1 00:00:00,363 --> 00:00:01,396 {\an7}- ♪ Bring your friends ♪ 2 00:00:01,396 --> 00:00:03,462 {\an7}\h\h\h\h- I reached out to a few of my friends, 3 00:00:03,462 --> 00:00:04,198 {\an7}and I told them 4 00:00:04,198 --> 00:00:06,726 {\an7}that we were going to go \h\hon a couples retreat. 5 00:00:06,726 --> 00:00:09,033 {\an7}- You made it! 6 00:00:09,033 --> 00:00:10,726 {\an7}- Let’s do it. Yes. 7 00:00:10,726 --> 00:00:15,462 {\an7}- Couples that get the answer \hwrong have to take a shot. 8 00:00:15,462 --> 00:00:17,198 {\an7}- Yeah! 9 00:00:17,198 --> 00:00:18,561 {\an7}- Is this game rigged? 10 00:00:18,561 --> 00:00:22,066 {\an7}\h\hHow the couple that [inaudible] divorcing-- 11 00:00:22,066 --> 00:00:23,231 {\an7}how they winning? 12 00:00:23,231 --> 00:00:24,363 {\an7}- Y’all killed this game. 13 00:00:24,363 --> 00:00:26,099 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- We don’t have the traditional relationship. 14 00:00:26,099 --> 00:00:29,330 {\an7}\hWhen we’re together, adding a side bitch here and there. 15 00:00:29,330 --> 00:00:32,198 {\an7}\h- The contract is, we do threesomes once in a while. 16 00:00:32,198 --> 00:00:35,495 {\an7}\h- Your definition of once in a while is kind of off. 17 00:00:35,495 --> 00:00:38,330 {\an7}- As much as I want this \h\h\h\hto be a vacation, 18 00:00:38,330 --> 00:00:40,693 {\an7}I have a relationship \hlife coach coming. 19 00:00:40,693 --> 00:00:41,561 {\an7}- Hi. 20 00:00:41,561 --> 00:00:45,198 {\an7}I want you to think about, \h\h\h\hwhere are you now? 21 00:00:45,198 --> 00:00:46,198 {\an7}Where do you want to be? 22 00:00:46,198 --> 00:00:48,495 {\an7}- Here, I’m gonna decide whether I’m gonna go back 23 00:00:48,495 --> 00:00:49,297 {\an7}to being single 24 00:00:49,297 --> 00:00:50,594 {\an7}or I’m gonna stay \ha married man. 25 00:00:50,594 --> 00:00:52,165 {\an7}- And we’ve been in a place 26 00:00:52,165 --> 00:00:54,561 {\an7}where [bleep] was just \h\h\h\h\h\h[bleep] up. 27 00:00:54,561 --> 00:00:55,198 {\an7}- Yeah. 28 00:00:55,198 --> 00:00:56,726 {\an7}You know, some people \h\hcall it cheating. 29 00:00:56,726 --> 00:01:01,066 {\an7}- I found out about our divorce \h\h\h\h\h\h\hon social media. 30 00:01:01,066 --> 00:01:02,264 {\an7}- What the [bleep] \ham I doing here? 31 00:01:02,264 --> 00:01:04,396 {\an7}\h\h- We’re always fighting. We’re never on the same page. 32 00:01:04,396 --> 00:01:07,066 {\an7}- Where’d the love come from? \h\h\h\h\h\hCould it be lust? 33 00:01:07,066 --> 00:01:07,858 {\an7}- No. We don’t have sex. 34 00:01:07,858 --> 00:01:10,726 {\an7}- Ray J, what do you want? \h\h- Princess to be happy. 35 00:01:10,726 --> 00:01:11,660 {\an7}- Do you believe him? 36 00:01:11,660 --> 00:01:14,198 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- No. - [bleep] this couples retreat. 37 00:01:14,198 --> 00:01:15,495 {\an7}[Mary J. Blige’s "Real Love"] 38 00:01:15,495 --> 00:01:19,693 {\an7}- ♪ Ooh ♪ 39 00:01:19,693 --> 00:01:22,660 {\an7}[upbeat R&B music] 40 00:01:22,660 --> 00:01:26,297 {\an7}♪ Ah ♪ 41 00:01:26,297 --> 00:01:30,264 {\an7}♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪ 42 00:01:30,264 --> 00:01:33,264 {\an7}♪ ♪ 43 00:01:36,737 --> 00:01:38,439 - Ray J, what do you want? 44 00:01:38,506 --> 00:01:40,475 - Feel like all he cares about is, like, money. 45 00:01:40,541 --> 00:01:43,277 - Do you realize she doesn't believe you? 46 00:01:43,344 --> 00:01:45,580 - It is still only day one, 47 00:01:45,646 --> 00:01:48,282 and we're in the middle of this game with AJ, 48 00:01:48,349 --> 00:01:50,618 and she's not messing around. 49 00:01:50,685 --> 00:01:53,554 ♪ ♪ 50 00:01:53,621 --> 00:01:55,890 - This is such BS. 51 00:01:55,957 --> 00:01:57,692 He can't even answer the question, 52 00:01:57,758 --> 00:01:59,827 and he's deflecting it on me. 53 00:01:59,894 --> 00:02:01,562 What do you want? 54 00:02:01,629 --> 00:02:04,432 I want to know the answer to that too. 55 00:02:04,499 --> 00:02:08,402 Like, we're adults. Just keep it real. 56 00:02:08,469 --> 00:02:10,071 - Ray. 57 00:02:10,138 --> 00:02:11,939 Ray, where you going? 58 00:02:12,006 --> 00:02:14,509 - I could say a lot of [bleep] about Princess right now. 59 00:02:14,575 --> 00:02:18,146 [whispering] I found lingerie in her purse. 60 00:02:18,212 --> 00:02:21,048 But I would never do that. That's my wife. 61 00:02:21,115 --> 00:02:23,351 Of course, she does the opposite 62 00:02:23,417 --> 00:02:25,786 and calls me out publicly. 63 00:02:25,853 --> 00:02:27,855 - I just want to make sure you all right, bro. 64 00:02:27,922 --> 00:02:29,557 - She not telling the real story. 65 00:02:29,624 --> 00:02:33,161 There's too much pressure, man. Like, this ain't fun. 66 00:02:33,227 --> 00:02:36,330 She told everybody that I filed for divorce, 67 00:02:36,397 --> 00:02:37,798 and I didn't tell her. 68 00:02:37,865 --> 00:02:41,102 That's the problem. 69 00:02:41,169 --> 00:02:42,236 'Cause everybody looking like, 70 00:02:42,303 --> 00:02:44,272 "Damn, he didn't even tell her?" 71 00:02:46,307 --> 00:02:47,842 - Sometimes we need to walk away 72 00:02:47,909 --> 00:02:49,143 and just breathe a little bit. 73 00:02:49,210 --> 00:02:50,344 Definitely need a minute 74 00:02:50,411 --> 00:02:52,346 to calm down, you know what I'm saying? 75 00:02:52,413 --> 00:02:53,347 - Like, I ain't know I was gonna 76 00:02:53,414 --> 00:02:54,482 have to be on blast like this. 77 00:02:54,549 --> 00:02:56,951 This [bleep] is-- I'm on blast, fam. 78 00:02:57,051 --> 00:02:59,887 There's certain women that want to just see you ruined, 79 00:02:59,954 --> 00:03:01,923 where your name is horrible. 80 00:03:02,056 --> 00:03:03,224 And I just--I'm feeling like 81 00:03:03,291 --> 00:03:06,060 Princess is just one of them people. 82 00:03:06,060 --> 00:03:07,395 - I just don't understand. 83 00:03:07,461 --> 00:03:08,896 Like, if you love somebody, and you have, like, 84 00:03:08,963 --> 00:03:11,632 this beautiful family, why is that not enough? 85 00:03:11,699 --> 00:03:12,967 [somber music] 86 00:03:13,067 --> 00:03:14,502 - It doesn't necessarily mean that it's not. 87 00:03:14,569 --> 00:03:15,970 You know, it's just that he's got 88 00:03:16,070 --> 00:03:17,305 to get to what he wants, 89 00:03:17,371 --> 00:03:18,806 which is why I'm asking that question. 90 00:03:18,873 --> 00:03:20,408 - That's all he cares about... - You know what I mean? 91 00:03:20,475 --> 00:03:23,845 - Is what he wants and how he feels. 92 00:03:23,911 --> 00:03:26,614 - So what has you together, even to this degree? 93 00:03:26,681 --> 00:03:27,748 - Our kids. 94 00:03:27,815 --> 00:03:29,083 - Yeah, but you guys can coparent 95 00:03:29,150 --> 00:03:30,518 and not have to try to be together. 96 00:03:30,585 --> 00:03:33,354 Some people are better as parents than together. 97 00:03:33,421 --> 00:03:36,190 - I've just convinced myself that I don't care anymore. 98 00:03:36,257 --> 00:03:37,191 - But you do. Look at you. 99 00:03:37,258 --> 00:03:39,827 - But I do. - I know. 100 00:03:39,894 --> 00:03:43,030 - I had bet money that AJ was gonna make somebody cry. 101 00:03:43,030 --> 00:03:44,832 - That's tough. - What I want to know, right? 102 00:03:44,899 --> 00:03:47,568 'Cause I don't know how many people ever had a threesome. 103 00:03:47,635 --> 00:03:49,036 - Oh, God. 104 00:03:49,070 --> 00:03:50,037 - Like, so it has to be, like, 105 00:03:50,104 --> 00:03:51,706 somebody different each time? 106 00:03:51,772 --> 00:03:52,907 - I prefer that, 107 00:03:53,040 --> 00:03:55,209 because there's no emotional attachment. 108 00:03:55,276 --> 00:03:56,811 Only when we're together, it's cool. 109 00:03:56,878 --> 00:03:58,513 But then, like, when he goes out on the road sometimes 110 00:03:58,579 --> 00:03:59,847 and brings, like, the same bitch, I'm like, 111 00:03:59,914 --> 00:04:01,315 "What you doing with the same bitch?" 112 00:04:01,382 --> 00:04:02,817 - Okay. - You know? 113 00:04:02,884 --> 00:04:04,152 'Cause that's another relationship. 114 00:04:04,218 --> 00:04:05,620 - It is. 115 00:04:05,686 --> 00:04:08,122 - How do you feel about Michael Blackson advice 116 00:04:08,189 --> 00:04:10,625 about the side chicks? 117 00:04:10,691 --> 00:04:14,529 - You want to stay alive? - There you have it. 118 00:04:14,595 --> 00:04:16,430 Y'all poisoning my baby. Like, come on. 119 00:04:16,497 --> 00:04:18,166 - Oh, please. [laughter] 120 00:04:18,232 --> 00:04:20,401 - Don't get no ideas now, you know? 121 00:04:20,468 --> 00:04:22,270 - She not keeping it 100, fam. 122 00:04:22,336 --> 00:04:23,504 - But you got a lot 123 00:04:23,571 --> 00:04:25,239 that you gotta say, though, Ray. 124 00:04:25,306 --> 00:04:26,707 - I don't like talking in front of every--- 125 00:04:26,774 --> 00:04:28,609 I can't do that [bleep]. 126 00:04:28,676 --> 00:04:31,212 Y'all go in for me. That's it. 127 00:04:44,659 --> 00:04:46,227 - I'm not sure what's going on with my boy Ray J. 128 00:04:46,294 --> 00:04:47,728 He stomp off. 129 00:04:47,795 --> 00:04:51,065 I'm like, dog, we have, like, seven more days here. 130 00:04:51,132 --> 00:04:52,433 Figure it out, okay? 131 00:04:52,500 --> 00:04:55,736 - So I think the tears are you releasing 132 00:04:55,803 --> 00:04:58,306 the just dealing with it, settling for it. 133 00:04:58,372 --> 00:05:00,541 They're cleansing tears. 134 00:05:00,608 --> 00:05:02,910 So let's get you some peace. 135 00:05:05,246 --> 00:05:06,781 Come on. 136 00:05:06,848 --> 00:05:08,683 - Well, guess I'm doing this alone. 137 00:05:08,749 --> 00:05:10,117 - Where's Ray J? - He's still walking. 138 00:05:10,184 --> 00:05:11,552 He need to blow off steam. 139 00:05:11,619 --> 00:05:13,621 - He okay? - Yeah, he's just hot. 140 00:05:15,089 --> 00:05:17,792 - Wow. I mean, I love that you guys felt comfortable 141 00:05:17,859 --> 00:05:19,360 enough to be so honest. 142 00:05:19,427 --> 00:05:22,129 The bottom line is, we all here to get better. 