1 00:00:03,160 --> 00:00:04,719 on "The Real Housewives of Durban." 2 00:00:04,759 --> 00:00:08,000 I'd wanted this conversation to be between you and I. 3 00:00:08,039 --> 00:00:10,599 Can we arrange to meet sometime soon? 4 00:00:10,640 --> 00:00:12,080 I'll confirm... 5 00:00:14,439 --> 00:00:16,760 It's not about me, it's not about Ayanda. 6 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:17,800 I'm thinking of Nothile. 7 00:00:17,839 --> 00:00:19,239 Most importantly it's for us 8 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,719 to find a way forward. 9 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:22,920 For example... 10 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:26,039 If you have one... [indistinct] 11 00:00:35,640 --> 00:00:37,799 Done. 12 00:00:37,840 --> 00:00:40,520 Sorisha: I have a billion reasons to smile. 13 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:44,000 My family and furries are just some of them. 14 00:00:44,039 --> 00:00:47,119 [theme music] 15 00:00:50,039 --> 00:00:52,799 Annie: I've choreographed my life perfectly. 16 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:55,280 It's Mrs. Ambition to you. 17 00:00:59,119 --> 00:01:01,759 Ayanda: Music is the business. 18 00:01:01,799 --> 00:01:04,239 And I am it's boss. 19 00:01:11,920 --> 00:01:14,439 Kgomotso: I've spent my life learning the game, 20 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:16,599 and I know just how to play it. 21 00:01:23,359 --> 00:01:27,280 Nonku: In a world full of choices, I know I am enough. 22 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:31,760 [music continues] 23 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:35,799 Laconco: I never stumble. 24 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:38,640 Distinctive is the centerpiece of my table. 25 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:54,680 [upbeat music] 26 00:02:10,439 --> 00:02:12,159 Kgomotso pulls me out. 27 00:02:12,199 --> 00:02:14,599 She decides to take me to, uh, another space. 28 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:18,080 So, you brought me here to secret hideout, to your lair. 29 00:02:18,120 --> 00:02:19,439 [laughing] 30 00:02:19,479 --> 00:02:20,759 You can take a seat here. 31 00:02:20,800 --> 00:02:22,560 Alright, thank you. 32 00:02:22,599 --> 00:02:25,520 So it was just too... loud in that room. 33 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:27,719 - Mm. - You know, I just thought... 34 00:02:27,759 --> 00:02:30,319 Maybe we could come in a private room. 35 00:02:30,360 --> 00:02:32,199 Okay. And have a chit chat. 36 00:02:32,240 --> 00:02:34,639 A chit chat. 'Cause you're looking so beautiful. 37 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:38,120 You know, you brought your Sasha Fierce out. 38 00:02:38,159 --> 00:02:39,960 - Thanks, girl. [laughing] - Your closet... 39 00:02:40,000 --> 00:02:41,520 It has been hiding there for a while. 40 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:43,039 You know, for a while. [laughing] 41 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:45,400 - Something, you know, like... - Oh, thank you, babe. 42 00:02:45,439 --> 00:02:48,800 You also look gorgeous, gorgeous, gorgeous. Yeah. 43 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:52,879 - We can feel each other. Mm-hm. - No, we do. I feel you. 44 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:54,360 - So... - Yeah. 45 00:02:55,520 --> 00:02:56,360 Lay it down. 46 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:57,919 I feel so bad [laughs] 47 00:02:57,960 --> 00:02:59,840 about the other night. 48 00:02:59,879 --> 00:03:01,199 When you wanted the elephant. 49 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:03,840 - I wanted the elephant, it-- - Unleashed. 50 00:03:03,879 --> 00:03:05,319 Gosh! And then it came. 51 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:06,719 Yo, I feel bad though. 52 00:03:06,759 --> 00:03:09,360 I don't feel like it was the conversation for us. 53 00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:11,560 I feel like I want to tell her... 54 00:03:11,599 --> 00:03:14,240 like... I'm sorry, you were pushing-- 55 00:03:14,280 --> 00:03:15,400 Kgomotso: You were just being forward. 56 00:03:15,439 --> 00:03:16,759 I was being forward. 57 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:18,759 You just have to tell her that, "Oh, babe, 58 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:20,479 I was just being my normal self... 59 00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:22,800 Oh. [laughing] 60 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:26,319 I just want to apologize for being that person 61 00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:28,479 who was very persistent 62 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:32,400 with bringing out that... truth. 63 00:03:32,439 --> 00:03:34,400 It should have really just been between them. 64 00:03:34,439 --> 00:03:36,479 And here comes the queen. 65 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:40,400 Oh, guys. How're you guys? Have you made money? 66 00:03:40,439 --> 00:03:43,000 - I made money. - Sure, lot of money. 67 00:03:43,039 --> 00:03:45,159 I-- I-- I-- I actually suspected that. 68 00:03:45,199 --> 00:03:47,560 - Yes. [laughing] - [laughing] 69 00:03:47,599 --> 00:03:48,680 I scan a queen. 70 00:03:48,719 --> 00:03:51,199 I just need, uh, to excuse myself quickly. 71 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:52,400 - Okay? - Yeah. 72 00:03:52,439 --> 00:03:54,159 I'm gonna top up on my champagne glass. 73 00:03:54,199 --> 00:03:56,120 - Of course, my darling. - Yeah. 74 00:03:56,159 --> 00:03:57,479 - But I'm gonna need you... - Of course. 75 00:03:57,520 --> 00:03:59,599 Let me challenge this money-making queen. 76 00:03:59,639 --> 00:04:02,400 - [laughing] - I wish we had someone here. 77 00:04:02,439 --> 00:04:04,120 So, I was just like, "Oh, okay." 78 00:04:04,159 --> 00:04:07,599 It's a great time actually. So, let's do it. 79 00:04:07,639 --> 00:04:09,400 If you remember... 80 00:04:09,439 --> 00:04:11,360 during the Diwali dinner... 81 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:12,199 Yes. 82 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:15,360 ...I was quite forward 83 00:04:15,400 --> 00:04:16,600 with that situation. 84 00:04:16,639 --> 00:04:18,720 Being Ayanda I know that it's like, 85 00:04:18,759 --> 00:04:20,680 woman will ask something... 86 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:24,360 I just wanted to let you know 87 00:04:24,399 --> 00:04:28,160 that up when it eventually came out, like, I felt so... 88 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:32,399 just calm, like shy, like... 89 00:04:32,439 --> 00:04:35,160 I shouldn't really have pushed it that much, you know? 90 00:04:35,199 --> 00:04:38,920 It's, it's actually a very personal thing. 91 00:04:38,959 --> 00:04:41,000 I still cannot read Ayanda. 92 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:42,519 I-- I can't tell like, 93 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:44,800 how she's taking it, is she cool? 94 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:46,079 Is she really cool? 95 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:47,600 I-- I'm not sure. 96 00:04:47,639 --> 00:04:50,560 [upbeat music] 97 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:55,279 How-- how was the dinner for you? Diwali? 98 00:04:55,319 --> 00:04:57,199 I enjoyed, I enjoyed, I enjoyed Diwali. 99 00:04:57,240 --> 00:04:58,480 Um, it was a great experience. 100 00:04:58,519 --> 00:05:00,199 Something different, obviously. 101 00:05:00,240 --> 00:05:02,360 I see an opportunity... 102 00:05:03,439 --> 00:05:06,319 ...about what happened at Diwali. 103 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:09,120 I'm talking in terms of, um, scam. 104 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:12,560 What do you mean involved? You were... 105 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:14,240 A scam. A scam. 106 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:18,360 [overlapping chatter] 107 00:05:19,360 --> 00:05:21,160 Oh, you were scammed? 108 00:05:21,199 --> 00:05:23,319 [indistinct chatter] 109 00:05:23,360 --> 00:05:25,759 Ayanda: Oh, yeah. I, now I get you, honey. 110 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:30,959 Like by anyone? Wow. 111 00:05:31,000 --> 00:05:32,600 - Mm. - Wow. 112 00:05:32,639 --> 00:05:34,879 But I remember... [speaking in foreign language] 113 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:36,199 ...through you. 114 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:38,759 So I kind of thought that you'd have my back. 115 00:05:38,800 --> 00:05:42,040 I didn't see anything wrong. 116 00:05:42,079 --> 00:05:45,759 I just... [speaking in foreign language] 117 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:47,279 I feel you would, see like, you just, 118 00:05:47,319 --> 00:05:49,399 you were not there for me. 119 00:05:49,439 --> 00:05:51,120 As a woman, I need to be neutral. 120 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:52,399 I think she feels cornered. 121 00:05:52,439 --> 00:05:53,720 What do you mean by being neutral? 122 00:05:53,759 --> 00:05:55,319 I'm not saying choose me or choose a side... 123 00:05:55,360 --> 00:05:56,759 Okay. What do you ex-- expect from me? 124 00:05:56,800 --> 00:05:59,439 No, okay, when you say neutral, it exactly fits. 125 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:01,199 I'm glad you said it. Because that's what you did. 126 00:06:01,240 --> 00:06:04,399 I don't think she's realizing exactly though what she, 127 00:06:04,439 --> 00:06:06,319 what it is that she did wrong. 128 00:06:06,360 --> 00:06:07,639 Oh, but see everyone were laughing. 129 00:06:07,680 --> 00:06:09,199 I'm sorry as well if you felt that-- 130 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:11,319 No, but see, I-- I-- I remember even, like... 131 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:12,639 That's... they way you're laughing at. 132 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:13,759 And for me, that was... 133 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:15,439 [indistinct chatter] 134 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:17,879 And I just, when you said neutral, I just felt... 135 00:06:17,920 --> 00:06:19,199 'Cause I remember since you... 136 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:20,680 I mean, I thought you were really... 