1 00:00:01,201 --> 00:00:02,469 - Previously, on "Couples Retreat"... 2 00:00:02,536 --> 00:00:04,071 If you didn't know before now 3 00:00:04,137 --> 00:00:06,340 that I'm here to give you the real deal, 4 00:00:06,406 --> 00:00:07,741 you're gonna learn tonight. 5 00:00:07,808 --> 00:00:10,577 - We are here to reconnect, work through our issues, 6 00:00:10,644 --> 00:00:13,447 and remember why we fell in love in the first place. 7 00:00:13,514 --> 00:00:16,183 - Don't try to make me look like a bad person. 8 00:00:16,250 --> 00:00:19,052 I don't give a [bleep] about what nobody thinks. 9 00:00:19,119 --> 00:00:20,921 It's my woman 10 00:00:20,988 --> 00:00:22,890 trying to sabotage me. 11 00:00:22,956 --> 00:00:25,292 - You gotta stop walking away when the conversation... 12 00:00:25,359 --> 00:00:26,627 That's the childish [bleep], Ray J. 13 00:00:26,693 --> 00:00:28,128 - No. This conversation's over for me. 14 00:00:28,195 --> 00:00:29,897 - Running away again. 15 00:00:29,963 --> 00:00:31,131 - Don't talk down to me 16 00:00:31,198 --> 00:00:33,534 and make me feel like I'm a child. 17 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:36,537 - Yo, you got time to post these pictures, 18 00:00:36,603 --> 00:00:38,605 but you ain't got time to send me a email. 19 00:00:38,672 --> 00:00:40,541 - No, I understand. I was definitely in that place. 20 00:00:40,607 --> 00:00:42,776 But then, you have to get to a point of when you say, 21 00:00:42,843 --> 00:00:45,979 "You know what? I gotta let that stuff go." 22 00:00:46,046 --> 00:00:48,815 - But you always try to pick chicks with no ass, no body. 23 00:00:48,882 --> 00:00:51,451 - No, I always try to pick chicks that are classy. 24 00:00:51,518 --> 00:00:53,086 - Classy? We trying to marry this bitch? 25 00:00:53,153 --> 00:00:55,422 - No, but I gotta spend time with her. 26 00:00:55,489 --> 00:00:57,858 - Like, we're here. We're stuck here. 27 00:00:57,925 --> 00:00:59,326 - We're stuck? 28 00:00:59,393 --> 00:01:00,961 - What is it that you want? 29 00:01:01,061 --> 00:01:03,964 - I just want to tighten up this relationship a little. 30 00:01:04,064 --> 00:01:06,099 - If you're saying I have to cut off all the bitches, 31 00:01:06,166 --> 00:01:07,467 then I'm like-- then I'ma start lying. 32 00:01:07,534 --> 00:01:09,770 It's cheating, and that's what I'm trying to avoid. 33 00:01:09,837 --> 00:01:12,372 - You would say, like, "You could leave." 34 00:01:12,439 --> 00:01:13,941 That was offensive. 35 00:01:14,074 --> 00:01:16,310 If the roles were reversed, would you hold me down? 36 00:01:16,376 --> 00:01:18,412 - You know, I don't know what I will be able to do. 37 00:01:18,478 --> 00:01:20,214 - And that's a problem. 38 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:22,382 [dramatic musical sting] 39 00:01:22,449 --> 00:01:23,851 [Mary J. Blige's "Real Love" playing] 40 00:01:23,917 --> 00:01:26,854 - [vocalizing] 41 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:33,827 ♪ ♪ 42 00:01:40,434 --> 00:01:41,268 - ♪ Aye, aye, aye, aye ♪ 43 00:01:43,220 --> 00:01:46,156 ♪ ♪ 44 00:01:46,223 --> 00:01:48,392 ♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh ♪ 45 00:01:48,458 --> 00:01:51,261 ♪ Ooh, aye, aye ♪ 46 00:01:51,328 --> 00:01:53,897 - What do you love about our relationship? 47 00:01:53,964 --> 00:01:56,600 - ♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh ♪ 48 00:01:56,666 --> 00:02:00,203 - I love that we can spend all day together 49 00:02:00,270 --> 00:02:02,572 and never get tired of each other. 50 00:02:05,642 --> 00:02:07,644 - I feel like I can just wrap up in your arms, 51 00:02:07,711 --> 00:02:10,013 and you're like dad and husband. 52 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:11,381 - Did you call me Daddy? 53 00:02:11,448 --> 00:02:12,916 - No, zaddy. [both laugh] 54 00:02:12,983 --> 00:02:14,551 - ♪ Then you're left in the dust ♪ 55 00:02:14,618 --> 00:02:18,288 - Why did you choose me to be your wife? 56 00:02:18,355 --> 00:02:20,323 - ♪ I think your love would be too much ♪ 57 00:02:20,390 --> 00:02:22,325 ♪ Or you'll be left in the dust ♪ 58 00:02:22,392 --> 00:02:25,095 - Oh, that's... You want the honest answer? 59 00:02:25,162 --> 00:02:26,596 - 'Cause I ain't want [bleep]? 60 00:02:26,663 --> 00:02:29,132 - [laughs] 61 00:02:29,199 --> 00:02:30,967 - How we grew up, 62 00:02:31,034 --> 00:02:32,202 we didn't have much. 63 00:02:32,269 --> 00:02:33,670 - We had nothing. 64 00:02:33,737 --> 00:02:34,805 - We struggled. 65 00:02:34,871 --> 00:02:37,240 - You bring, like, order to my life. 66 00:02:37,307 --> 00:02:39,076 You kind of, like, give me, like, structure. 67 00:02:39,142 --> 00:02:40,877 - I didn't choose you to be my husband. 68 00:02:40,944 --> 00:02:43,313 - I chose yo ass. - [laughs] 69 00:02:43,380 --> 00:02:46,116 - ♪ You're the sunflower ♪ 70 00:02:46,183 --> 00:02:48,085 ♪ You're the sunflower ♪ 71 00:02:48,151 --> 00:02:50,954 ♪ ♪ 72 00:02:51,021 --> 00:02:52,956 - Betrayed. 73 00:02:53,023 --> 00:02:54,391 [sighs] I just-- 74 00:02:54,458 --> 00:02:57,961 I don't understand why we're even here. 75 00:02:58,028 --> 00:03:00,764 What's the point? 76 00:03:00,831 --> 00:03:02,099 - Miss AJ. 77 00:03:02,165 --> 00:03:03,633 Like, 78 00:03:03,700 --> 00:03:05,769 I'm not even thinking about you. 79 00:03:05,836 --> 00:03:06,837 It wasn't about you. 80 00:03:09,473 --> 00:03:11,708 - Wow. [bleep] can be bad for everybody. 81 00:03:11,775 --> 00:03:14,745 It might look good sometimes, but then, you realize, like, 82 00:03:14,811 --> 00:03:16,380 everything ain't perfect. 83 00:03:16,446 --> 00:03:20,617 - Women always just want to talk, talk, talk, talk. 84 00:03:20,650 --> 00:03:22,386 I just want to [bleep] and go to sleep. 85 00:03:22,452 --> 00:03:24,454 - We trying to get to the root of the problem. 86 00:03:24,521 --> 00:03:25,989 Calling me childish, and immature, 87 00:03:26,056 --> 00:03:28,658 and [bleep] like that, that ain't gonna get it with me. 88 00:03:28,725 --> 00:03:31,328 You know, just 'cause I look like I'm a child 89 00:03:31,395 --> 00:03:34,364 don't mean that I'm a child. 90 00:03:34,431 --> 00:03:37,000 - We're supposed to be partners. 91 00:03:37,067 --> 00:03:39,002 Or-- 92 00:03:39,069 --> 00:03:42,239 I don't know what we are right now. 93 00:03:42,305 --> 00:03:46,610 I'm just tired of... 94 00:03:46,676 --> 00:03:49,312 not knowing. 95 00:03:49,379 --> 00:03:52,315 [dramatic music] 96 00:03:52,382 --> 00:03:56,753 ♪ ♪ 97 00:03:56,820 --> 00:03:57,854 - What's good? 98 00:03:57,921 --> 00:03:59,589 - [sighs] 99 00:03:59,623 --> 00:04:00,991 So after the Ring of Fire, 100 00:04:01,058 --> 00:04:02,292 Mendeecees felt a way. 101 00:04:02,359 --> 00:04:05,228 He felt like I put him on front street, 102 00:04:05,295 --> 00:04:07,130 and I was going in on him. 103 00:04:07,197 --> 00:04:08,465 Nobody that's your woman 104 00:04:08,598 --> 00:04:10,500 wants to feel like they're easy to get over. 105 00:04:10,600 --> 00:04:12,669 I want for better or for worse. 106 00:04:12,736 --> 00:04:15,205 Going in, you talking about letters, 107 00:04:15,272 --> 00:04:16,907 and I didn't do enough. 108 00:04:16,973 --> 00:04:19,209 And I let Mendeecees get everything off his chest, 109 00:04:19,276 --> 00:04:21,411 but I woke up with a few things to say. 110 00:04:21,478 --> 00:04:23,714 So last night-- - So about last night. 111 00:04:23,780 --> 00:04:27,484 I didn't mean to offend you in no type of way. 112 00:04:27,617 --> 00:04:30,787 But for a while, you made me feel like 113 00:04:30,854 --> 00:04:34,858 everything else in your life was more important than me. 114 00:04:34,925 --> 00:04:36,226 Life stops for me, 115 00:04:36,293 --> 00:04:38,195 but it keeps going for y'all on the outside. 116 00:04:38,261 --> 00:04:39,763 - [clears throat] 117 00:04:39,830 --> 00:04:43,033 - Yandy held things down while I was away in prison, 118 00:04:43,100 --> 00:04:45,736 but I also think Yandy got lost 119 00:04:45,802 --> 00:04:49,606 in holding things down, and forgot about me. 120 00:04:49,673 --> 00:04:51,842 I never bring these things up on how I felt, 121 00:04:51,908 --> 00:04:53,043 but [bleep] it. 122 00:04:53,110 --> 00:04:54,745 Yandy want to talk about these issues 123 00:04:54,811 --> 00:04:56,580 and want everybody else to talk about it, 124 00:04:56,580 --> 00:04:58,582 so let's talk about it. 125 00:04:58,582 --> 00:05:02,219 When I see my daughter first steps on the visiting floor, 126 00:05:02,285 --> 00:05:03,787 you know how that made me feel? 127 00:05:03,854 --> 00:05:06,223 That I wasn't there to hold her hand, on her first steps? 128 00:05:06,289 --> 00:05:07,591 Life goes on. 129 00:05:07,657 --> 00:05:08,859 Not for you, 130 00:05:08,925 --> 00:05:10,660 but for the people that's on the other side. 131 00:05:10,727 --> 00:05:13,030 - Well, but let me tell you about the other side, right? 132 00:05:13,096 --> 00:05:14,664 You looked at things from the-- 133 00:05:14,731 --> 00:05:18,502 what you thought it was like in my shoes. 134 00:05:18,602 --> 00:05:21,238 I went through a horrible depression. 135 00:05:21,304 --> 00:05:22,706 It got so bad, 136 00:05:22,773 --> 00:05:26,643 I couldn't even feed Omere for two, three weeks, 137 00:05:26,710 --> 00:05:28,445 because I couldn't produce milk. 138 00:05:28,512 --> 00:05:30,280 Because I was so 139 00:05:30,347 --> 00:05:33,850 extremely hurt. 140 00:05:33,917 --> 00:05:35,419 Parent-teacher nights? 141 00:05:35,485 --> 00:05:39,089 Every single parent-teacher night, I cried. 142 00:05:39,156 --> 00:05:40,624 [strained] Every one of them. 143 00:05:40,624 --> 00:05:42,926 It was hard going in there, seeing 144 00:05:42,993 --> 00:05:44,995 mom and dad holding hands, 145 00:05:45,062 --> 00:05:47,597 and then, going to Christmas performances, 146 00:05:47,664 --> 00:05:49,833 and I'm sitting there by myself. 