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[man] When you go to prison,
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everybody has their titles and stuff
for themselves or other people.
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People look at, like, an aggravated
stalking charge and they laugh about it.
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They're like, "Oh, you're a stalker?
Like, pfft! What kind of shit is that?"
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"You're in the bushes
with the binoculars?"
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"No, like…"
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And I could see where some people,
that is the case, you know, but…
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Everybody's situation is different.
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So, to people I don't know, I just--
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I-- I try to laugh it off.
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Because for me, it brings up a lot of hurt
and hard feelings,
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and it brings up all the trauma
that Rachel and I went through.
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[woman] The only thing
that I want clear is…
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I might have empathy for John,
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but what he did to me,
I will never forgive him for.
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Just because I understand it,
doesn't mean I have to accept it.
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I don't accept it.
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[sniffles]
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[man 1] I'd rather be considered
a murderer than a stalker,
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you know what I mean?
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[woman] I wanted the intensity of,
like, of her feeling watched.
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[man 2] Anybody could be a stalker.
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[man 3] It's all boogeyman talk.
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[man 4] I'm not still that crazy.
Like-- [chuckles]
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[Anderson] The stalking thing kind of
boils down for me as an abandonment issue.
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I get hung up on a person
because I felt abandoned by them.
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It makes me just want
to cling on to them more.
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Then I get angry about it and it's like,
"Well, you love me, you should be here."
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It's anger from being hurt.
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And looking back, I can say
that was the start of problems
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that led me to the situation I'm in now.
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I'm John R. Anderson III.
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I'm incarcerated
at Hill Correction Facility.
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I've been charged
with aggravated stalking.
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[gentle guitar music playing]
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I grew up in the country.
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My dad taught me how to hunt, fish.
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I was good in school, played sports,
played baseball a lot.
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I think I've always steered towards
having a serious relationship.
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Even when I first started having
girlfriends in middle school
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and early years in high school,
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I was always gettin' flowers
or makin' little mix tapes.
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I was always more… serious. It wasn't
like, "We're just hanging out for fun."
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It was like, "Is there a connection?
Some kind of little intimacy?"
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I'm one of those people. From the start,
I can tell if I'm gonna like you or not,
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and Rachel and I, we just clicked.
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Like, I don't know.
We were two peas in a pod.
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My name is Rachel.
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I met John in 2015. On a blind date.
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I was working, like,
three jobs at the time
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and I was raising my son by myself.
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So I wasn't interested in
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any kind of relationship, really.
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John's very funny and very witty, and…
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at that point in time,
he had a Harley-Davidson motorcycle.
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He was, like, my type of man.
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And I always told him
that it was his green eyes that…
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got me that very first night.
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It's not something
that we just jumped into.
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We were gonna take this slow,
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because I wanted to get to know
the person before,
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like, bringing my son into the situation.
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There was a lot of give and take
in the beginning,
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because he's a diesel mechanic,
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so he worked six days a week,
ten-hour days.
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He was always going out with his friends,
and was always around girls,
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and his friends were always trying
to get him to party all the time.
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I didn't know that he was drinking
all the time.
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I just thought that
it was a weekend type of thing.
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I didn't do that.
I worked and went home to my kid.
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But he was always good with Gauge.
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Like, Gauge looked at him
like he was his father.
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Gauge was just an infectious child.
Like, he…
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He was my little rock star, you know?
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He-- I gave him a little Mohawk,
and he'd throw up the little rock horns
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and he'd ride on my Harley with me.
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And it was great, but…
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I'd have Gauge with me,
and people would say things to me.
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"Who's that kid you got with you, John?"
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For me, at first, it mattered.
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But the more that I fell in love
with Gauge, like,
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the more it became irritating.
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Like, "This is my kid.
What are you talking about?"
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[Rachel] It was one of those relationships
where if I was chasing John,
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he was backing off.
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And if he was chasing me,
I was backing off.
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So as soon as I'd tell him,
"Okay, I'm done,"
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he'd be at my door at 11 o'clock at night,
telling me how sorry he was.
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But we were just so…
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I don't know, in…
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dumb love, I guess.
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We stayed together
through all of that and then…
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I found out I was pregnant.
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[birdsong]
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At that time, we were looking
at moving to Arkansas.
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His uncle lives in Arkansas,
so we went to go visit him.
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It is just a beautiful place,
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and so we started looking
for houses down there.