143 00:05:22,196 --> 00:05:23,664 Because of stuff like this, 144 00:05:23,731 --> 00:05:26,634 I designed a game, and it's called Stuck. 145 00:05:28,269 --> 00:05:29,971 I designed this little game 146 00:05:30,071 --> 00:05:34,509 because I feel like, in order for us to really heal, 147 00:05:34,575 --> 00:05:36,811 we've got to look at where things are broken 148 00:05:36,878 --> 00:05:39,547 in order for us to really dive in to fix them. 149 00:05:39,614 --> 00:05:41,115 The whole point of this game 150 00:05:41,182 --> 00:05:43,818 is to show where in your life you're getting stuck 151 00:05:43,885 --> 00:05:46,020 and where you've actually done the work to move forward. 152 00:05:46,087 --> 00:05:48,823 So I want everybody to move back, back towards the table. 153 00:05:48,890 --> 00:05:52,493 And I am going to call out categories. 154 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:57,031 And if the category pertains to you, you stay still. 155 00:05:57,064 --> 00:05:59,767 You gotta stay still and admit that you're stuck. 156 00:05:59,834 --> 00:06:02,436 If the category does not pertain to you, 157 00:06:02,503 --> 00:06:04,572 you take a step forward. 158 00:06:04,639 --> 00:06:07,308 This game, it's a great visualization. 159 00:06:07,375 --> 00:06:09,043 - It's like Red Light, Green Light. 160 00:06:09,043 --> 00:06:10,511 - Think about it: if you're stuck, 161 00:06:10,578 --> 00:06:13,114 you're gonna be at the back of the line. 162 00:06:13,181 --> 00:06:14,549 We good? 163 00:06:14,615 --> 00:06:17,451 - Yeah. - Immaturity. 164 00:06:17,518 --> 00:06:19,420 You stay if that's part of your life. 165 00:06:19,487 --> 00:06:21,756 - You better stay your ass put. 166 00:06:21,823 --> 00:06:23,391 - [laughs] 167 00:06:23,457 --> 00:06:24,692 - He's a [bleep] comedian. 168 00:06:24,759 --> 00:06:27,061 You better believe his ass is immature. 169 00:06:27,061 --> 00:06:30,064 - A lack of romance. Stay where you are. 170 00:06:32,099 --> 00:06:33,267 - Lack of romance? 171 00:06:33,334 --> 00:06:35,603 - I'm not moving. I'm not--I'm stuck. 172 00:06:35,670 --> 00:06:38,439 Our romance is, like, since we said "I do," 173 00:06:38,506 --> 00:06:42,810 like..."Hey." 174 00:06:42,877 --> 00:06:44,479 Yeah. Yeah. 175 00:06:44,545 --> 00:06:46,881 - Insecurities. 176 00:06:47,014 --> 00:06:49,784 There's no insecurities, take a step forward. 177 00:06:51,018 --> 00:06:52,353 How we doing? You good? 178 00:06:52,420 --> 00:06:53,621 - I think he's lying. 179 00:06:53,688 --> 00:06:54,856 - I'm not insecure about a damn-- 180 00:06:54,922 --> 00:06:56,257 I think I'm the cutest man on Earth. 181 00:06:56,324 --> 00:07:00,161 [laughter] 182 00:07:00,228 --> 00:07:02,263 - What I'm insecure about? Tell me. 183 00:07:02,330 --> 00:07:03,831 - How we doing over here? 184 00:07:03,898 --> 00:07:05,333 - I ain't insecure. 185 00:07:05,399 --> 00:07:06,634 - Mendeecees stepping forward 186 00:07:06,701 --> 00:07:08,436 saying insecurity doesn't play a role 187 00:07:08,503 --> 00:07:10,638 in our relationship is... 188 00:07:10,705 --> 00:07:12,039 [coughing] [bleep]. 189 00:07:12,039 --> 00:07:15,176 Because that's all I got for five years. 190 00:07:15,243 --> 00:07:16,544 "Hey, babe. How you doing? 191 00:07:16,611 --> 00:07:18,045 Notice you were out last night." 192 00:07:18,045 --> 00:07:19,380 "Hey babe. How you doing? 193 00:07:19,447 --> 00:07:20,915 "Oh, I see you put on lipstick yesterday. 194 00:07:21,048 --> 00:07:21,949 What was that for?" 195 00:07:22,049 --> 00:07:23,818 You stepping forward? 196 00:07:23,885 --> 00:07:25,052 Oh, mm-kay. 197 00:07:26,621 --> 00:07:29,090 - My husband walked out before the game even started. 198 00:07:29,157 --> 00:07:31,893 I'm literally the most stuck person here. 199 00:07:33,194 --> 00:07:34,395 - What about infidelity? 200 00:07:34,462 --> 00:07:37,431 If the category does not pertain to you, 201 00:07:37,498 --> 00:07:39,033 you take a step forward. 202 00:07:39,100 --> 00:07:42,136 You stay if that's part of your life. 203 00:07:42,203 --> 00:07:45,273 [dramatic music] 204 00:07:45,339 --> 00:07:47,074 ♪ ♪ 205 00:07:47,141 --> 00:07:48,643 - So Kirk stepped forward, 206 00:07:48,709 --> 00:07:51,312 and I'm the only one stuck on the infidelity issue. 207 00:07:51,379 --> 00:07:52,680 Damn. 208 00:07:52,747 --> 00:07:54,015 Don't be so jolly joy to act like 209 00:07:54,081 --> 00:07:55,316 [bleep] is just gravy, bro. 210 00:07:55,383 --> 00:07:58,219 You just need to make sure I'm good, okay? 211 00:07:58,286 --> 00:08:01,656 - Mistrust. 212 00:08:01,722 --> 00:08:04,125 - And I guess I'm stuck on mistrust too. 213 00:08:04,192 --> 00:08:09,297 ♪ ♪ 214 00:08:09,363 --> 00:08:11,632 - By the looks of this, 215 00:08:11,699 --> 00:08:13,935 I mean, I think you kind of can see 216 00:08:14,035 --> 00:08:16,037 where we have to do the work, you feel me? 217 00:08:16,103 --> 00:08:17,538 So with that, 218 00:08:17,605 --> 00:08:21,108 in order for us to really heal and move forward, 219 00:08:21,175 --> 00:08:22,410 we gotta go a little deeper. 220 00:08:22,477 --> 00:08:24,045 So... 221 00:08:24,045 --> 00:08:25,513 - I was just gonna say, we didn't go deep yet? 222 00:08:25,580 --> 00:08:26,714 - Oh, no. We didn't go deep yet. 223 00:08:26,781 --> 00:08:28,049 [laughs] 224 00:08:28,082 --> 00:08:29,784 We're just scratching the surface, y'all. 225 00:08:29,851 --> 00:08:32,253 Tomorrow's a whole nother plan. 226 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:35,089 I'm a strong believer that a relationship is only 227 00:08:35,156 --> 00:08:37,458 as strong as the independent people in them. 228 00:08:37,525 --> 00:08:40,127 And so I wanted to see where everybody was 229 00:08:40,194 --> 00:08:43,898 possibly not whole in the union as well as independently. 230 00:08:43,998 --> 00:08:46,767 Starting tomorrow, I think we have to work on forgiveness. 231 00:08:46,834 --> 00:08:49,470 I think we have to work on new directions. 232 00:08:49,537 --> 00:08:51,339 We have to work on new communication. 233 00:08:51,405 --> 00:08:53,841 There's a lot of work to do. 234 00:08:53,908 --> 00:08:56,544 Can't wait to see you at our next elevation session. 235 00:08:56,611 --> 00:08:59,614 - At this point, we have nothing to lose. 236 00:09:01,249 --> 00:09:03,818 - ♪ You got me ♪ 237 00:09:03,885 --> 00:09:08,089 ♪ Got me doing things for you ♪ 238 00:09:08,156 --> 00:09:10,725 ♪ 'Cause I'm trying to get you comfortable now ♪ 239 00:09:10,791 --> 00:09:12,093 - Well, tonight was crazy. 240 00:09:12,160 --> 00:09:14,428 - The exercise we did, what did you think? 241 00:09:14,495 --> 00:09:15,696 - I like how it showed how everybody 242 00:09:15,763 --> 00:09:17,131 was in different places, 243 00:09:17,198 --> 00:09:18,933 and that gave you something you could work on. 244 00:09:19,033 --> 00:09:21,769 Looking around at the couples, though, you like, damn. 245 00:09:21,836 --> 00:09:24,038 Like, I feel sorry for them. 246 00:09:24,038 --> 00:09:26,174 - Nobody wants to continue to go back 247 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:29,043 into the dark spot of their relationship. 248 00:09:29,076 --> 00:09:31,078 But it's good to know you over it. 249 00:09:31,145 --> 00:09:34,048 And I'm the only one stuck on the infidelity issue. 250 00:09:34,115 --> 00:09:36,784 Move past it, running away from it, 251 00:09:36,851 --> 00:09:38,986 and ain't gonna do this [bleep] again. 252 00:09:40,254 --> 00:09:43,191 - I felt so awkward about Kirk and Rasheeda. 253 00:09:43,257 --> 00:09:46,093 Because when we got ready to do the game, 254 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:49,397 shoot, she said, "Infidelity," everybody's face was like-- 255 00:09:49,463 --> 00:09:52,500 [both laugh] 256 00:09:52,567 --> 00:09:56,337 [dramatic music] 257 00:09:56,404 --> 00:09:57,672 - Started crying. 258 00:09:57,738 --> 00:10:01,809 I just don't understand how this can get better. 259 00:10:03,177 --> 00:10:06,247 We're not willing to meet in the middle somehow. 260 00:10:06,314 --> 00:10:11,786 ♪ ♪ 261 00:10:11,853 --> 00:10:14,088 - I said some things that were not right, 262 00:10:14,155 --> 00:10:16,057 and I apologize to y'all. 263 00:10:16,123 --> 00:10:18,893 Forgive me. 264 00:10:19,026 --> 00:10:22,396 And continue to pray for me. 265 00:10:22,463 --> 00:10:23,498 - I don't know. 266 00:10:23,564 --> 00:10:25,633 I just feel like 267 00:10:25,700 --> 00:10:30,204 this whole thing is just getting a little heavy. 268 00:10:31,038 --> 00:10:33,774 - It felt great to get exonerated for a crime 269 00:10:33,841 --> 00:10:35,543 that you had nothing to do with. 270 00:10:35,610 --> 00:10:37,011 - You know, you being in prison, 271 00:10:37,078 --> 00:10:38,980 was there, like, a lot of friction? 272 00:10:39,046 --> 00:10:41,716 - I could see her on social media on every single day. 273 00:10:41,782 --> 00:10:44,986 I was getting, like, growing resentment towards that. 274 00:10:45,052 --> 00:10:48,055 - Like I said, his definition of once in a while 275 00:10:48,122 --> 00:10:50,725 turned into every time we saw each other. 276 00:10:50,791 --> 00:10:52,160 - It wasn't just for me. 277 00:10:52,226 --> 00:10:54,162 Her biggest fantasy is 278 00:10:54,228 --> 00:10:56,731 watching me [bleep] another woman. 279 00:10:56,797 --> 00:10:58,132 - You got to stop walking away 280 00:10:58,199 --> 00:10:59,634 in the middle of a conversation. 281 00:10:59,700 --> 00:11:01,002 That's the childish [bleep], Ray J. 282 00:11:01,035 --> 00:11:02,770 - I feel like I'm talking to Princess right now. 283 00:11:02,837 --> 00:11:05,072 - Wow. - Is it possible 284 00:11:05,139 --> 00:11:09,177 that there's a way to integrate some husband and wife time? 285 00:11:09,243 --> 00:11:11,746 - We're stuck here. - Is it stuck? 