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Kayleigh Hanks and Ian Paton
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are irresistibly drawn to each other
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despite their obvious differences.
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There was many a times we just said,
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"Just don't go back, don't," you know,
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but she loved him,
and there was nothing we could do.
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It was an off and on relationship.
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Seeing Kayleigh merely speaking
to someone in the street
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was enough to make him
think she had to die.
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Would anyone see the danger
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lurking beneath the surface of
their turbulent relationship
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before it was too late?
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Bexhill-on-Sea,
an ideal environment to raise a family,
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something Kayleigh Hanks was told
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that she'd never have the chance to do.
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She thought every woman's
prerogative was to have a baby,
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{\an8}and she found it kind of hard being
around others that had babies.
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She genuinely did find it hard.
It broke her.
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Family was
everything to Kayleigh Hanks,
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as DCI Andy Wolstenholme
would one day discover.
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Everything that we learned
from friends, from family,
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was that she was absolutely
committed to her family.
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{\an8}Especially her relationship
with her mom, Sue,
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{\an8}and her sister, Emma.
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Keen to
replicate the family life
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that she'd enjoyed when growing up,
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care home worker Kayleigh
had married young.
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But very soon the relationship
was on shifting sands.
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Her first marriage, it wasn't a bad one
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at first, very loving.
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Then Kayleigh was told that
she couldn't have children.
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And so being a very,
very sort of optimistic
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{\an8}and driven person,
she threw herself into life.
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{\an8}She wanted to make
something of her career.
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She wanted to make something of her life.
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She wanted to travel.
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So, they separated,
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and they were in the middle of a divorce.
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So amicable was the split
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that the couple were still
living happily together
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as housemates when, in 2016,
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Kayleigh met sales rep Ian Paton.
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She was out with a friend
one night in the local pub,
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then that closed, and she
met him in a strip club.
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Kayleigh and Ian both,
I think very sociable people.
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They enjoyed spending
time with other people
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and that's exactly what they
were doing when they met.
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They were out socializing with friends.
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He give the chase, he wooed and cooed her.
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Ian won Kayleigh over,
but almost immediately,
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her new lover started laying down the law.
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Pretty much, say, a month
down the line, it went sour.
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He didn't like the fact
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that she was still in her
marital home with her husband.
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Didn't think it was right
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they were living together,
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always had the thought of them
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sleeping with each other still,
and it got very cold.
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So he made her then move out.
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He didn't want her having
anything to do with her husband,
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and made her move in with him.
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It was an early
sign of how Ian Paton was going to be.
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But he largely hid his behavior
from Kayleigh's family.
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The slightly older man charmed
them whenever he could.
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He was obviously was very good at this.
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He was obviously very, very
good at this manipulation,
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because Kayleigh's sister Emma
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was completely won over by him.
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She thought he was fabulous.
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You know, a nice guy, come
across very nice, you know,
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very fun, bubbly, you know, genuine.
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From the first word,
my mum didn't like him,
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my partner didn't like him.
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My kids seem to have loved him,
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but other people was a
bit shady around him.
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Kayleigh moved into Ian's
flat in Saint Leonard's,
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a small town just along
the coast from Bexhill.
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Very quickly, their
relationship became volatile.
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I think people that we've
spoken you about Kayleigh
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and Ian's relationship, have described it
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as being a toxic relationship,
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a really complex relationship,
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one that started off really strong
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and then deteriorated into something
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that was absolutely untenable.
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The couple would
have bitter arguments,
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but Ian made sure his
was the version of events
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that everybody heard about.
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He would always be the first
one to mention an argument
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or an upset that they have,
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and always tried to make
it out that it was Kayleigh
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rather than both of them.
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I felt a bit like tit for tat.
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Each suspected
the other of infidelity,
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and Ian was happy to play
on Kayleigh's jealousy.
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He would hide text messages.
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He would sit there on his phone
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and then Kayleigh would
walk back into the room,
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and he'd quickly put it away,
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sleep with his phone
underneath the pillow.
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Just generally, like, out to
make her feel a bit paranoid.
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And it was happening all the time,
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and then he would say like,
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"I'm not having an affair,
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you're thinking, you're
thinking it, I'm not doing it,"
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and trying to make her feel
like she was going mad.
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Jill Barr, a
former police inspector
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who specializes in domestic abuse,
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recognizes this as part of a pattern of
behavior, a worrying one.
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That form of coercive control,
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{\an8}that form of head working,
as it's known, gaslighting,
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{\an8}making the person believe that actually
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they are the ones at fault,
questioning themselves,
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questioning their own sanity.
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He would kick her out,
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and then so she'd have to
sleep on the side of a road
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or someone's porch or like
wherever she could find.
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She was sleeping
rough on park benches
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if she ever had the temerity
to disagree with this man.
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She was being treated less than a dog.
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And then he would ring
her back up and say,
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"Come back and everything's fine."
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Just a lot of mental games.
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At home, she was never
able to wear pajamas.
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She always had to brush
her hair and do her makeup,
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wear nice clothes.
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Very much had to be dolled
up if they went out,
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had to buy things new.
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Always like if we went out
like to the pub or something.
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It was always she had
to present herself well,
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{\an8}she wasn't allowed to down
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{\an8}She had to be always done up and smart
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and kind of present
herself to everyone as his.
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She would have to make that
effort and then be told off
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because everybody was looking at her
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and giving her attention,
which he didn't like.
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Social occasions were a
frequent flashpoint for the couple.
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When under the influence
of drink or drugs,
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Paton could be especially cruel.
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We went out for a meal all together.
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Went back to Ian's, had a few more drinks.
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Kayleigh and Emma went outside.
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I mean, maybe for a
cigarette or whatever reason
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they went outside.
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When they tried to come back
inside, they couldn't get in,
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and they couldn't get in
because Ian had locked the door.
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Like literally, he locked
us out, it was raining.
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They had to beg him to
allow them to come in,
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and he told them they could not.
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Then he let us back in,
and Kayleigh was like, "Oh I'm sorry."
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And he was like, "No, you're not sorry."
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And she was like, "I love you."
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And he was like, "No, you don't,
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otherwise you wouldn't have gone out."
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And she's like, "I do."
And he was like, "Prove it."
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And she was like, "Well, how
do you want me to prove it?"
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And he then said, "Well, get
down on your hands and knees
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and tell me how much you love me."
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As far as alarm bells go,
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must be just about the biggest alarm bell
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you could possibly hear.
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Horrified, Emma Hanks watched
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as her sister submitted to Paton's demand.
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And she got down on her hands
and knees and then said, "I love you."
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And he's like, "No, it's not good enough."
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And in the end, she was like on her knees,
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like in the praying position.
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And is like, "I love you, I
love you, I love you, please."
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And then he was like, "Oh get up,"
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at like, as in like
"stop being desperate,"
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and then started laughing at her.
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Neither Kayleigh
nor her family knew
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of something else about Paton.
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If they had, it would
have worried them deeply.
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Detectives would learn
of Paton's violent ways.
