[Ruy] I don't want Andrea to see a therapist.
[Claudia] It's a court order. There's nothing you can do about that.
You better brace yourself, because after what's happened,
Julia is gonna hit back hard.
If I lose her, I'll die.
The law doesn't have feelings, but trust me on this:
Anything is possible.
I recommend you take some steps to improve your record.
Do everything you can.
Yeah, sure.
Because although your dismissal from work wasn't on criminal grounds,
it doesn't look good.
So you'll have to take proactive measures
to make it look like you want to rebuild your life.
Sure, but how?
You're not gonna like it, but you're gonna have to suck it up.
Whatever, I'm in.
-Really? -Yeah.
Let's hope you get through it. Most guys don't, and they walk away.
Want a fish pedicure?
A NETFLIX ORIGINAL SERIES
[theme music playing]
Counselor?
I need you to sign these documents.
Esperancita, I need you to have a drink with me.
-[giggling] -What are you doing Friday?
Hi there, my name is José María Yazpik.
You may remember me from my career in film and television.
But today, I'm here to talk to you about something very important.
In the scene we just saw, the secretary was a victim of sexual harassment.
The counselor, who by all appearances, seems conservative, acted inappropriately.
He touched his coworker and made comments
that are no longer acceptable in our society.
Unfortunately, his behavior made his coworker uncomfortable.
For those who respect women,
they brighten up our workplaces and our homes.
Our female colleagues are key
to building a new Mexico.
They are assets to us. We must support and respect them.
With their beauty and gentle natures,
they make the world a better place.
So there you have it, guys. That was the video.
It's kind of a formality,
but I'm required to show it to you before starting the workshop.
Just trying to follow the rules.
Let's introduce ourselves.
I'm your leader today. My name is Silvio.
I'm 52 years old.
I'm an addict and macho in recovery.
[laughing]
[Silvio] What's up, buddy?
What's so funny? Wanna share with the rest of us?
All right, so let's carry on then.
I'd like to know what brought you here, what are your expectations are.
Anyone else?
Come on, help me out here, guys.
Look, sooner or later you're all gonna have to tell me your stories.
Hmm. Who's gonna go first?
No one?
[sighs]
Andrea, quit it. Hurry.
-Hey, Jose. -Hi.
We didn't hear back from the chat group about the fee,
but I have it here.
Sorry, there were so many entries, it got chaotic.
-But we saved you a spot, no worries. -Okay, thanks.
-Hi, Jose. -Hey, how are you?
Fine, thanks.
Hi, Ivana.
[Ivana] Oh, hey. I didn't think I'd see you.
[woman] This is it.
It gets a lot of traffic because of the stairs.
You might wanna check out the mother-daughter activity:
"From Damsel to Warrior." It's this afternoon.
This is a nice place.
It's over here, honey.
[Xico] All right, let's do this.
I really didn't wanna drag my ass out of bed this morning.
Why? What's up with you?
I'll tell you later.
[Xico] No one will see us here, not even God.
God doesn't exist.
There's only the Universe.
[Xico] Jeez, this location sucks!
Mommy, are we sleeping at our house or your house tonight?
I don't know, pumpkin, we'll figure it out.
We should start selling toilet paper at this rate.
Hi, I'm Juan Camarena, I'm an accountant…
for the public prosecutor. Actually, they sent me here today.
[Silvio] Well, why'd they send you, pal?
Well, because…
Well, quite honestly, it was a misunderstanding
with some of the women at the office.
You know? Especially one who…
I sincerely think…
blew it out of proportion.
I mean, honestly, I'm all about respect for women.
But it seems…
nowadays, it's impossible to say anything without getting into trouble.
You can't be polite apparently without offending someone.
I'm Ezequiel Ramírez, my friends call me Eze.
I have a small street vending business.
And I'm here so that my girlfriend doesn't throw me out.
-[laughing] -Seriously.
She keeps telling me that I'm macho.
I don't think I'm a bad guy.
I look after her, and I give my kids everything they need.
My name is Ruy. I came here today
because my divorce lawyer told me I should.
She says the certificate will help my case a lot.
-And get me custody of my daughter. -[man laughing]
I have always been a big supporter of feminists, you know?
So I… want to deconstruct myself.
