\h\h\h\h-Previously, on "Couples Retreat":
-Yeah.
-We wanted to put this trip \h\h\htogether with people
\h\h\hthat we could just really enjoy, learn from,
and maybe even we could \hall help each other.
\h-We’re going to pamper you today.
-Is he eating off your toes?
-You messing it up \hfor us over here.
\h\h\h\h\h-There you go, Mike. That’s what I’m talking about.
-I am a certified sexologist. \hI have a gift bag for you.
You have lubricant in there, \h\h\h\ha vibrator in there.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h-Yes. -You want me to breathe
into my own genitals?
-I don’t want to do \hno more talking.
\h\h\h\h\h\hI just want my husband to deliver.
-[bleep], [bleep], [bleep].
-Just like that. -This is Lecara.
\h-Hi, everybody. -She is a medium.
\h\h\h-Uh-oh. -I see, like,
\h\hsomething coming together, as babies.
-It is. She’s pregnant. \hNobody knows, though.
We keeping it on the hush.
-Don’t try to make me look \h\h\h\hlike a bad person.
\hI don’t give a [bleep] about what nobody thinks.
-You got to stop walking away \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hin the middle
\hof a conversation. -No, no, no, no, no.
-That’s the childish \h\h\h[bleep], Ray J.
-This conversation \h\his over for me.
-Running away again.
-You want to have a really \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hdeep down,
dark conversation \h\hwith me, huh?
\h\h\h-Have you been entertaining bitches
since you filed for divorce?
\h-I entertained a couple bitches.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
-Hello.
- ♪ Pull up, skirt-skirt \h\h\h\h\hon your body ♪
♪ Performing just on my Rarri ♪
♪ You’re too fine, need a \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hticket ♪
♪ I bet you taste expensive ♪
\h-What your three favorite memories?
-What are your three \hfavorite memories?
-Three favorite memories? \h\h\h\h\h\h\h-We share?
-Three favorite?
-The day you proposed to me.
\h-First time you spent the night.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h-Uh-huh. -And you stayed, but you tried
to fix a little breakfast \h\h\h\hand stuff, yeah.
\hYou know, tried to act like you knew what you was doing.
-Did I?
-Mmm.
\h\h\h\h\h\h-Cancun. -Yeah. [Indistinct].
-The entire time.
-Took me to an expensive \h\h\h\h\h\h\hrestaurant,
and you paid for dinner.
I never had nobody pay \h\h\hfor dinner for me
especially not a woman.
-Getting engaged. \h\h\h\h-Mm-hmm.
-Us getting married.
-Oh, yes. That was \h\han amazing day.
-Getting married! \h\h-There it is.
[music]
-He’s not supposed to be \hable to do that, is he?
-Yeah, okay.
-The first time just seeing \h\h\h\hyou perform, and...
Wait, I kind of lost my train of thought.
Can I do this over? \h\h\h\h\h\h[music]
\h\h\h♪ Just let me take you dancing ♪
♪ Dancing ♪
-Are you nervous? Try to get this.
Just swim to this. \hCome on, Michael.
-Teach this mothersucker \h\h\h\h\h\hhow to swim.
-They say it’s never \htoo late to learn.
\h\h\h\hWhere I’m from, you either climb a tree
\h\h\h\hor you learn to jump in the water.
\h\h\hI never learned to jump in the water.
-Okay. Come on, Michael. \h\h\h\hTry to get this.
Just swim to this. \hOh! Oh, glasses.
-Glasses came off. \h\h\h\h\h\h-Okay.
\hYou know, most people take their glasses off.
\h\h\h\h\h-Hey. -There you go.
Kick your feet up. No, not like that!
\h\h\hTry to kick your feet up above the water. There you go.
Ah! Hey. Not moving.
It is the last day,
and this trip has been such an eye-opening experience.
\h\hIf you would have told me at the beginning of the week
the things we’d go through,
I wouldn’t believe you. \h\h\h\hBut we made it!
\h\h\h\hAnd spending time with everyone else here,
we have truly become family. \h\h\h\h\h\h\hAre you dying?
\hYou got to get your stamina up.
What did she tell you \h\habout last night?
\h-We tried new [bleep] last night. I [bleep].
Five minutes later, \h\h\hI was asleep.
[music]
-What about after that lesson \h\h\h\h\hwe had last night?
-Oh, my god.
-We kind of tried some things \h\h\h\h\h\h\hout last night.
-Yeah, she wanted me \h\hto have my tongue
[bleep] with my fingers \h\h[bleep] using my...
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hMy eyeballs are rubbing your nipples.
It’s too much--She wanted \h\hto do a lot of work.
-I was like,
"Let’s try this new thing \h\hwhere, like, we don’t
\h\h[bleep] but just play with my nipples," and...
\h\h\h-Oh! Did he like that? He didn’t like that, did he?
