- Previously on "Couples Retreat"...
- Chilly in here. [laughter]
- Hanging out with Deelishis.
- I want him to naturally take over the situation.
What are going to do?
- You going to sip on some wine or something?
- Like a "Sex And The City" Mr. Big type.
- Put on a movie.
- Mentality-wise, men can be basic.
Devil's advocate, to him, he's giving you commitment.
He's telling you what his commitment looks like.
If it's not enough for you, then you've got to say that.
- So I'm going to do a date
without bitches, just me and you.
- Really? - Yes, tonight.
- You tell me you love me.
- The side bitches, they don't mean nothing to me.
- Like, emotionally, it's [bleep] up.
Thing that I really want is just some kind of commitment.
- I feel like we both should just
even in the most heated moments
just know that there's, like,
certain things we just shouldn't do or say.
- That doesn't sound like a man who wants to file for divorce.
- No.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
[uplifting music]
♪ ♪
- Let’s get into it.
\h\hWhat one piece of clothing of mine
you wish you could burn
and why.
- Ooh.
[laughter]
\h\h- Oh, my god. Okay, I’m sorry.
\hYou’re going to be mad at me. I’m about to put you on blast.
- Just one?
- What would I burn?
- I don’t really have nothing \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hI would burn.
- That’s because I’m lit.
- It’s that sweater with the four arms.
- Those are my pajamas.
- There was that one piece.
- It was the dress that had my sideboob coming out the sides.
\h\h\h\h- Yeah. - It was that.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- I said, "Where are you going?"
- With your married self.
- I know, my old ass drawers. \h\h\h- Your old ass drawers.
\h- Just because it got four sleeves don’t mean
\hthat it ain’t stylish. - You need to burn that.
- This is a hard one for me \h\h\h\h\h\hbecause I like
the way you dress. \h\h\h\h\h- Right.
- Those pants with the rubber bands all over.
\h\h\h- ♪ Here and now, I’ma say it real loud ♪
\h\h\h- ♪ It’s a new day, ’notha spin gone ’round ♪
\h\h\h♪ Look around, we alive right now ♪
♪ Stacking up big love \h\h\htill it’s over ♪
- All right, hold on, Omere.
Hold on, I’m going to let you see Ma.
♪ We be stacking up love ♪
- ♪ Stacking up big love \h\h\h\htill it’s over ♪
- Say hi to Omere. \h\h\h- Hi, Omere.
- Can you see me?
- What’s that, your test?
- Is that your report card?
- Look at all those threes, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hOmere!
both: Wow.
- This trip has been \h\h\hpretty intense,
\h\h\h\h\hand it actually feels really good to sit by the pool
with my husband and just relax \h\h\h\h\hand take a load off.
I had such a beautiful time \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hlast night.
That was so beautiful.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- We tried. - You didn’t try, you executed.
- High five.
- I’m hoping that this Arizona \h\h\h\hair isn’t taking over,
and when we get back home,
\hI’m going to get the same Mendeecees I’ve always had.
\h\h\h\h\hIt’s time for us to step it up, me and him,
and if this is the step-up \h\hI have in store for me,
I am here for it.
\hWhat I want you to do, I want you to come down.
I want to walk in the water \h\h\h\h\hwith my husband,
something I’ve never done \h\h\h\hin my whole life.
Let me finish.
- You can walk out here. \h\h\h\h\h\h- Three feet.
\h\h\h- I’ve been in so many scary situations in my life,
but there’s something \h\h\h\habout pools.
I just do not like pools.
- Take my hand.
\h\h\h\h\hTake my other hand. I’m not going to let you go.
\h\h\h\h\h\h- Don’t yank me. - I’m not going to yank you.
I just want you to trust me.
- Watch out. Just back up. \h\h- Let me hold one hand.
- All right. You got one hand. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Come on.
♪ ♪
[laughter]
You’re not going to drown.
- All right, just stay back. \h\h\h- Come on. Let’s walk.
- All right, hold on, \h\h\h\h\h\htime out.
\h\h\h- Okay. It’s shallow.
\h- I’m good right here. - Our seven-year-old son
can stand up in three feet.
- All right. I’m happy for him. \h\h\h\h\h\h\hI’m a proud dad.
Get back. Get back. Get back. \h\h\h\h\hStay where you at.
\h\h\h\h\h- Come on. You’re making me cry.
\h\h\h- All right. Stay where you at.
\h\h\h\h\h\h- What? - Stay over there.
\h\h\h- I’m not doing anything. - So why are you getting close?
\h\h- Well, you did this. I’m happy. Give me a hug.
When we get to the land. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h[laughter]
♪ ♪
- Am I just lucky or what?
Date last night, nice morning,
\hjust me and you sitting here sipping on a little something.
- I appreciate that. That means \h\h\h\hI’m on the right path.
- So far, so good, buddy.
- I want you to be able \h\h\h\h\hto get bored.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- You do? - Yeah, I want you to be able
to just have nothing to do.
