to say good morning to me, 81 00:03:02,315 --> 00:03:03,850 but I didn't say anything back. 82 00:03:03,850 --> 00:03:05,251 There's no reason to. 83 00:03:05,251 --> 00:03:06,753 I don't want to talk to them. 84 00:03:06,753 --> 00:03:10,189 I know the type of people that they are, fake as [bleep]. 85 00:03:10,189 --> 00:03:13,159 [intense music] 86 00:03:13,159 --> 00:03:15,295 - Hey, Maci. 87 00:03:15,295 --> 00:03:18,831 - So Roxanne ignores me, and I'm just like, OK. 88 00:03:18,831 --> 00:03:21,668 Hi, Maci, since you don't want to talk to me. 89 00:03:21,668 --> 00:03:24,003 - I don't like looking at Ashley or Tea. 90 00:03:24,003 --> 00:03:25,405 I see right through them. 91 00:03:25,405 --> 00:03:27,774 They've done a lot of damage on social media. 92 00:03:27,774 --> 00:03:30,410 - Roxy and Bri don't really talk to Tea and Ashley. 93 00:03:30,410 --> 00:03:33,112 And Tea and Ashley don't really talk to them. 94 00:03:33,112 --> 00:03:34,981 And I'm like, damn, guys, we're starting 95 00:03:34,981 --> 00:03:37,283 the day off like this? 96 00:03:38,117 --> 00:03:41,421 - Waking up here today in Oregon was good. 97 00:03:41,421 --> 00:03:44,757 I'm super, super excited to be here with Kayla. 98 00:03:44,757 --> 00:03:46,659 We're just really ready to enjoy 99 00:03:46,659 --> 00:03:48,962 the experience with everybody and get to know everybody. 100 00:03:48,962 --> 00:03:50,196 - Good morning. 101 00:03:50,196 --> 00:03:51,864 - Hi. 102 00:03:51,864 --> 00:03:54,334 - How are y'all? - Good morning, everybody. 103 00:03:54,334 --> 00:03:56,569 Kiaya and Kayla are finally here. 104 00:03:56,569 --> 00:03:58,671 And I'm super excited to get to know them more 105 00:03:58,671 --> 00:04:01,474 and build bonds with everybody. 106 00:04:01,474 --> 00:04:03,309 - I feel like for, like, a week, 107 00:04:03,309 --> 00:04:04,677 I'm just going to walk around like, hey, 108 00:04:04,677 --> 00:04:06,145 I jumped off a bridge. How are you? 109 00:04:06,145 --> 00:04:07,614 [laughter] 110 00:04:07,614 --> 00:04:10,450 Have you jumped off a bridge? Because I have. 111 00:04:10,450 --> 00:04:12,752 - ♪ I just want to go out ♪ 112 00:04:12,752 --> 00:04:15,455 ♪ I just wanna stay out ♪ 113 00:04:15,455 --> 00:04:17,023 ♪ I just want to be out ♪ 114 00:04:17,023 --> 00:04:18,291 - Good morning. 115 00:04:18,291 --> 00:04:19,659 - I ate two plates [indistinct]. 116 00:04:21,194 --> 00:04:22,495 - I'm not a morning person. 117 00:04:22,495 --> 00:04:24,998 - Neither am I. [indistinct chatter] 118 00:04:24,998 --> 00:04:26,466 I got my daughter at school. 119 00:04:26,466 --> 00:04:27,500 I'm like, you hungry? 120 00:04:27,500 --> 00:04:28,768 Go get yourself a little snack. 121 00:04:28,768 --> 00:04:30,637 [laughter] 122 00:04:30,637 --> 00:04:32,805 - I am excited to, like, get to meet the girls 123 00:04:32,805 --> 00:04:34,941 and get to know them better. 124 00:04:34,941 --> 00:04:37,310 I think they could be good role models in certain things 125 00:04:37,310 --> 00:04:38,411 and have some good advice. 126 00:04:41,347 --> 00:04:42,782 - Yeah, he has the kids. 127 00:04:42,782 --> 00:04:45,885 - I don't really know much about Kayla or her mom. 128 00:04:45,885 --> 00:04:49,355 I've seen stuff online, but this will be an opportunity 129 00:04:49,355 --> 00:04:51,257 to really connect and bond. 130 00:04:51,257 --> 00:04:52,558 Are you living together? 131 00:04:52,558 --> 00:04:55,161 - Yeah. - How's that? 132 00:04:55,161 --> 00:04:56,562 - It's awkward. 133 00:04:56,562 --> 00:04:59,565 So I met Luke when we were both going to college. 134 00:04:59,565 --> 00:05:02,101 We had moved in together in October. 135 00:05:02,101 --> 00:05:04,137 And I got pregnant, like, end of November. 136 00:05:04,137 --> 00:05:07,106 Like, I feel like he proposed, like, to save the relationship 137 00:05:07,106 --> 00:05:10,376 instead of like, oh, we're at part in our relationship 138 00:05:10,376 --> 00:05:11,778 we should get married. 139 00:05:11,778 --> 00:05:13,980 Luke and I were previously engaged. 140 00:05:13,980 --> 00:05:16,783 And then I ended up calling off the engagement. 141 00:05:16,783 --> 00:05:19,752 So right now, currently, we're technically not together, 142 00:05:19,752 --> 00:05:22,789 but we live together at my mom's house 143 00:05:22,789 --> 00:05:25,458 as, like, co-parenting partners. 144 00:05:25,458 --> 00:05:27,860 So that can be pretty messy. 145 00:05:27,860 --> 00:05:29,562 Like, the lines right now are kind of blurry. 146 00:05:29,562 --> 00:05:30,997 You know what I mean? So-- 147 00:05:30,997 --> 00:05:33,166 - It's weird as [bleep]. 148 00:05:33,166 --> 00:05:34,400 - Really? 149 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:35,702 - They act like a couple. 150 00:05:35,702 --> 00:05:37,403 - No, we don't. We don't hook up. 151 00:05:37,403 --> 00:05:38,738 We're not intimate. 152 00:05:38,738 --> 00:05:40,106 So to me, that's not acting like a couple. 153 00:05:40,106 --> 00:05:41,574 - But I don't know what the hell they're doing 154 00:05:41,574 --> 00:05:43,576 in their bed because they sleep in the same room. 155 00:05:43,576 --> 00:05:45,111 - We have the kids in the room. 156 00:05:45,111 --> 00:05:46,979 Where are we supposed to go? 157 00:05:46,979 --> 00:05:49,882 - But It's just like, they do everything together. 158 00:05:49,882 --> 00:05:52,685 I don't know if they're the best for each other 159 00:05:52,685 --> 00:05:54,554 as a couple, at least right now. 160 00:05:54,554 --> 00:05:55,988 What's going on? 161 00:05:55,988 --> 00:05:58,324 - Well, the past year of our relationship 162 00:05:58,324 --> 00:05:59,959 has not been good. 163 00:05:59,959 --> 00:06:03,896 I told him I needed him to do a few things, you know? 164 00:06:03,896 --> 00:06:05,631 Either start going to the gym 165 00:06:05,631 --> 00:06:07,266 or taking care of his mental health. 166 00:06:07,266 --> 00:06:08,768 And he didn't try. 167 00:06:08,768 --> 00:06:11,504 Like, I just don't understand. 168 00:06:11,504 --> 00:06:13,506 Like, I asked for the most basic, 169 00:06:13,506 --> 00:06:15,808 and he couldn't even do it. 170 00:06:15,808 --> 00:06:17,944 - And I thought the turning point was when you got engaged 171 00:06:17,944 --> 00:06:20,680 and he was going to get his act together. 172 00:06:20,680 --> 00:06:23,349 And obviously, that didn't happen. 173 00:06:23,349 --> 00:06:25,952 I think they both need some work 174 00:06:25,952 --> 00:06:27,820 if they're going to work it out. 175 00:06:31,257 --> 00:06:33,626 - I think we need to, like, draw the line in the sand, 176 00:06:33,626 --> 00:06:35,595 whether we like decide to stay together 177 00:06:35,595 --> 00:06:37,063 and make it work or be like, hey, 178 00:06:37,063 --> 00:06:39,065 we're better off as friends and co-parents. 179 00:06:39,065 --> 00:06:41,134 During this trip, I think I just really want 180 00:06:41,134 --> 00:06:42,735 to get some clarity going back home like, 181 00:06:42,735 --> 00:06:44,470 look, we can't keep living together, 182 00:06:44,470 --> 00:06:45,772 but we're not "really together." 183 00:06:45,772 --> 00:06:47,774 Like, either we need to decide we want 184 00:06:47,774 --> 00:06:49,809 to be together and work on these issues, 185 00:06:49,809 --> 00:06:51,577 or we need to call it quits. 186 00:06:52,678 --> 00:06:55,782 [phone ringing] 187 00:06:58,818 --> 00:07:00,253 - Hello? 188 00:07:00,253 --> 00:07:02,255 - You are receiving a call from an inmate 189 00:07:02,255 --> 00:07:03,823 at Henderson Detention Center. 190 00:07:03,823 --> 00:07:07,126 - Bar calls me every day multiple times a day 191 00:07:07,126 --> 00:07:09,162 from jail. 192 00:07:09,162 --> 00:07:10,463 He's just being held. 193 00:07:10,463 --> 00:07:11,931 Like, he's not even being charged. 194 00:07:11,931 --> 00:07:13,566 This is a case that he's been handling, 195 00:07:13,566 --> 00:07:16,435 but he missed a court date in California 196 00:07:16,435 --> 00:07:18,838 because we moved to Nevada. 197 00:07:18,838 --> 00:07:20,573 So once they realized that they know where he is, 198 00:07:20,573 --> 00:07:21,741 he's going to show up. 199 00:07:21,741 --> 00:07:22,742 They're going to release him. 200 00:07:22,742 --> 00:07:23,910 It's going to be fine. 201 00:07:29,115 --> 00:07:30,616 - What? 202 00:07:34,287 --> 00:07:36,923 - [crying] 203 00:07:42,028 --> 00:07:43,596 Yeah. 204 00:07:43,596 --> 00:07:45,731 - I'm not really sure what's going on. 205 00:07:45,731 --> 00:07:47,033 But her mom's with her. 206 00:07:47,033 --> 00:07:49,335 And I hope she's all right. 207 00:07:49,335 --> 00:07:51,003 - Well, that sucks. 