1 00:00:31,944 --> 00:00:33,946 OK. 2 00:00:35,999 --> 00:00:37,300 Well, why aren't you upset? 3 00:00:37,950 --> 00:00:40,213 I mean, I am. 4 00:00:40,313 --> 00:00:44,667 But it's fine. You obviously have your reasons. 5 00:00:44,677 --> 00:00:48,191 Do you want to know what they are? 6 00:00:48,201 --> 00:00:50,093 I mean, if you don't think we should keep seeing each other, 7 00:00:50,103 --> 00:00:51,955 I'm certainly not going to force you. 8 00:00:51,965 --> 00:00:53,557 We've been seeing each other for three months 9 00:00:53,567 --> 00:00:57,399 and you have never once opened up to me. 10 00:00:57,409 --> 00:00:58,282 I do have a little girl to consider. 11 00:00:58,292 --> 00:01:01,695 A little girl? She's 11. 12 00:01:02,295 --> 00:01:05,128 It was a big step for me to start dating again. 13 00:01:05,138 --> 00:01:07,050 You're a grown man, aren't you? Maybe it's time for you 14 00:01:07,060 --> 00:01:09,443 to put on your big-boy pants and be emotionally available. 15 00:01:09,943 --> 00:01:13,616 There's a lot for me to navigate, with regard to Emma. 16 00:01:13,626 --> 00:01:16,989 Oh. Thank you so much for reminding me. 17 00:01:16,999 --> 00:01:18,261 Please don't be sarcastic. 18 00:01:18,271 --> 00:01:20,190 Can you please not be a piece of shit? 19 00:01:20,200 --> 00:01:21,945 OK... um... 20 00:01:21,955 --> 00:01:25,428 Emma's in a really fragile state right now. 21 00:01:25,438 --> 00:01:28,031 She keeps having these full-on panic attacks. 22 00:01:28,041 --> 00:01:30,193 I'm not even sure if I know how to stop them. 23 00:01:30,203 --> 00:01:34,236 Then I should talk to her. I'm an empath. 24 00:01:34,246 --> 00:01:35,990 OK, are we ready to order? 25 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:38,002 Does it look like we're ready? Fuck off! 26 00:01:42,535 --> 00:01:44,537 You don't think I'd make a good mother, do you? 27 00:01:49,502 --> 00:01:51,214 I'm the one breaking up with you. 28 00:01:51,224 --> 00:01:52,485 Please don't take this away from me. 29 00:01:52,585 --> 00:01:54,847 I'm sorry? 30 00:01:54,947 --> 00:01:56,209 - You're antiquated. - I'm antiquated? 31 00:01:56,309 --> 00:01:58,571 You're old-fashioned, outdated. 32 00:01:58,670 --> 00:02:00,322 No, I know what the term 'antiquated' means. 33 00:02:00,332 --> 00:02:02,785 You're a dinosaur. 34 00:02:02,795 --> 00:02:04,817 And do you know what happened to the dinosaurs? 35 00:02:04,917 --> 00:02:08,060 - Mm-hm. - A flaming meteor crashed into them 36 00:02:08,160 --> 00:02:11,103 and they died because they weren't ready. 37 00:02:11,203 --> 00:02:13,125 Can anyone really be ready for a meteor? 38 00:02:13,225 --> 00:02:15,526 Well, you're certainly not. 39 00:02:15,987 --> 00:02:17,209 And you're a three. 40 00:02:17,309 --> 00:02:18,770 - I'm a three? - Mm-hm. 41 00:02:18,870 --> 00:02:20,552 Usually, I'm a seven. 42 00:02:20,652 --> 00:02:22,654 But when I'm with you, I'm a nine. 43 00:02:25,316 --> 00:02:29,141 Emma would be sooo lucky to have a mum who's a nine. 44 00:02:29,240 --> 00:02:30,892 Can you please stop making a scene? 45 00:02:30,902 --> 00:02:33,046 Oh, my God! Stop trying to control everything! 46 00:02:33,444 --> 00:02:35,446 You can't control everything! 47 00:02:40,833 --> 00:02:43,213 And traffic is starting to back up on the A20. 48 00:02:43,314 --> 00:02:44,935 Now here's Tony with the weather. 49 00:02:45,034 --> 00:02:48,219 Thanks, Karen. After a chilly night of 7.5 degrees, 50 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:50,340 Adelaide is in for a sunny one today, 51 00:02:50,439 --> 00:02:52,984 with a high of 25 degrees in the city, 52 00:02:53,083 --> 00:02:55,306 while the lower southeast Mt Lofty region... 53 00:03:09,177 --> 00:03:11,701 - Hey, bubs. 54 00:03:11,802 --> 00:03:13,652 Gotta go. 55 00:03:13,751 --> 00:03:15,175 Em? 56 00:03:15,273 --> 00:03:17,377 Look, I know how tricky today must be for you. 57 00:03:17,476 --> 00:03:20,159 - It is for me too... - Dad! 58 00:03:20,256 --> 00:03:22,702 Right. 