137 00:06:20,720 --> 00:06:22,839 I had, cause I know I'd have your back. 138 00:06:27,079 --> 00:06:28,720 And then I-- I'm asking myself... 139 00:06:28,759 --> 00:06:30,959 where, where do you li... I mean... 140 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:32,959 Your loyalties, where do they lie? 141 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:34,800 'Cause I wanted to talk to somebody, 142 00:06:34,839 --> 00:06:36,639 a-- a-- a kind of friend. 143 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:39,000 Somebody I thought that had my back. 144 00:06:39,040 --> 00:06:40,399 - That's when I-- - Oh, maybe you never-- 145 00:06:40,439 --> 00:06:43,560 Girls, can I crash this party? What's going on? 146 00:06:46,839 --> 00:06:48,800 Why are you guys fighting? 147 00:06:48,839 --> 00:06:50,800 [laughing] 148 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:52,920 No, no. 149 00:06:52,959 --> 00:06:54,399 No, as a-- a friend she wanted 150 00:06:54,439 --> 00:06:55,959 to talk to me about something. 151 00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:57,519 I mean, they're not laughing. 152 00:06:57,560 --> 00:07:00,040 You know, I was expecting them to laugh. 153 00:07:00,079 --> 00:07:01,399 But that's when I realized 154 00:07:01,439 --> 00:07:04,639 that it was something quite serious. 155 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:06,800 You actually... 156 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:07,839 Well... 157 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:09,959 obviously pushy. 158 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:12,120 [laughing] 159 00:07:12,160 --> 00:07:14,040 But it-- it maybe, it might have helped 160 00:07:14,079 --> 00:07:15,759 things within the house. 161 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:19,040 So that it can eventually, uh, be brought up. 162 00:07:19,079 --> 00:07:21,240 Annie: Okay. - You know? So, yeah. 163 00:07:21,279 --> 00:07:23,000 Well, eventually at some point, 164 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:25,000 because Nonks and I... 165 00:07:25,040 --> 00:07:26,600 - It was the first time we met. - Yeah. 166 00:07:26,639 --> 00:07:29,639 So, at some point, anyway we were bound to talk about it. 167 00:07:29,680 --> 00:07:31,879 Annie: Yeah. - For me, it's, like... [scoffs] 168 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:35,240 "Girl, come on, please. Let's go back and enjoy our game." 169 00:07:35,279 --> 00:07:38,399 [upbeat music] 170 00:07:41,120 --> 00:07:43,439 - Did I win? Man: Yes, you won. 171 00:07:43,480 --> 00:07:45,839 [laughing] 172 00:07:45,879 --> 00:07:47,600 [indistinct chatter] 173 00:07:47,639 --> 00:07:50,600 Surprisingly, I just keep on winning. 174 00:07:55,680 --> 00:07:57,759 Interacting... 175 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:00,240 It was flawless, you know? 176 00:08:00,279 --> 00:08:02,560 There was no tension. 177 00:08:04,279 --> 00:08:06,279 Ladies, hello. Are you having fun? 178 00:08:06,319 --> 00:08:07,600 - Yes. Ayanda: Absolutely. 179 00:08:07,639 --> 00:08:10,319 I wanted to have a best-dressed for the evening 180 00:08:10,360 --> 00:08:12,160 'cause all the ladies were coming out, and they're splendid 181 00:08:12,199 --> 00:08:13,879 and I just thought, "How nice would it be 182 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:16,000 to, like, give a prize away to the best-dressed 183 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:17,399 to give to their own charity?" 184 00:08:17,439 --> 00:08:21,160 I have decided to give you a 1000 grand to give 185 00:08:21,199 --> 00:08:23,000 to your favorite charity. 186 00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:25,680 - Oh! - Oh, wow! 187 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:28,600 Sorisha: Janet decided to say something to me earlier. 188 00:08:28,639 --> 00:08:31,639 Uh, so I've decided to double that, 189 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:33,600 to top it up and give you another 1000 dollars... 190 00:08:33,639 --> 00:08:35,039 [cheering] 191 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:36,679 [indistinct chatter] 192 00:08:36,720 --> 00:08:41,799 And-- and we decided would be the best-dressed lady tonight. 193 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:44,600 [laughing] 194 00:08:44,639 --> 00:08:48,000 Sorisha: So I am not anyway involved in that decision. 195 00:08:48,039 --> 00:08:50,480 So you'll all still love me after. 196 00:08:50,519 --> 00:08:53,679 So I've asked Janet the-- the responsibility for the... 197 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:56,039 [indistinct chatter] 198 00:08:56,080 --> 00:08:58,200 [laughing] 199 00:08:59,320 --> 00:09:01,039 Drum roll. Somebody drum roll. 200 00:09:01,080 --> 00:09:03,320 [imitates drum roll] 201 00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:05,480 - Yeah! - Okay. 202 00:09:05,519 --> 00:09:06,480 Ayanda: Oh! 203 00:09:08,240 --> 00:09:10,159 [cheering] 204 00:09:11,799 --> 00:09:15,720 Ayanda: Ooh, honey. Do I need to walk? Or do I need to stand? 205 00:09:15,759 --> 00:09:18,200 [laughing] Yeah! 206 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:23,360 Like... [speaking in foreign language] 207 00:09:23,399 --> 00:09:26,159 [laughs] Thank you, thank you, thank you. 208 00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:27,679 [laughing] 209 00:09:27,720 --> 00:09:29,000 They making money here. 210 00:09:29,039 --> 00:09:31,600 So... we'll definitely call you back. 211 00:09:31,639 --> 00:09:33,159 [laughing] 212 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:34,480 Thank you. 213 00:09:34,519 --> 00:09:36,679 Myself... 214 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:38,159 We killed it. 215 00:09:41,919 --> 00:09:43,440 Female narrator: Coming up on "The Real 216 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:45,200 Housewives of Durban..." 217 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:47,519 Do you know Ayanda Ncwane? 218 00:09:48,759 --> 00:09:49,759 Did you not talk about that? 219 00:09:51,039 --> 00:09:53,399 Is there school that mothers can go to? 220 00:09:53,440 --> 00:09:56,000 Like a single mother, like a single parent. 221 00:09:56,039 --> 00:09:57,279 How to raise a teenager? 222 00:09:57,320 --> 00:09:58,840 You know, it is fine. Hold it there. 223 00:09:58,879 --> 00:10:00,840 It's not why I called you. 224 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:07,759 [upbeat music] 225 00:10:18,600 --> 00:10:20,480 Annie: So today I'm at Jackie Manuel's studio 226 00:10:20,519 --> 00:10:22,279 I'm with my sister and my bestie. 227 00:10:22,320 --> 00:10:26,399 And we are here for my dress fitting for my wedding. 228 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:28,519 This is pretty much all a initial fabric. 229 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:29,919 I don't know if you remember this. 230 00:10:29,960 --> 00:10:31,840 Sure. Guys, from 2018. 231 00:10:31,879 --> 00:10:35,000 So, I've been planning my wedding for three years now. 232 00:10:35,039 --> 00:10:36,399 Literally, guys. 233 00:10:36,440 --> 00:10:39,200 The reason I refused to have this wedding 234 00:10:39,240 --> 00:10:40,679 is because I was pregnant, and I was like, 235 00:10:40,720 --> 00:10:42,440 "I'm not going to wear my white dress 236 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:43,759 with the belly bump." 237 00:10:43,799 --> 00:10:46,320 That's six different shade of pink on it. 238 00:10:46,360 --> 00:10:49,080 And every pearl has been dip dyed 239 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:50,679 and then hand embellished. 240 00:10:50,720 --> 00:10:53,840 Jackie Manuel, I've been with her for very many years. 241 00:10:53,879 --> 00:10:55,919 She's done all my Durban July dresses, 242 00:10:55,960 --> 00:10:56,960 all my birthday dresses. 243 00:10:57,000 --> 00:10:58,759 She understands my style. 244 00:10:58,799 --> 00:11:02,399 So she was obviously first choice for my wedding dress. 245 00:11:02,440 --> 00:11:03,840 - That's a lot of work. - Shoot. 246 00:11:03,879 --> 00:11:06,440 Sounds like a lot of work and a lot of money. 247 00:11:06,480 --> 00:11:08,559 - [laughing] - It is an expensive gown. 248 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:10,639 But I think only the best for you, Annie. 249 00:11:10,679 --> 00:11:14,039 The material came of the Elie Saab brand name. 250 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:16,159 [humming "Bridal Chorus"] 251 00:11:20,480 --> 00:11:22,360 Annie: This dress, 252 00:11:22,399 --> 00:11:25,080 it is pink and frothy 253 00:11:25,120 --> 00:11:27,440 and slim fitting 254 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:31,480 and has all the diamantes and the feathers 255 00:11:31,519 --> 00:11:36,240 and, you know, a train that's six meters long, so... 256 00:11:36,279 --> 00:11:38,120 We are so excited about this dress. 257 00:11:38,159 --> 00:11:41,039 I like how it fits on your hips. 258 00:11:41,080 --> 00:11:42,320 And that's the most important part. 259 00:11:42,360 --> 00:11:43,759 Annie: That's the part. - Yeah. 260 00:11:43,799 --> 00:11:45,840 Their opinion on the dress really doesn't matter. 261 00:11:45,879 --> 00:11:47,440 I'm pretty much done right now. 262 00:11:47,480 --> 00:11:50,279 So, what we'll do is, um, I'll have Tatiana 263 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:52,279 schedule another appointment for you. 264 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:56,440 So, the dress will be ready in about... 265 00:11:56,480 --> 00:11:58,000 four weeks from now. 266 00:11:58,039 --> 00:12:01,279 I don't even have one dress, I have two dresses now. 267 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:02,960 I'm thinking about a third dress 268 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:04,000 'cause we're gonna have, like, 269 00:12:04,039 --> 00:12:06,559 a special performance for bae. 270 00:12:06,600 --> 00:12:09,519 [upbeat music] 271 00:12:16,320 --> 00:12:17,840 I've called Nothile over to my room. 272 00:12:17,879 --> 00:12:20,919 because I wanted to talk to her about Ayanda. 273 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:23,080 Do you know Ayanda Ncwane? 274 00:12:24,240 --> 00:12:26,320 I've seen her on Instagram. 275 00:12:29,519 --> 00:12:30,639 Duh! 276 00:12:30,679 --> 00:12:32,879 Instagram, Nothile? You have Instagram? 277 00:12:34,120 --> 00:12:36,480 Did we not talk about that? 278 00:12:36,519 --> 00:12:39,159 Is there school that mothers can go to? 279 00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:41,799 Like a single mother, like a single parent. 