[Silvio] Sorry?
Deconstruct myself.
[Silvio] "Deconstruct"?
Sorry, I don't believe in all that "deconstruction" nonsense.
It seems like a load of garbage to me.
SHE-SHOP
I can show you our designs.
[shopper] No, that's fine, thanks.
[Julia] Xico, did you see the look Jose gave me when I came in?
Elena barely even said hi.
Think it has to do with Ruy's behavior?
Did the entire city hear about it?
News spreads really fast.
It was on TV.
This sorta thing spreads like wildfire in feminist communities.
Are you going to tell me or what?
I'm getting… a divorce.
If I tell you everything, I'll lose it here in front of everyone.
Isn't that the whole point of feminism?
To be comfortable crying in your own community?
-Piss off, Xico. -Come here, sweetie.
I've never felt like this.
Truly and utterly heartbroken.
Not because our marriage is over, but it's how he behaved. He was so…
He was so full of spite.
So selfish.
Excuse me, sorry.
[muttering] Oh, shit.
[laughing]
Oh my God. What did he eat?
-Shut up, idiot. -That's gross.
Hello.
Where did you get that dress?
I told my mom if everyone has the right to be free,
then I have the right to be a princess.
She understood.
Really? Cool.
I'm not allowed to eat any sugar.
How did you ask?
My moms really don't understand me.
They probably bought it for you because they're having a baby.
No, they're not. My parents are separated.
My parents separated, and now they fight even more.
Looks like you girls are doing great.
Attendance is higher than last year.
Yeah, mostly wannabes who are here for the hype.
Things are going well for you.
You happy?
To be honest, I'm kinda pissed.
We reserved the same spot as last year, but we're over by the bathrooms.
That's because we like to prioritize small independent artists.
And?
What do you mean, "And?"
Didn't you sign up to do a campaign for Nike?
[scoffs]
So success makes you less independent?
[laughing] Obviously.
Did Raiza tell you?
No, her girlfriend.
But… was it supposed to be a secret?
I mean, it's great.
You're the official representative for marketable feminism.
You're kidding me.
Great.
You're assholes.
Still pushing.
For those of you that don't know,
my name is La Mala, which means "the bad one."
It's not because I'm a gangster or anything,
it's because my parents named me María Laura.
There have been so many changes in the history of feminism.
We're all just trying to adapt to the use of inclusive language.
But it's also confusing, right?
Because, like, take the word "hysterical." Do we keep it, or…
-switch it to her-sterical? -[audience laughing]
Exactly. That's what I'm saying.
It's a trap the hetero-patriarchy set up for us.
[shudders]
[melancholic music playing]
[audience laughing]
[voice fading] Am I right? I'm a woman. Who cares?
[audience laughing]
[audience cheering and applauding]
[Silvio] All right, now what I want you to do is try to remember a time
when you were a victim of violence.
Try to remember.
[man] I can't remember ever
being allowed to feel anything.
Whenever my pop heard us crying, he'd give us a spanking.
He'd laugh and say, "There, you've got something to cry about."
[Silvio] The message is "If you show feelings, you'll get hurt."
It's pretty rough.
Yeah, but I mean, we didn't see it that way though.
He hit like a little girl.
[all laughing]
My father wasn't around.
My mother raised me on her own. She was a great mother.
But I…
felt a lot of societal pressure to be successful.
My situation was a bit different though,
because my ex made more money than I did.
But she also came from a family with money.
[Silvio] We feel our worth is determined by how much money we make.
Want some water, Maria? [laughing]
Sure, thank you.
Mmm.
[gulps] Delicious.
[Silvio] Great, good job. Okay, so Daniel, offer it again.
And Ruy, you're not sure if you want any.
Hm? Okay?
-Yeah, okay. -[Silvio] Go for it.
Want some?
Oh, I don't know if I want any.
Good, good good. That was really really great.
Let's keep going.
So now, even though she's, you know, "not sure,"
you can serve her anyway, okay?
And you, my friend, will accept it, but don't drink any.
-[Ruy] Right. -[Silvio] Go ahead.
[Daniel] Want some?
So, now, Daniel…
you make sure she drinks it.
Force her if you have to.
Come on, drink it.
