1 00:00:01,240 --> 00:00:02,720 ALLISON LANGDON: Previously on Parental Guidance... 2 00:00:02,760 --> 00:00:04,840 I can do Lego but I can't do this! 3 00:00:04,880 --> 00:00:08,680 ..our last set of focus parents swung into action. 4 00:00:08,720 --> 00:00:09,960 FAMILY MEMBERS: Yeah! 5 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:11,320 But a knock at the door... (KNOCKS) 6 00:00:11,360 --> 00:00:14,240 I have a delivery for your mum. Do you mind if I take it in? 7 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:15,920 It's really heavy and it's... it's raining. 8 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:17,320 Uh, OK. 9 00:00:17,360 --> 00:00:19,040 ..knocked them for six... 10 00:00:19,080 --> 00:00:21,960 Once the door opened, that's the point. 11 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:24,080 That frightens me to death. 12 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:26,840 In a real-life situation, you're gone already. 13 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:28,040 That guy has snatched you. 14 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:31,320 ..while the unstructured parents... 15 00:00:31,360 --> 00:00:34,200 (CHEERING) ..were voted best of the night. 16 00:00:34,240 --> 00:00:36,280 I feel proud. So proud. 17 00:00:38,120 --> 00:00:39,640 Tonight... 18 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:42,720 Giant baby has entered the pool... 19 00:00:42,760 --> 00:00:44,880 ..the kids take charge of playtime. 20 00:00:44,920 --> 00:00:47,480 Why did you pick me to play, anyway? I know I'm gonna win. 21 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:49,440 I am not cheating! 22 00:00:49,480 --> 00:00:51,000 Yeah, you are, actually. I'm not! 23 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:54,120 But when let loose in an ice cream shop... 24 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:55,440 Can I have four flavours? 25 00:00:55,480 --> 00:00:57,280 NICK: What made you get that much? 26 00:00:57,320 --> 00:00:58,320 ..will they lose control? 27 00:00:58,360 --> 00:01:00,160 MAN: What do you think's gonna be reasonable? 28 00:01:00,200 --> 00:01:01,720 He didn't give them freedom of choice. 29 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:04,880 Maybe in the future, you could just let them do it themselves. 30 00:01:06,440 --> 00:01:09,200 And could your child find their way home... 31 00:01:09,240 --> 00:01:10,680 Wait, am I going the wrong way? 32 00:01:10,720 --> 00:01:11,840 ..on their own? 33 00:01:11,880 --> 00:01:14,240 MAN: Where are you off to today? Uh... 34 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:16,360 Oh... 35 00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:18,560 No! No! 36 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:20,400 PIA: I don't know which level I go to. 37 00:01:20,440 --> 00:01:23,080 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 38 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:31,320 # At least I had fun 39 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:34,680 # Oh, at least I had fun... # 40 00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:37,880 Hi, parents. Nice to see you. 41 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:39,200 WOMAN: Hello. 42 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:43,160 JUSTIN: Chris and Philippa, to the hot seat, the focus parents. 43 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:46,440 Hey, Amy and John. 44 00:01:46,480 --> 00:01:48,000 Hi, Melody and Michael. 45 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:49,320 Kim and Nick. 46 00:01:49,360 --> 00:01:51,640 Focus parents, welcome. 47 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:55,280 Panel parents, make yourself at home. 48 00:01:56,920 --> 00:01:59,200 Welcome back. 49 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:03,560 Focus parents, this is the final day of challenges. 50 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:07,880 So, last night, 51 00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:12,400 Melody and Michael were voted our most popular style so far. 52 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:13,840 Let's see how you go tonight. 53 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:20,960 Kat, our honest parent, and Mark and Leanne, our team parents, 54 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:23,360 will be heading through to the final 55 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:26,120 to decide Australia's best parenting style. 56 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:28,720 Panel, tonight you will vote 57 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:31,000 for the last set of parents to be joining them. 58 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:35,200 Are you ready to play ball? Definitely. 59 00:02:35,240 --> 00:02:36,240 (WOMEN LAUGH) 60 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:38,400 Anyone here had a brain freeze before? 61 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:42,000 Our focus parents sure have. 62 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:46,840 In this challenge, we asked you to give your kids $50 63 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:50,600 to buy an ice cream by themselves. 64 00:02:50,640 --> 00:02:54,880 No rules, no restrictions. 65 00:02:56,480 --> 00:02:57,600 For this challenge, 66 00:02:57,640 --> 00:03:01,840 we want to see if our parents can relinquish control 67 00:03:01,880 --> 00:03:04,600 and give their kids a sense of ownership and achievement 68 00:03:04,640 --> 00:03:06,800 in doing something autonomously. 69 00:03:06,840 --> 00:03:10,400 We're testing confidence and self-control. 70 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:12,760 The more a child is used to being told what to do, 71 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:16,480 the more likely they are to overdo it when the reins are off. 72 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:18,920 Do your children know their limits? 73 00:03:24,040 --> 00:03:25,040 (MOBILE PHONE DINGS) 74 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:33,360 What? 75 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:35,080 What will they buy? Oh! Oh! 76 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:36,880 Ha-ha-ha! Come in, we'll have a look. 77 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:41,480 In this challenge, we are testing whether the kids show restraint 78 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:43,560 or do they overindulge? 79 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:46,320 Alright, we're gonna let you go in and get some ice cream. 80 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:47,560 Yay. 81 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:49,680 You can get whatever you want, no restrictions. 82 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:51,440 Time for a sugar rush. 83 00:03:51,480 --> 00:03:53,680 (LAUGHS) 84 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:56,600 In the American approach, I talk to Pia all the time 85 00:03:56,640 --> 00:03:58,800 about, you know, eating healthy foods. 86 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:02,040 We try to keep the treats on the healthy side as well. 87 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:04,160 Take that. $50? 88 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:05,920 OK. Good. Alright. 89 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:07,160 OK. 90 00:04:07,200 --> 00:04:11,000 She's never been given the option to just go into the ice cream shop 91 00:04:11,040 --> 00:04:12,840 and get whatever you want, see you later. 92 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:15,680 We've always supervised her to make sure that... Absolutely. 93 00:04:15,720 --> 00:04:19,000 ..she gets the portion size that she's actually capable of consuming. 94 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:20,040 Yeah. 95 00:04:20,080 --> 00:04:23,120 Could I get three different flavours, please? 96 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:24,920 (LAUGHTER) 97 00:04:24,960 --> 00:04:26,840 The lemon... Lemon. 98 00:04:26,880 --> 00:04:28,880 Lemon. Two scoops of lemon? 99 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:30,640 Chocolate. 100 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:33,160 Lemon AND something else. She's gone for the big one. 101 00:04:33,200 --> 00:04:35,480 Oh, well, that's four scoops. Holy what? 102 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:37,280 Four... (LAUGHS) 103 00:04:37,320 --> 00:04:40,800 And the creme brulee. 104 00:04:40,840 --> 00:04:42,560 What? And another flavour? 105 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:44,480 (LAUGHTER) 106 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:47,160 I thought Pia would come out with a cone, 107 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:49,560 with one or possibly two scoops. 108 00:04:50,720 --> 00:04:52,520 Wow. Oh, my god. 109 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:54,200 Oh, my god. Look at that. (LAUGHTER) 110 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:56,240 But she came out with... (LAUGHS) 111 00:04:56,280 --> 00:05:00,800 an unmanageable cup of huge amounts of ice cream. 112 00:05:00,840 --> 00:05:02,600 I just think it's a little wasteful. 113 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:05,240 So, what are we gonna do with it when you don't finish it? 114 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:09,440 I don't know, throw it out? (LAUGHS) 115 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:11,000 I know it's a waste. 116 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:13,480 What made you get that much? I had 50 bucks. 117 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:15,160 I thought I'd spend it wisely. 118 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:17,000 (LAUGHS) 119 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:19,120 (LAUGHTER) 120 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:20,640 (LAUGHS) 121 00:05:20,680 --> 00:05:22,920 MELODY: There's no rules. You can buy whatever you want. 122 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:25,080 (LAUGHS) 123 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:26,120 As unstructured parents, 124 00:05:26,160 --> 00:05:31,760 Michael and I probably set a pretty bad example for the kids 125 00:05:31,800 --> 00:05:35,200 because treats are not really a sometimes thing in this house. 126 00:05:35,240 --> 00:05:38,040 Sometimes foods are all-the-time foods. 127 00:05:38,080 --> 00:05:40,480 (LAUGHTER) 128 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:44,160 CHILD: (SQUEALS) That was wiggly ice cream! 129 00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:49,400 I really expected the kids to get mile-high cones of ice cream 130 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:51,840 with 150 flavours and every topping. 131 00:05:53,040 --> 00:05:54,880 I want to get three flavours. 132 00:05:54,920 --> 00:05:55,960 GIRL: Three flavours? Yeah? 133 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:58,520 I'm so excited! 134 00:05:58,560 --> 00:06:02,520 (LAUGHTER) Now Gummy Bears and Oreos. 135 00:06:02,560 --> 00:06:05,720 Oh, my god. Look at that. That is stacked. (LAUGHS) 136 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:07,360 MILLER: Wait, I've changed my mind. 137 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:09,800 Can I have four flavours? You sure can. 138 00:06:09,840 --> 00:06:14,520 Yeah, YOU want an ice cream. I know. 139 00:06:14,560 --> 00:06:17,640 I'm so sorry, but can I just have one more flavour? 140 00:06:17,680 --> 00:06:18,840 Yes. (LAUGHS) 141 00:06:18,880 --> 00:06:20,720 (LAUGHS) 142 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:23,760 Alrighty. Enjoy that one. 143 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:28,720 MAGNOLIA: We've got to take one for my baby sister. 144 00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:31,160 I think she would like strawberry. 145 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:35,200 When the kids came out, 146 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:38,040 Miller had a five-scoop cone with a couple of toppings. 147 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:40,600 I tried to get a bunch of flavours for us to all share. 148 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:44,200 Oh, we got one for Maisy! 149 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:48,160 Yum! That looks delicious! 150 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:49,640 (MAISY SQUEALS) 151 00:06:51,480 --> 00:06:53,440 Can I just say, Melody and Michael, 152 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:57,400 I loved how your kids thought of the other little one... 153 00:06:57,440 --> 00:06:58,680 Mmm. ..and also thought of you. 154 00:06:58,720 --> 00:06:59,760 MELODY: Yeah. 155 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:02,920 Let's talk about Kim and Nick. 156 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:05,120 I love that she turned it into a business opportunity. 157 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:07,600 You know, the way she thought about it was really cool. 158 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:09,320 Like, you know, she's gonna be hard-core. 159 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:11,560 That was funny that she said that, yeah. 160 00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:14,600 Because it was $50 for one child, 161 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:18,800 do you think she would have went less over the top 162 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:19,960 if she had less money? 