1 00:00:01,800 --> 00:00:03,680 ALLY (VOICEOVER): Previously on Parental Guidance... 2 00:00:03,720 --> 00:00:06,040 Welcome to the Avengers of parenting. 3 00:00:06,080 --> 00:00:07,560 Eight sets of parents... 4 00:00:07,600 --> 00:00:08,840 (LAUGHTER) 5 00:00:09,920 --> 00:00:12,160 ..with very different parenting styles... 6 00:00:12,200 --> 00:00:13,440 Can you see the kids? 7 00:00:13,480 --> 00:00:15,080 Yeah, they're OK. 8 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:16,800 ..were put to the test... 9 00:00:16,840 --> 00:00:19,160 Finger off the trigger until you're ready, mate. 10 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:21,040 (SCREAMS) 11 00:00:21,080 --> 00:00:23,000 You're gonna hit the car. Stop. 12 00:00:24,760 --> 00:00:27,360 ..with the honest parent and the team parents 13 00:00:27,400 --> 00:00:28,800 voted through to the final. 14 00:00:28,840 --> 00:00:30,480 Yay! 15 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:32,440 Hopefully, we can win. (LAUGHS) 16 00:00:33,720 --> 00:00:35,360 Tonight, as the search 17 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:38,720 for Australia's best parenting style intensifies, 18 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:41,120 our final set of focus parents... 19 00:00:41,160 --> 00:00:42,560 We are the road school parents. 20 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:44,320 American, just totally American. 21 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:45,600 We're a slow parenting family. 22 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:47,640 An unstructured approach to parenting. 23 00:00:47,680 --> 00:00:49,320 (SCREAMS) No! 24 00:00:49,360 --> 00:00:51,000 ..come out swinging... 25 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:52,680 I'm not listening to you right now 26 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:54,080 because you are not listening to me. 27 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:55,120 I am. 28 00:00:55,160 --> 00:00:58,040 There can be detriment to pushing your kids too hard. 29 00:00:58,080 --> 00:00:59,760 No, you're the child. I'm the parent. 30 00:00:59,800 --> 00:01:02,080 This is a non-negotiable. 31 00:01:02,120 --> 00:01:03,560 ..and sink their teeth... 32 00:01:03,600 --> 00:01:04,960 I don't want to eat it. 33 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:06,440 (RETCHES) 34 00:01:07,480 --> 00:01:10,640 ..into the most shocking challenges yet. 35 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:11,880 I have a got a delivery of your mum. 36 00:01:11,920 --> 00:01:13,160 Put this right here. 37 00:01:13,200 --> 00:01:15,120 Do you mind if I just put it in inside? It's really heavy. 38 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:17,280 Uh... 39 00:01:17,320 --> 00:01:20,000 Once the door opens, that's the point. 40 00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:22,040 That frightens me to death. 41 00:01:22,080 --> 00:01:24,640 In a real-life situation, you're gone already. 42 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:26,160 That guy has snatched you. 43 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:29,400 (THEME MUSIC) 44 00:01:33,520 --> 00:01:36,360 ('REMIND ME' BY TOM GRENNAN PLAYS) 45 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:41,080 Good day, guys. 46 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:42,600 Chris, Phillippa, how are you? 47 00:01:42,640 --> 00:01:43,720 Good. 48 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:46,840 Amy and John, nice to see you guys. 49 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:50,000 Melody, Michael, Kim and Nick. 50 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:52,760 It's your turn as focus parents. 51 00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:54,680 Do those seats feel a little warmer? 52 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:56,120 (LAUGHTER) 53 00:01:57,680 --> 00:02:03,440 Panel parents, so far, all of you have faced your challenges. 54 00:02:03,480 --> 00:02:05,960 Which means this time... 55 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:08,080 it's your turn in the spotlight. 56 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:10,600 You are our focus parents. 57 00:02:10,640 --> 00:02:14,240 You'll be fielding all of the parenting challenges. 58 00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:17,320 Panel parents, we need you to take notes. 59 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:19,680 Once all of these challenges are complete, 60 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:22,080 you will take a vote to decide 61 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:25,320 who will be joining, Kat, our honest parent, 62 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:27,680 and Mark and Leanne, our team parents 63 00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:31,120 in the final family challenge. 64 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:33,720 So, focus parents, 65 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:37,400 let's get to know your parenting styles. 66 00:02:37,440 --> 00:02:39,880 Kim and Nick, what's your parenting style? 67 00:02:39,920 --> 00:02:41,520 Uh, we parent the American way, 68 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:44,480 which basically means we're constantly setting expectations 69 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:45,600 for our daughter. 70 00:02:45,640 --> 00:02:46,960 And we are confident 71 00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:49,320 that we are raising a confident child. 72 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:52,320 What do you guys want to do? 73 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:54,400 Nothing. We'll just smile. Uh, just normal for now. Yeah. 74 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:55,760 OK. Oh, you got it. 75 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:57,440 (CAMERA SHUTTER CLICKS) 76 00:02:57,480 --> 00:03:01,320 With American parenting, we tend to set the bar high. 77 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:02,840 You can still do it. 78 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:03,920 Push, push. 79 00:03:03,960 --> 00:03:07,400 And then wait for the child to meet the expectation 80 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:09,600 and then set it higher and higher. 81 00:03:09,640 --> 00:03:11,760 Well done. Whoo! Good job. 82 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:17,040 That praise that she gets for doing good work goes far for her. 83 00:03:17,080 --> 00:03:19,320 Good job. Nice one. 84 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:21,320 In Australia, it feels almost like 85 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:23,560 you're not allowed to toot your own horn, 86 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:25,800 where in America everyone does it. 87 00:03:27,400 --> 00:03:30,440 Chris and Phillippa, tell us how you raise your kids. 88 00:03:30,480 --> 00:03:33,040 Um, so, our parenting style is slow parenting. 89 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:36,440 So, we are all about, uh, reducing the crazy schedules, 90 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:38,240 switching off, connecting in nature. 91 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:39,640 And allowing kids to be kids. 92 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:42,920 ALL: Ahh! 93 00:03:42,960 --> 00:03:44,440 (CAMERA SHUTTER CLICKS) 94 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:45,760 Slow parenting for us 95 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:48,240 is just being really intentional about, 96 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:50,480 um, getting rid of the craziness in our schedule. 97 00:03:50,520 --> 00:03:51,640 What should we make? 98 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:52,880 Muddy pies. 99 00:03:52,920 --> 00:03:54,080 Some muddy pies. 100 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:55,160 OK. 101 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:56,520 I think one of the best parts 102 00:03:56,560 --> 00:03:59,240 is allowing them to enjoy their childhood 103 00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:01,360 and learn and play 104 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:04,480 rather than instructing them constantly from school 105 00:04:04,520 --> 00:04:06,000 and then after school activities. 106 00:04:07,120 --> 00:04:09,920 (LAUGHS) 107 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:11,920 We spend most of our lives as a unit. 108 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:13,680 We don't have extended family up here. 109 00:04:13,720 --> 00:04:16,840 So, anytime we do anything kids, with all of us. 110 00:04:16,880 --> 00:04:17,880 (LAUGHS) 111 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:20,000 People might think that we are too involved. 112 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:23,360 But until the kids tell us to go away, 113 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:25,520 we are gonna stay involved as long as possible. 114 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:27,640 (LAUGHS) 115 00:04:27,680 --> 00:04:29,360 Melody and Michael. 116 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:31,040 We are unstructured parents. 117 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:33,680 Unstructured parenting removes the routines 118 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:38,240 and allows our kids to be creative, healthy, happy humans. 119 00:04:38,280 --> 00:04:39,880 Three, two, one! 120 00:04:39,920 --> 00:04:42,200 Rockstar. Rockstar! Ahh! 121 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:44,200 (CAMERA SHUTTER CLICKS) 122 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:46,160 The life of the musician is unstructured. 123 00:04:46,200 --> 00:04:48,160 Every day is completely different. 124 00:04:48,200 --> 00:04:51,080 So, we're firm believers in child-led parenting. 125 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:52,640 Are you gonna sing with me, booboo? 126 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:55,480 We kind of let the kids steer the ship when we can. 127 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:57,280 (GUITAR SOUNDS) Whoo-hoo! 128 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:58,640 Yeah, baby. 129 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:04,120 We like to give our children autonomy over their own decisions. 130 00:05:04,160 --> 00:05:05,160 Can we do this thing 131 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:07,240 where it's like everyone else is singing different parts? 132 00:05:07,280 --> 00:05:08,280 I like that. Yeah. 133 00:05:08,320 --> 00:05:09,680 That was really cool in the background. 134 00:05:09,720 --> 00:05:13,120 I don't wanna raise members of society 135 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:16,120 that do what they're told when they're told. 136 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:19,240 Amy and John. 137 00:05:19,280 --> 00:05:21,000 We are the road school parents 138 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:24,160 and road school parenting is about connecting through adventure. 139 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:25,200 Alright, ready? 140 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:26,640 We'll send it to nanny. We go on the front. 141 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:30,120 (CAMERA SHUTTER CLICKS) 142 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:31,920 As road school parents, 143 00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:35,600 we live in our caravan and travel full-time and we home-school. 144 00:05:35,640 --> 00:05:37,320 What did we do up here? 145 00:05:37,360 --> 00:05:40,640 That's the cape where we went four-wheel driving. 146 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:43,320 (LAUGHS) 147 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:45,240 Before road schooling our kids, 148 00:05:45,280 --> 00:05:47,960 we were so caught up in the rat race. 149 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:50,680 And being able to take a backward step 150 00:05:50,720 --> 00:05:52,600 'cause there's so much more time 151 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:54,720 to be able to spend with the kids is way better. 152 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:56,440 Yeah. Mum got marshmallows. 153 00:05:56,480 --> 00:05:57,760 Yes, I do. 154 00:05:57,800 --> 00:05:59,680 Whoa! 155 00:05:59,720 --> 00:06:02,000 Education isn't just books and stuff like that. 156 00:06:02,040 --> 00:06:03,640 We teach life skills. 157 00:06:03,680 --> 00:06:05,400 Like, we teach the kids how to be resilient 158 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:08,120 and how to be adaptable and how to pump a tyre up 159 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:09,960 and it's an amazing lifestyle. 160 00:06:11,760 --> 00:06:16,000 Four different parenting styles in the hot seat today. 161 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:17,240 (LAUGHS) 162 00:06:17,280 --> 00:06:18,720 Ready for the first challenge? 163 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:21,280 (LAUGHTER) 164 00:06:21,320 --> 00:06:23,320 I'm excited. 165 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:26,640 In this challenge, we're testing how you can work together 166 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:28,840 towards a common goal 167 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:31,920 and achieve it within a set time frame 168 00:06:31,960 --> 00:06:33,880 and not lose your cool. 169 00:06:35,320 --> 00:06:37,400 Behold the key... 170 00:06:39,520 --> 00:06:40,800 Oh, gee. 171 00:06:40,840 --> 00:06:44,560 ..to a really tough Saturday afternoon. 172 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:48,680 We gave you and your kids 173 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:51,920 two hours to put together a swing set. 174 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:53,840 (LAUGHTER) 175 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:55,120 Being able to work together 176 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:57,600 is one of the key elements of a happy family. 177 00:06:57,640 --> 00:07:01,120 Kids can learn from their parents how to set a goal, 178 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:02,760 how to deal with time pressures 179 00:07:02,800 --> 00:07:06,200 and how to work collectively towards the goal. 180 00:07:06,240 --> 00:07:08,560 ('CLARITY' BY VANCE JOY PLAYS) 181 00:07:11,800 --> 00:07:12,880 (MESSAGE POPS) 182 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:15,560 Oh, I just got a text. 183 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:16,640 You got a message. 184 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:24,240 How are we gonna do that? 185 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:25,920 (LAUGHS) 186 00:07:25,960 --> 00:07:29,160 In this challenge, our families have two hours 187 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:30,280 to build a swing set. 188 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:31,400 No, I didn't have much... 189 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:33,040 Are all the kids involved? 190 00:07:33,080 --> 00:07:38,320 How do the parents handle conflicts and do they get the job done? 191 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:39,600 Set the timer for now. 192 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:41,200 Start. Two hours to go. 193 00:07:41,240 --> 00:07:42,560 Alright. 194 00:07:42,600 --> 00:07:44,720 Good. Instructions further. 195 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:47,960 American parenting style, um, is all about hard work 196 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:50,680 and expecting everyone to kind of pull their own weight. 197 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:55,160 So, um, this connects to those. 198 00:07:55,200 --> 00:07:57,760 Teamwork is a huge part of it. 199 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:00,160 Put in that same effort and work together. 