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Podcast host: And studies have shown

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that love is not only good for your mental health,

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but good for your physical health as well.

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Being in a loving relationship actually alleviates stress,

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even makes us take better care of ourselves.

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This could be due to a healthier, happier outlook,

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or taking care of one's self for another's sake.

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Morning.

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- Good morning. - Mm, Coffee!

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- You want some? - Of course!

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- Any more news on tonight? - Nothing concrete.

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Tom has been strangely mysterious.

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- Which is a good sign, right? - Mm.

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I mean according to the experts.

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No, yes, definitely.

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But, you know what just occurred to me

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is that we haven't been some place fancy for dinner

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in a long time, which, may mean he's saving money.

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So, you know, check.

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Wait. Do you know anything?

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Actually, don't tell me anything.

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No, wait. Do tell me, so we can prepare.

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You know, Mom is gonna want you to have

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a Brazilian wedding with all the little, traditional flairs.

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Mm, that'd be so nice. And all the dancing...

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- More desserts... - Oh!

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We're getting ahead of ourselves.

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(laughing) I'm also excited

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that this will take some of Mamae's pressure off of me.

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At last, one of her precious daughters

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will be walking down the aisle.

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Well, I'm happy to be of service, JuJu!

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- Have a good day. - You too!

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Good morning.

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Morning, Carina. The usual?

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Yes, strawberry icing with sprinkles, please.

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By the way, I loved your column yesterday:

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10 Signs He's Emotionally available.

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It really got me thinking.

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Thank you. I'm glad to hear it.

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Though, my favorite is still your Real Life column

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on your relationship with T.

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- It's so inspiring. - Thank you.

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That's my favorite article too.

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I like to think of it as a love letter to him

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and to my readers.

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Here you go. Thank you.

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I'll see you tomorrow.

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Both: Bye.

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Kimberly: Hey, Carina. Do you have a second?

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Of course.

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Okay, so, Cliff invited me

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to dinner with his parents on Saturday.

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Ooh, that's a good sign!

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Mm-hm, but I still don't know if we're exclusive.

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There's only one way to find out.

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But I don't want to give him an ultimatum.

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I don't wanna be "that girl.”

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It's about open communication.

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Clearly expressing your wishes,

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which, by the way, can be a very attractive quality

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to someone who's secure and available.

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Which is what you want, right?

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Yes, secure and available. Communication can be attractive.

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Okay, got it. Thanks so much, Carina!

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Hello.

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- Hi. - You must be our new writer.

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I am, yeah.

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I'm Carina. I'm a writer as well.

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Oh, uh, Liam. Nice to meet you.

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Nice to meet you too.

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Is everything okay?

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Uh, yes, everything's fine.

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It's just, uh, you're drinking from my mug.

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You know, for future reference.

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Oh. (laughing)

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Yeah, so I am.

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Ah! Oh, look!

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There you are. I'm sorry.

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I thought this was a stock photo.

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Hm, huh.

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Oh, who is this handsome fella?

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That's my boyfriend, Tom.

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He's a lawyer, just made partner at his firm.

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Right, well,

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he has a very unimpeachably handsome quality about him.

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He's got a very square jaw.

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Mm, he is unimpeachably handsome.

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He's unimpeachably a lot of things, actually.

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Of course he is.

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And, sorry about the mug.

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I didn't realize that they were assigned.

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Oh, yes, uh, there's community to the left

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and personal to the right.

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Feel free to bring in your own.

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That is definitely something to consider.

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So, what section do you write for?

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Love and Romance. I actually am the section.

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Oh, that sounds like a sweet gig.

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It is. I love it.

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- Must be pretty easy going. - Easy going?

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Oh, I just assumed that all those listicles

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were cut-and-pasted from the rest of the Internet.

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You know, "10 signs that he really loves you?"

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"Is he the one?" I mean...

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How many iterations can there be, right?

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Mm, I actually put a little bit more into it than that.

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Oh, of course, no, I didn't mean to--

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Though I suppose cheeky reviews of men's razors, golf clubs,

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and craft beer are earth-shattering?

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Well, I did win an OP award.

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Well, we are clearly super lucky to have you.

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You want your mug back. Don't you?

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Yes.

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I've always wanted to be the "world's best grandpa.”

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See you at the writers' room.

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Welcome to SparkLife!

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Carina, you wanna catch us up with Love and Romance?

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I was thinking about doing a piece on speed dating.

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It's know it's fallen to the wayside,

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but I thought it'd be good to take a look at again.

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Maybe a listicle with tips.

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- I like it. - Oh, and the Me and T series

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is ongoing.

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There might be a significant installment on the horizon.

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Ooh!

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Ronda: We've got some new numbers in

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and we're getting a great response on Me and T.

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Okay, then, last but not least,

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I'm very excited to introduce our new staff writer,

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Liam Snyder.

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You may know him from his lauded work on HW Magazine,

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or his humor piece on men's shaving products

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that went viral last fall.

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Oh, I read that. That was great!

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Thank you.

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Ronda: As we've been discussing at SparkLife,

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we have some catching up to do in regards to male readership,

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so we're hoping Liam can help us with that.

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I think it's best if we maximize his value

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by putting him in our best performing section.

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So, Carina, I'm gonna put him with you.

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- In Love and Romance? - Yep.

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To train him?

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Mm, more to collaborate with him.

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Either way, I'm sure our female readership can benefit

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from a male point of view.

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I mean, why wouldn't they?

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Okay, let's get to work.

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- Thank you. - Thanks.

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I forgot to ask for "no onions."

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Not a problem.

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As long as you have me,

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you'll never have to look at another onion again.

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One of the many reasons why we fit so well together.

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That sounds like one of your articles.

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I guess so. Oh!

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Did you check on your schedule for the twenty-first?

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Yeah, yeah, I did, but it's actually a tough week at work.

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Any way you can go without me?

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I suppose so.

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You know, it's just, as a romance columnist,

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having my handsome, beautiful boyfriend by my side

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is a bonus.

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Really? As, uh, as proof?

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As a specimen?

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As the perfect specimen you are!

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Oof.

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Did you pick a time for tonight?

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I'm still ironing out some plans.

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Okay.

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Oh, do you want some Brussel sprouts?

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Oof! You know I do.

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- Come in!

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As I figured, you might be knocking on my door.

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Just wanted to debrief about this change to Love and Romance.

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And I'm guessing you have some reservations.

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Well, I'm just looking out for SparkLife.

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I mean, is this really the best place

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to put this exciting, new writer?

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I understand your concern, Carina, but as readership grows,

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and the site grows, I'm gonna need more help

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on the editorial side of things.

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And, as our strongest writer,

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of course I have you in my sights.

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But, I'm wondering about your ability

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to collaborate and delegate?

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Oh, I love collaborating and delegating!

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Mm. Mm-hm. 

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You're such a strong writer, but I've never seen you

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enlist help.

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If I were you,

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I would find a different way to look at this situation.

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Perhaps as a good opportunity to demonstrate these skills.

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- I suppose that makes sense. - Ronda: Mm-hm.

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It makes zero sense!

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I don't understand why they can't put this guy on,

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like, sports or something.

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Well, on the upside, it looks like there might be a promotion

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on the horizon.

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But, enough about work.

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Do you know where Tom is taking you tonight?

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Not yet, but, I'm dressed for something fancy.

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Oh, maybe we can combine our anniversary party

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with an engagement party for the two of you!

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I don't want to steal your and Dad's thunder.

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By the way, how's planning going?

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Marisa: Oh, good. You know your father.

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I ask him for his input on things,

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and he says "whatever makes you happy."

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Well, I guess party planning has never been his love language.

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You're right. You always are.

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- Bye-bye. - Bye.

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Honey, what's a five letter word for "venom holder?"

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- Snake. - Oh, right, snake.

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How's it goin'?

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Good. Good, good.

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Though, I've changed my mind three times

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about where to put these guys.

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Every decision feels so monumental.

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I want it to be perfect.

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You're opening your garden to the community, Dad.

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No one is demanding that it be pristine.

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Well, your mom would've.

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Well, that's true, but she was more decisive.

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So, how was the new job?

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Was it as easy as you thought it was gonna be?

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No, actually, it looks like

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it's gonna be a little more challenging.

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Well, let's face it, you'd be bored if it wasn't, right?

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Don't laugh, but they put me in the Love and Romance section.

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Why would I laugh?

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Is there anything more worthwhile writing about?

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They want a male perspective.

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The woman I'm working with is smart, but, uh,

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she's territorial.

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Well, maybe she has something to teach you about the topic.

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Or, maybe it can inspire you to other writing projects, hm?

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I told you, Dad. I'm done with that.

274
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I don't wanna waste any more time.

275
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Liam, there's no such thing

276
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as wasted time on a creative endeavor.

277
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Except, of course, the time you spend not doing it.

278
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You're never gonna let me off the hook are you?

279
00:11:04,413 --> 00:11:06,248
No, 'cause then I'd be phoning in my job.

280
00:11:06,332 --> 00:11:09,668
Here, let's, uh, let's get to it.

281
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282
00:11:13,923 --> 00:11:19,095
- Hey! - Hey.

283
00:11:20,930 --> 00:11:22,848
Oh, am I too dressed up? Should I go back and change?

284
00:11:22,932 --> 00:11:25,309
No. No, no, it's all right.

285
00:11:25,393 --> 00:11:27,186
I don't know why I thought it was some place fancy.

286
00:11:27,269 --> 00:11:29,188
I mean, romance doesn't have to mean upscale, right?

287
00:11:29,271 --> 00:11:32,441
Right.

288
00:11:32,525 --> 00:11:33,734
Is everything okay?

289
00:11:34,902 --> 00:11:36,195
Uh, all right, I'll just come out and say it.

290
00:11:36,278 --> 00:11:39,448
- I've been doing some thinking. - Yes?

291
00:11:39,532 --> 00:11:42,368
I'm sorry. I can't hold this in any longer.

292
00:11:42,451 --> 00:11:44,036
I-I-I just need it off my chest.

293
00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:47,456
I think we should break up.

294
00:11:47,540 --> 00:11:48,999
Wait! What?!

295
00:11:49,083 --> 00:11:51,377
But, but, you were supposed to propose to me tonight.

296
00:11:51,460 --> 00:11:55,047
You've been cagey. You've been nervous,

297
00:11:55,131 --> 00:11:57,550
You've been...

298
00:11:57,633 --> 00:11:59,051
We've been together almost five years.

299
00:11:59,135 --> 00:12:00,344
I mean, all the signs lead to that.

300
00:12:00,428 --> 00:12:02,555
I know, but I feel like we just haven't been us for a long time.

301
00:12:02,638 --> 00:12:06,725
You don't just break up with someone out of the blue.

302
00:12:06,809 --> 00:12:08,352
You're supposed to communicate.

303
00:12:08,436 --> 00:12:09,562
You're supposed to work through things.

304
00:12:09,645 --> 00:12:11,230
- You're supposed to... - Yes, you're supposed to.

305
00:12:11,313 --> 00:12:13,566
Carina, I think we're past that point.

306
00:12:13,649 --> 00:12:15,818
I'm sorry, but I thought you felt it too.

307
00:12:15,901 --> 00:12:18,571
No.

308
00:12:18,654 --> 00:12:19,905
I didn't.

309
00:12:19,989 --> 00:12:21,490
This isn't how it was supposed to go.

310
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311
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312
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313
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314
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315
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316
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So, good news.

317
00:12:53,814 --> 00:12:55,274
I asked Cliff about being exclusive, and he said,

318
00:12:55,357 --> 00:12:57,943
"I thought we already were," which is such a relief.

319
00:12:58,027 --> 00:13:00,738
So now I have dinner with his parents on Saturday,

320
00:13:00,821 --> 00:13:02,615
and I wondered if you have any tips for me

321
00:13:02,698 --> 00:13:04,909
about meeting the parents.

322
00:13:04,992 --> 00:13:06,368
You know, do's and don'ts?

323
00:13:06,452 --> 00:13:07,953
Uh... Yeah, um...

324
00:13:08,037 --> 00:13:10,623
I'm probably just overthinking it!

325
00:13:10,706 --> 00:13:12,416
Anyway, I just wanted to say your advice helped so much.

326
00:13:12,500 --> 00:13:15,628
You're, like, a genius of the human heart!

327
00:13:15,711 --> 00:13:17,755
Mm.

328
00:13:17,838 --> 00:13:18,964


329
00:13:19,048 --> 00:13:23,219


330
00:13:24,887 --> 00:13:26,555
I just wanted to communicate a slight change

331
00:13:29,350 --> 00:13:31,143
to the Me and T series.

332
00:13:31,227 --> 00:13:32,645
Mainly that there's, uh, no more Me and T.

333
00:13:32,728 --> 00:13:36,982
What?

334
00:13:37,066 --> 00:13:38,234
Tom broke up with me last night.

335
00:13:38,317 --> 00:13:40,319
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that!

336
00:13:40,402 --> 00:13:42,655
It's just I'm gonna be bringing the same level of expertise

337
00:13:42,738 --> 00:13:44,949
to my work.

338
00:13:45,032 --> 00:13:46,158
This is only a slight hiccup.

339
00:13:46,242 --> 00:13:48,327
Okay, honey.

340
00:13:48,410 --> 00:13:49,828
I'll be finding a replacement for the M and T series,

341
00:13:49,912 --> 00:13:51,830
as I know this is very important to the site.

342
00:13:51,914 --> 00:13:53,999
Would you... would you like to take a few days off?

343
00:13:54,083 --> 00:13:55,918
Maybe... maybe let Liam run with the column.

344
00:13:56,001 --> 00:13:58,837
Maybe a, you know, a special edition?

345
00:13:58,921 --> 00:14:00,422
No!

346
00:14:00,506 --> 00:14:02,675
What I mean is, um, I already planned on

347
00:14:02,758 --> 00:14:05,511
bringing him onto the speed dating piece.

348
00:14:05,594 --> 00:14:09,014
Very good.

349
00:14:09,098 --> 00:14:10,516
But, I'm... I'm gonna insist that you take at least

350
00:14:10,599 --> 00:14:13,686
the rest of the day off.

351
00:14:13,769 --> 00:14:14,937
No, it's...it's really okay.

352
00:14:15,020 --> 00:14:16,355
No, I just... I just insisted.

353
00:14:16,438 --> 00:14:18,190
Okay!

354
00:14:18,274 --> 00:14:19,775


355
00:14:21,569 --> 00:14:25,155
How could I have been this off base?

356
00:14:25,239 --> 00:14:26,657
This is literally my area of expertise!

357
00:14:26,740 --> 00:14:28,450
You know, I went back to look at my old columns

358
00:14:28,534 --> 00:14:30,202
to make sense of it all,

359
00:14:30,286 --> 00:14:31,537
and I compared 9 Signs He's Going to Propose

360
00:14:31,620 --> 00:14:33,622
with 10 Signs The Relationship is Ending

361
00:14:33,706 --> 00:14:35,791
and there's literally 60 percent overlap.

362
00:14:35,874 --> 00:14:37,876
What if I don't know what I'm talking about?

363
00:14:37,960 --> 00:14:39,545
Love is complicated. I mean, people are messy.

364
00:14:39,628 --> 00:14:42,214
But it's not supposed to be messy for me!

365
00:14:42,298 --> 00:14:43,966
Honey, I know. Come on.

366
00:14:44,049 --> 00:14:45,634
- Let's go. 

367
00:14:45,718 --> 00:14:47,052


368
00:14:47,136 --> 00:14:49,888


369
00:14:49,972 --> 00:14:51,432
So, where is Tom?

370
00:14:56,729 --> 00:14:59,356
Tom broke up with me.

371
00:14:59,440 --> 00:15:02,401
I can't believe it!

372
00:15:02,484 --> 00:15:04,486
I'm sorry, sweetheart. Are you okay?

373
00:15:04,570 --> 00:15:09,491
I don't know. I'm still in a bit of shock.

374
00:15:09,575 --> 00:15:13,078
Do you want me to text him? Get to the bottom of it?

375
00:15:13,162 --> 00:15:16,165
No, no, no, I know we all got close,

376
00:15:16,248 --> 00:15:17,916
but I ask you guys not to communicate with him.

377
00:15:18,000 --> 00:15:20,836
I think you're doing the right thing.

378
00:15:27,843 --> 00:15:30,929
I'm very sorry, daughter.

379
00:15:31,013 --> 00:15:33,098
Thank you mom.

380
00:15:33,182 --> 00:15:34,266


381
00:15:34,350 --> 00:15:38,103
What about that thing? The thing we were gonna ask.

382
00:15:38,187 --> 00:15:41,398
No. No, we'll wait.

383
00:15:41,482 --> 00:15:42,608
No, we talked about it yesterday.

384
00:15:42,691 --> 00:15:44,276
- I was gonna-- - What thing, guys?

385
00:15:44,360 --> 00:15:46,403
- Nothing, filha. - Mm.

386
00:15:46,487 --> 00:15:49,281
Your mom and I have decided to renew our vows at our party.

387
00:15:49,365 --> 00:15:54,119
And we wanted to ask you if you would do us the honor

388
00:15:54,203 --> 00:15:57,956
of maybe giving a speech.

389
00:15:58,040 --> 00:15:59,792
That's a wonderful idea.

390
00:15:59,875 --> 00:16:01,919
And maybe it'll help you get your mind off of things.

391
00:16:02,002 --> 00:16:05,130
But, we also understand if this is the last thing

392
00:16:05,214 --> 00:16:08,425
you'd like to do during this difficult time.

393
00:16:08,509 --> 00:16:11,053
But, that being said,

394
00:16:12,471 --> 00:16:14,473
who better than a renowned romance columnist

395
00:16:14,556 --> 00:16:16,934
who also happens to be our brilliant daughter?