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Ian I think showed a real propensity
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for grabbing people's throat,
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and through police investigations, we
were able to identify
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that there were other instances where
Ian had grabbed people by the throat
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in violent attacks,
in public and in private.
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And it seemed to us to be his go-to move,
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it's the sort of aggressive act
that he went to first of all.
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The first occasion upon which he put hands
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on Kayleigh's neck was
not the first occasion
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upon which he'd done that to anybody.
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He had done it to a former girlfriend.
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He had done it to a male friend.
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How long could
Kayleigh ride the crest
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of Paton's everchanging
moods and stay alive?
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He pointed his two fingers
at her forehead and said,
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"No one would believe you anyway.
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You're crazy, you're mental."
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Periods of stability and calm
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were few and far between in the world
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of Ian Paton and Kayleigh Hanks.
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Their phones gave the
topsy-turvy game away.
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{\an8}There were a large volume of messages
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{\an8}from both sets of phones
that we recovered.
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DCI Andy Wolstenholme
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would soon be tasked
with building a picture
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of the couple's life together.
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I think they really tell a story
of a real mixed relationship,
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one where there are periods
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that people are
incredibly happy together,
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and it's a really strong,
loving relationship,
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and then these periods of real distrust
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and anger with each other, and also,
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some concern about
the state of the relationship.
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And I think they show, in everyday life,
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the sort of rollercoaster
that Ian and Kayleigh went on
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through their time together.
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On one occasion in 2017,
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sister Emma thought
the couple had split up for good.
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{\an8}So, they'd had an argument,
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{\an8}and Kayleigh had asked
Ian to stay away from her
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and not contact either me or her
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or any of my family ever again.
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He moved her stuff out of his house
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and brought it back to Kayleigh
and Gavin's marital home.
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Then I went home thinking
everything had settled,
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and about half an hour, Kayleigh said
she was coming over with Ian.
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Then they pulled up,
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and Kayleigh automatically just
jumped out the car and said,
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"He's just grabbed me by the hair
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and slammed my head
down on the dashboard."
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{\an8}Thing to remember here, he is 19 stone.
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{\an8}He is six foot tall,
and he's twice her size,
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and he leans across
and smashes this poor girl's face
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off of the dashboard of a car.
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And when they get to her sister's house,
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she tells her sister,
and he just flatly denies it,
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denies that it happened.
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And he was like,
"No, no, I didn't, no, I didn't.
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She hit me.
She slapped me across the face."
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My partner then asked him
just to get in the car and go,
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and then Kayleigh kicked
the door on his shin.
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Not very long after that, he dragged her
out of the car by her hair.
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And again, she told her family
and he just denied it happened.
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Though Kayleigh's family knew
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some of what she suffered
at her boyfriend's hands,
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much later on, more would come to light.
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Quite a lot of the things that she'd
said, we didn't witness.
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Kayleigh did keep diaries.
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She did keep notes, and I do
think that she was concerned
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about her relationship with Ian.
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Her words
would eventually be read out in court.
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{\an8}"Ian keeps
telling me I'm no good.
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{\an8}Ian would kick me out and I would leave
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{\an8}and sleep on a bench.
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{\an8}We had a night out at Yates'
and Ian called me names."
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I would say without a shadow of a doubt,
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there was certainly an impact
on Kayleigh's mental health.
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She become very depressed, anxious.
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She'd been diagnosed with
OCD, like delusional thoughts
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where medical wise that she thought she
was ill when she wasn't.
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Struggling
with her mental health,
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Kayleigh was even more
susceptible to being controlled
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by her on-off lover.
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Kayleigh's diary entries would expose
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how violent Ian would become.
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She wrote in one...
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"Ian has strangled me,
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and if I tell the police
they would not believe me."
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He would do these terrible things,
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and he would just deny them.
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And if he was challenged
upon them by Kayleigh
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or by anyone else, well, he would resort
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to casting aspersions on
Kayleigh's mental health.
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And that I think was the turning point
for her as well,
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because she then went very within herself,
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was very withdrawn.
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When my sister said she
was gonna go to the police,
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go and ask for help,
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he pointed his two fingers
at her forehead and said,
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"No one would believe you anyway.
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You're crazy. You're mental."
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There was many a times we just said,
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"Just don't go back, don't,"
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but she loved him, and there
was nothing we could do.
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And then
something remarkable happened
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which gave Kayleigh renewed
hope for her future,
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what she thought was a miracle.
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After being told by the
medical professionals
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it could never happen,
she fell pregnant by Ian.
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Kayleigh was absolutely
over the moon that she was pregnant.
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It was a FaceTime call on the toilet
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and it was, "Is this correct?"
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And suddenly all the
terrible things he'd done,
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they were in the past, they were a family,
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they were everything she'd ever wanted.
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I was very, very happy for her,
but I was very, very worried.
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What was Ian Paton's
reaction to Kayleigh's news?
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Happy, happy, but they
were only together a couple of weeks.
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Because
Paton then did something
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that despite everything,
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Kayleigh never imagined he would do.
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He kicked her out of the flat one night
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and never to be seen again in nine months.
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Me and my sister made him
aware of every appointment,
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every scan, messaged him
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so we had proof that it was happening.
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Kayleigh didn't
let her partner's absence
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take away the joy she was feeling.
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She just focused on the
future from that moment on,
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she stood up and she was gonna be a mum.
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Emma's friend
Adella would come to share
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in some of Kayleigh's happiest moments.
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{\an8}Everything was about the baby.
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{\an8}Everything, every
sentence you had with her,
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{\an8}it was, "I'm so excited.
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{\an8}I can't wait, it's just couple more days."
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She was just ecstatic.
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During Kayleigh's pregnancy,
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so she could save a bit of money,
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and just to take a lot
of strain off of her,
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I asked her to move in with
me and give up her property
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in another, obviously in another town,
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and make it easier for her
to go to her appointments,
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and so I asked her to move in with me.
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But as Kayleigh's
due date approached,
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a decidedly mixed blessing,
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the re-emergence of Ian Paton.
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He only came back into her life
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when Emma contacted him two
weeks before the baby was born
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to say the baby is due in two weeks.
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Ian then chose to
get back in contact,
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and said thank you very
much for letting him know,
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and would it be okay for him to attend
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a hospital appointment?
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And suddenly he made the decision,
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"Well, I'm back involved, then.
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I'm now going to come and be a dad."
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And Kayleigh accepted this with open arms.
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She was in such a position.
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She still wanted this so
much that she accepted
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this sort of terrible behavior.
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She accepted it.
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And just like that,
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Paton had insinuated himself once again
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into every aspect of Kayleigh's life.
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Would they finally be the happy family
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she was hoping for?
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Would they finally be the happy family
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she was hoping they could be?
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No.
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And when she went to see her sister,
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her sister noticed black marks,
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thick black marks around her neck.
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{\an8}
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{\an8}After Kayleigh Hanks gave birth
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to her baby daughter,
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she moved out of her sister Emma's home
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to a place of her own.
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When she had the baby,
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{\an8}she wanted to make a go
of things on her own,
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just be the mum that
she always wanted to be.
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So she chose to move out
and take that step forward.