200 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:01,680 Do you want me to do it? 201 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:03,600 Oh, yeah, it's... 202 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:04,960 Here, hold this for dad here. 203 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:06,080 Oh, yeah. 204 00:08:06,120 --> 00:08:07,160 OK. 205 00:08:07,200 --> 00:08:08,680 Now, we've got to be careful when doing this. 206 00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:10,240 I know. 207 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:12,720 Yeah. OK. I'll just stay out of the way. 208 00:08:12,760 --> 00:08:13,800 Two of these. 209 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:15,560 We've gotta get this done and we gotta do it right. 210 00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:18,000 You know, we gotta do it well and we gotta finish it 211 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:20,160 and we're gonna run out of time if we go this slow. 212 00:08:20,200 --> 00:08:21,760 Alright, what's next? 213 00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:23,240 I've gotta go and do a pee. 214 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:24,280 Oh! 215 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:26,680 (LAUGHTER) 216 00:08:26,720 --> 00:08:28,680 OK, so, we've done that, done that, 217 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:30,240 done that, done that. 218 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:32,280 Hello. Done that, done that. 219 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:34,760 I think that we could have given Pia more responsibility, 220 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:36,120 but we were on a time crunch. 221 00:08:36,160 --> 00:08:38,600 I'll do... I'll do this part 'cause it's harder. 222 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:40,360 Oh, yeah. And then I need the bolt. 223 00:08:40,400 --> 00:08:41,480 Can someone thread it on for me? 224 00:08:41,520 --> 00:08:43,240 The bolt? Yeah, I'll do it. 225 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:45,200 Here, you hold this. 226 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:47,640 At the end when we knew we were gonna finish in time, 227 00:08:47,680 --> 00:08:50,040 we gave Pia a little more responsibility. 228 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:51,240 Watch your arm under. 229 00:08:51,280 --> 00:08:53,320 Yup. And then screw it up. 230 00:08:53,360 --> 00:08:55,440 Yup, you got it. 231 00:08:55,480 --> 00:08:56,640 Got it. 232 00:08:56,680 --> 00:08:59,160 Good one, Pia. Whoo-hoo! Alright. 233 00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:00,600 Go check the time. 234 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:03,040 Six minutes left. Six minutes left! 235 00:09:03,080 --> 00:09:04,120 We did beat the buzzer. 236 00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:05,680 We beat it by six minutes. 237 00:09:05,720 --> 00:09:07,000 (LAUGHTER) 238 00:09:07,040 --> 00:09:08,080 Go. Whoo-hoo! 239 00:09:08,120 --> 00:09:09,320 Yeah, alright, she works. 240 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:10,920 Hopefully, it doesn't come flying off. 241 00:09:10,960 --> 00:09:12,720 (LAUGHTER) 242 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:14,480 (APPLAUSE) 243 00:09:17,560 --> 00:09:18,640 ALL: Yes! 244 00:09:18,680 --> 00:09:20,200 Whoo-hoo! It's got a slide. 245 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:21,320 Oh, it's a whole pack. 246 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:22,400 (LAUGHS) 247 00:09:22,440 --> 00:09:23,840 We have two hours. 248 00:09:23,880 --> 00:09:25,600 Alright, this gonna be tricky. 249 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:27,840 With our slow parenting approach, 250 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:30,720 we don't normally put time limits on things. 251 00:09:30,760 --> 00:09:33,360 We allow them to take their time. 252 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:35,360 We give them the equipment to do things, 253 00:09:35,400 --> 00:09:37,960 but not necessarily show them how to do it completely 254 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:40,240 and let them try and work it out. 255 00:09:40,280 --> 00:09:42,440 Man, there's lots of numbers and letters on this. 256 00:09:42,480 --> 00:09:44,360 Oh, boy. 257 00:09:44,400 --> 00:09:46,200 (LAUGHTER) 258 00:09:46,240 --> 00:09:47,320 What's going on? 259 00:09:47,360 --> 00:09:48,720 I don't know. 260 00:09:48,760 --> 00:09:49,920 I see no instructions. 261 00:09:49,960 --> 00:09:50,960 It's just pictures. 262 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:53,560 We realised pretty quickly we're outnumbered 263 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:56,400 in terms of delegating tasks because they're quite tricky. 264 00:09:56,440 --> 00:09:58,000 So, Chris worked with Peyton. 265 00:09:58,040 --> 00:10:00,240 Yeah. Which one do you twist it on? 266 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:01,920 Lefty, loosey. Righty, tighty. 267 00:10:01,960 --> 00:10:03,600 And I worked with Briar. 268 00:10:03,640 --> 00:10:04,680 Tighten that one up. 269 00:10:04,720 --> 00:10:05,760 Smooth! 270 00:10:05,800 --> 00:10:07,320 Whoo-hoo! Yeah, well done. 271 00:10:07,360 --> 00:10:09,920 It was always gonna be hard to keep Avery engaged 272 00:10:09,960 --> 00:10:12,240 because she's only four and it's quite tricky tasks 273 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:14,440 that are outside of her development level. 274 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:16,680 Do you wanna play in the cardboard box, babe? 275 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:18,120 Yeah. 276 00:10:18,160 --> 00:10:19,960 This can be your boat. 277 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:21,400 Hello. 278 00:10:21,440 --> 00:10:24,240 We weren't rushed during the challenge. 279 00:10:24,280 --> 00:10:28,200 We weren't watching the time or pushing hard at any stage. 280 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:30,520 Just kind of going along with it. 281 00:10:30,560 --> 00:10:32,200 (TIMER SOUNDS) 282 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:33,440 (LAUGHS) That's it. 283 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:34,560 Time's up. 284 00:10:34,600 --> 00:10:35,720 We did it. Oh, no. 285 00:10:35,760 --> 00:10:37,840 Oh, we got so close. We got close. 286 00:10:37,880 --> 00:10:40,120 But can we still do it later? 287 00:10:40,160 --> 00:10:41,880 Yeah, we'll finish it later on. 288 00:10:44,360 --> 00:10:47,240 I think, Chris and Phil, it was really good how your youngest 289 00:10:47,280 --> 00:10:50,440 you knew couldn't sort of support and assist in some respects, 290 00:10:50,480 --> 00:10:52,520 so you made it fun for them with the box. 291 00:10:52,560 --> 00:10:54,960 We...we relate to that with our youngest as well. 292 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:56,760 And the fact that in the same area, 293 00:10:56,800 --> 00:10:58,920 so still in the same location, which is really cool. 294 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:00,960 Rather than take the box on the lawn, 295 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:04,000 it was still within that vicinity that you were doing that activity. 296 00:11:04,040 --> 00:11:06,240 You didn't even bother about the time frame. 297 00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:07,800 It wasn't important to you. 298 00:11:07,840 --> 00:11:12,400 What happens then in, I guess, real life when there is a deadline? 299 00:11:12,440 --> 00:11:15,480 Um, no, we...we easily work within time frames. 300 00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:19,000 So, we would just make sure that everything before something 301 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:21,840 when we need to be that we've set ourself up for that 302 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:25,160 so we don't feel like, uh, we are rushed. 303 00:11:25,200 --> 00:11:29,040 Let's talk about Nick and Kim and what we saw there. 304 00:11:29,080 --> 00:11:30,520 Um, I noticed you said 305 00:11:30,560 --> 00:11:33,280 that once we knew we were gonna get it built, 306 00:11:33,320 --> 00:11:35,480 we gave her a turn to be a bit more involved. 307 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:36,520 Yeah. 308 00:11:36,560 --> 00:11:40,160 And I'm just wondering whether the goal of meeting that time crunch 309 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:42,320 was more important on that day 310 00:11:42,360 --> 00:11:44,840 than giving her the chance to find those new skills. 311 00:11:44,880 --> 00:11:46,240 It absolutely was. 312 00:11:46,280 --> 00:11:47,360 Yeah. Yeah? 313 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:48,960 Yes, we are very goal-driven. 314 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:50,680 Mm-hm. We're given a task. 315 00:11:50,720 --> 00:11:54,760 I would've loved to have given Pia more opportunity to have done more, 316 00:11:54,800 --> 00:11:57,040 but um, we wanted to get it done. 317 00:11:57,080 --> 00:11:59,280 So, that to me, what it seems like 318 00:11:59,320 --> 00:12:01,080 is that that priority is time limit 319 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:03,600 and I would've taken that pleaty... pretty literally as well. 320 00:12:03,640 --> 00:12:04,640 Yeah. 321 00:12:04,680 --> 00:12:07,440 I just wanted to know if it bothered you at all 322 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:11,480 hearing your daughter say, um, "I'll just stand out the way then. 323 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:12,560 "I'll just stand over here." 324 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:14,800 'Cause that concerned me a bit. 325 00:12:14,840 --> 00:12:17,080 That low voice, like, I hear it every now and then 326 00:12:17,120 --> 00:12:20,160 just sort of saying something and she just wasn't getting heard. 327 00:12:20,200 --> 00:12:21,760 It made me a bit sad. 328 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:23,840 No, I...I think this happens in our house sometimes. 329 00:12:23,880 --> 00:12:24,880 Yeah. I'm not gonna lie. 330 00:12:24,920 --> 00:12:26,600 I'm not gonna say...You know, I'm not gonna make up 331 00:12:26,640 --> 00:12:27,840 any excuse for that. 332 00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:29,760 No, and I'm not. It does definitely happen. 333 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:33,960 But feelings and, um, reflection is always done in our household. 334 00:12:34,000 --> 00:12:37,960 So, if I ever speak over anyone or don't give her that opportunity, 335 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:39,360 it is always addressed. 336 00:12:39,400 --> 00:12:40,600 Yeah. 337 00:12:40,640 --> 00:12:43,120 I actually really felt for Pia. 338 00:12:43,160 --> 00:12:44,680 I could see mum and dad were like, you know, 339 00:12:44,720 --> 00:12:45,760 we've gotta get this done mode. 340 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:47,240 When I would've said, "No, wait. 341 00:12:47,280 --> 00:12:48,720 "Come back in here." 342 00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:50,560 You know, and she doesn't know how to use Allen Key. 343 00:12:50,600 --> 00:12:52,640 Teach her. 344 00:12:52,680 --> 00:12:55,120 Let's have a look now at the road school parents. 345 00:12:55,160 --> 00:12:56,480 Alright. 346 00:12:56,520 --> 00:12:58,280 Oh, my god! It's huge. 347 00:12:58,320 --> 00:12:59,760 (LAUGHS) 348 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:01,280 Several punctuations missing. 349 00:13:01,320 --> 00:13:03,000 It's even got a slide now. 350 00:13:03,040 --> 00:13:06,080 As a road school family, I think everyone knows 351 00:13:06,120 --> 00:13:07,920 that if we all work together for a common goal, 352 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:09,240 that we will have success. 353 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:11,720 How about we make Gus in charge of the bolts only? 354 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:15,400 We're quite good at setting things up 355 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:17,640 and...and doing practical jobs definitely. 356 00:13:17,680 --> 00:13:20,640 But it's really important for everyone to have their role. 357 00:13:20,680 --> 00:13:21,960 Dog man, your job. 358 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:23,920 Get these Allen Key packets out. 359 00:13:23,960 --> 00:13:25,800 Yes, good dog. 360 00:13:25,840 --> 00:13:27,280 OK, easy. 361 00:13:27,320 --> 00:13:29,920 And they're all active boys who are with us all the time, 362 00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:31,440 24 hours a day. 363 00:13:31,480 --> 00:13:33,080 There's times where they just clash. 364 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:34,560 Oh, Jesus. Take five. 365 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:35,960 Yes. Seven. 366 00:13:36,000 --> 00:13:37,320 Yes, good dog. 367 00:13:39,160 --> 00:13:41,800 Gus was extremely frustrating for me. 368 00:13:41,840 --> 00:13:43,040 We need two other... 369 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:44,400 Yeah, that's where that goes. 370 00:13:44,440 --> 00:13:45,760 That's why I left it there, mate. 371 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:47,520 I thought you were doing this. 372 00:13:47,560 --> 00:13:49,320 I am. I've got all the pieces. 373 00:13:49,360 --> 00:13:51,320 I need you to stop being silly. 374 00:13:51,360 --> 00:13:52,720 I've got all the pieces. 375 00:13:52,760 --> 00:13:56,200 I think 'cause we're very alike, he...he challenged me a lot. 376 00:13:56,240 --> 00:13:58,280 Hang on. I'm... I'm not listening to you... 377 00:13:58,320 --> 00:13:59,360 Don't you want me to lis... 378 00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:01,000 ..right now because you are not listening to me. 379 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:02,240 Get the book. No. 380 00:14:05,960 --> 00:14:07,040 Just sit down. Come on. 381 00:14:07,080 --> 00:14:08,640 Have a work it out, you two. 382 00:14:08,680 --> 00:14:10,840 You wanna give them a sense of responsibility 383 00:14:10,880 --> 00:14:12,680 so they feel like they've accomplished something. 384 00:14:12,720 --> 00:14:13,760 Yeah. 385 00:14:13,800 --> 00:14:15,360 But in the exact same breath, 386 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:17,080 you just wanna punch 'em in the face. 387 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:18,640 (LAUGHTER) 388 00:14:18,680 --> 00:14:20,040 You can't say that. 389 00:14:20,080 --> 00:14:21,320 I did. 390 00:14:21,360 --> 00:14:23,280 Oh, my god. 391 00:14:23,320 --> 00:14:24,440 What? 392 00:14:24,480 --> 00:14:27,760 That needs to come to this side. 393 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:28,880 Been there, done that. 394 00:14:28,920 --> 00:14:29,920 Alright, well, let's do... 395 00:14:29,960 --> 00:14:31,560 Do you want a hand or do you wanna do it on your own? 396 00:14:31,600 --> 00:14:34,840 I just wanna cry. (LAUGHTER) 397 00:14:34,880 --> 00:14:36,200 (SIGHS) 398 00:14:36,240 --> 00:14:37,840 I'll just help you out there, dad. 399 00:14:37,880 --> 00:14:39,200 Yeah, no, that's alright. 400 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:40,280 That's alright, Gus. 401 00:14:40,320 --> 00:14:42,000 Hey, that's good that you acknowledged. 402 00:14:42,040 --> 00:14:43,320 Listen, hold on. 403 00:14:44,840 --> 00:14:46,880 We did it! 404 00:14:46,920 --> 00:14:48,160 Team! 405 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:49,200 Yes! 406 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:50,840 Let's go! 407 00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:53,920 And time to spare, gang. 408 00:14:53,960 --> 00:14:55,080 It was slightly fun. 409 00:14:55,120 --> 00:14:56,720 I would never wanna do it again. 410 00:14:56,760 --> 00:14:58,640 Yeah. (LAUGHS) 411 00:15:00,520 --> 00:15:01,640 Define slightly fun. 412 00:15:01,680 --> 00:15:02,720 (APPLAUSE) 413 00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:03,880 Really good. 414 00:15:06,200 --> 00:15:08,960 Seriously, yous two is so good to watch together. 415 00:15:09,000 --> 00:15:11,040 You are stressing your head off. You're over in the corner. 416 00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:12,160 Like, calm down, you pair... 417 00:15:12,200 --> 00:15:13,840 And you... Let's just get the job going. 418 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:16,360 You are so honest, but you're still so reassuring... 419 00:15:16,400 --> 00:15:17,400 Yeah. ..as well. 420 00:15:17,440 --> 00:15:19,600 As soon as he does, you know, the right thing, 421 00:15:19,640 --> 00:15:21,160 you are straight onto it. 422 00:15:21,200 --> 00:15:22,320 Good job, buddy. 