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Switch it on. Switch it on...
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Impose your will on the sea.
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FEMALE VOICE: He's at 145.
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This is double his heart rate.
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Over the past year,
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I've been exploring the science
of living longer.
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Doing everything I can to hold back time.
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But whatever I do, sooner or later,
aging and death will win.
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So, what am I going to do about that?
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-You're gonna tie me up.
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This wasn't-- this wasn't in
the initial contract.
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Super attractive.
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Okay, Chris.
We are gonna attach the weights to it.
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Apparently, this is what I'm going
to do about it.
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This fashion disaster is what's called
an age simulation suit.
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Designed at MIT,
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it's been precisely calibrated
to my physique.
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The bungees restrict my movements.
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And I'll be carrying an extra 30 pounds
around with me.
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And these shoes will make me unbalanced.
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I'm doing all this,
so that I can experience
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how my body will feel in 50 years' time.
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I'm really curious to see
how you look at 87.
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And my wife, Elsa,
is a little too interested.
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Hey, you're into this suit,
aren't you? This is...
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-Just leave it like that.
-I can wear this on date night.
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"No, no, no, don't put
the fireman suit on.
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-Put the-- the aging suit on."
-Exactly! Put the aging suit...
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Counterintuitively,
longevity scientists
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actually believe that a key
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to the longest, healthiest life
might not be to resist aging,
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but to embrace it.
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FEMALE VOICE:
You're gonna lose your hearing.
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You look ridiculous.
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So, I'm finishing my fight
to stay young, by learning how to get old.
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You're gonna lose
a little bit of your vision.
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This sucks, by the way.
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Okay, Chris.
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Brutal.
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-How you feeling?
-Old.
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MALE VOICE 1:
Okay, rolling through. Rolling.
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All on the rehearsal.
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All I've been told
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is that I'm about to
jump forward 50 years into the future
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and spend the next three days
living the life of an octogenarian.
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MALE VOICE 1:
Move to reception, thank you.
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The architect
of this strange challenge
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is Dr. BJ Miller.
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A world-renowned
palliative care physician.
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His work centers on unlocking
the transformative power
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of accepting aging and death.
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Dying offers us something,
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we can change how we see it,
what we do with it, how we play with it.
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BJ: Chris is about to take part
in a truly unique experiment.
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Ready, my old man?
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I don't know. I mean, ask me
in three days' time, maybe.
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We are doing something bold
and novel here.
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We're going to combine the arts
and sciences
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to create a completely immersive world
for Chris.
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It's a constructed world
of a retirement community.
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And then, at the end of three days
at Sunset Pines...
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we're going to kill Chris Hemsworth.
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-Slow down! Why are you driving so fast?
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It's okay. We'll get there.
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Maybe you should let me drive.
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No way!
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I can't see or hear anything.
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Welcome to Sunset Pines.
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This is my new home, huh?
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-New best friend.
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CHRIS: So, finally, here we are.
And this is what I've been waiting for.
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This is my opportunity to beat aging.
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Hello.
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How hard that can be?
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Chris doesn't seem very worried,
but I think he's underestimated old age.
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I think he's going to probably want
to get out of there as soon as he can.
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This is it.
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Okay.
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-Elsa.
-Hey. Can you see me?
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Where we going?
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-Oh, look at this. Hello. Hello.
-How are ya?
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Chris. Pleasure, buddy.
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Nice to meet you.
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I'm BJ. How's the suit feeling, my guy?
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A little heavy and slower
than I used to be, but...
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-Right on. That's the idea.
-That the idea.
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So, that's the first part
of this immersion.
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The second part is-- is this place.
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-Yeah.
-Sunset Pines.
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So, it's a retirement village
made just for you.
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All right.
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BJ: This is a three-day piece
of immersive theater.
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It's going to be a little bit surreal.
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But there's something very real
about surreal.
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Yay!
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All the older people that he's meeting
along the way are entirely real.
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And they're there for Chris
to interact with
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and to befriend and to relate with.
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Aw!
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BJ: But the staff of Sunset Pines,
the carers are actors.
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They are going to treat Chris
as though he is an 87-year-old.
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They will not break character.
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Apologies for the interruption,
Dr. Miller. Welcome,
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Mr. Hemsworth, to Sunset Pines,
where we live every day to the fullest.
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My name is Sofia.
I'm one of the carers here.
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I'm going to take you in for orientation.
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So, I'd like to ask you
to say your goodbyes now.
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-See you later.
-See you later.
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All right.
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Now, are you happy to walk
or would you like a chair?
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-Yeah, I'm okay to walk.
-Okay, no problem.
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Now, it can be a little bit
of an adjustment period
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here at Sunset Pines.
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So, it's totally normal to feel
a little bit
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out of place at first,
but I can assure you,
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our community are very welcoming
and supportive.
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There is a handrail there.
I'll just ask you to use that.
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Yep, that's it. All right. Are you okay?
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-I'm good, thanks.
-Yeah?
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Hey!
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-Joy is gonna get you all checked in.
-All right.
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And then you'll be shown up
to your apartment.
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CHRIS: I mean, this is a wild experience.
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I'm kind of trying to piece it together
as I go, but it's--
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it's just kind of weird.
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-Hi, Joy.
-Hello.
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This is Mr. Hemsworth.
He's one of our newest residents.
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Hello, Mr. Hemsworth.
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Welcome to Sunset Pines
where we live every day to the fullest.
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-Cool.
-So, I'll... I'll put you into our system.
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So, if you can just give me a moment.
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All right, so, I would just need this...
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Wearing the suit,
it's just horrible, really uncomfortable.
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Everything is heavy.
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And I find myself feeling
very restricted.
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And then, you know, the lack of vision,
hearing,
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I find myself missing 20
to 30 percent of what's being said.
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I just need you to look directly
at the lens, please. All done.
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CHRIS: It feels really isolating
because everything is,
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you know, feels somewhat closed off.
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How you doing?
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What was that?
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-How you doing?
-I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
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-I'm feeling a little disorientated.
-Right.
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Can't really see properly
or hear properly.
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-Well, that's exactly the idea, right?
-Okay.
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BJ: A big part of the reason to give him
this experience
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is we are living amidst an epidemic
of denial that we are denying aging,
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older age and we are denying death.
It's a kind of stress.
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It's bad for our blood pressure,
it's bad for our hormonal lives,
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it's bad for our neurochemistry.
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In-- in this way,
there's a physiologic effect directly
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on our bodies.
And this stress can shorten a life.
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Increasingly we are seeing
multiple peer-reviewed studies
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that suggest that if we can actually
embrace that reality,
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if you can find a way to accept it
and to accommodate being older
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that you'll be happier, less depressed,
and maybe you'll actually live longer,
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and not by just a day or two
but years-- years longer, potentially.
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-Yeah.
-Wow.
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Make sense?
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Okay, looks like you're ready.
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We have your ID printed out.
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So, if you can just double-check
that all your details are correct,
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date of birth and spelling of your name.
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Yeah, the spelling is all right.
I don't know about that photo.
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What happened to me?
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That's you, brother.
That beautiful old man.
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-Wow.
-Well.
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It's been a rough 50 years.
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Do you need help putting on that lanyard?
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I'm just gonna fit it over my giant head.
There we go.
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-Yes!
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There we are.
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It's official.
You are a new resident. Michael.
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Mr. Hemsworth, how you doing?
I'm Michael. I'm a carer here.
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-How are ya?
-Welcome to Sunset Pines.
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-Thank you.
-Where we live...
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Where we live every day to the fullest.
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Great ID photo, man.
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-Thanks.
-Where we going?
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-Apartment nine, spruce.
-Spruce.
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-Spruce, eh?
-They're nice suites, dude.
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So, over the next few days,
we are going to leap Chris forward
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50 years and introduce him
to an accelerated version of aging.
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You like croquet?
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-Nah, not really.
-Oh, fair enough.
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So, he can have a little bit of a taste
of not just as an idea
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but a visceral way,
he can touch what it feels like
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to be an elder and he can begin to touch
what it feels like
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to be at the edge of life
and at the end of life.
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Hang on, Fred.
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And things are only going
to get weirder from here.
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Never.
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Watch out, ladies.
Fresh meat coming through.
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-Good morning.
-Come on, Chris.
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All right, mate.
It's a great environment here.
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It's really friendly.
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-All right. Welcome.
-Thank you.
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-How are you, Fran?
-I'm ready to go.
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We'll circle back and say hi later.
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Keep away from that woman, okay?
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-Yeah.
-She's a deadly card player.
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Oh, I'm not much of a card player,
so I'll stay away.
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Keep away from her then.
Ian, how you doing?
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-Hello. How are you?
-Hello, welcome.
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You can pretty much roam
wherever you want here.
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Apart from that there.
You don't need to worry about that.
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-That's off limits.
-Yeah. Yeah.
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Yeah, but, this is it.
Your home now, okay?
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-Here I am.
-That's you.
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Huh, what do you think of this?
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Wow.
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-Take a trip down memory lane.
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I got old quick.
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My older brother looks the youngest.
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That's, uh... That's crazy.
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Joy mentioned you used
to do some acting.
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Yeah. I don't think I'd be doing it
till my hair looks like that.
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I thought it was
like local theater, but like...
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-Mostly local theater.
-Nice job.
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We got your books there as well. So...
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Thorever!
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Your wife dropped off some
of the other stuff as well.
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So, we just want to make it feel
like a home to you.
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So, looking around,
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does this feel all right to you?
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Feel like it could be home?
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I think it feels a little lonely,
doesn't it?
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Yeah?
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It feels a bit like a hospital, you know?
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Yeah.
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It's...
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Everything up until this point
has felt like theater.
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It has been quite fun...
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and then when I find myself in my room,
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it kind of begins to hit home
a bit more
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and has a bit more weight to it.
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Yeah, interesting.
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Chris, I'm gonna chuck this bag down,
all right,
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and then we're gonna move on
to meet Gary, all right?
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He's you're moving buddy.
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-Yeah.
-Okay.
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He's gonna show you awesome activities.
He's a nice guy, a master of Tai Chi.
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-Cool.
-Yeah.
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Gary's a bit
of a legend around here.
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So, be careful if he challenges you
in anything.
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Oh, yeah. I've got a bit
of a competitive spirit myself.
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Gary. how you doing?
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-Oh, good. Thanks.
-It's your new neighbor. It's Christopher.
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-Hello.
-Oh, hi, Chris. Welcome to Sunset Pine.
251
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-Oh, thank you.
-This is the paradise for retirement.
252
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Is it?
253
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What-- What's the best thing
around here to do?
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Ah! We have that traditional bingo.
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-Bingo?
-Bingo!
256
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-All right.
-Yeah.
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Bit of a workout for the mind.
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Bingo is not as--
not as physically challenging.
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Then, if you like, we do have a ping-pong,
you know, or workout in the gym.
260
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-Yeah.
-And also, aerobic classes.
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Terrific.
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-Would you like to join it?
-I'd love to.
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Come this way.
Whoa, watch your steps, okay?
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Okay, guys, how are we feeling, good?
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-Are we ready to get started?
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Yes! Our aerobics class.
Oh, here's Gary. Come in.
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Oh, Chris, this way.
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Oh, and he's got our new resident here
with us. Hello, Chris. Nice to meet you.
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-Nice to meet you.
-How you doing?
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BJ: The scientists at MIT
who developed this suit,
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have observed the people who wear it,
tend to go through three distinct phases.
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The first being denial,
essentially, that they fight the suit.
273
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Okay. Guys, we're gonna start
with a big, deep breath in, legs apart.
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Breathe in.
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So, now we're handing Chris
an opportunity to fight his suit.
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We're offering him a chance
to beat aging...
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-...sort of.
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Right. Left. Right. Good movement.
Yes, get that whole body going.
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-Whoo!
-Whoo!
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Yes!
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So, add the hands.
Yes! Bit of drama.
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Like we're at the nightclubs.
