1 00:00:03,760 --> 00:00:05,600 ANNOUNCER: Over six huge nights... 2 00:00:05,640 --> 00:00:08,120 Welcome to the 'Avengers of Parenting'. 3 00:00:08,160 --> 00:00:09,520 (LAUGHTER) 4 00:00:09,560 --> 00:00:13,400 ..12 sets of parents put their parenting under the microscope. 5 00:00:13,440 --> 00:00:17,960 Parents all over Australia are gonna benefit from your parental guidance. 6 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:19,840 Go! 7 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:21,480 Lightsabre! 8 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:23,440 They answered curly questions. 9 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:25,760 Where did the babies come from? They come from the belly. 10 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:27,800 Are you blocking your ears right now? 11 00:00:27,840 --> 00:00:32,560 ..and tackled the biggest issues facing families today. 12 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:35,520 She just revealed her street address. Oh! 13 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:37,640 This little girl who just wants to play a game. 14 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:40,600 I have a delivery for your mum. Do you mind if I just put it inside? 15 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:42,840 It's really heavy. Um... 16 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:44,720 That frightens me to death P 17 00:00:44,760 --> 00:00:47,640 in a real-life situation, you're gone already. 18 00:00:47,680 --> 00:00:49,280 That guy has snatched you. 19 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:52,360 This next challenge might be really triggering. 20 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:54,800 Isn't she a stupid baby? 21 00:00:54,840 --> 00:00:57,560 Bullying escalates very quickly from verbal to physical. 22 00:00:57,600 --> 00:01:00,320 A lot of young boys die from being king hit in the face. 23 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:03,040 If you run away, good chance you're gonna get king hit. 24 00:01:05,320 --> 00:01:07,120 Voted into the final... 25 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:09,320 Go, finalists! 26 00:01:09,360 --> 00:01:12,640 ..were four very different parenting styles. 27 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:14,560 I'm very brutally honest. 28 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:15,840 There is nothing off-limits. 29 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:18,240 You've got a massive mouth, mate. 30 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:19,960 Our parenting style is lighthouse. 31 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:21,720 We guide our children from afar. 32 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:23,160 That means that they have to be 33 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:24,520 confident, resilient, 34 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:26,200 that's what we want for them. 35 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:28,840 With American parenting, 36 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:31,040 we tend to set the bar high. 37 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:34,360 And we give our child lots of support 38 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:37,160 to help her feel like she can achieve these things. 39 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:39,760 Winner! That was really good. 40 00:01:39,800 --> 00:01:41,000 We have six children, 41 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:42,080 and we're trying to raise them 42 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:43,400 like our little own footy team. 43 00:01:43,440 --> 00:01:46,400 And our team parenting motto is 'one in... 44 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:47,760 BOTH: 'All in'. 45 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:50,720 Go, mama, go! We need to go to the video ref. 46 00:01:52,520 --> 00:01:54,280 Who's ready to go on a family adventure? 47 00:01:54,320 --> 00:01:55,640 Me! 48 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:59,960 Our four finalists will be put to the ultimate parenting test... 49 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:02,880 Let's finish this. Bring it! 50 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:05,320 ..deep in the Aussie bush. 51 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:07,040 (SCREAMS AND LAUGHS) 52 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:10,480 Oh, my God. It could be poo and it could be mud P who knows? 53 00:02:10,520 --> 00:02:13,320 Outside their comfort zone... Oh-ho! No! 54 00:02:13,360 --> 00:02:14,360 Just wait! 55 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:16,720 (SCREAMS) Stop, stop. Everybody, stop. 56 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:18,160 ..they'll be pushed... 57 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:20,000 Out of the way, child! 58 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:21,360 (SCREAMS) Stop. Stop! 59 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:24,240 ..right to the very edge. Oh, I can't do it. 60 00:02:24,280 --> 00:02:26,320 Are you gonna tell me 'no' on a footy field? 61 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:28,080 I don't want to do this! (CRIES) 62 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:31,000 (SCREAMS) She was terrified. 63 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:34,960 No child should be responsible for a parent's disappointment. 64 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:37,760 And finally, our panel decides 65 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:41,680 who has Australia's best parenting style. 66 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:45,320 The best parenting style is... 67 00:02:56,920 --> 00:02:58,720 It's nice to see you all. 68 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:00,400 And you. 69 00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:02,840 Doesn't everybody look fantastic? 70 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:06,040 They obviously didn't do the extreme family mission. 71 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:07,240 (LAUGHS) 72 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:10,120 Welcome to the Holy Grail of parenting. 73 00:03:10,160 --> 00:03:15,360 Where your chosen ones will scale the parenting heights 74 00:03:15,400 --> 00:03:19,760 to find out who will be knighted parenting champions. 75 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:24,200 Please welcome back your finalists. 76 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:25,320 (APPLAUSE) 77 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:28,080 Kat, our honest parent. 78 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:31,320 Mark and Leanne, our team parents. 79 00:03:31,360 --> 00:03:34,280 Kim and Nick, our American parents. 80 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:35,520 (CHEERING AND APPLAUSE) 81 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:38,040 And Sammy and Jason, our lighthouse parents. 82 00:03:38,080 --> 00:03:42,040 (APPLAUSE CONTINUES) 83 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:46,440 Welcome back. 84 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:49,200 I'd like to hear how you're all feeling. 85 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:50,240 Very honoured. 86 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:52,720 Just to have gone through this experience to begin with. 87 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:54,280 Very honoured. 88 00:03:54,320 --> 00:03:57,440 I'm humbled and in a bit of disbelief that I'm sitting here. 89 00:03:57,480 --> 00:04:00,280 I'm so happy to be here. Of course I am. 90 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:05,720 But I also, like, wanna thank everybody there for putting us here. 91 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:09,000 (APPLAUSE) Kim and Nick? 92 00:04:09,040 --> 00:04:12,600 For me, I'm just super excited to see what we're gonna see today. 93 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:14,480 So are we. (CHUCKLES) 94 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:18,680 Tonight is parenting's night of nights 95 00:04:18,720 --> 00:04:22,280 where we see how our final families 96 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:26,120 faced their extreme family mission. 97 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:32,360 So you can decide what once and for all whose parenting style is best. 98 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:35,400 This final challenge takes you deep 99 00:04:35,440 --> 00:04:39,000 into the valley of parenting torture. 100 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:43,040 In the extreme family mission, 101 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:46,960 we want to see how our final parents can give up control, 102 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:50,520 communicate with their kids and connect as a family. 103 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:53,880 These are four completely different parenting styles, 104 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:58,360 and this will reveal all their strengths and weaknesses. 105 00:04:58,400 --> 00:05:02,840 Panel parents, take notes, because at the end of the night, 106 00:05:02,880 --> 00:05:06,480 you will be voting for the parenting style 107 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:08,520 that you think works best. 108 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:12,600 Ask yourselves, "Are the kids thriving? 109 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:14,800 "Are the parents surviving?" 110 00:05:14,840 --> 00:05:20,160 And most importantly of all, "Is the family unit unbreakable?" 111 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:23,640 I'm sorry in advance for what you're about to see. 112 00:05:23,680 --> 00:05:24,880 I think they might run out of paper. 113 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:27,120 (LAUGHTER) 114 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:30,720 Every parenting style here has shown its merits. 115 00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:33,640 Everyone springing up great children. 116 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:35,680 It is hard to pick a favourite. 117 00:05:35,720 --> 00:05:37,480 For us, what's really important 118 00:05:37,520 --> 00:05:39,920 is that they are addressing the kids emotional needs. 119 00:05:39,960 --> 00:05:41,720 And who's doing that best. 120 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:46,600 Are you ready to see who is parent gold? 121 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:51,120 Sometimes just getting there is half the fun. 122 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:02,640 Here we go, guys. Are you keen? Yes. 123 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:04,800 Are you excited? Yes. 124 00:06:04,840 --> 00:06:06,800 Is anyone nervous? No. 125 00:06:06,840 --> 00:06:09,520 With being an honest parent, I think it's extremely important 126 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:12,720 to know your children what you believe that they're capable of. 127 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:15,200 So pep talks are the way to go. 128 00:06:15,240 --> 00:06:17,200 I think at the end of the day, 129 00:06:17,240 --> 00:06:19,840 we just do every single thing that we can possibly do, 130 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:23,400 find each other's strengths, and utilise those strengths. OK? 131 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:26,680 Okey-dokey. We are gonna conquer this. 132 00:06:26,720 --> 00:06:27,920 This is something that excites us, 133 00:06:27,960 --> 00:06:30,040 that doesn't really daunt us as a unit. 134 00:06:30,080 --> 00:06:32,160 So how beautiful is this road? Oh, my God. 135 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:41,240 Slow it down, dude. It's only 20. 136 00:06:41,280 --> 00:06:45,200 So extreme family... Mission. 137 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:48,320 Mission. Rule number one - no whingeing. 138 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:51,280 No matter if it looks scary, if it's dangerous, 139 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:56,000 try to think about the best way around it or how to get through it. 140 00:06:56,040 --> 00:06:59,320 As American parents, we set the bar quite high 141 00:06:59,360 --> 00:07:02,440 and then we expect our child to achieve. 142 00:07:02,480 --> 00:07:04,280 We are her personal cheerleader, 143 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:07,520 we like to cheer her on and make her feel like she is confident 144 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:09,320 and she can do it and support her. 145 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:13,120 One note to you guys, I know you don't have this under control, 146 00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:15,040 but please don't die. 147 00:07:15,080 --> 00:07:18,080 (LAUGHS) Don't worry about that. 148 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:20,880 Let's finish this. Bring it! 149 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:23,960 And they're rally car driving. 150 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:27,320 Beetson's coming around the corner. Easy ridin', baby. 151 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:30,120 Anything that's presented to us, challenges, 152 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:32,640 as team parents, we don't shy away from it 153 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:36,320 because we don't want our kids to not take anything on in life. 154 00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:38,720 So we ask them to step up as well. 155 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:40,240 I'm so excited to be doing this together. 156 00:07:40,280 --> 00:07:41,440 Are you? 157 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:42,960 Well, I've wanted to do this for so long, 158 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:44,560 and we're doing it together as a family. 159 00:07:44,600 --> 00:07:46,160 We don't even know what we're doing! 160 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:48,080 Whatever today throws at us, 161 00:07:48,120 --> 00:07:49,960 we will get through as a team 162 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:51,440 'cause that's how we roll. 163 00:07:51,480 --> 00:07:53,680 Wow. This hill's so steep. Slow down, slow down. 164 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:54,720 Extremely steep. 165 00:07:54,760 --> 00:07:56,760 Slow down? Were going, like, 5km/h. 166 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:01,080 Rickety, rickety, rickety, rickety. 167 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:03,640 SAMMY: So who's ready to go on a family adventure? 168 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:06,280 Me! Me. 169 00:08:06,320 --> 00:08:09,320 We knew today was gonna be outside of our comfort zone. 170 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:12,000 Lots of mods, guys. So much mud. 171 00:08:12,040 --> 00:08:13,520 We are from the Gold Coast, 172 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:18,720 so we don't really experience a lot of mud and leeches. 173 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:20,640 Are we gonna be smart and kind and brave and strong? 174 00:08:20,680 --> 00:08:22,040 Yep. 175 00:08:22,080 --> 00:08:23,320 Great. 176 00:08:23,360 --> 00:08:25,240 Our process of the extreme family mission 177 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:27,400 is just to encourage the kids to have a go. 178 00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:29,880 We never expect them to be the best at everything. 179 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:31,280 Here we are. 180 00:08:31,320 --> 00:08:33,600 As Lighthouse parents, our role today is 181 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:37,880 finding the balance between letting our children go and to support them. 182 00:08:37,920 --> 00:08:41,800 A red box. How very interesting. 183 00:08:44,120 --> 00:08:47,280 Your family mantra was there P smart, kind, brave, strong. 184 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:48,920 Yep. 185 00:08:48,960 --> 00:08:51,080 They are not allowed to ever forget it and I love that. 186 00:08:51,120 --> 00:08:54,040 I love Kat's pep-talk that you get to the kids. 187 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:56,200 Even I felt geed up going "Aww, this is gonna be awesome!" 