-For us, the connection was... \h\h\h\h\h\h\h-More passionate?
-...real nice last night. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h-Yeah.
-Really nice. \h\h\h-Nice.
-I was a little bit skeptical \h\h\h\hcoming on this trip,
but the fact that Kirk is focused on Rasheeda?
Bitch, I won!
[music]
-When we got back in the room, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hshe was...
\h\h\hYeah, she wanted to just keep it moving.
\hLike, mission accomplished. Like, "Babe, get in the bed."
I’m like, "I’m coming. \h\h\h\h\hI’m coming."
\h\h\h\h\h\hIt was like, I felt like I was scared.
Sometime when they ready, \h\h\hand you not really,
it’s not a scary.
\h\h\h\hI don’t know what that feeling be,
but just like, it’s pressure! \h\h\h\hIt’s like, "Hold up."
-Like, "What, it’s a problem? \h\h\h\h\h\h\hYou not ready?"
Like, "Something wrong \h\h\h\h\h\hwith you?"
Like, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, \h\h\hgive me a minute."
I’m glad that my wife sees \h\h\hthat I can step it up
just when she gives me \h\h\h\h\h\hthe chance.
\h\h\hI’m happy to see that my wife is happy,
and it just fuels me to keep
going in that direction and keep doing things.
\hI’m hoping that since she’s now seen her man in action...
\h\h\h\hCome on. Get that [bleep].
\h\h\h\h\h\hGet that [bleep], [bleep], hit this [bleep]...
She going to cut me \h\h\h\hsome slack.
\h-We wanted to try the little toy out,
the little vibrator \h\h\hand [bleep].
-There you go with \h\hthat bag, yeah.
-I want to thank the doctor \h\h\h\h\hfor the gift bag.
-I really--You know,
I really feel like this \h\h\h\his good for us.
♪ Got a Marl Light, oh my ♪
♪ Look at me, I’m so fly ♪
♪ Back then, got no love ♪
♪ Now the--they say hi ♪
\h\h\h-You do a lot of different thing.
\h\hYou know, what I noticed? Remember how a long time ago
\h\h\h\h\hwe couldn’t sleep without being intertwined?
When you came home, we didn’t \h\hsleep like that anymore,
but now after this trip...
-I’m going to climb the trees! \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h-Okay.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h-Okay. -But now after this trip,
\h\h\h\h\h\hwe’re back to sleeping like this.
Your legs were intertwined \h\h\h\h\h\h\hwith my legs,
and I was like, "Aaah."
\hI’m feeling so good about my relationship right now.
We’re in the best place we’ve been since he’s gotten home,
\h\h\h\h\h\hand AJ told us that she wants to have some
contract renegotiations \h\h\hwith each couple,
\h\h\h\h\h\hand I am happy to talk to AJ one last time
because I’m loving her advice. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hAll right.
Give me a kiss for that because that was good.
That’s important to me. Mwah. \h\hThat was important to me.
-I just wish all of \h\h\hthese lessons
and all these blessings \h\h\hgo home with us.
-Mmm.
-That’s my Ray J one wish. \h\h\h-Yes, okay. Exactly.
-Even though we have to meet
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hwith AJ, y’all know that, right?
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hIndividually, she wants to meet with us.
Bring it on, AJ.
-I want to enjoy myself like I did last night, thank you.
Don’t change that!
-Don’t change the mood, baby. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h-No.
-Cheers to an amazing sex life \h\h\h\hfor the next 100 years.
\h\h\h-Woo, woo! -Oh, yes, honey.
[music]
-Today we’re going to have \ha final meeting with AJ,
and I think it’s just for us \h\h\h\h\h\hto really assess
\h\h\hwhere we are in our relationship
\h\hand make sure we’re going to move ahead in a positive,
more progressive space.
-I think we’ve reached a point \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hon this trip
that this is necessary.
\h\hEven if it’s not what we want to hear,
it’s what we need to know
\h\h\hespecially if we want this thing to last forever.
-I don’t know if I feeling \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hlike
\h\h\h\hI want to renegotiate anything in our relationship,
but what I want to \h\his to make sure
that we go down the avenue
\h\h\hof improving things within our relationship.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h-Hi! -Gorgeous. Gorgeous, jeez!
\h\h\h\h-Was you relaxed? -No, I was getting ready
for these kind of meetings. \h\hBut, I mean, you know,
it’s a beautiful retreat \h\hkind of thing, so...
\h\h\h\h-It is. It is. -You know what I mean?
-We had some fun time \h\h\h\hat the pool.
\h\h\h\h-Tell me. Tell me! -We just been hanging out.
You know, this is something \h\h\hthat we just really,
\h\h\h\hreally needed, you know, to kick back.
\h-Would you say that there’s anything new or different now
than when you arrived?