283
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Come on, back in the day,
you know what I mean.
284
00:15:17,207 --> 00:15:19,377
Yeah, back in the day.
Feels like yesterday.
285
00:15:19,501 --> 00:15:22,051
All right. Let's do the hips.
286
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We're gonna go back and thrust.
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Back and thrust.
288
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Look at Gary. He's killing it.
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Come on.
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00:15:31,221 --> 00:15:33,101
Are you okay there, Chris?
You need to sit out?
291
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-Nah, I'm doing good.
-You're all good? Okay.
292
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-Chris, are you ready?
-Yeah, yeah. Come on.
293
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Okay. Here it comes.
294
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Come on, old man.
295
00:15:42,066 --> 00:15:44,396
-Something wrong with the bat, I think.
296
00:15:44,777 --> 00:15:46,697
-That's what they always say.
-Stop talking.
297
00:15:48,989 --> 00:15:50,489
The aging suit is brutal.
298
00:15:50,908 --> 00:15:54,368
Affects my movement in a lot of ways.
And it's bloody exhausting.
299
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-Sunset Pines. Sunset Pines.
-Sunset Pines.
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Come on, Chris, say Pines.
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CHRIS: And I'm trying
to muscle through it, but...
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I'm just sort of wearing myself out.
303
00:16:11,053 --> 00:16:14,103
And... I find myself losing the battle.
304
00:16:19,103 --> 00:16:20,563
No way, Chris, you're giving up already?
305
00:16:21,063 --> 00:16:22,863
-Shut up, Gary.
-Oh, look at that.
306
00:16:23,732 --> 00:16:26,442
This is a lot more difficult
than I thought it was gonna be.
307
00:16:27,111 --> 00:16:32,321
-Sunset Pines. Sunset Pines.
-That's enough Sunset Pines already.
308
00:16:32,825 --> 00:16:34,235
-Let's breathe out.
309
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And that's just our warm-up, guys.
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-Amazing!
-What?
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You've got it in you, Chris.
How you feeling?
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I'm gonna take a seat for a second.
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Chris is just gonna sit this one out.
All good. Step together. Tap. Tap.
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Tap and step together. Tap...
315
00:16:49,967 --> 00:16:52,677
The aging suit makes me feel
pretty nervous about the future.
316
00:16:53,137 --> 00:16:54,257
I guess what scares me
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is the deterioration
of-- of physical capabilities.
318
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Not being mobile, not being able to play
with my grandkids,
319
00:17:02,146 --> 00:17:03,726
not being able to surf,
not being able to be active.
320
00:17:03,939 --> 00:17:04,939
All the things I love to do.
321
00:17:05,274 --> 00:17:09,074
Could be incredibly challenging
but also scary, I'm sure.
322
00:17:17,536 --> 00:17:20,406
Great work today, guys,
thank you so much. See you next time.
323
00:17:20,539 --> 00:17:21,419
Good session.
324
00:17:22,082 --> 00:17:23,172
You all right there, Chris?
325
00:17:23,375 --> 00:17:25,745
-Good. Thank you.
-No worries. Take your time, okay?
326
00:17:26,795 --> 00:17:28,165
-Hey, bud.
-Hey.
327
00:17:28,464 --> 00:17:31,974
I just wanna check in at the end
of a-- a long day, I'd imagine.
328
00:17:32,134 --> 00:17:35,854
Yeah, very long day.
I feel like I've had an intense workout.
329
00:17:36,055 --> 00:17:38,885
-Well, we're not getting any younger.
-Yeah.
330
00:17:39,058 --> 00:17:42,478
So, Gary, I thought it'd be really helpful
if you shared with Chris
331
00:17:42,686 --> 00:17:45,436
some of your background,
story of your younger self.
332
00:17:46,023 --> 00:17:49,903
Well, when I was younger,
I used to be, you know, quite fit.
333
00:17:50,235 --> 00:17:52,985
When I was very active and very physical.
334
00:17:53,322 --> 00:17:54,202
Yeah.
335
00:17:54,323 --> 00:17:56,493
You know. And my favorite was in kung fu.
336
00:18:02,247 --> 00:18:05,917
It became a huge part of my life,
my identity.
337
00:18:08,754 --> 00:18:12,304
I was really good at it, winning lots
of awards and titles.
338
00:18:14,885 --> 00:18:18,595
I was, at one stage, even awarded
a black belt by the Shaolin Temple.
339
00:18:20,724 --> 00:18:22,734
It was really, really something.
340
00:18:25,521 --> 00:18:29,531
And then one day, I had an accident,
you know, in the training.
341
00:18:29,650 --> 00:18:32,740
I went too hard and practically
smashed my knee.
342
00:18:33,987 --> 00:18:37,697
As I got older, my body just
never felt the same again.
343
00:18:38,158 --> 00:18:40,788
I could never be what I used to be.
344
00:18:42,663 --> 00:18:45,753
When you're young, we always think
that we are super or Superman,
345
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that we will live forever.
346
00:18:47,084 --> 00:18:48,924
We never give a thought that
as you age,
347
00:18:49,002 --> 00:18:53,422
you start to realize that different parts
of the body may start breaking down.
348
00:18:56,552 --> 00:18:57,802
But the truth is,
349
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you will grow old
350
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and your body will fail.
351
00:19:06,228 --> 00:19:10,898
So, gradually, you know,
you sort of have to accept...
352
00:19:11,441 --> 00:19:12,731
-Yeah.
-...the situation.
353
00:19:12,943 --> 00:19:14,493
And that's when Tai Chi came in.
354
00:19:20,659 --> 00:19:23,039
One morning when I was out walking,
355
00:19:23,328 --> 00:19:28,378
I saw a group of elderly people
doing this slow-motion type of exercise.
356
00:19:32,546 --> 00:19:33,956
And the balance that they have,
357
00:19:34,256 --> 00:19:39,386
you know, the flexibility
and the grace got me really curious.
358
00:19:42,681 --> 00:19:44,641
I saw something that I could relate to.
359
00:19:46,351 --> 00:19:47,811
An opportunity....
360
00:19:52,566 --> 00:19:55,356
And so, I started to learn Tai Chi.
361
00:19:58,280 --> 00:20:00,570
And I did it more and more.
362
00:20:15,547 --> 00:20:20,217
And as I learn about this,
you know, I found a new way
363
00:20:20,302 --> 00:20:22,892
of connecting to my physicality, you know?
364
00:20:22,971 --> 00:20:28,101
And so, this taught me a lot of things
and a new way of looking and of living.
365
00:20:29,019 --> 00:20:33,769
You know. And maybe that is something
that might be useful to you.
366
00:20:34,107 --> 00:20:37,317
One of the cruelties we do to each other
is we consider aging a failure,
367
00:20:37,569 --> 00:20:39,109
that our body's failing us.
368
00:20:39,947 --> 00:20:42,317
No. No, that's just the way we see it.
369
00:20:42,532 --> 00:20:46,952
Even as our body is maybe weakening,
it's opening up something else.
370
00:20:47,329 --> 00:20:48,999
And this may be part of us
is getting smaller,
371
00:20:49,206 --> 00:20:51,876
there's this room for us to get bigger
in some other way.
372
00:20:52,209 --> 00:20:54,999
That's when humans really shine,
as we come up against the limit.
373
00:20:55,170 --> 00:20:57,630
-Exactly. Yeah.
-It's a gift in a way, isn't it?
374
00:20:57,839 --> 00:21:00,049
Yeah, yeah,
it's a kind of revelation
375
00:21:00,342 --> 00:21:03,392
that once you learn to accept things
376
00:21:03,512 --> 00:21:04,512
for what it is,
377
00:21:04,638 --> 00:21:08,808
you actually find something even deeper
and more valuable.
378
00:21:09,309 --> 00:21:12,019
A lot of what you're saying, you know,
rings true to me,
379
00:21:12,145 --> 00:21:14,685
and it-- and it makes you think
this is not a bad kind of...
380
00:21:15,190 --> 00:21:18,900
How to--- how to reframe that
and how to-- how to adjust to it.
381
00:21:19,278 --> 00:21:21,818
How about, let's go
and try out some Tai Chi moves?
382
00:21:21,947 --> 00:21:23,367
-Sounds good.
-Okay.
383
00:21:28,370 --> 00:21:32,290
GARY: Well, I hope that by listening
to my experience,
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00:21:32,541 --> 00:21:36,921
Chris will learn that there are ways
385
00:21:37,004 --> 00:21:41,514
that you can continue to live
the life that you want to.
386
00:21:43,552 --> 00:21:46,182
You can actually expand yourself.
387
00:21:46,888 --> 00:21:52,098
So, you actually discover
a deeper understanding of the body.
388
00:21:58,275 --> 00:21:59,735
It was great talking to Gary.
389
00:22:00,110 --> 00:22:03,450
Makes me realize that, you know,
my approach to the aging suit
390
00:22:03,655 --> 00:22:08,825
shouldn't be to try and beat it.
Should be to adapt and evolve with it.
391
00:22:18,086 --> 00:22:22,626
All right, so day one down.
Sunset Pines Retirement Village.
392
00:22:23,633 --> 00:22:27,143
Officially retired and feeling pretty old
after wearing that suit all day,
393
00:22:27,262 --> 00:22:28,262
pretty restrictive.
394
00:22:28,472 --> 00:22:31,682
I started to get kind of irritated,
especially when people were talking to me
395
00:22:32,976 --> 00:22:35,846
the way that I guess a lot of us
talk to elderly people,
396
00:22:36,021 --> 00:22:39,401
which is that sort of, you know,
speaking very clear and "hello."
397
00:22:39,566 --> 00:22:42,986
And there's almost this kind of
patronizing sort of tone to it.
398
00:22:43,236 --> 00:22:46,486
So, I hope I don't do that
when I speak to elderly people.
399
00:22:46,656 --> 00:22:48,616
Now, I've got to get comfortable
in this room here.
400
00:22:48,742 --> 00:22:51,622
We've got a massive bed here
which looks like something
401
00:22:51,953 --> 00:22:54,213
one of my kids would sleep in.
What else we got in here?
402
00:22:54,414 --> 00:22:57,174
Not much, this is it.
It's a little bit like a prison.
403
00:22:57,793 --> 00:22:59,093
Yeah, good night.
404
00:23:08,261 --> 00:23:09,721
Good morning, residents.
405
00:23:09,846 --> 00:23:12,056
It's another beautiful day here
at Sunset Pines
406
00:23:12,182 --> 00:23:16,192
where we live every day to the fullest.
Lots of fun activities to do today
407
00:23:16,478 --> 00:23:17,438
and tonight
408
00:23:17,646 --> 00:23:19,766
there's our very own Sunset Pines Ball.
409
00:23:20,315 --> 00:23:21,855
So, don't forget your dancing shoes.
410
00:23:30,617 --> 00:23:31,577
Morning, Chris!
411
00:23:34,371 --> 00:23:37,581
Day two at Sunset Pines is designed
for Chris to sort of settle in.
412
00:23:37,791 --> 00:23:38,711
Hey, Chris.
413
00:23:39,501 --> 00:23:43,261
As people wear this suit,
what the researchers at MIT have seen,
414
00:23:43,463 --> 00:23:46,433
is the second stage is you move into
this adaptive response.
415
00:23:47,050 --> 00:23:49,090
Touch your toes, man.
See if you can touch your toes.
416
00:23:49,386 --> 00:23:52,886
CHRIS: So, if I'm going to get any
longevity benefits from this experience...
417
00:23:54,307 --> 00:23:58,347
...then my objective today is
to adapt to life in the aging suit.
418
00:23:59,062 --> 00:24:00,692
-Wow.
-First up...
419
00:24:01,690 --> 00:24:03,070
the rematch with Gary.
420
00:24:03,233 --> 00:24:04,323
Ready to go again, Chris?
421
00:24:04,443 --> 00:24:08,743
And this time, I've adapted
and recruited a doubles partner,
422
00:24:09,072 --> 00:24:10,202
Douglas.