188 00:08:56,240 --> 00:08:57,680 Oh, thanks. 189 00:08:57,720 --> 00:09:01,040 Kim and Nick, I love the 'no whingeing'. 190 00:09:01,080 --> 00:09:02,120 Yeah. 191 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:03,840 Were you expecting her to whinge? 192 00:09:03,880 --> 00:09:08,320 Actually, it was probably more... (LAUGHTER) 193 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:10,560 Team parents, I love how you guys interact, 194 00:09:10,600 --> 00:09:13,320 it's such a beautiful connection that you guys have. 195 00:09:13,360 --> 00:09:15,560 And I loved how messy your car was and you didn't care. 196 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:18,080 Oh, you got no idea. 197 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:24,960 Most of the time as parents, we feel a little lost in the woods. 198 00:09:25,880 --> 00:09:28,600 So to see how you get your family on track, 199 00:09:28,640 --> 00:09:31,400 we set up and orienteering course. 200 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:35,720 How hard could it be? 201 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:38,800 Orienteering is a staple of every school camp. 202 00:09:38,840 --> 00:09:41,920 This will be a real test of how these parents 203 00:09:41,960 --> 00:09:45,240 can give up control and involve their kids. 204 00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:47,160 This is gonna show the difference 205 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:50,080 between parents to focus on getting that task done 206 00:09:50,120 --> 00:09:53,400 and those who prioritise inclusion. 207 00:09:53,440 --> 00:09:55,800 There is the red box. Let's see. 208 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:59,200 VOICEOVER: Armed with an old-fashioned map and compass, 209 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:03,400 we want to see if our finalists can let their kids can take control. 210 00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:04,600 Searching for clues 211 00:10:04,640 --> 00:10:07,680 that will take them to the next stage of their mission. 212 00:10:07,720 --> 00:10:09,520 We are along the water. 213 00:10:09,560 --> 00:10:10,840 Should we read this first? 214 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:13,800 "At the wreck where no ships should sail 215 00:10:13,840 --> 00:10:16,760 "collect something you need to tie up loose ends. 216 00:10:16,800 --> 00:10:22,680 "Head northeast that 278 degrees for nearly 300m." 217 00:10:22,720 --> 00:10:24,640 I was actually gonna use the sun. 218 00:10:24,680 --> 00:10:27,880 Mark always says, you know, "I go off the sun, I can get us anywhere, 219 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:30,120 "I know what time it is. I don't need a watch." 220 00:10:30,160 --> 00:10:32,560 Can I give you a tip? That's northeast. 221 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:34,680 I'm pretty sure we go this way. 222 00:10:34,720 --> 00:10:35,880 Let's walk this way. 223 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:37,680 That says northeast! 224 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:38,800 Look at the calculator! 225 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:40,000 Matthew got that compass 226 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:42,400 and he was like "Yep. That's where we're heading." 227 00:10:42,440 --> 00:10:45,120 Mum, I'm right! No, we're heading that way. 228 00:10:45,160 --> 00:10:47,080 It's this way. We're heading over that way. 229 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:50,480 I made a coach's call to override him. 230 00:10:52,760 --> 00:10:54,120 Uh-uh. 231 00:10:54,160 --> 00:10:55,320 (LAUGHS) 232 00:10:55,360 --> 00:10:57,360 It's that way, isn't it? Is it the way I said at the start? 233 00:10:57,400 --> 00:11:00,120 Inadvertently, that coach's call was wrong. 234 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:03,040 He will be shattered. He won't be the same. 235 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:06,080 His ego is ruined for the day. (LAUGHS) 236 00:11:06,120 --> 00:11:08,760 I swallowed my pride and I followed in the end. 237 00:11:08,800 --> 00:11:11,520 OK, so there should be a rope around this area. 238 00:11:11,560 --> 00:11:13,440 I found it. 239 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:14,920 Thanks, guys. 240 00:11:14,960 --> 00:11:16,440 Good work, Mama. 241 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:18,640 OK. (READS) "Ahoy there, me hearties. 242 00:11:18,680 --> 00:11:21,520 "Collect something you need when the tide is against you. 243 00:11:21,560 --> 00:11:24,800 "Head west at 285 degrees for nearly 100m. 244 00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:26,280 How many metres? 200. 245 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:28,240 100. 100. 246 00:11:28,280 --> 00:11:32,200 We were so excited, so we decided to run to the next clue. 247 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:36,480 (LAUGHTER) Wow! 248 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:38,160 Give me the jacket and the water bottles, Lee. 249 00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:39,520 Lee! 250 00:11:42,960 --> 00:11:44,880 I can't even watch. 251 00:11:44,920 --> 00:11:48,360 I've got an idea. I can't get up! No! No! 252 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:51,280 (UPROARIOUS LAUGHTER) 253 00:11:51,320 --> 00:11:55,080 Hold my hand! (GIGGLES) 254 00:12:02,480 --> 00:12:03,520 Alright. 255 00:12:03,560 --> 00:12:06,200 With team parenting, no team member gets left behind. 256 00:12:06,240 --> 00:12:09,480 I'm here! OK, we got there. 257 00:12:09,520 --> 00:12:12,440 We made it to the end successfully. 258 00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:14,240 I hope I fell graciously. 259 00:12:14,280 --> 00:12:16,920 We struggled at first but we came home strong. 260 00:12:16,960 --> 00:12:18,840 That's what winning's all about, honey. 261 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:24,480 You don't win grand finals in March. (LAUGHS) So true. 262 00:12:24,520 --> 00:12:26,160 So true. 263 00:12:26,200 --> 00:12:31,760 "Head northeast at 278 degrees for nearly 300m." 264 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:35,040 OK. How do we work that out? 265 00:12:35,080 --> 00:12:37,600 I hate orienteering. 266 00:12:37,640 --> 00:12:39,960 I don't like orienteering because I don't see the point. 267 00:12:41,880 --> 00:12:43,480 If you want something, just get it. 268 00:12:43,520 --> 00:12:45,960 Why am I stopping at three different points to get there? 269 00:12:46,000 --> 00:12:47,640 Pepper, would you like to be the compass person? 270 00:12:47,680 --> 00:12:49,720 I want to be the... Awwww. You can be the map guy. 271 00:12:49,760 --> 00:12:52,480 Our approach to orienteering as lighthouse parents 272 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:56,040 was to let our kids lead the way 273 00:12:56,080 --> 00:13:00,240 and we would stand back and let them gain some control. 274 00:13:00,280 --> 00:13:02,520 (COUNTS RAPIDLY) 275 00:13:02,560 --> 00:13:04,520 She's off! We've got a girl on a mission. 276 00:13:04,560 --> 00:13:07,200 But it also helped us because we had no idea what we were doing, 277 00:13:07,240 --> 00:13:08,760 and we were hoping that they would. 278 00:13:09,560 --> 00:13:11,120 320! 279 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:14,120 320? I reckon would be around here somewhere. 280 00:13:16,560 --> 00:13:18,280 Nope, just a creek. 281 00:13:18,320 --> 00:13:19,520 I think we've gone the wrong way. 282 00:13:19,560 --> 00:13:22,000 I hate orienteering. I've never liked orienteering. 283 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:23,920 Unless you're Bear Grylls, what does it matter? 284 00:13:23,960 --> 00:13:25,480 So we decided to ditch the compass, 285 00:13:25,520 --> 00:13:28,880 it wasn't giving us any joy or direction. 286 00:13:28,920 --> 00:13:31,200 And, Pepper, that map, let's use that instead, hey? 287 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:32,720 Got it. 288 00:13:32,760 --> 00:13:34,240 And that seemed to work. 289 00:13:34,280 --> 00:13:36,920 I think that that's part of a ship. 290 00:13:36,960 --> 00:13:37,960 Oh! 291 00:13:38,000 --> 00:13:40,320 And it says 'where no ship should sail'. 292 00:13:40,360 --> 00:13:44,360 There's another clue! Another clue, dude! Good job. 293 00:13:44,400 --> 00:13:47,720 The lesson here is, guys, is that compasses are pointless. 294 00:13:47,760 --> 00:13:49,320 (LAUGHS) 295 00:13:49,360 --> 00:13:53,120 The kids really got a buzz from finding each clue. 296 00:13:53,160 --> 00:13:56,720 We found something! It's a paddle! 297 00:13:56,760 --> 00:13:59,280 Ahoy, me hearties. Ahoy, me hearties! 298 00:13:59,320 --> 00:14:03,120 Head north for nearly 100m. Where's north? 299 00:14:03,160 --> 00:14:04,680 Just one moment. 300 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:06,320 (CHUCKLES) 301 00:14:06,360 --> 00:14:08,560 We eventually found a direction, 302 00:14:08,600 --> 00:14:10,560 we just did it in a bit of a roundabout way. 303 00:14:10,600 --> 00:14:12,640 Daddy, if you're wrong about north... 304 00:14:12,680 --> 00:14:15,040 If I'm wrong about north, we are definitely up Shit Creek P 305 00:14:15,080 --> 00:14:17,440 but we've got the paddle, though. 306 00:14:17,480 --> 00:14:20,560 (LAUGHTER) 307 00:14:20,600 --> 00:14:22,400 DEEPAK: You are literally a lighthouse. 308 00:14:22,440 --> 00:14:24,160 Hats off to what you guys did. 309 00:14:24,200 --> 00:14:27,120 You let go of control and you wanted them to do everything 310 00:14:27,160 --> 00:14:29,400 so I would probably try to have control but you showed us 311 00:14:29,440 --> 00:14:33,280 that the main thing wasn't the end result, it was a process, so... 312 00:14:33,320 --> 00:14:34,760 I loved that you stepped in 313 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:37,440 when you could tell they were out of their depth. 314 00:14:37,480 --> 00:14:40,120 They still found it, they just needed that little tweak, 315 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:42,880 and you provided that, and then again stepped back. 316 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:46,160 Sammy, can I ask, when you opened the box, 317 00:14:46,200 --> 00:14:48,920 I heard you say "I hate orienteering. 318 00:14:48,960 --> 00:14:50,480 "What's the point?" Yep. 319 00:14:50,520 --> 00:14:52,400 Do you think that's a great start to the adventure? 320 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:54,960 I've always hated orienteering. Good point, though. Yeah. 321 00:14:55,000 --> 00:14:57,600 I didn't go into it with an overly positive frame of mind P 322 00:14:57,640 --> 00:14:58,640 that's a valid point. 323 00:15:00,240 --> 00:15:04,480 OK, let's go to Mark and Leanne our team parents. 324 00:15:04,520 --> 00:15:08,120 It was really chaotic. There was sort of a bunch of leaders. 325 00:15:08,160 --> 00:15:10,800 Your son had a go, and you shut him down. 326 00:15:10,840 --> 00:15:14,760 Matthew said straight away, "That's the direction to go," 327 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:16,640 we should've just let him go. 328 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:18,520 Mark, watching that back, 329 00:15:18,560 --> 00:15:20,680 how would you do differently next time? 330 00:15:20,720 --> 00:15:22,760 Oh, look, I've got to be able to relinquish control, 331 00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:24,840 especially with the 16-year-old, Matt. 332 00:15:24,880 --> 00:15:27,480 I suppose it's a bit of the old bull letting go 333 00:15:27,520 --> 00:15:29,320 and giving the young bull a go. 334 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:31,360 He's a man now. He's growing up right. 335 00:15:31,400 --> 00:15:33,760 We've always had Mark as the man of the house. 336 00:15:33,800 --> 00:15:38,040 How do we stop them from now bumping heads? 337 00:15:38,080 --> 00:15:41,000 Force creates resistance. 338 00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:43,080 When somebody pushes against you, 339 00:15:43,120 --> 00:15:46,080 you can either push back, which is the natural thing to do, 340 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:51,120 or you can do what we would call 'reasoned deference'. 341 00:15:51,160 --> 00:15:54,720 In other words, we say "I know you want to go that way, 342 00:15:54,760 --> 00:15:59,440 "before I let you go down that path, let's have a conversation about it." 343 00:15:59,480 --> 00:16:01,360 And then you defer to them. 344 00:16:01,400 --> 00:16:03,680 We support their autonomy. 345 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:06,240 Our kids need to have some autonomy, 346 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:08,280 it helps them to grow as people. 347 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:13,040 Problems arise when parents who are accustomed to being in charge 348 00:16:13,080 --> 00:16:16,720 deny their children that opportunity for growth. 349 00:16:16,760 --> 00:16:19,320 One of the most important things we can do as parents 350 00:16:19,360 --> 00:16:24,520 is to make sure that kids know that we believe in them. 351 00:16:26,680 --> 00:16:29,760 I think that team parents blew this one. 352 00:16:29,800 --> 00:16:31,800 You could say Mark is the coach, 353 00:16:31,840 --> 00:16:33,840 but his oldest son is the captain, 354 00:16:33,880 --> 00:16:36,960 and in that instance, it may be wise to listen to the captain 355 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:38,440 and let the captain lead. 356 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:44,800 Coming up, it's sink or swim for our finalists. 357 00:16:44,840 --> 00:16:45,880 Daddy's out! 358 00:16:45,920 --> 00:16:48,080 You're headed over the other side of the river. 359 00:16:48,120 --> 00:16:49,840 Nicolas, I am very aware of what I'm doing! 360 00:16:49,880 --> 00:16:52,920 Shooshies! "Shooshies?" 361 00:16:52,960 --> 00:16:54,200 Then, as we raise the stakes... 362 00:16:54,240 --> 00:16:57,040 (WHIMPERS) Wait, if I fall, do I die? 363 00:16:57,080 --> 00:16:58,680 It's a question of trust. 364 00:16:58,720 --> 00:17:02,080 Probably not. You might break an arm, but that's about it. 365 00:17:02,120 --> 00:17:03,760 Instead of maybe focusing on the broken arm, 366 00:17:03,800 --> 00:17:06,320 you could've incorporated a few more positive things 367 00:17:06,360 --> 00:17:07,880 about the feelings at the end of it. 368 00:17:07,920 --> 00:17:09,680 And at the end of the night... 369 00:17:09,720 --> 00:17:12,400 The panel has a big decision to make. 370 00:17:12,440 --> 00:17:15,360 ..who will be crowned our parenting champions? 371 00:17:23,800 --> 00:17:26,840 To find Australia's best parenting style, 372 00:17:26,880 --> 00:17:31,640 we sent our four finalists to Glenworth Valley Outdoor Adventure 373 00:17:31,680 --> 00:17:36,040 to face the extreme family mission. 374 00:17:36,080 --> 00:17:40,600 We've kicked things off with orienteering and so far, 375 00:17:40,640 --> 00:17:43,480 we've seen our Lighthouse and team families. 376 00:17:44,840 --> 00:17:46,920 This activity is testing 377 00:17:46,960 --> 00:17:49,920 if parents can hand over control to their kids. 378 00:17:49,960 --> 00:17:51,280 As they search for items 379 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:54,320 which will help them in the next stage of the mission. 380 00:17:54,360 --> 00:17:57,240 Let's see how our American and Honest families go. 381 00:18:01,040 --> 00:18:05,120 Head northeast at 278 degrees. 382 00:18:05,160 --> 00:18:07,840 Now, Pia can use this. 383 00:18:07,880 --> 00:18:11,480 As American parents, we decided to 384 00:18:11,520 --> 00:18:13,640 give Pia the compass so that she could 385 00:18:13,680 --> 00:18:15,400 find something educational in this 386 00:18:15,440 --> 00:18:17,040 and learn how to actually use it. 387 00:18:17,080 --> 00:18:20,080 Which way? 100 is right next to east. 388 00:18:20,120 --> 00:18:21,600 Good job! Awesome. 389 00:18:21,640 --> 00:18:23,960 I reckon we're gonna be just up here somewhere. 390 00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:25,240 This family is very competitive. 391 00:18:25,280 --> 00:18:27,440 When we have a goal, we really want to achieve it. 392 00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:30,600 Ah! Ta-da! 393 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:33,560 You take that. We're pretty determined. 394 00:18:33,600 --> 00:18:35,520 Turn in a slow circle until the red goes 395 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:36,880 in between the two things. 