396
00:16:17,017 --> 00:16:19,603


397
00:16:19,687 --> 00:16:23,982
I would love to.

398
00:16:24,066 --> 00:16:25,984
I'm not going to stop believing in love, right?

399
00:16:27,986 --> 00:16:29,988


400
00:16:30,072 --> 00:16:35,077
Podcast host: Welcome to In This Together.

401
00:16:40,749 --> 00:16:43,168
Inspiring stories of love

402
00:16:43,252 --> 00:16:44,503
told by normal folks like you and me.

403
00:16:44,586 --> 00:16:47,172
This is episode one forty-three.

404
00:16:47,256 --> 00:16:49,299
Stops and Starts.

405
00:16:49,383 --> 00:16:51,176
Today, we speak to Paige from Cleveland.

406
00:16:51,260 --> 00:16:53,679
Before she and her husband got married,

407
00:16:53,762 --> 00:16:55,806
he tried to end the relationship.

408
00:16:55,889 --> 00:16:58,308
But Paige knew he was wrong

409
00:16:58,392 --> 00:17:00,519
and made a decision to fight for their love.

410
00:17:00,602 --> 00:17:03,689


411
00:17:03,772 --> 00:17:08,777
Hm. Mm.

412
00:17:17,911 --> 00:17:19,204


413
00:17:19,288 --> 00:17:24,460


414
00:17:31,383 --> 00:17:34,678
- Good morning. - Morning.

415
00:17:34,762 --> 00:17:35,888
You look like you're feeling spritely.

416
00:17:35,971 --> 00:17:38,557
I've come to a conclusion, a determination.

417
00:17:38,640 --> 00:17:41,852
When have you known me to give up on something I really wanted?

418
00:17:41,935 --> 00:17:43,979
Never.

419
00:17:44,062 --> 00:17:45,314
Like when I didn't get the job at SparkLife at first,

420
00:17:45,397 --> 00:17:47,399
I kept submitting,

421
00:17:47,483 --> 00:17:48,734
even though they weren't accepting applications.

422
00:17:48,817 --> 00:17:50,736
I love this about you, but are we talking--

423
00:17:50,819 --> 00:17:52,821
Relationships hit bumps on the road all the time.

424
00:17:52,905 --> 00:17:55,491
I should know this!

425
00:17:55,574 --> 00:17:57,034
Look, Tom made a mistake when he ended our relationship.

426
00:17:57,117 --> 00:18:00,412
But people make mistakes, right?

427
00:18:00,496 --> 00:18:02,414
So, I can either accept this

428
00:18:02,498 --> 00:18:04,416
and our relationship fades into oblivion.

429
00:18:04,500 --> 00:18:06,502
Or, I can fight for love!

430
00:18:06,585 --> 00:18:09,838
All right.

431
00:18:09,922 --> 00:18:11,673
I'm going to get Tom back.

432
00:18:11,757 --> 00:18:13,675
So, this thing starts at eight?

433
00:18:13,675 --> 00:18:26,688
Yep.

434
00:18:26,688 --> 00:18:28,941
I didn't think speed dating was even a thing anymore.

435
00:18:29,024 --> 00:18:30,275
It's the perfect place to start our collaboration.

436
00:18:30,359 --> 00:18:32,277
It utilizes one of my favorite aspects of the column:

437
00:18:32,361 --> 00:18:34,279
field research.

438
00:18:34,363 --> 00:18:37,282
By the way, I read up on your column last night,

439
00:18:37,366 --> 00:18:38,784
and I have to say,

440
00:18:38,867 --> 00:18:41,411
there was a surprising amount of depth in the pieces.

441
00:18:41,495 --> 00:18:42,955
Surprising?

442
00:18:43,038 --> 00:18:45,958
Oh, you think this is gonna be easy.

443
00:18:46,041 --> 00:18:47,626
I-I-I wasn't trying to insult what you do.

444
00:18:47,709 --> 00:18:49,628
I liked your column. Especially Me and T.

445
00:18:49,711 --> 00:18:52,089
Definitely keep that going.

446
00:18:52,172 --> 00:18:55,467
That's, uh, being put on pause at the moment.

447
00:18:55,551 --> 00:18:58,136
Are things on the rocks with

448
00:18:58,220 --> 00:19:01,765
the "unimpeachably squared jaw" Tom?

449
00:19:01,849 --> 00:19:03,433
And what if they were?

450
00:19:03,517 --> 00:19:05,602
Were you going to say, "Oh, Carina,

451
00:19:05,686 --> 00:19:07,104
you should have seen it coming"?

452
00:19:07,187 --> 00:19:08,647
Or, how about "10 signs he's going to break up with you"?

453
00:19:08,730 --> 00:19:10,315
He broke up with you?

454
00:19:10,399 --> 00:19:13,151
- Mm-hm. - Wow.

455
00:19:13,235 --> 00:19:15,279
Well, I mean, you're doing great.

456
00:19:15,362 --> 00:19:16,989
I would've at least taken a sick day.

457
00:19:17,072 --> 00:19:18,740
Anyway, I see this as temporary.

458
00:19:18,824 --> 00:19:20,492
We'll be back together soon.

459
00:19:20,576 --> 00:19:23,328
Carina: Thank you.

460
00:19:23,412 --> 00:19:25,706
So, how's this goin' down?

461
00:19:27,666 --> 00:19:29,418
Are we gonna observe? Conduct some interviews?

462
00:19:29,501 --> 00:19:31,503
Nope. We'll be participating.

463
00:19:31,587 --> 00:19:34,590
Wait. What?

464
00:19:34,673 --> 00:19:37,009
It's a perfect opportunity to get the male perspective.

465
00:19:37,092 --> 00:19:38,844
Is this some sort of a hazing thing?

466
00:19:38,927 --> 00:19:41,513
It's the job!

467
00:19:41,597 --> 00:19:43,182
My approach is one of diligent preparation.

468
00:19:43,265 --> 00:19:44,766
I have compiled a list of questions I've researched

469
00:19:44,850 --> 00:19:47,185
some ice breakers,

470
00:19:47,269 --> 00:19:50,105
some indicators of your date's goals and priorities.

471
00:19:50,188 --> 00:19:51,648
I printed a copy for you if you like.

472
00:19:51,732 --> 00:19:53,859
It's just occurred to me.

473
00:19:53,942 --> 00:19:55,485
You've been out of the dating game for a while,

474
00:19:55,569 --> 00:19:56,862
haven't you?

475
00:19:56,945 --> 00:19:58,322
I don't need your study guide.

476
00:19:58,405 --> 00:20:00,532
These things are about instincts,

477
00:20:00,616 --> 00:20:03,035
being natural.

478
00:20:03,118 --> 00:20:05,996
They're not job interviews

479
00:20:06,079 --> 00:20:07,706
Suit yourself.

480
00:20:07,789 --> 00:20:09,124


481
00:20:09,207 --> 00:20:10,667
So, where are you from? What were you like as a kid?

482
00:20:10,751 --> 00:20:12,794


483
00:20:14,129 --> 00:20:16,381
Hi, hi, I'm, uh, I'm Liam.

484
00:20:16,465 --> 00:20:20,719
Yes, I can see that from your name tag.

485
00:20:20,802 --> 00:20:23,555
Yeah, right.

486
00:20:23,639 --> 00:20:26,516
Silly me.

487
00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:28,393
Oh, if you could travel anywhere in the world,

488
00:20:28,477 --> 00:20:29,937
where would it be?

489
00:20:31,146 --> 00:20:33,649
I, um...

490
00:20:33,732 --> 00:20:35,192
Is there a right and wrong answer to this question?

491
00:20:35,275 --> 00:20:37,235


492
00:20:37,319 --> 00:20:40,155
What's your biggest fear?

493
00:20:40,238 --> 00:20:45,243
Tests.

494
00:20:48,330 --> 00:20:51,416


495
00:20:51,500 --> 00:20:52,876


496
00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:57,673


497
00:20:57,756 --> 00:20:59,257
Oh, thank God.

498
00:20:59,341 --> 00:21:02,344
This dating life is nerve-wracking, right?

499
00:21:02,427 --> 00:21:03,762
Yeah, kind of is.

500
00:21:03,845 --> 00:21:06,431
So I'll cut straight to the chase.

501
00:21:06,515 --> 00:21:07,599
I told myself that I'd be married by 35,

502
00:21:07,683 --> 00:21:08,934
which is in a month. Everything's already planned.

503
00:21:09,017 --> 00:21:10,519
The wedding here, honeymoon in Maui.

504
00:21:10,602 --> 00:21:12,562
You like Maui, right?

505
00:21:12,646 --> 00:21:14,564
What's your favorite snack?

506
00:21:14,648 --> 00:21:16,608
Shh!

507
00:21:18,318 --> 00:21:20,404
Words ruin everything.

508
00:21:20,487 --> 00:21:22,781
Let's communicate with our eyes only.

509
00:21:22,864 --> 00:21:24,574
Interesting. One...

510
00:21:24,658 --> 00:21:28,537
Shh.

511
00:21:28,620 --> 00:21:30,580
Well, you're very organized.

512
00:21:30,664 --> 00:21:32,207
Like, "I wanna marry you" organized?

513
00:21:34,543 --> 00:21:35,961
- (laughing) - (laughing nervously)

514
00:21:36,044 --> 00:21:38,130
Mm.

515
00:21:38,213 --> 00:21:43,677
(bell dinging)

516
00:21:46,388 --> 00:21:47,639
Carina: All right, let's debrief.

517
00:21:47,723 --> 00:21:48,974
There's a number of ways we could go about the piece.

518
00:21:49,057 --> 00:21:50,475
We could do a list.

519
00:21:50,559 --> 00:21:52,477
15 Tips on Successful Speed Dating?

520
00:21:52,561 --> 00:21:54,604
First off, I'm not sure why we would encourage anyone

521
00:21:54,688 --> 00:21:57,149
to go through that.

522
00:21:57,232 --> 00:21:59,651
It's about perspective and approach.

523
00:21:59,735 --> 00:22:00,902
It's about putting yourself out there

524
00:22:00,986 --> 00:22:02,654
with the help of our tips.

525
00:22:02,738 --> 00:22:03,989
See, I don't... I don't get why we can't just call it

526
00:22:04,072 --> 00:22:06,158
like it is.

527
00:22:06,241 --> 00:22:08,994
I saw you out there. You were struggling.

528
00:22:09,077 --> 00:22:10,245
Oh. You're that guy.

529
00:22:10,328 --> 00:22:12,664
Oh, boy! Okay, here we go.

530
00:22:12,748 --> 00:22:14,666
What "that guy?"

531
00:22:14,750 --> 00:22:16,752
You're that guy who goes out there

532
00:22:16,835 --> 00:22:17,961
"calling it like it is."

533
00:22:18,045 --> 00:22:19,755
You have this veneer of integrity.

534
00:22:19,838 --> 00:22:21,006
Yet you're out there calling little judgements,

535
00:22:21,089 --> 00:22:22,841
rejecting everything.

536
00:22:22,924 --> 00:22:25,010
You just skate on the surface, never challenging yourself

537
00:22:25,093 --> 00:22:26,636
or letting yourself be vulnerable.

538
00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:29,639
All while getting by on your humor and charm.

539
00:22:29,723 --> 00:22:31,808
You see, what I gleaned from all that

540
00:22:31,892 --> 00:22:36,188
is that you find me funny and charming.

541
00:22:36,271 --> 00:22:37,773
My point exactly.

542
00:22:37,856 --> 00:22:40,525
Don't mind me while I get back to work.

543
00:22:40,609 --> 00:22:41,985
What if we write about what you've been going through?

544
00:22:42,069 --> 00:22:43,487
Your break up.

545
00:22:43,570 --> 00:22:45,363
I'm sure you have something singular and interesting

546
00:22:45,447 --> 00:22:46,865
to say about that.

547
00:22:46,948 --> 00:22:48,366
That's off-tone for the site.

548
00:22:48,450 --> 00:22:49,618
Earlier, you said that the situation was temporary.

549
00:22:49,701 --> 00:22:51,119
Are you trying to get him back?

550
00:22:51,203 --> 00:22:54,372
Would that be so wrong?

551
00:22:54,456 --> 00:22:56,500
Well, it's of my personal philosophy

552
00:22:56,583 --> 00:22:57,834
that if somebody leaves, they've made their point.

553
00:22:57,918 --> 00:22:59,377
Mm.

554
00:22:59,461 --> 00:23:02,005
Why do you want Tom back so badly?

555
00:23:02,089 --> 00:23:03,131
Tom is wonderful.

556
00:23:03,215 --> 00:23:06,968
He's kind. He's a gentleman.

557
00:23:07,052 --> 00:23:09,054
But mainly, we have history.

558
00:23:09,137 --> 00:23:12,891
We helped each other through the early parts of our careers,

559
00:23:12,974 --> 00:23:15,394
through the ups, through the downs.

560
00:23:15,477 --> 00:23:18,021
His family's like my family and vice versa.

561
00:23:18,105 --> 00:23:19,815
He's a big part of my life

562
00:23:19,898 --> 00:23:22,526
and I'm just not ready to let that go.

563
00:23:22,609 --> 00:23:24,027
I mean, it can't have been for nothing, right?

564
00:23:24,111 --> 00:23:27,405
That's not unreasonable.

565
00:23:27,489 --> 00:23:30,826
All right, so what's your plan?

566
00:23:30,909 --> 00:23:33,578
I'm going to find out what went wrong and fix it.

567
00:23:33,662 --> 00:23:35,163
Like a car, or a broken toaster?

568
00:23:35,247 --> 00:23:38,166
Hm.

569
00:23:38,250 --> 00:23:40,335
See, this is your problem.

570
00:23:40,418 --> 00:23:42,379
Oh, you know me two days and you know my problem?

571
00:23:42,462 --> 00:23:43,755
Yeah, see, 'cause you're too trapped in that busy brain

572
00:23:43,839 --> 00:23:46,383
of yours that you can't see clearly.

573
00:23:46,466 --> 00:23:48,260
What if I helped you get him back?

574
00:23:48,343 --> 00:23:51,763
Oh, I'm fine on my own. Thank you.

575
00:23:51,847 --> 00:23:53,223
Because you're an expert on the topic?

576
00:23:53,306 --> 00:23:54,891
I didn't wanna say so, but, yes.

577
00:23:54,975 --> 00:23:58,436
No, you see, this is one time

578
00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:00,105
where being an expert actually hurts you.

579
00:24:00,188 --> 00:24:01,439
Let me help you.

580
00:24:01,523 --> 00:24:04,442
If for no other reason but to prove to you

581
00:24:04,526 --> 00:24:05,902
that I can do this job,

582
00:24:05,986 --> 00:24:07,737
and that I'm not completely clueless

583
00:24:07,821 --> 00:24:09,197
about the human heart.

584
00:24:09,281 --> 00:24:11,116
But this isn't part of the column.

585
00:24:11,199 --> 00:24:12,784
It would be like a side project, right?

586
00:24:14,327 --> 00:24:15,745
Liam: Exactly.

587
00:24:15,829 --> 00:24:17,622
Huh. I don't see the harm.

588
00:24:17,706 --> 00:24:19,291
- Deal. - Deal.

589
00:24:19,374 --> 00:24:21,793
To help us out, I compiled a list of things

590
00:24:21,877 --> 00:24:23,879
that could've gone wrong,

591
00:24:29,843 --> 00:24:31,595
things that I could've done, underlying circumstances,

592
00:24:31,678 --> 00:24:33,138
acts of God, et cetera, et cetera.

593
00:24:33,221 --> 00:24:36,099
You see, this is what's standing in your way.

594
00:24:36,183 --> 00:24:38,435
Everything is a list, or a bullet point,

595
00:24:38,518 --> 00:24:40,478
or a little box you can check

596
00:24:40,562 --> 00:24:42,981
like there's a right way to go about everything.

597
00:24:43,064 --> 00:24:44,316
This is the death of romance.

598
00:24:44,399 --> 00:24:46,818
Okay, you need to connect with your... your instincts,

599
00:24:46,902 --> 00:24:50,155
your passion.

600
00:24:50,238 --> 00:24:54,492
You need to leave room for these feelings.

601
00:24:54,576 --> 00:24:55,952
Mm-hm.

602
00:24:56,036 --> 00:24:57,829
But for now, we just need to re-engage contact, okay?

603
00:24:57,913 --> 00:24:59,456
Did you bring the stuff?

604
00:24:59,539 --> 00:25:02,834
Soccer ball lamp, okay.

605
00:25:02,918 --> 00:25:04,419
All right, now, to recap,

606
00:25:09,424 --> 00:25:11,676
we're not contacting Tom to rehash, okay?

607
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,179
I know you want answers, but now is not the time.

608
00:25:14,262 --> 00:25:17,599
You simply have some of his things.

609
00:25:17,682 --> 00:25:20,185
You want them out of your apartment.

610
00:25:20,268 --> 00:25:22,145
It's a courtesy to him, very la-di-da.

611
00:25:22,229 --> 00:25:23,855
But I don't feel "la-di-da," and I don't like games.

612
00:25:23,939 --> 00:25:26,524
I think they're dishonest.

613
00:25:26,608 --> 00:25:29,861
The column doesn't support them and I don't support them.

614
00:25:29,945 --> 00:25:31,488
This isn't about the column, okay?

615
00:25:31,571 --> 00:25:33,698
And the games are already there.

616
00:25:33,782 --> 00:25:35,533
You just need to use them to your advantage.

617
00:25:35,617 --> 00:25:37,035
Right now, you're just opening the door a crack,

618
00:25:37,118 --> 00:25:39,120
reminding him of the Carina that he fell in love with.