423
00:24:15,412 --> 00:24:16,412
Oh, good shot.
424
00:24:17,414 --> 00:24:18,334
Gary!
425
00:24:19,916 --> 00:24:20,786
Good shot.
426
00:24:21,042 --> 00:24:23,422
Okay. Watch this. Huh?
427
00:24:23,628 --> 00:24:25,088
We're not gonna watch that.
Just hit the ball.
428
00:24:25,297 --> 00:24:26,207
Okay, here it comes.
429
00:24:28,717 --> 00:24:31,507
-That's it. Game over.
-I'm not playing anymore.
430
00:24:33,430 --> 00:24:35,100
Ah! Steady.
431
00:24:37,517 --> 00:24:40,017
So, Chris is trying to adapt
to this suit...
432
00:24:41,313 --> 00:24:43,653
to work around it. Hack it.
433
00:24:44,107 --> 00:24:46,067
Too old for this...
434
00:24:46,902 --> 00:24:50,202
But he's still in this mode
that this is something to beat.
435
00:24:52,699 --> 00:24:56,079
But adaptation is not how
he's going to beat the suit.
436
00:25:11,718 --> 00:25:13,678
So, I'm doing my best to adapt
to the suit.
437
00:25:14,012 --> 00:25:16,852
But mostly it's just kind of bugging me.
438
00:25:18,308 --> 00:25:19,388
That is mine.
439
00:25:19,476 --> 00:25:21,346
-Thank you very much.
-Good game.
440
00:25:22,479 --> 00:25:25,269
CHRIS: Maybe it's time I tried something
a little less physical.
441
00:25:25,899 --> 00:25:27,069
Oh, are you all right there, Chris?
442
00:25:28,568 --> 00:25:29,738
Poor old bugger.
443
00:25:31,154 --> 00:25:32,574
And a bit more creative.
444
00:25:33,323 --> 00:25:37,333
Hi, everyone. I just wanted
to welcome you to today's art class.
445
00:25:37,536 --> 00:25:39,746
Today we're going to be doing
self-portraits.
446
00:25:40,247 --> 00:25:44,997
Now, don't give me that, you'll be fine.
We're going to explore our identity today.
447
00:25:45,293 --> 00:25:47,093
So, yeah, get into it. Have fun.
448
00:25:47,212 --> 00:25:48,962
-Okay. Thank you.
-Have fun.
449
00:25:49,339 --> 00:25:50,719
Hi, Chris. My name is Natalie.
450
00:25:51,132 --> 00:25:53,052
-Nice to meet you. All right.
-I just wanted to welcome you.
451
00:25:53,134 --> 00:25:54,434
-Good luck.
-Cool. Thank you.
452
00:25:57,264 --> 00:26:02,944
So, the real goal of day two
is to move Chris beyond adaptation
453
00:26:03,228 --> 00:26:04,978
to the third and final lesson
of the suit.
454
00:26:05,313 --> 00:26:08,483
Acceptance and learning
to rely upon others.
455
00:26:09,150 --> 00:26:10,490
What's your favorite color?
456
00:26:11,111 --> 00:26:13,571
I like this bluey-pink kind
of vibe we got going here.
457
00:26:13,697 --> 00:26:14,947
Oh, okay.
458
00:26:16,032 --> 00:26:17,912
-Bit on my helmet.
459
00:26:18,034 --> 00:26:20,704
Very nice. It probably makes it look
a little bit more interesting, doesn't it?
460
00:26:20,787 --> 00:26:23,117
Oh, I know-- I know what I'll do.
I'll give you a rally stripe.
461
00:26:23,498 --> 00:26:24,618
-A rally stripe?
-Yeah.
462
00:26:25,125 --> 00:26:27,085
-Oh, yeah. Bring it on.
-A rally stripe.
463
00:26:27,335 --> 00:26:28,665
Wait, wait. Don't move.
464
00:26:29,379 --> 00:26:31,009
-Yeah?
-What do you reckon, guys?
465
00:26:31,298 --> 00:26:33,218
-Aw. It looks fantastic.
-Nice.
466
00:26:37,470 --> 00:26:39,930
How do you deal with that hand
with that strap on it?
467
00:26:40,390 --> 00:26:41,600
Very tricky, isn't it?
468
00:26:41,766 --> 00:26:43,436
-What do you feel like? An 80-year-old?
-Yep!
469
00:26:45,645 --> 00:26:47,145
Arms feels a little bit heavy.
470
00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:50,070
-You're looking a bit stiff.
-I feel a bit stiff.
471
00:26:51,318 --> 00:26:54,108
So, what's the secret?
How have you guys stayed so active?
472
00:26:54,446 --> 00:26:56,486
-I swim and I walk.
-Yeah.
473
00:26:56,615 --> 00:26:59,735
You know, and I get out and do stuff.
I swim all winter.
474
00:27:00,035 --> 00:27:02,245
-I'm pretty active at 80, so it's not bad.
-Yeah.
475
00:27:02,454 --> 00:27:06,674
I think as well as being physically active
at the same time, keep your mind active.
476
00:27:06,875 --> 00:27:09,915
You know, build up a good relationship
with your family, your children,
477
00:27:10,128 --> 00:27:12,418
grandchildren...
make a lot of friends.
478
00:27:12,797 --> 00:27:13,717
Yeah.
479
00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:16,470
And-- and while you're doing that,
you will also helping yourself
480
00:27:16,635 --> 00:27:18,255
in maintaining your youth.
481
00:27:19,596 --> 00:27:23,726
So, if Chris can accept getting older
and drop this notion
482
00:27:23,850 --> 00:27:25,230
of physical independence,
483
00:27:25,644 --> 00:27:27,854
that's when he can learn
to rely on others.
484
00:27:28,521 --> 00:27:31,901
He's going to have to adopt
a bigger sense of himself
485
00:27:31,983 --> 00:27:36,363
that can accommodate frailty,
and vulnerability, and old age.
486
00:27:37,364 --> 00:27:40,784
This is the lesson if you can learn
to accept that fact.
487
00:27:40,909 --> 00:27:44,749
That's when we get to experience
just how connected we all are
488
00:27:44,829 --> 00:27:48,579
to each other and to the world around us.
This is very, very good for your health.
489
00:27:49,459 --> 00:27:52,049
-So, you got children?
-Yep. Three kids.
490
00:27:52,253 --> 00:27:53,173
How old?
491
00:27:53,421 --> 00:27:57,221
-Nine and seven. Two twin boys at seven.
-Oh!
492
00:27:57,342 --> 00:27:59,682
-Yeah.
-They were fun when they were babies.
493
00:27:59,928 --> 00:28:00,848
Yes, they're fun now.
494
00:28:03,264 --> 00:28:05,684
You miss them when you are out
and about doing
495
00:28:05,892 --> 00:28:07,732
-your acting?
-Yeah, definitely. Yep.
496
00:28:07,894 --> 00:28:09,024
Yep. Yep.
497
00:28:11,356 --> 00:28:13,686
It's looking good. Well done.
498
00:28:14,401 --> 00:28:18,031
-Oh, Chris. Tell me about yours.
-I'm not sure what it is.
499
00:28:18,321 --> 00:28:20,371
It's like me crossed with a koala.
500
00:28:23,702 --> 00:28:25,662
I just need a eucalyptus leaf
to be chewin' on.
501
00:28:25,995 --> 00:28:27,115
No, looks great.
502
00:28:41,386 --> 00:28:42,426
Hey, bud.
503
00:28:42,721 --> 00:28:44,141
-Hello.
-How you doing?
504
00:28:44,889 --> 00:28:45,809
Just...
505
00:28:46,349 --> 00:28:50,729
remove the-- the suit for a minute.
Just a... Yeah, it's just so good to...
506
00:28:50,895 --> 00:28:52,015
It's nice to have a breather.
507
00:28:52,564 --> 00:28:54,734
-Feel good to take it off?
-It does, yeah.
508
00:28:54,816 --> 00:28:56,276
Well, good news.
509
00:28:56,609 --> 00:28:59,699
-You get to be done with that suit.
510
00:28:59,904 --> 00:29:01,364
That experiment is over.
511
00:29:01,990 --> 00:29:02,990
Wonderful.
512
00:29:03,241 --> 00:29:04,831
Yeah, I'll leave it right here
on the couch.
513
00:29:05,076 --> 00:29:06,366
Right, oh. Exactly.
514
00:29:07,370 --> 00:29:09,620
The major lesson here is acceptance.
515
00:29:09,956 --> 00:29:13,166
There's certain things or certain battles
we're just not going to win
516
00:29:13,334 --> 00:29:15,134
and you're not going
to beat that suit...
517
00:29:15,211 --> 00:29:16,131
Yeah.
518
00:29:16,296 --> 00:29:18,006
...and you're not going to beat aging
and that's okay.
519
00:29:18,173 --> 00:29:22,263
Yeah. But then how do you come
to terms with that? How do people accept?
520
00:29:24,262 --> 00:29:27,472
For me, just couple things
to tell you about.
521
00:29:27,557 --> 00:29:29,267
I-- So, when I was 19,
522
00:29:30,059 --> 00:29:31,349
a sophomore in college...
523
00:29:34,731 --> 00:29:36,111
you know, life was really good.
524
00:29:39,027 --> 00:29:40,567
Then sophomore fall,
525
00:29:41,154 --> 00:29:43,494
friends of mine and I,
we were screwing around
526
00:29:43,823 --> 00:29:46,743
on our commuter train
and my buds and I,
527
00:29:46,910 --> 00:29:49,330
we just climbed it
like you climb a tree.
528
00:29:49,537 --> 00:29:51,407
There was just a parked train
just sitting there.
529
00:29:51,998 --> 00:29:55,748
But when I stood up,
I had a metal watch on my wrist.
530
00:29:56,211 --> 00:29:58,841
And when I stood up,
I was close enough to the power source,
531
00:29:58,922 --> 00:30:02,682
the electricity arced to the watch.
Instantaneous big explosion,
532
00:30:02,801 --> 00:30:07,391
and in a moment just, you know,
everything changed in a way.
533
00:30:13,061 --> 00:30:16,771
I lost one arm below the elbow
and both legs below the knee,
534
00:30:19,025 --> 00:30:20,985
and I came very close to death.
535
00:30:27,367 --> 00:30:28,697
It broke me down.
536
00:30:30,161 --> 00:30:32,871
My life was over. I was just pure loss.
537
00:30:36,751 --> 00:30:39,381
And I thought, "Who am I, now?"
538
00:30:43,550 --> 00:30:47,800
This forced me to reimagine myself.
539
00:30:48,221 --> 00:30:50,641
Adaptation was only going
to get me so far.
540
00:30:51,391 --> 00:30:52,601
I had to accept it.
541
00:30:53,810 --> 00:30:56,230
And somewhere along the way,
it took me a few years,
542
00:30:56,563 --> 00:31:00,193
but there came a point
where I let that old body,
543
00:31:00,483 --> 00:31:03,073
that old sense of self, I let him go.
544
00:31:06,406 --> 00:31:07,696
He died.
545
00:31:09,367 --> 00:31:10,987
What was in store for me...
546
00:31:15,123 --> 00:31:19,043
I knew that my identity didn't exist
in my feet.
547
00:31:23,798 --> 00:31:25,628
I look at myself in the mirror
every once in a while and say,
548
00:31:25,758 --> 00:31:28,798
"This is my life. This is it.
This is-- this is my life."
549
00:31:38,771 --> 00:31:41,231
I think this is a part of acceptance
is where you actually
550
00:31:41,357 --> 00:31:42,397
let the change happen.
551
00:31:53,828 --> 00:31:55,788
-Come on.
552
00:31:56,039 --> 00:31:57,039
That's it.
553
00:31:57,999 --> 00:31:59,169
Good girl.
554
00:32:05,048 --> 00:32:06,718
That was a big, big deal for me.