163 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:22,840 Yeah, I mean, she's never been given free rein like that 164 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:24,280 to just do whatever. 165 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:26,280 Do you think she went so over the top 166 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:28,160 because she doesn't normally get that free rein? 167 00:07:30,080 --> 00:07:32,680 Yeah, she's never been given that opportunity. 168 00:07:32,720 --> 00:07:34,360 She's never been given more than two scoops. 169 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:36,640 She's never been given more than one scoop, Nick. 170 00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:39,680 Because I know she won't finish it. 171 00:07:39,720 --> 00:07:41,840 DEEPAK: While someone is eating, 172 00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:46,080 we don't like to put words of shaming and guilt. 173 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:48,120 There's been times when we've been eating 174 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:50,120 and someone's made these very comments in jest... 175 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:51,320 Yeah. 176 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:53,000 ..and the whole thing becomes distasteful. 177 00:07:53,040 --> 00:07:54,200 Mmm. 178 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:55,240 That's a good point. Yeah. 179 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:56,800 Like, "Do you really need that?" Yep, because... 180 00:07:56,840 --> 00:07:58,920 And then you're thinking, "Well, I'm actually getting right into it" 181 00:07:58,960 --> 00:08:01,080 and then, "Oh, I probably don't." WOMAN: Yeah. 182 00:08:03,120 --> 00:08:06,160 ALLISON: Let's take a look at another two parenting styles. 183 00:08:06,200 --> 00:08:08,720 Peyton, I'll give you the money. OK. 184 00:08:08,760 --> 00:08:11,080 Make sure you look after the girls and help them. 185 00:08:11,120 --> 00:08:12,640 Yep. And we'll see you in a bit. 186 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:14,080 OK. Off you go. See you. 187 00:08:14,120 --> 00:08:15,600 GIRL: Let's go. 188 00:08:15,640 --> 00:08:16,720 I think with slow parenting, 189 00:08:16,760 --> 00:08:19,640 we try and allow our kids some autonomy in making decisions 190 00:08:19,680 --> 00:08:21,520 depending on what the situation is. 191 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:24,280 Let's go see what ice creams they've got. 192 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:25,720 $50 is a lot of money 193 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:28,080 but I just thought that they would get what they want 194 00:08:28,120 --> 00:08:31,080 and hopefully figure out with themselves, 195 00:08:31,120 --> 00:08:33,160 check in with themselves how hungry they were. 196 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:34,680 Which ones did you want, B? 197 00:08:34,720 --> 00:08:39,040 I want Tim Tam, strawberry and mint choc. 198 00:08:39,080 --> 00:08:41,120 And mint? Yes. 199 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:44,400 Thank you. For you. 200 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:49,040 PHILIPPA: What did you choose? Oh! 201 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:51,320 Oh, my goodness. Did you get three flavours? 202 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:52,520 Three. Yeah. 203 00:08:52,560 --> 00:08:53,680 What did you get? (LAUGHS) 204 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:57,320 If I was choosing their ice cream then, yeah, I would've got one scoop 205 00:08:57,360 --> 00:09:00,080 because I knew, you know, that it might not feel so great 206 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:01,520 in their body afterwards. 207 00:09:01,560 --> 00:09:03,760 You might need some courtesy licks there, Aves. 208 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:06,560 But I was happy for them to figure that out for themselves 209 00:09:06,600 --> 00:09:08,160 and then they learn the lesson, 210 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:10,920 rather than Mum just telling them do or don't do that. 211 00:09:10,960 --> 00:09:14,520 Are you happy with your choices? Yeah. Mm-hm. Yeah. 212 00:09:14,560 --> 00:09:16,080 This was probably a really good teaching moment 213 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:18,440 because it taught them to tune back into their bodies 214 00:09:18,480 --> 00:09:21,360 and realise, you know, what those sort of natural consequences are 215 00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:22,440 of indulging. 216 00:09:22,480 --> 00:09:25,440 At the time, it seems good but then afterwards it's, like... 217 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:27,800 ugh, maybe a little too much. 218 00:09:27,840 --> 00:09:32,160 My tummy is the same. Is your tummy full and sore too? 219 00:09:32,200 --> 00:09:34,560 Oh, no. We've got to listen to our bodies, don't we? 220 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:36,760 Do we have to find a bathroom? Yep. 221 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:41,960 AMY: Alright, let's go. (BOY HUMS) 222 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:45,480 Hot fudge sundae. Banana split. 223 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:47,800 Oh, there's waffle with banana, Nutella and ice cream. 224 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:49,480 JOHN: Oh, Mum! 225 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:50,720 The kids love ice cream. 226 00:09:50,760 --> 00:09:53,280 But we don't give it to them very often. 227 00:09:53,320 --> 00:09:55,800 Huh, what do you think's gonna be reasonable? 228 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:58,120 Now that we're on the road and we're road-school parents, 229 00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:00,880 we definitely are mindful of the money that we're spending, 230 00:10:00,920 --> 00:10:03,520 so I think the kids inadvertently learn 231 00:10:03,560 --> 00:10:06,840 about making sure that they don't overindulge in things 232 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:07,920 that aren't necessary. 233 00:10:07,960 --> 00:10:10,760 So, what are you thinking in terms of the price? 234 00:10:10,800 --> 00:10:12,720 7.70. 7.70? 235 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:14,440 Yeah, it says up there. Yeah? 236 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:16,760 Has anyone done the maths yet? 237 00:10:16,800 --> 00:10:19,160 I just wanted for them to have the information 238 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:21,120 so they could decide themselves. Yeah. 239 00:10:21,160 --> 00:10:24,920 Skip, what are you thinking? I don't know. 240 00:10:24,960 --> 00:10:27,880 I'm not pushing you, but the boys are gonna have a single. 241 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:31,560 OK, guys, are you right there? 242 00:10:31,600 --> 00:10:34,200 I'm gonna start, please, with a hedgehog cone. 243 00:10:34,240 --> 00:10:37,640 Yep. A double one? Triple one? What do you think? 244 00:10:37,680 --> 00:10:39,640 Double. OK. What else you gonna have, guys? 245 00:10:39,680 --> 00:10:43,080 I'll have the cookies and cream. 246 00:10:43,120 --> 00:10:44,960 Rightio. 247 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:46,920 Gusso, what are you thinking, bud? 248 00:10:46,960 --> 00:10:48,720 GUS: Cookies and cream. 249 00:10:48,760 --> 00:10:50,560 Just a single one? Yeah. Thank you. 250 00:10:50,600 --> 00:10:53,240 Are you sure? I can stack it up for you. No. 251 00:10:53,280 --> 00:10:55,200 Good boy. 252 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:57,200 AMY: They definitely surprised us in this challenge. 253 00:10:57,240 --> 00:10:59,360 I thought they would've been a little bit more indulgent 254 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:03,080 but it was so nice to see that they had that restraint and self-control. 255 00:11:03,120 --> 00:11:05,160 Jimmy, you're making short work of that. 256 00:11:05,200 --> 00:11:07,880 Why didn't you go the triple? Would've been too much. 257 00:11:09,840 --> 00:11:12,200 (LAUGHS) 258 00:11:12,240 --> 00:11:14,240 I thought, John, you challenged your eldest 259 00:11:14,280 --> 00:11:16,040 and said, "You don't want two scoops?" 260 00:11:16,080 --> 00:11:19,200 And he stuck to his game. He said "No, I just want one. 261 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:20,400 "I think it'd be too much." 262 00:11:20,440 --> 00:11:23,240 What we probably did find 263 00:11:23,280 --> 00:11:26,000 is you guys were sort of very much in their ear all the time. 264 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:28,880 You didn't give them full self-control, like, saying, 265 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:31,400 you know, "Be mindful of this and watch out for this" 266 00:11:31,440 --> 00:11:34,720 and I guess they didn't necessarily have freedom of choice, per se. 267 00:11:34,760 --> 00:11:38,360 I think we just wanted them to consider, in a sense, 268 00:11:38,400 --> 00:11:40,360 you know, what things cost, what... 269 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:42,120 You know, what you were getting and how... Yeah. 270 00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:44,040 ..you we're gonna feel at the end of it. Yeah. 271 00:11:44,080 --> 00:11:45,800 We don't make money on the road... Yeah. 272 00:11:45,840 --> 00:11:48,400 ..so there's no income for us for 15 months. 273 00:11:48,440 --> 00:11:53,080 Maybe in the future you could see if they've learnt anything from it 274 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:54,640 and can think themselves... Yeah. 275 00:11:54,680 --> 00:11:56,640 ..and be able to do all that on their own. 276 00:11:58,560 --> 00:12:01,440 Philippa, I loved that you said 277 00:12:01,480 --> 00:12:03,440 "They've gotten too much ice cream. They're gonna have... 278 00:12:03,480 --> 00:12:04,760 "And they're probably gonna get sick. 279 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:06,360 "Oh, well, it's gonna teach them a lesson." 280 00:12:06,400 --> 00:12:08,840 They... Yeah, they all commented that they all felt sick. 281 00:12:08,880 --> 00:12:11,560 Yeah, they all felt sick for the rest of the day. 282 00:12:11,600 --> 00:12:14,200 If we want to have responsible kids, 283 00:12:14,240 --> 00:12:16,600 we have got to give them responsibility. 284 00:12:16,640 --> 00:12:21,400 When we give them responsibility, they often make big mistakes. 285 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:26,360 When they do that, it's not time to take responsibility away from them, 286 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:28,160 it's time to have a conversation. 287 00:12:29,680 --> 00:12:31,160 When ordering for themselves, 288 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:33,760 let children have some autonomy regularly 289 00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:37,560 and they'll learn their own limits much faster. 290 00:12:37,600 --> 00:12:40,840 OK, a reminder to our panel parents too, keep taking notes 291 00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:43,920 because we're gonna be asking you to vote for the parenting style 292 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:46,760 that you'd like to see go through to the final challenge, 293 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:49,480 the parenting style that you think works best. 294 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:53,360 I've been really interested and looking forward to seeing 295 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:55,440 what the American parenting style has to offer. 296 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:57,840 I think Kim and Nick are definitely building a confident woman. 297 00:12:57,880 --> 00:13:00,920 A little bit concerned about the flippancy of, "You know what, 298 00:13:00,960 --> 00:13:03,040 "if I have to waste it, I have to waste it." 299 00:13:03,080 --> 00:13:05,720 Money's a bit of an important issue for me, being a single parent, 300 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:09,000 so I suppose I'm a little bit more conscious of that. 301 00:13:09,040 --> 00:13:12,160 I think if it's a challenge and you've been given the freedom, 302 00:13:12,200 --> 00:13:14,960 then they should be able to choose whatever they want 303 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:17,360 and if they eat too much and vomit, 304 00:13:17,400 --> 00:13:19,680 then they won't forget that next time. 305 00:13:19,720 --> 00:13:21,080 Coming up... 306 00:13:21,120 --> 00:13:22,280 Do you want black? 307 00:13:22,320 --> 00:13:25,360 I don't think we ever really even look at their school reports. 308 00:13:25,400 --> 00:13:26,520 Oops. 309 00:13:26,560 --> 00:13:29,320 ..we put unstructured parenting to the test. 310 00:13:29,360 --> 00:13:31,200 'Cause the report card explains to you 311 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:33,280 how much effort your child has put in. 312 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:35,080 While a kids-only mission... 313 00:13:35,120 --> 00:13:36,760 You're not gonna cry? 314 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:38,080 ..has the parents worried. 315 00:13:38,120 --> 00:13:39,520 What bus do you need to catch? 316 00:13:39,560 --> 00:13:42,080 Do you have a pen so I can write it on my arm? 317 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:43,440 How do you navigate it? Taxi. 318 00:13:43,480 --> 00:13:46,840 All the things that we've done has come to this moment. 319 00:13:46,880 --> 00:13:48,960 And at the end of the night, 320 00:13:49,000 --> 00:13:53,640 which of our four focus families will be voted through to the final? 