208 00:07:51,003 --> 00:07:52,438 [crying] 209 00:07:52,438 --> 00:07:53,739 OK. 210 00:07:53,739 --> 00:07:56,909 [tense music] 211 00:07:56,909 --> 00:07:58,244 OK. 212 00:07:58,244 --> 00:07:59,812 - What did he say? 213 00:08:03,683 --> 00:08:07,420 He is being extradited, 214 00:08:07,420 --> 00:08:10,857 which means that California 215 00:08:10,857 --> 00:08:13,292 has decided to come and pick him up 216 00:08:13,292 --> 00:08:16,863 and make him fight the case from a California jail. 217 00:08:16,863 --> 00:08:19,465 It's just much more time not seeing him. 218 00:08:19,465 --> 00:08:21,067 [sobbing] 219 00:08:21,067 --> 00:08:24,570 This case actually does hold a lot of weight. 220 00:08:24,570 --> 00:08:28,040 And if he can't fight it from home 221 00:08:28,040 --> 00:08:31,978 and he fights it from jail, and then he also gets time. 222 00:08:43,289 --> 00:08:45,758 It's a lot going on with Ashley right now. 223 00:08:45,758 --> 00:08:47,493 And she shouldn't have to deal with this. 224 00:08:47,493 --> 00:08:48,928 Bar is not here. 225 00:08:48,928 --> 00:08:51,664 And her plate is really overwhelmed. 226 00:08:51,664 --> 00:08:57,069 ♪ ♪ 227 00:08:57,069 --> 00:09:00,640 And this couldn't have come at the worst timing, 228 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:02,208 the worst timing. 229 00:09:04,452 --> 00:09:06,488 [dramatic music] 230 00:09:11,926 --> 00:09:13,995 - Want me to come in there and help? 231 00:09:13,995 --> 00:09:16,164 - Hearing that Bar is going to be extradited 232 00:09:16,164 --> 00:09:19,901 makes me feel scared, very scared. 233 00:09:20,769 --> 00:09:22,871 He's facing a lot of jail time. 234 00:09:22,871 --> 00:09:25,106 [interposing voices] 235 00:09:28,710 --> 00:09:30,078 - This is, like, the worst news that 236 00:09:30,078 --> 00:09:32,981 I could be getting while I'm away. 237 00:09:32,981 --> 00:09:34,683 Ugh. 238 00:09:34,683 --> 00:09:35,884 Oh, [bleep]. 239 00:09:37,085 --> 00:09:38,286 - Yeah. 240 00:09:38,286 --> 00:09:40,055 I just-- I'm so depleted. 241 00:09:40,055 --> 00:09:42,557 I like some of the people here, but I don't want any of them 242 00:09:42,557 --> 00:09:43,692 in my business. 243 00:09:43,692 --> 00:09:45,026 I just need a break. 244 00:09:46,127 --> 00:09:47,595 [interposing voices] 245 00:09:47,595 --> 00:09:48,763 Roxanne's going to keep trying me, 246 00:09:48,763 --> 00:09:49,764 and I'm going to push that [bleep] 247 00:09:49,764 --> 00:09:51,166 down there on the ground. 248 00:09:51,166 --> 00:09:52,634 - [inaudible] 249 00:09:52,634 --> 00:09:53,968 - Every time she walk past me, she walked 250 00:09:53,968 --> 00:09:55,637 past me this morning so close. I didn't move. 251 00:09:55,637 --> 00:09:57,105 I bumped right into that [bleep]. 252 00:09:57,105 --> 00:09:59,040 She's playing too many mother[bleep] games, [bleep]. 253 00:09:59,040 --> 00:10:00,909 Stay the mother[bleep] away from me. 254 00:10:00,909 --> 00:10:02,777 I would rather just sleep and then 255 00:10:02,777 --> 00:10:04,946 show up when my mood and my energy 256 00:10:04,946 --> 00:10:06,948 and my vibe is much better. 257 00:10:08,149 --> 00:10:09,751 - ♪ Hey, what you need? ♪ 258 00:10:09,751 --> 00:10:12,020 ♪ 'Cause there ain't nothing that I can't do ♪ 259 00:10:12,020 --> 00:10:13,655 ♪ Car low on grease? ♪ 260 00:10:13,655 --> 00:10:15,957 ♪ I'll get that engine running real smooth ♪ 261 00:10:15,957 --> 00:10:17,192 - It's pretty, right? 262 00:10:17,192 --> 00:10:18,827 - Yeah, this place is beautiful. 263 00:10:18,827 --> 00:10:20,695 - I wanna play golf. 264 00:10:20,695 --> 00:10:23,131 - I need me a rich man in my life. 265 00:10:23,131 --> 00:10:27,369 ♪ ♪ 266 00:10:27,369 --> 00:10:28,670 - It's kind of chilly out here. 267 00:10:28,670 --> 00:10:29,804 - A little bit. 268 00:10:29,804 --> 00:10:31,039 But we can sit in the sun though. 269 00:10:31,039 --> 00:10:31,940 - Yeah. 270 00:10:31,940 --> 00:10:33,475 - So what's been going on? 271 00:10:33,475 --> 00:10:38,246 I feel like there's some tension or something going on. 272 00:10:38,246 --> 00:10:39,748 - Between? 273 00:10:40,782 --> 00:10:42,851 - Like, with Ashley and stuff. 274 00:10:44,185 --> 00:10:47,822 - We got into, like, a social media-- 275 00:10:47,822 --> 00:10:49,958 it was really bull[bleep], honestly. 276 00:10:49,958 --> 00:10:52,861 I had started a business, and she has started a business. 277 00:10:52,861 --> 00:10:57,532 It came out that she was copying my business ideas 278 00:10:57,532 --> 00:10:59,067 or whatever the case may be. 279 00:10:59,067 --> 00:11:01,002 She gets on Instagram, and she makes 280 00:11:01,002 --> 00:11:03,872 this whole post about how she doesn't have to steal 281 00:11:03,872 --> 00:11:06,141 anyone business ideas. 282 00:11:06,141 --> 00:11:10,178 And she just was throwing, like, low blows in there, 283 00:11:10,178 --> 00:11:12,614 things that I knew had to do with me 284 00:11:12,614 --> 00:11:14,382 without her having to say it. 285 00:11:14,382 --> 00:11:17,886 When I confronted her and asked her if it was about me, 286 00:11:17,886 --> 00:11:21,823 she goes, no, but if the shoe fits, wear it. 287 00:11:21,823 --> 00:11:23,558 That pissed me off because-- 288 00:11:23,558 --> 00:11:25,160 - Rightfully so, yeah. 289 00:11:25,160 --> 00:11:27,162 - --because if it's not about me, then leave it at that. 290 00:11:27,162 --> 00:11:29,998 She just kept coming at me, like, in the DM. 291 00:11:29,998 --> 00:11:33,401 So you know, I'm going to talk my [bleep] back. 292 00:11:33,401 --> 00:11:34,736 Who the--I did not [bleep] 293 00:11:34,736 --> 00:11:36,104 say [bleep] about you stealing [bleep] from me. 294 00:11:36,104 --> 00:11:37,539 When somebody asked me that [bleep], 295 00:11:37,539 --> 00:11:39,007 I said, that's her business. 296 00:11:39,007 --> 00:11:40,809 If she wants to sell eyelashes, let her [bleep] do that. 297 00:11:40,809 --> 00:11:41,943 If she wants to start a business, 298 00:11:41,943 --> 00:11:43,311 let her [bleep] do that. 299 00:11:43,311 --> 00:11:44,979 I just feel like she picks on certain people. 300 00:11:44,979 --> 00:11:46,915 - Yeah. - And that's not OK. 301 00:11:46,915 --> 00:11:51,219 And then I think my mom and Tea's situation 302 00:11:51,219 --> 00:11:53,788 just kind of made me further just not 303 00:11:53,788 --> 00:11:55,190 want anything to do with them. 304 00:11:55,190 --> 00:11:56,925 - So they have a situation going too then? 305 00:11:56,925 --> 00:11:59,194 - Yeah, because Tea's big grown ass 306 00:11:59,194 --> 00:12:02,063 decided to get on social media and talk [bleep] about me. 307 00:12:02,063 --> 00:12:05,467 I just don't think that they are genuine people. 308 00:12:05,467 --> 00:12:07,068 - So they're kind of the same. Like, they kind of-- 309 00:12:07,068 --> 00:12:09,270 - Yeah, Tea's just an old version of her. 310 00:12:09,270 --> 00:12:11,773 - What I'm hearing from Kiaya and a lot of the other girls, 311 00:12:11,773 --> 00:12:14,876 I don't know if Ashley can't just talk to people 312 00:12:14,876 --> 00:12:18,313 or if she just feels protected by the screen 313 00:12:18,313 --> 00:12:20,482 that she can go behind people and talk about them. 314 00:12:20,482 --> 00:12:23,084 But I always give everybody the benefit of the doubt. 315 00:12:23,084 --> 00:12:25,587 We should all be able to be a [bleep] group of people that 316 00:12:25,587 --> 00:12:28,189 support each other because at the end of the day, 317 00:12:28,189 --> 00:12:30,258 like, even some of our close friends 318 00:12:30,258 --> 00:12:31,559 can't relate to what we go through. 319 00:12:31,559 --> 00:12:33,061 - Yeah. 320 00:12:33,061 --> 00:12:34,629 I really appreciate Cate pulling me to the side 321 00:12:34,629 --> 00:12:36,464 because I really want to get to know her. 322 00:12:36,464 --> 00:12:40,001 So it's really nice to see some effort from the moms 323 00:12:40,001 --> 00:12:41,569 to just make me feel included. 324 00:12:41,569 --> 00:12:43,438 - I'm excited to get to know you even more. 325 00:12:43,438 --> 00:12:44,906 - Thank you. 326 00:12:44,906 --> 00:12:46,508 I'm excited to get to know all of y'all and have fun. 327 00:12:46,508 --> 00:12:47,742 - Right? 328 00:12:47,742 --> 00:12:48,843 That's what it's supposed to be about. 329 00:12:48,843 --> 00:12:50,578 [bleep] the drama. 330 00:12:51,546 --> 00:12:53,681 - ♪ One, two, three times in a row ♪ 331 00:12:53,681 --> 00:12:56,417 ♪ You gotta switch it up ♪ 332 00:12:56,417 --> 00:12:57,619 ♪ ♪ 333 00:12:57,619 --> 00:12:58,686 - Oh, yeah. 334 00:12:58,686 --> 00:13:00,321 Don't mind if I do. 335 00:13:00,321 --> 00:13:03,024 - After a crazy first day, I think it's great that we could 336 00:13:03,024 --> 00:13:04,125 just hang out by the pool. 337 00:13:04,125 --> 00:13:06,027 But it's hot as hell in Oregon. 338 00:13:06,027 --> 00:13:07,262 I want a piña colada. 339 00:13:07,262 --> 00:13:08,963 - We can't order [inaudible]? 340 00:13:08,963 --> 00:13:11,099 - This is just so me right now. 341 00:13:11,099 --> 00:13:13,668 I'm in my element, and I'm in the [bleep] zone. 342 00:13:13,668 --> 00:13:16,104 - ♪ You can't believe your eyes ♪ 343 00:13:16,104 --> 00:13:18,873 - I have teen pregnancy in my family. 