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Local councilor
Christine Bayliss
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visited the flat that
Kayleigh now called home.
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{\an8}It's right on the top floor
of an old Victorian house.
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{\an8}Very steep stairways.
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It was almost like it was up in the attic,
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and you found it hard to
imagine how anybody would cope
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with a small baby in
that sort of situation.
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But Kayleigh
very quickly turned
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the cramped apartment
in Bexhill town center
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into the perfect nest
for her little family.
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{\an8}The first thing that struck
me when I went into the home
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{\an8}was how well-appointed it was.
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She'd obviously taken great
care in making a home,
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something that was really warm
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and somewhere that it
was great to spend time.
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Everything was really still very tidy.
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Everything was clearly well looked-after.
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{\an8}I had my little boy,
and she was so excited.
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{\an8}And then, yeah, she had her little girl,
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they got on really well.
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My little boy would
come over for play dates
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and they'd lay on the floor
together and have tummy times
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and just, it was lovely,
just kind of us three,
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like sitting there on the
floor, and it was really nice.
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Kayleigh was amazing mum.
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She was loving, always had
the baby in her thoughts,
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she lived for the baby.
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She was dedicated.
She was a dedicated mum.
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You could tell that,
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you could tell by the way
that she was with the child
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and the way she talked to the child,
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I was just left with a lasting impression
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that this was somebody that
I really wanted to help.
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00:19:53,123 --> 00:19:54,243
Kayleigh was ready to raise
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her precious daughter as a single mother
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in their new London Road home.
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But Ian Paton had other ideas.
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The day she moved in is the day
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that he stayed there permanently,
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even though he has his own flat.
400
00:20:07,443 --> 00:20:10,763
Ian never left Kayleigh
and the baby's side.
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00:20:10,843 --> 00:20:12,483
And that's when me and my family thought,
402
00:20:12,563 --> 00:20:15,883
"Okay, this could be
something of a new beginning."
403
00:20:16,883 --> 00:20:19,123
And for a while after
the baby was born,
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he was allowed to play Dad.
405
00:20:21,603 --> 00:20:24,283
{\an8}And what's very interesting
is for a very short time
406
00:20:24,363 --> 00:20:27,763
{\an8}after the baby was born, the
relationship became very good.
407
00:20:29,163 --> 00:20:31,043
Kayleigh's
loved ones were optimistic.
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00:20:31,123 --> 00:20:33,283
They thought being a new
father might change Ian
409
00:20:33,363 --> 00:20:36,003
and the way he treated
the mother of his child.
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00:20:37,923 --> 00:20:41,043
I wasn't surprised that Kayleigh and Ian
got back together.
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After having the baby,
everything seemed perfect,
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and they were gonna
make a real go of things
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to be parents and to love one another,
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be the best that they could.
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In a relationship that appeared
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for the first time calm and stable,
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Kayleigh was able to focus on making
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the best life she could for her baby.
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It was now she met Christine Bayliss.
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00:21:05,923 --> 00:21:10,923
Kayleigh contacted me in July of 2019.
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She had applied to go on
the housing waiting list.
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She was a single parent
and she wrote to me saying
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that she hadn't heard anything
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from Rother district council.
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She blew me away, I really loved her.
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She just wasn't what the
stereotype you think of
427
00:21:29,003 --> 00:21:31,603
as a sort of single
parent benefits scrounger.
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00:21:31,683 --> 00:21:32,883
She was brilliant.
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00:21:32,963 --> 00:21:35,923
She got a job, she was on maternity leave.
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00:21:36,003 --> 00:21:39,043
She had real ambitions for her daughter,
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00:21:39,123 --> 00:21:41,123
and I just left thinking
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if I can't help somebody like Kayleigh,
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what's the point in being a councilor?
434
00:21:47,323 --> 00:21:49,523
The councilor's
visit saw her see Paton
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as part of Kayleigh's life.
436
00:21:51,763 --> 00:21:53,483
I went along to visit her.
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I met a guy there who she introduced me to
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as the father of her child.
439
00:22:00,203 --> 00:22:04,523
He was present all the time
at that first initial meeting.
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After that meeting, she told
me that they co-parented
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the daughter, he seemed fairly caring.
442
00:22:12,923 --> 00:22:15,363
And so he was,
for a month or two.
443
00:22:15,443 --> 00:22:17,043
But while the baby was still tiny,
444
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her father's attitude changed.
445
00:22:19,283 --> 00:22:21,043
There was a hint of the return of the man
446
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who'd been so possessive
and violent with Kayleigh.
447
00:22:27,643 --> 00:22:31,203
And then it went downhill ever since then.
448
00:22:32,603 --> 00:22:33,963
Ian would come in from work,
449
00:22:34,043 --> 00:22:36,763
wouldn't pay any attention to the baby.
450
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Just smoke, drink coffee,
451
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and just moan that he's tired
or he's got a bad belly,
452
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and then he would
suddenly pick the baby up...
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and start the role,
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and then put her down
like she was just a doll,
455
00:22:55,643 --> 00:22:57,483
and that's the way it was.
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He decided
"I didn't want that, but now I do.
457
00:23:00,923 --> 00:23:02,283
I'm going to play daddy."
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00:23:02,363 --> 00:23:05,843
And he played daddy for a while,
but the monster came back.
459
00:23:09,563 --> 00:23:12,363
Ian was up
to his old tricks again.
460
00:23:12,443 --> 00:23:17,603
Kayleigh said she was feeling a bit
suspicious of his actions.
461
00:23:17,683 --> 00:23:20,283
Again, the phone was being hidden.
462
00:23:20,363 --> 00:23:24,443
The phone was used
quite a lot of the time.
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00:23:24,523 --> 00:23:27,123
So she just asked me what should she do?
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And I said,
"Confront him, but don't let him
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tell you otherwise.
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If he has nothing to worry
about, then you'll know."
467
00:23:38,483 --> 00:23:40,523
The warning signs were there,
468
00:23:40,603 --> 00:23:42,003
but Kayleigh thought she could overcome
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00:23:42,083 --> 00:23:44,363
the couple's difficulties.
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00:23:44,443 --> 00:23:46,923
Kayleigh really was so
focused on her daughter.
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00:23:47,003 --> 00:23:49,243
She wanted things to be
really straightforward.
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00:23:49,323 --> 00:23:53,003
She wanted Ian to be really focused on her
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00:23:53,083 --> 00:23:54,203
and their daughter.
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She wanted a knight in shining armor,
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and I think she was really
determined to get that,
476
00:24:00,683 --> 00:24:04,363
and to really, for her daughter,
to put in such an effort
477
00:24:04,443 --> 00:24:06,483
to try and bring that about.
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00:24:06,563 --> 00:24:09,043
In the last month he was getting help.
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He was having counseling.
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We thought everything was
slowly working itself out.
481
00:24:13,363 --> 00:24:15,763
He was dealing with his demons.
482
00:24:15,843 --> 00:24:17,883
Kayleigh was dealing with hers.
483
00:24:17,963 --> 00:24:20,523
They just seemed to be like a family.