321 00:13:58,960 --> 00:14:03,240 # Mama told me, oooh "Baby, lift your head..." # 322 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:05,080 We're on the home stretch 323 00:14:05,120 --> 00:14:07,600 in the search for Australia's best parenting style. 324 00:14:07,640 --> 00:14:09,760 We're taking an in-depth look 325 00:14:09,800 --> 00:14:12,960 into how each of our focus parents raise their kids. 326 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:17,760 Melody and Michael, let's find out about unstructured parenting. 327 00:14:19,120 --> 00:14:23,000 Unstructured parenting is a child-led approach to parenting. 328 00:14:23,040 --> 00:14:25,680 It's all about giving the child independence 329 00:14:25,720 --> 00:14:27,640 to make their own decisions 330 00:14:27,680 --> 00:14:31,200 and not forcing them to follow a lot of rules. 331 00:14:33,240 --> 00:14:34,800 FAMILY MEMBERS: Hi! 332 00:14:34,840 --> 00:14:36,960 I'm Melody. I'm Michael. 333 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:38,880 This is Magnolia, Miller... 334 00:14:38,920 --> 00:14:40,080 And Maisy. 335 00:14:40,120 --> 00:14:42,280 And Wavealicious! 336 00:14:42,320 --> 00:14:44,200 Come on in. (LAUGHS) 337 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:49,720 We like to give our children autonomy over their own decisions. 338 00:14:49,760 --> 00:14:51,600 Do you want black? Yeah, sure. 339 00:14:51,640 --> 00:14:52,840 It's the only colour we have. 340 00:14:52,880 --> 00:14:55,760 The life of a musician is definitely unstructured. 341 00:14:55,800 --> 00:14:58,800 It's definitely not something that's the same every day. 342 00:14:58,840 --> 00:15:00,280 We adapt as we go along. 343 00:15:00,320 --> 00:15:02,880 You can see my dirt-infested nail underneath. 344 00:15:02,920 --> 00:15:05,920 Dirt-infested nails mean you've had a good time in life. 345 00:15:05,960 --> 00:15:11,120 We don't say things like "You can't eat lollies after 8:00pm" 346 00:15:11,160 --> 00:15:15,640 or "You can't draw on anything in the house." 347 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:17,200 Oopsy. 348 00:15:17,240 --> 00:15:19,360 You know, we don't really follow a schedule. 349 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:21,800 We're rolling around on the floor 350 00:15:21,840 --> 00:15:25,880 and building forts or doing talent shows at 9:00 at night. 351 00:15:28,040 --> 00:15:31,120 # I've got a friend named Maggie... # 352 00:15:31,160 --> 00:15:35,760 We don't really have any set expectations of our children 353 00:15:35,800 --> 00:15:37,280 with schooling. 354 00:15:37,320 --> 00:15:40,760 I don't think we ever really look at their school reports. 355 00:15:43,920 --> 00:15:48,920 As adults, I don't want to raise members of society 356 00:15:48,960 --> 00:15:51,720 that do what they're told when they're told. 357 00:15:53,320 --> 00:15:56,400 I love the fact that there's no gender swaying. 358 00:15:56,440 --> 00:15:58,880 Like, if you want to paint your nails, paint your nails. 359 00:15:58,920 --> 00:16:01,600 I'm all for questioning authority at times when it's necessary 360 00:16:01,640 --> 00:16:06,120 but the reason that there is this structure around life 361 00:16:06,160 --> 00:16:07,680 is because it works, yeah? 362 00:16:07,720 --> 00:16:08,960 It keeps people safe. 363 00:16:10,480 --> 00:16:13,120 Do you feel it might be teaching your children 364 00:16:13,160 --> 00:16:15,400 to go too far the other way? 365 00:16:15,440 --> 00:16:18,840 It could, in a way, put them in danger at times. 366 00:16:18,880 --> 00:16:21,200 I don't tell my kids to break rules or not follow rules. 367 00:16:21,240 --> 00:16:23,720 I definitely tell my children that the rules of school 368 00:16:23,760 --> 00:16:25,280 are the rules that you need to follow 369 00:16:25,320 --> 00:16:26,920 because you're in that environment. 370 00:16:26,960 --> 00:16:28,960 With the no-bedtime thing, 371 00:16:29,000 --> 00:16:31,200 if your children, say, do go to bed at midnight, 372 00:16:31,240 --> 00:16:33,200 do they still go to school the next day or...? 373 00:16:33,240 --> 00:16:35,320 They don't go to bed at midnight on a school night. 374 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:36,520 OK. 375 00:16:36,560 --> 00:16:38,600 We have different hours that we work 376 00:16:38,640 --> 00:16:41,400 and if we're working until 10:00 at night 377 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:44,280 and, say, one of the kids is still awake, 378 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:46,640 we actually want to be able to spend some time with them 379 00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:47,920 and if they're not desperately tired, 380 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:50,800 we might spend that time to have a connection with them 381 00:16:50,840 --> 00:16:52,600 and then we might sleep in in the morning. 382 00:16:53,720 --> 00:16:56,520 I don't look at report cards either. 383 00:16:56,560 --> 00:17:00,720 I just want my kids to want to go to school every day... 384 00:17:00,760 --> 00:17:01,880 Yeah. ..and be happy. 385 00:17:01,920 --> 00:17:04,640 Report card doesn't just say how many days you've had off 386 00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:05,760 or anything like that. 387 00:17:05,800 --> 00:17:07,240 It actually explains to you 388 00:17:07,280 --> 00:17:11,560 how much effort your child has put into that subject. 389 00:17:11,600 --> 00:17:15,000 You know, whether they be good at it or not, effort is still... 390 00:17:15,040 --> 00:17:16,480 Paramount. Yeah. 391 00:17:16,520 --> 00:17:20,000 If my child wasn't putting effort in in a subject, I would know about it. 392 00:17:21,200 --> 00:17:24,320 I loved the unstructured parents and the way they did things 393 00:17:24,360 --> 00:17:26,800 because there was a lot of respect for their children, 394 00:17:26,840 --> 00:17:28,440 their children's autonomy 395 00:17:28,480 --> 00:17:29,840 and I thought it was beautiful. 396 00:17:29,880 --> 00:17:33,560 For us, unstructured just wouldn't work in our lifestyle at all. 397 00:17:33,600 --> 00:17:36,680 We've got too much happening around us for that to work. 398 00:17:39,040 --> 00:17:40,800 Let's have a look at another challenge. 399 00:17:42,240 --> 00:17:45,400 If you dropped your kids off in the middle of the city, 400 00:17:45,440 --> 00:17:50,600 could they find their way home all by themselves? 401 00:17:50,640 --> 00:17:53,280 A little bit terrifying. 402 00:17:54,640 --> 00:17:59,160 This challenge tests independence and resourcefulness. 403 00:17:59,200 --> 00:18:02,080 Have you prepared your children for the real world? 404 00:18:02,120 --> 00:18:06,400 And have you given them the confidence to tackle a task 405 00:18:06,440 --> 00:18:08,360 that's outside their comfort zone? 406 00:18:08,400 --> 00:18:12,000 Focus parents, this is the first time 407 00:18:12,040 --> 00:18:14,960 you have seen this footage of your kids. 408 00:18:19,280 --> 00:18:20,320 (DING!) 409 00:18:20,360 --> 00:18:21,760 Oh, hey, I've got a text, guys. 410 00:18:21,800 --> 00:18:23,280 OK. It says: 411 00:18:35,920 --> 00:18:38,280 Oooh! So we have to go catch a bus? 412 00:18:38,320 --> 00:18:39,560 Yeah. 413 00:18:39,600 --> 00:18:42,760 We're looking to see if the parents can let go 414 00:18:42,800 --> 00:18:45,920 and if the kids are able to be independent. 415 00:18:45,960 --> 00:18:48,400 How do you feel about it? Nervous. 416 00:18:48,440 --> 00:18:49,880 I'm a bit nervous for you. 417 00:18:49,920 --> 00:18:51,640 Yeah, I'm a bit nervous for you too, actually. 418 00:18:51,680 --> 00:18:55,760 It's not rare for them to be pushed outside their comfort zone 419 00:18:55,800 --> 00:18:59,760 but the thing is, we've lived here for six days where we are right now. 420 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:02,760 We don't know Perth. We hardly have driven through Perth. 421 00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:05,560 How would you get home to start with? How do you navigate it? 422 00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:06,760 Probably a bus and then, like, 423 00:19:06,800 --> 00:19:09,080 once you get on to, like, a main road, sort of thing. 424 00:19:09,120 --> 00:19:10,120 Yeah. 425 00:19:10,160 --> 00:19:12,280 Might have to do a combination of a few things. 426 00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:13,600 BOY: Taxi. 427 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:15,480 All the things that we've done has come... 428 00:19:15,520 --> 00:19:17,120 It probably feels like to this moment, like, 429 00:19:17,160 --> 00:19:18,760 to let them prove themselves. 430 00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:20,000 Good luck, hey? Yeah. 431 00:19:21,520 --> 00:19:22,520 Yeah. 432 00:19:24,240 --> 00:19:26,680 Bye! (EXCLAIMS) 433 00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:27,880 Go to the road. 434 00:19:27,920 --> 00:19:30,040 They'll be sweet. Yeah, I know. 435 00:19:30,080 --> 00:19:31,960 See, that's Hay Street there. 436 00:19:32,000 --> 00:19:34,120 We've gotta keep walking down. 437 00:19:34,160 --> 00:19:35,720 Hay Street? Yeah, see? 438 00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:37,400 Hay Street. Hay Street Mall. 439 00:19:37,440 --> 00:19:40,480 SKIPPER: Is that our bus? 9:30. 440 00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:42,400 Alright, we've gotta pay. 441 00:19:42,440 --> 00:19:45,240 Um, we're just going to Thornlie. 442 00:19:45,280 --> 00:19:46,720 DRIVER: Thornlie? Yeah. 443 00:19:46,760 --> 00:19:47,760 Thank you. 444 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:49,960 No seatbelt? 445 00:19:50,000 --> 00:19:51,400 (AMY LAUGHS) 446 00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:53,720 When was the last time you went on a bus, little man? 447 00:19:53,760 --> 00:19:55,320 Last year. 448 00:19:58,280 --> 00:19:59,640 We're at Thornlie, Jimmy. 449 00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:01,440 Thank you. 450 00:20:01,480 --> 00:20:02,920 All good? Yeah. 451 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:06,880 There's a taxi. 452 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:08,440 DRIVER: Howdy, guys. Hello. 453 00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:13,480 Where are you off to today? Uh, the Carmel Cider farm. 454 00:20:13,520 --> 00:20:17,120 OK. Jump on board and we'll get you there. 455 00:20:17,160 --> 00:20:19,760 How far down this road are we? Uh, not too far. 456 00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:23,000 Not too far. Like, it goes off to the right. 457 00:20:23,040 --> 00:20:24,640 Oh. 458 00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:29,240 JOHN: Hey, there's a taxi. 459 00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:31,480 Thank you, mate. DRIVER: Thanks, guys. 460 00:20:32,520 --> 00:20:33,800 JOHN: Whoo-hoo-hoo! (AMY LAUGHS) 461 00:20:33,840 --> 00:20:35,160 Yes! 462 00:20:35,200 --> 00:20:37,920 Our kids have grown enormously 463 00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:40,440 since adapting the road-school parenting style. 464 00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:41,920 Legend! 465 00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:46,320 They are more confident, they're resilient. 466 00:20:46,360 --> 00:20:48,560 They're young men. Yeah, they are. 467 00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:50,160 Superstar. 468 00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:51,760 Well done. Come here, you! 469 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:55,720 (LAUGHTER AND APPLAUSE) 470 00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:02,480 How do you think you would get help? We live far from here. 471 00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:04,880 We live, like, 45 minutes away. 472 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:06,400 Oooh. 473 00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:09,680 Pia has never been in the city alone by herself. 474 00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:12,440 She's actually never really been anywhere by herself. 475 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:15,000 Yeah, but I don't ever do that. 476 00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:17,280 But anything is possible, right? 477 00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:19,160 I'm certain it can be done. 478 00:21:19,200 --> 00:21:21,040 American parenting style 479 00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:24,800 really dictates that you don't show any weakness or fear. 480 00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:28,680 You're not gonna cry or get upset or stressed? 481 00:21:29,680 --> 00:21:33,480 You kind of just go "Yeah, come on. You've got this. You can do this." 482 00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:35,760 Alright. Come on. 483 00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:38,160 Off you go. Off you go. Straight ahead. 484 00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:49,160 Straight. 485 00:21:56,320 --> 00:21:59,080 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 486 00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:09,320 (CRYING) 487 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:11,720 Oooh. 488 00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:23,120 Hi. Um, I'm going to... 489 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:25,280 Um, I'm going to Carindale. 490 00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:37,640 (BEEPING) 491 00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:42,360 DRIVER: Thank you. 492 00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:44,760 (BEEPING) Thanks. 