1 00:00:01,002 --> 00:00:04,403 - Previously on "Teen Mom: Family Reunion." 2 00:00:04,472 --> 00:00:07,773 - This year, I decided we need to bring our own moms. 3 00:00:07,842 --> 00:00:09,775 - Hi. - Hello. 4 00:00:09,844 --> 00:00:11,477 - Hi, you guys. - Hello. 5 00:00:11,545 --> 00:00:13,612 - I actually like all the girls and their mom, 6 00:00:13,681 --> 00:00:15,114 except Tea and Ashley. 7 00:00:15,182 --> 00:00:19,318 - There's been a lot of weird internet drama. 8 00:00:19,387 --> 00:00:20,953 - I was having lunch with Briana. 9 00:00:21,022 --> 00:00:22,254 I went on social media. 10 00:00:22,323 --> 00:00:23,722 Briana didn't like that. 11 00:00:23,791 --> 00:00:25,824 - Mind your business. 12 00:00:25,893 --> 00:00:28,293 - Love for my family! 13 00:00:28,362 --> 00:00:29,762 - I'm literally having a panic attack. 14 00:00:29,830 --> 00:00:30,763 - OK, breathe. 15 00:00:30,831 --> 00:00:32,031 - I don't find it encouraging. 16 00:00:32,099 --> 00:00:34,066 I find it to be peer pressure. 17 00:00:34,135 --> 00:00:36,535 [screaming] 18 00:00:36,604 --> 00:00:39,471 - The reunion has literally just begun. 19 00:00:39,540 --> 00:00:40,706 [upbeat music] 20 00:00:40,775 --> 00:00:41,774 - Hey, girls. 21 00:00:41,842 --> 00:00:43,142 Hi. 22 00:00:43,210 --> 00:00:44,343 - Surprise, bitches. 23 00:00:44,412 --> 00:00:46,645 "Young and Pregnant" is here. 24 00:00:46,714 --> 00:00:48,781 - You can feel the negative energy 25 00:00:48,849 --> 00:00:50,783 coming from Kiaya and Ashley. 26 00:00:50,851 --> 00:00:52,918 - I'm not that fond of Ashley. 27 00:00:52,987 --> 00:00:54,319 - I'm going to do me. 28 00:00:54,388 --> 00:00:56,055 And if she wants to do me, we can do us. 29 00:00:56,123 --> 00:00:57,289 And if not, she could stay away. 30 00:00:57,358 --> 00:00:59,024 [dramatic music] 31 00:01:13,574 --> 00:01:15,974 - ♪ Got to let you know ♪ 32 00:01:16,043 --> 00:01:17,409 ♪ ♪ 33 00:01:17,478 --> 00:01:19,945 ♪ All about it ♪ 34 00:01:20,014 --> 00:01:23,682 - Day two, we're sharing rooms with our moms. 35 00:01:23,751 --> 00:01:25,717 I'm really excited that my mom is here. 36 00:01:25,786 --> 00:01:28,053 I'm hoping maybe that we can kind of see 37 00:01:28,122 --> 00:01:29,955 what things could be opened up and maybe, like, healed. 38 00:01:30,024 --> 00:01:32,057 But also, I'm kind of nervous at the same time 39 00:01:32,126 --> 00:01:33,392 because my mom can be unpredictable. 40 00:01:33,461 --> 00:01:34,660 It's one of my triggers. 41 00:01:34,728 --> 00:01:36,361 ♪ ♪ 42 00:01:36,430 --> 00:01:37,930 - Day one was a lot. 43 00:01:37,998 --> 00:01:39,698 It's like we were on 100. 44 00:01:39,767 --> 00:01:42,768 I need day two to be at, like, a level 30. 45 00:01:42,837 --> 00:01:44,536 I don't want to jump off anything. 46 00:01:44,605 --> 00:01:45,871 I don't want to be in the dirt. 47 00:01:45,940 --> 00:01:47,372 I don't want to see any animals. 48 00:01:47,441 --> 00:01:48,874 I don't care about the trees. 49 00:01:48,943 --> 00:01:51,543 Like, just sit me somewhere with a nice drink, 50 00:01:51,612 --> 00:01:53,045 and I'll be happy. 51 00:01:53,114 --> 00:01:54,646 ♪ ♪ 52 00:01:54,715 --> 00:01:56,515 - [snoring] 53 00:01:56,584 --> 00:01:58,417 [alarm ringing] 54 00:01:59,954 --> 00:02:02,354 - I didn't get a lot of sleep last night. 55 00:02:02,423 --> 00:02:05,023 It's very hard to share a room with your mom. 56 00:02:05,092 --> 00:02:06,692 My mom has sleep apnea. 57 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:08,193 She'll be snoring all night. 58 00:02:08,262 --> 00:02:10,529 - [snoring] 59 00:02:10,598 --> 00:02:12,631 Love my mom. Love her to death. 60 00:02:12,700 --> 00:02:14,066 Want to sleep separate. 61 00:02:14,135 --> 00:02:16,034 - ♪ The good, good news ♪ 62 00:02:16,103 --> 00:02:18,270 - I just wake up extremely nauseous. 63 00:02:18,339 --> 00:02:22,241 But now that I'm up, I'm extremely hungry. 64 00:02:22,309 --> 00:02:25,043 ♪ Boom boom, baby ♪ 65 00:02:25,112 --> 00:02:30,682 ♪ ♪ 66 00:02:30,751 --> 00:02:32,417 - Good morning. - Good morning. 67 00:02:32,486 --> 00:02:33,819 How are you? - Good. 68 00:02:33,888 --> 00:02:35,587 There's food over there. - Fire. Fire. 69 00:02:35,656 --> 00:02:36,989 The weather's beautiful. 70 00:02:37,057 --> 00:02:38,323 My friends are here. 71 00:02:38,392 --> 00:02:41,293 And I just can't wait to have a great time with them. 72 00:02:41,362 --> 00:02:42,961 I'm tired as a mother[bleep]. 73 00:02:43,030 --> 00:02:45,864 But Ashley and Tea are in the kitchen 74 00:02:45,933 --> 00:02:47,366 when I walk into the house. 75 00:02:47,434 --> 00:02:48,967 I'm going to keep my distance. 76 00:02:49,036 --> 00:02:51,069 - Mom, do you want some scrambled eggs? 77 00:02:51,138 --> 00:02:52,371 - Sure. 78 00:02:55,809 --> 00:02:57,609 [tense music] 79 00:02:57,678 --> 00:02:59,378 - Tea tried to say good morning to me, 80 00:02:59,446 --> 00:03:00,846 but I didn't say anything back. 81 00:03:00,915 --> 00:03:02,281 There's no reason to. 82 00:03:02,349 --> 00:03:03,715 I don't want to talk to them. 83 00:03:03,784 --> 00:03:07,286 I know the type of people that they are, fake as [bleep]. 84 00:03:07,354 --> 00:03:10,255 [intense music] 85 00:03:10,324 --> 00:03:12,291 - Hey, Maci. 86 00:03:12,359 --> 00:03:15,961 - So Roxanne ignores me, and I'm just like, OK. 87 00:03:16,030 --> 00:03:18,764 Hi, Maci, since you don't want to talk to me. 88 00:03:18,832 --> 00:03:20,999 - I don't like looking at Ashley or Tea. 89 00:03:21,068 --> 00:03:22,434 I see right through them. 90 00:03:22,503 --> 00:03:24,836 They've done a lot of damage on social media. 91 00:03:24,905 --> 00:03:27,439 - Roxy and Bri don't really talk to Tea and Ashley. 92 00:03:27,508 --> 00:03:30,275 And Tea and Ashley don't really talk to them. 93 00:03:30,344 --> 00:03:32,010 And I'm like, damn, guys, we're starting 94 00:03:32,079 --> 00:03:34,513 the day off like this? 95 00:03:35,349 --> 00:03:38,417 - Waking up here today in Oregon was good. 96 00:03:38,485 --> 00:03:41,853 I'm super, super excited to be here with Kayla. 97 00:03:41,922 --> 00:03:43,655 We're just really ready to enjoy 98 00:03:43,724 --> 00:03:45,991 the experience with everybody and get to know everybody. 99 00:03:46,060 --> 00:03:47,326 - Good morning. 100 00:03:47,394 --> 00:03:48,994 - Hi. 101 00:03:49,063 --> 00:03:51,330 - How are y'all? - Good morning, everybody. 102 00:03:51,398 --> 00:03:53,599 Kiaya and Kayla are finally here. 103 00:03:53,667 --> 00:03:55,801 And I'm super excited to get to know them more 104 00:03:55,869 --> 00:03:58,537 and build bonds with everybody. 105 00:03:58,606 --> 00:04:00,305 - I feel like for, like, a week, 106 00:04:00,374 --> 00:04:01,773 I'm just going to walk around like, hey, 107 00:04:01,842 --> 00:04:03,242 I jumped off a bridge. How are you? 108 00:04:03,310 --> 00:04:04,643 [laughter] 109 00:04:04,712 --> 00:04:07,512 Have you jumped off a bridge? Because I have. 110 00:04:07,581 --> 00:04:09,881 - ♪ I just want to go out ♪ 111 00:04:09,950 --> 00:04:12,517 ♪ I just wanna stay out ♪ 112 00:04:12,586 --> 00:04:14,052 ♪ I just want to be out ♪ 113 00:04:14,121 --> 00:04:15,287 - Good morning. 114 00:04:15,356 --> 00:04:16,788 - I ate two plates [indistinct]. 115 00:04:18,292 --> 00:04:19,524 - I'm not a morning person. 116 00:04:19,593 --> 00:04:21,994 - Neither am I. [indistinct chatter] 117 00:04:22,062 --> 00:04:23,595 I got my daughter at school. 118 00:04:23,664 --> 00:04:24,596 I'm like, you hungry? 119 00:04:24,665 --> 00:04:25,764 Go get yourself a little snack. 120 00:04:25,833 --> 00:04:27,699 [laughter] 121 00:04:27,768 --> 00:04:29,968 - I am excited to, like, get to meet the girls 122 00:04:30,037 --> 00:04:32,004 and get to know them better. 123 00:04:32,072 --> 00:04:34,373 I think they could be good role models in certain things 124 00:04:34,441 --> 00:04:35,474 and have some good advice. 125 00:04:38,512 --> 00:04:39,845 - Yeah, he has the kids. 126 00:04:39,913 --> 00:04:42,914 - I don't really know much about Kayla or her mom. 127 00:04:42,983 --> 00:04:46,418 I've seen stuff online, but this will be an opportunity 128 00:04:46,487 --> 00:04:48,320 to really connect and bond. 129 00:04:48,389 --> 00:04:49,655 Are you living together? 130 00:04:49,723 --> 00:04:52,224 - Yeah. - How's that? 131 00:04:52,293 --> 00:04:53,558 - It's awkward. 132 00:04:53,627 --> 00:04:56,595 So I met Luke when we were both going to college. 133 00:04:56,664 --> 00:04:59,231 We had moved in together in October. 134 00:04:59,300 --> 00:05:01,233 And I got pregnant, like, end of November. 135 00:05:01,302 --> 00:05:04,202 Like, I feel like he proposed, like, to save the relationship 136 00:05:04,271 --> 00:05:07,472 instead of like, oh, we're at part in our relationship 137 00:05:07,541 --> 00:05:08,874 we should get married. 138 00:05:08,942 --> 00:05:11,076 Luke and I were previously engaged. 139 00:05:11,145 --> 00:05:13,812 And then I ended up calling off the engagement. 140 00:05:13,881 --> 00:05:16,848 So right now, currently, we're technically not together, 141 00:05:16,917 --> 00:05:19,885 but we live together at my mom's house 142 00:05:19,953 --> 00:05:22,554 as, like, co-parenting partners. 143 00:05:22,623 --> 00:05:24,923 So that can be pretty messy. 144 00:05:24,992 --> 00:05:26,658 Like, the lines right now are kind of blurry. 145 00:05:26,727 --> 00:05:27,993 You know what I mean? So-- 146 00:05:28,062 --> 00:05:30,262 - It's weird as [bleep]. 