344 00:13:18,873 --> 00:13:20,174 [interposing voices] 345 00:13:20,174 --> 00:13:22,110 - My grandmother was a teen. 346 00:13:22,110 --> 00:13:24,112 My dad was a product of a teen pregnancy. 347 00:13:24,112 --> 00:13:26,581 - Back in the day, they were all [bleep] teens. 348 00:13:26,581 --> 00:13:28,283 - Yeah, getting married at 12. 349 00:13:28,283 --> 00:13:29,651 - 12 years old with a 40-year-old. 350 00:13:29,651 --> 00:13:31,219 - Yeah. - [bleep] pervs. 351 00:13:32,153 --> 00:13:33,855 - I still can't believe that I jumped off a [bleep] bridge. 352 00:13:33,855 --> 00:13:35,290 - Oh, my God. 353 00:13:35,290 --> 00:13:36,991 Cate, you gave me a freaking anxiety attack. 354 00:13:36,991 --> 00:13:38,893 And them people, I know they're-- they're doing 355 00:13:38,893 --> 00:13:40,228 what they do and everything. 356 00:13:40,228 --> 00:13:41,596 But I just was like-- because I'm your mom. 357 00:13:41,596 --> 00:13:42,797 - Yeah. 358 00:13:42,797 --> 00:13:43,898 - So I was like, get away from my kid! 359 00:13:43,898 --> 00:13:45,033 She said no. - Right. 360 00:13:45,033 --> 00:13:46,267 - Don't you know what no means? 361 00:13:46,267 --> 00:13:47,969 I felt like, quit pressuring her. 362 00:13:47,969 --> 00:13:49,771 When someone says no, that means no. 363 00:13:49,771 --> 00:13:51,139 - I want you to, like-- 364 00:13:51,139 --> 00:13:52,941 I don't know give, Coach B a chance. 365 00:13:52,941 --> 00:13:55,476 She does seem very, like, sincere. 366 00:13:55,476 --> 00:13:57,712 You know, I'm really excited that my mom is here. 367 00:13:57,712 --> 00:14:00,014 I'm hoping maybe that I can, like, break her out 368 00:14:00,014 --> 00:14:02,083 of her comfort zone in some aspects, 369 00:14:02,083 --> 00:14:04,085 like, maybe do different things that she never 370 00:14:04,085 --> 00:14:05,253 thought she would ever do. 371 00:14:05,253 --> 00:14:07,155 I, like, want her to just open up. 372 00:14:07,155 --> 00:14:08,957 I feel like there might be things that she might open 373 00:14:08,957 --> 00:14:10,258 our eyes up to where it's like, all [bleep]-- 374 00:14:10,258 --> 00:14:11,826 - Oh, I-- I'm open, but you know, 375 00:14:11,826 --> 00:14:13,127 like, I don't want to cry. 376 00:14:13,127 --> 00:14:15,129 I know Caitlin's really big on therapy. 377 00:14:15,129 --> 00:14:17,665 I'm just worried that Coach B is going 378 00:14:17,665 --> 00:14:20,101 to portray me as a bad mom. 379 00:14:20,101 --> 00:14:21,636 - You automatically go to anger because I 380 00:14:21,636 --> 00:14:23,671 think that's what you had to do growing up as a kid. 381 00:14:23,671 --> 00:14:25,940 I think it comes from, like, your childhood. 382 00:14:25,940 --> 00:14:28,009 Like, were you not able to express feelings 383 00:14:28,009 --> 00:14:30,278 and emotions maybe or were you afraid to? 384 00:14:30,278 --> 00:14:31,579 - Both. 385 00:14:31,579 --> 00:14:34,782 Like, I remember as a kid going to hug my mom 386 00:14:34,782 --> 00:14:36,551 and my mom pushing me away. Like-- 387 00:14:36,551 --> 00:14:38,019 - And that's [bleep] sad. 388 00:14:38,019 --> 00:14:39,687 - I remember feeling like my mom didn't love me. 389 00:14:39,687 --> 00:14:41,222 - Right. Well, of course, 390 00:14:41,222 --> 00:14:42,624 because that's what she was showing you in those times. 391 00:14:42,624 --> 00:14:44,192 My mom is definitely the type of person 392 00:14:44,192 --> 00:14:47,161 that will hold in her feelings and her emotions. 393 00:14:47,161 --> 00:14:49,063 They end up coming out in, like, anger. 394 00:14:49,063 --> 00:14:51,899 I am really hoping that my mom can kind of 395 00:14:51,899 --> 00:14:53,635 learn some new things here. 396 00:14:53,635 --> 00:14:55,937 She should definitely give Coach B a chance. 397 00:14:58,339 --> 00:14:59,440 And I like it. 398 00:14:59,440 --> 00:15:00,608 I'm glad I did it. 399 00:15:00,608 --> 00:15:02,210 I'm glad because a lot of people talk-- 400 00:15:02,210 --> 00:15:04,612 say, like, the implants, like, oh, so round and-- 401 00:15:04,612 --> 00:15:06,180 but I-- I was glad I didn't. 402 00:15:06,180 --> 00:15:07,649 - Yeah, they're so soft. - I didn't do it. 403 00:15:07,649 --> 00:15:09,217 - They're squishy, though. [interposing voices] 404 00:15:09,217 --> 00:15:10,652 - They are squishy, right? - Yeah. 405 00:15:10,652 --> 00:15:11,886 - I don't want no titties. 406 00:15:11,886 --> 00:15:13,021 Cut them off. 407 00:15:13,021 --> 00:15:13,988 - You want to take them out? 408 00:15:13,988 --> 00:15:15,123 - I'm taking them out. 409 00:15:15,123 --> 00:15:16,457 I hit them up already. 410 00:15:16,457 --> 00:15:17,825 I want nothing. 411 00:15:17,825 --> 00:15:19,327 - Bri says that she wants to get 412 00:15:19,327 --> 00:15:21,295 her breast implants taken out. 413 00:15:21,295 --> 00:15:24,332 And all I'm thinking is why? 414 00:15:24,332 --> 00:15:25,967 - I don't want to be a big girl. 415 00:15:25,967 --> 00:15:27,735 - Your boobs look fine, I feel like. 416 00:15:27,735 --> 00:15:29,270 - Hi, ladies. 417 00:15:29,270 --> 00:15:30,438 Hi. 418 00:15:31,739 --> 00:15:33,207 - As I see Coach B come out, 419 00:15:33,207 --> 00:15:34,776 I'm getting a little bit anxious. 420 00:15:34,776 --> 00:15:36,077 [interposing voices] 421 00:15:36,077 --> 00:15:37,645 - I need a piña colada. 422 00:15:37,645 --> 00:15:39,547 - Oh, [bleep]. 423 00:15:39,547 --> 00:15:41,349 - Hi. 424 00:15:41,349 --> 00:15:44,285 - I'm apprehensive because the last time I saw her, 425 00:15:44,285 --> 00:15:47,288 Briana jumped off that cliff. 426 00:15:47,288 --> 00:15:51,059 - I have another surprise team building exercise. 427 00:15:51,059 --> 00:15:53,361 [tense music] 428 00:15:53,361 --> 00:15:56,798 - It's about to go down. [laughs] 429 00:15:56,798 --> 00:15:59,300 ♪ ♪ 430 00:16:00,477 --> 00:16:03,146 [up-tempo music] 431 00:16:03,146 --> 00:16:05,015 - Hi. Hi. Hi. 432 00:16:05,015 --> 00:16:06,583 There's some new faces, right? 433 00:16:06,583 --> 00:16:07,651 - Hi. 434 00:16:07,651 --> 00:16:08,685 - I do have a question. 435 00:16:08,685 --> 00:16:09,920 Where's Ashley and her mom? 436 00:16:09,920 --> 00:16:11,922 - I guess Ashley wasn't feeling well. 437 00:16:12,823 --> 00:16:14,458 - We're hanging back from the pool today 438 00:16:14,458 --> 00:16:16,126 because Ashley's not feeling good. 439 00:16:16,126 --> 00:16:18,695 And even though I was dressed and ready to go, 440 00:16:18,695 --> 00:16:20,797 I couldn't just leave her because everyone's 441 00:16:20,797 --> 00:16:22,266 waiting for me at the pool. 442 00:16:22,266 --> 00:16:23,967 So I had to be a dud with my daughter. 443 00:16:25,435 --> 00:16:27,437 - I'm so excited not just to have the moms here, 444 00:16:27,437 --> 00:16:29,072 but I also got the grandmas here. 445 00:16:29,072 --> 00:16:30,741 - Call us glam-mas. 446 00:16:30,741 --> 00:16:32,075 - Glam-mas, OK. 447 00:16:32,075 --> 00:16:33,343 - We're glam-mas, you know? 448 00:16:33,343 --> 00:16:35,279 Because we're glamorous women. 449 00:16:35,279 --> 00:16:37,414 We're not old frumpy women. 450 00:16:38,215 --> 00:16:40,817 - I got the mama bears and the glam-mas here. 451 00:16:40,817 --> 00:16:42,019 Is that better? - Yeah. 452 00:16:42,019 --> 00:16:43,320 - OK? 453 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:45,222 - This is my first time meeting Coach B. 454 00:16:45,222 --> 00:16:46,757 And my first impression is just immediately, 455 00:16:46,757 --> 00:16:49,993 like, her presence just makes you feel, like, at ease. 456 00:16:49,993 --> 00:16:52,562 - I am interested in talking to Coach B 457 00:16:52,562 --> 00:16:54,197 and looking for different ways to cope 458 00:16:54,197 --> 00:16:57,200 with things and different ways to, like, 459 00:16:57,200 --> 00:16:59,903 just handle my own emotions. 460 00:16:59,903 --> 00:17:02,005 - This reunion, we want to work on 461 00:17:02,005 --> 00:17:03,707 the intergenerational issues. 462 00:17:03,707 --> 00:17:06,510 - Intergener-- what? 463 00:17:06,510 --> 00:17:08,312 [laughs] 464 00:17:08,312 --> 00:17:10,814 - Issues that were there with mom, 465 00:17:10,814 --> 00:17:14,084 with dad, with family, things that happened in the past. 466 00:17:14,084 --> 00:17:16,453 - Intergenerational issues are basically 467 00:17:16,453 --> 00:17:20,123 when your ancestors, grandparents, whoever, 468 00:17:20,123 --> 00:17:25,362 passed down attributes or trauma. 469 00:17:25,362 --> 00:17:27,030 And our grandparents, or parents 470 00:17:27,030 --> 00:17:28,532 are still passing them down. 471 00:17:28,532 --> 00:17:30,600 - So with all that being said-- 472 00:17:30,600 --> 00:17:32,669 - What's the bomb you're going to drop? 473 00:17:32,669 --> 00:17:36,406 - I have another surprise teambuilding exercise. 