147 00:05:52,969 --> 00:05:55,872 It might not sound like a big deal to you, 148 00:05:55,939 --> 00:05:57,374 but I felt lonely. 149 00:05:57,441 --> 00:06:01,211 My kids didn't deserve to 150 00:06:01,278 --> 00:06:02,813 not have you there with them, 151 00:06:02,879 --> 00:06:04,948 because even though I was sitting there, 152 00:06:05,015 --> 00:06:08,452 I wasn't mentally there. 153 00:06:08,585 --> 00:06:10,987 I was embarrassed. 154 00:06:11,054 --> 00:06:13,824 The teachers is like, "Oh, when is Dad gonna come in?" 155 00:06:13,890 --> 00:06:16,059 And I'm like, "He works nights." 156 00:06:16,126 --> 00:06:17,594 My babies, even to this day, 157 00:06:17,661 --> 00:06:20,063 think that they were going to visit Dad at work. 158 00:06:20,130 --> 00:06:22,666 Like, that is hard. 159 00:06:22,733 --> 00:06:25,135 Really hard. 160 00:06:25,202 --> 00:06:27,437 Those pictures you saw me posting 161 00:06:27,504 --> 00:06:30,807 was me looking and acting like I'm good, I'm okay. 162 00:06:30,874 --> 00:06:33,744 But I was broken. I felt alone. 163 00:06:33,810 --> 00:06:36,279 I felt like I didn't have my best friend, 164 00:06:36,346 --> 00:06:38,982 and I had to become a single mother. 165 00:06:39,049 --> 00:06:41,551 So when you would complain about emails, 166 00:06:41,618 --> 00:06:43,787 I'm like, yo, that's some petty-ass [bleep]. 167 00:06:43,854 --> 00:06:46,656 - To you. 168 00:06:46,723 --> 00:06:48,892 Listen, you was going through what you was going through 169 00:06:48,959 --> 00:06:50,427 on your end, and I was going through 170 00:06:50,560 --> 00:06:53,563 what I was going through on my end. 171 00:06:53,597 --> 00:06:55,799 I came home, and you think, 172 00:06:55,866 --> 00:06:57,134 voilà. 173 00:06:57,200 --> 00:06:59,569 Sup is going back to normal. 174 00:06:59,636 --> 00:07:03,040 I came home in a pandemic. 175 00:07:03,106 --> 00:07:05,308 Everything--technology changed. 176 00:07:05,375 --> 00:07:06,843 Kids grew on me. 177 00:07:06,910 --> 00:07:08,478 I left, they was babies. 178 00:07:08,578 --> 00:07:11,314 I come back, they like little grown people. 179 00:07:11,381 --> 00:07:12,916 I'm scared to discipline 'em 180 00:07:12,983 --> 00:07:15,218 because I'm trying to win 'em back over, 181 00:07:15,285 --> 00:07:17,854 I'm trying to love them-- - Right. 182 00:07:17,921 --> 00:07:19,990 - So you gotta understand-- - So you just said it, right? 183 00:07:20,057 --> 00:07:22,693 The kids, you do everything they want. 184 00:07:22,759 --> 00:07:23,994 Anytime. 185 00:07:24,061 --> 00:07:26,430 You spend every hour making the kids happy. 186 00:07:26,496 --> 00:07:27,998 Why your guilt don't make you feel like 187 00:07:28,065 --> 00:07:30,634 you gotta do it for me? 188 00:07:30,701 --> 00:07:32,202 That you never felt like you just wanted 189 00:07:32,269 --> 00:07:35,405 to do something for me, just to make me happy? 190 00:07:35,472 --> 00:07:37,040 Little things. 191 00:07:37,107 --> 00:07:39,509 "Take a night off. I'ma cook dinner tonight." 192 00:07:39,609 --> 00:07:40,877 - So you're saying that never happened? 193 00:07:40,944 --> 00:07:42,612 - No. Never. It's never happened. 194 00:07:42,679 --> 00:07:44,548 - I don't know what world you living in today, 195 00:07:44,581 --> 00:07:46,383 because now you're saying that never happened. 196 00:07:46,450 --> 00:07:48,085 All right. - You cooked dinner for me? 197 00:07:48,151 --> 00:07:49,553 A dinner that I love? 198 00:07:49,619 --> 00:07:52,389 - I don't know how to cook, but I order. 199 00:07:52,456 --> 00:07:55,659 - It's not about ordering. That's easy. 200 00:07:55,726 --> 00:07:57,594 You're not listening. You're being defensive. 201 00:07:57,661 --> 00:07:59,463 - 'Cause you started talking about a bunch of stuff 202 00:07:59,563 --> 00:08:01,198 that I don't-- - And I listened to you. 203 00:08:01,264 --> 00:08:03,934 - All right. Yo, I'm ready for this to be over. 204 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:06,937 [tense music] 205 00:08:07,003 --> 00:08:09,606 ♪ ♪ 206 00:08:09,673 --> 00:08:12,576 [upbeat music] 207 00:08:12,642 --> 00:08:19,783 ♪ ♪ 208 00:08:19,850 --> 00:08:21,118 - Hey, girl. 209 00:08:21,184 --> 00:08:22,352 - Hey, mama. 210 00:08:22,419 --> 00:08:23,987 - That's where you've been hiding? 211 00:08:24,054 --> 00:08:26,156 - I told you. Remember I said they got this neat little area? 212 00:08:26,223 --> 00:08:28,592 - I know. - Hi. How are you? 213 00:08:28,592 --> 00:08:30,327 - I've been meaning to talk to you. 214 00:08:30,394 --> 00:08:31,695 - Let's jump on a bike, 215 00:08:31,762 --> 00:08:35,265 so we can get some cardio and talk. 216 00:08:35,332 --> 00:08:37,801 [laughs] 217 00:08:37,868 --> 00:08:41,405 - I decided that I wanted to talk to AJ privately, 218 00:08:41,538 --> 00:08:44,775 because I wanted to talk about 219 00:08:44,841 --> 00:08:47,711 what happened in the Ring of Fire. 220 00:08:47,778 --> 00:08:51,081 When we had gotten into this relationship, 221 00:08:51,148 --> 00:08:53,583 he did specify to me, in the beginning, 222 00:08:53,650 --> 00:08:56,219 that he didn't want 223 00:08:56,286 --> 00:08:58,288 to be with just one woman. 224 00:08:58,355 --> 00:09:01,291 From the beginning, our contract was very vague 225 00:09:01,358 --> 00:09:02,659 with the side bitches. 226 00:09:02,726 --> 00:09:05,595 But in my mind, as we evolved, 227 00:09:05,662 --> 00:09:07,164 I thought he would get past that. 228 00:09:07,230 --> 00:09:09,566 And every time I bring it up to him, 229 00:09:09,566 --> 00:09:11,001 he makes a joke. 230 00:09:11,068 --> 00:09:13,470 - Her biggest fantasy is 231 00:09:13,570 --> 00:09:16,273 watching me [bleep] another woman. 232 00:09:16,339 --> 00:09:17,641 It is called [bleep] swap. 233 00:09:17,708 --> 00:09:19,576 - I'm sorry. I'm sorry. 234 00:09:19,609 --> 00:09:20,977 I'm sorry. [laughter] 235 00:09:21,044 --> 00:09:22,279 - [bleep] Swap. Look it up. 236 00:09:22,345 --> 00:09:23,947 - Shut up! [laughs] 237 00:09:24,014 --> 00:09:27,150 Yes. I love [bleep] swap. 238 00:09:27,217 --> 00:09:28,919 It's a fantasy, okay? 239 00:09:28,985 --> 00:09:31,588 The fantasy ends, and real life begin. 240 00:09:31,655 --> 00:09:34,858 I'm ready for real life now. 241 00:09:34,925 --> 00:09:37,327 - Why are you really in this relationship? 242 00:09:37,394 --> 00:09:40,731 - It's so hard to find someone 243 00:09:40,797 --> 00:09:43,934 that has the same type of spirit 244 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:46,636 as you, and-- - I agree. 245 00:09:46,703 --> 00:09:49,840 - And he brings excitement to my life. 246 00:09:49,906 --> 00:09:51,875 - You can have that without the commitment. 247 00:09:51,942 --> 00:09:54,678 He loves it without the commitment. 248 00:09:54,745 --> 00:09:56,680 - I guess I want him 249 00:09:56,747 --> 00:09:58,749 to focus on us. 250 00:09:58,815 --> 00:10:00,283 - And what does that mean? 251 00:10:00,350 --> 00:10:03,253 - And give me all of him. 252 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:05,989 - Devil's advocate, okay? 253 00:10:06,056 --> 00:10:08,859 "I'm giving you all of me. I just have my dick everywhere. 254 00:10:08,925 --> 00:10:10,927 "I trust you. I love you. 255 00:10:10,994 --> 00:10:12,863 You're here with me on this." - Mm-hmm. 256 00:10:12,929 --> 00:10:15,565 - "I'm asking you to move in. What more do you want from me?" 257 00:10:15,632 --> 00:10:17,100 - That's exactly what he says. 258 00:10:17,167 --> 00:10:19,970 - Duh! I know. That's what I'm saying. 259 00:10:20,037 --> 00:10:22,205 To him, he's giving you commitment. 260 00:10:22,272 --> 00:10:24,441 He's telling you what his commitment looks like. 261 00:10:24,574 --> 00:10:27,577 If it's not enough for you, then you've gotta say that. 262 00:10:27,577 --> 00:10:28,945 First to yourself. - Mm-hmm. 263 00:10:29,012 --> 00:10:32,149 - And then, it's easier to say to him. 264 00:10:32,215 --> 00:10:34,251 Are you afraid that 265 00:10:34,317 --> 00:10:38,155 taking care of yourself means you have to sacrifice him? 266 00:10:40,657 --> 00:10:42,759 - Um... 267 00:10:42,826 --> 00:10:45,696 To be honest, yes. 268 00:10:45,762 --> 00:10:48,231 - And that's a dangerous, dangerous 269 00:10:48,298 --> 00:10:51,868 self-agreement to make. 270 00:10:51,935 --> 00:10:54,905 I'm not sure why Rada is in this relationship still. 271 00:10:54,971 --> 00:10:56,873 I'm not sure yet if it's self-esteem. 272 00:10:56,940 --> 00:10:59,042 I'm not sure if she just really loves Michael 273 00:10:59,109 --> 00:11:00,444 and she's waiting. 274 00:11:00,544 --> 00:11:02,779 A lot of women wait to see if it's gonna change. 275 00:11:02,846 --> 00:11:04,047 You can't wait. 276 00:11:04,114 --> 00:11:05,615 You can't date 277 00:11:05,682 --> 00:11:07,851 and get into a serious relationship with potential. 278 00:11:07,918 --> 00:11:09,052 You have to deal with what it is. 279 00:11:09,119 --> 00:11:12,622 Right now, what it is, is very open. 280 00:11:12,689 --> 00:11:14,825 You have to make the decision of what you want, 281 00:11:14,891 --> 00:11:16,827 and then go to him, and say, 282 00:11:16,893 --> 00:11:19,863 "Here it is. Can we do this or not?" 283 00:11:22,699 --> 00:11:24,401 all: Hey! Hey! Hey! 284 00:11:24,468 --> 00:11:25,802 - I can't do that! 285 00:11:25,869 --> 00:11:28,038 - I'm like, "What you heard about me, 286 00:11:28,105 --> 00:11:30,307 I'm about to show you that that [bleep] is real." 287 00:11:30,374 --> 00:11:32,776 all: Hey. 288 00:11:32,843 --> 00:11:35,345 - Each of you, are you in love, 289 00:11:35,412 --> 00:11:37,981 or do you just simply love her? 290 00:11:38,048 --> 00:11:39,683 - All us guys, we have an assignment 291 00:11:39,750 --> 00:11:41,418 to reenact our first date. 292 00:11:41,585 --> 00:11:43,153 - Taking my jacket? - Yes. 293 00:11:43,220 --> 00:11:45,689 - I don't want us to keep going down this dark road 294 00:11:45,756 --> 00:11:47,024 of disrespect. 