147 00:05:30,331 --> 00:05:31,496 - Really? 148 00:05:31,565 --> 00:05:32,798 - They act like a couple. 149 00:05:32,866 --> 00:05:34,499 - No, we don't. We don't hook up. 150 00:05:34,568 --> 00:05:35,801 We're not intimate. 151 00:05:35,869 --> 00:05:37,069 So to me, that's not acting like a couple. 152 00:05:37,137 --> 00:05:38,570 - But I don't know what the hell they're doing 153 00:05:38,639 --> 00:05:40,672 in their bed because they sleep in the same room. 154 00:05:40,741 --> 00:05:42,107 - We have the kids in the room. 155 00:05:42,176 --> 00:05:44,076 Where are we supposed to go? 156 00:05:44,144 --> 00:05:46,945 - But It's just like, they do everything together. 157 00:05:47,014 --> 00:05:49,781 I don't know if they're the best for each other 158 00:05:49,850 --> 00:05:51,717 as a couple, at least right now. 159 00:05:51,785 --> 00:05:53,118 What's going on? 160 00:05:53,187 --> 00:05:55,420 - Well, the past year of our relationship 161 00:05:55,489 --> 00:05:57,022 has not been good. 162 00:05:57,091 --> 00:06:01,093 I told him I needed him to do a few things, you know? 163 00:06:01,161 --> 00:06:02,694 Either start going to the gym 164 00:06:02,763 --> 00:06:04,329 or taking care of his mental health. 165 00:06:04,398 --> 00:06:05,897 And he didn't try. 166 00:06:05,966 --> 00:06:08,533 Like, I just don't understand. 167 00:06:08,602 --> 00:06:10,602 Like, I asked for the most basic, 168 00:06:10,671 --> 00:06:12,804 and he couldn't even do it. 169 00:06:12,873 --> 00:06:15,073 - And I thought the turning point was when you got engaged 170 00:06:15,142 --> 00:06:17,743 and he was going to get his act together. 171 00:06:17,811 --> 00:06:20,345 And obviously, that didn't happen. 172 00:06:20,414 --> 00:06:23,115 I think they both need some work 173 00:06:23,183 --> 00:06:24,983 if they're going to work it out. 174 00:06:28,455 --> 00:06:30,689 - I think we need to, like, draw the line in the sand, 175 00:06:30,758 --> 00:06:32,657 whether we like decide to stay together 176 00:06:32,726 --> 00:06:34,192 and make it work or be like, hey, 177 00:06:34,261 --> 00:06:36,161 we're better off as friends and co-parents. 178 00:06:36,230 --> 00:06:38,263 During this trip, I think I just really want 179 00:06:38,332 --> 00:06:39,831 to get some clarity going back home like, 180 00:06:39,900 --> 00:06:41,500 look, we can't keep living together, 181 00:06:41,568 --> 00:06:42,868 but we're not "really together." 182 00:06:42,936 --> 00:06:44,836 Like, either we need to decide we want 183 00:06:44,905 --> 00:06:46,938 to be together and work on these issues, 184 00:06:47,007 --> 00:06:48,673 or we need to call it quits. 185 00:06:49,910 --> 00:06:52,911 [phone ringing] 186 00:06:55,883 --> 00:06:57,182 - Hello? 187 00:06:57,251 --> 00:06:59,251 - You are receiving a call from an inmate 188 00:06:59,319 --> 00:07:00,852 at Henderson Detention Center. 189 00:07:00,921 --> 00:07:04,189 - Bar calls me every day multiple times a day 190 00:07:04,258 --> 00:07:06,158 from jail. 191 00:07:06,226 --> 00:07:07,492 He's just being held. 192 00:07:07,561 --> 00:07:09,027 Like, he's not even being charged. 193 00:07:09,096 --> 00:07:10,562 This is a case that he's been handling, 194 00:07:10,631 --> 00:07:13,465 but he missed a court date in California 195 00:07:13,534 --> 00:07:15,867 because we moved to Nevada. 196 00:07:15,936 --> 00:07:17,669 So once they realized that they know where he is, 197 00:07:17,738 --> 00:07:18,870 he's going to show up. 198 00:07:18,939 --> 00:07:19,905 They're going to release him. 199 00:07:19,973 --> 00:07:21,072 It's going to be fine. 200 00:07:26,246 --> 00:07:27,712 - What? 201 00:07:31,452 --> 00:07:34,085 - [crying] 202 00:07:39,126 --> 00:07:40,625 Yeah. 203 00:07:40,694 --> 00:07:42,861 - I'm not really sure what's going on. 204 00:07:42,930 --> 00:07:44,229 But her mom's with her. 205 00:07:44,298 --> 00:07:46,398 And I hope she's all right. 206 00:07:46,467 --> 00:07:48,033 - Well, that sucks. 207 00:07:48,101 --> 00:07:49,568 [crying] 208 00:07:49,636 --> 00:07:50,902 OK. 209 00:07:50,971 --> 00:07:53,905 [tense music] 210 00:07:53,974 --> 00:07:55,273 OK. 211 00:07:55,342 --> 00:07:56,942 - What did he say? 212 00:08:00,881 --> 00:08:04,449 He is being extradited, 213 00:08:04,518 --> 00:08:07,919 which means that California 214 00:08:07,988 --> 00:08:10,422 has decided to come and pick him up 215 00:08:10,491 --> 00:08:13,925 and make him fight the case from a California jail. 216 00:08:13,994 --> 00:08:16,595 It's just much more time not seeing him. 217 00:08:16,663 --> 00:08:18,129 [sobbing] 218 00:08:18,198 --> 00:08:21,566 This case actually does hold a lot of weight. 219 00:08:21,635 --> 00:08:25,070 And if he can't fight it from home 220 00:08:25,138 --> 00:08:29,140 and he fights it from jail, and then he also gets time. 221 00:08:40,487 --> 00:08:42,787 It's a lot going on with Ashley right now. 222 00:08:42,856 --> 00:08:44,589 And she shouldn't have to deal with this. 223 00:08:44,658 --> 00:08:45,991 Bar is not here. 224 00:08:46,059 --> 00:08:48,793 And her plate is really overwhelmed. 225 00:08:48,862 --> 00:08:54,132 ♪ ♪ 226 00:08:54,201 --> 00:08:57,769 And this couldn't have come at the worst timing, 227 00:08:57,838 --> 00:08:59,404 the worst timing. 228 00:09:01,808 --> 00:09:03,642 [dramatic music] 229 00:09:09,216 --> 00:09:11,182 - Want me to come in there and help? 230 00:09:11,251 --> 00:09:13,418 - Hearing that Bar is going to be extradited 231 00:09:13,487 --> 00:09:17,122 makes me feel scared, very scared. 232 00:09:17,991 --> 00:09:20,158 He's facing a lot of jail time. 233 00:09:20,227 --> 00:09:22,394 [interposing voices] 234 00:09:25,899 --> 00:09:27,332 - This is, like, the worst news that 235 00:09:27,401 --> 00:09:30,101 I could be getting while I'm away. 236 00:09:30,170 --> 00:09:31,937 Ugh. 237 00:09:32,005 --> 00:09:33,138 Oh, [bleep]. 238 00:09:34,274 --> 00:09:35,407 - Yeah. 239 00:09:35,475 --> 00:09:37,175 I just-- I'm so depleted. 240 00:09:37,244 --> 00:09:39,778 I like some of the people here, but I don't want any of them 241 00:09:39,846 --> 00:09:40,912 in my business. 242 00:09:40,981 --> 00:09:42,314 I just need a break. 243 00:09:43,283 --> 00:09:44,716 [interposing voices] 244 00:09:44,785 --> 00:09:45,951 Roxanne's going to keep trying me, 245 00:09:46,019 --> 00:09:47,018 and I'm going to push that [bleep] 246 00:09:47,087 --> 00:09:48,286 down there on the ground. 247 00:09:48,355 --> 00:09:49,721 - [inaudible] 248 00:09:49,790 --> 00:09:51,022 - Every time she walk past me, she walked 249 00:09:51,091 --> 00:09:52,757 past me this morning so close. I didn't move. 250 00:09:52,826 --> 00:09:54,292 I bumped right into that [bleep]. 251 00:09:54,361 --> 00:09:56,261 She's playing too many mother[bleep] games, [bleep]. 252 00:09:56,330 --> 00:09:58,096 Stay the mother[bleep] away from me. 253 00:09:58,165 --> 00:09:59,931 I would rather just sleep and then 254 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:02,200 show up when my mood and my energy 255 00:10:02,269 --> 00:10:04,202 and my vibe is much better. 256 00:10:05,505 --> 00:10:06,972 - ♪ Hey, what you need? ♪ 257 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:09,274 ♪ 'Cause there ain't nothing that I can't do ♪ 258 00:10:09,343 --> 00:10:10,942 ♪ Car low on grease? ♪ 259 00:10:11,011 --> 00:10:13,244 ♪ I'll get that engine running real smooth ♪ 260 00:10:13,313 --> 00:10:14,446 - It's pretty, right? 261 00:10:14,514 --> 00:10:16,081 - Yeah, this place is beautiful. 262 00:10:16,149 --> 00:10:17,816 - I wanna play golf. 263 00:10:17,884 --> 00:10:20,251 - I need me a rich man in my life. 264 00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:24,456 ♪ ♪ 265 00:10:24,524 --> 00:10:25,890 - It's kind of chilly out here. 266 00:10:25,959 --> 00:10:26,992 - A little bit. 267 00:10:27,060 --> 00:10:28,159 But we can sit in the sun though. 268 00:10:28,228 --> 00:10:29,127 - Yeah. 269 00:10:29,196 --> 00:10:30,729 - So what's been going on? 270 00:10:30,797 --> 00:10:35,400 I feel like there's some tension or something going on. 271 00:10:35,469 --> 00:10:36,935 - Between? 272 00:10:38,038 --> 00:10:40,071 - Like, with Ashley and stuff. 273 00:10:41,508 --> 00:10:44,976 - We got into, like, a social media-- 274 00:10:45,045 --> 00:10:47,078 it was really bull[bleep], honestly. 275 00:10:47,147 --> 00:10:49,948 I had started a business, and she has started a business. 276 00:10:50,017 --> 00:10:54,686 It came out that she was copying my business ideas 277 00:10:54,755 --> 00:10:56,287 or whatever the case may be. 278 00:10:56,356 --> 00:10:58,156 She gets on Instagram, and she makes 279 00:10:58,225 --> 00:11:01,126 this whole post about how she doesn't have to steal 280 00:11:01,194 --> 00:11:03,328 anyone business ideas. 281 00:11:03,397 --> 00:11:07,432 And she just was throwing, like, low blows in there, 282 00:11:07,501 --> 00:11:09,768 things that I knew had to do with me 283 00:11:09,836 --> 00:11:11,603 without her having to say it. 284 00:11:11,672 --> 00:11:15,006 When I confronted her and asked her if it was about me, 285 00:11:15,075 --> 00:11:19,044 she goes, no, but if the shoe fits, wear it. 286 00:11:19,112 --> 00:11:20,745 That pissed me off because-- 287 00:11:20,814 --> 00:11:22,313 - Rightfully so, yeah. 288 00:11:22,382 --> 00:11:24,349 - --because if it's not about me, then leave it at that. 289 00:11:24,418 --> 00:11:27,152 She just kept coming at me, like, in the DM. 290 00:11:27,220 --> 00:11:30,522 So you know, I'm going to talk my [bleep] back. 291 00:11:30,590 --> 00:11:31,823 Who the--I did not [bleep] 292 00:11:31,892 --> 00:11:33,324 say [bleep] about you stealing [bleep] from me. 293 00:11:33,393 --> 00:11:34,659 When somebody asked me that [bleep], 294 00:11:34,728 --> 00:11:36,127 I said, that's her business. 