619
00:25:39,204 --> 00:25:42,290
Do you have the text?

620
00:25:42,374 --> 00:25:46,044
Yes.

621
00:25:47,587 --> 00:25:48,713
Hey, Tom, exclamation mark.

622
00:25:48,797 --> 00:25:52,300
Ooh, no. Um, an em dash.

623
00:25:52,384 --> 00:25:54,803
Hey, Tom, em dash,

624
00:25:54,886 --> 00:25:57,555
I have some of your things at my place, period.

625
00:25:57,639 --> 00:26:00,016
Tidying up, and would love to--

626
00:26:00,100 --> 00:26:03,853
Would like to.

627
00:26:03,937 --> 00:26:06,064
Would like to

628
00:26:06,147 --> 00:26:07,565
pass them off, period.

629
00:26:07,649 --> 00:26:11,569
Please let me know when and where.

630
00:26:11,653 --> 00:26:14,239
Period.

631
00:26:14,322 --> 00:26:16,574
I'm not sure about the "please”"

632
00:26:16,658 --> 00:26:17,867
Well, I think it's polite, but just not "warm polite."

633
00:26:17,951 --> 00:26:19,411
No, you're right. You're right.

634
00:26:19,494 --> 00:26:23,039
Okay. Sending.

635
00:26:23,123 --> 00:26:24,582


636
00:26:24,666 --> 00:26:26,918
Okay, so, and you have what you're gonna say at the ready?

637
00:26:27,002 --> 00:26:28,878
I'm going to be brief.

638
00:26:28,962 --> 00:26:31,756
I'm going to find a way to bring up a road trip.

639
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:33,174
Which will remind him of an earlier, better time.

640
00:26:33,258 --> 00:26:35,427
It was a happier time.

641
00:26:35,510 --> 00:26:38,430


642
00:26:38,513 --> 00:26:39,931
Carina: Okay, he responded.

643
00:26:40,015 --> 00:26:42,600
He'll drop by the lobby at 3:00 PM.

644
00:26:42,684 --> 00:26:43,768


645
00:26:43,852 --> 00:26:46,438
Remember, this is, at least, a mild inconvenience.

646
00:26:47,689 --> 00:26:49,107
Mm-hm

647
00:26:49,190 --> 00:26:52,777


648
00:26:52,861 --> 00:26:54,195
Hey.

649
00:26:54,279 --> 00:26:59,200
- Hey. - Thanks for coming.

650
00:26:59,284 --> 00:27:00,910
Thanks for saving my stuff.

651
00:27:00,994 --> 00:27:03,621
Um, how are you?

652
00:27:03,705 --> 00:27:05,957
Okay, you know, taking things day by day.

653
00:27:06,041 --> 00:27:08,084
Uh, I might go on a road trip this weekend.

654
00:27:08,168 --> 00:27:10,295
- Oh, a road trip? - Mm-hm.

655
00:27:10,378 --> 00:27:13,131
- Oh. - Yeah.

656
00:27:13,214 --> 00:27:14,632
Uh, sorry to be brief. I-I have a meeting coming up.

657
00:27:14,716 --> 00:27:16,259
So, I should, you know, get going.

658
00:27:16,343 --> 00:27:19,471
Um, okay, I'll just take this stuff then.

659
00:27:19,554 --> 00:27:21,139
- Yeah, um. - No, let me get it.

660
00:27:21,222 --> 00:27:23,308
Yeah, um, yeah, hold on one second.

661
00:27:23,391 --> 00:27:25,060
I just have a quick question. Like, was it...

662
00:27:25,143 --> 00:27:27,979
Is it something I said or something I did that--

663
00:27:28,063 --> 00:27:30,273
Hey, uh, Carina. Ronda needs you in her office.

664
00:27:30,357 --> 00:27:34,152
It's an emergency.

665
00:27:34,235 --> 00:27:38,656
You know, a romance listicle emergency.

666
00:27:38,740 --> 00:27:40,116
- Sorry to interrupt. - Bye!

667
00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:42,827
- I know. - It's okay.

668
00:27:42,911 --> 00:27:46,081
Rome wasn't built in a day.

669
00:27:46,164 --> 00:27:47,165
Oh, sick. I missed this thing.

670
00:27:47,248 --> 00:27:48,666


671
00:27:50,543 --> 00:27:53,671
Marisa: I want to narrow down the brigadeiros

672
00:27:53,755 --> 00:27:56,257
to four flavors.

673
00:27:56,341 --> 00:27:57,842
So please be honest.

674
00:27:57,926 --> 00:27:59,094
You're doing an entire table?

675
00:27:59,177 --> 00:28:00,678
Your father said it was the favorite part of his wedding.

676
00:28:00,762 --> 00:28:02,430
Second favorite part.

677
00:28:02,514 --> 00:28:05,308
Oh, uh, do you guys have anything you want

678
00:28:05,392 --> 00:28:07,435
to contribute to the ceremony?

679
00:28:07,519 --> 00:28:10,188
Other than our original vows, no.

680
00:28:10,271 --> 00:28:11,523
Do anything you like.

681
00:28:11,606 --> 00:28:13,358
Do you want something lighthearted, traditional,

682
00:28:13,441 --> 00:28:14,859
more serious?

683
00:28:14,943 --> 00:28:16,945
You're the expert!

684
00:28:17,028 --> 00:28:17,987
Well, what about excerpts from literature?

685
00:28:18,071 --> 00:28:19,322
The greats?

686
00:28:19,406 --> 00:28:20,824
As long as the greats include the greatest of great,

687
00:28:20,907 --> 00:28:22,367
- which is you. - (others laughing)

688
00:28:22,450 --> 00:28:24,536
Mm! I love the pistachio.

689
00:28:24,619 --> 00:28:27,997
- Ah, thank you. - This one.

690
00:28:28,081 --> 00:28:30,500
Are you okay with all this? This isn't making you sad?

691
00:28:30,583 --> 00:28:33,461
How could brigadeiros make me sad?

692
00:28:33,545 --> 00:28:36,381
Desserts are a happy thing.

693
00:28:36,464 --> 00:28:38,383
Yeah, of course, desserts are a happy thing.

694
00:28:38,466 --> 00:28:40,176
- Yeah. - I love them.

695
00:28:40,260 --> 00:28:41,386
- The pink one is good. - The pink one is good.

696
00:28:41,469 --> 00:28:42,720


697
00:28:42,804 --> 00:28:44,222
I don't wanna get anyone's hopes up,

698
00:28:44,305 --> 00:28:46,558
but things might not be finished between Tom and I.

699
00:28:46,641 --> 00:28:48,226
Dad: You guys are speaking?

700
00:28:48,309 --> 00:28:51,104
We spoke today.

701
00:28:52,897 --> 00:28:54,023
Be careful, daughter.

702
00:28:54,107 --> 00:28:55,692
We're not getting ahead of ourselves.

703
00:28:55,775 --> 00:28:57,485
It's just a possibility.

704
00:28:57,569 --> 00:28:59,028
Um, have you tried the pink one yet?

705
00:28:59,112 --> 00:29:01,322
- It's so tasty. - It's really good.

706
00:29:03,324 --> 00:29:04,492
It's got like a caramel flavor to it.

707
00:29:04,576 --> 00:29:06,077
I do like that pistachio though.

708
00:29:06,161 --> 00:29:07,245
- Right, Dad? - Is that one the best one?

709
00:29:07,328 --> 00:29:08,705
So, if Tom wants to get back together with you,

710
00:29:08,788 --> 00:29:11,332
are you gonna take him back?

711
00:29:13,293 --> 00:29:15,503
Of course. 

712
00:29:15,587 --> 00:29:16,921
I was thinking that maybe this time apart

713
00:29:17,005 --> 00:29:19,090
could give you an opportunity to reflect on things.

714
00:29:19,174 --> 00:29:20,842
Reflect on what?

715
00:29:20,925 --> 00:29:23,887
Well, it occurred to me the other day

716
00:29:23,970 --> 00:29:25,555
that it had been a while since I'd seen you...

717
00:29:25,638 --> 00:29:27,432
I don't know. Lit up about Tom.

718
00:29:27,515 --> 00:29:30,268
A long while, actually.

719
00:29:30,351 --> 00:29:32,937
I mean, I could be wrong.

720
00:29:33,021 --> 00:29:35,023
Even the best relationships can't all be like epic novelas

721
00:29:35,106 --> 00:29:36,900
and that honeymoon-phase all the time.

722
00:29:36,983 --> 00:29:40,612
But there should be glimmers, you know?

723
00:29:40,695 --> 00:29:43,114
I mean, take Mamae and Dad for example.

724
00:29:43,198 --> 00:29:45,116
That's a crushingly high standard.

725
00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:48,286


726
00:29:48,369 --> 00:29:50,205
I just want the best for my little sister.

727
00:29:50,288 --> 00:29:51,748
I can't help but like the idea of something new and unexpected

728
00:29:51,831 --> 00:29:53,750
ahead for you.

729
00:29:53,833 --> 00:29:56,753
Well, what's wrong with a new, exciting chapter

730
00:29:56,836 --> 00:29:58,213
with Tom?

731
00:29:58,296 --> 00:30:00,757
Nothing.

732
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:02,634


733
00:30:02,717 --> 00:30:03,801
There you are.

734
00:30:03,885 --> 00:30:09,140
- Oh, good morning. - Good morning.

735
00:30:13,728 --> 00:30:14,979
Um, I had to guess, so I got you classic glazed.

736
00:30:15,063 --> 00:30:16,731
Thought it was a good choice for a no nonsense kinda guy.

737
00:30:16,814 --> 00:30:20,818
You should write a listicle matching guys to doughnuts.

738
00:30:20,902 --> 00:30:25,156
Uh, plain glazed, doesn't stand on ceremony.

739
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:28,743
While sugar coated,

740
00:30:28,826 --> 00:30:31,955
ironically, doesn't sugar coat anything.

741
00:30:32,038 --> 00:30:33,289
More than meets the eye. Secretly the best.

742
00:30:33,373 --> 00:30:36,292
Not humble.

743
00:30:36,376 --> 00:30:39,671


744
00:30:39,754 --> 00:30:41,839
I don't wanna know.

745
00:30:41,923 --> 00:30:44,008
So,

746
00:30:44,092 --> 00:30:46,511
what's on the docket for today?

747
00:30:46,594 --> 00:30:47,971
Well, I thought we could put speed dating on the back burner

748
00:30:48,054 --> 00:30:49,639
and we could work on 15 Unique Date Ideas.

749
00:30:49,722 --> 00:30:52,684
Right, simpler, less argument over philosophical approach.

750
00:30:52,767 --> 00:30:56,854
So, this is one of them? Date on a park bench.

751
00:30:56,938 --> 00:31:01,192
No, no, we're going pedal boating.

752
00:31:01,276 --> 00:31:04,195


753
00:31:04,279 --> 00:31:06,990
- Okay. - Mm-hm.

754
00:31:07,073 --> 00:31:11,119
Can't we just save time, use our imaginations,

755
00:31:11,202 --> 00:31:12,620
not get our butts wet?

756
00:31:12,704 --> 00:31:16,040
And copy information from the Internet?

757
00:31:16,124 --> 00:31:17,375
- Ah, touche. - Mm.

758
00:31:17,458 --> 00:31:19,544
The life jackets are a little much, no?

759
00:31:19,627 --> 00:31:21,379
It's a necessary but easy precaution.

760
00:31:21,462 --> 00:31:23,381
Makes everyone relax.

761
00:31:23,464 --> 00:31:25,883
I should jot that down.

762
00:31:25,967 --> 00:31:27,885
Life jackets, check.

763
00:31:27,969 --> 00:31:29,887
- Ready? - Yes.

764
00:31:29,971 --> 00:31:32,890
- Okay. - Okay.

765
00:31:32,974 --> 00:31:34,225
Carina: So, let's start with the pros and the cons.

766
00:31:34,309 --> 00:31:35,810
Okay.

767
00:31:37,979 --> 00:31:41,899
- It's playful, whimsical. - Hm.

768
00:31:41,983 --> 00:31:43,318
- The outdoors are a plus. - Mm-hm.

769
00:31:43,401 --> 00:31:47,196
Uh, figuring out the steering,

770
00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:49,407
the pedaling's a shared activity,

771
00:31:49,490 --> 00:31:50,700
like a project, which is always a good idea.

772
00:31:50,783 --> 00:31:52,368
I don't know that the steering or pedaling

773
00:31:52,452 --> 00:31:54,912
are all that complicated.

774
00:31:54,996 --> 00:31:57,582
(sniffing) This life jacket smells musty.

775
00:31:57,665 --> 00:31:59,834
We're not in the cons yet.

776
00:31:59,917 --> 00:32:01,502
No, I know. I'm just spit balling.

777
00:32:01,586 --> 00:32:02,754
Okay, well, the physical proximity,

778
00:32:02,837 --> 00:32:04,172
you know, could be a good thing in that early nervous stage.

779
00:32:04,255 --> 00:32:05,923
Could also be a con.

780
00:32:06,007 --> 00:32:08,509
I mean, what if the person is shy?

781
00:32:08,593 --> 00:32:10,595
Then this awkward.

782
00:32:10,678 --> 00:32:12,096
Why are you contradicting everything I say?

783
00:32:12,180 --> 00:32:13,556
I'm not contradicting. This is... this is discourse.

784
00:32:13,640 --> 00:32:15,099
- No, no. - It's analysis.

785
00:32:15,183 --> 00:32:17,101
You're literally contradicting everything I'm saying.

786
00:32:17,185 --> 00:32:18,686
- No, no, no, I'm not. - I'm saying "Start with a pro."

787
00:32:18,770 --> 00:32:20,188
You start with a con. You're like, "No, no, no."

788
00:32:20,271 --> 00:32:21,856
That's not what you said.

789
00:32:21,939 --> 00:32:23,274
You said, "Let's start with the pros and cons."

790
00:32:23,358 --> 00:32:24,692
- Yeah, yeah. - Which is what I'm doing.

791
00:32:24,776 --> 00:32:26,027
But it's not supposed to be a-- Wait.

792
00:32:26,110 --> 00:32:27,445
Why are we heading straight towards the fountain?

793
00:32:27,528 --> 00:32:28,946
I don't know! Why are you steering us there?

794
00:32:29,030 --> 00:32:30,531
- I'm not steering. - Ah, your book!

795
00:32:30,615 --> 00:32:31,741
- What are you doing? - I'm not doing anything!

796
00:32:31,824 --> 00:32:33,409
- No, no, reverse, reverse! 

797
00:32:33,493 --> 00:32:34,786


798
00:32:34,869 --> 00:32:37,205
- Oh, my God!

799
00:32:37,288 --> 00:32:39,791
Oh, my God, oh, my God! Steer right, no left.

800
00:32:39,874 --> 00:32:41,292
Oh, God!

801
00:32:41,376 --> 00:32:43,961
- Oh. - Oh, shit.

802
00:32:44,045 --> 00:32:45,630


803
00:32:45,713 --> 00:32:48,800
Well, I guess we just learned a very important lesson

804
00:32:48,883 --> 00:32:50,468
in communication.

805
00:32:50,551 --> 00:32:53,262
You know what?

806
00:32:53,346 --> 00:32:55,932
I think I'm gonna give pedal boat dates my endorsement.

807
00:32:56,015 --> 00:32:57,475
You get to learn, early on,

808
00:32:57,558 --> 00:33:00,436
what each other's conflict style's gonna be.

809
00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:01,813


810
00:33:01,896 --> 00:33:03,815
Thank you for saving my notebook.

811
00:33:03,898 --> 00:33:05,400
You're welcome.

812
00:33:06,567 --> 00:33:08,778
I'm sure you have a whole list of things and ideas,

813
00:33:08,861 --> 00:33:10,488
but do I get any say in the dates?

814
00:33:10,571 --> 00:33:13,741
I don't see why not.

815
00:33:13,825 --> 00:33:16,577
'Cause I have a great idea

816
00:33:20,331 --> 00:33:22,166
that will double for our listicle

817
00:33:22,250 --> 00:33:23,501
and may even help you in your Tom-related endeavor.

818
00:33:23,584 --> 00:33:25,002
Hm?

819
00:33:25,086 --> 00:33:27,922


820
00:33:29,882 --> 00:33:30,842
Let me get this straight.

821
00:33:30,925 --> 00:33:35,930
You have all this gear here

822
00:33:39,559 --> 00:33:41,144
in case of any fishing emergency.

823
00:33:41,227 --> 00:33:42,353
My dad and I like to fish. Here, put this on.

824
00:33:42,437 --> 00:33:44,689
- It's gonna get cold. - Thank you.

825
00:33:44,772 --> 00:33:47,942
And put these one. It's gonna get muddy.

826
00:33:48,025 --> 00:33:49,861
This is one way to get the male perspective.

827
00:33:49,944 --> 00:33:53,531
I'm literally putting myself in your shoes.

828
00:33:53,614 --> 00:33:56,534
I have a confession to make.

829
00:33:56,617 --> 00:34:00,788
I haven't fished in a long time,

830
00:34:00,872 --> 00:34:02,707
so I might need a primer on casting.

831
00:34:02,790 --> 00:34:04,500
- Sure. - Okay.

832
00:34:04,584 --> 00:34:07,336


833
00:34:07,420 --> 00:34:08,963
You hold the line with your index finger here.

834
00:34:09,047 --> 00:34:10,882


835
00:34:10,965 --> 00:34:15,719
And, flip the bale back there.

836
00:34:15,803 --> 00:34:17,804


837
00:34:17,889 --> 00:34:20,016
Pull back and release.

838
00:34:20,099 --> 00:34:22,726
Whoa!