295 00:11:47,090 --> 00:11:49,259 - Do you want to get a divorce? - I'm tired. 296 00:11:53,621 --> 00:11:55,588 {\an7}- ♪ Aye ♪ 297 00:11:55,588 --> 00:11:57,852 {\an7}♪ Look, no shoes, no whip, no bag ♪ 298 00:11:57,852 --> 00:12:00,720 {\an7}♪ Every time you see her, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hshe bad ♪ 299 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:01,786 {\an7}- I’ma help my host, 300 00:12:01,786 --> 00:12:03,060 {\an7}\h’cause my baby been doing it all for us, 301 00:12:03,060 --> 00:12:06,027 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hso I’ma go ahead and get you some more drinks, okay? 302 00:12:06,027 --> 00:12:08,687 {\an7}Plus, I want to move my butt \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\ha little bit. 303 00:12:08,687 --> 00:12:10,258 {\an7}[all cheering] 304 00:12:10,258 --> 00:12:11,687 {\an7}\h- ♪ Work, work, girl go to work ♪ 305 00:12:11,687 --> 00:12:14,489 {\an7}- This time for all the girls \h\hto get together and talk 306 00:12:14,489 --> 00:12:18,522 {\an7}is the best thing ever, because \hit’s really, really important 307 00:12:18,522 --> 00:12:21,555 {\an7}to balance out the deep, \h\hdeep soul excavation 308 00:12:21,555 --> 00:12:23,555 {\an7}of the relationship stuff \h\h\h\h\h\hand the fun. 309 00:12:23,555 --> 00:12:26,093 {\an7}We’re all in this together, and we’re all here to help. 310 00:12:26,093 --> 00:12:27,961 {\an7}all: Cheers. \h\h\h- Yas. 311 00:12:27,961 --> 00:12:29,918 {\an7}- ♪ I was raised by the wolves ♪ 312 00:12:29,918 --> 00:12:31,225 {\an7}♪ Ate till they full ♪ 313 00:12:31,225 --> 00:12:33,192 {\an7}♪ Run through the night ♪ 314 00:12:33,192 --> 00:12:36,654 {\an7}- Yeah, just grape juice \h\h\h\h\h\hfor me, man. 315 00:12:38,489 --> 00:12:39,555 {\an7}- [laughs] 316 00:12:39,555 --> 00:12:41,753 {\an7}- I’ma be lit. 317 00:12:41,753 --> 00:12:44,852 {\an7}\h\h\h\hI needed that for the Ring of Fire. 318 00:12:44,852 --> 00:12:46,918 {\an7}\h[bleep]. [laughter] 319 00:12:46,918 --> 00:12:48,192 {\an7}Yesterday was crazy. 320 00:12:48,192 --> 00:12:50,126 {\an7}- The Ring of Fire was hot? 321 00:12:50,126 --> 00:12:51,522 {\an7}- That [bleep] was hot. 322 00:12:51,522 --> 00:12:53,093 {\an7}This week is starting \h\h\hto be something 323 00:12:53,093 --> 00:12:56,852 {\an7}\hthat I didn’t plan on, and it’s digging deep into things 324 00:12:56,852 --> 00:12:59,027 {\an7}that I did not want to relive. 325 00:12:59,027 --> 00:13:00,159 {\an7}And yeah, Rasheeda is tense, 326 00:13:00,159 --> 00:13:04,159 {\an7}\h\h\hand I just don’t want to start nothing right now. 327 00:13:04,159 --> 00:13:05,753 {\an7}I ain’t seen Ray J today. 328 00:13:05,753 --> 00:13:07,918 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hYou talk to him? - No, I ain’t talk to him. 329 00:13:07,918 --> 00:13:08,961 {\an7}- You know, I just--you know, 330 00:13:08,961 --> 00:13:12,786 {\an7}let him just calm himself down, \h\h\h\h’cause, I mean, he’s... 331 00:13:17,885 --> 00:13:19,126 {\an7}They’re not gonna \hlisten to you. 332 00:13:19,126 --> 00:13:20,093 {\an7}- Gotta let him cool down too. 333 00:13:20,093 --> 00:13:21,994 {\an7}\h\h\h- When you heated, you know, you might not-- 334 00:13:21,994 --> 00:13:24,786 {\an7}- Yeah, you can’t \hthink straight. 335 00:13:27,753 --> 00:13:28,819 {\an7}[laughter] 336 00:13:28,819 --> 00:13:31,159 {\an7}Got us over here explaining \h\hour hearts and [bleep]. 337 00:13:31,159 --> 00:13:34,258 {\an7}I didn’t know I had a heart, \h\h\h\h\h\huntil yesterday. 338 00:13:34,258 --> 00:13:34,918 {\an7}[laughter] 339 00:13:34,918 --> 00:13:37,654 {\an7}- Baby girl over there. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hYou. 340 00:13:37,654 --> 00:13:40,324 {\an7}\h\h\hWhat’s the tea on this Gucci store? 341 00:13:40,324 --> 00:13:42,291 {\an7}Yes. Situation, baby? \h\h\h\h\h- Oh, snap. 342 00:13:42,291 --> 00:13:45,324 {\an7}\h- When we first started getting into each other, 343 00:13:45,324 --> 00:13:46,753 {\an7}that was, like, so dope. 344 00:13:46,753 --> 00:13:48,786 {\an7}We had sex in the dressing room 345 00:13:48,786 --> 00:13:50,885 {\an7}at the Gucci store. 346 00:13:50,885 --> 00:13:53,357 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hSo he has this personal shopper. 347 00:13:53,357 --> 00:13:55,961 {\an7}So he just saw me kind of \h\hbeing, like, playful, 348 00:13:55,961 --> 00:13:58,159 {\an7}and touching him, and stuff, \h\h\h\hso he just was like, 349 00:13:58,159 --> 00:13:59,961 {\an7}"You know nobody come back here \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hbut me? 350 00:13:59,961 --> 00:14:01,060 {\an7}I’m your personal shopper." 351 00:14:01,060 --> 00:14:03,852 {\an7}- No, he didn’t give you \h\h\h\h\hthe alley-oop. 352 00:14:03,852 --> 00:14:05,126 {\an7}- Boom, so I’m like, 353 00:14:05,126 --> 00:14:08,060 {\an7}"What you heard about me, \h\hI’m about to show you 354 00:14:08,060 --> 00:14:10,291 {\an7}"that that [bleep] is real \h\h\hwhen I want it to be. 355 00:14:10,291 --> 00:14:11,621 {\an7}And I want it to be right now." 356 00:14:11,621 --> 00:14:13,961 {\an7}\h\hHe like, "But no. We’re in the store." 357 00:14:13,961 --> 00:14:16,961 {\an7}And the door is closed. - So you initiated it? 358 00:14:16,961 --> 00:14:17,819 {\an7}- Hell yes! 359 00:14:17,819 --> 00:14:20,961 {\an7}\h\h\h\hIt’s no secret that I am seen as a sex symbol. 360 00:14:20,961 --> 00:14:21,654 {\an7}I get it. 361 00:14:21,654 --> 00:14:24,621 {\an7}I know the perception, ’cause \h\hI created the perception. 362 00:14:24,621 --> 00:14:25,918 {\an7}- ♪ I want you to know ♪ 363 00:14:25,918 --> 00:14:27,687 {\an7}♪ You drive me crazy ♪ 364 00:14:27,687 --> 00:14:31,291 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h- However, I am that good in bed. 365 00:14:31,291 --> 00:14:31,852 {\an7}[laughs] 366 00:14:31,852 --> 00:14:33,027 {\an7}About a month later, \h\h\h\hhe was like, 367 00:14:33,027 --> 00:14:35,819 {\an7}\h"Will you marry me?" I was like, "Um, sure!" 368 00:14:35,819 --> 00:14:37,654 {\an7}- You knew what you was doing, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hhoney! 369 00:14:37,654 --> 00:14:38,961 {\an7}- Now that we’re married, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hthough, 370 00:14:38,961 --> 00:14:42,027 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hit’s a robotic, systematic type of love. 371 00:14:42,027 --> 00:14:44,258 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah. - Raymond is amazing. 372 00:14:44,258 --> 00:14:46,994 {\an7}The most amazing husband ever. 373 00:14:46,994 --> 00:14:48,885 {\an7}\h\h\h\hAnd we’ve had the perfect marriage, 374 00:14:48,885 --> 00:14:51,126 {\an7}except in this one department. 375 00:14:51,126 --> 00:14:53,885 {\an7}\hIn the beginning, we were so hot and heavy sexually. 376 00:14:53,885 --> 00:14:56,291 {\an7}Like, we were just, like, \h\h\hgetting it popping. 377 00:14:56,291 --> 00:14:58,852 {\an7}But then, when you had me, 378 00:14:58,852 --> 00:15:00,994 {\an7}all of the passion \h\h\hand that type 379 00:15:00,994 --> 00:15:03,819 {\an7}of, you know, special feeling \h\h\h\h\h\hthat made me just 380 00:15:03,819 --> 00:15:06,390 {\an7}feel so, like, ready-- 381 00:15:06,390 --> 00:15:07,720 {\an7}that just stopped. 382 00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:11,852 {\an7}Um, I want him to naturally \htake over the situation, 383 00:15:11,852 --> 00:15:12,687 {\an7}you know what I’m saying? 384 00:15:12,687 --> 00:15:15,192 {\an7}Like a "Sex and the City" \h\h\h\h\h\hMr. Big type, 385 00:15:15,192 --> 00:15:16,994 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\hin control at the end of the day. 386 00:15:16,994 --> 00:15:18,258 {\an7}You know, he get it together. 387 00:15:18,258 --> 00:15:20,126 {\an7}I’m the initiator \hand aggressive 388 00:15:20,126 --> 00:15:21,357 {\an7}when it comes down to sex. 389 00:15:21,357 --> 00:15:22,159 {\an7}It gets exhausting. 390 00:15:22,159 --> 00:15:25,390 {\an7}\h\hI just want him to be the captain and thrill me. 391 00:15:25,390 --> 00:15:26,159 {\an7}Be spontaneous. 392 00:15:26,159 --> 00:15:29,753 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\hTo take charge and become the alpha male. 393 00:15:29,753 --> 00:15:32,225 {\an7}- I love that you’re \hgoing deep with it. 394 00:15:32,225 --> 00:15:33,159 {\an7}You have to! 395 00:15:33,159 --> 00:15:36,192 {\an7}You guys gotta remember, \h\h\hwe a lot, you know? 396 00:15:36,192 --> 00:15:37,357 {\an7}And what we’re attracted to-- 397 00:15:37,357 --> 00:15:41,786 {\an7}\h\h\hyou know, men can be very smart, intelligent, successful. 398 00:15:41,786 --> 00:15:43,885 {\an7}But mentality-wise, \h\hit can be basic 399 00:15:43,885 --> 00:15:46,994 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hcompared to all the complexities we are. 400 00:15:47,852 --> 00:15:49,357 {\an7}- What’s up, guys? \h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yo. 401 00:15:49,357 --> 00:15:50,720 {\an7}\h\hWhat’s up, man? - What’s going on? 402 00:15:50,720 --> 00:15:52,390 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yes, sir. - What’s up? What’s up, man? 403 00:15:52,390 --> 00:15:53,961 {\an7}- What’s going on? \hWhat’s up, Kirk? 404 00:15:53,961 --> 00:15:55,093 {\an7}- What’s up, sir? \h\hHow are you? 405 00:15:55,093 --> 00:15:56,324 {\an7}- So this is my friend, Dr. K. 406 00:15:56,324 --> 00:15:58,159 {\an7}That’s Kirk right there. \h\h- Yes, sir. Yes, sir. 407 00:15:58,159 --> 00:15:59,885 {\an7}- So listen, about last night, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hright? 