1 00:00:02,350 --> 00:00:04,047 [Renee] Previously onRun The World... 2 00:00:04,178 --> 00:00:05,875 Getting divorced is surprisingly easy. 3 00:00:06,006 --> 00:00:07,094 Cheers! 4 00:00:07,224 --> 00:00:07,877 Divorce can be like a death. 5 00:00:08,008 --> 00:00:09,400 I'm fine. 6 00:00:09,531 --> 00:00:10,880 All women deserve to fuck up at least once. 7 00:00:11,011 --> 00:00:12,708 I'm sorry, what? 8 00:00:12,838 --> 00:00:14,840 Every woman deserves to sleep with at least one man 9 00:00:14,971 --> 00:00:17,278 who can actually change her station in life. 10 00:00:17,408 --> 00:00:18,975 Why are you taking her side? 11 00:00:19,106 --> 00:00:21,021 If you are fucking up, then good for you! 12 00:00:21,151 --> 00:00:22,848 [Whitney] I love Ola so much. 13 00:00:22,979 --> 00:00:25,503 I didn't cheat on him because I have doubts about him or us. 14 00:00:25,634 --> 00:00:28,158 Make peace with this and bury it. 15 00:00:28,289 --> 00:00:30,334 You told me seven days before you left. 16 00:00:30,465 --> 00:00:32,336 You were so depressed after your publishers dropped you. 17 00:00:32,467 --> 00:00:33,946 I didn't wanna make it worse. 18 00:00:34,077 --> 00:00:35,861 Don't you think this will look amazing 19 00:00:35,992 --> 00:00:37,080 with a thigh-high slit? 20 00:00:37,211 --> 00:00:38,864 Renee, no. 21 00:00:38,995 --> 00:00:40,388 What is wrong with you? 22 00:00:40,518 --> 00:00:41,780 Hey. 23 00:00:41,911 --> 00:00:43,217 Can you please start being 24 00:00:43,347 --> 00:00:44,827 the friends that I very much need right now? 25 00:00:46,220 --> 00:00:49,266 [chill jazzy music playing] 26 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:54,228 ♪ 27 00:00:58,188 --> 00:01:00,364 [Nancy] So what's going on? 28 00:01:00,495 --> 00:01:01,757 This wedding is literally 29 00:01:01,887 --> 00:01:04,760 bringing out the worst in my friends. 30 00:01:04,890 --> 00:01:07,589 And maybe me too. 31 00:01:07,719 --> 00:01:09,243 Ever feel like every day is a fight? 32 00:01:09,373 --> 00:01:10,635 Lately, I wake up, 33 00:01:10,766 --> 00:01:12,028 and I feel like I have to put on my armor 34 00:01:12,159 --> 00:01:13,203 even when I'm with my girls. 35 00:01:13,334 --> 00:01:14,726 I'm fantastic. 36 00:01:14,857 --> 00:01:16,467 I'm just here because, you know, 37 00:01:16,598 --> 00:01:18,469 divorces and therapy seem like a natural combo. 38 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:21,559 And besides, I need to use my flex spending. 39 00:01:21,690 --> 00:01:23,561 I can't believe this is where I am at this point in my life. 40 00:01:23,692 --> 00:01:25,737 And what point is that? 41 00:01:25,868 --> 00:01:28,218 You know, I have patients whose lives are really fucked up. 42 00:01:28,349 --> 00:01:30,220 You're 32, you're employed, 43 00:01:30,351 --> 00:01:31,917 you're beautiful, you're smart-- 44 00:01:32,048 --> 00:01:34,094 And yet my life's a shit show. 45 00:01:34,224 --> 00:01:35,356 [cameras snapping] 46 00:01:35,486 --> 00:01:37,706 [pop music playing] 47 00:01:37,836 --> 00:01:38,663 [chuckles] 48 00:01:38,837 --> 00:01:43,451 ♪ 49 00:01:43,625 --> 00:01:44,495 [singer] ♪ Drink in my hand Chilling on a rooftop♪ 50 00:01:44,669 --> 00:01:48,760 ♪ 51 00:01:48,891 --> 00:01:51,023 Hi! Can you sign this, please? 52 00:01:51,154 --> 00:01:52,764 Of course! What's your name? 53 00:01:52,895 --> 00:01:54,940 Jacquetta, spelled the regular way. 54 00:01:55,071 --> 00:01:57,769 Huge fan of "What The El." I read it every day. 55 00:01:57,900 --> 00:01:59,467 You've taught me how to be sexy, 56 00:01:59,597 --> 00:02:01,469 and empowered and perfectly single-- 57 00:02:01,599 --> 00:02:03,253 not like the last girl to get chose. 58 00:02:03,384 --> 00:02:04,646 You're like my BFF in my head. 59 00:02:04,776 --> 00:02:07,127 Except not how Beyoncé's my BFF in my head. 60 00:02:07,257 --> 00:02:08,476 You're like my BFF in my head 61 00:02:08,606 --> 00:02:10,042 if I knew this person in real life. 62 00:02:10,173 --> 00:02:11,696 -Thank you? -Mm-hmm! [laughs] 63 00:02:17,789 --> 00:02:20,836 -Thank you! -You're welcome. [chuckles] 64 00:02:20,966 --> 00:02:22,881 Everything okay? 65 00:02:23,012 --> 00:02:24,448 Yeah. It's just a work thing. 66 00:02:24,579 --> 00:02:26,146 It can wait. 67 00:02:26,276 --> 00:02:28,104 Tonight is all about celebrating 68 00:02:28,235 --> 00:02:30,411 my gorgeous girlfriend and soon-to-be bestselling author. 69 00:02:31,934 --> 00:02:34,154 Tonight doesn't happen without you. 70 00:02:34,284 --> 00:02:34,893 [Anderson] I'm proud of you, baby. 71 00:02:35,024 --> 00:02:35,938 I love you. 72 00:02:39,637 --> 00:02:41,378 Ugh. I hear the room rate at the Standard 73 00:02:41,509 --> 00:02:42,858 is discounted on Tuesdays. 74 00:02:42,988 --> 00:02:45,252 [both laugh] 75 00:02:45,382 --> 00:02:46,557 You actually did the damn thing. 76 00:02:46,688 --> 00:02:48,211 Congratulations. 77 00:02:48,342 --> 00:02:49,865 That means a lot coming from you, Barb. 78 00:02:49,995 --> 00:02:51,823 I really appreciate you coming out. 79 00:02:51,954 --> 00:02:54,913 I'm on the hunt for a waiter with free booze and tiny food. 80 00:02:55,044 --> 00:02:57,916 Have you tried the crab cakes? They are bite-sized yum! 81 00:02:58,047 --> 00:02:59,440 [sighs] I'm too nervous to eat. 82 00:02:59,570 --> 00:03:00,919 But it's already written. 83 00:03:01,050 --> 00:03:03,705 Now you just wait for all these single Black girls 84 00:03:03,835 --> 00:03:05,315 with big dreams 85 00:03:05,446 --> 00:03:07,491 and too much attitude to buy it. 86 00:03:07,622 --> 00:03:09,537 -Did you read it? -No. 87 00:03:09,667 --> 00:03:12,061 But look at you and all these pages! 88 00:03:12,192 --> 00:03:13,671 [laughs] 89 00:03:13,802 --> 00:03:15,151 Ooh, crab cakes. 90 00:03:16,370 --> 00:03:17,545 [chuckles] 91 00:03:17,719 --> 00:03:19,155 [Leigh Ann] ♪ Ella ♪ 92 00:03:19,286 --> 00:03:21,679 So, not-so-good news. 93 00:03:21,810 --> 00:03:25,466 Some of the early reviews are... less than stellar. 