839
00:34:22,810 --> 00:34:24,978
It's like riding a bike.

840
00:34:25,062 --> 00:34:26,731


841
00:34:27,982 --> 00:34:30,025
All right, pros and cons of fishing as a date.

842
00:34:30,109 --> 00:34:35,114
Well, you can't beat the ambiance.

843
00:34:36,741 --> 00:34:40,745
So, what does this have to do with Tom?

844
00:34:40,828 --> 00:34:43,498
Are you saying "teach a man to fish,"

845
00:34:43,581 --> 00:34:46,751
or "there are many fish in the sea"?

846
00:34:46,833 --> 00:34:49,085
The thing about fishing, for me, at least,

847
00:34:49,170 --> 00:34:51,005
is...

848
00:34:53,132 --> 00:34:57,929
it's not about catching a bunch of fish.

849
00:34:58,012 --> 00:34:59,889
About being in the moment.

850
00:34:59,972 --> 00:35:04,685
You know, staring out at the water,

851
00:35:04,769 --> 00:35:08,022
looking at the reflection,

852
00:35:08,105 --> 00:35:11,400
yeah, feeling the wind on your face.

853
00:35:11,484 --> 00:35:13,611
It's not about what may or may not happen.

854
00:35:13,694 --> 00:35:16,906
It's about right now.

855
00:35:16,989 --> 00:35:20,409
All right, Captain Zen, so, what does that mean for me?

856
00:35:20,493 --> 00:35:21,994
I can't be with Tom "in the now" because Tom is in the "then."

857
00:35:24,872 --> 00:35:27,917
I guess what I'm saying is,

858
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:32,296
it's so easy to be wrapped up in how things should be

859
00:35:32,380 --> 00:35:33,965
that we forget to be in the present.

860
00:35:34,048 --> 00:35:37,969
For example, how great is it

861
00:35:38,052 --> 00:35:40,972
that right now, in the name of research,

862
00:35:43,724 --> 00:35:46,394
we are fishing on SparkLife's dime?

863
00:35:46,477 --> 00:35:50,815


864
00:35:50,898 --> 00:35:53,401
That's like when you go to open a fortune cookie

865
00:35:53,484 --> 00:35:54,819
and looking for all the answers to your problems

866
00:35:54,902 --> 00:35:57,071
and all it says is

867
00:35:57,154 --> 00:35:59,490
"Your fortune is in another cookie."

868
00:35:59,574 --> 00:36:00,825
Maybe.

869
00:36:00,908 --> 00:36:03,286
With all the wisdom and perspective,

870
00:36:03,369 --> 00:36:06,581
where is the big love in your life?

871
00:36:06,664 --> 00:36:08,499
Just because I'm super qualified

872
00:36:08,583 --> 00:36:11,669
doesn't mean I'm required to jump in the game.

873
00:36:11,752 --> 00:36:14,005
Mm-hm.

874
00:36:14,088 --> 00:36:16,841
- Oh, ooh! - Ah!

875
00:36:16,924 --> 00:36:18,843
I got a bite! I got a bite!

876
00:36:18,926 --> 00:36:20,011
Wait. Oh, wait.

877
00:36:20,094 --> 00:36:22,096
I might be lying.

878
00:36:22,179 --> 00:36:23,347
Oh, nope. That's nothing.

879
00:36:23,431 --> 00:36:24,682
That's just a twig.

880
00:36:24,765 --> 00:36:26,142
What are you talking about? Mini golf is the best!

881
00:36:26,225 --> 00:36:27,852
There's this one time, a long time ago,

882
00:36:27,935 --> 00:36:30,521
things got scary competitive.

883
00:36:30,605 --> 00:36:31,856
Why does that not surprise me?

884
00:36:31,939 --> 00:36:33,441
Okay. How about bowling?

885
00:36:33,524 --> 00:36:34,775
Points for potential double dates.

886
00:36:34,859 --> 00:36:36,027
Yeah, but then you gotta rent the shoes

887
00:36:36,110 --> 00:36:37,695
and you spray them with the stuff.

888
00:36:37,778 --> 00:36:39,363
Oh, and being by a pond getting rugged with nature

889
00:36:39,447 --> 00:36:40,865
is acceptable?

890
00:36:40,948 --> 00:36:43,034
Okay, fishing was great.

891
00:36:43,117 --> 00:36:44,201
You loved it. Don't deny it.

892
00:36:44,285 --> 00:36:45,786
Fine. I won't deny it.

893
00:36:45,870 --> 00:36:47,371
Let's try and find a few indoor options.

894
00:36:47,455 --> 00:36:49,165
I have an idea if you'll humor me.

895
00:36:49,248 --> 00:36:51,542


896
00:36:51,626 --> 00:36:53,210
This is my favorite book store of all time.

897
00:36:53,294 --> 00:36:57,214
Didn't you just move here though?

898
00:36:57,298 --> 00:37:00,551
Well, yeah, from New York, but I grew up in Chicago.

899
00:37:00,635 --> 00:37:02,178
My Dad still lives here.

900
00:37:02,261 --> 00:37:04,805
I used to come here all the time back in high school

901
00:37:04,889 --> 00:37:06,390
when I one day dreamed of being a famous--

902
00:37:06,474 --> 00:37:08,851
Writer for the internet.

903
00:37:08,935 --> 00:37:11,228


904
00:37:11,312 --> 00:37:13,064
You know, I like the personal connection but,

905
00:37:13,147 --> 00:37:15,232
as a dating spot, it's kind of limited time-wise, space-wise.

906
00:37:15,316 --> 00:37:18,402
There aren't a lot of activities.

907
00:37:18,486 --> 00:37:23,574
Oh, you are wrong about that.

908
00:37:23,658 --> 00:37:24,992
Oh, look. Gardening!

909
00:37:25,076 --> 00:37:27,578
Did I tell you that my mom was a master gardener?

910
00:37:27,662 --> 00:37:30,248
No, you didn't.

911
00:37:30,331 --> 00:37:33,000
Wait. Was?

912
00:37:33,084 --> 00:37:34,335
She passed away a couple years back.

913
00:37:35,670 --> 00:37:38,839
I'm sorry to hear that.

914
00:37:38,923 --> 00:37:41,676
Actually, she taught my dad and now he's really running with it.

915
00:37:41,759 --> 00:37:44,428
Anyway, see?

916
00:37:44,512 --> 00:37:47,765
There's conversation starters everywhere, also,

917
00:37:47,848 --> 00:37:49,266
the perfect stage for cute, romantic hijinks.

918
00:37:49,350 --> 00:37:52,269
Please observe!

919
00:37:52,353 --> 00:37:55,606


920
00:37:55,690 --> 00:37:57,024
Hey! Fancy seeing you here.

921
00:37:57,108 --> 00:37:59,443
Hi.

922
00:37:59,527 --> 00:38:01,445
This is only for the bold.

923
00:38:01,529 --> 00:38:02,697
Two potential lovebirds may happen upon

924
00:38:02,780 --> 00:38:06,951
a classic book of poetry and find a little inspiration.

925
00:38:07,034 --> 00:38:10,371
"Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?

926
00:38:10,454 --> 00:38:14,875
Thou art more--"

927
00:38:14,959 --> 00:38:18,295
What? What is it?

928
00:38:18,379 --> 00:38:21,799
Nothing! Oh, hey, look at this!

929
00:38:21,882 --> 00:38:24,802
Wait. Liam, you have a book?

930
00:38:24,885 --> 00:38:26,554
You have a novel?

931
00:38:26,637 --> 00:38:29,557
Alison Morgan lauded as

932
00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:33,477
"a stunning and heartbreaking exploration of love and memory."

933
00:38:33,561 --> 00:38:35,146
And a total flop.

934
00:38:35,229 --> 00:38:38,774
Whoa, what are you doing?

935
00:38:38,858 --> 00:38:39,984
Okay, forget the book. There's no book.

936
00:38:40,067 --> 00:38:41,235
Don't you want people to buy it?

937
00:38:41,318 --> 00:38:43,070
No. Really, I don't.

938
00:38:43,154 --> 00:38:44,989
I don't understand.

939
00:38:45,072 --> 00:38:46,657
It was a long time ago, practically a different life.

940
00:38:46,741 --> 00:38:48,159
Let's just forget about the book, okay?

941
00:38:48,242 --> 00:38:51,328


942
00:38:51,412 --> 00:38:53,998
What are you working on?

943
00:38:54,081 --> 00:38:59,086
You know,

944
00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:08,179
just not writing a novel that was published.

945
00:39:08,262 --> 00:39:09,346
Seriously, what are you working on?

946
00:39:09,430 --> 00:39:14,351
I am writing, or trying to write,

947
00:39:18,606 --> 00:39:20,775
my parents' vow renewal ceremony.

948
00:39:20,858 --> 00:39:24,361
Seems like a job you were made for.

949
00:39:24,445 --> 00:39:26,530
It seems.

950
00:39:26,614 --> 00:39:28,491
And I'm having a very hard time.

951
00:39:28,574 --> 00:39:30,367
What do you got so far?

952
00:39:30,451 --> 00:39:32,661


953
00:39:32,745 --> 00:39:34,121
- Yeah. - Awesome.

954
00:39:38,584 --> 00:39:41,712
It's a nice notebook.

955
00:39:41,796 --> 00:39:42,880
I keep it with me everywhere.

956
00:39:42,963 --> 00:39:44,882
I'm terrified I'll have, like, the perfect thought,

957
00:39:44,965 --> 00:39:47,009
and then it'll disappear forever.

958
00:39:47,093 --> 00:39:49,678


959
00:39:49,762 --> 00:39:52,223
You're a responsible writer that way.

960
00:39:52,306 --> 00:39:53,390
I should take a page out of your book and get one of these.

961
00:39:53,474 --> 00:39:55,184
What's this? "Truths About Love"

962
00:39:55,267 --> 00:39:58,354
Ongoing list I have.

963
00:39:58,437 --> 00:40:02,900
It's personal. It evolves.

964
00:40:02,983 --> 00:40:05,069
Perennial reference.

965
00:40:05,152 --> 00:40:07,488
Guidelines, huh?

966
00:40:07,571 --> 00:40:09,323
- Truths. - Yep.

967
00:40:09,406 --> 00:40:10,533
And no fair critiquing my diary.

968
00:40:10,616 --> 00:40:12,243


969
00:40:12,326 --> 00:40:14,495
Well, maybe we should discuss phase two

970
00:40:14,578 --> 00:40:16,080
of Operation Get Tom Back.

971
00:40:16,163 --> 00:40:17,581
I actually forgot about that for a second.

972
00:40:17,665 --> 00:40:20,084
That's good.

973
00:40:20,167 --> 00:40:23,254
It is?

974
00:40:23,337 --> 00:40:24,505
Yeah, it'll put you in a position

975
00:40:24,588 --> 00:40:25,756
to be more confident.

976
00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:26,924
Right.

977
00:40:27,007 --> 00:40:29,093
All right, our next move is a classic one.

978
00:40:29,176 --> 00:40:30,344
A little intrigue, a little dress-up.

979
00:40:30,427 --> 00:40:34,431
You know, you don't really need my fashion help.

980
00:40:34,515 --> 00:40:38,102
You're adorable.

981
00:40:41,355 --> 00:40:43,440
You have this perfect, professional, vintage,

982
00:40:43,524 --> 00:40:44,900
chic thing going on.

983
00:40:44,984 --> 00:40:47,444
I need a second opinion, and I need help

984
00:40:47,528 --> 00:40:48,863
getting out of my comfort zone.

985
00:40:48,946 --> 00:40:50,698
I need to find something "surprising and irresistible."

986
00:40:50,781 --> 00:40:52,199
Why the air quotes? Who are we quoting?

987
00:40:52,283 --> 00:40:54,535
Liam. My work colleague.

988
00:40:54,618 --> 00:40:57,288
Ooh, tell me about this "work colleague."

989
00:40:57,371 --> 00:40:58,956
No, no, this is not an air quote type of situation.

990
00:40:59,039 --> 00:41:01,542
Okay? This is about getting Tom back.

991
00:41:01,625 --> 00:41:04,879
And Liam's helping me.

992
00:41:04,962 --> 00:41:06,797
Oh.

993
00:41:06,881 --> 00:41:08,132
We are orchestrating

994
00:41:08,215 --> 00:41:08,966
a "run into Tom looking carefree and irresistible."

995
00:41:09,049 --> 00:41:10,467
Pique his interest, cause him to re-evaluate.

996
00:41:10,551 --> 00:41:13,637
I thought we didn't like playing games.

997
00:41:13,721 --> 00:41:16,557
I thought you preferred honesty.

998
00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:18,142
I do.

999
00:41:18,225 --> 00:41:19,476
It's just to get back in the door.

1000
00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:20,728
We can work on the hard stuff later.

1001
00:41:20,811 --> 00:41:21,979
Well, while I don't fully endorse this mission,

1002
00:41:22,062 --> 00:41:23,939
I will always endorse a game of dress-up!

1003
00:41:24,023 --> 00:41:25,816
All right, show me what you're thinking.

1004
00:41:25,900 --> 00:41:28,402
That's pretty.

1005
00:41:28,485 --> 00:41:30,070
Pretty... bad.

1006
00:41:31,489 --> 00:41:33,324


1007
00:41:33,407 --> 00:41:34,825
All right, I've been waiting for this moment.

1008
00:41:34,909 --> 00:41:36,160
- Move aside. - Okay.

1009
00:41:36,243 --> 00:41:38,120


1010
00:41:38,204 --> 00:41:40,164
Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no.

1011
00:41:40,247 --> 00:41:44,752
Shush, shush, shush, shush, shush.

1012
00:41:44,835 --> 00:41:46,795
You bought this in Sao Paulo six years ago

1013
00:41:46,879 --> 00:41:48,505
and have been hand-wringing

1014
00:41:48,589 --> 00:41:51,008
trying to find the perfect time to wear it.

1015
00:41:51,091 --> 00:41:52,343
There's never gonna be a perfect moment.

1016
00:41:52,426 --> 00:41:54,511
So I say, "Now, is the perfect moment."

1017
00:41:54,595 --> 00:41:57,014
Fine!

1018
00:41:57,097 --> 00:42:01,602
- Fine.

1019
00:42:01,685 --> 00:42:04,855


1020
00:42:04,939 --> 00:42:06,523
Okay, Carina, Liam, why don't you catch us up

1021
00:42:06,607 --> 00:42:11,612
with where you're at?

1022
00:42:15,616 --> 00:42:18,118
So we have enough for an extended listicle,

1023
00:42:18,202 --> 00:42:19,536
and to really dig into each date idea,

1024
00:42:19,620 --> 00:42:21,372
have fun with metaphors, wordplay like "rocky boat."

1025
00:42:21,455 --> 00:42:23,123
Yeah, "casting a net," "getting your feet wet."

1026
00:42:23,207 --> 00:42:26,377
And at first glance,

1027
00:42:26,460 --> 00:42:28,128
I thought the list would be straightforward,

1028
00:42:28,212 --> 00:42:29,547
but then our views have diverged from time to time.

1029
00:42:29,630 --> 00:42:31,215
So I think they're be a little rebuttal at the bottom.

1030
00:42:31,298 --> 00:42:33,384
Sort of a he said she said angle.

1031
00:42:33,467 --> 00:42:35,219
- I love it! - Mm-hm.

1032
00:42:35,302 --> 00:42:37,554
What do you think?

1033
00:42:37,638 --> 00:42:39,056
That will work.

1034
00:42:49,066 --> 00:42:50,484
Not too much?

1035
00:42:53,821 --> 00:42:55,739
Not at all.

1036
00:42:55,823 --> 00:42:58,325


1037
00:42:58,409 --> 00:42:59,576
Um, so we know that Tom walks from his office to the gym

1038
00:42:59,660 --> 00:43:01,745
every day on Dearborn Street,

1039
00:43:01,829 --> 00:43:06,083
so all we have to do is time it right.

1040
00:43:06,166 --> 00:43:08,419
I'm gonna send you a text when he leaves.

1041
00:43:08,502 --> 00:43:11,588
You're gonna walk south.

1042
00:43:11,672 --> 00:43:13,674
Inevitably, the two of you are gonna cross paths.

1043
00:43:13,757 --> 00:43:15,384
It's gonna feel completely coincidental.

1044
00:43:15,467 --> 00:43:18,262
- Okay? - Right.

1045
00:43:18,345 --> 00:43:21,432
He is gonna see you looking absolutely gorgeous.

1046
00:43:21,515 --> 00:43:22,766
And, so, you'll stop

1047
00:43:22,850 --> 00:43:26,353
and, and, talk, 'cause that's the polite thing to do.

1048
00:43:29,148 --> 00:43:32,109
One...

1049
00:43:32,192 --> 00:43:36,280
This is the best part.

1050
00:43:36,363 --> 00:43:37,948
It's gonna appear as if you're going on a date,

1051
00:43:38,032 --> 00:43:39,575
but, but, you're not gonna, you're not gonna tell him that.

1052
00:43:39,658 --> 00:43:42,411
In fact, you're protecting his feelings.

1053
00:43:42,494 --> 00:43:44,413
This is gonna take a little acting.

1054
00:43:44,496 --> 00:43:47,958
Okay, turn around.

1055
00:43:48,042 --> 00:43:50,794
Face me. Close your eyes.

1056
00:43:50,878 --> 00:43:52,129


1057
00:43:52,212 --> 00:43:53,964
Just envision.

1058
00:43:54,048 --> 00:43:57,634
You'll be so surprised when you run into Tom today

1059
00:43:59,887 --> 00:44:01,764
because you haven't even thought about him.

1060
00:44:01,847 --> 00:44:04,266
Why?

