1 00:00:06,049 --> 00:00:07,383 ["Back Of My Mind" playing] 2 00:00:07,467 --> 00:00:10,178 ♪ Feelings comes and words are said ♪ 3 00:00:10,344 --> 00:00:13,222 ♪ Forgiveness lingers with the dead ♪ 4 00:00:13,389 --> 00:00:17,810 ♪ But will we ever rise up From this grave ♪ 5 00:00:18,519 --> 00:00:21,272 ♪ I'm hearing a love song ♪ 6 00:00:21,981 --> 00:00:24,192 ♪ In the back of my mind ♪ 7 00:00:25,568 --> 00:00:27,195 [Mark] I've been engaged for 10 days, 8 00:00:27,278 --> 00:00:28,529 and finding somebody 9 00:00:28,613 --> 00:00:30,531 that truly fell in love with me 10 00:00:30,615 --> 00:00:32,283 for me on the inside, 11 00:00:32,408 --> 00:00:34,535 and then coming into the real world 12 00:00:34,619 --> 00:00:37,497 and fighting all these external battles, 13 00:00:37,872 --> 00:00:40,041 it, it really has shown me that 14 00:00:40,124 --> 00:00:43,377 this society today is very superficial 15 00:00:43,461 --> 00:00:46,422 in age, race, creed, color, 16 00:00:46,506 --> 00:00:48,549 uh, social status, money... 17 00:00:48,633 --> 00:00:51,010 There's a connection between two people, 18 00:00:51,094 --> 00:00:55,181 but one person is letting all this external stuff affect that love, 19 00:00:55,264 --> 00:00:57,642 and it's kind of sad. 20 00:00:58,226 --> 00:01:00,019 -How are you feeling? -Mm. 21 00:01:01,354 --> 00:01:04,273 [sighs] Well, a little not good. 22 00:01:04,357 --> 00:01:05,650 Drank too much. 23 00:01:06,734 --> 00:01:08,820 -Yeah, I didn't-- -Sorry. It was totally my bad. 24 00:01:08,903 --> 00:01:12,406 Waking up this morning, I know I overstepped my bounds last night. 25 00:01:12,490 --> 00:01:13,324 I... 26 00:01:14,117 --> 00:01:14,951 overdrank. 27 00:01:15,034 --> 00:01:17,537 I definitely said some things I didn't really mean. 28 00:01:17,870 --> 00:01:19,914 I'm disappointed in myself about that, 29 00:01:19,997 --> 00:01:23,835 and definitely did not act according to my character 30 00:01:23,918 --> 00:01:27,672 or any way that I wanna portray myself to my fiancé. 31 00:01:27,755 --> 00:01:28,923 You threw a couple wild cards, 32 00:01:29,006 --> 00:01:30,925 and I'm just like, "What are you talking about?" 33 00:01:31,008 --> 00:01:32,969 I know. I don't even know where that came from. 34 00:01:34,303 --> 00:01:37,265 -[Mark] Yeah, and that's another thing-- -My bad. That's not cool. 35 00:01:37,348 --> 00:01:38,516 [Mark] If you were sober, 36 00:01:38,599 --> 00:01:40,560 and you're throwing something in my face like that, 37 00:01:40,643 --> 00:01:41,727 I would probably walk out. 38 00:01:43,187 --> 00:01:45,356 Like, last night, I understood the situation, 39 00:01:45,439 --> 00:01:47,150 -what was kind of happening... -[Jessica] Uh-huh. 40 00:01:47,233 --> 00:01:48,568 and the alcohol that was involved. 41 00:01:48,860 --> 00:01:50,820 That's, you know, something I gotta do better at, 42 00:01:50,903 --> 00:01:53,239 just knowing when to cut myself off and not... 43 00:01:55,199 --> 00:01:56,367 get to that level. 44 00:01:56,450 --> 00:01:58,161 [Mark] I'm not holding anything against you. 45 00:01:59,245 --> 00:02:02,540 [Mark voice-over] I'm still here because I see how she looks at me. 46 00:02:02,623 --> 00:02:04,584 She's just fighting with herself. 47 00:02:04,667 --> 00:02:08,296 I think we're both very intelligent people that we can just... 48 00:02:09,088 --> 00:02:10,506 -We can work through it. -Yeah. 49 00:02:11,382 --> 00:02:12,925 You know what I'm saying? I'm not upset. 50 00:02:14,093 --> 00:02:15,011 Okay, good. 51 00:02:17,138 --> 00:02:19,015 Thanks for being so understanding and... 52 00:02:21,100 --> 00:02:22,643 still being here in the morning. 53 00:02:31,194 --> 00:02:32,612 ["Secrets" playing] 54 00:03:00,473 --> 00:03:01,641 [Giannina] Come hang out with me. 55 00:03:02,475 --> 00:03:03,392 Please. 56 00:03:03,935 --> 00:03:05,102 [Damian] I just need a minute. 57 00:03:10,566 --> 00:03:11,776 I don't wanna... 58 00:03:12,777 --> 00:03:13,736 leave 59 00:03:14,362 --> 00:03:15,363 on a weird note. 60 00:03:22,870 --> 00:03:24,205 So, tell me... 61 00:03:25,248 --> 00:03:26,249 [sighs] 62 00:03:26,958 --> 00:03:28,000 what do we do now? 63 00:03:29,752 --> 00:03:32,421 Well, it's hard, G, because, I mean, things get heated. 64 00:03:32,505 --> 00:03:33,881 I don't like how it's handled. 65 00:03:34,215 --> 00:03:35,800 -[Giannina] Like, me yelling? -Yeah. 66 00:03:37,260 --> 00:03:39,011 [Giannina] I come from a loud family. 67 00:03:39,095 --> 00:03:41,764 We fight a lot. When we fight, we yell. 68 00:03:42,348 --> 00:03:44,267 We all yell, so it's normal. 69 00:03:44,350 --> 00:03:46,185 It's not normal to Damian. He doesn't yell. 70 00:03:46,269 --> 00:03:48,271 Okay, I won't yell at you. 71 00:03:48,354 --> 00:03:50,314 But when I'm at my wit's end, 72 00:03:50,398 --> 00:03:53,109 everything immediately becomes self-sabotage, 73 00:03:53,442 --> 00:03:56,153 partly because I just didn't know how to communicate 74 00:03:56,237 --> 00:03:58,489 things that were really bothering me. 75 00:03:59,073 --> 00:03:59,949 Right now. 76 00:04:00,533 --> 00:04:03,995 This whole process, it's everything sped up, 77 00:04:04,078 --> 00:04:05,204 including... 78 00:04:06,455 --> 00:04:07,748 the honeymoon stage. 79 00:04:09,041 --> 00:04:10,376 You know how you tell me 80 00:04:11,377 --> 00:04:12,962 this is the best sex of your life? 81 00:04:14,588 --> 00:04:15,840 Have you noticed 82 00:04:16,382 --> 00:04:18,259 that I don't return the compliment? 83 00:04:21,178 --> 00:04:23,639 I don't say, "It's the best sex of my life, too." 84 00:04:23,723 --> 00:04:25,641 [dramatic percussion punch] 85 00:04:29,520 --> 00:04:30,980 I said that one time, 86 00:04:31,063 --> 00:04:32,773 and also you did say, 87 00:04:32,857 --> 00:04:34,942 "Wow! That was amazing. That was great." 88 00:04:35,026 --> 00:04:36,569 Every time, "That was really good." 89 00:04:36,944 --> 00:04:39,905 [Giannina] It's great, but it's not fucking mind-blowing. 90 00:04:39,989 --> 00:04:41,907 And the thing that states differently 91 00:04:42,575 --> 00:04:44,660 is I've never initiated with you. 92 00:04:44,744 --> 00:04:46,245 You've always initiated it with me. 93 00:04:46,329 --> 00:04:49,498 That's the problem! Thank you so much! 94 00:04:49,582 --> 00:04:51,459 Why? Why don't you initiate it? 95 00:04:51,542 --> 00:04:52,793 Why don't you seduce me? 96 00:04:53,711 --> 00:04:57,006 Even though I jump on you every freaking second, 97 00:04:57,089 --> 00:04:59,550 why don't you just look at me 98 00:04:59,633 --> 00:05:01,344 and take it? 99 00:05:04,055 --> 00:05:05,765 I don't understand it. 100 00:05:05,848 --> 00:05:07,683 -It's-- -Why can't you just seduce me? 101 00:05:07,767 --> 00:05:10,519 It's because you connect and disconnect with me so bad that... 102 00:05:10,603 --> 00:05:12,772 To you, it's sex. To me, it's not. 103 00:05:12,855 --> 00:05:14,732 No, to me, it's not just sex. 104 00:05:14,815 --> 00:05:17,234 If it was just sex, then I would have sex with everyone. 105 00:05:17,318 --> 00:05:18,152 I don't. 106 00:05:18,694 --> 00:05:19,779 I chose you. 107 00:05:19,862 --> 00:05:22,782 Yeah, but the difference is you say, "Hey, I don't love you anymore. 