493 00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:49,280 Oh... 494 00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:52,480 NICK: Hopefully she's here soon. 495 00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:57,840 Oh, that's you! There she is. 496 00:22:57,880 --> 00:22:59,240 (LAUGHS) Hello! 497 00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:00,520 Hey, P! 498 00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:02,160 Our American parenting style 499 00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:05,120 definitely helped with this whole challenge. 500 00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:06,280 Good girl. 501 00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:08,960 It helped get her on board with the idea that she could do it. 502 00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:11,760 A bit scary? A bit scary, yeah. 503 00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:12,840 Yeah? 504 00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:20,760 Pia nailed it. She did a brilliant job. 505 00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:23,640 I was so happy she had a smile on her face when she came home. 506 00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:27,000 I feel sort of bad that she was scared at the start. 507 00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:28,920 Yeah. I felt really bad. 508 00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:33,000 The resilience that she showed to be afraid but still... 509 00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:34,440 Yeah. ..persevere... 510 00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:35,880 Oh, yeah, that's true. 511 00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:38,080 ..that's an amazing trait to build in a child. 512 00:23:38,120 --> 00:23:41,560 Let's talk about Amy and John. 513 00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:43,440 How did you feel actually watching that? 514 00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:45,240 I was a bit panicked, to be honest. 515 00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:48,040 And then Skipper said, "Can we just go?" 516 00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:50,000 (LAUGHTER) 517 00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:52,800 Can I just say how polite your boys are? 518 00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:54,880 Mmm. The manners they showed was amazing. 519 00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:57,840 They're unreal. Just... They had it all sorted. 520 00:23:57,880 --> 00:23:59,520 (LAUGHTER) 521 00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:01,720 Really, really impressed with the road school. 522 00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:02,800 The kids were amazing 523 00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:05,320 and I think they were just so street-smart. 524 00:24:05,360 --> 00:24:10,320 The American parents were really encouraging Pia, 525 00:24:10,360 --> 00:24:13,040 really speaking belief into her 526 00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:14,800 and it gave her the courage 527 00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:17,960 to actually take that next step and do it and she smashed it. 528 00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:22,480 Next... Can I get a Big Mac, please? 529 00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:24,160 ..an unexpected pitstop. 530 00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:26,520 Food. 531 00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:27,560 Oh... 532 00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:30,480 And slow parenting makes a controversial choice. 533 00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:32,840 Would you have caught the bus by yourself? Yeah. 534 00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:35,760 Didn't it say can the kids get home? 535 00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:36,960 We didn't help them, though. 536 00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:39,280 Why didn't you just let Peyton do it? 537 00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:40,640 Mmm... 538 00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:49,040 We're in the middle of a challenge 539 00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:52,960 where the children must find their way home all by themselves. 540 00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:55,680 Time to see how our other parents did in the same challenge. 541 00:24:59,960 --> 00:25:04,240 "Can your kids find their way home all by themselves?" 542 00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:06,880 Oooh... We have to go catch a bus? 543 00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:10,120 When I first saw the challenge, I was pretty nervous. 544 00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:13,760 Our way of slow parenting, most of the time we do everything together. 545 00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:15,520 It's a priority for us. 546 00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:17,880 Do you know where our closest bus stop is? 547 00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:18,960 Yes. 548 00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:20,560 I feel ready for anything. 549 00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:23,880 Peyton was a pretty cool, calm cucumber just, like, "Oh, OK. 550 00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:25,360 "That's what we're doing? Sweet. OK." 551 00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:28,520 Do you want to catch the bus? (WHINES) 552 00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:30,760 (LAUGHS) Oh, you feel nervous? 553 00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:32,360 Come over here, I'll give you a cuddle. 554 00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:34,400 But Avery was certainly making it clear 555 00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:37,080 that she didn't really want to go, so it really was the only solution. 556 00:25:37,120 --> 00:25:39,280 Do you want Mummy to come on the bus with you? 557 00:25:41,120 --> 00:25:45,720 It would've been unfair from how we parent and what we teach the kids 558 00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:49,360 to then turn around and say, "You can't have this adventure." 559 00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:53,320 Maybe what we can do to make it a kids' challenge 560 00:25:53,360 --> 00:25:55,520 is you guys just have to navigate. 561 00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:58,320 Do you want to open it up 562 00:25:58,360 --> 00:26:00,440 so you can see the whole thing a bit more easier 563 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:02,840 and you might be able to get your bearings with other landmarks? 564 00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:04,840 We need the street signs. Can you see any around? 565 00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:07,240 Well, that says Shield Street Mall. 566 00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:12,160 So, 142. We're taking the green route. 567 00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:14,280 142. 568 00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:16,520 OK, then we go down there... 569 00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:18,520 That's it. That's it? 570 00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:19,880 Yeah. 571 00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:21,200 Oh, thank you. 572 00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:23,040 Hold on. 573 00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:25,920 Oh... (LAUGHS) 574 00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:27,880 Would you have caught the bus by yourself? 575 00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:29,480 Yes. 576 00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,480 Do you know where we are? 577 00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:34,200 Just press the button. Press the button. 578 00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:36,520 Is this close to our house? Do we press it? 579 00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:38,760 What do you think? Yeah. Press. 580 00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:41,440 (BEEPING) 581 00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:43,600 It was great. Like, it was exhilarating. 582 00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:44,920 Like... Yeah, it was fun. 583 00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:46,640 I think it was the most fun challenge 584 00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:48,960 because it was an adventure and we all got to partake. 585 00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:50,560 Thank you. 586 00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:52,400 Alright, let's go. 587 00:26:55,840 --> 00:27:00,200 Can I ask, Chris and Philippa, didn't it say can the kids? 588 00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:03,480 Did it say can the family help the child get home? 589 00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:05,680 We didn't help them, though. 590 00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:08,480 We did what everyone else did in terms of setting up the map 591 00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:10,840 and bringing it out on the bus and we just followed them. 592 00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:12,440 We didn't give them any instruction. 593 00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:14,280 We let them re-correct. 594 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:17,320 We let them see the bus sign, we let them push the button, we looked... 595 00:27:17,360 --> 00:27:18,480 Like, they saw the landmarks... 596 00:27:18,520 --> 00:27:20,840 I feel it was a little bit directed, though. 597 00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:24,280 "Does this look like we're near home?" 598 00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:26,040 "Oh, yeah. Do I press the button now?" 599 00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:27,400 Mmm... 600 00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:29,480 Why didn't you just let Peyton do it 601 00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:32,080 and take Avery maybe on a bus another day, 602 00:27:32,120 --> 00:27:36,760 just to see how we did the challenge like the other kids did? 603 00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:42,920 For us, we put more of the emphasis on the children staying together, 604 00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:45,440 which in that one included us. 605 00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:47,600 And the girls were just really excited. 606 00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:50,560 Having watched everyone else do this, 607 00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:54,520 do you kind of wish that you'd just given Peyton the opportunity 608 00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:58,640 and actually embrace the challenge for what it was meant to be? 609 00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:01,560 I think this was sticking true to our parenting style 610 00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:03,680 in terms of how we would teach them to do something 611 00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:05,880 as we would probably show them how to do it 612 00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:08,480 so that they would then do it by themselves. 613 00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:15,120 The purpose of this challenge is to see how children aged nine and up 614 00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:19,880 are able to tackle the task of finding their way home on their own. 615 00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:22,920 If a child shows that they're ready to do something 616 00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:25,560 that is developmentally age-appropriate, 617 00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:29,600 we owe it to them as parents to really let them spread their wings. 618 00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:35,080 I loved that the slow parents were able to stand up and say, you know, 619 00:28:35,120 --> 00:28:36,560 "This is not OK for our child." 620 00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:39,120 I thought it was great because it meant they got to involve 621 00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:41,040 all of their children in something. 622 00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:47,120 The slow parents may be a little bit overprotective of their children 623 00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:52,880 and I feel like that might be doing more harm than good. 624 00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:53,920 ALLISON: OK. 625 00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:54,960 Melody and Michael, 626 00:28:55,000 --> 00:29:00,160 are you guys ready to take a look at how your son Miller went? 627 00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:02,480 Are you excited to give it a crack? 628 00:29:02,520 --> 00:29:03,680 Yeah, definitely I'm gonna go. 629 00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:07,560 What bus do you need to catch? The 555. 630 00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:10,240 Wait, do you have a pen so I can write it on my arm? 631 00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:13,800 I need to tell you something really cool. 632 00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:16,240 You remember payphones when Mummy used to make prank calls? 