280 00:12:41,840 --> 00:12:42,960 How to raise a teenager? 281 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:43,960 You know, it is fine. 282 00:12:44,000 --> 00:12:45,039 Hold it there, it's not 283 00:12:45,080 --> 00:12:47,080 why I called you. 284 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:49,440 Uh, well, I met your Ayanda. 285 00:12:49,480 --> 00:12:52,039 Do you remember when you visited her house? 286 00:12:52,080 --> 00:12:54,799 And they fetched you with, 287 00:12:54,840 --> 00:12:56,519 with your father. 288 00:12:56,559 --> 00:12:58,720 I only remember him fetching me, 289 00:12:58,759 --> 00:13:01,360 but I don't remember that other parts. 290 00:13:01,399 --> 00:13:03,879 Do you remember anything about him? 291 00:13:03,919 --> 00:13:05,240 Nothile: Who? - Sfiso. 292 00:13:05,279 --> 00:13:06,799 I only-- only remember 293 00:13:06,840 --> 00:13:08,759 that he had 12 fingers. 294 00:13:08,799 --> 00:13:10,720 [laughing] I'm sorry. 295 00:13:13,759 --> 00:13:15,679 [laughs] Okay. 296 00:13:17,240 --> 00:13:20,159 I love 12 fingers. [chuckles] I love them. 297 00:13:20,200 --> 00:13:21,759 So, the reason why, 298 00:13:21,799 --> 00:13:23,879 um, I'm calling you now and I'm telling you all of this 299 00:13:23,919 --> 00:13:25,240 is because I met her. 300 00:13:25,279 --> 00:13:27,840 She was at that dinner party. 301 00:13:27,879 --> 00:13:29,559 And then we, we spoke 302 00:13:29,600 --> 00:13:32,840 about actually getting you guys to meet. 303 00:13:32,879 --> 00:13:37,480 When I say "you guys," her children, the two boys and you. 304 00:13:37,519 --> 00:13:39,519 So I wanted to hear your take of it. 305 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:41,039 How do you feel? 306 00:13:41,080 --> 00:13:43,000 You can just maybe tell me... 307 00:13:43,039 --> 00:13:45,200 Do you wanna meet them? 308 00:13:45,240 --> 00:13:47,320 Do you wanna know the family? 309 00:13:50,399 --> 00:13:51,919 Yo, she just gets quiet. 310 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:53,720 Um, to be honest at this point, um, 311 00:13:53,759 --> 00:13:55,919 I-- I don't know. 312 00:13:55,960 --> 00:13:58,559 Do you wanna know more about your siblings? 313 00:14:00,080 --> 00:14:01,240 Yeah. 314 00:14:03,039 --> 00:14:05,600 Yeah. Uh, I wanna meet them. 315 00:14:05,639 --> 00:14:06,600 And... 316 00:14:10,240 --> 00:14:11,799 Yeah, I wanna meet them. 317 00:14:11,840 --> 00:14:13,159 Nonku: You want to meet them? 318 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:15,679 Feel free to come to me and ask me anything. 319 00:14:17,080 --> 00:14:18,840 I think it's important for you. 320 00:14:18,879 --> 00:14:21,080 To know your siblings. 321 00:14:21,120 --> 00:14:23,320 'Cause your roots are very important. 322 00:14:23,360 --> 00:14:25,240 Yo, my gosh, guys. 323 00:14:25,279 --> 00:14:28,240 They say that "Life is lived forward 324 00:14:28,279 --> 00:14:30,960 but un-- understood backwards." 325 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:33,720 So, knowing what I know now 326 00:14:33,759 --> 00:14:35,840 and in the situation that I'm now, 327 00:14:35,879 --> 00:14:37,519 definitely I would go back to the days 328 00:14:37,559 --> 00:14:39,440 when Sfiso was still alive. 329 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:42,039 I would definitely make that relationship happen 330 00:14:42,080 --> 00:14:43,879 between Sfiso and Nothile. 331 00:14:48,960 --> 00:14:51,720 [engine revving] 332 00:14:51,759 --> 00:14:54,679 [upbeat music] 333 00:14:57,080 --> 00:14:59,559 So, I'm visiting Kgomotso this late in the evening. 334 00:14:59,600 --> 00:15:01,639 Because I was at work the whole day. 335 00:15:01,679 --> 00:15:04,039 And also to find time to spend together. 336 00:15:04,080 --> 00:15:06,559 It's very difficult as we are both very busy during the day. 337 00:15:06,600 --> 00:15:09,200 So that was a good time for us. 338 00:15:09,240 --> 00:15:11,120 How's the wedding planning going? 339 00:15:11,159 --> 00:15:15,080 -Um, sure I went for my fitting. Kgomotso: Mm. 340 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:17,399 - So I'm very excited. - Aw. 341 00:15:17,440 --> 00:15:20,039 No, it is a very exciting time. 342 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:22,000 Annie: Yes. - I mean, oh, weddings. 343 00:15:22,039 --> 00:15:24,200 She doesn't look as excited 344 00:15:24,240 --> 00:15:27,360 as she would ordinarily, you know? 345 00:15:27,399 --> 00:15:28,519 I'm not gonna give details to people 346 00:15:28,559 --> 00:15:30,440 who are not invited, honestly. 347 00:15:30,480 --> 00:15:33,039 Kgomotso is unfortunately not invited. 348 00:15:33,080 --> 00:15:35,600 [laughing] It is what it is. 349 00:15:35,639 --> 00:15:37,600 Actually one of the reasons that I came here this evening 350 00:15:37,639 --> 00:15:39,200 was to talk about my bridal shower. 351 00:15:39,240 --> 00:15:42,240 Ooh! I love bridal showers. 352 00:15:42,279 --> 00:15:44,759 So, that calls for a champagne. 353 00:15:44,799 --> 00:15:45,799 Of course. 354 00:15:48,679 --> 00:15:55,480 Mm, so, I was thinking that I would invite the girls to my 355 00:15:55,519 --> 00:15:58,840 Bad Bitches Only themed bridal shower. 356 00:15:58,879 --> 00:16:00,960 Say that again? Your what? 357 00:16:01,000 --> 00:16:02,200 Bad Bitches Only. 358 00:16:02,240 --> 00:16:04,159 Whoa! Umm... 359 00:16:05,519 --> 00:16:07,960 What do bad bitches do? Tell me so that-- 360 00:16:08,000 --> 00:16:11,879 I think you may just have the highest form of you. 361 00:16:11,919 --> 00:16:14,840 In bad bitch form. [laughing] 362 00:16:14,879 --> 00:16:16,919 Annie. Annie, oh! [laughs] 363 00:16:16,960 --> 00:16:21,200 Do I even want to go to this bridal shower? 364 00:16:21,240 --> 00:16:25,039 So I wanna take you guys to Rich. 365 00:16:25,080 --> 00:16:27,679 Geez! This bad bitch situationship. 366 00:16:27,720 --> 00:16:31,240 As she's telling me about this theme 367 00:16:31,279 --> 00:16:35,960 I'm just seeing girls there, twerking, strippers. 368 00:16:36,000 --> 00:16:37,440 Are you gonna come in leather? 369 00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:40,840 In leather? [laughing] 370 00:16:40,879 --> 00:16:43,399 Maybe some dominatrix... What you call those things? 371 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:46,600 That, um... Those harnesses? 372 00:16:46,639 --> 00:16:48,600 Are you like the Christian Grey type? 373 00:16:48,639 --> 00:16:51,080 Like, now that you're talking leathers and stuff. 374 00:16:51,120 --> 00:16:53,480 I did read "Fifty Shades." 375 00:16:53,519 --> 00:16:55,240 I did enjoy it. 376 00:16:55,279 --> 00:16:57,159 I did not enjoy the movie that much. 377 00:16:57,200 --> 00:17:00,240 But am I the Christian Grey type? 378 00:17:00,279 --> 00:17:01,480 You're the "Mills and Boons" type. 379 00:17:01,519 --> 00:17:03,240 Annie: I'm the "Mills and Boons" type. 380 00:17:03,279 --> 00:17:05,279 It's a very different type. 381 00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:08,240 Kgomotso: I'll never forget that one. 382 00:17:08,279 --> 00:17:10,039 The beautiful heroine 383 00:17:10,079 --> 00:17:14,440 with the guy who's like sweeping her off her feet, and, yeah. 384 00:17:14,480 --> 00:17:17,720 And then Christian Grey is like, "I will spank you, girl." 385 00:17:17,759 --> 00:17:19,680 [both laughing] 386 00:17:20,960 --> 00:17:25,200 Oh, yes. Annie is on the wild side of life. 387 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:27,680 But it is so lit. 388 00:17:27,720 --> 00:17:30,839 And, you know, it's, um, the kind of life 389 00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:33,880 that when you are a little bit older, 390 00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:37,799 you want to entice into that life from time and again. 391 00:17:37,839 --> 00:17:40,279 You know, just to keep young. 392 00:17:40,319 --> 00:17:43,640 Babe, the name of your bridal shower thing, wow. 393 00:17:43,680 --> 00:17:46,839 The church group is gonna be like, "You cannot go." 394 00:17:46,880 --> 00:17:50,079 [laughs] It is not allowed. 395 00:17:50,119 --> 00:17:51,279 Period. 396 00:17:55,079 --> 00:17:57,519 And how did you see Sfiso pass away? 397 00:17:57,559 --> 00:17:59,839 What happened? 398 00:17:59,880 --> 00:18:01,680 [sighs] Well... 399 00:18:01,720 --> 00:18:03,000 I-- I can't ask... 400 00:18:03,039 --> 00:18:05,680 The only person I ask is, Ncwane, as his wife. 401 00:18:05,720 --> 00:18:08,839 She was closest person to Sfiso at that time. 402 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:10,359 I want to know what happened? 403 00:18:18,920 --> 00:18:21,160 We are at home in Westville. 404 00:18:21,200 --> 00:18:22,480 My mum's home. 405 00:18:22,519 --> 00:18:24,240 And I have news for the boys. 406 00:18:24,279 --> 00:18:26,359 And I don't even know... 407 00:18:32,799 --> 00:18:33,880 Like to tell them. 408 00:18:33,920 --> 00:18:36,279 So, you remember... 409 00:18:36,319 --> 00:18:39,000 told you about your other sister 410 00:18:39,039 --> 00:18:40,480 that you knew about. 411 00:18:40,519 --> 00:18:43,160 Now, I'm delivering the news. 412 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:44,319 Obviously... 413 00:18:48,799 --> 00:18:50,920 I'm looking at Ngcweti specifically because... 414 00:18:54,200 --> 00:18:57,880 Few weeks ago, I bumped into... 415 00:18:57,920 --> 00:19:01,279 And then she told me she-- she would love 416 00:19:01,319 --> 00:19:03,160 to meet you guys. 417 00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:05,319 I don't mind. 418 00:19:05,359 --> 00:19:06,680 Are you sure, Ngcweti? 419 00:19:06,720 --> 00:19:09,440 - Mum? Yeah, I don't mind. - Hm. 420 00:19:09,480 --> 00:19:12,160 So I was thinking that we, because she never 421 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:16,079 got a chance to say goodbye to daddy, so... 422 00:19:16,119 --> 00:19:17,720 would it be fine, 423 00:19:17,759 --> 00:19:21,319 if maybe we go with her to dad's grave? 424 00:19:21,359 --> 00:19:25,160 So that she can see where he's lying. 