- Previously, on "Couples Retreat"...
If you didn't know before now
that I'm here to give you the real deal,
you're gonna learn tonight.
- We are here to reconnect, work through our issues,
and remember why we fell in love in the first place.
- Don't try to make me look like a bad person.
I don't give a [bleep] about what nobody thinks.
It's my woman
trying to sabotage me.
- You gotta stop walking away when the conversation...
That's the childish [bleep], Ray J.
- No. This conversation's over for me.
- Running away again.
- Don't talk down to me
and make me feel like I'm a child.
- Yo, you got time to post these pictures,
but you ain't got time to send me a email.
- No, I understand. I was definitely in that place.
But then, you have to get to a point of when you say,
"You know what? I gotta let that stuff go."
- But you always try to pick chicks with no ass, no body.
- No, I always try to pick chicks that are classy.
- Classy? We trying to marry this bitch?
- No, but I gotta spend time with her.
- Like, we're here. We're stuck here.
- We're stuck?
- What is it that you want?
- I just want to tighten up this relationship a little.
- If you're saying I have to cut off all the bitches,
then I'm like-- then I'ma start lying.
It's cheating, and that's what I'm trying to avoid.
- You would say, like, "You could leave."
That was offensive.
If the roles were reversed, would you hold me down?
- You know, I don't know what I will be able to do.
- And that's a problem.
[dramatic musical sting]
[Mary J. Blige's "Real Love" playing]
- [vocalizing]
♪ ♪
- ♪ Aye, aye, aye, aye ♪
♪ ♪
♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh ♪
♪ Ooh, aye, aye ♪
- What do you love about our relationship?
- ♪ Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh ♪
- I love that we can spend all day together
and never get tired of each other.
- I feel like I can just wrap up in your arms,
and you're like dad and husband.
- Did you call me Daddy?
- No, zaddy. [both laugh]
- ♪ Then you're left in the dust ♪
- Why did you choose me to be your wife?
- ♪ I think your love would be too much ♪
♪ Or you'll be left in the dust ♪
- Oh, that's... You want the honest answer?
- 'Cause I ain't want [bleep]?
- [laughs]
- How we grew up,
we didn't have much.
- We had nothing.
- We struggled.
- You bring, like, order to my life.
You kind of, like, give me, like, structure.
- I didn't choose you to be my husband.
- I chose yo ass. - [laughs]
- ♪ You're the sunflower ♪
♪ You're the sunflower ♪
♪ ♪
- Betrayed.
[sighs] I just--
I don't understand why we're even here.
What's the point?
- Miss AJ.
Like,
I'm not even thinking about you.
It wasn't about you.
- Wow. [bleep] can be bad for everybody.
It might look good sometimes, but then, you realize, like,
everything ain't perfect.
- Women always just want to talk, talk, talk, talk.
I just want to [bleep] and go to sleep.
- We trying to get to the root of the problem.
Calling me childish, and immature,
and [bleep] like that, that ain't gonna get it with me.
You know, just 'cause I look like I'm a child
don't mean that I'm a child.
- We're supposed to be partners.
Or--
I don't know what we are right now.
I'm just tired of...
not knowing.
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
- What's good?
- [sighs]
So after the Ring of Fire,
Mendeecees felt a way.
He felt like I put him on front street,
and I was going in on him.
Nobody that's your woman
wants to feel like they're easy to get over.
I want for better or for worse.
Going in, you talking about letters,
and I didn't do enough.
And I let Mendeecees get everything off his chest,
but I woke up with a few things to say.
So last night-- - So about last night.
I didn't mean to offend you in no type of way.
But for a while, you made me feel like
everything else in your life was more important than me.
Life stops for me,
but it keeps going for y'all on the outside.
- [clears throat]
- Yandy held things down while I was away in prison,
but I also think Yandy got lost
in holding things down, and forgot about me.
I never bring these things up on how I felt,
but [bleep] it.
Yandy want to talk about these issues
and want everybody else to talk about it,
so let's talk about it.
When I see my daughter first steps on the visiting floor,
you know how that made me feel?
That I wasn't there to hold her hand, on her first steps?
Life goes on.
Not for you,
but for the people that's on the other side.
- Well, but let me tell you about the other side, right?
You looked at things from the--
what you thought it was like in my shoes.
I went through a horrible depression.
It got so bad,
I couldn't even feed Omere for two, three weeks,
because I couldn't produce milk.
Because I was so
extremely hurt.
Parent-teacher nights?
Every single parent-teacher night, I cried.
[strained] Every one of them.
It was hard going in there, seeing
mom and dad holding hands,
and then, going to Christmas performances,
and I'm sitting there by myself.
It might not sound like a big deal to you,
but I felt lonely.