108 00:05:22,865 --> 00:05:25,159 I don't feel it with you. Hey, let's have sex. 109 00:05:25,242 --> 00:05:28,579 Hey, we just had a massive fight in front of all of our friends. 110 00:05:28,662 --> 00:05:29,747 Fuck this! Fuck me." 111 00:05:30,289 --> 00:05:31,290 And that's what it always. 112 00:05:31,374 --> 00:05:33,459 It's always after we have an argument, aggressive discussion. 113 00:05:33,542 --> 00:05:34,377 I mean, it can't... 114 00:05:34,460 --> 00:05:36,253 Because then we make up. 115 00:05:36,337 --> 00:05:39,382 You're saying that I like to have angry sex. 116 00:05:39,465 --> 00:05:41,092 No, I'm not saying that. What I'm saying is 117 00:05:41,175 --> 00:05:43,469 you put an emotional roller coaster, and that's why I don't initiate it. 118 00:05:43,552 --> 00:05:45,429 When those thing happen consecutively, 119 00:05:45,513 --> 00:05:48,224 and you make it a consistent change all the time 120 00:05:48,307 --> 00:05:51,310 with your attitude and personality, I don't know when you're up or down. 121 00:05:52,770 --> 00:05:55,856 You know where passion comes for me, and where strong love comes for me, 122 00:05:55,940 --> 00:05:59,360 and great sex is when we can have a good fucking day, G. 123 00:05:59,819 --> 00:06:02,488 You don't have to take a great moment and crush it with something, 124 00:06:02,571 --> 00:06:04,907 because you feel like it's going too good. 125 00:06:08,744 --> 00:06:10,788 Do I give you butterflies, Damian? 126 00:06:11,872 --> 00:06:12,915 Not right now. 127 00:06:14,625 --> 00:06:16,168 I lost my butterflies. 128 00:06:19,046 --> 00:06:21,048 And I've been trying to get them back. 129 00:06:22,675 --> 00:06:24,635 So you're not in love with me anymore. 130 00:06:30,266 --> 00:06:32,017 I don't know. 131 00:06:33,769 --> 00:06:35,729 Because I have been feeling so up and down, 132 00:06:35,813 --> 00:06:37,731 and so in love and then so out of it. 133 00:06:39,483 --> 00:06:40,526 Do you understand? 134 00:06:42,903 --> 00:06:43,779 I don't. 135 00:06:54,832 --> 00:06:55,875 [sighs] 136 00:06:57,042 --> 00:06:58,669 That's it. All cards on the table. 137 00:06:58,752 --> 00:07:01,005 I told you it was all gonna come out at once. 138 00:07:02,590 --> 00:07:03,716 It sure came out. 139 00:07:06,677 --> 00:07:08,137 But nonetheless... 140 00:07:10,598 --> 00:07:12,683 I appreciate you opening up and being honest. 141 00:07:13,767 --> 00:07:15,686 I feel like it's easier communicating like this, 142 00:07:15,769 --> 00:07:17,730 like we're back in the pods, than it is face-to-face. 143 00:07:18,731 --> 00:07:20,649 Do you feel like it's easier? 144 00:07:20,733 --> 00:07:22,568 I feel like we just got a lot more on the table 145 00:07:22,651 --> 00:07:23,736 than we have in a while. 146 00:07:23,819 --> 00:07:24,653 Yeah. 147 00:07:24,737 --> 00:07:25,863 Samesies. 148 00:07:27,031 --> 00:07:28,824 Maybe I can be passionate now. 149 00:07:30,534 --> 00:07:31,368 [Giannina] What? 150 00:07:31,535 --> 00:07:33,078 [Damian snickers] 151 00:07:34,079 --> 00:07:35,623 You're lucky there's a wall between us. 152 00:07:35,706 --> 00:07:37,166 -[Giannina] Oh, yeah? -Yeah. 153 00:07:39,376 --> 00:07:41,795 What wall? [chuckles] No wall. 154 00:07:42,755 --> 00:07:43,714 You're so annoying. 155 00:07:43,797 --> 00:07:45,341 [Damian] I can be passionate as fuck. 156 00:07:53,307 --> 00:07:56,560 All this tension and energy is, like, just coursing through my body right now. 157 00:07:56,644 --> 00:07:58,187 I don't know what to do with it. 158 00:07:58,270 --> 00:08:00,147 Like, I'm getting so anxious. 159 00:08:00,231 --> 00:08:02,566 Oh, I honestly hope they like me. 160 00:08:02,650 --> 00:08:04,193 I hope I'm not, like, like... 161 00:08:04,735 --> 00:08:08,030 I want to be... I want them to be impressed by me... 162 00:08:08,572 --> 00:08:09,782 a little bit, like... 163 00:08:10,157 --> 00:08:12,826 I want them to be, like, happy for you because of me. 164 00:08:12,910 --> 00:08:15,371 Darling, you are setting a new standard. I promise. 165 00:08:15,454 --> 00:08:17,831 [Barnett] Okay. Hey, if you say so. 166 00:08:17,915 --> 00:08:22,545 I am super-excited to get to introduce Barnett to my family. 167 00:08:22,670 --> 00:08:25,589 I told him earlier my mom's gonna be so stoked 168 00:08:25,673 --> 00:08:27,841 to find out that I'm engaged, 169 00:08:27,925 --> 00:08:30,219 because she thinks it means I'm gonna settle down. 170 00:08:30,386 --> 00:08:32,179 I mean, technically, I mean, yes, 171 00:08:32,263 --> 00:08:34,723 but I told him the joke's gonna be on her, 172 00:08:34,807 --> 00:08:37,434 because he's as crazy as I am. 173 00:08:37,935 --> 00:08:40,521 -[Barnett] Is that your niece? -[Amber] That's one of my nieces. 174 00:08:40,604 --> 00:08:42,940 [Barnett] Shoot! I'm nervous as hell. 175 00:08:47,152 --> 00:08:48,487 Addison! 176 00:08:49,530 --> 00:08:50,864 Come here! 177 00:08:50,948 --> 00:08:53,117 Hi, baby. [kisses] 178 00:08:53,325 --> 00:08:57,204 [Barnett] Amber's childhood home is in a rougher area, it felt like. 179 00:08:57,288 --> 00:08:59,707 I mean, I wouldn't have, like, imagined it, I guess, 180 00:08:59,790 --> 00:09:01,000 that that's where she's from. 181 00:09:01,083 --> 00:09:03,669 One of the biggest things I was worried about when she saw my house 182 00:09:03,752 --> 00:09:05,462 is it just wasn't gonna be good enough for her. 183 00:09:06,046 --> 00:09:09,300 Honestly, it made me think, you know, she doesn't care, 184 00:09:09,383 --> 00:09:11,844 and there's no reason I should have cared in the first place, 185 00:09:11,927 --> 00:09:15,139 and I don't know why I was ever worried, I guess, about that. 186 00:09:16,599 --> 00:09:18,559 -[Amber] Hi. -Hi, love. [chuckles] 187 00:09:18,684 --> 00:09:21,645 [Amber] Hi! You look nice. 188 00:09:21,729 --> 00:09:23,522 [Vickie] When do we get to talk about what's going on? 189 00:09:23,606 --> 00:09:25,149 Um, well... 190 00:09:26,483 --> 00:09:27,484 that's going on. 191 00:09:27,568 --> 00:09:29,695 -[Samantha] You what? -Amber Lynn! 192 00:09:29,778 --> 00:09:31,071 I'm getting married. 193 00:09:31,155 --> 00:09:33,657 -[Vickie] Are you kidding me, Amber Lynn? -No, I swear. 194 00:09:34,116 --> 00:09:35,826 Mom, this is Matt. 195 00:09:35,909 --> 00:09:37,703 -Matt, this is my mom, Vickie. -Hi. Nice to meet you. 196 00:09:37,786 --> 00:09:38,704 Hi. 197 00:09:39,496 --> 00:09:40,706 His name is Matt? 198 00:09:40,789 --> 00:09:42,249 -Matt. Matthew Barnett. -Okay. 199 00:09:42,333 --> 00:09:43,667 This is my sister, Samantha. 200 00:09:43,751 --> 00:09:45,169 -Nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you. 201 00:09:45,252 --> 00:09:46,837 And this is my stepdad, Pat. 202 00:09:46,920 --> 00:09:48,213 [Vickie] Oh, my God! 203 00:09:48,297 --> 00:09:50,966 [Amber laughs] 204 00:09:52,968 --> 00:09:55,554 Momma! Come here. 205 00:09:55,638 --> 00:09:57,097 Don't cry. 206 00:09:58,849 --> 00:10:00,893 Mom, stop crying. What are you doing? 207 00:10:00,976 --> 00:10:03,020 -Go get me a tissue. -I'll go get you a tissue. 