423 00:15:22,360 --> 00:15:24,640 And for...for a child to step up and say, "Oh, I'm sorry. 424 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:25,920 "I did that." Yeah. 425 00:15:25,960 --> 00:15:28,120 That that was me. That...that's...that's amazing. 426 00:15:28,160 --> 00:15:29,200 It's excellent. 427 00:15:29,240 --> 00:15:31,320 How did you feel there when Gus was ignoring you? 428 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:33,200 You were telling him to go get the book. 429 00:15:33,240 --> 00:15:35,320 Yeah, I was not impressed. 430 00:15:35,360 --> 00:15:38,720 I said, "You are not listening to me, so I will not listen to you." 431 00:15:38,760 --> 00:15:40,880 And I removed myself from the situation 432 00:15:40,920 --> 00:15:42,160 and then we work together 433 00:15:42,200 --> 00:15:44,320 in the next ta... in the next little bit. 434 00:15:44,360 --> 00:15:48,480 One of the vitally important things that we need to do as parents 435 00:15:48,520 --> 00:15:51,040 is to learn how to repair the ruptures. 436 00:15:52,640 --> 00:15:55,360 There will always be ruptured relationships. 437 00:15:55,400 --> 00:15:57,200 That's part of life. 438 00:15:57,240 --> 00:16:00,560 But what we can do is start by acknowledging the problem. 439 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:04,800 Apologise really simply if you behaved inappropriately. 440 00:16:04,840 --> 00:16:07,160 Then listen to your child's perspective 441 00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:08,760 and problem solve with them 442 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:11,760 about how they think it could go differently next time. 443 00:16:13,120 --> 00:16:14,120 Coming up... 444 00:16:14,160 --> 00:16:15,760 (SCREAMS) No! 445 00:16:15,800 --> 00:16:17,360 ..emotions swing big. 446 00:16:17,400 --> 00:16:18,400 It's OK. 447 00:16:18,440 --> 00:16:21,160 The unstructured thing is always going to come up 448 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:23,160 with moments like this. 449 00:16:23,200 --> 00:16:24,240 And... 450 00:16:24,280 --> 00:16:25,360 Hello. Hi, Miller. 451 00:16:25,400 --> 00:16:27,000 ..the kids have their say. 452 00:16:27,040 --> 00:16:28,200 Tell us about mum. 453 00:16:28,240 --> 00:16:30,400 We describe her as the praying mantis. 454 00:16:30,440 --> 00:16:31,680 (LAUGHTER) 455 00:16:31,720 --> 00:16:33,360 Dad farts a lot. 456 00:16:33,400 --> 00:16:35,480 He's still like a really good dad. 457 00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:37,760 Then later... 458 00:16:37,800 --> 00:16:39,600 The votes have been counted. 459 00:16:39,640 --> 00:16:43,320 Our panel pick their favourite style of the night. 460 00:16:50,000 --> 00:16:51,760 # I'll be there... # 461 00:16:53,120 --> 00:16:56,080 As we continue to look for Australia's best parenting style 462 00:16:56,120 --> 00:16:58,240 with our last lot of focus parents, 463 00:16:58,280 --> 00:17:01,120 we're in the middle of the builder swing set challenge. 464 00:17:01,160 --> 00:17:06,120 We've seen our slow, road school and American families in action. 465 00:17:06,160 --> 00:17:09,240 Time to see how our unstructured parents went. 466 00:17:10,400 --> 00:17:11,880 (MESSAGE POPS) 467 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:23,240 In our unstructured parenting style, 468 00:17:23,280 --> 00:17:25,600 I don't really think that we are goal-oriented. 469 00:17:25,640 --> 00:17:26,680 When you look at this, 470 00:17:26,720 --> 00:17:28,720 do you feel like you're gonna have a panic attack? 471 00:17:28,760 --> 00:17:29,880 Yes, I do. Me too. 472 00:17:29,920 --> 00:17:32,200 I can do Lego, but I can't do this. 473 00:17:32,240 --> 00:17:33,720 (LAUGHTER) 474 00:17:35,280 --> 00:17:37,320 Alright, here you go, dad. 475 00:17:37,360 --> 00:17:39,240 Thank you. Which one's which? 476 00:17:39,280 --> 00:17:40,520 I don't know. 477 00:17:40,560 --> 00:17:43,120 (LAUGHTER) 478 00:17:43,160 --> 00:17:45,400 I guess I don't like to even really think 479 00:17:45,440 --> 00:17:48,640 that the kids necessarily have goals 480 00:17:48,680 --> 00:17:51,440 because they're kids. 481 00:17:51,480 --> 00:17:53,680 OK. Who's holding the spanner for me? 482 00:17:53,720 --> 00:17:54,960 You do the spanner, babe. 483 00:17:56,720 --> 00:17:58,520 Unless anyone's super into spannering. 484 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:02,880 You know, guys, holding the spanner is actually the fun bit. 485 00:18:02,920 --> 00:18:04,520 Do you wanna hold the spanner? Oh, yeah, sure. 486 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:05,720 Just... (GASPS) Yes! 487 00:18:05,760 --> 00:18:06,920 That seems fun, actually. 488 00:18:06,960 --> 00:18:12,480 I think we're really good at enjoying the process of things. 489 00:18:12,520 --> 00:18:14,760 I'm scared like you might drill my leg or something. 490 00:18:14,800 --> 00:18:16,400 No, the drill's nowhere near your leg, babes. 491 00:18:16,440 --> 00:18:17,440 Alright. 492 00:18:17,480 --> 00:18:20,840 I would much rather that than the goal 493 00:18:20,880 --> 00:18:22,480 be met at the end. 494 00:18:22,520 --> 00:18:25,320 At this point, it doesn't really matter if we get the swing or not 495 00:18:25,360 --> 00:18:27,120 because we're having fun. 496 00:18:27,160 --> 00:18:29,240 How many pages to go, honey? 497 00:18:29,280 --> 00:18:30,440 There's like 13. 498 00:18:30,480 --> 00:18:32,880 (LAUGHTER) 499 00:18:32,920 --> 00:18:34,600 (TIMER SOUNDS) 500 00:18:34,640 --> 00:18:36,520 There goes the timer! 501 00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:37,960 (CRIES) Mummy. 502 00:18:38,000 --> 00:18:39,320 Tell me what's wrong, darling. 503 00:18:39,360 --> 00:18:43,360 But the timer run out. 504 00:18:43,400 --> 00:18:44,760 The timer run out. 505 00:18:44,800 --> 00:18:47,080 It's OK. 506 00:18:47,120 --> 00:18:48,320 It doesn't matter. 507 00:18:48,360 --> 00:18:51,760 I wanted to slide. 508 00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:53,280 (SCREAMS) No! 509 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:55,200 Magnolia, listen to me. 510 00:18:55,240 --> 00:18:56,840 (SCREAMS) No! 511 00:18:56,880 --> 00:18:59,960 So, unstructured thing is always going to come up 512 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:02,280 with moments like this. 513 00:19:02,320 --> 00:19:03,560 It's OK. 514 00:19:03,600 --> 00:19:06,360 I wanted to build the slide today. 515 00:19:06,400 --> 00:19:08,960 We didn't make it to the end, 516 00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:11,000 but we had a good time trying. 517 00:19:11,040 --> 00:19:13,720 I wanted to build the slide today. 518 00:19:13,760 --> 00:19:15,480 We'd have to keep going. 519 00:19:15,520 --> 00:19:16,600 Oh, yeah. 520 00:19:16,640 --> 00:19:18,080 Do you feel like keeping on working? 521 00:19:18,120 --> 00:19:19,400 Yeah! 522 00:19:19,440 --> 00:19:21,120 You do? 523 00:19:21,160 --> 00:19:22,560 But do I feel like it? 524 00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:27,480 If he doesn't wanna do something, he does not have to. 525 00:19:31,560 --> 00:19:33,560 Magnolia wanted to keep going. 526 00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:34,800 You weren't so sure, Michael. 527 00:19:34,840 --> 00:19:37,120 What happened? Did you finish it that day? 528 00:19:37,160 --> 00:19:38,520 No. 529 00:19:38,560 --> 00:19:39,720 (LAUGHTER) 530 00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:42,880 We said at the beginning that with the swing set 531 00:19:42,920 --> 00:19:44,200 might not get built. 532 00:19:44,240 --> 00:19:46,800 And we...and we understand that you're upset about it, 533 00:19:46,840 --> 00:19:48,880 but we can finish it tomorrow. 534 00:19:48,920 --> 00:19:50,240 And she accepted that. 535 00:19:50,280 --> 00:19:53,440 Can I just say, what if she has an assignment due by a due date 536 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:55,320 and you say, "Oh, it's over. 537 00:19:55,360 --> 00:19:57,200 "Let's just get it done tomorrow." 538 00:19:57,240 --> 00:20:01,120 There is instances in life where she won't get rewarded 539 00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:02,640 if it's not, things aren't done on time. 540 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:03,840 Of course, and if I... 541 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:05,040 I guess. Yeah, of course. 542 00:20:05,080 --> 00:20:07,160 And I think with like a child-led approach 543 00:20:07,200 --> 00:20:08,680 that we...we feel we have, 544 00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:11,840 I wouldn't necessarily push her beyond 545 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:13,400 what I thought was keeping her 546 00:20:13,440 --> 00:20:16,560 in an emotionally and mentally safe space. 547 00:20:16,600 --> 00:20:18,600 'Cause I do think there can be detriment 548 00:20:18,640 --> 00:20:20,080 to pushing your kids too hard. 549 00:20:20,120 --> 00:20:22,440 You just mentioned that pushing your kids 550 00:20:22,480 --> 00:20:24,560 can be detrimental to their mental health. 551 00:20:24,600 --> 00:20:26,840 Is not pushing your kids just as harmful? 552 00:20:26,880 --> 00:20:29,400 If...if you're not trying to push them towards something, 553 00:20:29,440 --> 00:20:31,360 are they just gonna be standing still? 554 00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:33,120 Basically, is...is what I'm trying to ask. 555 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:37,800 I mean, pushing them beyond what I think they're capable of. 556 00:20:37,840 --> 00:20:40,160 With Miller, if he wants to learn something on guitar, 557 00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:42,240 I'm gonna sit down and take the time to encourage him, 558 00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:43,440 show him how to do it. 559 00:20:43,480 --> 00:20:45,240 Keep telling him, "You need to practise 560 00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:47,320 "if you wanna be able to play that song." 561 00:20:47,360 --> 00:20:50,080 Um, I'm not gonna tell him, "Go and learn Mozart tomorrow." 562 00:20:50,120 --> 00:20:51,160 Yeah. 563 00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:53,600 Or, "You're not good at what you do." 564 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:56,160 Helping children to set goals is important 565 00:20:56,200 --> 00:21:00,200 because it teaches them perseverance and responsibility. 566 00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:02,400 Meeting goals that they've set for themselves 567 00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:03,960 can increase self-esteem. 568 00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:05,960 It gives them a sense of achievement 569 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:08,840 and it fosters that can-do resilient attitude. 570 00:21:10,360 --> 00:21:12,920 Panel parent, a quick reminder, everybody. 571 00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:14,200 Pick up those notepads. 572 00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:16,960 Make some notes about what you're seeing happening in the challenges. 573 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:20,240 Remember when you're assessing each challenge, 574 00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:26,000 we're after the parenting style that is creating a close family unit 575 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:30,160 while producing the happiest, healthiest kids. 576 00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:31,520 With the road school parenting, 577 00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:34,000 I...I saw there was a bit of dissension from one of the child, 578 00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:37,280 but the way, uh, Amy dealt with it was great. 579 00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:40,640 I liked the slow parents because it just looked like fun 580 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:42,360 and result didn't really matter. 581 00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:45,400 The joy of doing something together was paramount. 582 00:21:46,880 --> 00:21:48,440 We've got more challenges to come, 583 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:51,160 but first we need to get to know the focus parents better. 584 00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:54,200 Let's learn a little bit more about 585 00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:57,520 Kim and Nick's American style of parenting. 586 00:21:58,880 --> 00:21:59,960 Let's see. 587 00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:02,640 So, you've done schoolwork on the computer. 588 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:05,240 We take an American style approach to parenting. 589 00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:08,160 Hard work is paramount in this family. 590 00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:09,640 Tidy up the bed. 591 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:11,040 Yeah. 592 00:22:11,080 --> 00:22:14,520 There's lots of expectations that go along with that, 593 00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:17,240 but we try to do it all with a lot of support and love 594 00:22:17,280 --> 00:22:21,040 and I think that's really building that self-confidence for her. 595 00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:24,000 It's like really beautiful. 596 00:22:24,040 --> 00:22:26,640 My experience from going to university 597 00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:28,240 for five years in the US, 598 00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:31,920 American children are brought up with all this confidence. 599 00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:33,200 I think in Australia, 600 00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:35,840 a lot of the parenting's a lot more conservative. 601 00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:38,520 OK, let's take a look. What do we have on tomorrow? 602 00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:42,240 Pia has a lot of extracurricular activities that she's involved with. 603 00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:44,320 We have band. Yeah. 604 00:22:44,360 --> 00:22:47,560 She does futsal on the off season of soccer. 605 00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:49,800 Yay! 606 00:22:49,840 --> 00:22:52,760 And then she does rhythmic gymnastics. 607 00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:56,080 She's doing cross country training, dance twice a week. 608 00:22:56,120 --> 00:22:58,000 And you know, I make her go. 609 00:22:58,040 --> 00:22:59,880 We make her go on the weekends on Sunday 610 00:22:59,920 --> 00:23:01,720 for three hours to Chinese school. 611 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:05,880 (SPEAKS CHINESE) 612 00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:11,280 Good job. 613 00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:12,800 Well done. Awesome. 614 00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:15,520 We want to have her feeling prepared and ready 615 00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:18,120 to face the challenges of the world. 616 00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:19,720 Whoo-hoo! Come on. 617 00:23:19,760 --> 00:23:20,840 Come on, girl. 618 00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:22,080 Push, push. 619 00:23:22,120 --> 00:23:24,120 We give her lots of support to help 620 00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:26,600 her feel like she can achieve these things. 621 00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:27,920 Winner! Over you go. 622 00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:29,200 Nice one. 623 00:23:29,240 --> 00:23:32,120 We want to be Pia's own personal cheerleader 624 00:23:32,160 --> 00:23:35,560 so she can do anything she wants in life. 625 00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:38,440 That was really good! 626 00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:39,760 Oh, my gosh. 627 00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:43,440 It's American. 628 00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:45,160 It is not American't. 629 00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:46,840 (LAUGHTER) 630 00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:49,600 Yeah. I...I really resonate with that. 631 00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:50,720 I...I really do. 632 00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:55,000 Like, I mean, wanting to make the best of your opportunities, 633 00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:57,680 um, you know, put it out there for your child. 