- Well, that ain’t going \h\h\hto happen. I mean--
- Oh, you got to work?
- You worked me last night. \h\h\h\h\h\h- Oh, okay. Oh.
\hMy man, what the hell you doing, get a damn sun tan?
- Don’t be a smart ass, [bleep]
[bleep].
I just saw the village hat \h\h\hshe got on her head.
That’s what brought me.
\h- Oh, you thought I was your cousin.
- Yeah, [indistinct].
\hI think you’d be doing this with that thing on.
- You stupid. I’m done. - Oh, God, what’s good?
- Where’s Rada?
\h\h\h- She’s laying down. I laid her out last night.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Oh. - So she’s still--
- Just you, or you know? \h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Just her.
- Oh, okay.
- Side bitches not allowed \h\h\h\h\h\hat this resort.
\h- Okay, got you. - Okay, I’m joking.
Okay. I didn’t lay Rada \h\h\h\hout last night.
All right. Things are just kind of intense right now.
She’s drawn a line on the sand \h\h\h\h\habout the side women,
and I’m not, you know, on it. \h\hI’m not agreeing to that.
I’m holding my ground on this. \h\h\hI don’t want to lose her,
but I’m not ready to change either.
- Your side bitch days is \hcoming to end, though.
\h\h- Says who? - I can see it.
Listen, I can read language.
He don’t wanna hear \h\h\hthat [bleep].
- It’s just reality.
- Rada trying to renegotiate \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hher contract.
\h\h\h\h\h\h[bleep] no, [bleep], it’s too late.
\h\h\h\h\h\h- So it’s a no? - She signed the contract.
\h- What [bleep]? What was the terms on the [bleep], 10 years?
- We’ve been married \h\ha very long time.
When I hear Michael ass \h\htalking, I be like,
"Bro, listen, ain’t nothing \h\h\h\hI can say to you."
"I don’t know what the hell \h\hyou be talking about."
- He’s lit. - Lit, lit.
- Yandy got me doing a comedy \h\h\hshow later on tonight.
\h\h\h- [bleep]. - And, you know,
\h\h\hI’m going to have to just light your [bleep] up tonight.
- Oh, you lighting us up?’ \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Oh, yeah,
I’m lighting y’all up.
- Oh, we will be \h\h\hfront row.
- So tonight is my big \h\h\h\h\hcomedy night.
I’m about to roast everybody.
I’m not holding nothing back. \h\h\h\hY’all been too stiff.
I’m going to open the doors for some more ass whooping.
- I mean, everybody is going to get it.
I hope nobody is sensitive. You \hgoing to be cool after that?
- Yeah, we’re cool. \h- Let’s be cool.
- I come to Atlanta, I ain’t getting shot.
- I won’t shoot nobody. \h\h\h\h\h\hI got kids.
- Cool.
- All right. Well, I’m fixing \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hto bounce
\hbecause Yandy got that brunch thing.
I need to make some calls \h\hand do a few things.
She said she got \ha big surprise,
\h\h\h\hso y’all hurry up. - Oh, God, a big surprise.
I hope it’s not another [bleep] \h\h\h\h\h\hdoctor, goddamn it.
Jesus Christ.
♪ ♪
\h\h- My wish out of this is for Michael to realize
what we has instead of \hwait until it’s gone
because when I’m gone, \h\h\h\h\h\h\hI’m gone.
- I think bettering ourselves \h\h\h\h\h\h\hfor the future
is the mission to me.
\hI mean, I think that’s what we’re all here for,
\h\hchanging and being a better person and making adjustments.
- It just feels good knowing \h\h\h\h\h\h\hthat he cares.
I just always felt like \h\h\h\hhe didn’t care.
You know, I definitely feel like we’re moving forward.
\h\hAnd I do-- I do love Ray.
- ♪ Do it ’cause it feels right ♪
\h♪ Do it ’cause it feels good ♪
\h♪ Do it ’cause it feels right ♪
- Oh, my goodness, y’all.
\h- Okay. Yeah. - This is cute.
- Looks like Thanksgiving.
- Sit across from your loved ones.
- You can’t sit across from me.
You got to sit across \h\h\h\h\hfrom Rada.
- Where Rada at? - Rada over here.
- Oh, she’s over there. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hOkay.
- It was like she was about \h\h\h\hto sit over there,
and then she moved.
- He can sit his ass alone \h\hbecause if he doesn’t
\h\h\hwant to compromise on the side bitch thing,
then this is what his future \h\h\his going to look like.
- I came to vacation.
\h\h\h\h\h\h- And every day, we’ve been getting homework.
\h\h\h\h- Right. - But look at it.
The homework is making us \h\h\hmen better, right?
\h\h\hIt’s working. - Let me say this.
You’re absolutely correct
because Kirk and I went on our little date last night,
and he made me feel so special.
- All right. \h- We just--
- All righty, little buddy.
- Went back down memory lane talking about our first date
\h\hand all of our first-time things.
- We did the same thing, but-- \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- That’s right.