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[Rachel] After Jax was born,
we were going down to Arkansas,
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staying there at his uncle's house,
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just trying to complete the contract with
the lady that was selling us the house.
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And Jax was only four months old
when Gauge died.
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[birdsong]
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[Anderson] To this day, I don't have
an answer what happened.
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There was a storm,
and some trees had blown over.
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We were usin' the loader tractor
to move the trees
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off the fence on the horse pasture.
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Gauge was helpin' me.
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He, um… he fell off the tractor,
and I accidentally ran him over.
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Uh…
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Rachel was there when it happened.
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She was just up at the house,
and she came down and she was holding him.
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She could still feel his heartbeat
and stuff.
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We just couldn't get the ambulance there
fast enough
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and we couldn't get him to the hospital
fast enough.
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Uh…
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So Gauge-- Gauge isn't no more with us.
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She knows I'm a very careful,
safe kind of person. Um…
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I've been a diesel mechanic my whole life.
I've been around tractors, ag equipment,
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combines, construction equipment.
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So, like, she knows it wasn't a matter of
me bein' reckless or-- or doin' anything…
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unsafe with him on the tractor.
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But instantly…
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I-- I felt responsible and guilty,
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and, you know, I felt like
I just killed my son.
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We, uh…
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We lost our child.
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And…
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[sniffles]
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And both of us became different people.
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After Gauge died, I, um…
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I turned into, like, a shell of a person.
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It's very difficult to explain,
I guess. Um…
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[sniffles]
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I didn't wanna do anything.
I didn't wanna eat, I didn't wanna…
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I couldn't hold Jax at all.
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I think he could just feel
how heartbroken I was.
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[sniffles]
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Because he would scream, I mean…
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So John had to take on
all of that responsibility
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for a four-month-old child and me,
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because I couldn't do it.
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[sniffles]
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He really did try before he fell apart.
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[Rachel] John was working
for the first, I think, year.
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And it got to a point where
he wasn't getting enough jobs
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to be able to support us.
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So I had to go get a job.
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John then started to find friends,
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and those friends were doing drugs.
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He was starting to smoke--
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I don't know if it was crack first
or meth.
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And I'd sit there and watch him do it.
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I understood why he was trying
to numb the pain.
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The guilt of… he could have prevented
the accident.
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That's a lot for somebody to have to…
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deal with.
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[Anderson] My addiction
really kicked into overdrive.
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I was usin' meth,
and I was… I was bad on meth.
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I'd never experienced nothin' like it. I--
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I, uh…
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I was hallucinating things, and…
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I couldn't… I couldn't close my eyes
without seeing his face.
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[breathing shakily] Um…
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Poor Rachel, she just-- she shut down.
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She didn't-- She just-- She shut down.
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And we went on like this
for about a year and a half.
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Neither one of us took time
to seek out help, or counseling, or…
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or anything to help work through it.
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And…
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as much as we needed each other,
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I feel like we just pushed
each other apart.
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[Rachel] When they say
things can't get worse in your life,
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well, they really can.
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With me not being able to function,
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I guess I wasn't giving him
what he needed.
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So he found a girl
that worked at the docks on the lake.
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And…
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cheated on me with her.
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I think she was 19 years old.
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And at that time, John was 35.
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She was very young.
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And I told him that he wasn't gonna
ruin our family, that we can fix it.
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And that was the first time he hit me.
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He hit me across the face so hard
that I hit the floor,
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and then he took my keys
and left for the night.
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At this point, John was seeing
and hearing people
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because he was strung out on meth.
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He'd go to the bathroom or something,
and he would leave his phone on record.
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And he would listen to the recordings,
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and scream at me and yell at me
that I was cheating on him
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when it was the TV that was talking.
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After that, it just got worse.
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[heavy string music playing]
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[Rachel] It was my birthday that he swore
he heard a man's voice in the garage.
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He picked me up in the kitchen
by my neck,
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drug me down the hall,
and threw me on the bed…
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and proceeded to hit me in my ribs,
my chest, my legs, and my head.
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And choked me to the point
where I threw up.
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It was that moment where I knew
that I just had to get away from him.
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That he wasn't gonna change.
He wasn't gonna get any better.
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I just made my mind up,
and I couldn't stay another second.
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[ethereal music playing]
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[Rachel] I felt a sense of relief
on the eight-hour drive to Illinois…
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knowing that I wasn't gonna
have to deal with him.