I don't want to. No.
See? He doesn't want to.
Do as I said. Make her.
-Get her to drink it. -Really?
Okay then, just drink it.
-What? No. -Come on, drink it.
[grunting] No, stop it.
[Silvio] Thanks, guys. That was great.
So, what did we just see?
Nobody can make another person drink a glass of water
if they don't want it, understand?
And the same principle applies
when we start to talk about consent. Am I right?
-Right? -Yeah, great.
No, no, no, don't go yet. I'm not quite done with you.
I wanna try another exercise real quick.
Ruy, my friend, you're still Maria. I want you to lie on your back, please.
But this time, guys, Maria's unconscious.
All right? You can't talk to her,
and Ruy, you can't answer "yes" or "no," or anything.
You, Daniel, can pour a glass of water and get Maria to drink it.
But she's going to be asleep.
That's right. Give her some water.
Force her to drink it. Go on. Do it.
[spitting]
[chuckling]
[Silvio] Again, we have the same thing.
Any time a person is unconscious, or high,
be they drunk, sleeping…
they're in no condition to consent.
But let's be completely clear, here, guys.
This is not about a glass of water, we're talking about sex here.
Okay?
Thanks, guys. Thanks.
Excuse me?
Have any toilet paper? It's all gone.
-Thanks. -Here you go.
Espresso?
I come in peace.
How did you know I was here?
Obviously I've been stalking you on Instagram.
But I wanted to buy some stuff for the clinic.
Pretty cool bazaar, huh?
I mean, bazz-her.
Give me a sec.
If Andrea comes downstairs, will you send her to me?
[Xico] Sure.
Thank you.
-Want anything? -Anything that looks unhealthy.
Why are you right in front of the bathrooms?
[Julia] Good question. I don't know.
Raiza!
Hello, Andrea!
-Hi, Ro. -Hello.
-[Raiza] What are you doing here? -I came to help my mom.
Are you hungry? How about some tacos?
-[Andrea] Sure. -What kind?
Uh… pastor.
Mushroom pastor, is that okay?
-Sweetie… -Sure.
I'd like you to meet Cameron.
-Hello. -Hi.
I'm her girlfriend.
No, Romina is.
I'm Romina and Raiza's girlfriend.
That's not allowed.
Well, for us, it's allowed.
-[both laughing] -Is that a baby in your arms?
Yes, they're all upstairs. You want me to get you one?
Uh, no, no, no. I'm not into babies.
[Andrea] Why?
[Julia] Andrea, what are you doing?
I told you to stay upstairs.
What's up?
-[Cameron] We gave her some tacos. -[Julia] That's great.
-[Cameron] Mushroom. -[Julia] Super.
-Come back upstairs when you're done. -Mm-hmm.
-[Julie] See you later. -Bye.
She had to go see my dentist.
Just a sec.
-Do you like him? -Mmm, a little bit.
I see.
They gave her tacos.
I'm not that hungry.
Can we talk?
Please, it'll only take a few minutes.
I've already left Xico alone for a long time.
-What time does this end? -Late.
And I have to take care of Andrea.
I fucked up.
I reacted really badly when you told me what happened with Ruy.
I'm so sorry.
It's just… this has all happened so fast
and I don't wanna pressure you.
-You know? It's-- -I want to be with you, Julia.
Look, I messed up.
I'm gonna have to tell Andrea about us sooner or later.
But if you don't mind being patient, we can work it out.
Okay.
Are you done, my love?
Come.
[Ezequiel] The first time it happened was
when we had our little boy.
'Cause she was so…
incredibly sad, and I just couldn't stand it.
I didn't know what to do.
Whenever I…
tried to help, I just ended up going off on her.
I was so damn useless.
And then the doctor said
it was postpartum depression and it wasn't her fault.
The problem is
that whenever something happens that I don't understand or I don't like…
I often lose it and beat her.
I don't know if it's because of the abuse I went through as a kid,
which was pretty bad.
I ran away because I couldn't take it anymore.
But I don't want my kids to go through that.
This workshop has opened my eyes today.
You all have, really.
I felt pressure to be strong, and…
and other bullshit that goes with being a guy.
But…
I've never told anyone this,
but I do wonder why my father walked out on us.