474 00:17:36,406 --> 00:17:39,710 Get in something that you're OK with getting very dirty. 475 00:17:39,710 --> 00:17:41,078 - Very? - OK. 476 00:17:41,078 --> 00:17:42,746 - Very? 477 00:17:42,746 --> 00:17:44,848 I got no sneakers for that. 478 00:17:44,848 --> 00:17:46,383 - Fix your face. 479 00:17:46,383 --> 00:17:48,285 - Getting dirty, I can do that. 480 00:17:48,285 --> 00:17:51,988 But I am concerned for these other girls and their moms 481 00:17:51,988 --> 00:17:54,691 because I'm not sure some of them want to get dirty. 482 00:17:54,691 --> 00:17:56,259 - How dirty? 483 00:17:56,259 --> 00:17:58,395 - I'm super nervous and scared for this. 484 00:17:58,395 --> 00:18:01,932 I'm nervous about explaining certain things to my mom 485 00:18:01,932 --> 00:18:05,068 that I never have before and how she's going to take it. 486 00:18:05,068 --> 00:18:06,269 What is it going to be like? 487 00:18:06,269 --> 00:18:07,437 - You have 30 minutes. 488 00:18:07,437 --> 00:18:09,873 And I will see you ladies soon. 489 00:18:09,873 --> 00:18:12,609 - ♪ Every time I walk in, I'm the best thing ♪ 490 00:18:12,609 --> 00:18:14,578 ♪ I'm the best thing, they all watching ♪ 491 00:18:14,578 --> 00:18:16,079 ♪ Every time we walk in ♪ 492 00:18:16,079 --> 00:18:17,314 - Let's see what Tea's doing. 493 00:18:17,314 --> 00:18:19,549 I missed her at the damn pool. 494 00:18:19,549 --> 00:18:23,086 - So I know there has been some bad tension between Ashley 495 00:18:23,086 --> 00:18:24,488 and the other moms. 496 00:18:24,488 --> 00:18:26,690 But I'm, like, a very neutral person, 497 00:18:26,690 --> 00:18:28,392 so I'm going to check on Ashley and Tea 498 00:18:28,392 --> 00:18:30,026 because I feel like they really should 499 00:18:30,026 --> 00:18:32,429 be involved in the things that we are doing. 500 00:18:33,964 --> 00:18:35,732 - Mama Tea. 501 00:18:35,732 --> 00:18:40,570 - I'm sleeping, and all I hear is "Mama Tea!" 502 00:18:40,570 --> 00:18:42,739 - Mama Tea. 503 00:18:42,739 --> 00:18:45,242 - "Mama Tea!" 504 00:18:45,242 --> 00:18:47,144 - Are you OK? - Yeah. 505 00:18:47,144 --> 00:18:50,080 - I'm just trying to avoid overexerting myself 506 00:18:50,080 --> 00:18:52,115 because I had a rough morning. 507 00:18:52,115 --> 00:18:54,618 I have a lot going on, and I'm just-- 508 00:18:54,618 --> 00:18:58,922 I-- I genuinely, truly truthfully cannot process 509 00:18:58,922 --> 00:19:00,957 it here with these people. 510 00:19:00,957 --> 00:19:02,325 - Get up, Mama. 511 00:19:02,325 --> 00:19:04,261 Where were you? 512 00:19:04,261 --> 00:19:05,962 - You said you were going to swim with me. 513 00:19:05,962 --> 00:19:08,365 - Yeah, were waiting for you at the pool, Mama Tea. 514 00:19:08,365 --> 00:19:10,367 - So what are we doing now? 515 00:19:10,367 --> 00:19:11,701 What are we doing? 516 00:19:11,701 --> 00:19:13,403 - I guess, some teambuilding exercise. 517 00:19:14,504 --> 00:19:15,439 - OK. 518 00:19:15,439 --> 00:19:16,940 - If you guys want to come. 519 00:19:16,940 --> 00:19:18,909 ♪ ♪ 520 00:19:18,909 --> 00:19:21,378 - I don't know if that's the news I need just waking up. 521 00:19:21,378 --> 00:19:23,880 However, I do love April, and I do love Cate, 522 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:26,883 so I'm going to get ready, and I'm going to show up. 523 00:19:26,883 --> 00:19:28,185 - All right, girls. 524 00:19:28,185 --> 00:19:29,586 I'm super excited that they're coming. 525 00:19:29,586 --> 00:19:32,322 I don't want none of the tensions that are happening 526 00:19:32,322 --> 00:19:35,192 stop people from working on some of the things 527 00:19:35,192 --> 00:19:36,760 that we need to work on while we're here. 528 00:19:36,760 --> 00:19:40,464 - ♪ It's all about the ride ♪ 529 00:19:40,464 --> 00:19:42,399 ♪ So watch me hit my stride ♪ 530 00:19:42,399 --> 00:19:45,702 ♪ I do it every single time ♪ 531 00:19:45,702 --> 00:19:47,170 - What is this? 532 00:19:47,170 --> 00:19:48,505 - Uh-oh. 533 00:19:49,739 --> 00:19:50,907 - Watch your step. 534 00:19:50,907 --> 00:19:52,075 [interposing voices] 535 00:19:52,075 --> 00:19:54,211 - Oh, my God. 536 00:19:54,211 --> 00:19:57,080 - We walk up this little trail, and boom. 537 00:19:57,080 --> 00:19:59,382 [dramatic music] 538 00:19:59,382 --> 00:20:00,817 ♪ ♪ 539 00:20:00,817 --> 00:20:01,985 A mud pit. 540 00:20:01,985 --> 00:20:04,154 [laughs] 541 00:20:04,154 --> 00:20:05,922 [interposing voices] 542 00:20:05,922 --> 00:20:07,858 - Are we some [bleep] pigs? 543 00:20:07,858 --> 00:20:09,359 This is mud. 544 00:20:09,359 --> 00:20:12,863 I don't want to roll around in the mud. 545 00:20:12,863 --> 00:20:14,164 - It look nasty. 546 00:20:14,164 --> 00:20:16,166 - That looks like it's deep. 547 00:20:16,166 --> 00:20:17,501 - Cheyenne, you can get in there, 548 00:20:17,501 --> 00:20:19,269 but I'm not getting in that mud. 549 00:20:19,269 --> 00:20:21,671 ♪ ♪ 550 00:20:21,671 --> 00:20:24,774 - Today's all about the mother-daughter relationship. 551 00:20:24,774 --> 00:20:27,444 ♪ ♪ 552 00:20:27,444 --> 00:20:31,314 It's all tied into the intergenerational trauma 553 00:20:31,314 --> 00:20:34,117 and how to become unstuck from that. 554 00:20:34,117 --> 00:20:37,087 - I'm nervous and scared that it's going to bring up 555 00:20:37,087 --> 00:20:39,356 some things that maybe are-- 556 00:20:39,356 --> 00:20:41,424 like, it's hard to talk about. 557 00:20:41,424 --> 00:20:43,360 But then again, part of me is like, 558 00:20:43,360 --> 00:20:45,428 you got to bring stuff to the surface 559 00:20:45,428 --> 00:20:47,230 in order to heal stuff. 560 00:20:47,230 --> 00:20:49,132 - And as you see, we have a mud pit here. 561 00:20:49,132 --> 00:20:52,435 We are going to have moms in the mud, 562 00:20:52,435 --> 00:20:54,804 glam-mas outside the mud. 563 00:20:54,804 --> 00:20:58,375 And we are going to identify an issue we see 564 00:20:58,375 --> 00:21:01,278 within yourself and your partner. 565 00:21:01,278 --> 00:21:03,146 The rope represents the relationship 566 00:21:03,146 --> 00:21:04,681 between mom and glam-ma. 567 00:21:04,681 --> 00:21:07,484 The mud represents your issues and your challenges. 568 00:21:07,484 --> 00:21:09,686 Once that issue is identified, 569 00:21:09,686 --> 00:21:11,755 you're going to use not only your strength, glam-ma, 570 00:21:11,755 --> 00:21:14,224 but also, your effective communication 571 00:21:14,224 --> 00:21:16,126 to pull your daughter out. 572 00:21:16,126 --> 00:21:17,827 Without effective communication, 573 00:21:17,827 --> 00:21:19,829 you can't get through and support one another 574 00:21:19,829 --> 00:21:21,598 in getting through your issues. 575 00:21:21,598 --> 00:21:25,435 The exercise is complete once you have gotten out 576 00:21:25,435 --> 00:21:27,804 of the mud pit onto the other side 577 00:21:27,804 --> 00:21:30,240 and you are unstuck from the mud. 578 00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:31,708 Who's going first? 579 00:21:32,909 --> 00:21:35,145 Ash and mom? Let's rock and roll. 580 00:21:35,145 --> 00:21:36,780 Come on, ladies. 581 00:21:36,780 --> 00:21:38,615 - Ultimately, I'm looking forward to this experience 582 00:21:38,615 --> 00:21:40,216 with my mom being here. 583 00:21:40,216 --> 00:21:42,052 And I do really respect Coach B. 584 00:21:42,052 --> 00:21:44,854 In the last reunion, she really opened my eyes 585 00:21:44,854 --> 00:21:46,389 to some things with my husband. 586 00:21:46,389 --> 00:21:48,291 And I feel like she can have the opportunity 587 00:21:48,291 --> 00:21:49,759 to do that between me and my mom. 588 00:21:49,759 --> 00:21:52,862 - Ashley, what is it that you want to work on with mom? 589 00:21:52,862 --> 00:21:55,599 [tense music] 590 00:21:55,599 --> 00:21:58,268 - She doesn't trust me to make the decisions 591 00:21:58,268 --> 00:22:00,070 that she raised me to make. 592 00:22:00,070 --> 00:22:03,273 And sometimes, we have conflict because it's like, Mom, 593 00:22:03,273 --> 00:22:04,507 I got this. 594 00:22:04,507 --> 00:22:06,176 You can let go. 595 00:22:06,176 --> 00:22:08,678 If I'm going to make a mistake, I'm going to make the mistake. 596 00:22:08,678 --> 00:22:10,880 And it's-- she can't protect me from it all. 597 00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:13,750 ♪ ♪ 598 00:22:13,750 --> 00:22:16,820 - I'm trying to protect you from all the hurt I felt. 599 00:22:16,820 --> 00:22:18,088 - From? 600 00:22:18,088 --> 00:22:19,289 - Abuse. 601 00:22:19,289 --> 00:22:21,825 ♪ ♪ 602 00:22:21,825 --> 00:22:22,859 Rape. 603 00:22:22,859 --> 00:22:25,695 ♪ ♪ 604 00:22:25,695 --> 00:22:26,830 Dope. 605 00:22:26,830 --> 00:22:31,134 ♪ ♪ 606 00:22:31,134 --> 00:22:32,802 Molestation. 607 00:22:34,971 --> 00:22:37,540 Lies, abandonment. 