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- Man: First off,
thank you for doing this.
- Of course, of course.
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I appreciate you coming in
and speaking about Demi.
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Christina:
The special thing about Demi
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is she has just a very real
and honest soul about her.
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When you meet her,
when you're in a room with her,
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the boisterous laugh
that comes out of her...
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( laughing )
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She's just no bullshit
when it comes to--
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even just her spirit
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and her energy
and her laughter.
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When you look at
artists like Demi
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and people that publically
have to go through struggles,
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nothing can define you
within a moment in time.
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But I think you truly do
have to go through some things
and some lessons
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to catapult yourself
to the next level.
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She's a real gem, that one.
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I'm Will Ferrell.
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I'm, depending on
who you talk to,
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either a beloved
comedic actor or hated,
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um, for everything
I say or do.
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Demi came and did a cameo on
our movie "Eurovision."
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She was sharing with me
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how a lot of my movies
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really helped her through
her rehab experience.
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It really touched me.
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I just happened
to be watching the Grammys
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when she performed her song.
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And I wrote her, like,
that the next day to just say,
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"Hey, I hope
I'm not bothering you,
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but I watched you last night.
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That was just incredible to
watch you be that vulnerable."
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And I don't write emails
like this usually.
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I just felt connected
and wanting to kind of
let her know,
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"Hey, you are now affecting me
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in a way that you should
feel really proud of."
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I first heard Demi Lovato's
music quite awhile ago
and I loved her voice.
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I asked her to come
and duet with me on
"Don't Go Breaking My Heart"
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when I promoted it
at the Wiltern Theater
in Los Angeles.
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That's when I first met her,
and I loved her so much.
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When you're young
and you're famous,
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my God, it's tough.
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You are put up on a pedestal
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and you're not
supposed to be human.
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"Demi Lovato is God.
She's fantastic.
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She's perfect."
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But of course,
we're not perfect.
We're all human beings.
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She's human and she's adorable
and she's brave.
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♪ Dancing with the devil ♪
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♪ Out of control ♪
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♪ Almost made it to heaven ♪
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♪ It was closer
than you'll know ♪
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Man:
We were so geared up
with the Grammys
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and with Super Bowl.
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And then everything
got put on hold,
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and I can't imagine
how scary that was for you.
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I don't think that I would've
been able to appreciate
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the big things that are
going to come in the future
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had I not been able
to appreciate
the little things now.
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Hi.
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My quarantine has been
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really beneficial
to my mental health.
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Obviously, I hated
that people were getting sick.
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In other times in my life,
I've always tried
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to find the good in things,
and that's what I did with this.
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It was like,
how can I use this experience
to work on myself?
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I know 2020 is a dark year
for all of us.
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But-- it feels dirty
to say this.
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She's had the best year ever.
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During this quarantine,
she's grown so much.
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She's meditating and doing
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all these different
things for herself.
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Demi:
Even if it's as small
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as stretching before bed,
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things that
I just didn't take time
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to do before quarantine,
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I'm now taking time to do.
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I was just like, all right,
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I'm going to take this time
to spend with my family
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and get to know my boyfriend
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and cuddle with my dogs more.
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He just fit right in
with the whole family.
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My mom came to me,
and she's like, "Listen,
I just want to let you know,
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Demi's met this guy
and I think he's going to be
around for awhile.""
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Demi: There have been
times in my life where
I have felt so alone.
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Now that I have found him,
I feel amazing.
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Hi, guys. This is so weird,
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talking to a camera by myself
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while my boyfriend's asleep.
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Oh, my God. Fiancé.
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So...
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yeah, I don't know
if you caught that, but, um,
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this is the ring.
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Matthew:
She texted me and said,
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"I met that man
that I'm going to marry."
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That was what,
March 6th or 7th
or something like that?
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And I think
they've been together
every single night since.
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And now they're getting married,
so she was right.
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When she announced
that she was engaged,
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I was very happy about that.
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I was so happy
that she was with someone
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that was making her so happy.
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Demi:
I'm kind of scared
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to know life without
quarantine with him.
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Although there
was a lot of concerns,
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we were all still really happy
that she was feeling so good
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and that she had somebody
with her through this time.
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So, my life has kind of
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flipped upside down.
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I'm no longer engaged.
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I'm really sad that things
ended the way that they did.
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Good news is
I haven't picked up
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any hard drugs
or anything like that.
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I'm hanging in there.