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[Anderson] Everything that I was doin'
to Rachel after I started doin' meth,
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I felt like she was doin' it back to me,
and it wasn't true at all.
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Like, it was just my own mind
playing tricks on me.
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And…
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it ended up bringing a lot of violence
in between with Rachel and I.
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But when she left,
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I felt that I had just lost
another child and my wife.
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It was like, with all the hurt and pain
that I was carryin', that just hurt more.
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And it just-- it was so overwhelming,
I don't even know how to explain it.
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I felt betrayed, really.
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And then I became so obsessed with,
"Where's my son?"
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I would try to ask friends and family
where she went. Nobody would tell me.
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They would lie to me and tell me,
"Oh, she's-- she's somewhere down there."
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"She's safe," or whatever.
So I'm gettin' aggravated.
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Rachel won't talk to me. I'm aggravated.
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Like, she was doin' it
just to take my son from me and hurt me.
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[uneasy music playing]
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[Rachel] By that time, John had figured
out that I wasn't in Arkansas anymore.
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So he started sending me text messages.
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He was telling me that he was gonna
pour my son down the toilet
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if I didn't tell him where I was
and bring his family back to him.
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He started sending me videos of him
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pouring white ashes down the toilet.
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And of course, I freaked out
and had a panic attack.
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After he did that, I just-- There was--
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That was the end.
That was it. I got a restraining order.
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[man] For most stalking cases,
before they're called a crime,
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there has to be a protection order
in place.
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It's the first step from going
from a non-criminal behavior
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to a criminal behavior.
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My name is Ryan Williams.
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I'm an associate professor
of criminology and criminal justice
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at the University of Illinois
in Springfield.
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[Williams] Orders of protection
can be very helpful.
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It escalates the seriousness
of the offense.
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A small misdemeanor to now
automatic felony.
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So before when you drove by their work,
it was mischievous, it was problematic.
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Now it's a felony.
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But protection orders are based
on a deterrent model of behavior.
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Unfortunately, a lot of stalking behavior
is done by people
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who aren't acting rationally,
who don't have much to lose.
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Like in John's case, you can just ignore
the orders completely,
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and feel that they don't apply to you
whatsoever.
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[Williams] John exhibited
very serious behaviors
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prior, with his other relationships.
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It's someone who just won't accept
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that their behavior is harmful.
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To the point where I'm surprised
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that there weren't worse outcomes
in all of these cases.
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[man] If John can't control women,
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then anger and aggression
and all that stuff comes out.
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Each time it's escalated,
and that scares me.
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There's always a stick of dynamite
in there somewhere.
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My name is Rick Anderson,
and I'm John's uncle.
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And, as of this date, I am
the only relative that'll talk to John.
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[Rick] When John was younger,
John and his first wife were married.
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But John cheated on her
during the wedding.
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His wife just said enough's enough.
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She moved out.
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John kind of snapped.
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And back then, when he got mad,
he would show up at your house.
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Or just sit in a car and wait for you
to come out of work.
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Kind of like the beginning of stalking.
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[Rick] He broke into her house,
hid in the closet,
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and at two o'clock in the mornin',
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was standin' at the end of the bed
of the girl.
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So all relationships with his
first wife and his second girlfriend
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just broke and fractured.
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If I was Rachel even now,
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I would be worried about John.
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[Judi] John wanted Rachel back,
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and he would do anything and anything
to get her back.
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He knew how much
Rachel and I had a bond together.
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And if he couldn't have her, no one would.
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[dog barking]
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[Judi] When he first got up here,
he called repetitively.
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But it comes up as somebody else
on the phone.
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This is how freakin' smart this idiot is.
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He'd call me, "Let me talk to her.
Just let me talk to her."
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"I love her. I want to talk to her."
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And then he'd curse.
"I know she's there. Let me talk to her."
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"You're a fuckin' bitch.
Let me talk to her now."
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I mean, it's scary. It's totally scary.
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He's stalking the house.
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He'd pull up in the driveway,
it was winter, in his big-ass truck.
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Sits there, spins the tires.
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We're freakin' out, cryin',
callin' the cops.
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I'm lookin' for Jax. He's under the table.
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He said, "Grandma,
I did what Mommy told me. I hid."
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"I hid like Mommy tells me."
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It broke my heart.