555
00:32:06,799 --> 00:32:09,139
Those years following my accident
and learning to play
556
00:32:09,218 --> 00:32:11,138
with how I saw myself in the world.
557
00:32:16,017 --> 00:32:19,517
My sense of self had expanded
to the point where not only
558
00:32:19,729 --> 00:32:21,559
I could accommodate limb loss.
559
00:32:22,357 --> 00:32:25,227
But I started making meaning
and making sense of my experience.
560
00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:28,200
I went into medicine
and fell immediately in love
561
00:32:28,404 --> 00:32:29,574
with palliative care.
562
00:32:33,910 --> 00:32:35,870
People usually have a misunderstanding
of it that it's all about
563
00:32:36,037 --> 00:32:37,117
end of life and death.
564
00:32:37,413 --> 00:32:40,463
But my job is to treat suffering
and to help people
565
00:32:40,583 --> 00:32:42,093
find meaning in their life.
566
00:32:42,168 --> 00:32:45,338
So, you could also say it's something
of a philosophy.
567
00:32:45,505 --> 00:32:46,505
Come on. Right here.
568
00:32:47,840 --> 00:32:51,550
My story is dramatic,
but it's just a variation on a theme.
569
00:32:51,928 --> 00:32:55,718
We all suffer, we all bump up
against things that we can't control.
570
00:32:59,352 --> 00:33:01,692
And that brings us to this point
of acceptance
571
00:33:02,021 --> 00:33:03,901
and that's a place
where I'm trying to move Chris.
572
00:33:08,069 --> 00:33:11,949
CHRIS: Talking with BJ, I find myself
in awe of his attitude.
573
00:33:12,532 --> 00:33:15,992
He went through one
of the toughest experiences
574
00:33:16,202 --> 00:33:18,332
someone can go through
at a very young age too,
575
00:33:19,330 --> 00:33:22,460
and yet he's accepted that experience,
576
00:33:22,583 --> 00:33:26,213
and I find that such a beautiful approach
to life.
577
00:33:33,636 --> 00:33:36,096
So, are you starting to get a little hint,
578
00:33:36,180 --> 00:33:38,600
a little glimmer
at this thing called acceptance?
579
00:33:39,809 --> 00:33:44,399
Yeah, I mean, one thing I've accepted
and come to terms with is
580
00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:46,360
that I-- I don't feel invincible,
you know.
581
00:33:46,441 --> 00:33:49,071
And the really interesting thing
that certainly I think about is, like,
582
00:33:49,235 --> 00:33:53,735
well, there will come a day when
you can't take the suit off and...
583
00:33:54,032 --> 00:33:55,492
that's an intimidating...
584
00:33:55,825 --> 00:33:58,235
-thought for me, you know?
-Mm-hmm.
585
00:33:58,411 --> 00:34:00,081
-It's a big one.
-Yeah.
586
00:34:03,708 --> 00:34:05,628
Yeah, so, it stirs up
a whole lot of
587
00:34:06,544 --> 00:34:09,014
ideas and-- and thoughts.
588
00:34:09,338 --> 00:34:14,258
And, you know, I-- I think just living
in that space of sort of goal-orientated
589
00:34:14,385 --> 00:34:17,805
-kind of get through this checklist first.
-Mm-hmm.
590
00:34:19,098 --> 00:34:21,228
It can also be sort of dangerous, right?
Like a--
591
00:34:21,434 --> 00:34:22,944
-Absolutely.
-'Cause it's the assumption
592
00:34:23,061 --> 00:34:25,191
that you have time to get through it
rather than going...
593
00:34:25,646 --> 00:34:26,556
Right.
594
00:34:26,773 --> 00:34:28,193
-Man.
-There may not be a tomorrow.
595
00:34:28,274 --> 00:34:30,234
Yeah, absolutely. Yep.
596
00:34:30,610 --> 00:34:33,360
I've come to learn how hard it is
to actually be in the moment.
597
00:34:33,613 --> 00:34:34,993
Is that a skill you have?
598
00:34:35,490 --> 00:34:36,700
It's something I...
599
00:34:37,492 --> 00:34:40,952
am aware
that I-- I-- I want to achieve...
600
00:34:41,162 --> 00:34:42,582
and be better at, you know.
601
00:34:43,122 --> 00:34:44,712
But...
602
00:34:45,041 --> 00:34:48,421
you know. Being in it,
being brutally honest with myself.
603
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:51,510
I'm not. And now...
604
00:34:54,258 --> 00:34:56,468
I'm sort of going,
"What's really important?" You know?
605
00:34:56,677 --> 00:34:59,217
You know, I just feel like I'm sort of,
you know, busier and busier and busier,
606
00:34:59,388 --> 00:35:02,678
and I'm not even with the kids
as much as I want to be.
607
00:35:03,351 --> 00:35:04,811
But like, I think about it--
608
00:35:05,686 --> 00:35:07,106
that a lot,
you know, and just...
609
00:35:09,565 --> 00:35:12,025
Just the sort of fragility of it all.
610
00:35:35,216 --> 00:35:36,876
I just wanna get this right.
611
00:35:39,595 --> 00:35:40,715
It...
612
00:35:44,183 --> 00:35:46,143
I've been working so much for...
613
00:35:47,145 --> 00:35:48,265
ten or twelve years now,
614
00:35:49,772 --> 00:35:53,532
and found a lot of, you know,
my memories have...
615
00:35:53,734 --> 00:35:58,034
it felt like they are in fast forward,
and wishing I had a sort of pause
616
00:35:58,156 --> 00:35:59,316
and taken more time.
617
00:35:59,949 --> 00:36:00,989
And...
618
00:36:01,909 --> 00:36:03,409
it makes me think about a story
619
00:36:03,536 --> 00:36:06,036
my mom was telling me about.
The experience she had recently,
620
00:36:06,122 --> 00:36:10,332
where she thought she was facing
the end of her life for a brief moment.
621
00:36:12,253 --> 00:36:14,673
And that she felt...
622
00:36:15,715 --> 00:36:18,335
complete peace with her experiences
623
00:36:18,426 --> 00:36:22,046
in the fact that she had many people
around her that loved her,
624
00:36:22,221 --> 00:36:25,061
many people that she loved
and she had a very full life,
625
00:36:25,183 --> 00:36:29,693
and I think it affected me because I...
626
00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:34,110
I don't want to find myself
rushing through things anymore.
627
00:36:38,821 --> 00:36:40,491
Yeah. This experience is making me
628
00:36:40,656 --> 00:36:42,776
want to press pause
on everything for a while
629
00:36:42,992 --> 00:36:45,792
and then kind of be much more present
than I've been.
630
00:36:51,459 --> 00:36:54,209
So, at this point,
Chris is opening up a little bit,
631
00:36:54,503 --> 00:36:57,633
which is an invaluable moment
along the way to acceptance.
632
00:36:59,634 --> 00:37:02,894
It's now time to make some
of these lessons more personal for him.
633
00:37:03,471 --> 00:37:05,561
And explore the world of emotional loss.
634
00:37:10,061 --> 00:37:13,691
The finale of day two
is a dance at Sunset Pines.
635
00:37:15,399 --> 00:37:16,899
MALE VOICE:
Do you wanna try this on, see if it fits?
636
00:37:17,944 --> 00:37:21,074
BJ: What Chris doesn't know is,
at the dance, his wife,
637
00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:23,659
his real wife, Elsa,
will be waiting for him.
638
00:37:24,408 --> 00:37:26,368
Oh, my God.
639
00:37:26,786 --> 00:37:30,996
And Elsa has signed up to be age 50 years
through the magic of prosthetics.
640
00:37:31,165 --> 00:37:32,915
Yeah, I don't feel bad about my hands now.
641
00:37:33,042 --> 00:37:34,922
-Look at my hands!
-Yeah. There ya go.
642
00:37:35,086 --> 00:37:37,166
So, I'm sitting in the chair,
643
00:37:37,505 --> 00:37:40,165
and they started putting
on the prosthetics
644
00:37:40,925 --> 00:37:42,965
and it start to feel really weird.
645
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:45,809
I was like, I don't want to do this.
646
00:37:46,180 --> 00:37:48,810
It was a moment of, like,
"I can't do this."
647
00:37:51,143 --> 00:37:52,193
Aging is...
648
00:37:53,354 --> 00:37:56,114
is threatening,
especially with women
649
00:37:56,274 --> 00:37:59,194
and in this society,
it made me think about
650
00:37:59,402 --> 00:38:01,702
how much value we give to youth.
651
00:38:02,738 --> 00:38:04,818
This is possibly
the most confrontational,
652
00:38:04,991 --> 00:38:06,991
daring moment of this whole experiment.
653
00:38:07,201 --> 00:38:10,001
Chris does not know this is coming.
This is a big surprise for him.
654
00:38:10,288 --> 00:38:12,118
Yeah, I can-- I can see my mom actually.
655
00:38:12,373 --> 00:38:17,093
It just makes you feel like,
God is that where we gonna go
656
00:38:17,295 --> 00:38:19,915
and be, you know. It's-- it's difficult.
657
00:38:20,631 --> 00:38:22,011
BJ: But, you know, what's interesting is,
658
00:38:22,174 --> 00:38:24,844
we know from data
that most of us are less afraid
659
00:38:24,969 --> 00:38:27,469
by our own frailty, our own deaths
660
00:38:27,763 --> 00:38:30,473
than we are at the deaths
of people we care for.
661
00:38:32,226 --> 00:38:34,266
So, to explore this further,
662
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:37,980
we want Chris to meet another resident
of Sunset Pines.
663
00:38:38,858 --> 00:38:42,858
Well, my name is Aisea Vakalalabure.
I'm a Fijian, from Fiji.
664
00:38:43,029 --> 00:38:45,529
And I'm 88 years old.
665
00:38:45,865 --> 00:38:48,575
And here's your table Mr. Hemsworth.
I like you to meet Aisea.
666
00:38:48,826 --> 00:38:49,736
Aisea?
667
00:38:50,202 --> 00:38:52,542
-Hi Chris, pleased to meet you.
-You too.
668
00:38:52,955 --> 00:38:54,495
PRODUCER:
Do you know who Chris Hemsworth is?
669
00:38:54,707 --> 00:38:55,577
No.
670
00:38:58,961 --> 00:39:00,251
No.
671
00:39:02,381 --> 00:39:05,471
How do you feel now coming
to this life of retirement?
672
00:39:05,634 --> 00:39:07,764
-How...
-Very different, very different.
673
00:39:08,262 --> 00:39:10,352
A lot of wonderful people though,
you know?
674
00:39:10,556 --> 00:39:12,766
It's been a very unique experience.
675
00:39:12,892 --> 00:39:13,932
Well, I'll tell you
676
00:39:14,226 --> 00:39:16,936
being an elderly person
is the best thing,
677
00:39:17,646 --> 00:39:19,646
aging is very important in life.
678
00:39:19,940 --> 00:39:22,360
BJ said it was a-- a great opportunity
to meet you
679
00:39:22,568 --> 00:39:24,318
because you have an important story.
680
00:39:24,820 --> 00:39:25,780
Well.
681
00:39:26,447 --> 00:39:28,947
I come from Fiji and I come
from a chiefly family,
682
00:39:29,533 --> 00:39:34,333
and my eldest brother we were very close.
I was closer to him than to my parents.
683
00:39:36,957 --> 00:39:39,457
To him, I am the small baby brother
684
00:39:40,211 --> 00:39:42,211
but to me, he's everything.
685
00:39:44,965 --> 00:39:47,755
And everywhere he goes
I'm always behind him.
686
00:39:47,843 --> 00:39:49,103
I was his shadow.
687
00:39:52,932 --> 00:39:54,812
From childhood, right up until
688
00:39:54,934 --> 00:39:57,604
we went to the army he's always there,
689
00:39:57,812 --> 00:39:59,482
and he's always looking after me.