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It's just shitty.
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The video I made earlier
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wasn't an accurate
representation
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of what I'm going through.
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So, I thought this whole time
that I didn't miss him,
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I just missed the person that
I started quarantining with.
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And I don't know
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how to give my heart
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to someone after this.
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Man: Last interview,
we started,
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and do you know
what you did to start?
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The biggest change in my life
is I'm engaged.
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You looked at me
and you went--
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You had just gotten engaged.
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Oh, shit.
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I got engaged a week ago today.
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It was just the best day
of my life.
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I felt like I was floating.
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It's been a whirlwind
ever since.
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- Man: What happened?
- Honestly?
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What happened?
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I think I rushed into something
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that I thought was what
I was supposed to do.
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I realized as time went on
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that I didn't actually know
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the person
that I was engaged to.
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All the people that were like,
"Oh, they rushed into it,"
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or, you know,
"Oh, it's not going to last."
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And then, like,
you proved them right.
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We were only together
four or five months.
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- Yes.
- And honestly,
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it was false advertising.
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- Yep!
- When you both got into
your separate work modes,
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you're like,
"This is not the person
that I thought it was."
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Because it was 2020.
You didn't get to
normally date like you do.
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Right!
It's like, of course
that accelerated.
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I didn't even have
my best friends to hang out
with in quarantine.
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The hardest part
of the break-up
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was mourning the person
that I thought he was.
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Yeah, and the life you thought
you were going to have.
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- Yeah, of course.
- I mean, this is--
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But I'm not the only one
who felt fooled.
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I mean, I was just as shocked
as the rest of the world
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at some of the things
that were said and done.
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Matthew:
When you were done,
you were done.
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I was done.
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And I'm like, "How are you?"
You're like, "I'm good."
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Yes, she was. And she is.
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If I found a Demi Lovato,
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I would want
to lock her down, too.
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- Do you know what I'm saying?
- Thank you.
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Do you know what I'm saying?
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There's so much more of me
that I have yet to explore.
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And one of the good things
about this experience
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is that I've used this time
to look within.
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And also I feel like
I'm actually too queer
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to marry a man
in my life right now.
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I'm not willing to put a label
on it right this second.
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I think I will get there,
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but there's a lot of things
I have to do for myself first.
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I want to allow myself
the ability to live my life
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in the most
authentic form possible,
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which I just haven't done
because of my past
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and some things
that I've needed to work on.
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Man: When they chose
to call off the engagement,
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it was an incredible example
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of just how
she has grown and matured
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and developed
in terms of the ability
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to be in pain and be scared.
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And the ability to say,
"Oh, yeah, I want the relief
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that I used to associate with
using those types of drugs,
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and I don't want to."
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Man:
If there was ever a time
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where you were
going to do drugs,
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I think it would be after
you broke off your engagement.
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Given everything
that's happened,
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are you entirely sober now?
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Demi:
I've learned that shutting
the door on things
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makes me want to
open the door even more.
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I've learned that it
doesn't work for me to say,
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"I'm never going
to do this again."
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I've really,
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really struggled with this.
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I know I'm done with the stuff
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that's going to kill me, right?
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But I wish that
I could get some relief,
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maybe through weed
or something, right?
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And...
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Telling myself
that I can never have a drink
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or smoke marijuana,
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I feel like that's setting
myself up for failure
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because I am such
a black and white thinker.
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I had had it drilled into
my head for so many years
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that one drink was equivalent
to a crack pipe.
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I've been hesitant
to share until now
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that I've been smoking weed
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and drinking in moderation.
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After almost dying from the OD
and after so many years
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of being the poster child
of sobriety,
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I didn't want people
to criticize me for that.
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And I also don't
want people to hear that
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and think that
they can just go out
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and try having a drink
or smoking a joint.
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Because it isn't for everybody.
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Recovery isn't
a one size fits all solution
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and you shouldn't
be forced to get sober
if you're not ready.
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You shouldn't get sober
for other people.
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You have to do it for yourself.
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What Demi has continued to do
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is she continues to search
for what is her path,
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what does work for her.
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The ability for her
to be able to share,
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"Hey, I'm going to
try smoking weed,"
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okay, let's talk about that.
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"I don't want to be
completely abstinent.
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I want to be able
to see if I can have a drink."
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The weed thing is very new.
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I think she's exploring
her boundaries with that now.