1061
00:44:04,350 --> 00:44:06,810
Because you met someone new.

1062
00:44:06,894 --> 00:44:08,270
Someone unexpected.

1063
00:44:08,354 --> 00:44:10,606
And... and this new guy, he really sees you

1064
00:44:10,689 --> 00:44:11,982
and appreciates you for who you are.

1065
00:44:12,066 --> 00:44:14,985
Right, all your lists, and your love for your work,

1066
00:44:15,069 --> 00:44:18,405
and your diligent note keeping,

1067
00:44:18,489 --> 00:44:21,909
and, uh, and your doughnuts with pink icing and sprinkles.

1068
00:44:21,992 --> 00:44:23,494


1069
00:44:23,577 --> 00:44:28,332
Anyway, uh, this is the man you'll be on your way to see

1070
00:44:28,415 --> 00:44:31,251
when you run into Tom.

1071
00:44:31,335 --> 00:44:34,171
I guarantee he'll text you by tomorrow night for a coffee.

1072
00:44:34,254 --> 00:44:35,798
Got it, coach.

1073
00:44:35,881 --> 00:44:39,176


1074
00:44:39,259 --> 00:44:41,804


1075
00:44:41,887 --> 00:44:47,101


1076
00:44:52,106 --> 00:44:53,482
Carina?

1077
00:44:53,565 --> 00:44:58,570
Tom!

1078
00:45:02,074 --> 00:45:03,617
- Hi. - Hey, you look amazing.

1079
00:45:03,701 --> 00:45:04,827
Thanks, I'm just on my way to this dinner thing.

1080
00:45:04,910 --> 00:45:07,204
How are you?

1081
00:45:07,287 --> 00:45:10,040
I've had this dress for six years

1082
00:45:10,124 --> 00:45:11,375
and I don't know why I've been saving it for so long.

1083
00:45:11,458 --> 00:45:13,210
Anyway, I'm rambling.

1084
00:45:13,293 --> 00:45:15,045
But you must be on your way to the gym.

1085
00:45:15,129 --> 00:45:16,213
- Endorphins. - Yeah, yeah, I'm good.

1086
00:45:16,296 --> 00:45:18,173
- I'm good, good. - Good, good.

1087
00:45:18,257 --> 00:45:20,050
Anyways, I'm running late. Wonderful to see you.

1088
00:45:20,134 --> 00:45:21,552
Uh... okay.

1089
00:45:21,635 --> 00:45:24,054


1090
00:45:24,138 --> 00:45:25,514
So, how'd it go?

1091
00:45:25,597 --> 00:45:30,602
Good, I think.

1092
00:45:32,813 --> 00:45:33,981
Good. Ah, that's great.

1093
00:45:34,064 --> 00:45:35,566
It feels a little anti-climactic.

1094
00:45:35,649 --> 00:45:38,068
I'm all dressed up and nowhere to go.

1095
00:45:38,152 --> 00:45:39,403
Uh, well, we could go grab a bite,

1096
00:45:39,486 --> 00:45:41,530
the two of us maybe?

1097
00:45:41,613 --> 00:45:44,741
Okay!

1098
00:45:44,825 --> 00:45:46,410


1099
00:45:46,493 --> 00:45:47,578
Both: Mm!

1100
00:45:47,661 --> 00:45:51,665
I think Nicky B's might be the best pizza on the planet.

1101
00:45:53,167 --> 00:45:55,502
Ooh, be careful.

1102
00:45:55,586 --> 00:45:59,590
You don't wanna say that to my mom.

1103
00:45:59,673 --> 00:46:00,591
I'm assuming you haven't had Brazilian pizza?

1104
00:46:00,674 --> 00:46:02,259
There's Brazilian pizza?

1105
00:46:02,342 --> 00:46:04,928
Oh, yeah. It's a big point of pride.

1106
00:46:05,012 --> 00:46:06,513
I have my favorite place in Bucktown.

1107
00:46:06,597 --> 00:46:09,016
- I'll take you. - I'd like that.

1108
00:46:09,099 --> 00:46:11,101
Liam: This will kick off phase three of our plan.

1109
00:46:11,185 --> 00:46:13,604
Enough of this Tom drama.

1110
00:46:14,855 --> 00:46:17,774
Let's shake things up and talk about Liam for a second.

1111
00:46:17,858 --> 00:46:19,443
Why don't we talk about that whole Brazilian pizza thing?

1112
00:46:19,526 --> 00:46:22,404
I wanna know more about you.

1113
00:46:22,488 --> 00:46:25,115
Like, why aren't you out there dating?

1114
00:46:25,199 --> 00:46:26,617
Or, more about your book,

1115
00:46:26,700 --> 00:46:30,120
or why you don't want people buying it.

1116
00:46:30,204 --> 00:46:32,623
The book.

1117
00:46:32,706 --> 00:46:34,374
Well, I worked on it for a long time.

1118
00:46:36,210 --> 00:46:37,669
You know, poured a lot into it.

1119
00:46:40,714 --> 00:46:44,134
You know, took some risks with writing style.

1120
00:46:44,218 --> 00:46:46,637
Even though it received critical praise,

1121
00:46:46,720 --> 00:46:50,557
it totally bombed.

1122
00:46:50,641 --> 00:46:54,311
I had a serious relationship that ended around the same time.

1123
00:46:54,394 --> 00:46:56,772
It was my fault,

1124
00:46:56,855 --> 00:46:59,274
but it didn't make it hurt any less.

1125
00:46:59,358 --> 00:47:00,609
So, I picked up the gig at HW and really leaned into my humor

1126
00:47:00,692 --> 00:47:03,153
and everyone seemed to love it,

1127
00:47:03,237 --> 00:47:07,449
so I just went with it.

1128
00:47:07,533 --> 00:47:09,785
And, uh, it was actually kind of easy.

1129
00:47:09,868 --> 00:47:11,078
A relief.

1130
00:47:11,161 --> 00:47:13,789
Then, last year, I decided to stir things up,

1131
00:47:13,872 --> 00:47:16,625
and move back here,

1132
00:47:16,708 --> 00:47:18,961
take that stab at a second novel,

1133
00:47:19,044 --> 00:47:20,295
quickly failed at that attempt.

1134
00:47:20,379 --> 00:47:22,506
tried to get my old job back, but it was already gone,

1135
00:47:22,589 --> 00:47:24,007
and, well, you know the rest.

1136
00:47:24,091 --> 00:47:27,010
Now you're here writing about

1137
00:47:27,094 --> 00:47:30,013
love and romance at our little website.

1138
00:47:30,097 --> 00:47:31,515
It's not so bad.

1139
00:47:31,598 --> 00:47:35,686
How's your parents' ceremony going?

1140
00:47:35,769 --> 00:47:37,437
Uh, I'm not deflecting. I honestly wanna know.

1141
00:47:39,273 --> 00:47:42,859
I'm feeling really stuck.

1142
00:47:42,943 --> 00:47:48,031
I mean, who am I to write about love?

1143
00:47:48,115 --> 00:47:50,534
What do I know?

1144
00:47:50,617 --> 00:47:52,703
I'm running around playing dress-up.

1145
00:47:52,786 --> 00:47:53,829
I didn't see my break-up coming.

1146
00:47:53,912 --> 00:47:55,622
I'm feeling very unqualified.

1147
00:47:55,706 --> 00:47:58,375
- That's Not true. - You said so yourself.

1148
00:47:58,458 --> 00:48:01,837
My bullet points, my study guides,

1149
00:48:01,920 --> 00:48:05,173
my being bad at "now-ness."

1150
00:48:05,257 --> 00:48:07,175
I have a lot to fix.

1151
00:48:07,259 --> 00:48:10,220
No! Not for me.

1152
00:48:10,304 --> 00:48:11,847
I think some of what I said may have come across the wrong way.

1153
00:48:11,930 --> 00:48:15,726
I know we have to play these games

1154
00:48:15,809 --> 00:48:20,731
in order to open the door for Tom but...

1155
00:48:20,814 --> 00:48:22,357
I...

1156
00:48:22,441 --> 00:48:25,902
It's not my preference.

1157
00:48:25,986 --> 00:48:27,821
I think there's value in the way you engage with everything.

1158
00:48:27,904 --> 00:48:30,741
You know, you attack it.

1159
00:48:30,824 --> 00:48:35,078
You analyze it. You try to understand it.

1160
00:48:35,162 --> 00:48:36,663
What I'm saying is that...

1161
00:48:36,747 --> 00:48:40,917
I'm learning a lot from you.

1162
00:48:41,001 --> 00:48:43,920
For SparkLife

1163
00:48:44,004 --> 00:48:47,424
Thank you.

1164
00:48:47,507 --> 00:48:49,009
I'm learning a lot from you too.

1165
00:48:51,803 --> 00:48:54,431


1166
00:48:54,514 --> 00:48:56,350
It's a text from Tom.

1167
00:49:01,188 --> 00:49:02,856
Said he wants to meet for coffee.

1168
00:49:06,860 --> 00:49:09,112
He's been thinking about things.

1169
00:49:09,196 --> 00:49:11,615
See? Success!

1170
00:49:11,698 --> 00:49:14,701


1171
00:49:14,785 --> 00:49:17,704


1172
00:49:17,788 --> 00:49:20,582


1173
00:49:20,666 --> 00:49:24,628


1174
00:49:24,711 --> 00:49:28,715


1175
00:49:28,799 --> 00:49:32,469


1176
00:49:32,552 --> 00:49:37,224


1177
00:49:37,307 --> 00:49:40,644


1178
00:49:40,727 --> 00:49:43,480
Hey! Trent, long time, no talk.

1179
00:49:43,563 --> 00:49:47,734
How's life at HW?

1180
00:49:49,528 --> 00:49:52,280


1181
00:49:52,364 --> 00:49:53,490


1182
00:49:53,573 --> 00:49:55,409


1183
00:49:55,492 --> 00:49:57,160


1184
00:49:57,244 --> 00:50:01,248


1185
00:50:01,331 --> 00:50:04,960


1186
00:50:05,043 --> 00:50:09,506


1187
00:50:09,589 --> 00:50:11,591


1188
00:50:11,675 --> 00:50:13,677


1189
00:50:13,760 --> 00:50:17,681


1190
00:50:17,764 --> 00:50:21,309


1191
00:50:21,393 --> 00:50:22,853
You seem especially quiet today.

1192
00:50:22,936 --> 00:50:27,607
- I got a call from HW. - What?

1193
00:50:27,691 --> 00:50:31,528
They're, uh... There's a job opening, and...

1194
00:50:31,611 --> 00:50:33,780
Contributing editor, it's a bigger position.

1195
00:50:33,864 --> 00:50:37,492
They want me to come back.

1196
00:50:37,576 --> 00:50:40,370


1197
00:50:40,454 --> 00:50:41,830
Sounds like there's a "but."

1198
00:50:41,913 --> 00:50:44,708
Doesn't feel like the obvious choice anymore.

1199
00:50:44,791 --> 00:50:47,043
Hm.

1200
00:50:47,127 --> 00:50:49,379
You know, and it's been really great living close to you again

1201
00:50:49,463 --> 00:50:51,006
and helping you with all this.

1202
00:50:51,089 --> 00:50:53,383
Sure, yeah, there are lots of pluses to living here.

1203
00:50:53,467 --> 00:50:54,968
I told them I needed some time to think about it.

1204
00:50:55,051 --> 00:50:59,139
And how are things going in the Love and Romance job?

1205
00:50:59,222 --> 00:51:02,559
Yeah, they're going all right.

1206
00:51:04,478 --> 00:51:07,814
And the woman you're collaborating with?

1207
00:51:07,898 --> 00:51:09,733
Things have become more amicable.

1208
00:51:09,816 --> 00:51:11,818
You know, we've gotten into a groove.

1209
00:51:13,278 --> 00:51:15,405
Oh.

1210
00:51:15,489 --> 00:51:17,199
I'm also helping her get her ex-boyfriend back.

1211
00:51:17,282 --> 00:51:18,825
- Why? - I don't know.

1212
00:51:18,909 --> 00:51:21,661
I think I was trying to prove something at the time.

1213
00:51:21,745 --> 00:51:24,247
That's not a great reason, kiddo.

1214
00:51:24,331 --> 00:51:27,584
No. It's not.

1215
00:51:27,667 --> 00:51:30,587


1216
00:51:30,670 --> 00:51:33,256


1217
00:51:33,340 --> 00:51:34,716
- Ah, and I am out! 

1218
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:39,805
- Again? - Again!

1219
00:51:42,432 --> 00:51:46,228
We win again. 

1220
00:51:46,311 --> 00:51:47,687
Gimme your cards.

1221
00:51:47,771 --> 00:51:48,939
Okay, I finally figured out

1222
00:51:49,022 --> 00:51:51,274
the main portion of the ceremony.

1223
00:51:51,358 --> 00:51:52,567
I'm stringing together excerpts with love poems,

1224
00:51:52,651 --> 00:51:54,069
chapters to your love story.

1225
00:51:54,152 --> 00:51:56,530
I'll e-mail you guys tonight.

1226
00:51:56,613 --> 00:51:58,740
No, absolutely not.

1227
00:51:58,824 --> 00:52:00,116
I want it to feel like magic, spontaneous.

1228
00:52:00,200 --> 00:52:01,618
That being said, I do need to finalize the RSVP's.

1229
00:52:01,701 --> 00:52:04,120
Any last minute plus one for any of you ladies?

1230
00:52:04,204 --> 00:52:07,249
Okay. (chuckling)

1231
00:52:07,332 --> 00:52:10,544
Uh, I'll keep my plus one, if it's not too late

1232
00:52:12,379 --> 00:52:15,632
- Oh? - Ooh!

1233
00:52:15,715 --> 00:52:18,426
- Oh! - Ooh!

1234
00:52:18,510 --> 00:52:20,303
It's not for Tom. It's for a work colleague.

1235
00:52:20,387 --> 00:52:22,639
And I think it would be good field research

1236
00:52:22,722 --> 00:52:25,100
for him to observe you lovebirds.

1237
00:52:25,183 --> 00:52:27,060
Great, Carina! My princess.

1238
00:52:27,143 --> 00:52:29,980
- Plus one. - (others laughing)

1239
00:52:30,063 --> 00:52:33,108
It's not a "plus one" plus one.

1240
00:52:33,191 --> 00:52:36,152
It's just a... plus one.

1241
00:52:36,236 --> 00:52:38,488
It sounds like a plus one.

1242
00:52:38,572 --> 00:52:40,574
- Right. - Julia: Sure.

1243
00:52:40,657 --> 00:52:42,117
- Can we deal again please? - Yes, please.

1244
00:52:42,200 --> 00:52:43,285
And we're gonna beat you this time.

1245
00:52:43,368 --> 00:52:44,661
- No, I need to win again. - No!

1246
00:52:44,744 --> 00:52:45,829


1247
00:52:45,912 --> 00:52:47,289
So, how's the mission to get Tom back going?

1248
00:52:47,372 --> 00:52:50,917
Good, actually.

1249
00:52:51,001 --> 00:52:53,336
The whole "breezy irresistible" plan

1250
00:52:53,420 --> 00:52:54,671
kinda worked.

1251
00:52:54,754 --> 00:52:56,506
Told you. The dress!

1252
00:52:56,590 --> 00:52:57,674
Tom texted actually saying he's been "thinking about things.”

1253
00:52:57,757 --> 00:52:59,843
I have to say, I thought you'd be a bit more excited

1254
00:52:59,926 --> 00:53:04,681
about the turn of events.

1255
00:53:04,764 --> 00:53:06,600
I don't seem excited?

1256
00:53:06,683 --> 00:53:08,685
- Oh!

1257
00:53:08,768 --> 00:53:10,520
Well, now you seem excited.

1258
00:53:10,604 --> 00:53:12,606
Well, no, it's not Tom. It's the, uh, work guy.

1259
00:53:12,689 --> 00:53:14,149
We have this funny thread going back and forth

1260
00:53:14,232 --> 00:53:17,193
of cheesy puns about the article.

1261
00:53:17,277 --> 00:53:19,487
"Get a read on your date at the bookstore.”

1262
00:53:19,571 --> 00:53:21,698
- Anyway, it's dorky.

1263
00:53:21,781 --> 00:53:23,700
Oh, which reminds me, I have something I have to check out.

1264
00:53:23,783 --> 00:53:26,369
- Do you wanna join? - Of course!

1265
00:53:26,453 --> 00:53:28,622
- Okay. - Thanks for cake.

1266
00:53:28,705 --> 00:53:29,873
Woo!

1267
00:53:29,956 --> 00:53:31,374


1268
00:53:31,458 --> 00:53:32,792
Wow! This place is cute.

1269
00:53:32,876 --> 00:53:35,962
Pretty great, right?

1270
00:53:36,046 --> 00:53:38,298
Are you looking for something specific?

1271
00:53:38,381 --> 00:53:39,716
Yes, I've been meaning to read this book.

1272
00:53:39,799 --> 00:53:41,551
You've been meaning to read that book?

1273
00:53:41,635 --> 00:53:44,721
Mm-hm.

1274
00:53:44,804 --> 00:53:46,890
That one randomly tucked all the way up there?

1275
00:53:46,973 --> 00:53:48,058
- Yes. - Uh-huh.

1276
00:53:48,141 --> 00:53:52,145
- Yeah, so? - Yeah?