484
00:24:21,803 --> 00:24:23,763
{\an8}But appearances were deceptive.
485
00:24:23,843 --> 00:24:25,643
{\an8}As Bexhill's hot, dry summer weather
486
00:24:25,723 --> 00:24:28,163
brought tourists flocking
to England's south coast,
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00:24:28,243 --> 00:24:31,763
Ian was becoming, again,
increasingly violent.
488
00:24:31,843 --> 00:24:34,363
At least once, he hit her.
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00:24:34,443 --> 00:24:36,123
Kayleigh told no one.
490
00:24:36,203 --> 00:24:40,003
Kayleigh never reported any
domestic abuse to the police.
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Had she reported those to,
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00:24:41,483 --> 00:24:43,763
naturally she would have been listened to
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00:24:43,843 --> 00:24:44,803
and taken seriously.
494
00:24:46,003 --> 00:24:49,883
There was a reason Kayleigh
did not report Ian's abuse.
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00:24:49,963 --> 00:24:53,123
He would threaten her
with social services.
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He would say, "I'm going
to call social services
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and gonna get them to take the baby away."
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And on top of the natural
effects of the kind of physical
499
00:25:01,963 --> 00:25:05,363
and emotional abuse that
he was inflicting on her,
500
00:25:05,443 --> 00:25:08,643
she's now living in fear
that he'll call the police,
501
00:25:08,723 --> 00:25:09,883
or he'll call social services
502
00:25:09,963 --> 00:25:11,283
and she will lose her child,
503
00:25:11,363 --> 00:25:14,123
the one thing she's always wanted.
504
00:25:15,123 --> 00:25:18,123
We know it's not uncommon for
there to be many instances
505
00:25:18,203 --> 00:25:21,683
of domestic abuse before
people take the step
506
00:25:21,763 --> 00:25:23,923
of reporting it to the police.
507
00:25:24,963 --> 00:25:26,363
Kayleigh
Hanks was not yet ready
508
00:25:26,443 --> 00:25:27,763
to call the police,
509
00:25:27,843 --> 00:25:30,483
but she did begin to fear
for her daughter's future,
510
00:25:30,563 --> 00:25:34,163
and on July 17th, 2019,
she hinted at her fears.
511
00:25:35,083 --> 00:25:37,603
One of the most tragic things in this case
512
00:25:37,683 --> 00:25:40,723
is that Kayleigh seems
to have some inkling
513
00:25:40,803 --> 00:25:41,723
of what might be coming.
514
00:25:44,443 --> 00:25:46,123
Went over on the Wednesday
515
00:25:46,203 --> 00:25:49,403
to go and help Kayleigh
with the housework,
516
00:25:49,843 --> 00:25:52,083
help her out with the baby.
517
00:25:52,163 --> 00:25:54,243
From out of the blue, she asked me
518
00:25:54,323 --> 00:25:56,363
if anything ever happened to her,
519
00:25:56,443 --> 00:25:58,723
she would like me to have the baby.
520
00:25:58,803 --> 00:26:00,923
Making it clear, Emma, not Ian,
521
00:26:01,003 --> 00:26:02,683
is to have custody of her child.
522
00:26:03,923 --> 00:26:06,123
Me thinking, okay,
because she's been poorly,
523
00:26:06,203 --> 00:26:08,843
she's getting a bit paranoid.
524
00:26:08,923 --> 00:26:11,083
So didn't think anything of it, agreed.
525
00:26:11,163 --> 00:26:12,923
He'd strangled her,
526
00:26:13,003 --> 00:26:14,803
he has made her get on her hands and knees
527
00:26:14,883 --> 00:26:16,123
in their presence.
528
00:26:16,203 --> 00:26:19,043
He has beaten her, he has smashed her head
529
00:26:19,123 --> 00:26:23,003
off of a dashboard,
he has done so, so much
530
00:26:23,083 --> 00:26:26,363
to prove that he is this evil monster.
531
00:26:26,443 --> 00:26:27,523
{\an8}The following Saturday,
532
00:26:27,603 --> 00:26:31,363
{\an8}a family gathering at Emma's
house started on a sour note.
533
00:26:33,003 --> 00:26:35,403
She arrived with Ian,
534
00:26:36,043 --> 00:26:39,923
Ian came in through the
gate first with the baby,
535
00:26:40,003 --> 00:26:42,203
dumped the baby in front of me.
536
00:26:42,283 --> 00:26:47,283
And I asked him where Kayleigh
was, how is everybody,
537
00:26:47,363 --> 00:26:49,683
and he turned around and said,
538
00:26:49,763 --> 00:26:52,043
"Look, she's down there."
539
00:26:52,123 --> 00:26:54,123
Kayleigh had spotted an
old friend on the street.
540
00:26:54,203 --> 00:26:57,003
She had gone up and said
hello, and they had a chat,
541
00:26:58,083 --> 00:26:59,803
nothing more than that.
542
00:27:01,563 --> 00:27:06,083
Ian did not like the
fact that she was talking
543
00:27:06,163 --> 00:27:07,243
to another male.
544
00:27:07,323 --> 00:27:08,563
He was very annoyed.
545
00:27:08,643 --> 00:27:10,963
I could see by his facial expression
546
00:27:11,043 --> 00:27:12,843
when he came in through the gate,
547
00:27:12,923 --> 00:27:15,243
dropped the baby down in front of me
548
00:27:15,323 --> 00:27:18,763
and then had about three roll-ups.
549
00:27:18,843 --> 00:27:21,243
And then afterwards Ian had said nothing.
550
00:27:21,603 --> 00:27:26,323
And then Kayleigh came bouncing
through the gate, happy,
551
00:27:28,243 --> 00:27:30,723
went over to Ian, sat on his lap,
552
00:27:30,803 --> 00:27:34,603
give him a kiss, and
everything seemed to be okay.
553
00:27:34,683 --> 00:27:37,523
Like they were quite
loving with one another.
554
00:27:39,163 --> 00:27:40,923
But Ian was biding his time
555
00:27:41,003 --> 00:27:42,723
until he and Kayleigh were alone.
556
00:27:45,243 --> 00:27:47,003
At around 6.30 p.m.,
557
00:27:47,083 --> 00:27:48,843
Kayleigh and Ian left Emma's house.
558
00:27:49,843 --> 00:27:52,363
So I gave her a kiss, a cuddle.
559
00:27:52,443 --> 00:27:54,403
We said we loved each other.
560
00:27:54,483 --> 00:27:56,243
She walked out of the gate,
561
00:27:56,323 --> 00:28:00,803
and that was the last
time we heard or see her.
562
00:28:07,643 --> 00:28:09,123
The last person
to hear from Kayleigh
563
00:28:09,203 --> 00:28:10,883
was a man called Ashley Boxall,
564
00:28:10,963 --> 00:28:13,923
the old friend she'd bumped
into outside her sister's home.
565
00:28:15,843 --> 00:28:19,443
We know an argument started
because that same man
566
00:28:19,523 --> 00:28:22,283
from the street was sent a
text message by Kayleigh.