-Well, I can say for me \h\h\hthe small things.
\h\h\h\h\hThe small things is what mattered to me so much.
\h\hThose things like, "I want you to do this,
\hand I’d prefer if you do that."
He goes above and beyond \h\h\h\hwith each thing.
Like, he don’t just hold \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hthe door.
He holds the door, \h\htakes my hand,
then escorts me in.
-Last night, I was like,
"I’m here holding the door \h\h\h\h\hif you ever want
to come through it! \h\h\hLet me know."
-He’s like, "Yup, I’m going to keep holding this door.
Holding the door."
-You know, and what I wanted to do was just go in the car
and wait for her in the car, \h\h\hbut I said, "Nah, look,
I don’t feel like arguing \h\hand going through it.
\h\hI’m going to stand here and hold the door, right?"
\h\hbut after a while, a few minutes of holding the door,
I had to let her know, \h\h\h\h\h\h"I’m here."
\h\hLike, "Don’t take advantage because I’m here, right here."
\h\h\hShe knows! She know. It’s not just...She knows.
Like, we’ve been together \h\h\h\h\h\h\hfor a while
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hto know that it’s not my thing.
-Oh, my gosh, the damn door. \hLike, this always happens.
\h\hIf I’m getting too much attention,
and he’s ready to go, \h\hhe gets annoyed.
-Just be a little considerate, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hlike,
"Yo, I’m here to support you,"
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hso, you know, when we saying our goodbyes,
\hlet’s not turn a 10-minute goodbye into a hour goodbye.
-How do you feel about that? \h\h\h\h\h\h\h-So, me, I feel
like I would love him \h\hto be by my side.
-So how big was your career when you were incarcerated?
\h-She have grown since I’ve been incarcerated
until I came home.
\h\h\h\h-And you watched it? -Yeah. And I’m proud of her!
\h-I think you talk yourself into feeling like, "I’m cool.
\hI’m cool. I’m fine." But your behavior says,
"I’m not really cool \h\h\h\hwith it all,"
\h\h\h\h\hand right now, what I feel like happens
\h\hand my observation is you kind of take it out on Yandy.
The, "I’ma be in the car. Can we hurry up and go?"
as opposed to, "Let’s figure \hout how we can be in this,"
but what can’t keep \h\hmoving forward,
and I hope you agree,
is that Yandy feel unsupported \h\h\h\h\hby the number one fan
\h\hthat makes the difference in the world, and that’s you.
It can’t feel great that you weren’t there to participate
when you were incarcerated, and that’s all I’m saying.
\hIf I’m wrong, I’m wrong, but I’m just saying that...
-I think, yeah, you’re absolutely wrong, but.
-Okay. Okay, that’s fine.
-Yeah, absolutely.
This [bleep] is dumb.
So I came into this meeting
\hthinking that we supposed to be working on our issue.
\h\h\hNow seem like it’s just my issue.
It feel like they just \h\hdouble-teaming me.
I don’t know what they trying \h\h\h\h\h\h\hto accomplish.
I’m not feeling this.
\h-You know, there’s something that I feel like in Mendeecees
\h\hwhere if he builds me up too much, he’ll think, like,
\h\h\h\h"I’m too bigheaded," and then I’ll just feel like
I won’t want to be with him \h\h\h\h\h\hor I’ll leave.
-Absolutely not. \hAbsolutely not.
\hI think you’re absolutely wrong,
and that is not a true facts.
-I could get an award \hfrom one of the top
Black organizations.
\hI can... -I said...
So I say, "Congratulations--" \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h-Can I ask...
Let me ask a simple question. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h-I never...
You trying to sit here \h\hand say I never...
\h-But it might be like... -...say, "Congratulations"?
-But it might be like, "Yo, congrats on that,"
\hversus... -Yo, what?
I don’t even talk like that! \h\h\h\h\h\h\hFirst of all...
\h\h\h\h-Exactly. You don’t. -I never even talk like that.
-So you don’t say congratulations.
You might be like... \h\h\h\h-Humanize me!
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hDon’t... What are you talking about?
-You know what, you guys? I tell you what I hear...
-But what would be better \h\h\h\h\his if it was...
-Yeah, all right. I’m ready for this scene to be over.
This [bleep] is getting dumb.
[music]
\h-For real, this [bleep] be going in circles now,
\hand matter of fact, I don’t even want to talk about that
\h\h[bleep] no more. This [bleep] is dumb.
Nah, yeah, this sounds dumb.
\h\h\h\h\h\hThis is dumb. This is super-duper dumb.
-All right. Let’s move on
to the resolutions \hof the contract.
-I don’t really feel like that.
[music]
-Come on in! The hot seat.
\h\hHow you guys doing? -Well, it’s been fine.
\h\h-There’s, like, 15 different ways they...
\h\hyou know? -Just say it!