425 00:19:25,200 --> 00:19:27,880 Yeah, it is fine. 426 00:19:27,920 --> 00:19:29,200 Praise God. 427 00:19:29,240 --> 00:19:31,240 If nothing happened in the past... 428 00:19:31,279 --> 00:19:32,680 - With her and her family... Ayanda: Yeah. 429 00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:34,279 - Like towards us. Ayanda: Yeah. 430 00:19:34,319 --> 00:19:36,920 Like they, like they had like, 431 00:19:36,960 --> 00:19:40,799 like, if anyone wanted to attack us like, like... 432 00:19:40,839 --> 00:19:42,880 it would've been made at the same time. 433 00:19:42,920 --> 00:19:44,440 'Cause they, like, the time when they-- 434 00:19:44,480 --> 00:19:46,079 they all tried at the same time. 435 00:19:46,119 --> 00:19:49,240 And the fact that, like, her family didn't get involved 436 00:19:49,279 --> 00:19:50,480 means that, like... 437 00:19:50,519 --> 00:19:51,920 - I think there is room. - Like, like... 438 00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:53,599 - They are actually, like... Ayanda: Absolutely. 439 00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:55,559 They don't want all of that nonsense. 440 00:19:55,599 --> 00:19:58,359 Exactly, I think that's-- that is exactly why... 441 00:20:00,920 --> 00:20:04,200 I, I didn't have a problem at all because... 442 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:10,079 Nonku has never caused drama in my marriage. 443 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:11,279 Ever. 444 00:20:11,319 --> 00:20:14,279 So I'm really hoping with N-- Nothile 445 00:20:14,319 --> 00:20:16,480 I'll really have, you know, that... 446 00:20:16,519 --> 00:20:19,240 "Oh, no, no. Please wear my heels. 447 00:20:19,279 --> 00:20:21,200 Please wear my weave." 448 00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:24,160 I want a girl so bad. 449 00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:26,680 But before I hit 40, 450 00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:29,240 I'm definitely going to have that girl. 451 00:20:29,279 --> 00:20:31,160 It's so nice... 452 00:20:31,200 --> 00:20:33,400 ...most of the time... 453 00:20:33,440 --> 00:20:34,960 And I'm always alone. 454 00:20:35,000 --> 00:20:37,839 I, like, I don't have someone I'd really talk to. 455 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:39,799 Maybe I should start dating? 456 00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:49,319 [crickets chirping] 457 00:20:53,799 --> 00:20:57,079 So, what, how, how would you feel if I... 458 00:20:57,119 --> 00:20:58,119 dated? 459 00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:00,480 We wouldn't feel the same. 460 00:21:00,519 --> 00:21:02,079 - You wouldn't feel the same? - Yeah. 461 00:21:02,119 --> 00:21:03,680 Is it too early? 462 00:21:03,720 --> 00:21:05,880 - But it's not too early. - I mean, I... 463 00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:08,720 I-- I don't mind 'cause at the end of the day, 464 00:21:08,759 --> 00:21:11,640 you have to be happy, just like we're happy. 465 00:21:11,680 --> 00:21:13,279 Amazing. 466 00:21:13,319 --> 00:21:16,240 My son gave me a visa. 467 00:21:16,279 --> 00:21:18,880 [laughs] I'm free to date. 468 00:21:18,920 --> 00:21:20,720 [laughing] 469 00:21:21,799 --> 00:21:24,240 Is that a permission? 470 00:21:24,279 --> 00:21:27,799 I don't, like... Well, I don't... We'll talk. 471 00:21:27,839 --> 00:21:31,079 We'll talk? We're still gonna talk more about it? 472 00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:33,799 Okay. Okay, fine. 473 00:21:33,839 --> 00:21:35,640 [laughing] Oh, Lord! 474 00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:38,599 [upbeat music] 475 00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:48,160 [line ringing] 476 00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:50,359 - Hello. Annie: Hello, beautiful. 477 00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:52,279 - How are you? Sorisha: Hi, doll. 478 00:21:52,319 --> 00:21:54,079 Sorisha: How are you? - I'm good, thank you. 479 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:55,440 I'm good, I'm good. 480 00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:57,880 Annie: I was just calling now 481 00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:01,680 because I wanted to extend an invite to you 482 00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:04,200 to my bridal shower. 483 00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:05,160 Wow. 484 00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:07,920 So, it's going to be at, um, 485 00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:11,839 Rich... Champagne lounge. 486 00:22:11,880 --> 00:22:15,319 I have passed myself by date for a club. 487 00:22:15,359 --> 00:22:16,559 Let me tell you that. 488 00:22:16,599 --> 00:22:18,400 Are you down? 489 00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:20,000 - Hey, hey. Annie: Are you down? 490 00:22:20,039 --> 00:22:21,960 Am I down? What does this mean? 491 00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:24,400 Are you coming? Are you with... 492 00:22:24,440 --> 00:22:25,720 Annie: Are you down for it? Like... 493 00:22:25,759 --> 00:22:27,599 - Oh, yes, yes. Annie: Sorry, hip-hop terms. 494 00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:29,440 Sorisha: Oh, I'm so sorry. - [laughing] 495 00:22:29,480 --> 00:22:32,720 So, the theme is bad bitches. Mm-hm. 496 00:22:32,759 --> 00:22:33,839 Yes, I love it, babe. 497 00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:36,039 [laughs] Alright cool. Perfect. 498 00:22:36,079 --> 00:22:38,079 I'll give you the details later. 499 00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:39,160 Okay, my love. Thank you. 500 00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:40,599 Alright, bye. 501 00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:42,680 Sorisha: Okay, love. Muah. Bye. 502 00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:45,680 [upbeat music] 503 00:22:54,240 --> 00:22:55,359 Finally... 504 00:22:57,119 --> 00:22:59,359 Obviously I have to look good. 505 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:04,720 How are the kids? 506 00:23:04,759 --> 00:23:06,079 Hey, hey. They're great. 507 00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:08,160 They give me gray hairs... 508 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:09,799 Ayanda: I know, right? 509 00:23:09,839 --> 00:23:12,119 I wanted to ask, How old is Ngcweti? 510 00:23:13,519 --> 00:23:15,880 - My gosh! Ayanda: Yes. 511 00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:17,519 I think we're both nervous. 512 00:23:17,559 --> 00:23:20,119 No, an-- and I thought, let me just, um... 513 00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:22,599 ask for you... 514 00:23:23,519 --> 00:23:24,559 - Yes. Nonku: Umm... 515 00:23:24,599 --> 00:23:25,839 Nonku: After our meeting, 516 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:27,640 I had a chat with my daughter. 517 00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:29,079 Nothile. 518 00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:30,720 I cannot wait to hear. 519 00:23:30,759 --> 00:23:35,160 I am a bit skeptical to be honest, you know? 520 00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:36,920 ...we are going one-on-one. 521 00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:38,400 Man to man. 522 00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:43,519 You know, no backups, nothing. 523 00:23:43,559 --> 00:23:46,680 So, I don't know what to expect now. 524 00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:49,200 So, you know, basically, I told her... 525 00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:52,119 Nothile, I met, um, Ayanda Ncwane. 526 00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:54,200 Oh, and frankly she knows you, 'cause she's seen you on... 527 00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:55,920 Nonku: On Instagram. - Yeah. 528 00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:57,880 Ha. Ooh, child. 529 00:23:57,920 --> 00:23:58,920 So... 530 00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:00,000 How would you feel, 531 00:24:00,039 --> 00:24:01,640 how would you, like... 532 00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:04,480 you were to meet your-- your other siblings? 533 00:24:04,519 --> 00:24:06,559 You know and she's like, "oh... we'll see 534 00:24:06,599 --> 00:24:08,359 when we get there." Nothile is chilled to get like that. 535 00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:09,839 And she's just easy going, 536 00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:11,680 she just doesn't do drama and maybe like me. 537 00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:14,079 And I think she takes after Sfiso. 538 00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:16,039 But I think she is keen on knowing. 539 00:24:16,079 --> 00:24:18,920 'Cause I-- I also asked her if she remembers... 540 00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:20,400 Sfiso, her dad. 541 00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:24,720 "Yeah, I remember that, um, he's got 12 fingers." 542 00:24:24,759 --> 00:24:27,079 - Yeah. [laughs] Nonku: I laughed at that. 543 00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:31,119 Ah. Oh, my God, that's like... 544 00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:32,599 I mean... [sighs] 545 00:24:38,799 --> 00:24:40,559 So, it's a good thing she remembers. 546 00:24:40,599 --> 00:24:45,319 But I know she longs for that father-daughter relationship. 547 00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:47,480 Which is what brings me here, Ayanda. 548 00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:50,559 You know, a-- and I did mention... 549 00:24:50,599 --> 00:24:53,000 when I heard of Sfiso's passing... 550 00:24:53,039 --> 00:24:55,440 - I was like, I was shocked. - Yeah. 551 00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:58,160 I-- I-- I so much wanted a moment now. 552 00:24:58,200 --> 00:24:59,759 She asked me what happened, you know? 553 00:24:59,799 --> 00:25:01,599 So, I-- I-- I can't ask... 554 00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:04,359 The only person I ask is Ncwane his wife. 555 00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:07,440 She was the closest person to Sfiso at that time. 556 00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:09,119 I want to know what happened. 557 00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:12,400 How did Sfiso pass away? What happened? 558 00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:16,279 [sighs] Well... 559 00:25:16,319 --> 00:25:17,480 Female narrator: Coming up on "The Real 560 00:25:17,519 --> 00:25:19,240 Housewives of Durban..." 561 00:25:19,279 --> 00:25:22,119 So, the theme is Bad Bitches Only. 562 00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:23,799 I'm not a bad bitch. 