608 00:22:37,540 --> 00:22:39,743 I am the way I am because I don't want you to ever 609 00:22:39,743 --> 00:22:42,545 have to see it, have to deal with it 610 00:22:42,545 --> 00:22:44,414 because I already paid the price for the family. 611 00:22:44,414 --> 00:22:45,982 - Stop. Stay there. 612 00:22:47,317 --> 00:22:48,585 What does that stuff represent? 613 00:22:48,585 --> 00:22:50,020 - I think I just-- 614 00:22:50,020 --> 00:22:51,988 I carry it because she carries it. 615 00:22:51,988 --> 00:22:53,056 - You got to release it. 616 00:22:53,056 --> 00:22:54,290 How does it show up? 617 00:22:54,290 --> 00:22:55,492 - I don't know. 618 00:22:55,492 --> 00:22:56,893 - Come on, Ashley. You know. 619 00:22:56,893 --> 00:22:58,128 Dig deep, honey. 620 00:22:58,128 --> 00:23:00,030 You've got this. Come on. 621 00:23:00,030 --> 00:23:05,969 - I think the way I respond, my quickness to cut you down 622 00:23:05,969 --> 00:23:08,438 instead of understand where you're coming from, 623 00:23:08,438 --> 00:23:09,973 my defensiveness. 624 00:23:09,973 --> 00:23:12,642 - 'Cause you're trying to protect you the way she's been 625 00:23:12,642 --> 00:23:14,110 trying to protect you. 626 00:23:14,110 --> 00:23:15,879 - Yeah. 627 00:23:15,879 --> 00:23:17,180 Yeah. 628 00:23:17,180 --> 00:23:19,683 - Mom, anything else you're protecting her 629 00:23:19,683 --> 00:23:22,419 from that you want to let out? 630 00:23:22,419 --> 00:23:23,887 - I'm mama bear. 631 00:23:23,887 --> 00:23:25,055 I'm Mama Tea. 632 00:23:25,055 --> 00:23:27,524 I will always protect her. 633 00:23:30,393 --> 00:23:32,028 I think sometimes, I feel like I want 634 00:23:32,028 --> 00:23:33,930 to protect her from Bar. 635 00:23:33,930 --> 00:23:36,599 [dramatic music] 636 00:23:36,599 --> 00:23:39,402 ♪ ♪ 637 00:23:40,370 --> 00:23:42,139 [dramatic music] 638 00:23:42,139 --> 00:23:43,607 ♪ ♪ 639 00:23:43,607 --> 00:23:45,008 - Anything else you're protecting her from 640 00:23:45,008 --> 00:23:46,877 that you want to let out? 641 00:23:46,877 --> 00:23:49,313 - Sometimes I feel like I need to protect you from Bar. 642 00:23:49,313 --> 00:23:51,915 ♪ ♪ 643 00:23:51,915 --> 00:23:53,917 - What did you hear her say? What does that mean to you? 644 00:23:53,917 --> 00:23:57,087 - I think she feels like she's the end of me and Bar's story 645 00:23:57,087 --> 00:23:59,656 because my dad and Bar are so similar. 646 00:23:59,656 --> 00:24:00,691 - So tell me, what does that mean? 647 00:24:00,691 --> 00:24:01,858 What's the similarities? 648 00:24:01,858 --> 00:24:03,227 What are you protecting her from? 649 00:24:03,227 --> 00:24:04,895 ♪ ♪ 650 00:24:04,895 --> 00:24:07,197 - Dynamite. 651 00:24:07,197 --> 00:24:08,799 I know when her and-- 652 00:24:08,799 --> 00:24:11,268 her dad and I were together, 653 00:24:11,268 --> 00:24:12,669 it was dynamite. 654 00:24:12,669 --> 00:24:14,204 And I know that her and Bar have that. 655 00:24:14,204 --> 00:24:16,440 And if you don't know how to will it correctly, 656 00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:18,242 it can be dangerous, extremely dangerous. 657 00:24:18,242 --> 00:24:19,676 - Let's regroup. 658 00:24:19,676 --> 00:24:21,111 The whole reason you're [bleep] that [bleep] 659 00:24:21,111 --> 00:24:22,846 is because you want the clout and [bleep] from it. 660 00:24:22,846 --> 00:24:24,214 - Oh, really? - Yes, [bleep]. 661 00:24:24,214 --> 00:24:25,515 Yes. Yes. 662 00:24:25,515 --> 00:24:26,617 - Well, guess what? 663 00:24:26,617 --> 00:24:29,353 ♪ I'ma keep [bleep] him ♪ 664 00:24:27,784 --> 00:24:29,353 ♪ I'ma keep [bleep] him ♪ 665 00:24:29,353 --> 00:24:31,888 I'ma going to keep [bleep] him because I'm not [bleep] you. 666 00:24:31,888 --> 00:24:33,557 - Go ahead. I don't want to [bleep] you. 667 00:24:33,557 --> 00:24:35,325 - You want to talk that [bleep]? 668 00:24:35,325 --> 00:24:36,960 Don't play with me. 669 00:24:36,960 --> 00:24:40,264 - My family is just known for having a mouth, regardless. 670 00:24:40,264 --> 00:24:42,032 - But the lower you cut 671 00:24:42,032 --> 00:24:43,667 is the lower you place yourself. 672 00:24:43,667 --> 00:24:45,902 We only give who we are. 673 00:24:45,902 --> 00:24:49,106 So when she goes low, it's because she feels low. 674 00:24:49,106 --> 00:24:50,374 - Is that true, Ashley? 675 00:24:50,374 --> 00:24:51,408 - [bleep] yeah. 676 00:24:51,408 --> 00:24:53,243 [somber music] 677 00:24:53,243 --> 00:24:54,611 - The whole family is dealing 678 00:24:54,611 --> 00:24:56,046 with the same dysfunctional patterns, 679 00:24:56,046 --> 00:24:58,348 and it's time to interrupt and break that pattern, 680 00:24:58,348 --> 00:24:59,983 so that her daughter doesn't have 681 00:24:59,983 --> 00:25:01,852 to deal with this stuff and be stuck 682 00:25:01,852 --> 00:25:03,487 on some stuff that's not hers. - Right. 683 00:25:03,487 --> 00:25:04,921 - Got it? 684 00:25:04,921 --> 00:25:06,690 - I think it's clear that my mom's temper 685 00:25:06,690 --> 00:25:08,158 has been passed down to me. 686 00:25:08,158 --> 00:25:12,596 I think we need to work on being more open 687 00:25:12,596 --> 00:25:14,865 to communicate how we feel instead of jumping 688 00:25:14,865 --> 00:25:16,566 so quickly to be defensive. 689 00:25:16,566 --> 00:25:18,735 We're here to work on our relationships 690 00:25:18,735 --> 00:25:20,137 with our mothers. 691 00:25:20,137 --> 00:25:23,373 But also, you know, with every relationship, 692 00:25:23,373 --> 00:25:27,577 it requires you to be vulnerable and open sometimes, 693 00:25:27,577 --> 00:25:28,945 probably when you don't want to. 694 00:25:28,945 --> 00:25:30,714 [applause] - Don't fall now, girl. 695 00:25:30,714 --> 00:25:32,449 - I ain't going to fall. 696 00:25:32,449 --> 00:25:33,850 - Good job, ladies. 697 00:25:35,252 --> 00:25:36,420 Thank you for opening up. 698 00:25:36,420 --> 00:25:38,055 - Thank you. 699 00:25:38,055 --> 00:25:41,024 - I can't change anything that happened in the past. 700 00:25:41,024 --> 00:25:44,361 But I definitely hear what Coach B and Ashley are saying. 701 00:25:44,361 --> 00:25:45,829 It's definitely a revelation. 702 00:25:45,829 --> 00:25:47,597 I mean, I'm open to growth. 703 00:25:47,597 --> 00:25:48,899 - Thank you for trusting me. 704 00:25:48,899 --> 00:25:50,467 - Of course, Coach B, of course. 705 00:25:50,467 --> 00:25:52,669 - Good job. 706 00:25:52,669 --> 00:25:54,371 - What Coach B says about Ashley 707 00:25:54,371 --> 00:25:56,373 and her mom is clearly true. 708 00:25:56,373 --> 00:25:57,741 The rage, and the anger, 709 00:25:57,741 --> 00:25:59,476 and its transfer from the mom to the daughter, 710 00:25:59,476 --> 00:26:01,011 from the daughter to the mom. 711 00:26:01,011 --> 00:26:02,346 ♪ ♪ 712 00:26:02,346 --> 00:26:03,680 - It just felt fake. 713 00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:05,882 Like, was tears really coming out of Tea's face 714 00:26:05,882 --> 00:26:08,051 when she talked about her experiences? 715 00:26:09,152 --> 00:26:11,254 [indistinct chatter] 716 00:26:11,254 --> 00:26:12,422 - All right, ladies. 717 00:26:12,422 --> 00:26:13,757 OK, ladies. Come on. 718 00:26:13,757 --> 00:26:16,226 We got-- we got Bri and Roxanne. 719 00:26:16,226 --> 00:26:18,161 [tense music] 720 00:26:18,161 --> 00:26:21,098 - I'm struggling as to what I want to say to my mom. 721 00:26:21,098 --> 00:26:23,333 Whatever comes to my mind and to my heart 722 00:26:23,333 --> 00:26:24,835 is what I'm going to say. 723 00:26:24,835 --> 00:26:27,838 - Briana, what is it that you want to work on with mom? 724 00:26:27,838 --> 00:26:30,907 - So I feel like you are so strong, 725 00:26:30,907 --> 00:26:32,776 that you made me to be strong, 726 00:26:32,776 --> 00:26:36,546 that I don't know how to show emotion 727 00:26:36,546 --> 00:26:39,583 because I feel like I can only be strong. 728 00:26:39,583 --> 00:26:42,719 And I feel like you taught me that, which is a good thing. 729 00:26:42,719 --> 00:26:46,123 But I want to feel my feelings, 730 00:26:46,123 --> 00:26:48,258 and I never know how. 731 00:26:48,258 --> 00:26:50,727 And I feel like that was because of you. 732 00:26:50,727 --> 00:26:52,763 - I know you want her to have her daddy. 733 00:26:52,763 --> 00:26:56,566 Bri, sometimes some daddies are not willing 734 00:26:56,566 --> 00:26:58,568 to want to make it work. 735 00:26:58,568 --> 00:27:00,337 You're going to have to stay strong. 736 00:27:00,337 --> 00:27:02,406 [patting baby] 737 00:27:02,406 --> 00:27:04,141 [somber music] 738 00:27:04,141 --> 00:27:06,810 It's OK. Don't cry. 739 00:27:06,810 --> 00:27:09,212 She don't want to see you crying. 740 00:27:10,547 --> 00:27:12,315 - Where do you put your emotions, 741 00:27:12,315 --> 00:27:13,884 and why do you suppress? 742 00:27:13,884 --> 00:27:16,186 - Like, I dropped the ball so many times. 743 00:27:16,186 --> 00:27:18,188 - It's OK. - You're not perfect. 