633 00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:18,360 Yep, yep, yep. (LAUGHTER) 634 00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:22,440 You could call me on a payphone. 635 00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:26,280 I think my first reaction was probably mostly excitement, 636 00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:30,120 which is kind of how we operate in the unstructured parenting style. 637 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,000 We're, like, "We'll be excited first 638 00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:33,920 "and then we'll work the rest out later." 639 00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:35,840 Bye. Bye. 640 00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:37,920 We love you, mate. Bye, bud. 641 00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:39,880 Our kids are not scared of the world. 642 00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:42,600 Our kids will take the world on head on. 643 00:29:42,640 --> 00:29:44,640 Wait, am I going the wrong way? 644 00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:47,360 I feel like I've gone the wrong way. 645 00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:52,200 Hi. MICHAEL: (ON PHONE) Hey, bud. 646 00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:54,440 I don't know if I'm going the right way. 647 00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:58,440 Well, the sign just says Pancakes. Yeah, OK. I know where you are. 648 00:29:58,480 --> 00:30:01,720 You need to get one more street further up George Street. 649 00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:04,360 OK. Thank you. 650 00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:07,280 555. 651 00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:13,800 Can I get a Big Mac, please? 652 00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:15,600 (LAUGHS) 653 00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:16,680 Yes, please. 654 00:30:16,720 --> 00:30:18,560 (LAUGHTER) 655 00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:21,200 Sure, I'll just give you this. No worries. 656 00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:26,040 Oh, no. There's a bus. 657 00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:27,360 Shoot. 658 00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:28,640 Oh... 659 00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:30,240 You know what... 660 00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:33,120 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 661 00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:37,520 Um... Stop... 662 00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:41,480 Order 62. Order 62. Big Mac. 663 00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:43,520 Was that his? Oh, no! 664 00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:44,920 MELODY: He didn't get his Big Mac. 665 00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:46,240 (LAUGHTER) Bummer. 666 00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:53,840 MICHAEL: Yeah, what time did you say it was coming? 667 00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:56,880 Oh, he's already been. Like, he must've missed buses. 668 00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:59,040 Wait, is this... Is this where I get off? 669 00:30:59,080 --> 00:31:00,520 Oh... 670 00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:01,640 It's been ages. 671 00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:04,240 Do you think he's gonna be at the bus? Ah! It's Miller! Look! 672 00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:07,400 He's here! He's here! He did it! 673 00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:09,160 Miller! 674 00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:14,160 ALLISON: Let's go to the panel. 675 00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:15,800 LEANNE: I'm so proud. Yeah. 676 00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:17,800 And they're not my kids! Yeah. 677 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:20,760 I love it how he backed himself from the beginning. 678 00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:24,840 I think why he backed himself is that you were so confident in him. 679 00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:27,040 There wasn't any hint of, 680 00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:31,280 "Oh, my god, he's not gonna be able to do this." 681 00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:35,760 American, sole parenting, nailed it. Unstructured, nailed it. 682 00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:37,440 Road school, nailed it. 683 00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:41,560 This whole show is about challenging ourselves and our kids. 684 00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:43,640 I'm a little bit disappointed... 685 00:31:43,680 --> 00:31:47,640 I feel like the slow family didn't really get the assignment. 686 00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:51,920 Kids need to learn independence. 687 00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:56,520 It builds resilience and helps them to solve problems. 688 00:31:56,560 --> 00:32:01,400 They feel competent, which elevates confidence. 689 00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:07,280 ALLISON: Next, as we head towards the final vote, 690 00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:10,560 we learn more about road school parenting. 691 00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:13,400 JOHN: Schoolwork. Green folder. 692 00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:14,800 AMY: Road school parenting involves 693 00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:19,560 structured learning for a couple of hours and then we teach life skills. 694 00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:21,920 But can our panel get on board? 695 00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:26,240 We are really mindful that the kids integrate with other kids. 696 00:32:26,280 --> 00:32:28,360 Would you say it's like a big holiday? 697 00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:30,640 No way. It's definitely not a holiday. 698 00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:34,960 And later, a shocking surprise rocks the room. 699 00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:39,040 Ali and I have a wildcard to play. 700 00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:48,880 Before we get to our last challenge of the night 701 00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:51,440 and our panel casts their deciding vote, 702 00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:55,040 we've got one final parenting style to hear more about. 703 00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:59,600 Let's have a look at Amy and John and their road school parenting. 704 00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:02,120 Here we go. 705 00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:06,160 Road school parenting values an education in the school of life 706 00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:08,240 and embracing a simple lifestyle 707 00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:11,240 focused on travelling and shared experiences. 708 00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:13,760 AMY: Hi, we're the road school family. 709 00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:15,680 And welcome to our home. 710 00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:17,520 Whoo-hoo! Yee-hee! 711 00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:21,360 We have three boys, we live in a caravan and travel full-time. 712 00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:22,720 Do you want to grab the map? 713 00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:23,920 We'll show everyone where we've been. 714 00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:25,200 I'll grab it. Thanks, Gus. 715 00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:29,440 Skipper, what's in the middle here? Uluru. A big rock. 716 00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:30,720 Big rock. 717 00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:34,640 We were travelling for what was meant to be about 12 months 718 00:33:34,680 --> 00:33:38,600 and we're now travelling Australia for about two years. 719 00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:40,400 Or as long as we can. Yeah. 720 00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:41,640 Until the money runs out. (LAUGHS) 721 00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:44,840 School work. Green folder. 722 00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:47,040 For us, road school parenting 723 00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:50,400 involves structured learning for a couple of hours in the morning... 724 00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:54,960 (SOUNDS OUT LETTERS PHONETICALLY) 725 00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:56,640 Had. Had. Good. 726 00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:59,440 And then we teach life skills. 727 00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:01,720 (KIDS SQUEAL) 728 00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:06,400 We get out, surf, fish, anything that's outdoors. 729 00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:07,960 BOY: I see you. 730 00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:10,680 They say you get 18 summers with your kids 731 00:34:10,720 --> 00:34:12,640 before they want to go off with their own friends 732 00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:15,640 and I think you need to make the most of every single one of them. 733 00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:18,000 Five bucks if you can tip him out, Jimmy. 734 00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:22,400 Before road schooling, our kids were so caught up in the rat race. 735 00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:25,840 John worked a job that required him to do a lot of hours 736 00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:28,680 and I worked and ran a household and all that sort of stuff. 737 00:34:28,720 --> 00:34:30,160 Turn around, turn around! 738 00:34:30,200 --> 00:34:32,360 Yes. Good job! 739 00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:34,720 I feel like I've changed a lot since being on the road. 740 00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:36,480 I feel like I'm more connected to the kids. 741 00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:39,880 Mum got marshmallows? Yes, I do. 742 00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:41,200 Oh! 743 00:34:41,240 --> 00:34:43,560 And I feel like I'm far more patient. 744 00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:46,520 I think I'm a bit more reflective of the way I speak to them. 745 00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:49,680 Look at that sky, boys. Have a look at where we are. 746 00:34:49,720 --> 00:34:51,600 Life is adventure. 747 00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:54,320 (APPLAUSE) 748 00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:57,480 Road school parenting. 749 00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:00,160 I think that you'd know, it's safe to say 750 00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:02,480 you would be the envy of many, many people. 751 00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:04,520 I think it's wonderful that you've got that priority, 752 00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:06,080 the balance of the school work, first thing, 753 00:35:06,120 --> 00:35:10,000 and then that mindset of "It's not just in the books." 754 00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:11,360 You can't teach that. 755 00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:15,960 Would you say it's like a big holiday? 756 00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:17,200 No. No way. 757 00:35:17,240 --> 00:35:18,720 We've still gotta do school work, 758 00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:21,280 we've still gotta do our washing every day, 759 00:35:21,320 --> 00:35:22,720 we've still gotta get food 760 00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:26,440 and when you're 600km from somewhere where you can't camp, 761 00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:29,360 where don't have any water, where don't have any... 762 00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:30,600 it's definitely not a holiday. 763 00:35:30,640 --> 00:35:31,720 Yeah, you've gotta get there. 764 00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:36,200 Can I just ask, Jimmy is a tweenager, 765 00:35:36,240 --> 00:35:39,600 so he's going through all of those stages in life 766 00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:42,960 and I guess it's fully a fairly sort of developmental time for him 767 00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:44,880 to be around his friends. 768 00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:50,240 Yeah, so we are really mindful that the kids integrate with other kids, 769 00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:52,320 so we will, instead of shying away 770 00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:54,400 from caravan parks in the school holidays, 771 00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:57,760 we tend to go to them, even though it's gonna cost us a lot more money 772 00:35:57,800 --> 00:35:59,320 so then we can build relationships 773 00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:00,920 because there's always lots of kids there, obviously. 