94 00:03:25,596 --> 00:03:27,903 -Oh, my God. They hate me. -Sweetie, don't spiral. 95 00:03:28,033 --> 00:03:29,774 It's not a huge deal. 96 00:03:29,905 --> 00:03:31,602 I just wanted to let you know so you won't get blindsided. 97 00:03:31,733 --> 00:03:32,995 What are you doing? No. 98 00:03:33,125 --> 00:03:33,561 I'm not letting you do this right now. 99 00:03:33,691 --> 00:03:35,084 No. Okay. 100 00:03:35,215 --> 00:03:36,955 The lowlights: there are some sentiments 101 00:03:37,086 --> 00:03:38,305 that you may have abandoned your core audience 102 00:03:38,435 --> 00:03:39,697 to become more palatable. 103 00:03:39,828 --> 00:03:41,308 What? 104 00:03:41,438 --> 00:03:43,005 Also, the words "banal" and "trite" were used, 105 00:03:43,135 --> 00:03:46,269 but screw those self-righteous, Pussyhat-wearing critics. 106 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:47,488 What about the sales projections? 107 00:03:47,618 --> 00:03:49,316 Oh, it's all very fluid. 108 00:03:49,446 --> 00:03:51,361 Just enjoy your party, okay? 109 00:03:51,492 --> 00:03:53,320 André Leon Talley is here. Mm-hmm. 110 00:03:56,932 --> 00:03:59,717 Okay, that is a whole moment you got going on there. 111 00:03:59,848 --> 00:04:01,980 [in affected accent] Yes, darling, it's a look. 112 00:04:02,111 --> 00:04:03,243 [speaking normally] You like? 113 00:04:03,373 --> 00:04:04,896 Jason thought it was too risqué. 114 00:04:05,027 --> 00:04:07,247 Mm, for a book party? Shocking. 115 00:04:07,377 --> 00:04:10,250 Ella, this party is everything! 116 00:04:10,380 --> 00:04:11,816 I'm so proud of you! 117 00:04:11,947 --> 00:04:13,078 I really hope that you're soaking all this up. 118 00:04:13,209 --> 00:04:15,472 I was, until five minutes ago. 119 00:04:15,603 --> 00:04:17,300 Apparently my book got some shitty reviews. 120 00:04:17,431 --> 00:04:19,215 Do reviews matter anymore? 121 00:04:19,346 --> 00:04:21,130 I'm a writer. Haven't you heard? 122 00:04:21,261 --> 00:04:22,697 We're all deeply insecure. 123 00:04:22,827 --> 00:04:24,481 Forget the reviews. 124 00:04:24,612 --> 00:04:27,267 I just saw André Leon Talley with Pat Field. 125 00:04:27,397 --> 00:04:28,572 Oh, my God. Where? I love them. 126 00:04:28,703 --> 00:04:30,357 Guys, what if my book doesn't sell? 127 00:04:30,487 --> 00:04:31,314 I don't have a backup plan. 128 00:04:31,445 --> 00:04:32,924 Okay, okay. 129 00:04:33,055 --> 00:04:34,535 Do not do your negative energy woe-is-me thing. 130 00:04:34,665 --> 00:04:36,145 This is your moment. 131 00:04:36,276 --> 00:04:38,495 And you get to choose how you experience it. 132 00:04:38,626 --> 00:04:40,236 Look around. 133 00:04:40,367 --> 00:04:43,021 This is what you asked for. 134 00:04:43,152 --> 00:04:44,327 Yum. Are those lamb pops? 135 00:04:44,458 --> 00:04:45,502 Oh. 136 00:04:46,764 --> 00:04:50,377 [singer] ♪ We're running We're running, we're running ♪ 137 00:04:50,551 --> 00:04:52,509 ♪ We run the world We run the ♪ 138 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:55,947 To be clear, it was not what I asked for. 139 00:04:56,078 --> 00:04:58,298 I didn't ask for osteoporosis 140 00:04:58,428 --> 00:05:00,343 or for my shit commute 141 00:05:00,474 --> 00:05:02,563 or for my tax guy to retire 142 00:05:02,693 --> 00:05:05,043 and only send notification by paper mail. 143 00:05:05,174 --> 00:05:06,175 Who sends paper mail? 144 00:05:07,785 --> 00:05:10,571 Ella, what is it you think you asked for? 145 00:05:10,701 --> 00:05:13,182 I asked for success, to amplify my voice. 146 00:05:13,313 --> 00:05:14,618 And you had a book published. 147 00:05:14,749 --> 00:05:16,620 So a few people didn't like it. 148 00:05:16,751 --> 00:05:18,187 It's no longer an accomplishment? 149 00:05:18,318 --> 00:05:19,536 I thought it was the beginning of my career, 150 00:05:19,667 --> 00:05:20,798 but it damn near ended it. 151 00:05:20,929 --> 00:05:22,060 How? 152 00:05:22,191 --> 00:05:23,758 Sure, would've been nice 153 00:05:23,888 --> 00:05:25,847 if the reviews were a little better. 154 00:05:25,977 --> 00:05:27,675 But, you know, 155 00:05:27,805 --> 00:05:29,459 life isn't always gonna kiss your ass, sweetheart. 156 00:05:30,547 --> 00:05:32,593 You have osteoporosis? 157 00:05:32,723 --> 00:05:33,985 You have such good posture. 158 00:05:34,116 --> 00:05:35,291 It's my lumbar pillow. 159 00:05:35,422 --> 00:05:36,553 It's made of Hyper Foam. 160 00:05:36,684 --> 00:05:38,468 Oh. 161 00:05:38,599 --> 00:05:41,210 You know, whenever we talk about this particular night, 162 00:05:41,341 --> 00:05:42,907 you always mention what Renee was wearing. 163 00:05:43,038 --> 00:05:44,387 Why? 164 00:05:45,910 --> 00:05:46,911 [Eileen's "Ces bottes sont faites pour marcher"playing] 165 00:05:47,042 --> 00:05:49,566 [Eileen singing in French] 166 00:05:49,740 --> 00:05:54,702 ♪ 167 00:06:12,415 --> 00:06:14,939 [twangy bass notes] 168 00:06:15,113 --> 00:06:17,028 ♪ 169 00:06:17,159 --> 00:06:19,204 Renee does things I would never do. 170 00:06:19,335 --> 00:06:21,119 I would wear the bridesmaid's dress 171 00:06:21,250 --> 00:06:23,252 that she picked out even if I hated it. 172 00:06:23,383 --> 00:06:25,907 I did, in fact, wear a very hideous 173 00:06:26,037 --> 00:06:27,822 poofy chiffon number in her wedding, 174 00:06:27,952 --> 00:06:29,258 but I would never ask to have it altered 175 00:06:29,389 --> 00:06:31,303 with a slit up to my cervix. 176 00:06:31,434 --> 00:06:34,263 [Nancy] Well, this can't be a surprise to you. 177 00:06:34,394 --> 00:06:37,179 [sighs] No. I mean, this is who Renee is. 178 00:06:37,309 --> 00:06:38,746 She's been on a crusade 179 00:06:38,876 --> 00:06:40,661 to make sure everyone knows she's there 180 00:06:40,791 --> 00:06:41,836 ever since her mom started letting her dress herself 181 00:06:41,966 --> 00:06:43,751 in the fourth grade. 