634 00:23:57,720 --> 00:23:59,520 I think that's great. 635 00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:03,040 I love how she's so invested in extracurricular activities 636 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:04,800 and it doesn't seem like she's... 637 00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:06,560 She's not overwhelmed. Yeah. 638 00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:09,080 Um, something I've always questioned myself as a parent 639 00:24:09,120 --> 00:24:11,000 is like, just because we can push 'em, 640 00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:13,360 should we push them all of the time? 641 00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:15,520 Like, can you push your kids too much? 642 00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:18,880 Of...of course, I think that's possible and, um, I'm not... 643 00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:20,800 I don't think that we do that. 644 00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:24,760 But I'll tell you why we parent the way we do. 645 00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:28,800 I always wish that my parents had pushed me more. 646 00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:31,880 I wished my parents had given me more guidance. 647 00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:33,720 And my parents were teachers. 648 00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:35,560 And so, I feel that is the one thing 649 00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:38,720 I really wanna give to my child is that guidance, 650 00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:40,040 that little push that... 651 00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:42,920 When...when it gets hard, it's like, "No, you don't just give up. 652 00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:44,680 "Keep going." 653 00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:46,760 Did she choose everything that she does? 654 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:47,880 Was that her choice? 655 00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:50,960 She chooses all of her sports, but the one thing I don't let... 656 00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:53,280 She's not allowed to choose on is Chinese. 657 00:24:53,320 --> 00:24:54,440 I was gonna ask the Chinese. 658 00:24:54,480 --> 00:24:56,920 Because, you know, born and raised in Hong Kong, 659 00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:59,920 started Chinese the day she came home from the hospital. 660 00:24:59,960 --> 00:25:03,280 I've kind of said to her, "This is a non-negotiable." 661 00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:05,440 You know, there are some things in life for me 662 00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:06,840 that are non-negotiable. 663 00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:08,360 You're the child. I'm the parent. 664 00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:10,840 And that is non-negotiable for us, Chinese. 665 00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:12,240 She must continue. 666 00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:15,920 I admire Kim and Nick's parenting style. 667 00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:18,880 I think their daughter is absolutely gorgeous 668 00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:21,760 and I think it works for her personality. 669 00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:25,280 I'm not sure it works for every person. 670 00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:28,320 Coming up... 671 00:25:28,360 --> 00:25:30,360 Delivery. Anyone home? 672 00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:32,560 If your children were home alone... 673 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:33,920 Hi, guys. 674 00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:35,080 Place it on the floor. 675 00:25:35,120 --> 00:25:36,880 I got to keep it inside. 676 00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:39,560 ..would they open the door to a stranger? 677 00:25:41,120 --> 00:25:42,560 (GASPS) Oh, no. 678 00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:43,680 Once the door opened.... 679 00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:44,800 That's it. 680 00:25:44,840 --> 00:25:46,400 Look, that's a disaster, isn't it? 681 00:25:56,960 --> 00:26:01,480 We're up to speed on lots of your different parenting styles already. 682 00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:03,840 Let's slow down 683 00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:08,480 and take a look at how Chris and Phillippa do slow parenting. 684 00:26:10,120 --> 00:26:11,360 Get this one dirt. 685 00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:13,920 Some dirt? Where are we gonna find the dirt? 686 00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:15,440 On the ground, obviously. 687 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:18,000 Our parenting style is slow parenting. 688 00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:21,440 What I love about slow parenting is that it gives children time 689 00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:23,080 to find themselves. 690 00:26:23,120 --> 00:26:25,080 Haiya! Whee! 691 00:26:25,120 --> 00:26:27,320 We live in a really busy world. 692 00:26:27,360 --> 00:26:30,120 And as adults, we're often really stressed. 693 00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:33,640 If adults are struggling to deal with stress, 694 00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:36,000 there's no way their little systems can deal with stress. 695 00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:37,680 I'd love some sunscreen, please. 696 00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:38,760 Legs and arms. 697 00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:40,120 Legs and arms? OK. 698 00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:41,800 We're both working at home. 699 00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:44,560 I'd previously worked in corporate setting, 700 00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:47,720 um, but I organised my work life to have four days 701 00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:49,240 and then I have a daddy day 702 00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:51,960 where I look after the kids for the whole day. 703 00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:54,720 Alright, who's gonna see the first spider web, I wonder? 704 00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:57,640 When you slow down, everything gets easier. 705 00:26:57,680 --> 00:26:59,200 The kids are happier. 706 00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:00,520 We're happier. We're happier. 707 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:01,920 There's less stress. 708 00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:04,360 Like, we just found like with Peyton, 709 00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:06,400 he was previously doing gymnastics. 710 00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:08,160 And they want him to do four days a week. 711 00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:11,160 I said, "No, we prioritise kids having time to play." 712 00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:14,920 One, two, three, go. Whoo! 713 00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:17,600 We want the kids to be together and play with each other. 714 00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:19,960 So, if one of them is doing four days a week, then they can't. 715 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:21,000 We actually like our kids, 716 00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:22,480 so, we wanna have more time with them. 717 00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:24,120 Wanna spend time with them. 718 00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:25,640 Come up here. I'll hold you up. 719 00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:28,880 So, we haven't owned a TV for three years I think. 720 00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:30,320 Three years. Yeah. 721 00:27:30,360 --> 00:27:33,320 It allows them to get bored without a TV. 722 00:27:33,360 --> 00:27:36,840 And then that boredom brings out the creativity in them. 723 00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:37,880 More about being out there. 724 00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:39,600 You have to find a stick or a tree or... 725 00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:40,680 Yeah. Yeah. 726 00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:43,080 I think, we'd all sort of move heaven and earth to make sure 727 00:27:43,120 --> 00:27:44,160 that our kids are happy 728 00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,720 and we've set up our lifestyle to support that. 729 00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:51,560 Just wanted to say that we really resonate 730 00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:52,640 as spiritual parents, 731 00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:53,960 uh, in what you do. 732 00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:55,680 And...and definitely I feel that if you... 733 00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:58,040 if you want your children to be in your life in the future, 734 00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:00,440 you have to be in their life right now. 735 00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:02,160 I love the fact that you said we like our kids. 736 00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:03,280 Yeah. 737 00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:05,520 When people go, "Oh, the kids are on school holidays. 738 00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:07,360 "Oh, how am I gonna cope?" 739 00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:09,720 Don't have them if you don't wanna be with them, right? 740 00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:10,760 Yeah. 741 00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:12,240 You love your kids, you wanna be with them. 742 00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:14,600 The fact that you've got no TV really confirms that for me. 743 00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:16,000 (LAUGHS) 744 00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:19,920 The gymnastics, Peyton enjoys gymnastics and loves it. 745 00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:21,960 And they wanted him to do four days. 746 00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:25,000 Did he get a say in the four days? 747 00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:26,560 Did he want to do it or he didn't wanna do it? 748 00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:28,800 No, he didn't wanna do it either. Oh, he didn't wanna do it either. 749 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:31,160 Um, 'cause it was gonna be like four-hour sessions. 750 00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:33,400 So, it was all of a sudden going to like 12 hours a week. 751 00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:34,440 Yeah. 752 00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:36,240 And I'm like, what's the point in that? 753 00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:41,240 Um, do your kids go to school or are they home-schooled? 754 00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:43,040 Um, so at the moment Peyton's at school 755 00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:44,480 and we home-school Briar. 756 00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:47,360 I felt like I was punishing Briar by sending her to school. 757 00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:50,720 It's been, um, phenomenal being able to slow down for her 758 00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:53,560 and do that at home because she's just thriving. 759 00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:56,920 Life can often get hectic and busy. 760 00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:58,200 And think as they get older, 761 00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:01,440 they might not be able to control the speed of life. 762 00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:06,280 And you think that sort of enforcing a slow and unbusy lifestyle 763 00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:09,120 might be setting them up to not be able to calm 764 00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:11,280 in a hectic or chaotic situation? 765 00:29:11,320 --> 00:29:12,840 D...does life have to be hectic? 766 00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:14,200 It doesn't have to be. I know it can be. 767 00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:15,280 Sometimes it's not... 768 00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:16,800 It can be for people and we wanna keep that... 769 00:29:16,840 --> 00:29:18,320 Sorry, sometimes you don't have the choice 770 00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:20,800 of whether that life gets hectic or chaotic. 771 00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:22,680 We focus on our mental health 772 00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:26,920 and we find that slowing down for us helps us to be better parents. 773 00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:31,720 Slow parenting. 774 00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:34,880 I love the slow parenting. 775 00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:37,880 I wanna move in with the slow parents. 776 00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:40,800 I just think it looks like such a beautiful idyllic way 777 00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:44,800 to raise kids who are mentally sound. 778 00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:47,880 Chris and Phillippa in the way they've chosen to slow parent 779 00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:49,320 is working really well for them. 780 00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:52,320 But I do believe it's not entirely realistic. 781 00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:55,600 As the children grow and get older, 782 00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:58,840 I'm not sure how much you can implement their lifestyle 783 00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:03,760 into an adult type situational scenario. 784 00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:05,880 Chris and Phillippa, thank you so much for teaching us 785 00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:07,720 the importance of slowing down. 786 00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:10,160 Now, it is time to get serious. 787 00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:12,440 As parents, the one thing we want our kids 788 00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:17,240 to be above pretty much everything else is safe. 789 00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:19,320 But we can't always be there to protect them. 790 00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:25,120 In the last two years, home delivery has become the norm 791 00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:28,480 and there's nothing more exciting than seeing a parcel arrive 792 00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:30,120 at the doorstep. 793 00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:31,720 But... 794 00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:34,760 do your kids know how to protect themselves? 795 00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:38,440 For this challenge, 796 00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:43,360 we asked our parents to pop out leaving the children home alone 797 00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:45,480 for a short time. 798 00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:49,960 Then we sent in an actor pretending to be a delivery driver. 