59 00:03:22,801 --> 00:03:24,601 Uh, I'll meet you outside, then, OK? 60 00:03:37,135 --> 00:03:39,135 I don't need your help. 61 00:04:00,100 --> 00:04:02,561 We're not going to make it in time. 62 00:04:02,662 --> 00:04:04,345 I was trying to get you out of your room this morning- 63 00:04:04,423 --> 00:04:06,423 I had to finish Earth. 64 00:04:10,948 --> 00:04:12,612 Go that way. 65 00:04:12,713 --> 00:04:13,653 Bubs, we're better off staying 66 00:04:13,749 --> 00:04:15,753 - on the usual route, I'm telling you. - It's not moving! 67 00:04:45,652 --> 00:04:47,653 Hey, over here! 68 00:04:49,897 --> 00:04:51,041 Emma, no. 69 00:04:51,133 --> 00:04:52,307 - Dad! - No, no. 70 00:04:52,408 --> 00:04:52,985 - Stop. - I said no. 71 00:04:53,086 --> 00:04:54,329 Dad! 72 00:04:54,430 --> 00:04:57,630 You gotta be kidding me. It's too damn early. 73 00:04:57,675 --> 00:04:59,703 Hey, how are you? 74 00:04:59,713 --> 00:05:02,168 - We gotta go. -Hope these sandwiches are OK. -Thank you. 75 00:05:02,178 --> 00:05:04,321 - Bye-bye. - Thank you. 76 00:05:05,122 --> 00:05:06,382 You cannot do things like that. 77 00:05:06,478 --> 00:05:07,781 - He's homeless. - I don't care. 78 00:05:07,882 --> 00:05:09,262 He could be dangerous. 79 00:05:09,363 --> 00:05:11,363 It is my job to keep you safe. 80 00:05:43,995 --> 00:05:45,995 -Hey! Are you calling? -Somebody call an ambulance! 81 00:05:48,004 --> 00:05:49,783 No airbags. No airbags. 82 00:05:51,084 --> 00:05:52,507 - Em? 83 00:05:52,603 --> 00:05:55,074 Em, it's me it's daddy. 84 00:05:55,170 --> 00:05:56,911 I'm here. You're OK. 85 00:05:57,016 --> 00:05:59,086 Hi. Are you OK? 86 00:05:59,096 --> 00:06:01,198 - She gets panic attacks. - Yeah. OK. I get it. 87 00:06:02,199 --> 00:06:03,500 Look at me. Look at me. OK. I just need you to look at me. 88 00:06:04,257 --> 00:06:06,257 There's something in her bag. 89 00:06:14,752 --> 00:06:16,752 Coming, Em! Coming, baby! 90 00:06:19,113 --> 00:06:21,199 - Em! Em! 91 00:06:24,843 --> 00:06:26,959 Em! You're... OK. 92 00:06:33,891 --> 00:06:35,891 What did you say to her? 93 00:06:36,810 --> 00:06:39,310 What did you do? 94 00:06:39,411 --> 00:06:41,420 She hit your car. 95 00:07:29,983 --> 00:07:32,449 Oh, God. 96 00:07:32,550 --> 00:07:34,728 It's to stop me from turning my head. 97 00:07:34,829 --> 00:07:36,829 - Does it hurt? - Who is it, bubs? 98 00:07:38,074 --> 00:07:40,978 Um, hi. 99 00:07:41,079 --> 00:07:43,055 You gave me your address, through insurance. 100 00:07:43,156 --> 00:07:45,858 I wanted to say sorry for... 101 00:07:45,959 --> 00:07:47,656 for wrecking your universe. 102 00:07:47,666 --> 00:07:49,175 I read it when I was your age, and I loved it. 103 00:07:49,959 --> 00:07:51,673 You don't know my age. 104 00:07:51,683 --> 00:07:54,472 - 11? - I'm 12 in two months. 105 00:07:54,968 --> 00:07:57,194 That's a thoughtful gesture. What do you say, Em? 106 00:07:57,295 --> 00:07:59,117 No? 107 00:07:59,209 --> 00:08:01,353 You don't want to say anything? 108 00:08:01,455 --> 00:08:03,521 Well, at least she took it. 109 00:08:03,613 --> 00:08:05,358 Um... Do you want to... 110 00:08:05,459 --> 00:08:07,603 This is a complete invasion of... 111 00:08:07,704 --> 00:08:09,526 I should not have... I shouldn't have come here. 112 00:08:09,627 --> 00:08:10,882 What? No, no. 113 00:08:10,983 --> 00:08:13,084 Hey. Um... 114 00:08:13,185 --> 00:08:15,185 Hey! Hey! 115 00:08:18,396 --> 00:08:20,656 Uh... Hey! 116 00:08:20,753 --> 00:08:22,733 Wait up! 117 00:08:22,834 --> 00:08:24,834 What was your name, again? 118 00:08:29,045 --> 00:08:31,305 Mary. 119 00:08:31,406 --> 00:08:33,743 Would you, uh, like a cup of Gary? 120 00:08:33,753 --> 00:08:34,990 Fuck. 121 00:08:35,000 --> 00:08:35,658 Tea. 122 00:08:35,826 --> 00:08:37,886 Would you like a cup of tea, Mary? 123 00:08:38,488 --> 00:08:40,488 My name is Gary. 124 00:08:42,136 --> 00:08:44,136 Sure. 125 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:49,423 How long have you been in Australia? 