182 00:06:43,881 --> 00:06:46,536 But this is really not about the way she dresses, is it? 183 00:06:47,494 --> 00:06:50,714 [sighs] No. She always looks amazing. 184 00:06:50,845 --> 00:06:51,933 It's just, she never thinks about-- 185 00:06:52,063 --> 00:06:53,456 About what? 186 00:06:53,587 --> 00:06:54,849 About what other people think of her? 187 00:06:54,979 --> 00:06:56,720 Should she? 188 00:06:56,851 --> 00:06:58,330 Yes. 189 00:06:58,461 --> 00:06:59,462 No. 190 00:06:59,593 --> 00:07:01,508 Sometimes. 191 00:07:01,638 --> 00:07:03,510 She just walks around not giving a fuck. 192 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:05,990 Well, perhaps you resent Renee's ability to be free. 193 00:07:08,515 --> 00:07:10,081 Well, when I allow myself freedom, 194 00:07:10,212 --> 00:07:11,822 bad things happen. 195 00:07:11,953 --> 00:07:13,650 I go to one club on a weeknight 196 00:07:13,781 --> 00:07:15,173 and end up sleeping with a guy I just met. 197 00:07:15,304 --> 00:07:16,523 I mean, who does that? 198 00:07:16,653 --> 00:07:18,525 It's New York, honey. Most people. 199 00:07:18,655 --> 00:07:20,788 -Well, I'm not most people. -[Nancy] I know. 200 00:07:20,918 --> 00:07:23,094 You're the person who never wants anyone to be mad at her 201 00:07:23,225 --> 00:07:24,531 ever. 202 00:07:26,010 --> 00:07:28,056 [Sean Paul] ♪ Shake dat thing Ms. Cana, Cana ♪ 203 00:07:28,230 --> 00:07:29,318 ♪ Shake dat thing ♪ 204 00:07:29,492 --> 00:07:31,015 ♪ Ms. Annabella ♪ 205 00:07:31,189 --> 00:07:32,713 ♪ Shake dat thing, yow Donna, Donna ♪ 206 00:07:32,887 --> 00:07:34,236 ♪ Jodi and Rebecca... ♪ 207 00:07:34,366 --> 00:07:35,846 [Renee] Hurry up, Whitney. 208 00:07:35,977 --> 00:07:38,153 What's taking so long with those drinks? 209 00:07:38,327 --> 00:07:39,763 [Sean Paul] ♪ When da beat drops ♪ 210 00:07:39,937 --> 00:07:41,635 ♪ Just keep swingin' it Get jiggy... ♪ 211 00:07:41,765 --> 00:07:43,201 When are they gonna start playing the juke music? 212 00:07:43,332 --> 00:07:46,683 You know what? I'm ready to per-co-late! 213 00:07:46,814 --> 00:07:48,555 [Ella] I'm waiting for the reggae set. 214 00:07:48,685 --> 00:07:50,644 Where are the cuties? 215 00:07:50,818 --> 00:07:52,297 [Sean Paul] ♪ Gyal Nobody can tell you nothin' ♪ 216 00:07:52,472 --> 00:07:53,516 ♪ Cuh' you don't know Your destiny... ♪ 217 00:07:53,647 --> 00:07:55,213 Of course. 218 00:07:55,344 --> 00:07:56,693 [Ella] Tall, light skin, long hair wins every time. 219 00:07:56,824 --> 00:07:58,608 -[Renee] Mm-hmm. -[Whitney] Um, excuse me? 220 00:07:58,739 --> 00:08:01,481 Boys literally just stopped calling me Big Bird yesterday. 221 00:08:01,611 --> 00:08:03,570 Remember? "She tall and she yellow"? 222 00:08:03,700 --> 00:08:05,049 Well, now, they're calling you America's next top model. 223 00:08:05,180 --> 00:08:06,964 [laughs] Right. 224 00:08:07,095 --> 00:08:08,662 No one's interested in your pretty-girl problems. 225 00:08:08,792 --> 00:08:10,446 Well, I'm not interested in those guys. 226 00:08:10,577 --> 00:08:11,578 Then why did you smile at them? 227 00:08:11,708 --> 00:08:13,754 Because I'm nice. 228 00:08:13,928 --> 00:08:15,582 [Sean Paul] ♪ In di car wid us Dem nah war with us... ♪ 229 00:08:15,712 --> 00:08:17,671 Uh, keep walking. Mm-mm. 230 00:08:17,801 --> 00:08:18,759 Bye. 231 00:08:19,455 --> 00:08:21,152 They were totally into you. 232 00:08:21,283 --> 00:08:23,024 Girl, they were booger-wolves. 233 00:08:23,154 --> 00:08:24,765 Plus, you can't hog all the cuties. 234 00:08:24,895 --> 00:08:26,244 I'm not hogging anything. 235 00:08:26,375 --> 00:08:28,595 Do you think I wanted to wear this tonight? 236 00:08:28,725 --> 00:08:30,727 I'm trying not to be noticed for you guys. 237 00:08:30,858 --> 00:08:32,816 Bitch, ain't nobody asked you to do that. 238 00:08:32,990 --> 00:08:36,080 ♪ 239 00:08:36,211 --> 00:08:37,342 [Nancy] Are you sure you wouldn't be more comfortable 240 00:08:37,473 --> 00:08:38,561 sitting on the couch? 241 00:08:38,692 --> 00:08:39,649 [Renee] No, I know you see 242 00:08:39,780 --> 00:08:41,172 a lot of people on the edge, 243 00:08:41,303 --> 00:08:42,522 and I don't wanna catch anyone else's crazy. 244 00:08:42,652 --> 00:08:44,088 -Mm-hmm. -[chuckles] 245 00:08:44,219 --> 00:08:45,742 So you're upset 246 00:08:45,873 --> 00:08:47,788 that Whitney was acquiescing to your feelings? 247 00:08:47,918 --> 00:08:50,094 I don't need her to play small for me. 248 00:08:50,225 --> 00:08:52,532 You know, Whitney's need to be liked by everyone 249 00:08:52,662 --> 00:08:54,577 is actually a burden on all of us. 250 00:08:54,708 --> 00:08:56,753 If she's gonna be a doormat, that's on her. 251 00:08:56,884 --> 00:08:58,363 But she didn't give in to your demand 252 00:08:58,494 --> 00:08:59,582 to alter the bridesmaid dress, 253 00:08:59,713 --> 00:09:01,062 and you can't accept that. 254 00:09:01,192 --> 00:09:03,238 Nancy, you're supposed to be on my side. 255 00:09:03,368 --> 00:09:04,892 I was seeing you first. 256 00:09:05,022 --> 00:09:06,197 Let's not forget that, boo-boo. 257 00:09:06,328 --> 00:09:09,113 And yet, I see you the least. 258 00:09:09,244 --> 00:09:10,332 And for the life of me, I don't understand 259 00:09:10,462 --> 00:09:12,029 how you all didn't realize 260 00:09:12,160 --> 00:09:13,727 you were seeing the same therapist 261 00:09:13,857 --> 00:09:16,512 until after you were all seeing me. 262 00:09:16,643 --> 00:09:18,296 But seriously, 263 00:09:18,427 --> 00:09:20,211 I'm your favorite, right? 264 00:09:20,342 --> 00:09:22,039 I'm definitely the most complex. 265 00:09:22,170 --> 00:09:24,259 Renee, focus. 266 00:09:24,389 --> 00:09:25,782 Why can't you respect Whitney's feelings 267 00:09:25,913 --> 00:09:26,783 about the dress? 268 00:09:28,524 --> 00:09:30,178 I know she's the bride. 269 00:09:30,308 --> 00:09:31,919 But so what? 270 00:09:32,049 --> 00:09:33,921 We all have things we're going through. 