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That my grandson has to hide
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'cause Mommy's tellin' him
to hide from him,
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because he's gonna
hurt and kill his mother. [sniffles]
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It's painful to watch your daughter
go through that.
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[Rachel] It was just an always constant,
like, "He's watching me."
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Like, "He knows when I'm home,
he knows when I'm not home."
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It's a lot of mind control
and a lot of… fear.
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I mean, it's always continuous,
non-stop calling, texting.
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He would, um… leave me voicemails
telling me he's gonna kill himself.
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He would send me pictures of, uh… nooses
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that he had hanging from the rafters
in his mom's basement.
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He told me that when we die,
we die together,
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and it doesn't matter
if he has to shoot me in the head first,
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that he will, we will die together.
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I always felt like he was
right around the corner,
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like I'm on my toes waiting
for him to just jump out of the bushes.
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And that's basically what happened.
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She wouldn't answer her phone. I…
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I'd get to the point where I'd go online,
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there's apps online where you can use
different caller numbers,
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this and that, different phone numbers.
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And I was doin' all that crazy shit.
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But she wouldn't talk to me.
So I went to her work.
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When she pulled up into her work,
I was sittin' there.
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I'd got there, like, two minutes
before she did,
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and, uh… I'd walked up to the vehicle,
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and as soon as she'd seen me,
she was just instantly scared.
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And for whatever reason,
that just triggered, like, anger in me.
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And it was just a bad scene at her work,
and the cops ended up comin'.
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The warehouse I was working at,
there wasn't a gate.
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Anybody could just go in and out.
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I had pulled into the parking lot
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and was grabbing my stuff
to go inside the building.
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There's a car,
and it's just sitting there…
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and he's running full force at my vehicle.
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So I'm trying to lock my truck
and call 911 at the same time.
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By that point, he's trying to break
my driver side window,
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screaming at the top of his voice,
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basically that
he was gonna fucking kill me.
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He goes back to the back passenger door
and gets it open.
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I jump out of the vehicle,
screaming for somebody to help me,
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and I saw a man in his car.
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And I'm running to him.
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He's getting out of the vehicle, you know,
calmly asking me what's wrong,
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and I'm like, "He's gonna--
he's gonna kill me."
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At that point, John figured out
that I left the keys in the truck.
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So he's trying to come run me over.
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He figured out he couldn't get to me
without running into other vehicles.
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So he got back out of the vehicle,
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still screaming at me
that he was gonna kill me.
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The guy tackled him to the ground
and held him there.
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[Rachel] After the police came
and arrested him,
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I felt relief like I've never
felt it before.
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He… finally wasn't able
to come and hurt me.
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Oh… I was free.
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I was free from him.
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I was free from all of it.
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[woman] Stalking, especially
in domestic violence in relationships,
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does not necessarily get the attention
that it should get.
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It's overlooked in the law
and how it's treated.
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It's a matter of "What are we going to do
to make sure that this behavior stops?"
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My name is Ali Friend.
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I was the lead prosecutor
in the domestic violence unit
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in DeKalb County.
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[Friend] It's hard for me to know
what was going through John's mind,
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as far as why he did what he did.
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But I think he was just wanting to do
anything possible
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to regain control over Rachel's life.
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And if that meant taking her life,
then that's what was gonna happen.
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He brought a nylon strap
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that was fashioned in a way
that looked like a noose.
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There was several acts of strangulation
that had occurred
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while they were living in Arkansas.
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It seemed as though he was going
to finally follow through
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on his original threats when he used
to strangle her in the past.
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[Friend] Aggravated stalking
is punishable by up to two to five years
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in the Illinois Department of Corrections.
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Or a period of probation.
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I believed that probation was not
an appropriate outcome for him,
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and I believed that he needed to be
removed and punished and sent to prison.
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So he was also charged with
aggravated driving under the influence.
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Because aggravated DUI, in our state,
carries the most serious penalty,
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It is hard to believe that stalking
is a lower felony offense than a DUI.
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I just think that nobody
wants to believe that it's that bad.
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But for a victim or a survivor
who's in that relationship,
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it is that bad
and one day could lead to death.
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[birdsong]
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[Rachel] I get letters
from John every day
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to the point where it is very odd
if I don't get a letter a day.
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We are not talking.
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I don't respond to him, and I just
continue to get pictures and letters,
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and it's just never-ending.
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It is very conflicting to get the letters
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and to decide whether
I'm gonna open them or not.