563 00:25:23,839 --> 00:25:25,759 - What does that even mean? - Nah. 564 00:25:32,039 --> 00:25:33,720 When, when I heard of Sfiso's passing... 565 00:25:33,759 --> 00:25:35,920 I-- I so much wanted a moment now... 566 00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:37,519 She asked me what happened, you know? 567 00:25:37,559 --> 00:25:39,039 I-- I can't ask... 568 00:25:39,079 --> 00:25:42,440 The only person I ask is Ncwane his wife... 569 00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:45,480 What happened, how did S-- Sfiso pass away? 570 00:25:45,519 --> 00:25:46,960 What happened? 571 00:25:49,599 --> 00:25:52,160 - He was never sick? Ayanda: He was never sick. 572 00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:53,240 Nonku: No? - No. 573 00:25:53,279 --> 00:25:55,039 I need this closure of Sfiso. 574 00:25:55,079 --> 00:25:57,079 And when I say closure, I don't mean that I want to forget him. 575 00:25:57,119 --> 00:26:00,279 'Cause I will never, I will never forget Sfiso. 576 00:26:00,319 --> 00:26:01,599 Ayanda: It was a Sunday afternoon 577 00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:03,720 on the 4th of December. 578 00:26:06,079 --> 00:26:08,039 He went to the loo... 579 00:26:15,079 --> 00:26:17,000 'Cause he won't speak. So... 580 00:26:18,519 --> 00:26:20,640 - Oh, my God. Ayanda: So... 581 00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:27,680 Ayanda: Yeah. 582 00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:29,839 We rushed him straight to the hospital. 583 00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:37,279 In hour or so later, he was, I was called... 584 00:26:37,319 --> 00:26:38,799 ...your husband's really sick. 585 00:26:38,839 --> 00:26:40,920 You know, "My husband is really sick?" 586 00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:44,720 And then he was rushed to the ICU. 587 00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:48,640 They said his organs are shutting down. 588 00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:49,839 Yeah. 589 00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:52,400 So when I hear Ayanda speaking and like... 590 00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:57,359 ...like, in detail, what happened, I just... 591 00:26:57,400 --> 00:26:59,720 I'm like, "no, man, guys, no." 592 00:26:59,759 --> 00:27:01,960 3:00 a.m., they said "You can go home 593 00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:03,920 and come back in the morning because this is stable." 594 00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:06,079 Okay, fine. Then I went home. 595 00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:09,279 Eight o'clock, I was... 596 00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:12,960 And hour later or so, 597 00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:18,440 in fact it was towards half past nine in the morning, 598 00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:20,279 that was when he passed away. 599 00:27:20,319 --> 00:27:21,759 I just felt... 600 00:27:23,079 --> 00:27:25,440 I wish I just had those last few moments night. 601 00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:26,880 I got a call... 602 00:27:26,920 --> 00:27:29,480 from one of the ladies that used to work for him. 603 00:27:29,519 --> 00:27:31,680 She said, "Have you heard the news?" 604 00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:34,000 "What news?" "Sfiso is no more." 605 00:27:35,519 --> 00:27:37,319 I just-- I... Honestly I did not believe her. 606 00:27:37,359 --> 00:27:39,440 And then, um, when I went on social media 607 00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:42,559 and I started seeing RIPs, RIPs, RIPs, 608 00:27:42,599 --> 00:27:44,440 And this when it actually dawned on me. 609 00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:46,279 You know what, he's really gone. 610 00:27:46,319 --> 00:27:47,640 - Yeah. Nonku: "Is that true?" 611 00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:48,960 Nonku: And literally, I won't lie to you, 612 00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:50,279 I took a phone-- I took my phone 613 00:27:50,319 --> 00:27:52,720 and I dialed his number. 614 00:27:52,759 --> 00:27:54,680 God gave me... 615 00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:59,839 one of the greatest chances in life, 616 00:27:59,880 --> 00:28:03,240 having to hold my husband's hand, 617 00:28:03,279 --> 00:28:05,640 take off his ring 618 00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:07,759 and watch him taking his last breath. 619 00:28:07,799 --> 00:28:09,839 The first person I was thinking of is my daughter. 620 00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:12,319 Yes, they did not have a relationship with Sfiso, 621 00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:13,599 but it was my desire. 622 00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:16,000 S-- Sfiso, we-- we were an item 623 00:28:16,039 --> 00:28:17,440 at one point, you know? 624 00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:19,359 Because we lived together, you know? 625 00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:21,000 And obviously relationship ended, 626 00:28:21,039 --> 00:28:22,680 just like any other relationship. 627 00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:25,279 But we-- we, it's like Nothile is not 628 00:28:25,319 --> 00:28:27,039 something that just happened, you know? 629 00:28:27,079 --> 00:28:28,640 So we had Nothile and I really believe 630 00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:30,759 she was conceived out of love. 631 00:28:36,799 --> 00:28:39,039 Yeah, so, I'm-- I'm just... 632 00:28:39,079 --> 00:28:41,400 Okay, it's no use obviously to just going back... 633 00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:43,680 ...what should've happened, you know? 634 00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:45,039 I think... 635 00:28:45,079 --> 00:28:47,880 ...is that Nothile has never had the chance... 636 00:28:51,079 --> 00:28:53,319 And that is what I want to do. 637 00:28:53,359 --> 00:28:55,200 I feel like I-- I owe it to her, 638 00:28:55,240 --> 00:28:57,839 I owe it to Sfiso, because... 639 00:28:57,880 --> 00:29:00,240 It was, there's never been about anything. 640 00:29:00,279 --> 00:29:01,480 It's just never been about money. 641 00:29:01,519 --> 00:29:02,839 I mean, God has blessed me, honestly. 642 00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:07,039 And, you know, for me it was for my daughter. 643 00:29:07,079 --> 00:29:09,440 Because I know for a fact that S-- Sfiso, would've loved that. 644 00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:11,440 Ayanda: Absolutely. - Sfiso loved Nothile. 645 00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:14,720 If Sfiso could hear me right now... [sighs] 646 00:29:14,759 --> 00:29:17,680 I would say, "Sfiso, I just, I don't blame you." 647 00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:21,880 I would say, "Sfiso, you're an amazing soul." 648 00:29:23,079 --> 00:29:24,640 I wish... 649 00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:27,519 life could just give you another chance. 650 00:29:27,559 --> 00:29:30,599 Just for people to see you the way that I see you. 651 00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:31,920 That you're a beautiful person. 652 00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:34,680 You're sincere, you're good-hearted. 653 00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:36,480 And you're a good man. 654 00:29:36,519 --> 00:29:38,559 As a Ncwanes, we-- we-- we... 655 00:29:38,599 --> 00:29:40,319 I'm opening my heart, 656 00:29:40,359 --> 00:29:42,160 I'm opening my arms, 657 00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:44,319 I'm opening my home for her. 658 00:29:44,359 --> 00:29:47,400 - Mm. Ayanda: Anytime. You know? 659 00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:51,240 I would love to embrace her as... 660 00:29:51,279 --> 00:29:52,720 I know he would have. 661 00:29:52,759 --> 00:29:55,039 I can never really read her... 662 00:29:55,079 --> 00:29:56,839 Honestly, but... 663 00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:59,240 at t-- this point, she seems real. 664 00:29:59,279 --> 00:30:00,640 And I really pray that she is 665 00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:02,160 because that I know that I'm genuine. 666 00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:04,200 You let me know that what you have is... 667 00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:05,480 - What you have planned. - Yeah. 668 00:30:05,519 --> 00:30:06,720 Then, maybe, we can just make that... 669 00:30:06,759 --> 00:30:08,599 The boys and I have planned 670 00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:09,839 a surprise for her. 671 00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:11,759 I won't tell you. [laughing] 672 00:30:11,799 --> 00:30:13,400 - Wow. Oh, that'll be awesome. Ayanda: Yes. 673 00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:14,640 Ayanda: Yes. - Oh, my gosh! 674 00:30:14,680 --> 00:30:16,359 So we're really planning something for her. 675 00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:17,880 - Oh! Ayanda: Yeah. 676 00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:19,240 Yeah. 677 00:30:19,279 --> 00:30:20,839 Nonku: She's gonna be so thrilled. 678 00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:22,519 - I can't wait. Nonku: Yeah. 679 00:30:22,559 --> 00:30:25,160 After the conversation... 680 00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:27,240 are we going to be friends? 681 00:30:27,279 --> 00:30:29,000 I don't know. 682 00:30:29,039 --> 00:30:30,480 Relationship... 683 00:30:32,599 --> 00:30:36,039 Maybe where our kids are concerned... 684 00:30:36,079 --> 00:30:38,039 Oh, I think too much. 685 00:30:40,039 --> 00:30:42,079 But one thing that I know 686 00:30:42,119 --> 00:30:44,960 is that she loves clothes. 687 00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:46,240 I like clothes. 688 00:30:46,279 --> 00:30:49,400 And we drive the same car. 689 00:30:50,079 --> 00:30:51,440 Um... 690 00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:55,079 We, we're born in the same month. 691 00:30:55,119 --> 00:30:56,680 Six days apart. 692 00:30:56,720 --> 00:30:58,440 [chuckles] There's quite... 693 00:30:58,480 --> 00:31:00,720 [laughing] There's quite... 694 00:31:00,759 --> 00:31:03,400 couple of things in common. 