567
00:28:22,363 --> 00:28:25,363
Ian accuses Kayleigh
of having an affair,
568
00:28:25,443 --> 00:28:28,963
and Kayleigh makes some effort
to contact the individual
569
00:28:29,043 --> 00:28:31,083
and get some confirmation for Ian.
570
00:28:31,163 --> 00:28:32,763
And the text messages said,
571
00:28:32,843 --> 00:28:35,443
"Please tell Ian that
we never had an affair,
572
00:28:35,523 --> 00:28:36,923
that we're just friends."
573
00:28:37,003 --> 00:28:38,723
And then she tried to call him.
574
00:28:38,803 --> 00:28:41,043
So the text message wasn't
enough, she tried to call him.
575
00:28:41,123 --> 00:28:42,123
He didn't answer the phone,
576
00:28:42,203 --> 00:28:44,403
but he did send a text
message back confirming,
577
00:28:44,483 --> 00:28:46,603
no, it was no affair, we're just friends.
578
00:28:50,803 --> 00:28:52,083
Ashley could see that Kayleigh
579
00:28:52,163 --> 00:28:53,963
had read his response.
580
00:28:54,043 --> 00:28:55,643
Then she went offline.
581
00:28:55,723 --> 00:28:58,003
It would be hours before anyone found out
582
00:28:58,083 --> 00:28:59,683
what happened next.
583
00:29:00,803 --> 00:29:02,963
Kayleigh was found in her bedroom.
584
00:29:03,043 --> 00:29:05,923
She was on the floor right by the door,
and really close
585
00:29:06,003 --> 00:29:10,323
to the crib where her
daughter would have slept.
586
00:29:19,283 --> 00:29:22,563
In the early hours
of Sunday, July 21st, 2019,
587
00:29:22,643 --> 00:29:25,123
Emma Hanks awoke to a nightmare.
588
00:29:27,043 --> 00:29:29,763
{\an8}In the morning, it was half past four,
589
00:29:29,843 --> 00:29:33,123
{\an8}I get a knock at the door
and I was a bit uneasy.
590
00:29:35,443 --> 00:29:37,643
Went down, obviously, opened the door
591
00:29:38,243 --> 00:29:41,043
to find two police officers stood there.
592
00:29:41,123 --> 00:29:43,283
And he asked my name,
593
00:29:43,363 --> 00:29:45,723
and I said "Yes, that's correct."
594
00:29:45,803 --> 00:29:48,363
And he said, "Is it okay if we come in?"
595
00:29:50,283 --> 00:29:52,563
And I said, "Of course."
596
00:29:52,763 --> 00:29:56,283
They followed me in and said,
597
00:29:56,363 --> 00:29:57,963
"I'm sorry to have to tell you this,
598
00:29:58,043 --> 00:30:00,523
but we were called to a
disturbance this morning
599
00:30:00,603 --> 00:30:02,203
and your sister's dead."
600
00:30:05,923 --> 00:30:07,363
The Major Crime Team
601
00:30:07,443 --> 00:30:10,043
at Surrey and Sussex police
had begun to build a picture
602
00:30:10,123 --> 00:30:11,723
of Kayleigh's final moments.
603
00:30:14,803 --> 00:30:18,563
{\an8}Kayleigh died in the very
early hours of Sunday morning.
604
00:30:19,843 --> 00:30:22,523
But how?
She had been strangled.
605
00:30:23,523 --> 00:30:26,763
Ian Paton offered police
his version of events.
606
00:30:27,403 --> 00:30:28,963
{\an8}On the night of Kayleigh's death,
607
00:30:29,043 --> 00:30:31,683
{\an8}Ian is the one who called the police.
608
00:30:31,763 --> 00:30:36,323
{\an8}He called the police to tell
them that Kayleigh had died,
609
00:30:36,403 --> 00:30:38,363
and he told them that Kayleigh had died
610
00:30:38,443 --> 00:30:42,363
in the course of an attack
by Kayleigh, upon him.
611
00:30:46,083 --> 00:30:49,403
Ian's claimed that it was self-defense
612
00:30:49,483 --> 00:30:52,803
because Kayleigh had
charged at him with a knife.
613
00:30:54,323 --> 00:30:59,043
So he acted in self-defense
and held her by the throat.
614
00:31:00,443 --> 00:31:04,243
But from the very moment
that Ian had made that 999 call,
615
00:31:04,323 --> 00:31:07,603
police began to note troubling anomalies.
616
00:31:07,683 --> 00:31:12,683
Initially, the call after
Kayleigh had been killed,
617
00:31:13,563 --> 00:31:15,163
it came to the police
rather than the ambulance
618
00:31:15,243 --> 00:31:16,883
as a cry for help.
619
00:31:16,963 --> 00:31:18,523
Small details like that,
that made me think,
620
00:31:18,603 --> 00:31:19,963
well, that's quite an unusual thing.
621
00:31:20,043 --> 00:31:22,803
If there's a tragic accident,
something you didn't intend,
622
00:31:22,883 --> 00:31:26,243
you immediately try and
get into the ambulance
623
00:31:26,323 --> 00:31:27,643
and try and get some help for Kayleigh
624
00:31:27,723 --> 00:31:30,723
and try and get the situation back.
625
00:31:30,803 --> 00:31:32,363
There was shock
in the local community
626
00:31:32,443 --> 00:31:33,763
as news spread of a violent incident
627
00:31:33,843 --> 00:31:35,603
in a town center flat.
628
00:31:35,683 --> 00:31:38,163
The full facts were yet to be released.
629
00:31:39,003 --> 00:31:40,003
I heard about Kayleigh's death
630
00:31:40,083 --> 00:31:42,963
{\an8}actually through my son who sent me a text
631
00:31:43,043 --> 00:31:47,123
{\an8}saying that there'd been
a murder in London Road.
632
00:31:47,203 --> 00:31:48,683
I was sort of fairly shocked,
633
00:31:48,763 --> 00:31:52,283
and I just dropped Kayleigh
a text message to say,
634
00:31:52,363 --> 00:31:54,163
"Hope everything's all right."
635
00:31:54,243 --> 00:31:55,443
She didn't respond to me,
636
00:31:55,523 --> 00:31:56,843
I phoned a few more times,
637
00:31:56,923 --> 00:31:58,603
and I walked up there,
638
00:31:58,683 --> 00:32:00,083
and of course, when I got to her flat,
639
00:32:00,163 --> 00:32:02,203
there was a policeman outside.
640
00:32:02,283 --> 00:32:04,723
He wouldn't tell me anything,
641
00:32:04,803 --> 00:32:06,363
but he did take my telephone number,
642
00:32:06,443 --> 00:32:12,083
and I did say to him, "Please tell me
that the little baby is fine."
643
00:32:12,963 --> 00:32:16,123
He said, "I can tell you
that the baby is unharmed,
644
00:32:16,203 --> 00:32:18,283
but I can't tell you anything else."
645
00:32:18,363 --> 00:32:19,923
And I said, "Thank you."