271 00:09:34,051 --> 00:09:35,879 I mean, why does everybody have to cater to her? 272 00:09:36,010 --> 00:09:37,533 No one ever does that shit for me! 273 00:09:37,664 --> 00:09:39,840 [mellow music playing] 274 00:09:39,970 --> 00:09:43,017 Jason and I have made a decision. 275 00:09:43,147 --> 00:09:45,410 We're not having kids. 276 00:09:45,541 --> 00:09:47,021 I thought we already knew this. 277 00:09:47,151 --> 00:09:49,153 Yes, because I never wanted kids anyway, 278 00:09:49,284 --> 00:09:51,634 but now we've discussed it and agreed upon it. 279 00:09:51,765 --> 00:09:53,331 So it's official. 280 00:09:53,462 --> 00:09:55,464 And college tuition's gonna be half a mil 281 00:09:55,595 --> 00:09:57,292 by the time the little sucker's 18. 282 00:09:57,422 --> 00:09:58,685 Also, I don't wanna move to Brooklyn 283 00:09:58,815 --> 00:10:00,382 and join Mocha Moms. 284 00:10:00,512 --> 00:10:02,863 And the best vaginal rejuvenation guy 285 00:10:02,993 --> 00:10:04,429 in the city just died. 286 00:10:04,560 --> 00:10:05,692 And I'm not about to push out a baby 287 00:10:05,822 --> 00:10:07,432 and have my vagina wrecked 288 00:10:07,563 --> 00:10:09,130 without an expert who can restore it to its former glory. 289 00:10:09,260 --> 00:10:10,871 Dr. Corvin died? 290 00:10:11,001 --> 00:10:13,264 Yeah. Heart attack. 291 00:10:13,395 --> 00:10:15,136 Big loss for the vaginal community. 292 00:10:15,266 --> 00:10:16,093 [gasps] 293 00:10:16,224 --> 00:10:17,921 Anyway... 294 00:10:18,052 --> 00:10:20,794 Now Jason and I can travel the world 295 00:10:20,924 --> 00:10:22,665 and live a life of endless summers. 296 00:10:22,796 --> 00:10:24,145 -Sounds good. -Sounds like a plan. 297 00:10:24,275 --> 00:10:27,322 -Good for you. -[cell phone buzzing] 298 00:10:27,452 --> 00:10:28,889 [clears throat] 299 00:10:30,281 --> 00:10:31,848 And who was that? 300 00:10:31,979 --> 00:10:33,894 [clicks tongue] Professor Matthew Powell. 301 00:10:34,024 --> 00:10:36,070 These are not school hours. 302 00:10:36,200 --> 00:10:37,637 Daytime booty call. 303 00:10:37,767 --> 00:10:39,508 Stop! 304 00:10:39,639 --> 00:10:41,162 [sighs] 305 00:10:41,292 --> 00:10:42,990 We are trying to keep it professional. 306 00:10:44,469 --> 00:10:45,775 Obviously, I would like to fuck his brains out. 307 00:10:45,906 --> 00:10:49,649 [laughter] 308 00:10:49,779 --> 00:10:51,520 [Whitney] Oh, I've always had a professor fantasy. 309 00:10:51,651 --> 00:10:53,914 He calls me in after class, 310 00:10:54,044 --> 00:10:55,611 then we shove all the books off the desk 311 00:10:55,742 --> 00:10:56,743 and fuck with the blinds open. 312 00:10:57,961 --> 00:10:59,833 Oh. 313 00:10:59,963 --> 00:11:02,139 Okay, well, I'm pretty sure Matthew is into me, 314 00:11:02,270 --> 00:11:03,706 but we obviously have to consider 315 00:11:03,837 --> 00:11:04,707 the ethical repercussions. 316 00:11:04,838 --> 00:11:05,969 I say do it. 317 00:11:06,100 --> 00:11:08,406 [chanting] Do it, do it, do it. 318 00:11:08,537 --> 00:11:11,671 -[Ella laughs] -Do it, do it, do it, do it. 319 00:11:11,801 --> 00:11:13,455 Sounds like a horrible decision 320 00:11:13,585 --> 00:11:15,587 that could possibly fuck up everything you've worked for. 321 00:11:15,718 --> 00:11:17,241 But, hey, listen to them. 322 00:11:19,591 --> 00:11:22,203 I told these bitches about a real-life decision, 323 00:11:22,333 --> 00:11:24,379 and somehow, that was less important 324 00:11:24,509 --> 00:11:26,903 than Sondi theoretically fucking some dude! 325 00:11:27,034 --> 00:11:29,558 No one seems to give a shit that I'm getting a divorce, 326 00:11:29,689 --> 00:11:32,648 childless, and starting over for retirement! 327 00:11:32,779 --> 00:11:34,868 But you chose to get divorced 328 00:11:34,998 --> 00:11:37,000 and you chose not to have children. 329 00:11:37,131 --> 00:11:38,567 Perhaps your friends think 330 00:11:38,698 --> 00:11:39,960 they're supporting your choices. 331 00:11:40,090 --> 00:11:42,005 Well, my choices suck right now. 332 00:11:42,136 --> 00:11:43,833 But you present them like they're 100%. 333 00:11:43,964 --> 00:11:45,661 You damn near dare anyone to question you. 334 00:11:45,792 --> 00:11:47,228 How dare you. 335 00:11:47,358 --> 00:11:49,665 Well, honey, this is what you pay me for. 336 00:11:49,796 --> 00:11:52,624 Renee, you gotta open up to your friends, 337 00:11:52,755 --> 00:11:54,365 or there's no way they can support you. 338 00:11:54,496 --> 00:11:56,193 Whatever. 339 00:11:56,324 --> 00:11:57,847 Yeah, at this point, we've known each other longer 340 00:11:57,978 --> 00:11:59,283 than we've not known each other. 341 00:11:59,414 --> 00:12:01,242 -They should know what I need. -Oh, yeah? 342 00:12:01,372 --> 00:12:02,634 They have nothing better to do than sit around, 343 00:12:02,765 --> 00:12:04,027 trying to read your mind? 344 00:12:04,158 --> 00:12:05,594 I don't think that's too much to ask. 345 00:12:05,725 --> 00:12:07,814 You see? This is what I'm talking about. 346 00:12:07,944 --> 00:12:09,119 You can be a little tough. 347 00:12:09,250 --> 00:12:10,468 I'm tough? 348 00:12:10,599 --> 00:12:13,297 [dreamy music plays] 349 00:12:13,471 --> 00:12:15,343 ♪ 350 00:12:15,473 --> 00:12:16,953 And I quote, 351 00:12:17,084 --> 00:12:18,738 "Jane Of All Shades should be renamed 352 00:12:18,868 --> 00:12:20,435 Jane Of No Shades." 353 00:12:20,565 --> 00:12:21,566 That's not even clever! 354 00:12:22,959 --> 00:12:24,439 Uh-uh. 355 00:12:24,569 --> 00:12:25,832 You gonna let @mamaireads get you down? 356 00:12:25,962 --> 00:12:27,094 Girl, she's so stupid, 357 00:12:27,224 --> 00:12:28,269 she has to tell people she reads. 358 00:12:28,399 --> 00:12:29,836 [laughter] 359 00:12:29,966 --> 00:12:31,576 Well, I liked your book. 360 00:12:31,707 --> 00:12:33,230 This is the most I have ever related to your writing. 