396 00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:39,880 And then we're going 100m. 397 00:18:39,920 --> 00:18:41,920 Let's go. This way. 398 00:18:41,960 --> 00:18:44,240 You don't have to walk through the tree, Pia. 399 00:18:44,280 --> 00:18:47,840 You can walk around the tree. (LAUGHTER) 400 00:18:47,880 --> 00:18:50,200 Once we handed over control, 401 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:55,000 I helped Pia understand exactly how to use the compass correctly 402 00:18:55,040 --> 00:18:56,800 and she was actually quite competent. 403 00:18:56,840 --> 00:18:59,160 How do you feel now? A bit better? A bit more confident? 404 00:18:59,200 --> 00:19:01,000 Yeah. Very confident. 405 00:19:01,040 --> 00:19:04,320 Pretty easy. Pretty easy?! 406 00:19:04,360 --> 00:19:06,720 Well, here's a paddle. 407 00:19:06,760 --> 00:19:08,840 We are at the third checkpoint now. We are. 408 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:12,960 And then we'd just go back towards the creek so the creek's that way. 409 00:19:13,000 --> 00:19:14,160 Alright, let's go. 410 00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:17,880 When we completed everything, got all the things that were required, 411 00:19:17,920 --> 00:19:20,800 we felt very proud of ourselves that we'd finished that. 412 00:19:20,840 --> 00:19:22,800 That actually felt like a big accomplishment. 413 00:19:22,840 --> 00:19:26,960 "You've done it!" Oh, cool! Well done. Good job. 414 00:19:30,520 --> 00:19:34,480 Oh, my gosh. We're going treasure-hunting! 415 00:19:34,520 --> 00:19:36,840 Straightaway, I'm thinking this is gonna be great. 416 00:19:36,880 --> 00:19:41,200 We've got a go forward about 300m. OK? Alright, let's do it. 417 00:19:41,240 --> 00:19:43,600 As a family, we hike. 418 00:19:43,640 --> 00:19:48,040 We roam, we wander, we explore... without compasses. 419 00:19:48,080 --> 00:19:50,280 If we're wrong, we'll just go in another direction. 420 00:19:50,320 --> 00:19:52,880 Coming along, bud? Yeah. 421 00:19:52,920 --> 00:19:55,360 My approach was just to keep the connection with the children. 422 00:19:55,960 --> 00:19:58,520 And try and actually get everyone focused 423 00:19:58,560 --> 00:20:00,280 so they could try and problem-solve 424 00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:02,440 because no one had a skill in this area. 425 00:20:02,480 --> 00:20:04,400 So something to tie up loose ends. 426 00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:06,120 What would you tie up loose ends with? 427 00:20:06,160 --> 00:20:09,760 Rope! Rope. (CHEERS) 428 00:20:09,800 --> 00:20:12,120 (LAUGHS) Oh, there! 429 00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:15,880 You left me hanging. Can I have a high five? 430 00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:19,520 Once we figured out how the compass worked, 431 00:20:19,560 --> 00:20:21,440 it was like all these doors just opened up 432 00:20:21,480 --> 00:20:23,960 and it all just started happening P it was like magic. 433 00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:26,240 I see it! What? What do you see? 434 00:20:26,280 --> 00:20:29,400 (SQUEALS) It's a paddle! 435 00:20:29,440 --> 00:20:31,800 That's what I was kinda thinking at first. 436 00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:33,200 Let me take a look at the paddle. 437 00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:34,560 Oh, a paddle! This is cool. 438 00:20:34,600 --> 00:20:36,080 And then we just started flicking dirt. 439 00:20:36,120 --> 00:20:41,840 (GIGGLING) Oh, my God. It could be poo, and it could be mud. Who knows? 440 00:20:41,880 --> 00:20:43,920 (LAUGHTER) 441 00:20:44,800 --> 00:20:47,600 (READS) "You've made it through the first part of your mission 442 00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:48,920 "now you must build your own..." 443 00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:52,560 Life raft! We're building our own life raft. 444 00:20:52,600 --> 00:20:54,240 Alright. We've watched 'Titanic'. 445 00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:57,040 They floated on a door before P we can do this, can't we? 446 00:20:57,080 --> 00:21:00,000 Yeah! Alright P let's go! 447 00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:08,280 I really love with you, Kat, when you gave them a plan of attack, 448 00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:09,680 the kids were more engaged. 449 00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:13,440 I think we definitely flounder around too much with different ideas 450 00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:17,960 and giving too many options with our kids. 451 00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:22,120 We love that your directness gives everyone the expectation 452 00:21:22,160 --> 00:21:24,720 of how things are gonna look for them. 453 00:21:24,760 --> 00:21:28,360 There is no blurred lines. You do a fabulous job. 454 00:21:28,400 --> 00:21:30,720 Thank you. Thanks, Amy. 455 00:21:30,760 --> 00:21:32,600 Just a question for the American parent team. 456 00:21:33,360 --> 00:21:36,360 You're always goal-orientated and always on P 457 00:21:36,400 --> 00:21:40,600 how do you find those ebbs and flows so it's not always up? 458 00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:43,920 I don't know, I think we've learned a lot from coming here 459 00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:47,920 and learning that maybe we are a little bit too much like, 460 00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:50,720 'Let's get it done, let's get it done." 461 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:55,360 And part of the process should be sort of part of the fun. 462 00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:57,800 I think we need to work on that, for sure. 463 00:21:59,240 --> 00:22:02,360 I really liked that because you just read what had to be done 464 00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:03,600 and then you did it. 465 00:22:03,640 --> 00:22:06,160 And then you found education in it 466 00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:08,040 and it was positive and then you actually 467 00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:12,120 then reflected on both personal and family accomplishment. 468 00:22:12,160 --> 00:22:13,560 Thank you. Thanks. 469 00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:17,800 Panel parents, grab those notepads, take some notes. 470 00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:20,000 Later, we need you to decide 471 00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:24,760 whose parenting style you think gave us the best parental guidance. 472 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:28,760 I really liked Kat's orienteering. 473 00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:30,920 She was having fun with her kids, 474 00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:36,640 throwing poo, I would never do that but she still made it fun as well. 475 00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:41,440 OK, so far, all of our parents have found their way P 476 00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:43,680 let's find out what happens 477 00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:46,960 when they had to keep their families afloat. 478 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:51,600 We didn't send you up the creek without a paddle. 479 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:55,360 We set you up the creek without a raft. 480 00:22:55,400 --> 00:23:00,040 Parents, you had 20 minutes to build a raft with your family. 481 00:23:00,800 --> 00:23:02,800 But then you had to keep it afloat. 482 00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:06,560 Maybe we should have asked earlier "Can everyone swim?" 483 00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:08,240 (LAUGHTER) 484 00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:13,800 Keeping your head above water as a family unit is hard. 485 00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:17,560 Building a raft that can carry the whole family 486 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:22,360 takes collaboration, compromise, and effective communication. 487 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:26,640 OK, time to step things up a notch. 488 00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:29,160 Let's have a look at your life raft builds. 489 00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:31,040 What are we gonna start with? 490 00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:36,520 All families need to be able to work together for a common goal. 491 00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:39,320 So we've set the task of building a raft 492 00:23:39,360 --> 00:23:41,720 that can keep everyone on board. 493 00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:44,480 Great floaters. 494 00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:46,840 Also great floaters. Also great floaters. 495 00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:48,880 Let's do this thing. 496 00:23:48,920 --> 00:23:50,960 As lighthouse parents, at the end of the day, 497 00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:54,000 we weren't gonna dictate to them how to build the life raft. 498 00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:56,760 We're gonna allow them the option of what to do 499 00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:59,240 and then sort of support them through it. 500 00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:02,480 Alright, so the bottom of the raft is those big barrels. 501 00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:04,200 How many big barrels? 502 00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:06,040 All of them. Everyone had a job. 503 00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:09,200 Rory tying a knot to a milk crate and putting some crates on top. 504 00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:12,160 His challenge was to bring that down to the water for us. 505 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:14,960 Ow. How are you going, Rory? Good? 506 00:24:15,000 --> 00:24:18,440 Almost there. Good job, mate. See you soon. 507 00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:20,960 This is gonna keep him occupied for at least 15 minutes. 508 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:24,600 So good. Alright, does it float? 509 00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:26,440 It's too late to fix it if it doesn't. 510 00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:29,640 Alright, everyone on. Let's go. Rory up there! 511 00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:31,160 Hold on, Rory. 512 00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:34,440 With four kids, it floated really well. 513 00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:36,960 OK, that's the easy part. 514 00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:39,880 And then we got on. (SCREAMS) 515 00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:41,800 Slide your butt over. 516 00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:44,960 (SCREAMS) Oh, no! 517 00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:50,760 Daddy's out. 518 00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:55,480 What are we gonna do? What do you reckon of these? 519 00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:58,400 Will this float, do you reckon? It might. 520 00:24:58,440 --> 00:25:03,320 In the American-style, I suppose our expectations for Pia 521 00:25:03,360 --> 00:25:05,600 is just basically to stay focused, 522 00:25:05,640 --> 00:25:08,280 try her best to help out where necessary, 523 00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:10,920 and be forward-thinking about things. 524 00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:12,960 Test if it floats! 525 00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:14,520 Yeah. It floats. 526 00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:17,520 Alright, bring it back, so we can decide how to put it together. 527 00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:20,800 So straight off the top, I knew that I wouldn't be able 528 00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:22,520 to hop on the raft after my back surgeries, 529 00:25:22,560 --> 00:25:24,160 because it would be too dangerous. 530 00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:27,520 Pia, we need your help, please. Put this underneath. 531 00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:29,200 Stop playing around. 532 00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:32,480 My role was mainly just to help motivate 533 00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:34,360 and get the girls down the river. 534 00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:35,960 It's gonna nearly fall apart. 535 00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:38,800 No, it's not! Have faith. 536 00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:40,960 It didn't look like a life raft at all P 537 00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:44,160 it just looked like a bunch of pipes all tied together. 538 00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:45,920 I think we move it over to the water. 539 00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:48,680 Out of the way! (SCOFFS) Child! 540 00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:50,840 Pay attention. 541 00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:53,840 It's not coming apart and it seems like it's gonna float. 542 00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:58,400 I was so focused on getting this done. 543 00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:00,160 See my oar how it's dipped this way? 544 00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:03,280 It's always like this then pulling. You're going backwards. 545 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,960 Can you please not navigate on the side?! 546 00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:08,960 OK... Shooshies! Shooshies! 547 00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:10,000 'Shooshies'! 548 00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:13,000 You're headed over to the other side of the river, though. 549 00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:15,600 Nicholas, I am very aware of what I'm doing, thank you. 550 00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:16,840 OK! 551 00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:20,720 It felt good, we were making momentum P it was slow, but steady. 552 00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:23,800 One, two... Swap. You probably need three. 553 00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:27,360 One, two... We got this. 554 00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,440 One, two. 555 00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:34,400 Yay! (HOOTS) Good job. 556 00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:38,600 Alright P are you good? That's really good. 557 00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:42,800 You guys did really well. 558 00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:47,120 Lighthouse, I so love how you give something 559 00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:49,000 that's within the kid's capability. 560 00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:50,360 It keeps them really engaged 561 00:26:50,400 --> 00:26:53,160 and feeling like they're contributing, which is amazing. 562 00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:55,880 I don't think we're ever gonna get to the end, 563 00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:58,400 but it was more about doing it as a tight family. 564 00:26:58,440 --> 00:27:01,240 Yeah, and we had a ball and the kids all fell in, 565 00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:03,800 Lottie lost it, I dragged her out of the water, 566 00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:06,000 but the rest of the kids went for a swim. 567 00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:08,480 Any comments about our American parents? 568 00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:11,080 What I love with you guys was you 569 00:27:11,120 --> 00:27:13,640 moved to third goalpost to achieve your goal. 570 00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:16,000 Nick, this is not where you can do it, 571 00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:19,360 so let's move the goalpost to still achieve what we want to do P 572 00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:21,200 you're consistent in that approach. 