My kids didn't deserve to
not have you there with them,
because even though I was sitting there,
I wasn't mentally there.
I was embarrassed.
The teachers is like, "Oh, when is Dad gonna come in?"
And I'm like, "He works nights."
My babies, even to this day,
think that they were going to visit Dad at work.
Like, that is hard.
Really hard.
Those pictures you saw me posting
was me looking and acting like I'm good, I'm okay.
But I was broken. I felt alone.
I felt like I didn't have my best friend,
and I had to become a single mother.
So when you would complain about emails,
I'm like, yo, that's some petty-ass [bleep].
- To you.
Listen, you was going through what you was going through
on your end, and I was going through
what I was going through on my end.
I came home, and you think,
voilà.
Sup is going back to normal.
I came home in a pandemic.
Everything--technology changed.
Kids grew on me.
I left, they was babies.
I come back, they like little grown people.
I'm scared to discipline 'em
because I'm trying to win 'em back over,
I'm trying to love them-- - Right.
- So you gotta understand-- - So you just said it, right?
The kids, you do everything they want.
Anytime.
You spend every hour making the kids happy.
Why your guilt don't make you feel like
you gotta do it for me?
That you never felt like you just wanted
to do something for me, just to make me happy?
Little things.
"Take a night off. I'ma cook dinner tonight."
- So you're saying that never happened?
- No. Never. It's never happened.
- I don't know what world you living in today,
because now you're saying that never happened.
All right. - You cooked dinner for me?
A dinner that I love?
- I don't know how to cook, but I order.
- It's not about ordering. That's easy.
You're not listening. You're being defensive.
- 'Cause you started talking about a bunch of stuff
that I don't-- - And I listened to you.
- All right. Yo, I'm ready for this to be over.
[tense music]
♪ ♪
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Hey, girl.
- Hey, mama.
- That's where you've been hiding?
- I told you. Remember I said they got this neat little area?
- I know. - Hi. How are you?
- I've been meaning to talk to you.
- Let's jump on a bike,
so we can get some cardio and talk.
[laughs]
- I decided that I wanted to talk to AJ privately,
because I wanted to talk about
what happened in the Ring of Fire.
When we had gotten into this relationship,
he did specify to me, in the beginning,
that he didn't want
to be with just one woman.
From the beginning, our contract was very vague
with the side bitches.
But in my mind, as we evolved,
I thought he would get past that.
And every time I bring it up to him,
he makes a joke.
- Her biggest fantasy is
watching me [bleep] another woman.
It is called [bleep] swap.
- I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
[laughter]
- [bleep] Swap. Look it up.
- Shut up! [laughs]
Yes. I love [bleep] swap.
It's a fantasy, okay?
The fantasy ends, and real life begin.
I'm ready for real life now.
- Why are you really in this relationship?
- It's so hard to find someone
that has the same type of spirit
as you, and-- - I agree.
- And he brings excitement to my life.
- You can have that without the commitment.
He loves it without the commitment.
- I guess I want him
to focus on us.
- And what does that mean?
- And give me all of him.
- Devil's advocate, okay?
"I'm giving you all of me. I just have my dick everywhere.
"I trust you. I love you.
You're here with me on this." - Mm-hmm.
- "I'm asking you to move in. What more do you want from me?"
- That's exactly what he says.
- Duh! I know. That's what I'm saying.
To him, he's giving you commitment.
He's telling you what his commitment looks like.
If it's not enough for you, then you've gotta say that.
First to yourself. - Mm-hmm.
- And then, it's easier to say to him.
Are you afraid that
taking care of yourself means you have to sacrifice him?
- Um...
To be honest, yes.
- And that's a dangerous, dangerous
self-agreement to make.
I'm not sure why Rada is in this relationship still.
I'm not sure yet if it's self-esteem.
I'm not sure if she just really loves Michael
and she's waiting.
A lot of women wait to see if it's gonna change.
You can't wait.
You can't date
and get into a serious relationship with potential.
You have to deal with what it is.
Right now, what it is, is very open.
You have to make the decision of what you want,
and then go to him, and say,
"Here it is. Can we do this or not?"
all: Hey! Hey! Hey!
- I can't do that!
- I'm like, "What you heard about me,
I'm about to show you that that [bleep] is real."
all: Hey.
- Each of you, are you in love,
or do you just simply love her?
- All us guys, we have an assignment
to reenact our first date.
- Taking my jacket? - Yes.
- I don't want us to keep going down this dark road
of disrespect.
- Do you want to get a divorce? - I'm tired.
- ♪ Aye ♪
♪ Look, no shoes, no whip, no bag ♪
♪ Every time you see her, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hshe bad ♪
- I’ma help my host,
\h’cause my baby been doing it all for us,
\h\h\h\h\hso I’ma go ahead and get you some more drinks, okay?