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But now, with him being in prison,
reading the letters,
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I know what's going on inside of his head.
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and it's easier for me to,
I guess, sleep at night
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knowing that he is apologetic
instead of… still angry with me.
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[Anderson] I've always
wrote Rachel letters.
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2020, I wrote her a letter, like,
every day, like…
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Or not every day. Every week, I mean.
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I'm not still that crazy. [chuckles]
Like, every week.
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Just to stay in contact.
And I know she reads 'em.
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I know she gets 'em.
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I figure, you know, if she-- if she wants
to turn 'em in and get me in trouble,
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then… then so be it, you know?
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If that's her prerogative and what
she feels she needs to do, then so be it.
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[Anderson] I didn't go to prison
and forget about my son.
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I get to talk to him on the phone,
and he-- he's funny, 'cause he's like,
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"I don't know you. I don't--
I don't know what you look like."
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I gotta remind him, like, "You do know.
Like, I was there raising you."
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"You know, you were…
you were two when I last seen you."
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"I'm sorry that you don't remember that,
but trust me, I remember."
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My goal was to be home by Jax's
fifth birthday, which was last Sunday.
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And, you know, I made it a week later.
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I go home next--
Today's Friday, I go home Monday.
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[birdsong]
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[Rachel] John's release day is coming,
and he wants to see his son.
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When John finally sees Jax
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and is able to, like, keep him
overnight or for the weekend,
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it is a concern that he will just run away
with my child,
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and I won't ever find him.
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That's always in the back of my mind.
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I'm hoping he can turn over a new leaf.
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But I'm worried about him
going back to the old John
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and coming to try to hurt me again.
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I feel that if he reverts back
to the drugs,
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that he'll feel that he doesn't
have a reason to live anymore,
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and then that means that he would be
coming for me also.
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I did obtain security cameras.
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I have cameras around my house
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to make sure
that he is not stalking me again
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or trying to tamper with my vehicle.
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He gets one chance.
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If he steps out of line one more time,
he'll end up going back to jail.
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That'll be that.
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[plaintive piano music playing]
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[birdsong]
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[Anderson] You know, a lot of people like
to say that people don't really change.
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But if you're a person that's went
through some traumatic events,
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those shouldn't determine
who you are forever.
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I'm not the same person that I used to be.
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I just-- I'm ready to see my family.
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[Anderson] It's been two weeks since
I've been released and, honestly,
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I don't have a solid plan yet.
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Uh, I'm still working on that.
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My biggest plan is, right now…
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is just to get back
into bein' a part of my son's life.
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[Anderson] I'm ecstatic to be able
to spend time with my son.
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He's five years old.
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He's, um… he's full of spit and vinegar.
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It's just-- it's heartwarming,
you know, to see my son again.
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It gives me… gives me
somethin' to look forward to.
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With that being said,
on the days I don't see him,
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I get sad because I don't have him.
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Before all this started,
we were all one family.
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I had my son in the house
with me all the time.
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And now, here I am, a few years later,
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and I just get to see my son
a couple times a week.
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I wanna make sure that Rachel and I
are there raisin' him together.
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I don't think it's far-fetched that,
at some point,
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I would like to have my family back
together all in one household again,
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as a family.
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It's just, I think that it'll take
proof of action on my part
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to show that people can
grow and change throughout their life.
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[birdsong]
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[Rachel] Having John out of prison
is definitely… different.
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It's been a little over 90 days now,
I think.
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I know that John wants us
to be a family again…
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but you can't go back to the past.
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There's just too much scars
and everything's broken.
468
00:43:14,043 --> 00:43:20,203
Hopefully, John can stay sober
and stay wanting to better his life.
469
00:43:24,083 --> 00:43:26,883
And if John is willing
to step up to the plate,
470
00:43:26,963 --> 00:43:29,803
then he can be a father to Jax.
471
00:43:31,163 --> 00:43:36,403
I hope that me and him can become friends
for our son's sake,
472
00:43:36,483 --> 00:43:38,963
because every child needs their father.
473
00:43:40,803 --> 00:43:44,803
But he will have to change a lot
about himself
474
00:43:44,883 --> 00:43:47,923
and his addictions in order to do so.
475
00:43:50,563 --> 00:43:51,803
Only time will tell.
476
00:44:05,683 --> 00:44:11,643
[somber string music playing]