126 00:08:50,021 --> 00:08:52,021 Uh, 12 years. 127 00:08:57,386 --> 00:08:59,011 That's Emma's mom. 128 00:08:59,111 --> 00:09:01,608 My ex-wife. 129 00:09:01,711 --> 00:09:03,569 She live far away? 130 00:09:03,672 --> 00:09:06,405 Uh, yes... 131 00:09:06,415 --> 00:09:08,278 I'm sorry. I don't know why I said ex-wife. 132 00:09:08,877 --> 00:09:10,499 Um. 133 00:09:10,598 --> 00:09:12,021 She died. 134 00:09:12,124 --> 00:09:13,742 Oh. 135 00:09:14,345 --> 00:09:15,953 Cancer. 136 00:09:15,963 --> 00:09:18,276 Um, I'm sorry. 137 00:09:18,286 --> 00:09:20,526 Oh. Well, thank you. We're used to it by now. 138 00:09:20,536 --> 00:09:21,831 As used to it as you can be, I guess. 139 00:09:23,136 --> 00:09:25,136 - Uh, milk? - Yeah. 140 00:09:26,576 --> 00:09:27,838 What was her name? 141 00:09:27,932 --> 00:09:29,838 Lisa. 142 00:09:29,941 --> 00:09:31,877 - Oh, shit. - What? 143 00:09:31,986 --> 00:09:33,554 The book I gave her - 144 00:09:33,564 --> 00:09:36,558 the mom is dead and she lives alone with her dad. 145 00:09:36,568 --> 00:09:38,990 Oh, God. Well, I wouldn't worry about that too much. 146 00:09:39,000 --> 00:09:41,000 Well, then her dad dies and leaves her all by herself. 147 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:44,007 Mmm. She may actually like that bit. 148 00:09:47,194 --> 00:09:48,738 - Agh! 149 00:09:48,838 --> 00:09:50,461 - Are you OK? - Uh, yeah. 150 00:09:50,559 --> 00:09:52,530 I just dropped the, uh... Damn! 151 00:09:52,540 --> 00:09:54,086 - Oh, that's a lot of blood. - That is a lot of blood. 152 00:09:54,684 --> 00:09:56,215 I would put that under the tap. 153 00:09:56,225 --> 00:09:57,000 - I'm gonna go get a bandaid. - I'll get you a bandaid. 154 00:09:57,500 --> 00:09:58,997 - OK. Sure. - Tell me where to go. 155 00:09:59,007 --> 00:10:01,220 - It's, uh, just down the hallway, 156 00:10:01,230 --> 00:10:02,153 and it's gonna be the bathroom, last door on the right. 157 00:10:03,134 --> 00:10:05,134 OK. 158 00:10:21,188 --> 00:10:23,188 You said you knew where I was. 159 00:10:24,511 --> 00:10:26,415 After the accident. 160 00:10:26,511 --> 00:10:27,800 When I was scared. 161 00:10:27,832 --> 00:10:30,457 You said that you'd been there too. 162 00:10:31,161 --> 00:10:33,161 Oh, I have. A bunch of times. 163 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:41,000 Well, there's a lot of blood coming out of your dad. 164 00:10:52,043 --> 00:10:53,505 I'm gonna stick some of this... This is eucalyptus oil... 165 00:10:57,867 --> 00:10:59,329 It's gonna sting. 166 00:10:59,425 --> 00:11:00,917 - I'm sorry. - Brave. Brave. 167 00:11:00,927 --> 00:11:02,312 Yeah. I'm gonna do two. I'm gonna do two. 168 00:11:03,108 --> 00:11:04,980 - Mm-hm. - I'll make it quick. 169 00:11:04,990 --> 00:11:06,990 - Mm-hm. Mm-hm. Mm-hm. - Oh, gosh. Sorry. 170 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:08,461 - It hurts a lot. - Does it really? 171 00:11:08,496 --> 00:11:10,496 Yeah. I want to pretend like it doesn't. 172 00:11:14,845 --> 00:11:16,845 What, uh, brought you here? 173 00:11:19,886 --> 00:11:21,627 Truthfully? 174 00:11:21,730 --> 00:11:23,736 Um... 175 00:11:26,374 --> 00:11:28,310 There was something about your daughter. 176 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:31,728 At the accident, I... I know this sounds like a complete weirdo thing to s... 177 00:11:31,738 --> 00:11:33,132 I'm so sorry. 178 00:11:33,142 --> 00:11:35,709 I meant what brought you to Australia? 179 00:11:35,719 --> 00:11:36,899 Oh. 180 00:11:36,909 --> 00:11:39,099 Idiot. Um... 181 00:11:39,109 --> 00:11:42,369 Uh... I... I wanted a change. 182 00:11:42,867 --> 00:11:45,336 Whereabouts in America? 183 00:11:45,434 --> 00:11:47,576 - Chicago. 184 00:11:47,675 --> 00:11:49,297 Can't get more of a change than Chicago to Adelaide. 