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It does kind of scare me now
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to know that she isn't sober.
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You know, I don't know
if being dead sober
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would be the best thing
for her, honestly.
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I don't know
if it wouldn't, though.
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I think that
that's not really my place.
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Um, moderation doesn't work.
Sorry.
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If you drink,
you're going to drink more.
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If you take a pill,
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you're going to
take another one.
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You either do it or you don't.
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Demi knows
the whole moderation thing
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is not something
I truly agree with.
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What I've learned with addiction
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is if I push her to do
what I want, I push her away.
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I can't control her.
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What I can do is be a friend
and hope that she's right.
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Any path that is right
for someone else
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does not mean
that it is an effective,
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meaningful,
safe path for you.
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Being dogmatic about,
"Someone must be abstinent.
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They can never
have another substance,"
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is just as harmful as saying,
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"Well, moderation works
for Demi Lovato.
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Therefore,
it will work for me."
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My hope is that
the message that people get
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is we encourage people
to explore and say,
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"What is truly meaningful to me
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and what actually
worked for me?"
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I feel like the point
that my sister's in
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in her life right now
is that she's finally learning
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to find balance
in every element of her life.
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- Cheers.
- Cheers.
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To being alive.
I don't know.
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Okay.
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I never found recovery
in my eating disorder fully
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until I found balance
in my food, in my exercise.
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And I know that
it will still affect me
for the rest of my life,
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but it's manageable,
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and the voice
has gotten so quiet
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that it no longer
rules my life
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and I no longer feel
like I'm in a prison.
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Demi had told me
a story in the past
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of eight years straight
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she had gotten watermelon cakes
for her birthday,
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and it was always devastating
because they were trying
to keep her weight down.
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When I would go on trips
with her previously,
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it was understanding, okay,
we will eat when she eats
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but there will be no snacking
outside of that.
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This trip to Palm Springs?
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We ate whatever we wanted
whenever we wanted.
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She had three birthday cakes,
which was a huge deal for her
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because previously she had
just had watermelon cakes.
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- Aah! Yes!
- Wait, where is that from?
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- SusieCakes.
- SusieCakes!
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- Yes!
- We haven't had a SusieCake
for your birthday ever?
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This is so cool.
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- Happy birthday.
- Thank you.
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Demi was like,
"This is great.
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We get to just enjoy food
with each other."
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So we had this
kind of a-ha moment
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where it's like,
"This is okay.
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We can have
three birthday cakes
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because it is your birthday
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and we're celebrating it
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and this is something
we're sharing together."
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And I watched her in real time
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realize that was something
she could do,
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and it was really beautiful.
301
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Wow. Breathwork.
302
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- Yay!
- Whoo!
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That's the best part
about of my life today
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is that I'm in control of it.
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What I eat is my decision.
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What I don't eat is my decision.
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What I do is my decision.
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And I'm really,
really, really grateful
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of the team that I have today.
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Man: Who are those people
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that you're referring to,
the team today?
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Definitely Max. Scott.
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And Scooter, obviously.
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I just have so many incredible
people in my life today.
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I and the people in her life
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continue to support her
being authentic
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in her ability
to make her own choices.
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I am very, very aware
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of how blessed, lucky I am.
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Not everybody
has the same resources
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or capabilities
to get the help they need.
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Not everyone's going to have
a case manager and a therapist
323
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and a head of security and all
of these people around them.
324
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But that's not necessary
325
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for someone to be able
to explore their path.
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The key is do I have people
in my life who I trust,
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who I can be honest with,
and who I feel will support me?
328
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Isolation is the worst thing
you can do. Ask for help.
329
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Asking for help
was so hard for me
330
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because I thought
I could do everything myself.
331
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The great thing about Demi
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is that she has opened up
333
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about her addictions
and her problems,
334
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and the stress and the pressure
of fame at such an early age,
335
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and a lot of people are afraid
to open up about it.
336
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I feel once you
open up about it,
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you get the monkey off your back
and you come out in the open.
338
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It doesn't mean to say
you're cured,
339
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because you never will be.
340
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Addiction is a lifelong thing.
341
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But you can have
the most fantastic life.
342
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I've been sober 30 years.
343
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I've had the most incredible
things happen to me.
344
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And I'm hoping
that she does, too,
345
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because
she's such a great girl.
346
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If something happens with me,
347
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if I'm feeling a certain way,
348
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I don't wait until
I'm triggered to do something.
