1 00:00:01,235 --> 00:00:02,436 - I reached out to a few of my friends, 2 00:00:02,503 --> 00:00:03,704 and I told them that we were going to go 3 00:00:03,770 --> 00:00:05,305 on a couple's retreat. 4 00:00:05,372 --> 00:00:07,541 But this is not just a vacation. 5 00:00:07,608 --> 00:00:09,209 - This is Lakara. 6 00:00:09,276 --> 00:00:11,411 She is a medium. - Hi, everybody. 7 00:00:11,478 --> 00:00:12,713 - Uh-oh. 8 00:00:12,779 --> 00:00:15,449 - I see, like, something is coming together. 9 00:00:15,516 --> 00:00:17,551 Is it babies? 10 00:00:22,689 --> 00:00:25,292 - The relationship is not as sexual as it started. 11 00:00:25,359 --> 00:00:26,760 What's really going on with that? 12 00:00:26,827 --> 00:00:28,695 - In the beginning, that frustrated me. 13 00:00:28,762 --> 00:00:30,163 I run on a schedule. 14 00:00:30,230 --> 00:00:32,766 - Spontaneity is a big part of the foreplay, 15 00:00:32,833 --> 00:00:34,501 so I say let's start there. 16 00:00:34,568 --> 00:00:38,438 - What's up, mother suckers? all: Whoo! 17 00:00:38,505 --> 00:00:41,108 - Your husband with the big-ass forehead right there. 18 00:00:42,009 --> 00:00:43,343 [laughter] 19 00:00:43,410 --> 00:00:45,312 - I got a lot of other things that's big, so 20 00:00:45,379 --> 00:00:47,514 I didn't get offended by it. 21 00:00:47,581 --> 00:00:49,416 - I'm telling you, there's [bleep] out there 22 00:00:49,483 --> 00:00:50,984 that's trying to [bleep] my wife. 23 00:00:51,051 --> 00:00:52,986 - This [bleep] out there trying to [bleep] our wives. 24 00:00:53,053 --> 00:00:54,888 That's normal. 25 00:00:54,955 --> 00:00:57,191 Did you get to say anything about what you doing 26 00:00:57,257 --> 00:00:58,525 with the lingerie in your purse? 27 00:00:58,592 --> 00:00:59,593 - Do you think I should address that? 28 00:00:59,660 --> 00:01:01,261 I should, huh? - Where y'all at, 29 00:01:01,328 --> 00:01:03,397 I would leave it alone. - I'ma ask her. 30 00:01:03,463 --> 00:01:05,299 - No, don't do that. - I gotta ask her. 31 00:01:06,834 --> 00:01:09,636 [upbeat music] 32 00:01:09,703 --> 00:01:16,643 ♪ ♪ 33 00:01:29,163 --> 00:01:31,332 - Look at her. Looking good. 34 00:01:31,399 --> 00:01:34,435 - ♪ Live in LA now, hard with you, I'm ♪ 35 00:01:34,502 --> 00:01:36,137 ♪ Missin' you miles away ♪ 36 00:01:36,204 --> 00:01:39,574 - So let's get to these cards. 37 00:01:39,641 --> 00:01:43,277 - Name the top five things you love about me. 38 00:01:43,344 --> 00:01:45,413 - I love the fact you work and get your own money. 39 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:47,582 I love the fact that you're a great mom to my kids. 40 00:01:47,649 --> 00:01:50,852 - Smart, beautiful, and know how to twerk. 41 00:01:50,918 --> 00:01:52,520 - And I know how to twerk? 42 00:01:52,587 --> 00:01:55,023 [both laughing] 43 00:01:55,089 --> 00:01:57,825 - ♪ We belong together ♪ - Your facial expressions. 44 00:01:57,892 --> 00:01:59,460 Just like that. 45 00:01:59,527 --> 00:02:03,831 - 'Cause I like that... what did I say first? 46 00:02:03,898 --> 00:02:05,733 - Your really good heart. 47 00:02:05,800 --> 00:02:08,102 Your patience...now. 48 00:02:08,169 --> 00:02:11,005 - Name the top five things you love about me. 49 00:02:11,072 --> 00:02:14,208 - ♪ We belong together ♪ 50 00:02:14,275 --> 00:02:17,145 ♪ And you know it ♪ 51 00:02:17,211 --> 00:02:19,547 - Nice body. How many is that? 52 00:02:19,614 --> 00:02:20,682 - Keep it coming. 53 00:02:20,748 --> 00:02:22,083 - I love that you're a good mom, 54 00:02:22,150 --> 00:02:23,718 that you strong, 55 00:02:23,785 --> 00:02:26,220 that you don't stand for [bleep], you know, you know? 56 00:02:26,287 --> 00:02:28,189 - I don't stand for [bleep]. - You don't-- 57 00:02:28,256 --> 00:02:30,491 I mean, you don't stand for no bull[bleep]. 58 00:02:30,558 --> 00:02:33,328 You know what I'm saying? That's what I meant to say. 59 00:02:33,394 --> 00:02:36,230 - I loved earlier, my birthday, 60 00:02:36,297 --> 00:02:39,033 when you allowed me to have a foursome. 61 00:02:39,100 --> 00:02:40,735 - Really? - Yes. 62 00:02:40,802 --> 00:02:43,104 ♪ ♪ 63 00:02:43,204 --> 00:02:46,240 - ♪ We belong together ♪ 64 00:02:46,307 --> 00:02:49,510 ♪ Ooh ♪ 65 00:02:49,577 --> 00:02:51,646 - Mike just went hiking with the boys. 66 00:02:51,713 --> 00:02:54,115 I'm hoping that he doesn't share a lot 67 00:02:54,215 --> 00:02:57,652 of our private life with them. 68 00:02:57,719 --> 00:03:00,888 Hoping that he can keep this pregnancy a secret 69 00:03:00,955 --> 00:03:02,790 until we can make sure 70 00:03:02,857 --> 00:03:06,427 that this is something that we both want. 71 00:03:06,494 --> 00:03:08,997 - Ray's still sleeping right now, 72 00:03:09,063 --> 00:03:12,634 but last night was a little weird. 73 00:03:12,700 --> 00:03:14,235 We had a lot to drink, because-- 74 00:03:14,268 --> 00:03:16,571 - This toast is for everybody out there 75 00:03:16,638 --> 00:03:18,573 trying to be with our wives and take 'em from us. 76 00:03:18,640 --> 00:03:19,874 Nah. We ain't having that. 77 00:03:19,941 --> 00:03:22,110 - I don't know where that speech was going. 78 00:03:22,243 --> 00:03:23,711 I think we were all a little confused. 79 00:03:23,778 --> 00:03:27,649 [soft music] 80 00:03:27,715 --> 00:03:30,251 - ♪ Baby, when you say my name ♪ 81 00:03:30,318 --> 00:03:32,654 ♪ Sit back, sip some chardonnay ♪ 82 00:03:32,720 --> 00:03:34,922 ♪ That's just how I'm feeling, bae ♪ 83 00:03:34,989 --> 00:03:36,090 ♪ When you touch me... ♪ 84 00:03:36,190 --> 00:03:38,026 - You [bleep]s know where we going? 85 00:03:38,092 --> 00:03:39,360 - Ah, [bleep]. Damn. 86 00:03:39,427 --> 00:03:40,795 - Right here or back there? 87 00:03:40,862 --> 00:03:41,963 - The [bleep]? 88 00:03:42,030 --> 00:03:44,599 [laughter] 89 00:03:44,666 --> 00:03:45,967 - You guys want to get the guys some drinks? 90 00:03:46,034 --> 00:03:47,502 - Yeah. - It's just a bunch 91 00:03:47,568 --> 00:03:49,270 of branches stuck in my leg. 92 00:03:49,337 --> 00:03:51,806 I'll be all right. This ain't nothing new to him. 93 00:03:51,873 --> 00:03:53,541 [laughter] 94 00:03:53,608 --> 00:03:58,046 - ♪ Will you ride with me ♪ 95 00:03:58,112 --> 00:04:00,648 ♪ Oh, yeah ♪ 96 00:04:00,715 --> 00:04:03,951 - I am really excited about what we have planned for today. 97 00:04:04,018 --> 00:04:06,220 I know they've been a little overwhelmed, 98 00:04:06,254 --> 00:04:08,790 so I gave AJ the day off. 99 00:04:08,856 --> 00:04:11,426 And I just think the men need a little break. 100 00:04:11,492 --> 00:04:14,929 - Can I do one Malibu bay breeze, 101 00:04:14,996 --> 00:04:16,531 and then a margarita? 102 00:04:16,597 --> 00:04:18,633 - Do you know your guys' favorite drink? 103 00:04:18,700 --> 00:04:21,135 - I just know let's just keep the Hennessy shots away. 104 00:04:21,235 --> 00:04:22,704 [laughter] 105 00:04:22,770 --> 00:04:24,005 - Is that what it was last night? 106 00:04:24,072 --> 00:04:25,506 - Yes. - Oh, that's what it was. 107 00:04:25,573 --> 00:04:27,508 - Baby, he was the hostess with the mostest last night. 108 00:04:27,575 --> 00:04:28,876 - He was. 109 00:04:28,943 --> 00:04:33,214 - This toast--this toast... 110 00:04:33,281 --> 00:04:34,816 you know, whether the joke's on you, 111 00:04:34,882 --> 00:04:36,718 whether the joke's on me... 112 00:04:38,286 --> 00:04:39,988 It's for all my G's out there. 113 00:04:40,054 --> 00:04:42,757 You know what I'm saying? - Okay, Ray J, thank you. 114 00:04:42,824 --> 00:04:44,993 - No, he was the happiest I've seen him. 115 00:04:45,059 --> 00:04:46,828 - And you looked so happy too. That was so cute. 116 00:04:46,894 --> 00:04:50,231 - I know, you guys looked so happy last night. 117 00:04:50,298 --> 00:04:51,866 - I gotta get you back for last night, man. 118 00:04:51,933 --> 00:04:53,334 You did your thing too good. 119 00:04:53,401 --> 00:04:54,869 - That was a good laugh. 120 00:04:54,936 --> 00:04:57,572 - How did you get into comedy? 121 00:04:57,639 --> 00:04:59,874 - Man-- - Are you born with this gift? 122 00:04:59,941 --> 00:05:02,710 - Nah, just that every comedian is born with a dark side. 123 00:05:02,777 --> 00:05:05,079 It's something that runs through the makeup 124 00:05:05,213 --> 00:05:06,381 to become a comedian. 125 00:05:06,447 --> 00:05:07,882 - All right. - What's your dark side? 126 00:05:07,949 --> 00:05:10,752 - With my dark jokes, when I first came to America, 127 00:05:10,818 --> 00:05:14,288 at age 13, 14, you know how the Americans be. 128 00:05:14,355 --> 00:05:15,657 Y'all are mean. 129 00:05:15,723 --> 00:05:17,892 Y'all just make fun of everybody, 130 00:05:17,959 --> 00:05:20,428 and I came here in the Michael Jackson era, 131 00:05:20,495 --> 00:05:23,097 Prince era, light-skinned era, 132 00:05:23,231 --> 00:05:24,866 - Hmm. - Man, I went through hell. 133 00:05:24,932 --> 00:05:26,634 I heard all the dark-skinned jokes. 134 00:05:26,701 --> 00:05:28,336 You guys told me I looked like under the bed. 135 00:05:28,403 --> 00:05:29,871 Dark as hell. [laughter] 136 00:05:29,937 --> 00:05:31,205 - That [bleep] funny, though. - They told me I look like 137 00:05:31,272 --> 00:05:32,707 I had no bright ideas. 