185 00:11:50,096 --> 00:11:52,798 Mm-hm. You bet. 186 00:11:53,201 --> 00:11:55,999 Why did you choose Adelaide? 187 00:11:56,009 --> 00:11:58,955 Uh, I can work from anywhere. 188 00:11:58,965 --> 00:11:59,877 What do you do? 189 00:11:59,887 --> 00:12:02,540 I volunteer places. I do stuff for charities. 190 00:12:02,550 --> 00:12:04,653 So I go to a nursing home every day, 191 00:12:05,252 --> 00:12:07,226 I make and donate stuff. 192 00:12:07,236 --> 00:12:09,257 Oh. Did you mean what do I do for a living? 193 00:12:10,057 --> 00:12:11,791 Oh, right, um... 194 00:12:11,801 --> 00:12:13,503 Uh, I give relationship advice in a column. 195 00:12:14,502 --> 00:12:16,761 Wow! What kind of qualifications 196 00:12:16,863 --> 00:12:17,990 do you need for something like that? 197 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:22,042 Oh, I have an undergraduate degree in psychology, um, 198 00:12:22,069 --> 00:12:23,942 but I don't really use it, um, 199 00:12:23,952 --> 00:12:25,790 well, I stopped pursuing that when I got here, 200 00:12:25,800 --> 00:12:27,909 'cause it was really hard for me to do the one-on-one stuff. 201 00:12:28,954 --> 00:12:30,361 How come? 202 00:12:31,399 --> 00:12:33,401 Um... Why did you come here? 203 00:12:36,684 --> 00:12:38,537 Lisa was Australian. 204 00:12:38,547 --> 00:12:42,172 Um, so we moved when she was pregnant. 205 00:12:42,271 --> 00:12:48,526 And then, uh, after she died, um... 206 00:12:48,536 --> 00:12:51,520 I just felt like I couldn't take Emma away from Lisa's family. 207 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:55,203 Felt like it would hurt her too much to leave them behind. 208 00:12:59,268 --> 00:13:01,268 Emma? You OK? 209 00:13:02,425 --> 00:13:04,672 - Oh! - Oh! God! W... 210 00:13:04,770 --> 00:13:06,674 - It's all over you! - Oh, my gosh. I'm so sorry. 211 00:13:06,770 --> 00:13:08,316 I...I... You're sorry? I'm sorry! 212 00:13:08,414 --> 00:13:09,797 - Have you got a tea towel? - Yes. 213 00:13:09,895 --> 00:13:12,039 We are not good with mugs. 214 00:13:12,136 --> 00:13:14,143 Last time you're gonna see mugs over here. 215 00:13:18,501 --> 00:13:20,610 Do you need anything else? Like ice? 216 00:13:20,711 --> 00:13:22,711 Ice or anything? 217 00:13:38,924 --> 00:13:40,925 Mary! 218 00:13:41,646 --> 00:13:43,000 Mary. 219 00:13:43,097 --> 00:13:45,100 Are we really doing this again? Are you OK? 220 00:13:45,197 --> 00:13:47,869 I just... I felt like... 221 00:13:47,965 --> 00:13:49,868 You know, I gave your daughter an inappropriate book, and... 222 00:13:49,945 --> 00:13:51,423 Like I said, it's seriously not a big deal. 223 00:13:51,527 --> 00:13:53,229 - But then I smashed one of your mugs. - It's just a mug. 224 00:13:53,327 --> 00:13:55,213 - I just feel like I should go. - It's just a mug. 225 00:13:55,295 --> 00:13:57,595 You'd already smashed a mug. 226 00:13:58,792 --> 00:14:00,596 Look, you, um, 227 00:14:00,692 --> 00:14:02,978 coming in to check on Emma was a very thoughtful gesture. 228 00:14:03,058 --> 00:14:04,677 I did hit you both with my car. 229 00:14:04,780 --> 00:14:06,962 You did. And I am planning on suing you. 230 00:14:13,109 --> 00:14:15,109 I've been struggling a lot lately. 231 00:14:17,171 --> 00:14:20,054 Emma's got all sorts of issues. 232 00:14:20,156 --> 00:14:22,156 I don't, frankly, know how to handle them. 233 00:14:24,800 --> 00:14:28,342 You speaking to her after the accident, I... 234 00:14:28,444 --> 00:14:31,823 I don't know what you said, but, um... 235 00:14:31,925 --> 00:14:34,371 I'm having a really hard time articulating myself right now. 236 00:14:34,448 --> 00:14:36,010 Uh... 237 00:14:36,106 --> 00:14:37,629 Can I maybe take you out to dinner tomorrow, 238 00:14:37,715 --> 00:14:38,518 to talk about her? 239 00:14:38,619 --> 00:14:40,818 Oh, I can't do that. 240 00:14:40,919 --> 00:14:42,977 Oh. I'm so sorry. 