286 00:11:19,289 --> 00:11:22,025 {\an7}[Shawn Mendes’ "Wonder"] 287 00:11:22,025 --> 00:11:24,652 {\an7}[soft pop music] 288 00:11:24,652 --> 00:11:26,586 {\an7}- ♪ I wonder ♪ 289 00:11:26,586 --> 00:11:27,652 {\an7}♪ If I’m being real ♪ 290 00:11:27,652 --> 00:11:31,520 {\an7}\h\h\h♪ Do I speak my truth or do I filter how I feel? ♪ 291 00:11:31,520 --> 00:11:32,883 {\an7}♪ I wonder ♪ 292 00:11:32,883 --> 00:11:35,883 {\an7}- "Describe the moment \h\h\h\h\hyou realized 293 00:11:35,883 --> 00:11:37,190 {\an7}I was in love with you." 294 00:11:37,190 --> 00:11:38,157 {\an7}- ♪ Why I’m so afraid ♪ 295 00:11:38,157 --> 00:11:39,487 {\an7}♪ Of saying something wrong ♪ 296 00:11:39,487 --> 00:11:41,883 {\an7}♪ I never said I was a saint ♪ 297 00:11:41,883 --> 00:11:43,817 {\an7}♪ I wonder ♪ 298 00:11:43,817 --> 00:11:45,190 {\an7}- I knew you loved me... 299 00:11:45,190 --> 00:11:49,190 {\an7}\h\h\h\h- We were talking about having to leave the next day... 300 00:11:49,190 --> 00:11:51,751 {\an7}\h\h\h\h- When you was like, "You don’t have to go home." 301 00:11:51,751 --> 00:11:53,850 {\an7}- You wouldn’t let me \h\h\h\h\hgo easily. 302 00:11:53,850 --> 00:11:54,784 {\an7}- "When was the last time 303 00:11:54,784 --> 00:11:57,718 {\an7}\hI made you feel secure as a man?" 304 00:11:57,718 --> 00:12:00,025 {\an7}♪ ♪ 305 00:12:00,025 --> 00:12:01,784 {\an7}- You do that every day, \h\h\h\h\h\hwhen you go, 306 00:12:01,784 --> 00:12:02,751 {\an7}"Ooh, babe, that’s my king. 307 00:12:02,751 --> 00:12:04,817 {\an7}That’s my husband. \h\hThat’s my man." 308 00:12:04,817 --> 00:12:07,025 {\an7}- You trust in me. \h\hBelieve in me. 309 00:12:07,025 --> 00:12:08,619 {\an7}\h\h\h\h- I do. - This morning. 310 00:12:08,619 --> 00:12:12,487 {\an7}You went and got my breakfast \h\hand gave it to me in bed. 311 00:12:12,487 --> 00:12:15,124 {\an7}- I don’t know, I’ve been naked \h\hand afraid for a long time. 312 00:12:15,124 --> 00:12:17,454 {\an7}- Yeah, we both know \h\h\hyou been naked. 313 00:12:17,454 --> 00:12:19,718 {\an7}- ♪ Wonder what it’s like ♪ 314 00:12:19,718 --> 00:12:22,992 {\an7}♪ To be loved by you ♪ 315 00:12:22,992 --> 00:12:25,850 {\an7}[tense music] 316 00:12:25,850 --> 00:12:27,289 {\an7}- So I’m in the bathroom. 317 00:12:27,289 --> 00:12:30,289 {\an7}I hate talking about anything serious with Michael around, 318 00:12:30,289 --> 00:12:32,850 {\an7}\hbecause he always makes a joke out of everything. 319 00:12:32,850 --> 00:12:36,553 {\an7}- I picked this because it has \ha little cheetah on the back. 320 00:12:36,553 --> 00:12:37,784 {\an7}\h\h\hI don’t know how to be faithful, 321 00:12:37,784 --> 00:12:39,124 {\an7}\h\h\h\hso that’s why she got the cheetah. 322 00:12:39,124 --> 00:12:41,025 {\an7}- Oh, my God. \h[laughter] 323 00:12:41,025 --> 00:12:45,091 {\an7}- He always finds a joke out of it. 324 00:12:45,091 --> 00:12:45,992 {\an7}And it frustrates me 325 00:12:45,992 --> 00:12:48,124 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hbecause I feel like he’s not taking me seriously. 326 00:12:48,124 --> 00:12:51,025 {\an7}- There’s some deep, \h\h\h\h\hdark demons 327 00:12:51,025 --> 00:12:53,553 {\an7}in some of these relationships. 328 00:12:53,553 --> 00:12:58,718 {\an7}- I think my situation \h\h\h\h\hreally is... 329 00:12:58,718 --> 00:13:02,223 {\an7}like...unfixable. 330 00:13:02,223 --> 00:13:05,190 {\an7}- I think that our relationship \h\h\h\h\hstill has struggles. 331 00:13:05,190 --> 00:13:09,124 {\an7}\h\h\h\hHow do we overcome our struggles in our relationship, 332 00:13:09,124 --> 00:13:10,586 {\an7}or in my relationship? 333 00:13:10,586 --> 00:13:13,058 {\an7}It’s just, we haven’t \h\heven got started. 334 00:13:13,058 --> 00:13:16,992 {\an7}We haven’t even gotten past, \hyou know, the 50-yard line 335 00:13:16,992 --> 00:13:18,817 {\an7}to get to the other side. 336 00:13:18,817 --> 00:13:22,058 {\an7}[heavy hip-hop music] 337 00:13:22,058 --> 00:13:24,718 {\an7}♪ ♪ 338 00:13:24,718 --> 00:13:26,091 {\an7}- How does this water feel? 339 00:13:26,091 --> 00:13:28,751 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hIt cold! - Oh, so freaking good. 340 00:13:28,751 --> 00:13:31,190 {\an7}- I’m hoping this day will be \h\h\h\h\ha little more chill 341 00:13:31,190 --> 00:13:34,850 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hthan yesterday, because last night got intense. 342 00:13:34,850 --> 00:13:38,025 {\an7}\h\hI’m a little worried about Ray J and Princess, 343 00:13:38,025 --> 00:13:39,322 {\an7}since he stormed off \h\h\h\h\hlast night. 344 00:13:39,322 --> 00:13:42,959 {\an7}But one thing for sure, I’m not \h\hgiving up on them just yet. 345 00:13:42,959 --> 00:13:44,322 {\an7}We invited all these couples, 346 00:13:44,322 --> 00:13:46,926 {\an7}and I really believe \h\h\hin all of them. 347 00:13:46,926 --> 00:13:48,959 {\an7}\hHoney, were you drunk last night? 348 00:13:48,959 --> 00:13:49,959 {\an7}- Oh, my God. No. 349 00:13:49,959 --> 00:13:51,926 {\an7}I was--pick another word. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h- [laughs] 350 00:13:51,926 --> 00:13:52,883 {\an7}- I was definitely drunk, 351 00:13:52,883 --> 00:13:53,959 {\an7}but then whatever \his after that. 352 00:13:53,959 --> 00:13:55,586 {\an7}- It was a little beyond? - A little beyond drunk. 353 00:13:55,586 --> 00:13:58,223 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- I was too. I haven’t taken shots in years. 354 00:13:58,223 --> 00:13:59,322 {\an7}But then to take three shots? 355 00:13:59,322 --> 00:14:02,718 {\an7}\h- You know, how about-- try taking four or five. 356 00:14:02,718 --> 00:14:03,388 {\an7}- Ooh, baby. 357 00:14:03,388 --> 00:14:05,190 {\an7}\h\hSo how you feeling about the trip so far? 358 00:14:05,190 --> 00:14:07,850 {\an7}- The trip is good. - It’s cute, right? 359 00:14:07,850 --> 00:14:08,586 {\an7}- It’s very cute. 360 00:14:08,586 --> 00:14:11,190 {\an7}I didn’t expect the therapy \h\hto come along with it. 361 00:14:11,190 --> 00:14:14,058 {\an7}\h\h\h\h- I know. - But I need it. 362 00:14:14,058 --> 00:14:18,058 {\an7}\h\hBecause Raymond and I, we didn’t have a therapist, 363 00:14:18,058 --> 00:14:18,817 {\an7}because COVID hit. 364 00:14:18,817 --> 00:14:22,718 {\an7}And it’s like, we haven’t \hreally had a chance to, 365 00:14:22,718 --> 00:14:25,124 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hyou know, dive off into his past. 366 00:14:25,124 --> 00:14:27,388 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hRaymond is one of the Exonerated Five. 367 00:14:27,388 --> 00:14:29,355 {\an7}\h\h\h\hIn addition to the growing pains 368 00:14:29,355 --> 00:14:31,025 {\an7}of our very new marriage, 369 00:14:31,025 --> 00:14:33,850 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hhe still has that lingering trauma. 370 00:14:33,850 --> 00:14:35,817 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hI mean, there are a lot of people 371 00:14:35,817 --> 00:14:39,124 {\an7}who are wrongfully convicted \h\h\h\h\h\hand incarcerated. 372 00:14:39,124 --> 00:14:40,256 {\an7}It just brings me to tears. 373 00:14:40,256 --> 00:14:44,421 {\an7}I can’t imagine the things \h\hthat he’s gone through. 374 00:14:44,421 --> 00:14:45,289 {\an7}And it has an effect 375 00:14:45,289 --> 00:14:48,751 {\an7}on our relationship in a lot of aspects. 376 00:14:49,718 --> 00:14:53,256 {\an7}[upbeat music] 377 00:14:53,256 --> 00:14:55,256 {\an7}- What’s going on, man? 378 00:14:55,256 --> 00:14:56,223 {\an7}Hey. How’s everything? 379 00:14:56,223 --> 00:14:57,289 {\an7}- Everything’s good. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah? 380 00:14:57,289 --> 00:14:59,926 {\an7}- I’ve been looking forward to meeting up with Raymond, 381 00:14:59,926 --> 00:15:02,124 {\an7}because he understand life \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hin prison 382 00:15:02,124 --> 00:15:03,091 {\an7}and also life in the streets. 383 00:15:03,091 --> 00:15:06,784 {\an7}\h\hThat must have felt great to get exonerated for a crime 384 00:15:06,784 --> 00:15:08,124 {\an7}\h\h\hthat you had nothing to do with. 385 00:15:08,124 --> 00:15:11,124 {\an7}\h\h\h\h- Yeah, definitely. How long were you gone for? 386 00:15:11,124 --> 00:15:13,685 {\an7}- Four years, ten days, \h\h\h\h\hthree hours. 387 00:15:13,685 --> 00:15:14,685 {\an7}- [laughs] 388 00:15:14,685 --> 00:15:17,058 {\an7}- Saying goodbye to my kids \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hand my wife 389 00:15:17,058 --> 00:15:19,091 {\an7}was the hardest thing \h\hI ever had to do. 390 00:15:19,091 --> 00:15:21,256 {\an7}But getting out of prison \h\h\h\h\h\hwas amazing. 391 00:15:21,256 --> 00:15:24,124 {\an7}\h\h- There he go. - Oh, there he go. 392 00:15:25,058 --> 00:15:28,124 {\an7}- I ain’t gonna forget \h\h\h\h\habout y’all! 393 00:15:28,124 --> 00:15:29,124 {\an7}- Baby, you want to stop here? 394 00:15:29,124 --> 00:15:31,487 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah. I want to get out of this. 395 00:15:32,883 --> 00:15:35,959 {\an7}Adjusting back to society \h\h\h\h\h\hwas difficult. 396 00:15:35,959 --> 00:15:38,223 {\an7}\h\h\hEvery day is just something new. 397 00:15:38,223 --> 00:15:40,256 {\an7}- You know that when we come \h\h\h\h\h\h\hout of prison, 398 00:15:40,256 --> 00:15:42,256 {\an7}and you have this gap \h\h\h\hthat’s gone, 399 00:15:42,256 --> 00:15:44,322 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hyou come back with these characteristics. 400 00:15:44,322 --> 00:15:45,850 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Right. - Seems normal to you, 401 00:15:45,850 --> 00:15:47,355 {\an7}but to regular people, \h\h\h\h\h\hit’s like, 402 00:15:47,355 --> 00:15:49,388 {\an7}\h\h"Whoa, why does he move like that?" 403 00:15:49,388 --> 00:15:51,190 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Right. - So she gets to see it. 404 00:15:51,190 --> 00:15:52,256 {\an7}And then she can understand. 