695 00:31:03,440 --> 00:31:04,759 You know? 696 00:31:04,799 --> 00:31:07,519 And we both loved same man. 697 00:31:07,559 --> 00:31:10,039 Right? [laughing] 698 00:31:10,079 --> 00:31:12,039 [instrumental music] 699 00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:15,519 [line ringing] 700 00:31:16,799 --> 00:31:18,599 So I'm very nervous making this call 701 00:31:18,640 --> 00:31:20,200 to Ayanda to invite her. 702 00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:22,519 You know, because she's Very churchified 703 00:31:22,559 --> 00:31:25,640 and dignified, and like the queen. 704 00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:28,279 So, I'm not, I'm not sure. 705 00:31:28,319 --> 00:31:29,640 Ayanda: Hi, Annie! 706 00:31:29,680 --> 00:31:31,720 Hi, Ayanda. How are you? 707 00:31:31,759 --> 00:31:33,599 Ayanda: I'm good, sweetheart. How are you? 708 00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:36,960 Annie: I'm great. Thank you so much for asking. 709 00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:41,079 I'm calling you to invite you to my bridal shower. 710 00:31:41,119 --> 00:31:43,000 Ayanda: Oh! Okay. 711 00:31:43,039 --> 00:31:44,039 Annie: Uh-huh. Uh-huh. 712 00:31:44,079 --> 00:31:45,839 I do have a theme. 713 00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:48,079 And are you ready for it? [laughing] 714 00:31:48,119 --> 00:31:49,319 Ayanda: Oh. 715 00:31:49,359 --> 00:31:51,480 [speaking foreign language] 716 00:31:53,559 --> 00:31:57,119 Okay. So, the theme is, Cagey... 717 00:31:57,160 --> 00:31:58,920 Is Bad Bitches Only. 718 00:32:00,279 --> 00:32:02,440 Ayanda: Ooh! 719 00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:03,880 Ayanda: Okay. Annie: Yeah. 720 00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:05,839 I'm not a bad bitch. 721 00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:08,279 Ayanda: Thank you, Annie. I'm definitely coming, my angel. 722 00:32:08,319 --> 00:32:09,960 - Okay. Ayanda: Thank you, sweetheart. 723 00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:11,039 Annie: Sure, thank you. 724 00:32:11,079 --> 00:32:13,039 I don't know how... 725 00:32:13,079 --> 00:32:14,480 the other girls think of me. 726 00:32:14,519 --> 00:32:17,720 but I want them to experience the Madame. 727 00:32:17,759 --> 00:32:19,680 [upbeat music] 728 00:32:21,359 --> 00:32:25,200 So, today I'm at a cafe in Cliff. 729 00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:27,400 And I'm meeting with Mabusi. 730 00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:29,640 I'm Mabusi Seme. 731 00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:31,599 From, originally from Lamar Ville, 732 00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:33,319 born and bred in Durban. 733 00:32:33,359 --> 00:32:35,559 Currently I'm owning a-- a -- a-- 734 00:32:35,599 --> 00:32:37,839 Yoni Intimate Steaming business. 735 00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:40,640 And, uh, Glam Fab House Of Fashion wear, I do retail. 736 00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:42,039 It's all retail business. 737 00:32:42,079 --> 00:32:45,119 Then I received a text, and it's from Annie. 738 00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:47,039 And she's inviting me to her bridal shower. 739 00:32:47,079 --> 00:32:50,039 - Hey, darling. Finally. - Hello, darling. Hey! 740 00:32:50,079 --> 00:32:51,160 - Hi, my friend. - Hi! 741 00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:52,920 I meant Nonku through a friend. 742 00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:54,920 Oh, thank you so much. Oh, you ordered a mimosa for me. 743 00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:56,200 - Mm. I know you, sister. - Oh, my gosh. 744 00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:57,640 You know me so well. 745 00:32:57,680 --> 00:33:00,359 I love my mimosas. Something to have in the morning. 746 00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:03,000 - It's allowed in the morning. - What are you busy with? 747 00:33:03,039 --> 00:33:04,240 At the moment I'm doing fashion. 748 00:33:04,279 --> 00:33:05,640 Oh, wow. 749 00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:08,160 I'm doing hair and I'm doing, um, yoni. 750 00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:10,799 - Yoni Intimate Steaming. - Oh, I have heard about Yoni. 751 00:33:10,839 --> 00:33:12,319 - [laughing] - It's a story for another day. 752 00:33:12,359 --> 00:33:14,200 Yeah, I suppose. 753 00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:16,079 Why do you need yoni steaming? 754 00:33:16,119 --> 00:33:18,240 That thing cleanse itself most. 755 00:33:18,279 --> 00:33:19,559 I wanted to invite you 756 00:33:19,599 --> 00:33:21,039 two events that are coming up. 757 00:33:21,079 --> 00:33:22,240 - One is mine. - Mm-hmm. 758 00:33:22,279 --> 00:33:23,839 I've got a wine launch that I'm doing. 759 00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:25,440 - Wow! - And I know it's just-- 760 00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:27,519 - Your own? Your brand? - My own brand, yeah. 761 00:33:27,559 --> 00:33:29,400 Congratulations. That's big, yeah? 762 00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:31,519 And then another one. I need a plus one. 763 00:33:31,559 --> 00:33:33,039 - That I'm invited to. - Mm-hm. 764 00:33:33,079 --> 00:33:35,000 - Bridal shower. - Mm-hm. 765 00:33:36,119 --> 00:33:38,119 Bad Bitches Only. 766 00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:39,519 What does that even mean? 767 00:33:39,559 --> 00:33:40,960 What does one wear? 768 00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:43,279 It's in one of the clubs, um... 769 00:33:44,519 --> 00:33:45,960 - In the club? - It-- It's Rich. 770 00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:47,480 I've never been to a club. 771 00:33:47,519 --> 00:33:49,039 Oh, my God. 772 00:33:49,079 --> 00:33:50,640 Are you kidding me? Okay. 773 00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:53,599 I only went to a club once in my life when I was in Miami. 774 00:33:54,680 --> 00:33:57,640 Only time when I was turning 40. 775 00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:01,599 Before then, after that, never. It's not my thing. 776 00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:02,920 What's happening? Anyone in your life? 777 00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:06,400 - Complicated. - [chuckles] Entanglement. 778 00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:08,519 - [laughing] - That's what they say, yeah? 779 00:34:08,559 --> 00:34:10,880 I think entanglement is even better. 780 00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:12,239 Is it? It compli... 781 00:34:12,280 --> 00:34:13,679 - It's complicated. - Oh, my gosh! 782 00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:15,760 - So there is somebody-- - I don't wanna talk about him. 783 00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:19,000 At this staged 'cause I don't know, I don't know what I think. 784 00:34:19,039 --> 00:34:21,000 It's complicated. 785 00:34:21,039 --> 00:34:24,280 Until I am ready to give more information. 786 00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:26,280 [laughing] 787 00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:28,239 And then what happened to your boyfriend? 788 00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:29,559 The one that your always heading, 789 00:34:29,599 --> 00:34:30,840 uh, holding with in town. 790 00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:32,400 I actually, I was actually in Cape... 791 00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:33,639 Because he stays in Cape Town. 792 00:34:33,679 --> 00:34:36,639 I was actually in Cape Town... So... 793 00:34:36,679 --> 00:34:39,000 and I was like, "Oh, let's get out, you know? 794 00:34:39,039 --> 00:34:40,440 That's nice. 795 00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:42,440 We talked about, about... We used to be loved... 796 00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:44,400 She is always there... 797 00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:45,639 a-- a-- around that guy. 798 00:34:45,679 --> 00:34:48,000 Every day. They might be... 799 00:34:48,039 --> 00:34:49,039 Strong! 800 00:34:49,079 --> 00:34:50,039 'Cause he's also been married. 801 00:34:50,079 --> 00:34:51,360 - He's divorced. - Mm. 802 00:34:51,400 --> 00:34:52,599 But he's not my type at all. 803 00:34:52,639 --> 00:34:54,000 - 'Cause he's not my type. - Anymore? 804 00:34:54,039 --> 00:34:56,320 - No. - Ha-ha-ha. 805 00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:57,639 Sorry, I got sick of that. 806 00:34:57,679 --> 00:35:01,119 It's outdated, guys. No, I mean, I'm sorry. 807 00:35:01,159 --> 00:35:02,599 I'm so sorry. 808 00:35:02,639 --> 00:35:04,000 Me? I can't even date a guy... 809 00:35:04,039 --> 00:35:07,280 I rather you not wear labels than the Levi's. 810 00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:12,559 - Oh, my gosh! Gosh! - You can correct that. 811 00:35:12,599 --> 00:35:14,360 Can I not talk about Levi, please? 812 00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:16,519 [laughing] Honestly. 813 00:35:16,559 --> 00:35:18,679 It's like, I'm done. 814 00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:21,639 Hello? 815 00:35:21,679 --> 00:35:23,960 L-- like, you guys dated long. 816 00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:26,559 - I know. Mabusi: He was still dying... 817 00:35:26,599 --> 00:35:28,519 He was still... Cheers. 818 00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:31,199 Female narrator: Coming up on "The Real 819 00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:32,880 Housewives of Durban..." 820 00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:34,239 Nonku: Hi, Annie. 821 00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:37,199 We are coming to pick you up. 822 00:35:37,239 --> 00:35:38,239 Did we discuss this? 823 00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:39,440 Was this part of the plan? 824 00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:41,400 Y'all hijacking my things now. 825 00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:42,880 I invited you. 826 00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:48,400 [upbeat music] 827 00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:57,400 Today I'm meeting with my girl Sorisha. 