241 00:14:43,073 --> 00:14:45,256 I did not mean to overstep my boundaries. 242 00:14:45,361 --> 00:14:46,977 No! No. I mean I can't do dinner. 243 00:14:47,078 --> 00:14:48,823 Um... 244 00:14:48,919 --> 00:14:50,544 I could do lunch. 245 00:14:50,645 --> 00:14:52,645 Tomorrow? 246 00:14:53,645 --> 00:14:55,270 Sure. I could do lunch tomorrow. 247 00:14:55,371 --> 00:14:56,627 - Great. - OK. 248 00:14:56,728 --> 00:14:58,000 Promise you won't run away again? 249 00:14:58,101 --> 00:15:00,925 Uh, yeah, yeah. No, I mean, I can't promise that. 250 00:15:43,627 --> 00:15:44,908 I don't know, between work and Emma, 251 00:15:45,013 --> 00:15:47,986 I don't really feel like I have much time for myself. 252 00:15:47,996 --> 00:15:50,085 - I get that. - What about you? 253 00:15:50,095 --> 00:15:52,754 - Oh, I have lots of hobbies. - Like? 254 00:15:52,855 --> 00:15:56,262 Well, I speak four languages. I do topiary. 255 00:15:56,358 --> 00:15:58,180 Um, quilting and knitting. 256 00:15:58,281 --> 00:16:00,584 Pickling and pottery. 257 00:16:00,685 --> 00:16:02,867 I spent a full year doing close-up magic 258 00:16:02,963 --> 00:16:04,687 to entertain at the nursing home. 259 00:16:04,792 --> 00:16:06,648 Muay Thai. 260 00:16:06,749 --> 00:16:08,417 And I make cheese. 261 00:16:08,513 --> 00:16:10,252 You make topiaries? 262 00:16:10,353 --> 00:16:13,858 - Like, building things out of trees? - Shrubs. 263 00:16:13,959 --> 00:16:15,957 Where do you even begin to learn something like that? 264 00:16:16,038 --> 00:16:17,423 Online. 265 00:16:17,519 --> 00:16:19,519 Oh. This is it. 266 00:16:21,627 --> 00:16:22,848 It's amazing - it's been run by the same family 267 00:16:22,944 --> 00:16:24,887 for the past 60 years. 268 00:16:24,992 --> 00:16:26,372 - Gianni, how are you? - Hey, Gary! 269 00:16:26,473 --> 00:16:27,848 - How you doing? - Good to see you. 270 00:16:27,949 --> 00:16:30,252 - Alfie, how are you? - Table for two? 271 00:16:30,353 --> 00:16:31,497 I can't eat there. 272 00:16:31,598 --> 00:16:33,694 Uh, hang on a sec. 273 00:16:34,295 --> 00:16:36,769 Hey! 274 00:16:36,779 --> 00:16:38,404 - You don't like Italian food? - Uh, I've got allergies. 275 00:16:38,800 --> 00:16:39,747 - I'm vegan. - What to? 276 00:16:40,248 --> 00:16:42,117 Italian food. 277 00:16:42,127 --> 00:16:43,305 OK. I'm so sorry. I wish I had checked... 278 00:16:43,406 --> 00:16:46,228 It's not your fault! 279 00:16:46,329 --> 00:16:47,213 Is it a gluten thing? They have great gluten-free pizza. 280 00:16:47,295 --> 00:16:49,295 What about here? 281 00:17:21,327 --> 00:17:23,548 I haven't heard music in a bar for 12 years. 282 00:17:23,651 --> 00:17:26,231 What are you talking about? 283 00:17:26,334 --> 00:17:28,716 I haven't been out in a really, really, really long time. 284 00:17:28,812 --> 00:17:31,158 How's that even possible? 285 00:17:31,251 --> 00:17:32,017 I get why someone like me hasn't been to... 286 00:17:32,100 --> 00:17:33,716 Do you dance? 287 00:17:33,822 --> 00:17:35,720 Uh, probably going to need to 288 00:17:35,822 --> 00:17:38,084 drink a lot more before that can happen. 289 00:17:38,182 --> 00:17:40,187 - That was really expensive. - Mmm. 290 00:17:41,151 --> 00:17:42,885 What music are you into? 291 00:17:42,988 --> 00:17:44,528 I don't listen to music. 292 00:17:44,629 --> 00:17:47,452 Why? No. Really? 293 00:17:47,555 --> 00:17:50,095 Do you know this is Melody Gardot? 294 00:17:50,197 --> 00:17:52,697 Melody Gardot? 295 00:17:52,798 --> 00:17:54,459 - Wow. - Oh, oh! Melody Gardot? 296 00:17:54,562 --> 00:17:57,142 - No, I don't. - OK. 297 00:17:57,247 --> 00:18:00,664 Well, before Melody Gardot was THIS Melody Gardot, 298 00:18:00,760 --> 00:18:02,988 she was actually... More. ..hit by a car. 299 00:18:03,086 --> 00:18:05,626 She was in hospital for a year, with memory loss. 300 00:18:05,729 --> 00:18:07,475 But there was this physician who believed 301 00:18:07,568 --> 00:18:10,394 that he could heal her brain through music. 