349
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I text my therapist.
I text my case manager.
350
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I text whoever it is,
"Hey, my depression
is acting up.
351
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Just so you know."
Even if that's all it is,
352
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just so someone's aware,
because in that moment
353
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it takes a little bit
of the power away.
354
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I deal with depression
on a level that most people
probably never understand,
355
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which is why
I've always turned to drugs,
to an eating disorder,
356
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because all of these
things stop me from taking
that permanent step.
357
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I'm constantly
talking about it
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and I'm constantly
open about it,
359
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and that way I'm not waiting
till the last minute
360
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and I'm suicidal to get help.
361
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Getting ahead of the curve
and being proactive,
362
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taking steps
that are going to put
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safety precautions in place,
364
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that's why the Vivitrol shot
is really important to me.
365
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Vivitrol, what it does
is it actually blocks
the opiate receptors.
366
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It will keep you
from getting high.
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Do I ever want
to touch heroin again? No.
368
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Do I think I will?
Absolutely not.
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But I still get it
just because at least
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for a few years
it can't hurt me.
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Man: So you put precautions
in place for your addiction
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- and for your depression.
- Mm-hmm.
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I want to check in
on something that you revealed
to the world ten years ago,
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your bipolar diagnosis.
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How does your diagnosis
affect your life today?
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00:17:29,214 --> 00:17:33,351
Well, that's a really
interesting question
377
00:17:33,384 --> 00:17:35,620
because I've been told
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that they think
I was misdiagnosed
when I was 18.
379
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I came out to the public
when I found out I was bipolar
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because I thought
that it put a reasoning
behind my actions.
381
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But what I didn't do
was get a second opinion.
382
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You take something public,
you become an advocate for it.
383
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I was acting out when
I was 18 for many reasons,
384
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but I know now from
multiple different doctors
385
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that it was not
because I was bipolar.
386
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I had to grow up.
387
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I had to grow
the ( bleep ) up.
388
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Matthew:
Everything's so cool!
389
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- Demi: Thanks.
- Sirah: Right?
390
00:18:24,602 --> 00:18:27,372
I love this chair.
I am this chair.
These are my legs now.
391
00:18:27,405 --> 00:18:31,643
- Sirah: The art is insane.
- Oh, Ella wants to show you--
392
00:18:31,676 --> 00:18:33,245
Ella? What do you
want to show me, baby?
393
00:18:33,278 --> 00:18:34,880
- This is my pup area.
- Hey, little girl.
394
00:18:34,913 --> 00:18:36,748
Sirah: You're doing
your little "MTV Cribs"?
395
00:18:36,781 --> 00:18:39,885
- This is so exciting.
- Dining room. Wow.
396
00:18:39,918 --> 00:18:41,887
I was just saying
I love how gay your house is.
397
00:18:41,920 --> 00:18:43,788
- Your house is--
- It's so perfectly gay.
398
00:18:43,821 --> 00:18:46,258
The kitchen's not done.
I have to paint it.
399
00:18:46,291 --> 00:18:48,627
- It's too straight, yeah?
- It's too straight.
400
00:18:48,660 --> 00:18:49,895
- It's too hetero.
- We have to fix it.
401
00:18:49,928 --> 00:18:51,763
I also, Demi,
love this little butt.
402
00:18:51,796 --> 00:18:54,466
Sirah:
Oh, yeah, the pottery is,
like, everything to me.
403
00:18:54,499 --> 00:18:57,769
- Wow.
- Demi: What's so nice
about this place
404
00:18:57,802 --> 00:19:01,173
is especially after
the break-up and everything,
405
00:19:01,206 --> 00:19:04,609
I get to move out
and start new, start fresh.
406
00:19:04,642 --> 00:19:09,281
I've never had a house
that encompasses my personality
407
00:19:09,314 --> 00:19:10,916
more than this one does.
408
00:19:10,949 --> 00:19:13,785
It's glamorous, it's fun,
409
00:19:13,818 --> 00:19:16,621
it's colorful.
410
00:19:16,654 --> 00:19:18,957
And you have everything from
411
00:19:18,990 --> 00:19:22,627
the Netflix series
"Ratched" inspired basement
412
00:19:22,660 --> 00:19:24,729
to a shroom room
on the third floor.
413
00:19:24,762 --> 00:19:27,632
( laughing )
414
00:19:27,665 --> 00:19:29,634
Holy shit! Whoa.