138 00:05:32,774 --> 00:05:34,609 [laughter] 139 00:05:34,676 --> 00:05:36,010 I didn't get coochie till-- 140 00:05:36,077 --> 00:05:38,746 my first coochie was, like, at 18 years old. 141 00:05:38,813 --> 00:05:40,815 Then I didn't see much again, till, like, the movie 142 00:05:40,882 --> 00:05:41,983 "Next Friday" came out. 143 00:05:42,050 --> 00:05:43,751 I missed out on a lot of coochie, boy. 144 00:05:43,818 --> 00:05:45,787 While y'all [bleep] was selling dope and [bleep] them bitches, 145 00:05:45,853 --> 00:05:47,722 I was beating my [bleep] for many years. 146 00:05:47,789 --> 00:05:49,557 - So that's why you don't want to do that no more? 147 00:05:49,624 --> 00:05:50,825 - That's why the side bitches are making up 148 00:05:50,892 --> 00:05:52,560 for all the bitches I didn't have. 149 00:05:52,627 --> 00:05:55,196 - So once that goes, that's gonna get played down and-- 150 00:05:55,229 --> 00:05:57,198 - Basically, you living your second childhood years, right? 151 00:05:57,198 --> 00:05:58,466 - I mean, yes. 152 00:05:58,533 --> 00:06:00,468 - So you think you could ever be faithful? 153 00:06:02,303 --> 00:06:04,973 - I mean, so, yeah. I could be. 154 00:06:05,039 --> 00:06:07,575 Once, you know, once that whole marriage thing. 155 00:06:07,642 --> 00:06:08,876 - How about a family? 156 00:06:08,943 --> 00:06:10,278 - Yeah, yeah, yeah. Definitely want a family. 157 00:06:10,345 --> 00:06:12,013 I want a little Tiger Woods running around the crib. 158 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:13,581 - [laughs] - Okay, [bleep]. 159 00:06:13,648 --> 00:06:15,249 - [bleep]anse--whatever you want to call it. 160 00:06:15,316 --> 00:06:17,785 No, no, no. I'm 100% down with that, 161 00:06:17,852 --> 00:06:20,421 and honestly, I can't see it with anybody else but her. 162 00:06:20,488 --> 00:06:22,890 I think she's top dog. 163 00:06:22,957 --> 00:06:26,427 So Rada's pregnant, but nobody on this trip knows about it. 164 00:06:26,494 --> 00:06:28,162 I love Rada, and she's made it clear 165 00:06:28,162 --> 00:06:30,665 that if we're gonna stick together and have this child, 166 00:06:30,732 --> 00:06:33,401 I will have to change my ways. I will need to be faithful 167 00:06:33,468 --> 00:06:35,536 and cut down on the side bitches. 168 00:06:35,603 --> 00:06:38,172 But having multiple women is part of my DNA. 169 00:06:38,206 --> 00:06:41,175 I'm not sure if I'm ready to change this. 170 00:06:41,242 --> 00:06:45,546 - What happens, like, when you fall in love with a side bitch? 171 00:06:45,613 --> 00:06:47,849 - No, I don't fall in love with no side bitch, nah, man. 172 00:06:47,915 --> 00:06:50,585 - What if you get the side bitch pregnant first? 173 00:06:50,652 --> 00:06:52,987 - Don't play me, my [bleep]. [laughter] 174 00:06:53,054 --> 00:06:54,455 - I gotta ask. 175 00:06:54,522 --> 00:06:55,823 The funny part about this 176 00:06:55,890 --> 00:06:57,959 is I used to be called the "Pullout Assassin," 177 00:06:58,026 --> 00:07:01,529 and I quickly learned that I am not the "Pullout Assassin." 178 00:07:01,596 --> 00:07:04,332 - It's not Rod's child. 179 00:07:04,399 --> 00:07:06,000 - Then whose is it? 180 00:07:06,067 --> 00:07:07,435 - Kirk Frost's. 181 00:07:08,970 --> 00:07:10,371 - I'm just trying to give him some advice 182 00:07:10,438 --> 00:07:12,774 from somebody who's had the lesson. 183 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:16,477 Be careful and wrap it up and be safe. 184 00:07:16,544 --> 00:07:18,913 Just stay away from the side bitches. 185 00:07:18,980 --> 00:07:21,516 Anyway, let's go see what these ladies got planned for us, 186 00:07:21,582 --> 00:07:23,484 all right? - My guess is good as y'all. 187 00:07:23,551 --> 00:07:25,453 - Turn up. Let's make a toast to that. 188 00:07:25,520 --> 00:07:27,188 - All right. Yes. 189 00:07:27,255 --> 00:07:28,723 - [laughs] 190 00:07:28,790 --> 00:07:30,992 - So we have a fooding station. - Okay. 191 00:07:31,059 --> 00:07:32,860 - We have a nail salon. 192 00:07:32,927 --> 00:07:35,596 Back massage. Pedicure station. 193 00:07:35,663 --> 00:07:37,732 But you know, this is not just a regular manicure. 194 00:07:37,799 --> 00:07:39,167 This is your boo. - That was our thing. 195 00:07:39,167 --> 00:07:41,569 I used to always do his nails. - Aw, really? 196 00:07:41,636 --> 00:07:43,237 - Yes. - That's so sweet. 197 00:07:43,304 --> 00:07:44,939 - Aw. You're such a good wife. 198 00:07:45,006 --> 00:07:47,275 - You're so sweet, 'cause I ain't never. 199 00:07:47,342 --> 00:07:49,077 [laughter] 200 00:07:49,177 --> 00:07:51,846 - Yes, Princess, honey. I feel you, I do Kirk nails. 201 00:07:51,913 --> 00:07:54,282 Ain't nothing wrong with that. Keep your man together. 202 00:07:54,349 --> 00:07:58,519 - Listen, I believe in upkeep, and I'm all about making sure 203 00:07:58,586 --> 00:08:00,655 that my man is his best self. 204 00:08:00,722 --> 00:08:05,059 And if that means that I gotta get down and dirty, yes. 205 00:08:05,193 --> 00:08:07,695 I'll do his feet. [laughs] 206 00:08:07,762 --> 00:08:09,731 - This is the first time I'm gonna touch his toes. 207 00:08:09,797 --> 00:08:11,265 Have y'all seen his toes? - Really? 208 00:08:11,332 --> 00:08:13,234 [laughter] 209 00:08:13,301 --> 00:08:15,503 - Have you seen his toes? - No. 210 00:08:15,570 --> 00:08:17,372 - Okay, watch when he walks in. 211 00:08:17,438 --> 00:08:19,240 [laughter] 212 00:08:19,307 --> 00:08:22,210 - Have you guys seen his feet? 213 00:08:22,243 --> 00:08:23,778 [chuckles] 214 00:08:23,845 --> 00:08:26,180 His toes. His nails. 215 00:08:26,247 --> 00:08:29,050 I don't even know what I need to do with them. 216 00:08:29,150 --> 00:08:30,151 - Well, all right. 217 00:08:32,687 --> 00:08:34,756 Well, all right. - All right, hey, fellas. 218 00:08:34,822 --> 00:08:38,259 - Welcome to the Lion's Den. 219 00:08:38,326 --> 00:08:39,794 - We have your drinks. - Okay. 220 00:08:39,861 --> 00:08:41,663 - Find your lovely ladies. 221 00:08:41,729 --> 00:08:44,265 - We're gonna pamper you today. 222 00:08:44,332 --> 00:08:47,001 - You talking about my feet? 223 00:08:47,068 --> 00:08:48,169 - Lay down. 224 00:08:48,236 --> 00:08:50,338 - Lay down like what? - Face down. 225 00:08:50,405 --> 00:08:52,240 - Wait, hold on. I was taught a rule. 226 00:08:52,307 --> 00:08:54,709 - What? - Don't lay on your belly 227 00:08:54,776 --> 00:08:56,444 if you don't know your selly. 228 00:08:56,511 --> 00:08:58,446 [laughter] 229 00:08:58,513 --> 00:09:00,848 - You deserve to be pampered, so. 230 00:09:00,915 --> 00:09:01,983 - Thank you. 231 00:09:02,050 --> 00:09:04,319 - Yeah, and all the girls agreed. 232 00:09:04,385 --> 00:09:05,586 You got jeans on? - Yeah, yeah, yeah. 233 00:09:05,653 --> 00:09:07,855 What you want me to have? My underwear? 234 00:09:07,922 --> 00:09:09,791 - [chuckles] 235 00:09:11,592 --> 00:09:13,394 - Mm-hmm. - All this time, 236 00:09:13,461 --> 00:09:14,729 you never touch my feet, 237 00:09:14,796 --> 00:09:16,831 and you're a good foot massager. 238 00:09:16,898 --> 00:09:19,901 - Have you seen your feet? 239 00:09:19,968 --> 00:09:22,837 - Yeah, I've seen my feet, but you never touched them before. 240 00:09:22,904 --> 00:09:25,473 So I have to bring you on a trip for you to touch my feet? 241 00:09:25,540 --> 00:09:27,241 - Look at your feet. Look at your feet. 242 00:09:27,308 --> 00:09:28,643 [retches] 243 00:09:28,710 --> 00:09:31,179 Where'd you go earlier? 244 00:09:31,245 --> 00:09:33,147 - We went hiking. - Yeah. 245 00:09:33,147 --> 00:09:35,717 - Just me, and Mendeecees, and Kirk. 246 00:09:35,783 --> 00:09:37,585 - What do they think of our relationship? 247 00:09:37,652 --> 00:09:38,920 I mean this is, like, something-- 248 00:09:38,987 --> 00:09:40,488 - They are married men, so you know, 249 00:09:40,555 --> 00:09:42,357 they definitely had some great advice. 250 00:09:42,423 --> 00:09:44,926 Being married, you know, matured them, 251 00:09:44,993 --> 00:09:46,894 and they think--they think that's the only thing 252 00:09:46,961 --> 00:09:50,031 I'm missing in my life, is just that maturity. 253 00:09:50,164 --> 00:09:53,568 Because giving up the bitches is part of maturity. 254 00:09:53,635 --> 00:09:59,007 - I want the baby to see that we both, as parents, 255 00:09:59,073 --> 00:10:02,443 have a good relationship with each other 256 00:10:02,510 --> 00:10:04,212 and not let anybody else interfere 257 00:10:04,278 --> 00:10:05,680 in the middle of that. 258 00:10:05,747 --> 00:10:09,684 A parent--you're supposed to protect your kids. 259 00:10:09,751 --> 00:10:11,919 And I'm different when I'm parenting 260 00:10:11,986 --> 00:10:15,623 than I am in real life in this relationship with you. 261 00:10:15,690 --> 00:10:17,625 I really don't talk about my children 262 00:10:17,692 --> 00:10:19,961 because I'm a very private person. 263 00:10:20,028 --> 00:10:23,898 But I do have children from my previous marriage. 264 00:10:23,965 --> 00:10:26,534 I do want to have this baby with Michael, 265 00:10:26,601 --> 00:10:28,569 and I want to keep him in my life. 266 00:10:28,636 --> 00:10:31,939 But there's no gray areas when it comes to my kids. 267 00:10:32,006 --> 00:10:35,943 I may put up with parts of the relationship that I don't like, 268 00:10:36,010 --> 00:10:39,514 but I am not willing to put my kids through 269 00:10:39,580 --> 00:10:41,316 an unstable relationship. 270 00:10:41,382 --> 00:10:42,884 You know, I'm different. 271 00:10:42,950 --> 00:10:45,453 I'm a little more conservative when it comes to parenting, 272 00:10:45,520 --> 00:10:48,356 and I hope you understand that. 273 00:10:48,990 --> 00:10:52,393 Michael has not met my children. 