799 00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:53,760 None of our focused parents have seen this footage before. 800 00:30:53,800 --> 00:30:55,200 What will the kids do? 801 00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:57,120 Oh, no. 802 00:30:57,160 --> 00:30:59,840 We all have times when we are not available 803 00:30:59,880 --> 00:31:01,840 and there's a knock on the door. 804 00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:04,560 Teaching kids how to be safe 805 00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:07,880 and how to think critically when you aren't around 806 00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:09,880 is one of the most important parts of parenting. 807 00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:13,120 Number one, you don't open the door unless it's an emergency. 808 00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:15,880 Number two, never let anyone in. 809 00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:19,640 And number three, make sure your child has access to a phone 810 00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:21,280 so they can call for help. 811 00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:23,800 Dun-dida-dun. 812 00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:26,120 Miller, you got the house to yourself. 813 00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:27,560 You know what I'm gonna do, right? 814 00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:29,120 Play guitar and eat junk food. 815 00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:30,880 (LAUGHTER) 816 00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:34,200 I'm gonna turn the TV up all the way 817 00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:36,600 and then I'm going to put on very loud music 818 00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:38,400 and then plug my guitar in really loud 819 00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:40,360 and play along to the music. 820 00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:41,760 I think Miller's pretty independent 821 00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:43,680 when he is comfortable in a situation 822 00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:45,960 and we like to make sure that he feels comfortable 823 00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:47,760 in his own home. 824 00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:49,960 Come on, Maga. 825 00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:52,880 Let's wish Miller luck on his bachelor night. 826 00:31:56,480 --> 00:32:00,480 We have told Miller that if somebody knocks on the door, 827 00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:02,080 it doesn't matter who they are, 828 00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:04,160 even if they look like they might be important 829 00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:06,720 or they look like they might be someone in authority 830 00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:09,200 that we do not open the door. 831 00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:10,280 (BURPS) 832 00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:11,640 (LAUGHTER) 833 00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:25,880 Hello. 834 00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:34,880 Your delivery. 835 00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:36,680 Ah... 836 00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:37,800 Hello. 837 00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:39,000 Anyone home? 838 00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:44,000 Your delivery. 839 00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:47,120 OK. Alright. 840 00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:48,360 Ah... 841 00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:54,200 I have a delivery for your mum. 842 00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:58,120 Yeah. 843 00:32:58,160 --> 00:32:59,200 Do you mind if I take it in? 844 00:32:59,240 --> 00:33:00,360 Yeah, sure. 845 00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:05,600 Uh, can I take it? 846 00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:06,720 It's really heavy. 847 00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:07,880 Ah... 848 00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:09,520 I'm supposed to deliver it right inside. 849 00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:11,440 No, sorry. 850 00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:13,040 Oh, awesome. 851 00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:20,120 He's probably really confused right now. 852 00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:30,080 Can I ask, Melody, Michael, how you felt 853 00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:32,400 watching Miller undertake that challenge? 854 00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:34,600 Yeah, I was a... I was really proud of Miller 855 00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:37,360 because I think I could actually see him 856 00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:40,160 thinking about what he needed to do in the situation. 857 00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:43,520 He realised his mistake and he realised how to solve it. 858 00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:47,880 And for an eight-year-old, um, that is like massive. 859 00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:49,200 So, I was really proud of that. 860 00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:50,280 Yeah. 861 00:33:50,320 --> 00:33:51,880 And he didn't open the door fully. Yeah. 862 00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:53,000 He was like... 863 00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:54,480 He only opened a little bit. 864 00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:56,560 And that fellow was a fair way away too. 865 00:33:56,600 --> 00:33:57,640 Yeah. 866 00:33:57,680 --> 00:33:58,960 You know, if he had come at him, 867 00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:01,880 I think he easily could have shut the door on him. 868 00:34:01,920 --> 00:34:02,960 Yeah. 869 00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:05,360 For me, like, once the door opens... 870 00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:06,480 That's it. 871 00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:07,880 ..that's the point, you know? 872 00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:08,960 Yup. 873 00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:12,840 And the door got opened, so, we still feel pretty uncomfortable. 874 00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:16,160 Coming up... 875 00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:18,000 This feels yuck. This feels wrong. 876 00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:23,240 One family will shut the door on this challenge. 877 00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:25,880 I got a parcel to deliver for you. 878 00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:28,120 I felt so uncomfortable. 879 00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:30,120 You never open the door to a stranger. 880 00:34:30,160 --> 00:34:32,120 Sometimes we just need to feel the feeling 881 00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:33,480 before we learn the lesson. 882 00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:43,320 We're in the midst of a really confronting challenge. 883 00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:46,520 We're seeing what happens when a child is by themselves 884 00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:50,120 and a delivery driver knocks on the door. 885 00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:53,440 It's important to note that kids were never actually left alone. 886 00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:56,080 There was always a chaperone present. 887 00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:58,880 So far, we've seen the unstructured family. 888 00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:01,680 We're gonna watch Chris and Phillippa's challenge here 889 00:35:01,720 --> 00:35:03,520 and it goes a little bit differently. 890 00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:07,480 (MESSAGE POPS) We got a message. 891 00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:08,560 Oh. 892 00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:11,360 Parents head out for a special parent only mission. 893 00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:14,880 OK, so, will you guys just wait here? 894 00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:15,960 Is that OK? 895 00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:17,040 Yeah. Yeah? 896 00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:19,640 Will you look after the girls, Peyton? 897 00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:21,600 This challenge does not fit 898 00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:24,920 within our realm of our parenting style like at all. 899 00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:27,920 We have always been very much committed to, you know, 900 00:35:27,960 --> 00:35:28,960 here's the attachment. 901 00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:31,040 Like, you let go. (LAUGHS) 902 00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:33,600 But like, because that's when they're ready to leave. 903 00:35:33,640 --> 00:35:35,120 How you feeling, Ace? 904 00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:37,280 Do you wanna come with mummy and daddy or do you wanna wait here 905 00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:39,920 and keep an eye on the kids for me? 906 00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:42,880 I'll keep an eye on them 'cause they don't eat any of that. 907 00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:43,920 Alright. OK. 908 00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:45,000 You watch them for me. (LAUGHS) 909 00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:46,680 Cool. Alright. Alright. I'll be back soon. 910 00:35:46,720 --> 00:35:48,400 See you, guys. See ya. 911 00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:50,080 You literally have the same blood. 912 00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:51,160 Like, when you're pregnant, 913 00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:53,200 they're running through you like they're a part of you. 914 00:35:53,240 --> 00:35:55,800 They're literally your heart, like, walking outside your body. 915 00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:02,280 This challenge was tricky as well because we do...do everything 916 00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:03,480 all as a family. 917 00:36:08,560 --> 00:36:13,360 I was annoyed at myself for leaving initially. 918 00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:14,480 Hey, buddy, we're home. 919 00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:15,600 Hi. 920 00:36:16,720 --> 00:36:19,560 There was no point in me driving off 921 00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:22,920 because I knew the girls were going to need me really quickly. 922 00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:25,600 How did you go, honey? Were you alright? 923 00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:27,080 Yup. What'd you get up to? 924 00:36:27,120 --> 00:36:30,080 I just ran. Fair enough. 925 00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:38,120 So, the challenge was ended early. 926 00:36:38,160 --> 00:36:41,280 Chris and Phillippa, do you wanna share what happened? 927 00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:42,360 When we got the message saying 928 00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:44,000 that we were doing a challenge, 929 00:36:44,040 --> 00:36:45,840 I thought we were stepping outside. 930 00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:49,800 And I said, oh, like I felt so uncomfortable. 931 00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:51,680 This feels yuck. This feels wrong. 932 00:36:51,720 --> 00:36:54,160 It wasn't what we would normally do. 933 00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:56,520 That was the end of the challenge for us at that point. 934 00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:01,640 Let's be clear. 935 00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:03,080 What this is really replicating 936 00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:05,560 is that even if you're not leaving the kids, 937 00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:07,040 you could be on a phone call and you've said, 938 00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:08,800 "I don't wanna be disturbed for the next 15 minutes. 939 00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:10,120 "This phone call matters." 940 00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:12,480 And then there still is that knock on the door 941 00:37:12,520 --> 00:37:15,800 and you're not present to do that parenting duty 942 00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:17,680 of providing that level of supervision. 943 00:37:21,360 --> 00:37:23,200 It would've been nice to see them give it a go 944 00:37:23,240 --> 00:37:25,320 because that's why we're here. 945 00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:29,480 For me, slow parenting isn't creating a lot of resilience 946 00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:30,880 in the kids. 947 00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:36,280 It's not building confidence in them to tackle everyday things. 948 00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:38,120 OK, we have two more to see. 949 00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:44,760 Parents head out for a special parents only mission. 950 00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:46,600 Only mission. Yeah. 951 00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:48,480 Outside, you mean? 952 00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:52,960 In the American approach to parenting, confidence is huge. 953 00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:55,680 So, I think that if Pia were left on her own, 954 00:37:55,720 --> 00:37:56,920 she'd do absolutely fine. 955 00:37:56,960 --> 00:37:58,320 Alright. Looks, like we're out of here. 956 00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:00,600 I'll sit here and drink some lemonade. 957 00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:02,280 Alright. Bye. 958 00:38:02,320 --> 00:38:03,320 Bye. 959 00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:05,280 We have definitely spoken to Pia about strangers. 960 00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:06,640 Many, many times. 961 00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:08,080 Many, many, many times. 962 00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:10,600 I really wouldn't worry too much about her. 963 00:38:10,640 --> 00:38:12,520 I think, she'd make good choices. 964 00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:16,080 (HUMS) 965 00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:04,640 Hey, I've got a delivery for Nick. 966 00:39:06,160 --> 00:39:07,640 Put this right here. We'll pick it up. 967 00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:09,000 Do you mind if I just put it inside? 968 00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:10,800 It's really heavy and it's...it's raining. 969 00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:14,000 Um... 970 00:39:21,640 --> 00:39:24,200 (HUMS) 971 00:39:24,240 --> 00:39:26,200 We have definitely spoken to Pia about strangers. 972 00:39:26,240 --> 00:39:27,400 Many, many times. 973 00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:29,040 Many, many, many times. 974 00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:31,560 I really wouldn't worry too much about her. 975 00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:33,640 I think she'd make good choices. 976 00:39:45,480 --> 00:39:46,840 Hey, I've got a delivery for Nick. 977 00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:49,880 Put this right here. We'll pick it up. 978 00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:51,120 Do you mind if I just put it inside? 