690
00:40:02,316 --> 00:40:04,026
And I look at him as a father,
691
00:40:04,568 --> 00:40:06,738
big brother, and my protector.
692
00:40:07,905 --> 00:40:09,115
When our father died,
693
00:40:09,281 --> 00:40:10,911
being the eldest of the family,
694
00:40:11,283 --> 00:40:14,123
he had to take over the role of chief.
695
00:40:19,208 --> 00:40:20,838
And he became a good chief,
696
00:40:21,419 --> 00:40:22,589
and the people loved him.
697
00:40:24,088 --> 00:40:26,468
Unfortunately, this didn't last long.
698
00:40:27,675 --> 00:40:29,135
He became sick.
699
00:40:35,933 --> 00:40:36,933
When he died,
700
00:40:39,103 --> 00:40:41,403
my world came crumbling down.
701
00:40:45,443 --> 00:40:47,193
And I lost
702
00:40:48,571 --> 00:40:51,911
the man that I loved,
my real brother.
703
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:54,830
And I was devastated,
704
00:40:55,411 --> 00:40:57,041
the loss that I suffered
705
00:40:57,788 --> 00:40:59,288
is unmeasurable.
706
00:41:08,507 --> 00:41:10,337
But in Fijian society
707
00:41:10,551 --> 00:41:14,351
there is a period
of mourning of 100 days and 100 nights
708
00:41:14,722 --> 00:41:16,972
when the whole village is closed down.
709
00:41:21,770 --> 00:41:25,440
No singing. No playing. No nothing.
710
00:41:28,611 --> 00:41:30,201
And as the 100 days began,
711
00:41:32,448 --> 00:41:34,198
I didn't want to be around people
712
00:41:34,408 --> 00:41:36,408
let alone lead a community.
713
00:41:39,663 --> 00:41:41,373
And I thought to myself
714
00:41:41,499 --> 00:41:42,879
will I be good enough?
715
00:41:51,300 --> 00:41:54,010
Will they respect me
as they respected my brother?
716
00:41:55,679 --> 00:41:56,809
I can't do this.
717
00:42:05,689 --> 00:42:07,779
But 100 days is a long time.
718
00:42:12,112 --> 00:42:14,322
It gives you time to think.
719
00:42:18,494 --> 00:42:20,794
To learn, to be more open to others.
720
00:42:22,831 --> 00:42:23,831
To grow.
721
00:42:25,751 --> 00:42:27,131
Day after day.
722
00:42:28,754 --> 00:42:30,134
Every sunrise.
723
00:42:31,632 --> 00:42:32,842
Every sunset.
724
00:42:33,467 --> 00:42:35,837
The grief was changing me.
725
00:42:38,347 --> 00:42:40,177
And that was how I accepted
726
00:42:40,516 --> 00:42:42,556
I must stand up.
727
00:42:42,977 --> 00:42:45,307
Follow his footsteps, put on his shoes,
728
00:42:45,563 --> 00:42:46,943
though big it may be,
729
00:42:47,022 --> 00:42:49,282
and accept the role of being a chief.
730
00:42:51,986 --> 00:42:54,986
What I really want Chris to learn
from Aisea's example
731
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:59,239
is the importance of giving ourself
time and space
732
00:42:59,451 --> 00:43:01,791
to have very difficult feelings.
733
00:43:02,955 --> 00:43:05,915
Life includes incredible sorrow,
734
00:43:06,292 --> 00:43:10,172
incredible sadness, and that those,
just like aging aren't our enemy,
735
00:43:10,671 --> 00:43:12,171
they're just part of the deal.
736
00:43:14,258 --> 00:43:17,088
You will lose the people you love.
737
00:43:18,429 --> 00:43:21,309
But I was a better community leader
738
00:43:21,849 --> 00:43:24,269
a better man,
because of those hundred days.
739
00:43:25,853 --> 00:43:29,573
And so, I learnt grief is beautiful.
740
00:43:30,649 --> 00:43:33,569
Sounds like where you're from
there's far more acceptance
741
00:43:33,736 --> 00:43:35,896
and welcoming of that transition.
742
00:43:36,071 --> 00:43:38,201
AISEA:
You know, I believe that Western society
743
00:43:38,282 --> 00:43:40,162
don't give enough time to grieve.
744
00:43:41,327 --> 00:43:42,747
Grief is good.
745
00:43:43,037 --> 00:43:44,497
That’s what I believe in.
746
00:43:44,955 --> 00:43:47,575
Gentlemen, here are your meals.
747
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:51,250
This is Sunset Pines finest,
and, Mr. Hemsworth,
748
00:43:51,378 --> 00:43:54,798
we'll be looking forward to seeing you
at our weekly dance this evening.
749
00:43:56,133 --> 00:43:58,343
-Bon appetit.
-Thank you.
750
00:43:58,510 --> 00:43:59,550
Dancing?
751
00:44:01,388 --> 00:44:03,928
-Should be fun.
-Yes.
752
00:44:06,477 --> 00:44:09,517
CHRIS: It's great talking to Aisea
and so good to hear his story.
753
00:44:10,272 --> 00:44:12,612
But the idea of losing
the people you love,
754
00:44:13,067 --> 00:44:14,817
I think is the scariest thing
755
00:44:15,277 --> 00:44:18,947
and that's not really something
I'm ready to accept just yet.
756
00:44:21,950 --> 00:44:24,540
Sorry, Elsa. Is it okay
if you just keep your eyes closed
757
00:44:24,703 --> 00:44:25,703
-for a little while?
-Mm-hmm.
758
00:44:25,829 --> 00:44:27,119
Just while we do this. Thank you.
759
00:44:29,833 --> 00:44:32,343
So, the last part of day two,
we come to the dance,
760
00:44:32,586 --> 00:44:37,836
and this is where we confront Chris
with Elsa, his beloved wife.
761
00:44:38,467 --> 00:44:41,047
But now Elsa is the one
who's aged 50 years.
762
00:44:43,972 --> 00:44:45,642
This could be good,
or it could be very tragic.
763
00:44:47,226 --> 00:44:48,936
I don't know what's going to happen.
764
00:44:51,939 --> 00:44:54,319
Looking at myself,
it's really confronting,
765
00:44:54,692 --> 00:44:57,992
and so real, like, really, really real.
766
00:45:01,281 --> 00:45:03,241
I feel really vulnerable.
767
00:45:05,327 --> 00:45:08,287
And I'm not sure I want Chris
to see me like this.
768
00:45:08,872 --> 00:45:10,002
Yeah.
769
00:45:25,472 --> 00:45:27,642
-Chris, there you are. Now...
-You all right?
770
00:45:28,434 --> 00:45:32,104
I have set you up with a fantastic date.
771
00:45:32,438 --> 00:45:34,308
-Oh, really?
-Yeah, now, I know you're married.
772
00:45:34,398 --> 00:45:37,108
-But we won't tell your wife, okay?
-Yeah, yeah, but?
773
00:45:37,234 --> 00:45:39,034
Come with me. Come on now.
Don't be shy.
774
00:45:39,111 --> 00:45:40,781
-Okay, I'm not shy. I know.
-Not shy though?
775
00:45:40,946 --> 00:45:43,986
-Nervous not-- not shy though.
-Oh, okay. See the lady in pink there?
776
00:45:44,074 --> 00:45:46,124
-Yeah, yeah, yeah.
-Go get her, boy!
777
00:45:51,874 --> 00:45:54,884
Excuse me, I think I'm your date.
778
00:46:07,389 --> 00:46:10,729
-Oh, my God.
779
00:46:12,728 --> 00:46:14,438
-It's so weird!
-Look at you.
780
00:46:19,151 --> 00:46:20,361
Oh, my God.
781
00:46:23,030 --> 00:46:25,490
Is it... I just wanna touch your shoulder
and I was like...
782
00:46:25,616 --> 00:46:26,826
"Oh, my God.
I know this person."
783
00:46:26,992 --> 00:46:28,372
-Did you know?
784
00:46:29,620 --> 00:46:30,700
Oh, wow.
785
00:46:38,462 --> 00:46:39,512
Hello.
786
00:46:47,221 --> 00:46:48,141
Still beautiful.
787
00:46:53,852 --> 00:46:56,772
I think this moment
we will remember forever.
788
00:46:58,565 --> 00:47:01,435
It was so deep and so unexpected.
789
00:47:03,654 --> 00:47:05,114
I felt safe.
790
00:47:06,865 --> 00:47:08,115
It was so beautiful.
791
00:47:11,078 --> 00:47:14,918
-Do you expect it, you know? Not at all?
-I don't know what was going on.
792
00:47:16,083 --> 00:47:17,753
CHRIS: I mean, this is a wild experience.
793
00:47:18,252 --> 00:47:24,552
Looking at my wife having aged 50 years
and it was a strange mixture of emotions
794
00:47:24,675 --> 00:47:25,585
of sort of...
795
00:47:27,010 --> 00:47:29,930
love, joy, empathy...
796
00:47:31,682 --> 00:47:32,892
and then also
797
00:47:34,184 --> 00:47:36,354
kind of absurd
in a brilliant way.
798
00:47:36,937 --> 00:47:38,017
It's been such a weird...
799
00:47:38,689 --> 00:47:41,149
day, like, I don't know.
Just thinking about...
800
00:47:41,525 --> 00:47:43,815
life and death and everything.
And then, this...
801
00:47:44,528 --> 00:47:47,818
For me, today was, like,
I was just putting on 50 years.
802
00:47:48,115 --> 00:47:50,365
-Yeah. Yep.
-And it's really, really shocking,
803
00:47:50,868 --> 00:47:53,198
not-- not having those years to adapt.
804
00:47:53,579 --> 00:47:55,249
And I think nature gave you that...
805
00:47:55,664 --> 00:47:59,174
-steps to get used to me in a way.
-Yeah.
806
00:47:59,376 --> 00:48:01,916
It's pretty intense diving straight into.
This is what... Yeah.
807
00:48:02,004 --> 00:48:04,924
Yeah. It's just... it's really
confronting.
808
00:48:05,632 --> 00:48:07,222
No, it was quite shocking
when I saw you then.
809
00:48:07,384 --> 00:48:10,354
I was like, "Oh! Wait, wait."
Been robbed of 50 years.
810
00:48:11,179 --> 00:48:13,889
It was kind of like-- it was kind of,
811
00:48:14,975 --> 00:48:18,185
you're at the tail end of things maybe.
812
00:48:19,271 --> 00:48:21,521
Got a little-- a little
sort of teary-eyed.
813
00:48:22,232 --> 00:48:24,362
-I want to live those years with you.
-Yeah.
814
00:48:24,860 --> 00:48:26,650
We need those memories, yeah?
815
00:48:28,405 --> 00:48:29,275
Should we dance?
816
00:48:29,531 --> 00:48:32,161
Should we dance? Sure.
Be careful with my back.
817
00:48:32,284 --> 00:48:34,294
You gotta be careful.
You just try and keep up, all right?
818
00:48:35,579 --> 00:48:37,659
You all right? Moving slow.
819
00:48:43,629 --> 00:48:47,169
BJ: Maybe with this experience,
we've ratcheted down Chris's anxieties
820
00:48:47,299 --> 00:48:49,089
or fears around aging and death,
821
00:48:49,384 --> 00:48:53,144
so that he gets to see this idea
that aging ain't so bad.
822
00:49:00,312 --> 00:49:02,232
And that love actually really
823
00:49:02,314 --> 00:49:04,194
can hold you
through just about anything.
824
00:49:10,155 --> 00:49:14,445
CHRIS: I think what is quite confronting
is approaching that age on my own.
825
00:49:16,620 --> 00:49:17,910
What makes it less scary
826
00:49:18,330 --> 00:49:20,170
is having someone to experience it with.
827
00:49:24,544 --> 00:49:26,714
You know, having people around you
that you love,
828
00:49:27,255 --> 00:49:28,505
makes me feel a lot more...