408 00:15:59,885 --> 00:16:01,961 {\an7}I thought it was kind of unfair 409 00:16:01,961 --> 00:16:06,093 {\an7}\h\h\hthat we always hearing some perspectives of a woman. 410 00:16:06,093 --> 00:16:08,159 {\an7}So now, I brought Dr. K. 411 00:16:08,159 --> 00:16:11,885 {\an7}\h\h\h\hHe’s the expertise in, you know, helping men, 412 00:16:11,885 --> 00:16:12,885 {\an7}putting a mirror in front of them 413 00:16:12,885 --> 00:16:15,357 {\an7}and helping them see things \h\h\hthat they don’t see. 414 00:16:15,357 --> 00:16:17,961 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hSo Dr. K., man, you know, we struggling. 415 00:16:17,961 --> 00:16:19,159 {\an7}\h\h- Yeah, I heard. - It was tough, man. 416 00:16:19,159 --> 00:16:21,753 {\an7}\hOne of our fellas ran away. I wonder where he’s at, man. 417 00:16:21,753 --> 00:16:24,258 {\an7}Probably got ate up by a coyote \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hor something. 418 00:16:24,258 --> 00:16:26,324 {\an7}- Yandy and I got into it before, but it feel like 419 00:16:26,324 --> 00:16:29,225 {\an7}\h\h\hthere’s some big issues that we need to work through. 420 00:16:29,225 --> 00:16:31,357 {\an7}But after Yandy surprised us \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hwith AJ, 421 00:16:31,357 --> 00:16:33,225 {\an7}I looked up male coaches, 422 00:16:33,225 --> 00:16:34,852 {\an7}and Dr. K. came straight up. 423 00:16:34,852 --> 00:16:37,357 {\an7}On his page, he’s called \h\h\h\h\hthe mind doctor 424 00:16:37,357 --> 00:16:39,225 {\an7}\h\h’cause he deal with relationships 425 00:16:39,225 --> 00:16:41,225 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\hand he help men work through their issues. 426 00:16:41,225 --> 00:16:43,786 {\an7}And hopefully, you know, \h\hwe help each other. 427 00:16:43,786 --> 00:16:46,423 {\an7}- In Atlanta, I get together \h\hsometimes with brothers. 428 00:16:46,423 --> 00:16:47,961 {\an7}I do a little brother circle, 429 00:16:47,961 --> 00:16:49,852 {\an7}so we sit down, a little drink, 430 00:16:49,852 --> 00:16:52,027 {\an7}have some real conversations, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hand really, 431 00:16:52,027 --> 00:16:55,324 {\an7}uh, as a group, sometimes have to hold each other accountable. 432 00:16:55,324 --> 00:16:57,918 {\an7}Ain’t no therapy going on, \h\h\h\h\h\hbut at the end, 433 00:16:57,918 --> 00:16:59,522 {\an7}it’s very therapeutic. 434 00:16:59,522 --> 00:17:01,159 {\an7}- This guy looks like \h\h\h\ha combination 435 00:17:01,159 --> 00:17:05,291 {\an7}of every light-skinned singer \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hthat retired. 436 00:17:05,291 --> 00:17:06,885 {\an7}Al B. Sure! 437 00:17:06,885 --> 00:17:07,885 {\an7}Heavy D without the voice. 438 00:17:07,885 --> 00:17:10,555 {\an7}\h\h\h\hLionel Richie without the mustache. 439 00:17:10,555 --> 00:17:12,819 {\an7}\h\h\h\hNow, he about to give me advice on 440 00:17:12,819 --> 00:17:14,126 {\an7}how to keep my [bleep] \h\h\h\h\hin my pants. 441 00:17:14,126 --> 00:17:17,060 {\an7}- We came here to work \hon our relationship, 442 00:17:17,060 --> 00:17:19,918 {\an7}so we can go back as a whole. 443 00:17:19,918 --> 00:17:21,324 {\an7}\h\h\h\h- I want to hear about the relationships. 444 00:17:21,324 --> 00:17:23,324 {\an7}What’s your woman’s \h\hlove language? 445 00:17:23,324 --> 00:17:24,555 {\an7}What gets her to move? 446 00:17:24,555 --> 00:17:26,489 {\an7}- To be romantic. \h\h\h\h- Mm-hmm. 447 00:17:26,489 --> 00:17:29,390 {\an7}- She’s into the candles, 448 00:17:29,390 --> 00:17:30,588 {\an7}the soft music. 449 00:17:30,588 --> 00:17:33,885 {\an7}Open up doors, pull out chairs. 450 00:17:33,885 --> 00:17:37,291 {\an7}I thought being a protector, \hbeing a provider is enough. 451 00:17:37,291 --> 00:17:41,159 {\an7}You know, I’ve never been that romantic type of guy. 452 00:17:41,159 --> 00:17:42,159 {\an7}It’s gonna be challenging. 453 00:17:42,159 --> 00:17:45,126 {\an7}\h- What about you, Kirk? What you thinking about? 454 00:17:45,126 --> 00:17:47,489 {\an7}\h\h- No, I’m thinking about me and Rasheeda. 455 00:17:47,489 --> 00:17:49,456 {\an7}I listened to the things she was saying yesterday. 456 00:17:49,456 --> 00:17:54,489 {\an7}\h\hI was just feeling like I need to do less business. 457 00:17:55,225 --> 00:17:56,489 {\an7}We’ve been married 20 years. 458 00:17:56,489 --> 00:18:00,489 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hWe both got a lot of our savings into the business. 459 00:18:00,489 --> 00:18:01,390 {\an7}What do you want me to do? 460 00:18:01,390 --> 00:18:02,621 {\an7}We gonna get it, buy it, close it, 461 00:18:02,621 --> 00:18:05,192 {\an7}\h\htake all this money, put it down, and do what? 462 00:18:05,192 --> 00:18:05,961 {\an7}Sit at home? 463 00:18:05,961 --> 00:18:07,994 {\an7}If we start backing out now, 464 00:18:07,994 --> 00:18:10,192 {\an7}I mean, we can really get hurt. 465 00:18:10,192 --> 00:18:12,093 {\an7}Restaurants fail every day. 466 00:18:12,093 --> 00:18:13,291 {\an7}- I’m hearing work. 467 00:18:13,291 --> 00:18:14,489 {\an7}A lot of busy stuff, right? 468 00:18:14,489 --> 00:18:17,093 {\an7}But when was the last time \hy’all, just by yourself, 469 00:18:17,093 --> 00:18:18,093 {\an7}spent some quality time? 470 00:18:18,093 --> 00:18:20,654 {\an7}- Me and her be together \h\h\h\h\h\h\hevery day. 471 00:18:20,654 --> 00:18:21,588 {\an7}- I ain’t ask that. 472 00:18:21,588 --> 00:18:23,093 {\an7}Quality time. \h\h- [sighs] 473 00:18:23,093 --> 00:18:25,093 {\an7}\h- The question is, what do you do next? 474 00:18:25,093 --> 00:18:28,225 {\an7}\hSo each of you, are you in love, 475 00:18:28,225 --> 00:18:30,621 {\an7}or do you just simply love her? 476 00:18:31,291 --> 00:18:34,390 {\an7}- It’s like I’m trying \h\hto convince myself 477 00:18:34,390 --> 00:18:36,621 {\an7}so much that I don’t care. 478 00:18:36,621 --> 00:18:38,961 {\an7}- But, you know... 479 00:18:38,961 --> 00:18:40,159 {\an7}\hHey. - Hey. 480 00:18:40,159 --> 00:18:42,522 {\an7}\h\h\h- How you? - Yeah, I’m dope. 481 00:18:42,522 --> 00:18:44,390 {\an7}Hey, I gotta go. 482 00:18:49,602 --> 00:18:51,671 - Are you in love, 483 00:18:51,738 --> 00:18:53,940 or do you just simply love her? 484 00:18:55,775 --> 00:18:57,110 - I love her. I'm in love. 485 00:18:57,177 --> 00:18:59,979 I just feel like, you know, I can only give so much. 486 00:19:04,050 --> 00:19:05,919 - Well, my wife, she's a alpha female. 487 00:19:05,985 --> 00:19:08,288 She gets loud, boisterous, 488 00:19:08,354 --> 00:19:10,790 and so, being the man in the relationship, 489 00:19:10,857 --> 00:19:13,560 how do I bring it down, 490 00:19:13,626 --> 00:19:15,061 you know, as the husband? 491 00:19:15,128 --> 00:19:17,030 - I'm glad you said it, right? 'Cause here's the deal. 492 00:19:17,096 --> 00:19:20,133 As the head goes, so too shall the body, right? 493 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:21,601 So if you're flowing and positive, 494 00:19:21,668 --> 00:19:24,137 you have the right attitude, you're showing respect, 495 00:19:24,204 --> 00:19:25,438 what's gonna happen to her? 496 00:19:25,505 --> 00:19:28,374 The alpha personality you're talking about 497 00:19:28,441 --> 00:19:30,443 will come under this submission, because, yo, 498 00:19:30,510 --> 00:19:32,679 you know, the way you treat her, right? 499 00:19:32,745 --> 00:19:35,215 Again, if you're encouraging, if you give some affirmations, 500 00:19:35,281 --> 00:19:36,449 you won't have all the defiance 501 00:19:36,516 --> 00:19:38,318 or all the stuff you're seeing now. 502 00:19:38,384 --> 00:19:39,752 - I feel what Dr. K. is saying. 503 00:19:39,819 --> 00:19:41,621 And at times, I try to step in and be a man, 504 00:19:41,688 --> 00:19:43,957 but it's like she has a problem with that too. 505 00:19:44,023 --> 00:19:45,692 It's very challenging to try to communicate 506 00:19:45,758 --> 00:19:47,227 and get in sync with Deelishis, 507 00:19:47,293 --> 00:19:49,529 because I feel like we're stuck every time we try. 508 00:19:49,596 --> 00:19:51,764 - Listening to everybody talk, I don't think 509 00:19:51,831 --> 00:19:54,200 any of us grew up in a house 510 00:19:54,267 --> 00:19:57,003 with mommy and daddy, and watching 'em, 511 00:19:57,070 --> 00:19:58,338 how they treat each other. 512 00:19:58,404 --> 00:19:59,739 Did any of you guys have that? - No, no, no. 513 00:19:59,806 --> 00:20:01,574 - You didn't have that. You didn't have that. 514 00:20:01,641 --> 00:20:02,742 You? - Nah. Nah. 515 00:20:02,775 --> 00:20:04,344 - He left at a certain time, but 516 00:20:04,410 --> 00:20:06,613 I got a lot of father time, I would say. 517 00:20:06,746 --> 00:20:08,081 - I am from Africa. 518 00:20:08,147 --> 00:20:10,617 My mother left my dad. 519 00:20:10,750 --> 00:20:13,152 If you want to lose a particular parent, 520 00:20:13,219 --> 00:20:15,054 you just take the kids and change their last name. 521 00:20:15,121 --> 00:20:16,756 You could never find these mother[bleep]. 522 00:20:16,756 --> 00:20:17,924 - Right. - That's what my mom did. 523 00:20:17,991 --> 00:20:20,226 Took seven kids and changed our last name 524 00:20:20,293 --> 00:20:21,828 so that our dad could never find us. 525 00:20:21,895 --> 00:20:23,062 - Wow. 526 00:20:23,129 --> 00:20:24,464 - When he died, I just felt nothing 527 00:20:24,531 --> 00:20:26,266 because I didn't really know this guy, you know? 528 00:20:26,332 --> 00:20:28,835 So because I didn't see love around me, 529 00:20:28,902 --> 00:20:31,771 it's probably why I don't know how to show love back. 530 00:20:31,771 --> 00:20:33,006 - Either way, though, 531 00:20:33,072 --> 00:20:34,674 in your current relationship, the question is, 532 00:20:34,774 --> 00:20:38,178 what are you willing to do to keep it together? 