405 00:15:52,256 --> 00:15:54,487 {\an7}\h\h\hYou know, it’s a form of being institutionalized. 406 00:15:54,487 --> 00:15:56,256 {\an7}- But I don’t know if Raymond \h\h\h\h\h\h\hwas like this. 407 00:15:56,256 --> 00:15:58,817 {\an7}\h\hMendeecees would--like, in the middle of his sleep, 408 00:15:58,817 --> 00:16:00,751 {\an7}he would just be jumping \h\h\h\h\h\hall the time. 409 00:16:00,751 --> 00:16:03,850 {\an7}- Try being awake at 2:00 \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hand 4:00. 410 00:16:03,850 --> 00:16:07,322 {\an7}I had to ask him--I’m like, \h\h\h\h\h"Is it the past? 411 00:16:07,322 --> 00:16:09,190 {\an7}Is it nightmares? Is it me?" 412 00:16:09,190 --> 00:16:10,784 {\an7}- That’s the same thing I did. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah. 413 00:16:10,784 --> 00:16:12,718 {\an7}- I’m like, "Mendeecees, \h\h\his everything okay? 414 00:16:12,718 --> 00:16:14,322 {\an7}Like, what are you \hdreaming about?" 415 00:16:14,322 --> 00:16:14,926 {\an7}- Yep. 416 00:16:14,926 --> 00:16:18,091 {\an7}\h\h- Mendeecees went away right after we got married. 417 00:16:18,091 --> 00:16:19,256 {\an7}And I had to figure out 418 00:16:19,256 --> 00:16:23,520 {\an7}how to be a single mother \h\h\h\h\h\hof two babies. 419 00:16:23,520 --> 00:16:26,157 {\an7}- Mendeecees. 420 00:16:26,157 --> 00:16:28,454 {\an7}Hey, have a seat. 421 00:16:28,454 --> 00:16:29,817 {\an7}So we almost there. 422 00:16:29,817 --> 00:16:33,223 {\an7}\hI’m gonna call you as much as possible. 423 00:16:33,223 --> 00:16:34,926 {\an7}I love you, a’ight? 424 00:16:34,926 --> 00:16:36,520 {\an7}- I love you too. 425 00:16:36,959 --> 00:16:39,157 {\an7}\h\h\h- How did that, like-- you know, you being married, 426 00:16:39,157 --> 00:16:41,520 {\an7}\hlike, was there, like, a lot of friction? Like-- 427 00:16:41,520 --> 00:16:42,992 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah. It was a lot of friction, 428 00:16:42,992 --> 00:16:47,421 {\an7}because it was one point where \hI was getting a lot of mail, 429 00:16:47,421 --> 00:16:48,883 {\an7}but not from her. 430 00:16:48,883 --> 00:16:49,817 {\an7}- Not from her. 431 00:16:49,817 --> 00:16:51,454 {\an7}- But I had access \hto the internet. 432 00:16:51,454 --> 00:16:52,289 {\an7}- Mm-hmm. - Right? 433 00:16:52,289 --> 00:16:55,520 {\an7}I see people at the computers \h\h\h\h\hgetting, you know, 434 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:57,157 {\an7}"Good morning," "Good nights," 435 00:16:57,157 --> 00:16:58,487 {\an7}and "How was your day?" 436 00:16:58,487 --> 00:17:00,091 {\an7}I understand that she was busy. 437 00:17:00,091 --> 00:17:01,091 {\an7}- Yeah. She working. \h\h\h\h\h\h- Right. 438 00:17:01,091 --> 00:17:04,784 {\an7}\h\h\h\hBut I could see her on social media every single day. 439 00:17:04,784 --> 00:17:05,850 {\an7}all: Hey! Hey! 440 00:17:05,850 --> 00:17:07,883 {\an7}\h\h\h"Yo, you got time to post these pictures." 441 00:17:07,883 --> 00:17:09,157 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- [laughs] But you ain’t got time-- 442 00:17:09,157 --> 00:17:11,124 {\an7}- "But you ain’t got time \h\hto send me an email?" 443 00:17:11,124 --> 00:17:12,850 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah. - You know what I’m saying? 444 00:17:12,850 --> 00:17:13,850 {\an7}- No, I get that. 445 00:17:13,850 --> 00:17:16,926 {\an7}- So I was laying in my bunk. \h\h\h\h\h\hI’m like, a’ight. 446 00:17:16,926 --> 00:17:17,685 {\an7}[somber music] 447 00:17:17,685 --> 00:17:21,190 {\an7}I was getting, like, growing \h\hresentment towards that. 448 00:17:21,190 --> 00:17:22,223 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah. - Soon I was like, 449 00:17:22,223 --> 00:17:24,091 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h"Yo, I ain’t gonna ask you again for an email." 450 00:17:24,091 --> 00:17:26,421 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h- No, I understand. I was definitely in that place. 451 00:17:26,421 --> 00:17:29,058 {\an7}Everything was about having that defense. 452 00:17:29,058 --> 00:17:31,355 {\an7}\hBut then you have to get to a point of when you say, 453 00:17:31,355 --> 00:17:35,058 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h"You know what, I gotta let that stuff go." 454 00:17:35,058 --> 00:17:35,586 {\an7}- Right. 455 00:17:35,586 --> 00:17:36,883 {\an7}- I’ve been fortunate \h\h\hto have a wife 456 00:17:36,883 --> 00:17:38,289 {\an7}that really teach me \h\h\h\hsome things. 457 00:17:38,289 --> 00:17:39,850 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hWhen it comes to my wife Deelishis, like, 458 00:17:39,850 --> 00:17:41,586 {\an7}\h\hshe taught me a lot about how to be married 459 00:17:41,586 --> 00:17:42,553 {\an7}and how to live in the moment, 460 00:17:42,553 --> 00:17:45,421 {\an7}and how not to let my prison experience dictate my life. 461 00:17:45,421 --> 00:17:47,289 {\an7}- Yo, that’s so crazy \hthat you say that, 462 00:17:47,289 --> 00:17:49,190 {\an7}because when my wife \hdo the same thing, 463 00:17:49,190 --> 00:17:50,926 {\an7}like, I feel like a kid. \h\h\h- Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. 464 00:17:50,926 --> 00:17:52,091 {\an7}- Like, you know what I’m saying? 465 00:17:52,091 --> 00:17:54,190 {\an7}And it feel like it \h\htook my macho-- 466 00:17:54,190 --> 00:17:55,553 {\an7}it took everything away from me 467 00:17:55,553 --> 00:17:59,388 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\hto then be like, "You know what, let me start 468 00:17:59,388 --> 00:18:01,926 {\an7}"letting me guard down \hand let her teach me. 469 00:18:01,926 --> 00:18:04,157 {\an7}What the hell? [bleep] it." \hYou know what I’m saying? 470 00:18:04,157 --> 00:18:07,190 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- [laughs] - Like, it’s a mental thing. 471 00:18:07,190 --> 00:18:09,157 {\an7}- Yeah. And we from Harlem. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah. 472 00:18:09,157 --> 00:18:10,355 {\an7}- So we--it’s like ten times. 473 00:18:10,355 --> 00:18:12,025 {\an7}When I come out, watch how \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hI’ma do it. 474 00:18:12,025 --> 00:18:13,058 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Right. - Like I said, you know, 475 00:18:13,058 --> 00:18:15,190 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hit’s a form of being institutionalized. 476 00:18:15,190 --> 00:18:18,256 {\an7}- But it’s a healing process. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yeah. 477 00:18:18,256 --> 00:18:21,256 {\an7}- What are we doing today? - AJ has something planned. 478 00:18:21,256 --> 00:18:23,553 {\an7}\h\hAnd even though I brought her here, 479 00:18:23,553 --> 00:18:24,619 {\an7}I’ve been trying to figure it out. 480 00:18:24,619 --> 00:18:26,256 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hShe’s like, "This is for you too. 481 00:18:26,256 --> 00:18:28,124 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hYou don’t get to know anything else." 482 00:18:28,124 --> 00:18:29,685 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h- Oh, God. I do not believe you. 483 00:18:29,685 --> 00:18:31,289 {\an7}\h- I don’t know! I’m telling you. 484 00:18:31,289 --> 00:18:33,124 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\hIf I knew, I would have told you. 485 00:18:33,124 --> 00:18:35,388 {\an7}I have no idea. 486 00:18:35,652 --> 00:18:38,421 {\an7}- "If for some reason \h\hI lost my memory, 487 00:18:38,421 --> 00:18:42,289 {\an7}\h\h\hwhat is the first thing you would tell me about us?" 488 00:18:42,289 --> 00:18:43,685 {\an7}[soft music] 489 00:18:43,685 --> 00:18:48,256 {\an7}- I would remind you that you have a big [bleep], Michael. 490 00:18:49,685 --> 00:18:51,124 {\an7}[laughs] 491 00:18:51,124 --> 00:18:55,124 {\an7}- I would tell you, I’m Ray J. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- [laughs] 492 00:18:55,124 --> 00:18:57,454 {\an7}- [bleep], you lose your memory \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hall the time. 493 00:18:57,454 --> 00:19:00,322 {\an7}- My [bleep] already bad. \h\h\h\h\h\h[both laugh] 494 00:19:00,322 --> 00:19:02,289 {\an7}- These are your kids. 495 00:19:02,289 --> 00:19:04,256 {\an7}- Probably would do \h\hsomething silly 496 00:19:04,256 --> 00:19:05,454 {\an7}like give you some weed. 497 00:19:05,454 --> 00:19:08,652 {\an7}\h\h\h\hAnd hope it cure you like it did your grandmother. 498 00:19:08,652 --> 00:19:12,223 {\an7}\h- And together, we’re one family. 499 00:19:12,223 --> 00:19:13,652 {\an7}\h\h- I would, like, gain your trust back, 500 00:19:13,652 --> 00:19:14,520 {\an7}like, little by little. 501 00:19:14,520 --> 00:19:16,289 {\an7}\h\hYou might be like, "Who the hell are you? 502 00:19:16,289 --> 00:19:17,058 {\an7}Get off of me." 503 00:19:17,058 --> 00:19:18,685 {\an7}- Nah, that’s only \h\hin the movies. 504 00:19:18,685 --> 00:19:20,619 {\an7}[both laugh] 505 00:19:23,190 --> 00:19:26,190 {\an7}[dramatic music] 506 00:19:26,190 --> 00:19:33,487 {\an7}♪ ♪ 507 00:19:33,487 --> 00:19:36,520 {\an7}- So the activity tonight \h\h\his the Ring of Fire. 508 00:19:36,520 --> 00:19:39,190 {\an7}I want to know where they are \h\h\hin their relationship. 509 00:19:39,190 --> 00:19:42,322 {\an7}\h\h\h\hIs it good? Is it bad? Are they being honest with me? 510 00:19:42,322 --> 00:19:44,025 {\an7}Are they being honest \h\h\hwith each other? 511 00:19:44,025 --> 00:19:46,652 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hI need to see what’s really going on. 512 00:19:46,652 --> 00:19:53,124 {\an7}♪ ♪ 513 00:19:53,124 --> 00:19:53,718 {\an7}Hey. 514 00:19:53,718 --> 00:19:55,190 {\an7}- I wanted to talk to AJ 515 00:19:55,190 --> 00:19:56,751 {\an7}about what happened \h\h\h\hlast night, 516 00:19:56,751 --> 00:19:58,289 {\an7}\h\h\h\hbecause it was a lot of people around, 517 00:19:58,289 --> 00:20:00,685 {\an7}\h\hand I felt like this was more of a personal situation. 