829
00:49:29,591 --> 00:49:30,761
accepting.
830
00:49:50,028 --> 00:49:51,448
Sorry, I have to go.
831
00:49:52,406 --> 00:49:53,366
Okay.
832
00:49:53,824 --> 00:49:54,914
I love you.
833
00:49:55,409 --> 00:49:56,579
I love you too.
834
00:50:16,972 --> 00:50:20,142
One of the really important lessons
that Chris needs to learn
835
00:50:20,267 --> 00:50:22,847
is where there is love, there is loss.
836
00:50:24,604 --> 00:50:26,774
There will be losses in his own life.
837
00:50:27,065 --> 00:50:29,145
It's not if, it's when.
838
00:50:32,779 --> 00:50:36,489
And this sets us up for the next piece
of this very strange odyssey...
839
00:50:38,535 --> 00:50:41,825
Where we're moving from aging
into mortality, into death.
840
00:50:57,304 --> 00:50:58,974
Good morning, residents.
841
00:50:59,347 --> 00:51:01,887
It's yet another beautiful day here
at Sunset Pines,
842
00:51:02,059 --> 00:51:03,889
where we live every day to the fullest.
843
00:51:05,395 --> 00:51:06,605
Theater Club is starting soon.
844
00:51:07,189 --> 00:51:10,399
And don't forget, there's bingo
in the village hall this evening.
845
00:51:13,737 --> 00:51:18,407
Oh, and we also want
to formally welcome Mr. Hemsworth,
846
00:51:18,742 --> 00:51:20,622
who's already settling right in.
847
00:51:23,705 --> 00:51:27,245
CHRIS: I feel quite immersed,
and at home in the experience now.
848
00:51:27,793 --> 00:51:30,593
And I'm just trying
to be constantly open to it.
849
00:51:31,546 --> 00:51:32,666
Makes me realize, you know,
850
00:51:32,756 --> 00:51:36,256
this-- this might not be
as bad as I thought it was gonna be.
851
00:51:44,935 --> 00:51:48,145
So here we are at the beginning
of day three, our final day,
852
00:51:48,855 --> 00:51:52,685
and we're moving now towards death,
mortality.
853
00:51:53,693 --> 00:51:54,783
-Hello.
-Hi.
854
00:51:54,945 --> 00:51:58,365
I wanted to introduce Chris
to my friend and colleague...
855
00:51:58,448 --> 00:52:03,448
Alua Arthur. And she works as,
what's called a death doula.
856
00:52:03,703 --> 00:52:05,623
Now tell me,
what exactly is a death doula?
857
00:52:05,789 --> 00:52:08,829
So, a death doula is somebody
who does all the non-medical care
858
00:52:08,917 --> 00:52:12,417
and support of the dying person
and the family through the process.
859
00:52:12,546 --> 00:52:14,876
We essentially walk people
toward the end of life.
860
00:52:15,048 --> 00:52:15,918
Wow.
861
00:52:16,007 --> 00:52:17,837
So, if you were talking a lot about
the end of life.
862
00:52:18,093 --> 00:52:19,973
Today, we're gonna talk
about your mortality.
863
00:52:20,137 --> 00:52:21,047
Okay.
864
00:52:21,138 --> 00:52:22,058
-Okay?
-Yeah.
865
00:52:22,139 --> 00:52:23,679
So we have a little exercise prepared
for you,
866
00:52:23,807 --> 00:52:25,137
a little bit of exposure therapy...
867
00:52:25,308 --> 00:52:26,558
-All right.
-...to get you ready for that.
868
00:52:26,726 --> 00:52:27,936
-Okay.
-You ready?
869
00:52:28,228 --> 00:52:29,938
-Yeah.
-Okay, let's go check it out.
870
00:52:33,567 --> 00:52:34,477
So, as you see,
871
00:52:34,609 --> 00:52:36,029
-we have a bunch of coffins here for you.
-Wow.
872
00:52:36,403 --> 00:52:38,033
Yeah, you have a chance
to take a look at them,
873
00:52:38,321 --> 00:52:40,451
see what you like,
see what you don't like.
874
00:52:40,532 --> 00:52:42,702
-I-- I have to choose one?
-Yeah, that'd be great.
875
00:52:42,826 --> 00:52:44,156
-Wow.
-You can do a little shopping,
876
00:52:44,327 --> 00:52:46,407
take a look around,
see what you're interested in,
877
00:52:46,580 --> 00:52:48,210
what you're drawn to.
878
00:52:48,623 --> 00:52:53,043
What an odd concept.
This is a little kind of dollhouse vibe.
879
00:52:53,545 --> 00:52:54,915
-It is.
-So I'll maybe not go there.
880
00:52:55,547 --> 00:52:56,667
-We have a beautiful...
-Yeah.
881
00:52:56,798 --> 00:52:57,878
...pine one here.
882
00:52:58,008 --> 00:53:01,138
All the sort of fancy timbers feel
a little bit of a waste, don't they?
883
00:53:01,386 --> 00:53:02,636
To bury those in the ground.
884
00:53:02,888 --> 00:53:05,678
Feels like that should be furniture
or something.
885
00:53:07,601 --> 00:53:10,561
Maybe cardboard. Compostable.
886
00:53:10,770 --> 00:53:12,110
Really economical too.
887
00:53:12,272 --> 00:53:13,522
-Yeah.
-They are totally compostable,
888
00:53:13,648 --> 00:53:15,068
-biodegradable.
-Yeah.
889
00:53:15,192 --> 00:53:16,282
Everything like that.
890
00:53:16,401 --> 00:53:19,651
I mean, I'm not gonna-- I'm not gonna
need much where I'm going, I guess.
891
00:53:22,490 --> 00:53:23,780
Breathes well?
892
00:53:23,950 --> 00:53:27,040
Breathes well, beautiful, natural,
Moses vibes.
893
00:53:27,245 --> 00:53:32,035
-Extra-large picnic basket. Good.
-Absolutely. Here we have a mahogany one.
894
00:53:32,417 --> 00:53:34,087
-Oh, yeah?
-Yeah, really beautiful.
895
00:53:34,211 --> 00:53:36,801
This one has been built specifically
for your body.
896
00:53:37,088 --> 00:53:38,798
Maybe you might wanna check it out,
get in it?
897
00:53:39,674 --> 00:53:40,974
-Yeah, cool.
-Ready?
898
00:53:41,176 --> 00:53:44,046
-Just jump straight in there, right?
-Yeah, take it easy.
899
00:53:51,186 --> 00:53:54,146
ALUA: My hope, in looking at the coffins
with Chris,
900
00:53:54,606 --> 00:53:58,856
is that he will connect to his own body
one day in those coffins.
901
00:53:59,110 --> 00:54:02,450
And so he starts to think
of his death itself.
902
00:54:02,697 --> 00:54:05,157
-Yeah, you already got the position down.
-Yeah, look at that.
903
00:54:05,325 --> 00:54:07,325
-Just like that.
-It's weird-- I feel like a vampire.
904
00:54:07,452 --> 00:54:09,542
-Yeah, well, close.
-Just going away for the...
905
00:54:10,372 --> 00:54:11,462
long night.
906
00:54:11,915 --> 00:54:13,495
-Also called death?
-Yeah.
907
00:54:15,085 --> 00:54:16,125
Yeah.
908
00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:20,590
-Done.
-Well...
909
00:54:21,383 --> 00:54:22,683
We're scared
about talking about death
910
00:54:22,759 --> 00:54:24,179
'cause it makes us really uncomfortable,
911
00:54:24,344 --> 00:54:25,764
like it's something wrong.
912
00:54:25,971 --> 00:54:31,641
Trees die, flowers die, animals die,
car batteries die, humans die.
913
00:54:33,186 --> 00:54:35,056
It was-- it was a strange experience,
wasn't it?
914
00:54:35,563 --> 00:54:36,903
What do you think of coffins generally?
915
00:54:37,482 --> 00:54:41,402
You-- I don't know, I kind of maybe
would prefer to be cremated, I guess.
916
00:54:42,570 --> 00:54:45,370
Rather than cocooned up
in some space,
917
00:54:45,532 --> 00:54:47,372
there's something sort of
claustrophobic about that thought.
918
00:54:47,575 --> 00:54:48,825
-Oh.
-Yeah.
919
00:54:49,035 --> 00:54:50,785
And maybe you could just--
you could throw me in the ocean
920
00:54:50,870 --> 00:54:52,790
and the sharks could have at me, and--
921
00:54:52,914 --> 00:54:54,424
-Throw your body in the ocean?
-Yeah.
922
00:54:54,874 --> 00:54:57,924
I'm curious about how you view
what happens after death.
923
00:54:58,461 --> 00:55:02,011
I don't know. I remember as a kid,
sort of lying awake at night,
924
00:55:02,090 --> 00:55:04,260
thinking about the idea of nothing,
925
00:55:04,426 --> 00:55:08,006
you know, and... poof... just that's it,
you know, forever...
926
00:55:08,221 --> 00:55:09,681
-Yeah.
-...you know? And not just forever,
927
00:55:09,764 --> 00:55:11,274
-but forever, forever, forever, you know?
-Forever.
928
00:55:11,391 --> 00:55:13,771
And it used to kinda--
And it'd, like, keep me up.
929
00:55:13,935 --> 00:55:15,515
You know, it was this, like,
930
00:55:16,354 --> 00:55:17,944
just that complete empty, nothing,
931
00:55:18,231 --> 00:55:19,651
gone kind of idea.
932
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:21,690
Scared the hell out of me.
933
00:55:21,818 --> 00:55:24,068
The reality is, as we know,
that it could be at any point in time...
934
00:55:24,195 --> 00:55:25,735
-Yeah.
-...right? You know, often people
935
00:55:25,822 --> 00:55:28,662
think about the end of life
as some faraway notion.
936
00:55:29,034 --> 00:55:31,204
Like it's something that happens
out there, over there
937
00:55:31,328 --> 00:55:33,408
and it comes far sooner
than most people are ready for,
938
00:55:33,663 --> 00:55:38,593
which is why opportunities like this one,
to be present to mortality, is so useful.
939
00:55:39,836 --> 00:55:42,126
What would you say the biggest thing
you've learned
940
00:55:42,339 --> 00:55:44,469
through talking to people
at the end of their days?
941
00:55:49,512 --> 00:55:52,142
Being with somebody
942
00:55:52,599 --> 00:55:54,679
as they have just stopped breathing,
943
00:55:55,185 --> 00:55:57,435
to feel the incredible stillness
in the room
944
00:55:57,562 --> 00:55:59,062
after life has just left a body,
945
00:55:59,814 --> 00:56:02,864
is the most simple, yet the most profound.
946
00:56:03,276 --> 00:56:06,816
In that life really does hang
on a single breath.
947
00:56:07,238 --> 00:56:09,198
It's there one minute
and then it's gone the next.
948
00:56:09,699 --> 00:56:12,909
And when it's gone,
it reminds me that I still have
949
00:56:13,036 --> 00:56:17,246
the capacity to breathe, and to live,
and to be engaged, and to love,
950
00:56:17,332 --> 00:56:18,882
and to laugh, and to...
951
00:56:19,084 --> 00:56:21,094
be joyful,
and to wear color, and to...
952
00:56:21,252 --> 00:56:23,342
-Yeah, yeah.
-...hug, and, you know, dance,
953
00:56:23,505 --> 00:56:25,465
and to live, to live.
954
00:56:25,757 --> 00:56:26,667
Yeah.
955
00:56:27,300 --> 00:56:28,390
That's beautiful.
956
00:56:30,136 --> 00:56:32,846
Later on, today, we're gonna do
a death-bed meditation.
957
00:56:33,056 --> 00:56:34,926
-Mm.
-Get you closer to your death.
958
00:56:35,225 --> 00:56:37,555
Okay, great.
959
00:56:37,977 --> 00:56:40,357
For now, there's somebody
I want you to meet before we do that.