208 00:10:06,607 --> 00:10:07,941 That's my baby. 209 00:10:08,025 --> 00:10:09,318 I know. I know. 210 00:10:11,320 --> 00:10:13,197 [Vickie voice-over] Well, my daughter came home, 211 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:15,324 surprised me, and told me she's getting married. 212 00:10:15,407 --> 00:10:17,576 I think my biggest fear as a parent is... 213 00:10:17,660 --> 00:10:20,996 For Amber, I know that she has been hurt in the past. 214 00:10:21,455 --> 00:10:23,957 She's very friendly, and she's very outgoing, 215 00:10:24,041 --> 00:10:26,585 and I'm always so scared somebody's gonna take advantage of that, 216 00:10:26,669 --> 00:10:28,087 and she's gonna end up getting hurt. 217 00:10:29,213 --> 00:10:30,464 [Amber] Are you excited? 218 00:10:30,881 --> 00:10:33,258 Yes, I am, but it just... 219 00:10:33,842 --> 00:10:36,720 -So, but you're stable right? You work? -Um... 220 00:10:37,179 --> 00:10:38,639 You're reliable? 221 00:10:38,722 --> 00:10:40,432 [Barnett] Financially stable. 222 00:10:40,516 --> 00:10:43,352 Mentally, maybe not so much at times. 223 00:10:43,435 --> 00:10:45,688 -You're in the right family for that. -[Barnett laughs] 224 00:10:45,771 --> 00:10:47,981 He's an engineer. He works in construction. 225 00:10:48,065 --> 00:10:50,442 Well, I gotta make sure you're taken care of. 226 00:10:51,527 --> 00:10:53,487 -I can take care of myself, Mom. -[Vickie] I don't care. 227 00:10:53,570 --> 00:10:56,365 I know you can, but that's besides the point. 228 00:10:59,451 --> 00:11:01,245 Because you kids are all I have. 229 00:11:01,328 --> 00:11:02,246 I know. 230 00:11:02,871 --> 00:11:05,958 She never got to know her father 'cause he died... 231 00:11:06,041 --> 00:11:08,669 He died when she had turned five, so... 232 00:11:08,752 --> 00:11:11,380 She had it tough because it was just me and them. 233 00:11:11,463 --> 00:11:12,423 Yeah. 234 00:11:14,758 --> 00:11:16,427 Why are you marrying my daughter? 235 00:11:19,096 --> 00:11:21,265 [Barnett] 'Cause the way she makes me feel. 236 00:11:21,348 --> 00:11:23,726 I just can pretty much be myself with her, 237 00:11:23,809 --> 00:11:25,894 and that's really all I've ever wanted 238 00:11:25,978 --> 00:11:28,313 out of someone that's gonna be my wife. 239 00:11:28,397 --> 00:11:29,732 -[VIckie] Aww. -[laughs] 240 00:11:32,276 --> 00:11:33,944 You just better take care of her. 241 00:11:34,027 --> 00:11:35,028 [Barnett] I'm going to. 242 00:11:35,612 --> 00:11:37,448 You raised a good girl, too, so... 243 00:11:38,157 --> 00:11:40,784 She's a very good girl, and she's smart, 244 00:11:40,868 --> 00:11:42,327 and she don't take no crap. 245 00:11:42,911 --> 00:11:44,913 That's one of the things I love about her, so... 246 00:11:44,997 --> 00:11:45,998 [Amber] I like it. 247 00:11:46,081 --> 00:11:47,666 [Amber and Barnett laughing] 248 00:11:48,375 --> 00:11:51,962 In the moment, I couldn't tell if she was angry or happy, 249 00:11:52,045 --> 00:11:53,422 'cause she started tearing up. 250 00:11:53,505 --> 00:11:55,507 But I know she wants the best for her daughter. 251 00:11:55,591 --> 00:11:56,550 That's for sure. 252 00:11:56,633 --> 00:11:58,469 So, I want her mom to like me, 253 00:11:58,552 --> 00:12:02,014 and I want her mom to think that I'll be a great husband for her daughter, 254 00:12:02,097 --> 00:12:05,559 and it would be tough if she didn't approve. 255 00:12:06,059 --> 00:12:08,479 [Vickie] You've just been engaged for two weeks, huh? 256 00:12:08,562 --> 00:12:10,355 What did it for you? 257 00:12:10,439 --> 00:12:12,900 I don't know. It kind of occurred to me. 258 00:12:12,983 --> 00:12:15,903 I was like, "The conversation is so easy, and we had so much fun." 259 00:12:15,986 --> 00:12:17,738 I was like, "He's gonna be my best friend." 260 00:12:18,489 --> 00:12:19,740 After he proposed, 261 00:12:19,823 --> 00:12:21,742 I still didn't know what the hell he looked like. 262 00:12:22,367 --> 00:12:26,413 It's all based on just hearing each other, and talking, 263 00:12:26,497 --> 00:12:29,708 and getting to know each other that way, and you went for it. 264 00:12:29,792 --> 00:12:31,251 -[Barnett] Yeah. -Very good. 265 00:12:31,335 --> 00:12:33,212 [Amber and Vickie laughing] 266 00:12:33,879 --> 00:12:35,881 [upbeat music playing] 267 00:12:44,139 --> 00:12:44,973 [Damian] Hey. 268 00:12:46,725 --> 00:12:47,559 Yeah. 269 00:12:49,186 --> 00:12:50,562 No, I mean, it wasn't that. 270 00:12:50,646 --> 00:12:52,147 I just really wanted y'all to meet her. 271 00:12:56,652 --> 00:12:57,820 Yeah, I got you. 272 00:13:00,364 --> 00:13:02,825 [Giannina] We were supposed to go see Damian's parents, 273 00:13:02,908 --> 00:13:04,326 and, um... 274 00:13:05,369 --> 00:13:07,704 They canceled, last minute. 275 00:13:09,164 --> 00:13:11,542 [Damian] This was me really wanting you guys to meet her, 276 00:13:11,625 --> 00:13:13,877 and she's excited about meeting you also. 277 00:13:13,961 --> 00:13:17,589 You know, I'll try and figure out a way to, you know, let her meet you guys. 278 00:13:18,340 --> 00:13:19,174 So... 279 00:13:19,925 --> 00:13:20,759 All right. 280 00:13:24,930 --> 00:13:26,557 Okay. I love you, too. 281 00:13:27,391 --> 00:13:29,476 [Giannina] Is it me that they don't want to meet? 282 00:13:29,893 --> 00:13:31,019 What did you tell them? 283 00:13:31,103 --> 00:13:33,188 Like, who wants to feel that? 284 00:13:34,523 --> 00:13:35,649 This is so annoying, like... 285 00:13:41,280 --> 00:13:43,115 My parents are supportive of me, 286 00:13:43,198 --> 00:13:46,285 but I don't know if they're supportive of how this experience is going. 287 00:13:46,368 --> 00:13:48,704 I'm not going to make them do something they don't wanna do. 288 00:13:48,787 --> 00:13:49,913 Honestly... 289 00:13:51,999 --> 00:13:53,000 Oh! 290 00:13:54,376 --> 00:13:55,878 I'm thrown for a loop right now. 291 00:13:55,961 --> 00:13:57,713 You know how your parents react. 292 00:13:57,796 --> 00:14:00,090 Do they even know what's been going on this entire time? 293 00:14:00,173 --> 00:14:02,175 No, they're very familiar with what's been going on, 294 00:14:02,259 --> 00:14:04,970 and that's why I was saying it wasn't you that they didn't wanna meet. 295 00:14:13,020 --> 00:14:15,480 You know how your parents are. You knew this would be a problem. 296 00:14:16,189 --> 00:14:18,150 You didn't do anything to prevent it. 297 00:14:18,233 --> 00:14:19,943 You didn't give them the full story beforehand. 298 00:14:20,027 --> 00:14:22,654 I'm just saying we could have handled it differently. 299 00:14:23,363 --> 00:14:25,490 There's obviously a bigger issue here. 300 00:14:25,574 --> 00:14:27,951 You're not really fighting for them to meet me. 301 00:14:28,035 --> 00:14:31,622 'Cause this is the only time that I have, that we have to see them. 302 00:14:32,080 --> 00:14:35,208 All I know is that, before leaving to come here, 303 00:14:35,292 --> 00:14:37,127 Damian's mom says, 304 00:14:37,210 --> 00:14:40,088 "Don't marry some whore off a reality TV show." 305 00:14:40,172 --> 00:14:43,550 So, they probably think I am some whore off of a reality TV show 306 00:14:45,469 --> 00:14:47,971 This is gonna be really hard. [sobbing] 307 00:14:49,973 --> 00:14:52,184 We knew that this is what we signed up for. 308 00:14:52,267 --> 00:14:56,605 We knew that when we met our parents, it had to be in this process. 