Plus, I want to move my butt \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\ha little bit.
[all cheering]
\h- ♪ Work, work, girl go to work ♪
- This time for all the girls \h\hto get together and talk
is the best thing ever, because \hit’s really, really important
to balance out the deep, \h\hdeep soul excavation
of the relationship stuff \h\h\h\h\h\hand the fun.
We’re all in this together, and we’re all here to help.
all: Cheers. \h\h\h- Yas.
- ♪ I was raised by the wolves ♪
♪ Ate till they full ♪
♪ Run through the night ♪
- Yeah, just grape juice \h\h\h\h\h\hfor me, man.
- [laughs]
- I’ma be lit.
\h\h\h\hI needed that for the Ring of Fire.
\h[bleep]. [laughter]
Yesterday was crazy.
- The Ring of Fire was hot?
- That [bleep] was hot.
This week is starting \h\h\hto be something
\hthat I didn’t plan on, and it’s digging deep into things
that I did not want to relive.
And yeah, Rasheeda is tense,
\h\h\hand I just don’t want to start nothing right now.
I ain’t seen Ray J today.
\h\h\h\h\hYou talk to him? - No, I ain’t talk to him.
- You know, I just--you know,
let him just calm himself down, \h\h\h\h’cause, I mean, he’s...
They’re not gonna \hlisten to you.
- Gotta let him cool down too.
\h\h\h- When you heated, you know, you might not--
- Yeah, you can’t \hthink straight.
[laughter]
Got us over here explaining \h\hour hearts and [bleep].
I didn’t know I had a heart, \h\h\h\h\h\huntil yesterday.
[laughter]
- Baby girl over there. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hYou.
\h\h\hWhat’s the tea on this Gucci store?
Yes. Situation, baby? \h\h\h\h\h- Oh, snap.
\h- When we first started getting into each other,
that was, like, so dope.
We had sex in the dressing room
at the Gucci store.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hSo he has this personal shopper.
So he just saw me kind of \h\hbeing, like, playful,
and touching him, and stuff, \h\h\h\hso he just was like,
"You know nobody come back here \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hbut me?
I’m your personal shopper."
- No, he didn’t give you \h\h\h\h\hthe alley-oop.
- Boom, so I’m like,
"What you heard about me, \h\hI’m about to show you
"that that [bleep] is real \h\h\hwhen I want it to be.
And I want it to be right now."
\h\hHe like, "But no. We’re in the store."
And the door is closed. - So you initiated it?
- Hell yes!
\h\h\h\hIt’s no secret that I am seen as a sex symbol.
I get it.
I know the perception, ’cause \h\hI created the perception.
- ♪ I want you to know ♪
♪ You drive me crazy ♪
\h\h\h\h\h\h- However, I am that good in bed.
[laughs]
About a month later, \h\h\h\hhe was like,
\h"Will you marry me?" I was like, "Um, sure!"
- You knew what you was doing, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hhoney!
- Now that we’re married, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hthough,
\h\h\h\h\hit’s a robotic, systematic type of love.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah. - Raymond is amazing.
The most amazing husband ever.
\h\h\h\hAnd we’ve had the perfect marriage,
except in this one department.
\hIn the beginning, we were so hot and heavy sexually.
Like, we were just, like, \h\h\hgetting it popping.
But then, when you had me,
all of the passion \h\h\hand that type
of, you know, special feeling \h\h\h\h\h\hthat made me just
feel so, like, ready--
that just stopped.
Um, I want him to naturally \htake over the situation,
you know what I’m saying?
Like a "Sex and the City" \h\h\h\h\h\hMr. Big type,
\h\h\h\h\h\hin control at the end of the day.
You know, he get it together.
I’m the initiator \hand aggressive
when it comes down to sex.
It gets exhausting.
\h\hI just want him to be the captain and thrill me.
Be spontaneous.
\h\h\h\h\h\hTo take charge and become the alpha male.
- I love that you’re \hgoing deep with it.
You have to!
You guys gotta remember, \h\h\hwe a lot, you know?
And what we’re attracted to--
\h\h\hyou know, men can be very smart, intelligent, successful.
But mentality-wise, \h\hit can be basic
\h\h\h\h\hcompared to all the complexities we are.
- What’s up, guys? \h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yo.
\h\hWhat’s up, man? - What’s going on?
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yes, sir. - What’s up? What’s up, man?
- What’s going on? \hWhat’s up, Kirk?
- What’s up, sir? \h\hHow are you?
- So this is my friend, Dr. K.
That’s Kirk right there. \h\h- Yes, sir. Yes, sir.