295 00:11:36,196 --> 00:11:37,962 If she wants to sell eyelashes, let her [bleep] do that. 296 00:11:38,031 --> 00:11:39,197 If she wants to start a business, 297 00:11:39,266 --> 00:11:40,565 let her [bleep] do that. 298 00:11:40,634 --> 00:11:42,200 I just feel like she picks on certain people. 299 00:11:42,269 --> 00:11:44,035 - Yeah. - And that's not OK. 300 00:11:44,104 --> 00:11:48,473 And then I think my mom and Tea's situation 301 00:11:48,542 --> 00:11:50,975 just kind of made me further just not 302 00:11:51,044 --> 00:11:52,410 want anything to do with them. 303 00:11:52,479 --> 00:11:54,079 - So they have a situation going too then? 304 00:11:54,147 --> 00:11:56,347 - Yeah, because Tea's big grown ass 305 00:11:56,416 --> 00:11:59,217 decided to get on social media and talk [bleep] about me. 306 00:11:59,286 --> 00:12:02,687 I just don't think that they are genuine people. 307 00:12:02,756 --> 00:12:04,255 - So they're kind of the same. Like, they kind of-- 308 00:12:04,324 --> 00:12:06,391 - Yeah, Tea's just an old version of her. 309 00:12:06,460 --> 00:12:09,060 - What I'm hearing from Kiaya and a lot of the other girls, 310 00:12:09,129 --> 00:12:11,996 I don't know if Ashley can't just talk to people 311 00:12:12,065 --> 00:12:15,500 or if she just feels protected by the screen 312 00:12:15,569 --> 00:12:17,702 that she can go behind people and talk about them. 313 00:12:17,771 --> 00:12:20,171 But I always give everybody the benefit of the doubt. 314 00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:22,841 We should all be able to be a [bleep] group of people that 315 00:12:22,909 --> 00:12:25,410 support each other because at the end of the day, 316 00:12:25,479 --> 00:12:27,512 like, even some of our close friends 317 00:12:27,581 --> 00:12:28,780 can't relate to what we go through. 318 00:12:28,849 --> 00:12:30,181 - Yeah. 319 00:12:30,250 --> 00:12:31,883 I really appreciate Cate pulling me to the side 320 00:12:31,952 --> 00:12:33,685 because I really want to get to know her. 321 00:12:33,754 --> 00:12:37,222 So it's really nice to see some effort from the moms 322 00:12:37,290 --> 00:12:38,857 to just make me feel included. 323 00:12:38,925 --> 00:12:40,592 - I'm excited to get to know you even more. 324 00:12:40,660 --> 00:12:42,026 - Thank you. 325 00:12:42,095 --> 00:12:43,728 I'm excited to get to know all of y'all and have fun. 326 00:12:43,797 --> 00:12:44,863 - Right? 327 00:12:44,931 --> 00:12:46,064 That's what it's supposed to be about. 328 00:12:46,133 --> 00:12:47,899 [bleep] the drama. 329 00:12:48,869 --> 00:12:50,802 - ♪ One, two, three times in a row ♪ 330 00:12:50,871 --> 00:12:53,571 ♪ You gotta switch it up ♪ 331 00:12:53,640 --> 00:12:54,806 ♪ ♪ 332 00:12:54,875 --> 00:12:55,874 - Oh, yeah. 333 00:12:55,942 --> 00:12:57,475 Don't mind if I do. 334 00:12:57,544 --> 00:13:00,278 - After a crazy first day, I think it's great that we could 335 00:13:00,347 --> 00:13:01,379 just hang out by the pool. 336 00:13:01,448 --> 00:13:03,281 But it's hot as hell in Oregon. 337 00:13:03,350 --> 00:13:04,549 I want a piña colada. 338 00:13:04,618 --> 00:13:06,117 - We can't order [inaudible]? 339 00:13:06,186 --> 00:13:08,253 - This is just so me right now. 340 00:13:08,321 --> 00:13:10,955 I'm in my element, and I'm in the [bleep] zone. 341 00:13:11,024 --> 00:13:13,291 - ♪ You can't believe your eyes ♪ 342 00:13:13,360 --> 00:13:16,094 - I have teen pregnancy in my family. 343 00:13:16,163 --> 00:13:17,428 [interposing voices] 344 00:13:17,497 --> 00:13:19,297 - My grandmother was a teen. 345 00:13:19,366 --> 00:13:21,266 My dad was a product of a teen pregnancy. 346 00:13:21,334 --> 00:13:23,701 - Back in the day, they were all [bleep] teens. 347 00:13:23,770 --> 00:13:25,503 - Yeah, getting married at 12. 348 00:13:25,572 --> 00:13:26,771 - 12 years old with a 40-year-old. 349 00:13:26,840 --> 00:13:28,373 - Yeah. - [bleep] pervs. 350 00:13:29,309 --> 00:13:31,109 - I still can't believe that I jumped off a [bleep] bridge. 351 00:13:31,178 --> 00:13:32,510 - Oh, my God. 352 00:13:32,579 --> 00:13:34,078 Cate, you gave me a freaking anxiety attack. 353 00:13:34,147 --> 00:13:36,080 And them people, I know they're-- they're doing 354 00:13:36,149 --> 00:13:37,382 what they do and everything. 355 00:13:37,450 --> 00:13:38,783 But I just was like-- because I'm your mom. 356 00:13:38,852 --> 00:13:39,918 - Yeah. 357 00:13:39,986 --> 00:13:41,119 - So I was like, get away from my kid! 358 00:13:41,188 --> 00:13:42,253 She said no. - Right. 359 00:13:42,322 --> 00:13:43,488 - Don't you know what no means? 360 00:13:43,557 --> 00:13:45,123 I felt like, quit pressuring her. 361 00:13:45,192 --> 00:13:46,958 When someone says no, that means no. 362 00:13:47,027 --> 00:13:48,326 - I want you to, like-- 363 00:13:48,395 --> 00:13:50,094 I don't know give, Coach B a chance. 364 00:13:50,163 --> 00:13:52,697 She does seem very, like, sincere. 365 00:13:52,766 --> 00:13:54,999 You know, I'm really excited that my mom is here. 366 00:13:55,068 --> 00:13:57,202 I'm hoping maybe that I can, like, break her out 367 00:13:57,270 --> 00:13:59,237 of her comfort zone in some aspects, 368 00:13:59,306 --> 00:14:01,339 like, maybe do different things that she never 369 00:14:01,408 --> 00:14:02,507 thought she would ever do. 370 00:14:02,576 --> 00:14:04,275 I, like, want her to just open up. 371 00:14:04,344 --> 00:14:06,044 I feel like there might be things that she might open 372 00:14:06,112 --> 00:14:07,478 our eyes up to where it's like, all [bleep]-- 373 00:14:07,547 --> 00:14:09,013 - Oh, I-- I'm open, but you know, 374 00:14:09,082 --> 00:14:10,281 like, I don't want to cry. 375 00:14:10,350 --> 00:14:12,317 I know Caitlin's really big on therapy. 376 00:14:12,385 --> 00:14:14,786 I'm just worried that Coach B is going 377 00:14:14,855 --> 00:14:17,255 to portray me as a bad mom. 378 00:14:17,324 --> 00:14:18,890 - You automatically go to anger because I 379 00:14:18,959 --> 00:14:20,959 think that's what you had to do growing up as a kid. 380 00:14:21,027 --> 00:14:23,061 I think it comes from, like, your childhood. 381 00:14:23,129 --> 00:14:25,129 Like, were you not able to express feelings 382 00:14:25,198 --> 00:14:27,398 and emotions maybe or were you afraid to? 383 00:14:27,467 --> 00:14:28,700 - Both. 384 00:14:28,768 --> 00:14:31,870 Like, I remember as a kid going to hug my mom 385 00:14:31,938 --> 00:14:33,671 and my mom pushing me away. Like-- 386 00:14:33,740 --> 00:14:35,139 - And that's [bleep] sad. 387 00:14:35,208 --> 00:14:36,841 - I remember feeling like my mom didn't love me. 388 00:14:36,910 --> 00:14:38,343 - Right. Well, of course, 389 00:14:38,411 --> 00:14:39,878 because that's what she was showing you in those times. 390 00:14:39,946 --> 00:14:41,312 My mom is definitely the type of person 391 00:14:41,381 --> 00:14:44,349 that will hold in her feelings and her emotions. 392 00:14:44,417 --> 00:14:46,184 They end up coming out in, like, anger. 393 00:14:46,253 --> 00:14:49,087 I am really hoping that my mom can kind of 394 00:14:49,155 --> 00:14:50,855 learn some new things here. 395 00:14:50,924 --> 00:14:53,124 She should definitely give Coach B a chance. 396 00:14:55,495 --> 00:14:56,527 And I like it. 397 00:14:56,596 --> 00:14:57,762 I'm glad I did it. 398 00:14:57,831 --> 00:14:59,330 I'm glad because a lot of people talk-- 399 00:14:59,399 --> 00:15:01,699 say, like, the implants, like, oh, so round and-- 400 00:15:01,768 --> 00:15:03,368 but I-- I was glad I didn't. 401 00:15:03,436 --> 00:15:04,903 - Yeah, they're so soft. - I didn't do it. 402 00:15:04,971 --> 00:15:06,404 - They're squishy, though. [interposing voices] 403 00:15:06,473 --> 00:15:07,772 - They are squishy, right? - Yeah. 404 00:15:07,841 --> 00:15:09,107 - I don't want no titties. 405 00:15:09,175 --> 00:15:10,208 Cut them off. 406 00:15:10,277 --> 00:15:11,209 - You want to take them out? 407 00:15:11,278 --> 00:15:12,377 - I'm taking them out. 408 00:15:12,445 --> 00:15:13,578 I hit them up already. 409 00:15:13,647 --> 00:15:14,946 I want nothing. 410 00:15:15,015 --> 00:15:16,581 - Bri says that she wants to get 411 00:15:16,650 --> 00:15:18,549 her breast implants taken out. 412 00:15:18,618 --> 00:15:21,586 And all I'm thinking is why? 413 00:15:21,655 --> 00:15:23,087 - I don't want to be a big girl. 414 00:15:23,156 --> 00:15:24,923 - Your boobs look fine, I feel like. 415 00:15:24,991 --> 00:15:26,391 - Hi, ladies. 416 00:15:26,459 --> 00:15:27,725 Hi. 417 00:15:28,929 --> 00:15:30,428 - As I see Coach B come out, 418 00:15:30,497 --> 00:15:31,963 I'm getting a little bit anxious. 419 00:15:32,032 --> 00:15:33,298 [interposing voices] 420 00:15:33,366 --> 00:15:34,799 - I need a piña colada. 421 00:15:34,868 --> 00:15:36,734 - Oh, [bleep]. 422 00:15:36,803 --> 00:15:38,469 - Hi. 423 00:15:38,538 --> 00:15:41,539 - I'm apprehensive because the last time I saw her, 424 00:15:41,608 --> 00:15:44,442 Briana jumped off that cliff. 425 00:15:44,511 --> 00:15:48,313 - I have another surprise team building exercise. 