309 00:14:57,189 --> 00:14:59,399 -You knew that. -I didn't know that in the very beginning. 310 00:14:59,483 --> 00:15:02,069 -Hello! -Everybody reacts differently. 311 00:15:02,152 --> 00:15:04,279 You've known this for three weeks. 312 00:15:04,363 --> 00:15:06,740 -I'm over it. -One, don't yell. Do not yell at me. 313 00:15:06,823 --> 00:15:08,325 -Okay. Fine. -Don't yell at me. 314 00:15:08,867 --> 00:15:10,911 -'Cause that's gonna ruin our whole day. -Okay. 315 00:15:12,496 --> 00:15:15,040 And if my family, they don't wanna do all this, then... 316 00:15:15,958 --> 00:15:19,753 I may not like it, but it's still my family at the end of the day. 317 00:15:19,836 --> 00:15:21,588 And I would not disrespect you and your family 318 00:15:21,672 --> 00:15:23,548 because it is last-minute, and it's stressful. 319 00:15:23,632 --> 00:15:26,176 And right now, I feel like you're jabbing at my family, 320 00:15:26,259 --> 00:15:27,594 and I don't appreciate that. 321 00:15:27,678 --> 00:15:29,346 -[softly] I am not-- -That's what it feels like. 322 00:15:29,429 --> 00:15:30,597 -Okay. -That's what it feels like. 323 00:15:30,681 --> 00:15:31,765 Okay, that's what it feels like. 324 00:15:31,848 --> 00:15:33,725 Thank you for telling me what you're feeling. 325 00:15:34,351 --> 00:15:36,061 G may not get a chance to meet my family. 326 00:15:36,478 --> 00:15:40,399 And the question is do we go through with the marriage 327 00:15:40,482 --> 00:15:41,775 without my family being there? 328 00:15:42,150 --> 00:15:43,485 Or if they are there, 329 00:15:44,486 --> 00:15:45,529 without really knowing her? 330 00:15:45,612 --> 00:15:46,989 I'm so... [groans] 331 00:15:47,072 --> 00:15:49,074 Like, this was already a really stressful morning, 332 00:15:49,157 --> 00:15:50,993 and I don't wanna make it more stressful on you, 333 00:15:51,076 --> 00:15:52,661 'cause I know this is really stressful on you. 334 00:15:52,786 --> 00:15:53,620 I'm not. 335 00:15:53,704 --> 00:15:54,579 But I also... 336 00:15:55,580 --> 00:15:57,374 think that you should see a bigger picture, 337 00:15:57,791 --> 00:15:59,418 because it's a really big thing right now. 338 00:16:00,002 --> 00:16:01,086 I mean, like... 339 00:16:01,545 --> 00:16:02,379 [kisses] 340 00:16:06,091 --> 00:16:08,593 [Giannina] So, what? Am I just gonna meet them at the wedding? 341 00:16:11,638 --> 00:16:12,472 [Damian] Maybe. 342 00:16:13,473 --> 00:16:15,142 -Maybe? -[chuckles] 343 00:16:17,769 --> 00:16:19,855 You're gonna leave me till last minute? 344 00:16:20,313 --> 00:16:22,107 No. No, I'm gonna handle it. 345 00:16:22,858 --> 00:16:26,194 I fell in love with Damian in the pods, fell in love hard. 346 00:16:26,653 --> 00:16:28,321 Do I still love him? Yeah. 347 00:16:28,405 --> 00:16:30,699 Do I want those butterflies back? Absolutely. 348 00:16:31,241 --> 00:16:33,994 Do I want someone that I have to teach and tell, 349 00:16:34,536 --> 00:16:36,621 "Hey, babe, touch me like that"? No. 350 00:16:36,705 --> 00:16:38,165 But, I mean, it just depends. 351 00:16:38,248 --> 00:16:41,126 How strong is your love? How much are you willing to fight for it? 352 00:16:41,209 --> 00:16:43,378 I have no idea what's gonna happen at that wedding. 353 00:16:43,795 --> 00:16:44,796 I'm gonna handle it. 354 00:16:48,925 --> 00:16:50,177 ["Sky High Love" playing] 355 00:16:50,260 --> 00:16:52,095 ♪ The sun is just hot enough ♪ 356 00:16:52,179 --> 00:16:54,097 ♪ To light our fuse ♪ 357 00:16:55,057 --> 00:16:56,975 -[Kelly] Will you do me a favor... -[Kenny] Yeah. 358 00:16:57,059 --> 00:16:59,811 ...and text my parents and tell them that we're on the way? 359 00:16:59,895 --> 00:17:00,896 Got ya. 360 00:17:01,229 --> 00:17:03,106 [Kelly] Kenny is gonna be meeting my parents today, 361 00:17:03,190 --> 00:17:05,484 and then later on in the evening, 362 00:17:05,567 --> 00:17:09,404 Kenny's parents will be coming over, and the families will meet. 363 00:17:10,197 --> 00:17:12,783 I've told my parents about my engagement. 364 00:17:12,866 --> 00:17:17,037 Their reactions, actually, were better than I thought they were going to be. 365 00:17:17,621 --> 00:17:19,998 -Are you writing a novel? [laughs] -[Kenny] Huh? 366 00:17:20,082 --> 00:17:21,625 [Kelly] Are you writing a novel? 367 00:17:22,292 --> 00:17:23,335 [Kenny] Giving her details. 368 00:17:23,418 --> 00:17:25,962 I'm saying, if I just said, "ETA's 40 minutes," 369 00:17:26,046 --> 00:17:28,965 she's gonna come back and say, "Why are you doing this and that?" 370 00:17:29,508 --> 00:17:31,384 [Kelly] Kenny reminds me of my dad. 371 00:17:31,468 --> 00:17:33,261 My dad has the nickname "Detail," 372 00:17:33,345 --> 00:17:37,182 and Kenny is all about telling me, like, every detail. [laughs] 373 00:17:37,682 --> 00:17:39,893 I think she's gonna appreciate that text, too, 374 00:17:39,976 --> 00:17:42,687 'cause it shows my personality. 375 00:17:42,771 --> 00:17:44,481 [Kelly] Yes, it does. 376 00:17:44,564 --> 00:17:47,901 I definitely think that my parents and Kenny will get along really well. 377 00:17:48,860 --> 00:17:50,195 Almost there! 378 00:17:50,529 --> 00:17:51,404 [Kenny] Deep breaths. 379 00:17:52,030 --> 00:17:53,448 [Kelly] Deep breaths. 380 00:17:53,532 --> 00:17:55,158 [laughs] 381 00:17:55,242 --> 00:17:56,618 ["Sky High Love" continues] 382 00:17:56,701 --> 00:17:58,620 ♪ Oh oh oh ♪ 383 00:17:58,703 --> 00:18:01,623 ♪ Reaching up, Up above ♪ 384 00:18:01,748 --> 00:18:04,376 ♪ Your sky high love ♪ 385 00:18:08,296 --> 00:18:10,298 ♪ Sky high love ♪ 386 00:18:11,049 --> 00:18:13,760 [Kenny] Today, I'm going to get to meet my soon-to-be in-laws. 387 00:18:13,844 --> 00:18:16,012 -[Kelly] Are you ready? -[Kenny] Let's do it. 388 00:18:16,596 --> 00:18:17,889 [Kelly] Hello. 389 00:18:18,807 --> 00:18:20,100 -Hi. -[Kenny] Hola. 390 00:18:20,183 --> 00:18:23,937 I've got little hints of anxiety and nervousness, just... 391 00:18:24,020 --> 00:18:24,980 Which is natural. 392 00:18:25,063 --> 00:18:28,400 It's like, "Okay, stakes are on." It's a make-it-or-break-it moment. 393 00:18:29,067 --> 00:18:33,738 So, tell me what was the deciding factor that attracted you to Kenny? 394 00:18:33,822 --> 00:18:35,532 If you're not seeing the person, right, 395 00:18:35,615 --> 00:18:36,867 -and you're just talking... -Right. 396 00:18:36,950 --> 00:18:38,785 So, something he said... 397 00:18:38,869 --> 00:18:40,745 On our third date, in a sense, 398 00:18:40,829 --> 00:18:42,914 we just connected more. 399 00:18:42,998 --> 00:18:44,416 -Um... -[Kenny] Mm-hmm. 400 00:18:44,499 --> 00:18:48,128 [Kelly] I asked him what his favorite, like, childhood book was or something, 401 00:18:48,211 --> 00:18:50,338 and it was the Love of You Forever book, 402 00:18:50,422 --> 00:18:51,756 -and that was something... -Oh, yeah. 403 00:18:51,840 --> 00:18:53,717 -[Kelly] You know. -You love that book. 404 00:18:53,800 --> 00:18:55,635 And that was your favorite book, too? 405 00:18:55,719 --> 00:18:56,970 It was my favorite book. 406 00:18:57,053 --> 00:18:59,347 I mean, childhood book. That's really interesting. 