274 00:10:52,460 --> 00:10:56,164 And when the time is right, the time is right. 275 00:10:56,197 --> 00:10:59,667 I feel like, until we're in something more committed, 276 00:10:59,734 --> 00:11:02,003 then maybe he can come into their lives. 277 00:11:02,070 --> 00:11:05,974 But I'm not about to do that. 278 00:11:06,040 --> 00:11:09,010 I want to make sure that this is real. 279 00:11:11,879 --> 00:11:13,881 - So why do we have a lack of passion? 280 00:11:13,948 --> 00:11:15,683 - Sometimes I drop the ball. 281 00:11:15,750 --> 00:11:18,686 - Do you regret getting married so soon? 282 00:11:18,753 --> 00:11:20,822 - You want to have a really deep-down, 283 00:11:20,888 --> 00:11:22,890 dark conversation with me, huh? 284 00:11:22,957 --> 00:11:24,792 - Have you been entertaining bitches 285 00:11:24,859 --> 00:11:26,594 since you filed for divorce? 286 00:11:26,661 --> 00:11:28,129 - I entertained a couple bitches. 287 00:11:30,398 --> 00:11:33,267 - I am a certified sexologist. 288 00:11:33,334 --> 00:11:35,036 - Sexologist? - Uh-huh. 289 00:11:35,103 --> 00:11:39,273 I am here to share some methods to enhance your intimacy. 290 00:11:39,340 --> 00:11:40,441 [cheering] - Okay. 291 00:11:40,508 --> 00:11:41,743 - I don't need no sex class. 292 00:11:41,809 --> 00:11:43,611 I got four kids. I know how to have sex. 293 00:11:43,678 --> 00:11:45,146 ♪ ♪ 294 00:11:48,087 --> 00:11:50,021 {\an7}[dramatic music] 295 00:11:50,021 --> 00:11:55,823 {\an7}- I want the baby to see that we both, as parents, 296 00:11:55,823 --> 00:11:59,021 {\an7}have a good relationship \h\h\h\h\hwith each other 297 00:11:59,021 --> 00:12:01,021 {\an7}and not let anybody \h\helse interfere 298 00:12:01,021 --> 00:12:02,087 {\an7}in the middle of that. 299 00:12:02,087 --> 00:12:05,823 {\an7}I want to make sure that this is real. 300 00:12:05,823 --> 00:12:09,196 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- I got you. - Like, with my 16-year-old, 301 00:12:09,196 --> 00:12:11,087 {\an7}I am very protective of her. 302 00:12:11,087 --> 00:12:16,526 {\an7}\h\h\h\hShe should see what a healthy relationship is. 303 00:12:16,526 --> 00:12:18,163 {\an7}I would hate to bring somebody in her life, 304 00:12:18,163 --> 00:12:20,823 {\an7}\h\hand all of a sudden, you walk out of her life. 305 00:12:20,823 --> 00:12:22,163 {\an7}You feel a sense \hof abandonment, 306 00:12:22,163 --> 00:12:25,724 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hand I don’t ever want my daughter to experience that. 307 00:12:25,724 --> 00:12:27,625 {\an7}- I think if any woman \h\h\h\h\hgonna make me 308 00:12:27,625 --> 00:12:28,625 {\an7}an honest man, it’s Rada. 309 00:12:28,625 --> 00:12:30,592 {\an7}Rada’s the only one that can \htake me to that next level. 310 00:12:30,592 --> 00:12:34,229 {\an7}I really feel that she’s gonna \h\h\h\hmake me a great father, 311 00:12:34,229 --> 00:12:35,493 {\an7}a loving dad, 312 00:12:35,493 --> 00:12:38,054 {\an7}you know, make me a great husband. 313 00:12:38,955 --> 00:12:41,493 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hI see a family, I see us being together, 314 00:12:41,493 --> 00:12:43,955 {\an7}and I see the side bitches \h\h\h\h\h\hbeing cut out. 315 00:12:43,955 --> 00:12:46,087 {\an7}You know, go from three, \h\h\h\h\hto two, to one. 316 00:12:46,087 --> 00:12:48,790 {\an7}- I didn’t even know \h\h\h\hwe had three. 317 00:12:48,790 --> 00:12:51,559 {\an7}- Once we get the side chick \h\hthings worked out, man, 318 00:12:51,559 --> 00:12:54,054 {\an7}I will be the perfect man-- \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hperfect! 319 00:12:54,054 --> 00:12:57,955 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h- We gotta fix it to take it to the next level. 320 00:12:57,955 --> 00:13:00,889 {\an7}- I got you. 321 00:13:01,328 --> 00:13:03,889 {\an7}- So you got your eyes closed, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hfor real? 322 00:13:03,889 --> 00:13:05,054 {\an7}- I’m chilling. 323 00:13:05,054 --> 00:13:05,724 {\an7}- Oh, man. 324 00:13:05,724 --> 00:13:07,757 {\an7}I want to see what they’ve got. \h\h\h\h\h\h- What have we got? 325 00:13:07,757 --> 00:13:09,625 {\an7}- I don’t know, but she better \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hnot be trying 326 00:13:09,625 --> 00:13:11,922 {\an7}no freaky [bleep] outside. \h\h\h\hI ain’t with that. 327 00:13:11,922 --> 00:13:14,691 {\an7}\h\h- Is your eyes closed? - Yeah, my eyes is closed. 328 00:13:14,691 --> 00:13:17,328 {\an7}\h\h\hI’m just staying clear, in case I gotta spit it out. 329 00:13:17,328 --> 00:13:19,658 {\an7}You can’t just put something in my mouth that I don’t know 330 00:13:19,658 --> 00:13:22,295 {\an7}what you putting in me. \h\hI need to see that. 331 00:13:22,295 --> 00:13:23,691 {\an7}- But you trust me, right? 332 00:13:23,691 --> 00:13:26,163 {\an7}\h\h\h\h- Of course, to a certain degree. 333 00:13:26,163 --> 00:13:28,229 {\an7}- Open your mouth. 334 00:13:28,229 --> 00:13:29,889 {\an7}- Like, this is real \h\h\h\hweird for me. 335 00:13:29,889 --> 00:13:31,889 {\an7}- Uncomfortable situations \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hsometimes 336 00:13:31,889 --> 00:13:33,262 {\an7}are the best situations. 337 00:13:33,262 --> 00:13:35,163 {\an7}\hClose your eyes. Put your head down. 338 00:13:35,163 --> 00:13:36,724 {\an7}Relax. 339 00:13:36,724 --> 00:13:38,196 {\an7}- [laughs] 340 00:13:38,196 --> 00:13:39,625 {\an7}- You don’t trust me? 341 00:13:39,625 --> 00:13:40,889 {\an7}- I can’t do it. 342 00:13:40,889 --> 00:13:43,196 {\an7}♪ ♪ 343 00:13:43,196 --> 00:13:46,087 {\an7}[laughs] 344 00:13:46,087 --> 00:13:49,988 {\an7}\hWe not doing that no more. Uh-uh, [bleep] this [bleep]. 345 00:13:49,988 --> 00:13:52,229 {\an7}- [laughs] 346 00:13:53,295 --> 00:13:55,229 {\an7}\h\h\h- You’ve got me. I can’t think straight. 347 00:13:55,229 --> 00:13:58,163 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hOw! - Tell me, what’s your fantasy? 348 00:13:58,163 --> 00:14:00,757 {\an7}- Hmm, let me see. 349 00:14:02,087 --> 00:14:03,625 {\an7}- Why? 350 00:14:03,823 --> 00:14:04,856 {\an7}- You fell in love? \h\h\h\h\h- Mm-hmm. 351 00:14:04,856 --> 00:14:07,229 {\an7}For me, the trip to Mexico was, \h\h\h\hyou know, very special, 352 00:14:07,229 --> 00:14:10,087 {\an7}\hbecause it was like being like high school kids again 353 00:14:10,087 --> 00:14:11,922 {\an7}and just having butterflies \h\h\h\h\h\hin your stomach. 354 00:14:11,922 --> 00:14:14,295 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hAnd just having fun and just living in the moment. 355 00:14:14,295 --> 00:14:16,196 {\an7}\h\hYou know, for me, it was ultimately me 356 00:14:16,196 --> 00:14:17,087 {\an7}making the decision to say 357 00:14:17,087 --> 00:14:19,087 {\an7}\h\hthat I want to be with this woman for the rest of my life. 358 00:14:19,087 --> 00:14:22,054 {\an7}\h\h- Why’d you fall in love? - ’Cause you were very sweet, 359 00:14:22,054 --> 00:14:23,724 {\an7}very attentive, very caring. 360 00:14:23,724 --> 00:14:26,087 {\an7}And the chemistry was off the hook. 361 00:14:26,087 --> 00:14:27,120 {\an7}- It was. 362 00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:28,295 {\an7}So what’s different now? 363 00:14:28,295 --> 00:14:31,328 {\an7}\h- Only difference now is that we growing and still learning. 364 00:14:31,328 --> 00:14:33,988 {\an7}- So why do we have a lack of passion? 365 00:14:33,988 --> 00:14:38,691 {\an7}- We have that because, \heven though I get it, 366 00:14:38,691 --> 00:14:39,955 {\an7}sometimes I drop the ball. 367 00:14:39,955 --> 00:14:41,361 {\an7}I never want to see \h\hmy wife unhappy, 368 00:14:41,361 --> 00:14:43,790 {\an7}but in the beginning stages \h\h\h\h\hof a relationship, 369 00:14:43,790 --> 00:14:44,691 {\an7}you can drop the ball. 370 00:14:44,691 --> 00:14:46,229 {\an7}\h\hBut it’s all about, do you pick it back up, 371 00:14:46,229 --> 00:14:47,757 {\an7}and do you still \hkeep it moving? 372 00:14:47,757 --> 00:14:48,889 {\an7}She just has to understand 373 00:14:48,889 --> 00:14:50,427 {\an7}that she has to have \hpatience with me. 374 00:14:50,427 --> 00:14:52,460 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h- Do you regret getting married so soon? 375 00:14:52,460 --> 00:14:54,087 {\an7}- Oh, hell, no. \h\hNot at all. 376 00:14:54,087 --> 00:14:57,163 {\an7}- Raymond and I moved rapidly, \h\h\h\h\h\hbut we’re here now. 377 00:14:57,163 --> 00:15:00,295 {\an7}So we have to work through it, \h\hand it’s not gonna be easy 378 00:15:00,295 --> 00:15:03,757 {\an7}because, as we are married \h\h\hand living together, 379 00:15:03,757 --> 00:15:06,361 {\an7}the passion is no longer there. 380 00:15:08,087 --> 00:15:10,988 {\an7}- I am not working. \h\h\hI’m relaxing. 381 00:15:10,988 --> 00:15:11,922 {\an7}\h\h\h\h- Right. - We’re relaxing. 382 00:15:11,922 --> 00:15:16,394 {\an7}We are having an amazing time, \hand this is what you wanted. 383 00:15:16,394 --> 00:15:18,054 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yes. - Some vacation time. 384 00:15:18,054 --> 00:15:20,021 {\an7}It’s almost too quiet \hout here sometimes. 385 00:15:20,021 --> 00:15:21,460 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah. You be like, "Damn"... 