- So listen, about last night, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hright?
I thought it was kind of unfair
\h\h\hthat we always hearing some perspectives of a woman.
So now, I brought Dr. K.
\h\h\h\hHe’s the expertise in, you know, helping men,
putting a mirror in front of them
and helping them see things \h\h\hthat they don’t see.
\h\h\h\h\hSo Dr. K., man, you know, we struggling.
\h\h- Yeah, I heard. - It was tough, man.
\hOne of our fellas ran away. I wonder where he’s at, man.
Probably got ate up by a coyote \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hor something.
- Yandy and I got into it before, but it feel like
\h\h\hthere’s some big issues that we need to work through.
But after Yandy surprised us \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hwith AJ,
I looked up male coaches,
and Dr. K. came straight up.
On his page, he’s called \h\h\h\h\hthe mind doctor
\h\h’cause he deal with relationships
\h\h\h\h\h\hand he help men work through their issues.
And hopefully, you know, \h\hwe help each other.
- In Atlanta, I get together \h\hsometimes with brothers.
I do a little brother circle,
so we sit down, a little drink,
have some real conversations, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hand really,
uh, as a group, sometimes have to hold each other accountable.
Ain’t no therapy going on, \h\h\h\h\h\hbut at the end,
it’s very therapeutic.
- This guy looks like \h\h\h\ha combination
of every light-skinned singer \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hthat retired.
Al B. Sure!
Heavy D without the voice.
\h\h\h\hLionel Richie without the mustache.
\h\h\h\hNow, he about to give me advice on
how to keep my [bleep] \h\h\h\h\hin my pants.
- We came here to work \hon our relationship,
so we can go back as a whole.
\h\h\h\h- I want to hear about the relationships.
What’s your woman’s \h\hlove language?
What gets her to move?
- To be romantic. \h\h\h\h- Mm-hmm.
- She’s into the candles,
the soft music.
Open up doors, pull out chairs.
I thought being a protector, \hbeing a provider is enough.
You know, I’ve never been that romantic type of guy.
It’s gonna be challenging.
\h- What about you, Kirk? What you thinking about?
\h\h- No, I’m thinking about me and Rasheeda.
I listened to the things she was saying yesterday.
\h\hI was just feeling like I need to do less business.
We’ve been married 20 years.
\h\h\h\h\hWe both got a lot of our savings into the business.
What do you want me to do?
We gonna get it, buy it, close it,
\h\htake all this money, put it down, and do what?
Sit at home?
If we start backing out now,
I mean, we can really get hurt.
Restaurants fail every day.
- I’m hearing work.
A lot of busy stuff, right?
But when was the last time \hy’all, just by yourself,
spent some quality time?
- Me and her be together \h\h\h\h\h\h\hevery day.
- I ain’t ask that.
Quality time. \h\h- [sighs]
\h- The question is, what do you do next?
\hSo each of you, are you in love,
or do you just simply love her?
- It’s like I’m trying \h\hto convince myself
so much that I don’t care.
- But, you know...
\hHey. - Hey.
\h\h\h- How you? - Yeah, I’m dope.
Hey, I gotta go.
- Are you in love,
or do you just simply love her?
- I love her. I'm in love.
I just feel like, you know, I can only give so much.
- Well, my wife, she's a alpha female.
She gets loud, boisterous,
and so, being the man in the relationship,
how do I bring it down,
you know, as the husband?
- I'm glad you said it, right? 'Cause here's the deal.
As the head goes, so too shall the body, right?
So if you're flowing and positive,
you have the right attitude, you're showing respect,
what's gonna happen to her?
The alpha personality you're talking about
will come under this submission, because, yo,
you know, the way you treat her, right?
Again, if you're encouraging, if you give some affirmations,
you won't have all the defiance
or all the stuff you're seeing now.
- I feel what Dr. K. is saying.
And at times, I try to step in and be a man,
but it's like she has a problem with that too.
It's very challenging to try to communicate
and get in sync with Deelishis,
because I feel like we're stuck every time we try.
- Listening to everybody talk, I don't think
any of us grew up in a house
with mommy and daddy, and watching 'em,
how they treat each other.
Did any of you guys have that? - No, no, no.
- You didn't have that. You didn't have that.
You? - Nah. Nah.
- He left at a certain time, but
I got a lot of father time, I would say.
- I am from Africa.
My mother left my dad.
If you want to lose a particular parent,
you just take the kids and change their last name.
You could never find these mother[bleep].
- Right. - That's what my mom did.
Took seven kids and changed our last name
so that our dad could never find us.
- Wow.
- When he died, I just felt nothing
because I didn't really know this guy, you know?
So because I didn't see love around me,
it's probably why I don't know how to show love back.