302 00:18:10,495 --> 00:18:12,401 So he taught her to hum and then to sing. 303 00:18:12,495 --> 00:18:14,318 And now here she is! 304 00:18:14,414 --> 00:18:17,245 And if she hadn't been hit by that car, 305 00:18:17,341 --> 00:18:19,001 we wouldn't be listening to that voice. 306 00:18:19,104 --> 00:18:23,086 That voice melts spines. 307 00:18:29,394 --> 00:18:32,180 Why don't you like music, Gary? 308 00:18:32,278 --> 00:18:34,700 Well, Mary, I like it. 309 00:18:34,798 --> 00:18:36,220 I just don't listen to it anymore. 310 00:18:36,322 --> 00:18:39,825 Why? 311 00:18:39,923 --> 00:18:43,548 We had trouble settling Emma when she was a baby. 312 00:18:43,651 --> 00:18:45,872 'Cause she would cry all the time. We tried everything. 313 00:18:45,970 --> 00:18:48,153 And then one day we worked out 314 00:18:48,254 --> 00:18:49,997 the only thing that would make her sleep... 315 00:18:50,091 --> 00:18:52,095 - Was what? 316 00:18:54,459 --> 00:18:55,379 The only thing that would make her sleep 317 00:18:55,459 --> 00:18:56,961 is when I would sing to her. 318 00:18:57,062 --> 00:18:58,642 Aw. What would you sing? 319 00:18:58,747 --> 00:18:59,966 Just a song. 320 00:19:00,062 --> 00:19:02,526 - Can I hear it? - No. 321 00:19:02,626 --> 00:19:04,626 No, I haven't sung that since she was little. 322 00:19:05,508 --> 00:19:07,334 - Come on, Gary. - No. 323 00:19:07,432 --> 00:19:09,412 - Gary! - No. No. 324 00:19:09,510 --> 00:19:11,180 - No, no, no. - OK. 325 00:19:11,276 --> 00:19:13,776 What if the reason we ended up here 326 00:19:13,876 --> 00:19:17,702 is so that you could sing again? 327 00:19:17,805 --> 00:19:20,423 The music stopped! You're laughing, but it's meant to be! 328 00:19:20,526 --> 00:19:22,466 - Come on. - It's not gonna happen. 329 00:19:22,566 --> 00:19:23,988 I'll cover my eyes. I'm not even gonna look at you. 330 00:19:24,086 --> 00:19:25,385 Look, I'm looking at my hands. 331 00:19:25,490 --> 00:19:27,908 You can cover your entire body. 332 00:19:28,010 --> 00:19:30,193 - I don't want to sing right now. - Come on, Gary. 333 00:19:30,289 --> 00:19:31,995 - My God. - Do you want me to go under the table? 334 00:19:32,095 --> 00:19:33,716 No! Just... Stop bringing attention to us. 335 00:19:33,816 --> 00:19:35,635 OK. Just do it. Really quietly. 336 00:19:35,740 --> 00:19:37,240 I'm not gonna judge you. 337 00:19:37,341 --> 00:19:39,341 Thanks, I appreciate that. 338 00:19:50,834 --> 00:19:52,836 OK, OK. 339 00:19:56,635 --> 00:19:59,903 ♪ There is freedom within 340 00:20:00,004 --> 00:20:02,827 ♪ There is freedom without 341 00:20:02,930 --> 00:20:05,885 ♪ Try to catch the deluge in a paper cup 342 00:20:09,173 --> 00:20:12,394 ♪ There's a battle ahead 343 00:20:12,495 --> 00:20:15,356 ♪ Many battles are lost 344 00:20:15,459 --> 00:20:18,001 ♪ But you'll never see the end of the road 345 00:20:18,100 --> 00:20:20,104 ♪ While you're travelling with me 346 00:20:22,187 --> 00:20:24,930 ♪ Hey, now, hey, now 347 00:20:25,028 --> 00:20:29,613 ♪ Don't dream it's over 348 00:20:29,711 --> 00:20:32,658 ♪ Hey, now, hey, now 349 00:20:32,754 --> 00:20:36,822 ♪ When the world comes in 350 00:20:36,914 --> 00:20:41,260 ♪ They come, they come 351 00:20:41,365 --> 00:20:45,307 ♪ To build a wall between us 352 00:20:45,408 --> 00:20:47,408 ♪ We know 353 00:20:53,180 --> 00:20:55,180 That was beautiful. 354 00:20:57,783 --> 00:21:01,365 Clearly, it didn't work. You're still awake. 355 00:21:01,466 --> 00:21:03,443 I think you should sing it for her again. 356 00:21:03,546 --> 00:21:05,164 Fuck, no. She would hate that. 357 00:21:05,267 --> 00:21:07,289 No, I bet she wouldn't. 358 00:21:07,385 --> 00:21:09,392 You don't know my daughter. 359 00:21:13,394 --> 00:21:16,100 -You said... -Hey, no, no, no. 360 00:21:16,193 --> 00:21:19,423 The secret to the answer is in the questions. 