386 00:15:21,460 --> 00:15:23,757 {\an7}\h\h\h- It’s too quiet. - "Where the turn up?" 387 00:15:23,757 --> 00:15:26,054 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h- It’s, like, hardworking feet, baby. 388 00:15:26,054 --> 00:15:27,427 {\an7}It got muscles and everything. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hLook at this. 389 00:15:27,427 --> 00:15:29,021 {\an7}- My feet ain’t that ugly. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- This is-- 390 00:15:29,021 --> 00:15:31,087 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hlook like you’ve been walking through fires too. 391 00:15:31,087 --> 00:15:34,262 {\an7}- Can you stop? \h\h- [laughs] 392 00:15:34,262 --> 00:15:37,021 {\an7}- She said he has ugly feet. 393 00:15:37,021 --> 00:15:39,021 {\an7}[laughs] 394 00:15:39,021 --> 00:15:41,394 {\an7}\h\hShe knows him. - Man, you got me. 395 00:15:41,394 --> 00:15:43,196 {\an7}\h\hYou brought me into the nail shop. 396 00:15:43,196 --> 00:15:44,054 {\an7}That was perfect. 397 00:15:44,054 --> 00:15:45,361 {\an7}- I’m still a little surprised 398 00:15:45,361 --> 00:15:48,229 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hat how much we know about each other. 399 00:15:48,229 --> 00:15:48,823 {\an7}- Why? 400 00:15:48,823 --> 00:15:52,229 {\an7}- Because I did not think that \hwe were gonna win that game. 401 00:15:52,229 --> 00:15:52,823 {\an7}- I know. 402 00:15:52,823 --> 00:15:58,295 {\an7}- Now, first place winners, \h\h\h\hPrincess and Ray J! 403 00:15:58,295 --> 00:15:59,757 {\an7}[cheering] 404 00:15:59,757 --> 00:16:02,328 {\an7}\h\h- They would have said, "What’s my favorite color?" 405 00:16:02,328 --> 00:16:05,493 {\an7}\h- I mean what’s your favorite color, purple? 406 00:16:05,493 --> 00:16:06,394 {\an7}- Yes. 407 00:16:06,394 --> 00:16:07,526 {\an7}- That’s what I’m saying, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hso what-- 408 00:16:07,526 --> 00:16:09,021 {\an7}- How do you know that? \h\h\h\h\h\h- Come on. 409 00:16:09,021 --> 00:16:10,757 {\an7}\h\h- I don’t even have anything that’s purple. 410 00:16:10,757 --> 00:16:13,087 {\an7}- I’m not--I listen. 411 00:16:13,087 --> 00:16:15,229 {\an7}- Had my reservations \hthe past few days, 412 00:16:15,229 --> 00:16:17,526 {\an7}\h\h\hbut this trip has honestly been magical. 413 00:16:17,526 --> 00:16:20,526 {\an7}\h\h\h\hI didn’t even know that Ray had this kindness 414 00:16:20,526 --> 00:16:21,361 {\an7}in him anymore. 415 00:16:21,361 --> 00:16:24,054 {\an7}It makes me miss the beginning \h\h\h\h\hof our relationship. 416 00:16:24,054 --> 00:16:25,823 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hI’ll admit that I’ve played a part 417 00:16:25,823 --> 00:16:27,922 {\an7}in our marriage going downhill, 418 00:16:27,922 --> 00:16:29,955 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\hbut I just hope that we can heal together. 419 00:16:29,955 --> 00:16:34,955 {\an7}\hWhat about the beginning of our relationship do you miss? 420 00:16:34,955 --> 00:16:37,790 {\an7}- I like where we are now. 421 00:16:37,790 --> 00:16:38,559 {\an7}- Stop doing that. 422 00:16:38,559 --> 00:16:41,922 {\an7}Like, just answer the question \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hthat I ask you. 423 00:16:41,922 --> 00:16:43,823 {\an7}You know what I mean? 424 00:16:45,163 --> 00:16:47,922 {\an7}You don’t miss anything. 425 00:16:47,922 --> 00:16:49,856 {\an7}[both chuckling] 426 00:16:49,856 --> 00:16:51,559 {\an7}- We had a lot of issues. 427 00:16:51,559 --> 00:16:52,955 {\an7}- In the beginning? \h\h\h\h\h- Mm-hmm. 428 00:16:52,955 --> 00:16:56,229 {\an7}\h\h\hI just think that kids just really made me see you, 429 00:16:56,229 --> 00:16:57,087 {\an7}and just everything, 430 00:16:57,087 --> 00:16:59,163 {\an7}and how I thought about things \h\h\h\h\h\hwas just different. 431 00:16:59,163 --> 00:17:01,120 {\an7}\h\h\h- I feel like-- after we had babies, 432 00:17:01,120 --> 00:17:02,955 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hI feel like your behavior got worse. 433 00:17:02,955 --> 00:17:06,592 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hI was like, "Oh, he really don’t care now." 434 00:17:06,592 --> 00:17:08,120 {\an7}So then I stopped caring. 435 00:17:08,120 --> 00:17:09,559 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah. - Because I’m like, 436 00:17:09,559 --> 00:17:14,262 {\an7}"If he hasn’t changed by now, then it ain’t gonna happen." 437 00:17:15,328 --> 00:17:18,054 {\an7}- We having a perfectly \h\h\h\h\h\hgood time, 438 00:17:18,054 --> 00:17:19,262 {\an7}and then, all of a sudden, 439 00:17:19,262 --> 00:17:21,856 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hyou just want to just stick the dagger in. 440 00:17:21,856 --> 00:17:25,021 {\an7}\h\h\h\hThere’s a lot of things I can say about her right now, 441 00:17:25,021 --> 00:17:27,021 {\an7}but that’s not me. 442 00:17:27,021 --> 00:17:28,054 {\an7}That’s not how I was raised, 443 00:17:28,054 --> 00:17:30,955 {\an7}but Princess is just being rude. 444 00:17:30,955 --> 00:17:32,328 {\an7}Borderline [bleep]. 445 00:17:32,328 --> 00:17:36,361 {\an7}We’ve been in good spaces. \hWe’ve been in bad spaces. 446 00:17:36,361 --> 00:17:38,856 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\hWe’ve even been in the underworld together. 447 00:17:38,856 --> 00:17:41,229 {\an7}- You mean when we used to go to strip clubs and all that? 448 00:17:41,229 --> 00:17:43,856 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah. - You still do that, so-- 449 00:17:43,856 --> 00:17:46,229 {\an7}- I don’t have fun like \h\h\hI was having fun. 450 00:17:46,229 --> 00:17:49,427 {\an7}\h\h- So you’re, like, depressed when you go? 451 00:17:49,427 --> 00:17:51,625 {\an7}\h\h\h\hHave you been entertaining bitches 452 00:17:51,625 --> 00:17:54,988 {\an7}since you filed for divorce? 453 00:17:54,988 --> 00:17:57,559 {\an7}- I came here to smile \hand be with my wife, 454 00:17:57,559 --> 00:18:01,889 {\an7}\h\h\h\htry to work things out, but she just keeps needling me. 455 00:18:02,460 --> 00:18:04,988 {\an7}I entertained a couple bitches. 456 00:18:04,988 --> 00:18:08,120 {\an7}- Where’d you meet ’em? 457 00:18:08,493 --> 00:18:10,120 {\an7}♪ ♪ 458 00:18:10,120 --> 00:18:11,295 {\an7}Look at me. 459 00:18:11,295 --> 00:18:13,087 {\an7}Have you been talking \h\hto somebody else? 460 00:18:13,087 --> 00:18:15,493 {\an7}- You want to have a really \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hdeep-down, 461 00:18:15,493 --> 00:18:16,922 {\an7}dark conversation with me, huh? 462 00:18:16,922 --> 00:18:19,229 {\an7}I think this is the perfect \htime to hit her with it. 463 00:18:19,229 --> 00:18:21,427 {\an7}What’s up with the panties \h\h\h\h\h\h\hin the purse? 464 00:18:21,427 --> 00:18:23,889 {\an7}♪ ♪ 465 00:18:28,530 --> 00:18:30,799 [dramatic music] 466 00:18:30,866 --> 00:18:32,668 - Have you been entertaining bitches 467 00:18:32,734 --> 00:18:34,269 since you filed for divorce? 468 00:18:35,904 --> 00:18:38,040 - I entertained a couple bitches. 469 00:18:40,809 --> 00:18:43,211 - Where'd you meet 'em? 470 00:18:43,278 --> 00:18:45,447 - I went to the strip club. 471 00:18:45,514 --> 00:18:51,086 ♪ ♪ 472 00:18:51,153 --> 00:18:53,422 - I'm stunned, but I'm not surprised. 473 00:18:53,488 --> 00:18:56,325 The past few years of our relationship has been rocky. 474 00:18:56,391 --> 00:18:59,294 We've been separated, but living together. 475 00:18:59,361 --> 00:19:02,431 But it still hurts to hear him say it out loud. 476 00:19:03,665 --> 00:19:06,735 So did anything, like, become serious? 477 00:19:06,802 --> 00:19:09,137 - Of course not. 478 00:19:11,073 --> 00:19:13,075 - Look at me. 479 00:19:13,141 --> 00:19:14,509 We haven't been on the same page. 480 00:19:14,576 --> 00:19:17,246 Have you been talking to somebody else? 481 00:19:17,312 --> 00:19:19,815 - No. 482 00:19:19,881 --> 00:19:21,817 - You know I know when you're lying. 483 00:19:21,883 --> 00:19:23,485 - I'm analyzing you as well. 484 00:19:23,552 --> 00:19:25,887 ♪ ♪ 485 00:19:25,954 --> 00:19:29,291 I made a mistake in Atlanta and reached out to some random, 486 00:19:29,358 --> 00:19:31,893 and she went through my phone and saw that. 487 00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:33,962 Never once did I even hook up with the person. 488 00:19:34,029 --> 00:19:35,564 Was I wrong? Absolutely. 489 00:19:36,999 --> 00:19:39,167 - You wouldn't tell me anyway. 490 00:19:40,502 --> 00:19:42,804 - You want to have a really deep-down, 491 00:19:42,871 --> 00:19:45,274 dark conversation with me, huh? - Yeah, I want to know. 492 00:19:47,743 --> 00:19:49,411 - Yeah. 493 00:19:49,478 --> 00:19:50,913 - So now's the time. 494 00:19:51,947 --> 00:19:54,149 I'm gonna get a real reaction. 495 00:19:54,149 --> 00:19:55,984 What's up with the panties in the purse? 496 00:19:57,185 --> 00:19:58,887 I saw lingerie in your purse. 497 00:19:58,954 --> 00:20:01,623 - Hmm? - I saw lingerie in your purse. 498 00:20:01,690 --> 00:20:04,526 - I have a lot of lingerie. 499 00:20:04,593 --> 00:20:06,895 - I found lingerie in your purse. 500 00:20:06,962 --> 00:20:08,263 - I had--I bought lingerie. 501 00:20:08,330 --> 00:20:10,299 I have lingerie all in my drawers. 502 00:20:10,365 --> 00:20:13,001 - No. I saw lingerie in your purse. 503 00:20:13,068 --> 00:20:16,071 - I have lingerie in my purse, in my drawers. 