744 00:27:18,188 --> 00:27:20,323 - I don't want my [bleep] kids to see me struggling, 745 00:27:20,323 --> 00:27:22,259 so I have to suppress all my [bleep], 746 00:27:22,259 --> 00:27:24,428 so that they don't really see me going through it. 747 00:27:24,428 --> 00:27:25,629 - Stay there. Stay there. 748 00:27:25,629 --> 00:27:26,830 Stay. 749 00:27:26,830 --> 00:27:29,032 - Watching Bri and her mom go, 750 00:27:29,032 --> 00:27:32,402 my heart just hurts because I can see the literal pain 751 00:27:32,402 --> 00:27:34,604 on Roxanne's face. 752 00:27:34,604 --> 00:27:36,440 - Did you hear what she said, Briana? 753 00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,341 - She realized she [bleep] up. 754 00:27:38,341 --> 00:27:40,410 But I want you to hear the number one thing 755 00:27:40,410 --> 00:27:41,812 that your mom said. 756 00:27:41,812 --> 00:27:44,815 She has mommy guilt. - I got the worst guilt. 757 00:27:44,815 --> 00:27:46,683 - Because of her words, she dropped the ball, 758 00:27:46,683 --> 00:27:48,318 and she [bleep] up on her kids. 759 00:27:48,318 --> 00:27:50,053 That's what-- that's what she said loudest. 760 00:27:50,053 --> 00:27:52,789 That's the stuff that's keeping her in bondage. 761 00:27:52,789 --> 00:27:54,324 Let me ask you this. - I love you. 762 00:27:54,324 --> 00:27:56,460 - Are you-- are you open to working through that 763 00:27:56,460 --> 00:27:58,261 for the sake of your daughter? 764 00:27:58,261 --> 00:27:59,563 - Yes. 765 00:28:00,764 --> 00:28:03,400 - Pull your baby up. 766 00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:05,202 [applause] There you go. 767 00:28:05,202 --> 00:28:06,403 - Good job, girl. 768 00:28:06,403 --> 00:28:08,305 - Yes. 769 00:28:08,305 --> 00:28:10,774 That was the truth, though. 770 00:28:10,774 --> 00:28:13,777 - Being vulnerable is hard as hell. 771 00:28:13,777 --> 00:28:16,480 It was nice to see my mom get emotional. 772 00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:19,483 It was nice to see something different from my mom. 773 00:28:19,483 --> 00:28:21,551 - I'm so proud of you, sis. 774 00:28:21,551 --> 00:28:23,086 You did it. - It's heavy. 775 00:28:23,086 --> 00:28:24,588 And you don't realize how much you've 776 00:28:24,588 --> 00:28:26,990 been carrying until you identify it 777 00:28:26,990 --> 00:28:29,125 and acknowledge it. 778 00:28:29,125 --> 00:28:31,127 I want to be strong for her, you know? 779 00:28:31,127 --> 00:28:32,562 I want her to know that I'm always going 780 00:28:32,562 --> 00:28:34,197 to be there and have her back. 781 00:28:34,197 --> 00:28:37,567 But I feel like if you're not strong, what are you? 782 00:28:37,567 --> 00:28:39,469 What can you do? It's [bleep] life. 783 00:28:39,469 --> 00:28:42,772 I got my own battles I got to fight, my own internal issues. 784 00:28:42,772 --> 00:28:44,875 I need to work on being vulnerable. 785 00:28:46,076 --> 00:28:47,777 - I'm down to go. - Let's go. 786 00:28:47,777 --> 00:28:49,179 Let's rock and roll. 787 00:28:49,179 --> 00:28:50,514 - We got to cheer y'all on because y'all been 788 00:28:50,514 --> 00:28:51,882 cheering on everybody. 789 00:28:51,882 --> 00:28:53,717 - Somebody's got to [bleep] cheer me on. 790 00:28:53,717 --> 00:28:55,785 - I'm nervous and scared. 791 00:28:55,785 --> 00:28:58,622 Like, do I have the strength to be 792 00:28:58,622 --> 00:29:00,624 100% open and honest with my mom? 793 00:29:00,624 --> 00:29:02,025 - I got her. 794 00:29:02,025 --> 00:29:05,295 Even though I'm going to bawl my eyes out, I got her. 795 00:29:05,295 --> 00:29:07,631 I'm a little worried about what Cate's got to say 796 00:29:07,631 --> 00:29:09,499 now that we're standing at this mud pit. 797 00:29:09,499 --> 00:29:10,800 - All right. 798 00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:12,969 Cate. - Yeah? 799 00:29:12,969 --> 00:29:14,838 - What is it that we're working on with mom 800 00:29:14,838 --> 00:29:16,540 that you want to address? 801 00:29:16,540 --> 00:29:19,442 [somber music] 802 00:29:19,442 --> 00:29:23,280 - I'm sick of being the perfect child. 803 00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:26,683 ♪ ♪ 804 00:29:26,683 --> 00:29:28,518 I'm sick of always being the one 805 00:29:28,518 --> 00:29:30,887 that has to have it together. 806 00:29:30,887 --> 00:29:33,256 And I'm sick of it. 807 00:29:33,256 --> 00:29:36,960 - Cate, in what ways have you had to be perfect? 808 00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:39,930 - I'm the one that has no problems. 809 00:29:39,930 --> 00:29:43,567 I'm the one that has, like, a "perfect" relationship. 810 00:29:43,567 --> 00:29:45,669 I'm the one that-- 811 00:29:45,669 --> 00:29:47,037 - She's the good one. 812 00:29:47,037 --> 00:29:48,738 - Don't need nothing from her. 813 00:29:48,738 --> 00:29:50,574 - I need you though. 814 00:29:50,574 --> 00:29:53,009 - Cate, who's-- who's the mom in the relationship? 815 00:29:53,009 --> 00:29:55,412 - She is, but personally, I feel like I am. 816 00:29:55,412 --> 00:29:57,514 - Caitlin has been telling me what to do 817 00:29:57,514 --> 00:30:00,917 and how to act since she was, like, [bleep] 12. 818 00:30:00,917 --> 00:30:02,652 - How has mom been there for you 819 00:30:02,652 --> 00:30:04,054 if you're the mom in the relationship? 820 00:30:04,054 --> 00:30:05,488 How is she there emotionally? 821 00:30:05,488 --> 00:30:07,357 - We talked about this today in the pool. 822 00:30:07,357 --> 00:30:09,025 I don't feel like my mom has a very good way 823 00:30:09,025 --> 00:30:10,694 of expressing her emotions. 824 00:30:10,694 --> 00:30:12,262 It always comes out in anger. 825 00:30:12,262 --> 00:30:13,530 - Go away. 826 00:30:13,530 --> 00:30:15,065 - You're getting mad at me for no reason. 827 00:30:15,065 --> 00:30:16,766 - You're irritating me. Get out of my [...] face. 828 00:30:16,766 --> 00:30:18,802 - OK. For no reason. 829 00:30:20,003 --> 00:30:21,838 - Condescending [bleep]. 830 00:30:21,838 --> 00:30:23,506 - OK, Ma. 831 00:30:23,506 --> 00:30:26,309 - Shut your mouth, Caitlin, before I shut it for you. 832 00:30:26,309 --> 00:30:29,512 - I feel like sometimes, when I express my true feelings 833 00:30:29,512 --> 00:30:32,649 and how I feel, she'll throw my husband in the mix 834 00:30:32,649 --> 00:30:35,218 and be like, oh, that's what Tyler would tell you to do. 835 00:30:35,218 --> 00:30:37,654 - So then she gaslights you to make you think 836 00:30:37,654 --> 00:30:40,190 that your opinions are coming from somebody else? 837 00:30:40,190 --> 00:30:41,558 - Yes. 838 00:30:41,558 --> 00:30:43,426 And so for me, it comes from a point of, like, 839 00:30:43,426 --> 00:30:46,396 just realize that you raised a strong [bleep] woman. 840 00:30:46,396 --> 00:30:47,831 - OK. That's right. 841 00:30:47,831 --> 00:30:49,265 - [bleep], you don't think I know that? 842 00:30:49,265 --> 00:30:50,834 - But that's where it comes from for me 843 00:30:50,834 --> 00:30:53,136 where it's like, you raised a strong enough [bleep] woman 844 00:30:53,136 --> 00:30:54,537 to stand up for what the [bleep] she believes in. 845 00:30:54,537 --> 00:30:56,272 - I don't worry about you because you're 846 00:30:56,272 --> 00:30:58,875 so [bleep] strong, I don't have to worry about you. 847 00:30:58,875 --> 00:31:00,243 You always have been. 848 00:31:00,243 --> 00:31:01,945 You've been the best [bleep] kid 849 00:31:01,945 --> 00:31:03,079 in the whole [bleep] world. - Stop. 850 00:31:03,079 --> 00:31:04,314 Stop. Stay right there. 851 00:31:04,314 --> 00:31:05,448 Stay right there. 852 00:31:05,448 --> 00:31:06,716 - I've never had to worry about you. 853 00:31:06,716 --> 00:31:08,618 - April was so aggressive. 854 00:31:08,618 --> 00:31:10,086 It was such a weird situation. 855 00:31:10,086 --> 00:31:11,855 Like, that was too aggressive for me. 856 00:31:11,855 --> 00:31:13,723 - Ma. - And you wanted [bleep] rules, 857 00:31:13,723 --> 00:31:15,692 but I never gave them to you. - Cate, stay there. 858 00:31:15,692 --> 00:31:17,127 Stay there. 859 00:31:17,127 --> 00:31:18,528 - No, I'm not stopping because it's the truth. 860 00:31:18,528 --> 00:31:20,163 - Mom. - Watching Cate and April, 861 00:31:20,163 --> 00:31:23,800 it made me honestly really feel sad. 862 00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:26,436 And Cate wasn't really beating her up at all. 863 00:31:26,436 --> 00:31:28,905 I think it was April beating herself up. 864 00:31:28,905 --> 00:31:30,640 - You have to stop making this about you 865 00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:31,841 and let her have her moment. 866 00:31:31,841 --> 00:31:33,176 - I'm not trying to make it about me. 867 00:31:33,176 --> 00:31:34,711 - But this is what you're doing. 