415
00:19:29,667 --> 00:19:31,803
And you can, like,
pause it on colors.
416
00:19:31,836 --> 00:19:34,339
I wanted something
so out there
417
00:19:34,372 --> 00:19:36,308
that no one
has in their house.
418
00:19:36,341 --> 00:19:38,944
The concept of the room
is less about what you do in it,
419
00:19:38,977 --> 00:19:41,479
but actually what
it inspires inside of you.
420
00:19:41,512 --> 00:19:44,282
- I have this room
to be creative in.
- And be creative.
421
00:19:44,315 --> 00:19:46,484
- You don't have to do
shrooms to come in here.
- But you-- exactly!
422
00:19:46,517 --> 00:19:49,454
- But you feel like
you're on some.
- Exactly. Exactly.
423
00:19:53,558 --> 00:19:57,495
( music playing )
424
00:19:57,528 --> 00:19:59,764
Scooter: In the studio,
Demi is in her happy place.
425
00:19:59,797 --> 00:20:01,333
She feels free there.
426
00:20:01,366 --> 00:20:02,767
She feels she can
be honest there.
427
00:20:02,800 --> 00:20:04,236
When she's in the studio,
428
00:20:04,269 --> 00:20:05,337
I think she's actually
truly present.
429
00:20:05,370 --> 00:20:09,875
( music playing )
430
00:20:14,946 --> 00:20:16,348
Now you're getting it.
431
00:20:16,381 --> 00:20:18,850
( music playing )
432
00:20:18,883 --> 00:20:20,352
- Yes!
- Yeah!
433
00:20:20,385 --> 00:20:21,686
I'm just excited
to release music
434
00:20:21,719 --> 00:20:24,322
I've been working on
for years now.
435
00:20:24,355 --> 00:20:27,926
My life has changed
more in the past two years
than it has my whole life.
436
00:20:27,959 --> 00:20:31,730
With that comes
reworking of an album.
437
00:20:31,763 --> 00:20:33,698
We're not worried about
making the pop radio hits.
438
00:20:33,731 --> 00:20:35,367
I told her,
let's tell a story.
439
00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:36,768
Let's make a body of work
that tells your story.
440
00:20:36,801 --> 00:20:39,805
( music playing )
441
00:20:48,913 --> 00:20:50,715
Oh, shit. You want
to keep going. Okay.
442
00:20:50,748 --> 00:20:52,550
I don't know.
I just was feeling it.
443
00:20:52,583 --> 00:20:54,019
All of my albums
have been my babies,
444
00:20:54,052 --> 00:20:55,887
but this one I'm watching
turn into a teenager
445
00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:58,390
because it's evolved so much.
446
00:20:58,423 --> 00:21:00,292
And I think I'm the most
proud of this one.
447
00:21:00,325 --> 00:21:02,027
I'm so glad that
I had the opportunity
448
00:21:02,060 --> 00:21:05,797
and the time to make it
perfect the way I want it.
449
00:21:05,830 --> 00:21:07,432
It's going to be
about where I am today
450
00:21:07,465 --> 00:21:09,467
and what I'm looking for
and who I am.
451
00:21:09,500 --> 00:21:12,070
Me embracing my queer self.
452
00:21:12,103 --> 00:21:14,606
Going for it fearlessly
is where I'm at today
453
00:21:14,639 --> 00:21:16,808
and what I want my music
to represent, too.
454
00:21:16,841 --> 00:21:18,410
It's a different level
of connection,
455
00:21:18,443 --> 00:21:19,878
and I'm ready
to go there with fans.
456
00:21:19,911 --> 00:21:21,579
The exciting part for me
457
00:21:21,612 --> 00:21:24,582
is this album feels like
every piece of her.
458
00:21:24,615 --> 00:21:27,052
Not just the Demi Lovato
that we know,
459
00:21:27,085 --> 00:21:29,888
not just the advocate,
just all her combined.
460
00:21:29,921 --> 00:21:34,326
Demi is finally being
as honest as she should be
and as she needs to be.
461
00:21:34,359 --> 00:21:37,762
Demi is relentless
about fighting for anybody
462
00:21:37,795 --> 00:21:41,032
she feels is being slighted
or doesn't have a voice.
463
00:21:41,065 --> 00:21:43,601
- Seth Meyers:
How are you, Demi?
- Hi, I'm good. How are you?