573 00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:25,440 Just in terms of when Nick does give his voice - 574 00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:28,240 and Nick, I've been you on the sideline, so I can say this - 575 00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:31,400 don't shoosh him down, sometimes that's all he can give. 576 00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:36,240 Yeah, OK. I realise when I watched that that I wasn't all that nice. 577 00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:38,320 I was completely out of my depth, 578 00:27:38,360 --> 00:27:41,000 but yeah, no, I think we can work on that. 579 00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:45,360 I'm a strong believer that our children should see our emotions 580 00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:47,880 and should be able to see us angry 581 00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:52,000 and the main thing is as long as you apologise if you do the wrong thing. 582 00:27:53,680 --> 00:27:56,960 When we have a strong goal orientation, 583 00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:59,000 we can sometimes become insensitive 584 00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:02,400 to the emotional and psychological needs of people around us 585 00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:04,440 because we've gotta get the goal. 586 00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:06,440 When we become insensitive and our tone shifts, 587 00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:07,640 we can do a whole lot of things 588 00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:10,080 that are not good for the connection in the relationship. 589 00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:15,760 How the Lighthouse team took on this challenge was... 590 00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:17,160 Resonated very much. 591 00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:20,560 Because they gave every team member a role to play. 592 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,560 Even the little one did a good job as well. 593 00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:26,560 Oh, such a bloody boofhead. 594 00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:30,520 Our words create our children's worlds. 595 00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:32,080 And later... (SCREAMS) 596 00:28:32,120 --> 00:28:35,080 I wondered whether she wanted to impress you guys as adults. 597 00:28:35,120 --> 00:28:38,400 Maybe it wasn't the best way to treat her. 598 00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:41,480 No child should be responsible for a parent's disappointment. 599 00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:56,760 Tonight is finals night where we see 600 00:28:56,800 --> 00:29:00,240 which of our four finalists will reach the pinnacle of parenting 601 00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:04,840 and be selected Best Parenting Style. 602 00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:07,520 This is parenting gone wild. 603 00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:12,960 We want to find out whose style is unbreakable. 604 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:15,760 We've seen if our first families could work together 605 00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:19,360 to build a raft that will carry them all merrily down the stream. 606 00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:23,000 Let's see how our other two went. 607 00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:25,400 You ready to sink, Dad? Here we go. 608 00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:27,760 Is there enough floats there for our body weight? 609 00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:30,480 We're about to find out. (CHUCKLES) 610 00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:32,880 So we need to try and tie these together. 611 00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:35,040 Yeah. Hang on, we gotta build this raft. 612 00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:37,200 Wait, wait, wait. Shouldn't we make this near the water? 613 00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:39,760 Yeah, so let's take all the material down to there. 614 00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:41,200 Very apprehensive at first. 615 00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:43,480 This would have to be some sort of special life raft 616 00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:45,280 to float eight people on a river. 617 00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:47,600 But as Team parents, you gotta show the team, 618 00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:50,360 you gotta show the family that you're optimistic. 619 00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:51,440 You gotta give them belief. 620 00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:54,400 Look! Put those blue barriers on the side. 621 00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:56,760 And then we put these in the middle 622 00:29:56,800 --> 00:29:59,280 and then we put that white things on top of these blue things. 623 00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:00,680 It's gonna work. I know it's gonna work. 624 00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:03,000 Trust me. Make sure they don't come apart. 625 00:30:03,040 --> 00:30:04,160 They won't. 626 00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:06,120 Otherwise, we'll end up in the ocean. 627 00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:09,080 You're tying skills are great. My tying skills are perfect. 628 00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:10,680 Michael's the one that tied the pipes. 629 00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:11,760 They're crap, Matt. 630 00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:14,280 The team was chaotic. We were going in all directions. 631 00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:17,680 The pipes have fallen off the rope on the side. 632 00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:20,280 Good. How is that my fault? 633 00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:21,720 I'm not saying anything. 634 00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:23,400 People were swinging off ropes... 635 00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:25,000 Wheee! 636 00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:27,080 Other people were putting other team members down. 637 00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:28,680 It's not gonna work, Mattie! 638 00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:29,920 You have no faith. 639 00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:32,400 Oh, yeah, it's shit. Excuse me! 640 00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:34,760 It was on for young and old. There was crying... 641 00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:37,640 (SCREAMING) Wait, Bailey. Just wait. 642 00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:39,480 You name it, it was happening. 643 00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:41,080 (SCREAMING CONTINUES) 644 00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:42,920 OK, OK. Stop. Stop. Everybody, stop. 645 00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:44,800 Come in. Seriously. 646 00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:46,800 We are not working together here at all. 647 00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:48,600 There is no cohesion, there's no nothing. 648 00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:49,640 All we're doing is arguing. 649 00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:51,520 Billy, Matthew, I need you on the same page. 650 00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:53,520 Huddles do work in our family. 651 00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:56,240 Our kids sometimes stray off in a bit of a tangent. 652 00:30:56,280 --> 00:30:57,840 We sort of got to pull them back in. 653 00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:00,720 Mattie and Billy, pretend you're in a scrum and push. 654 00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:03,880 Three, two, one. Scrum! 655 00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:05,360 Push, push, push! 656 00:31:05,400 --> 00:31:08,000 (LAUGHTER) 657 00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:10,320 Oh, my God. 658 00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:12,640 We were trying to push, pull, you name it, 659 00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:15,840 we were trying to get that boat to the river in one piece. 660 00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:17,800 It's cracking! 661 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:20,360 Hang on, all the parts are coming out too. 662 00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:21,960 It's broken! Did not happen. 663 00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:24,240 Pull! I just want the pipes. 664 00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:28,320 It all fell apart. But we didn't let it faze us. 665 00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:29,680 Right, I know what we can do. 666 00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:33,600 I've got the plan. Everyone grab one. 667 00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:39,520 (CHUCKLES) Bill, grab one. I'm gonna get my family down the lake. 668 00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:41,960 So we just got the kids, one in here, one on next, 669 00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:43,800 and we broke them down that river. 670 00:31:43,840 --> 00:31:46,720 Let's finish this as a team. Let's finish now. 671 00:31:46,760 --> 00:31:49,000 We got this. 672 00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:50,800 Look, at the end of the day, we kept pushing on, 673 00:31:50,840 --> 00:31:53,600 there was no way we were gonna give up on this, no matter what. 674 00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:59,000 We did it. Hands in. One, two, three. 675 00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:00,600 ALL: Team! 676 00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:04,120 (APPLAUSE) 677 00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:09,880 It was always gonna be a hard task P especially with six children. 678 00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:13,840 It all kind of fell apart and the team broke apart, 679 00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:16,360 but then the coach at halftime jumped in 680 00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:19,680 he gave the talk, and he assembled the troops. 681 00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:24,240 Although it seemed like chaos, there was a lot of collaboration, 682 00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:25,440 and a lot of discussion, 683 00:32:25,480 --> 00:32:28,880 and I think there's a very nice understanding 684 00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:32,560 between the constituent parts of that machine. 685 00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:35,920 We probably needed a P&O cruise liner to get our family on, 686 00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:41,520 so probably needed a bit of a bigger boat, just quietly. 687 00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:46,000 OK, we have one more to see. Kat, our Honest parent. 688 00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:49,480 Now, what equipment do we want to use? 689 00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:52,920 How big do we have to make this? Do we want to use barrels? 690 00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:54,040 Do we want to use pipes? 691 00:32:54,080 --> 00:32:55,840 You're really big, so I think we should... 692 00:32:55,880 --> 00:32:59,200 Thanks. (LAUGHTER) 693 00:32:59,240 --> 00:33:00,360 As an Honest parent, 694 00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:03,280 I did tell them I have yet again no idea what I'm doing. 695 00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:04,360 This might not work. 696 00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:06,840 High probability that it won't. 697 00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:10,680 When I'm communicating with the children, there is no grey. 698 00:33:10,720 --> 00:33:12,480 I don't believe in fluff. 699 00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:15,800 This is the worst raft I've ever seen. 700 00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:21,680 I got you. I got you. Yes, keep going. Pull yourself up. Yes! 701 00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:23,800 Come on, Huckleberry Finn! 702 00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:24,840 Same thing, gently. Gently! 703 00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:27,040 (SQUEALS) Such a bloody boofhead. 704 00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:30,160 And I thought, "Oh, crikey, here we go, we're all about to... 705 00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:32,920 "How deep is this water?" That's what I kept thinking. 706 00:33:32,960 --> 00:33:35,560 (ALL SCREAM) 707 00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:39,480 So cold! Oh, my willy! 708 00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:43,120 Alright, stop. Look... (SCREAMS) 709 00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:46,160 Billie, can you stop screaming? 710 00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:49,640 (SQUEALS) 711 00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:54,000 Listen to me. Stop. Stop. Stop. Stop. Stop. 712 00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:56,000 I raised my voice a bit because I think we needed to 713 00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:59,080 because I couldn't actually hear myself even think at this point. 714 00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:01,920 There's only one way we're gonna do this, watch, watch... 715 00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:03,840 Look at... Shhh! Shut up! 716 00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:07,680 Look, we're gonna have to dig it in the sand and pull it. 717 00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:09,120 See what I'm doing here? 718 00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:10,600 My kids don't know me any other way. 719 00:34:10,640 --> 00:34:12,440 They really just respond to me being direct. 720 00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:15,600 It's getting deep. Just cope! 721 00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:17,560 Don't be a wuss. 722 00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:21,440 We started moving across and then everyone felt that excitement 723 00:34:21,480 --> 00:34:22,880 and everyone embraced that. 724 00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:25,840 (SQUEALS) Yes! 725 00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:30,640 Oh, my God, Wilson! Wilson! 726 00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:35,120 I loved it. We felt really, really good getting there. 727 00:34:35,160 --> 00:34:36,320 It was a really big achievement. 728 00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:39,400 We actually just build a raft and floated downstream. 729 00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:41,400 How many families can say they've done that? 730 00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:43,240 A million. Not too many? I love it. 731 00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:44,320 That was well done. 732 00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:46,080 I love you, Mum. 733 00:34:46,120 --> 00:34:48,440 OK, I love you too. We've actually done it. 734 00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:52,680 Kat, your communication, again, was exemplary. 