533 00:20:38,244 --> 00:20:40,079 - Like I told 'em yesterday, 534 00:20:40,146 --> 00:20:41,681 I've never been faithful in my life. 535 00:20:41,781 --> 00:20:43,650 - I get it. That's how you were raised. 536 00:20:43,783 --> 00:20:45,785 That's how you've been trained. That's what you saw. 537 00:20:45,852 --> 00:20:47,453 That's what was modeled for you. 538 00:20:47,520 --> 00:20:49,622 - Michael, you don't really know what you have 539 00:20:49,722 --> 00:20:50,757 until you lose it. 540 00:20:50,823 --> 00:20:53,393 And don't let her leave 541 00:20:53,459 --> 00:20:55,795 before you start to make compromise. 542 00:20:55,862 --> 00:20:57,430 Create a balance. 543 00:20:57,497 --> 00:20:59,532 - The guys really tried to get on me about these side bitches. 544 00:20:59,599 --> 00:21:01,768 I'm like, you guys got the nerve! 545 00:21:01,835 --> 00:21:04,637 You all have had side bitches in the past. 546 00:21:04,737 --> 00:21:06,739 I just kept mines. 547 00:21:06,806 --> 00:21:08,541 Mines are still here. 548 00:21:08,608 --> 00:21:10,877 - Well, that's what we know, and the expectation 549 00:21:10,944 --> 00:21:13,513 is not gonna change necessarily overnight, right? 550 00:21:13,580 --> 00:21:15,081 It's work. 551 00:21:15,148 --> 00:21:18,284 I would encourage you to going back to the basics of a date 552 00:21:18,351 --> 00:21:20,987 that lets her know, "You're important again." 553 00:21:21,054 --> 00:21:22,755 I would encourage you, tonight, 554 00:21:22,755 --> 00:21:26,459 to look at creating a special date for her, 555 00:21:26,526 --> 00:21:28,661 to the memory of when you first met. 556 00:21:28,761 --> 00:21:30,763 If it's what's gonna have her smile, 557 00:21:30,797 --> 00:21:33,499 if it's what's gonna make us come together at nighttime. 558 00:21:33,566 --> 00:21:36,669 - Dr. K. want us to replan our first date, 559 00:21:36,769 --> 00:21:38,771 and I'm like, my first date with Rada, 560 00:21:38,805 --> 00:21:40,273 I had side bitches around. 561 00:21:40,340 --> 00:21:42,275 So it's gonna be very difficult, 562 00:21:42,342 --> 00:21:43,943 but I'm gonna do my best. 563 00:21:44,010 --> 00:21:45,478 - I thought it was a great idea. 564 00:21:45,545 --> 00:21:47,881 I thought it was definitely a great idea and a great way 565 00:21:47,947 --> 00:21:50,517 to try to recreate that energy. 566 00:21:50,583 --> 00:21:51,584 - Go all out. 567 00:21:54,287 --> 00:21:56,956 [mischievous music] 568 00:21:57,023 --> 00:21:58,258 - Okay. 569 00:21:58,324 --> 00:21:59,959 We done being deep, y'all. 570 00:22:00,026 --> 00:22:01,194 - Yas. [laughter] 571 00:22:01,261 --> 00:22:02,595 - We're not going deep no more. 572 00:22:02,729 --> 00:22:05,765 I want to learn those dances from "House Party." 573 00:22:05,832 --> 00:22:07,767 - Okay, you know what-- - Teach us everything. Come on. 574 00:22:07,834 --> 00:22:09,335 - Do we have music? We gotta have the music. 575 00:22:09,402 --> 00:22:11,504 - DJ, play that beat. 576 00:22:11,571 --> 00:22:13,206 [Full Force's "Ain't My Type of Hype" playing] 577 00:22:13,273 --> 00:22:16,409 [all cheering] 578 00:22:16,476 --> 00:22:22,215 ♪ ♪ 579 00:22:22,282 --> 00:22:24,851 - ♪ Go, go ♪ - ♪ Full Force get hype ♪ 580 00:22:24,918 --> 00:22:26,486 - AJ Johnson is legendary. 581 00:22:26,553 --> 00:22:28,755 You might recognize her from "House Party," 582 00:22:28,821 --> 00:22:30,423 the one that was like... 583 00:22:30,490 --> 00:22:32,926 - Yeah, you coming out tonight with that dance. 584 00:22:32,992 --> 00:22:34,394 - ♪ Let's kick that ♪ 585 00:22:34,460 --> 00:22:36,930 ♪ Yeah, ya look good, but can ya cook good? ♪ 586 00:22:36,996 --> 00:22:38,064 - All right. What we doing? 587 00:22:38,131 --> 00:22:39,766 - Okay. Ready? - Yes. 588 00:22:39,766 --> 00:22:41,501 - ♪ Or do ya' make love? How do ya' live? ♪ 589 00:22:41,568 --> 00:22:42,902 ♪ Do ya give, or do ya take love? ♪ 590 00:22:42,969 --> 00:22:45,638 ♪ Girl, you so fine, could you be mine? ♪ 591 00:22:45,772 --> 00:22:46,773 - Oh, that's too much. 592 00:22:46,773 --> 00:22:48,608 - Cross. Turn. 593 00:22:48,708 --> 00:22:50,710 Cross. Kick. 594 00:22:50,777 --> 00:22:51,911 Pump in time. 595 00:22:51,978 --> 00:22:55,081 [overlapping chatter] 596 00:22:56,249 --> 00:22:58,117 - ♪ Your love's so fine ♪ 597 00:22:58,184 --> 00:23:00,220 all: ♪ Your love's so fine ♪ 598 00:23:00,286 --> 00:23:02,255 ♪ Ain't my type of hype ♪ 599 00:23:04,858 --> 00:23:06,726 [sentimental music] 600 00:23:06,759 --> 00:23:10,230 - What do you think is the next step in our relationship? 601 00:23:10,296 --> 00:23:12,999 - I think the main things that make us explode, 602 00:23:13,066 --> 00:23:14,334 that keep us apart, 603 00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:17,036 we need to figure out what those things are. 604 00:23:17,103 --> 00:23:20,840 - If you just show me that you care 605 00:23:20,907 --> 00:23:24,377 about me and about us, 606 00:23:24,444 --> 00:23:28,748 then there's always a chance to make it work. 607 00:23:28,781 --> 00:23:31,217 You know that I want to be with you. 608 00:23:31,284 --> 00:23:36,856 ♪ ♪ 609 00:23:36,923 --> 00:23:39,325 It takes two people 610 00:23:39,392 --> 00:23:41,327 to fix a relationship, 611 00:23:41,394 --> 00:23:43,463 and Ray skipped out on all the events today. 612 00:23:43,530 --> 00:23:46,199 I don't even know if he's still here 613 00:23:46,266 --> 00:23:48,801 or what I'm even doing here anymore. 614 00:23:48,868 --> 00:23:49,836 [knocks on door] 615 00:23:54,774 --> 00:23:56,609 - Hi. - Hi. 616 00:23:56,709 --> 00:23:58,178 - Because Ray J and Princess 617 00:23:58,244 --> 00:23:59,946 did not attend the Ring of Fire, 618 00:24:00,013 --> 00:24:01,514 what I wanted to find out was, 619 00:24:01,581 --> 00:24:03,850 once again, we have to decide what we're doing. 620 00:24:03,917 --> 00:24:05,351 And it's time to make the decision. 621 00:24:05,418 --> 00:24:07,854 Are we divorcing, or are we staying together? 622 00:24:07,921 --> 00:24:10,023 You had a breakthrough day yesterday. 623 00:24:10,089 --> 00:24:11,291 - Yeah. 624 00:24:11,357 --> 00:24:12,559 - So I wanted to come check on you. 625 00:24:12,625 --> 00:24:13,726 - Thank you. 626 00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:15,461 - I can see the communication thing, 627 00:24:15,528 --> 00:24:18,064 of the "get up and walk away." 628 00:24:18,131 --> 00:24:20,800 It also feels like there's a level 629 00:24:20,867 --> 00:24:24,204 of disrespect 630 00:24:24,270 --> 00:24:27,173 that shows up in the communication, 631 00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:28,808 mutually, 632 00:24:28,875 --> 00:24:31,845 that has to be fixed. 633 00:24:31,911 --> 00:24:35,248 But I don't see or feel 634 00:24:35,315 --> 00:24:38,618 like I'm around a couple who is trying to divorce. 635 00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:42,121 - Sorry. 636 00:24:42,188 --> 00:24:44,290 - Don't ever apologize. 637 00:24:50,463 --> 00:24:53,366 - It's like I'm trying to convince myself so much 638 00:24:53,433 --> 00:24:55,068 that I don't care, 639 00:24:55,134 --> 00:24:57,070 and I just-- 640 00:24:57,136 --> 00:25:00,773 I literally just realized it, that, like, I do care, and... 641 00:25:03,776 --> 00:25:05,945 I'm so confused. 642 00:25:06,012 --> 00:25:08,414 - But, you know... Hey. 643 00:25:08,481 --> 00:25:09,616 - Oh, hey. - Hey. 644 00:25:09,716 --> 00:25:11,718 - How you? - Yeah, I'm dope. 645 00:25:11,718 --> 00:25:13,219 Hey, I gotta go. 646 00:25:13,286 --> 00:25:14,554 Hi. 647 00:25:14,621 --> 00:25:17,757 - Nice of you to join us. 648 00:25:17,824 --> 00:25:19,559 - Yeah. 649 00:25:19,626 --> 00:25:23,096 I open the door, and boom. 650 00:25:23,162 --> 00:25:25,932 AJ's in my suite, man, 651 00:25:25,999 --> 00:25:27,100 talking to Princess. 652 00:25:27,166 --> 00:25:28,735 - Hi. 653 00:25:28,768 --> 00:25:31,104 - We could have a conversation and see how it goes. 654 00:25:31,171 --> 00:25:33,139 Just know I'm not the one. 655 00:25:33,206 --> 00:25:36,943 [dramatic music] 656 00:25:37,010 --> 00:25:39,279 - Hey. What's your name? - My name is Yandy. 657 00:25:39,345 --> 00:25:40,613 - All us guys, we have an assignment 658 00:25:40,747 --> 00:25:42,215 to reenact our first date. 659 00:25:42,282 --> 00:25:43,416 - Can I get a table dance? 660 00:25:43,483 --> 00:25:44,784 - You ready for that? 661 00:25:44,851 --> 00:25:46,519 - Chilly in here. - Wait. Hold on. 662 00:25:46,586 --> 00:25:48,254 Come on. What you doing? 663 00:25:51,622 --> 00:25:54,622 {\an7}[dramatic music] 664 00:25:54,622 --> 00:25:58,622 {\an7}♪ ♪ 665 00:25:58,622 --> 00:26:00,655 {\an7}- How you doing? - I’m good. Good. 666 00:26:00,655 --> 00:26:04,348 {\an7}- I know the group thing \h\h\his not your thing. 667 00:26:04,348 --> 00:26:05,886 {\an7}- It’s a little tough, 668 00:26:05,886 --> 00:26:08,919 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hbut let me say, I’m sorry for the other day. 669 00:26:08,919 --> 00:26:14,820 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hI’m sorry for leaving you alone, you know? 670 00:26:15,919 --> 00:26:18,447 {\an7}- So the communication issue, 671 00:26:18,447 --> 00:26:20,820 {\an7}it’s not gonna be fixed \h\h\h\h\h\hovernight. 672 00:26:20,820 --> 00:26:21,820 {\an7}And it may not be fixed here-- 673 00:26:21,820 --> 00:26:23,886 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- But I think it could be fixed overnight. 674 00:26:23,886 --> 00:26:26,886 {\an7}\h\h\hI think it could be. I think it’s fairly simple. 675 00:26:26,886 --> 00:26:28,480 {\an7}’Cause when you get irritated, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hyou know, 676 00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:31,886 {\an7}\h\h\hyou kind of just go off the deep end with the names. 677 00:26:31,886 --> 00:26:34,414 {\an7}- Do you feel sometimes \h\h\h\hher word choice 678 00:26:34,414 --> 00:26:36,414 {\an7}and her tone is disrespectful? 