Fifteen ways to make a woman \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h[bleep].
-I just couldn’t keep this \h\h\hto myself any longer.
\hBesides, this is something everybody
is going to want to hear.
We’ve been keeping a secret \h\h\h\h\h\hfrom you guys.
\h\h\h\hWe’ve been keeping it from you guys the whole time.
\h\h-I called you stupid. You called me a [bleep].
-You called me stupid \h20 times because...
-I called you stupid 20 times?
\h\h\h\h\h-Absolutely. -Okay. You’re [bleep].
-I think we’re done here. \h\h\h\h\h\h-Okay, good.
\hCan we take out the [bleep] part?
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h-Guess what? You don’t control the edit!
-You dumbass.
[music]
-This [bleep] is dumb.
[music]
-We've all been on a good foot.
I don't know why we not on a good foot.
I'm not surprised this happened.
Because he didn't want to talk about it, you know?
-Yeah. -Okay, we good?
-Yes, sir. -Go ahead, AJ.
-It feels a little to me like...
I hear what you're saying.
No compliments, didn't e-mail when you were incarcerated,
but really, what you're asking for mutually
is the same thing.
-You say I don't never
give you compliments, so I'm sitting here...
-I never used the word never. I didn't use absolutes.
-I'm sitting here looking like,
"Yo, I never give her compliments."
-I didn't--Did I say never? -Oh, wow!
This [bleep] is crazy.
-Mendeecees, I want you to know honestly I do feel
like most of the time it's both of you
asking for the same thing, which is consideration.
So I'm going to suggest a lot more consideration mutually.
Patience, patience, patience and communication.
We good? Are we good?
-Do you think we good?
-I mean, I don't think we're good.
I wasn't expecting this,
but I mean, we got to have these conversations
because they're going to happen.
[music]
-Let me ask you something. Why do you love me?
[music]
It's the last day, and I've had a lot of time
to think about our journey this week.
There were some lows. He can't be honest
what he wants and how he feels.
-She told everybody that I filed for divorce,
and I didn't tell her. That's the problem!
-Some highs. -I want to make it work.
I want to fight for the family,
and I love everything about you.
-Before I let my guards down in our last session with AJ,
I just need to make sure
that we're doing this for the right reasons.
-Why do I love you, like... -Are we here
because we really want to make it work for us?
-I love you. You're the mother of my children.
That's why we got married
because I wanted to be with you, and you wanted...
Like, you're the sacred one.
I came here in a good mood!
I came here for peace, and I came here to smile
and be with my wife, try to work things out,
but she just keeps needling me,
and I won't take the bait.
-Well, if I'm so sacred, why do you leave me
in the house with all the kids for days and weeks at a time?
-Because the way I'm being talked to makes me upset,
and I don't want to go back
and forth in some loud, crazy argument.
I think you get, like, irritated,
and you just start to trip out, and then...
-I mean, you called me a bitch.
-I called you... -I said, "Are you stupid?"
and then you called me a bitch.
-You called me more bitches... -And you've...
-...in the past year... -And you've done a lot of more
stuff, too, if you want to go down the list.
I would rather you call me a bitch than you go to Vegas
and go out with strippers and prostitutes.
-If we having a conversation,
I don't get irritated with you.
I won't in a minute go, "You know,
you know, I just--" Like, I don't go there.
So if you take it to a point where you just get irritated,
and you just lose it, we can't get it anywhere
because that's not how people disagree.
They don't just all of a sudden
get irritated with each other.
-I called you stupid. You called me a bitch.
-No, no, no. You called me stupid 20 times.
You called me dummy 20 times...
-In that conversation...
-...then you say, "Go to your room!"
-In that conversation... -In that conversation.
-I called you stupid 20 times? -Absolutely.
-Okay. You're [bleep].
-See? "You're [bleep]."
See, those words.
Like, you got to watch that word because
[bleep] a good word to you?
-Okay, well, you're stupid. -See?
-This is what you did... -We'll never be together
if you keep calling me names.
-Okay, then we'll never be together.
-Because I can't take it.
-I'm okay with that. -You know what?
I feel the same way.
-Okay, cool. -You know what I'm saying?
-Are we done? -I think so.
-Okay, cool. -I think we're done, done.
-You hear what I'm saying? -Good! Good.
-I think we're done, done. -Good. I can't wait.
-[bleep] dumbass.
[music]
-Hello.
-Hello. Well, come on in! Have a seat.
And you know what seat.
-Oh, yeah. The hot seat. -Come on, legs.
That's what I'm talking about.
Let it out.
-Closer. -Let it out!
-How you guys doing? -Good.
-Yes, ma'am.
-Tell me about it. What's been fine?
-Just listening to things about the woman's body.
-Tell me one thing you learned.
-There's, like, 15 different ways they--you know.
That thing. [music]
-Are you trying to be shy? Just say it!