518 00:20:00,685 --> 00:20:03,157 {\an7}So to have a one-on-one \h\hwith AJ, I thought, 519 00:20:03,157 --> 00:20:05,157 {\an7}would be the right thing \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hto do, 520 00:20:05,157 --> 00:20:07,157 {\an7}\h\h\hso I could set the record straight. 521 00:20:07,157 --> 00:20:09,388 {\an7}What you getting ready for? \h\h\hSome kind of ritual? 522 00:20:09,388 --> 00:20:12,652 {\an7}\h- More like a love talk. - I can’t do no love talk. 523 00:20:12,652 --> 00:20:14,619 {\an7}- You can always do \h\h\ha love talk. 524 00:20:14,619 --> 00:20:15,586 {\an7}Sit here. 525 00:20:15,586 --> 00:20:19,322 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hYou can do a whole lot of stuff. 526 00:20:19,322 --> 00:20:20,256 {\an7}Can I ask some question? 527 00:20:20,256 --> 00:20:24,223 {\an7}\h\h\h\hAnd just know that, before I even say anything, 528 00:20:24,223 --> 00:20:28,487 {\an7}\h\hI’m genuinely interested and I genuinely want to help. 529 00:20:28,487 --> 00:20:29,520 {\an7}- I had a problem with her 530 00:20:29,520 --> 00:20:31,586 {\an7}and how she started \h\hthat story off. 531 00:20:31,586 --> 00:20:35,256 {\an7}She said, "He filed for divorce 532 00:20:35,256 --> 00:20:36,751 {\an7}and didn’t even tell me." 533 00:20:36,751 --> 00:20:38,586 {\an7}Here’s the real story. 534 00:20:38,586 --> 00:20:42,487 {\an7}\hShe filed for divorce and she didn’t tell me. 535 00:20:42,487 --> 00:20:44,487 {\an7}Now, she didn’t tell you that. 536 00:20:44,487 --> 00:20:45,784 {\an7}- I don’t care who filed. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Listen. 537 00:20:45,784 --> 00:20:47,388 {\an7}- What I care about is-- \h\h\h- I never--listen, 538 00:20:47,388 --> 00:20:49,520 {\an7}\hI don’t give a [bleep] about what nobody thinks. 539 00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:52,421 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\hThat’s the only way I’ve ever been able to survive. 540 00:20:52,421 --> 00:20:54,421 {\an7}But that’s not what this. 541 00:20:54,421 --> 00:20:55,586 {\an7}It’s my woman 542 00:20:55,586 --> 00:21:01,322 {\an7}\htrying to sabotage me with false information. 543 00:21:01,652 --> 00:21:05,421 {\an7}- So why are you with her? 544 00:21:05,421 --> 00:21:06,751 {\an7}That sounds, like, toxic \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hfor me. 545 00:21:06,751 --> 00:21:08,256 {\an7}\h\h\h- Thank you. - What--thank what? 546 00:21:08,256 --> 00:21:10,124 {\an7}\h\h\h- What you just answered my question. 547 00:21:10,124 --> 00:21:10,784 {\an7}- Sit down. 548 00:21:10,784 --> 00:21:12,388 {\an7}\h- I need no other--I need nothing else to talk about. 549 00:21:12,388 --> 00:21:13,388 {\an7}- Sit down. We’re not finished. 550 00:21:13,388 --> 00:21:14,553 {\an7}\h\h\h\h- No. No. No. - Come on. Sit down. 551 00:21:14,553 --> 00:21:15,685 {\an7}- AJ, that’s it. \h\h\h- Sit down. 552 00:21:15,685 --> 00:21:16,421 {\an7}- You gave me-- 553 00:21:16,421 --> 00:21:17,718 {\an7}- Please don’t walk \h\h\haway from me. 554 00:21:17,718 --> 00:21:18,520 {\an7}- It’s plain and simple. 555 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:22,652 {\an7}\hYou gave me everything I-- "Then why are you with her?" 556 00:21:22,652 --> 00:21:24,124 {\an7}\h\h\hYou’re right. Why am I with her? 557 00:21:24,124 --> 00:21:25,586 {\an7}\h\h\h- Can you sit down and finish talking to me? 558 00:21:25,586 --> 00:21:27,190 {\an7}- There’s nothing else \h\h\h\hto talk about. 559 00:21:27,190 --> 00:21:29,157 {\an7}- Well, can it be \han us decision? 560 00:21:29,157 --> 00:21:30,025 {\an7}- It just--it doesn’t-- 561 00:21:30,025 --> 00:21:34,487 {\an7}\h- Can it be an us decision? Can you sit down and us talk? 562 00:21:34,487 --> 00:21:36,388 {\an7}Thank you. Thank you. 563 00:21:36,388 --> 00:21:38,685 {\an7}\hYou got to stop walking away in the middle of conversations. 564 00:21:38,685 --> 00:21:40,124 {\an7}- No. No. No. No. No. \h\h\hNo. No. No. No. 565 00:21:40,124 --> 00:21:41,520 {\an7}- That’s the childish [bleep], \h\h\h\h\h\hRay J. You can’t-- 566 00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:43,124 {\an7}- No, it’s not. No, it’s not. \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Yes, it is. 567 00:21:43,124 --> 00:21:44,223 {\an7}- No, it’s not. \h- Yes, it is. 568 00:21:44,223 --> 00:21:46,553 {\an7}- I feel like I’m talking \hto Princess right now. 569 00:21:46,553 --> 00:21:47,520 {\an7}\h\h\h- Do you? - A little bit. 570 00:21:47,520 --> 00:21:50,355 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- Wow. - ’Cause of the "It’s childish. 571 00:21:50,355 --> 00:21:51,157 {\an7}It’s this. You’re that." 572 00:21:51,157 --> 00:21:52,784 {\an7}- So is it that you’re talking \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hto Princess, 573 00:21:52,784 --> 00:21:55,355 {\an7}\h\hor you don’t like to be told the truth? 574 00:21:55,355 --> 00:21:56,817 {\an7}And see, now you’re getting \h\h\h\h\h\hon your phone. 575 00:21:56,817 --> 00:21:58,586 {\an7}\h\hYou don’t think that disrespectful? 576 00:21:58,586 --> 00:22:02,652 {\an7}I refuse to let Ray J get away \h\h\hwith being disrespectful. 577 00:22:02,652 --> 00:22:03,619 {\an7}I refuse to let him treat me 578 00:22:03,619 --> 00:22:06,124 {\an7}\h\h\hlike what Princess has suggested he treats her like. 579 00:22:06,124 --> 00:22:09,652 {\an7}But I’m really excited to see \h\hthe fact that I’m getting 580 00:22:09,652 --> 00:22:10,718 {\an7}the firsthand experience 581 00:22:10,718 --> 00:22:11,850 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hof what she’s complaining about. 582 00:22:11,850 --> 00:22:15,619 {\an7}\h\hLevel ten disrespectful on a scale of one to five. 583 00:22:15,619 --> 00:22:16,421 {\an7}I’m talking to you, 584 00:22:16,421 --> 00:22:18,091 {\an7}\h\h\hand now you putting your face in your phone? 585 00:22:18,091 --> 00:22:21,586 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- I’m sorry, you were saying something? 586 00:22:21,586 --> 00:22:23,520 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h- Why can’t I get a one-on-one conversation? 587 00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:26,289 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\hWhy can’t you say, "AJ, help me. What do I do"? 588 00:22:26,289 --> 00:22:27,883 {\an7}- This conversation’s over \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hfor me. 589 00:22:27,883 --> 00:22:31,322 {\an7}- It is? Okay. You called it. 590 00:22:31,322 --> 00:22:33,388 {\an7}- Can I please leave? \h\h\h\h- Absolutely. 591 00:22:33,388 --> 00:22:34,751 {\an7}- Okay. Thank you. 592 00:22:34,751 --> 00:22:38,322 {\an7}♪ ♪ 593 00:22:38,322 --> 00:22:39,355 {\an7}- He’s gotta grow up. 594 00:22:39,355 --> 00:22:40,487 {\an7}He’s gotta be more respectful. 595 00:22:40,487 --> 00:22:44,157 {\an7}\hAnd he’s gotta be more of an honest, open person 596 00:22:44,157 --> 00:22:44,959 {\an7}in any relationship, 597 00:22:44,959 --> 00:22:47,322 {\an7}whether it’s Princess, his family, or with me. 598 00:22:47,322 --> 00:22:50,718 {\an7}- Actually, I’m walking away. \h\h\h\h\h- Okay. Same thing. 599 00:22:50,718 --> 00:22:53,322 {\an7}Mentally, it’s still running. 600 00:22:53,322 --> 00:22:54,421 {\an7}- You know, you come home. 601 00:22:54,421 --> 00:22:55,685 {\an7}You want to be intimate \h\h\h\hwith your wife. 602 00:22:55,685 --> 00:22:57,586 {\an7}You’re rubbing on her back, \h\h\hyou’re touching her, 603 00:22:57,586 --> 00:23:00,322 {\an7}and she flip over, \h\h"Ah, come on." 604 00:23:00,322 --> 00:23:04,157 {\an7}It’s like, "I ain’t got time \h\h\h\h\hfor that [bleep]." 605 00:23:28,579 --> 00:23:31,648 [dramatic music] 606 00:23:31,715 --> 00:23:34,484 - It's just like, look, man, if you supposed to be 607 00:23:34,551 --> 00:23:38,121 the life coach, then why ain't you coaching me? 608 00:23:38,188 --> 00:23:39,289 You get what I'm saying? 609 00:23:39,356 --> 00:23:40,591 Why ain't you trying to help me 610 00:23:40,657 --> 00:23:42,292 see through what I'm trying to go through? 611 00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:43,860 If I disrespected you, 612 00:23:43,927 --> 00:23:48,432 it definitely wasn't even close to being my intention to. 613 00:23:48,498 --> 00:23:51,602 Like, if you gonna coach me, help me. 614 00:23:51,668 --> 00:23:52,803 Don't hurt me. 615 00:23:52,869 --> 00:23:54,338 Don't talk down to me 616 00:23:54,404 --> 00:23:56,840 and make me feel like I'm a child. 617 00:23:56,907 --> 00:23:58,141 That's why I don't get-- 618 00:23:58,208 --> 00:24:00,077 that's why I don't go to therapy. 619 00:24:00,143 --> 00:24:01,245 'Cause you being biased. 620 00:24:01,311 --> 00:24:05,115 ♪ ♪ 621 00:24:07,517 --> 00:24:08,619 - Right. 622 00:24:08,685 --> 00:24:11,088 ♪ ♪ 623 00:24:11,154 --> 00:24:13,290 - Uh-oh, is somebody going home? 624 00:24:13,357 --> 00:24:16,260 This is reminding me of, like, some type of elimination, 625 00:24:16,326 --> 00:24:18,061 or a séance or something. 626 00:24:18,128 --> 00:24:19,529 I mean, there's tiki torches 627 00:24:19,596 --> 00:24:22,432 and fire and two chairs facing each other. 628 00:24:22,499 --> 00:24:25,636 It's, like, what's about to happen? 629 00:24:26,470 --> 00:24:27,971 - I felt like I was about to get burnt. 630 00:24:28,038 --> 00:24:29,206 This fire that's going on, 631 00:24:29,273 --> 00:24:30,941 I think that's where the devil lives. 632 00:24:31,008 --> 00:24:32,442 - I love it. I love it. 633 00:24:32,509 --> 00:24:34,144 Please sit. - Fire everywhere. 634 00:24:34,211 --> 00:24:38,315 I'm like, who are we burning, and why? 635 00:24:38,382 --> 00:24:40,350 - I want to tell you first-- 636 00:24:40,417 --> 00:24:42,553 'cause I've been asking you guys to be honest with me, 637 00:24:42,619 --> 00:24:44,154 so I want to be honest with you-- 638 00:24:44,221 --> 00:24:45,656 Ray J came 639 00:24:45,789 --> 00:24:49,660 and wanted to talk to me privately. 