679 00:26:36,414 --> 00:26:37,546 {\an7}- Absolutely. 680 00:26:37,546 --> 00:26:39,348 {\an7}- We don’t have sex. 681 00:26:39,348 --> 00:26:41,688 {\an7}\h- [whispers] That’s so sad. 682 00:26:45,414 --> 00:26:49,480 {\an7}\h\h\h- Can we have one private moment? 683 00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:52,414 {\an7}I know you don’t mean it, 684 00:26:52,414 --> 00:26:53,985 {\an7}\h\h\hbut I feel like we both should just, 685 00:26:53,985 --> 00:26:55,754 {\an7}even in the most \hheated moments, 686 00:26:55,754 --> 00:26:58,249 {\an7}just know that there’s, \hlike, certain things 687 00:26:58,249 --> 00:27:00,886 {\an7}we just shouldn’t do or say. 688 00:27:01,721 --> 00:27:05,952 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hThat, and us just making sure we got each other, 689 00:27:05,952 --> 00:27:08,546 {\an7}whether we having \ha horrible time 690 00:27:08,546 --> 00:27:11,480 {\an7}\h\h\hand we having the worst argument. 691 00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:13,216 {\an7}Let’s just protect each other 692 00:27:13,216 --> 00:27:14,754 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hand keep it in our own little bubble. 693 00:27:14,754 --> 00:27:16,952 {\an7}\h\h\hAnd I’m good. That’s all I want. 694 00:27:16,952 --> 00:27:19,820 {\an7}\hI don’t want us to keep going down this dark road 695 00:27:19,820 --> 00:27:22,754 {\an7}\h\h\h\hof disrespect, ’cause it’s just like, 696 00:27:22,754 --> 00:27:26,414 {\an7}we too good of friends, \h\h\h\h\h\h\hyou know? 697 00:27:26,414 --> 00:27:27,985 {\an7}- You want to share with him \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hthe behaviors 698 00:27:27,985 --> 00:27:30,688 {\an7}that you want to see \h\h\h\h\hand desire? 699 00:27:30,688 --> 00:27:34,546 {\an7}\h\h- I would like you to be more consistent. 700 00:27:34,546 --> 00:27:37,282 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hJust, like, coming home at night. 701 00:27:37,282 --> 00:27:39,721 {\an7}\h\h\h\hI want to be able to go to sleep with you, 702 00:27:39,721 --> 00:27:41,546 {\an7}in our bed, 703 00:27:41,546 --> 00:27:43,721 {\an7}and wake up with you, 704 00:27:43,721 --> 00:27:46,282 {\an7}like normal people. 705 00:27:46,282 --> 00:27:48,721 {\an7}- I want to be in the bed. 706 00:27:48,721 --> 00:27:50,853 {\an7}- That doesn’t sound like \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\ha man 707 00:27:50,853 --> 00:27:52,985 {\an7}who wants to file for divorce. 708 00:27:56,754 --> 00:27:58,282 {\an7}- No. 709 00:27:59,655 --> 00:28:01,754 {\an7}- He’s never said that. 710 00:28:05,348 --> 00:28:08,787 {\an7}- Do you want to get a divorce? 711 00:28:08,787 --> 00:28:10,886 {\an7}- No. 712 00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:15,282 {\an7}- That’s the first time \hI’ve ever heard that. 713 00:28:15,282 --> 00:28:15,820 {\an7}Wow. 714 00:28:15,820 --> 00:28:17,480 {\an7}- Do you guys want \h\hto do the work 715 00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:21,513 {\an7}to build the relationship? 716 00:28:21,513 --> 00:28:23,018 {\an7}- I want to make it work. 717 00:28:23,018 --> 00:28:25,051 {\an7}I want to fight for the family. 718 00:28:25,051 --> 00:28:26,754 {\an7}\h\hI came out here because I love you. 719 00:28:26,754 --> 00:28:30,018 {\an7}\h\h\h\hI love our kids, and I love everything about you. 720 00:28:30,018 --> 00:28:33,688 {\an7}\h\h- The fact that Ray J and Princess are even verbalizing 721 00:28:33,688 --> 00:28:36,622 {\an7}they don’t want a divorce, \h\hI feel is a tiny step 722 00:28:36,622 --> 00:28:37,480 {\an7}in the right direction. 723 00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:39,348 {\an7}But just because you know \h\h\hwhat you don’t want 724 00:28:39,348 --> 00:28:40,985 {\an7}\h\h\hdoesn’t mean that what you want is clear. 725 00:28:40,985 --> 00:28:44,018 {\an7}\h\h\h\hSo we have to design, what is it that you do want? 726 00:28:44,018 --> 00:28:46,348 {\an7}\h\h\h- Respecting me, and me respecting you, 727 00:28:46,348 --> 00:28:47,952 {\an7}and having each other’s back \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\his-- 728 00:28:47,952 --> 00:28:50,853 {\an7}like, that’s the core \h\h\hto everything, 729 00:28:50,853 --> 00:28:52,985 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h’cause then, we can trust each other. 730 00:28:52,985 --> 00:28:54,117 {\an7}And once we realize that, 731 00:28:54,117 --> 00:28:56,820 {\an7}\h\h\heverything else will fall into play. 732 00:29:01,787 --> 00:29:04,084 {\an7}- ♪ So what if I wake up \h\h\hwith a attitude? ♪ 733 00:29:04,084 --> 00:29:06,589 {\an7}\h♪ You assuming that I must be mad at you ♪ 734 00:29:06,589 --> 00:29:08,952 {\an7}♪ Didn’t get no sleep with you \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hlast night ♪ 735 00:29:08,952 --> 00:29:11,754 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h- When you think about the first time we met, 736 00:29:11,754 --> 00:29:14,117 {\an7}what do you remember? 737 00:29:14,117 --> 00:29:15,447 {\an7}- How nice you were. 738 00:29:15,447 --> 00:29:18,655 {\an7}\h\h- I think about how when I said hi to you, 739 00:29:18,655 --> 00:29:22,381 {\an7}you just gave me the head nod, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hlike this. 740 00:29:22,381 --> 00:29:24,414 {\an7}[both laugh] 741 00:29:24,414 --> 00:29:26,886 {\an7}- Describe the moment \h\h\h\hyou realized 742 00:29:26,886 --> 00:29:27,853 {\an7}I was in love with you. 743 00:29:27,853 --> 00:29:31,414 {\an7}- The first time that I thought \h\h\h\hI was in love with you 744 00:29:31,414 --> 00:29:32,721 {\an7}is when we broke up 745 00:29:32,721 --> 00:29:34,820 {\an7}from hitting me in the head \h\h\h\h\hwith the picture, 746 00:29:34,820 --> 00:29:37,018 {\an7}and I was bleeding, and... 747 00:29:37,018 --> 00:29:38,480 {\an7}I began to miss you. 748 00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:40,589 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hAnd then, I realized it was more than I missed you. 749 00:29:40,589 --> 00:29:42,655 {\an7}It was like, I [bleep] \hmust love this girl, 750 00:29:42,655 --> 00:29:45,381 {\an7}’cause now I’m about to let her come back. 751 00:29:45,381 --> 00:29:47,655 {\an7}And I wanted to be done \h\h\h\h\hwith [bleep]. 752 00:29:47,655 --> 00:29:49,117 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h- I do love how reserved you are. 753 00:29:49,117 --> 00:29:52,183 {\an7}I don’t like men that are clowns and yak, yak, yak. 754 00:29:52,183 --> 00:29:53,051 {\an7}[both laughing] 755 00:29:53,051 --> 00:29:56,117 {\an7}- And just get on it. \h\hJust say, "Whoa!" 756 00:29:57,018 --> 00:29:59,018 {\an7}- Describe the moment \h\h\h\hyou realized 757 00:29:59,018 --> 00:30:02,480 {\an7}that I was in love with you. 758 00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:03,183 {\an7}- Hmm. 759 00:30:03,183 --> 00:30:04,886 {\an7}I mean, for me, Cancun. 760 00:30:04,886 --> 00:30:06,820 {\an7}- I’m just gonna be \h\h\hvery honest, 761 00:30:06,820 --> 00:30:08,589 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hand it’s okay, ’cause you’re my husband, 762 00:30:08,589 --> 00:30:10,150 {\an7}but I was not in love with you \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hin Cancun. 763 00:30:10,150 --> 00:30:11,754 {\an7}\h\h- No, you wasn’t-- - I liked your [bleep]. 764 00:30:11,754 --> 00:30:14,183 {\an7}But I was not in love with you. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h[both laugh] 765 00:30:14,183 --> 00:30:16,622 {\an7}- That was part of it. 766 00:30:17,513 --> 00:30:20,655 {\an7}[sentimental music] 767 00:30:20,655 --> 00:30:22,787 {\an7}♪ ♪ 768 00:30:22,787 --> 00:30:25,150 {\an7}- Dr. K. told me to step up, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hand tonight, 769 00:30:25,150 --> 00:30:27,919 {\an7}\h\h\hI’m thinking, like, set the stage 770 00:30:27,919 --> 00:30:29,513 {\an7}to reenact our first date. 771 00:30:29,513 --> 00:30:32,150 {\an7}- ♪ I threw it away ♪ 772 00:30:32,150 --> 00:30:34,183 {\an7}♪ And scraped it off the bottom ♪ 773 00:30:34,183 --> 00:30:36,655 {\an7}- Maybe I’m treating \h\h\hmy relationship 774 00:30:36,655 --> 00:30:37,480 {\an7}more like a business, 775 00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:40,754 {\an7}but I want to stay connected \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hto my wife. 776 00:30:40,754 --> 00:30:43,117 {\an7}So it’s important \hto fix it now, 777 00:30:43,117 --> 00:30:44,447 {\an7}before it derails. 778 00:30:44,447 --> 00:30:46,447 {\an7}- ♪ I’m stuck in my head ♪ 779 00:30:46,447 --> 00:30:48,513 {\an7}- I’m very determined tonight \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hto step up 780 00:30:48,513 --> 00:30:50,018 {\an7}and surprise my wife \h\h\hwith this date. 781 00:30:50,018 --> 00:30:51,721 {\an7}She may be the alpha \h\h\h\h\hright now, 782 00:30:51,721 --> 00:30:53,546 {\an7}but I’m up for the challenge. 783 00:30:53,546 --> 00:30:54,853 {\an7}I’m ready. 784 00:30:54,853 --> 00:30:57,886 {\an7}♪ ♪ 785 00:30:57,886 --> 00:30:58,721 {\an7}- Hey, babe. 786 00:30:58,721 --> 00:31:00,480 {\an7}- ♪ And I try to get by ♪ 787 00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:02,183 {\an7}- This is our second \h\h\h\h\hfirst date. 788 00:31:02,183 --> 00:31:04,853 {\an7}- ♪ By myself for tonight ♪ 789 00:31:04,853 --> 00:31:07,249 {\an7}- This looks so pretty. \h\h\h\h\h- Thank you. 790 00:31:07,249 --> 00:31:08,886 {\an7}- Talking to the ladies \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hearlier 791 00:31:08,886 --> 00:31:11,820 {\an7}about Raymond being \h\h\hmore romantic 792 00:31:11,820 --> 00:31:13,919 {\an7}and being a alpha male. 793 00:31:13,919 --> 00:31:14,688 {\an7}I like it now. 794 00:31:14,688 --> 00:31:17,688 {\an7}Let’s hope that it ends with a night of passion 795 00:31:17,688 --> 00:31:19,919 {\an7}and fireworks, baby. 796 00:31:19,919 --> 00:31:22,480 {\an7}- [muffled] I love you. 797 00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,721 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hCome on. Let’s have a seat. 798 00:31:24,721 --> 00:31:25,622 {\an7}There you go. 799 00:31:25,622 --> 00:31:27,117 {\an7}- Taking my jacket? \h\h\h\h\h\h- Yes. 800 00:31:27,117 --> 00:31:30,919 {\an7}- Maybe you gotta hang out with the fellas more often. 