361 00:21:19,526 --> 00:21:22,305 You find out what it is that THEY want to do, 362 00:21:22,403 --> 00:21:25,350 then you advise them to do it. 363 00:21:25,443 --> 00:21:26,408 But, then, sometimes, I honestly have to make up the question, 364 00:21:26,488 --> 00:21:27,950 because it's so boring. 365 00:21:28,055 --> 00:21:29,912 - You make them up? - Mmm. 366 00:21:30,010 --> 00:21:32,010 - Isn't that against the law? - No. 367 00:21:33,937 --> 00:21:36,999 OK. 368 00:21:37,100 --> 00:21:40,363 I just kind of draw on my, um, life experience, I guess. 369 00:21:40,461 --> 00:21:41,966 Give me an example. You've got to give me an example. 370 00:21:42,062 --> 00:21:44,283 OK. Dear Adelaide... 371 00:21:44,385 --> 00:21:45,850 - Adelaide? - Adelaide. 372 00:21:45,947 --> 00:21:48,854 Dear Adelaide, I, um, 373 00:21:48,952 --> 00:21:52,173 I feel like I'm doing a bad job as a dad, 374 00:21:52,276 --> 00:21:55,017 and my little girl has trouble telling me what she needs. 375 00:21:55,122 --> 00:21:57,856 So I try to make everything perfect around her, 376 00:21:57,959 --> 00:22:00,026 but it doesn't seem to make her happy. 377 00:22:00,120 --> 00:22:01,539 And I don't know what to do. 378 00:22:01,644 --> 00:22:03,062 Sincerely, G. 379 00:22:03,164 --> 00:22:05,385 G? OK. 380 00:22:05,488 --> 00:22:06,385 I can relate. Go on. 381 00:22:06,488 --> 00:22:09,033 Dear G, 382 00:22:09,126 --> 00:22:10,751 you say you're trying to make everything perfect, 383 00:22:10,850 --> 00:22:13,680 but perfect doesn't exist. 384 00:22:13,776 --> 00:22:17,758 Perfect's the armour we wear to stop ourselves from being seen. 385 00:22:17,856 --> 00:22:19,760 And maybe it's the thing that's stopping your little girl 386 00:22:19,856 --> 00:22:22,883 from seeing you and feeling close to you. 387 00:22:22,981 --> 00:22:25,086 Maybe you should run towards imperfections, 388 00:22:25,187 --> 00:22:31,495 and laugh and cry and dance, sing. 389 00:22:31,591 --> 00:22:33,254 Get messy. 390 00:22:33,354 --> 00:22:36,017 Messy's good. 391 00:22:36,122 --> 00:22:38,122 Break yourself open - it's how the light gets in. 392 00:22:39,356 --> 00:22:41,363 Always, Adelaide. 393 00:22:45,086 --> 00:22:46,466 When did you come up with that one? 394 00:22:46,572 --> 00:22:49,385 Right now. 395 00:22:49,490 --> 00:22:51,033 I'm trying to get you to sing to your kid. 396 00:22:51,129 --> 00:22:53,555 Right... 397 00:22:53,658 --> 00:22:56,716 Can I ask, um... 398 00:22:56,822 --> 00:23:00,682 what you did in the car for Emma? 399 00:23:00,783 --> 00:23:02,783 I could see she was scared in there. 400 00:23:03,943 --> 00:23:06,370 She's done that before. 401 00:23:06,466 --> 00:23:09,533 It's like she's built this fortress around herself, 402 00:23:09,626 --> 00:23:11,626 so that nothing can hurt her. 403 00:23:12,716 --> 00:23:14,716 I'm doing everything I can. 404 00:23:19,356 --> 00:23:21,461 I get scared sometimes. 405 00:23:21,562 --> 00:23:23,562 Scared of what? 406 00:23:25,930 --> 00:23:28,466 Somehow I caused all of this. 407 00:23:28,568 --> 00:23:31,751 After Lisa died, I spiralled. 408 00:23:31,850 --> 00:23:33,354 Emma was four. 409 00:23:33,459 --> 00:23:36,517 And, um... 410 00:23:36,622 --> 00:23:39,999 Took me years before I felt like I could be her dad again. 411 00:23:40,100 --> 00:23:42,162 I know it probably doesn't feel this way, 412 00:23:42,260 --> 00:23:43,966 but you're already doing the best thing for her. 413 00:23:44,062 --> 00:23:46,606 You're present. 414 00:23:46,709 --> 00:23:50,171 And she may be pushing you away, but you're there. 415 00:23:50,269 --> 00:23:52,372 I mean, that kind of stability is so rare, Gary. 416 00:23:52,475 --> 00:23:55,336 It's... It's fucking priceless. 417 00:23:55,437 --> 00:23:57,459 I can't believe I just unloaded all that on you. 418 00:23:57,557 --> 00:23:59,783 - I'm sorry. I am so sorry. - No! No. No, it's OK. 419 00:23:59,879 --> 00:24:01,026 - I'm an advice columnist. - Oh, God. 420 00:24:01,120 --> 00:24:03,664 - That's fine. - You know what? 421 00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:05,260 I help everybody with their problems. 