828 00:35:57,440 --> 00:35:59,880 We catching up after... 829 00:35:59,920 --> 00:36:00,880 that gym session. 830 00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:02,960 When I saw that little wins there, 831 00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:05,239 so I know you're struggling like I am 832 00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:06,440 with your thighs, right? 833 00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:08,239 Let me tell you something, Sorisha. 834 00:36:08,280 --> 00:36:10,679 Walking down the stairs is a nightmare. 835 00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:12,280 Sorisha: Me too. - I swear. 836 00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:13,840 I thought I was fit, but clearly, 837 00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:15,280 you know, I haven't done lunge-- 838 00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:17,719 Ayanda: I'm definitely not fit. But, wow. 839 00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:20,280 But I felt like we had to do extra because of you. 840 00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:23,079 And then I was like, "Oh, and we're doing what?" 841 00:36:23,119 --> 00:36:24,519 [laughing] 842 00:36:24,559 --> 00:36:26,440 We're chatting and we're chatting about everything, 843 00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:28,480 about our kids, our lives and all of that, 844 00:36:28,519 --> 00:36:30,559 everything except why I called her. 845 00:36:30,599 --> 00:36:33,000 Doll, I wanted to ask you and I-- I feel so bad 846 00:36:33,039 --> 00:36:34,280 not catching up with you 847 00:36:34,320 --> 00:36:37,000 with regards to, you know, your meeting with Nonku. 848 00:36:37,039 --> 00:36:38,440 Did you guys meet yet? 849 00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:39,599 Oh, yeah, we did. 850 00:36:39,639 --> 00:36:41,239 Sorisha: Wow! - Yeah. 851 00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:43,400 It is not difficult because... 852 00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:45,280 I knew about Nothile when, uh, 853 00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:47,760 her mom was six months pregnant. 854 00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:49,039 How did it go? 855 00:36:49,079 --> 00:36:51,719 - It went really, really well. - Wow. 856 00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:53,760 And, you know, uh, I always say, 857 00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:56,119 uh, "Timing is everything," Sorisha. 858 00:36:56,159 --> 00:37:00,079 You know? Had we forced this thing somehow... 859 00:37:00,119 --> 00:37:01,679 um... 860 00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:04,079 maybe it wasn't going to come up. 861 00:37:04,119 --> 00:37:07,880 And be so smooth, the transitioning as it is. 862 00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:10,679 Because Sfiso did tell me that, 863 00:37:10,719 --> 00:37:13,719 um, even though we're apart during the time, 864 00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:17,199 but he did tell me because he was kind of like 865 00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:20,679 trying to mend a relationship, our relationship... 866 00:37:20,719 --> 00:37:23,280 So, he-- he actually had to tell me 867 00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:25,920 and soon after that they broke up. 868 00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:28,760 So, you know, I, we have a surprise for her. 869 00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:31,159 - Yeah. - Uh... [stammering] 870 00:37:31,199 --> 00:37:32,679 - Oh, really? - Nothile. Yes. 871 00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:36,480 The boys and I, um, are coming up with a surprise. 872 00:37:36,519 --> 00:37:39,400 We are actually, my brother is an artist. 873 00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:40,800 Sorisha: Yes. - Yeah. 874 00:37:40,840 --> 00:37:42,960 We are creating a portrait... 875 00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:46,320 Sorisha: Oh! - Of, yes, my husband. 876 00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:48,239 - And her. - Yeah. [gasps] No! 877 00:37:48,280 --> 00:37:49,599 Yes. 878 00:37:49,639 --> 00:37:51,599 Okay, you do, how many surprises do you have? 879 00:37:51,639 --> 00:37:54,079 'Cause this is amazing. 880 00:37:54,119 --> 00:37:56,079 She's embraced her journey, 881 00:37:56,119 --> 00:37:58,320 she's embraced, um... 882 00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:01,519 the actions of Sfiso and that for me is, 883 00:38:01,559 --> 00:38:03,599 you know, it's like when you make peace in your life, 884 00:38:03,639 --> 00:38:06,639 and you say, you know, this is how it is, this is, 885 00:38:06,679 --> 00:38:08,719 I cannot change it, I cannot undo it. 886 00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:11,199 That's how she's doing it. So she has accepted it. 887 00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:13,679 I thought, you know what, she's a teenager. 888 00:38:13,719 --> 00:38:15,800 - I need to be extra careful... - Yes. 889 00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:19,440 With how I react into the whole situation. 890 00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:22,239 I really hope Nothile and I have 891 00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:25,280 the healthy relationship. 892 00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:27,079 Well... 893 00:38:27,119 --> 00:38:28,480 she is a girl. 894 00:38:28,519 --> 00:38:31,719 So, I know I relate very, very well with girls. 895 00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:34,199 So, yeah, I'm looking forward to it. 896 00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:36,440 You guys rock. You and Nonku. 897 00:38:36,480 --> 00:38:38,320 Amazing blessings to you both 898 00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:39,679 on this new journey together 899 00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:42,480 because it's just what you've accomplished 900 00:38:42,519 --> 00:38:45,559 women try to do over many, many years. 901 00:38:45,599 --> 00:38:48,840 So you guys got it right the first time and, you know, 902 00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:51,480 to, to each of you the spoils. 903 00:38:51,519 --> 00:38:53,280 You know, this is your victory. 904 00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:54,719 Absolutely. I believe so. 905 00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:56,880 What an exemplary example to all the other women 906 00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:58,880 including myself sitting at the table as well. 907 00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:01,239 So that's what I-- I really, I really admired you guys. 908 00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:03,880 - Thank you. Thank you Sorisha. Sorisha: It was amazing. 909 00:39:03,920 --> 00:39:05,559 Can we cheers to that, please? Even with your tea. 910 00:39:05,599 --> 00:39:07,559 Ayanda: Let's cheers to that. 911 00:39:07,599 --> 00:39:09,599 - Cheers, doll. - Cheers to you. 912 00:39:09,639 --> 00:39:11,519 Cheers to the situation, right? 913 00:39:11,559 --> 00:39:13,480 - Mm. - [laughing] 914 00:39:13,519 --> 00:39:15,639 [instrumental music] 915 00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:19,480 Hey, Limca. How are you? 916 00:39:19,519 --> 00:39:21,320 Limca: Fabulous. - You fabulous. 917 00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:22,639 Okay, um... 918 00:39:22,679 --> 00:39:24,519 I wanted to find out 919 00:39:24,559 --> 00:39:26,360 is the setup and everything done there? 920 00:39:26,400 --> 00:39:27,719 Limca: The setup and everything is done. 921 00:39:27,760 --> 00:39:29,679 So, today is the day of my... 922 00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:32,679 * Bridal shower ** 923 00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:36,519 How to I make Annie's bridal shower 924 00:39:36,559 --> 00:39:38,599 a bit more special? 925 00:39:38,639 --> 00:39:41,480 Especially for all the ladies. 926 00:39:41,519 --> 00:39:45,119 So I'm thinking, "Oh, let's get a limo," you know? 927 00:39:45,159 --> 00:39:48,199 Since Annie is on the finer things of life, 928 00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:49,679 you know, let's get a limo 929 00:39:49,719 --> 00:39:52,039 and I organized a limo. 930 00:39:52,079 --> 00:39:54,679 - What are you wearing today? - I'm wearing gold. 931 00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:56,079 Woman: You like gold? I thought you like pink. 932 00:39:56,119 --> 00:39:58,960 Annie: I like pink, but I do love a good gold. 933 00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:00,159 Now and then. 934 00:40:00,199 --> 00:40:02,599 Just to be like molten gold. 935 00:40:02,639 --> 00:40:05,599 I think most people would go with like a black 936 00:40:05,639 --> 00:40:08,400 for this theme because black is like a little bit bad. 937 00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:10,840 And, you know, but I'm going in gold 938 00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:13,920 because gold is sexy and it's, 939 00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:15,880 you know, expensive 940 00:40:15,920 --> 00:40:18,920 and... cute and classy. 941 00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:21,920 [instrumental music] 942 00:40:28,639 --> 00:40:30,400 So, it's Annie's bridal shower. 943 00:40:30,440 --> 00:40:32,599 So exciting 'cause I cannot 944 00:40:32,639 --> 00:40:35,000 remember the last time I was at a bridal shower. 945 00:40:35,039 --> 00:40:38,239 We're gonna go pick Annie up and... 946 00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:39,519 Hi, Ayanda. 947 00:40:39,559 --> 00:40:43,079 - Look at you. Hey! Sorisha: Very nice. 948 00:40:43,119 --> 00:40:46,320 And you're supposed to my... 949 00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:48,639 Ayanda is always so churchy... 950 00:40:48,679 --> 00:40:52,079 in the way she dresses, so it was so nice to see her 951 00:40:52,119 --> 00:40:53,559 on another kinda vibe. 952 00:40:53,599 --> 00:40:54,599 Oh, you have leathers on? 953 00:40:54,639 --> 00:40:57,000 Yes. Look, we all in sync, guys. 954 00:40:57,039 --> 00:40:58,039 Matchy, matchy. 955 00:40:58,079 --> 00:40:59,960 Thank God, I'm like still with it. 956 00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:01,760 Okay, I'm still, yeah, I'm still relevant. 