407 00:18:59,431 --> 00:19:01,433 It still is, actually. No, I'm just kidding. 408 00:19:01,516 --> 00:19:02,642 [laughs] 409 00:19:02,726 --> 00:19:05,145 -It is! -I didn't graduate off of that, yeah. 410 00:19:05,270 --> 00:19:08,481 It is tough to, you know, provide all the details, right, 411 00:19:08,565 --> 00:19:11,568 that matter most to how you guys can interpret it. 412 00:19:11,651 --> 00:19:13,111 -[Liz] Right. -To make sense of it. 413 00:19:13,195 --> 00:19:16,489 But it was just based off the connection that we, we knew that we had. 414 00:19:16,573 --> 00:19:19,534 [Liz] You know, we dated. And that was in October. 415 00:19:19,618 --> 00:19:20,994 We were engaged by December, 416 00:19:21,077 --> 00:19:23,955 and we were married in August, and it's been 38 years. 417 00:19:24,039 --> 00:19:25,123 [Kenny] Wow! 418 00:19:25,207 --> 00:19:27,250 So, I keep saying to him, "Keep an open mind." 419 00:19:27,334 --> 00:19:28,168 Yeah. 420 00:19:28,251 --> 00:19:30,128 That's how I feel. How do you feel, hon? 421 00:19:30,212 --> 00:19:32,088 Um, yeah, I just, like... 422 00:19:32,797 --> 00:19:35,383 Even though, you know, it's only been weeks, actually, 423 00:19:36,092 --> 00:19:38,220 and so I kind of had to wrap my head 424 00:19:38,303 --> 00:19:41,348 around, like, the quickness of it all, 425 00:19:41,431 --> 00:19:43,516 but me being 60-something years old 426 00:19:43,600 --> 00:19:45,518 and thinking about it, and my young daughter, 427 00:19:45,602 --> 00:19:47,062 you, you tend to think, 428 00:19:47,145 --> 00:19:49,022 "Well, it sounds a little bit crazy." 429 00:19:49,105 --> 00:19:52,067 But if I think back to how I was 430 00:19:52,150 --> 00:19:53,485 when I was younger, 431 00:19:53,568 --> 00:19:56,279 and falling in love with somebody, I could see, 432 00:19:56,363 --> 00:19:57,864 you know, that's... 433 00:19:57,948 --> 00:19:59,908 Sometimes things just work out. 434 00:19:59,991 --> 00:20:02,869 [Liz] Kelly has been not quick to date someone. 435 00:20:02,953 --> 00:20:05,705 So, this is really a leap of faith for her, 436 00:20:05,789 --> 00:20:07,540 but I trust her judgment, 437 00:20:07,624 --> 00:20:10,877 and if she tells me that this guy 438 00:20:10,961 --> 00:20:12,712 is somebody special 439 00:20:12,796 --> 00:20:15,715 and somebody to be, you know, in love with, 440 00:20:15,799 --> 00:20:17,300 then I'm okay with that. 441 00:20:17,384 --> 00:20:21,012 This morning, I was thinking about you, Kelly, 442 00:20:21,096 --> 00:20:24,724 and I was getting really emotional, 'cause I was like, "Oh, my gosh!" 443 00:20:25,475 --> 00:20:26,768 She'll always be my baby. 444 00:20:26,851 --> 00:20:29,771 For 33 years we've been very, very connected. 445 00:20:31,106 --> 00:20:33,483 -Now, I'm gonna get upset, too. -[Kenny chuckles] 446 00:20:33,566 --> 00:20:34,401 [Liz] But... 447 00:20:34,818 --> 00:20:35,694 Kelly... 448 00:20:36,987 --> 00:20:37,862 [sobs lightly] 449 00:20:39,364 --> 00:20:40,991 -[Kelly] It's okay. -[sniffles] 450 00:20:41,908 --> 00:20:43,493 Because I want her to be happy, 451 00:20:43,576 --> 00:20:45,161 and I want her to find someone. 452 00:20:45,245 --> 00:20:47,122 She's been yearning for someone 453 00:20:47,205 --> 00:20:48,456 for a very long time. 454 00:20:48,540 --> 00:20:50,625 When she told me that she found someone, 455 00:20:50,709 --> 00:20:53,295 -I was like, "Yes!" You know? -[all laughing] 456 00:20:53,378 --> 00:20:56,965 And then the other side of me is like, "I just want him to be good to her." 457 00:20:57,632 --> 00:21:00,385 This morning, when I woke up, I was like, "Oh, my gosh!" 458 00:21:00,468 --> 00:21:02,095 -You know, "This is it." -[Kenny chuckles] 459 00:21:02,178 --> 00:21:03,096 And then... 460 00:21:03,179 --> 00:21:05,181 But then I started thinking, "You know what? 461 00:21:05,265 --> 00:21:07,392 I'm not losing my daughter. I'm gaining a son." 462 00:21:07,475 --> 00:21:09,394 -Right. -[Liz] So I'm very happy for that. 463 00:21:09,477 --> 00:21:11,521 [Kenny] I feel like I wanna give you a hug right now. 464 00:21:11,604 --> 00:21:12,772 I love Kelly's parents. 465 00:21:12,856 --> 00:21:15,567 They're very sweet people, very genuine. 466 00:21:15,650 --> 00:21:17,360 Clearly, they care about their daughter. 467 00:21:17,444 --> 00:21:19,654 And I know they're gonna get along with my mom and dad. 468 00:21:19,904 --> 00:21:22,240 Uh, so that's kinda like icing on the cake. 469 00:21:23,742 --> 00:21:25,744 -[doorbell rings, dog barking] -Oh! 470 00:21:27,704 --> 00:21:29,539 -[Jeff 2] Give you a hug. -[Kelly] Hey! How are you? 471 00:21:30,206 --> 00:21:32,000 -[Marcia] How are you? -Hi, Marcia. I'm Jeff. 472 00:21:32,083 --> 00:21:34,377 Nice to meet you, Jeff. This is great. 473 00:21:34,461 --> 00:21:36,880 [Kelly] I think meeting Kenny's parents is a big deal. 474 00:21:36,963 --> 00:21:39,466 I've grown such a unique bond with their son 475 00:21:39,549 --> 00:21:41,426 in such a short amount of time, 476 00:21:41,509 --> 00:21:43,219 and I want them to truly feel that. 477 00:21:43,303 --> 00:21:46,014 But it's just nerve-racking. [laughs] 478 00:21:46,473 --> 00:21:50,143 Well, I have to say when Kenny came in, and we started talking today, 479 00:21:50,226 --> 00:21:52,020 and he's just a breath of fresh air. 480 00:21:52,103 --> 00:21:53,229 He's just delightful. 481 00:21:53,313 --> 00:21:55,732 -He looks like the Ken doll. -He does. 482 00:21:55,815 --> 00:21:56,858 [all laughing] 483 00:21:56,941 --> 00:21:59,611 -How old were you when you got married? -I was 25. 484 00:21:59,694 --> 00:22:01,863 -So, we met at a swimming pool. -Yeah. 485 00:22:01,946 --> 00:22:06,117 And I had just happened to come by the first hot day of spring, 486 00:22:06,201 --> 00:22:07,911 and she was playing hooky from school 487 00:22:07,994 --> 00:22:10,330 and actually sitting with her boyfriend by the pool, 488 00:22:10,413 --> 00:22:11,998 and I wasn't coming on to her. 489 00:22:12,082 --> 00:22:14,209 We just kind of talked and started talking and talking. 490 00:22:14,292 --> 00:22:17,253 We talked for a couple of hours like we'd known each other forever. 491 00:22:17,337 --> 00:22:18,671 -So... -[Marcia] And that was it. 492 00:22:18,755 --> 00:22:19,964 -Destiny. -[Jeff 2] Mm-hmm. 493 00:22:20,048 --> 00:22:22,759 -Yeah. What year did you do get married? -'86. 494 00:22:22,842 --> 00:22:23,676 -Yeah. -[Liz] Okay. 495 00:22:24,427 --> 00:22:26,179 Long and short, we only dated... 496 00:22:26,262 --> 00:22:28,348 It wasn't even three months before we got married. 497 00:22:28,431 --> 00:22:30,809 [Kelly] My parents and Kenny's parents, 498 00:22:30,892 --> 00:22:33,061 they dated for a short time before they got engaged, 499 00:22:33,144 --> 00:22:35,522 and I think that they understand... 500 00:22:36,648 --> 00:22:39,651 us and our connection with each other because of that. 501 00:22:39,734 --> 00:22:42,237 Are they gonna have wine at this reception? 502 00:22:42,821 --> 00:22:44,572 Yes. I mean, it's a wedding. 