960
00:56:40,772 --> 00:56:41,652
-Okay.
-You ready?
961
00:56:41,815 --> 00:56:42,765
-Yeah.
-Let's go.
962
00:56:46,194 --> 00:56:49,284
One of the benefits for somebody
as young and as vital as Chris
963
00:56:49,406 --> 00:56:53,696
to be talking and thinking about death
is that it really does drive home
964
00:56:53,868 --> 00:56:57,288
the conversation that this is possible
for anybody at any time.
965
00:56:58,498 --> 00:56:59,918
-Natalie.
-Hello, Chris.
966
00:57:00,792 --> 00:57:04,052
But that young people also become sick.
967
00:57:05,046 --> 00:57:06,706
Saw you in art class the other day.
968
00:57:06,965 --> 00:57:07,965
Yeah. Hi.
969
00:57:08,174 --> 00:57:10,554
Hi. Alua said that we should speak.
970
00:57:10,844 --> 00:57:13,764
Yeah. Well, I'm here to tell you
about my experience
971
00:57:13,847 --> 00:57:14,757
with stage-four cancer.
972
00:57:15,598 --> 00:57:18,938
And to be honest, I don't know
how much time I have left.
973
00:57:19,644 --> 00:57:20,904
I'm 27 now.
974
00:57:21,271 --> 00:57:25,611
But when I was 20,
I was diagnosed with stage-three melanoma.
975
00:57:26,568 --> 00:57:28,818
It got into my lymph nodes.
976
00:57:29,112 --> 00:57:30,912
And so, surgery was my only option.
977
00:57:30,989 --> 00:57:34,119
So, they cut off my toe,
they got rid of all my lymph nodes.
978
00:57:34,325 --> 00:57:37,325
And for a 20-year-old, you can imagine,
your life got turned upside-down.
979
00:57:37,787 --> 00:57:39,037
-Yeah.
-And...
980
00:57:39,664 --> 00:57:42,964
from there on, I have thought
about death every single day of my life.
981
00:57:45,795 --> 00:57:49,755
No one at 20 expects to be diagnosed
with cancer.
982
00:57:51,968 --> 00:57:55,428
No one prepares you
for a diagnosis like that.
983
00:57:56,097 --> 00:57:59,677
And especially, like, the effects
it has on your family,
984
00:57:59,767 --> 00:58:03,437
and your friends,
and my whole world changed, pretty much,
985
00:58:03,813 --> 00:58:05,363
like, overnight.
986
00:58:09,736 --> 00:58:11,816
Cancer became my overall identity.
987
00:58:14,240 --> 00:58:16,450
Essentially,
I was referred to as the sick one.
988
00:58:17,577 --> 00:58:20,327
For a little while there,
I was-- I was really lost.
989
00:58:20,872 --> 00:58:23,792
And I needed to find that person
who I once was before.
990
00:58:23,958 --> 00:58:25,248
Yeah.
991
00:58:26,878 --> 00:58:29,048
NATALIE:
And so, off I went, I went to Venice.
992
00:58:29,172 --> 00:58:34,472
Not to run away, more to be in a place
where no one knew my story,
993
00:58:34,594 --> 00:58:39,524
so I could truly figure out myself
and how to live alongside this cancer.
994
00:58:40,850 --> 00:58:43,940
And I met a boy, I fell in love.
995
00:58:47,815 --> 00:58:49,975
And he just saw me for me,
which was, honestly,
996
00:58:50,193 --> 00:58:51,283
really, really beautiful.
997
00:58:56,366 --> 00:58:59,786
Alexander is genuine and kind.
998
00:59:00,245 --> 00:59:03,285
And I've often referred to him
as my oak tree.
999
00:59:05,250 --> 00:59:09,380
He's the person who's just
standing steadfast and he keeps me steady.
1000
00:59:13,299 --> 00:59:16,719
When you have cancer,
you don't know if you can be loved.
1001
00:59:17,387 --> 00:59:20,847
And your relationship with love
and yourself...
1002
00:59:23,184 --> 00:59:24,564
pretty much goes out of the window.
1003
00:59:25,478 --> 00:59:26,898
Love is the most
1004
00:59:28,273 --> 00:59:29,863
amazing thing that we have,
1005
00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:32,360
and that we can experience in this world.
1006
00:59:32,694 --> 00:59:35,574
And the fact that I get
to experience his love, you know...
1007
00:59:36,823 --> 00:59:39,583
he makes me so happy.
1008
00:59:40,285 --> 00:59:41,445
And these are happy tears.
1009
00:59:42,912 --> 00:59:47,542
But three months into our love story,
I came home,
1010
00:59:47,667 --> 00:59:52,257
and I had a routine scan, and they told me
that the cancer was back in my lungs.
1011
00:59:52,839 --> 00:59:54,299
And now, I was stage four.
1012
00:59:55,675 --> 00:59:57,005
So, I told him.
1013
00:59:57,594 --> 00:59:59,304
And then I said,
"I'm breaking up with you."
1014
00:59:59,804 --> 01:00:01,814
And he just turned around
1015
01:00:01,889 --> 01:00:04,679
and was like, "No."
And he was like,
1016
01:00:06,352 --> 01:00:07,602
"I'm in this."
1017
01:00:09,814 --> 01:00:12,824
And he says, "I choose all the time
with you that I have.
1018
01:00:13,526 --> 01:00:15,946
It doesn't matter if it's long,
if it's short.
1019
01:00:16,863 --> 01:00:18,163
Well, I choose you."
1020
01:00:24,954 --> 01:00:28,544
It's probably because of my diagnosis
of the way that I look at time.
1021
01:00:29,959 --> 01:00:32,589
The time that anybody has
is so precious.
1022
01:00:32,795 --> 01:00:38,715
So, if you just dive in headfirst,
and use whatever time that you have
1023
01:00:38,801 --> 01:00:42,601
because nobody knows their timelines.
So, we're just going to love each other.
1024
01:00:44,223 --> 01:00:45,983
And we're gonna love each other
no matter what.
1025
01:00:46,643 --> 01:00:48,233
No matter how much time we have left.
1026
01:00:50,521 --> 01:00:52,611
You know,
we talked about acceptance.
1027
01:00:53,274 --> 01:00:58,534
How are you with-- with acceptance?
With that word or with the idea of it?
1028
01:00:58,946 --> 01:01:02,156
I've thought about death every single day
for the past seven years.
1029
01:01:02,825 --> 01:01:04,575
Have I accepted my mortality?
1030
01:01:05,620 --> 01:01:06,790
Yes and no.
1031
01:01:08,748 --> 01:01:12,338
I think people have
a very funny relationship with aging,
1032
01:01:12,502 --> 01:01:13,422
they get really scared of it.
1033
01:01:14,045 --> 01:01:16,625
But in truth, I would love to age.
1034
01:01:16,798 --> 01:01:18,718
I would love nothing more
than to get old,
1035
01:01:19,133 --> 01:01:20,433
and I think that's a gift.
1036
01:01:25,223 --> 01:01:27,643
We're all-- we're all gonna die one day.
1037
01:01:27,934 --> 01:01:31,524
So, you have to really live life
as much as like you can and enjoy it.
1038
01:01:32,438 --> 01:01:34,478
To soak up every single moment.
1039
01:01:35,149 --> 01:01:36,319
-Yeah.
-Yeah.
1040
01:01:41,447 --> 01:01:43,317
NATALIE:
Your life could end at any time.
1041
01:01:43,825 --> 01:01:46,825
So just enjoy life, enjoy time,
1042
01:01:47,787 --> 01:01:48,997
make the most of it.
1043
01:01:49,539 --> 01:01:51,459
And love as much as you can.
1044
01:02:10,643 --> 01:02:13,813
CHRIS: This is a heartbreaking experience,
talking to Natalie
1045
01:02:14,605 --> 01:02:16,815
and listening to her story and-- and...
1046
01:02:18,025 --> 01:02:19,235
hearing someone...
1047
01:02:20,445 --> 01:02:23,195
talk with such grace and-- and maturity
1048
01:02:24,240 --> 01:02:27,410
about something so, so uncertain is,
1049
01:02:28,119 --> 01:02:29,199
is really inspiring.
1050
01:02:45,386 --> 01:02:46,546
-Hello.
-Good to see you.
1051
01:02:46,679 --> 01:02:48,139
-How are you?
-I'm great, man.
1052
01:02:49,515 --> 01:02:50,805
How was your chat with Natalie?
1053
01:02:51,142 --> 01:02:52,982
Yeah, an incredible individual.
1054
01:02:53,060 --> 01:02:54,020
Could you feel that--
1055
01:02:54,687 --> 01:02:57,317
this idea
that there-- tomorrow isn't guaranteed?
1056
01:02:57,482 --> 01:02:58,442
Yeah.
1057
01:02:58,775 --> 01:03:01,525
There's no certainty around that at all.
Do you feel that?
1058
01:03:01,944 --> 01:03:03,154
Absolutely. Yeah.
1059
01:03:03,321 --> 01:03:04,611
There was this sort of...
1060
01:03:05,114 --> 01:03:07,284
essential need to,
sort of, shake the world
1061
01:03:07,450 --> 01:03:10,290
and get this message out
and say, "Do not mess around,
1062
01:03:10,411 --> 01:03:11,621
do not take it for granted.
1063
01:03:12,246 --> 01:03:13,246
Soak up every moment."
1064
01:03:13,372 --> 01:03:15,712
And that is sort of the running theme
I've sort of felt with people.
1065
01:03:15,917 --> 01:03:17,287
Yeah, it's also to kinda...
1066
01:03:17,877 --> 01:03:18,747
weave together
1067
01:03:19,086 --> 01:03:21,206
in a sort of-- a-- a better understanding
of it all.
1068
01:03:21,798 --> 01:03:22,878
So,
1069
01:03:23,341 --> 01:03:27,601
we have come to the end of the--
of your time at Sunset Pines, brother.
1070
01:03:28,095 --> 01:03:31,635
All that's left for you to do
is walk through that door.
1071
01:03:32,934 --> 01:03:34,144
And...
1072
01:03:35,019 --> 01:03:38,019
whatever you find there,
just go with it.
1073
01:03:38,356 --> 01:03:39,266
Okay.
1074
01:03:42,109 --> 01:03:45,069
This is the boldest part
of this whole experiment.
1075
01:03:46,697 --> 01:03:48,407
Thanks, brother.
1076
01:03:48,658 --> 01:03:51,368
We are going to push
our immersive theater
1077
01:03:51,494 --> 01:03:52,624
to its limits.
1078
01:03:53,287 --> 01:03:54,367
All right.
1079
01:04:04,257 --> 01:04:05,417
We're gonna get you to the hospital.
1080
01:04:06,175 --> 01:04:08,335
Cardiac arrest, 180 over 120.
1081
01:04:08,719 --> 01:04:09,639
Let's go, let's go.
1082
01:04:11,681 --> 01:04:12,891
Oxygen running. Breathe deep.
1083
01:04:18,104 --> 01:04:19,234
Chris, Chris!
1084
01:04:19,397 --> 01:04:21,647
-Chris, can you hear me?
-I'm not getting a pulse. Get clear.
1085
01:04:21,732 --> 01:04:23,442
-Clothing clear.
1086
01:04:41,252 --> 01:04:43,962
-That was intense, huh?
-Yeah, very strange.
1087
01:04:44,213 --> 01:04:45,843
-Quite the experience.
-It was-- Yeah, yeah.
1088
01:04:45,923 --> 01:04:47,513
Well, you know if you're seeing me
at this point,
1089
01:04:47,592 --> 01:04:49,512
things probably didn't go according
to plan.
1090
01:04:49,760 --> 01:04:50,890
Yeah.
1091
01:04:51,178 --> 01:04:53,098
So, we're going to do
the death meditation now.
1092
01:04:53,472 --> 01:04:57,272
The intention for this meditation
is to bring you into greater awareness
1093
01:04:57,643 --> 01:05:01,023
of the end of your life
and also to create renewed engagement
1094
01:05:01,105 --> 01:05:02,935
-with life as it is.