646
00:32:20,003 --> 00:32:24,083
And on the way back, a police sergeant
phoned me from Lewes,
647
00:32:24,163 --> 00:32:26,123
from the incident room,
648
00:32:26,203 --> 00:32:28,203
and just asked me what I knew
649
00:32:28,283 --> 00:32:30,963
and confirmed to me that
she had been murdered.
650
00:32:33,523 --> 00:32:35,403
By this time,
mid-morning on Sunday,
651
00:32:35,483 --> 00:32:37,403
DCI Andy Wolstenholme and his team
652
00:32:37,483 --> 00:32:40,083
were following every
possible line of inquiry.
653
00:32:40,163 --> 00:32:43,443
The detective story in the
tragedy of Kayleigh Hanks
654
00:32:43,523 --> 00:32:45,003
was under way.
655
00:32:45,083 --> 00:32:48,083
We always look at
things like phones.
656
00:32:48,163 --> 00:32:50,083
We look at computers where we have them,
657
00:32:50,163 --> 00:32:54,363
but in Kayleigh's case, we were looking
at a really short period of time
658
00:32:54,443 --> 00:32:58,243
for the investigation, and what we
really needed to know
659
00:32:58,323 --> 00:33:00,363
was about her relationship with Ian,
660
00:33:00,443 --> 00:33:03,363
and Kayleigh's family, friends,
661
00:33:03,443 --> 00:33:06,203
were all able to tell us what
sort of relationship that was,
662
00:33:06,283 --> 00:33:09,003
and we were quickly able to understand
663
00:33:09,083 --> 00:33:11,443
perhaps some of the difficulties
that they'd been facing
664
00:33:11,523 --> 00:33:14,963
over the period preceding her murder.
665
00:33:18,323 --> 00:33:19,963
Friends and family painted a picture
666
00:33:20,043 --> 00:33:22,883
of a volatile,
sometimes violent relationship.
667
00:33:22,963 --> 00:33:24,963
In custody at the local police station,
668
00:33:25,043 --> 00:33:27,763
Ian Paton described the events
of the previous evening,
669
00:33:27,843 --> 00:33:31,043
after the couple, with their baby,
left Emma Hanks' home.
670
00:33:32,043 --> 00:33:35,203
Going home to Kayleigh's flat
and ordering some food together,
671
00:33:35,283 --> 00:33:36,883
and sharing that in the evening,
672
00:33:36,963 --> 00:33:39,443
Ian popped out to the shop.
673
00:33:39,523 --> 00:33:40,803
And then when he came back,
674
00:33:40,883 --> 00:33:43,243
he describes the atmosphere changing,
675
00:33:43,323 --> 00:33:46,163
there being some arguments
between him and Kayleigh.
676
00:33:46,243 --> 00:33:48,843
They were clearly arguing 'cause
he thought she was having an affair.
677
00:33:48,923 --> 00:33:50,643
We know that from the text messages.
678
00:33:50,723 --> 00:33:53,083
But in fact, he said,
"No, no, it was about my ex-girlfriends
679
00:33:53,163 --> 00:33:54,643
and her jealousy."
680
00:33:54,723 --> 00:33:57,643
There was more argument,
and Ian described Kayleigh saying
681
00:33:57,723 --> 00:33:59,043
that their relationship had finished
682
00:33:59,123 --> 00:34:01,403
and that he was to sleep on the sofa.
683
00:34:02,403 --> 00:34:05,803
And Ian said that,
absolutely, that suited him.
684
00:34:05,883 --> 00:34:08,603
He says that he went into
her bedroom to get a pillow
685
00:34:08,682 --> 00:34:10,282
because he was gonna sleep on the sofa,
686
00:34:10,363 --> 00:34:13,083
and when he was doing that,
687
00:34:13,163 --> 00:34:14,883
Kayleigh attacked him with a knife.
688
00:34:14,963 --> 00:34:17,323
Kayleigh had come at him
with a carving knife.
689
00:34:17,403 --> 00:34:20,043
Kayleigh was trying to kill him, says Ian,
690
00:34:20,123 --> 00:34:22,163
and he said, "I had to restrain her."
691
00:34:23,003 --> 00:34:24,282
But in Ian's words
692
00:34:24,363 --> 00:34:27,323
on the call that he made to
emergency services that night,
693
00:34:27,403 --> 00:34:29,762
"I think I restrained her too hard,"
694
00:34:29,843 --> 00:34:33,563
something else that jarred
with investigating officers.
695
00:34:34,843 --> 00:34:37,682
Restraining someone by strangling them,
696
00:34:37,762 --> 00:34:40,963
it's an incredibly brutal
way of restraining someone,
697
00:34:42,003 --> 00:34:43,403
and the force that is required
698
00:34:43,483 --> 00:34:45,163
to physically restrain
someone to the point
699
00:34:45,242 --> 00:34:47,883
that they pass out and ultimately die,
700
00:34:47,963 --> 00:34:49,643
that's an awful lot of force.
701
00:34:50,682 --> 00:34:53,603
And it seems absolutely incredible
702
00:34:53,682 --> 00:34:57,043
that someone could consider
that level of force
703
00:34:57,123 --> 00:35:00,043
as being appropriate against anyone,
704
00:35:00,123 --> 00:35:02,043
particularly their partner.
705
00:35:02,123 --> 00:35:06,123
There was certainly
disparity in size and height
706
00:35:06,203 --> 00:35:08,923
and weight between Kayleigh and Ian,
707
00:35:09,003 --> 00:35:12,123
so I would suggest that it
would be relatively easy
708
00:35:12,203 --> 00:35:14,043
for Ian to restrain Kayleigh
709
00:35:15,923 --> 00:35:17,523
in all manner of different methods.
710
00:35:18,803 --> 00:35:20,083
Another factor
in the case building
711
00:35:20,163 --> 00:35:22,643
against Paton was the time which elapsed
712
00:35:22,723 --> 00:35:25,963
between the incident and Ian
calling emergency services.
713
00:35:26,043 --> 00:35:28,083
It appeared to be around 15 minutes.
714
00:35:28,963 --> 00:35:31,043
Kayleigh was found in her bedroom.
715
00:35:31,123 --> 00:35:34,283
She was on the floor right by the door,
716
00:35:34,363 --> 00:35:36,843
and really close to the crib
717
00:35:36,923 --> 00:35:38,603
where her daughter would have slept.
718
00:35:38,683 --> 00:35:42,123
So she was right beside
her mum when she passed.
719
00:35:42,203 --> 00:35:46,883
Ian's reason for not calling
for an ambulance sooner
720
00:35:46,963 --> 00:35:49,563
was that he really needed
to settle his daughter.
721
00:35:49,643 --> 00:35:52,243
He could hear that she was unsettled,
722
00:35:52,323 --> 00:35:54,923
and he said that he was
happy to leave Kayleigh
723
00:35:55,003 --> 00:35:57,283
because he thought she
was safe on the floor.
724
00:35:58,443 --> 00:35:59,843
When Ian
returned to the bedroom
725
00:35:59,923 --> 00:36:01,243
10 to 15 minutes later,
726
00:36:01,323 --> 00:36:04,083
he realized that she had still not moved,
727
00:36:04,163 --> 00:36:05,963
that she was in fact dead.