- Either way, though,
in your current relationship, the question is,
what are you willing to do to keep it together?
- Like I told 'em yesterday,
I've never been faithful in my life.
- I get it. That's how you were raised.
That's how you've been trained. That's what you saw.
That's what was modeled for you.
- Michael, you don't really know what you have
until you lose it.
And don't let her leave
before you start to make compromise.
Create a balance.
- The guys really tried to get on me about these side bitches.
I'm like, you guys got the nerve!
You all have had side bitches in the past.
I just kept mines.
Mines are still here.
- Well, that's what we know, and the expectation
is not gonna change necessarily overnight, right?
It's work.
I would encourage you to going back to the basics of a date
that lets her know, "You're important again."
I would encourage you, tonight,
to look at creating a special date for her,
to the memory of when you first met.
If it's what's gonna have her smile,
if it's what's gonna make us come together at nighttime.
- Dr. K. want us to replan our first date,
and I'm like, my first date with Rada,
I had side bitches around.
So it's gonna be very difficult,
but I'm gonna do my best.
- I thought it was a great idea.
I thought it was definitely a great idea and a great way
to try to recreate that energy.
- Go all out.
[mischievous music]
- Okay.
We done being deep, y'all.
- Yas. [laughter]
- We're not going deep no more.
I want to learn those dances from "House Party."
- Okay, you know what-- - Teach us everything. Come on.
- Do we have music? We gotta have the music.
- DJ, play that beat.
[Full Force's "Ain't My Type of Hype" playing]
[all cheering]
♪ ♪
- ♪ Go, go ♪ - ♪ Full Force get hype ♪
- AJ Johnson is legendary.
You might recognize her from "House Party,"
the one that was like...
- Yeah, you coming out tonight with that dance.
- ♪ Let's kick that ♪
♪ Yeah, ya look good, but can ya cook good? ♪
- All right. What we doing?
- Okay. Ready? - Yes.
- ♪ Or do ya' make love? How do ya' live? ♪
♪ Do ya give, or do ya take love? ♪
♪ Girl, you so fine, could you be mine? ♪
- Oh, that's too much.
- Cross. Turn.
Cross. Kick.
Pump in time.
[overlapping chatter]
- ♪ Your love's so fine ♪
all: ♪ Your love's so fine ♪
♪ Ain't my type of hype ♪
[sentimental music]
- What do you think is the next step in our relationship?
- I think the main things that make us explode,
that keep us apart,
we need to figure out what those things are.
- If you just show me that you care
about me and about us,
then there's always a chance to make it work.
You know that I want to be with you.
♪ ♪
It takes two people
to fix a relationship,
and Ray skipped out on all the events today.
I don't even know if he's still here
or what I'm even doing here anymore.
[knocks on door]
- Hi. - Hi.
- Because Ray J and Princess
did not attend the Ring of Fire,
what I wanted to find out was,
once again, we have to decide what we're doing.
And it's time to make the decision.
Are we divorcing, or are we staying together?
You had a breakthrough day yesterday.
- Yeah.
- So I wanted to come check on you.
- Thank you.
- I can see the communication thing,
of the "get up and walk away."
It also feels like there's a level
of disrespect
that shows up in the communication,
mutually,
that has to be fixed.
But I don't see or feel
like I'm around a couple who is trying to divorce.
- Sorry.
- Don't ever apologize.
- It's like I'm trying to convince myself so much
that I don't care,
and I just--
I literally just realized it, that, like, I do care, and...
I'm so confused.
- But, you know... Hey.
- Oh, hey. - Hey.
- How you? - Yeah, I'm dope.
Hey, I gotta go.
Hi.
- Nice of you to join us.
- Yeah.
I open the door, and boom.
AJ's in my suite, man,
talking to Princess.
- Hi.
- We could have a conversation and see how it goes.
Just know I'm not the one.
[dramatic music]
- Hey. What's your name? - My name is Yandy.
- All us guys, we have an assignment
to reenact our first date.
- Can I get a table dance?
- You ready for that?
- Chilly in here. - Wait. Hold on.
Come on. What you doing?
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
- How you doing? - I’m good. Good.
- I know the group thing \h\h\his not your thing.
- It’s a little tough,
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hbut let me say, I’m sorry for the other day.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hI’m sorry for leaving you alone, you know?
- So the communication issue,
it’s not gonna be fixed \h\h\h\h\h\hovernight.
And it may not be fixed here--
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- But I think it could be fixed overnight.
\h\h\hI think it could be. I think it’s fairly simple.
’Cause when you get irritated, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hyou know,
\h\h\hyou kind of just go off the deep end with the names.
- Do you feel sometimes \h\h\h\hher word choice
and her tone is disrespectful?