-Yeah.
1095
01:05:03,232 --> 01:05:04,862
So, you can begin by closing your eyes.
1096
01:05:08,446 --> 01:05:10,026
And now take a deep breath in.
1097
01:05:12,408 --> 01:05:14,988
Repeat to yourself,
"My death is inevitable."
1098
01:05:15,703 --> 01:05:16,833
"My death is inevitable."
1099
01:05:16,996 --> 01:05:19,206
On the out-breath, "I too will die."
1100
01:05:19,624 --> 01:05:21,084
"I too will die."
1101
01:05:27,048 --> 01:05:28,798
ALUA: We're going
to take you on a journey.
1102
01:05:29,467 --> 01:05:32,257
Everyone you've met
and everything you've done
1103
01:05:32,553 --> 01:05:34,063
has been leading to this.
1104
01:05:38,059 --> 01:05:39,439
On the in-breath,
1105
01:05:40,978 --> 01:05:43,438
-you will grow old.
-You will grow old.
1106
01:05:45,149 --> 01:05:48,359
And on the out-breath, repeat,
"Your body will fail."
1107
01:05:49,028 --> 01:05:50,698
CHRIS: Your body will fail.
1108
01:05:55,284 --> 01:05:57,914
Once you've learned to accept
1109
01:05:59,664 --> 01:06:04,504
you can actually find something
even deeper and more valuable.
1110
01:06:23,145 --> 01:06:26,935
On the in-breath,
"You will lose the people you love."
1111
01:06:27,066 --> 01:06:29,606
AISEA: "You will lose
the people you love."
1112
01:06:30,027 --> 01:06:32,237
You will lose the people you love.
1113
01:06:33,239 --> 01:06:37,659
And on the out-breath,
repeat... "Grief is beautiful."
1114
01:06:37,743 --> 01:06:39,453
AISEA: Grief is beautiful.
1115
01:06:44,500 --> 01:06:49,460
ALUA: On the in-breath,
"Your life could end at any time."
1116
01:06:49,547 --> 01:06:51,127
NATALIE: Your life could end at any time.
1117
01:06:51,298 --> 01:06:53,178
Your life could end at any time.
1118
01:06:53,801 --> 01:06:55,591
-ALUA: "You too, will die."
-NATALIE: "You, too, will die."
1119
01:06:55,970 --> 01:06:57,220
You, too, will die.
1120
01:07:01,892 --> 01:07:03,692
He is my oak tree.
1121
01:07:07,940 --> 01:07:09,820
Just enjoy time...
1122
01:07:12,486 --> 01:07:14,526
And love as much as you can.
1123
01:07:27,418 --> 01:07:30,708
As you see yourself on your deathbed
now in your mind's eye,
1124
01:07:32,423 --> 01:07:35,053
look closely at who is surrounding
your bedside.
1125
01:07:36,552 --> 01:07:38,102
Who is holding your hand?
1126
01:07:43,100 --> 01:07:45,060
Your body is weakening...
1127
01:07:47,063 --> 01:07:48,653
and you're beginning to dissolve.
1128
01:07:57,948 --> 01:07:59,908
Release attachment to Elsa.
1129
01:08:07,708 --> 01:08:09,708
Release attachment to your children.
1130
01:08:16,050 --> 01:08:18,180
Your loved ones cannot save you.
1131
01:08:24,934 --> 01:08:26,854
You will create no new memories.
1132
01:08:31,232 --> 01:08:32,572
Now you surrender...
1133
01:08:33,734 --> 01:08:35,654
and release into death.
1134
01:08:42,409 --> 01:08:46,999
And you find yourself gaining acceptance
that one day your life will end.
1135
01:08:49,500 --> 01:08:50,960
You may open your eyes
1136
01:08:51,585 --> 01:08:52,955
and blow out this candle.
1137
01:09:31,417 --> 01:09:32,997
-Hello.
-Hey.
1138
01:09:33,252 --> 01:09:34,672
Hey! Come here.
1139
01:09:35,045 --> 01:09:36,375
Yeah, come on.
1140
01:09:39,425 --> 01:09:41,175
Come on. Have a seat.
1141
01:09:42,761 --> 01:09:43,931
Either way.
1142
01:09:50,352 --> 01:09:52,612
Another unique experience.
1143
01:09:52,771 --> 01:09:53,941
How was it? How'd you find it?
1144
01:09:54,899 --> 01:09:57,189
It felt really peaceful.
It just felt...
1145
01:09:57,818 --> 01:10:00,198
It didn't feel intimidating,
1146
01:10:00,321 --> 01:10:04,531
it felt sort of like I was off floating
down a river or something, you know?
1147
01:10:05,743 --> 01:10:08,703
Onto the next place, wherever that was.
And...
1148
01:10:09,455 --> 01:10:10,325
It's just--
1149
01:10:10,456 --> 01:10:13,826
When you said, "Think of the place
you'd be or you wanna be.
1150
01:10:13,959 --> 01:10:16,049
Who would be around you
when you're dying, when it's happening."
1151
01:10:16,795 --> 01:10:19,005
And I was just imagining myself
in my living room with all my family
1152
01:10:19,173 --> 01:10:20,343
and friends around and--
1153
01:10:20,841 --> 01:10:22,381
and then it sort of struck me,
I was like,
1154
01:10:23,135 --> 01:10:25,175
"This is what I have
all the time." Like...
1155
01:10:25,346 --> 01:10:27,216
-how lucky I am, you know?
-Right on.
1156
01:10:27,473 --> 01:10:28,853
-Yeah, absolutely.
-Yeah.
1157
01:10:30,100 --> 01:10:33,230
It's a very familiar place
and experience for me.
1158
01:10:34,063 --> 01:10:37,273
And it doesn't feel lonely at all,
it feels...
1159
01:10:40,569 --> 01:10:41,949
it feels like any other Sunday,
1160
01:10:44,406 --> 01:10:46,366
when I'm surrounded by loved ones.
1161
01:10:48,494 --> 01:10:50,754
Oh, the-- the conversation
we'd have in the last couple of days
1162
01:10:51,080 --> 01:10:55,000
about, you know, just feeling
like I've been missing things
1163
01:10:55,167 --> 01:10:56,957
or doing too much,
and I just had a moment of
1164
01:10:57,836 --> 01:10:58,876
kind of calm and...
1165
01:10:59,880 --> 01:11:01,470
pause about it all,
and thought,
1166
01:11:02,466 --> 01:11:04,756
it's-- it's all great,
sure I can do things differently,
1167
01:11:04,843 --> 01:11:09,223
but not to look at anything past
as it having been a mistake
1168
01:11:09,390 --> 01:11:10,680
or being done wrong.
1169
01:11:10,808 --> 01:11:13,388
And then, that sort
of strange parallel with
1170
01:11:14,144 --> 01:11:15,854
this idea of acceptance of death
1171
01:11:16,105 --> 01:11:19,105
and letting go, and also with life
and letting go,
1172
01:11:19,650 --> 01:11:22,190
and doesn't mean you let go
of the steering wheel completely,
1173
01:11:22,278 --> 01:11:26,278
but just kind of enjoying the ride
and enjoying the view, you know?
1174
01:11:27,032 --> 01:11:30,542
There's something very peaceful
about that-- that acceptance.
1175
01:11:30,744 --> 01:11:33,254
And maybe it's fun the circle back
to this Sunset Pines.
1176
01:11:33,414 --> 01:11:37,134
This sort of, what feels maybe
like a tacky tagline.
1177
01:11:37,543 --> 01:11:39,593
"Sunset Pines, where we live
every day to the fullest."
1178
01:11:39,712 --> 01:11:43,342
-But the clue is in that title all along.
-Yeah.
1179
01:11:47,428 --> 01:11:49,558
Welcome, Mr. Hemsworth,
to Sunset Pines,
1180
01:11:49,722 --> 01:11:51,182
where we live every day to the fullest.
1181
01:11:51,432 --> 01:11:54,732
Welcome to Sunset Pines,
where we live every day to the fullest.
1182
01:11:54,935 --> 01:11:57,975
Welcome to Sunset Pines,
where we live every day to the fullest.
1183
01:11:58,188 --> 01:11:59,108
Thank you.
1184
01:12:01,066 --> 01:12:03,316
Hello.
1185
01:12:03,819 --> 01:12:07,489
That was the real instruction.
"Live every day to the fullest."
1186
01:12:07,906 --> 01:12:09,616
-You all right?
-You all right?
1187
01:12:10,159 --> 01:12:11,159
How was it?
1188
01:12:11,368 --> 01:12:13,288
It was awesome.
It's pretty-- pretty special.
1189
01:12:13,537 --> 01:12:15,287
You can do it. It only takes three days.
1190
01:12:15,456 --> 01:12:16,916
-Yeah, yeah.
1191
01:12:17,541 --> 01:12:20,791
BJ: We tend to treat life as this right
that we have.
1192
01:12:21,337 --> 01:12:23,257
And that by virtue of being born,
1193
01:12:23,380 --> 01:12:26,220
we have a right to life,
we have a right to a tomorrow.
1194
01:12:26,717 --> 01:12:28,507
No. Life is a gift.
1195
01:12:28,802 --> 01:12:30,642
Another day is a gift.
1196
01:12:30,929 --> 01:12:33,349
-Before you go, can you sign my picture?
-Sure.
1197
01:12:36,101 --> 01:12:40,111
A full life is one that includes death,
includes pain.
1198
01:12:41,482 --> 01:12:44,902
But if we can be grateful
for yet another minute
1199
01:12:44,985 --> 01:12:47,985
on this beautiful, crazy
planet. Imagine that.
1200
01:12:50,991 --> 01:12:52,741
Hey!
1201
01:13:00,084 --> 01:13:02,464
-This is my oak tree.
1202
01:13:03,045 --> 01:13:04,705
-Indy, quick, quick, quick.
-Life doesn't come
1203
01:13:04,963 --> 01:13:05,963
at some point in the future,
1204
01:13:06,131 --> 01:13:09,051
when you finally find that person,
or lose that weight,
1205
01:13:09,134 --> 01:13:12,724
or stop working so much,
or get that job, or whatever it is,
1206
01:13:12,846 --> 01:13:15,136
it's happening right now. You're in it.
1207
01:13:15,432 --> 01:13:16,352
You're living it.
1208
01:13:16,517 --> 01:13:17,727
-Thank you, buddy.
-All right, see you.
1209
01:13:17,851 --> 01:13:19,851
The truth is
that we're not limitless.
1210
01:13:19,937 --> 01:13:20,807
Thanks, guys.
1211
01:13:20,938 --> 01:13:23,398
This experience has come
at the right time for me.
1212
01:13:23,524 --> 01:13:26,694
At a time in my life where I really
wanna focus on what matters.
1213
01:13:32,074 --> 01:13:33,494
And it all matters.
1214
01:13:35,327 --> 01:13:36,367
Every moment.
1215
01:13:37,913 --> 01:13:40,923
Every smile. Every tear.
1216
01:13:41,458 --> 01:13:43,588
-Daddy!
-Every kiss.
1217
01:13:44,128 --> 01:13:45,998
-All of it.
1218
01:13:47,923 --> 01:13:49,223
This has brought you joy?
1219
01:13:49,425 --> 01:13:50,715
-Absolutely.
-Excellent.
1220
01:13:51,510 --> 01:13:52,890
-Hey, Chris!
1221
01:13:54,930 --> 01:13:57,180
Living my longest, healthiest,
happiest life.
1222
01:13:57,349 --> 01:13:59,599
That's gonna be the work
of a lifetime.
1223
01:14:03,939 --> 01:14:05,189
Tell you what. That's a wrap.
1224
01:14:08,318 --> 01:14:09,698
Well done, everybody.
1225
01:14:10,487 --> 01:14:11,697
Jake, cut!