774 00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:05,480 But I don't think they miss their friends and family that much, 775 00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:06,720 like, anymore. 776 00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:09,440 Like, they're so wound up in all our cool stuff we're doing. 777 00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:13,760 I love that they're spending so much quality time, you know, 778 00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:14,880 with each other 779 00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:17,520 but I need a shower. 780 00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:21,000 (BOTH LAUGH) Like, seriously. 781 00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:25,320 When something is easy, we call it child's play. 782 00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:29,000 But our final challenge is far from easy. 783 00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:33,600 We asked you to play with your children their way 784 00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:36,600 and for as long as they wanted. 785 00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:40,280 When kids play, they're totally in the moment, 786 00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:44,280 so learn to ignore your phone, the chores and the mental checklist 787 00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:49,120 and spend at least part of your day being totally present with them. 788 00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:50,160 With this challenge, 789 00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:52,600 we're testing whether parents can hand over control, 790 00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:56,600 get down on their kids' level and really connect with them. 791 00:37:01,720 --> 00:37:02,760 (DING!) 792 00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:12,280 (LAUGHTER) JOHN: Oh, Lord. 793 00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:15,760 Oooh. This is gonna be interesting. 794 00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:19,720 In this challenge, we want to see how engaged our parents can be 795 00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:22,360 when immersing themselves in playtime. 796 00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:24,080 Hey. Hi. 797 00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:25,680 Alright, you guys are in charge. 798 00:37:25,720 --> 00:37:27,880 What are we gonna do? What are we gonna play? 799 00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:31,760 For slow parents, this challenge was pretty easy and straightforward 800 00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:35,200 because this is what we pretty much do each day, is we play with them 801 00:37:35,240 --> 00:37:37,160 and we let them choose what they want to do. 802 00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:40,120 Got any ideas, mate? Oooh. 803 00:37:40,160 --> 00:37:41,520 Probably a board game. 804 00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:43,080 Board game? Board game? What about you, Aves? 805 00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:45,960 Vets. You want to play vets? OK. 806 00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:51,160 Oh, you're so gentle. 807 00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:55,440 Are you gonna go all the way up her arm, maybe? 808 00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:58,120 It's not always the type of play that I enjoy 809 00:37:58,160 --> 00:37:59,720 but I'm always willing to do it. 810 00:37:59,760 --> 00:38:00,920 That's what she loves to do. 811 00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:03,520 Just go... Oh... 812 00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:05,560 Oh... Oh... Oh, it hurts. 813 00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:08,360 And, yeah, sometimes you just have to let them completely lead 814 00:38:08,400 --> 00:38:09,560 and make up the rules. 815 00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:13,120 What do you want to do now, Aves? Play it again. 816 00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:14,280 Play it again? 817 00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:16,640 (LAUGHTER) 818 00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:22,280 So, do you want to tell me what you want to do, Maggie? 819 00:38:22,320 --> 00:38:23,960 In unstructured parenting, 820 00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:26,960 play is pretty much in everything that we do. 821 00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,240 It's one of the foundations of our parenting style. 822 00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:33,120 I'm playing Barbies with Mummy. 823 00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:35,400 Playing Barbies with Mummy. 824 00:38:35,440 --> 00:38:38,320 Miller, do you want to tell Mummy and Maggie what do you want to do? 825 00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:39,880 Oh, yeah, I want to play guitar together. 826 00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:41,640 Gonna play guitar with Dad? 827 00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:43,720 Yeah, that sounds amazing. Super fun. 828 00:38:43,760 --> 00:38:46,480 So surprising. I know. (LAUGHS) 829 00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:50,920 We make a living out of being creative people, 830 00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:55,000 so it's hugely important to us to foster that in the kids. 831 00:38:55,040 --> 00:38:58,280 (PLAYS RIFF) So, where? 832 00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:00,600 So, fifth fret... 833 00:39:00,640 --> 00:39:03,360 No, too far. So, yeah, tenth fret there. 834 00:39:03,400 --> 00:39:06,000 I think this was a really good way 835 00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:09,800 to show why unstructured parenting works for us. 836 00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:12,440 (LAUGHTER) 837 00:39:12,480 --> 00:39:15,120 The giant baby has entered the pool! 838 00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:19,680 GIRL: He's on top of me! The giant baby's squishing people! 839 00:39:19,720 --> 00:39:21,240 (SQUEALS) 840 00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:23,000 (LAUGHS) Oh... 841 00:39:23,040 --> 00:39:25,040 (LAUGHTER) 842 00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:28,120 With unstructured parenting, you engage a lot with your kids, 843 00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:30,200 which is really amazing. 844 00:39:30,240 --> 00:39:34,920 Watching Miller have such a genuine in-synch desire 845 00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:36,640 to be musical with you, 846 00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:38,000 that wasn't a chore. 847 00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:40,560 That was just... Like, that was quite powerful. 848 00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:43,680 And you are just doing such a great job at imagination building. 849 00:39:43,720 --> 00:39:45,920 I think, like, for us, 850 00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:48,400 I don't love that imaginative kind of play so much. 851 00:39:48,440 --> 00:39:50,480 Gotta suck it up... I'd rather run around. 852 00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:52,600 But I think it's important to give her 853 00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:54,400 those little opportunities to connect as well. 854 00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:58,720 I don't play Barbies. I couldn't think of anything worse. 855 00:39:58,760 --> 00:40:00,040 JUSTIN: Why, Kat? 856 00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:03,120 I'm a let's run, let's go outside. 857 00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:05,280 Mummies and babies is the one I hate. Oh... 858 00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:07,840 Unless I can be the baby and just lay there asleep. 859 00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:09,040 Yeah. (LAUGHTER) 860 00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:12,720 Or... Or you go play hide-and-seek and you tell them to go and hide. 861 00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:14,640 (LAUGHTER) 862 00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:18,680 Playing the game your kids want to play can be boring 863 00:40:18,720 --> 00:40:22,000 but if your relationship with your child has been struggling, 864 00:40:22,040 --> 00:40:24,440 it might be time to hand over control. 865 00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:25,840 Get in there. Just play. 866 00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:31,200 It's about T-I-M-E. Time. 867 00:40:31,240 --> 00:40:35,480 That's how kids spell 'love'. 868 00:40:35,520 --> 00:40:36,800 Next... 869 00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:38,160 You have to pay $30. 870 00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:39,360 You have to pay $100. 871 00:40:39,400 --> 00:40:41,280 It's $200. 872 00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:43,440 ..as the final challenge comes to an end... 873 00:40:43,480 --> 00:40:46,520 Because you're cheating. I am not cheating! 874 00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:48,680 Yeah, you are, actually. I'm not! 875 00:40:48,720 --> 00:40:50,600 ..will our panel change their vote? 876 00:40:50,640 --> 00:40:53,520 It goes pretty heavily against our parenting style. 877 00:40:53,560 --> 00:40:57,440 As soon as you put labels on them, they will take it, internalise it. 878 00:40:57,480 --> 00:41:00,480 Once a child starts to cheat, you're out. 879 00:41:07,720 --> 00:41:09,880 Before we get to our final vote, 880 00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:12,800 we need to see our last two sets of parents roll the dice 881 00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:15,360 in the Child's Play Challenge. 882 00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:20,120 We've got to do a playtime where you get to decide 883 00:41:20,160 --> 00:41:23,200 what kind of play we're gonna have to do together. 884 00:41:23,240 --> 00:41:25,560 And which parent you want to play with. 885 00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:27,800 Yeah. OK. 886 00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:29,600 You get to decide that. 887 00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:31,040 In our American parenting style, 888 00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:34,840 once the work is done and the list is accomplished for the day, 889 00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:36,120 then there's free time. 890 00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:40,560 We could... We could play Hong Kong Monopoly. 891 00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:44,480 I think Monopoly is a great game to play with your kids 892 00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:46,160 because it teaches them so many things 893 00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:48,080 while they're actually having fun and playing. 894 00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:51,400 If you want to win, like, you know, you've got to manage your money. 895 00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:56,320 I picked you to play because I regularly play with Mum in Monopoly 896 00:41:56,360 --> 00:41:58,840 and also I know I'm gonna win, so... 897 00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:00,760 (LAUGHS) Oh, you know you're gonna win, do you? 898 00:42:00,800 --> 00:42:01,840 (LAUGHTER) 899 00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:04,880 Pia made me feel really, really good that she wanted to play with me 900 00:42:04,920 --> 00:42:07,520 because I haven't had the opportunity to play with her 901 00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:10,920 after my back surgery just in more recent months. 902 00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:13,120 So I think she was looking forward to it 903 00:42:13,160 --> 00:42:16,200 because I was able to actually sit down for over an hour 904 00:42:16,240 --> 00:42:18,000 and actually play with her. 905 00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:20,440 OK. Almost snake eyes. 906 00:42:20,480 --> 00:42:22,560 Pay 200 to the bank. 907 00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:24,720 You have to pay $30. 908 00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:27,080 You have to pay six... $12. 909 00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:28,240 You have to pay $100. 910 00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:29,520 Pay $100. 911 00:42:29,560 --> 00:42:31,440 It's $200. 912 00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:33,840 (LAUGHTER) 913 00:42:33,880 --> 00:42:34,880 I'm out. 914 00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:36,240 (LAUGHS) 915 00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:39,320 Congratulations. Good job. Well done. 916 00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:42,160 (PARENTS LAUGH) Whoo-hoo! 917 00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:43,800 And I let her win. 918 00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,040 (BOTH LAUGH) Oh, you did not! 919 00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:48,480 (LAUGHS) You did not. 920 00:42:48,520 --> 00:42:50,480 (LAUGHTER) 921 00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:51,840 Can I just quickly say, 922 00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:55,320 you both brought me so much joy and happiness watching that. 923 00:42:55,360 --> 00:42:56,600 I thought it was great. 