503 00:22:44,656 --> 00:22:46,950 -If not, I'll bring us in some wine. -[Liz laughing] 504 00:22:47,409 --> 00:22:49,160 Aw. [laughs] 505 00:22:49,411 --> 00:22:52,122 A marriage is between the two people, 506 00:22:52,205 --> 00:22:54,416 but it can be enriched 507 00:22:54,666 --> 00:22:58,420 by the support of the extended family. 508 00:22:58,503 --> 00:23:01,339 So for Kenny and Kelly, they just won the lottery, 509 00:23:01,423 --> 00:23:03,383 because both sets of parents... 510 00:23:04,467 --> 00:23:06,803 We're all-in. We're going to support them. 511 00:23:07,178 --> 00:23:10,932 I'm very happy for you both for a successful engagement. 512 00:23:11,015 --> 00:23:12,559 I think you're beautiful together. 513 00:23:12,642 --> 00:23:13,977 -[Liz] Cheers! -[Kelly] Cheers! 514 00:23:14,060 --> 00:23:14,936 [Kenny] Yeah. 515 00:23:18,106 --> 00:23:19,607 ["Heart Won't Say It" playing] 516 00:23:21,651 --> 00:23:24,279 ♪ No my heart won't say it ♪ 517 00:23:26,156 --> 00:23:28,241 ♪ No my heart won't say it ♪ 518 00:23:28,741 --> 00:23:29,742 Hello. 519 00:23:30,034 --> 00:23:31,870 -Hi! -[Mark] What's up? 520 00:23:31,953 --> 00:23:32,787 Hey. 521 00:23:32,871 --> 00:23:34,998 [Rosa] Mark, how are you? 522 00:23:35,081 --> 00:23:38,376 I'm going with Mark to his family's house for their Sunday get-together. 523 00:23:38,460 --> 00:23:39,377 This is Jess. 524 00:23:39,461 --> 00:23:40,920 -Hi, nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you. 525 00:23:41,004 --> 00:23:42,464 -Hi. -Hi. I'm Jessica. 526 00:23:42,547 --> 00:23:43,506 It's nice to meet you. 527 00:23:43,590 --> 00:23:44,424 [Rosa] You, too. 528 00:23:44,507 --> 00:23:46,009 Thank you for having me. 529 00:23:46,092 --> 00:23:48,219 Everybody, this is Jess. Introduce yourselves. 530 00:23:49,095 --> 00:23:51,639 [Jessica voice-over] If I'm his mom, and he brings a girl 531 00:23:51,723 --> 00:23:53,725 ten years older than him to meet me, 532 00:23:54,017 --> 00:23:55,185 I'm not happy. 533 00:23:55,268 --> 00:23:57,729 I think I probably am about to get grilled. 534 00:23:57,812 --> 00:24:02,066 I just think it's funny because Mark is so gung-ho about, 535 00:24:02,150 --> 00:24:05,528 "Oh, yeah, babe, don't worry. Nothing to worry about." 536 00:24:05,612 --> 00:24:08,281 And I think it's probably not gonna go that way. 537 00:24:08,364 --> 00:24:09,282 Thank you. 538 00:24:09,365 --> 00:24:11,701 -[Mark] Mom, you said you wanted one, too? -[Rosa] Yeah, babe. 539 00:24:11,784 --> 00:24:14,454 That's for me, for the queen of the house. 540 00:24:17,248 --> 00:24:19,375 -[Rosa] Excuse me, ma'am. -[Jessica] Thank you so much. 541 00:24:19,459 --> 00:24:22,587 -I'm hoping you like this. -Wow! This is beautiful. 542 00:24:22,670 --> 00:24:24,214 Thank you for doing all of this. 543 00:24:24,881 --> 00:24:27,467 I'm the skinnier one, so... 544 00:24:27,550 --> 00:24:28,384 [chuckles] 545 00:24:28,468 --> 00:24:29,844 -I feed everyone. -John, you ready? 546 00:24:30,345 --> 00:24:31,387 -[John] Me? -[Mark laughs] 547 00:24:31,471 --> 00:24:33,306 Not yet? Not quite? Okay. 548 00:24:33,932 --> 00:24:36,476 -[Mark] And dig in. -Let's try the Cuevas' dinner. 549 00:24:36,559 --> 00:24:38,394 -[Jessica laughs] -[Rosa] Hopefully... 550 00:24:38,478 --> 00:24:40,355 You didn't get too crazy with the lasagna, right? 551 00:24:40,438 --> 00:24:41,314 -No. -[Mark] All right. 552 00:24:41,397 --> 00:24:44,067 -You know what I was thinking? -[Mark] What? 553 00:24:44,150 --> 00:24:45,652 [Rosa] What I really need to know is... 554 00:24:47,362 --> 00:24:49,948 how you guys got together? 555 00:24:50,990 --> 00:24:51,824 Well... 556 00:24:52,367 --> 00:24:53,201 Yeah. 557 00:24:53,284 --> 00:24:57,205 Yeah, because in two weeks, he's engaged. 558 00:24:57,288 --> 00:24:58,540 Oh, my God! 559 00:24:58,873 --> 00:25:01,417 Well, so here's the deal. [clears throat] 560 00:25:01,501 --> 00:25:03,628 There's this whole setup. It's called "the pods." 561 00:25:03,711 --> 00:25:05,004 It's almost like a confessional. 562 00:25:05,088 --> 00:25:07,966 Like, if you're a Catholic, and all of a sudden you hear, "Hello." 563 00:25:08,883 --> 00:25:09,801 From a guy. 564 00:25:10,051 --> 00:25:12,887 -[Rosa] Oh! -And you're like, "Hey." 565 00:25:12,971 --> 00:25:14,764 So, you know, I just start talking, 566 00:25:14,847 --> 00:25:17,141 and I got through a couple really terrible dates, 567 00:25:17,225 --> 00:25:18,601 and my third date was Mark, 568 00:25:18,685 --> 00:25:21,938 and it was so easy with him, immediately. 569 00:25:22,021 --> 00:25:23,731 "Where you from?" "Chicago." 570 00:25:23,815 --> 00:25:26,150 "Cool. What's the coolest thing about you?" 571 00:25:26,234 --> 00:25:27,777 "I've got a golden retriever." "So do I." 572 00:25:27,860 --> 00:25:29,988 [Mark] "Makes Italian beef." That's cool. All right, "Chicago." 573 00:25:30,071 --> 00:25:32,198 And I'm writing my notes in there, like... 574 00:25:32,282 --> 00:25:34,075 -I do make Italian beef. -She.. She, yeah... 575 00:25:34,158 --> 00:25:35,702 -It's the one thing I make, yeah. -[laughs] 576 00:25:35,785 --> 00:25:37,996 She makes Italian beef. And I, like, starred it. 577 00:25:38,079 --> 00:25:40,582 "Italian Beef." All right, awesome. Cool. 578 00:25:40,665 --> 00:25:42,709 [Jessica] And I'm a super-Christian person. 579 00:25:42,792 --> 00:25:45,753 I go to church and wanna raise my family in the church. 580 00:25:45,837 --> 00:25:48,089 And we're just, like, "This is my same person." 581 00:25:48,172 --> 00:25:52,010 I mean, I know how he is. I mean, he's a great kid. 582 00:25:52,635 --> 00:25:54,887 He thinks very, very, very highly of you. 583 00:25:54,971 --> 00:25:56,431 -[Rosa] Thank you. -Yeah. 584 00:25:56,514 --> 00:26:00,685 When he told me, "I met this girl. Her name is Jessica. 585 00:26:01,269 --> 00:26:04,480 She's a little bit older than me." 586 00:26:06,524 --> 00:26:08,276 I thought, "Oh, that's great." 587 00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:12,155 Because a lot of the girls his age... 588 00:26:13,031 --> 00:26:14,198 they a little bit crazy. 589 00:26:14,282 --> 00:26:15,700 [laughing] 590 00:26:15,867 --> 00:26:16,826 So, I figured... 591 00:26:16,909 --> 00:26:19,037 And I've been through a lot of that. 592 00:26:19,120 --> 00:26:20,079 [Jessica laughing] 593 00:26:20,163 --> 00:26:24,751 I think the thing for me is, like, my twenties were so amazing. 594 00:26:26,878 --> 00:26:28,338 You know, with him, I'm like, 595 00:26:28,838 --> 00:26:32,091 "Are you sure that you would want to give that up?" 596 00:26:32,175 --> 00:26:36,346 I mean, that's a really prime time of your life. 597 00:26:38,222 --> 00:26:41,267 I feel like if I was 34, there wouldn't have been any doubt. 598 00:26:41,351 --> 00:26:44,812 With 24 and 34, it's, "What does society think of us?" 599 00:26:44,896 --> 00:26:46,939 We made such a strong emotional connection, 600 00:26:47,023 --> 00:26:50,318 but when reality hit, it's like something's off. 601 00:26:50,401 --> 00:26:53,696 And that may be an insecurity, that might be a past relationship trauma, 602 00:26:53,780 --> 00:26:57,116 but are you going to let that stop you from really finding the love you deserve? 603 00:26:58,618 --> 00:27:00,620 I don't think the age matter. 