504 00:20:17,706 --> 00:20:19,207 - I pulled out the lingerie, 505 00:20:19,274 --> 00:20:21,877 and I laid a little piece of it on the purse, right. 506 00:20:22,644 --> 00:20:24,179 You looked at it, and then you didn't 507 00:20:24,179 --> 00:20:25,514 try to switch it or nothing. 508 00:20:25,581 --> 00:20:26,949 You didn't try to change it or nothing. 509 00:20:27,015 --> 00:20:28,784 It stayed like that. 510 00:20:28,850 --> 00:20:30,552 - Because I'm not hiding anything. 511 00:20:30,619 --> 00:20:33,589 ♪ ♪ 512 00:20:33,655 --> 00:20:37,225 - I think that you're talking to some people on the phone. 513 00:20:37,292 --> 00:20:40,128 I think that you're texting somebody, for sure. 514 00:20:40,128 --> 00:20:41,496 I think you've reached out. 515 00:20:48,470 --> 00:20:50,339 - I think you're allowing somebody to reach out. 516 00:20:50,405 --> 00:20:52,808 Yeah. 517 00:20:52,874 --> 00:20:55,944 Ask her what she did 518 00:20:56,011 --> 00:20:57,713 and who she gave her number to 519 00:20:57,779 --> 00:21:00,716 and who she sent pictures to and all this other stuff. 520 00:21:00,782 --> 00:21:02,651 Ask her that. 521 00:21:03,418 --> 00:21:07,055 I just don't want to be the only one that's made a mistake, 522 00:21:07,155 --> 00:21:08,590 because that's not the case. 523 00:21:13,829 --> 00:21:15,497 - I'm always at home. 524 00:21:15,564 --> 00:21:18,367 I buy lingerie, I take pictures, I take selfies, 525 00:21:18,433 --> 00:21:20,903 because it makes me feel good about myself. 526 00:21:20,969 --> 00:21:22,371 He just filed for divorce, 527 00:21:22,437 --> 00:21:25,173 so I just wanted to basically show him 528 00:21:25,207 --> 00:21:26,775 and the world that I'm still hot, 529 00:21:26,842 --> 00:21:28,844 even after two kids. 530 00:21:28,911 --> 00:21:30,379 So you--have you been, like, 531 00:21:30,445 --> 00:21:32,614 waiting to ask me this for a while? 532 00:21:32,681 --> 00:21:35,584 - I've been thinking about when is the right time. 533 00:21:39,421 --> 00:21:41,156 - Well, I've just been trying to feel more sexy... 534 00:21:41,223 --> 00:21:42,291 - Well, you're very sexy. 535 00:21:42,357 --> 00:21:43,592 - And just make myself feel good. 536 00:21:43,659 --> 00:21:47,195 - You're very sexy. You're very beautiful. 537 00:21:47,262 --> 00:21:51,633 - It's good to know that you care enough to do that. 538 00:21:52,935 --> 00:21:54,236 - Yeah. - To, like, 539 00:21:54,303 --> 00:21:56,471 set my underwear up, to see if I will move 'em. 540 00:21:56,538 --> 00:21:58,273 So how did that make you feel? 541 00:21:58,340 --> 00:22:01,977 - As you was checking your [bleep] outside? 542 00:22:02,044 --> 00:22:04,413 Hmm, it made me feel really bad. 543 00:22:04,479 --> 00:22:09,184 - So, the way you felt is how I've been feeling for years. 544 00:22:09,251 --> 00:22:12,154 ♪ ♪ 545 00:22:12,187 --> 00:22:15,057 - Well, I'm sorry if I made you feel that way. 546 00:22:19,761 --> 00:22:21,563 [upbeat music] 547 00:22:21,630 --> 00:22:25,234 - Your feet's nice and pretty. Mwah. 548 00:22:25,300 --> 00:22:27,803 - I have fat feet. - Mm. 549 00:22:27,869 --> 00:22:29,905 I know I have to start treating you better, 550 00:22:29,972 --> 00:22:31,773 so I'm starting it right now. 551 00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:33,175 - I'm just glad I don't have to touch 552 00:22:33,242 --> 00:22:35,244 your Barney Rubble feet anymore. 553 00:22:35,310 --> 00:22:36,912 - Barney Rubble? Seriously? 554 00:22:36,979 --> 00:22:39,414 - [laughs] 555 00:22:40,882 --> 00:22:42,517 [giggles] 556 00:22:42,584 --> 00:22:45,120 - Is he eating off your toes? - [laughs] 557 00:22:45,187 --> 00:22:46,588 - You messing it up for us, over here. 558 00:22:46,655 --> 00:22:49,124 - Let's go, Mike. - Yeah, Mike! 559 00:22:49,191 --> 00:22:51,193 - There you go, Mike. There you go, Mike. 560 00:22:51,260 --> 00:22:53,128 That's what I'm talking about. The toes. 561 00:22:53,195 --> 00:22:54,696 - Oh, my God! 562 00:22:54,763 --> 00:22:56,865 [laughter] 563 00:22:56,932 --> 00:22:59,134 - Yes. - Ooh, [bleep]. 564 00:22:59,167 --> 00:23:01,370 - Into the toes. - That sauce off the toes. 565 00:23:01,436 --> 00:23:03,739 - Oh, yeah. - [laughs] 566 00:23:03,805 --> 00:23:10,145 ♪ ♪ 567 00:23:10,212 --> 00:23:11,880 - What are you doing? 568 00:23:11,947 --> 00:23:13,815 Painting my toes? 569 00:23:13,882 --> 00:23:18,353 - [laughs] 570 00:23:18,420 --> 00:23:20,656 - Yeah, buddy. - Whoo! 571 00:23:20,722 --> 00:23:22,424 [laughter] 572 00:23:22,491 --> 00:23:24,593 - Whoo! - Ah, yes! 573 00:23:24,660 --> 00:23:28,096 [cheering] 574 00:23:28,163 --> 00:23:30,899 - Yes, lick it up, babe. Yes! 575 00:23:30,966 --> 00:23:32,801 [laughter] 576 00:23:32,868 --> 00:23:34,670 - You're a fool, babe. 577 00:23:39,274 --> 00:23:41,543 [dramatic music] 578 00:23:41,610 --> 00:23:43,645 - So I've been talking to the girls. 579 00:23:43,712 --> 00:23:45,113 Talking to AJ. 580 00:23:45,113 --> 00:23:47,549 Talking to myself damn near sometimes, 581 00:23:47,616 --> 00:23:50,485 about what I want from my husband. 582 00:23:50,552 --> 00:23:53,655 I want him to naturally take over the situation, 583 00:23:53,722 --> 00:23:55,991 you know what I'm saying? Like a "Sex in the City" 584 00:23:56,124 --> 00:23:57,893 Mr. Big type, in control, 585 00:23:57,960 --> 00:24:00,162 at the end of the day. You know, he get it together. 586 00:24:00,229 --> 00:24:02,331 It was, like, all of the passion 587 00:24:02,397 --> 00:24:04,032 and that type of, you know, 588 00:24:04,132 --> 00:24:08,237 special feeling that made me just feel so, like, ready. 589 00:24:08,303 --> 00:24:10,038 That just stopped. 590 00:24:10,138 --> 00:24:11,673 - [whistles] 591 00:24:11,740 --> 00:24:12,941 Baby, what's up? 592 00:24:13,008 --> 00:24:14,243 You all right? 593 00:24:14,309 --> 00:24:15,811 Mm. What you doing? 594 00:24:15,877 --> 00:24:18,180 - I don't want to do no more talking. 595 00:24:18,247 --> 00:24:20,816 I just want my husband to deliver. 596 00:24:20,882 --> 00:24:24,019 You know how I am at home. You know I don't want to be 597 00:24:24,152 --> 00:24:26,488 an alpha female in my household. 598 00:24:26,555 --> 00:24:28,190 I'm like this, and I got you here, 599 00:24:28,257 --> 00:24:30,392 and I got the kids here, when I'd rather 600 00:24:30,459 --> 00:24:32,427 you be the--grr. - Uh-huh. 601 00:24:32,494 --> 00:24:34,363 - And you got me, and you got the kids. 602 00:24:34,429 --> 00:24:36,198 And sometimes it gets frustrating that I'm taking 603 00:24:36,265 --> 00:24:38,800 care of all of, you know, the planning. 604 00:24:38,867 --> 00:24:41,470 I'm like the navigation and the navigator. 605 00:24:41,536 --> 00:24:44,640 I understand that my husband loves it, 606 00:24:44,706 --> 00:24:47,542 but I'm at that point where I just want him to be a captain. 607 00:24:47,609 --> 00:24:50,112 I want to feel less of a mother and more of a wife. 608 00:24:50,112 --> 00:24:51,880 I've had to be so strong. 609 00:24:51,947 --> 00:24:54,283 - Mm-hmm. - Lexington's father has been 610 00:24:54,349 --> 00:24:57,653 incarcerated for 90% of her life. 611 00:24:57,719 --> 00:25:00,989 My daughter Lexington, who is ten years old, 612 00:25:01,123 --> 00:25:04,226 her father was incarcerated when she was two years old. 613 00:25:04,293 --> 00:25:08,630 And so I've had to be Mom and Dad. 614 00:25:08,697 --> 00:25:10,766 I envisioned that when I got married 615 00:25:10,832 --> 00:25:13,735 that I wouldn't have to be the alpha in the household. 616 00:25:13,802 --> 00:25:16,605 I've had to be both ends to keep her covered. 617 00:25:16,672 --> 00:25:19,007 - Mm-hmm. - When I was ready for love, 618 00:25:19,141 --> 00:25:20,509 it was because I'm ready 619 00:25:20,576 --> 00:25:22,544 to go back to my normal state of being 620 00:25:22,611 --> 00:25:25,514 without having to be strong all the time. 621 00:25:25,581 --> 00:25:27,816 Make those decisions. That's why when I said, "Grr," 622 00:25:27,883 --> 00:25:30,819 that's not me. That's not who I want to be. 623 00:25:30,886 --> 00:25:32,921 And that's why I said, "I do." - I get it. 624 00:25:32,988 --> 00:25:35,457 You've been the alpha in your household for a long time. 625 00:25:35,524 --> 00:25:37,125 - Yeah. - I get it, and for me, 626 00:25:37,192 --> 00:25:39,828 I'm a different type of alpha. I was alpha in the streets. 627 00:25:39,895 --> 00:25:42,431 I was alpha in prison, so I get it, I understand. 628 00:25:42,497 --> 00:25:44,900 You want me to be more of an alpha in our household. 629 00:25:44,967 --> 00:25:46,602 I get it, it's 100%. 630 00:25:46,668 --> 00:25:49,805 - It feels like the roles have reversed, and I understand it. 631 00:25:49,871 --> 00:25:52,474 You know, you losing your mom at such a young age. 632 00:25:52,541 --> 00:25:54,276 - Mm-hmm. - You being snatched out 633 00:25:54,343 --> 00:25:56,144 of her home, out of her life... 634 00:25:56,211 --> 00:25:57,779 - Yeah. - Out of her world, 635 00:25:57,846 --> 00:26:00,549 and ultimately, you know, out of your life, 636 00:26:00,616 --> 00:26:02,384 at such a young age... - Yeah. 637 00:26:02,451 --> 00:26:05,187 - To then be released 638 00:26:05,254 --> 00:26:07,122 from being wrongfully imprisoned, 639 00:26:07,122 --> 00:26:11,560 after all those years, without a mother figure. 640 00:26:11,627 --> 00:26:12,761 - People don't really understand what happens 641 00:26:12,828 --> 00:26:14,696 when that big gap of your life is missing. 