426 00:15:48,381 --> 00:15:50,615 [tense music] 427 00:15:50,684 --> 00:15:53,985 - It's about to go down. [laughs] 428 00:15:54,054 --> 00:15:56,554 ♪ ♪ 429 00:15:57,857 --> 00:16:00,558 [up-tempo music] 430 00:16:00,627 --> 00:16:02,293 - Hi. Hi. Hi. 431 00:16:02,362 --> 00:16:03,861 There's some new faces, right? 432 00:16:03,930 --> 00:16:04,862 - Hi. 433 00:16:04,931 --> 00:16:05,897 - I do have a question. 434 00:16:05,966 --> 00:16:07,131 Where's Ashley and her mom? 435 00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:09,367 - I guess Ashley wasn't feeling well. 436 00:16:10,270 --> 00:16:11,836 - We're hanging back from the pool today 437 00:16:11,905 --> 00:16:13,371 because Ashley's not feeling good. 438 00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:16,074 And even though I was dressed and ready to go, 439 00:16:16,142 --> 00:16:18,042 I couldn't just leave her because everyone's 440 00:16:18,111 --> 00:16:19,577 waiting for me at the pool. 441 00:16:19,646 --> 00:16:21,245 So I had to be a dud with my daughter. 442 00:16:22,782 --> 00:16:24,782 - I'm so excited not just to have the moms here, 443 00:16:24,851 --> 00:16:26,417 but I also got the grandmas here. 444 00:16:26,486 --> 00:16:28,019 - Call us glam-mas. 445 00:16:28,088 --> 00:16:29,387 - Glam-mas, OK. 446 00:16:29,456 --> 00:16:30,722 - We're glam-mas, you know? 447 00:16:30,790 --> 00:16:32,623 Because we're glamorous women. 448 00:16:32,692 --> 00:16:34,726 We're not old frumpy women. 449 00:16:35,528 --> 00:16:38,029 - I got the mama bears and the glam-mas here. 450 00:16:38,098 --> 00:16:39,397 Is that better? - Yeah. 451 00:16:39,466 --> 00:16:40,598 - OK? 452 00:16:40,667 --> 00:16:42,467 - This is my first time meeting Coach B. 453 00:16:42,535 --> 00:16:44,102 And my first impression is just immediately, 454 00:16:44,170 --> 00:16:47,205 like, her presence just makes you feel, like, at ease. 455 00:16:47,273 --> 00:16:49,907 - I am interested in talking to Coach B 456 00:16:49,976 --> 00:16:51,476 and looking for different ways to cope 457 00:16:51,544 --> 00:16:54,545 with things and different ways to, like, 458 00:16:54,614 --> 00:16:57,115 just handle my own emotions. 459 00:16:57,183 --> 00:16:59,283 - This reunion, we want to work on 460 00:16:59,352 --> 00:17:00,952 the intergenerational issues. 461 00:17:01,021 --> 00:17:03,755 - Intergener-- what? 462 00:17:03,823 --> 00:17:05,623 [laughs] 463 00:17:05,692 --> 00:17:08,159 - Issues that were there with mom, 464 00:17:08,228 --> 00:17:11,295 with dad, with family, things that happened in the past. 465 00:17:11,364 --> 00:17:13,765 - Intergenerational issues are basically 466 00:17:13,833 --> 00:17:17,368 when your ancestors, grandparents, whoever, 467 00:17:17,437 --> 00:17:22,673 passed down attributes or trauma. 468 00:17:22,742 --> 00:17:24,308 And our grandparents, or parents 469 00:17:24,377 --> 00:17:25,943 are still passing them down. 470 00:17:26,012 --> 00:17:27,945 - So with all that being said-- 471 00:17:28,014 --> 00:17:30,014 - What's the bomb you're going to drop? 472 00:17:30,083 --> 00:17:33,618 - I have another surprise teambuilding exercise. 473 00:17:33,686 --> 00:17:36,921 Get in something that you're OK with getting very dirty. 474 00:17:36,990 --> 00:17:38,456 - Very? - OK. 475 00:17:38,525 --> 00:17:39,957 - Very? 476 00:17:40,026 --> 00:17:42,160 I got no sneakers for that. 477 00:17:42,228 --> 00:17:43,728 - Fix your face. 478 00:17:43,797 --> 00:17:45,496 - Getting dirty, I can do that. 479 00:17:45,565 --> 00:17:49,333 But I am concerned for these other girls and their moms 480 00:17:49,402 --> 00:17:51,936 because I'm not sure some of them want to get dirty. 481 00:17:52,005 --> 00:17:53,504 - How dirty? 482 00:17:53,573 --> 00:17:55,640 - I'm super nervous and scared for this. 483 00:17:55,708 --> 00:17:59,277 I'm nervous about explaining certain things to my mom 484 00:17:59,345 --> 00:18:02,346 that I never have before and how she's going to take it. 485 00:18:02,415 --> 00:18:03,614 What is it going to be like? 486 00:18:03,683 --> 00:18:04,782 - You have 30 minutes. 487 00:18:04,851 --> 00:18:07,185 And I will see you ladies soon. 488 00:18:07,253 --> 00:18:09,887 - ♪ Every time I walk in, I'm the best thing ♪ 489 00:18:09,956 --> 00:18:11,956 ♪ I'm the best thing, they all watching ♪ 490 00:18:12,025 --> 00:18:13,324 ♪ Every time we walk in ♪ 491 00:18:13,393 --> 00:18:14,659 - Let's see what Tea's doing. 492 00:18:14,727 --> 00:18:16,794 I missed her at the damn pool. 493 00:18:16,863 --> 00:18:20,398 - So I know there has been some bad tension between Ashley 494 00:18:20,467 --> 00:18:21,799 and the other moms. 495 00:18:21,868 --> 00:18:24,001 But I'm, like, a very neutral person, 496 00:18:24,070 --> 00:18:25,636 so I'm going to check on Ashley and Tea 497 00:18:25,705 --> 00:18:27,405 because I feel like they really should 498 00:18:27,474 --> 00:18:29,774 be involved in the things that we are doing. 499 00:18:31,344 --> 00:18:33,077 - Mama Tea. 500 00:18:33,146 --> 00:18:37,782 - I'm sleeping, and all I hear is "Mama Tea!" 501 00:18:37,851 --> 00:18:39,984 - Mama Tea. 502 00:18:40,053 --> 00:18:42,553 - "Mama Tea!" 503 00:18:42,622 --> 00:18:44,355 - Are you OK? - Yeah. 504 00:18:44,424 --> 00:18:47,325 - I'm just trying to avoid overexerting myself 505 00:18:47,393 --> 00:18:49,327 because I had a rough morning. 506 00:18:49,395 --> 00:18:51,929 I have a lot going on, and I'm just-- 507 00:18:51,998 --> 00:18:56,167 I-- I genuinely, truly truthfully cannot process 508 00:18:56,236 --> 00:18:58,236 it here with these people. 509 00:18:58,304 --> 00:18:59,704 - Get up, Mama. 510 00:18:59,772 --> 00:19:01,472 Where were you? 511 00:19:01,541 --> 00:19:03,341 - You said you were going to swim with me. 512 00:19:03,409 --> 00:19:05,710 - Yeah, were waiting for you at the pool, Mama Tea. 513 00:19:05,778 --> 00:19:07,745 - So what are we doing now? 514 00:19:07,814 --> 00:19:09,046 What are we doing? 515 00:19:09,115 --> 00:19:10,748 - I guess, some teambuilding exercise. 516 00:19:11,784 --> 00:19:12,717 - OK. 517 00:19:12,785 --> 00:19:14,218 - If you guys want to come. 518 00:19:14,287 --> 00:19:16,220 ♪ ♪ 519 00:19:16,289 --> 00:19:18,623 - I don't know if that's the news I need just waking up. 520 00:19:18,691 --> 00:19:21,225 However, I do love April, and I do love Cate, 521 00:19:21,294 --> 00:19:24,128 so I'm going to get ready, and I'm going to show up. 522 00:19:24,197 --> 00:19:25,429 - All right, girls. 523 00:19:25,498 --> 00:19:26,864 I'm super excited that they're coming. 524 00:19:26,933 --> 00:19:29,567 I don't want none of the tensions that are happening 525 00:19:29,636 --> 00:19:32,403 stop people from working on some of the things 526 00:19:32,472 --> 00:19:34,138 that we need to work on while we're here. 527 00:19:34,207 --> 00:19:37,775 - ♪ It's all about the ride ♪ 528 00:19:37,844 --> 00:19:39,677 ♪ So watch me hit my stride ♪ 529 00:19:39,746 --> 00:19:42,914 ♪ I do it every single time ♪ 530 00:19:42,982 --> 00:19:44,549 - What is this? 531 00:19:44,617 --> 00:19:45,850 - Uh-oh. 532 00:19:47,020 --> 00:19:48,152 - Watch your step. 533 00:19:48,221 --> 00:19:49,387 [interposing voices] 534 00:19:49,455 --> 00:19:51,422 - Oh, my God. 535 00:19:51,491 --> 00:19:54,392 - We walk up this little trail, and boom. 536 00:19:54,460 --> 00:19:56,794 [dramatic music] 537 00:19:56,863 --> 00:19:58,062 ♪ ♪ 538 00:19:58,131 --> 00:19:59,330 A mud pit. 539 00:19:59,399 --> 00:20:01,465 [laughs] 540 00:20:01,534 --> 00:20:03,134 [interposing voices] 541 00:20:03,203 --> 00:20:05,136 - Are we some [bleep] pigs? 542 00:20:05,205 --> 00:20:06,604 This is mud. 543 00:20:06,673 --> 00:20:10,141 I don't want to roll around in the mud. 544 00:20:10,210 --> 00:20:11,442 - It look nasty. 545 00:20:11,511 --> 00:20:13,377 - That looks like it's deep. 546 00:20:13,446 --> 00:20:14,812 - Cheyenne, you can get in there, 547 00:20:14,881 --> 00:20:16,614 but I'm not getting in that mud. 548 00:20:16,683 --> 00:20:18,916 ♪ ♪ 549 00:20:18,985 --> 00:20:22,019 - Today's all about the mother-daughter relationship. 550 00:20:22,088 --> 00:20:24,689 ♪ ♪ 551 00:20:24,757 --> 00:20:28,559 It's all tied into the intergenerational trauma 552 00:20:28,628 --> 00:20:31,529 and how to become unstuck from that. 553 00:20:31,598 --> 00:20:34,332 - I'm nervous and scared that it's going to bring up 554 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:36,667 some things that maybe are-- 555 00:20:36,736 --> 00:20:38,703 like, it's hard to talk about. 556 00:20:38,771 --> 00:20:40,605 But then again, part of me is like, 557 00:20:40,673 --> 00:20:42,773 you got to bring stuff to the surface 558 00:20:42,842 --> 00:20:44,442 in order to heal stuff. 559 00:20:44,510 --> 00:20:46,344 - And as you see, we have a mud pit here. 560 00:20:46,412 --> 00:20:49,780 We are going to have moms in the mud, 561 00:20:49,849 --> 00:20:52,116 glam-mas outside the mud. 562 00:20:52,185 --> 00:20:55,653 And we are going to identify an issue we see 563 00:20:55,722 --> 00:20:58,522 within yourself and your partner. 564 00:20:58,591 --> 00:21:00,424 The rope represents the relationship 565 00:21:00,493 --> 00:21:01,926 between mom and glam-ma. 566 00:21:01,995 --> 00:21:04,829 The mud represents your issues and your challenges. 