728
00:36:06,043 --> 00:36:08,123
When he finally made the 999 call,
729
00:36:08,203 --> 00:36:10,483
there was little anybody could do.
730
00:36:10,563 --> 00:36:14,443
The police and the ambulance
crews arrived really quickly
731
00:36:14,523 --> 00:36:16,523
at Kayleigh's flat,
732
00:36:16,603 --> 00:36:20,483
and they really did work hard
to try and save her life.
733
00:36:20,563 --> 00:36:22,403
And they spent quite some time doing that,
734
00:36:22,483 --> 00:36:24,003
both the paramedics and police officers
735
00:36:24,083 --> 00:36:26,083
giving CPR there at the scene
736
00:36:26,163 --> 00:36:28,403
and trying everything absolutely possible.
737
00:36:28,483 --> 00:36:31,043
The problems with Ian's
version of events were many.
738
00:36:31,123 --> 00:36:32,203
For one thing, someone's coming at you
739
00:36:32,283 --> 00:36:35,523
with a carving knife, placing
your hands around their neck
740
00:36:35,603 --> 00:36:37,923
is not going to protect
you from the carving knife.
741
00:36:38,003 --> 00:36:40,563
Ian claimed that they had
barreled around the room
742
00:36:40,643 --> 00:36:43,963
and that they had smashed
into a dressing table.
743
00:36:44,043 --> 00:36:48,483
The dressing table it seemed
on examination was untouched.
744
00:36:48,563 --> 00:36:50,443
The scene in Kayleigh's room
745
00:36:50,523 --> 00:36:52,163
was much like the rest of her flat,
746
00:36:52,243 --> 00:36:53,243
was really well looked after.
747
00:36:53,323 --> 00:36:55,603
Everything was tidy,
everything was in its place,
748
00:36:55,683 --> 00:37:00,003
and there wasn't really much to evidence
749
00:37:00,083 --> 00:37:03,043
that there was a struggle
that had gone on in that room.
750
00:37:04,163 --> 00:37:06,043
Detectives
found Ian Paton's account
751
00:37:06,123 --> 00:37:08,403
of how Kayleigh had died
difficult to believe,
752
00:37:08,483 --> 00:37:11,243
especially once the autopsy
had been carried out.
753
00:37:13,283 --> 00:37:16,043
The forensic pathologist
was able to tell us
754
00:37:16,123 --> 00:37:20,083
that Kayleigh had died
from neck compression.
755
00:37:20,163 --> 00:37:23,723
He discovered that there was bruising on
both sides of Kayleigh's neck
756
00:37:23,803 --> 00:37:26,163
and was able to say that he believed
757
00:37:26,243 --> 00:37:29,363
that that was as a result
of neck compression.
758
00:37:29,443 --> 00:37:31,523
It was quite separate to
the medical intervention
759
00:37:31,603 --> 00:37:34,003
to try and save Kayleigh's life.
760
00:37:34,083 --> 00:37:38,443
Also, we found that there
were hemorrhages in the eyes,
761
00:37:38,523 --> 00:37:41,803
petechial hemorrhages, and
they are found quite frequently
762
00:37:41,883 --> 00:37:45,083
in cases where somebody
dies by strangulation.
763
00:37:46,163 --> 00:37:51,163
We carried out a micro-CT
scan of Kayleigh's neck,
764
00:37:52,163 --> 00:37:53,843
and one of the bones in her neck,
765
00:37:53,923 --> 00:37:55,923
the hyoid bone, was found to be fractured.
766
00:37:56,003 --> 00:37:59,483
And again, that's found to be
fractured in a number of cases
767
00:37:59,563 --> 00:38:01,603
where strangulation is the cause.
768
00:38:02,883 --> 00:38:04,523
She had the post-mortem on the Monday,
769
00:38:04,603 --> 00:38:09,603
and on the Tuesday, we knew then,
770
00:38:09,763 --> 00:38:12,683
when they charged him with murder,
771
00:38:13,923 --> 00:38:16,123
that's when they had to come and tell us.
772
00:38:17,563 --> 00:38:19,323
And then it just went on from there.
773
00:38:20,923 --> 00:38:21,963
Six months later,
774
00:38:22,043 --> 00:38:24,003
36-year-old Ian Paton stood in the dock
775
00:38:24,083 --> 00:38:27,483
at Hove Crown Court and denied
murdering Kayleigh Hanks.
776
00:38:29,203 --> 00:38:30,283
Throughout the course of the trial,
777
00:38:30,363 --> 00:38:35,043
Ian seemed very relaxed and unconcerned
778
00:38:35,123 --> 00:38:36,723
about what was happening.
779
00:38:36,803 --> 00:38:39,803
He seemed almost quite jocular,
780
00:38:39,883 --> 00:38:43,883
that he wasn't concerned
about what was happening
781
00:38:43,963 --> 00:38:47,603
and how serious the
events in the case were.
782
00:38:48,523 --> 00:38:52,523
I think perhaps his confidence
is part of that persona,
783
00:38:52,603 --> 00:38:56,603
part of that control that he
tried to exert over Kayleigh,
784
00:38:56,683 --> 00:38:59,403
and I think by showing
himself as being confident
785
00:38:59,483 --> 00:39:02,643
and even to a point
disinterested in the trial,
786
00:39:02,723 --> 00:39:06,123
he sort of took back some
of that control for himself,
787
00:39:06,203 --> 00:39:10,803
and was able to cause I
think distress to the family.
788
00:39:12,003 --> 00:39:14,363
Paton continued to
deny the charge against him.
789
00:39:14,443 --> 00:39:17,363
He insisted that Kayleigh
had come at him with a knife,
790
00:39:17,443 --> 00:39:19,403
and that when he had
tried to protect himself,
791
00:39:19,483 --> 00:39:21,923
he'd accidentally strangled her.
792
00:39:22,003 --> 00:39:24,083
His story simply did not stack up.
793
00:39:25,043 --> 00:39:27,043
Ian describes being attacked by Kayleigh
794
00:39:27,123 --> 00:39:28,483
and sustaining injuries,
795
00:39:28,563 --> 00:39:30,563
and through our investigations
796
00:39:30,643 --> 00:39:32,723
and discussion with the pathologist,
797
00:39:32,803 --> 00:39:35,963
we were able to suggest
that those injuries
798
00:39:36,043 --> 00:39:38,203
appeared to be self-inflicted by Ian,
799
00:39:38,283 --> 00:39:43,123
so it was our case that
Ian was responsible
800
00:39:43,203 --> 00:39:44,683
for injuring himself with that knife.
801
00:39:47,763 --> 00:39:50,123
He caused his own wounds
802
00:39:50,203 --> 00:39:51,603
and placed the knife beside her
803
00:39:51,683 --> 00:39:56,683
to make it look like that
Kayleigh had had the knife.
804
00:39:58,403 --> 00:40:00,563
Prosecutors told
the jury that Ian Paton
805
00:40:00,643 --> 00:40:02,323
had strangled Kayleigh to death,
806
00:40:02,403 --> 00:40:05,763
maintaining his hold on her
throat for at least 15 seconds.