361 00:12:33,361 --> 00:12:34,449 Ouch. 362 00:12:34,579 --> 00:12:35,842 Your writing was always 363 00:12:35,972 --> 00:12:38,235 so much more "hear me roar" than I am, 364 00:12:38,366 --> 00:12:40,411 but I love that this book embraced what it means 365 00:12:40,542 --> 00:12:42,196 to be both independent and wanting. 366 00:12:42,326 --> 00:12:44,633 "Wanting"? Am I wanting? 367 00:12:44,764 --> 00:12:46,374 Well, I'm wanting this McQueen jacket 368 00:12:46,504 --> 00:12:48,158 you have on in this cover photo. 369 00:12:48,289 --> 00:12:50,682 Why do I have to be the same person I was when I was 24? 370 00:12:50,813 --> 00:12:52,293 Can't I evolve? 371 00:12:52,423 --> 00:12:53,424 [Sondi] Ella, I think you're brilliant. 372 00:12:53,555 --> 00:12:55,122 But let's be honest. 373 00:12:55,252 --> 00:12:56,601 You've been dickmatized by Anderson 374 00:12:56,732 --> 00:12:58,342 for the past two years, 375 00:12:58,473 --> 00:13:00,736 so this book reads less "free your mind" 376 00:13:00,867 --> 00:13:02,738 and more "home on the range." 377 00:13:02,869 --> 00:13:04,305 I'm sorry. 378 00:13:04,435 --> 00:13:07,177 But this is not the feminist free sexploration 379 00:13:07,308 --> 00:13:10,877 that you promised your readers or yourself. 380 00:13:11,007 --> 00:13:13,096 You want me to slap her? 381 00:13:13,227 --> 00:13:15,098 I've always wanted to know what it felt like to slap a bitch. 382 00:13:15,229 --> 00:13:16,273 It's actually quite rewarding. 383 00:13:16,404 --> 00:13:17,622 Who you slapped? 384 00:13:17,753 --> 00:13:19,146 Oh, this Becky at Harvard 385 00:13:19,276 --> 00:13:21,061 who kept trying to blow Ola sophomore year. 386 00:13:21,191 --> 00:13:22,323 Her hand was on his thigh, 387 00:13:22,453 --> 00:13:23,933 then I found my hand on her face. 388 00:13:24,064 --> 00:13:25,587 [laughs] Oh, now I have to do it. 389 00:13:25,717 --> 00:13:27,241 Sondi, bring your face over here. 390 00:13:27,371 --> 00:13:28,590 -[Whitney laughs] -Girl. 391 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:30,766 Ella, I am not trying to be mean, 392 00:13:30,897 --> 00:13:32,681 but I don't know who this book is for. 393 00:13:35,031 --> 00:13:37,164 Seriously, just give me the word and I'll smack her. 394 00:13:37,294 --> 00:13:38,513 Oh, jeez. 395 00:13:38,643 --> 00:13:39,819 [Sondi] Okay. 396 00:13:39,949 --> 00:13:42,691 So I may come off as harsh at times. 397 00:13:42,822 --> 00:13:45,302 But your real friends stab you in the front 398 00:13:45,433 --> 00:13:47,043 and then they have your back. 399 00:13:47,174 --> 00:13:49,089 It's our frickin' friend motto since Spelman. 400 00:13:49,219 --> 00:13:51,569 A stabbing from a friend is still a stabbing. 401 00:13:51,700 --> 00:13:53,310 But I'm the mirror friend. 402 00:13:53,441 --> 00:13:56,400 That's what sisters are. We're mirrors to each other. 403 00:13:56,531 --> 00:13:57,793 You can't hide from your friends 404 00:13:57,924 --> 00:13:59,099 and you can't hide from the mirror. 405 00:14:00,970 --> 00:14:03,146 Ella is--she's not ev-- I mean-- 406 00:14:03,277 --> 00:14:04,626 uh, I don't know. I think... 407 00:14:06,062 --> 00:14:07,368 She's not defending me. 408 00:14:08,891 --> 00:14:10,545 Who do you need defending from? 409 00:14:10,675 --> 00:14:13,853 I feel like I'm under a microscope. 410 00:14:13,983 --> 00:14:15,376 And--and she knows 411 00:14:15,506 --> 00:14:18,335 how serious my relationship with Matthew is, 412 00:14:18,466 --> 00:14:20,729 and it's like she doesn't care that I'm being disrespected. 413 00:14:20,860 --> 00:14:22,992 Is this about that professor woman? 414 00:14:23,123 --> 00:14:24,385 'Cause didn't we decide last week 415 00:14:24,515 --> 00:14:26,039 she's a clueless bitch and fuck her? 416 00:14:26,169 --> 00:14:27,562 We did. 417 00:14:27,692 --> 00:14:31,131 All I'm saying is when Ella really needs me, 418 00:14:31,261 --> 00:14:33,524 I am there for her blindly. 419 00:14:33,655 --> 00:14:35,309 No questions asked. 420 00:14:35,483 --> 00:14:38,965 [Fousheé] ♪ Say that I'm single as fuck ♪ 421 00:14:39,139 --> 00:14:39,879 -[Sondi] Here. Sip. -[Fousheé] ♪ Single as fuck ♪ 422 00:14:40,009 --> 00:14:41,619 Mm-mm. 423 00:14:41,750 --> 00:14:43,317 [Fousheé vocalizing] 424 00:14:43,447 --> 00:14:45,667 I can't believe Anderson left me. 425 00:14:45,797 --> 00:14:47,843 Didn't you say he was going to go work in South Africa? 426 00:14:47,974 --> 00:14:50,237 Yes. He left me. 427 00:14:50,367 --> 00:14:52,413 But did he actually break up with you? 428 00:14:52,543 --> 00:14:54,415 Are you not hearing me? 429 00:14:54,545 --> 00:14:56,112 He left me. 430 00:14:56,243 --> 00:14:58,549 [sighs] 431 00:14:58,680 --> 00:14:59,942 He didn't mention moving at all? 432 00:15:00,073 --> 00:15:01,988 No! He probably didn't want me to think 433 00:15:02,118 --> 00:15:03,859 that he was leaving me at the worst time of my life 434 00:15:03,990 --> 00:15:05,774 because he was actually leaving me 435 00:15:05,905 --> 00:15:07,732 at the worst time of my life. [sobs] 436 00:15:07,863 --> 00:15:09,299 Aww. 437 00:15:11,258 --> 00:15:13,086 [sniffles] 438 00:15:13,216 --> 00:15:14,914 Great. 439 00:15:15,044 --> 00:15:19,222 It smells like him. [sighs] 440 00:15:19,353 --> 00:15:22,573 Is it wrong to burn a $300 goose-down pillow? 441 00:15:22,704 --> 00:15:24,010 How do you own this? 442 00:15:24,140 --> 00:15:26,403 Swag bag, VMAs. 443 00:15:26,534 --> 00:15:27,448 I mean, I could take it off your hands for you 444 00:15:27,578 --> 00:15:30,277 if you want. 445 00:15:30,407 --> 00:15:33,410 He's probably ashamed to be with me. 446 00:15:33,541 --> 00:15:36,936 #whattheElla trended for six hours after my Reddit AMA, 447 00:15:37,066 --> 00:15:38,546 so he probably thinks I'm a loser. 448 00:15:38,676 --> 00:15:40,243 You are not a loser. 449 00:15:40,374 --> 00:15:42,245 He's a loser. Fucking loser. 450 00:15:42,376 --> 00:15:45,770 -But he's the love of my life. -Let's not get hyperbolic. 