464
00:21:43,634 --> 00:21:45,437
You wrote a song called
"Commander In Chief"
465
00:21:45,470 --> 00:21:48,039
which was basically sort of
a letter to the President.
466
00:21:48,072 --> 00:21:50,608
I was thinking about the music
that's out there right now,
467
00:21:50,641 --> 00:21:53,912
and I was like,
why isn't anyone talking
about what's happening?
468
00:21:53,945 --> 00:21:58,083
Demi:
I've got to help other people
by telling a bigger story.
469
00:21:58,116 --> 00:22:02,120
You know, being in LA
when all of these protests
were going on,
470
00:22:02,153 --> 00:22:05,957
understanding that
I can never understand
471
00:22:05,990 --> 00:22:09,527
what people of color
deal with on a daily basis,
it was just a lot.
472
00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:12,431
( music playing )
473
00:22:16,134 --> 00:22:17,469
It's a part of growing up,
474
00:22:17,502 --> 00:22:18,803
finding what's important to you
475
00:22:18,836 --> 00:22:20,705
and then figuring out
what it is
476
00:22:20,738 --> 00:22:22,440
that you want to leave on
this Earth when you're gone.
477
00:22:22,473 --> 00:22:24,075
There's bigger things
to talk about than me.
478
00:22:24,108 --> 00:22:26,644
There's different ways to vote.
You can mail in.
479
00:22:26,677 --> 00:22:28,780
I actually
just got word from Mom
480
00:22:28,813 --> 00:22:31,116
that my ballot arrived
at the house.
481
00:22:31,149 --> 00:22:34,786
Christina:
It really takes a strong
person to speak up,
482
00:22:34,819 --> 00:22:38,123
be open to the backlash
and people that oppose
those opinions,
483
00:22:38,156 --> 00:22:39,824
and still hold tight to them.
484
00:22:39,857 --> 00:22:43,528
Now more than ever,
she's taken hold of that power.
485
00:22:45,029 --> 00:22:46,998
We're looking
for a body of work
486
00:22:47,031 --> 00:22:48,833
that makes everyone
just completely blown away.
487
00:22:48,866 --> 00:22:51,002
Yeah. I think one
of the most powerful songs
488
00:22:51,035 --> 00:22:53,004
- is "Dancing With The Devil."
- I agree.
489
00:22:53,037 --> 00:22:55,006
Ooh! When she played me
"Dancing With The Devil,"
490
00:22:55,039 --> 00:22:57,409
I was like, "You can't.
You're releasing this?"
491
00:22:57,442 --> 00:22:59,110
"Dancing With The Devil"
is incredible
492
00:22:59,143 --> 00:23:01,646
although it's so painful
to listen to.
493
00:23:01,679 --> 00:23:04,015
"Dancing With The Devil"
can be really scary
494
00:23:04,048 --> 00:23:06,151
when I think back to
495
00:23:06,184 --> 00:23:09,154
the person that I used to
know my sister as.
496
00:23:09,187 --> 00:23:14,025
But I don't think
the person my sister is now
dances with the devil.
497
00:23:19,063 --> 00:23:21,533
Man: Your friends and family
say you're the best liar,
498
00:23:21,566 --> 00:23:23,034
and you've said
similar things in the past,
499
00:23:23,067 --> 00:23:24,869
that you're done
with hard drugs.
500
00:23:24,902 --> 00:23:26,538
So why is this time different?
501
00:23:26,571 --> 00:23:29,040
I haven't relapsed
in drugs and alcohol.
502
00:23:29,073 --> 00:23:30,975
That's something
that I'm very proud of.
503
00:23:31,008 --> 00:23:33,678
I decided to drink,
504
00:23:33,711 --> 00:23:35,580
and I made that decision
to find balance,
505
00:23:35,613 --> 00:23:38,450
and I've been doing
awesome ever since.
506
00:23:40,218 --> 00:23:43,788
The one slip up that I ever had
with those drugs again,
507
00:23:43,821 --> 00:23:47,725
the scariest thing to me
was picking up heroin
508
00:23:47,758 --> 00:23:51,563
and realizing, wow, this--
509
00:23:51,596 --> 00:23:53,731
this isn't
strong enough anymore
510
00:23:53,764 --> 00:23:55,066
because what I had done
511
00:23:55,099 --> 00:23:58,570
the night I overdosed
was fentanyl.
512
00:23:58,603 --> 00:24:02,207
And that--
513
00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:03,742
that's a whole other beast.