979 00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:53,720 It's really heavy and it's...it's raining. 980 00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:55,040 Um, OK. 981 00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:56,240 Yeah. I think it looks expensive. 982 00:40:15,600 --> 00:40:17,160 Are you alone today? 983 00:40:17,200 --> 00:40:19,080 I'm what? Are you alone? 984 00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:23,480 Um, well...well, my parents are outside. 985 00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:25,560 I'm just, um, just hanging out, 986 00:40:25,600 --> 00:40:27,720 keeping the house on guard, you know. 987 00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:30,760 Do you mind if I just have a glass of water? 988 00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:32,880 I'm really thirsty. 989 00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:34,240 Um... Just a bit of water. 990 00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:41,720 It's been a long day and I've forgotten my water bottle. 991 00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:43,080 Maybe... 992 00:40:43,120 --> 00:40:44,440 Um, sorry. 993 00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:46,400 Um...um, you can't stay long. 994 00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:47,480 I'm just... 995 00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:48,760 I can't have a quick glass of water? 996 00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:50,320 No, thanks. No. OK. 997 00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:51,480 I'm gonna be going then. 998 00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:53,000 OK. Oh, thank you. 999 00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:54,640 Oh, you're welcome. Enjoy the rest of your day. 1000 00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:55,840 OK, you too. 1001 00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:01,080 Oh, my god. 1002 00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:02,840 Is that like... Oh, my god. 1003 00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:05,640 Oh, my god. 1004 00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:14,760 Look, that's a disaster, isn't it? 1005 00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:16,640 Yeah. Total disaster. Yeah, absolute disaster. 1006 00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:18,320 And I know that feeling. 1007 00:41:18,360 --> 00:41:19,480 Her heart would've been pounding 1008 00:41:19,520 --> 00:41:20,800 when she'd realised that that door... 1009 00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:21,840 Yeah. 1010 00:41:21,880 --> 00:41:23,440 And sometimes, we just need to feel the feeling 1011 00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:25,080 before we learn the lesson. 1012 00:41:25,120 --> 00:41:26,920 But she didn't shut the door behind her. 1013 00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:28,880 She kept... She kept it back to the wall. 1014 00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:31,880 The door was open, but she was still being very polite. 1015 00:41:31,920 --> 00:41:32,960 Yeah. 1016 00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:34,040 I know that... 1017 00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:35,800 Thank God, that was in a safe environment again. 1018 00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:37,880 Yeah. In a real-life situation, you're gone already. 1019 00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:39,440 Yeah. That guy has snatched you. 1020 00:41:39,480 --> 00:41:41,200 You know, whatever it is. 1021 00:41:41,240 --> 00:41:42,520 She knew she'd done the wrong thing... 1022 00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:43,600 When he... 1023 00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:45,880 ..when he asked... When he asked for a glass of water. 1024 00:41:45,920 --> 00:41:47,360 Yeah. 1025 00:41:47,400 --> 00:41:48,720 Have you had the conversation with her 1026 00:41:48,760 --> 00:41:50,080 what to do if someone comes to her door? 1027 00:41:50,120 --> 00:41:51,280 20 or 30 times. Yes. 1028 00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:52,360 But what do you tell her to do? 1029 00:41:52,400 --> 00:41:54,120 You never open the door to a stranger. 1030 00:41:54,160 --> 00:41:55,960 We've had this discussion with her so many times. 1031 00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:57,800 How do you get a people pleaser, a person who... 1032 00:41:57,840 --> 00:41:58,840 Like, she's... 1033 00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:00,680 How do you feel about saying that about your daughter? 1034 00:42:00,720 --> 00:42:01,920 What? She's a people pleaser. 1035 00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:04,160 She naturally is that way. 1036 00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:07,480 Honestly, that frightens me to death, 1037 00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:08,840 but I don't know how to change it. 1038 00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:11,120 Does anyone have any advice? 1039 00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:15,560 The hardest thing is for our kids to say no. 1040 00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:16,600 They just wanna be helpful. 1041 00:42:16,640 --> 00:42:17,640 They wanna open the door. 1042 00:42:17,680 --> 00:42:18,840 They can see that this poor guy's 1043 00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:21,160 struggling with this great big package. 1044 00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:25,240 In terms of people pleasing, there's a personality dimension 1045 00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:26,840 known as agreeableness. 1046 00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:30,560 And it is true that some people are far more agreeable than others. 1047 00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:34,000 But what's really important is that we are teaching our kids 1048 00:42:34,040 --> 00:42:35,600 how to say no. 1049 00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:38,960 Because I feel in my gut what's right and wrong 1050 00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:41,200 and I'm gonna go with what I believe first. 1051 00:42:41,240 --> 00:42:42,760 It changes the game. 1052 00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:48,200 What's important is that we teach our kids assertiveness 1053 00:42:48,240 --> 00:42:50,640 and how to check in on themselves. 1054 00:42:50,680 --> 00:42:54,440 By relying on their own validation rather than others, 1055 00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:57,520 our children can learn how to say no and how to mean it. 1056 00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:03,160 OK. We have one more family that we need to have a look at. 1057 00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:05,640 Amy and John, our road school parents. 1058 00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:08,640 Alright, boys. 1059 00:43:11,920 --> 00:43:13,000 You guys hang in for a bit. 1060 00:43:13,040 --> 00:43:14,240 You guys hang here around the van. 1061 00:43:14,280 --> 00:43:15,880 Yeah. Look after the van for us. 1062 00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:17,400 Skip, you're in charge. 1063 00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:18,680 Yay! 1064 00:43:18,720 --> 00:43:20,280 Stay out of the lollies. No. 1065 00:43:20,320 --> 00:43:22,280 (LAUGHS) 1066 00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:25,800 As road school parents, we live in different places all the time 1067 00:43:25,840 --> 00:43:27,720 and there's considerations we need to make 1068 00:43:27,760 --> 00:43:31,440 when we are in environments that we don't know. 1069 00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:33,000 We'll be back soon. 1070 00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:36,680 So, we do talk about personal safety with the kids, where we are. 1071 00:43:36,720 --> 00:43:38,640 Stranger danger. Yeah, stranger danger. 1072 00:43:38,680 --> 00:43:40,960 So, 100% they'd be able to pick something at a place 1073 00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:42,160 at the caravan park. 1074 00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:09,560 Hi, guys. 1075 00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:11,720 Hi. Hi. How are you? 1076 00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:13,160 Good. 1077 00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:17,440 Uh, so, I got a parcel to deliver for you. 1078 00:44:17,480 --> 00:44:19,920 Yeah. Uh, it's a bit fragile. 1079 00:44:19,960 --> 00:44:23,440 Uh, would you be kind enough to let me in and place it somewhere? 1080 00:44:25,040 --> 00:44:29,200 I just got to place this inside and that...that should be that. 1081 00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:35,280 Uh, no, we'll do it. 1082 00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:38,160 Oh, I don't think you can do this. 1083 00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:41,120 My boss finds out that I actually made you do this, 1084 00:44:41,160 --> 00:44:42,760 I'll get fired on the spot. 1085 00:44:44,120 --> 00:44:47,560 Well, your boss would be happy if you place it on the floor. 1086 00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:48,760 Hey! 1087 00:44:50,040 --> 00:44:53,920 I got to keep it inside and I got to keep it somewhere safe. 1088 00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:56,320 I'll ring that and see what packages is it in. 1089 00:44:56,360 --> 00:44:58,320 Really? Good boy. 1090 00:44:58,360 --> 00:44:59,680 That's OK. I get it. 1091 00:44:59,720 --> 00:45:00,920 See you, mate. See you. 1092 00:45:02,080 --> 00:45:04,520 Can't really fit much in that Suzuki Baleno 1093 00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:06,360 if you're a delivery driver. 1094 00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:07,400 Exactly. 1095 00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:08,920 (LAUGHTER) 1096 00:45:10,120 --> 00:45:11,960 Did he understand no? 1097 00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:14,360 He really didn't wanna get far for his shelf, did he? 1098 00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:19,000 That was brilliant. 1099 00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:20,400 Even your little one, right, 1100 00:45:20,440 --> 00:45:23,200 when he pulled up you could see his little spidey sensors going off. 1101 00:45:23,240 --> 00:45:25,000 He was just ready to...ready to go. 1102 00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:26,360 And Gus is just savvy. 1103 00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:28,280 Yeah. He's actually savvy and savage. 1104 00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:29,800 Yeah. 1105 00:45:29,840 --> 00:45:31,600 I love that you've made them aware. 1106 00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:33,360 But because they are in a surrounding 1107 00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:36,240 that's different about how to be, um, 1108 00:45:36,280 --> 00:45:38,800 aware in that specific situation. 1109 00:45:38,840 --> 00:45:40,760 And even the way he was like, you can't fit 1110 00:45:40,800 --> 00:45:42,240 mu...much in that car, mate. 1111 00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:43,360 They're very aware that's a... 1112 00:45:43,400 --> 00:45:44,840 They're so aware. Yeah. 1113 00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:46,760 I think that's a testament to your parenting style. 1114 00:45:46,800 --> 00:45:48,760 As in every activity is a way to learn. 1115 00:45:48,800 --> 00:45:49,840 Yeah. 1116 00:45:49,880 --> 00:45:51,640 And...and that's exactly... You can see how that... 1117 00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:52,720 that played out. 1118 00:45:52,760 --> 00:45:54,360 Yeah. 1119 00:45:54,400 --> 00:45:59,240 Talking to your kids about what safe adults do is so important. 1120 00:45:59,280 --> 00:46:02,200 A safe adult is never gonna ask to come inside 1121 00:46:02,240 --> 00:46:03,840 when parents aren't around. 1122 00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:08,800 And a safe adult will respect a child saying no. 1123 00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:11,720 Coming up, what do your kids say about you... 1124 00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:13,080 How old is your mum? 1125 00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:14,600 20. 20? 1126 00:46:14,640 --> 00:46:16,000 ..when you're not around? 1127 00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:17,960 We describe her as the praying mantis. 1128 00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:19,000 (LAUGHS) 1129 00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:21,840 Yeah. When she's really angry. 1130 00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:24,720 Is that reflective? 1131 00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:27,360 I'm one to raise my voice 100%. 1132 00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:30,160 And who'll be voted best of the night? 1133 00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:45,840 Our next challenge is fun yet very revealing. 1134 00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:48,640 One thing we can always rely on with our kids 1135 00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:51,960 is that they never fail to embarrass us. 1136 00:46:53,200 --> 00:46:56,960 In this challenge, we really wanted to draw a picture 1137 00:46:57,000 --> 00:46:59,760 of how your kids really see you. 1138 00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:02,200 So, we hired a cartoonist to talk to your kids 1139 00:47:02,240 --> 00:47:06,480 and find out exactly what they think of you. 1140 00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:07,600 That's right. 1141 00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:10,120 It's not really about the picture. 1142 00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:12,760 When children describe their parents, 1143 00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:15,640 we get a fantastic insight into what they really think, 1144 00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:18,560 but we also get a sense of their confidence and sociability. 1145 00:47:18,600 --> 00:47:20,520 How well can they express themselves? 1146 00:47:20,560 --> 00:47:22,400 This will be revealing. 1147 00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:30,000 Hi, Maggie. Hello. 1148 00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:32,040 Hi, Miller. How do you know our names? 1149 00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:34,000 (LAUGHTER) 1150 00:47:34,040 --> 00:47:37,080 I'm gonna draw a cartoon of your parents for you. 1151 00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:38,160 OK. 1152 00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:39,560 Does that sound like fun? Yeah. 1153 00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:41,200 So, we're gonna start with your mum. 1154 00:47:41,240 --> 00:47:43,560 Does your mum like smiling a lot? 1155 00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:45,800 I don't think I see her not smiling. 1156 00:47:45,840 --> 00:47:47,320 Aw! How old is your mum? 1157 00:47:48,760 --> 00:47:49,880 20. 20? 1158 00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:52,000 (LAUGHTER) 1159 00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:53,880 Tell us about mum. 1160 00:47:53,920 --> 00:47:55,000 Long hair. 1161 00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:56,480 Gotta be more to it than that. 1162 00:47:56,520 --> 00:47:58,760 A kind of happy face. 1163 00:47:58,800 --> 00:48:00,520 And wrinkles around the eyes. 1164 00:48:00,560 --> 00:48:02,680 (LAUGHTER) 1165 00:48:02,720 --> 00:48:05,560 She has blonde hair. 1166 00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:08,080 Not as blonde as my hair colour. 1167 00:48:09,160 --> 00:48:11,280 She has curly hair. 1168 00:48:11,320 --> 00:48:12,720 She has curly hair. Yeah. OK. 1169 00:48:12,760 --> 00:48:15,320 What's mum's favourite thing to eat? 1170 00:48:15,360 --> 00:48:16,640 Red. 1171 00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:19,040 Red? Random. 1172 00:48:19,080 --> 00:48:21,520 We describe her as the praying mantis. 