604 00:27:00,703 --> 00:27:02,538 But for me, I think it's just... 605 00:27:02,622 --> 00:27:05,500 I think when you know it, you know it. It doesn't matter. 606 00:27:05,583 --> 00:27:07,960 I think people... I got married when I was 18. 607 00:27:12,048 --> 00:27:13,049 So, you know... 608 00:27:13,758 --> 00:27:15,760 Love conquers everything. 609 00:27:19,055 --> 00:27:20,098 Absolutely. 610 00:27:20,181 --> 00:27:21,808 -And so.... -Yeah. 611 00:27:22,266 --> 00:27:23,726 We've been married forever. 612 00:27:23,810 --> 00:27:26,145 -[Jessica] How long? -[Rosa] Oh, Lord! 613 00:27:26,229 --> 00:27:28,147 -[Mark] Thirty-one. -Wow. 614 00:27:28,231 --> 00:27:29,691 Wow, congratulations. 615 00:27:29,774 --> 00:27:31,317 -[Rosa] Thank you. -That's amazing. 616 00:27:31,401 --> 00:27:33,903 You're right. It's the connection that you just know, 617 00:27:33,986 --> 00:27:34,987 and I knew... 618 00:27:35,071 --> 00:27:37,532 I tried to pump the brakes on it every single time. 619 00:27:37,615 --> 00:27:40,576 I was like, "Let me take my time." And the more and more we talked, 620 00:27:40,660 --> 00:27:41,994 I was like, "Yep." 621 00:27:42,078 --> 00:27:43,621 -Well, that's good. -Yeah. 622 00:27:43,705 --> 00:27:45,373 [Mark] Whenever I do something, I'm, like... 623 00:27:45,456 --> 00:27:47,625 I'm all in, and I don't... 624 00:27:47,709 --> 00:27:49,293 -[Jessica] Yeah. -[Mark] I don't look back. 625 00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:52,296 [Rosa] I like you already. 626 00:27:52,380 --> 00:27:54,382 [Jessica] Yeah, well, I'm happy to be here. 627 00:27:54,465 --> 00:27:57,635 I haven't sat down to a family dinner in Atlanta ever. 628 00:27:57,719 --> 00:27:58,970 [Rosa] This is your home, 629 00:27:59,512 --> 00:28:01,264 and we will be happy to be your family. 630 00:28:02,724 --> 00:28:05,101 [Jessica] My family isn't here, so it means everything. 631 00:28:05,184 --> 00:28:07,812 I listen, and you know... 632 00:28:07,895 --> 00:28:09,605 That's exactly how my dad is. 633 00:28:09,689 --> 00:28:11,190 You guys enjoy. 634 00:28:11,274 --> 00:28:14,110 I enjoyed that you guys are here, so... 635 00:28:14,485 --> 00:28:16,863 Well, cheers for having Jessica here. 636 00:28:16,946 --> 00:28:17,905 -Salud. -Salud. 637 00:28:17,989 --> 00:28:18,990 Thank you for having me. 638 00:28:19,490 --> 00:28:22,368 I was expecting a bigger reaction on the age difference, 639 00:28:22,452 --> 00:28:24,746 and they didn't give it to me at all. It was easy. 640 00:28:24,829 --> 00:28:27,623 So I think a lot of it's in my head. 641 00:28:27,707 --> 00:28:30,960 So far, no one has said anything negative, 642 00:28:31,711 --> 00:28:35,715 but I don't think anyone would to your face, though, so... 643 00:28:36,466 --> 00:28:40,553 Mark's perspective is, "We're happy. It doesn't matter, and who cares?" 644 00:28:41,012 --> 00:28:44,223 But that's one thing that I challenge him on is 645 00:28:44,307 --> 00:28:45,767 we haven't really experienced it yet. 646 00:28:45,850 --> 00:28:49,771 We haven't experienced anyone calling us on it, and it will happen. 647 00:28:56,652 --> 00:28:57,737 ["Attention" playing] 648 00:28:57,820 --> 00:28:59,655 ♪ I know that I need to give you ♪ 649 00:28:59,739 --> 00:29:01,574 ♪ A little more time babe ♪ 650 00:29:01,657 --> 00:29:03,785 ♪ A little more time babe ♪ 651 00:29:05,036 --> 00:29:08,206 ♪ I'm working hard but I know That's not enough for you ♪ 652 00:29:08,289 --> 00:29:09,499 [Giannina] Perfect. 653 00:29:09,916 --> 00:29:11,959 ♪ Enough for you Ooh ooh ♪ 654 00:29:13,961 --> 00:29:15,546 Are you excited to eat my arepas? 655 00:29:15,630 --> 00:29:16,881 [Damian Those look really good. 656 00:29:16,964 --> 00:29:17,965 -Yeah? -Yeah. 657 00:29:18,049 --> 00:29:19,967 You haven't seen nothing yet. 658 00:29:20,051 --> 00:29:22,178 So today, Damian is meeting my parents. 659 00:29:22,678 --> 00:29:25,223 It feels like a really, really surreal experience. 660 00:29:25,306 --> 00:29:28,768 Parents are meeting your fiancé, who they have never met before. 661 00:29:28,851 --> 00:29:31,270 They don't want to let just anyone in. 662 00:29:31,354 --> 00:29:33,815 I need the love and support of my family, 663 00:29:33,898 --> 00:29:36,901 and I can't marry someone if I don't have that. 664 00:29:37,276 --> 00:29:39,362 -[Giannina] Are you excited? -I'm excited. 665 00:29:40,947 --> 00:29:42,448 I wrote a poem for your parents. 666 00:29:43,032 --> 00:29:44,408 -Oh! -I'm kidding. [chuckles] 667 00:29:44,492 --> 00:29:46,494 -Wow. -I'm gonna be Pod Damian. 668 00:29:46,828 --> 00:29:50,081 Oh, they would love Pod Damian! You are Pod Damian. 669 00:29:50,748 --> 00:29:54,085 [Damian] Gigi's family has come in from Florida. 670 00:29:54,168 --> 00:29:56,254 Part of me is nervous. The other part is excited, 671 00:29:56,337 --> 00:29:57,713 'cause she's talked about them so much. 672 00:29:57,797 --> 00:29:59,715 She's like, "They're really excited to meet you." 673 00:30:00,091 --> 00:30:01,133 [laughing] 674 00:30:01,259 --> 00:30:04,595 "You think I'm a lot to handle? Wait till you meet my mom." 675 00:30:04,679 --> 00:30:05,680 And I'm like... 676 00:30:06,514 --> 00:30:08,266 "What?" [chuckles] 677 00:30:08,724 --> 00:30:09,809 "Don't tell me that, G." 678 00:30:10,685 --> 00:30:12,979 [both screaming, laughing] 679 00:30:13,062 --> 00:30:14,063 [Milady speaking Spanish] 680 00:30:14,146 --> 00:30:15,523 [Giannina] Hola, mami. 681 00:30:16,148 --> 00:30:17,692 [both speaking Spanish] 682 00:30:17,775 --> 00:30:18,609 [Giannina kisses] 683 00:30:18,693 --> 00:30:20,152 [Damian] It's gonna be interesting. 684 00:30:20,236 --> 00:30:23,781 She said mostly they speak Spanish, so that's something I'm not used to. 685 00:30:23,865 --> 00:30:25,867 [GIannina speaking Spanish] 686 00:30:25,992 --> 00:30:28,244 -Milady, Damian. -Pleasure to meet you. 687 00:30:28,327 --> 00:30:29,787 Damian, this is Oscar. 688 00:30:29,871 --> 00:30:31,289 Oscar, pleasure to meet you, sir. 689 00:30:31,372 --> 00:30:33,541 I don't know a lot of Spanish. I'm willing to learn. 690 00:30:33,624 --> 00:30:35,960 But we'll see how it goes. [chuckles] 691 00:30:36,085 --> 00:30:38,921 -Are you guys hungry? -[Giovanni] Yes, we are. 692 00:30:39,005 --> 00:30:40,965 [Giannina] Yes? Wanna help me. He's helping me. 693 00:30:41,048 --> 00:30:42,758 -What are you doing? -Mom, he's helping me. 694 00:30:42,842 --> 00:30:44,218 -Arepa! -Arepa. 695 00:30:44,302 --> 00:30:46,304 Ah! [speaking Spanish] 696 00:30:46,512 --> 00:30:47,680 [Damian chuckles] 697 00:30:48,306 --> 00:30:51,642 [in Spanish] I made three different types of arepas. 698 00:30:52,101 --> 00:30:53,603 -[in Spanish] Why? -[Gianninna, in Spanish] Why not? 699 00:30:53,686 --> 00:30:55,521 Let me speak in English so he understands. 700 00:30:55,605 --> 00:30:58,441 Uh, biscuits from the United States, "arepas." 701 00:30:58,524 --> 00:31:00,484 [Giannina] I was trying to explain it to him. 702 00:31:00,568 --> 00:31:02,862 This is what I grew up eating every single day. 703 00:31:03,571 --> 00:31:05,865 -[Oscar] Damian, I have a question. -Yes, sir. 704 00:31:05,948 --> 00:31:08,618 [Oscar] What makes you think that you're ready to get married? 