Fifteen ways to make a woman [bleep], ow!
-Yeah, I didn't know the difference.
-Boom. -You know?
-Isn't it crazy? -Yeah.
-Is there anything that you feel like, "You know what?
Now that we're better connected,
I think we should do more of something else."
-If you get mad, just don't bring up the past.
We know it's happened. We know what it is.
-Is that something we've been doing?
-I have!
Yes, I think that's probably pretty freaking normal.
-What would make you leave me? -The cheating incident.
I shouldn't because I did tell him when we decided
to move forward that I didn't want to do that.
If I'm going to accept everything,
I need to accept everything that comes along with it
and don't throw it in his face.
-What I love is that Rasheeda is taking responsibility
of all of her negative feelings
about this whole cheating scandal,
so this is a huge step forward.
The taking vacations, taking breaks,
taking time for yourself, what we doing?
-I just want us to... -But the thing is...
You know what?
Two or three days of something ain't going to hurt [bleep].
-I agree. We do need that time
where it's just we pay attention to each other.
-And that's what I'm saying!
And if you got Carter in the bed at home...
You know, Carter is in the bed with us.
He sleeps in the room with us still.
Like, it's like... -How old is he?
-Seven. So we get our Carter time.
-Can I bunt that number three? -Yeah!
-Can we put his butt in another bed?
-And he got a fly-ass room. Sleep your ass in your room.
-What is that about, [Indistinct]?
-That's my baby right there. He's safe.
-Can we get Carter in his own room?
-We can definitely try.
-We'll try. -Okay, I was going to say,
this is trying to get you all better.
-By the time he eight, he'll be out the room.
Carter is just spoiled with sleeping in the room with us.
He just loves being in the room with us,
and I love him being there, too,
but it does mess up the flow of things
because if Rasheeda is in a sexy mood,
by the time Carter go to sleep, one of us fell asleep.
-That's over with.
-Well, listen, I love what I'm hearing.
Figure it out, but I'll tell you what,
you got to practice some of the stuff
you learned last night. I'm proud of you guys.
-Thank you. I enjoyed this experience.
[music]
-Go to your hole!
-Ugly-ass T-shirt you got on.
-Shut up, and go to your hole.
I'm not giving you [bleep]. I'm keeping the 50.
-Okay, cool. I'm done shooting.
-We are done shooting. We were done anyway.
-Cool.
-All of this for a little bit of a disagreement?
This is like some bull [bleep]
because there's no meaning to it.
I can't be with somebody that tries to poke the bat at me
because it's so simple to turn this around.
-I'll get my 50 every month. -Oh, yeah,
you definitely will in your [bleep].
-Like you do? -And your [bleep] and [bleep].
Calm down. Calm down. Calm down, Princess.
-This is how our arguments typically go.
It's something little,
and then one of us will say something,
and we're just attacking each other,
and we never get anywhere. One minute we can be good,
and the next minute, we hate each other.
I'm not doing any more scenes with him.
-Okay. -I'm not doing any promo.
-I already took care of that. You're already good!
-I'm not talking to you. Big nose.
-Shut up. [bleep]. [bleep]. Stupid-ass [bleep].
[bleep].
-So are you guys done?
-We're done, man.
This week was a blessing and a curse at the same time.
-Hey, Sarah? -Yeah?
-Can you take out the [bleep] part.
-Take the [bleep] out, huh? You don't want people to see
how much of a [bleep] up person you are?
Well, guess what. You don't control the edit!
It is not in your contract.
-That was easy.
[music]
-Anything new now than when you first arrived?
-I'm pregnant. -I did not know this.
-I'm okay with cutting down on that
and giving her more control. She like to control that.
I mean, there's been time where I'm with a girl,
and she wants to FaceTime and watch. Dead serious.
-Look at that smile! -That's her controlling smile.
[music]
-Hey! Come on in. -Look at you.
-You, too. How are you? -Good.
-Sexy, sexy. Come on in.
-So we are here for our contract renegotiation.
Now that I'm pregnant, there's a lot more at stake.
I want the baby to see that we both as parents
have a good relationship with each other
and not let anybody else interfere,
you know, with that.
-I see how we been together,
and I seen the side bitches being cut out.
You know, go from three to two to one.
-Three to--I didn't even know we had three.
It's more than just side chicks disrespecting me.
We're going to be a family.
I'm going to need you to compromise.
-Have you had a good time? -Yeah, no, it's been great.
-We did!
-Anything new now than when you first arrived?
-I'm pregnant. -I did not know this.
-Yeah. -Okay. Congratulations!
-Thank you. -Now we've got a baby
in this open relationship.
We got work to do.
-I want more of a commitment.
Eventually, he needs to put a ring on it.
If he wants me to move in with him.
-Okay. Michael, how about you?