640 00:24:49,793 --> 00:24:53,130 - Did you know that Ray J came to talk to AJ alone? 641 00:24:53,196 --> 00:24:55,332 - No. 642 00:24:55,399 --> 00:24:58,035 - We got deep. And it was ugly. 643 00:24:59,102 --> 00:25:02,539 He left screaming back at me, saying he was done talking. 644 00:25:02,606 --> 00:25:04,541 And so we just went through that. 645 00:25:05,809 --> 00:25:07,344 - I don't really know what happened, 646 00:25:07,411 --> 00:25:10,714 but just taking a wild guess, 647 00:25:10,814 --> 00:25:12,583 AJ said something that he didn't like... 648 00:25:12,649 --> 00:25:14,251 - That's the childish [bleep], Ray J. You can't-- 649 00:25:14,318 --> 00:25:15,419 - No, it's not. No, it's not. - Yes, it is. 650 00:25:15,485 --> 00:25:17,120 - So he just shut down... 651 00:25:17,187 --> 00:25:18,455 - This conversation's over for me. 652 00:25:18,522 --> 00:25:19,489 - Got on his phone, 653 00:25:19,556 --> 00:25:21,124 act like he wasn't listening. 654 00:25:21,191 --> 00:25:22,492 - I'm sorry, you were saying something? 655 00:25:22,559 --> 00:25:23,927 - You know, walked off, and probably said 656 00:25:23,994 --> 00:25:26,330 something disrespectful as he was walking off. 657 00:25:26,396 --> 00:25:29,233 - Running away again. - Actually, I'm walking away. 658 00:25:30,767 --> 00:25:33,804 - If you didn't know before now that I'm here to give you 659 00:25:33,870 --> 00:25:36,340 the real deal, you're gonna learn tonight. 660 00:25:37,808 --> 00:25:41,812 This is all about truth, honesty, breakthrough. 661 00:25:44,081 --> 00:25:45,782 Anybody want to leave? 662 00:25:45,782 --> 00:25:49,686 ♪ ♪ 663 00:25:49,786 --> 00:25:52,356 - I do. - You want to leave? 664 00:25:52,422 --> 00:25:54,157 - I just can't keep doing this by myself. 665 00:25:54,224 --> 00:25:56,360 - Okay. I respect that. 666 00:25:56,426 --> 00:25:57,794 - Have a good night, everybody. 667 00:25:57,861 --> 00:26:01,198 ♪ ♪ 668 00:26:01,265 --> 00:26:05,235 There's just no sense of me continuing to do 669 00:26:05,302 --> 00:26:07,537 these exercises by myself. 670 00:26:07,604 --> 00:26:09,606 We came here as a couple. 671 00:26:09,673 --> 00:26:12,376 But I feel like Ray is making it 672 00:26:12,442 --> 00:26:13,911 harder than he needs to 673 00:26:13,977 --> 00:26:16,980 because he's not even making an effort to try. 674 00:26:17,047 --> 00:26:20,551 But am I surprised? No. 675 00:26:24,054 --> 00:26:26,456 - Anybody else? 676 00:26:26,523 --> 00:26:29,526 Let's get to work. Kirk and Rasheeda. 677 00:26:29,593 --> 00:26:32,462 All I'm gonna do is ask some questions, 678 00:26:32,529 --> 00:26:35,198 and guide the conversation, if I have to. 679 00:26:37,868 --> 00:26:40,237 When you're answering, you're talking to each other. 680 00:26:40,304 --> 00:26:42,773 You guys good? 681 00:26:42,806 --> 00:26:46,977 Kirk, when Rasheeda was speaking on wanting 682 00:26:47,044 --> 00:26:50,480 more intimacy and romance beyond just the business, 683 00:26:50,547 --> 00:26:53,150 you kind of sounded like, it is what it is. 684 00:26:53,217 --> 00:26:55,118 - I mean, we here now. 685 00:26:55,185 --> 00:26:56,520 Like, we're gone for the most time 686 00:26:56,587 --> 00:26:58,222 we've ever been gone in years. 687 00:26:58,288 --> 00:27:00,657 Like, we're here. We're stuck here. 688 00:27:00,791 --> 00:27:02,659 - Is it stuck? - Is it stuck? 689 00:27:04,561 --> 00:27:06,863 How annoying is it for your husband to say, 690 00:27:06,930 --> 00:27:08,398 "We stuck here together"? 691 00:27:08,465 --> 00:27:09,866 Like, are we? 692 00:27:09,933 --> 00:27:11,568 You know, it makes me feel like, "Well, okay, 693 00:27:11,635 --> 00:27:13,570 "so if this ain't where you want to be, 694 00:27:13,637 --> 00:27:15,272 then why are we here?" 695 00:27:15,339 --> 00:27:18,108 [solemn music] 696 00:27:18,175 --> 00:27:20,944 - I mean, you know what-- I'm not-- 697 00:27:21,011 --> 00:27:22,913 I don't mean it in a bad way. 698 00:27:26,483 --> 00:27:29,119 - Is the time the only thing that you feel like 699 00:27:29,186 --> 00:27:31,922 is blocking the move forward in the relationship 700 00:27:31,989 --> 00:27:35,859 and moving into more personal space than just business? 701 00:27:35,926 --> 00:27:37,594 Is there anything that's a deal-breaker? 702 00:27:37,661 --> 00:27:39,563 What have you been through? 703 00:27:39,630 --> 00:27:42,165 - The world already know. 704 00:27:42,232 --> 00:27:45,168 - What about infidelity? 705 00:27:45,235 --> 00:27:49,606 Did you step together on that? When we played the Stuck game? 706 00:27:49,673 --> 00:27:53,176 - I've had it happen before. 707 00:27:53,243 --> 00:27:55,145 The world know that. 708 00:27:55,212 --> 00:27:57,548 - Tell us about the situation that landed you 709 00:27:57,614 --> 00:27:59,683 to having a baby outside of your marriage. 710 00:27:59,783 --> 00:28:01,518 Can you bring us back to that moment? 711 00:28:01,585 --> 00:28:03,186 - No, I already brought y'all to that moment. 712 00:28:03,253 --> 00:28:05,222 We talked about it. What can I bring you back to? 713 00:28:05,289 --> 00:28:08,592 - It's Kirk's baby. 714 00:28:08,659 --> 00:28:10,627 - Kirk, did you have a baby by this girl? 715 00:28:10,694 --> 00:28:13,397 - Is it a situation where I might 716 00:28:13,463 --> 00:28:15,933 have [bleep] up, in a sense? 717 00:28:17,868 --> 00:28:20,103 Yes. 718 00:28:20,170 --> 00:28:22,039 Did I [bleep] around? Yes. 719 00:28:22,105 --> 00:28:23,640 I wasn't in no relationship. 720 00:28:23,707 --> 00:28:25,275 They ain't been around none of our family. 721 00:28:25,342 --> 00:28:26,376 They ain't been around our kids. 722 00:28:26,443 --> 00:28:29,446 All that [bleep] is all fly. 723 00:28:29,513 --> 00:28:31,949 When you think about me and Rasheeda's past, 724 00:28:32,015 --> 00:28:35,052 people always want to know, "How did this happen? 725 00:28:35,118 --> 00:28:36,620 How did you have a relationship?" 726 00:28:36,753 --> 00:28:38,622 They never talk about the fact 727 00:28:38,755 --> 00:28:41,658 me and Rasheeda were not intimate for over a year. 728 00:28:41,758 --> 00:28:44,595 We were pretty much separated. We were headed to a divorce. 729 00:28:44,661 --> 00:28:46,763 There was, like, nothing left. 730 00:28:46,830 --> 00:28:48,865 So for us to get back together 731 00:28:48,932 --> 00:28:51,034 and be who we are now is a great thing. 732 00:28:51,101 --> 00:28:52,402 But at that moment in time, 733 00:28:52,469 --> 00:28:54,371 Rasheeda was going left and I was going right. 734 00:28:54,438 --> 00:28:55,772 We've been together for a long time. 735 00:28:55,806 --> 00:28:59,376 Like, I have a 15-year run of nothing. 736 00:28:59,443 --> 00:29:00,978 No problems. None. Not one. 737 00:29:01,044 --> 00:29:02,579 I'm not gonna get no credit for that. 738 00:29:02,646 --> 00:29:03,847 And at that point in time, 739 00:29:03,914 --> 00:29:05,349 with what happened with me and Rasheeda, 740 00:29:05,415 --> 00:29:06,817 like I've said a hundred times, 741 00:29:06,884 --> 00:29:10,053 which she can verify, we were in a very weird space. 742 00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:11,555 You know, you come home. 743 00:29:11,622 --> 00:29:12,956 You working. You doing something. 744 00:29:13,023 --> 00:29:14,358 You want to be intimate with your wife. 745 00:29:14,424 --> 00:29:15,893 You're rubbing on her back, you're touching her, 746 00:29:15,959 --> 00:29:18,595 and she flip over, "Ah, come on." 747 00:29:18,662 --> 00:29:21,265 It's like, "Oh. Okay. 748 00:29:21,331 --> 00:29:22,900 I ain't got time for that [bleep]." 749 00:29:22,966 --> 00:29:25,802 So you feel like something must be going on with her. 750 00:29:25,869 --> 00:29:27,371 And that's how I felt. - Which it was. 751 00:29:27,437 --> 00:29:28,872 - So... - What was going on with you? 752 00:29:28,939 --> 00:29:30,908 - I guess I had--I'm not gonna say "I guess I had"-- 753 00:29:30,974 --> 00:29:32,342 I had postpartum, 754 00:29:32,409 --> 00:29:37,180 and I was in a space where I wasn't happy with me. 755 00:29:37,247 --> 00:29:38,515 I wasn't--I don't know. 756 00:29:38,582 --> 00:29:42,252 I just did not feel like myself. 757 00:29:42,319 --> 00:29:44,421 There, I mean, he would touch on me and want to, 758 00:29:44,488 --> 00:29:46,456 you know--and no. 759 00:29:46,523 --> 00:29:49,560 It doesn't excuse what you did. 760 00:29:49,626 --> 00:29:51,962 But the fact of the matter was, 761 00:29:52,029 --> 00:29:55,632 I was not being the wife I should have been, 762 00:29:55,766 --> 00:29:56,767 but I was going through something 763 00:29:56,833 --> 00:29:58,869 I had never experienced before. 764 00:29:58,936 --> 00:30:02,573 - So in terms of where we go now-- 765 00:30:02,639 --> 00:30:03,974 you've heard each other talk. 766 00:30:04,041 --> 00:30:05,842 Where would you say the work has to happen? 767 00:30:05,909 --> 00:30:08,345 'Cause we keep talking about the time. 768 00:30:08,412 --> 00:30:11,148 - I am not a great person to tell you 769 00:30:11,215 --> 00:30:13,016 how to lay out the future. 770 00:30:13,083 --> 00:30:14,685 Like, I wish-- - Well, you have to though. 771 00:30:14,785 --> 00:30:17,554 You have to be able to design what happens next 772 00:30:17,621 --> 00:30:19,022 for the success of your marriage. 773 00:30:19,089 --> 00:30:22,092 - If we can sit here and freaking lay out 774 00:30:22,159 --> 00:30:23,894 a plan of a new business, 775 00:30:23,961 --> 00:30:27,231 we definitely should be able to lay out a plan on us. 776 00:30:27,297 --> 00:30:29,733 - Amen. 777 00:30:29,733 --> 00:30:32,369 - When he was locked up, I was talking to you every day. 778 00:30:32,436 --> 00:30:34,638 - No, you don't. Now you's lying. 