514
00:24:06,611 --> 00:24:09,214
Realizing the high I wanted
would kill me
515
00:24:09,247 --> 00:24:11,783
was what I needed
to get me clean for good.
516
00:24:17,788 --> 00:24:19,224
I have full faith
517
00:24:19,257 --> 00:24:22,160
that you're not
going to open up TMZ
518
00:24:22,193 --> 00:24:24,095
and see another
overdose headline.
519
00:24:24,128 --> 00:24:27,098
But I also say this
with humility
520
00:24:27,131 --> 00:24:29,934
that this is
a very powerful disease
521
00:24:29,967 --> 00:24:33,271
and I'm not going to pretend
like I'm invincible.
522
00:24:33,304 --> 00:24:35,773
I have to work every day
523
00:24:35,806 --> 00:24:37,942
to make sure that
I'm in a good place
524
00:24:37,975 --> 00:24:39,911
so that I don't go
to those things.
525
00:24:39,944 --> 00:24:45,250
Time and trust is the only thing
that will work for people,
526
00:24:45,283 --> 00:24:47,218
and over time
you'll see that I'm good.
527
00:24:47,251 --> 00:24:50,955
You can't change someone's mind
who thinks that I'm a junkie
528
00:24:50,988 --> 00:24:52,957
and I will always be one.
529
00:24:52,990 --> 00:24:54,225
I'll just have to
show them differently.
530
00:24:54,258 --> 00:24:55,793
Man:
Are you worried about her?
531
00:24:55,826 --> 00:24:58,129
I worry. I'll always worry.
532
00:24:58,162 --> 00:25:01,633
Whether she smokes
a joint or not,
533
00:25:01,666 --> 00:25:03,635
I mean, I would worry anyway.
534
00:25:03,668 --> 00:25:04,802
Yeah, I'm always
going to worry.
535
00:25:04,835 --> 00:25:06,137
There's no way not to.
536
00:25:06,170 --> 00:25:08,640
Nothing she's doing
right now at this moment
537
00:25:08,673 --> 00:25:11,643
is going to put her
back in the ICU.
538
00:25:11,676 --> 00:25:14,179
I feel like she's got
everything under control.
539
00:25:16,013 --> 00:25:19,183
And that's just
how I feel right now.
540
00:25:19,216 --> 00:25:23,221
My sister has prevailed
time and time again.
541
00:25:23,254 --> 00:25:25,823
She knows her limits,
542
00:25:25,856 --> 00:25:28,893
um, and I know her.
543
00:25:28,926 --> 00:25:30,662
At the end of the day,
I just hope she knows
544
00:25:30,695 --> 00:25:33,998
that I'm always here for her.
I have her back.
545
00:25:34,031 --> 00:25:36,834
I think this is the first time
that I can comfortably--
546
00:25:36,867 --> 00:25:38,002
not that I would,
547
00:25:38,035 --> 00:25:39,837
but I could
comfortably walk away
548
00:25:39,870 --> 00:25:41,172
with full trust
and faith in you
549
00:25:41,205 --> 00:25:43,608
knowing you got this now.
550
00:25:43,641 --> 00:25:45,577
- Thanks.
- It's true.
551
00:25:47,345 --> 00:25:49,681
Demi: I decided I'm getting
my hair cut on Monday.
552
00:25:49,714 --> 00:25:53,685
I've been thinking about this
for, actually, years
553
00:25:53,718 --> 00:25:55,987
and never had
the balls to do it.
554
00:25:56,020 --> 00:25:58,323
As I'm talking about this
and as I'm healing and growing
555
00:25:58,356 --> 00:26:00,024
and working and doing
all this stuff,
556
00:26:00,057 --> 00:26:01,859
it's just that
developmental trauma
557
00:26:01,892 --> 00:26:03,661
that really sticks with you
558
00:26:03,694 --> 00:26:07,198
and kind of sticks with everyone
to the rest of their lives.
559
00:26:07,231 --> 00:26:10,702
And that's a part of why
I'm chopping my hair off,
560
00:26:10,735 --> 00:26:12,203
is because I want to be free
of all of that.
561
00:26:12,236 --> 00:26:15,173
I want to be free of not only
my developmental trauma,
562
00:26:15,206 --> 00:26:17,709
but the gender norms that were
placed on me as a kid
563
00:26:17,742 --> 00:26:19,344
and the sexuality norms
564
00:26:19,377 --> 00:26:21,613
that were placed on me
in my church.