567 00:21:04,897 --> 00:21:06,931 Once that issue is identified, 568 00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:09,100 you're going to use not only your strength, glam-ma, 569 00:21:09,168 --> 00:21:11,502 but also, your effective communication 570 00:21:11,571 --> 00:21:13,337 to pull your daughter out. 571 00:21:13,406 --> 00:21:15,139 Without effective communication, 572 00:21:15,208 --> 00:21:17,208 you can't get through and support one another 573 00:21:17,277 --> 00:21:18,876 in getting through your issues. 574 00:21:18,945 --> 00:21:22,713 The exercise is complete once you have gotten out 575 00:21:22,782 --> 00:21:25,149 of the mud pit onto the other side 576 00:21:25,218 --> 00:21:27,551 and you are unstuck from the mud. 577 00:21:27,620 --> 00:21:29,086 Who's going first? 578 00:21:30,390 --> 00:21:32,456 Ash and mom? Let's rock and roll. 579 00:21:32,525 --> 00:21:34,025 Come on, ladies. 580 00:21:34,093 --> 00:21:35,993 - Ultimately, I'm looking forward to this experience 581 00:21:36,062 --> 00:21:37,428 with my mom being here. 582 00:21:37,497 --> 00:21:39,430 And I do really respect Coach B. 583 00:21:39,499 --> 00:21:42,233 In the last reunion, she really opened my eyes 584 00:21:42,302 --> 00:21:43,601 to some things with my husband. 585 00:21:43,670 --> 00:21:45,503 And I feel like she can have the opportunity 586 00:21:45,571 --> 00:21:46,937 to do that between me and my mom. 587 00:21:47,006 --> 00:21:50,074 - Ashley, what is it that you want to work on with mom? 588 00:21:50,143 --> 00:21:52,843 [tense music] 589 00:21:52,912 --> 00:21:55,546 - She doesn't trust me to make the decisions 590 00:21:55,615 --> 00:21:57,381 that she raised me to make. 591 00:21:57,450 --> 00:22:00,618 And sometimes, we have conflict because it's like, Mom, 592 00:22:00,687 --> 00:22:01,886 I got this. 593 00:22:01,954 --> 00:22:03,487 You can let go. 594 00:22:03,556 --> 00:22:05,956 If I'm going to make a mistake, I'm going to make the mistake. 595 00:22:06,025 --> 00:22:08,125 And it's-- she can't protect me from it all. 596 00:22:08,194 --> 00:22:11,028 ♪ ♪ 597 00:22:11,097 --> 00:22:14,065 - I'm trying to protect you from all the hurt I felt. 598 00:22:14,133 --> 00:22:15,399 - From? 599 00:22:15,468 --> 00:22:16,634 - Abuse. 600 00:22:16,703 --> 00:22:19,070 ♪ ♪ 601 00:22:19,138 --> 00:22:20,071 Rape. 602 00:22:20,139 --> 00:22:22,907 ♪ ♪ 603 00:22:22,975 --> 00:22:24,041 Dope. 604 00:22:24,110 --> 00:22:28,446 ♪ ♪ 605 00:22:28,514 --> 00:22:30,181 Molestation. 606 00:22:32,285 --> 00:22:34,785 Lies, abandonment. 607 00:22:34,854 --> 00:22:37,054 I am the way I am because I don't want you to ever 608 00:22:37,123 --> 00:22:39,790 have to see it, have to deal with it 609 00:22:39,859 --> 00:22:41,759 because I already paid the price for the family. 610 00:22:41,828 --> 00:22:43,427 - Stop. Stay there. 611 00:22:44,630 --> 00:22:45,963 What does that stuff represent? 612 00:22:46,032 --> 00:22:47,431 - I think I just-- 613 00:22:47,500 --> 00:22:49,200 I carry it because she carries it. 614 00:22:49,268 --> 00:22:50,301 - You got to release it. 615 00:22:50,370 --> 00:22:51,602 How does it show up? 616 00:22:51,671 --> 00:22:52,803 - I don't know. 617 00:22:52,872 --> 00:22:54,138 - Come on, Ashley. You know. 618 00:22:54,207 --> 00:22:55,373 Dig deep, honey. 619 00:22:55,441 --> 00:22:57,341 You've got this. Come on. 620 00:22:57,410 --> 00:23:03,314 - I think the way I respond, my quickness to cut you down 621 00:23:03,383 --> 00:23:05,783 instead of understand where you're coming from, 622 00:23:05,852 --> 00:23:07,284 my defensiveness. 623 00:23:07,353 --> 00:23:10,020 - 'Cause you're trying to protect you the way she's been 624 00:23:10,089 --> 00:23:11,422 trying to protect you. 625 00:23:11,491 --> 00:23:13,124 - Yeah. 626 00:23:13,192 --> 00:23:14,525 Yeah. 627 00:23:14,594 --> 00:23:17,027 - Mom, anything else you're protecting her 628 00:23:17,096 --> 00:23:19,764 from that you want to let out? 629 00:23:19,832 --> 00:23:21,098 - I'm mama bear. 630 00:23:21,167 --> 00:23:22,266 I'm Mama Tea. 631 00:23:22,335 --> 00:23:24,835 I will always protect her. 632 00:23:27,673 --> 00:23:29,240 I think sometimes, I feel like I want 633 00:23:29,308 --> 00:23:31,142 to protect her from Bar. 634 00:23:31,210 --> 00:23:34,011 [dramatic music] 635 00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:36,680 ♪ ♪ 636 00:23:37,950 --> 00:23:39,550 [dramatic music] 637 00:23:39,619 --> 00:23:40,985 ♪ ♪ 638 00:23:41,053 --> 00:23:42,353 - Anything else you're protecting her from 639 00:23:42,422 --> 00:23:44,288 that you want to let out? 640 00:23:44,357 --> 00:23:46,757 - Sometimes I feel like I need to protect you from Bar. 641 00:23:46,826 --> 00:23:49,293 ♪ ♪ 642 00:23:49,362 --> 00:23:51,295 - What did you hear her say? What does that mean to you? 643 00:23:51,364 --> 00:23:54,598 - I think she feels like she's the end of me and Bar's story 644 00:23:54,667 --> 00:23:57,067 because my dad and Bar are so similar. 645 00:23:57,136 --> 00:23:58,202 - So tell me, what does that mean? 646 00:23:58,271 --> 00:23:59,336 What's the similarities? 647 00:23:59,405 --> 00:24:00,671 What are you protecting her from? 648 00:24:00,740 --> 00:24:02,239 ♪ ♪ 649 00:24:02,308 --> 00:24:04,575 - Dynamite. 650 00:24:04,644 --> 00:24:06,310 I know when her and-- 651 00:24:06,379 --> 00:24:08,712 her dad and I were together, 652 00:24:08,781 --> 00:24:10,080 it was dynamite. 653 00:24:10,149 --> 00:24:11,715 And I know that her and Bar have that. 654 00:24:11,784 --> 00:24:13,784 And if you don't know how to will it correctly, 655 00:24:13,853 --> 00:24:15,686 it can be dangerous, extremely dangerous. 656 00:24:15,755 --> 00:24:17,054 - Let's regroup. 657 00:24:17,123 --> 00:24:18,456 The whole reason you're [bleep] that [bleep] 658 00:24:18,524 --> 00:24:20,324 is because you want the clout and [bleep] from it. 659 00:24:20,393 --> 00:24:21,659 - Oh, really? - Yes, [bleep]. 660 00:24:21,727 --> 00:24:22,993 Yes. Yes. 661 00:24:23,062 --> 00:24:24,061 - Well, guess what? 662 00:24:24,130 --> 00:24:25,296 ♪ I'ma keep [bleep] him ♪ 663 00:24:25,364 --> 00:24:26,797 ♪ I'ma keep [bleep] him ♪ 664 00:24:26,866 --> 00:24:29,333 I'ma going to keep [bleep] him because I'm not [bleep] you. 665 00:24:29,402 --> 00:24:30,968 - Go ahead. I don't want to [bleep] you. 666 00:24:31,037 --> 00:24:32,736 - You want to talk that [bleep]? 667 00:24:32,805 --> 00:24:34,338 Don't play with me. 668 00:24:34,407 --> 00:24:37,641 - My family is just known for having a mouth, regardless. 669 00:24:37,710 --> 00:24:39,543 - But the lower you cut 670 00:24:39,612 --> 00:24:41,178 is the lower you place yourself. 671 00:24:41,247 --> 00:24:43,314 We only give who we are. 672 00:24:43,382 --> 00:24:46,450 So when she goes low, it's because she feels low. 673 00:24:46,519 --> 00:24:47,818 - Is that true, Ashley? 674 00:24:47,887 --> 00:24:48,853 - [bleep] yeah. 675 00:24:48,921 --> 00:24:50,588 [somber music] 676 00:24:50,656 --> 00:24:51,989 - The whole family is dealing 677 00:24:52,058 --> 00:24:53,491 with the same dysfunctional patterns, 678 00:24:53,559 --> 00:24:55,693 and it's time to interrupt and break that pattern, 679 00:24:55,761 --> 00:24:57,461 so that her daughter doesn't have 680 00:24:57,530 --> 00:24:59,296 to deal with this stuff and be stuck 681 00:24:59,365 --> 00:25:00,998 on some stuff that's not hers. - Right. 682 00:25:01,067 --> 00:25:02,333 - Got it? 683 00:25:02,401 --> 00:25:04,134 - I think it's clear that my mom's temper 684 00:25:04,203 --> 00:25:05,636 has been passed down to me. 685 00:25:05,705 --> 00:25:09,940 I think we need to work on being more open 686 00:25:10,009 --> 00:25:12,376 to communicate how we feel instead of jumping 687 00:25:12,445 --> 00:25:13,878 so quickly to be defensive. 688 00:25:13,946 --> 00:25:16,247 We're here to work on our relationships 689 00:25:16,315 --> 00:25:17,548 with our mothers. 690 00:25:17,617 --> 00:25:20,885 But also, you know, with every relationship, 691 00:25:20,953 --> 00:25:24,989 it requires you to be vulnerable and open sometimes, 692 00:25:25,057 --> 00:25:26,423 probably when you don't want to. 693 00:25:26,492 --> 00:25:28,225 [applause] - Don't fall now, girl. 694 00:25:28,294 --> 00:25:29,894 - I ain't going to fall. 695 00:25:29,962 --> 00:25:31,328 - Good job, ladies. 696 00:25:32,698 --> 00:25:33,864 Thank you for opening up. 697 00:25:33,933 --> 00:25:35,499 - Thank you. 698 00:25:35,568 --> 00:25:38,402 - I can't change anything that happened in the past. 699 00:25:38,471 --> 00:25:41,739 But I definitely hear what Coach B and Ashley are saying. 700 00:25:41,807 --> 00:25:43,307 It's definitely a revelation. 701 00:25:43,376 --> 00:25:45,042 I mean, I'm open to growth. 702 00:25:45,111 --> 00:25:46,343 - Thank you for trusting me. 703 00:25:46,412 --> 00:25:47,945 - Of course, Coach B, of course. 704 00:25:48,014 --> 00:25:50,047 - Good job. 705 00:25:50,116 --> 00:25:51,715 - What Coach B says about Ashley 706 00:25:51,784 --> 00:25:53,784 and her mom is clearly true. 707 00:25:53,853 --> 00:25:55,119 The rage, and the anger, 708 00:25:55,187 --> 00:25:56,854 and its transfer from the mom to the daughter, 709 00:25:56,923 --> 00:25:58,355 from the daughter to the mom. 710 00:25:58,424 --> 00:25:59,757 ♪ ♪ 711 00:25:59,825 --> 00:26:01,025 - It just felt fake. 712 00:26:01,093 --> 00:26:03,327 Like, was tears really coming out of Tea's face 713 00:26:03,396 --> 00:26:05,596 when she talked about her experiences? 714 00:26:06,566 --> 00:26:08,632 [indistinct chatter] 715 00:26:08,701 --> 00:26:09,833 - All right, ladies. 