735 00:34:52,720 --> 00:34:57,920 It's not about winning, and in your words, this may not work. 736 00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:01,000 But you still centred them back to what the task was. 737 00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:03,240 I don't think I needed to say 'wuss', 738 00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:05,520 that's something that I detected in myself. 739 00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:06,560 Yeah. 740 00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:10,280 A show of hands - how many of us have been a moment of exasperation 741 00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:11,960 called our kids a name? 742 00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:14,600 Other than their actual name. 743 00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:19,520 So pretty much everyone in the room. We all have those moments. 744 00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:22,760 Why did you take if you could go back you wouldn't? 745 00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:26,560 Because that sounded like I was belittling her a little bit. 746 00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:29,320 There was also a playful 'boofhead' in there as well. 747 00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:34,400 I call my kids swamp donkeys, boofhead, bush chook, wildebeest. 748 00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:38,080 That's our language and we all laugh. It's just playful. 749 00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:40,960 The voice that our children hear from us 750 00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:44,320 becomes the voice that they hear inside themselves. 751 00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:49,040 The names that we use can really affect them, 752 00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:51,400 even with playful banter. 753 00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:53,960 If we're not careful, our children can grow up to believe 754 00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:57,080 that they are a boofhead. Yeah. 755 00:35:57,120 --> 00:36:03,960 Watch our tone, watch our words, our words create our children's worlds. 756 00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:06,720 Inner and outer. 757 00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:08,440 What I said was, "Don't be a wuss." 758 00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:09,640 But really at the end of the day, 759 00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:12,680 it's nothing to be ashamed of being a little bit softer. 760 00:36:12,720 --> 00:36:16,320 I'm big on reflection, that won't come out my mouth again. 761 00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:21,360 Next... (WHIMPERS) What did I sign into? 762 00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:24,920 ..as the extreme family mission reaches its peak... 763 00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:28,160 Billy, trust me. No. I'm not looking up. 764 00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:29,800 Are you gonna tell me no on a footy field? 765 00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:31,960 No, I want to do this by myself. Don't tell me no here. 766 00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:34,840 ..relationships are pushed to the brink. 767 00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:37,080 His coach mentality, 768 00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:40,200 he doesn't want to seem to wanna relinquish the head role. 769 00:36:40,240 --> 00:36:44,760 Sometimes being brutally honest isn't in favour of the child. 770 00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:48,160 If it's not balanced by that love, it won't work. 771 00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:54,000 And later, we find out who has Australia's best parenting style. 772 00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:07,240 Tonight only one style of parenting can be named best, 773 00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:11,880 so the all-important final stage of your extreme family mission 774 00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:15,960 was designed to send you all completely over the edge. 775 00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:20,320 Abseiling from the very top of Parent Mountain, 776 00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:23,640 we asked you to help your children harness up 777 00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:26,680 and climb way out of their comfort zone. 778 00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:33,480 This was a test of how do you help your kids handle stress 779 00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:37,240 and overcome fear when the pressure is sky-high? 780 00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:41,520 Abseiling can be really scary. 781 00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:44,320 These kids may or may not go over the edge. 782 00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:46,760 What we're really looking at is how 783 00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:49,160 these parents connect with their kids. 784 00:37:49,200 --> 00:37:51,680 How they support them through their fears. 785 00:37:51,720 --> 00:37:54,600 And how they encourage them in the right direction. 786 00:37:56,200 --> 00:37:59,680 (PEPPER SINGS) We're at the top of the mountain. 787 00:37:59,720 --> 00:38:01,160 Wow, it's very high. 788 00:38:01,200 --> 00:38:02,560 This is a 12m abseil, 789 00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:06,760 which involves the child controlling their own rope release 790 00:38:06,800 --> 00:38:08,640 to get down the cliff face. 791 00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:11,120 It's the toughest physical challenge 792 00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:13,200 we've ever done on Parental Guidance. 793 00:38:13,240 --> 00:38:16,800 Unfortunately, guys, you have to be seven years or older 794 00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:19,240 to participate at abseiling today. 795 00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:20,320 You gonna do it? 796 00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:21,760 You gonna do it? Yeah. I am. 797 00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:26,240 As Lighthouse parents, we are there as essentially a guiding light. 798 00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:28,760 But ultimately, they steer the ship. 799 00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:34,880 Thank you so much, little brother. 800 00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:38,200 It's a formula for independence and strength 801 00:38:38,240 --> 00:38:40,520 and I knew Pepper would have ago. 802 00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:42,720 Did you guys have any questions? 803 00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:43,760 How far are we going down, Ace? 804 00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:45,600 This abseil here is 12m. 805 00:38:45,640 --> 00:38:47,520 So it's like jumping off our building at home. 806 00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:50,640 I would never do that, though. 807 00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:53,240 (LAUGHTER) 808 00:38:53,280 --> 00:38:54,600 I think it's important for our kids 809 00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:56,760 to be challenged in a lot of situations. 810 00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:59,400 I think if you don't learn how to overcome fear, 811 00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:01,320 I think it's very hard for kids 812 00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:04,360 to grow and to be less worried about the future. 813 00:39:04,400 --> 00:39:07,280 I feel like I have no idea what I'm doing. 814 00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:09,440 It's alright. That's why I'm here. 815 00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:11,720 Alrighty, leaning back like you're in a recliner chair 816 00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:14,720 with your feet up flat to the wall. 817 00:39:14,760 --> 00:39:16,560 Nice job. Go, Pepper. 818 00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:19,080 Wow, darling. It's amazing. Good job! 819 00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:24,800 I think we play a role in Pepper's confidence. 820 00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:26,880 We don't focus on the negatives in the scenario, 821 00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:32,280 we really try and emphasise the fun and the experience. 822 00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:35,480 Wow! Good job, Pepper. 823 00:39:35,520 --> 00:39:39,560 Go, Pepper! Go, Pepper! Go, Pepper! 824 00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:46,840 Hey! Good job, Pepper. 825 00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:49,360 She's on the bottom, she made it. 826 00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:51,120 Can I do it again? 827 00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:54,600 (APPLAUSE) 828 00:39:58,560 --> 00:39:59,720 Look down there. 829 00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:02,360 Yeah, I know, just hold onto dad. We're high up. 830 00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:04,200 For me, when I found out that we were abseiling, 831 00:40:04,240 --> 00:40:05,600 I was nervous for the family. 832 00:40:05,640 --> 00:40:07,040 Nah! 833 00:40:08,320 --> 00:40:09,680 I'm not doing it, Dad. 834 00:40:09,720 --> 00:40:11,560 OK, stop. 835 00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:14,880 We know for a fact that Billy has an actual fear of heights. 836 00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:18,240 I'm not doing it. Ha-ha! Let's go! 837 00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:21,000 I thought, "Well, OK, let's just keep their family cool, 838 00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:23,840 "calm, and collected and let's just get through it." 839 00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:26,440 Alright, mate, jumping in between these two ropes for me. 840 00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:28,640 Come on Matt-man. You got this, brah. 841 00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:30,440 Matthew took the lead for us, 842 00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:33,120 which he does a lot of the time within our family. 843 00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:35,480 I feel like Spider-Man, Mum. My dreams are coming true. 844 00:40:35,520 --> 00:40:39,680 (CACKLES) Go, Matt man. 845 00:40:39,720 --> 00:40:42,760 So I think Mattie thought if he goes and he can get down to the bottom... 846 00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:43,840 I'm down. 847 00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:47,320 Then it would be the ripple effect and they would follow him. 848 00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:52,760 Alright, are you up, Ella? Alright, let's go, baby girl. You got this. 849 00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:54,440 As Team parents, we teach our kids 850 00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:56,360 you gotta have a lot of determination. 851 00:40:56,400 --> 00:40:59,240 Just keep your feet a little bit further apart, bubba. 852 00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:02,760 Better. That's a lot better. Just ease yourself back. 853 00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:05,560 OK, you got about 10-15cm till you get to the edge. 854 00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:09,280 Don't keep looking back. Just focus on me and look up front, OK? 855 00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:13,360 (WHIMPERS) You're OK. You're OK. 856 00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:15,040 She didn't want to be there. 857 00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:17,040 But she kept pushing, and pushing, 858 00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:18,440 and pushing her limits. 859 00:41:18,480 --> 00:41:23,360 I'm too scared. OK. Ella, it's OK to be scared. 860 00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:25,160 That's what happens in life, OK? 861 00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:28,600 You can do this. I want to go back. 862 00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:31,920 You want to come back up? OK, come back up. Come back up. 863 00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:33,480 You done well, baby. Good job, Ella. 864 00:41:33,520 --> 00:41:35,120 You done good, Ella. Well done. 865 00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:37,640 I don't consider today a loss with Ella. 866 00:41:37,680 --> 00:41:40,720 She pushed herself emotionally 867 00:41:40,760 --> 00:41:43,080 and for a long period of time. 868 00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:47,400 Give me a cuddle. OK? I'm proud of you. 869 00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:49,960 I'm so proud of you. 870 00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:51,720 I'm so scared. 871 00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:55,240 You're OK. Go, Bill. Come on, Bill-Bill. 872 00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:56,800 I can't do it. Yes, you can. 873 00:41:56,840 --> 00:41:58,600 You can do it, Billy. Don't say that. 874 00:41:58,640 --> 00:42:02,400 I can't. Look up. Look up. 875 00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:04,280 You gotta start leaning back, Bill. 876 00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:06,800 Look up. Look up. Billy, Billy. Billy. Trust me. 877 00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:08,480 No. I'm not looking up. 878 00:42:10,080 --> 00:42:11,720 Look up. No. 879 00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:13,440 Are you gonna tell me now on a footy field? 880 00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:14,760 No, I just a... Look at me. 881 00:42:14,800 --> 00:42:17,280 Just stop for a second. Are you gonna tell me no on a footy field? 882 00:42:17,320 --> 00:42:19,760 I want to do this by myself. So don't tell me no here. 883 00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:22,480 If you want something in life, you've got to persevere. 884 00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:23,600 In order for you to grow, 885 00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:26,080 you have to put yourself outside your comfort zone. 886 00:42:26,120 --> 00:42:28,880 You got to lean back. Stop, stop, stop. Please. 887 00:42:28,920 --> 00:42:30,320 Yeah, but I'm trying to help you. 888 00:42:30,360 --> 00:42:32,160 Yeah, I know, but I don't like people talking to me 889 00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:33,560 when I'm trying to think, Mark. 890 00:42:33,600 --> 00:42:36,640 Can you take it off? I don't want to do it. 891 00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:39,160 You sure? Yes. 892 00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:40,520 You don't want to have a crack. Yes. 893 00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:42,640 You don't want to have another go? There's so much pressure. 894 00:42:42,680 --> 00:42:45,480 Now, don't be silly. There is no pressure. No pressure. 895 00:42:45,520 --> 00:42:47,160 No pressure on you at all, mate. 896 00:42:48,920 --> 00:42:52,240 (APPLAUSE) 897 00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:54,720 Let's talk about Mark and Leanne's challenge. 898 00:42:54,760 --> 00:42:56,800 I really liked watching that. 899 00:42:56,840 --> 00:43:00,680 You guided them through it, you talk to them constantly, 900 00:43:00,720 --> 00:43:04,280 and then when you're younger ones hit that point of fear, 901 00:43:04,320 --> 00:43:06,200 you didn't push them too hard, 902 00:43:06,240 --> 00:43:08,800 but you talked with them about that fear, 903 00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:11,000 and you let them make their choice. 904 00:43:11,040 --> 00:43:13,240 I think that video showed I was a bit more abrupt with Billy 905 00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:14,560 than I was with Ella. 906 00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:19,880 I guess that shows again that you're catering to their ages, though. 