957 00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:03,960 - We do a leg. - Look at that. 958 00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:05,519 [all laughing] 959 00:41:05,559 --> 00:41:07,920 - Yes, baby. Yes. - Yes. 960 00:41:07,960 --> 00:41:09,639 Whoa! 961 00:41:09,679 --> 00:41:12,559 Hey... Check. 962 00:41:12,599 --> 00:41:14,400 I'm not even looking at your face 963 00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:15,880 because that bra is like... 964 00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:18,480 Do you like the bra? See, it's not even like real stud. 965 00:41:18,519 --> 00:41:19,880 So you can make out in this. 966 00:41:19,920 --> 00:41:21,280 [laughing] 967 00:41:21,320 --> 00:41:22,880 You're safe. You're safe. 968 00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:24,199 Only Sorisha. 969 00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:25,679 [laughing] 970 00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:28,679 It's gonna be a struggle a little bit. 971 00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:31,000 Yeah, it's downhill from here literally. 972 00:41:31,039 --> 00:41:33,039 [laughing] 973 00:41:33,079 --> 00:41:34,840 [indistinct chatter] 974 00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:36,880 [laughing] Okay. 975 00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:39,760 - Take my hand. Here we go. - Yes. Yes. 976 00:41:39,800 --> 00:41:41,519 [laughing] 977 00:41:41,559 --> 00:41:43,679 [instrumental music] 978 00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:46,880 [women cheering] 979 00:41:50,519 --> 00:41:53,719 It's pink everywhere, you know? Um... 980 00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:57,760 a mini, um... 981 00:41:57,800 --> 00:41:59,000 Las Vegas. 982 00:41:59,039 --> 00:42:00,840 Well done. 983 00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:03,599 - Are you guys happy? - This is amazing, yeah. 984 00:42:03,639 --> 00:42:06,239 I hope she's gonna love it. [laughing] 985 00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:08,360 [upbeat music] 986 00:42:10,599 --> 00:42:14,079 Oh, so did you not fully prepare all the props? 987 00:42:14,119 --> 00:42:16,440 [indistinct] Prepared, dolly. 988 00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:18,840 - You know? - The eyes are still odd. 989 00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:20,519 [laughing] 990 00:42:20,559 --> 00:42:22,679 [indistinct chatter] 991 00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:35,840 Yes, it is. 992 00:42:35,880 --> 00:42:37,679 Yes, it is, it looks stunning, hey? 993 00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:39,719 - Fairy lights. - Oh, Annie's gonna love that. 994 00:42:39,760 --> 00:42:42,280 - She is. - And this disco ball. 995 00:42:42,320 --> 00:42:43,320 - It's gorgeous. - I love it. 996 00:42:43,360 --> 00:42:46,119 Look at the balloons. 997 00:42:46,159 --> 00:42:47,599 She's gonna love it. 998 00:42:47,639 --> 00:42:49,079 - They're gorgeous. - It's gonna be a good night. 999 00:42:49,119 --> 00:42:50,199 - Yeah. - Yeah. 1000 00:42:50,239 --> 00:42:52,079 - Annie. Yeah? Annie: Yeah. 1001 00:42:52,119 --> 00:42:55,679 I'm saying I'm coming to pick you up, my doll. 1002 00:42:55,719 --> 00:42:58,840 We're going to your bachelorette. 1003 00:42:58,880 --> 00:43:00,360 Um... 1004 00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:01,880 Did we discuss this? 1005 00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:03,079 Was this... 1006 00:43:03,119 --> 00:43:04,239 was this part of the plan? 1007 00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:06,119 Y'all hijacking my things now. 1008 00:43:06,159 --> 00:43:08,199 I invited you. What? 1009 00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:09,840 Okay. 1010 00:43:11,199 --> 00:43:13,079 Ooh. Ok-rrr. 1011 00:43:14,320 --> 00:43:17,880 - [screams] - Look at you. Whoa. 1012 00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:19,800 Oh, my gosh. 1013 00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:22,039 A limo. Okay. 1014 00:43:22,079 --> 00:43:23,239 Let me tell you something. 1015 00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:25,519 I am not a big limo fan. 1016 00:43:25,559 --> 00:43:28,880 - Hey! - Ooh! Ciao, ciao, ciao. 1017 00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:30,400 How are you? 1018 00:43:30,440 --> 00:43:32,239 Oh, my God! 1019 00:43:32,280 --> 00:43:35,360 [instrumental music] 1020 00:43:37,880 --> 00:43:39,599 Anne: So I arrived at the venue 1021 00:43:39,639 --> 00:43:42,679 with Ayanda, Sorisha and Kgomotso. 1022 00:43:42,719 --> 00:43:45,039 And we were vibing in the car. 1023 00:43:45,079 --> 00:43:47,400 So we are in the right mindset and we know 1024 00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:49,159 that it's about to go down. 1025 00:43:49,199 --> 00:43:51,320 [upbeat music] 1026 00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:55,519 [cheering] 1027 00:44:01,559 --> 00:44:04,800 Sexiness is... It's me. 1028 00:44:04,840 --> 00:44:07,159 Like, so I just know whenever I have to rock up 1029 00:44:07,199 --> 00:44:09,480 up, I have to look sexy and show some cleaves, 1030 00:44:09,519 --> 00:44:11,320 just show some booty, 1031 00:44:11,360 --> 00:44:13,320 whatever it is, just look fab. 1032 00:44:13,360 --> 00:44:16,639 - Oh, look at you, my darling. - Muah! 1033 00:44:16,679 --> 00:44:19,000 And the rest of the ladies, they came to party, 1034 00:44:19,039 --> 00:44:20,239 even Sorisha. 1035 00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:21,519 Oh, my gosh! 1036 00:44:21,559 --> 00:44:24,960 - Thank you, thank you. - Darling, look at you. 1037 00:44:25,000 --> 00:44:26,960 Why would you come in a fur jacket? 1038 00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:31,119 - Hi, Mabusi. - Hi, darling. 1039 00:44:31,159 --> 00:44:32,840 Yo, guys. 1040 00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:34,679 Shame. I'm sure she was boiling. 1041 00:44:34,719 --> 00:44:36,280 Ladies, I would like to welcome you 1042 00:44:36,320 --> 00:44:39,159 to Annie's bridal shower. 1043 00:44:39,199 --> 00:44:41,440 Okay, for those that do not know me, I go by the name 1044 00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:43,960 of Limca Fabulous aka the Zulu Bass Queen, 1045 00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:46,480 and I will be your host for today. 1046 00:44:46,519 --> 00:44:48,679 So my best friend, her name is Limca Fabulous, 1047 00:44:48,719 --> 00:44:51,440 and we have been friends for nine years? 1048 00:44:51,480 --> 00:44:52,880 Could be nine years. 1049 00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:54,920 Mabusi: What is the theme? - The theme is... 1050 00:44:54,960 --> 00:44:57,960 Baddy, baddy, baddy... 1051 00:44:58,000 --> 00:44:59,800 She's not looking like a bad bitch. 1052 00:44:59,840 --> 00:45:01,679 But now I don't understand why 1053 00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:03,960 we had to look like bad bitches ugly. 1054 00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:07,480 Maybe we were the bad bitches. Who knows? 1055 00:45:07,519 --> 00:45:09,599 Okay, Annie, you're going to train us... 1056 00:45:09,639 --> 00:45:11,079 No, about twerking. 1057 00:45:11,119 --> 00:45:14,280 Yeah, she must... So you just get into this cage, 1058 00:45:14,320 --> 00:45:17,480 th-- the Sasha Fierce will come into you as you enter. 1059 00:45:17,519 --> 00:45:18,679 The what? 1060 00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:21,519 - The Sasha Fierce. - The Beyonce. 1061 00:45:21,559 --> 00:45:23,199 - Can you-- can you start-- Annie: No, no. 1062 00:45:23,239 --> 00:45:25,599 I'm not demonstrating. 1063 00:45:25,639 --> 00:45:27,840 No, but you have to teach me. I mean... 1064 00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:31,360 I've never even been in this cage myself. 1065 00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:33,079 You said you were in it, like-- 1066 00:45:33,119 --> 00:45:35,239 No, guys, guys, guys. 1067 00:45:35,280 --> 00:45:37,360 [overlapping chatter] 1068 00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:40,480 I didn't say I was in a cage. 1069 00:45:40,519 --> 00:45:42,920 Annie, honey, let me remind you. 1070 00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:45,880 - 2014, what happened? - Okay, wait. 1071 00:45:45,920 --> 00:45:47,400 Let me explain to you. 1072 00:45:47,440 --> 00:45:49,639 This cage was not here in 2014. 1073 00:45:49,679 --> 00:45:50,840 - Yes. Mm-hmm. Annie: Remember when. 1074 00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:53,039 Annie: Okay? I was just a dancer. 1075 00:45:53,079 --> 00:45:55,000 Here in this club in 2014. 1076 00:45:55,039 --> 00:45:56,480 - Where did you dance? Annie: I used to be a dancer. 1077 00:45:56,519 --> 00:45:58,559 - Where did you dance? - On the table? 1078 00:45:58,599 --> 00:46:01,079 They used to have a podium, actually here. 1079 00:46:01,119 --> 00:46:04,559 This was not to stage before, so there was like a podium here, 1080 00:46:04,599 --> 00:46:06,639 and then I would dance in the podium... 1081 00:46:06,679 --> 00:46:09,679 [exhales deeply] Wow! 1082 00:46:09,719 --> 00:46:10,920 Who would have ever thought. 1083 00:46:10,960 --> 00:46:13,079 Makes sense though. I understand. 1084 00:46:14,920 --> 00:46:16,320 Female narrator: Next on "The Real 1085 00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:18,079 Housewives of Durban..." 1086 00:46:18,119 --> 00:46:21,079 [cheering] 1087 00:46:22,559 --> 00:46:25,119 I am not going to stand up and dance. 1088 00:46:25,159 --> 00:46:28,039 [speaking in foreign language] My name is Ayanda Ncwane. 1089 00:46:28,079 --> 00:46:29,920 [speaking in foreign language] Is it an event or what? 1090 00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:34,199 No, no. I decided that it should be intimate. Just us. 1091 00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:35,679 I don't think it's the space 1092 00:46:35,719 --> 00:46:37,599 for that sort of conversation. 1093 00:46:37,639 --> 00:46:39,840 Some of us single ladies, we are letting go... 1094 00:46:39,880 --> 00:46:42,320 Ooh, Ayanda's love speeches. Yo. 1095 00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:45,480 [upbeat music] 1096 00:46:47,199 --> 00:46:49,320 Who does that? I mean, like... 1097 00:46:55,519 --> 00:46:57,159 Oh... wait. 1098 00:46:57,199 --> 00:46:58,360 I'm not, what? 1099 00:47:01,599 --> 00:47:03,079 [upbeat music]