1173 00:48:21,560 --> 00:48:23,400 (LAUGHTER) 1174 00:48:23,440 --> 00:48:25,600 The praying mantis. Where's that come from? 1175 00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:27,200 Long legs, long arms. 1176 00:48:27,240 --> 00:48:28,560 The long legs, the long arms. 1177 00:48:28,600 --> 00:48:29,880 Should we do my dad now? 1178 00:48:29,920 --> 00:48:31,880 I think so. 1179 00:48:31,920 --> 00:48:33,640 Uh, I don't wanna do dad. 1180 00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:35,440 (LAUGHTER) 1181 00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:37,840 How old is he? 1182 00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:39,120 40. 40. 1183 00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:41,040 Does he look 40? Yeah. 1184 00:48:41,080 --> 00:48:42,760 (LAUGHTER) 1185 00:48:42,800 --> 00:48:44,240 Who does he back for in the footy? 1186 00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:45,880 Um, he backs for Collingwood. 1187 00:48:45,920 --> 00:48:46,960 Backs for Collingwood? 1188 00:48:47,000 --> 00:48:48,560 The mighty Pies. 1189 00:48:48,600 --> 00:48:49,760 Yeah. OK. 1190 00:48:49,800 --> 00:48:51,640 Like, what does... what does dad like doing? 1191 00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:56,560 Tell me what your favourite things are about dad. 1192 00:48:57,720 --> 00:48:59,480 He calming down mum. 1193 00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:01,160 Calms mum down. 1194 00:49:01,200 --> 00:49:04,000 Yeah. When she's really angry. 1195 00:49:04,040 --> 00:49:05,720 (LAUGHTER) 1196 00:49:05,760 --> 00:49:07,480 Yeah? Comes inside. 1197 00:49:07,520 --> 00:49:09,200 Mum, calm down. 1198 00:49:09,240 --> 00:49:10,440 Yeah. 1199 00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:11,760 Calm down. 1200 00:49:11,800 --> 00:49:13,600 Can he run as fast as you? 1201 00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:18,760 Um, no, because, um, he's got five major back surgeries 1202 00:49:18,800 --> 00:49:21,080 and he injured his back by, uh, playing tennis. 1203 00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:22,760 He was like a famous tennis star. 1204 00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:24,200 Your dad's been through a lot. 1205 00:49:24,240 --> 00:49:25,840 It sounds like, uh... Yeah. 1206 00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:27,880 He's still like a really good dad. 1207 00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:29,400 Yeah. Oh, of course. Yeah. 1208 00:49:30,440 --> 00:49:35,360 Tell me, what's your favourite thing about your parents 1209 00:49:35,400 --> 00:49:36,840 and your family? 1210 00:49:36,880 --> 00:49:39,520 And they give us cuddles. 1211 00:49:39,560 --> 00:49:42,440 Is there anything else that you need to tell me about mum and dad? 1212 00:49:42,480 --> 00:49:44,040 Dad farts a lot. 1213 00:49:44,080 --> 00:49:45,400 (LAUGHTER) 1214 00:49:47,480 --> 00:49:49,960 So, very important question, Pia. Yes. 1215 00:49:50,000 --> 00:49:51,600 Do you think your mum and dad love you? 1216 00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:52,920 Yes, definitely. 1217 00:49:52,960 --> 00:49:54,240 How do they show that, Pia? 1218 00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:57,960 They show that they love me by always praising me. 1219 00:49:58,000 --> 00:49:59,400 They always help me. 1220 00:49:59,440 --> 00:50:01,400 They're always like by my side. 1221 00:50:01,440 --> 00:50:02,960 Aw! 1222 00:50:03,000 --> 00:50:04,120 Do you love them? 1223 00:50:04,160 --> 00:50:05,560 Yes, I love them too. 1224 00:50:05,600 --> 00:50:07,320 Yes. 1225 00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:09,480 (APPLAUSE) 1226 00:50:12,440 --> 00:50:14,240 How is it hearing that, Nick? 1227 00:50:14,280 --> 00:50:15,960 That was beautiful. 1228 00:50:16,000 --> 00:50:17,400 Put a tear in my eye. 1229 00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:19,120 Um, my back injury, 1230 00:50:19,160 --> 00:50:22,040 it's been tough for both of us really 1231 00:50:22,080 --> 00:50:25,040 because I haven't been able to participate as much. 1232 00:50:25,080 --> 00:50:27,640 We have been through a lot. 1233 00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:32,160 Eight years of a lot of ups and downs and medications 1234 00:50:32,200 --> 00:50:34,360 and being very unwell. 1235 00:50:34,400 --> 00:50:37,080 And yeah, it's been very hard. 1236 00:50:37,120 --> 00:50:41,600 But we have instilled in her that you can get through anything 1237 00:50:41,640 --> 00:50:44,400 by going through all of this as a family. 1238 00:50:44,440 --> 00:50:45,440 The way she said, 1239 00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:46,880 "Oh, definitely I know they love me." 1240 00:50:46,920 --> 00:50:48,800 I mean, that's just all we wanna hear, isn't it? 1241 00:50:50,720 --> 00:50:52,560 Melody, you are 20? 1242 00:50:52,600 --> 00:50:53,760 (LAUGHTER) 1243 00:50:53,800 --> 00:50:54,880 Love it. 1244 00:50:56,640 --> 00:50:58,080 Clearly... I mean, clearly guys. 1245 00:50:58,120 --> 00:50:59,800 (LAUGHTER) 1246 00:50:59,840 --> 00:51:03,120 You...your unstructured parenting style is very bouncy 1247 00:51:03,160 --> 00:51:06,720 and energetic and just the two children sitting there 1248 00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:09,200 having that conversation with the cartoonist 1249 00:51:09,240 --> 00:51:10,480 was bouncy and energetic 1250 00:51:10,520 --> 00:51:12,280 and I just thought that was really free. 1251 00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:13,920 Yeah. 1252 00:51:13,960 --> 00:51:16,280 So, John, if Amy is a praying mantis, 1253 00:51:16,320 --> 00:51:17,680 you're lucky to still have your head. 1254 00:51:17,720 --> 00:51:19,440 I know (LAUGHTER) 1255 00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:21,920 There's been times. Don't worry. 1256 00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:23,760 (LAUGHTER) 1257 00:51:23,800 --> 00:51:27,280 I just wanna ask, how do you feel about... 1258 00:51:27,320 --> 00:51:28,760 Was it Skipper ask... 1259 00:51:28,800 --> 00:51:32,400 saying about that you could get really angry sometimes. 1260 00:51:32,440 --> 00:51:35,800 It does... Is that reflective or is that exaggeration or... 1261 00:51:35,840 --> 00:51:39,280 No, I...I can get to a point where I get angry 1262 00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:41,240 and it's usually around their safety. 1263 00:51:41,280 --> 00:51:43,120 I think because they're always out and about. 1264 00:51:43,160 --> 00:51:47,520 We're around water a lot, so, I think it's more when... 1265 00:51:47,560 --> 00:51:49,040 'Cause I raise my voice to them. 1266 00:51:49,080 --> 00:51:50,560 Like, "Get back from that edge." 1267 00:51:50,600 --> 00:51:52,840 You know, like I...I suppose that's probably where it comes from. 1268 00:51:52,880 --> 00:51:53,880 Yeah, yeah. 1269 00:51:53,920 --> 00:51:56,720 I'm definitely one to raise my voice 100%. 1270 00:51:58,560 --> 00:52:00,080 OK. 1271 00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:03,320 Are you ready to see how those cartoons turned out? 1272 00:52:03,360 --> 00:52:04,800 Yes. Yeah. 1273 00:52:04,840 --> 00:52:06,720 Justin, let's go get them. 1274 00:52:06,760 --> 00:52:08,080 OK, let's do it. I'm excited. 1275 00:52:09,200 --> 00:52:10,800 Oh, they actually got them. 1276 00:52:10,840 --> 00:52:12,680 Can't wait for this. 1277 00:52:12,720 --> 00:52:14,160 I know it. Yes. 1278 00:52:15,240 --> 00:52:16,560 (LAUGHTER) 1279 00:52:19,200 --> 00:52:20,400 Hey! 1280 00:52:22,720 --> 00:52:24,080 Hey! 1281 00:52:25,600 --> 00:52:26,720 Hey, buddy. 1282 00:52:26,760 --> 00:52:28,880 (LAUGHTER) Oh, we missed you. 1283 00:52:31,040 --> 00:52:32,440 When the kids ran in, 1284 00:52:32,480 --> 00:52:35,120 I was reminded that these beautiful happy kids 1285 00:52:35,160 --> 00:52:38,320 are the reason we are all having this big discussion. 1286 00:52:38,360 --> 00:52:40,440 There are no bad parents here. 1287 00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:42,000 Everyone just does it differently. 1288 00:52:42,040 --> 00:52:43,640 They all want the same outcome. 1289 00:52:46,400 --> 00:52:47,920 Kim, Nick and Pia. 1290 00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:51,080 Pia, why don't you show us the drawing? 1291 00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:53,800 So, this is my mum and dad. 1292 00:52:53,840 --> 00:52:55,360 (LAUGHTER) 1293 00:52:56,920 --> 00:52:58,440 My dad loves Collingwood, 1294 00:52:58,480 --> 00:53:02,360 so, I knew I just had to talk about Collingwood 1295 00:53:02,400 --> 00:53:05,200 all the way up with...with the drawer. 1296 00:53:05,240 --> 00:53:09,080 Miller and Magnolia, do you wanna show us your cartoon? 1297 00:53:09,120 --> 00:53:10,560 (GASPS) 1298 00:53:12,120 --> 00:53:13,320 Oh, yeah. 1299 00:53:13,360 --> 00:53:14,400 (LAUGHS) 1300 00:53:14,440 --> 00:53:16,080 Miller, is there anything you wanna say about it? 1301 00:53:16,120 --> 00:53:19,680 Ah, maybe that the beard is a bit too bushy. 1302 00:53:19,720 --> 00:53:21,240 Dad's beard a tiny bit too bushy? 1303 00:53:21,280 --> 00:53:23,280 On the drawing. Not in real life. 1304 00:53:23,320 --> 00:53:24,600 Jimmy, Skipper. 1305 00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:27,040 (LAUGHTER) 1306 00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:29,120 (APPLAUSE) Nice work. 1307 00:53:30,360 --> 00:53:31,560 Nice work. 1308 00:53:33,120 --> 00:53:34,160 I love that. 1309 00:53:34,200 --> 00:53:36,600 Who said mummy was a praying mantis? 1310 00:53:36,640 --> 00:53:38,760 Me. She calls herself that. 1311 00:53:38,800 --> 00:53:40,440 No, she calls herself that. 1312 00:53:41,680 --> 00:53:44,360 OK, Peyton, Avery and Briar, 1313 00:53:44,400 --> 00:53:48,200 do you wanna show us the cartoon of your mummy and daddy? 1314 00:53:48,240 --> 00:53:50,080 Ooh. Oh, yeah. 1315 00:53:50,120 --> 00:53:51,920 They like camping. Uh-huh. 1316 00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:54,000 So, that's why there's a tent 1317 00:53:54,040 --> 00:53:56,640 and they both like eating honey toast. 1318 00:53:56,680 --> 00:53:58,520 Does dad always wear flamingo jammies? 1319 00:53:58,560 --> 00:53:59,560 Yeah. Yeah. 1320 00:53:59,600 --> 00:54:00,640 (LAUGHTER) 1321 00:54:00,680 --> 00:54:01,680 Beautiful. 1322 00:54:01,720 --> 00:54:03,640 Well done, guys. I reckon you've nailed it. 1323 00:54:03,680 --> 00:54:06,880 You know exactly what your mum and dad are about. 1324 00:54:06,920 --> 00:54:08,240 (LAUGHTER) 1325 00:54:08,280 --> 00:54:11,040 It was wonderful to see the kids, how the kids describe the parents. 1326 00:54:11,080 --> 00:54:14,000 Um, it's a vindication from the parents' point of view 1327 00:54:14,040 --> 00:54:15,720 that we are being noticed and loved. 1328 00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:21,200 Next in tonight's final challenge. 1329 00:54:21,240 --> 00:54:23,040 Today, we're doing a taste testing. 1330 00:54:23,080 --> 00:54:26,200 How to get your kids to eat their veggies? 1331 00:54:26,240 --> 00:54:29,880 No, no, not at the back. 1332 00:54:29,920 --> 00:54:31,920 Skip? Hey. 1333 00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:33,080 Ugh. 1334 00:54:38,880 --> 00:54:41,120 (UPBEAT MUSIC) 1335 00:54:44,480 --> 00:54:47,760 There are foods that your kids absolutely love 1336 00:54:47,800 --> 00:54:51,280 and this challenge is not about them. 1337 00:54:51,320 --> 00:54:56,240 We picked the ten most gross foods for kids and put 'em on a plate. 1338 00:54:57,720 --> 00:55:00,200 Welcome to food bingo. 1339 00:55:01,520 --> 00:55:05,640 Good nutrition equals good mental and physical health, 1340 00:55:05,680 --> 00:55:08,320 but most Aussie kids are not getting 1341 00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:11,560 the recommended seven daily serves of fruit and veggies. 1342 00:55:11,600 --> 00:55:15,360 We wanna see how our parents tempt their potentially picky eaters. 1343 00:55:30,080 --> 00:55:31,080 For this challenge, 1344 00:55:31,120 --> 00:55:34,080 we want to see how our parents encourage their children 1345 00:55:34,120 --> 00:55:36,920 to try new and healthy foods. 1346 00:55:36,960 --> 00:55:38,760 How much pressure do they apply? 1347 00:55:38,800 --> 00:55:41,240 Do they allow their children to pick and choose? 1348 00:55:41,280 --> 00:55:43,520 And is bribery an option? 1349 00:55:43,560 --> 00:55:44,560 Hi. 1350 00:55:44,600 --> 00:55:45,960 Welcome. How are you? 1351 00:55:46,000 --> 00:55:47,120 Good. How you doing? Good. 1352 00:55:47,160 --> 00:55:48,760 Today, we're doing a taste testing. 1353 00:55:48,800 --> 00:55:49,840 Cool. 1354 00:55:49,880 --> 00:55:53,200 And here we have ten lovely foods for you to try. 1355 00:55:53,240 --> 00:55:54,440 Um, so as slow parents, 1356 00:55:54,480 --> 00:55:56,680 this challenge was pretty easy and straightforward. 1357 00:55:56,720 --> 00:55:58,840 I work in health and fitness. 1358 00:55:58,880 --> 00:56:02,040 We talk about what makes their tummies happy. 1359 00:56:02,080 --> 00:56:04,000 What, um, what doesn't? 1360 00:56:04,040 --> 00:56:05,440 Alright, we're going for mushrooms. 1361 00:56:05,480 --> 00:56:07,440 Try mushroom. Can I try one? 1362 00:56:07,480 --> 00:56:08,800 Yeah. 1363 00:56:08,840 --> 00:56:10,040 Oh, yum. 1364 00:56:10,080 --> 00:56:13,360 This just looked like our kids' regular lunchbox to be honest. 1365 00:56:13,400 --> 00:56:14,440 To be... 1366 00:56:14,480 --> 00:56:15,800 We are those parents who pack them 1367 00:56:15,840 --> 00:56:18,240 with, uh, all the fruits and vegetables at school. 1368 00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:20,040 I totally tricked you guys when you were babies 1369 00:56:20,080 --> 00:56:21,600 that, uh, capsicum was always... 1370 00:56:22,960 --> 00:56:24,200 And you've like them ever since. 1371 00:56:24,240 --> 00:56:25,480 (LAUGHS) (SPEAKS INDISTINCTLY) 1372 00:56:25,520 --> 00:56:27,120 The reason we chose to eat with them 1373 00:56:27,160 --> 00:56:30,120 is because I guess I was worried if someone would react and go, 1374 00:56:30,160 --> 00:56:31,760 "Ugh," like that was gross. 1375 00:56:31,800 --> 00:56:33,520 Then like they see that straight away 1376 00:56:33,560 --> 00:56:34,800 and they will make assumptions 1377 00:56:34,840 --> 00:56:37,000 off that based off someone else's experience. 1378 00:56:37,040 --> 00:56:38,200 Do you want some salmon? 1379 00:56:38,240 --> 00:56:39,560 Yum. Some more? 1380 00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:40,640 Yum. 1381 00:56:41,720 --> 00:56:43,560 I feel like the kids might have been a bit disappointed. 1382 00:56:43,600 --> 00:56:45,800 They're like, "Oh, we're just..." 1383 00:56:45,840 --> 00:56:47,440 I thought this was gonna be something new. 1384 00:56:47,480 --> 00:56:49,520 (LAUGHS) (APPLAUSE) 1385 00:56:54,040 --> 00:56:56,160 Oh. Oh, wow, Pia. 1386 00:56:56,200 --> 00:56:57,240 Oh, this looks good. 1387 00:56:57,280 --> 00:56:58,360 I'm gonna try the smoked salmon. 1388 00:56:58,400 --> 00:56:59,400 Oh, OK. 1389 00:56:59,440 --> 00:57:01,040 Yeah, you're gonna try the smoked salmon first? 1390 00:57:01,080 --> 00:57:02,240 Try that. You never had it, right? 1391 00:57:02,280 --> 00:57:03,960 So, in our American parenting style, 1392 00:57:04,000 --> 00:57:06,240 our expectations around trying new foods 1393 00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:09,720 is she should at least have a tiny little bite. 1394 00:57:09,760 --> 00:57:11,800 Oh, the whole...the whole thing. 1395 00:57:11,840 --> 00:57:13,120 It tastes good. Good? 1396 00:57:14,360 --> 00:57:16,200 I'm just not gonna try the mushroom. 1397 00:57:16,240 --> 00:57:17,440 Skip the mushrooms. 1398 00:57:17,480 --> 00:57:19,800 I think, we should renegotiate that. 1399 00:57:19,840 --> 00:57:22,400 In our household, it's like you can't just say you don't like it 1400 00:57:22,440 --> 00:57:23,480 if you've never tasted it. 1401 00:57:23,520 --> 00:57:24,560 You've gotta try it. 1402 00:57:24,600 --> 00:57:25,640 I can't eat the whole thing. 1403 00:57:25,680 --> 00:57:28,680 You don't know that because you haven't tried it yet. 1404 00:57:28,720 --> 00:57:31,840 It's important for us putting Pia out of her comfort zone, 1405 00:57:31,880 --> 00:57:33,600 challenging her. 1406 00:57:33,640 --> 00:57:34,720 Let's take a big bite. 1407 00:57:34,760 --> 00:57:36,520 Take the whole head off. 1408 00:57:36,560 --> 00:57:37,960 Yeah, there you go. And then you're done. 1409 00:57:39,480 --> 00:57:41,400 Good job, Pia. 1410 00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:43,040 You did a great job! 1411 00:57:43,080 --> 00:57:44,880 Awesome! Good job, Pia. 1412 00:57:44,920 --> 00:57:46,280 Well done. Good job. 1413 00:57:48,360 --> 00:57:50,920 Love the fact that Pia went straight in with the salmon. 