Anything that did work for you
in the beginning that doesn't work for you now?
-I mean, I think our original agreement
is what kept us together this long.
-Meaning? -Meaning, like,
me being allowed to have female company.
Me telling Rada about the side chicks,
that's probably the most honest thing
I've done in my life. Whenever I start cheating
and lying again, that's where I don't want to go to.
I don't want to go back to the lying and cheating.
I've lied to every woman I've been with my whole life.
Every check I've been with, I've lied, L-I-E-D, okay?
If it's going to stop, let it stop on its own.
I don't want to make a promise and not be able to stop it.
And I know when this kid come out,
you know, it definitely change my life,
but I don't want to make any promises that I can't keep.
I'm okay with cutting down on it
and giving her more... a little bit...
make her feel more control. She like to control that.
I mean, there's been time where I'm with a girl,
and she wants to FaceTime and watch what we're doing.
Dead serious.
-Look at that smile! -That's her controlling smile.
-Well... -But it's only right because
she allowed me to do that. That's the least I could do
is have her participate in the threesome
without her being there physically.
-Here's a quick picture of my perfect future with Michael.
Possibly get married in the near future, you know,
have our baby and have, like, fun here and there,
like, maybe two, three times in a year or something,
and I understand a man has needs.
My stomach is going to probably be big,
and he can't reach nothing. And I won't want to hurt
the baby because he's pretty big.
-Okay. All right. Those eyes.
So, for right now, Michael, are you okay with knowing
that Rada's idea of this new arrangement
is two to three times a year?
-That's, like, every other holiday,
but, I mean, we could work something out.
We could figure it out. Two to three times a year
is a big difference than what we've been doing.
-I personally can hear where a lot of the changes
she's asking for is really not so much behavior.
It's respect.
She wants to feel confident and a level of reverence,
and she's defined that a way
that you guys have to come together on.
-I'm definitely down with slowing down
on the side chicks, and the most important
thing side chicks that respects Rada.
-Thank you. And our relationship is so open,
we need to respect each other.
-We working on it. We working on a new contract.
-And here's the thing I'm going to say to you, Rada.
It's a valuable thing that he's not lying,
and now you have to decide,
is it something you want to deal with
as you move forward? Sound good?
-That sounds good to me. -One day at a time.
-I agree.
[music]
-Overall, just no respect, man.
I came out here to get final answers.
We came out here to figure out if this was going to work.
This is not it, man. I'm not going through it.
I'm not about to fake it tonight.
-We just had a crazy argument. I'm not surprised.
I mean, this is, like, the worst space
we could be in right now,
but I think we owe it to all the other couples here
to show up to dinner.
I am going to finish strong
because whether he wants to be here or not,
we're here together.
-What are we going to do on our contract?
-We going to be more considerate
of each other, right,
so you're going to take in consideration of my time,
my efforts and once in a while give me a little validation
the same way you look for it. You know,
we give it to each other. You want to give a kiss,
end it with a kiss, is all right?
-I don't want you to mess up my lipstick.
-All right. Give me your forehead.
-There they are! -Hey.
-Mr. and Mrs. Hot Stuff. -How are you?
-Hey, you. -I like that title.
I'll take that.
-Yeah, we'll take that. -This all mattered to Raymond
and I more than people would ever know.
He's really stepping into play even when it comes
to the romance, but now I need him
to live within this moment that we have here.
-I need you to say, "I need this.
Are you willing to? This is what I'm after.
This is where we're going when we walk out of here."
-Oh, wow. -Yeah.
I'm going to give you... She said, "Oh, wow."
Raymond, what's one thing you want as you move forward?
-Better words. -Better words?
-Yup. It's like positive reinforcement,
like, encouragement.
-Okay. -Yeah.
-How do you feel about that?
-I feel I do that a whole lot. -And you want more?
-Mm-hmm. -A lot of times, Raymond,
he doesn't do a whole lot.
-Well, I just want that acknowledgment.
-He feel like if he take out the trash
that I should acknowledge that.
All I want to--"I'm supposed to take out the trash."
-Well, so do we know what that is,
why you want that kind of praise?
-You know what? I don't know.
-Okay, can we figure it out? -I know why it is.
-Oh, you do? -Yes.
-Why?
-Because he didn't get that type of attention
when he was younger because he was locked up at 14.
-I did lose my mom while I was in prison.
You know, I have that gap of not growing up with her,
and then she's gone,
and so for the rest of my life, there is...
You know, there's people who have came into my life
who were mother figures, but it's not my mom.
-He doesn't even want me to only love him
because of the things that have happened.
He don't want pity love.
I become like a therapist and a teacher,
and I know wives and husbands,
they become that at some point.
I've been that way this whole time.
If I only give into what he needs,
I'll start to lose me.
I've had to be the head of my household
for a very long time.