451 00:15:45,945 --> 00:15:47,250 [Fousheé] ♪ Single as fuck... ♪ 452 00:15:47,381 --> 00:15:48,208 Maybe you should eat something. 453 00:15:50,340 --> 00:15:53,039 [Fousheé vocalizing] 454 00:15:53,213 --> 00:15:57,260 ♪ 455 00:15:57,434 --> 00:15:58,870 [Fousheé] ♪ Single as fuck... ♪ 456 00:15:59,001 --> 00:16:01,047 Remember the last time I ate 5 Napkin 457 00:16:01,177 --> 00:16:02,874 and I got so drunk I threw up all over my bed? 458 00:16:03,005 --> 00:16:04,659 I got you, boo. 459 00:16:04,789 --> 00:16:06,008 I'll make sure you puke into the toilet. 460 00:16:06,139 --> 00:16:07,401 Or, you know, somewhere close to it. 461 00:16:07,531 --> 00:16:08,968 [chuckles] 462 00:16:12,406 --> 00:16:15,148 I never thought Anderson was worth crying over, okay? 463 00:16:15,278 --> 00:16:16,976 But hey, she likes him, I love him. 464 00:16:17,106 --> 00:16:18,673 She is in no position 465 00:16:18,803 --> 00:16:20,066 to judge my relationship with Matthew. 466 00:16:20,196 --> 00:16:21,458 When did she judge? 467 00:16:21,589 --> 00:16:23,808 I can't help that he's successful. 468 00:16:23,939 --> 00:16:25,854 And, yes, he helps me in my career, 469 00:16:25,985 --> 00:16:27,247 but we work in the same field. 470 00:16:27,377 --> 00:16:28,465 How can he not? 471 00:16:28,596 --> 00:16:29,945 I feel like I missed something. 472 00:16:30,076 --> 00:16:31,381 [Sondi] And then at the party, 473 00:16:31,512 --> 00:16:32,817 she's standing in the corner watching me, 474 00:16:32,948 --> 00:16:33,905 and I know she's sitting there 475 00:16:34,036 --> 00:16:35,907 thinking I'm acting like a missus 476 00:16:36,038 --> 00:16:38,171 and he's not my husband yet, 477 00:16:38,301 --> 00:16:40,564 and, of course, when Baptiste calls me out, 478 00:16:40,695 --> 00:16:44,307 Ella says nothing because she agrees with her! 479 00:16:44,438 --> 00:16:46,527 [Nancy] Okay, let's say that's what Ella was thinking-- 480 00:16:46,657 --> 00:16:49,182 that you're a missus and blah, blah, blah. 481 00:16:49,312 --> 00:16:51,271 The better question is: 482 00:16:51,401 --> 00:16:54,230 Who's giving it life? Who's making any of it matter? 483 00:16:57,146 --> 00:16:58,321 I am? 484 00:16:58,452 --> 00:17:00,454 Mirror, mirror, sweetheart. 485 00:17:00,584 --> 00:17:03,196 [smooth piano music plays] 486 00:17:03,370 --> 00:17:08,157 ♪ 487 00:17:13,380 --> 00:17:15,686 You seem pretty convinced your life ended two years ago. 488 00:17:15,817 --> 00:17:17,862 I spent my early 20s feeling special! 489 00:17:17,993 --> 00:17:19,212 My future was bright. 490 00:17:19,342 --> 00:17:21,170 I was highly favored-- 491 00:17:21,301 --> 00:17:23,433 all the Black-girl magic jargon in full effect, 492 00:17:23,564 --> 00:17:26,088 and then, bam, it evaporated. 493 00:17:26,219 --> 00:17:29,483 Now I'm stuck at a job I was so sure I was better than 494 00:17:29,613 --> 00:17:31,963 and that's only because Barb, God bless her, 495 00:17:32,094 --> 00:17:33,704 was gracious enough to give me a chance 496 00:17:33,835 --> 00:17:35,837 after I acted like an arrogant ass. 497 00:17:38,057 --> 00:17:39,362 Booyah. 498 00:17:43,279 --> 00:17:45,499 -Wow, it's... -[Barb] A lot. 499 00:17:45,629 --> 00:17:46,978 [chuckles] I know. 500 00:17:47,109 --> 00:17:48,980 I put it on a slip of paper for effect. 501 00:17:49,111 --> 00:17:51,505 Editorial director. What do you say? 502 00:17:51,635 --> 00:17:54,247 It's very generous, but... 503 00:17:54,377 --> 00:17:55,683 I can't accept it. 504 00:17:55,813 --> 00:17:58,077 Ah. Trying to negotiate. 505 00:17:58,207 --> 00:18:00,862 Savvy. 506 00:18:00,992 --> 00:18:03,691 Barb, I'm gonna be busy... 507 00:18:03,821 --> 00:18:05,562 writing my first book! [chuckles] 508 00:18:05,693 --> 00:18:06,824 It's gonna be a memoir. 509 00:18:06,955 --> 00:18:09,523 A memoir? At 29? 510 00:18:09,653 --> 00:18:11,351 [chuckles] 511 00:18:11,481 --> 00:18:13,048 I didn't become interesting until I was at least 34, 512 00:18:13,179 --> 00:18:14,093 and I have yet to write a fucking book. 513 00:18:14,223 --> 00:18:15,833 Look, 514 00:18:15,964 --> 00:18:18,140 I don't mean to shit all over your dreams, kiddo, 515 00:18:18,271 --> 00:18:19,620 but there's a big difference 516 00:18:19,750 --> 00:18:21,535 between being an influencer bloggy person 517 00:18:21,665 --> 00:18:23,058 and an actual author. 518 00:18:23,189 --> 00:18:24,581 It sounds like you're shitting on my dreams. 519 00:18:24,712 --> 00:18:27,106 [laughs] Oh. You know I enjoy you. 520 00:18:27,236 --> 00:18:29,978 Your little rants-- "my hair's not my superpower," 521 00:18:30,109 --> 00:18:31,936 uh, "my tears are expensive"-- 522 00:18:32,067 --> 00:18:34,069 often make me LOL on the subway. 523 00:18:34,200 --> 00:18:36,289 But they're just musings. 524 00:18:36,419 --> 00:18:38,813 A hundred thousand followers disagree. 525 00:18:38,943 --> 00:18:40,945 Think you need to do a gut check. 526 00:18:41,076 --> 00:18:43,687 See if you're ready to go deep enough for a memoir. 527 00:18:43,818 --> 00:18:45,211 My publishers just released a bestseller 528 00:18:45,341 --> 00:18:46,560 by an eight year old, 529 00:18:46,690 --> 00:18:47,778 proof that you're never too young 530 00:18:47,909 --> 00:18:48,823 if you have something to say. 531 00:18:48,953 --> 00:18:50,259 Yeah. 532 00:18:50,390 --> 00:18:51,739 You're talking about a third grader 533 00:18:51,869 --> 00:18:53,567 growing up in Syria during the civil war, 534 00:18:53,697 --> 00:18:56,439 'cause apples and war zones, dear. 535 00:18:56,570 --> 00:19:00,530 Barb, I value your opinion, truly, but... 536 00:19:00,661 --> 00:19:03,446 sometimes, even you're wrong. 537 00:19:03,577 --> 00:19:04,534 Name a time. 538 00:19:04,665 --> 00:19:05,709 Thank you. 539 00:19:09,931 --> 00:19:11,454 Mm. 540 00:19:11,585 --> 00:19:13,500 What a disaster. 541 00:19:13,630 --> 00:19:16,285 Okay, I don't know if she actually said, 542 00:19:16,416 --> 00:19:18,244 -"What a disaster," but-- -[Nancy] Listen. 