642 00:26:14,763 --> 00:26:16,765 And people expect you to just come home, 643 00:26:16,832 --> 00:26:18,433 and just get right back into the swing of things-- 644 00:26:18,500 --> 00:26:20,269 you know, to be the head of the household, 645 00:26:20,335 --> 00:26:22,137 understand what it is to pay bills. 646 00:26:22,204 --> 00:26:25,173 I didn't get that chance, and for me, it's not that easy. 647 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:26,875 I'm still learning a lot of things, 648 00:26:26,942 --> 00:26:28,243 you know what I'm saying? 649 00:26:28,310 --> 00:26:30,913 And so I just want you to continue to show me, 650 00:26:30,979 --> 00:26:33,882 you know, how it is that you want to be loved. 651 00:26:33,949 --> 00:26:35,617 - That's the problem, baby. - Yeah. 652 00:26:35,684 --> 00:26:37,753 - That's what I'm missing. 653 00:26:37,819 --> 00:26:40,322 I need you to have something there... 654 00:26:40,389 --> 00:26:41,723 - Mm-hmm. 655 00:26:41,790 --> 00:26:45,794 - That comes naturally, from on the inside. 656 00:26:45,861 --> 00:26:47,596 Now, I can definitely, you know, 657 00:26:47,663 --> 00:26:50,299 tell you the things that I know that you should be doing. 658 00:26:50,365 --> 00:26:52,000 - Yeah. - But it has to be something 659 00:26:52,100 --> 00:26:53,335 about you too. 660 00:26:53,402 --> 00:26:55,704 ♪ ♪ 661 00:26:55,771 --> 00:26:59,174 I want him to feel like, "Yeah, I was exonerated, 662 00:26:59,241 --> 00:27:01,109 "but that wasn't just it. 663 00:27:01,109 --> 00:27:04,479 "I was also given a chance to live within this moment 664 00:27:04,546 --> 00:27:06,181 that we have here," 665 00:27:06,248 --> 00:27:08,550 or I'll always be an alpha female. 666 00:27:08,617 --> 00:27:11,219 I don't want to be that, or I could have stayed single. 667 00:27:11,286 --> 00:27:15,290 ♪ ♪ 668 00:27:15,357 --> 00:27:17,993 - I am a certified sexologist. 669 00:27:18,126 --> 00:27:19,494 As you inhale, I'm gonna invite you 670 00:27:19,561 --> 00:27:22,364 to breathe in to your genitals. 671 00:27:22,431 --> 00:27:24,199 - You want me to breathe into my own genitals? 672 00:27:24,266 --> 00:27:25,767 [laughter] 673 00:27:25,834 --> 00:27:26,868 - All right. I know what I gotta do. 674 00:27:26,935 --> 00:27:28,237 - Okay. 675 00:27:28,303 --> 00:27:29,771 - Mm-hmm. 676 00:27:53,716 --> 00:27:56,719 [upbeat music] 677 00:27:56,786 --> 00:28:00,089 - ♪ I could be your girl ♪ 678 00:28:00,156 --> 00:28:01,891 ♪ Sugar dumpling, ah ♪ 679 00:28:01,958 --> 00:28:04,727 ♪ I just can't let you go ♪ 680 00:28:04,794 --> 00:28:07,964 ♪ Can't let you go, when I feel you... ♪ 681 00:28:08,030 --> 00:28:09,498 - Whoo! - Yeah. 682 00:28:09,565 --> 00:28:10,533 - Okay. - Ooh. 683 00:28:10,599 --> 00:28:12,368 - Hey. - Hey. 684 00:28:12,435 --> 00:28:14,937 - So tonight we have something really special. 685 00:28:15,004 --> 00:28:16,339 We've done with the deep stuff, 686 00:28:16,405 --> 00:28:18,541 and now, it's time for us to get real sexy. 687 00:28:18,607 --> 00:28:21,210 No, we going to the back, so we can act up. 688 00:28:21,277 --> 00:28:22,445 - Okay. 689 00:28:22,511 --> 00:28:24,013 This is very cute. 690 00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:25,247 - You have the roses. 691 00:28:25,314 --> 00:28:27,683 You have the pillows. 692 00:28:27,750 --> 00:28:29,518 It's beautiful. 693 00:28:29,585 --> 00:28:31,854 - Make yourself comfortable. - Here, lead the way. 694 00:28:31,921 --> 00:28:32,922 Let me know where you want to be. 695 00:28:32,989 --> 00:28:34,890 - Okay, Yandy. [chuckles] 696 00:28:34,957 --> 00:28:36,359 - There's these little beds and [bleep] on the floor. 697 00:28:36,425 --> 00:28:37,994 I'm like, "This is looking a little"-- 698 00:28:38,060 --> 00:28:40,463 - I thought we was gonna see who could make 699 00:28:40,529 --> 00:28:42,164 which one of y'all, 700 00:28:42,231 --> 00:28:43,799 you know... - What? 701 00:28:43,866 --> 00:28:45,735 - Hit the spot first or something, I don't know. 702 00:28:45,801 --> 00:28:47,303 - In front of everybody? 703 00:28:48,504 --> 00:28:49,438 - Hello. 704 00:28:49,505 --> 00:28:51,741 - Hello. Thank you for having me. 705 00:28:51,807 --> 00:28:53,509 - So these are my friends. 706 00:28:53,509 --> 00:28:54,810 - Hey. - Hi. 707 00:28:54,877 --> 00:28:55,945 - It's such an honor to be here. 708 00:28:56,012 --> 00:28:58,314 My name is Devi Ward Erickson, 709 00:28:58,381 --> 00:29:01,384 and I am a certified tantric healer. 710 00:29:01,517 --> 00:29:02,952 - A what? 711 00:29:03,019 --> 00:29:04,787 ♪ ♪ 712 00:29:04,854 --> 00:29:07,890 - I am a certified sexologist. 713 00:29:07,957 --> 00:29:10,059 - Sexologist? - Uh-huh. 714 00:29:10,126 --> 00:29:12,328 - Ooh. - I don't need no sex class. 715 00:29:12,395 --> 00:29:14,530 I got four kids. I know how to have sex. 716 00:29:14,597 --> 00:29:17,533 - So I have been practicing and teaching 717 00:29:17,566 --> 00:29:20,936 tantric sexual healing for 13 years. 718 00:29:21,003 --> 00:29:23,105 Before that, I was a monk. 719 00:29:23,172 --> 00:29:26,108 - Wait, I didn't know monk came in ladies. 720 00:29:26,175 --> 00:29:28,110 - In our tradition, they did. - Okay. 721 00:29:28,177 --> 00:29:30,946 - Before that, I was a stripper in Detroit. 722 00:29:31,013 --> 00:29:32,214 - Hey. - Whoo! 723 00:29:32,281 --> 00:29:34,183 - Okay. - You have lived 724 00:29:34,250 --> 00:29:35,785 a well-traveled life. - You better go, girl. 725 00:29:35,851 --> 00:29:36,986 - Yes, ma'am. 726 00:29:37,053 --> 00:29:39,555 - So tantra is a spiritual science. 727 00:29:40,723 --> 00:29:43,259 It's a way of uniting our sexuality 728 00:29:43,326 --> 00:29:45,461 with our spiritual path. 729 00:29:45,561 --> 00:29:48,397 And in our tradition, every orgasm 730 00:29:48,464 --> 00:29:50,967 is considered to be a glimpse of enlightenment. 731 00:29:51,033 --> 00:29:52,835 - Wow. - And enlightenment 732 00:29:52,902 --> 00:29:54,537 is our experience of God. - Huh. 733 00:29:54,603 --> 00:29:56,839 - So every time we have an orgasm, 734 00:29:56,906 --> 00:29:58,708 we are getting a glimpse of God. 735 00:29:58,774 --> 00:30:00,343 - Even if you pull it out? 736 00:30:01,510 --> 00:30:02,645 [laughter] 737 00:30:02,712 --> 00:30:04,213 - Even if you pull out. 738 00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:07,883 Especially if you learn how to orgasm without ejaculating. 739 00:30:07,950 --> 00:30:09,285 - What? - Wait, wait, wait. 740 00:30:09,352 --> 00:30:11,354 He can have the orgasm without ejaculating? 741 00:30:11,420 --> 00:30:13,155 - Exactly. - Wow. 742 00:30:13,222 --> 00:30:14,757 I need to learn that [bleep] right there. 743 00:30:14,824 --> 00:30:19,562 - Yes, and women can have over 15 different types of orgasm. 744 00:30:19,629 --> 00:30:21,330 - 15? - 15? 745 00:30:21,397 --> 00:30:23,366 - You guys are trying to make us work harder? 746 00:30:23,432 --> 00:30:25,034 You know what it take to make a woman [bleep] 747 00:30:25,101 --> 00:30:26,268 in the first place? 748 00:30:26,335 --> 00:30:27,703 It takes a lot. Now, you want to tell us 749 00:30:27,770 --> 00:30:31,407 there's 14 more ways she can [bleep] a [bleep]? 750 00:30:31,540 --> 00:30:32,742 - So that's part of what I'm gonna share 751 00:30:32,808 --> 00:30:33,976 with you guys today. 752 00:30:34,043 --> 00:30:36,245 Methods to allow your body 753 00:30:36,312 --> 00:30:38,614 to have the kind of orgasms that it wants to have. 754 00:30:39,582 --> 00:30:43,586 - I've experienced probably... 755 00:30:43,653 --> 00:30:45,121 I haven't experienced 14. 756 00:30:45,187 --> 00:30:46,555 Let's just say it like that. 757 00:30:46,622 --> 00:30:49,125 I'm still stuck at maybe two or three. 758 00:30:49,191 --> 00:30:50,760 So, okay. Talk to me. 759 00:30:50,826 --> 00:30:54,130 - To begin with, I would love to do a connection practice. 760 00:30:54,196 --> 00:30:55,598 Are you guys willing to stand up? 761 00:30:57,333 --> 00:30:58,701 So what I'm gonna invite you to do 762 00:30:58,768 --> 00:31:01,737 is stand in front of each other with your hands up 763 00:31:01,804 --> 00:31:03,539 and palm to palm. 764 00:31:03,606 --> 00:31:05,374 Palms touching. 765 00:31:07,009 --> 00:31:10,279 And now, I'm gonna invite you to look into each other's eyes. 766 00:31:10,346 --> 00:31:13,582 Okay, and I want you to think about when you guys 767 00:31:13,649 --> 00:31:15,184 first got together 768 00:31:15,251 --> 00:31:17,820 and how exciting it was. 769 00:31:17,887 --> 00:31:20,122 ♪ ♪ 770 00:31:20,189 --> 00:31:22,692 How you couldn't wait to see each other. 771 00:31:22,758 --> 00:31:25,828 We want to make sure that our heart is full of love. 772 00:31:27,296 --> 00:31:29,298 All right. You can let your hands go now. 773 00:31:29,365 --> 00:31:31,534 So we're gonna do a movement practice right now. 774 00:31:31,534 --> 00:31:35,071 We're going to enhance our sexual energy by doing thrusts. 775 00:31:35,137 --> 00:31:37,740 [laughter] - Yes? 776 00:31:37,807 --> 00:31:39,241 Right? 777 00:31:39,308 --> 00:31:40,943 Okay, well, I'm gonna invite you to have a seat. 778 00:31:41,010 --> 00:31:42,545 Get comfortable. 779 00:31:42,545 --> 00:31:45,548 You can sit facing each other, cross-legged. 780 00:31:45,581 --> 00:31:47,783 ♪ ♪ 781 00:31:47,850 --> 00:31:50,820 - Are you sure? - Get that ass over here. 782 00:31:50,886 --> 00:31:52,188 Are you serious? 