716 00:26:09,902 --> 00:26:11,201 OK, ladies. Come on. 717 00:26:11,270 --> 00:26:13,604 We got-- we got Bri and Roxanne. 718 00:26:13,673 --> 00:26:15,573 [tense music] 719 00:26:15,641 --> 00:26:18,576 - I'm struggling as to what I want to say to my mom. 720 00:26:18,644 --> 00:26:20,711 Whatever comes to my mind and to my heart 721 00:26:20,780 --> 00:26:22,179 is what I'm going to say. 722 00:26:22,248 --> 00:26:25,282 - Briana, what is it that you want to work on with mom? 723 00:26:25,351 --> 00:26:28,385 - So I feel like you are so strong, 724 00:26:28,454 --> 00:26:30,187 that you made me to be strong, 725 00:26:30,256 --> 00:26:33,857 that I don't know how to show emotion 726 00:26:33,926 --> 00:26:37,094 because I feel like I can only be strong. 727 00:26:37,163 --> 00:26:40,164 And I feel like you taught me that, which is a good thing. 728 00:26:40,232 --> 00:26:43,434 But I want to feel my feelings, 729 00:26:43,502 --> 00:26:45,769 and I never know how. 730 00:26:45,838 --> 00:26:48,105 And I feel like that was because of you. 731 00:26:48,174 --> 00:26:50,107 - I know you want her to have her daddy. 732 00:26:50,176 --> 00:26:54,011 Bri, sometimes some daddies are not willing 733 00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:55,913 to want to make it work. 734 00:26:55,982 --> 00:26:57,748 You're going to have to stay strong. 735 00:26:57,817 --> 00:26:59,817 [patting baby] 736 00:26:59,885 --> 00:27:01,485 [somber music] 737 00:27:01,554 --> 00:27:04,221 It's OK. Don't cry. 738 00:27:04,290 --> 00:27:06,757 She don't want to see you crying. 739 00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:09,693 - Where do you put your emotions, 740 00:27:09,762 --> 00:27:11,295 and why do you suppress? 741 00:27:11,364 --> 00:27:13,697 - Like, I dropped the ball so many times. 742 00:27:13,766 --> 00:27:15,633 - It's OK. - You're not perfect. 743 00:27:15,701 --> 00:27:17,835 - I don't want my [bleep] kids to see me struggling, 744 00:27:17,903 --> 00:27:19,737 so I have to suppress all my [bleep], 745 00:27:19,805 --> 00:27:21,805 so that they don't really see me going through it. 746 00:27:21,874 --> 00:27:23,140 - Stay there. Stay there. 747 00:27:23,209 --> 00:27:24,274 Stay. 748 00:27:24,343 --> 00:27:26,410 - Watching Bri and her mom go, 749 00:27:26,479 --> 00:27:29,780 my heart just hurts because I can see the literal pain 750 00:27:29,849 --> 00:27:31,949 on Roxanne's face. 751 00:27:32,018 --> 00:27:33,784 - Did you hear what she said, Briana? 752 00:27:33,853 --> 00:27:35,853 - She realized she [bleep] up. 753 00:27:35,921 --> 00:27:37,788 But I want you to hear the number one thing 754 00:27:37,857 --> 00:27:39,189 that your mom said. 755 00:27:39,258 --> 00:27:42,159 She has mommy guilt. - I got the worst guilt. 756 00:27:42,228 --> 00:27:44,094 - Because of her words, she dropped the ball, 757 00:27:44,163 --> 00:27:45,796 and she [bleep] up on her kids. 758 00:27:45,865 --> 00:27:47,464 That's what-- that's what she said loudest. 759 00:27:47,533 --> 00:27:50,167 That's the stuff that's keeping her in bondage. 760 00:27:50,236 --> 00:27:51,802 Let me ask you this. - I love you. 761 00:27:51,871 --> 00:27:53,804 - Are you-- are you open to working through that 762 00:27:53,873 --> 00:27:55,673 for the sake of your daughter? 763 00:27:55,741 --> 00:27:56,940 - Yes. 764 00:27:58,310 --> 00:28:00,744 - Pull your baby up. 765 00:28:00,813 --> 00:28:02,546 [applause] There you go. 766 00:28:02,615 --> 00:28:03,847 - Good job, girl. 767 00:28:03,916 --> 00:28:05,616 - Yes. 768 00:28:05,685 --> 00:28:08,152 That was the truth, though. 769 00:28:08,220 --> 00:28:11,121 - Being vulnerable is hard as hell. 770 00:28:11,190 --> 00:28:13,957 It was nice to see my mom get emotional. 771 00:28:14,026 --> 00:28:16,860 It was nice to see something different from my mom. 772 00:28:16,929 --> 00:28:18,896 - I'm so proud of you, sis. 773 00:28:18,964 --> 00:28:20,531 You did it. - It's heavy. 774 00:28:20,599 --> 00:28:21,899 And you don't realize how much you've 775 00:28:21,967 --> 00:28:24,501 been carrying until you identify it 776 00:28:24,570 --> 00:28:26,537 and acknowledge it. 777 00:28:26,605 --> 00:28:28,539 I want to be strong for her, you know? 778 00:28:28,607 --> 00:28:29,940 I want her to know that I'm always going 779 00:28:30,009 --> 00:28:31,642 to be there and have her back. 780 00:28:31,711 --> 00:28:34,912 But I feel like if you're not strong, what are you? 781 00:28:34,980 --> 00:28:36,914 What can you do? It's [bleep] life. 782 00:28:36,982 --> 00:28:40,184 I got my own battles I got to fight, my own internal issues. 783 00:28:40,252 --> 00:28:42,319 I need to work on being vulnerable. 784 00:28:43,622 --> 00:28:45,255 - I'm down to go. - Let's go. 785 00:28:45,324 --> 00:28:46,623 Let's rock and roll. 786 00:28:46,692 --> 00:28:47,891 - We got to cheer y'all on because y'all been 787 00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:49,259 cheering on everybody. 788 00:28:49,328 --> 00:28:51,161 - Somebody's got to [bleep] cheer me on. 789 00:28:51,230 --> 00:28:53,163 - I'm nervous and scared. 790 00:28:53,232 --> 00:28:55,966 Like, do I have the strength to be 791 00:28:56,035 --> 00:28:58,068 100% open and honest with my mom? 792 00:28:58,137 --> 00:28:59,403 - I got her. 793 00:28:59,472 --> 00:29:02,740 Even though I'm going to bawl my eyes out, I got her. 794 00:29:02,808 --> 00:29:04,942 I'm a little worried about what Cate's got to say 795 00:29:05,010 --> 00:29:06,944 now that we're standing at this mud pit. 796 00:29:07,012 --> 00:29:08,245 - All right. 797 00:29:08,314 --> 00:29:10,347 Cate. - Yeah? 798 00:29:10,416 --> 00:29:12,316 - What is it that we're working on with mom 799 00:29:12,384 --> 00:29:13,951 that you want to address? 800 00:29:14,019 --> 00:29:16,954 [somber music] 801 00:29:17,022 --> 00:29:20,624 - I'm sick of being the perfect child. 802 00:29:20,693 --> 00:29:24,027 ♪ ♪ 803 00:29:24,096 --> 00:29:25,863 I'm sick of always being the one 804 00:29:25,931 --> 00:29:28,365 that has to have it together. 805 00:29:28,434 --> 00:29:30,701 And I'm sick of it. 806 00:29:30,770 --> 00:29:34,404 - Cate, in what ways have you had to be perfect? 807 00:29:34,473 --> 00:29:37,274 - I'm the one that has no problems. 808 00:29:37,343 --> 00:29:40,978 I'm the one that has, like, a "perfect" relationship. 809 00:29:41,046 --> 00:29:43,080 I'm the one that-- 810 00:29:43,149 --> 00:29:44,515 - She's the good one. 811 00:29:44,583 --> 00:29:46,183 - Don't need nothing from her. 812 00:29:46,252 --> 00:29:48,051 - I need you though. 813 00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,420 - Cate, who's-- who's the mom in the relationship? 814 00:29:50,489 --> 00:29:52,890 - She is, but personally, I feel like I am. 815 00:29:52,958 --> 00:29:55,025 - Caitlin has been telling me what to do 816 00:29:55,094 --> 00:29:58,328 and how to act since she was, like, [bleep] 12. 817 00:29:58,397 --> 00:29:59,963 - How has mom been there for you 818 00:30:00,032 --> 00:30:01,532 if you're the mom in the relationship? 819 00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:03,000 How is she there emotionally? 820 00:30:03,068 --> 00:30:04,802 - We talked about this today in the pool. 821 00:30:04,870 --> 00:30:06,503 I don't feel like my mom has a very good way 822 00:30:06,572 --> 00:30:08,071 of expressing her emotions. 823 00:30:08,140 --> 00:30:09,606 It always comes out in anger. 824 00:30:09,675 --> 00:30:11,008 - Go away. 825 00:30:11,076 --> 00:30:12,442 - You're getting mad at me for no reason. 826 00:30:12,511 --> 00:30:14,211 - You're irritating me. Get out of my [...] face. 827 00:30:14,280 --> 00:30:16,213 - OK. For no reason. 828 00:30:17,583 --> 00:30:19,349 - Condescending [bleep]. 829 00:30:19,418 --> 00:30:20,984 - OK, Ma. 830 00:30:21,053 --> 00:30:23,687 - Shut your mouth, Caitlin, before I shut it for you. 831 00:30:23,756 --> 00:30:26,990 - I feel like sometimes, when I express my true feelings 832 00:30:27,059 --> 00:30:30,127 and how I feel, she'll throw my husband in the mix 833 00:30:30,196 --> 00:30:32,663 and be like, oh, that's what Tyler would tell you to do. 834 00:30:32,731 --> 00:30:35,165 - So then she gaslights you to make you think 835 00:30:35,234 --> 00:30:37,534 that your opinions are coming from somebody else? 836 00:30:37,603 --> 00:30:38,869 - Yes. 837 00:30:38,938 --> 00:30:40,871 And so for me, it comes from a point of, like, 838 00:30:40,940 --> 00:30:43,740 just realize that you raised a strong [bleep] woman. 839 00:30:43,809 --> 00:30:45,175 - OK. That's right. 840 00:30:45,244 --> 00:30:46,710 - [bleep], you don't think I know that? 841 00:30:46,779 --> 00:30:48,312 - But that's where it comes from for me 842 00:30:48,380 --> 00:30:50,514 where it's like, you raised a strong enough [bleep] woman 843 00:30:50,583 --> 00:30:52,049 to stand up for what the [bleep] she believes in. 844 00:30:52,117 --> 00:30:53,684 - I don't worry about you because you're 845 00:30:53,752 --> 00:30:56,320 so [bleep] strong, I don't have to worry about you. 846 00:30:56,388 --> 00:30:57,721 You always have been. 847 00:30:57,790 --> 00:30:59,323 You've been the best [bleep] kid 848 00:30:59,391 --> 00:31:00,557 in the whole [bleep] world. - Stop. 849 00:31:00,626 --> 00:31:01,658 Stop. Stay right there. 850 00:31:01,727 --> 00:31:02,893 Stay right there. 851 00:31:02,962 --> 00:31:04,094 - I've never had to worry about you. 852 00:31:04,163 --> 00:31:05,963 - April was so aggressive. 