801 00:31:30,919 --> 00:31:33,589 {\an7}\h\h\h\hNow, I see what he’s trying to do here. 802 00:31:33,589 --> 00:31:34,820 {\an7}I don’t want to be mad anymore. 803 00:31:34,820 --> 00:31:38,249 {\an7}I’m exhausted by talking \h\h\habout who did what 804 00:31:38,249 --> 00:31:39,952 {\an7}while he was in prison. 805 00:31:39,952 --> 00:31:41,546 {\an7}I just want to move on. 806 00:31:41,546 --> 00:31:43,886 {\an7}- So yeah, you know, \h\h\h\h\hlet’s talk. 807 00:31:43,886 --> 00:31:46,985 {\an7}It’s time for us to have \h\hour first date over. 808 00:31:46,985 --> 00:31:49,513 {\an7}\h\h\hTrying to get you to fall in love again. 809 00:31:49,513 --> 00:31:50,249 {\an7}- Oh. 810 00:31:50,249 --> 00:31:51,249 {\an7}I did fall in love. 811 00:31:51,249 --> 00:31:54,688 {\an7}I fell in love the first night. 812 00:31:54,688 --> 00:31:55,853 {\an7}- To new beginnings 813 00:31:55,853 --> 00:31:57,150 {\an7}and putting the past behind. 814 00:31:57,150 --> 00:31:58,886 {\an7}- I love that. \h\h\h- Cheers. 815 00:31:58,886 --> 00:32:01,886 {\an7}- You remember the first thing \h\hyou said to me when we met? 816 00:32:01,886 --> 00:32:04,886 {\an7}- Oh, gosh. \h[laughs] 817 00:32:04,886 --> 00:32:05,919 {\an7}I said, 818 00:32:05,919 --> 00:32:09,249 {\an7}"Hey, how my booty look \h\h\hin these shorts?" 819 00:32:09,249 --> 00:32:10,183 {\an7}\h\h- Yeah. - [laughs] 820 00:32:10,183 --> 00:32:11,853 {\an7}What was you really thinking, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hfor real? 821 00:32:11,853 --> 00:32:14,216 {\an7}- I was looking at you like, \h\h\h\h"Your little hot ass. 822 00:32:14,216 --> 00:32:17,886 {\an7}What the hell you mean \hhow your booty look?" 823 00:32:17,886 --> 00:32:18,820 {\an7}Frosty. 824 00:32:18,820 --> 00:32:21,018 {\an7}- So how are you feeling? 825 00:32:21,018 --> 00:32:23,117 {\an7}- Like a lady. \h\h[chuckles] 826 00:32:23,117 --> 00:32:24,886 {\an7}- The day that I met you, 827 00:32:24,886 --> 00:32:27,117 {\an7}I said to myself, like, 828 00:32:27,117 --> 00:32:29,282 {\an7}"That’s gonna be the man \h\h\h\hI’m gonna marry." 829 00:32:29,282 --> 00:32:30,084 {\an7}- Get out of here. 830 00:32:30,084 --> 00:32:32,622 {\an7}\h\h\h\h- I mean, like, what do you like to do? 831 00:32:32,622 --> 00:32:33,754 {\an7}- You. 832 00:32:33,754 --> 00:32:34,622 {\an7}- But... 833 00:32:34,622 --> 00:32:37,688 {\an7}- What did we used to do that maybe we can, like, 834 00:32:37,688 --> 00:32:41,589 {\an7}\h\h\h\hbring into now, just to keep everything 835 00:32:41,589 --> 00:32:42,150 {\an7}just lit? 836 00:32:42,150 --> 00:32:45,315 {\an7}\h- This is the reason why I love to be in this space 837 00:32:45,315 --> 00:32:48,985 {\an7}and make it feel like a space that 838 00:32:48,985 --> 00:32:50,546 {\an7}nobody can ever touch. 839 00:32:50,546 --> 00:32:52,754 {\an7}\h\h\h\h- That feels like how we first started off. 840 00:32:52,754 --> 00:32:54,952 {\an7}You being a gentleman. 841 00:32:55,820 --> 00:32:56,688 {\an7}[dramatic musical sting] 842 00:32:56,688 --> 00:32:57,886 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- You see what she’s doing here? 843 00:32:57,886 --> 00:32:58,952 {\an7}I’m trying to take the lead, 844 00:32:58,952 --> 00:33:00,655 {\an7}and she’s stepping \hon all my moves. 845 00:33:00,655 --> 00:33:02,282 {\an7}- We was just so excited \hto be with each other, 846 00:33:02,282 --> 00:33:04,084 {\an7}be around each other, \h\h\h\hand get to-- 847 00:33:04,084 --> 00:33:06,348 {\an7}\hhoping that we’re gonna be together. 848 00:33:06,348 --> 00:33:07,282 {\an7}And it’s like, 849 00:33:07,282 --> 00:33:10,117 {\an7}\h\hthis might be the one I’ma gonna kick it with. 850 00:33:10,117 --> 00:33:12,820 {\an7}- Kind of chilly in here. 851 00:33:12,820 --> 00:33:13,820 {\an7}- Wait. Hold on. \h\h\h\hCome on. 852 00:33:13,820 --> 00:33:16,655 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hWhat you doing? Don’t be doing that [bleep]. 853 00:33:16,655 --> 00:33:18,655 {\an7}Hey, your hand! \h[both laugh] 854 00:33:18,655 --> 00:33:21,315 {\an7}Been hanging out \hwith Deelishis? 855 00:33:21,315 --> 00:33:22,820 {\an7}[comical music] 856 00:33:22,820 --> 00:33:24,853 {\an7}[phone buzzes] 857 00:33:29,183 --> 00:33:31,183 {\an7}- This is so nice. \h\hI’m so excited. 858 00:33:31,183 --> 00:33:35,018 {\an7}I can’t wait till we, you know, \h\h\h\h\hgo back to the room. 859 00:33:35,018 --> 00:33:36,688 {\an7}Can I get a table dance? 860 00:33:36,688 --> 00:33:38,721 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h- [laughs] - Turn on some music. 861 00:33:38,721 --> 00:33:41,381 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- You know what? Look, let’s just stop all that. 862 00:33:41,381 --> 00:33:45,018 {\an7}\hYou my wife, and you know I love you, and that’s it. 863 00:33:45,018 --> 00:33:46,787 {\an7}- Well, tonight, I need you. 864 00:33:46,787 --> 00:33:48,150 {\an7}- I’m here. 865 00:33:48,150 --> 00:33:50,985 {\an7}You can have me for forever. 866 00:33:50,985 --> 00:33:52,051 {\an7}- Hmm. 867 00:33:52,051 --> 00:33:54,117 {\an7}\h\h- You ready for that? - Yeah, what we gonna do? 868 00:33:54,117 --> 00:33:57,216 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hOkay. I like where this is going. 869 00:33:57,216 --> 00:34:00,414 {\an7}- You know, sip on some wine \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hor something. 870 00:34:00,414 --> 00:34:03,688 {\an7}Snuggle...in bed. 871 00:34:04,754 --> 00:34:05,414 {\an7}- And? 872 00:34:05,414 --> 00:34:07,150 {\an7}- We’ll put on a movie. 873 00:34:07,150 --> 00:34:09,249 {\an7}[dramatic musical sting] 874 00:34:14,018 --> 00:34:15,754 {\an7}- I’m tired of looking stupid. 875 00:34:15,754 --> 00:34:20,084 {\an7}\h\h\h\hHow are you letting these bitches disrespect me 876 00:34:20,084 --> 00:34:22,820 {\an7}in public? 877 00:34:26,379 --> 00:34:29,081 [upbeat music] 878 00:34:29,148 --> 00:34:30,249 ♪ ♪ 879 00:34:30,316 --> 00:34:31,450 - Look at that. 880 00:34:31,517 --> 00:34:35,821 ♪ ♪ 881 00:34:35,888 --> 00:34:38,891 - ♪ You can be difficult ♪ 882 00:34:38,958 --> 00:34:40,426 ♪ Yeah, yeah ♪ 883 00:34:40,493 --> 00:34:42,995 ♪ But you told me that when we met ♪ 884 00:34:43,062 --> 00:34:44,930 - Even though I was a little suspicious 885 00:34:44,997 --> 00:34:48,801 of this expired Walmart version of Al B. Sure!, 886 00:34:48,868 --> 00:34:50,403 he seemed like he knew what he was saying. 887 00:34:50,469 --> 00:34:51,904 I'm willing to give it a shot. 888 00:34:51,971 --> 00:34:54,306 Me and Rada have a few disagreements, 889 00:34:54,373 --> 00:34:57,009 but I love her, and I don't want to lose her. 890 00:34:57,076 --> 00:34:59,645 - ♪ Oh, I just want you, you, you ♪ 891 00:34:59,712 --> 00:35:01,681 ♪ You ♪ 892 00:35:01,747 --> 00:35:02,848 ♪ ♪ 893 00:35:02,915 --> 00:35:04,917 - Is that you? It's kind of dark. 894 00:35:04,984 --> 00:35:07,320 [both laugh] - Hi, babe. 895 00:35:12,358 --> 00:35:13,592 - What is this? 896 00:35:13,659 --> 00:35:15,661 - Our first second date. Whatever you call it, 897 00:35:15,728 --> 00:35:17,096 'cause our first date was in Arizona. 898 00:35:17,163 --> 00:35:19,732 - Oh, well, how cute. - Go all the way over there. 899 00:35:19,799 --> 00:35:21,200 That's the softer part of the couch. 900 00:35:21,267 --> 00:35:22,268 - Okay. 901 00:35:22,335 --> 00:35:24,203 - For you and this nice, soft butt. 902 00:35:24,270 --> 00:35:26,105 - You're so stupid. - Can you take your coat off? 903 00:35:26,205 --> 00:35:27,406 - Okay. 904 00:35:27,473 --> 00:35:28,808 - I mean, I went out of my way 905 00:35:28,874 --> 00:35:31,210 with the champagne and flowers. 906 00:35:31,243 --> 00:35:33,012 I made a lot of phone calls to make this happen. 907 00:35:33,079 --> 00:35:35,948 - I'll have to give you a... 908 00:35:36,015 --> 00:35:37,650 B-minus. 909 00:35:40,720 --> 00:35:42,455 - So let's go back to when we first met. 910 00:35:42,521 --> 00:35:44,256 - Yeah. - Mm-hmm. 911 00:35:44,323 --> 00:35:46,826 - When I met her, I had about three side chicks, 912 00:35:46,892 --> 00:35:48,394 but she was different. 913 00:35:48,461 --> 00:35:50,596 She's the best woman I've been with 914 00:35:50,663 --> 00:35:51,964 in my whole entire life. 915 00:35:52,031 --> 00:35:54,400 She's caring, and loving, 916 00:35:54,467 --> 00:35:56,068 and so understanding. 917 00:35:56,135 --> 00:35:58,137 When we first met, every time we went out, 918 00:35:58,237 --> 00:35:59,538 I always had some chick with us. 919 00:35:59,605 --> 00:36:01,107 - Mm-hmm. 920 00:36:01,240 --> 00:36:02,675 - So I'm gonna do a date without bitches. 921 00:36:02,742 --> 00:36:04,543 Just me, you, [bleep] grapes, 922 00:36:04,610 --> 00:36:06,078 champagne. 923 00:36:06,145 --> 00:36:08,247 Let's toast to no bitches. How about that? 924 00:36:08,247 --> 00:36:09,649 - Really? - Yes. 925 00:36:09,715 --> 00:36:11,717 [quickly] Tonight. All right? 926 00:36:11,784 --> 00:36:15,021 What? - Just tonight? 927 00:36:15,087 --> 00:36:17,590 I love the fact that he took his time 928 00:36:17,657 --> 00:36:18,791 to put this together, 929 00:36:18,858 --> 00:36:21,560 but after the meeting with AJ, 930 00:36:21,627 --> 00:36:23,095 I'm ready to put my foot down, 931 00:36:23,162 --> 00:36:25,865 tell him what I want, and demand more. 932 00:36:25,931 --> 00:36:27,533 So what's your point? 