\h\h- There’s some things that we need to work on.
- Oh, lord.
\h\h- Raymond owes me. He messed up big-time.
- I’m gonna go back to the room \hand have hot, butt-naked sex.
- He ’bout to get it.
\h\h\h- And then I kind of dozed off.
\h- I want to be excited when it’s time for us to have sex.
I don’t want to feel like \h\h\hit’s an obligation.
\h\h\h\h- Hey, this might be a surprise, Mandeecee. Look.
all: Hey!
- Yeah, that’s what I’m talking about.
\h\h- Ow, ow! - Yeah, yeah!
- Today is definitely \h\ha new day for us.
You know, we finally said \h\h\h\h\h\h\hthe words,
"I don’t want to get \h\h\h\ha divorce."
- We’re back on the right page.
\h- Ray apologized to me for the first time ever.
- Things are looking good.
- Glad to see you, \hglad to see you.
\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah, man. We’re back. We’re back.
- Well, it’s good to see you guys.
Have you guys been chilling and getting rest and stuff?
- Kind of.
- I felt like we needed \h\h\hsome alone time.
\h\h- Yeah. - I agree.
- Whitney and Bobby are back. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hI’m so happy.
- Hey. - Hey.
- Hello. \h\h\hHi.
- Be careful.
- Hi! How you guys doing? \h\h\hSo this is Lakara.
- Hi, everybody.
- She is a minister \h\h\hand a medium.
\h\h\h\h\h\h- Uh-oh. - Please have a seat.
We’re eating brunch.
- The reason I brought Lakara \h\h\h\h\h\his because I want
\hto do something different, shake things up a little bit
\h\h\h\h\hand get people to let their guards down.
If these couples can get \hto a vulnerable place,
I’m sure that will help them
be even more vulnerable \h\h\h\hwith each other.
I understand that not everyone \h\h\h\h\hbelieves in mediums.
Trust me, I’ve been skeptical \h\h\h\h\h\h\hmy whole life,
but I do feel like Lakara \hcan bring a new energy,
and this could be good.
- Thank you all for having me, \h\h\h\hand she said we’ll eat,
and I’ll talk a little bit \h\h\habout more what I do.
I don’t want y’all \h\hto be nervous.
I have no control over \h\hwho comes through,
\h\hbut chances are if there’s somebody
\h\h\h\h\h\hthat somebody has been thinking about,
wanting to hear from,
a lot of times that is usually \h\h\h\hwho does come through.
\h\h\h- I don’t know. Maybe I’m a skeptic.
- Spirit communicates to me through signs and symbols,
numbers, whatever it is \h\hthat they give me.
\hI jot some things down. I’ll see who they’re for.
\h\h\h- My tactic is to avoid eye contact.
- Some of the things if you \h\h\h\h\h\h\hguys are open
\h\h\hto talking about at the table, we will.
\h\h\h\hIf you kind of say, "Hey, that’s too private,"
if anybody wants to meet me \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hprivately,
we can do that as well.
\h\h\h\h\h\h- Sounds good. - I don’t know if it’s real,
but it’s just exciting \h\h\h\hto, like, hear.
I mean, I’m all for it. \h\h\h\h\h\h\hI’m open.
- First and foremost, \h\h\h\hI tell people
I don’t talk to the dead.
There’s no such thing as dead. \h\h\h\hAll we are, are energy.
\h\hWe’re energy before we enter these bodies,
\h\h\h\h\hwhile we’re in them and when we depart from them.
I have no control over \h\hwho comes through,
but chances are if there’s \h\hsomebody that somebody
has been thinking about, \h\hwanting to hear from,
a lot of times that is usually \h\h\h\hwho does come through,
and I’m asking you to validate what I’m hearing, is that okay?
- Mm-hmm. \h- Okay.
\h\hOne of the guys, did you lose a mother
\h\h\hor a grandmother that was like a mother?
\h\h- I lost my mother. - You lost your mother.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hI don’t-- do you have kids together?
- Mm-hmm.
- Was there a baby that was \h\h\hlost between you all?
- You can kind of say that.
- Okay, because the mother \his coming through to say
that the baby is with her.
\h- Mm. - Okay.
- And I’m supposed to tell you \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hthat the loss,
it was not your fault, \h\h\h\hso I don’t know
if that was something that you were carrying with you,
but it wasn’t your fault.
\h\hThey were not going to be coming to the physical world.
Their job was done in the womb.
- Why are you crying?
- That’s all that baby \h\h\h\h\h\hcame to do.
\h\hPrincess, you’re crying. - I can just feel, you know.
- Mm-hmm.
- It’s just, like, deep, \h\hyou know what I mean?
- Yeah.
\h\h- Excuse me. I’ll right back.
- Mm-hmm.
[uneasy music]
♪ ♪
- I’m sorry.
- I want to see why, like, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hyour energy
is attaching to me so hard.
Did you lose a baby as well?
\h- Come on. That’s a lie.
- I’m only communicating \hwhat the soul gave me.