779 00:30:39,388 --> 00:30:42,091 {\an7}[dramatic music] 780 00:30:42,091 --> 00:30:43,487 {\an7}- Michael and Rada. 781 00:30:43,487 --> 00:30:46,124 {\an7}\h\h- No. [laughs] 782 00:30:47,553 --> 00:30:50,685 {\an7}Five minutes. \h\h\h- Man. 783 00:30:50,685 --> 00:30:51,817 {\an7}Aw, man. 784 00:30:51,817 --> 00:30:54,949 {\an7}I gotta be serious now? \h\h\h\h[clears throat] 785 00:30:54,949 --> 00:30:56,091 {\an7}- No more joking. 786 00:30:56,091 --> 00:30:58,487 {\an7}- You ready? \h\h\h- Yes. 787 00:30:58,487 --> 00:31:00,355 {\an7}\h\h\h- I feel like when somebody says 788 00:31:00,355 --> 00:31:01,850 {\an7}something doesn’t bother them, 789 00:31:01,850 --> 00:31:03,685 {\an7}and that’s all they talk about, 790 00:31:03,685 --> 00:31:05,817 {\an7}\hit really means it bothers them. 791 00:31:05,817 --> 00:31:10,817 {\an7}\h\h\h\hAnd you talk a lot about the side chick thing. 792 00:31:10,817 --> 00:31:12,784 {\an7}- I agree. Yes. 793 00:31:12,784 --> 00:31:13,949 {\an7}- Why do you talk about it \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hso much 794 00:31:13,949 --> 00:31:16,421 {\an7}\h\h\hif it really doesn’t bother you? 795 00:31:16,421 --> 00:31:19,817 {\an7}- When we had started \h\hour relationship, 796 00:31:19,817 --> 00:31:22,982 {\an7}\hwe were friends for about a year. 797 00:31:22,982 --> 00:31:26,091 {\an7}\h\h- With benefits? - A lot of benefits. 798 00:31:26,091 --> 00:31:28,421 {\an7}- Not until, like, a month \h\h\h\h\h\h\hor two later. 799 00:31:28,421 --> 00:31:31,982 {\an7}\h\h\h\h- What do you mean? We [bleep] our first night. 800 00:31:31,982 --> 00:31:33,652 {\an7}- That is not true. 801 00:31:33,652 --> 00:31:34,619 {\an7}- Not the first night we met, 802 00:31:34,619 --> 00:31:35,949 {\an7}but the first time we got together... 803 00:31:35,949 --> 00:31:38,652 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h- Exactly. - I tore that ass up. 804 00:31:38,652 --> 00:31:39,883 {\an7}[laughter] 805 00:31:39,883 --> 00:31:41,850 {\an7}- Michael. Anyway. 806 00:31:41,850 --> 00:31:44,619 {\an7}Okay, moving forward, 807 00:31:44,619 --> 00:31:46,586 {\an7}our friendship grew \h\hinto something 808 00:31:46,586 --> 00:31:48,520 {\an7}that I did not expect. 809 00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:53,487 {\an7}And when we had gotten into this relationship, 810 00:31:53,487 --> 00:31:55,718 {\an7}he did specify to me \h\hin the beginning 811 00:31:55,718 --> 00:32:00,487 {\an7}that he didn’t want to be \h\hwith just one woman. 812 00:32:00,487 --> 00:32:04,949 {\an7}But I didn’t know it was to that extent, honestly. 813 00:32:04,949 --> 00:32:05,652 {\an7}- To what extent? 814 00:32:05,652 --> 00:32:08,586 {\an7}\h- To the extent of him just having bitches over 815 00:32:08,586 --> 00:32:10,015 {\an7}every freaking week I’m there. 816 00:32:10,015 --> 00:32:10,817 {\an7}- Okay. 817 00:32:10,817 --> 00:32:11,916 {\an7}- Michael doesn’t want to have 818 00:32:11,916 --> 00:32:13,883 {\an7}the occasional side bitch. 819 00:32:13,883 --> 00:32:15,015 {\an7}It’s constant. 820 00:32:15,015 --> 00:32:17,751 {\an7}\hIt’s every weekend I’m not at his place, 821 00:32:17,751 --> 00:32:20,421 {\an7}it’s every weekend I am at his place, 822 00:32:20,421 --> 00:32:21,916 {\an7}and every weekend in between. 823 00:32:21,916 --> 00:32:25,454 {\an7}Like I said, his definition \h\h\hof "once in a while" 824 00:32:25,454 --> 00:32:28,916 {\an7}turned into every time \h\hwe saw each other. 825 00:32:28,916 --> 00:32:29,850 {\an7}- It wasn’t just for me. 826 00:32:29,850 --> 00:32:31,883 {\an7}\h\h\hLike, we all did stuff together. 827 00:32:31,883 --> 00:32:36,454 {\an7}Her biggest fantasy is watching \h\h\hme [bleep] another woman. 828 00:32:36,454 --> 00:32:38,058 {\an7}[awkward music] 829 00:32:38,058 --> 00:32:41,586 {\an7}Her favorite Pornhub is called \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h"[bleep] Swap." 830 00:32:41,586 --> 00:32:46,553 {\an7}\h\h\hThat’s a man [bleep] two women at the same time. 831 00:32:46,553 --> 00:32:47,850 {\an7}[laughs] 832 00:32:47,850 --> 00:32:50,619 {\an7}- I’m sorry. I’m sorry. \h\h\h\h\h\h[laughter] 833 00:32:50,619 --> 00:32:53,751 {\an7}\h\h\h- "[bleep] Swap." Look it up on Pornhub. 834 00:32:53,751 --> 00:32:55,751 {\an7}- Shut up! 835 00:32:55,751 --> 00:32:56,454 {\an7}See what happens? 836 00:32:56,454 --> 00:33:01,619 {\an7}Every time I try to be serious, he just makes a joke out of it. 837 00:33:01,619 --> 00:33:02,751 {\an7}[laughter] 838 00:33:02,751 --> 00:33:06,520 {\an7}- And so when did you realize, \h\h\h\h\hin the relationship, 839 00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:07,652 {\an7}that it was gonna be 840 00:33:07,652 --> 00:33:10,916 {\an7}more than your definition of every once in a while? 841 00:33:10,916 --> 00:33:14,091 {\an7}- Not too long ago. 842 00:33:14,091 --> 00:33:16,015 {\an7}You know, once I noticed that, 843 00:33:16,015 --> 00:33:20,949 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hI mean, that’s when we had our breakup. 844 00:33:20,949 --> 00:33:22,157 {\an7}[dramatic music] 845 00:33:22,157 --> 00:33:25,751 {\an7}I left, and for me, \h\h\hI felt like-- 846 00:33:25,751 --> 00:33:27,256 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hyou know, we’re coming on two years, 847 00:33:27,256 --> 00:33:30,586 {\an7}\hand I just feel like I needed more substance 848 00:33:30,586 --> 00:33:33,190 {\an7}than just having 849 00:33:33,190 --> 00:33:35,850 {\an7}women come here and there, 850 00:33:35,850 --> 00:33:37,751 {\an7}and having sex 851 00:33:37,751 --> 00:33:41,982 {\an7}as the number one thing \hin our relationship. 852 00:33:41,982 --> 00:33:45,949 {\an7}And for me, I made a decision 853 00:33:45,949 --> 00:33:49,223 {\an7}that I wasn’t gonna come back. 854 00:33:49,223 --> 00:33:53,685 {\an7}\h\h- And when did you? - Before this happened. 855 00:33:53,685 --> 00:33:57,058 {\an7}And I told him that I’m willing \h\h\h\h\h\h\hto give it a try. 856 00:33:57,058 --> 00:33:58,850 {\an7}- So you’re willing \h\h\hto sacrifice 857 00:33:58,850 --> 00:34:01,015 {\an7}a lot to get what? 858 00:34:01,015 --> 00:34:04,124 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\hGood sex? What is it that you want? 859 00:34:04,883 --> 00:34:08,223 {\an7}\h\h\h- We’re here at almost year two. 860 00:34:08,223 --> 00:34:09,124 {\an7}I need more substance. 861 00:34:09,124 --> 00:34:12,157 {\an7}And I just want to tighten up \hthis relationship a little. 862 00:34:12,157 --> 00:34:15,982 {\an7}\h- So do you feel like there’s a discomfort, after two years, 863 00:34:15,982 --> 00:34:19,685 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hwithin her, about this relationship? 864 00:34:19,883 --> 00:34:25,157 {\an7}- I think she agreed on it just to, like, lure me in. 865 00:34:25,751 --> 00:34:27,718 {\an7}\h\h\hAnd then now that she’s in love, 866 00:34:27,718 --> 00:34:30,289 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h\hshe wants to, like, end our deal. 867 00:34:30,289 --> 00:34:32,015 {\an7}- How do you feel about that, Rada? 868 00:34:32,015 --> 00:34:33,157 {\an7}- No. 869 00:34:33,157 --> 00:34:34,949 {\an7}I don’t have him in shackles. 870 00:34:34,949 --> 00:34:36,718 {\an7}\h\h- If she saying I have to cut off all the bitches, 871 00:34:36,718 --> 00:34:39,157 {\an7}then I’m like--then I’m gonna \hstart lying, it’s cheating, 872 00:34:39,157 --> 00:34:42,091 {\an7}\h\h\hand that’s what I’m trying to avoid. 873 00:34:42,091 --> 00:34:45,157 {\an7}- You would say, like, \h\h"You could leave." 874 00:34:45,157 --> 00:34:46,058 {\an7}That was offensive. 875 00:34:46,058 --> 00:34:48,256 {\an7}If the roles were reversed, \h\hwould you hold me down? 876 00:34:48,256 --> 00:34:51,124 {\an7}\h- You know, I don’t know what I would be able to do. 877 00:34:51,124 --> 00:34:53,322 {\an7}- And that’s a problem. 878 00:34:57,524 --> 00:34:58,825 - Okay. 879 00:34:58,892 --> 00:35:01,161 "When was the last time you considered 880 00:35:01,228 --> 00:35:04,164 ending this relationship, and why didn't you?" 881 00:35:05,766 --> 00:35:08,168 - Let me see. Last time. I don't know. 882 00:35:08,235 --> 00:35:09,369 I can't remember that. 883 00:35:09,436 --> 00:35:11,004 I can't remember ever being there, so... 884 00:35:11,071 --> 00:35:13,507 - I remember a time for you. - When? 885 00:35:13,573 --> 00:35:15,842 - When we were driving to drop you off, 886 00:35:15,909 --> 00:35:18,045 when you had to go turn yourself in. 887 00:35:18,111 --> 00:35:19,613 And you were like, 888 00:35:19,679 --> 00:35:21,381 "You ain't gotta do this, you know." 889 00:35:21,448 --> 00:35:23,016 - I was giving you a way out. 890 00:35:23,083 --> 00:35:26,086 Opening the door and seeing if you gonna walk through it. 891 00:35:26,153 --> 00:35:28,255 [dramatic music] 892 00:35:28,321 --> 00:35:29,723 - Yandy, Mendeecees. 893 00:35:29,790 --> 00:35:32,859 ♪ ♪ 894 00:35:32,926 --> 00:35:36,296 Y'all ready? Time to get real. 895 00:35:39,399 --> 00:35:41,968 Any insecurities between you two? 896 00:35:44,838 --> 00:35:47,374 - No. - None? 897 00:35:47,441 --> 00:35:50,043 - None. 898 00:35:50,110 --> 00:35:52,179 - Prison 899 00:35:52,245 --> 00:35:54,715 - Is that an insecurity? 900 00:35:54,781 --> 00:35:55,882 - 'Cause I feel like, 901 00:35:55,949 --> 00:35:58,285 when he was locked up, I was locked up. 902 00:36:02,122 --> 00:36:03,724 - Well, you ain't email for two months. 903 00:36:03,790 --> 00:36:04,991 - Yeah, but I was-- - To six months. 904 00:36:05,058 --> 00:36:06,426 - 'Cause I was talking to you every day. 905 00:36:06,493 --> 00:36:07,661 - No, you don't. No--don't do that, 906 00:36:07,728 --> 00:36:08,829 - Every single day. Three times a day. 907 00:36:08,895 --> 00:36:10,163 - Yeah, right. You's lying. 908 00:36:10,230 --> 00:36:11,898 We don't even get that many minutes. 909 00:36:11,965 --> 00:36:13,934 - I spoke to you every day. - No, you did not. 910 00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:16,770 Not every day. - Every single day. 911 00:36:16,837 --> 00:36:18,271 - No, don't overexaggerate. But listen. 