933 00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:29,402 - Of what? - Of telling me that? 934 00:36:31,604 --> 00:36:34,106 - That we are finally alone. I made this happen. 935 00:36:34,206 --> 00:36:37,043 - I know, but don't you want this more often? 936 00:36:40,212 --> 00:36:42,381 - You know that regardless of the side bitches, 937 00:36:42,448 --> 00:36:43,749 they don't mean nothing to me. 938 00:36:43,816 --> 00:36:45,785 - Michael's a nice guy. 939 00:36:45,851 --> 00:36:47,286 He never says no, 940 00:36:47,353 --> 00:36:49,755 so when a side bitch hits him up 941 00:36:49,822 --> 00:36:51,757 and asks for a little something-something, 942 00:36:51,824 --> 00:36:54,360 he goes for it. 943 00:36:54,427 --> 00:36:56,295 If I'm your girlfriend, 944 00:36:56,362 --> 00:37:00,299 and you don't give a [bleep] about these bitches, 945 00:37:00,366 --> 00:37:05,104 how are you letting these bitches disrespect me 946 00:37:05,237 --> 00:37:06,605 in public? 947 00:37:06,672 --> 00:37:09,241 Right before we came here, Michael and I broke up. 948 00:37:09,241 --> 00:37:12,144 Michael was seeing the same girl, 949 00:37:12,244 --> 00:37:14,413 and her feelings start getting attached, 950 00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:17,083 and trying to question me mentally. 951 00:37:17,149 --> 00:37:19,418 And that was not okay with me. 952 00:37:19,485 --> 00:37:21,020 I felt really hurt. 953 00:37:21,087 --> 00:37:24,090 When these girls just disrespect me, 954 00:37:24,156 --> 00:37:26,659 I wish that he can just 955 00:37:26,726 --> 00:37:29,195 tell 'em how it is! 956 00:37:29,261 --> 00:37:31,731 Like, emotionally, it's like-- 957 00:37:31,797 --> 00:37:33,199 it's [bleep] up, because 958 00:37:33,232 --> 00:37:36,635 you're allowing for these bitches to do that. 959 00:37:36,702 --> 00:37:39,205 I'm tired of looking stupid, you know? 960 00:37:39,271 --> 00:37:40,673 Like, if I'm your girlfriend, 961 00:37:40,740 --> 00:37:42,441 treat me like your [bleep] girlfriend, 962 00:37:42,508 --> 00:37:44,377 or I'm never coming back. 963 00:37:47,886 --> 00:37:50,315 {\an7}[solemn music] 964 00:37:50,315 --> 00:37:53,315 {\an7}- I’m tired of looking stupid, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hyou know? 965 00:37:53,315 --> 00:37:54,381 {\an7}Like, if I’m your girlfriend, 966 00:37:54,381 --> 00:37:58,150 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\htreat me like your [bleep] girlfriend. 967 00:37:58,150 --> 00:37:59,183 {\an7}- Rada has a point. 968 00:37:59,183 --> 00:38:01,117 {\an7}The side chicks are \hdisrespecting her 969 00:38:01,117 --> 00:38:01,843 {\an7}on social media. 970 00:38:01,843 --> 00:38:03,117 {\an7}\h\hI know she wants to be exclusive, but 971 00:38:03,117 --> 00:38:06,249 {\an7}\h\h\h\hI need these bitches to make me appreciate who you are. 972 00:38:06,249 --> 00:38:08,249 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hTrust me. We both need them. 973 00:38:08,249 --> 00:38:11,414 {\an7}Prior to me, you had a relationship, okay, 974 00:38:11,414 --> 00:38:14,018 {\an7}where it was just one-on-one, \h\h\h\h\hand what happened? 975 00:38:14,018 --> 00:38:16,282 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hThey didn’t last because the men were lying. 976 00:38:16,282 --> 00:38:18,315 {\an7}Dishonest, right? \h- Yeah, right. 977 00:38:18,315 --> 00:38:19,414 {\an7}- You agreed to this. 978 00:38:19,414 --> 00:38:22,282 {\an7}We signed a deal, Rada. \h\hWe agreed on this. 979 00:38:22,282 --> 00:38:26,183 {\an7}\h\h\hAnd that’s why all I could do is be honest. 980 00:38:26,183 --> 00:38:28,414 {\an7}\h\h\hWhether I’m doing something wrong or not, 981 00:38:28,414 --> 00:38:29,216 {\an7}you will know the truth. 982 00:38:29,216 --> 00:38:30,711 {\an7}That’s the best thing \h\h\h\hin the world, 983 00:38:30,711 --> 00:38:32,348 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\hknowing that you will know the truth. 984 00:38:32,348 --> 00:38:34,249 {\an7}Rada probably agreed \h\hon this contract 985 00:38:34,249 --> 00:38:38,018 {\an7}because she saw something \h\hin me, and she said, 986 00:38:38,018 --> 00:38:40,886 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h"You know what? I’ma hang in with this guy, 987 00:38:40,886 --> 00:38:42,249 {\an7}"whatever his issues are, 988 00:38:42,249 --> 00:38:44,744 {\an7}because I see something more \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hwith him." 989 00:38:44,744 --> 00:38:48,810 {\an7}- I’m just asking for respect, \h\h\h\h\hlove, and boundaries. 990 00:38:48,810 --> 00:38:52,985 {\an7}- I want to change for Rada. \h\h\h\hI want to be better. 991 00:38:52,985 --> 00:38:55,777 {\an7}\h\h\h- The thing that I really want from you 992 00:38:55,777 --> 00:38:59,084 {\an7}is just some kind \hof commitment. 993 00:39:00,348 --> 00:39:03,183 {\an7}- I can’t make any promises \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hright now. 994 00:39:08,810 --> 00:39:11,480 {\an7}- Aye, aye, hot smoke. \h\h\h\hAye, aye, aye. 995 00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:14,018 {\an7}That’s when you give us \h\h\hold folks liquor, 996 00:39:14,018 --> 00:39:15,985 {\an7}at this time of night. 997 00:39:15,985 --> 00:39:18,744 {\an7}- I’m not old, honey. \h\hI just turned 26. 998 00:39:18,744 --> 00:39:20,480 {\an7}I don’t know about you, 999 00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:21,952 {\an7}but me, I like my men older. 1000 00:39:21,952 --> 00:39:25,447 {\an7}- ♪ You know it’s about time \hto hit it for the night ♪ 1001 00:39:25,447 --> 00:39:28,249 {\an7}- Just hooked up this cute, \h\h\h\h\hlittle situation. 1002 00:39:28,249 --> 00:39:30,810 {\an7}Said he wanted to work \hon our quality time. 1003 00:39:30,810 --> 00:39:33,051 {\an7}The first step is important, 1004 00:39:33,051 --> 00:39:35,843 {\an7}\h\hand I’m appreciative, and I love him very much. 1005 00:39:35,843 --> 00:39:39,480 {\an7}But with that being said, \h\h\hwe had a cute date, 1006 00:39:39,480 --> 00:39:40,744 {\an7}and the night is still young. 1007 00:39:40,744 --> 00:39:43,513 {\an7}- ♪ You say I’m sassy, \h\h\h\hyou like me ♪ 1008 00:39:43,513 --> 00:39:45,282 {\an7}- I was able to get 1009 00:39:45,282 --> 00:39:47,282 {\an7}wasted! 1010 00:39:47,282 --> 00:39:50,117 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hYou know, it was just alone time, 1011 00:39:50,117 --> 00:39:52,919 {\an7}grown time, and now, we’re about to spend 1012 00:39:52,919 --> 00:39:57,018 {\an7}\hsome alone time/grown time/naked time, okay? 1013 00:39:57,018 --> 00:39:58,546 {\an7}Making babies time, okay? 1014 00:39:58,546 --> 00:40:00,447 {\an7}- You know, when people think \h\h\h\h\hthat automatically, 1015 00:40:00,447 --> 00:40:02,810 {\an7}once you come off a hot date, \h\hyou’re just gonna go back 1016 00:40:02,810 --> 00:40:04,985 {\an7}to the room and have hot, butt-naked sex. 1017 00:40:04,985 --> 00:40:07,150 {\an7}- ♪ We about to get it ♪ 1018 00:40:07,150 --> 00:40:08,150 {\an7}♪ We in here ♪ 1019 00:40:08,150 --> 00:40:10,084 {\an7}- We got on the phone, \h\h\hcalled our kids, 1020 00:40:10,084 --> 00:40:11,315 {\an7}made sure they was good. 1021 00:40:11,315 --> 00:40:14,381 {\an7}- [vocalizes] 1022 00:40:14,381 --> 00:40:15,051 {\an7}♪ ♪ 1023 00:40:15,051 --> 00:40:17,447 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h- And then, I kind of dozed off. 1024 00:40:20,873 --> 00:40:22,797 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h- Every day, we been getting homework. 1025 00:40:22,797 --> 00:40:24,533 {\an7}- I came to vacation. 1026 00:40:24,533 --> 00:40:26,302 {\an7}- Whoo! - Whoo! 1027 00:40:26,302 --> 00:40:27,005 {\an7}- She told us 1028 00:40:27,005 --> 00:40:29,137 {\an7}\hthe relationship is not as sexual as it started. 1029 00:40:29,137 --> 00:40:33,137 {\an7}A man’s libido can wane when he’s got pressure. 1030 00:40:33,137 --> 00:40:35,533 {\an7}What’s really going on \h\h\h\h\h\hwith that? 1031 00:40:35,533 --> 00:40:38,236 {\an7}- Mother Sucka! 1032 00:40:38,236 --> 00:40:38,797 {\an7}[cheers] 1033 00:40:38,797 --> 00:40:40,104 {\an7}- Did you get some [bleep], \h\h\h\h\h\hmother[bleep]? 1034 00:40:40,104 --> 00:40:43,368 {\an7}He discovered Kim Kardashian. Don’t do that [bleep] to her. 1035 00:40:43,368 --> 00:40:44,104 {\an7}Don’t [bleep] up. 1036 00:40:44,104 --> 00:40:46,236 {\an7}\h\h\h- Your side bitch days is coming to an end, though. 1037 00:40:46,236 --> 00:40:48,104 {\an7}- Rada trying to renegotiate \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hour contract. 1038 00:40:48,104 --> 00:40:49,269 {\an7}No, mother[bleep]. \h\hIt’s too late. 1039 00:40:49,269 --> 00:40:52,170 {\an7}\h- Well, [bleep], what was the terms on that [bleep]? 1040 00:40:52,170 --> 00:40:53,005 {\an7}Ten years? 1041 00:40:53,005 --> 00:40:56,236 {\an7}- This is Lakara. She is a medium. 1042 00:40:56,236 --> 00:40:56,830 {\an7}- Uh-oh. 1043 00:40:56,830 --> 00:40:59,368 {\an7}\h- Was there a baby that was lost between you all? 1044 00:40:59,368 --> 00:41:01,170 {\an7}\h\h\h- Excuse me. I’ll be right back. 1045 00:41:01,170 --> 00:41:02,137 {\an7}- It’s okay. 1046 00:41:02,137 --> 00:41:03,434 {\an7}- Did you lose a baby? 1047 00:41:03,434 --> 00:41:06,368 {\an7}\hThe soul came back in your second child. 1048 00:41:06,368 --> 00:41:08,104 {\an7}\h- Come on. That’s a lie. 1049 00:41:08,104 --> 00:41:10,236 {\an7}- I am only communicating \hwhat the soul gave me. 1050 00:41:10,236 --> 00:41:11,500 {\an7}\h\h- This [bleep] you talking about? 1051 00:41:11,500 --> 00:41:13,906 {\an7}This ain’t gonna end well, \h\h\h\h\hMiss Sixth Sense. 1052 00:41:13,906 --> 00:41:17,269 {\an7}[dramatic musical sting]