I was divorced over a decade ago,
so with Raymond, when we met he came into a situation
with this person who was,
like, a stickler for stability,
and I think that that has been a crutch.
I'm ready to be taken care of.
-Look, when we first get into this relationship,
there's a lot of things that I didn't know,
and so because that was... She's strong in that field.
I expect her to teach me,
and that's why I understood where she gets tired,
and she doesn't want to be the mother to me.
That's fine. I get it.
Now she's ready to be the wife.
I have to be the person to be ready to be the husband
so that I can receive her as my wife.
-Wow. -Because I know to me
that's the goal. The goal is that if I want
to make this marriage work, I have to listen.
Yeah, sometimes that line can be blurred
when it comes to my wife
because she is a nurturing woman,
and I can get caught up in that,
but she wants to be treated like my lady,
and in order to do that, then I have to set up.
-So, in the new contract ideas, willing to learn.
-Definitely and also being patient.
-More patient. Where's the patience coming?
-Just when there's times that I might slip
because I don't have it down 100 percent.
-And the compromise on the positive reinforcement,
none of that at-home stuff you're supposed to do.
You don't get praise for taking out the trash.
-Oh, no, definitely. -As long as we agree on that.
-Moving forward, I want my husband
to be more assertive and take charge.
-She know who the boss is at the end of the day.
-Oh, god.
-In the contract, I asked for my wife to, you know, give me
a little more appreciation. You know,
when you start to feel like you're doing the right thing,
you start to develop a little more pride
when you're doing them. So that's what it was about.
-You articulated that so well, honey.
-Thank you.
-And then handle it, bruh. -Oh, god.
You just said that direct to him.
-Right? -That's good.
-We good? -Yeah.
-That's the contract. Bam!
-That's lit. I'm cool. -I love it.
-I didn't know how this trip was going to go over.
-This right here was really beautiful.
-It's cold as [bleep].
My heart is breaking right now, man,
and it's really for my kids
because my kids are everything.
♪ Here we go! ♪
♪ I shine, we shine, you already know ♪
-Darling, I'll pull the seat out for you.
-Oh. -So how's everybody doing?
Hey, we're winding down to our final hours.
So tonight is our final evening together,
but of course, this is not just any dinner.
This is going to be the dinner where we let go.
Thank you very much. [music]
-One time.
-She's going double fisted tonight.
-Like, whatever it is that has been a hindrance
in our relationship, we are going to let it go.
-This right here was really beautiful, like, real talk...
-Yeah. -...came out of it.
-This is the most time we've spent together
probably since we met. Like, yes.
-Me and Mendeecees were talking earlier today.
We are so in awe of you two.
It's so apparent how much you guys love each other,
and then I just love that you just stuck it through!
-The hardest part about having a public relationship is,
everybody got an opinion.
You should leave him or leave her.
You need to smile more.
Everybody has judgment. I feel like when you hit
21 years of a relationship, then talk to me.
-And it makes me emotional because...
-Don't cry because I'ma cry.
-No, no more crying. -No more crying.
This is a happy cry. People always, "Why?
You could do this or you could do that,"
and I'm just like, "I love him.
I love everything about him. There's nobody else.
It's just him."
-Aw.
-Now you going to make me cry, so.
-Okay, I'm holding it all. -Yeah, right?
-That was so beautiful. -Thank you.
-Ain't nobody perfect.
I enjoy each and every one of y'all.
-Getting to know y'all and be around you guys. Dope.
-And then I'm going to try to work on getting you pregnant.
-Oh. -All right.
-He said it like that. -Oh, yeah!
-I told you somebody was going to get pregnant.
-We try to keep it between us, but, you know,
everybody is about to go home.
-We support that. -Yes, we do.
-We support that.
-These are our friends that we've exchanged numbers with.
I just couldn't keep this to myself any longer.
Besides, this is something everybody
is going to want to hear.
We've been keeping a secret from you guys.
We've been keeping it from you guys the whole time.
-We all became a family, but yeah, she's pregnant.
[applause]
-Yay!
-Wait, are you telling a joke?
[chatter]
-Now that it's out there,
I actually excited more than scared.
It's something that we're going to have to work
on day by day, but I think it'll be beautiful
because our love for each other
is just very strong, and it's undeniable.
-I Agree. -Are you crying?
-No, no, no. Nobody crying. No, no.
-Yes. -I'm still a thug.
-Thugs cry.
-I'm still a pimp. Don't play with me.
-We saw that one thug tear. It's all good.
-I need to stand by this heater for 1 second.
It is cold as [bleep].
[music]
-Out of respect for Yandy, Mendeecees
and all the couples, I come to the final dinner.
Am I going to smile and cheese and act
like everything is okay? That's not who I am.
[music]
-I would love for us each to write on a balloon
one thing that we want to just be done with.
Ray, you want to come join or you...