543 00:19:18,374 --> 00:19:20,594 It makes sense that you've lost some confidence. 544 00:19:20,724 --> 00:19:22,422 We have to work on getting it back. 545 00:19:22,552 --> 00:19:25,381 Nanjo, I don't know if you get that feeling, 546 00:19:25,512 --> 00:19:27,644 that kind of invincibility back once you've lost it. 547 00:19:27,775 --> 00:19:30,212 All I think about now is financial security. 548 00:19:30,343 --> 00:19:32,040 It doesn't leave a whole lot of room for fearlessness. 549 00:19:32,171 --> 00:19:33,607 You're using this book as an excuse. 550 00:19:33,737 --> 00:19:35,739 It's not an excuse. It's what happened. 551 00:19:35,870 --> 00:19:37,219 It's what's holding you back. 552 00:19:37,350 --> 00:19:39,090 And what's next? 553 00:19:39,221 --> 00:19:42,181 No one's gonna hire you to write this sad-sack tale. 554 00:19:42,311 --> 00:19:45,009 You have to think about what it is you wanna say. 555 00:19:45,140 --> 00:19:46,402 You know, it's been two years 556 00:19:46,533 --> 00:19:47,621 since you've written anything personal. 557 00:19:47,751 --> 00:19:48,926 It's 'cause I'm too busy 558 00:19:49,057 --> 00:19:50,406 working at fuckin' Hot Tea Digest! 559 00:19:50,537 --> 00:19:51,799 You say that like it pains you. 560 00:19:51,929 --> 00:19:53,670 Last week, we wrote a piece 561 00:19:53,801 --> 00:19:56,020 on the most popular dogs on TikTok. 562 00:19:56,151 --> 00:19:58,066 It's not exactly Pulitzer material. 563 00:19:58,197 --> 00:20:00,329 I follow Buddy the Beagle. He's adorable. 564 00:20:00,460 --> 00:20:01,287 Of course. 565 00:20:01,417 --> 00:20:02,723 Look, 566 00:20:02,853 --> 00:20:06,030 Hot Tea Digest is an opportunity, okay? 567 00:20:06,161 --> 00:20:08,381 You've got the talent, you've got the time, 568 00:20:08,511 --> 00:20:11,035 and if you choose to, you can start over. 569 00:20:11,166 --> 00:20:13,386 That is a luxury, not a burden. 570 00:20:14,865 --> 00:20:16,432 If you don't show up for your future, 571 00:20:16,563 --> 00:20:17,955 no one else will. 572 00:20:18,086 --> 00:20:20,784 [melancholy music plays] 573 00:20:20,915 --> 00:20:22,395 You know, I'm surprised you didn't ask Matthew 574 00:20:22,525 --> 00:20:24,310 about what Baptiste said to you. 575 00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:26,399 Did I mention that Baptiste kept calling me "sis"? 576 00:20:26,529 --> 00:20:27,791 You did. 577 00:20:27,922 --> 00:20:30,141 On our Zoom call, over and over. 578 00:20:30,272 --> 00:20:31,969 Listen, maybe I'm old, 579 00:20:32,100 --> 00:20:33,580 maybe it's cultural, 580 00:20:33,710 --> 00:20:34,842 but I don't get why it's offensive. 581 00:20:34,972 --> 00:20:37,192 [scoffs sharply] 582 00:20:37,323 --> 00:20:39,020 Never mind, Nancy, it's--it is. It's cultural. 583 00:20:39,150 --> 00:20:41,457 You know, Sondi, you're stifling yourself, 584 00:20:41,588 --> 00:20:43,329 and it's making you miserable. 585 00:20:43,459 --> 00:20:44,852 And it's why you're picking a fight with Ella. 586 00:20:44,982 --> 00:20:46,723 I'm not stifling myself. 587 00:20:46,854 --> 00:20:50,161 Well, you have made a lot of changes for Matthew. 588 00:20:50,292 --> 00:20:51,946 And now, you're worried 589 00:20:52,076 --> 00:20:53,991 about what all those people you were showing off for 590 00:20:54,122 --> 00:20:55,732 are gonna think 591 00:20:55,863 --> 00:20:57,473 if you two don't work out. 592 00:20:57,647 --> 00:21:00,781 ♪ 593 00:21:00,911 --> 00:21:02,304 You know, honey, there's a difference 594 00:21:02,435 --> 00:21:04,828 between being your best and being the best. 595 00:21:04,959 --> 00:21:06,961 Like right now. 596 00:21:07,091 --> 00:21:09,050 Why don't you put your pen down, okay? 597 00:21:09,180 --> 00:21:11,705 I know every word that I utter is a literal gem, 598 00:21:11,835 --> 00:21:13,620 but I promise you, 599 00:21:13,750 --> 00:21:16,405 all the important stuff, you're gonna remember. 600 00:21:16,536 --> 00:21:18,581 You know, you work so hard at being perfect at everything, 601 00:21:18,712 --> 00:21:21,105 you're giving yourself anxiety. 602 00:21:21,236 --> 00:21:22,803 Are you sure that I just can't write that part down? 603 00:21:22,933 --> 00:21:24,239 'Cause I feel like I'm gonna miss some stuff. 604 00:21:24,370 --> 00:21:26,023 You know what? Okay. 605 00:21:26,154 --> 00:21:27,155 Okay. I'll just record. 606 00:21:27,286 --> 00:21:28,809 Oh, Whitney. 607 00:21:30,245 --> 00:21:32,160 -All right. -Seriously? 608 00:21:32,291 --> 00:21:33,857 Okay, here we go. 609 00:21:33,988 --> 00:21:35,598 You can't be mad at people for being selfish. 610 00:21:35,729 --> 00:21:38,471 Life is ultimately about self. 611 00:21:38,601 --> 00:21:41,474 And this tear of self-sabotage that you're on, 612 00:21:41,604 --> 00:21:43,519 it's only gonna get worse until you figure out 613 00:21:43,650 --> 00:21:45,782 how to be kind to yourself. 614 00:21:45,913 --> 00:21:47,567 And then I don't know how to tell you this, 615 00:21:47,697 --> 00:21:50,178 but sometimes, you're gonna make mistakes. 616 00:21:50,309 --> 00:21:51,745 Well, I definitely aimed high 617 00:21:51,875 --> 00:21:53,660 on the mistake-achievement ladder. 618 00:21:53,790 --> 00:21:55,792 Well, you tend to overdo things, hon. 619 00:21:55,923 --> 00:21:58,099 If you're not gonna tell Ola that you cheated, 620 00:21:58,229 --> 00:21:59,274 just move on. 621 00:21:59,405 --> 00:22:00,536 Stop torturing yourself. 622 00:22:00,667 --> 00:22:03,670 [sighs] 623 00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:06,020 Okay, what do I do about Renee and the slit? 624 00:22:06,150 --> 00:22:07,195 Let her have it. Don't let her have it. 625 00:22:07,326 --> 00:22:08,327 Who cares? 626 00:22:08,457 --> 00:22:09,763 [laughs softly] 627 00:22:11,373 --> 00:22:13,157 Is it wrong 628 00:22:13,288 --> 00:22:15,943 that I wanna look amazing when I walk down the aisle 629 00:22:16,073 --> 00:22:17,727 with a man I'm divorcing? 