\h\h- This [bleep] you talking about,
this ain’t gonna end well, \h\h\h\h\hMiss Sixth Sense.
- You have a lot of energy \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\haround you.
\hI see like there’s something happening.
- Tonight, we have a very \h\h\h\h\hspecial guest,
the one and only Modasucka!
\h\h\h\h- And your husband with the big ass forehead.
- Oh, my god.
[uneasy music]
♪ ♪
- Honestly, I don’t really \h\h\h\hwant to talk a lot
\h\h\h\habout the reason why it was so emotional.
[sobbing]
I’m sorry.
- Stop being so sad. \h\h\hYou all right.
It’s okay.
\h- I’m sorry. - Yeah, it’s--
- Let me fix my face.
- I said I was not \hgoing to do this.
I’ve been doing this every day \h\h\h\h\h\h\hsince I got here.
- Just put your mind \h\h\hsomewhere else.
Guess what.
- That’s crazy.
- So you heard her go.
- GloJo is my mom,
so it’s pretty mind-blowing \hfor the medium to tell us
that she’s looking \h\hafter the baby
and to know that we have \h\h\h\ha guardian angel
watching over us making sure \hwe good is just a blessing.
One thing we all know, listen, \h\h\h\h\h\hwe’ll meet one day.
And ain’t nothing you \h\hcan do now today.
Ain’t nothing I can do. \h\h\h\h- You’re right.
- ’Cause you’re going \h\h\hto make me sad,
so you’ve got to cheer up.
\h\h\h\h\h\h- I’m sorry. - I don’t want to be sad.
- Okay.
Okay. Let’s do it.
- Sometimes just being a woman \h\h\his just hard as [bleep].
\h\h\hI’ve been dealt with a lot of different things,
and things have hit me in ways
\h\h\h\hthat I never could have imagined.
My life and my path \h\his what it is,
and I have to be able \h\h\hto deal with it
\h\h\h\h\hand move forward even when it’s like, "Why?"
All I can say is, you know, \h\h\hI made it through it.
\h- I’m going to continue. Is that okay with everyone?
- So sometimes when we’re \hgiving these readings,
they want us to go back, right,
and sometimes give a message \h\h\h\h\h\h\hto the family.
\hOh. I am getting some really, really strong energy from you.
- Really? \h- Yeah.
- Dun, dun, dun.
This is some bull[bleep].
- Because I want to see why, \h\h\h\h\h\hlike, your energy
is attaching to me so hard.
Did you lose a baby as well?
♪ ♪
Was it in this relationship?
- Un-uh. \h- Okay.
\h\hYou weren’t supposed to have a baby with him.
- Thank God I didn’t.
I was in a relationship \h\h\h\h\h10 years ago,
\h\h\h\h\h\hand I got pregnant, and I lost the baby at 8 weeks.
I never even talked \h\hto Ray about it
\h\h\h\hbecause I literally blocked it out of my mind.
- So souls come back.
\hThe soul came back in your second child.
\h- Come on. That’s a lie.
Like, we got to chill.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Okay. We’re talking about a soul.
- But you were kind of making \hit, like, a factual thing.
- I don’t think Ray comprehended
what Lakara was trying to say,
and I know he doesn’t believe \h\h\h\hin any of this stuff,
but he’s still willing \h\h\h\h\h\hto sit down
and have a conversation with this lady for me.
- I’m only communicating \h\hwhat the soul gave me
to give to her.
\h\h\h- Oh, I know. - Yeah. That’s it.
- Now it went from emotions \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hto WTF.
\h\h\hThis [bleep] you talking about,
this ain’t gonna end well, \h\h\h\h\hMiss Sixth Sense.
- I’ll say this, \hcan you tell me
\h\h\hwhat the lottery numbers are going to be for next week?
- Now let me tell what I can’t \h\hdo because I promise y’all,
\h\hif I win the lottery, they’re going to be like,
\h"That girl don’t even do no readings no more," like.
\h\h- Where I’m from, we have witch doctors,
\h\h\hand they are witchcraft that wish bad things on you,
\h\hand it happens. I know they exist.
You leave those people alone. \h\hYou don’t mess with them.
- Y’all going to the comedy \h\h\h\h\h\h\hshow tonight?
- Yeah.
\h\h\h\h- Be prepared. I’m hitting everybody.
- Well, if you all \h\hwill excuse me.
- I’m going to get \h\hy’all tonight.
- I didn’t post it, though.
\h\h- Wondering if you guys would change me over here.
\h\h- Who? - You two.
\h\h\h- Why the [bleep] is she singling us out?
\h\h- I thought she heard our sidebar conversation.
\h\h\h\hThat’s why, because we were making fun of her.
- All right. - All right.
\h\h\h\h- Mike, holler if you need something.
\h\h\h\h\h- Hey, Mike, let me know how it go.
- Keep me in your prayers. \h- Thank you all for this.
\h\hI wanted to talk to you all in private away from the group.