-I'm cold. -You cold?
[music]
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h-Any highlight? -There are some scary lights.
\h\h\h-What’s a scary light? -It’s like the ring of fire.
\h\h\h-That’s a good point. -I wish Princess and Ray J
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hwere there to see that, like, damn.
-That probably wouldn’t \hhave been fun for us.
-Yeah, but just to see \hsomebody else get...
-We probably would have been \h\h\h\h\hthere for 3 hours.
\h-Yo, but just to see somebody get their ass
nailed to the wall.
\h\h\h\h-You know, my heart is breaking right now, man,
and it’s really for my kids
because my kids are everything.
\h\h\h\h\h\hIt doesn’t matter where I lay my head at night.
It doesn’t matter where I work \h\hin the day, what I’m doing.
\h\h\h\hI won’t skip a beat from being the best father
\h\h\hin the world for those two kids.
-This was like paradise, all of you guys together.
-I know for a fact I’m not taking pictures with these
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h[bleep] again. I was in a picture with them,
\h\h\hand the caption was like, "Hanging with my merry [bleep]
so I can learn how to keep my \h\h\h\h[bleep] in my pants."
This is the wrong [bleep].
-I said, "Why don’t \h\h\h\hyou leave?"
He’s like, "Because you’re \h\hthe mother of my kids."
I’m like, "Why you always got to bring kids into it
\h\h\hwhen I ask you why you don’t leave?"
\h\h\h\hEven though Ray and I are going through a divorce,
\h\h\hone thing is certain, which is we love our kids,
\h\h\h\hlike, to our cores, and that will never change.
AJ may have a point.
\h\h\hMaybe it’s better that we just be amazing coparents
and not in a relationship.
We’re right here at the end,
\h\h\h\hand we made so much progress...
-Right.
-And were back, like, to where we started.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h[music] -I thought I saw progress.
I thought that they both \h\hwere working towards
not getting a divorce.
\h\h\hSo, you know, it’s heartbreaking
\h\h\h\h\h\hthat this may be the end of the road for them.
-We need to waiting
to exhale session. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h-Yes.
-Speaking of waiting \h\h\h\h\hto exhale,
we planned this where we have \hthose balloons right there,
\h\hand it’s five balloons. And what I would love to do
is for us each to write on a balloon one thing
that we want to just release \h\h\h\h\h\hand be done with.
Ray, you want to come \h\h\hjoin or you...
\h\h\h\h\h-I’m cold. -You cold? All right.
\h\h-Want to be alone? -Yeah, he be chilling.
-I’m going to try to make it \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hin my heels.
\h\h\h\h-You want me to get them for you?
-Oh.
-Let me help you because \h\h\h\h\h\h\hyou know...
-Yeah, progress!
-You got to show that change, boy!
-Well, thank you.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h-No. -You want me to put it...
-No.
-Do you want a balloon? \h\h\h\h-I don’t know.
It might not mean anything to him,
\hbut these exercises mean something to me, you know?
\h\h\hOur marriage might not work out,
\hbut regardless of our decision,
I think it’s important for us
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hto just finish this last exercise together.
He at least owes me that much.
Maybe I need to be the bigger person.
\h\h\h\h\h-We’re, like, right here at the end.
I don’t want to keep having to \hdo these exercises by myself.
Unless you just don’t care.
[music]
-We're, like, right here at the end.
I don't want to keep having to do these exercises by myself.
Unless you just don't care.
-So, for me, the balloon ceremony
is a way to just release.
We are sending off all of these things
that have held our relationships back.
We're sending it off. Wherever it goes
when we let the balloon go, that's where it goes.
-Yeah! -Woo, woo!
Go get your man, girl. Ow!
-Yeah. -Are you guys ready?
[music]
-On our balloon, I release the past.
I am so ready to release my balloon
and with that the past, the bitterness, the anger.
I just want to let it go.
-I'm just ready to start fresh.
Here we go. That's corny, right?
-That was cute! -All right.
And I said the mask.
-Judgment. -Blame.
So are you going to abide by your contract, Kirk?
We are to the best of our capability...
-Going to be sticking to it. -...going to try to abide
by that contract, but we know
that we need to make sure we work on each other.
-I really got my mind clear. I got a clear view.
-Fear. -Fear?
-Yes.
-I'm going to release some side bitches.
-I love it. -One day at a time, I guess.
-Public opinions. -Public opinions.
-We love the public but not enough to where
it's going to have an effect
on what we do in our relationship.
-One hundred percent.
-Ray put pain, and that was the same thing
I was going to put, so pain and hurt.
-Yes. -Okay?
-Let's go. -All right.
-Three, two, one! -Bye, bye.
-♪ I can't hurt myself ♪
-Oh, look, now we're racing. -Yeah.
-Bye. Fly away.
[Lyrics]
-♪ MTV ♪