1414 00:57:50,960 --> 00:57:53,120 Yeah. What is that? She never... 1415 00:57:53,160 --> 00:57:54,760 I mean, that was the one that we all thought 1416 00:57:54,800 --> 00:57:55,840 that people would avoid. 1417 00:57:55,880 --> 00:57:57,040 I know. Same. Or to leave it to last. 1418 00:57:57,080 --> 00:57:58,080 And she's... And she's... 1419 00:57:58,120 --> 00:57:59,160 I don't know. 1420 00:57:59,200 --> 00:58:00,640 Barely even seen that before in her life. 1421 00:58:00,680 --> 00:58:03,200 Well, you might be up for an expensive, uh, brunch. 1422 00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:04,320 (LAUGHTER) 1423 00:58:04,360 --> 00:58:05,640 Pia is a goer. 1424 00:58:05,680 --> 00:58:07,640 ALL: Yeah. She's just straight at it. 1425 00:58:07,680 --> 00:58:10,880 The question for me is, was it a fear of letting you down 1426 00:58:10,920 --> 00:58:13,720 or was it the competitiveness that that made her eat that? 1427 00:58:13,760 --> 00:58:16,520 Oh, I think it's partly a fear of letting us down. 1428 00:58:16,560 --> 00:58:17,720 Definitely. 1429 00:58:17,760 --> 00:58:22,640 She definitely looks to us to see our reaction. 1430 00:58:22,680 --> 00:58:27,360 We've had many conversations around it and I always tell her I love her. 1431 00:58:27,400 --> 00:58:28,480 We love her. 1432 00:58:28,520 --> 00:58:32,280 No matter if she succeeds or fails, it really doesn't matter. 1433 00:58:32,320 --> 00:58:34,440 The most important part is putting in your best effort. 1434 00:58:35,880 --> 00:58:39,480 Philippa, I loved that your children didn't look fazed by it... 1435 00:58:39,520 --> 00:58:40,520 No. ..at all. 1436 00:58:40,560 --> 00:58:42,200 They just went in there and done it. 1437 00:58:42,240 --> 00:58:44,160 Yeah, we feel like that's really typical 1438 00:58:44,200 --> 00:58:45,880 of what their lunchboxes we do. 1439 00:58:45,920 --> 00:58:46,920 Yeah. 1440 00:58:46,960 --> 00:58:49,640 Um, live a pretty healthy, um, lifestyle. 1441 00:58:49,680 --> 00:58:51,920 Leading by example was amazing. 1442 00:58:51,960 --> 00:58:53,600 That's just the number one rule I feel. 1443 00:58:53,640 --> 00:58:54,760 And I think you nailed that. 1444 00:58:56,240 --> 00:58:59,640 Alright, let's have a look at another food bingo. 1445 00:59:02,920 --> 00:59:04,320 Where are we going? Whoa! 1446 00:59:04,360 --> 00:59:05,400 Being on the road, 1447 00:59:05,440 --> 00:59:08,520 I feel like our boys have a more adventurous taste in food 1448 00:59:08,560 --> 00:59:09,760 than maybe some other kids 1449 00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:12,760 because they are exposed to a lot more. 1450 00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:16,000 We get lots of different types of fish, calamari, crab 1451 00:59:16,040 --> 00:59:19,240 and then we meet people that teach us different recipes... 1452 00:59:19,280 --> 00:59:20,320 Recipes. 1453 00:59:20,360 --> 00:59:21,840 ..to cook with that or different batters. 1454 00:59:21,880 --> 00:59:24,680 The expectation is that the kids have a go. 1455 00:59:24,720 --> 00:59:27,520 No, no, no to that. 1456 00:59:27,560 --> 00:59:29,240 (LAUGHTER) 1457 00:59:30,360 --> 00:59:31,920 Hello, there. 1458 00:59:31,960 --> 00:59:34,200 Hello. I just hear no. 1459 00:59:34,240 --> 00:59:38,000 Well, let's start with some of the other ones that you will eat 1460 00:59:38,040 --> 00:59:40,840 and then we'll start working on those other ones. 1461 00:59:42,560 --> 00:59:43,600 So, broccoli now. 1462 00:59:43,640 --> 00:59:44,640 Once we've done our broccoli, 1463 00:59:44,680 --> 00:59:46,600 then we'll choose something different just one at a time. 1464 00:59:46,640 --> 00:59:47,760 Would you like try the avocado? 1465 00:59:49,840 --> 00:59:51,240 You've gotta give it a go. 1466 00:59:51,280 --> 00:59:52,760 Yeah. 1467 00:59:54,160 --> 00:59:55,480 They have to do it. OK. 1468 00:59:57,080 --> 00:59:58,440 Skip? Hey. 1469 00:59:58,480 --> 01:00:00,160 I don't want to eat it. 1470 01:00:00,200 --> 01:00:02,040 (LAUGHTER) 1471 01:00:02,080 --> 01:00:03,240 Ugh! I can't eat. 1472 01:00:03,280 --> 01:00:04,680 It's...it's... 1473 01:00:04,720 --> 01:00:06,160 No, Skip. 1474 01:00:06,200 --> 01:00:08,480 That taste would never change. 1475 01:00:08,520 --> 01:00:09,880 It doesn't taste like anything. 1476 01:00:09,920 --> 01:00:11,360 It does taste like something. 1477 01:00:11,400 --> 01:00:12,640 It tastes like avocado! 1478 01:00:12,680 --> 01:00:15,840 Look at your brother being braver than you two. 1479 01:00:15,880 --> 01:00:16,880 I'm tough. I'm tough. 1480 01:00:16,920 --> 01:00:17,960 Go, Gus. Go, Gus. 1481 01:00:18,000 --> 01:00:19,720 Oh, whole thing like a boss. 1482 01:00:19,760 --> 01:00:23,240 I think the sibling rivalry sort of started taking hold as well. 1483 01:00:23,280 --> 01:00:24,320 Yes. 1484 01:00:24,360 --> 01:00:25,920 It's being, "Oh, well, he's eating that. 1485 01:00:25,960 --> 01:00:27,600 "Maybe I can have a maybe little bit of a nibble." 1486 01:00:27,640 --> 01:00:29,920 Yes! Well done. 1487 01:00:29,960 --> 01:00:32,280 (LAUGHS) Oh, I don't... 1488 01:00:32,320 --> 01:00:33,600 See, it's not even bad, is it? 1489 01:00:34,960 --> 01:00:36,800 (LAUGHS) 1490 01:00:36,840 --> 01:00:38,520 Tell me I'm getting chocolate after this. 1491 01:00:38,560 --> 01:00:39,600 Yeah, we can. 1492 01:00:39,640 --> 01:00:41,320 (LAUGHTER) 1493 01:00:43,640 --> 01:00:46,680 I like how you made a competition out of it for the boys 1494 01:00:46,720 --> 01:00:49,240 'cause it's hard to get kids to try food 1495 01:00:49,280 --> 01:00:51,280 and, um, especially, healthy food. 1496 01:00:51,320 --> 01:00:52,840 So, yeah, big win. 1497 01:00:54,600 --> 01:00:56,920 How can you get your kids to eat more vegetables? 1498 01:00:56,960 --> 01:00:58,000 Three ideas. 1499 01:00:58,040 --> 01:00:59,720 First, if possible, get them in the garden 1500 01:00:59,760 --> 01:01:01,120 to grow their own food. 1501 01:01:01,160 --> 01:01:03,480 Second, if you can involve them in the kitchen 1502 01:01:03,520 --> 01:01:05,360 while you are preparing food, that will help. 1503 01:01:05,400 --> 01:01:08,960 And third, always make sure you've got healthy snacks on hand. 1504 01:01:09,000 --> 01:01:12,800 So, it's much easier for kids to make a healthy choice. 1505 01:01:12,840 --> 01:01:13,880 Next... 1506 01:01:13,920 --> 01:01:15,040 I don't like this. 1507 01:01:15,080 --> 01:01:17,960 The surprise no one sees coming. 1508 01:01:18,000 --> 01:01:20,360 Oh, bud. 1509 01:01:20,400 --> 01:01:21,560 Before the panel votes 1510 01:01:21,600 --> 01:01:24,480 for their favourite parenting style of the night. 1511 01:01:35,080 --> 01:01:37,080 We've nearly finished tonight's challenges. 1512 01:01:37,120 --> 01:01:40,800 There's just one more to see play food bingo. 1513 01:01:42,440 --> 01:01:44,440 (GASPS) Look at the table. 1514 01:01:44,480 --> 01:01:45,520 Yay. 1515 01:01:45,560 --> 01:01:48,880 Whoo! Lots of yummy things to try. 1516 01:01:48,920 --> 01:01:50,320 I don't like this. 1517 01:01:50,360 --> 01:01:52,320 (LAUGHTER) 1518 01:01:52,360 --> 01:01:53,360 That's OK. 1519 01:01:53,400 --> 01:01:55,720 You don't have to eat anything you don't wanna eat. 1520 01:01:55,760 --> 01:01:56,960 It's your body and your choice. 1521 01:01:57,000 --> 01:01:59,200 OK, so, I'm not eating... 1522 01:01:59,240 --> 01:02:00,280 these. 1523 01:02:00,320 --> 01:02:01,560 As unstructured parents, 1524 01:02:01,600 --> 01:02:04,760 we don't force our kids to eat anything. 1525 01:02:04,800 --> 01:02:06,840 What do we think of onion? 1526 01:02:06,880 --> 01:02:09,320 Ugh! No, only good on burgers. 1527 01:02:09,360 --> 01:02:10,800 (LAUGHTER) 1528 01:02:10,840 --> 01:02:12,000 We made that decision 1529 01:02:12,040 --> 01:02:15,120 because I think that my kids' emotional health 1530 01:02:15,160 --> 01:02:18,040 is more important than whether they eat raw onion. 1531 01:02:18,080 --> 01:02:19,640 But I will eat this. 1532 01:02:19,680 --> 01:02:20,720 OK. 1533 01:02:20,760 --> 01:02:23,280 I'm happy for you to try that, the mushroom. 1534 01:02:24,640 --> 01:02:29,080 It was going well until the mushrooms. 1535 01:02:29,120 --> 01:02:30,680 I don't think I like this. 1536 01:02:30,720 --> 01:02:32,080 You don't like the mushroom? 1537 01:02:34,480 --> 01:02:35,480 You OK? 1538 01:02:35,520 --> 01:02:36,920 No. Did you swallow it? 1539 01:02:36,960 --> 01:02:38,440 Just wait. No. Why did I swallow it up? 1540 01:02:39,520 --> 01:02:40,680 Oh. 1541 01:02:40,720 --> 01:02:42,040 Come here. I'm gonna get you some water. 1542 01:02:42,080 --> 01:02:43,200 Stand up. 1543 01:02:43,240 --> 01:02:44,920 If you need to stomp it out, stomp it out. 1544 01:02:44,960 --> 01:02:46,720 Take some breaths. Have a sip of water. 1545 01:02:49,240 --> 01:02:51,560 Oh, bud. 1546 01:02:51,600 --> 01:02:52,720 That's how bad it was. 1547 01:02:52,760 --> 01:02:54,280 (LAUGHTER) 1548 01:02:55,440 --> 01:02:57,080 OK, I understand that. 1549 01:02:57,120 --> 01:02:58,440 I appreciate you trying it. 1550 01:03:01,000 --> 01:03:02,120 It's alright, bud. 1551 01:03:02,160 --> 01:03:03,480 I'm so sorry. 1552 01:03:03,520 --> 01:03:06,240 Hey, you don't need to apologise, honey. 1553 01:03:07,360 --> 01:03:09,840 All in all, I feel like we got through the challenge 1554 01:03:09,880 --> 01:03:10,960 pretty successfully. 1555 01:03:11,000 --> 01:03:16,680 And even with the vomit, everyone walked out happy again. 1556 01:03:16,720 --> 01:03:17,880 It's on my legs. 1557 01:03:17,920 --> 01:03:19,560 That's right. We'll clean it off Your legs. 1558 01:03:22,200 --> 01:03:24,440 The mushroom, huh? Who would've thought? 1559 01:03:24,480 --> 01:03:25,520 Ooh. 1560 01:03:25,560 --> 01:03:28,040 I love that you said if like... 1561 01:03:28,080 --> 01:03:30,240 "If my child doesn't like it, I'm not gonna make them eat it." 1562 01:03:30,280 --> 01:03:32,920 I think, it's really important that we give our children the respect 1563 01:03:32,960 --> 01:03:35,520 and the autonomy to have likes and dislikes 1564 01:03:35,560 --> 01:03:38,800 and to not force it because you are a child and you should finish. 1565 01:03:38,840 --> 01:03:40,000 Can I ask, Melody? 1566 01:03:40,040 --> 01:03:43,800 He seems like a really polite kid and he apologised once he vomited. 1567 01:03:43,840 --> 01:03:45,520 But you said don't... 1568 01:03:45,560 --> 01:03:46,720 Like, don't apologise. 1569 01:03:46,760 --> 01:03:48,600 There's no need to apologise. 1570 01:03:48,640 --> 01:03:51,760 Like, I understand that it was a mistake, 1571 01:03:51,800 --> 01:03:55,160 but he's vomited on the floor and someone's gotta clean that up. 1572 01:03:55,200 --> 01:03:57,400 Why is it not OK for him to apologise? 1573 01:03:57,440 --> 01:03:59,520 As we walked out, we actually said to the lady, 1574 01:03:59,560 --> 01:04:01,040 "Oh, my god, I am so sorry." 1575 01:04:01,080 --> 01:04:02,160 And I said to the... 1576 01:04:02,200 --> 01:04:05,280 Miller said to the dude who had to clean it up, "I'm so sorry." 1577 01:04:05,320 --> 01:04:06,720 I was like, "Yeah, we are really sorry." 1578 01:04:06,760 --> 01:04:08,280 I reckon you are brutal, Jonathan. 1579 01:04:08,320 --> 01:04:09,360 (LAUGHTER) 1580 01:04:09,400 --> 01:04:10,440 That was... 1581 01:04:10,480 --> 01:04:13,160 My first thing is that kid tried a food he didn't like 1582 01:04:13,200 --> 01:04:15,520 and...and tried something that made him vomit. 1583 01:04:15,560 --> 01:04:18,240 And you go, "He should have said sorry." 1584 01:04:18,280 --> 01:04:20,880 I reckon all of your kids nailed that challenge. 1585 01:04:20,920 --> 01:04:23,960 I think Miller is a bloody legend for trying mushrooms 1586 01:04:24,000 --> 01:04:25,200 when he didn't want to. 1587 01:04:25,240 --> 01:04:26,840 So, well done all the kids. 1588 01:04:26,880 --> 01:04:28,680 (APPLAUSE) 1589 01:04:31,080 --> 01:04:33,360 The best way to get kids to eat their veggies 1590 01:04:33,400 --> 01:04:37,000 is to introduce them early and often. 1591 01:04:37,040 --> 01:04:40,880 Kids need to see their parents eating well for them 1592 01:04:40,920 --> 01:04:42,840 to wanted to eat well themselves. 1593 01:04:42,880 --> 01:04:46,160 And there are no rules that veggies need to be plain or uncooked. 1594 01:04:46,200 --> 01:04:49,440 So, if you mix them with other foods or shred them into sauces, 1595 01:04:49,480 --> 01:04:51,400 they're great ways to keep that veggie intake 1596 01:04:51,440 --> 01:04:53,800 as high as it needs to be. 1597 01:04:53,840 --> 01:04:56,840 Focus parents, thank you so much for showing us your challenges 1598 01:04:56,880 --> 01:04:58,440 and how you parent. 1599 01:04:58,480 --> 01:05:03,200 Panel, it is time for you to vote for your favourite so far. 1600 01:05:03,240 --> 01:05:06,960 Whose parenting style impressed you the most tonight? 1601 01:05:07,000 --> 01:05:08,480 Please write down your votes 1602 01:05:08,520 --> 01:05:10,400 and we'll come round and collect them. 1603 01:05:11,600 --> 01:05:13,160 I think, it'll be a hard decision to make. 1604 01:05:13,200 --> 01:05:16,240 Personally, uh, we learned a lot from the slow parenting. 1605 01:05:16,280 --> 01:05:19,200 The slow parenting style is actually a good, great reminder for us 1606 01:05:19,240 --> 01:05:22,200 to actually slow down and spend more time with our children. 1607 01:05:23,360 --> 01:05:25,960 Road school parenting is every parent's dream, right? 1608 01:05:26,000 --> 01:05:29,160 To be able to just at some point take off 1609 01:05:29,200 --> 01:05:33,320 and have the freedom to travel around and provide life experiences. 1610 01:05:33,360 --> 01:05:35,320 I think, it's wonderful. 1611 01:05:35,360 --> 01:05:38,320 The American style are very similar to ours. 1612 01:05:38,360 --> 01:05:42,160 I like that they want their daughter to achieve and they guide her 1613 01:05:42,200 --> 01:05:44,040 and they teach her resilience. 1614 01:05:44,080 --> 01:05:45,800 Yeah, you had me at hello. 1615 01:05:45,840 --> 01:05:47,520 It's definitely what we do. 1616 01:05:47,560 --> 01:05:51,560 I resonate with unstructured parenting 1617 01:05:51,600 --> 01:05:54,360 and I really love how they give their kids the freedom 1618 01:05:54,400 --> 01:05:55,880 to be whoever they wanna be. 1619 01:05:55,920 --> 01:05:58,920 And I feel like there should be more parents like that. 1620 01:06:01,840 --> 01:06:03,280 The votes have been counted 1621 01:06:03,320 --> 01:06:05,920 and we now know who your favourite parenting style 1622 01:06:05,960 --> 01:06:07,560 is so far. 1623 01:06:12,240 --> 01:06:17,360 The parents with the best parental guidance tonight are... 1624 01:06:21,680 --> 01:06:24,960 Melody and Michael, unstructured parents. 1625 01:06:25,000 --> 01:06:26,640 (APPLAUSE) Nice work. 1626 01:06:28,680 --> 01:06:31,040 (LAUGHS) 1627 01:06:31,080 --> 01:06:32,280 Amazing. 1628 01:06:32,320 --> 01:06:33,480 I feel proud. 1629 01:06:33,520 --> 01:06:35,720 So proud. So proud. 1630 01:06:35,760 --> 01:06:37,560 I think they came into this thinking 1631 01:06:37,600 --> 01:06:39,080 that, you know, no one understood 1632 01:06:39,120 --> 01:06:40,920 and they were a bit flippant with everything they did. 1633 01:06:40,960 --> 01:06:43,160 But no, they've actually shown you could be unstructured 1634 01:06:43,200 --> 01:06:45,640 with boundaries, which was good to know. 1635 01:06:47,240 --> 01:06:50,520 Focus parents, that is only the beginning. 1636 01:06:50,560 --> 01:06:54,600 Next time, you are gonna face the crucial challenges 1637 01:06:54,640 --> 01:07:00,040 that will decide who gets in to the final family challenge. 1638 01:07:00,080 --> 01:07:04,480 And we'll have a shot at the title of Australia's best parenting style. 1639 01:07:06,600 --> 01:07:08,160 You can buy whatever you want. 1640 01:07:08,200 --> 01:07:10,240 Could you raise your kids... 1641 01:07:10,280 --> 01:07:13,200 'Sometimes' foods are all-the-time foods. 1642 01:07:13,240 --> 01:07:14,920 ..with no rules? 1643 01:07:14,960 --> 01:07:17,120 We don't even look at their school reports. 1644 01:07:17,600 --> 01:07:19,080 That's really concerning for me. 1645 01:07:19,120 --> 01:07:20,760 Utter madness? 1646 01:07:20,800 --> 01:07:23,040 Report card explains to you how much effort. 1647 01:07:23,080 --> 01:07:24,520 If my child wasn't putting effort in, 1648 01:07:24,560 --> 01:07:26,000 I would know about it. 1649 01:07:26,040 --> 01:07:27,920 Or parenting genius? 1650 01:07:27,960 --> 01:07:29,160 We owe it to our kids 1651 01:07:29,200 --> 01:07:30,560 to let them spread their wings. 1652 01:07:30,600 --> 01:07:31,960 Can your kid 1653 01:07:32,000 --> 01:07:33,560 find their way home? 1654 01:07:34,240 --> 01:07:35,560 The controversial... 1655 01:07:35,600 --> 01:07:37,280 Do you feel for them in danger? 1656 01:07:37,320 --> 01:07:38,680 ..final two nights. 1657 01:07:38,720 --> 01:07:41,400 The best parenting style is...