868 00:31:34,711 --> 00:31:36,479 And you just gave up on her. 869 00:31:36,479 --> 00:31:38,548 ♪ ♪ 870 00:31:40,450 --> 00:31:43,287 [dramatic music] 871 00:31:43,287 --> 00:31:44,855 ♪ ♪ 872 00:31:44,855 --> 00:31:46,490 - You have to stop making this about you 873 00:31:46,490 --> 00:31:47,624 and let her have her moment. 874 00:31:47,624 --> 00:31:48,792 - I'm not trying to make it about me. 875 00:31:48,792 --> 00:31:50,394 - But this is what you're doing. 876 00:31:50,394 --> 00:31:52,262 - Her letting go of the rope really was 877 00:31:52,262 --> 00:31:54,565 like a true visual representation 878 00:31:54,565 --> 00:31:58,435 of how we communicate and kind of how our relationship is. 879 00:31:58,435 --> 00:32:00,938 - Cate, how did it feel when she dropped the rope? 880 00:32:00,938 --> 00:32:03,040 - That she was, like, mad and upset at me. 881 00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:04,708 - Because that's my reaction. 882 00:32:04,708 --> 00:32:07,311 If it's not the way it goes for her-- 883 00:32:07,311 --> 00:32:08,845 - Yeah? 884 00:32:10,881 --> 00:32:12,849 - Oh. 885 00:32:12,849 --> 00:32:14,384 - I know. 886 00:32:14,384 --> 00:32:16,153 - That's not nice. 887 00:32:16,153 --> 00:32:19,389 - Coach B is irritating me very much right now. 888 00:32:19,389 --> 00:32:21,992 But I know that I have to get through this. 889 00:32:21,992 --> 00:32:25,429 And hopefully, it will help me and Caitlyn 890 00:32:25,429 --> 00:32:26,930 in some sort of way. 891 00:32:26,930 --> 00:32:28,498 - This is what I want you to do, OK? 892 00:32:28,498 --> 00:32:32,102 Gently pull her in at a pace that will work for her. 893 00:32:33,170 --> 00:32:35,038 Can you do that? - Yeah. 894 00:32:35,038 --> 00:32:37,074 - Cate, you just let her gently pull you in. 895 00:32:37,074 --> 00:32:38,508 - Let her be your mom. 896 00:32:39,776 --> 00:32:41,812 - Come on, baby. Come on. 897 00:32:41,812 --> 00:32:45,282 I got you. 898 00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:45,282 I got you. 899 00:32:45,282 --> 00:32:47,050 [inaudible] 900 00:32:47,050 --> 00:32:48,719 - Telling my mom, like, you know, 901 00:32:48,719 --> 00:32:50,587 I'm sick and tired of feeling like the perfect child, 902 00:32:50,587 --> 00:32:52,089 I'm sick and tired of feeling like I always have 903 00:32:52,089 --> 00:32:53,924 to do all the right things-- 904 00:32:53,924 --> 00:32:55,425 I've never told my mom these things, 905 00:32:55,425 --> 00:32:57,694 so to be able to get them off my chest 906 00:32:57,694 --> 00:32:59,596 was like, I feel lighter. 907 00:32:59,596 --> 00:33:01,298 - Your job is to give love. 908 00:33:01,298 --> 00:33:04,735 - Caitlin telling me that she's tired of feeling 909 00:33:04,735 --> 00:33:08,472 like she has to be the perfect child kind of devastated me, 910 00:33:08,472 --> 00:33:12,009 kind of, a little bit because I guess, I never realized 911 00:33:12,009 --> 00:33:13,677 I treated her that way. 912 00:33:13,677 --> 00:33:15,078 I don't want to let go now. 913 00:33:15,078 --> 00:33:17,281 - No, it's OK. 914 00:33:17,281 --> 00:33:20,284 This is tough, but I'm super proud of myself 915 00:33:20,284 --> 00:33:23,186 that I was able to express some of these things. 916 00:33:23,186 --> 00:33:24,821 And it's just showing, like, we have 917 00:33:24,821 --> 00:33:28,158 a long, long journey to get 918 00:33:28,158 --> 00:33:30,994 to where we need to be and should be. 919 00:33:30,994 --> 00:33:33,563 - Last, but certainly, not least... 920 00:33:33,563 --> 00:33:34,564 [applause] - Yes. 921 00:33:34,564 --> 00:33:35,999 - Ready? - Let's go. 922 00:33:35,999 --> 00:33:37,567 - Come on, Mama. 923 00:33:37,567 --> 00:33:40,203 I'm a little nervous because I know what I'm about to say, 924 00:33:40,203 --> 00:33:43,240 but I don't really know how she's going to take it. 925 00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:46,443 - So Kayla, what is it that you want to work on 926 00:33:46,443 --> 00:33:49,112 or address with Mom? 927 00:33:49,112 --> 00:33:52,416 - I want my mom to, like, respect me as a mom. 928 00:33:54,418 --> 00:33:57,154 - Mom, what did you hear her say? 929 00:33:57,154 --> 00:34:02,292 - That she wants me to let her learn 930 00:34:02,292 --> 00:34:06,997 how to handle everything on her own and not fix it for her. 931 00:34:06,997 --> 00:34:08,398 - But I don't-- 932 00:34:08,398 --> 00:34:09,866 I don't feel like you do fix it for me. 933 00:34:09,866 --> 00:34:11,501 I feel you just criticize. 934 00:34:12,703 --> 00:34:14,638 - How much of yourself do you feel is 935 00:34:14,638 --> 00:34:16,273 not good enough as a mother? 936 00:34:16,273 --> 00:34:18,141 [soft dramatic music] 937 00:34:18,141 --> 00:34:19,876 - I failed you. 938 00:34:19,876 --> 00:34:22,512 I--I didn't make it work with your dad. 939 00:34:22,512 --> 00:34:24,748 I didn't make it work with my second husband. 940 00:34:24,748 --> 00:34:26,783 I see her doing the same things that I did, 941 00:34:26,783 --> 00:34:28,352 and I want her to stop. 942 00:34:28,352 --> 00:34:30,320 I don't want to see her being cheated on. 943 00:34:31,788 --> 00:34:34,825 I want to work on empowering you. 944 00:34:34,825 --> 00:34:36,526 You are a great mom. 945 00:34:36,526 --> 00:34:37,794 You are-- - Stop. 946 00:34:37,794 --> 00:34:39,162 What does she do as a great mom 947 00:34:39,162 --> 00:34:40,731 that makes her a good mom? 948 00:34:40,731 --> 00:34:46,670 - You are a single mom living with their dad in my house. 949 00:34:47,437 --> 00:34:49,206 - You were trying to give me a compliment. 950 00:34:49,206 --> 00:34:50,807 But to me, that was like-- 951 00:34:50,807 --> 00:34:52,976 that was an attack because that's like, I'm not-- 952 00:34:52,976 --> 00:34:54,277 I'm not doing well enough even if you 953 00:34:54,277 --> 00:34:55,912 meant it as a compliment. 954 00:34:55,912 --> 00:34:59,049 - And that's exactly what she's talking about she experiences. 955 00:34:59,049 --> 00:35:00,484 I'm going to empower you. 956 00:35:00,484 --> 00:35:02,652 And then I'm going to disempower you 957 00:35:02,652 --> 00:35:04,421 by showing you what I'm doing for you. 958 00:35:04,421 --> 00:35:07,424 So it negates the whole purpose of empowerment. 959 00:35:07,424 --> 00:35:09,726 But let me say this to you because obviously, 960 00:35:09,726 --> 00:35:12,062 right now, mom doesn't have the tools to do that yet. 961 00:35:12,062 --> 00:35:13,397 And that's OK. We're going to work on that. 962 00:35:13,397 --> 00:35:15,399 Her pain is talking to you-- 963 00:35:15,399 --> 00:35:16,433 - Yeah. 964 00:35:16,433 --> 00:35:18,034 - Not her heart. 965 00:35:18,034 --> 00:35:21,238 - I'm too negative, and I never tell her she's good enough. 966 00:35:21,238 --> 00:35:22,973 And I always feel like I do. 967 00:35:22,973 --> 00:35:25,041 Or I don't know how. 968 00:35:25,041 --> 00:35:27,010 You are such a good mom. 969 00:35:27,010 --> 00:35:30,080 And it's not about-- - Ahh. 970 00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:31,648 That's-- you're a great mom. 971 00:35:31,648 --> 00:35:33,049 - OK. 972 00:35:33,049 --> 00:35:34,985 - And what else is amazing about her? 973 00:35:34,985 --> 00:35:36,219 - She's a great daughter. 974 00:35:36,219 --> 00:35:38,088 She's a great friend to her friends. 975 00:35:38,088 --> 00:35:40,690 [uplifting music] 976 00:35:40,690 --> 00:35:42,225 [applause] 977 00:35:45,328 --> 00:35:47,030 - It feels good to get it off my chest 978 00:35:47,030 --> 00:35:49,199 because it's something I've been feeling for a long time. 979 00:35:49,199 --> 00:35:51,902 I hope my mom took in what Coach B is saying to her 980 00:35:51,902 --> 00:35:53,470 and learns how to communicate. 981 00:35:53,470 --> 00:35:56,106 And then on my part, I want to work on having more positive 982 00:35:56,106 --> 00:35:57,641 outlook on finding a solution. 983 00:35:57,641 --> 00:35:59,543 I know you didn't mean it like that. 984 00:35:59,543 --> 00:36:02,612 - As far as giving Kayla encouragement down the road, 985 00:36:02,612 --> 00:36:06,850 say the positive and not have a but after that. 986 00:36:06,850 --> 00:36:09,252 I'm hopeful to be able to use that. 987 00:36:09,252 --> 00:36:12,155 It's going to be a learning, but I'm ready. 988 00:36:12,155 --> 00:36:14,357 - I'm so proud of the vulnerability 989 00:36:14,357 --> 00:36:16,660 from the moms and the glam-moms. 990 00:36:16,660 --> 00:36:19,663 - I'm hoping I can, like, take the moms and the grandmas, 991 00:36:19,663 --> 00:36:22,966 like, what they're talking about or working through 992 00:36:22,966 --> 00:36:26,236 and either relate to it with my mom 993 00:36:26,236 --> 00:36:28,805 or learn some things that I might 994 00:36:28,805 --> 00:36:30,941 be doing as it pertains to, like, 995 00:36:30,941 --> 00:36:33,643 my parenting with my children. 996 00:36:33,643 --> 00:36:35,512 - Kudos to y'all. I'm so proud. 