1277
00:53:52,228 --> 00:53:53,396


1278
00:53:53,480 --> 00:53:55,231


1279
00:53:55,315 --> 00:53:58,652


1280
00:53:58,735 --> 00:54:03,657


1281
00:54:03,740 --> 00:54:07,744


1282
00:54:07,827 --> 00:54:08,912


1283
00:54:08,995 --> 00:54:13,541


1284
00:54:13,625 --> 00:54:15,418


1285
00:54:15,502 --> 00:54:20,256


1286
00:54:20,340 --> 00:54:23,927


1287
00:54:24,010 --> 00:54:25,679


1288
00:54:25,762 --> 00:54:27,597


1289
00:54:27,681 --> 00:54:29,724


1290
00:54:29,808 --> 00:54:31,226


1291
00:54:31,309 --> 00:54:34,604


1292
00:54:34,688 --> 00:54:35,855


1293
00:54:35,939 --> 00:54:38,775


1294
00:54:38,858 --> 00:54:40,777


1295
00:54:40,860 --> 00:54:42,612


1296
00:54:42,696 --> 00:54:45,949


1297
00:54:46,032 --> 00:54:49,786


1298
00:54:49,869 --> 00:54:52,580


1299
00:54:52,664 --> 00:54:55,792
Good morning. What's going on with you?

1300
00:54:55,875 --> 00:55:00,046
I spent all night reading my work colleague's book

1301
00:55:06,886 --> 00:55:09,973
and it's just amazing.

1302
00:55:10,056 --> 00:55:13,643
It's... It's lyrical.

1303
00:55:13,727 --> 00:55:16,771
It's tender.

1304
00:55:16,855 --> 00:55:19,149
It's full of beautiful observations.

1305
00:55:19,232 --> 00:55:20,275
It's... it's surprising.

1306
00:55:20,358 --> 00:55:22,736
Is this the same "work colleague"

1307
00:55:22,819 --> 00:55:25,071
who's helping you get Tom back?

1308
00:55:25,155 --> 00:55:26,823
Yes, but that's besides the point.

1309
00:55:26,906 --> 00:55:28,158
I-I just don't know how I didn't see it.

1310
00:55:28,241 --> 00:55:30,160
I just kept seeing him as a bad fit for the column.

1311
00:55:30,243 --> 00:55:32,495
Sure, "the column."

1312
00:55:32,579 --> 00:55:35,665
And it turns out he's one of the best writers

1313
00:55:35,749 --> 00:55:37,125
I've ever read.

1314
00:55:37,208 --> 00:55:40,336
Hey.

1315
00:55:40,420 --> 00:55:42,213
Hey there.

1316
00:55:42,213 --> 00:55:56,603
Um, I got you something.

1317
00:55:56,603 --> 00:55:57,771
Just a little something.

1318
00:55:57,854 --> 00:55:59,355
You mentioned earlier you wanted to get better

1319
00:55:59,439 --> 00:56:02,650
at jotting down notes.

1320
00:56:02,734 --> 00:56:05,278
So I thought why not start now?

1321
00:56:05,361 --> 00:56:06,946
It's very silly. I can take it back.

1322
00:56:07,030 --> 00:56:08,156
What? No, no, I love it.

1323
00:56:08,239 --> 00:56:10,992
It's perfect.

1324
00:56:11,076 --> 00:56:12,452
Okay. Cool.

1325
00:56:12,535 --> 00:56:13,787


1326
00:56:13,870 --> 00:56:15,538
If you're free Saturday, would you wanna come

1327
00:56:15,622 --> 00:56:18,208
to my parents' anniversary party?

1328
00:56:18,291 --> 00:56:19,459
Oh, uh...

1329
00:56:19,542 --> 00:56:21,795
I guess you have a vacant plus one then, huh?

1330
00:56:21,878 --> 00:56:25,131
No, no, I just I thought it might be good field research.

1331
00:56:25,215 --> 00:56:26,382
You know, the vow renewals and all.

1332
00:56:26,466 --> 00:56:29,344
And, uh, maybe fun?

1333
00:56:29,427 --> 00:56:33,681
Yeah, um, that sounds nice.

1334
00:56:33,765 --> 00:56:37,310
It's a... It's a date.

1335
00:56:37,393 --> 00:56:39,979
There's Love and Romance.

1336
00:56:40,063 --> 00:56:43,066
- I didn't... - Hm?

1337
00:56:43,149 --> 00:56:45,819
I'm saying, "Here you are, my writers, from

1338
00:56:45,902 --> 00:56:48,822
the Love and Romance section."

1339
00:56:48,905 --> 00:56:50,406
- Yes. - Oh. 

1340
00:56:50,490 --> 00:56:52,200
Here we are. Mm-hm.

1341
00:56:52,283 --> 00:56:53,910
Could I see the two of you in my office?

1342
00:56:53,993 --> 00:56:55,370
- Mm-hm. - Mm-hm, mm-hm.

1343
00:56:55,453 --> 00:56:56,913
Mm-hm, good.

1344
00:56:56,996 --> 00:56:58,581
I just want to say, again,

1345
00:56:58,665 --> 00:57:00,667
You did amazing work on the 15 Unique Dates piece.

1346
00:57:00,750 --> 00:57:02,335
But.

1347
00:57:07,465 --> 00:57:08,675
But, we got a ton of e-mails about the sudden drop off

1348
00:57:08,758 --> 00:57:12,095
in the Me and T column.

1349
00:57:12,178 --> 00:57:13,555
Oh.

1350
00:57:13,638 --> 00:57:16,599
Ronda: The series was a bigger favorite than I thought.

1351
00:57:16,683 --> 00:57:18,017
You know, the listicles and date tips are fun,

1352
00:57:18,101 --> 00:57:19,352
but we need something with more oomph.

1353
00:57:19,435 --> 00:57:21,229
And I've been trying to think of a way of moving forward with it

1354
00:57:21,312 --> 00:57:23,273
to keep with the "real life," theme,

1355
00:57:23,356 --> 00:57:25,066
but also be inspirational.

1356
00:57:25,150 --> 00:57:27,777
But, the "real life" story

1357
00:57:27,861 --> 00:57:29,571
ended in an unexplained break-up.

1358
00:57:29,654 --> 00:57:31,614
But maybe not permanently?

1359
00:57:31,698 --> 00:57:32,866
I mean, maybe it's a story about fighting for love?

1360
00:57:32,949 --> 00:57:36,786
Getting him back.

1361
00:57:36,870 --> 00:57:38,246
Or, it could be a story about, you know, letting go.

1362
00:57:38,329 --> 00:57:40,957
Moving on. Starting anew?

1363
00:57:41,040 --> 00:57:43,042
Hm.

1364
00:57:43,126 --> 00:57:46,963
All nascent ideas, just brainstorming.

1365
00:57:47,046 --> 00:57:49,465
I think there are many ways we can go.

1366
00:57:49,549 --> 00:57:50,967
Either tying up the Me and T storyline,

1367
00:57:51,050 --> 00:57:53,928
or replacing it with something equally impactful,

1368
00:57:54,012 --> 00:57:55,930
but I need something soon.

1369
00:57:56,014 --> 00:57:57,390
So you can either submit pitches separately or together.

1370
00:57:57,473 --> 00:58:00,643
Whichever way you like.

1371
00:58:00,727 --> 00:58:02,478
My instinct is to submit together.

1372
00:58:02,562 --> 00:58:04,814
Yeah, they say "Two heads are better than one."

1373
00:58:04,898 --> 00:58:06,983
- Off, you go. - Okay.

1374
00:58:07,066 --> 00:58:10,069


1375
00:58:10,153 --> 00:58:13,114
A story of "letting go, starting anew"?

1376
00:58:13,198 --> 00:58:14,824
Sorry, I got a little overzealous in there.

1377
00:58:14,908 --> 00:58:18,328
Didn't know you felt that way.

1378
00:58:18,411 --> 00:58:20,663
Oh, I was just spitballing.

1379
00:58:20,747 --> 00:58:22,624
You know, we've got out plan. We're on track to get Tom back.

1380
00:58:22,707 --> 00:58:23,833
Hm.

1381
00:58:23,917 --> 00:58:25,627
Uh, how do you feel about that anyway?

1382
00:58:25,710 --> 00:58:29,172
I think the plan's working.

1383
00:58:29,255 --> 00:58:30,173
My coffee date with Tom is tomorrow.

1384
00:58:30,256 --> 00:58:33,760
And you'll be proud to know that he asked to do it today,

1385
00:58:33,843 --> 00:58:35,011
but I said I was too busy.

1386
00:58:35,094 --> 00:58:36,846
I also made him come to my side of town.

1387
00:58:36,930 --> 00:58:39,515
The student has become the master.

1388
00:58:39,599 --> 00:58:40,767
Mm-hm. 

1389
00:58:40,850 --> 00:58:42,936
Oh, we have our work cut out for us

1390
00:58:43,019 --> 00:58:44,520
to find a Me and T replacement.

1391
00:58:44,604 --> 00:58:46,189
Do you wanna meet up later?

1392
00:58:46,272 --> 00:58:47,982
No, actually, I can't. I have to help my dad.

1393
00:58:48,066 --> 00:58:49,651
But, you could come there?

1394
00:58:49,734 --> 00:58:51,110
And we could brainstorm while I work?

1395
00:58:51,194 --> 00:58:53,863
I could swing that.

1396
00:58:53,947 --> 00:58:55,949
- Great. - Great.

1397
00:58:56,032 --> 00:58:58,034


1398
00:58:58,117 --> 00:58:59,369
- Hello. - Well, hello yourself.

1399
00:58:59,452 --> 00:59:01,287
- You must be Carina. - Yeah, hi.

1400
00:59:03,289 --> 00:59:08,294
I'm Liam's dad. Milton.

1401
00:59:10,255 --> 00:59:13,132
- Nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you, Carina.

1402
00:59:13,216 --> 00:59:14,717
I've heard a lot about you.

1403
00:59:14,801 --> 00:59:16,219
What? No, you haven't.

1404
00:59:16,302 --> 00:59:18,888
- Good things I hope.

1405
00:59:18,972 --> 00:59:20,139
Nothing about me being an intractable tyrant?

1406
00:59:20,223 --> 00:59:23,559
Good things only!

1407
00:59:23,643 --> 00:59:26,312
This is really beautiful, Milton.

1408
00:59:26,396 --> 00:59:28,398
Thank you, Carina.

1409
00:59:28,481 --> 00:59:30,483
It is a hobby that has gotten completely out of control.

1410
00:59:30,566 --> 00:59:31,901
Ah, he's just being modest.

1411
00:59:31,985 --> 00:59:33,486
He's opening this place up to the community soon.

1412
00:59:33,569 --> 00:59:36,572
It's like a park or a botanical garden.

1413
00:59:36,656 --> 00:59:38,074
- It's a big deal. - Carina: Oh.

1414
00:59:38,157 --> 00:59:40,243
In honor of Liam's mother. We used to collaborate.

1415
00:59:40,326 --> 00:59:43,246
She taught me everything I know.

1416
00:59:43,329 --> 00:59:45,415
Well, look, it's time for this old gardener

1417
00:59:45,498 --> 00:59:49,168
to take a little break.

1418
00:59:49,252 --> 00:59:52,338
I'll leave you two to it.

1419
00:59:52,422 --> 00:59:54,173
- It's lovely to meet you. - You too.

1420
00:59:54,257 --> 00:59:55,591
- Shall we? - Yes, we shall.

1421
00:59:55,675 --> 00:59:57,093
What about a letter to readers

1422
00:59:57,176 --> 00:59:59,721
just bringing everything down to earth?

1423
00:59:59,804 --> 01:00:04,100
You know, coming clean about Tom.

1424
01:00:04,183 --> 01:00:06,436
Oh, not that again. Just say it the way it is?

1425
01:00:06,519 --> 01:00:08,271
Well, if you can be real when things are going well,

1426
01:00:08,354 --> 01:00:09,772
why can't you be real when they aren't?

1427
01:00:09,856 --> 01:00:13,776
My readers look to me for guidance and inspiration,

1428
01:00:13,860 --> 01:00:16,446
not sulking and navel gazing.

1429
01:00:16,529 --> 01:00:18,614
It's a moot point anyway, because we don't know how

1430
01:00:18,698 --> 01:00:22,702
the situation's gonna turn out.

1431
01:00:22,785 --> 01:00:25,788
It's murky. Narratively.

1432
01:00:25,872 --> 01:00:28,082
What about you?

1433
01:00:28,166 --> 01:00:29,375
Any fun, personal stories you wanna get into?

1434
01:00:29,459 --> 01:00:32,462
Not especially.

1435
01:00:32,545 --> 01:00:33,796
What about your parents' ceremony?

1436
01:00:33,880 --> 01:00:35,590
I can't even write it.

1437
01:00:35,673 --> 01:00:36,799
Much less write about writing it.

1438
01:00:36,883 --> 01:00:38,134
My brain hurts

1439
01:00:38,217 --> 01:00:39,802
Mine too.

1440
01:00:39,886 --> 01:00:42,805
I have an idea. Follow me.

1441
01:00:42,889 --> 01:00:44,932
Okay.

1442
01:00:45,016 --> 01:00:46,559
Whenever I'm stuck creatively, I...

1443
01:00:48,978 --> 01:00:51,981
It's helpful, to, you know, do something tactile.

1444
01:00:52,065 --> 01:00:53,566
Being in the now? But with dirt?

1445
01:00:53,566 --> 01:01:05,328
Yeah, you joke, but, yeah, that's pretty much it.

1446
01:01:05,328 --> 01:01:08,498
It's really nice of you to help your dad with his garden.

1447
01:01:08,581 --> 01:01:11,167
Are you kidding? He does not need my help.

1448
01:01:11,250 --> 01:01:14,670
This... this is secretly selfish.

1449
01:01:14,754 --> 01:01:17,799
It's the best excuse to procrastinate.

1450
01:01:17,882 --> 01:01:20,968


1451
01:01:21,052 --> 01:01:24,013
He loves the classics.

1452
01:01:24,097 --> 01:01:26,140
Usually not pointed away from him, outside a window.

1453
01:01:26,224 --> 01:01:28,684


1454
01:01:28,768 --> 01:01:33,689
Ooh, you know, this could be a good, unique date idea?

1455
01:01:33,773 --> 01:01:36,442
We still have time.

1456
01:01:36,526 --> 01:01:40,113
There's a lot of potential and metaphors, like,

1457
01:01:40,196 --> 01:01:43,366
"repotting one's self," or, "finding new love--"

1458
01:01:43,449 --> 01:01:46,202
Nah, let's... let's just save this one for ourselves.

1459
01:01:46,285 --> 01:01:47,703


1460
01:01:47,787 --> 01:01:50,623
I have a confession to make.

1461
01:01:50,706 --> 01:01:54,544
I read your book.

1462
01:01:54,627 --> 01:01:58,297
No. 

1463
01:01:58,381 --> 01:02:03,386
- That thing? - It's really good!

1464
01:02:07,890 --> 01:02:10,726
It's more than really good, Liam.

1465
01:02:10,810 --> 01:02:13,187
No, it's amazing.

1466
01:02:13,271 --> 01:02:15,231
It's like your dad, and your mom, and this garden.

1467
01:02:15,314 --> 01:02:18,568
What I'm trying to say is you're a brilliant novelist

1468
01:02:18,651 --> 01:02:20,236
and I don't know why you try and hide it.

1469
01:02:20,319 --> 01:02:21,863
Because it was a complete failure.

1470
01:02:21,946 --> 01:02:26,159
On what terms?

1471
01:02:27,994 --> 01:02:32,248
It took me five years to write that book,

1472
01:02:32,331 --> 01:02:34,584
and it amounted to nothing.

1473
01:02:34,667 --> 01:02:36,586
You know, all those years lost.

1474
01:02:36,669 --> 01:02:38,713
You really think that?

1475
01:02:38,796 --> 01:02:41,924
I disagree.

1476
01:02:42,008 --> 01:02:43,551
I think that in the grand scheme of things,

1477
01:02:43,634 --> 01:02:45,052
it brought you to where you were supposed to be.

1478
01:02:45,136 --> 01:02:47,054
Even if it's with me, here,

1479
01:02:47,138 --> 01:02:48,431
writing articles about speed dating.

1480
01:02:48,514 --> 01:02:50,433
Speaking of "no time lost."

1481
01:02:50,516 --> 01:02:52,894
Maybe there's something in your theory

1482
01:02:52,977 --> 01:02:54,395
that can be applied to your Tom-related situation.

1483
01:02:54,479 --> 01:02:57,773
Like what? Keep trying?

1484
01:02:57,857 --> 01:03:01,110
No.

1485
01:03:01,194 --> 01:03:02,612
When I asked you why you wanted Tom back,

1486
01:03:02,695 --> 01:03:05,907
you said that "all that time couldn't have been for nothing."

1487
01:03:05,990 --> 01:03:08,451
But what if those years brought you to where you need to be?

1488
01:03:08,534 --> 01:03:10,119
Even if you don't end up with Tom.

1489
01:03:10,203 --> 01:03:12,538
I think it's a mistake, going back to him.

1490
01:03:12,622 --> 01:03:15,708
He broke up with you. He didn't say why.

1491
01:03:15,791 --> 01:03:19,462
You... you deserve better.

1492
01:03:19,545 --> 01:03:21,380
I should go.

1493
01:03:25,051 --> 01:03:29,555
I'll e-mail Ronda

1494
01:03:29,639 --> 01:03:33,226
the 15 Unique Date Ideas tonight.

1495
01:03:33,309 --> 01:03:36,229
Um, we should give the speed dating article

1496
01:03:38,564 --> 01:03:40,525
another stab.

1497
01:03:43,402 --> 01:03:44,570
I think you should take a crack at it on your own.

1498
01:03:44,654 --> 01:03:49,242
What?

1499
01:03:49,325 --> 01:03:51,160
Aren't you worried that I'm gonna, you know, go rogue?

1500
01:03:51,244 --> 01:03:52,662
Mess things up?