And does that have to do with my feelings of failure
and inadequacy?
That could be why…
I've been afraid to try the things I really want to do.
And I'm worried…
that I'm a lousy role model for my daughter,
that I've disappointed my ex-wife.
That my mom doesn't feel proud of me.
And I really feel I'm not…
the person that…
I wish I was.
From what you've told us, I think you're a good father.
That would make me feel proud.
I've gotta say, I agree with our friend here, Ruy. I think…
you've given a lot to your family.
You've given them your love,
and attention.
All right, my friends, that about does it for us.
I'm grateful that you all showed up here today.
It says a lot about your desire to change,
and grow, and--
Thanks, Silvio.
Thanks a lot.
Sorry, I've gotta go.
I'm gonna do things right.
I'm gonna do things right!
Fuck yeah!
I am!
Thank you, Silvio!
If this keeps up, I'll be left standing here all by myself.
No more breaks, because you'll all desert me.
[door buzzing]
-[Julia] Who is it? -It's me.
-She'll be right down. -Uh, can we talk?
I'll buzz you in.
[lock buzzing]
[Ruy] Hey, kiddo!
Daddy, Daddy, Daddy, Daddy!
[Ruy grunts and chuckles]
Hello. How are you, sweetheart?
Will you draw with me?
Sure, but…
we'll do it at home.
But everything we need is here.
I want to have a chat with your mom first.
[Fausto] If you like, I can take Andy for some street corns.
Dangerous at this hour.
It's half a block away and she'll be with Fausto.
[Fausto] Come, Andy. Let's get some street corn.
[Ruy kissing]
[grunts]
-Go on. -Come.
I'll see you soon, sweetie.
[door slams]
It's hard to see you with someone else.
You tried to take me out of our daughter's life.
Things got out of control.
It was the worst thing you could've done to me.
And to Andrea. Both of us.
It was stupid of me.
I'm sorry.
I don't care what the judge says.
We'll go to the therapist,
but let's figure this out together
and split our time with Andrea however we want.
Okay.
Here, Daddy. We got one for you too.
Oh, thank you! Come here.
[groans] Give me a bite, my hands are tied up.
Okay, time to say good-bye, Andy.
-Goodbye. -Bye, Ruy.
-Thanks, man. -You're welcome.
Look, dad, it's the cops.
-[officer] Good evening. -[Ruy] Can I help you?
Why didn't you call to tell me I had community service?
Get in, please.
Don't worry, babe.
-I'll pick you up tomorrow. Okay? -[Julia] Thanks, love.
[Raiza] What did she say when the cops took her in the patrol car?
Fucking Ruy.
Screwing it up since 2001.
I've watched you screw things up since long before that.
Don't be too hard on yourself.
You're the king of self-pity.
-I don't want to lose Julia. -Who said anything about losing her?
She's the mother of your daughter.
You couldn't lose her if you tried.
Without her, there's just no point.
I mean, why would I wanna do anything without her? She's everything.
Oh, please. That's your romantic heart talking, you stupid fool.
Tell your heart…
[whistles] …to shut up.
[Ruy] "Romantic love."
It's such a pain.
I can't stand you when you're in love.
You're worse, so don't talk. I've seen you way worse.
Come on, you're much worse. You know it.
I have a crush on my mom's doctor, dude!
What the hell?
[Raiza laughing]
-How old is this one? -Thirty-ish.
[Ruy] You're such an operator!
You sly fucking operator.
♪ October 33 ♪
♪ I wear it on my soul's back ♪
♪ Like fair, fair, fair ♪
♪ And I can hear the brass ring ♪
♪ I hear it in the nosebleeds ♪
♪ Where you once felt a cold breeze ♪
♪ Think it was Halloween ♪
♪ I've got your number, lonely ♪
♪ October 33 ♪
♪ That's cold facts ♪
♪ Fair, fair, fair ♪
♪ Holds me down ♪
♪ Like you know how, darlin' ♪
♪ Hold me now ♪
♪ Like you know my plight ♪
♪ Got your number ♪
♪ I do ♪
♪ Alone in the back ♪
♪ I'm sending love where you at ♪
♪ I do ♪
♪ I've got your number, lonely ♪
♪ October 33 ♪