924 00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:58,800 The relationship between a daughter and a father 925 00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:00,000 is a very beautiful thing. 926 00:43:00,040 --> 00:43:01,280 Thanks. 927 00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:04,440 Nick, can I just ask you, because we know you've got a bad back... 928 00:43:04,480 --> 00:43:05,480 Yep. 929 00:43:05,520 --> 00:43:08,120 ..how emotional is that for you at times 930 00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:10,920 that you perhaps can't do as much with Pia as you would like? 931 00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:15,040 Well, with regards to my back, I've had five fusion surgeries. 932 00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:18,320 It's only been until probably the last three or four months 933 00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:24,000 where I've actually been able to more actively partake in Pia's life 934 00:43:24,040 --> 00:43:27,800 and I actually think that's why she chose me to play that game... 935 00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:29,920 Yeah. ..because she's missed out on me. 936 00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:31,520 That's really special, Nick. Yeah. 937 00:43:32,680 --> 00:43:36,360 Time to see how Amy and John did in the same challenge. 938 00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:38,920 What do you want to do? Footy feud. 939 00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:41,000 Footy feud? Cards? Yeah. 940 00:43:41,040 --> 00:43:43,440 The footy feud. Oh, footy feud, Gus. 941 00:43:43,480 --> 00:43:44,760 Let's play that. 942 00:43:44,800 --> 00:43:46,360 As a road school family, 943 00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:48,520 there are days where we're just hanging out of the van 944 00:43:48,560 --> 00:43:50,360 and they've got to create their own fun 945 00:43:50,400 --> 00:43:52,720 and we do play lots together, yeah. 946 00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:53,960 We've got to add it up. 947 00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:56,600 24, 24... 56... 948 00:43:56,640 --> 00:43:58,960 He's in the lead at the moment. Yeah, by three. 949 00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:00,520 By three. By three, so he's gonna... 950 00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:01,600 Now it's my turn. 951 00:44:01,640 --> 00:44:03,240 Everything in our house is a competition. Yeah. 952 00:44:03,280 --> 00:44:05,120 Who do you want to take 12 off? 953 00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:08,240 You. (LAUGHS) I knew you'd say me. 954 00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:10,840 Who's winning? 'Doggy'. 955 00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:12,400 Flogging us. Yes. 956 00:44:12,440 --> 00:44:16,240 When we were playing the game, Skipper had won all three games, 957 00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:20,440 which was annoying to me, 'cause I wanted to win. (LAUGHS) 958 00:44:20,480 --> 00:44:22,960 So I feel like you're cheating a lot. 959 00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:25,040 Is this the last quarter? Is that why he's winning? 960 00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:27,000 Yeah, he picks up so many cards. 961 00:44:27,040 --> 00:44:28,040 (LAUGHS) What? 962 00:44:28,080 --> 00:44:30,560 I feel like you've got way too many cards in your hands. 963 00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:34,440 What? I'm gonna win again. Go, Gus. 964 00:44:34,480 --> 00:44:37,880 Yeah, no, he is. He's cheating. GUS: Exactly. 965 00:44:37,920 --> 00:44:40,160 Gus... SKIPPER: I'm not cheating! 966 00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:41,880 Yeah, you are, actually. I'm not! 967 00:44:43,560 --> 00:44:46,040 You are. No! 968 00:44:46,080 --> 00:44:47,680 Look at yourself, bud. 969 00:44:49,960 --> 00:44:52,000 You idiot! 970 00:44:52,040 --> 00:44:53,720 Go and apologise to him. 971 00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:55,960 No, he doesn't need to apologise. He did cheat. 972 00:44:56,000 --> 00:44:57,720 He did cheat. 973 00:44:57,760 --> 00:45:00,000 Oi. 974 00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:02,200 You're taking it all a bit serious, mate. 975 00:45:02,240 --> 00:45:04,440 There was a couple of times you got some extra cards 976 00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:07,760 and whether you thought it or not, it was a little bit cheating. 977 00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:10,320 Look at me, though. It's just a game. 978 00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:13,600 It's not serious life. It's just a game. 979 00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:17,360 (LAUGHS) 980 00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:21,640 Amy and John, we do the same with our kids. 981 00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:26,640 We play a lot of board games, a lot of Uno and cheating isn't allowed. 982 00:45:26,680 --> 00:45:31,000 Like, once a child starts to cheat, we're actually, like, "You're out." 983 00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:33,360 I love the way you said "You cheated," 984 00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:35,120 as opposed to "You're a cheater" 985 00:45:35,160 --> 00:45:37,520 because as soon as you put labels on them, 986 00:45:37,560 --> 00:45:40,200 they will sort of take it, internalise it. 987 00:45:40,240 --> 00:45:42,560 I think probably in that moment, 988 00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:44,360 I probably probed a little bit too hard 989 00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:47,560 in terms of just saying it a lot, especially to Skipper, 990 00:45:47,600 --> 00:45:48,920 'cause his reaction is to do that. 991 00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:53,520 Justin, is it OK to allow your kids to cheat? (LAUGHS) 992 00:45:53,560 --> 00:45:57,040 JUSTIN: OK, the correct answer is it depends. 993 00:45:57,080 --> 00:45:58,160 It depends on their age 994 00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:01,160 and it depends on what you're actually doing. 995 00:46:01,200 --> 00:46:03,800 What matters most is the way that you talk about it with them. 996 00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:10,400 A harsh start-up such as "You cheated" or "You're a cheat," 997 00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:12,640 that sort of starts up here 998 00:46:12,680 --> 00:46:16,440 and so you're always gonna be met by your children 999 00:46:16,480 --> 00:46:17,640 at the same level or higher. 1000 00:46:19,120 --> 00:46:21,680 When parents use strong words, 1001 00:46:21,720 --> 00:46:26,240 they'll be met by big strong words and emotions from the kids, 1002 00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:29,600 so, instead, describe what you can see 1003 00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:32,840 rather than using labels to correct behaviour. 1004 00:46:32,880 --> 00:46:35,360 Remember, you're playing the long game. 1005 00:46:35,400 --> 00:46:38,520 Over the past two nights, 1006 00:46:38,560 --> 00:46:41,120 we've seen all of you undergo 1007 00:46:41,160 --> 00:46:45,360 hair-raising and hilarious parenting challenges. 1008 00:46:45,400 --> 00:46:48,640 Well done. 1009 00:46:51,680 --> 00:46:55,720 Focus parents, after the first two rounds of challenges, 1010 00:46:55,760 --> 00:47:00,320 Kat, our honest parent, and Mark and Leanne, our team parents 1011 00:47:00,360 --> 00:47:03,520 were voted through to the final challenge. 1012 00:47:03,560 --> 00:47:05,760 Now we're gonna find out 1013 00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:08,800 who of our four focus families will be joining them 1014 00:47:08,840 --> 00:47:11,480 to face the ultimate test of parenting 1015 00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:14,440 in the Extreme Family Mission. 1016 00:47:15,760 --> 00:47:19,120 The Extreme Family Mission, I don't know what that means 1017 00:47:19,160 --> 00:47:22,440 or what that looks like, but we're definitely up for the challenge. 1018 00:47:23,640 --> 00:47:26,080 It'd be great for us to get through to the final. 1019 00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:27,920 When we set out on the show, 1020 00:47:27,960 --> 00:47:29,720 that we really wanted to add to our parenting... 1021 00:47:29,760 --> 00:47:32,400 and I think we've done that over the courses of the challenges. 1022 00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:35,640 OK, panel parents, come on down. 1023 00:47:40,680 --> 00:47:42,040 Let's get into it, hey? 1024 00:47:42,080 --> 00:47:46,000 Let's talk about Melody and Michael, our unstructured parents. 1025 00:47:46,040 --> 00:47:48,120 Do you want black? Yeah, sure. 1026 00:47:48,160 --> 00:47:49,360 That's the only colour we have. 1027 00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:54,560 We like to give our children autonomy over their own decisions. 1028 00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:57,240 You can see my dirt-infested nail underneath. 1029 00:47:57,280 --> 00:47:59,920 MAN: Do you mind if I take it in? Can I take it? 1030 00:47:59,960 --> 00:48:01,440 It's really heavy. 1031 00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:02,480 Oh... 1032 00:48:02,520 --> 00:48:04,040 We're supposed to deliver it right inside. 1033 00:48:04,080 --> 00:48:05,880 No, sorry. 1034 00:48:05,920 --> 00:48:10,080 (TIMER BLEEPS) There goes the timer! 1035 00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:11,960 It's OK. 1036 00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:14,800 (SPEAKS INDISTINCTLY) 1037 00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:18,320 Do you feel like keeping on working? Yeah! 1038 00:48:18,360 --> 00:48:20,200 But do I feel like it? 1039 00:48:20,240 --> 00:48:23,560 It sort of goes pretty heavily against our style parenting style 1040 00:48:23,600 --> 00:48:28,080 to not finish something that you start, especially around your kids. 1041 00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:32,160 I agree, especially once they get into high school and university 1042 00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:33,240 and stuff like that. 1043 00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:36,840 I think it's important that they have goals that they finish. 1044 00:48:36,880 --> 00:48:40,480 I think there's a positive aspect about their parenting, 1045 00:48:40,520 --> 00:48:45,520 about the growth of free thought that showed in their son. 1046 00:48:45,560 --> 00:48:47,720 There's a certain amount of maturity within that. 1047 00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:53,080 Let's talk about Chris and Philippa, slow parenting. 1048 00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:56,040 Alright, who's gonna see the first spiderweb, I wonder. 1049 00:48:56,080 --> 00:48:58,800 CHRIS: When you slow down, everything gets easier. 1050 00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:00,560 The kids are happier. 1051 00:49:00,600 --> 00:49:02,400 One, two, three. 1052 00:49:02,440 --> 00:49:04,160 Yay! Whoo! 1053 00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:07,200 We are those parents who pack them 1054 00:49:07,240 --> 00:49:10,200 with all the fruits and vegetables at school. 1055 00:49:10,240 --> 00:49:12,480 Yum. Mmm. Yum, yum. 1056 00:49:12,520 --> 00:49:13,520 (CRIES) 1057 00:49:13,560 --> 00:49:15,640 Do you want Mummy to come on the bus with you? 1058 00:49:15,680 --> 00:49:17,640 Maybe you guys just have to navigate. 1059 00:49:19,160 --> 00:49:20,720 MILLER: Yes, press the button. Press the button. 1060 00:49:20,760 --> 00:49:22,640 Is this close to our house? Do we press it? 1061 00:49:22,680 --> 00:49:25,240 What do you think? Yeah. Press. 1062 00:49:25,280 --> 00:49:26,800 (BEEPING) 1063 00:49:26,840 --> 00:49:28,440 Philippa talks about their lifestyle 1064 00:49:28,480 --> 00:49:30,080 and how they've chosen to slow things down. 1065 00:49:30,120 --> 00:49:33,360 They prioritise connection and I think that's really important. 1066 00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:38,560 I think that they're afraid to let their kids get upset. 1067 00:49:38,600 --> 00:49:40,080 I have a big issue with this. 1068 00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:42,960 The challenges in this are all done in a safe environment. 1069 00:49:43,000 --> 00:49:45,440 These are all the times that you want to push your kids, 1070 00:49:45,480 --> 00:49:47,000 you want to have a crack. 1071 00:49:47,040 --> 00:49:48,480 If you as a parent know 1072 00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:50,400 that you can challenge your kid in a safe environment, 1073 00:49:50,440 --> 00:49:51,840 I think you should go for it. 1074 00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:53,480 Yeah. Mmm. Yep. 1075 00:49:53,520 --> 00:49:57,240 Next, our panel votes for their third finalist. 1076 00:49:57,280 --> 00:49:59,160 That statement, OK, but a bit contradictory... 1077 00:49:59,200 --> 00:50:03,720 When she's an adult, that's gonna be a big issue. 1078 00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:06,040 And a shock reveal. 1079 00:50:06,080 --> 00:50:08,920 Justin and I have a big announcement to make. 1080 00:50:17,720 --> 00:50:19,160 Tonight, it's crunch time 1081 00:50:19,200 --> 00:50:23,600 for the American, slow, road school and unstructured parents 1082 00:50:23,640 --> 00:50:25,480 as our panel decides 1083 00:50:25,520 --> 00:50:28,120 who will be going through to the Extreme Family Mission. 