1501
01:03:52,745 --> 01:03:54,664
Send the whole Love and Romance section up in flames?

1502
01:03:54,747 --> 01:03:55,998
A little. 

1503
01:03:56,082 --> 01:03:58,668
But now I've seen what you can do.

1504
01:03:58,751 --> 01:04:00,002
Thanks for inviting me. Thanks for everything.

1505
01:04:00,086 --> 01:04:02,338
Good luck with your coffee tomorrow.

1506
01:04:02,421 --> 01:04:04,423


1507
01:04:04,507 --> 01:04:07,510


1508
01:04:07,593 --> 01:04:12,515


1509
01:04:12,598 --> 01:04:14,517


1510
01:04:14,600 --> 01:04:19,605


1511
01:04:19,605 --> 01:04:36,247
- Hi. - Hey.

1512
01:04:36,247 --> 01:04:41,460
- Sorry I'm late. - No, no, it's okay.

1513
01:04:42,295 --> 01:04:44,463
It's, uh, just so unlike you.

1514
01:04:47,800 --> 01:04:51,470
Just shakin' things up! You know?

1515
01:04:55,641 --> 01:05:00,646
Uh, and work's just been really crazy.

1516
01:05:00,646 --> 01:05:32,428
Yeah?

1517
01:05:32,428 --> 01:05:34,889
Isn't it Marisa and Frank's anniversary party

1518
01:05:34,972 --> 01:05:37,183
this weekend, too?

1519
01:05:37,266 --> 01:05:38,684
Yeah, that's right. You remembered.

1520
01:05:38,768 --> 01:05:40,936
Of course. They meant a lot to me.

1521
01:05:41,020 --> 01:05:43,689
They, uh... They mean a lot to me.

1522
01:05:43,773 --> 01:05:44,899
Carina,

1523
01:05:44,982 --> 01:05:47,777
I wanna be there this weekend.

1524
01:05:47,860 --> 01:05:48,778
Oh! As a friend of the family?

1525
01:05:48,861 --> 01:05:50,404
I'm sure we'll make some room.

1526
01:05:50,488 --> 01:05:52,615
No, not just as a friend of the family.

1527
01:05:52,698 --> 01:05:55,534
I think I made a mistake.

1528
01:05:57,828 --> 01:05:59,288
When I saw you the other day, it was just like...

1529
01:05:59,372 --> 01:06:02,291
Something jogged in my memory.

1530
01:06:02,375 --> 01:06:05,127
We've been through so much together.

1531
01:06:05,211 --> 01:06:06,879


1532
01:06:06,962 --> 01:06:10,424
I mean, we have history. We've made plans together.

1533
01:06:10,508 --> 01:06:13,552
We're gonna grow old together.

1534
01:06:13,636 --> 01:06:17,306
What do you say?

1535
01:06:17,390 --> 01:06:20,434
(sighing)

1536
01:06:20,518 --> 01:06:22,144
I don't know, Tom.

1537
01:06:22,228 --> 01:06:25,481
I'm, uh...

1538
01:06:25,564 --> 01:06:29,068
This has been a really confusing time, you know?

1539
01:06:29,151 --> 01:06:31,070
And, I...

1540
01:06:31,153 --> 01:06:33,239
You should come this weekend as a friend of the family.

1541
01:06:33,322 --> 01:06:35,157
I think that would be nice.

1542
01:06:35,241 --> 01:06:36,409
Um, I just need time to think.

1543
01:06:36,492 --> 01:06:37,910
Of course.

1544
01:06:37,993 --> 01:06:39,995
Yeah, yeah, I know you're methodical, so...

1545
01:06:40,079 --> 01:06:41,664
Think it through. Good plan.

1546
01:06:41,747 --> 01:06:44,750
Carina, just wanted to say

1547
01:06:44,834 --> 01:06:46,335
great job on that 15 Dates article.

1548
01:06:46,419 --> 01:06:49,839
It had pop, just the right amount of humor,

1549
01:06:49,922 --> 01:06:51,340
a lot of heart.

1550
01:06:51,424 --> 01:06:54,176
Thank you. I'm happy with it too!

1551
01:06:54,260 --> 01:06:55,928
Also, Liam's piece he submitted early this morning

1552
01:07:03,936 --> 01:07:05,688
is exactly what the site needs.

1553
01:07:05,771 --> 01:07:07,857
Just, oh, remarkable!

1554
01:07:07,940 --> 01:07:10,443
Wow! He sent it in already?

1555
01:07:10,526 --> 01:07:11,694
- That was fast. - Great delegating.

1556
01:07:11,777 --> 01:07:13,195
- Hey! - Hey.

1557
01:07:13,279 --> 01:07:15,948
How was coffee?

1558
01:07:16,031 --> 01:07:17,867
It was all right.

1559
01:07:17,950 --> 01:07:19,201
Tom wanna get back together?

1560
01:07:19,285 --> 01:07:20,494
He does.

1561
01:07:20,578 --> 01:07:23,706
Congratulations. Well done.

1562
01:07:29,128 --> 01:07:31,130
I guess you'll want your plus one back for Saturday.

1563
01:07:31,213 --> 01:07:32,548
No, I'd really like for you to go.

1564
01:07:32,631 --> 01:07:34,049
I'm don't really feel like being a third wheel.

1565
01:07:34,133 --> 01:07:35,718
It's not like that.

1566
01:07:35,801 --> 01:07:37,720
I don't even know what's going on.

1567
01:07:37,803 --> 01:07:40,556
Ronda: Meeting's starting everyone!

1568
01:07:40,639 --> 01:07:43,350
Oh, Ronda was over the moon about our 15 Dates article,

1569
01:07:43,434 --> 01:07:45,144
- and our-- - Actually, I wanted to talk

1570
01:07:45,227 --> 01:07:48,230
to you about that.

1571
01:07:48,314 --> 01:07:49,398
Before we go in, um, if we could just--

1572
01:07:49,482 --> 01:07:51,567
Love and Romance? Let's get going.

1573
01:07:51,650 --> 01:07:53,903
- To be continued? - Yeah, okay, yeah.

1574
01:07:53,986 --> 01:07:56,864
All right then, and now for something new and exciting

1575
01:07:56,947 --> 01:07:58,240
in Love and Romance,

1576
01:07:58,324 --> 01:07:59,533
Liam has just sent in his first solo article.

1577
01:07:59,617 --> 01:08:00,910
It's not ready for publication quite yet,

1578
01:08:00,993 --> 01:08:03,412
but close, "10 Reasons You Should Not Go Back to Him."

1579
01:08:03,496 --> 01:08:07,666
This is exactly the kind of male point of view

1580
01:08:07,750 --> 01:08:11,086
that's gonna add a new dynamic to our website.

1581
01:08:11,170 --> 01:08:12,755
Kimberly: Is it a listicle?

1582
01:08:12,838 --> 01:08:15,591
No, it's... it's more of an essay.

1583
01:08:15,674 --> 01:08:18,260
It's first person direct address.

1584
01:08:18,344 --> 01:08:23,099
It reads like... like a... like a letter to a friend.

1585
01:08:23,182 --> 01:08:25,684
Actually, now that I think about it,

1586
01:08:25,768 --> 01:08:28,437
this would be the perfect replacement

1587
01:08:28,520 --> 01:08:29,772
for Me and T.

1588
01:08:29,854 --> 01:08:32,274
Is this what you had in mind when you submitted, Liam?

1589
01:08:32,358 --> 01:08:33,776
One...

1590
01:08:33,859 --> 01:08:36,654
I hadn't originally thought of it like that, but, I'm amenable.

1591
01:08:38,948 --> 01:08:40,115
Carina, what do you think?

1592
01:08:40,198 --> 01:08:41,617
It's great. Just the perspective we need.

1593
01:08:41,700 --> 01:08:43,243
Carina.

1594
01:08:43,327 --> 01:08:47,122
"Reasons You Shouldn't Go Back to Him?"

1595
01:08:47,206 --> 01:08:48,916
What are you trying to do? Get in the last word?

1596
01:08:48,999 --> 01:08:53,754
Prove yourself right? Get in good with Ronda?

1597
01:08:53,837 --> 01:08:55,548
What? No!

1598
01:08:58,216 --> 01:09:01,136
Look, I think you should at least read the article

1599
01:09:01,136 --> 01:09:11,229
before you get so upset.

1600
01:09:11,229 --> 01:09:12,481
I don't need to read it. I get the gist.

1601
01:09:12,564 --> 01:09:14,817
You just made me look clueless in front of my colleagues,

1602
01:09:14,899 --> 01:09:17,819
to my readers--

1603
01:09:17,903 --> 01:09:19,488
Nobody knows the "You" is you.

1604
01:09:19,572 --> 01:09:20,990
But it is me!

1605
01:09:21,073 --> 01:09:22,658
And it won't take much for them to figure that out.

1606
01:09:22,741 --> 01:09:23,908
You pushed me again and again to dig into my personal life,

1607
01:09:23,993 --> 01:09:25,953
and my resistance isn't because I'm afraid or I'm hiding.

1608
01:09:26,036 --> 01:09:28,831
It's because of who I have to be for my readers

1609
01:09:28,913 --> 01:09:29,832
and you're undercutting that!

1610
01:09:29,915 --> 01:09:32,001
I honestly didn't think I was overstepping,

1611
01:09:32,084 --> 01:09:33,294
or that you'd be this upset.

1612
01:09:33,377 --> 01:09:35,837
Of course you did!

1613
01:09:35,921 --> 01:09:40,134
That's why you went behind my back.

1614
01:09:40,216 --> 01:09:44,013
No, wait. That is not what happened.

1615
01:09:44,095 --> 01:09:46,307
Look, I-I-I was working on the... on the article

1616
01:09:46,390 --> 01:09:47,640
for the speed dating and I got inspired by you

1617
01:09:47,725 --> 01:09:48,850
to write this other, better piece, and so,

1618
01:09:48,934 --> 01:09:50,102
I just went with it.

1619
01:09:50,185 --> 01:09:51,103
And it felt right, and I was excited,

1620
01:09:51,185 --> 01:09:52,604
so I sent it in.

1621
01:09:52,688 --> 01:09:55,774
I'm not trying to put you down or squelch your voice, Liam.

1622
01:09:55,858 --> 01:09:58,694
I just thought we were on the same team.

1623
01:09:58,777 --> 01:10:02,823
I thought so too.

1624
01:10:02,907 --> 01:10:06,368


1625
01:10:06,452 --> 01:10:07,620
- Carina. - Not now.

1626
01:10:07,703 --> 01:10:09,038


1627
01:10:09,121 --> 01:10:10,456


1628
01:10:10,539 --> 01:10:14,877
Hm.

1629
01:10:14,960 --> 01:10:17,713
Aw, Mamae, you look beautiful.

1630
01:10:17,796 --> 01:10:19,173
Amor, have you seen my reading glasses?

1631
01:10:19,256 --> 01:10:24,261
Dad, you can't see the bride before the ceremony!

1632
01:10:25,554 --> 01:10:27,389
Julia: So, catch me up.

1633
01:10:27,473 --> 01:10:29,642
Tom's coming to the party, but things aren't back on?

1634
01:10:31,268 --> 01:10:34,355
I don't know. I'm so confused.

1635
01:10:34,438 --> 01:10:35,564
It's like I finally got what I wanted,

1636
01:10:35,648 --> 01:10:37,191
but I forgot that I wanted it.

1637
01:10:37,274 --> 01:10:39,234
It's like when you say a word over and over again

1638
01:10:39,318 --> 01:10:42,738
and it just stops making sense.

1639
01:10:42,821 --> 01:10:44,365
Well, he hurt you. It's understandable to be wary.

1640
01:10:44,448 --> 01:10:47,743
Yeah, maybe time will tell.

1641
01:10:47,826 --> 01:10:49,912
I must admit I was a little bit curious about

1642
01:10:49,995 --> 01:10:51,747
this "work colleague" that kept coming up.

1643
01:10:51,830 --> 01:10:54,041
Who surprised you with his beautiful writing.

1644
01:10:54,124 --> 01:10:55,751
Yeah, I thought that might be something special,

1645
01:10:55,834 --> 01:10:57,920
but, um, it turns out, it's not.

1646
01:10:58,003 --> 01:11:00,923


1647
01:11:01,006 --> 01:11:03,676


1648
01:11:03,759 --> 01:11:05,886


1649
01:11:05,970 --> 01:11:08,597


1650
01:11:08,681 --> 01:11:11,350


1651
01:11:11,433 --> 01:11:14,770


1652
01:11:14,853 --> 01:11:17,273


1653
01:11:17,356 --> 01:11:22,361


1654
01:11:25,197 --> 01:11:26,865


1655
01:11:29,952 --> 01:11:32,579
Um, hey. What's... what's going on here?

1656
01:11:32,663 --> 01:11:34,415
Oh, I'm going back to, uh, New York, back to HW.

1657
01:11:34,498 --> 01:11:38,460
New position opened up, better than my last one.

1658
01:11:38,544 --> 01:11:40,462
Oh. Um, congratulations.

1659
01:11:40,546 --> 01:11:44,633
Thanks.

1660
01:11:44,717 --> 01:11:54,893
Um, are you going to be writing something more substantial

1661
01:11:54,893 --> 01:12:24,423
using more of your skills?

1662
01:12:24,423 --> 01:12:34,433
(laughing) You overestimate me.

1663
01:12:34,433 --> 01:12:50,616
I'm happy going back to just being "that guy."

1664
01:12:50,616 --> 01:12:53,327
It's more money. You know, more my speed.

1665
01:12:53,410 --> 01:12:56,997
It's a no-brainer, really.

1666
01:12:57,081 --> 01:13:00,375
I'm... I'm sorry we fought,

1667
01:13:00,459 --> 01:13:04,713
or, um, misunderstood each other.

1668
01:13:05,964 --> 01:13:07,633
I'm sorry too. I...

1669
01:13:07,716 --> 01:13:10,385
I should've never submitted the article the way I did.

1670
01:13:10,469 --> 01:13:12,471


1671
01:13:12,554 --> 01:13:15,057
Thanks.

1672
01:13:15,140 --> 01:13:19,978
I can't believe you're leaving. Um, um...

1673
01:13:24,149 --> 01:13:29,071
Um, let's face it. I was never really a good fit.

1674
01:13:29,154 --> 01:13:30,739
I, uh...

1675
01:13:33,450 --> 01:13:35,994
I learned a lot from you.

1676
01:13:36,078 --> 01:13:39,248
So, thank you.

1677
01:13:39,331 --> 01:13:41,250
You're an extraordinary writer.

1678
01:13:41,333 --> 01:13:44,336
Ronda: Carina, will you come into my office?

1679
01:13:44,420 --> 01:13:49,424
Sorry, I know this doesn't bode well

1680
01:13:53,011 --> 01:13:54,179
for my collaboration skills.

1681
01:13:54,263 --> 01:13:57,933
- Liam leaving? - Yes.

1682
01:13:58,016 --> 01:14:00,936
Well, you're wrong about that.

1683
01:14:07,693 --> 01:14:09,570
He wrote a glowing e-mail where he talked about

1684
01:14:09,653 --> 01:14:12,281
how he thought you were an amazing collaborator.

1685
01:14:12,364 --> 01:14:15,451
It almost read like a... like a letter of recommendation.

1686
01:14:15,534 --> 01:14:18,036
Oh.

1687
01:14:25,377 --> 01:14:27,337
Well, I called you in here, because I'd like your help

1688
01:14:34,052 --> 01:14:36,096
editing his article.

1689
01:14:36,180 --> 01:14:37,973
I've printed it out, added some of my notes,

1690
01:14:38,056 --> 01:14:40,100
but I'd like your input.

1691
01:14:40,184 --> 01:14:41,977


1692
01:14:42,060 --> 01:14:44,062
"Reasons You Should Not Go Back to Him."

1693
01:14:44,146 --> 01:14:46,440
Um, I will have this to you by Monday.

1694
01:14:46,523 --> 01:14:49,651
It is a shame he's leaving.

1695
01:14:49,735 --> 01:14:51,320
I thought you two had a good dynamic.

1696
01:14:51,403 --> 01:14:54,489


1697
01:14:54,573 --> 01:14:55,908
Do you mind if I step aside to work on the speech for a second?

1698
01:14:55,991 --> 01:14:57,826
I suppose I can manage. Good luck.

1699
01:14:57,910 --> 01:14:59,328
Hi. Just put that there.

1700
01:14:59,411 --> 01:15:03,248


1701
01:15:03,332 --> 01:15:07,336
- Hey. - Hey.

1702
01:15:07,419 --> 01:15:10,923
You're early.

1703
01:15:11,006 --> 01:15:12,341
Yeah, I thought I'd come early

1704
01:15:12,424 --> 01:15:14,343
to see if you guys needed help setting up.

1705
01:15:14,426 --> 01:15:19,431
That's nice of you. Wanna sit down?

1706
01:15:27,356 --> 01:15:29,858
Yeah, I'd love to.

1707
01:15:29,942 --> 01:15:32,861
So...

1708
01:15:32,945 --> 01:15:35,405
- So. 

1709
01:15:39,243 --> 01:15:40,577
How's the speech comin'?

1710
01:15:42,454 --> 01:15:45,540
- Oh, it's been challenging. - Yeah?

1711
01:15:45,624 --> 01:15:46,708
Yeah, I think I took for granted how much I knew,

1712
01:15:46,792 --> 01:15:48,043
and then, when you left,

1713
01:15:48,126 --> 01:15:49,878
it felt so out of the blue,

1714
01:15:49,962 --> 01:15:52,547
and it just turned everything upside down.

1715
01:15:52,631 --> 01:15:54,132
I...

1716
01:15:57,302 --> 01:15:58,345
I think because I didn't understand why.