- Absolutely.
- We don’t have sex.
\h- [whispers] That’s so sad.
\h\h\h- Can we have one private moment?
I know you don’t mean it,
\h\h\hbut I feel like we both should just,
even in the most \hheated moments,
just know that there’s, \hlike, certain things
we just shouldn’t do or say.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hThat, and us just making sure we got each other,
whether we having \ha horrible time
\h\h\hand we having the worst argument.
Let’s just protect each other
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hand keep it in our own little bubble.
\h\h\hAnd I’m good. That’s all I want.
\hI don’t want us to keep going down this dark road
\h\h\h\hof disrespect, ’cause it’s just like,
we too good of friends, \h\h\h\h\h\h\hyou know?
- You want to share with him \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hthe behaviors
that you want to see \h\h\h\h\hand desire?
\h\h- I would like you to be more consistent.
\h\h\h\h\hJust, like, coming home at night.
\h\h\h\hI want to be able to go to sleep with you,
in our bed,
and wake up with you,
like normal people.
- I want to be in the bed.
- That doesn’t sound like \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\ha man
who wants to file for divorce.
- No.
- He’s never said that.
- Do you want to get a divorce?
- No.
- That’s the first time \hI’ve ever heard that.
Wow.
- Do you guys want \h\hto do the work
to build the relationship?
- I want to make it work.
I want to fight for the family.
\h\hI came out here because I love you.
\h\h\h\hI love our kids, and I love everything about you.
\h\h- The fact that Ray J and Princess are even verbalizing
they don’t want a divorce, \h\hI feel is a tiny step
in the right direction.
But just because you know \h\h\hwhat you don’t want
\h\h\hdoesn’t mean that what you want is clear.
\h\h\h\hSo we have to design, what is it that you do want?
\h\h\h- Respecting me, and me respecting you,
and having each other’s back \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\his--
like, that’s the core \h\h\hto everything,
\h\h\h\h\h\h’cause then, we can trust each other.
And once we realize that,
\h\h\heverything else will fall into play.
- ♪ So what if I wake up \h\h\hwith a attitude? ♪
\h♪ You assuming that I must be mad at you ♪
♪ Didn’t get no sleep with you \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hlast night ♪
\h\h\h\h\h\h- When you think about the first time we met,
what do you remember?
- How nice you were.
\h\h- I think about how when I said hi to you,
you just gave me the head nod, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hlike this.
[both laugh]
- Describe the moment \h\h\h\hyou realized
I was in love with you.
- The first time that I thought \h\h\h\hI was in love with you
is when we broke up
from hitting me in the head \h\h\h\h\hwith the picture,
and I was bleeding, and...
I began to miss you.
\h\h\h\h\hAnd then, I realized it was more than I missed you.
It was like, I [bleep] \hmust love this girl,
’cause now I’m about to let her come back.
And I wanted to be done \h\h\h\h\hwith [bleep].
\h\h\h\h\h- I do love how reserved you are.
I don’t like men that are clowns and yak, yak, yak.
[both laughing]
- And just get on it. \h\hJust say, "Whoa!"
- Describe the moment \h\h\h\hyou realized
that I was in love with you.
- Hmm.
I mean, for me, Cancun.
- I’m just gonna be \h\h\hvery honest,
\h\h\h\h\hand it’s okay, ’cause you’re my husband,
but I was not in love with you \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hin Cancun.
\h\h- No, you wasn’t-- - I liked your [bleep].
But I was not in love with you. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h[both laugh]
- That was part of it.
[sentimental music]
♪ ♪
- Dr. K. told me to step up, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hand tonight,
\h\h\hI’m thinking, like, set the stage
to reenact our first date.
- ♪ I threw it away ♪
♪ And scraped it off the bottom ♪
- Maybe I’m treating \h\h\hmy relationship
more like a business,
but I want to stay connected \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hto my wife.
So it’s important \hto fix it now,
before it derails.
- ♪ I’m stuck in my head ♪
- I’m very determined tonight \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hto step up
and surprise my wife \h\h\hwith this date.
She may be the alpha \h\h\h\h\hright now,
but I’m up for the challenge.
I’m ready.
♪ ♪
- Hey, babe.
- ♪ And I try to get by ♪
- This is our second \h\h\h\h\hfirst date.
- ♪ By myself for tonight ♪
- This looks so pretty. \h\h\h\h\h- Thank you.
- Talking to the ladies \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hearlier
about Raymond being \h\h\hmore romantic
and being a alpha male.
I like it now.
Let’s hope that it ends with a night of passion
and fireworks, baby.
- [muffled] I love you.
\h\h\h\h\hCome on. Let’s have a seat.
There you go.