853 00:31:06,031 --> 00:31:07,497 It was such a weird situation. 854 00:31:07,566 --> 00:31:09,199 Like, that was too aggressive for me. 855 00:31:09,268 --> 00:31:11,235 - Ma. - And you wanted [bleep] rules, 856 00:31:11,303 --> 00:31:13,136 but I never gave them to you. - Cate, stay there. 857 00:31:13,205 --> 00:31:14,504 Stay there. 858 00:31:14,573 --> 00:31:16,039 - No, I'm not stopping because it's the truth. 859 00:31:16,108 --> 00:31:17,608 - Mom. - Watching Cate and April, 860 00:31:17,676 --> 00:31:21,311 it made me honestly really feel sad. 861 00:31:21,380 --> 00:31:23,914 And Cate wasn't really beating her up at all. 862 00:31:23,983 --> 00:31:26,250 I think it was April beating herself up. 863 00:31:26,318 --> 00:31:27,985 - You have to stop making this about you 864 00:31:28,053 --> 00:31:29,186 and let her have her moment. 865 00:31:29,255 --> 00:31:30,621 - I'm not trying to make it about me. 866 00:31:30,689 --> 00:31:32,089 - But this is what you're doing. 867 00:31:32,157 --> 00:31:33,857 And you just gave up on her. 868 00:31:33,926 --> 00:31:36,126 ♪ ♪ 869 00:31:38,130 --> 00:31:40,764 [dramatic music] 870 00:31:40,833 --> 00:31:42,332 ♪ ♪ 871 00:31:42,401 --> 00:31:43,967 - You have to stop making this about you 872 00:31:44,036 --> 00:31:45,068 and let her have her moment. 873 00:31:45,137 --> 00:31:46,270 - I'm not trying to make it about me. 874 00:31:46,338 --> 00:31:47,971 - But this is what you're doing. 875 00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:49,840 - Her letting go of the rope really was 876 00:31:49,909 --> 00:31:52,142 like a true visual representation 877 00:31:52,211 --> 00:31:56,013 of how we communicate and kind of how our relationship is. 878 00:31:56,081 --> 00:31:58,415 - Cate, how did it feel when she dropped the rope? 879 00:31:58,484 --> 00:32:00,617 - That she was, like, mad and upset at me. 880 00:32:00,686 --> 00:32:02,152 - Because that's my reaction. 881 00:32:02,221 --> 00:32:04,788 If it's not the way it goes for her-- 882 00:32:04,857 --> 00:32:06,390 - Yeah? 883 00:32:08,594 --> 00:32:10,494 - Oh. 884 00:32:10,562 --> 00:32:11,862 - I know. 885 00:32:11,931 --> 00:32:13,630 - That's not nice. 886 00:32:13,699 --> 00:32:16,967 - Coach B is irritating me very much right now. 887 00:32:17,036 --> 00:32:19,469 But I know that I have to get through this. 888 00:32:19,538 --> 00:32:22,906 And hopefully, it will help me and Caitlyn 889 00:32:22,975 --> 00:32:24,441 in some sort of way. 890 00:32:24,510 --> 00:32:26,076 - This is what I want you to do, OK? 891 00:32:26,145 --> 00:32:29,680 Gently pull her in at a pace that will work for her. 892 00:32:30,849 --> 00:32:32,516 Can you do that? - Yeah. 893 00:32:32,584 --> 00:32:34,685 - Cate, you just let her gently pull you in. 894 00:32:34,753 --> 00:32:36,186 - Let her be your mom. 895 00:32:37,389 --> 00:32:39,423 - Come on, baby. Come on. 896 00:32:39,491 --> 00:32:40,991 I got you. 897 00:32:41,060 --> 00:32:42,759 I got you. 898 00:32:42,828 --> 00:32:44,561 [inaudible] 899 00:32:44,630 --> 00:32:46,330 - Telling my mom, like, you know, 900 00:32:46,398 --> 00:32:48,198 I'm sick and tired of feeling like the perfect child, 901 00:32:48,267 --> 00:32:49,666 I'm sick and tired of feeling like I always have 902 00:32:49,735 --> 00:32:51,435 to do all the right things-- 903 00:32:51,503 --> 00:32:53,036 I've never told my mom these things, 904 00:32:53,105 --> 00:32:55,205 so to be able to get them off my chest 905 00:32:55,274 --> 00:32:57,074 was like, I feel lighter. 906 00:32:57,142 --> 00:32:58,842 - Your job is to give love. 907 00:32:58,911 --> 00:33:02,312 - Caitlin telling me that she's tired of feeling 908 00:33:02,381 --> 00:33:06,016 like she has to be the perfect child kind of devastated me, 909 00:33:06,085 --> 00:33:09,586 kind of, a little bit because I guess, I never realized 910 00:33:09,655 --> 00:33:11,154 I treated her that way. 911 00:33:11,223 --> 00:33:12,723 I don't want to let go now. 912 00:33:12,791 --> 00:33:14,791 - No, it's OK. 913 00:33:14,860 --> 00:33:17,761 This is tough, but I'm super proud of myself 914 00:33:17,830 --> 00:33:20,731 that I was able to express some of these things. 915 00:33:20,799 --> 00:33:22,332 And it's just showing, like, we have 916 00:33:22,401 --> 00:33:25,702 a long, long journey to get 917 00:33:25,771 --> 00:33:28,505 to where we need to be and should be. 918 00:33:28,574 --> 00:33:31,041 - Last, but certainly, not least... 919 00:33:31,110 --> 00:33:32,042 [applause] - Yes. 920 00:33:32,111 --> 00:33:33,610 - Ready? - Let's go. 921 00:33:33,679 --> 00:33:35,112 - Come on, Mama. 922 00:33:35,180 --> 00:33:37,681 I'm a little nervous because I know what I'm about to say, 923 00:33:37,750 --> 00:33:40,751 but I don't really know how she's going to take it. 924 00:33:40,819 --> 00:33:43,887 - So Kayla, what is it that you want to work on 925 00:33:43,956 --> 00:33:46,590 or address with Mom? 926 00:33:46,658 --> 00:33:50,060 - I want my mom to, like, respect me as a mom. 927 00:33:52,097 --> 00:33:54,698 - Mom, what did you hear her say? 928 00:33:54,767 --> 00:33:59,770 - That she wants me to let her learn 929 00:33:59,838 --> 00:34:04,608 how to handle everything on her own and not fix it for her. 930 00:34:04,676 --> 00:34:05,976 - But I don't-- 931 00:34:06,045 --> 00:34:07,377 I don't feel like you do fix it for me. 932 00:34:07,446 --> 00:34:09,179 I feel you just criticize. 933 00:34:10,315 --> 00:34:12,115 - How much of yourself do you feel is 934 00:34:12,184 --> 00:34:13,884 not good enough as a mother? 935 00:34:13,952 --> 00:34:15,786 [soft dramatic music] 936 00:34:15,854 --> 00:34:17,354 - I failed you. 937 00:34:17,423 --> 00:34:20,090 I--I didn't make it work with your dad. 938 00:34:20,159 --> 00:34:22,392 I didn't make it work with my second husband. 939 00:34:22,461 --> 00:34:24,294 I see her doing the same things that I did, 940 00:34:24,363 --> 00:34:25,896 and I want her to stop. 941 00:34:25,964 --> 00:34:27,931 I don't want to see her being cheated on. 942 00:34:29,301 --> 00:34:32,369 I want to work on empowering you. 943 00:34:32,438 --> 00:34:33,970 You are a great mom. 944 00:34:34,039 --> 00:34:35,272 You are-- - Stop. 945 00:34:35,340 --> 00:34:36,740 What does she do as a great mom 946 00:34:36,809 --> 00:34:38,241 that makes her a good mom? 947 00:34:38,310 --> 00:34:44,281 - You are a single mom living with their dad in my house. 948 00:34:45,050 --> 00:34:46,817 - You were trying to give me a compliment. 949 00:34:46,885 --> 00:34:48,418 But to me, that was like-- 950 00:34:48,487 --> 00:34:50,454 that was an attack because that's like, I'm not-- 951 00:34:50,522 --> 00:34:51,922 I'm not doing well enough even if you 952 00:34:51,990 --> 00:34:53,490 meant it as a compliment. 953 00:34:53,559 --> 00:34:56,626 - And that's exactly what she's talking about she experiences. 954 00:34:56,695 --> 00:34:58,095 I'm going to empower you. 955 00:34:58,163 --> 00:35:00,263 And then I'm going to disempower you 956 00:35:00,332 --> 00:35:01,932 by showing you what I'm doing for you. 957 00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:04,968 So it negates the whole purpose of empowerment. 958 00:35:05,037 --> 00:35:07,304 But let me say this to you because obviously, 959 00:35:07,372 --> 00:35:09,539 right now, mom doesn't have the tools to do that yet. 960 00:35:09,608 --> 00:35:11,041 And that's OK. We're going to work on that. 961 00:35:11,110 --> 00:35:12,876 Her pain is talking to you-- 962 00:35:12,945 --> 00:35:13,910 - Yeah. 963 00:35:13,979 --> 00:35:15,479 - Not her heart. 964 00:35:15,547 --> 00:35:18,815 - I'm too negative, and I never tell her she's good enough. 965 00:35:18,884 --> 00:35:20,517 And I always feel like I do. 966 00:35:20,586 --> 00:35:22,619 Or I don't know how. 967 00:35:22,688 --> 00:35:24,521 You are such a good mom. 968 00:35:24,590 --> 00:35:27,624 And it's not about-- - Ahh. 969 00:35:27,693 --> 00:35:29,192 That's-- you're a great mom. 970 00:35:29,261 --> 00:35:30,527 - OK. 971 00:35:30,596 --> 00:35:32,529 - And what else is amazing about her? 972 00:35:32,598 --> 00:35:33,730 - She's a great daughter. 973 00:35:33,799 --> 00:35:35,665 She's a great friend to her friends. 974 00:35:35,734 --> 00:35:38,201 [uplifting music] 975 00:35:38,270 --> 00:35:39,803 [applause] 976 00:35:42,908 --> 00:35:44,508 - It feels good to get it off my chest 977 00:35:44,576 --> 00:35:46,676 because it's something I've been feeling for a long time. 978 00:35:46,745 --> 00:35:49,379 I hope my mom took in what Coach B is saying to her 979 00:35:49,448 --> 00:35:50,881 and learns how to communicate. 980 00:35:50,949 --> 00:35:53,650 And then on my part, I want to work on having more positive 981 00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:55,285 outlook on finding a solution. 982 00:35:55,354 --> 00:35:57,053 I know you didn't mean it like that. 983 00:35:57,122 --> 00:36:00,190 - As far as giving Kayla encouragement down the road, 984 00:36:00,259 --> 00:36:04,494 say the positive and not have a but after that. 985 00:36:04,563 --> 00:36:06,763 I'm hopeful to be able to use that. 986 00:36:06,832 --> 00:36:09,666 It's going to be a learning, but I'm ready. 