1717
01:15:58,428 --> 01:16:00,889
Is this really the best small talk

1718
01:16:00,973 --> 01:16:02,891
leading up to your parents' vow renewal?

1719
01:16:02,975 --> 01:16:05,560
Okay, uh...

1720
01:16:05,644 --> 01:16:09,523
Well, I mean, I guess I thought I felt disconnected from you.

1721
01:16:09,606 --> 01:16:12,567
And, I felt like I didn't know where your column ended

1722
01:16:12,651 --> 01:16:15,070
and our relationship began.

1723
01:16:15,153 --> 01:16:17,906
But I've processed it, and, I'm ready to move forward.

1724
01:16:17,990 --> 01:16:19,408
I think the distance you sensed between us was real.

1725
01:16:19,491 --> 01:16:24,246
For a long time.

1726
01:16:24,329 --> 01:16:25,914
And, instead of trying to deal with it,

1727
01:16:25,998 --> 01:16:29,501
I just clung to the idea of what I thought it was supposed to be.

1728
01:16:29,585 --> 01:16:31,878
And you're right.

1729
01:16:31,962 --> 01:16:37,092
I did make us into one of my columns.

1730
01:16:37,175 --> 01:16:41,263
And when you ended things, I thought you were wrong.

1731
01:16:41,346 --> 01:16:44,224
I thought this was something that could be fixed.

1732
01:16:44,308 --> 01:16:48,353
And, of course, it can't.

1733
01:16:53,191 --> 01:16:56,361
It's not the kind of thing that can be fixed.

1734
01:16:58,447 --> 01:17:00,907
No.

1735
01:17:00,991 --> 01:17:02,951
But, you were the one brave enough to acknowledge that.

1736
01:17:03,035 --> 01:17:06,663
And I had to go mess everything up

1737
01:17:10,000 --> 01:17:11,126
by trying to make everything right again.

1738
01:17:11,209 --> 01:17:15,380
I'm sorry.

1739
01:17:15,464 --> 01:17:18,300
I'm sorry too.

1740
01:17:18,383 --> 01:17:20,761


1741
01:17:20,844 --> 01:17:22,220
Hey, don't worry, Dad, I'll fly out on long weekends

1742
01:17:22,304 --> 01:17:26,808
so I can keep helping you with all this.

1743
01:17:26,892 --> 01:17:28,393
Well, I think you and I both know

1744
01:17:31,396 --> 01:17:34,524
I don't technically need your help, son.

1745
01:17:36,902 --> 01:17:38,487
I just humor you 'cause I like your company.

1746
01:17:38,570 --> 01:17:41,239


1747
01:17:44,659 --> 01:17:46,078
And I gotta tell ya. I don't understand...

1748
01:17:49,081 --> 01:17:50,457
I thought you were really enjoying the SparkLife job.

1749
01:17:50,540 --> 01:17:55,545
You know, that 15 Dates article had so much warmth.

1750
01:17:57,339 --> 01:17:59,508
You could tell the two of you loved writing it.

1751
01:17:59,591 --> 01:18:01,176


1752
01:18:01,259 --> 01:18:03,178
Look, I might be going out on a limb here, son,

1753
01:18:03,261 --> 01:18:06,014
but does this sudden departure

1754
01:18:06,098 --> 01:18:08,016
have anything to do with Carina?

1755
01:18:08,100 --> 01:18:09,351
No, the job is more money and it's more my speed.

1756
01:18:09,434 --> 01:18:11,353
I don't know what needs explaining.

1757
01:18:11,436 --> 01:18:14,481


1758
01:18:14,564 --> 01:18:19,027
Yeah, okay, if, maybe if things were different

1759
01:18:19,111 --> 01:18:20,862
with Carina, there would've been motivation to stay,

1760
01:18:20,946 --> 01:18:22,531
but they're not.

1761
01:18:24,282 --> 01:18:25,951
And how are they, then?

1762
01:18:26,034 --> 01:18:28,203
She's back with Tom, her former ex,

1763
01:18:28,286 --> 01:18:31,540
now current, boyfriend.

1764
01:18:31,623 --> 01:18:36,211
She chose him over me.

1765
01:18:36,294 --> 01:18:37,712
Did she even know she had a choice?

1766
01:18:37,796 --> 01:18:42,801
Yes, I'm sure she had to.

1767
01:18:45,595 --> 01:18:48,723
Even though you were the one helping her

1768
01:18:48,807 --> 01:18:51,726
get this Tom guy back?

1769
01:18:51,810 --> 01:18:55,355
You don't think that could be just a tad confusing?

1770
01:18:55,439 --> 01:18:57,482
Son, life's too short to take the easy road.

1771
01:18:57,566 --> 01:19:00,735
Protecting yourself,

1772
01:19:00,819 --> 01:19:02,821
saving yourself the trouble of taking the next big risk?

1773
01:19:02,904 --> 01:19:04,698
I watched you do that with your writing

1774
01:19:04,781 --> 01:19:08,243
and now I'm watching you run away from falling in love.

1775
01:19:08,326 --> 01:19:10,412
And I know that you're better than that.

1776
01:19:10,495 --> 01:19:12,330
You do too.

1777
01:19:12,414 --> 01:19:14,249


1778
01:19:14,332 --> 01:19:17,294


1779
01:19:20,172 --> 01:19:24,342
Are you the person I talk to if I'm having cold feet?

1780
01:19:24,426 --> 01:19:26,011
- Hi, Daddy. 

1781
01:19:26,094 --> 01:19:28,847
I think it's about showtime.

1782
01:19:28,930 --> 01:19:30,599
What you got there?

1783
01:19:30,682 --> 01:19:35,270
I think it's a love letter.

1784
01:19:35,353 --> 01:19:38,190
Oh? That seems apropos.

1785
01:19:38,273 --> 01:19:39,774


1786
01:19:48,533 --> 01:19:51,578
You ready?

1787
01:19:51,661 --> 01:19:56,666
As I'll ever be.

1788
01:19:56,666 --> 01:20:08,053


1789
01:20:08,053 --> 01:20:11,264
Welcome, everybody, as we convene to celebrate

1790
01:20:11,348 --> 01:20:13,808
this inspiring couple I'm lucky enough

1791
01:20:15,894 --> 01:20:19,814
to call my mom and dad.

1792
01:20:19,898 --> 01:20:20,982
They love each other so much that they want another chance

1793
01:20:21,066 --> 01:20:23,652
to express their vows and share them with us.

1794
01:20:23,735 --> 01:20:25,904
My sister and I didn't get to witness that the first round.

1795
01:20:25,987 --> 01:20:28,990


1796
01:20:29,074 --> 01:20:30,742
The poet, E. E. Cummings, once wrote,

1797
01:20:30,826 --> 01:20:31,993
"Love is the voice under all silences,

1798
01:20:32,077 --> 01:20:33,662
the hope which has no opposite in fear."

1799
01:20:41,753 --> 01:20:44,506
And I think what he meant by that is...

1800
01:20:44,589 --> 01:20:46,925
..that, um...

1801
01:20:47,008 --> 01:20:50,512


1802
01:20:50,595 --> 01:20:53,265
As some of you may know, I write for a column about love,

1803
01:20:53,348 --> 01:20:56,184
and that, technically, I have some sort of

1804
01:20:56,268 --> 01:20:59,354
extra special knowledge on the subject.

1805
01:20:59,437 --> 01:21:03,191
And, when I was preparing this speech,

1806
01:21:03,275 --> 01:21:05,860
I turned towards 15 different love experts

1807
01:21:05,944 --> 01:21:09,197
to try and say something illuminating.

1808
01:21:09,281 --> 01:21:13,326
But today, I think I'll just shoot from the hip.

1809
01:21:13,410 --> 01:21:16,288
Recently, I've been realizing that there isn't one right way

1810
01:21:16,371 --> 01:21:18,206
to go about love,

1811
01:21:18,290 --> 01:21:23,461
that it can't be conquered.

1812
01:21:23,461 --> 01:21:34,306
It can't be succeeded at. It can't be outsmarted.

1813
01:21:34,306 --> 01:21:38,852
If you lose it, it doesn't mean that you failed.

1814
01:21:38,935 --> 01:21:40,478
It can be scary.

1815
01:21:40,562 --> 01:21:43,565
It can...

1816
01:21:43,648 --> 01:21:45,233
..show up when you least expect it.

1817
01:21:45,317 --> 01:21:48,236
It can be challenging, but,

1818
01:21:48,320 --> 01:21:51,406
what a relief, right?

1819
01:21:51,489 --> 01:21:54,826
That, sometimes,

1820
01:21:57,621 --> 01:22:02,042
love knows better than us.

1821
01:22:02,125 --> 01:22:05,170
And I have to say, I have an extra, little edge,

1822
01:22:05,253 --> 01:22:07,505
in understanding love, because I have these two

1823
01:22:07,589 --> 01:22:12,302
as an example.

1824
01:22:13,678 --> 01:22:16,514
So, let's get started. Shall we?

1825
01:22:19,017 --> 01:22:21,770


1826
01:22:21,853 --> 01:22:26,441


1827
01:22:26,524 --> 01:22:30,028
- Hey. - Hey.

1828
01:22:36,284 --> 01:22:39,621


1829
01:22:39,704 --> 01:22:41,915
I heard your speech.

1830
01:22:41,998 --> 01:22:44,042
- Yeah? - I have a rebuttal.

1831
01:22:44,125 --> 01:22:46,795
Okay.

1832
01:22:46,878 --> 01:22:49,964
Regarding this whole premise

1833
01:22:50,048 --> 01:22:53,802
of there not being a right and wrong.

1834
01:22:53,885 --> 01:22:56,638
I think there is a right after all.

1835
01:22:56,721 --> 01:22:58,556
And it's that you... you and I are right for each other,

1836
01:22:58,640 --> 01:23:01,059
and we should be together.

1837
01:23:01,142 --> 01:23:06,356
I know you're with Tom, but the elevator pitch version

1838
01:23:08,900 --> 01:23:09,984
is that, uh, I'm in love with you.

1839
01:23:10,068 --> 01:23:12,987
And, uh,

1840
01:23:13,071 --> 01:23:14,447
in, um, in the spirit of our mutual endeavors

1841
01:23:14,531 --> 01:23:17,242
I made a list of reasons why we'd be good together.

1842
01:23:17,325 --> 01:23:18,660
I wrote it in the car on the way over,

1843
01:23:18,743 --> 01:23:20,328
- so it's a little-- - I'm not with Tom.

1844
01:23:20,412 --> 01:23:23,456
- But, I thought-- - I wanna be with you.

1845
01:23:23,540 --> 01:23:26,626
Do you wanna see the list?

1846
01:23:26,710 --> 01:23:30,505
No, I don't need to see the list.

1847
01:23:30,588 --> 01:23:32,048
I'm sure it's a very well-written list.

1848
01:23:33,758 --> 01:23:38,346


1849
01:23:38,430 --> 01:23:42,934


1850
01:23:43,018 --> 01:23:45,520


1851
01:23:45,603 --> 01:23:48,690


1852
01:23:48,773 --> 01:23:50,525


1853
01:23:50,608 --> 01:23:51,985
To catch us all up,

1854
01:23:52,068 --> 01:23:54,863
we're gonna have to say a temporary goodbye to Carina,

1855
01:23:54,946 --> 01:23:57,449
who is going on sabbatical

1856
01:24:05,457 --> 01:24:07,125
to write her book.

1857
01:24:07,208 --> 01:24:09,377
(happily squealing)

1858
01:24:09,461 --> 01:24:13,548
And, in the interim,

1859
01:24:13,631 --> 01:24:15,508
Liam will be taking over Love and Romance,

1860
01:24:15,592 --> 01:24:18,219
which I find delightfully poetic.

1861
01:24:18,303 --> 01:24:21,723
What's your book going to be?

1862
01:24:21,806 --> 01:24:24,350
Essays.

1863
01:24:24,434 --> 01:24:28,354
Less do's and don'ts. More learning as we go.

1864
01:24:28,438 --> 01:24:30,148
Are you ready for your last assignment?

1865
01:24:30,231 --> 01:24:33,359
Yes, a fond, temporary, farewell to my readers.

1866
01:24:33,443 --> 01:24:35,904
Aw! We'll miss you!

1867
01:24:35,987 --> 01:24:38,364
I won't be far.

1868
01:24:38,448 --> 01:24:39,574
Carina: So, dear readers,

1869
01:24:39,657 --> 01:24:40,909
it turns out I was consumed by fixing things with T,

1870
01:24:40,992 --> 01:24:43,369
and winning him back.

1871
01:24:43,453 --> 01:24:46,247
It has been my job to classify

1872
01:24:46,331 --> 01:24:47,665
and enumerate matters of the heart.

1873
01:24:47,749 --> 01:24:48,833
I seek concrete answers.

1874
01:24:48,917 --> 01:24:53,838
My goal is to give people hope

1875
01:24:53,922 --> 01:24:55,590
and let them know they're not alone

1876
01:24:55,673 --> 01:24:59,552
But, at the risk of demoting myself in your eyes,

1877
01:24:59,636 --> 01:25:01,095
I must confess.

1878
01:25:01,179 --> 01:25:02,639
Love is mysterious.

1879
01:25:11,773 --> 01:25:13,274
It's not something you master.

1880
01:25:13,358 --> 01:25:16,611
It's capricious. It's unpredictable.

1881
01:25:16,694 --> 01:25:20,114
No matter how much you try to encapsulate it.

1882
01:25:20,198 --> 01:25:21,950
It's imperfect,

1883
01:25:22,033 --> 01:25:26,412
even if you try your hardest to fix everything

1884
01:25:26,496 --> 01:25:28,456
and make it just right.

1885
01:25:28,540 --> 01:25:30,125
If you're lucky,

1886
01:25:30,208 --> 01:25:33,253
you can find someone who will be in the moment with you,

1887
01:25:33,336 --> 01:25:36,297
tell you the truth.

1888
01:25:36,381 --> 01:25:37,966
Someone who will call it like it is

1889
01:25:38,049 --> 01:25:39,801
and love you for who you are

1890
01:25:39,884 --> 01:25:41,594
and can dance.

1891
01:25:41,678 --> 01:25:44,097


1892
01:25:44,180 --> 01:25:49,269
Carina: Love isn't a game to be won or lost.

1893
01:25:49,352 --> 01:25:50,728
The years I spent with T weren't lost.

1894
01:25:50,812 --> 01:25:53,314
They all just helped to arrive at the place

1895
01:25:53,398 --> 01:25:55,817
I was meant to be.

1896
01:25:55,900 --> 01:25:57,318
And, that, I know I'm right about.

1897
01:25:57,402 --> 01:25:59,988


1898
01:26:00,071 --> 01:26:01,447


1899
01:26:01,531 --> 01:26:02,907


1900
01:26:02,991 --> 01:26:04,993


1901
01:26:05,076 --> 01:26:06,995


1902
01:26:07,078 --> 01:26:08,246


1903
01:26:08,329 --> 01:26:11,499


1904
01:26:11,583 --> 01:26:14,002


1905
01:26:14,085 --> 01:26:16,170


1906
01:26:16,254 --> 01:26:19,841


1907
01:26:19,924 --> 01:26:22,510


1908
01:26:22,594 --> 01:26:24,262


1909
01:26:24,345 --> 01:26:26,180


1910
01:26:26,264 --> 01:26:31,436


1911
01:26:31,519 --> 01:26:32,854


1912
01:26:32,937 --> 01:26:36,691


1913
01:26:36,774 --> 01:26:40,445


1914
01:26:40,528 --> 01:26:44,282


1915
01:26:46,951 --> 01:26:48,828


1916
01:26:48,912 --> 01:26:52,874


1917
01:26:52,957 --> 01:26:55,543


1918
01:26:55,627 --> 01:26:56,711


1919
01:26:56,794 --> 01:27:00,048


1920
01:27:00,131 --> 01:27:02,717


1921
01:27:02,800 --> 01:27:05,470


1922
01:27:05,553 --> 01:27:08,973


1923
01:27:09,057 --> 01:27:11,476


1924
01:27:11,559 --> 01:27:13,728


1925
01:27:13,811 --> 01:27:18,483


1926
01:27:18,566 --> 01:27:20,401


1927
01:27:20,485 --> 01:27:24,906


1928
01:27:24,989 --> 01:27:27,742


1929
01:27:27,825 --> 01:27:32,747


1930
01:27:32,830 --> 01:27:35,750


1931
01:27:35,833 --> 01:27:40,755


1932
01:27:40,838 --> 01:27:43,758


1933
01:27:43,841 --> 01:27:48,346


1934
01:27:48,429 --> 01:27:50,765


1935
01:27:50,848 --> 01:27:53,601


1936
01:27:53,685 --> 01:27:55,520


1937
01:27:55,603 --> 01:27:58,773


1938
01:27:58,856 --> 01:28:01,567


1939
01:28:01,651 --> 01:28:03,778


1940
01:28:03,861 --> 01:28:06,781


1941
01:28:06,864 --> 01:28:08,533


1942
01:28:08,616 --> 01:28:10,952


1943
01:28:11,035 --> 01:28:15,873


1944
01:28:15,957 --> 01:28:17,625


1945
01:28:17,709 --> 01:28:22,422


1946
01:28:22,505 --> 01:28:25,591


1947
01:28:25,675 --> 01:28:30,555


1948
01:28:30,638 --> 01:28:32,473


1949
01:28:32,557 --> 01:28:35,143


1950
01:28:35,226 --> 01:28:38,479


1951
01:28:38,563 --> 01:28:40,481


1952
01:28:40,565 --> 01:28:44,986


1953
01:28:45,069 --> 01:28:46,988