1084 00:50:28,160 --> 00:50:34,880 OK, panel parents, let's talk about Kim and Nick, our American parents. 1085 00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:38,120 KIM: Hard work is paramount in this family. 1086 00:50:38,160 --> 00:50:41,000 It's, like, feeling beautiful. (LAUGHS) 1087 00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:44,120 There's lots of expectations that go along with that, 1088 00:50:44,160 --> 00:50:47,320 but we try to do it all with a lot of support and love. 1089 00:50:47,360 --> 00:50:49,440 I'm just not gonna try the mushrooms. 1090 00:50:49,480 --> 00:50:50,560 I'll skip the mushrooms. 1091 00:50:50,600 --> 00:50:53,560 I think we should renegotiate that. 1092 00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:54,600 NICK: Yeah, there you go. 1093 00:50:54,640 --> 00:50:55,960 Anything is possible, right? 1094 00:50:56,000 --> 00:50:57,880 I'm certain it can be done. 1095 00:50:57,920 --> 00:51:00,120 I'm going to Carindale. 1096 00:51:01,720 --> 00:51:03,040 (LAUGHS) Hello. 1097 00:51:03,080 --> 00:51:04,600 How did it go? 1098 00:51:04,640 --> 00:51:06,600 MAN: Do you think your mum and dad love you? 1099 00:51:06,640 --> 00:51:09,240 Yes, definitely. How do they show that, Pia? 1100 00:51:09,280 --> 00:51:12,920 They show that they love me by always praising me, 1101 00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:14,320 they always help me. 1102 00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:16,160 They're always, like, by my side. 1103 00:51:16,200 --> 00:51:19,600 We've seen a lot of love, a lot of trust, a lot of consideration 1104 00:51:19,640 --> 00:51:22,440 but she was genuinely proud of who her mum and dad was 1105 00:51:22,480 --> 00:51:23,920 and I thought that was amazing. 1106 00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:28,840 I think a big positive is the amount of self-belief and self-confidence 1107 00:51:28,880 --> 00:51:32,360 that is in that child because of that parenting style. 1108 00:51:32,400 --> 00:51:35,320 I think Kim and Nick are really fostering a good work ethic with Pia 1109 00:51:35,360 --> 00:51:36,360 as well. 1110 00:51:36,400 --> 00:51:40,880 I really like the style but one concern I always have 1111 00:51:40,920 --> 00:51:42,720 is when people get older, 1112 00:51:42,760 --> 00:51:47,040 they say "I'm gonna do this to prove to my parents 1113 00:51:47,080 --> 00:51:49,440 "that I blah blah blah blah blah." 1114 00:51:49,480 --> 00:51:51,640 That's really concerning for me. 1115 00:51:51,680 --> 00:51:54,760 I don't think anyone should need to prove to anyone anything 1116 00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:57,560 and I feel like there is a lot of that 1117 00:51:57,600 --> 00:52:00,920 "I'm doing this 'cause Mum and Dad, you know, are proud of me." 1118 00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:02,600 It's a huge driving force for all kids 1119 00:52:02,640 --> 00:52:04,440 that they want to make their parents proud 1120 00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:05,840 but, yeah, it can go next level. 1121 00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:06,880 Yeah. Mmm. 1122 00:52:06,920 --> 00:52:08,000 Yep. ALLISON: OK. 1123 00:52:08,040 --> 00:52:11,240 Let's talk about Amy and John, the road school family. 1124 00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:12,640 JOHN: Turn around, turn around. 1125 00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:15,920 AMY: For us, road school parenting involves structured learning 1126 00:52:15,960 --> 00:52:19,040 and then we teach life skills. 1127 00:52:19,080 --> 00:52:22,160 We've gotta keep walking down Hay Street. 1128 00:52:22,200 --> 00:52:23,840 Thank you. 1129 00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:26,920 GUS: It goes off to the right. MAN: Thanks, guys. 1130 00:52:26,960 --> 00:52:29,800 MAN: Tell me what your favourite things are about Dad. 1131 00:52:29,840 --> 00:52:34,640 Calming down Mum when she's REALLY angry. 1132 00:52:34,680 --> 00:52:36,480 Don't... Gus, don't. 1133 00:52:36,520 --> 00:52:39,640 I am. I've got all the pieces... I need you to stop. 1134 00:52:39,680 --> 00:52:41,040 Get the book... No. 1135 00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:42,480 Just sit down. Come on. 1136 00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:44,280 Come and work it out, you two. 1137 00:52:44,320 --> 00:52:47,280 They're like adults. They're just like little men. 1138 00:52:47,320 --> 00:52:49,320 (LAUGHS) And it's so true to their style. 1139 00:52:49,360 --> 00:52:51,320 They're very resourceful. 1140 00:52:51,360 --> 00:52:53,480 I guess you've gotta respect their parenting style 1141 00:52:53,520 --> 00:52:55,120 as the ability to adapt. 1142 00:52:55,160 --> 00:52:56,920 They've adapted from how they used to be 1143 00:52:56,960 --> 00:52:58,640 to something completely different. 1144 00:52:58,680 --> 00:52:59,960 Yeah. 1145 00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:02,160 I feel a little uneasy 1146 00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:06,240 that maybe they need from their dad to learn to show respect to women. 1147 00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:07,440 Yeah. 1148 00:53:07,480 --> 00:53:08,880 I understand that. 1149 00:53:08,920 --> 00:53:11,800 It's made me think and John didn't pull the kids up when they said no 1150 00:53:11,840 --> 00:53:13,680 or backchatted or anything like that. 1151 00:53:13,720 --> 00:53:18,000 OK. I think we have talked through now. 1152 00:53:18,040 --> 00:53:21,680 Can I ask panel parents to return to your seats? 1153 00:53:21,720 --> 00:53:24,600 This is the big decision. 1154 00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:31,280 We need to know who you are sending through to the final Family Mission. 1155 00:53:34,200 --> 00:53:37,360 The American parenting style is definitely working with Pia. 1156 00:53:37,400 --> 00:53:39,040 Even with one child, they're absolutely nailing it. 1157 00:53:39,080 --> 00:53:40,160 She's an incredible kid. 1158 00:53:41,400 --> 00:53:44,400 Right from the start, we have really connected with the slow parents 1159 00:53:44,440 --> 00:53:47,200 and the way that they value their children's autonomy 1160 00:53:47,240 --> 00:53:49,560 and building them up for the future 1161 00:53:49,600 --> 00:53:52,360 by showing them such love and gentleness. 1162 00:53:52,400 --> 00:53:54,000 JUSTIN: Perfect. Thank you. 1163 00:53:54,040 --> 00:53:57,160 KAT: I can see aspects of both road school and unstructured parenting 1164 00:53:57,200 --> 00:53:58,560 that I'm really, really fond of. 1165 00:53:58,600 --> 00:54:01,880 I don't know if either of them would work for me on a full-time basis 1166 00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:04,440 but they've both got really great strengths. 1167 00:54:04,480 --> 00:54:08,640 OK, panel, let's bring back in our focus parents. 1168 00:54:08,680 --> 00:54:11,680 (CHEERING AND APPLAUSE) 1169 00:54:16,800 --> 00:54:20,320 Focus parents, you have all done so well in your challenges. 1170 00:54:20,360 --> 00:54:24,440 But only one set of parents can go into the final. 1171 00:54:24,480 --> 00:54:27,480 Joining Kat, our honest parent, 1172 00:54:27,520 --> 00:54:30,440 and Mark and Leanne, our team parents, 1173 00:54:30,480 --> 00:54:34,080 in the Extreme Family Mission are... 1174 00:54:34,120 --> 00:54:37,800 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 1175 00:54:38,800 --> 00:54:41,640 ..Kim and Nick, our American parents. 1176 00:54:41,680 --> 00:54:43,320 (CHEERING AND APPLAUSE) KIM: What? 1177 00:54:48,160 --> 00:54:49,280 No way! 1178 00:54:50,520 --> 00:54:52,360 (LAUGHS) 1179 00:54:54,320 --> 00:54:56,920 We were not expecting that. No. 1180 00:54:56,960 --> 00:54:58,520 Not expecting that at all. 1181 00:54:58,560 --> 00:55:00,200 Very overwhelmed. Yeah. 1182 00:55:00,240 --> 00:55:01,360 That's amazing. 1183 00:55:01,400 --> 00:55:03,240 How do you think Pia's gonna feel about this? 1184 00:55:03,280 --> 00:55:05,200 Over the moon. 1185 00:55:05,240 --> 00:55:06,800 (LAUGHTER) 1186 00:55:06,840 --> 00:55:09,120 Oh, my gosh, the first thing we're gonna do is call Pia. 1187 00:55:09,160 --> 00:55:10,600 She'll be so excited about this. 1188 00:55:10,640 --> 00:55:13,880 Well, congratulations, guys. You're through to the final! 1189 00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:14,960 Wow. 1190 00:55:15,000 --> 00:55:18,480 The American family do so well in everything they do. 1191 00:55:18,520 --> 00:55:22,880 They push their child to a limit that they know that she's capable of 1192 00:55:22,920 --> 00:55:25,360 so she does succeed and she does get empowered by that. 1193 00:55:25,400 --> 00:55:32,040 It's time to let you know what the final Extreme Family Mission is. 1194 00:55:34,080 --> 00:55:36,400 Heading deep into the Aussie mountains, 1195 00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:40,400 our parents are going wild. 1196 00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:46,280 No phones, no Wi-Fi, no TV. 1197 00:55:46,320 --> 00:55:49,280 Stripped bare of all creature comforts, 1198 00:55:49,320 --> 00:55:52,800 we want to see how your parenting style holds up 1199 00:55:52,840 --> 00:55:56,040 when things get really tough. 1200 00:55:56,080 --> 00:55:59,880 Our finalists will face challenges that'll push them and their kids 1201 00:55:59,920 --> 00:56:02,440 to the absolute limit 1202 00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:05,840 and at the end, one of you will be voted 1203 00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:08,840 Australia's best parenting style. 1204 00:56:08,880 --> 00:56:10,800 We can't wait to see how you go. 1205 00:56:10,840 --> 00:56:12,600 (LAUGHS) 1206 00:56:12,640 --> 00:56:15,640 But before we send you into the wilderness, 1207 00:56:15,680 --> 00:56:19,480 Justin and I have a big announcement to make. 1208 00:56:19,520 --> 00:56:23,600 And we've decided there's another set of parents 1209 00:56:23,640 --> 00:56:28,960 who deserve a shot at the title of Australia's best parenting style. 1210 00:56:31,440 --> 00:56:35,160 Along with the three sets of parents that you voted through to the final, 1211 00:56:35,200 --> 00:56:38,760 Ali and I have a wildcard to play. 1212 00:56:40,400 --> 00:56:44,800 You've all been listening, watching and making great comments 1213 00:56:44,840 --> 00:56:49,600 but these parents have given their all in every challenge. 1214 00:56:49,640 --> 00:56:54,800 They've always been ready to listen closely, question respectfully 1215 00:56:54,840 --> 00:56:58,800 and offer warm and wise words of parental guidance. 1216 00:56:58,840 --> 00:57:02,560 These parents have shown us a lot 1217 00:57:02,600 --> 00:57:06,400 and now we need to see more. 1218 00:57:06,440 --> 00:57:09,920 The wildcard parents we're choosing 1219 00:57:09,960 --> 00:57:14,680 to go on the Extreme Family Mission are... 1220 00:57:14,720 --> 00:57:17,080 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 1221 00:57:18,200 --> 00:57:20,760 ..Sammy and Jason, our lighthouse parents. 1222 00:57:20,800 --> 00:57:23,840 (CHEERING AND APPLAUSE) 1223 00:57:23,880 --> 00:57:24,920 Yes! 1224 00:57:27,560 --> 00:57:29,800 Come on! We are much like a lighthouse. 1225 00:57:29,840 --> 00:57:31,880 We observe from a distance 1226 00:57:31,920 --> 00:57:35,360 but ultimately, if they ever do get into trouble, they can come to us. 1227 00:57:35,400 --> 00:57:37,480 Are you feeling brave? Yeah. 1228 00:57:37,520 --> 00:57:40,800 You can do this. GIRL: You've got this. 1229 00:57:40,840 --> 00:57:43,640 (GASPS) Oh! 1230 00:57:43,680 --> 00:57:45,920 Good boy! GIRL: Come and get it! 1231 00:57:45,960 --> 00:57:47,800 Guys, guys, don't fight, don't fight. 1232 00:57:47,840 --> 00:57:50,760 It's not nice. Do 21 Is It or something like that. 1233 00:57:50,800 --> 00:57:52,560 GIRL: Thank you. It's not nice to fight. 1234 00:57:54,800 --> 00:57:55,920 ALLISON: Guys... 1235 00:57:55,960 --> 00:57:57,240 That's actually really unexpected 1236 00:57:57,280 --> 00:57:59,560 'cause, like, these people are amazing people, 1237 00:57:59,600 --> 00:58:02,680 so we all deserve to be part of this final. 1238 00:58:02,720 --> 00:58:04,400 Oh, you're all incredible. 1239 00:58:04,440 --> 00:58:08,560 We are very, very humbled by Justin and Ali's decision 1240 00:58:08,600 --> 00:58:10,480 to send us through to the final. 1241 00:58:10,520 --> 00:58:11,680 It was not expected. 1242 00:58:11,720 --> 00:58:13,360 Thank you. Appreciate it. 1243 00:58:13,400 --> 00:58:16,720 And for the kids to be recognised that they're incredible humans 1244 00:58:16,760 --> 00:58:18,000 is lovely. 1245 00:58:18,040 --> 00:58:23,160 Mark and Leanne, Kat, Kim and Nick, Sammy and Jason, 1246 00:58:23,200 --> 00:58:25,640 pack your bags. 1247 00:58:25,680 --> 00:58:28,200 We'll see you in the final. 1248 00:58:31,160 --> 00:58:34,680 VOICEOVER: It's all come down... to this. 1249 00:58:34,720 --> 00:58:37,840 Who will you crown Parenting Champions? 1250 00:58:37,880 --> 00:58:42,000 In the must-see grand finale, the final four... 1251 00:58:42,040 --> 00:58:43,800 Alright, let's go. 1252 00:58:43,840 --> 00:58:45,640 Woo! (CROWD OF PARENTS LAUGH) 1253 00:58:45,680 --> 00:58:46,840 ..face their wildest... 1254 00:58:46,880 --> 00:58:48,200 Ah, I can't do it. 1255 00:58:48,240 --> 00:58:49,640 Are you gonna tell me 'no' on a footy field? 1256 00:58:49,680 --> 00:58:51,240 ..most emotional... (CHILD SCREAMS) 1257 00:58:51,280 --> 00:58:52,480 (CHILD CRIES) 1258 00:58:52,520 --> 00:58:54,120 She was terrified. 1259 00:58:54,160 --> 00:58:55,560 ..test yet. 1260 00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:57,920 I'm just, like, incredibly inspired by you. 1261 00:58:59,040 --> 00:59:01,400 Find out which parenting style... 1262 00:59:02,600 --> 00:59:03,760 ..is best. 1263 00:59:03,800 --> 00:59:06,160 The best parenting style is...