\h\h\h\h\hIs that okay? - Mm-hmm, that’s fine.
\h\h- I’m worried on why we would be singled out
because me and Michael are not in a good place
since our last dinner date, \h\h\h\h\h\hand I’m worried
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hshe might tell us that we don’t belong together.
- You have a lot of energy \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\haround you,
and I’m trying to see what this is.
Do you have children together?
\h\h\h\h- No, not together. - Okay. I didn’t know why,
\h\h\h\h\hlike, I see, like, something is coming together.
I don’t know what this is. \h\h\h\h\hLike, yeah, like,
\hthere’s something happening, babies.
- She told us the relationship is not as sexual as it started.
A man’s libido can wane when he’s got pressure.
\h\h\hWhat’s really going on with that?
- Yeah, nobody knows,
so we've been keeping it on the hush, yeah.
- The pregnancy is the real reason why I wanted
to make this relationship work.
We broke up a few weeks back because he never changed,
but then this whole couples retreat came up.
I felt like this was a sign that we belong together.
- Tell me what questions you have
because you've been so quiet.
- Gosh, now that it's already out there, I mean,
I wasn't really planning on sharing that.
- Are you scared? - Yeah, I'm very scared.
He's an absolutely amazing guy, but with the lifestyle
that he has, it kind of scares me.
- Mm-hmm.
- My biggest worry about having this baby with Michael
is me being a single mother,
and so moving forward in our relationship,
I need more substance out of Michael.
Do you see a positive future for the both of us?
- What I'm feeling and what I'm being guided to tell you
is that there's a reason
that this child is coming forth, right.
There's a reason that you two got together to have the child.
This is no accident, but, and this is not
pointing fingers at you or anything like that,
but you know what your [bleep] is.
You know what it is. If you get it together,
things go to a whole 'nother stratosphere for you,
whatever that is for you.
- Thank you. - Yeah.
- I didn't believe you, but oh, my gosh.
- How I feel about having this baby, you know,
I'm kind of excited about it.
I think this baby would definitely bring us
closer together,
and I'll get a chance to be a full-time dad,
something I always wanted to do, you know.
Especially the age that I'm in now,
I think men are more ready to be fathers
when they're much mature,
and I'm at that point in my life.
No more special guests from you, no more guests.
We're done crying. No, no more.
- See, look. - God.
- Today has been a hell of a day.
We were with the medium,
and, you know, it got a little intense with everybody.
- When she brought up the baby that I lost, you know,
for the longest I felt like I couldn't have children
because it's, like, the only time
I got pregnant, I lost it.
That's really something that really affected me.
- My husband is my baby, and I would never want to
embarrass him by, you know, talking to the girls
and saying that there is a lack of romance,
but once you say, "I do," you know, sometimes it's less,
"I do," and more, "They don't."
[knocking]
- How are you? - I'm all right.
How are you? - Oh, we're twins.
- Yeah, oh, okay, great minds think alike.
- Come on in. Come on in.
Have a seat. - Yeah.
- Thank you for coming.
- I asked for some one-on time with Raymond
because I'm seeing some frustration from Deelishis.
- In the beginning, we were so hot and heavy sexually.
Like, we were just, like, getting it popping.
Then when you had me and I was your lady
and then your fiancée and then your wife...
- Mm-hmm. - It was like
all of the passion and that type of, you know,
special feeling that made me just feel
so, like, ready, that just stopped.
- When you're the normal guy and you end up
with one of the sexiest women alive,
that's a lot to deal with, a lot in a lot of ways,
a lot of person, a lot of booty, it's just a lot.
- I want him to naturally take control
at the end of the day, you know? He get it together.
- I started picking up on some things,
some things that are easier to talk about
not around the group. - No doubt.
- And possibly not even within the marriage,
just wanted to see if there's any way that I can help.
- Mm-hmm.
I'm kind of caught off guard by this confrontation,
so obviously Deelishis said something to AJ
about our relationship. I need to know what it is.
- I don't follow anybody on Instagram,
so I really didn't know anything about Deelishis.
I didn't know her show. I didn't know nothing.
- Mm-hmm.
- But yesterday when I saw how sexual and voluptuous
and so comfortable with her sexuality--
- Yeah! [cheering]
- I was like, number one, teach me.
[laughter] - Yeah.
- But the other side of it, she told us.
- Mm-hmm.
- The relationship is not as sexual as it started.
- Deelishis is right, you know. The passion has been
lacking the last couple of months within our marriage.
You know, we're both busy people,
and, you know, there's a lot going on,
and we're dealing with a pandemic.
It is what it is.
- Can we talk about that? - Yeah.
- Sometimes a man's libido can wane when he's got pressures.
- Yeah.
- Whether they're financial, whether their life,
whether their kids, you know,
so I just kind of wanted to dig a little deeper.
At such a newlywed stage,
what's really going on with that?
- With me and her being sexual--
- No, lack of sexual relationship
with her being so sexual.