997 00:36:35,512 --> 00:36:36,980 My heart smiling, like, this big. 998 00:36:36,980 --> 00:36:38,815 [laughter] 999 00:36:38,815 --> 00:36:41,017 - This mud bath is definitely not 1000 00:36:41,017 --> 00:36:42,953 the same mud bath that I had at a spa. 1001 00:36:42,953 --> 00:36:45,322 I am 100% ready to take a shower. 1002 00:36:45,322 --> 00:36:46,690 - Now we're all traumatized. 1003 00:36:46,690 --> 00:36:48,558 - You can tell just from the whole group 1004 00:36:48,558 --> 00:36:51,294 that a lot of people feel a lot lighter. 1005 00:36:51,294 --> 00:36:54,064 It feels amazing just to get it all out. 1006 00:36:54,064 --> 00:36:55,932 - Everybody, get in! 1007 00:36:55,932 --> 00:36:58,835 [upbeat music] 1008 00:36:58,835 --> 00:37:01,972 [cheering] 1009 00:37:01,972 --> 00:37:03,373 - ♪ Shake it up ♪ 1010 00:37:03,373 --> 00:37:05,442 ♪ You've got to get loose ♪ 1011 00:37:05,442 --> 00:37:07,210 ♪ Get loose, get loose ♪ 1012 00:37:07,210 --> 00:37:09,312 ♪ ♪ 1013 00:37:09,312 --> 00:37:10,914 - Oh, my God. 1014 00:37:10,914 --> 00:37:13,049 [indistinct shouting] 1015 00:37:14,610 --> 00:37:17,346 - ♪ Wait and see for yourself ♪ 1016 00:37:17,346 --> 00:37:19,014 ♪ What I've been through ♪ 1017 00:37:19,014 --> 00:37:21,049 - There's so much mud right in this ear, I couldn't hear. 1018 00:37:21,049 --> 00:37:22,317 I'm like, hello? What? 1019 00:37:22,317 --> 00:37:24,820 What'd you say? 1020 00:37:24,820 --> 00:37:26,955 - Truth be told, like, literally, watching everyone 1021 00:37:26,955 --> 00:37:29,358 without my mom, I'm like, damn, I got a lot of [bleep] 1022 00:37:29,358 --> 00:37:31,326 I got to talk to my mom about. 1023 00:37:32,761 --> 00:37:33,996 - Babe, listen. 1024 00:37:33,996 --> 00:37:36,231 Listen. Listen. Listen. Listen. 1025 00:37:36,231 --> 00:37:37,766 Baby, not right now, OK? 1026 00:37:37,766 --> 00:37:38,901 I know. 1027 00:37:38,901 --> 00:37:41,069 I'm eating as much as I can. 1028 00:37:41,069 --> 00:37:42,104 Bar's in jail. 1029 00:37:42,104 --> 00:37:43,805 And I do wish he was here. 1030 00:37:43,805 --> 00:37:46,241 I don't think there's going to be a day 1031 00:37:46,241 --> 00:37:48,443 that I don't wish he's here. 1032 00:37:48,443 --> 00:37:51,213 I am so [bleep] exhausted. 1033 00:37:51,980 --> 00:37:54,249 - I guess, the question is, am I really ready 1034 00:37:54,249 --> 00:37:55,651 to open up and talk to her? 1035 00:37:55,651 --> 00:37:58,020 - Are you ready to deal with the trauma? 1036 00:37:58,020 --> 00:37:59,488 - No. 1037 00:37:59,488 --> 00:38:00,789 - I'll have your back because I know that feeling. 1038 00:38:00,789 --> 00:38:02,758 I've been there because we know how. 1039 00:38:02,758 --> 00:38:04,059 - So what do you think about the work 1040 00:38:04,059 --> 00:38:05,260 that Coach B-- 1041 00:38:05,260 --> 00:38:07,196 - I think that [bleep] is smart. 1042 00:38:07,196 --> 00:38:08,664 - She better get out of my business. 1043 00:38:08,664 --> 00:38:10,365 [laughter] 1044 00:38:10,365 --> 00:38:12,868 I work really hard to have a good relationship with Ashley. 1045 00:38:12,868 --> 00:38:15,571 I would like to work on when she gets stressed, 1046 00:38:15,571 --> 00:38:18,140 her not completely shutting down. 1047 00:38:18,140 --> 00:38:20,342 I didn't even realize that Ashley 1048 00:38:20,342 --> 00:38:22,644 is carrying so much of me. 1049 00:38:22,644 --> 00:38:24,112 - You learned a lot, didn't you? 1050 00:38:24,112 --> 00:38:28,617 - Bar being in jail couldn't be at the worst timing, 1051 00:38:28,617 --> 00:38:32,454 especially with us coming here and feeling so vulnerable. 1052 00:38:32,454 --> 00:38:34,756 It's a trigger, definitely. 1053 00:38:34,756 --> 00:38:37,159 But I did notice, you know, as she's getting older, 1054 00:38:37,159 --> 00:38:38,961 I look at her, and I see me. 1055 00:38:38,961 --> 00:38:41,330 And I'd be like, I don't like that because I see myself. 1056 00:38:41,330 --> 00:38:43,332 ♪ ♪ 1057 00:38:43,332 --> 00:38:46,635 [upbeat music] - Thank you for cooking. 1058 00:38:46,635 --> 00:38:47,803 - Yum. 1059 00:38:47,803 --> 00:38:51,173 ♪ ♪ 1060 00:38:51,173 --> 00:38:52,641 - I think it was a good exercise. 1061 00:38:52,641 --> 00:38:54,109 - No, it was. It was. 1062 00:38:54,109 --> 00:38:55,143 - That was intense. 1063 00:38:55,143 --> 00:38:56,478 - Yeah, it was intense. 1064 00:38:56,478 --> 00:38:58,213 - But I learned a lot, like, about everybody 1065 00:38:58,213 --> 00:39:00,415 and the different, like, dynamics 1066 00:39:00,415 --> 00:39:02,651 between mother and daughter. 1067 00:39:02,651 --> 00:39:04,386 And it's, like, out of everyone's stories, 1068 00:39:04,386 --> 00:39:06,788 I can relate to something and find something, like, 1069 00:39:06,788 --> 00:39:09,191 within our own relationship or my own self 1070 00:39:09,191 --> 00:39:10,692 that I could work on. 1071 00:39:10,692 --> 00:39:12,327 - We think we're different, but we're really not. 1072 00:39:12,327 --> 00:39:13,795 - No, we're not. - We're all alike. 1073 00:39:13,795 --> 00:39:15,764 I think there's a lot of trauma at the table, 1074 00:39:15,764 --> 00:39:18,767 but I also think it's a lot of love here too. 1075 00:39:18,767 --> 00:39:20,669 - Well, I feel like-- like we're the only ones that can 1076 00:39:20,669 --> 00:39:22,571 truly understand each other, so we should not be going 1077 00:39:22,571 --> 00:39:24,006 behind each other's backs. 1078 00:39:24,006 --> 00:39:25,607 We should not be talking [bleep] about each other. 1079 00:39:25,607 --> 00:39:26,908 - Thank you. - Yes. 1080 00:39:26,908 --> 00:39:29,011 - And to get it from a mom in the group is bad. 1081 00:39:29,011 --> 00:39:30,212 [tense music] 1082 00:39:30,212 --> 00:39:32,748 I think moms should not be harassing 1083 00:39:32,748 --> 00:39:33,949 or talking [bleep] about 1084 00:39:33,949 --> 00:39:36,718 someone else's daughter on the show. 1085 00:39:37,552 --> 00:39:39,388 - Let's talk about it. - Right about now. 1086 00:39:39,388 --> 00:39:41,156 - What's the problem, Roxanne? 1087 00:39:41,156 --> 00:39:43,525 - The problem is that your daughter 1088 00:39:43,525 --> 00:39:45,794 inserted herself in a situation that 1089 00:39:45,794 --> 00:39:47,596 she had no business inserting herself. 1090 00:39:47,596 --> 00:39:49,598 - No. Tone it down. 1091 00:39:49,598 --> 00:39:52,367 - So I know there has been some drama 1092 00:39:52,367 --> 00:39:54,970 and bad tension between Tea and Ashley 1093 00:39:54,970 --> 00:39:56,638 and Roxanne and Bri. 1094 00:39:56,638 --> 00:39:58,373 But, like, leaving the meeting with Coach B 1095 00:39:58,373 --> 00:39:59,708 at the mud pit activity, 1096 00:39:59,708 --> 00:40:01,910 I definitely think there would be able to be 1097 00:40:01,910 --> 00:40:03,412 adult conversations. 1098 00:40:03,412 --> 00:40:05,213 - It's OK. Let them talk about it. 1099 00:40:05,213 --> 00:40:08,450 - Inserted herself on a lie 1100 00:40:08,450 --> 00:40:10,619 when she had no business to do what she did. 1101 00:40:10,619 --> 00:40:13,121 Briana was having a falling out with Kail. 1102 00:40:13,121 --> 00:40:16,591 Ashley went on live and started talking [bleep]. 1103 00:40:16,591 --> 00:40:19,328 And then her mom just ran her mouth 1104 00:40:19,328 --> 00:40:21,029 on social media about my daughter. 1105 00:40:21,029 --> 00:40:23,899 And I'm [bleep] done with the bullying of my daughter. 1106 00:40:23,899 --> 00:40:25,934 She was so [bleep] disrespectful. 1107 00:40:25,934 --> 00:40:27,502 Shame on her. 1108 00:40:28,370 --> 00:40:30,072 My daughter would never talk to any mother 1109 00:40:30,072 --> 00:40:32,974 in this [bleep] table the way your daughter speaks to me. 1110 00:40:32,974 --> 00:40:35,277 ♪ ♪ 1111 00:40:35,277 --> 00:40:37,179 And I don't care what trauma she has. 1112 00:40:37,179 --> 00:40:38,980 There's no excuse for it. 1113 00:40:39,881 --> 00:40:42,217 And then you want to go on live and talk and discuss 1114 00:40:42,217 --> 00:40:43,452 my daughter [bleep] like, 1115 00:40:43,452 --> 00:40:45,020 who she's dating, who she's [bleep]. 1116 00:40:45,020 --> 00:40:47,189 It's none of your business, none of your [bleep] business. 1117 00:40:47,189 --> 00:40:49,725 ♪ ♪ 1118 00:40:49,725 --> 00:40:51,393 - Well, Roxanne-- - I don't want to hear it. 1119 00:40:51,393 --> 00:40:53,628 You have nothing to say to me. 1120 00:40:53,628 --> 00:40:58,266 - I just know a war is about to go down. 1121 00:40:58,266 --> 00:41:00,469 - I don't give a [bleep], [bleep]. 1122 00:41:00,469 --> 00:41:02,371 [indistinct shouting] I don't give a [bleep]. 1123 00:41:02,371 --> 00:41:07,509 I don't give a [bleep]. 1124 00:41:04,373 --> 00:41:07,509 I don't give a [bleep]. 1125 00:41:07,509 --> 00:41:08,577 - You're [bleep] crazy. 1126 00:41:08,577 --> 00:41:09,945 - I don't give a [bleep]. 1127 00:41:09,945 --> 00:41:12,047 I don't give a [bleep]. Let's get it straight. 1128 00:41:12,047 --> 00:41:15,517 Your old [bleep] don't have nothing to say, [bleep].