565
00:26:21,646 --> 00:26:23,715
I feel like right now
it just represents
566
00:26:23,748 --> 00:26:28,353
the femininity that
I have always been too afraid
567
00:26:28,386 --> 00:26:29,854
to let go of.
568
00:26:29,887 --> 00:26:33,124
Bye-ee!
569
00:26:33,157 --> 00:26:37,061
It's very symbolic
of letting go of my past,
570
00:26:37,094 --> 00:26:38,262
letting go of the old me,
571
00:26:38,295 --> 00:26:39,797
part of me that was too afraid
572
00:26:39,830 --> 00:26:42,400
to really live my truth.
573
00:26:42,433 --> 00:26:44,202
- ( whirring )
- Oh, my God, I feel it!
574
00:26:44,235 --> 00:26:47,905
This whole thing is
a learning process for me, too,
575
00:26:47,938 --> 00:26:50,241
of no longer having any fear
576
00:26:50,274 --> 00:26:52,343
and just going forward
with what I want to do.
577
00:26:52,376 --> 00:26:54,779
I know that when
I get this haircut,
578
00:26:54,812 --> 00:26:57,248
people are going to
have opinions and say things.
579
00:26:57,281 --> 00:27:00,652
Some people
are going to be like,
"Oh, no, why'd she do that?"
580
00:27:00,685 --> 00:27:03,087
"She had great hair."
Blah, blah, blah.
581
00:27:03,120 --> 00:27:04,922
I'm not living my life
for other people
582
00:27:04,955 --> 00:27:08,092
or their headlines
or their Twitter comments.
583
00:27:08,125 --> 00:27:11,929
♪ I was dancing
with the devil ♪
584
00:27:11,962 --> 00:27:15,033
♪ Out of control ♪
585
00:27:15,066 --> 00:27:16,801
Matthew:
I pray for her every night.
586
00:27:16,834 --> 00:27:19,103
We talk every single morning
and every single evening.
587
00:27:19,136 --> 00:27:21,439
I hope to spend
the rest of my life with her.
588
00:27:21,472 --> 00:27:25,176
And I just have to
trust in her where she is now.
589
00:27:25,209 --> 00:27:27,211
I absolutely trust her,
590
00:27:27,244 --> 00:27:29,414
but there's always going to be
a part of me that's like,
591
00:27:29,447 --> 00:27:32,751
"All right, she could
get away with murder."
592
00:27:34,318 --> 00:27:35,887
I've had a lot of lives,
593
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:36,888
like, my cat-- you know?
594
00:27:36,921 --> 00:27:37,955
I'm on my ninth life,
595
00:27:37,988 --> 00:27:39,891
and I don't know how many
596
00:27:39,924 --> 00:27:41,259
opportunities I have left.
597
00:27:41,292 --> 00:27:43,795
It's interesting.
Life ebbs and flows.
598
00:27:43,828 --> 00:27:47,699
Life is fluid and I'm fluid,
and that's all I know.
599
00:27:47,732 --> 00:27:51,302
♪ Dancing with the devil ♪
600
00:27:51,335 --> 00:27:54,305
♪ Out of control ♪
601
00:27:54,338 --> 00:27:56,808
♪ Almost made it to heaven ♪
602
00:27:56,841 --> 00:27:59,143
♪ It was closer
than you'll know ♪
603
00:27:59,176 --> 00:28:01,680
♪ Closer than you'll know ♪
604
00:28:05,082 --> 00:28:06,384
I think if anyone were to say,
605
00:28:06,417 --> 00:28:08,386
"I've got this figured out,
606
00:28:08,419 --> 00:28:11,089
I know what I'm doing,"
607
00:28:11,122 --> 00:28:13,024
you don't know
what you're doing.
608
00:28:16,193 --> 00:28:18,329
- Is that a message?
- Man: Yeah.
609
00:28:18,362 --> 00:28:20,465
( Demi laughs )
610
00:28:20,498 --> 00:28:22,166
( continues laughing )
611
00:28:22,199 --> 00:28:24,836
That shit happens to me
all the time!
612
00:28:24,869 --> 00:28:26,838
Thank you. At least
you got it on camera.
613
00:28:26,871 --> 00:28:28,172
( laughing )
614
00:28:28,205 --> 00:28:29,808
Yes!