- Deelishis has OCD, so I'm telling you--
The way that her OCD manifests is her asking me
to do these things, and I get them done, right,
and then there's still, like, something else, and I'm like,
"Wait a minute. Now you need me to do something else?
Like, it's already 7 o'clock."
I get frustrated because she's like,
"We need this couch.
We need this bed for the house,"
and I'm like, "Okay, let's get it,"
and so she gets it. We sit it in. It looks great.
Two days later, it's rearranged.
Three days later, it's moved out,
and something else is moved in.
- But I'm still not hearing
where that interrupts the sexual relationship.
- I had to learn.
- It's a process. - It's a process, and I think
that sometimes that might frustrate her with,
you know, sex, because when you say,
"You're the man in this house. Step up."
I'm trying to do everything that my wife wants.
Deelishis is an alpha female,
and she knows what she wants even when it comes to sex,
and so at the end of the day,
it's just finding the common ground, you know.
What does it take to get us where we need to go,
and how long are we going to stay there?
In the beginning, I felt like it was chastising me.
Like, I wasn't the man of the house.
Like, I wasn't handling my business.
- Got you. Okay. I'm hearing something new.
- Mm-hmm. - Chastising.
- I want to dispel the myth that, you know,
people think that I just came home,
and instantly I just married Deelishis
and that I didn't have no experience,
and, I mean, I wasn't a virgin.
You know, I get exonerated in 2003.
I don't meet Deelishis until 2019,
so within that time, I was married before.
I have a daughter, right, who's currently 17 years old,
and so, I mean, I was experienced in life
before I met Deelishis. If she's unhappy with me,
and, you know, she just has to understand
that she has to have patience with me,
and at the end of the day, it's about communication,
and we both have to be able to express our thoughts
and express what we want
and be able to follow through with that.
It's like, once I figure out that you love flowers,
then I keep it consistent that they keep coming.
- Mm-hmm. - Like--
- You're learning. - Yeah. I understand it.
I get it. You know,
the only thing I have to do now is figure out the methods.
- So I'm going to help you. - Please do.
- Like, they say, "Foreplay starts in the morning."
You know, as soon as you wake up,
you have morning conversations,
supposed to just jump out of bed,
and you start the day with the kids.
It's compliments, sincere.
- Mm-hmm. I run on a schedule.
If we have that conversation and you say,
"Well, today we want to go grocery shopping?
"We got to go to Target. We got to do this.
We got to do that." Okay, what time?
When you ready to go? That's the plan.
- Remember spontaneity.
Spontaneity is a big part of the foreplay.
- Yeah. - So I say let's start there.
- If something is wrong, you know,
I'm open to suggestions.
I'm here to listen, but this is getting a little frustrating
and I don't know what to do.
- What do you think if we don't do those things
and put them in place
for where you guys seem to be in your relationship now?
- Then I think that the frustration level
continues to-- it will grow,
and then it can be, I mean, it could be toxic.
♪ ♪
- Got the lady with the biggest booty in the world.
Deelishis in the house. You need a village [bleep]
to hit that from the back. [laughter]
- She's going to [bleep] him up.
\h\h- ♪ Yeah, tell me what you want to do ♪
♪ Yeah, yeah, is this what you want to do? ♪
\h\h\h\h- Nobody who wants to go roasted in the front?
- Right.
\h\h- I don’t know if I’ve got enough power to scoot y’all in,
but let’s give it a try.
- This has been an emotional \h\h\h\h\h\hroller coaster,
\h\h\hso I thought we needed a little bit of comic relief,
\hand who better than the resident comedian
Michael Blackson?
\h\h\h\hAll I’m saying is he better leave me alone.
- ♪ That’s the way \hwe roll, yeah ♪
\h♪ Just took two bumps and now I’m moving slow, yeah ♪
- I didn’t get singled out \h\h\h\h\h\hby the psychic,
but I got singled out \h\h\h\hby AJ today.
\h- What? I may have had a conversation with her,
but I didn’t tell her to come \hand approach you about it.
- She definitely was on me,
and she was giving me \h\h\h\hthe business,
but one thing about AJ, \h\h\h\hI respect her,
and so at the end of the day \h\h\hwhen somebody give you
something that’s constructive, \h\h\h\hyou’re going to listen.
- Sergio, can we make this \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\ha double?
That’d be amazing.
- Are we going to make a toast to having a good time tonight?
There’s been a lot of tears,
\h\h\h\h\hand there’s been a lot of misunderstandings,
and, you know, tonight we just \h\hwant to have fun and laugh,
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hyou know, whether the joke is on you,
whether the joke is on me, whether the joke is on us.
To love.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hall: Cheers. - Get drunk tonight. Cheers.
- To love. - To love.
- And happiness. \h\h- God bless.
\h- You know, with all of the dead people arising,
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hand AJ, you know, points her finger at everybody
and all of this crying \h\h\h\h\hand emotions,
it’s been a lot, man. We need some comedy.
We need some laughter.
Laugh now, cry later.