- Taking my jacket? \h\h\h\h\h\h- Yes.
- Maybe you gotta hang out with the fellas more often.
\h\h\h\hNow, I see what he’s trying to do here.
I don’t want to be mad anymore.
I’m exhausted by talking \h\h\habout who did what
while he was in prison.
I just want to move on.
- So yeah, you know, \h\h\h\h\hlet’s talk.
It’s time for us to have \h\hour first date over.
\h\h\hTrying to get you to fall in love again.
- Oh.
I did fall in love.
I fell in love the first night.
- To new beginnings
and putting the past behind.
- I love that. \h\h\h- Cheers.
- You remember the first thing \h\hyou said to me when we met?
- Oh, gosh. \h[laughs]
I said,
"Hey, how my booty look \h\h\hin these shorts?"
\h\h- Yeah. - [laughs]
What was you really thinking, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hfor real?
- I was looking at you like, \h\h\h\h"Your little hot ass.
What the hell you mean \hhow your booty look?"
Frosty.
- So how are you feeling?
- Like a lady. \h\h[chuckles]
- The day that I met you,
I said to myself, like,
"That’s gonna be the man \h\h\h\hI’m gonna marry."
- Get out of here.
\h\h\h\h- I mean, like, what do you like to do?
- You.
- But...
- What did we used to do that maybe we can, like,
\h\h\h\hbring into now, just to keep everything
just lit?
\h- This is the reason why I love to be in this space
and make it feel like a space that
nobody can ever touch.
\h\h\h\h- That feels like how we first started off.
You being a gentleman.
[dramatic musical sting]
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- You see what she’s doing here?
I’m trying to take the lead,
and she’s stepping \hon all my moves.
- We was just so excited \hto be with each other,
be around each other, \h\h\h\hand get to--
\hhoping that we’re gonna be together.
And it’s like,
\h\hthis might be the one I’ma gonna kick it with.
- Kind of chilly in here.
- Wait. Hold on. \h\h\h\hCome on.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hWhat you doing? Don’t be doing that [bleep].
Hey, your hand! \h[both laugh]
Been hanging out \hwith Deelishis?
[comical music]
[phone buzzes]
- This is so nice. \h\hI’m so excited.
I can’t wait till we, you know, \h\h\h\h\hgo back to the room.
Can I get a table dance?
\h\h\h\h\h- [laughs] - Turn on some music.
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- You know what? Look, let’s just stop all that.
\hYou my wife, and you know I love you, and that’s it.
- Well, tonight, I need you.
- I’m here.
You can have me for forever.
- Hmm.
\h\h- You ready for that? - Yeah, what we gonna do?
\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hOkay. I like where this is going.
- You know, sip on some wine \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hor something.
Snuggle...in bed.
- And?
- We’ll put on a movie.
[dramatic musical sting]
- I’m tired of looking stupid.
\h\h\h\hHow are you letting these bitches disrespect me
in public?
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Look at that.
♪ ♪
- ♪ You can be difficult ♪
♪ Yeah, yeah ♪
♪ But you told me that when we met ♪
- Even though I was a little suspicious
of this expired Walmart version of Al B. Sure!,
he seemed like he knew what he was saying.
I'm willing to give it a shot.
Me and Rada have a few disagreements,
but I love her, and I don't want to lose her.
- ♪ Oh, I just want you, you, you ♪
♪ You ♪
♪ ♪
- Is that you? It's kind of dark.
[both laugh] - Hi, babe.
- What is this?
- Our first second date. Whatever you call it,
'cause our first date was in Arizona.
- Oh, well, how cute. - Go all the way over there.
That's the softer part of the couch.
- Okay.
- For you and this nice, soft butt.
- You're so stupid. - Can you take your coat off?
- Okay.
- I mean, I went out of my way
with the champagne and flowers.
I made a lot of phone calls to make this happen.
- I'll have to give you a...
B-minus.
- So let's go back to when we first met.
- Yeah. - Mm-hmm.
- When I met her, I had about three side chicks,
but she was different.
She's the best woman I've been with
in my whole entire life.
She's caring, and loving,
and so understanding.
When we first met, every time we went out,
I always had some chick with us.
- Mm-hmm.
- So I'm gonna do a date without bitches.
Just me, you, [bleep] grapes,
champagne.
Let's toast to no bitches. How about that?
- Really? - Yes.
[quickly] Tonight. All right?
What? - Just tonight?
I love the fact that he took his time
to put this together,
but after the meeting with AJ,
I'm ready to put my foot down,
tell him what I want, and demand more.
So what's your point?
- Of what? - Of telling me that?
- That we are finally alone. I made this happen.
- I know, but don't you want this more often?
- You know that regardless of the side bitches,
they don't mean nothing to me.