783 00:31:52,254 --> 00:31:53,956 - No it's cool. - Shut up. 784 00:31:54,023 --> 00:31:55,024 - You good? 785 00:31:55,091 --> 00:31:56,926 Okay. - Yeah. 786 00:31:56,993 --> 00:31:58,995 - You all right? - Yeah, I'm fine. 787 00:31:59,061 --> 00:32:01,831 - Everybody's serious but us. - Nobody's serious. 788 00:32:01,897 --> 00:32:04,900 What are you talking about? This is supposed to be fun. 789 00:32:04,967 --> 00:32:06,669 - Put one hand on your heart. 790 00:32:08,638 --> 00:32:12,541 So that's gonna create the circuit of connection 791 00:32:12,608 --> 00:32:14,944 between you two. 792 00:32:15,011 --> 00:32:16,245 Can you feel that? 793 00:32:16,312 --> 00:32:17,980 Feel that circuit of connection? 794 00:32:18,047 --> 00:32:21,617 'Cause you guys are sharing your love right now. 795 00:32:21,684 --> 00:32:23,286 So, like that, 796 00:32:23,352 --> 00:32:26,055 and then he puts his hand on your heart, like that. 797 00:32:26,122 --> 00:32:27,290 There you go. Beautiful. 798 00:32:27,356 --> 00:32:28,891 - Oh, and then I go like this. - Yeah. 799 00:32:28,958 --> 00:32:30,693 Can you feel that? 800 00:32:30,760 --> 00:32:33,195 So is there anything I can share with you today 801 00:32:33,262 --> 00:32:36,165 that will support your intimate connection? 802 00:32:37,233 --> 00:32:38,634 - Um, 803 00:32:38,701 --> 00:32:40,703 when we are intimate, it's just the same position 804 00:32:40,770 --> 00:32:42,672 every single time. - Hmm, mm-hmm. 805 00:32:42,738 --> 00:32:45,241 - And he doesn't, like, really look at me. 806 00:32:45,308 --> 00:32:47,610 ♪ ♪ 807 00:32:47,677 --> 00:32:48,944 - Well, you gotta make eye--Ray J, 808 00:32:49,011 --> 00:32:50,846 you're having a hard time looking at her right now. 809 00:32:50,913 --> 00:32:52,982 ♪ ♪ 810 00:32:53,049 --> 00:32:54,517 So Ray J, I'm gonna invite you 811 00:32:54,583 --> 00:32:57,687 to make eye contact with this stunning queen. 812 00:32:57,753 --> 00:32:59,255 Please. 813 00:32:59,322 --> 00:33:01,958 ♪ ♪ 814 00:33:02,024 --> 00:33:04,060 - I wish that he would look me in the eyes more. 815 00:33:04,126 --> 00:33:07,396 It's like he has to look at me in the back of my head, 816 00:33:07,496 --> 00:33:08,731 if you know what I mean. 817 00:33:08,798 --> 00:33:10,833 And I'm just tired of that position. 818 00:33:10,900 --> 00:33:12,501 He's kind of just like a "wham, 819 00:33:12,568 --> 00:33:14,870 bam, thank you, ma'am" type of person. 820 00:33:14,937 --> 00:33:16,806 - Let her receive you. 821 00:33:16,872 --> 00:33:18,741 ♪ ♪ 822 00:33:18,808 --> 00:33:21,610 You guys love each other. 823 00:33:21,677 --> 00:33:23,746 - I have no problem looking at anybody in the eyes. 824 00:33:23,813 --> 00:33:25,548 It's just that when I'm staring in your eyes, 825 00:33:25,615 --> 00:33:28,951 and you look away, then it creates a disconnect. 826 00:33:29,018 --> 00:33:30,720 - This is part of the process. 827 00:33:30,786 --> 00:33:36,292 ♪ ♪ 828 00:33:36,359 --> 00:33:37,927 - I have a gift bag for you. all: Ooh. 829 00:33:37,994 --> 00:33:39,829 - Got some toys for you to play with tonight. 830 00:33:55,098 --> 00:33:56,339 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h- So Ray J, I’m gonna invite you 831 00:33:56,339 --> 00:34:00,131 {\an7}\h\h\hto make eye contact with this stunning queen. 832 00:34:00,131 --> 00:34:02,197 {\an7}Please. 833 00:34:03,197 --> 00:34:05,438 {\an7}And let her receive you, right? 834 00:34:05,438 --> 00:34:07,405 {\an7}So this is part of the process. 835 00:34:07,405 --> 00:34:10,834 {\an7}[dramatic music] 836 00:34:14,306 --> 00:34:18,098 {\an7}- Because I’m always hitting it \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hfrom the side. 837 00:34:18,098 --> 00:34:21,801 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\hSo it blocks the--kind of, like, the-- 838 00:34:21,801 --> 00:34:23,438 {\an7}the one-on-one eye contact. 839 00:34:23,438 --> 00:34:25,636 {\an7}I think I can work \h\hon eye contact. 840 00:34:25,636 --> 00:34:28,570 {\an7}- You guys love each other. 841 00:34:28,570 --> 00:34:30,273 {\an7}- I have no problem making eye contact 842 00:34:30,273 --> 00:34:32,372 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hwith you while we’re making love. 843 00:34:32,372 --> 00:34:34,570 {\an7}And I’ll do better with that. 844 00:34:35,098 --> 00:34:36,438 {\an7}- So when are you gonna \h\h\h\h\h\hstart that? 845 00:34:36,438 --> 00:34:39,768 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hTonight? - If she give it to me. 846 00:34:39,768 --> 00:34:42,801 {\an7}- Will you make eye contact? \h\h\h\h\h\h- All night long. 847 00:34:42,801 --> 00:34:45,669 {\an7}I’ll put some Visine \h\h\h\h\hin my eyes. 848 00:34:45,669 --> 00:34:47,306 {\an7}- [laughs] 849 00:34:47,306 --> 00:34:48,438 {\an7}- Yes. - Yes? 850 00:34:48,438 --> 00:34:50,306 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\hOkay. All right, good. 851 00:34:50,306 --> 00:34:53,900 {\an7}- I’ve just sort of gotten used \h\hto not having sex with him. 852 00:34:53,900 --> 00:34:56,230 {\an7}But I want to just \h\hmove past this 853 00:34:56,230 --> 00:34:58,306 {\an7}\hand have some sort of connection again, 854 00:34:58,306 --> 00:35:01,471 {\an7}because I really want things \h\h\h\h\h\h\hto get better. 855 00:35:01,471 --> 00:35:04,570 {\an7}But I’ll believe it \h\hwhen I see it. 856 00:35:05,372 --> 00:35:07,570 {\an7}- I want to support you \hthe best that I can. 857 00:35:07,570 --> 00:35:09,735 {\an7}\h\h\h\hIs there anything that I can share with you 858 00:35:09,735 --> 00:35:12,471 {\an7}\h\h\h\hthat would help enhance your intimacy? 859 00:35:12,471 --> 00:35:14,504 {\an7}- Yes. - Yes? 860 00:35:15,306 --> 00:35:15,966 {\an7}- I’m the freak. 861 00:35:15,966 --> 00:35:17,702 {\an7}\hHe’s a little bit more conservative. 862 00:35:17,702 --> 00:35:18,603 {\an7}- Yeah. 863 00:35:18,603 --> 00:35:19,636 {\an7}- So I want to, you know, 864 00:35:19,636 --> 00:35:22,164 {\an7}make him become me, \hand I become him. 865 00:35:22,164 --> 00:35:23,834 {\an7}I know that I have to help him \h\h\h\h\hwith different things 866 00:35:23,834 --> 00:35:25,372 {\an7}\h\h\hbased on what he’s been through. 867 00:35:25,372 --> 00:35:26,735 {\an7}And I’m totally cool with that. 868 00:35:26,735 --> 00:35:27,702 {\an7}- Yeah. Right. 869 00:35:27,702 --> 00:35:29,735 {\an7}Does that work for you? \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Fine. 870 00:35:29,735 --> 00:35:30,570 {\an7}- Yeah. \hOkay. 871 00:35:30,570 --> 00:35:32,405 {\an7}- It can be frustrating when you feel like you 872 00:35:32,405 --> 00:35:33,900 {\an7}are giving everything, \h\h\h\hand sometimes, 873 00:35:33,900 --> 00:35:35,504 {\an7}\h\h\hyou might feel like it’s not enough. 874 00:35:35,504 --> 00:35:37,372 {\an7}But it doesn’t mean \hthat you give up. 875 00:35:37,372 --> 00:35:39,230 {\an7}- So I’ma go a little slower. 876 00:35:39,230 --> 00:35:40,669 {\an7}\hJust pull me up, like you just did. 877 00:35:40,669 --> 00:35:42,702 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Mm-hmm. - No, babe. You go slow. 878 00:35:42,702 --> 00:35:45,669 {\an7}\h\h- That’s what she said. Said we just gotta go slow. 879 00:35:45,669 --> 00:35:47,471 {\an7}\h\h\h\hWhy? What’s wrong? 880 00:35:48,372 --> 00:35:50,735 {\an7}\h\h\hI want to be, you know, relaxed, 881 00:35:50,735 --> 00:35:52,504 {\an7}and be able to close my eyes. 882 00:35:52,504 --> 00:35:53,702 {\an7}It’s so sexy to me 883 00:35:53,702 --> 00:35:57,504 {\an7}to envision my husband \h\h\hleading the way. 884 00:35:57,504 --> 00:35:58,339 {\an7}That’s my ideal marriage. 885 00:35:58,339 --> 00:36:01,438 {\an7}- Then I’ll go slow, so I’ve \hjust gotta be in it, like-- 886 00:36:01,438 --> 00:36:03,636 {\an7}Deelishis, I got you. 887 00:36:03,636 --> 00:36:05,966 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\hAll right. I know what I gotta do. 888 00:36:05,966 --> 00:36:08,306 {\an7}♪ ♪ 889 00:36:08,306 --> 00:36:10,471 {\an7}- Yeah? 890 00:36:14,438 --> 00:36:16,339 {\an7}- Till I get excited. \h\h\h\h- Yeah, baby. 891 00:36:16,339 --> 00:36:17,504 {\an7}Like, come on. 892 00:36:17,504 --> 00:36:19,669 {\an7}Get that [bleep]. 893 00:36:21,339 --> 00:36:23,702 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Oh, my God. Did you really just say that? 894 00:36:23,702 --> 00:36:24,966 {\an7}[laughs] 895 00:36:24,966 --> 00:36:29,999 {\an7}[quirky music] 896 00:36:33,438 --> 00:36:35,438 {\an7}- Wow. 897 00:36:39,570 --> 00:36:40,966 {\an7}- And it’s still going. 898 00:36:40,966 --> 00:36:41,900 {\an7}- Like, wow. 899 00:36:41,900 --> 00:36:43,669 {\an7}\h\h\hOkay. - Oh, yes. 900 00:36:43,669 --> 00:36:44,702 {\an7}- [laughs] 901 00:36:44,702 --> 00:36:45,636 {\an7}My man. 902 00:36:45,636 --> 00:36:48,702 {\an7}I need you to hit it \h\h\hjust like that. 903 00:36:48,702 --> 00:36:50,570 {\an7}- Deelishis is doing it \h\h\h\h\h\h\hexactly. 904 00:36:50,570 --> 00:36:51,933 {\an7}[laughter] 905 00:36:51,933 --> 00:36:53,471 {\an7}- Now, as you inhale, 906 00:36:53,471 --> 00:36:56,966 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hI’m gonna invite you to breathe in to your genitals. 907 00:36:56,966 --> 00:36:58,735 {\an7}Inhale your partner \h\h\hall the way-- 908 00:36:58,735 --> 00:37:00,768 {\an7}\h\h- You said what about my genitals? 