422 00:24:05,365 --> 00:24:08,269 - You know what, Mary? - What? 423 00:24:08,370 --> 00:24:10,591 I'm not gonna sue you anymore. 424 00:24:10,691 --> 00:24:11,731 No, I promise. I'm gonna call my lawyer tomorrow. 425 00:24:11,812 --> 00:24:13,874 I just... 426 00:24:13,975 --> 00:24:14,937 I can't believe I'm giving anyone advice. 427 00:24:15,010 --> 00:24:17,758 My life is a mess. 428 00:24:22,863 --> 00:24:24,865 Messy is good. 429 00:24:35,231 --> 00:24:37,238 Who put on that song? 430 00:24:39,200 --> 00:24:42,702 - I don't know. - Did you just put on the song? 431 00:24:42,805 --> 00:24:44,747 I've been sitting here with you. 432 00:24:44,841 --> 00:24:46,664 Um, I need to go. 433 00:24:46,767 --> 00:24:48,307 Did I do something wrong? 434 00:24:48,408 --> 00:24:50,908 No, I just feel like this is, um... 435 00:24:51,010 --> 00:24:53,952 I shouldn't have put myself in this situation. 436 00:24:54,055 --> 00:24:56,680 - What situation? - I haven't day-drunk in a really long time, so... 437 00:24:56,778 --> 00:24:58,798 I don't think it's day anymore. 438 00:24:58,901 --> 00:25:00,158 - Really? What time is it? - After 6. 439 00:25:00,260 --> 00:25:02,260 Oh, fuck! 440 00:25:15,874 --> 00:25:18,376 Dear Adelaide, 441 00:25:18,479 --> 00:25:20,901 I've been alone for a really long time. 442 00:25:20,999 --> 00:25:23,423 A boy has appeared and made himself vulnerable to me. 443 00:25:23,526 --> 00:25:25,341 He has made me question 444 00:25:25,443 --> 00:25:27,870 why I've chosen to live a certain way. 445 00:25:27,966 --> 00:25:29,834 I feel like I'm running from my past, 446 00:25:29,930 --> 00:25:32,673 and I can never reveal who I really am. 447 00:25:32,776 --> 00:25:34,789 I've been badly hurt. 448 00:25:34,894 --> 00:25:38,316 I feel lost, and I don't deserve love. 449 00:25:38,414 --> 00:25:41,158 How do you know when that person is the right one? 450 00:25:41,260 --> 00:25:43,260 Sincerely, M. 451 00:25:45,747 --> 00:25:49,008 Dear M, thank you for writing. 452 00:25:49,106 --> 00:25:51,691 Losing yourself - I'm not going to sugar-coat it - 453 00:25:51,789 --> 00:25:54,776 that's the worst thing you can do. 454 00:25:54,874 --> 00:25:57,615 Don't stop believing in who you are. 455 00:25:57,716 --> 00:25:59,258 It's one thing to know that 456 00:25:59,356 --> 00:26:01,461 kindness and vulnerability matter, 457 00:26:01,562 --> 00:26:05,624 but the first person you need to be kind to is you. 458 00:26:05,725 --> 00:26:09,187 We're all feeling our way through the dark. 459 00:26:09,287 --> 00:26:12,191 - Stop running in circles. 460 00:26:12,289 --> 00:26:14,870 Stop running from yourself, 461 00:26:14,975 --> 00:26:16,475 and start running to the light. 462 00:26:16,575 --> 00:26:18,716 Oh, fuck! 463 00:26:18,816 --> 00:26:22,562 Don't lose track of your heart. 464 00:26:22,658 --> 00:26:27,526 It's the only thing that's keeping you going. 465 00:26:27,626 --> 00:26:30,048 And remember, you don't get what you need 466 00:26:30,151 --> 00:26:33,091 until you're brave enough to admit that you need it. 467 00:26:33,191 --> 00:26:35,894 Jump in head-first and fight for it - 468 00:26:35,997 --> 00:26:37,254 even if it means fighting for yourself. 469 00:26:37,356 --> 00:26:39,356 Fuck! 470 00:26:40,914 --> 00:26:42,740 How do you know that 471 00:26:42,841 --> 00:26:44,981 this person is the right one for you? 472 00:26:45,084 --> 00:26:47,305 You won't know unless you open the door 473 00:26:47,408 --> 00:26:49,350 to the possibility that you do deserve to be loved. 474 00:26:49,447 --> 00:26:52,269 Agh! 475 00:26:52,372 --> 00:26:55,394 Strip away the layers and break yourself open. 476 00:26:55,497 --> 00:26:58,356 That's how the light gets in. 477 00:26:58,459 --> 00:26:59,557 Don't lock yourself in your basement. 478 00:27:03,376 --> 00:27:05,383 - Always, Adelaide.