- Michael's a nice guy.
He never says no,
so when a side bitch hits him up
and asks for a little something-something,
he goes for it.
If I'm your girlfriend,
and you don't give a [bleep] about these bitches,
how are you letting these bitches disrespect me
in public?
Right before we came here, Michael and I broke up.
Michael was seeing the same girl,
and her feelings start getting attached,
and trying to question me mentally.
And that was not okay with me.
I felt really hurt.
When these girls just disrespect me,
I wish that he can just
tell 'em how it is!
Like, emotionally, it's like--
it's [bleep] up, because
you're allowing for these bitches to do that.
I'm tired of looking stupid, you know?
Like, if I'm your girlfriend,
treat me like your [bleep] girlfriend,
or I'm never coming back.
[solemn music]
- I’m tired of looking stupid, \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hyou know?
Like, if I’m your girlfriend,
\h\h\h\h\h\htreat me like your [bleep] girlfriend.
- Rada has a point.
The side chicks are \hdisrespecting her
on social media.
\h\hI know she wants to be exclusive, but
\h\h\h\hI need these bitches to make me appreciate who you are.
\h\h\h\h\hTrust me. We both need them.
Prior to me, you had a relationship, okay,
where it was just one-on-one, \h\h\h\h\hand what happened?
\h\h\h\h\hThey didn’t last because the men were lying.
Dishonest, right? \h- Yeah, right.
- You agreed to this.
We signed a deal, Rada. \h\hWe agreed on this.
\h\h\hAnd that’s why all I could do is be honest.
\h\h\hWhether I’m doing something wrong or not,
you will know the truth.
That’s the best thing \h\h\h\hin the world,
\h\h\h\h\h\hknowing that you will know the truth.
Rada probably agreed \h\hon this contract
because she saw something \h\hin me, and she said,
\h\h\h\h\h\h"You know what? I’ma hang in with this guy,
"whatever his issues are,
because I see something more \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hwith him."
- I’m just asking for respect, \h\h\h\h\hlove, and boundaries.
- I want to change for Rada. \h\h\h\hI want to be better.
\h\h\h- The thing that I really want from you
is just some kind \hof commitment.
- I can’t make any promises \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hright now.
- Aye, aye, hot smoke. \h\h\h\hAye, aye, aye.
That’s when you give us \h\h\hold folks liquor,
at this time of night.
- I’m not old, honey. \h\hI just turned 26.
I don’t know about you,
but me, I like my men older.
- ♪ You know it’s about time \hto hit it for the night ♪
- Just hooked up this cute, \h\h\h\h\hlittle situation.
Said he wanted to work \hon our quality time.
The first step is important,
\h\hand I’m appreciative, and I love him very much.
But with that being said, \h\h\hwe had a cute date,
and the night is still young.
- ♪ You say I’m sassy, \h\h\h\hyou like me ♪
- I was able to get
wasted!
\h\h\h\h\h\h\hYou know, it was just alone time,
grown time, and now, we’re about to spend
\hsome alone time/grown time/naked time, okay?
Making babies time, okay?
- You know, when people think \h\h\h\h\hthat automatically,
once you come off a hot date, \h\hyou’re just gonna go back
to the room and have hot, butt-naked sex.
- ♪ We about to get it ♪
♪ We in here ♪
- We got on the phone, \h\h\hcalled our kids,
made sure they was good.
- [vocalizes]
♪ ♪
\h\h\h\h\h- And then, I kind of dozed off.
\h\h\h\h\h\h- Every day, we been getting homework.
- I came to vacation.
- Whoo! - Whoo!
- She told us
\hthe relationship is not as sexual as it started.
A man’s libido can wane when he’s got pressure.
What’s really going on \h\h\h\h\h\hwith that?
- Mother Sucka!
[cheers]
- Did you get some [bleep], \h\h\h\h\h\hmother[bleep]?
He discovered Kim Kardashian. Don’t do that [bleep] to her.
Don’t [bleep] up.
\h\h\h- Your side bitch days is coming to an end, though.
- Rada trying to renegotiate \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hour contract.
No, mother[bleep]. \h\hIt’s too late.
\h- Well, [bleep], what was the terms on that [bleep]?
Ten years?
- This is Lakara. She is a medium.
- Uh-oh.
\h- Was there a baby that was lost between you all?
\h\h\h- Excuse me. I’ll be right back.
- It’s okay.
- Did you lose a baby?
\hThe soul came back in your second child.
\h- Come on. That’s a lie.
- I am only communicating \hwhat the soul gave me.
\h\h- This [bleep] you talking about?
This ain’t gonna end well, \h\h\h\h\hMiss Sixth Sense.
[dramatic musical sting]