912 00:36:18,338 --> 00:36:20,674 - And if I didn't talk to you, it was a problem. 913 00:36:20,741 --> 00:36:24,478 And then it would be, "You know you don't have to do this." 914 00:36:24,611 --> 00:36:26,813 And for me, that felt like-- 915 00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:28,915 don't negate what I have been doing. 916 00:36:28,982 --> 00:36:31,218 Don't negate me making sure you and the kids are good. 917 00:36:31,284 --> 00:36:33,520 Don't negate the calls I did pick up. 918 00:36:33,620 --> 00:36:34,955 This isn't the first time 919 00:36:35,021 --> 00:36:37,157 this phone call/email thing has come up. 920 00:36:37,224 --> 00:36:38,825 And I normally just brush it away. 921 00:36:38,892 --> 00:36:40,894 But now, I'm frustrated. 922 00:36:40,961 --> 00:36:42,929 Do you understand what my life was like? 923 00:36:42,996 --> 00:36:45,966 I'm raising two babies. I'm running five companies. 924 00:36:46,033 --> 00:36:49,336 But you want to talk about emails and calls? 925 00:36:49,403 --> 00:36:51,838 Talk about how these bills was gonna get paid. 926 00:36:51,905 --> 00:36:55,709 I don't have time to write emails and letters. 927 00:36:55,776 --> 00:36:56,943 - Do you both hear the discrepancy 928 00:36:57,010 --> 00:36:58,979 in the communication? "I called you." 929 00:36:59,046 --> 00:37:00,680 "But you didn't email." "It was two months." 930 00:37:00,747 --> 00:37:02,282 "It was every night and every morning." 931 00:37:02,349 --> 00:37:03,650 There's a discrepancy. 932 00:37:03,717 --> 00:37:05,318 So to me, it's more than, did you email? 933 00:37:05,385 --> 00:37:06,586 Did you call? 934 00:37:06,586 --> 00:37:08,288 It's, what more did you want 935 00:37:08,355 --> 00:37:10,724 and what more do you want now that you weren't getting 936 00:37:10,791 --> 00:37:12,592 for you to say, "I didn't get it," 937 00:37:12,592 --> 00:37:14,728 and that's the way it's coming out? 938 00:37:14,795 --> 00:37:16,129 - I was kind of holding resentment 939 00:37:16,196 --> 00:37:18,432 because I said the moment I step out of here, 940 00:37:18,498 --> 00:37:21,501 she gonna be blowing my phone up every five seconds. 941 00:37:21,601 --> 00:37:25,505 So for me, I started to feel like I was put on a shelf. 942 00:37:25,605 --> 00:37:28,675 I wasn't going nowhere, and you'll play with me 943 00:37:28,742 --> 00:37:31,511 when it's time for me to be free. 944 00:37:31,611 --> 00:37:34,381 I wasn't gonna allow no one to treat me any different 945 00:37:34,448 --> 00:37:37,617 than for me being free or me being incarcerated. 946 00:37:37,617 --> 00:37:40,287 Treat me the same. Don't mishandle me like that. 947 00:37:40,353 --> 00:37:42,489 Not when I gave her the opportunity, 948 00:37:42,622 --> 00:37:44,991 "If you ever get tired and this become too much, 949 00:37:45,058 --> 00:37:48,795 then, you know, you--you're free." 950 00:37:51,331 --> 00:37:53,100 I think it would have been selfish of me 951 00:37:53,166 --> 00:37:54,868 to try to hold her in a relationship 952 00:37:54,935 --> 00:37:56,236 that she didn't want to be in. 953 00:37:56,303 --> 00:37:58,071 You know, you free. Anything could happen. 954 00:37:58,138 --> 00:38:00,841 People meet people, fall in love, 955 00:38:00,907 --> 00:38:02,275 and, you know, I didn't want to force 956 00:38:02,342 --> 00:38:05,345 somebody to go through something like that with me. 957 00:38:05,412 --> 00:38:07,914 - The fact that you always-- you always said to me, 958 00:38:07,981 --> 00:38:11,718 "You don't have to do this," that was offensive. 959 00:38:11,785 --> 00:38:15,055 You would say, like, "You could leave." 960 00:38:15,122 --> 00:38:17,891 And it would be the simplest of things, 961 00:38:17,958 --> 00:38:20,660 like I missed your phone call or I didn't pick up 962 00:38:20,727 --> 00:38:22,596 or I didn't email you. 963 00:38:22,629 --> 00:38:24,197 That made me feel like 964 00:38:24,264 --> 00:38:25,799 it wasn't that much of a fight for you. 965 00:38:25,866 --> 00:38:28,335 Like, it was easy to let me go. 966 00:38:28,402 --> 00:38:29,603 Nobody that's your woman 967 00:38:29,669 --> 00:38:31,805 wants to feel like they're easy to get over. 968 00:38:31,872 --> 00:38:33,006 - I mean, if I could deal with my mom 969 00:38:33,073 --> 00:38:34,908 leaving me, and that's the trauma, 970 00:38:34,975 --> 00:38:36,910 I felt like I could deal with anybody leaving me. 971 00:38:44,799 --> 00:38:46,467 - Nobody that's your woman wants to feel like 972 00:38:46,534 --> 00:38:48,036 they're easy to get over. 973 00:38:48,102 --> 00:38:49,237 - I mean, if I could deal with my mom 974 00:38:49,304 --> 00:38:51,139 leaving me, and that's the trauma, 975 00:38:51,206 --> 00:38:54,576 I felt like I could deal with anybody leaving me. 976 00:38:54,642 --> 00:38:57,378 [dramatic music] 977 00:38:57,445 --> 00:38:59,781 - It would be great to be like, "Nah, I got you." 978 00:38:59,848 --> 00:39:01,049 You know what I'm saying? 979 00:39:01,115 --> 00:39:02,550 Like, when you say "for better or worse," 980 00:39:02,617 --> 00:39:06,020 and when you say--you know, if I'm sick, I go to jail, 981 00:39:06,087 --> 00:39:07,755 I want you to be like, "Nah, I got you. 982 00:39:07,822 --> 00:39:10,191 I know ain't going nowhere." 983 00:39:10,258 --> 00:39:12,026 I want for better or for worse. 984 00:39:12,093 --> 00:39:13,661 - Yeah. That's--I mean-- - That's what I get. 985 00:39:13,728 --> 00:39:16,965 - Yeah, I mean, that's the same thing I signed up for, right? 986 00:39:18,833 --> 00:39:20,134 - Nobody that's your woman 987 00:39:20,201 --> 00:39:22,170 wants to feel like they're easy to get over. 988 00:39:24,873 --> 00:39:27,041 - I think you had a lot of time on your hands. 989 00:39:27,108 --> 00:39:28,676 And I think, with that time, 990 00:39:28,743 --> 00:39:30,778 I think that I did a damn good job. 991 00:39:32,514 --> 00:39:33,648 I say that to you all the time. 992 00:39:33,715 --> 00:39:35,416 Like, if the roles were reversed, 993 00:39:35,483 --> 00:39:37,252 would you hold me down? 994 00:39:37,318 --> 00:39:42,190 ♪ ♪ 995 00:39:42,257 --> 00:39:45,126 - If the shoe was on the other foot, you know, 996 00:39:45,193 --> 00:39:47,929 I don't know what I would be able to do. 997 00:39:47,996 --> 00:39:50,665 - Hmm. And that's a problem. 998 00:39:50,732 --> 00:39:54,636 So Mendeecees finally admitted 999 00:39:54,702 --> 00:39:56,604 that he doesn't know 1000 00:39:56,671 --> 00:40:00,441 if he would have stayed if the roles were reversed. 1001 00:40:00,508 --> 00:40:03,545 And that's so hurtful, because people have said to me, 1002 00:40:03,611 --> 00:40:06,014 "You doing all this. Would he do that for you?" 1003 00:40:06,080 --> 00:40:08,283 And I've always come at it with, "Yeah, he would. 1004 00:40:08,416 --> 00:40:09,684 We love each other." 1005 00:40:09,751 --> 00:40:12,086 But to hear him sit here in my face 1006 00:40:12,153 --> 00:40:13,421 and be like, "I don't know"... 1007 00:40:13,421 --> 00:40:16,424 - Listen, I'm telling you the truth. 1008 00:40:16,424 --> 00:40:18,526 - Like, that's so unfair. 1009 00:40:18,593 --> 00:40:25,500 ♪ ♪ 1010 00:40:29,596 --> 00:40:30,761 {\an7}- ♪ I feel it right now ♪ 1011 00:40:30,761 --> 00:40:32,936 {\an7}- Ah, that too much. 1012 00:40:32,936 --> 00:40:36,101 {\an7}- I want him to naturally take over the situation. 1013 00:40:36,101 --> 00:40:38,134 {\an7}\h\h\h\h- I mean, like, what do you like to do? 1014 00:40:38,134 --> 00:40:38,728 {\an7}- You. 1015 00:40:38,728 --> 00:40:42,761 {\an7}Like a "Sex and the City" \h\h\h\h\h\hMr. Big type. 1016 00:40:42,761 --> 00:40:44,761 {\an7}- Mentality-wise, men can be basic. 1017 00:40:44,761 --> 00:40:45,761 {\an7}- Where I’m from, you knew 1018 00:40:45,761 --> 00:40:47,035 {\an7}what girl belonged \h\h\hto what dude. 1019 00:40:47,035 --> 00:40:49,365 {\an7}Now, you got women that’s independent. 1020 00:40:49,365 --> 00:40:50,761 {\an7}\h\hThey don’t need a man for nothing. 1021 00:40:50,761 --> 00:40:54,002 {\an7}Everything else in your life \his more important than me. 1022 00:40:54,002 --> 00:40:54,728 {\an7}- I felt alone. 1023 00:40:54,728 --> 00:40:55,860 {\an7}\hI had to become a single mother. 1024 00:40:55,860 --> 00:40:59,233 {\an7}So when you would complain \h\habout emails, I’m like, 1025 00:40:59,233 --> 00:41:00,728 {\an7}\h"Yo, that’s some petty-ass [bleep]." 1026 00:41:00,728 --> 00:41:04,068 {\an7}- A’ight. Well, I’m ready \h\hfor this to be over. 1027 00:41:04,266 --> 00:41:06,167 {\an7}- Let’s toast to no bitches. \h\h\h\h\h\h\hHow about that? 1028 00:41:06,167 --> 00:41:07,365 {\an7}\h- Really? - Tonight. 1029 00:41:07,365 --> 00:41:11,233 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\h- Just tonight? I want him to focus on us. 1030 00:41:11,233 --> 00:41:13,266 {\an7}- And what does that mean? \h- And give me all of him. 1031 00:41:13,266 --> 00:41:16,936 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h\hI was used to being in a relationship with one guy. 1032 00:41:16,936 --> 00:41:19,827 {\an7}- Women always want to talk. \h\h\h\h- I’m the girlfriend. 1033 00:41:19,827 --> 00:41:20,629 {\an7}- Talk, talk, talk. 1034 00:41:20,629 --> 00:41:22,134 {\an7}\h\h\h\h\h- Treat me like your [bleep] girlfriend. 1035 00:41:22,134 --> 00:41:23,365 {\an7}- I just want to [bleep] \h\h\h\h\h\hgo to sleep. 1036 00:41:23,365 --> 00:41:25,365 {\an7}\h- I don’t want us to keep going down 1037 00:41:25,365 --> 00:41:27,035 {\an7}this dark road of disrespect. 1038 00:41:27,035 --> 00:41:29,794 {\an7}- Do you want to get a divorce? \h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h\h- I’m tired. 1039 00:41:29,794 --> 00:41:35,068 {\an7}- Just, I don’t understand \h\h\hwhy we’re even here. 1040 00:41:35,068 --> 00:41:36,860 {\an7}What’s the point?