807
00:40:07,003 --> 00:40:09,763
It is an incredibly
aggressive thing to do anyway,
808
00:40:09,843 --> 00:40:11,963
grabbing someone by the
throat and the neck,
809
00:40:12,043 --> 00:40:15,003
and squeezing so that they can't breathe.
810
00:40:15,843 --> 00:40:17,283
But of course, when you do that,
811
00:40:17,363 --> 00:40:18,643
generally when you release your hand,
812
00:40:18,723 --> 00:40:20,363
the person starts breathing again.
813
00:40:20,443 --> 00:40:24,763
And so in order to kill
someone by strangulation,
814
00:40:24,843 --> 00:40:27,083
you generally have to
hold on for a long period
815
00:40:27,163 --> 00:40:29,403
after they've stopped breathing,
816
00:40:29,483 --> 00:40:31,963
and that was the prosecution's case,
817
00:40:32,043 --> 00:40:35,843
that actually in order to
cause Kayleigh's death,
818
00:40:35,923 --> 00:40:37,803
Ian had to hold onto her neck
819
00:40:37,883 --> 00:40:40,123
far longer than she'd stopped breathing.
820
00:40:43,083 --> 00:40:45,843
The autopsy found
an injury to Kayleigh's lip,
821
00:40:45,923 --> 00:40:47,723
as well as blood on the
top that she'd been wearing
822
00:40:47,803 --> 00:40:49,243
earlier that day.
823
00:40:49,323 --> 00:40:51,083
There was bruising on her legs, cheek,
824
00:40:51,163 --> 00:40:53,563
and the back of her head, some of it new,
825
00:40:53,643 --> 00:40:55,243
some of it days old.
826
00:40:55,323 --> 00:40:57,603
These were signs there had
been another choking incident
827
00:40:57,683 --> 00:40:59,363
a week or so earlier.
828
00:41:00,923 --> 00:41:04,003
Prior to her death, he strangled her.
829
00:41:04,083 --> 00:41:06,483
We don't know what it was over.
830
00:41:06,563 --> 00:41:08,843
We don't know what happened.
831
00:41:09,163 --> 00:41:11,003
I think that goes a long way
832
00:41:11,083 --> 00:41:15,043
to showing that that is really something
833
00:41:15,123 --> 00:41:16,603
that he feels comfortable with
834
00:41:16,683 --> 00:41:20,603
and is something that he
feels gives him a good degree
835
00:41:20,683 --> 00:41:22,603
of control and power over someone else.
836
00:41:25,003 --> 00:41:26,963
{\an8}Despite Paton's
bravado in the dock,
837
00:41:27,043 --> 00:41:30,043
{\an8}the jury was unconvinced
by his version of events.
838
00:41:30,483 --> 00:41:33,763
On February 7th, 2020, they
returned their verdict.
839
00:41:36,003 --> 00:41:38,443
Ian was found guilty of Kayleigh's murder.
840
00:41:38,523 --> 00:41:41,083
He received a mandatory life sentence,
841
00:41:41,163 --> 00:41:43,403
and he has to serve a minimum of 17 years.
842
00:41:54,923 --> 00:41:56,043
The verdict and the sentence
843
00:41:56,123 --> 00:41:58,843
are of little comfort to
Kayleigh's grieving family.
844
00:42:01,403 --> 00:42:04,043
You know, no matter how long he's got,
845
00:42:05,123 --> 00:42:07,323
we're still living without Kayleigh.
846
00:42:12,363 --> 00:42:15,083
He's still living,
he's still breathing, you know,
847
00:42:15,163 --> 00:42:18,963
he's still got food,
he's living a life in prison.
848
00:42:19,043 --> 00:42:21,123
He's got a second chance coming out.
849
00:42:22,243 --> 00:42:24,963
My sister's never gonna have that chance.
850
00:42:28,243 --> 00:42:29,883
Where the family does find comfort
851
00:42:29,963 --> 00:42:32,243
is in raising the daughter
that Kayleigh left behind,
852
00:42:32,323 --> 00:42:35,563
and in reading the diaries
that she secretly kept.
853
00:42:35,643 --> 00:42:40,203
"Real time, real love, real me, real us."
854
00:42:41,283 --> 00:42:44,683
Kayleigh kept diaries for
the baby for when she was older,
855
00:42:44,763 --> 00:42:48,723
just to give her the insight
of what her dad was like
856
00:42:48,803 --> 00:42:51,203
and what Kayleigh was like,
857
00:42:51,283 --> 00:42:56,203
what Kayleigh had done
previously, i.e. holidays,
858
00:42:56,283 --> 00:43:00,723
and just to give a real
insight of the beginning
859
00:43:00,803 --> 00:43:02,923
and how she felt when she was pregnant.
860
00:43:03,003 --> 00:43:04,403
Me and Kayleigh skinny dipping.
861
00:43:06,283 --> 00:43:11,283
Kayleigh just givin' words
of wisdom from a mom,
862
00:43:12,803 --> 00:43:17,203
letting her know that her dads was about,
863
00:43:17,283 --> 00:43:20,923
and her dad wasn't
all bad in their relationship.
864
00:43:21,003 --> 00:43:23,123
You know, there was happy times,
865
00:43:23,203 --> 00:43:26,243
but also Kayleigh wrote down
866
00:43:26,323 --> 00:43:30,363
the things that he used to
do to her, to say to her.
867
00:43:30,443 --> 00:43:36,203
So just in case, like, everything about
Kayleigh's life was in a book.
868
00:43:36,283 --> 00:43:39,603
"At bowling night with your
father was okay, not great,
869
00:43:39,683 --> 00:43:42,123
due to your dad strangling
my friend after."
870
00:43:42,203 --> 00:43:45,763
So, the baby could read and understand
871
00:43:46,723 --> 00:43:48,603
what Kayleigh was about.
872
00:43:48,683 --> 00:43:49,883
In the meantime,
873
00:43:49,963 --> 00:43:51,763
Emma Hanks wants to use Kayleigh's story
874
00:43:51,843 --> 00:43:53,963
to stop another innocent
person losing their life
875
00:43:54,043 --> 00:43:56,243
at the hands of their lover.
876
00:43:56,323 --> 00:43:58,643
I just urge anyone
that's going through it,
877
00:43:58,723 --> 00:44:00,323
or they think they're going through it,
878
00:44:00,403 --> 00:44:03,083
just to go and get some help.
Go and talk to someone.
879
00:44:03,163 --> 00:44:05,323
It doesn't matter how stupid it sounds.
880
00:44:05,403 --> 00:44:07,603
Just have someone's support.
881
00:44:09,363 --> 00:44:11,283
You never know,
you might think it's stupid,
882
00:44:11,363 --> 00:44:14,603
and they might have made you
believe that it's stupid,
883
00:44:14,683 --> 00:44:16,403
but just go and seek some advice.
884
00:44:16,843 --> 00:44:19,843
{\an8}
885
00:44:27,363 --> 00:44:30,043
{\an8}