\h\h\h\h\h\h- Okay. - Those both yours?
- These are small drinks.
\hThis is, like, all I can take tonight, you know what I mean?
- Just sip on it a little bit. \h\h\h\h\h\h\hYes, he’s drunk,
\h\hbut I have to admit, I like this drunk Ray J.
\hI’m just happy to see him smile
and to just see him \h\hin a good mood.
- Do you have, like, a soda? \h\h- You looking good, man.
- I’m trying, man. - She looks happy.
I mean, it’s good to see y’all \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hwalking up.
Man, you good.
- She heard me.
\h\h\h\hShe knows that there’s some things that bother me too.
\h\h\h\h\h- Right. - That’s all it is,
\h\h\h\hand I feel like I got a lot of [bleep]
that I got to do right.
It’s not just what I want, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hyou know.
\h\h\h- Y’all going to try and work it out now, right?
- I want to be able \hto try, you know.
- If there’s anybody I think can guide me
and help me through, \h\hit would be Kirk
because he’s been \h\hthrough a lot.
Princess and my relationship \h\h\his at a very volatile,
like, very unhealthy space,
and I’m sure he’s been \hin that space before.
So how do you overcome that?
- This might be, like, \h\h\ha messy question,
but did you get to say \h\h\h\hanything about,
\h\h\h\h"What you doing with the lingerie in your purse?"
- Found lingerie in her purse.
- Was it for you?
- [bleep], no.
You think I shouldn’t try it?
- I ain’t going to lie.
\hLike, where y’all at, I would leave it alone.
- You sure?
- I would be kind of nervous \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hto even ask.
- I’ll ask her.
- Just because where we are,
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hyou know, I don’t want to set it back,
you know what I’m saying?
\h\h\h\h\h\hI would wait until y’all are in a really, really,
really good place, a really, \hreally, really good place.
- I’m going to ask her. \h\h- No, don’t do it.
- I’m going to ask her.
- I should not even have asked \h\h\hRay J about the lingerie
because next time I know better
\h\hbecause now he’s about to go say something to her,
and she might be looking \h\h\h\h\hat me sideways.
- This toast to all my Gs \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hout there
\hthat has a beautiful wife and for everybody out there
in the world that’s trying \h\h\hto be with our wives
\h\hand take them from us, nah, we ain’t having that.
\h\h- I have no idea what he’s getting at.
- I'm going to ask her.
- No, don't do it. - I'm going to ask her.
- I wouldn't ask it. Leave it alone.
- Shall we just move on? - Yes, I think move on.
You can't go back and do nothing.
Everything is in front of us. You are in a good place.
- I'm telling you, there's [bleep] out there
that's trying to [bleep] my wife.
- Hold on.
There's [bleep] out there trying to [bleep] our wives.
That's normal.
- She also told me no matter who we're with,
I still want to have kids with you.
She said, "Even if I'm not with you,
"I still want to just have the same baby daddy.
Maybe you can just give me your eggs, and I can freeze them."
- Your eggs?
- She wanted to freeze my eggs, man.
- Of course I've had the birds and the bees talk with my kids,
and tonight is not the night
I'm going to tell Ray J men don't have eggs.
We have sperm, so I'm going to wait
until another occasion to say that to him.
- I want to know who. - Don't ask.
Continue to build forward.
Trust me, love is in those eyes.
That's how we got to make it.
- Cheers. - Cheers, love and happiness.
- You know it.
- Like, seriously, seriously, no, for real, I, like,
[bleep] love Ray J as the person he is,
but he really is like a [bleep] crazy ass dude.
- This toast, this toast is for all my Gs
out there that have a beautiful wife
and for everybody out there in the world
that's trying to be with our wives
and take them from us and be savages
and try to break us apart and try to turn us down
so you can be turnt up, nah, we ain't having that.
- We ain't having that.
- We holding on tight, you know what I'm saying?
- Okay, Ray J, thank you. - What's ours is ours.
- That's right. So Ray J is being nuts,
and he's just saying all these crazy things,
but you know what? There's some truth in there
at the end of the day.
You know, we married beautiful wives.
There's a million men out there
that would love to be with our wives.
- Cheers to that. [indistinct chatter]
- I have no idea where this is coming from.
I literally, like, my mind is blank right now.
I have no idea what he's getting at.
Where was that speech going? - That's from the heart.
- I think Michael is on his way.
- Yandy! - Yeah.
- Good evening, all.
Tonight, we have a very special guest.
- Whoo!
- Are you guys ready for a special guest?
- Yes. - Yeah.
- Oh, you guys don't sound excited.
Maybe the special guest needs to go back to Ghana.
Let me ask you again.
Are you guys ready for the special guest?
- Yeah!
- Okay, that sounds a little bit better.
- We are ready! - Okay.
Tonight I am introducing the epic, the legendary,
the one and only number one
Modasucka!
- What's up, Modasuckas?
- AJ is very good about opening everybody up,
but she does not know how dangerous it is
to do that in front of Michael.