630 00:22:17,858 --> 00:22:19,512 It shouldn't be a big deal 631 00:22:19,642 --> 00:22:22,471 if I wanna give him a little leg. 632 00:22:22,602 --> 00:22:24,386 Can't I have something I need for once? 633 00:22:24,517 --> 00:22:26,170 Your tits are not your needs, Renee. 634 00:22:26,301 --> 00:22:28,042 Maybe you should embrace the fact 635 00:22:28,172 --> 00:22:32,655 that wearing a shiny dress doesn't distract from the pain. 636 00:22:32,786 --> 00:22:36,355 There's nothing weak about wearing your feelings. 637 00:22:36,485 --> 00:22:39,183 And now a little homework before next week's session. 638 00:22:39,314 --> 00:22:41,969 And by the way, this all works a lot better 639 00:22:42,099 --> 00:22:44,711 if you show up more than once every three months. 640 00:22:44,841 --> 00:22:46,887 You see all of my friends on the regular. 641 00:22:47,017 --> 00:22:48,410 I asked them what they talked about, 642 00:22:48,541 --> 00:22:51,021 and I get my advice vicariously, you know? 643 00:22:51,152 --> 00:22:53,067 Buy-one-get-one-free therapy. 644 00:22:53,197 --> 00:22:56,157 That's not how therapy works, Renee. 645 00:22:56,287 --> 00:22:58,420 Come on, honey. You're going through a divorce. 646 00:22:58,551 --> 00:23:00,683 You're afraid to be alone. 647 00:23:00,814 --> 00:23:01,858 You don't tell your friends what you're going through, 648 00:23:01,989 --> 00:23:04,034 you're gonna push them away. 649 00:23:04,165 --> 00:23:05,775 And you're gonna need them 650 00:23:05,906 --> 00:23:07,429 because you're refusing to do the work in here with me. 651 00:23:08,952 --> 00:23:10,171 So this week, 652 00:23:10,301 --> 00:23:11,607 I want you to start conversations 653 00:23:11,738 --> 00:23:12,956 with an "I feel" statement. 654 00:23:14,784 --> 00:23:17,874 I feel... 655 00:23:18,005 --> 00:23:19,006 like this is a stupid assignment. 656 00:23:19,136 --> 00:23:20,616 [chuckles] 657 00:23:20,790 --> 00:23:25,752 ♪ 658 00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:34,021 [laughter and chatter] 659 00:23:35,805 --> 00:23:37,720 [Sondi] Okay. Not "of course." You make up songs all the time. 660 00:23:37,851 --> 00:23:39,330 -[Renee] I do, I do, I know. -[Sondi] Not "of course." 661 00:23:39,461 --> 00:23:41,289 [laughter] 662 00:23:41,420 --> 00:23:42,682 -[Ella] Ladies. -Hey. 663 00:23:42,812 --> 00:23:44,684 -Hi. -How was Nancy? 664 00:23:44,814 --> 00:23:47,295 [sighs] Hilarious as always. 665 00:23:47,426 --> 00:23:49,340 Apparently, nothing is wrong with me. 666 00:23:49,471 --> 00:23:50,864 Oh, yeah. She's said that to me before. 667 00:23:50,994 --> 00:23:52,953 -She's never said that to me. -Me, either. 668 00:23:53,083 --> 00:23:54,520 I always said you two were the craziest. 669 00:23:54,650 --> 00:23:57,697 -[Whitney laughs] -Hey, so about that slit. 670 00:23:57,827 --> 00:24:00,177 -I already called Amsale. -[Renee] No, no, don't. 671 00:24:00,308 --> 00:24:02,266 Okay. Um, everyone, I need your attention. 672 00:24:02,397 --> 00:24:05,269 Um... 673 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:06,923 I feel... 674 00:24:07,054 --> 00:24:08,098 Oh? 675 00:24:11,885 --> 00:24:14,583 Maybe you haven't noticed, but... 676 00:24:14,714 --> 00:24:16,411 this divorce has been challenging for me 677 00:24:16,542 --> 00:24:18,805 and I'm flailing a little. 678 00:24:18,935 --> 00:24:21,068 This has been a lot harder than I expected. 679 00:24:21,198 --> 00:24:23,984 And I was so mad at Jason for so long, 680 00:24:24,114 --> 00:24:26,465 and now that the mad is wearing off, 681 00:24:26,595 --> 00:24:29,903 I'm scared of being alone forever. 682 00:24:30,033 --> 00:24:31,600 [Sondi] Oh, sweetie. 683 00:24:31,731 --> 00:24:33,646 I might not have sex with you, 684 00:24:33,776 --> 00:24:36,039 but you are not going to be alone. 685 00:24:36,170 --> 00:24:38,302 I could be in my condo for days, dying, 686 00:24:38,433 --> 00:24:39,869 with no one noticing as I rot. 687 00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:41,523 [Ella laughs] Whoa, whoa, whoa. 688 00:24:41,654 --> 00:24:44,657 Renee, no one is gonna let you decompose. 689 00:24:44,787 --> 00:24:47,007 Yeah, not even a little. You know we're here for you. 690 00:24:47,137 --> 00:24:48,095 That's right. 691 00:24:50,489 --> 00:24:52,229 Okay. Okay. 692 00:24:52,360 --> 00:24:54,405 We're--we're going to the sappy place, okay? 693 00:24:54,536 --> 00:24:56,582 [laughs] All right. Who wants oysters? 694 00:24:56,712 --> 00:24:59,149 [laughs] Okay. 695 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:00,542 [Sondi] You guys, 696 00:25:00,673 --> 00:25:03,502 can I just say... 697 00:25:03,632 --> 00:25:05,242 [voice breaking] I really love y'all. 698 00:25:05,373 --> 00:25:07,331 Oh, Lord, now you got the mushy one all worked up. 699 00:25:07,462 --> 00:25:09,377 No, but seriously, like, 700 00:25:09,508 --> 00:25:11,510 I would do a bid for any one of y'all. 701 00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:12,946 Really? 702 00:25:13,076 --> 00:25:14,556 -[Sondi] Yeah. -'Cause I would not. 703 00:25:14,687 --> 00:25:16,558 Not happening. 704 00:25:16,689 --> 00:25:18,038 I would frame every one of you to keep myself out of jail. 705 00:25:18,168 --> 00:25:19,909 Okay. Anyways... 706 00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:21,998 [laughter] 707 00:25:22,129 --> 00:25:23,478 -I love you, guys! -It's fine. 708 00:25:23,609 --> 00:25:24,740 -[laughs] -Cheers to honesty. 709 00:25:24,871 --> 00:25:26,394 To honesty! 710 00:25:26,525 --> 00:25:28,004 Embarrass me in front of all these people. 711 00:25:28,135 --> 00:25:29,353 That's fine. 712 00:25:29,484 --> 00:25:32,574 [mellow music plays] 713 00:25:32,705 --> 00:25:35,272 [smooth jazzy music plays] 714 00:25:35,446 --> 00:25:40,408 ♪ 715 00:26:22,842 --> 00:26:24,452 [woman] Whoo-hoo![giggles]