907 00:43:19,920 --> 00:43:22,160 To me, it seemed like you were expecting a bit more out of Billy 908 00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:24,000 so you're trying to push him that little bit more. 909 00:43:24,040 --> 00:43:28,000 Telling me no, for me, it's him tapping out a little bit. 910 00:43:28,040 --> 00:43:29,880 I've given him instruction most of his life. 911 00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:32,840 In terms of also coaching him on the field. 912 00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:34,920 But my tone of voice can be different. 913 00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:36,960 I felt that was a bit of an eye-opener for me. 914 00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:41,160 Their son said, "I've got this, I want do it on my own." 915 00:43:41,200 --> 00:43:43,360 I really would've liked to have seen Mark 916 00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:46,840 just take a little step back from being his coach and just be his dad. 917 00:43:48,680 --> 00:43:52,440 When it comes to these huge emotions that our children are experiencing, 918 00:43:52,480 --> 00:43:54,200 if we continue to tell our children 919 00:43:54,240 --> 00:43:57,120 that they are not to tell us no, 920 00:43:57,160 --> 00:44:01,080 what will happen when they are 15, 16, 26, 921 00:44:01,120 --> 00:44:04,680 and they have a boyfriend or girlfriend 922 00:44:04,720 --> 00:44:08,400 who says, "Go on, do it, don't tell me no." 923 00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:12,720 Our children have got to be able to say no in safe places 924 00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:16,920 like our living room or on top of a cliff with a harness around them. 925 00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:20,760 So that they can say no in unsafe places when they're older. 926 00:44:20,800 --> 00:44:24,800 Let's talk about Sammy and Jason, our Lighthouse parents. 927 00:44:24,840 --> 00:44:29,160 What I love with you guys, your kids just get in and get it done. 928 00:44:29,200 --> 00:44:32,920 And they were so encouraging right from the whole family. 929 00:44:32,960 --> 00:44:37,240 Thank you. It is definitely a must, whether they want to or not, 930 00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:40,880 they have to support one another and give words of encouragement. 931 00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:42,560 I think the way you guys empower them 932 00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:44,600 with 'smart, kind, brave, strong', 933 00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:48,160 it doesn't feel like it's focused just on the achievement of the task. 934 00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:49,200 Yeah, yeah. 935 00:44:49,240 --> 00:44:51,560 It's like, you got this because of the person you are, 936 00:44:51,600 --> 00:44:53,800 you're a legend, now go forth and conquer. 937 00:44:56,560 --> 00:44:58,560 Pepper, she was just so confident 938 00:44:58,600 --> 00:45:00,320 and she just knew, "Yeah, I want to do it." 939 00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:03,880 She went there full of 'I can do this' not 'they want me to do this', 940 00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:06,520 and I think that was a really awesome thing to see. 941 00:45:06,560 --> 00:45:12,200 Let's take a look at our American parents Kim and Nick. 942 00:45:12,240 --> 00:45:14,080 You got this, Pia. 943 00:45:14,120 --> 00:45:18,520 Yeah, Pia! It'll be fine. You'll be great. It'll be easy. 944 00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:21,560 You will be excited. You're not afraid of heights. It's all good. 945 00:45:21,600 --> 00:45:23,520 Come on, you got it. 946 00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:28,440 As American parents, our expectations for Pia when she has to 947 00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:32,800 face some fears is that she should really do her best to overcome that. 948 00:45:39,240 --> 00:45:42,040 I'm feeling now kinda nervous. 949 00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:43,760 You'll be fine. 950 00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:47,360 No, no. I need to think about it. 951 00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:49,360 Sometimes she may be fearful of something 952 00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:54,240 but we want her to push beyond what she thinks she can do and go for it. 953 00:45:54,280 --> 00:45:56,440 Off you go. 954 00:45:56,480 --> 00:45:58,280 Because we know that she's going to be OK. 955 00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:03,160 It's just getting her to get over that little threshold of fear. 956 00:46:04,720 --> 00:46:06,640 Keep your feet nice and wide apart 957 00:46:06,680 --> 00:46:09,000 and you're gonna start walking backwards. 958 00:46:09,040 --> 00:46:10,960 You got it, baby. You got it. 959 00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:14,360 You can do this. You're OK. 960 00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:17,600 (WHIMPERS) That's it. 961 00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:20,360 I can't... You got it! 962 00:46:20,400 --> 00:46:21,480 You doing it! (CRIES) 963 00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:23,320 Just keep moving your feet down. 964 00:46:23,360 --> 00:46:27,880 I don't want to do this. I don't want to do this at all. 965 00:46:27,920 --> 00:46:31,600 I can't do this. I can't do this. Can we please get up? 966 00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:33,360 (SCREAMS) 967 00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:43,240 I don't want to do this at all. 968 00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:44,720 It's OK! Shh! You're alright. 969 00:46:44,760 --> 00:46:46,280 It's only up to you. You're totally safe. 970 00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:49,240 I can't do this, I can't do this. Can we please get up? 971 00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:51,760 (SQUEALS) You can get up. 972 00:46:51,800 --> 00:46:53,640 Start walking. 973 00:46:53,680 --> 00:46:56,280 Walk, walk, walk. Walk, walk, walk. Walk, walk, walk. 974 00:46:56,320 --> 00:46:58,760 Alright, good girl. 975 00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:04,920 It's scary as, huh? 976 00:47:04,960 --> 00:47:06,920 It's OK. You're right. 977 00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:10,880 I was a little surprised that she was so upset about it. 978 00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:14,240 I felt like I was gonna die. 979 00:47:14,280 --> 00:47:17,600 You're not gonna die! Like I was gonna fall off. 980 00:47:18,960 --> 00:47:20,080 (CRIES) 981 00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:21,680 Maybe you can watch me try. 982 00:47:21,720 --> 00:47:25,240 I decided it was time for me to step up and lead by example. 983 00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:27,720 I won't be able to do it because of my back situation. 984 00:47:29,720 --> 00:47:31,720 Can I jump out and do that? 985 00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:35,680 (HOOTS) See how she's going? 986 00:47:35,720 --> 00:47:37,040 Yeah. 987 00:47:37,080 --> 00:47:39,720 Oh, like a professional P look at that. 988 00:47:39,760 --> 00:47:41,080 Alright! 989 00:47:41,120 --> 00:47:47,400 Do you want to give it a try? Yeah, I guess I want to. 990 00:47:47,440 --> 00:47:50,200 Once I completed it, I think our expectation is 991 00:47:50,240 --> 00:47:52,400 that she would have another go at it. 992 00:47:52,440 --> 00:47:55,000 Are you ready? Are you sure? 993 00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:56,120 You can do it. 994 00:47:56,160 --> 00:47:57,440 Alright, let's go. 995 00:47:57,480 --> 00:47:59,400 You got your glove on? Yeah. 996 00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:01,520 Don't think about going over the edge. 997 00:48:02,800 --> 00:48:05,320 You got this. You got this. You're good. 998 00:48:06,080 --> 00:48:07,960 You got it. Keep going. 999 00:48:08,000 --> 00:48:09,640 Keep going! 1000 00:48:09,680 --> 00:48:13,200 (WHIMPERS) You got it! 1001 00:48:13,240 --> 00:48:16,880 (CRIES) Come on! 1002 00:48:16,920 --> 00:48:19,440 (CRIES) You're OK! 1003 00:48:19,480 --> 00:48:22,320 A little bit faster. Let it out. Let it out. Let it out. 1004 00:48:22,360 --> 00:48:24,720 (SCREAMS) 1005 00:48:24,760 --> 00:48:29,040 It's alright. (CRIES) 1006 00:48:29,080 --> 00:48:32,400 Keep going! Good job, P. 1007 00:48:33,880 --> 00:48:36,040 She must be nearly at the bottom, right? 1008 00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:37,480 Yeah. 1009 00:48:37,520 --> 00:48:41,720 That was a perfect example of what American parenting is. 1010 00:48:41,760 --> 00:48:43,520 I did it! 1011 00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:46,160 (BOTH CHEER) Good job. 1012 00:48:46,200 --> 00:48:48,120 We had a child who was afraid 1013 00:48:48,160 --> 00:48:51,800 and then we motivated her and she ended up doing it. 1014 00:48:51,840 --> 00:48:54,800 Are you proud you did it yourself? Yeah? 1015 00:48:54,840 --> 00:48:57,680 You not just saying that? I'm not just saying that. 1016 00:48:57,720 --> 00:48:59,320 OK, well, that's good! 1017 00:48:59,360 --> 00:49:00,720 We're really proud of you! 1018 00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:03,720 That's great. That was really hard. Really hard. 1019 00:49:06,120 --> 00:49:07,760 Pia was so frantic 1020 00:49:07,800 --> 00:49:10,360 and you just went, "Right, I'll lead by example - 1021 00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:13,480 "I'll jump in, let's get this done." 1022 00:49:13,520 --> 00:49:15,760 The moment she came back up, she was still petrified, 1023 00:49:15,800 --> 00:49:17,040 but she was proud of herself. 1024 00:49:17,080 --> 00:49:20,440 And you guys accomplished that with the way you parent. It's amazing. 1025 00:49:20,480 --> 00:49:21,960 So awesome. 1026 00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:24,840 I felt that if she didn't complete the challenge, 1027 00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:27,920 she would really regret it. Yeah. 1028 00:49:27,960 --> 00:49:29,800 I think it was incredible to see 1029 00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:32,200 how much fear she actually had but still did it. 1030 00:49:32,240 --> 00:49:35,160 And what it shows to me is how much trust she has in you guys. 1031 00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:40,000 Pia obviously felt unsafe in that situation. 1032 00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:41,720 She did. 1033 00:49:41,760 --> 00:49:43,840 And I wondered whether she was motivated 1034 00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:47,680 to do it because she wanted to impress you guys as adults. 1035 00:49:47,720 --> 00:49:50,880 She made that decision herself. We never pushed her to go back again. 1036 00:49:52,440 --> 00:49:56,560 A little part of me was questioning was the fear of the height greater 1037 00:49:56,600 --> 00:49:59,280 than the fear of disappointing the parents? 1038 00:49:59,320 --> 00:50:01,680 Because no child should be responsible 1039 00:50:01,720 --> 00:50:03,600 for a parent's disappointment. 1040 00:50:05,960 --> 00:50:11,080 Yeah, I mean, I feel maybe it wasn't the best way to treat her. 1041 00:50:12,360 --> 00:50:16,720 But I also feel like it's very important for us that 1042 00:50:16,760 --> 00:50:22,440 we are teaching her life skills and not everything in life is fun. 1043 00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:28,160 It's an emotional subject for Kim because... 1044 00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:29,560 I've had to do everything. 1045 00:50:29,600 --> 00:50:31,760 I couldn't walk five times 1046 00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:33,760 and so she's really had to pick up 1047 00:50:33,800 --> 00:50:37,600 everything and that's been tough because 1048 00:50:37,640 --> 00:50:43,000 Pia's also growing up seeing me totally disabled five times. 1049 00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:48,960 I think it would just be so nice to see you start looking after you 1050 00:50:49,000 --> 00:50:51,040 and prioritizing you 1051 00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:52,560 because when you're thriving, 1052 00:50:52,600 --> 00:50:56,560 then I think it gives us better access to our parenting tools 1053 00:50:56,600 --> 00:50:58,640 that we really want to use a lot more. 1054 00:50:58,680 --> 00:51:01,400 (APPLAUSE) 1055 00:51:03,480 --> 00:51:06,320 And, Kim, I think we all agree you're a really good man. 1056 00:51:06,360 --> 00:51:08,400 You're a very strong woman. 1057 00:51:09,120 --> 00:51:10,120 Thanks. 1058 00:51:11,680 --> 00:51:14,640 We definitely see benefits to the American parenting. 1059 00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:16,800 Pia was absolutely petrified 1060 00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:19,040 but her mum stood up to the task 1061 00:51:19,080 --> 00:51:22,480 and said, "Right, I'll show you leadership, I'll do it." 1062 00:51:22,520 --> 00:51:25,440 And Pia jumped right in and followed. 1063 00:51:25,480 --> 00:51:27,080 Massive win for that kid. 1064 00:51:27,120 --> 00:51:30,440 You can see that American parenting style, they want to push them, 1065 00:51:30,480 --> 00:51:32,200 but she cried the whole way down 1066 00:51:32,240 --> 00:51:35,320 and it didn't really seem like it was for Pia's benefit. 1067 00:51:35,360 --> 00:51:38,040 OK, we have one more abseil to see. 1068 00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:40,880 Here's Kat, our Honest parent. 1069 00:51:40,920 --> 00:51:43,920 You're about to do something that you've never done before. 1070 00:51:43,960 --> 00:51:46,920 I have all the faith in the world in you. We got this. 1071 00:51:46,960 --> 00:51:49,600 Yeah. If I fall, what just go down? 1072 00:51:49,640 --> 00:51:51,360 You'll fall 10m and hit your head. 1073 00:51:51,400 --> 00:51:53,600 Will I die? No, probably not. 1074 00:51:53,640 --> 00:51:55,120 You might break an arm, but that's about it. 1075 00:51:55,160 --> 00:51:59,240 Oh, crap! What did I sign into?! 1076 00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:00,960 (LAUGHTER) 1077 00:52:01,000 --> 00:52:03,560 The biggest thrill of your life. 1078 00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:06,320 What if I don't want to do it? 1079 00:52:08,400 --> 00:52:11,600 Say something! I'm getting freaked out. 1080 00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:14,080 I absolutely know you can do this. 1081 00:52:14,120 --> 00:52:16,280 You know what? I don't blow wind up your arse, mate. 1082 00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:17,720 If I didn't think you could do this, 1083 00:52:17,760 --> 00:52:19,600 I would say, "Billie, this is WAY too much for you - 1084 00:52:19,640 --> 00:52:21,640 "don't even try it." 1085 00:52:24,080 --> 00:52:29,240 Oh, love. Hey. I don't want to do it. 1086 00:52:29,280 --> 00:52:31,600 OK! You know what? Look at me. 1087 00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:34,000 I'm never, ever, ever gonna make you do something 1088 00:52:34,040 --> 00:52:35,440 you don't want to do, OK? 1089 00:52:35,480 --> 00:52:37,800 I'm not gonna make you do that. 1090 00:52:37,840 --> 00:52:39,960 Her crying told me that she wasn't comfortable. 1091 00:52:40,000 --> 00:52:41,400 Then the mother bear kicked in. 1092 00:52:41,440 --> 00:52:43,720 Are you sure? 1093 00:52:46,800 --> 00:52:48,520 I want to relieve her of pain, you know? 1094 00:52:48,560 --> 00:52:50,120 I want to be the honest parent, 1095 00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:52,680 but I don't want to instill pain on my children. 1096 00:52:54,160 --> 00:52:57,560 Jesse? How would you feel about going first? 1097 00:52:58,680 --> 00:52:59,920 OK. 1098 00:53:02,640 --> 00:53:04,920 Now, remember, darling, got 1 foot on one side of that little pad, 1099 00:53:04,960 --> 00:53:06,200 and when put on the other side. 1100 00:53:06,240 --> 00:53:07,640 I don't think I can do this. 1101 00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:10,160 Nice and easy. That's it, buddy. 1102 00:53:10,200 --> 00:53:12,400 Jesse, you can do this. Jesse, have a breath... 1103 00:53:12,440 --> 00:53:14,120 I don't think I can do this. 1104 00:53:14,160 --> 00:53:17,200 I just want you to get to this little bit. 1105 00:53:17,240 --> 00:53:20,040 Even just baby steps. I'm so proud of you. 1106 00:53:20,800 --> 00:53:22,640 (SIGHS) 1107 00:53:24,480 --> 00:53:25,960 When he started looking at me 1108 00:53:26,000 --> 00:53:28,640 and I could see him beating himself up internally, 1109 00:53:28,680 --> 00:53:30,960 my role was completely flipped around. 