987 00:36:09,735 --> 00:36:11,902 - I'm so proud of the vulnerability 988 00:36:11,970 --> 00:36:14,204 from the moms and the glam-moms. 989 00:36:14,273 --> 00:36:17,240 - I'm hoping I can, like, take the moms and the grandmas, 990 00:36:17,309 --> 00:36:20,443 like, what they're talking about or working through 991 00:36:20,512 --> 00:36:23,713 and either relate to it with my mom 992 00:36:23,782 --> 00:36:26,449 or learn some things that I might 993 00:36:26,518 --> 00:36:28,418 be doing as it pertains to, like, 994 00:36:28,487 --> 00:36:31,288 my parenting with my children. 995 00:36:31,356 --> 00:36:33,123 - Kudos to y'all. I'm so proud. 996 00:36:33,192 --> 00:36:34,558 My heart smiling, like, this big. 997 00:36:34,626 --> 00:36:36,459 [laughter] 998 00:36:36,528 --> 00:36:38,495 - This mud bath is definitely not 999 00:36:38,564 --> 00:36:40,430 the same mud bath that I had at a spa. 1000 00:36:40,499 --> 00:36:42,899 I am 100% ready to take a shower. 1001 00:36:42,968 --> 00:36:44,301 - Now we're all traumatized. 1002 00:36:44,369 --> 00:36:46,136 - You can tell just from the whole group 1003 00:36:46,205 --> 00:36:48,805 that a lot of people feel a lot lighter. 1004 00:36:48,874 --> 00:36:51,608 It feels amazing just to get it all out. 1005 00:36:51,677 --> 00:36:53,476 - Everybody, get in! 1006 00:36:53,545 --> 00:36:56,379 [upbeat music] 1007 00:36:56,448 --> 00:36:59,482 [cheering] 1008 00:36:59,551 --> 00:37:00,917 - ♪ Shake it up ♪ 1009 00:37:00,986 --> 00:37:03,053 ♪ You've got to get loose ♪ 1010 00:37:03,121 --> 00:37:04,821 ♪ Get loose, get loose ♪ 1011 00:37:04,890 --> 00:37:06,957 ♪ ♪ 1012 00:37:07,025 --> 00:37:08,425 - Oh, my God. 1013 00:37:08,493 --> 00:37:10,560 [indistinct shouting] 1014 00:37:12,531 --> 00:37:15,065 - ♪ Wait and see for yourself ♪ 1015 00:37:15,133 --> 00:37:16,766 ♪ What I've been through ♪ 1016 00:37:16,835 --> 00:37:18,735 - There's so much mud right in this ear, I couldn't hear. 1017 00:37:18,804 --> 00:37:20,103 I'm like, hello? What? 1018 00:37:20,172 --> 00:37:22,572 What'd you say? 1019 00:37:22,641 --> 00:37:24,708 - Truth be told, like, literally, watching everyone 1020 00:37:24,776 --> 00:37:27,110 without my mom, I'm like, damn, I got a lot of [bleep] 1021 00:37:27,179 --> 00:37:29,045 I got to talk to my mom about. 1022 00:37:30,482 --> 00:37:31,615 - Babe, listen. 1023 00:37:31,683 --> 00:37:33,984 Listen. Listen. Listen. Listen. 1024 00:37:34,052 --> 00:37:35,452 Baby, not right now, OK? 1025 00:37:35,520 --> 00:37:36,519 I know. 1026 00:37:36,588 --> 00:37:38,788 I'm eating as much as I can. 1027 00:37:38,857 --> 00:37:39,789 Bar's in jail. 1028 00:37:39,858 --> 00:37:41,591 And I do wish he was here. 1029 00:37:41,660 --> 00:37:43,960 I don't think there's going to be a day 1030 00:37:44,029 --> 00:37:46,196 that I don't wish he's here. 1031 00:37:46,265 --> 00:37:49,065 I am so [bleep] exhausted. 1032 00:37:49,835 --> 00:37:51,968 - I guess, the question is, am I really ready 1033 00:37:52,037 --> 00:37:53,403 to open up and talk to her? 1034 00:37:53,472 --> 00:37:55,772 - Are you ready to deal with the trauma? 1035 00:37:55,841 --> 00:37:57,140 - No. 1036 00:37:57,209 --> 00:37:58,575 - I'll have your back because I know that feeling. 1037 00:37:58,644 --> 00:38:00,543 I've been there because we know how. 1038 00:38:00,612 --> 00:38:01,778 - So what do you think about the work 1039 00:38:01,847 --> 00:38:02,946 that Coach B-- 1040 00:38:03,015 --> 00:38:04,848 - I think that [bleep] is smart. 1041 00:38:04,916 --> 00:38:06,283 - She better get out of my business. 1042 00:38:06,351 --> 00:38:07,951 [laughter] 1043 00:38:08,020 --> 00:38:10,620 I work really hard to have a good relationship with Ashley. 1044 00:38:10,689 --> 00:38:13,323 I would like to work on when she gets stressed, 1045 00:38:13,392 --> 00:38:15,759 her not completely shutting down. 1046 00:38:15,827 --> 00:38:18,094 I didn't even realize that Ashley 1047 00:38:18,163 --> 00:38:20,397 is carrying so much of me. 1048 00:38:20,465 --> 00:38:21,798 - You learned a lot, didn't you? 1049 00:38:21,867 --> 00:38:26,269 - Bar being in jail couldn't be at the worst timing, 1050 00:38:26,338 --> 00:38:30,206 especially with us coming here and feeling so vulnerable. 1051 00:38:30,275 --> 00:38:32,442 It's a trigger, definitely. 1052 00:38:32,511 --> 00:38:34,844 But I did notice, you know, as she's getting older, 1053 00:38:34,913 --> 00:38:36,680 I look at her, and I see me. 1054 00:38:36,748 --> 00:38:39,115 And I'd be like, I don't like that because I see myself. 1055 00:38:39,184 --> 00:38:40,984 ♪ ♪ 1056 00:38:41,053 --> 00:38:44,254 [upbeat music] - Thank you for cooking. 1057 00:38:44,323 --> 00:38:45,455 - Yum. 1058 00:38:45,524 --> 00:38:48,825 ♪ ♪ 1059 00:38:48,894 --> 00:38:50,427 - I think it was a good exercise. 1060 00:38:50,495 --> 00:38:51,795 - No, it was. It was. 1061 00:38:51,863 --> 00:38:52,829 - That was intense. 1062 00:38:52,898 --> 00:38:54,130 - Yeah, it was intense. 1063 00:38:54,199 --> 00:38:55,832 - But I learned a lot, like, about everybody 1064 00:38:55,901 --> 00:38:58,168 and the different, like, dynamics 1065 00:38:58,236 --> 00:39:00,337 between mother and daughter. 1066 00:39:00,405 --> 00:39:02,005 And it's, like, out of everyone's stories, 1067 00:39:02,074 --> 00:39:04,541 I can relate to something and find something, like, 1068 00:39:04,609 --> 00:39:06,876 within our own relationship or my own self 1069 00:39:06,945 --> 00:39:08,378 that I could work on. 1070 00:39:08,447 --> 00:39:09,979 - We think we're different, but we're really not. 1071 00:39:10,048 --> 00:39:11,514 - No, we're not. - We're all alike. 1072 00:39:11,583 --> 00:39:13,483 I think there's a lot of trauma at the table, 1073 00:39:13,552 --> 00:39:16,453 but I also think it's a lot of love here too. 1074 00:39:16,521 --> 00:39:18,321 - Well, I feel like-- like we're the only ones that can 1075 00:39:18,390 --> 00:39:20,357 truly understand each other, so we should not be going 1076 00:39:20,425 --> 00:39:21,791 behind each other's backs. 1077 00:39:21,860 --> 00:39:23,393 We should not be talking [bleep] about each other. 1078 00:39:23,462 --> 00:39:24,661 - Thank you. - Yes. 1079 00:39:24,730 --> 00:39:26,663 - And to get it from a mom in the group is bad. 1080 00:39:26,732 --> 00:39:27,831 [tense music] 1081 00:39:27,899 --> 00:39:30,333 I think moms should not be harassing 1082 00:39:30,402 --> 00:39:31,568 or talking [bleep] about 1083 00:39:31,636 --> 00:39:34,471 someone else's daughter on the show. 1084 00:39:35,307 --> 00:39:37,107 - Let's talk about it. - Right about now. 1085 00:39:37,175 --> 00:39:38,742 - What's the problem, Roxanne? 1086 00:39:38,810 --> 00:39:41,211 - The problem is that your daughter 1087 00:39:41,279 --> 00:39:43,546 inserted herself in a situation that 1088 00:39:43,615 --> 00:39:45,348 she had no business inserting herself. 1089 00:39:45,417 --> 00:39:47,317 - No. Tone it down. 1090 00:39:47,386 --> 00:39:49,986 - So I know there has been some drama 1091 00:39:50,055 --> 00:39:52,589 and bad tension between Tea and Ashley 1092 00:39:52,657 --> 00:39:54,324 and Roxanne and Bri. 1093 00:39:54,393 --> 00:39:56,092 But, like, leaving the meeting with Coach B 1094 00:39:56,161 --> 00:39:57,427 at the mud pit activity, 1095 00:39:57,496 --> 00:39:59,529 I definitely think there would be able to be 1096 00:39:59,598 --> 00:40:01,064 adult conversations. 1097 00:40:01,133 --> 00:40:02,866 - It's OK. Let them talk about it. 1098 00:40:02,934 --> 00:40:06,102 - Inserted herself on a lie 1099 00:40:06,171 --> 00:40:08,271 when she had no business to do what she did. 1100 00:40:08,340 --> 00:40:10,907 Briana was having a falling out with Kail. 1101 00:40:10,976 --> 00:40:14,244 Ashley went on live and started talking [bleep]. 1102 00:40:14,312 --> 00:40:16,946 And then her mom just ran her mouth 1103 00:40:17,015 --> 00:40:18,782 on social media about my daughter. 1104 00:40:18,850 --> 00:40:21,684 And I'm [bleep] done with the bullying of my daughter. 1105 00:40:21,753 --> 00:40:23,586 She was so [bleep] disrespectful. 1106 00:40:23,655 --> 00:40:25,188 Shame on her. 1107 00:40:26,057 --> 00:40:27,791 My daughter would never talk to any mother 1108 00:40:27,859 --> 00:40:30,627 in this [bleep] table the way your daughter speaks to me. 1109 00:40:30,695 --> 00:40:32,896 ♪ ♪ 1110 00:40:32,964 --> 00:40:34,864 And I don't care what trauma she has. 1111 00:40:34,933 --> 00:40:36,766 There's no excuse for it. 1112 00:40:37,669 --> 00:40:39,903 And then you want to go on live and talk and discuss 1113 00:40:39,971 --> 00:40:41,104 my daughter [bleep] like, 1114 00:40:41,173 --> 00:40:42,639 who she's dating, who she's [bleep]. 1115 00:40:42,707 --> 00:40:44,908 It's none of your business, none of your [bleep] business. 1116 00:40:44,976 --> 00:40:47,410 ♪ ♪ 1117 00:40:47,479 --> 00:40:49,078 - Well, Roxanne-- - I don't want to hear it. 1118 00:40:49,147 --> 00:40:51,314 You have nothing to say to me. 1119 00:40:51,383 --> 00:40:55,919 - I just know a war is about to go down. 1120 00:40:55,987 --> 00:40:58,087 - I don't give a [bleep], [bleep]. 1121 00:40:58,156 --> 00:41:00,089 [indistinct shouting] I don't give a [bleep]. 1122 00:41:00,158 --> 00:41:02,091 I don't give a [bleep]. 1123 00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:03,593 I don't give a [bleep]. 1124 00:41:03,662 --> 00:41:05,261 I don't give a [bleep]. 1125 00:41:05,330 --> 00:41:06,329 - You're [bleep] crazy. 1126 00:41:06,398 --> 00:41:07,630 - I don't give a [bleep]. 1127 00:41:07,699 --> 00:41:09,766 I don't give a [bleep]. Let's get it straight. 1128 00:41:09,835 --> 00:41:13,236 Your old [bleep] don't have nothing to say, [bleep].