909 00:37:00,768 --> 00:37:01,570 {\an7}- [laughs] 910 00:37:01,570 --> 00:37:03,636 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h- I want you to breathe in to them. 911 00:37:03,636 --> 00:37:05,032 {\an7}- You want me to breathe \h\hinto my own genitals? 912 00:37:05,032 --> 00:37:06,900 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h[laughter] - Yep, I want you to breathe. 913 00:37:06,900 --> 00:37:10,834 {\an7}\h\h\hI want you to inhale your partner’s life essence 914 00:37:10,834 --> 00:37:12,065 {\an7}into your genitals. 915 00:37:12,065 --> 00:37:16,603 {\an7}\h\h\hAnd then when you exhale, I want you to send them energy 916 00:37:16,603 --> 00:37:18,801 {\an7}from your genitals, \hfrom your pelvis. 917 00:37:18,801 --> 00:37:20,438 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h- Did she say that I’m supposed to feel 918 00:37:20,438 --> 00:37:21,900 {\an7}Mendeecees’ genitals \h\hbreathing on me? 919 00:37:21,900 --> 00:37:24,702 {\an7}- I have never, ever breathed \hthrough my genitals before. 920 00:37:24,702 --> 00:37:27,471 {\an7}\h\hI haven’t even heard that till we got into this class. 921 00:37:27,471 --> 00:37:29,636 {\an7}- If I ever felt a [bleep] \h\h\h\h\hbreathing on me, 922 00:37:29,636 --> 00:37:31,834 {\an7}\h\h\hthat is the last time I want to see that [bleep]. 923 00:37:31,834 --> 00:37:33,768 {\an7}- Okay, how are you guys doing? \h\h\h\h\hI know you’re tired. 924 00:37:33,768 --> 00:37:34,933 {\an7}- I’m getting a cramp \h\h\h\h\hin my leg. 925 00:37:34,933 --> 00:37:36,735 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- [laughs] - Yeah, do you want to... 926 00:37:36,735 --> 00:37:37,801 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah. - Change positions? 927 00:37:37,801 --> 00:37:39,636 {\an7}- I feel like I was sitting on the toilet for too long. 928 00:37:39,636 --> 00:37:42,032 {\an7}- Were you guys able to do \hthe alternate breathing? 929 00:37:42,032 --> 00:37:42,636 {\an7}- Mm-hmm. 930 00:37:42,636 --> 00:37:46,372 {\an7}- Did you feel the exchange \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hat all? 931 00:37:46,372 --> 00:37:47,504 {\an7}\h\h- Yeah. It’s good. 932 00:37:47,504 --> 00:37:49,306 {\an7}- I don’t feel his genitals \h\h\h\h\hbreathing though. 933 00:37:49,306 --> 00:37:51,372 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- [laughs] - I was waiting to feel that. 934 00:37:51,372 --> 00:37:53,702 {\an7}- So you guys did amazing. \h\hI’m gonna give you guys 935 00:37:53,702 --> 00:37:55,405 {\an7}\h\h\h\ha little bit of an anatomy lesson. 936 00:37:55,405 --> 00:37:58,065 {\an7}\h\h\hSo what I was sharing with you guys individually 937 00:37:58,065 --> 00:38:03,570 {\an7}\his that the female body has more erectile tissue 938 00:38:03,570 --> 00:38:06,702 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hinternally than the man has externally. 939 00:38:06,702 --> 00:38:10,669 {\an7}So you guys, I want to imagine \h\h\h\h\h\htrying to have sex 940 00:38:10,669 --> 00:38:13,570 {\an7}with half an erection, right? 941 00:38:13,570 --> 00:38:16,735 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hSo ideally, when you guys are at home, 942 00:38:16,735 --> 00:38:17,768 {\an7}it’s not gonna take that long 943 00:38:17,768 --> 00:38:19,834 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hto go through all those steps, okay? 944 00:38:19,834 --> 00:38:23,032 {\an7}But did you find benefit \hfrom spending some time 945 00:38:23,032 --> 00:38:26,702 {\an7}looking into each other’s eyes \h\h\hand sharing your breath? 946 00:38:26,702 --> 00:38:28,438 {\an7}- Yep. - Yeah? 947 00:38:28,438 --> 00:38:29,735 {\an7}Okay, good. 948 00:38:29,735 --> 00:38:31,603 {\an7}\h\hAnd... [applause] 949 00:38:31,603 --> 00:38:32,834 {\an7}I have a gift bag for you. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hall: Ooh. 950 00:38:32,834 --> 00:38:34,999 {\an7}- Got some toys for you \hto play with tonight. 951 00:38:34,999 --> 00:38:37,471 {\an7}- Oh, yeah. 952 00:38:37,471 --> 00:38:40,867 {\an7}- So, I’m going to invite you, 953 00:38:40,867 --> 00:38:42,636 {\an7}as your homework, 954 00:38:42,636 --> 00:38:45,669 {\an7}\h\h\h\hto take turns giving and receiving. 955 00:38:45,669 --> 00:38:46,966 {\an7}- Thank you. 956 00:38:46,966 --> 00:38:48,900 {\an7}- And this is how you nourish 957 00:38:48,900 --> 00:38:51,537 {\an7}and cultivate the soil \h\h\h\h\hof your love. 958 00:38:51,537 --> 00:38:53,603 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Thank you. - The garden of your love. 959 00:38:53,603 --> 00:38:54,570 {\an7}- Thank you. \h\h\h- Yes. 960 00:38:54,570 --> 00:38:56,504 {\an7}You have lubricant in there. 961 00:38:56,504 --> 00:38:58,537 {\an7}You have a vibrator in there. 962 00:38:58,537 --> 00:39:00,164 {\an7}- Yes. Gladly. 963 00:39:00,164 --> 00:39:02,438 {\an7}- [laughs] 964 00:39:17,128 --> 00:39:19,821 {\an7}[crickets chirping] 965 00:39:19,821 --> 00:39:22,019 {\an7}- ♪ I don’t need the lovin’ ♪ 966 00:39:22,019 --> 00:39:25,019 {\an7}- I have all the tools \h\h\hI need now to-- 967 00:39:25,019 --> 00:39:27,326 {\an7}to enhance the flavor. 968 00:39:27,326 --> 00:39:31,920 {\an7}I want to thank the doctor \h\h\h\h\hfor the gift bag. 969 00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:32,920 {\an7}We’re going through it now 970 00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:36,293 {\an7}to see what kind of goodies \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hare in it. 971 00:39:36,293 --> 00:39:38,920 {\an7}See what we can use. 972 00:39:38,920 --> 00:39:40,326 {\an7}- Yo. 973 00:39:40,326 --> 00:39:41,326 {\an7}- Huh. 974 00:39:41,326 --> 00:39:43,194 {\an7}\h\h- Yo. [laughs] 975 00:39:43,194 --> 00:39:46,019 {\an7}♪ ♪ 976 00:39:46,019 --> 00:39:51,920 {\an7}- I’m gonna practice taking \h\h\h\h\h20 to 40 minutes 977 00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:53,656 {\an7}before we get to it. 978 00:39:53,656 --> 00:39:54,920 {\an7}I’m gonna see how that work. 979 00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:58,722 {\an7}\h\hAnd Rasheeda, you have to return the favors, okay? 980 00:39:58,722 --> 00:40:01,590 {\an7}- Thank you. \h- [laughs] 981 00:40:01,788 --> 00:40:03,920 {\an7}\h\h\h- She called it a spirit--what is it? 982 00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:06,887 {\an7}Your spiritual wand \hor your--damn it. 983 00:40:06,887 --> 00:40:10,260 {\an7}\h\hNow I forgot the term. I have to go read her book. 984 00:40:10,260 --> 00:40:12,689 {\an7}[laughs] 985 00:40:15,326 --> 00:40:18,128 {\an7}- Great tantric sex. 986 00:40:18,128 --> 00:40:21,293 {\an7}Last night was very sexy. 987 00:40:21,293 --> 00:40:24,260 {\an7}I was enlightened 988 00:40:24,260 --> 00:40:26,260 {\an7}to find out 989 00:40:26,260 --> 00:40:30,128 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hso many things about my husband and his body. 990 00:40:30,128 --> 00:40:32,095 {\an7}And, uh, 991 00:40:32,095 --> 00:40:34,722 {\an7}15 different orgasms. 992 00:40:34,722 --> 00:40:37,227 {\an7}- Your boy’s in business. 993 00:40:40,328 --> 00:40:41,029 [upbeat music] 994 00:40:41,096 --> 00:40:42,230 - Are you nervous? 995 00:40:42,297 --> 00:40:44,266 - Try to get this. Just swim to this. 996 00:40:44,332 --> 00:40:45,767 Come on, Michael. 997 00:40:45,834 --> 00:40:47,969 - Teach this mother sucker how to swim. 998 00:40:48,036 --> 00:40:50,772 - You're not moving! [laughter] 999 00:40:50,839 --> 00:40:52,674 - Last day. Time to renegotiate 1000 00:40:52,741 --> 00:40:55,543 our relationship contracts and say goodbye. 1001 00:40:55,610 --> 00:40:57,879 - I enjoyed each and every one of y'all. 1002 00:40:57,946 --> 00:41:01,583 - Getting to know y'all and be around you guys was dope. 1003 00:41:01,650 --> 00:41:04,252 - These are our friends that we've exchanged numbers with. 1004 00:41:04,319 --> 00:41:06,388 I just couldn't keep this to myself any longer. 1005 00:41:06,454 --> 00:41:09,224 Besides, this is something everybody's gonna want to hear. 1006 00:41:09,291 --> 00:41:12,193 We've been keeping a secret from you guys. 1007 00:41:12,260 --> 00:41:14,729 We've been keeping it from you guys the whole time. 1008 00:41:14,796 --> 00:41:18,300 - Goodbye. all: Whoo! 1009 00:41:19,601 --> 00:41:20,835 - Tell me one thing you learned. 1010 00:41:20,902 --> 00:41:23,505 - I learned there's, like, 15 different ways 1011 00:41:23,571 --> 00:41:25,307 that, you know--that they-- 1012 00:41:25,373 --> 00:41:27,542 - Are you trying to be shy? Just say it. 1013 00:41:27,609 --> 00:41:29,344 15 ways to make a woman [bleep]. 1014 00:41:29,411 --> 00:41:30,812 Ow. - [laughs] 1015 00:41:30,879 --> 00:41:33,348 - Anything new now than when you first arrived? 1016 00:41:33,415 --> 00:41:36,284 - I'm pregnant. - I did not know this. 1017 00:41:37,018 --> 00:41:39,321 - I called you stupid. You called me a [bleep]. 1018 00:41:39,387 --> 00:41:40,922 - You called me stupid 20 times, because-- 1019 00:41:40,989 --> 00:41:41,990 - Called you stupid 20 times? - Absolutely. 1020 00:41:42,057 --> 00:41:43,191 - Okay, you're [bleep]. 1021 00:41:43,258 --> 00:41:44,726 - I think we're done. - Okay, good. 1022 00:41:44,826 --> 00:41:45,961 - You don't want people to see 1023 00:41:46,027 --> 00:41:47,495 how much of a [bleep] up person you are? 1024 00:41:47,562 --> 00:41:49,297 - [bleep] dumbass. 1025 00:41:49,364 --> 00:41:52,434 ♪ ♪