1110 00:53:31,000 --> 00:53:34,560 There is absolutely no shame in not doing it. 1111 00:53:34,600 --> 00:53:36,400 It's OK! 1112 00:53:38,400 --> 00:53:39,640 I'm sorry. 1113 00:53:39,680 --> 00:53:42,080 Please never say sorry to me for not doing something 1114 00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:44,520 because you don't feel comfortable to do it. 1115 00:53:44,560 --> 00:53:45,880 You too, Miss Chook. 1116 00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:48,600 Right? It's alright. It's alright. 1117 00:53:48,640 --> 00:53:50,480 This is something... This could be on our little list 1118 00:53:50,520 --> 00:53:52,200 of things to try to do and do at another time. 1119 00:53:52,240 --> 00:53:54,240 It will be. It will be? See? There you go. 1120 00:53:54,280 --> 00:53:55,840 It's not turned you off for life. 1121 00:53:55,880 --> 00:53:57,360 You still want to have another shot. 1122 00:53:57,400 --> 00:53:59,520 You want to conquer it now. So you're right, it's a thing. 1123 00:53:59,560 --> 00:54:01,480 Next time. There will be a next time. 1124 00:54:01,520 --> 00:54:02,920 All right? Yeah. 1125 00:54:02,960 --> 00:54:03,960 OK. 1126 00:54:05,760 --> 00:54:10,480 Alright, there's some big emotion and big reaction to that. 1127 00:54:12,320 --> 00:54:15,160 You were just so chill, but so kind. 1128 00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:19,880 I'm just, like, incredibly inspired by you, as a mother. 1129 00:54:21,040 --> 00:54:25,280 The thing about your style is if it's not balanced by that love, 1130 00:54:25,320 --> 00:54:26,320 it won't work. 1131 00:54:26,360 --> 00:54:31,640 For you, your intense love with that straightforward honesty, 1132 00:54:31,680 --> 00:54:32,720 like, brilliant. 1133 00:54:32,760 --> 00:54:34,680 Thank you, guys. Wow. 1134 00:54:34,720 --> 00:54:37,440 I don't wanna burst your bubble at all, it's got nothing to do with it, 1135 00:54:37,480 --> 00:54:40,800 I loved what happened, but as a dance teacher, 1136 00:54:40,840 --> 00:54:44,000 if I've got little kids that are starting dancing for the first time 1137 00:54:44,040 --> 00:54:46,640 and they're crying and their holding their mum's leg, 1138 00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:48,640 the last thing that I would ever do 1139 00:54:48,680 --> 00:54:50,680 is bring the parent into the room. 1140 00:54:52,120 --> 00:54:53,360 If you had stayed back, 1141 00:54:53,400 --> 00:54:54,960 they may have been more likely to do it, 1142 00:54:55,000 --> 00:54:56,560 rather than you being there, "You OK? 1143 00:54:56,600 --> 00:55:00,240 "You feeling alright?" That's what I would've done. 1144 00:55:00,280 --> 00:55:04,240 Billie, she's not a crier, so as soon as I saw that... 1145 00:55:04,280 --> 00:55:07,360 I'm calling that for you. 1146 00:55:07,400 --> 00:55:11,000 I read my children's cues and I know my children's cues. 1147 00:55:13,160 --> 00:55:15,760 She knew her children so well, 1148 00:55:15,800 --> 00:55:18,120 and in a challenge about connection, 1149 00:55:18,160 --> 00:55:20,120 she was so connected to both of them 1150 00:55:20,160 --> 00:55:21,760 and I was beyond impressed. 1151 00:55:23,120 --> 00:55:25,560 If we keep our kids in their comfort zone, 1152 00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:28,160 we limit their opportunities for growth. 1153 00:55:28,200 --> 00:55:30,600 They don't develop where they stay safe. 1154 00:55:31,800 --> 00:55:36,800 Encouraging our kids to experience stressful situations is important. 1155 00:55:36,840 --> 00:55:40,560 Muscles don't grow unless they carry a stressful load, 1156 00:55:40,600 --> 00:55:43,280 and our character doesn't develop 1157 00:55:43,320 --> 00:55:46,480 unless it's placed under stress as well. 1158 00:55:46,520 --> 00:55:48,800 As parents, our job is to help our children 1159 00:55:48,840 --> 00:55:51,160 navigate these stressful situations 1160 00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:52,880 in a way that is supportive. 1161 00:55:52,920 --> 00:55:59,720 Finalists, you've completed the extreme family mission. 1162 00:55:59,760 --> 00:56:02,320 (CHEERING AND APPLAUSE) 1163 00:56:03,040 --> 00:56:08,280 Thank you so much for all of the parental guidance you've given us. 1164 00:56:08,320 --> 00:56:10,720 The panel has a big decision to make. 1165 00:56:10,760 --> 00:56:13,280 Do you think we can have the room one last time? 1166 00:56:14,760 --> 00:56:18,640 We feel very privileged to have been able to go through this experience. 1167 00:56:19,520 --> 00:56:22,680 We really foster independence and resilience, 1168 00:56:22,720 --> 00:56:25,760 and I think that type of parenting style is definitely a winner. 1169 00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:30,600 If we win, I think people respond to the way we set the bar. 1170 00:56:30,640 --> 00:56:33,880 And then when that's achieved, we actually set a bar again. 1171 00:56:33,920 --> 00:56:36,320 You can always do better. 1172 00:56:37,200 --> 00:56:38,800 Next... 1173 00:56:38,840 --> 00:56:42,440 I have a lot of concerns with Lighthouse parenting, to be honest. 1174 00:56:42,480 --> 00:56:44,840 The truth comes out. 1175 00:56:44,880 --> 00:56:47,200 I think Mark and Leanne fell apart a bit in this whole challenge. 1176 00:56:47,240 --> 00:56:50,360 Before our panellists make their biggest decision yet. 1177 00:56:50,400 --> 00:56:54,160 There was a lot of pressure on Pia - she was terrified. 1178 00:56:54,200 --> 00:56:56,800 Who will take the parenting crown? 1179 00:56:56,840 --> 00:56:58,400 You can only do the honest style 1180 00:56:58,440 --> 00:57:00,520 if you are really connected to your kids. 1181 00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:11,240 We've come to the end of the extreme family mission. 1182 00:57:11,280 --> 00:57:14,680 Panel, having seen our finalists in action tonight 1183 00:57:14,720 --> 00:57:17,600 and across all their previous challenges, 1184 00:57:17,640 --> 00:57:20,800 now it is all up to you 1185 00:57:20,840 --> 00:57:25,120 To choose Australia's best parenting style. 1186 00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:27,320 Let's gather round... 1187 00:57:36,440 --> 00:57:39,520 So the big question we need you to answer 1188 00:57:39,560 --> 00:57:44,240 how should we be raising the next generation of Australians? 1189 00:57:44,280 --> 00:57:49,480 We're looking for the style that passes the 3Cs of parenting 1190 00:57:49,520 --> 00:57:54,360 control, communication, and most of all connection. 1191 00:57:54,400 --> 00:57:58,160 Let's talk about Sammy and Jason, our Lighthouse parents. 1192 00:57:58,200 --> 00:58:02,160 How do we think that they went with the extreme family mission? 1193 00:58:02,200 --> 00:58:03,880 Pepper, would you like to be the compass person? 1194 00:58:03,920 --> 00:58:06,040 I wanted to do that! You can be the map guy. 1195 00:58:06,080 --> 00:58:09,240 We knew today was gonna be outside of our comfort zone 1196 00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:11,000 but Lighthouse parenting 1197 00:58:11,040 --> 00:58:13,440 is a formula for independence and strength. 1198 00:58:13,480 --> 00:58:15,440 She's off! We've got a girl on a mission. 1199 00:58:15,480 --> 00:58:17,440 We found something! 1200 00:58:17,480 --> 00:58:19,280 Ow! 1201 00:58:19,320 --> 00:58:20,640 How you going? Good? 1202 00:58:20,680 --> 00:58:22,360 Almost there. 1203 00:58:22,400 --> 00:58:23,400 Good job, mate. 1204 00:58:23,440 --> 00:58:25,720 (SQUEALS) Oh, no. 1205 00:58:25,760 --> 00:58:32,360 Go, Pepper. Go, Pepper. Go, Pepper! Wow! 1206 00:58:32,400 --> 00:58:35,760 I just love seeing how confident and independent their kids are. 1207 00:58:35,800 --> 00:58:38,560 They take everything on just so fearlessly. 1208 00:58:38,600 --> 00:58:42,800 The way that Pepper got up and did that abseiling, she just took it on. 1209 00:58:42,840 --> 00:58:46,600 They trust in their kids in the leash that they're giving them 1210 00:58:46,640 --> 00:58:50,040 and let themselves lead and they never seem flustered. 1211 00:58:50,800 --> 00:58:55,120 I wonder if sometimes there is too much pressure on Pepper? 1212 00:58:55,160 --> 00:58:58,200 And that in giving her freedom, is that freedom 1213 00:58:58,240 --> 00:59:01,880 involving responsibilities that may be a 10-year-old shouldn't have? 1214 00:59:01,920 --> 00:59:04,360 But also, I think it's all very well 1215 00:59:04,400 --> 00:59:07,040 to give your children all this trust, 1216 00:59:07,080 --> 00:59:08,640 but I just don't trust other people. 1217 00:59:08,680 --> 00:59:10,560 They can trust their kids, fine, 1218 00:59:10,600 --> 00:59:12,640 but I don't trust the other people around. 1219 00:59:12,680 --> 00:59:18,360 Let's talk about Mark and Leanne and their extreme family mission. 1220 00:59:20,520 --> 00:59:23,200 With teen parenting, no team member gets left behind. 1221 00:59:23,240 --> 00:59:24,640 I'm here! 1222 00:59:24,680 --> 00:59:27,520 (SCREAMING) Wait, Bailey. Just wait. 1223 00:59:27,560 --> 00:59:29,360 OK, OK, stop. Everybody, stop. 1224 00:59:29,400 --> 00:59:32,120 There is no cohesion, there is no nothing. All we're doing is arguing. 1225 00:59:32,160 --> 00:59:34,040 Billy, Matthew, I need you on the same page. 1226 00:59:34,080 --> 00:59:36,320 I can't do it. Yes you can. Trust me. 1227 00:59:36,360 --> 00:59:37,840 No. I'm not looking up. 1228 00:59:37,880 --> 00:59:39,880 Are you gonna tell me no on a footy field? 1229 00:59:39,920 --> 00:59:41,680 Can you take it off? I don't want to do it. 1230 00:59:43,720 --> 00:59:47,080 What's something we've learned from our team parents, Mark and Leanne? 1231 00:59:47,120 --> 00:59:48,240 Don't have six kids. 1232 00:59:48,280 --> 00:59:50,320 (LAUGHTER) 1233 00:59:50,360 --> 00:59:55,880 I actually think that I learned that you COULD have six kids and thrive. 1234 00:59:55,920 --> 00:59:59,240 The way that they support each other, it actually made me excited 1235 00:59:59,280 --> 01:00:00,920 to go and make some more babies. 1236 01:00:00,960 --> 01:00:02,240 (LAUGHTER) 1237 01:00:02,280 --> 01:00:04,680 Michael, how scared are you feeling right now? 1238 01:00:04,720 --> 01:00:08,840 Um, I just made an appointment at lunch time. 1239 01:00:08,880 --> 01:00:10,360 (LAUGHTER) 1240 01:00:10,400 --> 01:00:12,600 I actually think Mark and Leanne fell apart a bit 1241 01:00:12,640 --> 01:00:14,040 in this challenge, unfortunately. 1242 01:00:14,080 --> 01:00:18,280 There was a bit more doing what they wanted rather than coming together. 1243 01:00:18,320 --> 01:00:23,240 I do wonder sometimes with Mark with his coach mentality, 1244 01:00:23,280 --> 01:00:26,480 he doesn't seem to want to relinquish the head role sometimes, 1245 01:00:26,520 --> 01:00:28,840 that does concern me a little bit. 1246 01:00:28,880 --> 01:00:31,400 I think after seeing himself today in that challenge, 1247 01:00:31,440 --> 01:00:34,400 he's gonna change that. Yeah, I agree, Tancy. 1248 01:00:34,440 --> 01:00:36,120 It hit him between the eyes. 1249 01:00:36,160 --> 01:00:37,280 I think in a coach's handbook, 1250 01:00:37,320 --> 01:00:39,640 you're always gonna take on new strategies 1251 01:00:39,680 --> 01:00:42,400 to get your team in the best position on the field. 1252 01:00:43,840 --> 01:00:48,240 Let's talk about Kim and Nick, our American parents. 1253 01:00:48,280 --> 01:00:50,040 So the creek's that way. 1254 01:00:50,080 --> 01:00:52,680 This way, Yep. Exactly this way. 1255 01:00:52,720 --> 01:00:55,600 As Americans parents, we set the bar quite high 1256 01:00:55,640 --> 01:00:58,080 and then we expect our child to achieve. 1257 01:00:58,120 --> 01:00:59,360 How're you feeling now? A bit better? 1258 01:00:59,400 --> 01:01:02,600 Yeah, very confident now. 1259 01:01:02,640 --> 01:01:05,280 Can you please not navigate on the side? 1260 01:01:05,320 --> 01:01:08,120 OK. Shooshies! Shooshies! 1261 01:01:08,160 --> 01:01:09,240 We got this. 1262 01:01:09,280 --> 01:01:13,200 Yay! (HOOTS) 1263 01:01:13,240 --> 01:01:16,200 You got this. You got this. You're good. 1264 01:01:16,240 --> 01:01:18,280 You got it. Keep going. 1265 01:01:18,320 --> 01:01:19,880 (WHIMPERS) Come on! A little bit faster, 1266 01:01:19,920 --> 01:01:22,560 A little bit faster, let it out, let it out. 1267 01:01:22,600 --> 01:01:23,880 I did it. 1268 01:01:23,920 --> 01:01:26,120 We're really proud of you. That was really good. 1269 01:01:26,160 --> 01:01:27,560 That was really hard. 1270 01:01:28,280 --> 01:01:30,520 One thing that stood out for me, 1271 01:01:30,560 --> 01:01:35,640 there was a lot of pressure on Pia, especially doing the abseiling. 1272 01:01:35,680 --> 01:01:38,080 I felt really bad for her. 1273 01:01:38,120 --> 01:01:39,720 I really agree with Kat there, 1274 01:01:39,760 --> 01:01:42,360 I was pained to see what she was going through. 1275 01:01:42,400 --> 01:01:47,840 I love how there's the goal-setting, the achievement-oriented style, 1276 01:01:47,880 --> 01:01:51,320 and giving her every opportunity to win 1277 01:01:51,360 --> 01:01:56,320 at everything that they have provided for her to participate in. 1278 01:01:56,360 --> 01:01:58,680 I think if you talk about the connection, the control, 1279 01:01:58,720 --> 01:01:59,920 and the communication, 1280 01:01:59,960 --> 01:02:02,800 I think their control and communication is very evident, 1281 01:02:02,840 --> 01:02:04,960 but then sometimes that connection is lost 1282 01:02:05,000 --> 01:02:06,600 because she doesn't get a voice. 1283 01:02:06,640 --> 01:02:09,360 I would've said the opposite P well, almost the opposite. 1284 01:02:09,400 --> 01:02:11,680 I would've said the connection is 100% there, 1285 01:02:11,720 --> 01:02:14,160 you look at the way Pia talks about her parents, 1286 01:02:14,200 --> 01:02:16,720 and the communication, they're always laying it out. 1287 01:02:16,760 --> 01:02:20,000 The control is where at points 1288 01:02:20,040 --> 01:02:21,560 they have struggled to let her have it. 1289 01:02:23,760 --> 01:02:25,440 Alright, let's unpack. 1290 01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:29,040 What did we learn from Kat's Honest parenting 1291 01:02:29,080 --> 01:02:31,920 in the extreme family mission? 1292 01:02:31,960 --> 01:02:35,760 Oh, my God! It could be poo and it could be dirt P who knows? 1293 01:02:35,800 --> 01:02:38,120 There is so much love in Honest parenting. 1294 01:02:38,160 --> 01:02:41,880 Because I'm not only honest when I'm feeling a little bit frustrated... 1295 01:02:41,920 --> 01:02:45,640 I'm extremely honest with how much I love them too. 1296 01:02:45,680 --> 01:02:47,760 (SQUEALS) 1297 01:02:47,800 --> 01:02:50,960 Listen to me, stop. Stop. Stop. Stop. 1298 01:02:51,000 --> 01:02:52,760 If I fall, will I die? 1299 01:02:52,800 --> 01:02:54,480 No, probably not. 1300 01:02:54,520 --> 01:02:56,160 You might break an arm, but that's about it. 1301 01:02:56,200 --> 01:02:58,720 What if I don't want to do it? 1302 01:03:03,200 --> 01:03:05,240 Oh, love. 1303 01:03:05,280 --> 01:03:07,480 I don't want to do it. OK, you know what? 1304 01:03:07,520 --> 01:03:09,520 I'm never, ever, ever gonna make you do something 1305 01:03:09,560 --> 01:03:10,760 that you don't want to do, OK? 1306 01:03:10,800 --> 01:03:12,720 I'm not gonna make you do that. 1307 01:03:13,400 --> 01:03:15,240 I think with Kat, I'm really impressed 1308 01:03:15,280 --> 01:03:18,400 because she gives her kids autonomy but there's 1309 01:03:18,440 --> 01:03:21,640 still direction and structure within it, which I really love. 1310 01:03:21,680 --> 01:03:24,840 Kat really showed that gentle side, especially in the abseil. 1311 01:03:24,880 --> 01:03:26,960 She can come across as quite strong 1312 01:03:27,000 --> 01:03:30,800 and hilarious, but I loved seeing that gentle side too. 1313 01:03:31,640 --> 01:03:33,320 I felt on the abseiling mission, 1314 01:03:33,360 --> 01:03:35,960 instead of maybe focusing on the broken arm, you could've 1315 01:03:36,000 --> 01:03:37,560 incorporated a few more positive things 1316 01:03:37,600 --> 01:03:39,800 about the feelings at the end of it and all that sort of stuff 1317 01:03:39,840 --> 01:03:41,200 instead of going straight to that. 1318 01:03:41,240 --> 01:03:44,400 Yeah, exactly. I think that might be an example 1319 01:03:44,440 --> 01:03:49,120 of sometimes when being brutally honest isn't in favour of the child. 1320 01:03:49,160 --> 01:03:50,920 If you're getting on that plane, 1321 01:03:50,960 --> 01:03:53,720 you're not gonna say to your kids, "We could crash and die here." 1322 01:03:53,760 --> 01:03:57,160 That's honest, but it's probably not helpful. 1323 01:03:57,200 --> 01:03:59,280 Thank you for your thoughts. 1324 01:03:59,320 --> 01:04:01,720 Panel parents, you can head back to your seats. 