Everybody's pain and vulnerability
is like fuel to his fire.
- DJ, turn that [bleep] off. Turn that music off, goddammit.
We got six people in here. Turn it off.
- What’s up, Modasuckas? \h\h[cheers and applause]
- DJ, turn that [bleep] off. \h\h\h\hTurn that music off.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hAnd [bleep] your whole [bleep], man.
\h\hYandy, you know what, [bleep] you too, [bleep].
\h\hI’m having a good time. You’re going to bring that
\h\h[bleep] Tyrese from "Baby Boy," AJ [bleep],
putting out all the business, \h\hyou know what I’m saying.
[bleep], that muscle lady \h\h\h\h\h\htalking about
strong ass, handsome lady.
[laughter]
\h\h\h- She’s going to [bleep] him up.
He’s basically saying \h\h\hit to her face.
\h\h- Talking about I got side bitches.
\hThat ain’t her [bleep] business.
Don’t speak to me no more,
\h\hMiss Marilyn Monroe looking mother[bleep].
And your husband with the big \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hass forehead.
\h\h\h\h- I got a big old head, and I got a lot of other things
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hthat’s big, so I didn’t get offended by it.
- And this is the toughest \h\h\h\h[bleep] right here.
Give a big hand for Raymond.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah! - Goddamn, Raymond, doing time
for some [bleep] \h\hhe didn’t do.
- That’s right. \h\h\h- Mm-hmm.
\h\h\h- When I found out how much money that [bleep] got,
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hI’m hanging out in Central Park right there.
[bleep] arrest me, goddammit.
Got the lady with the biggest \h\h\h\h\hbooty in the world,
Deelishis in the house.
You need a village [bleep] to hit that from the back.
[laughter]
You know, but don’t worry, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hDeelishis,
she [bleep] Flavor Flav.
That was an ugly ass [bleep] \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hgoddammit.
\h\h\h\hFlavor was so ugly, he went to a ugly pageant.
\h\h\hThey said, "Sorry, no professional [bleep].
You ugly as [bleep]."
Flavor Flav make me look cute, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h[bleep] that.
\h- Y’all look like brothers. - Oh, don’t start no [bleep].
Did you get some [bleep] \h\hyet, mother [bleep]?
Talk about that [bleep]. \h\h\h\hI have one wish.
Get that [bleep] some [bleep], \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hplease.
Get that [bleep] some [bleep].
\h\h\h\h\hHe’s a legend, man. He discovered Kim Kardashian.
\h\h\h\h[indistinct] [overlapping chatter]
- Hold up, Kirk.
\h\hRasheeda going, "No problem, bro."
\h\h\h\hShe’s just like, "You don’t cheat no more.
\h\h\h\hI’m going to be six different bitches for you."
She’s going black hair, blue hair, blonde hair.
Who you going to be tomorrow, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h[bleep]?
- Another bitch.
- Six leprechauns a night.
[laughter]
- Oh, you ain’t seen \h\ha leprechaun look
this good, baby.
\h\h- I’m Michael Blackson. God bless you. Good night.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah! [cheers and applause]
- Things got a little heavy \h\hwith the medium today,
\h\hI can admit that, so I am very excited
that tonight went off \h\hwithout a hitch.
But planning this couples trip \h\h\h\his some hard ass work.
We have some intense work \h\h\h\h\hduring the day,
\hand we want to make sure we end our night on a high
\h\h\h\h\hso just maybe the couples can go back
\h\h\h\hand have sex and make some babies.
- Seeing Michael in his element \hon stage was such a turn-on.
We’ve got a lot of [bleep] \h\h\h\h\h\h\hto work out,
\h\hbut this is such a good reminder of why I love him.
He is just [bleep] awesome.
- When the psychic started \htalking about dead people
and making everybody cry,
\h\h\h\h\h\hI was nervous about how this night was going to go,
but I nailed it. It feels great.
I’m on a comedy high.
I hope from here on, it’s just \h\h\hall party, turn up, sex.
Hopefully we can sneak \ha side chick in here
some way, somehow.
I doubt it, but let’s have fun \h\h\h\h\h\h\hwhile we’re here.
Please, no more dead people. \h\h\h\hI have no complaints.
\h- Ow! - Yeah!
- So why do we have a lack of passion?
- Sometimes I drop the ball.
- Do you regret getting married so soon?
I want to feel less of a mother and more of a wife.
- Continue to show me how it is that you want to be loved.
- I can definitely tell you things
that I know you should be doing.
- I'll always be an alpha female.
I don't want to be that, or I could have stayed single.
- You want to have a really deep down,
dark conversation with me, yeah.
- Have you been entertaining bitches
since you filed for divorce?
Where'd you meet them?
- I am a certified sexologist. - I don't need no sex class.
I got four kids. I know how to have sex.
- You gonna get [indistinct]. - No, I'm not.
- Is he eating off your toes?
- You messing it up for us over here.
- Let's go, Mike!
- There you go, Mike. That's what I'm talking about.