1325 01:04:01,760 --> 01:04:04,560 And write down your final vote. 1326 01:04:06,800 --> 01:04:08,880 JOHN: It's really tough because across all 1327 01:04:08,920 --> 01:04:11,960 four of the parenting styles, there's so many positives. 1328 01:04:12,000 --> 01:04:13,960 We're learning stuff from all of these families 1329 01:04:14,000 --> 01:04:15,520 which makes it such a hard decision. 1330 01:04:15,560 --> 01:04:17,800 It's a great parenting style, 1331 01:04:17,840 --> 01:04:20,840 but I think it's too much for everyone to do. 1332 01:04:20,880 --> 01:04:21,880 True. 1333 01:04:21,920 --> 01:04:24,720 One family ticked all the boxes for us. 1334 01:04:24,760 --> 01:04:25,760 Right. 1335 01:04:30,560 --> 01:04:33,960 Panel parents, we are coming to collect your votes. 1336 01:04:34,000 --> 01:04:35,520 You ready? 1337 01:04:35,560 --> 01:04:38,720 You had a good conversation going on there, you two. 1338 01:04:38,760 --> 01:04:40,840 It was hard. Thank you. 1339 01:04:40,880 --> 01:04:42,520 Thank you. Thank you. 1340 01:04:42,560 --> 01:04:47,000 I'm sure it's well thought-out. Thank you. 1341 01:04:47,040 --> 01:04:51,800 The votes have been collected. Now they'll be counted. 1342 01:04:56,960 --> 01:04:59,200 (CHEERING) 1343 01:04:59,240 --> 01:05:03,240 Finalists, come back. (APPLAUSE) 1344 01:05:13,720 --> 01:05:18,720 Finalists, we have had a very interesting chat. 1345 01:05:20,520 --> 01:05:23,760 That's what parental guidance does. 1346 01:05:23,800 --> 01:05:27,080 We bring a whole lot of completely different parents with 1347 01:05:27,120 --> 01:05:31,560 strong views about how kids should be reared into a room and then 1348 01:05:31,600 --> 01:05:36,520 we talk respectfully, but clearly about the stuff that matters most. 1349 01:05:36,560 --> 01:05:38,120 And the conversations we get to have 1350 01:05:38,160 --> 01:05:41,120 change the parenting conversation in this country. 1351 01:05:41,160 --> 01:05:45,800 And help Australian parents to raise healthier, happier kids as a result. 1352 01:05:48,160 --> 01:05:50,720 All right, there's one more thing we need to look at 1353 01:05:50,760 --> 01:05:53,400 before we announce our parenting style champions. 1354 01:05:54,840 --> 01:05:56,320 Before each of you started this 1355 01:05:56,360 --> 01:05:59,920 parenting adventure, we asked you to write a letter. 1356 01:06:01,400 --> 01:06:05,200 As your adventure comes to a close, let's revisit your thoughts. 1357 01:06:07,680 --> 01:06:09,120 It's a letter. 1358 01:06:09,160 --> 01:06:12,920 It's their letter that we wrote. At the start. 1359 01:06:13,600 --> 01:06:15,920 Oh, my gosh. OK. Oh, my gosh. 1360 01:06:15,960 --> 01:06:19,040 A letter to myself. 1361 01:06:20,080 --> 01:06:23,920 "Never, ever did I think I would be doing something like this, 1362 01:06:23,960 --> 01:06:26,720 "and to be doing this with my partner and kids 1363 01:06:26,760 --> 01:06:29,200 "is something we will all treasure forever. 1364 01:06:29,240 --> 01:06:33,880 "I feel like Mark and I do a great job together raising our children, 1365 01:06:33,920 --> 01:06:38,800 "Mark and I do it together like a Team and that works for us." 1366 01:06:40,240 --> 01:06:43,320 "Family means everything to us. 1367 01:06:43,360 --> 01:06:46,400 "We are fully invested in Pia's future 1368 01:06:46,440 --> 01:06:50,680 "and the hard work she puts in today for a successful tomorrow." 1369 01:06:52,200 --> 01:06:56,880 "Ultimately, we are trying to raise a confident, happy, healthy, 1370 01:06:56,920 --> 01:06:59,600 "kind and accomplished future adult." 1371 01:07:01,640 --> 01:07:03,920 Each morning, we ask our children to say 1372 01:07:03,960 --> 01:07:06,320 "today I will be smart and kind and brave and strong." 1373 01:07:06,360 --> 01:07:08,440 "The goal is to help them see this as 1374 01:07:08,480 --> 01:07:11,160 "a way of life and for it to become second-nature to them. 1375 01:07:11,200 --> 01:07:15,200 "Through this experience, we really hope they get used to these skills 1376 01:07:15,240 --> 01:07:16,640 "so we can show them and remind them 1377 01:07:16,680 --> 01:07:19,120 "how great they were at achieving them. 1378 01:07:21,960 --> 01:07:25,360 "I'm hoping to show other parents the that even though I am direct 1379 01:07:25,400 --> 01:07:27,200 "and forthright with my approach, 1380 01:07:27,240 --> 01:07:29,080 "the level of adoration and respect 1381 01:07:29,120 --> 01:07:33,120 "that we all have for one another is formed from this honesty 1382 01:07:33,160 --> 01:07:36,040 "and the boundaries as opposed to friendship and reliance. 1383 01:07:37,360 --> 01:07:38,760 "To have the opportunity to raise 1384 01:07:38,800 --> 01:07:40,760 "good humans to enjoy their lives 1385 01:07:40,800 --> 01:07:42,520 "is a wonderful achievement. 1386 01:07:42,560 --> 01:07:46,360 "Signing off, go and get yourself a glass of wine, Kat." 1387 01:07:48,640 --> 01:07:50,640 What a great letter. 1388 01:07:50,680 --> 01:07:52,960 Wouldn't change a word of it. 1389 01:07:56,680 --> 01:08:02,120 I feel like this experience has allowed us to witness them 1390 01:08:02,160 --> 01:08:05,880 being what we're trying to teach them to be 1391 01:08:05,920 --> 01:08:09,800 and that actually has made me really proud. 1392 01:08:09,840 --> 01:08:12,040 You're an amazing mum, you are their rock, 1393 01:08:12,080 --> 01:08:13,960 and they do look to you for support, 1394 01:08:14,000 --> 01:08:18,000 without you, they wouldn't be half as good or half as strong or brave. 1395 01:08:18,040 --> 01:08:19,680 Yeah, you're amazing. 1396 01:08:19,720 --> 01:08:20,760 Thank you. 1397 01:08:20,800 --> 01:08:22,080 Damn crying TV. 1398 01:08:22,120 --> 01:08:23,560 (GIGGLES) 1399 01:08:23,600 --> 01:08:26,280 Why on TV? 1400 01:08:27,040 --> 01:08:30,720 I think Pia is becoming a really wonderful young lady, 1401 01:08:30,760 --> 01:08:34,040 I think that's due to our influences parenting. 1402 01:08:34,080 --> 01:08:37,000 She's an awesome kid, everybody says so. 1403 01:08:37,040 --> 01:08:38,040 Yeah. 1404 01:08:38,880 --> 01:08:41,160 Not biased or anything. 1405 01:08:41,200 --> 01:08:44,960 You're such a good mum because you're so loving and caring for Pia, 1406 01:08:45,000 --> 01:08:47,120 and you're always thinking of her first. 1407 01:08:47,160 --> 01:08:49,120 Thank you. 1408 01:08:51,240 --> 01:08:53,040 This experience has really shown me 1409 01:08:53,080 --> 01:08:55,760 that you are the other half of my team. 1410 01:08:55,800 --> 01:09:00,400 Because you're so hands-on, it makes my job so much more easy. 1411 01:09:00,440 --> 01:09:04,000 So you're there behind me the whole time. 1412 01:09:04,040 --> 01:09:07,560 Yeah, ditto. As a teammate, I couldn't ask for anyone better. 1413 01:09:07,600 --> 01:09:09,160 I know you got my back. 1414 01:09:10,440 --> 01:09:13,840 I think we're doing a good job of raising up our children. 1415 01:09:13,880 --> 01:09:17,560 Yeah, not bad. Not bad. Ask me in 10 years. 1416 01:09:17,600 --> 01:09:20,800 Their teenage years. Tell me about it. 1417 01:09:20,840 --> 01:09:22,600 I've got the shotguns ready. 1418 01:09:26,600 --> 01:09:28,920 My kids are wonderful humans. 1419 01:09:28,960 --> 01:09:32,440 They're quirky, they're unique, they're honest. 1420 01:09:32,480 --> 01:09:34,400 They're forthright and they're happy. 1421 01:09:35,400 --> 01:09:38,520 But sometimes, you know, sometimes I think about if I'm not around... 1422 01:09:39,680 --> 01:09:43,000 Because one day, I'm not gonna be here anymore. 1423 01:09:45,280 --> 01:09:47,320 And I want... Oh, wow. 1424 01:09:47,360 --> 01:09:50,760 One day, I'm not gonna be here anymore 1425 01:09:50,800 --> 01:09:54,600 and I want them to, um, now that I always did my best 1426 01:09:54,640 --> 01:09:58,320 and I have filled them with all the tools in your 1427 01:09:58,360 --> 01:10:01,520 tool basket that's gonna get you through life, 1428 01:10:01,560 --> 01:10:03,040 and what would Mum do? 1429 01:10:03,080 --> 01:10:05,160 I think that's really important. 1430 01:10:08,720 --> 01:10:10,400 Kat! 1431 01:10:10,440 --> 01:10:15,920 (APPLAUSE) 1432 01:10:18,360 --> 01:10:20,480 You said then that you were proud of your kids. 1433 01:10:20,520 --> 01:10:22,240 Are you proud of yourself? 1434 01:10:22,280 --> 01:10:24,960 Yeah, I'm not really good at taking compliments, 1435 01:10:25,000 --> 01:10:29,800 which is something that I probably need to work on a little bit. 1436 01:10:29,840 --> 01:10:31,360 But I am so proud of them. 1437 01:10:31,400 --> 01:10:33,000 They look at me like they want to learn stuff 1438 01:10:33,040 --> 01:10:35,920 and I am very aware that we all have an expiry date. 1439 01:10:35,960 --> 01:10:42,440 And, you know... So it's important to fill them up as much as I can. 1440 01:10:45,840 --> 01:10:49,400 The best parenting style is... 1441 01:10:49,440 --> 01:10:54,200 We find out Australia's best parenting style. 1442 01:11:05,560 --> 01:11:07,760 On parenting's night of nights, 1443 01:11:07,800 --> 01:11:13,440 it's time to find out who has Australia's best parenting style. 1444 01:11:13,480 --> 01:11:16,040 I feel really elated to be in the final. 1445 01:11:16,080 --> 01:11:19,760 My parenting style being honest can be a little bit blunt, 1446 01:11:19,800 --> 01:11:22,160 but I think my honesty comes through 1447 01:11:22,200 --> 01:11:24,360 not just in the stern moments, 1448 01:11:24,400 --> 01:11:26,320 but in how much I love them. 1449 01:11:26,360 --> 01:11:29,360 I am so incredibly grateful being in the final. 1450 01:11:29,400 --> 01:11:31,560 I'm so happy and I feel so proud. 1451 01:11:31,600 --> 01:11:33,760 Finalist! Grand final! 1452 01:11:33,800 --> 01:11:37,120 We're doing it together as a team. Literally. 1453 01:11:37,160 --> 01:11:39,240 This has been a once-in-a-lifetime experience. 1454 01:11:39,280 --> 01:11:42,200 I've learned about my children, how strong they are, 1455 01:11:42,240 --> 01:11:45,880 and also the fact that my wife is just an incredible human being. 1456 01:11:45,920 --> 01:11:47,960 And I would never change it. 1457 01:11:48,000 --> 01:11:50,520 There's definitely something that we will treasure forever. 1458 01:11:50,560 --> 01:11:52,680 We are very proud of our style. 1459 01:11:52,720 --> 01:11:55,280 We didn't think we'd make the finals at all. 1460 01:11:55,320 --> 01:12:00,280 But the way that we push our child and let her try those risks 1461 01:12:00,320 --> 01:12:04,040 and do things out of her comfort zone, it's working pretty well. 1462 01:12:06,880 --> 01:12:09,680 Now we've called time on the experience, 1463 01:12:09,720 --> 01:12:11,960 Mark and Leanne, how are you guys? 1464 01:12:12,000 --> 01:12:14,080 Yeah, it's been a really good experience. 1465 01:12:14,120 --> 01:12:19,200 It opened my eyes, already taken some action. Thank you, Justin. 1466 01:12:19,240 --> 01:12:22,080 And just hopefully we grow six really good little human beings 1467 01:12:22,120 --> 01:12:24,200 in a good part of the world. 1468 01:12:25,960 --> 01:12:27,760 Sammy and Jason. 1469 01:12:27,800 --> 01:12:29,960 We are definitely walking away as better parents 1470 01:12:30,000 --> 01:12:31,520 thanks to everybody in this room. 1471 01:12:31,560 --> 01:12:35,120 I'm walking away as a better person, for sure. 1472 01:12:35,160 --> 01:12:37,400 I think most importantly for us, 1473 01:12:37,440 --> 01:12:40,160 perhaps we are walking away as better partners. 1474 01:12:40,200 --> 01:12:43,000 Kim and Nick. It's been quite a journey for you guys. 1475 01:12:43,040 --> 01:12:44,360 Any final thoughts? 1476 01:12:44,400 --> 01:12:47,760 I mean, I think the biggest thing we've gotten out of this 1477 01:12:47,800 --> 01:12:54,160 is to stop, listen to Pia more and then go from there. 1478 01:12:54,200 --> 01:12:57,080 Instead of starting with... (SQUEALS) "Oh! It's great!" 1479 01:12:57,120 --> 01:12:59,160 Or "Oh, that's not good." 1480 01:13:00,480 --> 01:13:03,440 I'm really taking on board the advice that Justin gave earlier. 1481 01:13:03,480 --> 01:13:05,480 Yeah, intrinsic motivation. 1482 01:13:05,520 --> 01:13:07,280 And really embracing it moving forward. 1483 01:13:08,400 --> 01:13:11,920 Kat, any final words that you would like to say to us all? 1484 01:13:11,960 --> 01:13:14,080 I'd like to say thank you. 1485 01:13:14,120 --> 01:13:17,400 Previously, I've had fears, but now I'm not afraid to say I'm wrong, 1486 01:13:17,440 --> 01:13:18,960 I'm not afraid to ask for help. 1487 01:13:19,720 --> 01:13:21,440 All the advice along the way, 1488 01:13:21,480 --> 01:13:24,840 I feel like that's the biggest bulk billing expert ever. 1489 01:13:24,880 --> 01:13:27,160 (LAUGHTER) 1490 01:13:29,200 --> 01:13:31,280 Yay! 1491 01:13:31,320 --> 01:13:34,360 (APPLAUSE) 1492 01:13:37,840 --> 01:13:40,840 We all know the prize for being a great parent 1493 01:13:40,880 --> 01:13:43,160 is a happy family, and great kids. 1494 01:13:43,200 --> 01:13:46,080 So you're all winning. 1495 01:13:46,120 --> 01:13:53,000 But we can only thank one set of parents for teaching us the most. 1496 01:13:53,040 --> 01:13:56,680 For being fearless in challenging themselves. 1497 01:13:56,720 --> 01:14:00,280 And for being the best style here tonight. 1498 01:14:00,320 --> 01:14:04,640 And, yes, that does come with an awesome thank you gift. 1499 01:14:04,680 --> 01:14:07,840 Our parenting champions tonight 1500 01:14:07,880 --> 01:14:11,640 will receive an incredible 10-day family holiday. 1501 01:14:11,680 --> 01:14:15,880 Aboard a P&O cruise ship. 1502 01:14:18,400 --> 01:14:20,800 It's the trip of a lifetime. 1503 01:14:20,840 --> 01:14:22,720 A 10-day cruise for the whole family 1504 01:14:23,280 --> 01:14:25,760 to the spectacular tropical islands 1505 01:14:25,800 --> 01:14:28,600 of the South Pacific or Papua New Guinea. 1506 01:14:29,760 --> 01:14:36,160 The gift includes onboard meals, activities, and entertainment. 1507 01:14:36,200 --> 01:14:40,840 As well as connecting balcony rooms for up to eight family members. 1508 01:14:40,880 --> 01:14:43,280 (SQUEALS) 1509 01:14:43,320 --> 01:14:46,440 There's also on-board spending money, and flight vouchers 1510 01:14:46,480 --> 01:14:49,160 to get you to the departure port 1511 01:14:49,200 --> 01:14:51,920 courtesy of P&O Cruises Australia. 1512 01:14:51,960 --> 01:14:56,440 (CHEERING AND APPLAUSE) 1513 01:14:58,040 --> 01:15:01,120 Will this holiday be all ships and giggles? 1514 01:15:03,440 --> 01:15:06,280 Is this just for the parents who are shipshape? 1515 01:15:06,320 --> 01:15:12,760 In all seriousness, thank you for sharing your families with us. 1516 01:15:13,560 --> 01:15:16,320 Your courage in facing the challenges, 1517 01:15:16,360 --> 01:15:19,440 your bravery in facing the tough questions 1518 01:15:19,480 --> 01:15:23,720 has started conversations all across the country. 1519 01:15:23,760 --> 01:15:28,640 Those conversations will help all of us do a better job raising our kids. 1520 01:15:28,680 --> 01:15:31,280 Thank you. 1521 01:15:32,560 --> 01:15:35,640 Guess what? The votes are in. 1522 01:15:35,680 --> 01:15:41,720 Voted by you, the best parenting style is... 1523 01:15:50,280 --> 01:15:53,840 ..Kat, Honest parent. 1524 01:15:53,880 --> 01:15:55,760 (CHEERING AND APPLAUSE) 1525 01:15:55,800 --> 01:15:57,440 Oh, no! 1526 01:15:57,480 --> 01:16:02,720 (CHEERING AND APPLAUSE CONTINUES) 1527 01:16:10,840 --> 01:16:13,080 What's this mean to you, Kat? 1528 01:16:13,120 --> 01:16:16,000 I can't even talk! 1529 01:16:17,520 --> 01:16:19,680 I cannot believe that. 1530 01:16:19,720 --> 01:16:24,040 Guys, I am so grateful. 1531 01:16:24,080 --> 01:16:27,560 You're awesome. 100%. 1532 01:16:27,600 --> 01:16:29,480 That is not what I expected to happen. 1533 01:16:29,520 --> 01:16:34,760 So grateful for all of you seeing and loving me. 1534 01:16:34,800 --> 01:16:37,840 The way you obviously do. And my kids. 1535 01:16:37,880 --> 01:16:42,840 I cannot actually believe it. I'm sorry, I'm like... (EXCLAIMS) 1536 01:16:44,080 --> 01:16:47,040 I think we all need to give her a hug. 1537 01:16:47,080 --> 01:16:53,560 Bring it in! Bring it in! (CHEERING AND APPLAUSE) 1538 01:16:56,280 --> 01:16:59,000 I feel unbelievable. 1539 01:16:59,040 --> 01:17:00,440 I can't even get words out. 1540 01:17:02,200 --> 01:17:05,000 Like, that's how I feel! 1541 01:17:05,040 --> 01:17:08,040 (CONTESTANTS CHANT) 1542 01:17:08,080 --> 01:17:10,360 Love Kat. So happy for her. 1543 01:17:10,400 --> 01:17:14,360 She's doing it all alone and she's nailing it. 1544 01:17:14,400 --> 01:17:16,960 Yeah, she's not just doing it, she's knocking it out of the ballpark. 1545 01:17:17,000 --> 01:17:18,800 (CHANTING CONTINUES) 1546 01:17:18,840 --> 01:17:20,720 I think I'm always gonna be an honest parent. 1547 01:17:20,760 --> 01:17:23,800 It just confirms it. I can finally trust my gut instinct. 1548 01:17:23,840 --> 01:17:26,360 And it's telling me that I'm on the right track. 1549 01:17:26,400 --> 01:17:31,080 (APPLAUSE) 1550 01:17:33,960 --> 01:17:36,840 Captioned by Ai-Media ai-media.tv