705 00:31:09,869 --> 00:31:12,872 It's something that I've always wanted, 'cause I want family. 706 00:31:12,955 --> 00:31:16,125 Family means everything to me. That's, that's the most important thing. 707 00:31:16,751 --> 00:31:19,629 I don't think you ever really know you're ready until you meet somebody. 708 00:31:19,712 --> 00:31:22,590 And against all odds, I found Giannina. 709 00:31:23,257 --> 00:31:24,800 [Oscar] Giannina, what about you? 710 00:31:24,884 --> 00:31:27,094 What make you think you're ready to get married? 711 00:31:30,348 --> 00:31:34,644 That's what I've been figuring out this whole time, and... 712 00:31:35,645 --> 00:31:36,812 it freaks me out. 713 00:31:37,813 --> 00:31:38,940 Because... 714 00:31:40,858 --> 00:31:42,735 I see that it can be not pretty. 715 00:31:45,196 --> 00:31:46,781 I don't want to get a divorce. 716 00:31:47,907 --> 00:31:48,741 I don't. 717 00:31:55,706 --> 00:31:58,250 I want to be ready to get married. 718 00:31:59,669 --> 00:32:01,337 But I have to figure things out first, 719 00:32:01,420 --> 00:32:03,839 and I'm sorry that I put you through so much... 720 00:32:04,966 --> 00:32:06,759 -[Damian] It's okay. -...to figure that out. 721 00:32:08,177 --> 00:32:09,053 I'm so sorry. 722 00:32:09,762 --> 00:32:10,805 [Damian] Don't apologize. 723 00:32:10,888 --> 00:32:14,100 I am, 'cause I really, really need to, 'cause... 724 00:32:15,267 --> 00:32:17,895 Because of every single thing that we've been through, 725 00:32:17,979 --> 00:32:22,066 I know that Damian is someone that will stick by my side through everything. 726 00:32:22,149 --> 00:32:24,610 When I'm committing to marriage, I'm committing to that person, 727 00:32:24,694 --> 00:32:25,528 good or bad. 728 00:32:25,611 --> 00:32:28,489 [Giannina] And I've shown him everything. Everything. 729 00:32:29,490 --> 00:32:32,743 I needed someone strong, 'cause I'm a lot. 730 00:32:33,494 --> 00:32:37,498 I'm 100% crazy or 100% sweet, 731 00:32:37,581 --> 00:32:40,167 and a lot of people can't handle that. 732 00:32:41,252 --> 00:32:44,088 [Oscar] Marriage is not about these happy moments. 733 00:32:44,171 --> 00:32:45,006 Marriage is about-- 734 00:32:45,089 --> 00:32:45,923 -Forever. -Long-term. 735 00:32:46,007 --> 00:32:48,050 -I think you need more time... -To know each other. 736 00:32:48,134 --> 00:32:49,385 ...to know each other. 737 00:32:49,468 --> 00:32:50,302 More time. 738 00:32:52,847 --> 00:32:54,390 [Milady] Damian is a good guy. 739 00:32:55,266 --> 00:32:56,642 He's a gentleman. 740 00:32:56,726 --> 00:32:59,937 Damian is ready to be married, but.. 741 00:33:00,563 --> 00:33:03,024 I think she need more time, but she will be married with him. 742 00:33:04,275 --> 00:33:05,234 Absolutely. 743 00:33:05,985 --> 00:33:08,195 -More time. -A little more time. 744 00:33:08,279 --> 00:33:10,823 [Oscar] At the end, it's your decision. We can only give you feedback. 745 00:33:10,906 --> 00:33:12,116 -[GIannina] Thank you. -And-- 746 00:33:12,199 --> 00:33:14,243 -I like this guy. -[Damian] We appreciate it. 747 00:33:14,326 --> 00:33:17,371 -I mean, it is something... -We have to be honest. 748 00:33:17,455 --> 00:33:20,332 [Damian] Me and her are trying to figure it out through these processes. 749 00:33:20,416 --> 00:33:22,752 -We have to be honest with each other. -And not only for her. 750 00:33:22,835 --> 00:33:24,962 It's also for you. Because I tell you this: 751 00:33:25,629 --> 00:33:27,923 You're married to a tough woman. 752 00:33:28,007 --> 00:33:29,759 It's a tough decision, believe me. 753 00:33:37,266 --> 00:33:39,935 [Lauren] Cameron is a great guy. 754 00:33:40,019 --> 00:33:44,023 I think that he will make a great husband and a great father. 755 00:33:44,106 --> 00:33:46,650 Just honestly, tell me how you feel, Ma. 756 00:33:47,109 --> 00:33:50,112 -Well, I haven't met him yet, but-- -I mean, just period, with everything. 757 00:33:50,196 --> 00:33:52,073 -I mean, do you really-- -I'm excited for you, 758 00:33:52,156 --> 00:33:57,787 because this is a big step for you, and you made a decision, and... 759 00:33:58,204 --> 00:34:00,664 I mean, I just feel like, like my whole life, you were like, 760 00:34:00,748 --> 00:34:06,170 "Well, you need to get a husband, Lauren. You're single. You need a husband. 761 00:34:06,253 --> 00:34:09,423 How are you going to find a husband in the house, Lauren? 762 00:34:09,507 --> 00:34:11,175 Oh, you're by yourself. 763 00:34:11,258 --> 00:34:14,011 Oh, Lauren, your eggs are drying up. 764 00:34:14,095 --> 00:34:16,472 Oh, you need to have kids." 765 00:34:16,555 --> 00:34:17,431 Finally. 766 00:34:17,515 --> 00:34:19,892 [both laughing] 767 00:34:20,017 --> 00:34:21,852 Cameron is gonna meet my parents separately 768 00:34:21,936 --> 00:34:23,145 because they're divorced. 769 00:34:23,229 --> 00:34:25,815 But what questions do you think you wanna ask him? 770 00:34:25,898 --> 00:34:28,400 -Anything you wanna ask me before? -I'll be like this. 771 00:34:29,193 --> 00:34:31,529 -"So, who are you really?" -[Lauren laughing] 772 00:34:31,612 --> 00:34:33,697 -I do that all the time. -[Pamela laughing] 773 00:34:34,115 --> 00:34:37,118 [Lauren] My mom is a very interesting lady. 774 00:34:37,201 --> 00:34:38,452 She's very quirky. 775 00:34:38,536 --> 00:34:40,704 I think that's where I get a lot of my quirks from. 776 00:34:40,788 --> 00:34:42,581 She definitely says what's on her mind. 777 00:34:42,665 --> 00:34:44,041 So, you know, 778 00:34:44,125 --> 00:34:47,169 I'm just hoping that everything goes smooth on both ends. 779 00:34:47,670 --> 00:34:48,838 [door unlocking] 780 00:34:50,131 --> 00:34:52,800 -[imitates suspenseful music] -[Pamela] Oh, my God! 781 00:34:52,883 --> 00:34:55,177 It's Cameron! 782 00:34:55,261 --> 00:34:56,262 [Pamela laughing] 783 00:34:56,345 --> 00:34:58,264 -Hey. How are you? -Hi. 784 00:34:58,347 --> 00:34:59,598 I'm great. Thank you. 785 00:34:59,682 --> 00:35:00,850 [Lauren] Cameron, this is my mom. 786 00:35:00,933 --> 00:35:02,184 -Nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you, too. 787 00:35:02,268 --> 00:35:04,061 [Lauren] Pam Speed. Well? 788 00:35:05,563 --> 00:35:06,480 How do you feel? 789 00:35:06,564 --> 00:35:08,899 -[Lauren chuckles] -I'm very excited to finally meet you. 790 00:35:08,983 --> 00:35:10,151 -Yeah. -And, uh... 791 00:35:10,234 --> 00:35:12,069 [Pamela] So you think you're gonna go through with this? 792 00:35:12,153 --> 00:35:13,571 -Oh, 100%. -100%? 793 00:35:13,654 --> 00:35:15,573 [Lauren] Well, just jump right into it, Ma. 794 00:35:15,656 --> 00:35:18,284 Yeah, I mean, I love your daughter very, very much. 795 00:35:18,367 --> 00:35:19,743 -Okay. -And, uh... 796 00:35:20,786 --> 00:35:23,205 And I feel 100% in, 797 00:35:23,289 --> 00:35:25,833 and then there's no one else I would want to be with. 798 00:35:25,916 --> 00:35:26,750 [Pamela] Oh, my! 799 00:35:26,834 --> 00:35:29,003 So, the experiment worked according to you, huh? 800 00:35:29,086 --> 00:35:31,297 -[laughs] Yeah. -Oh, wow! 801 00:35:32,423 --> 00:35:33,549 -Yeah. -Yeah. 802 00:35:33,632 --> 00:35:35,009 She's an amazing woman. 803 00:35:35,092 --> 00:35:37,094 -Okay. [laughs] -Hee-hee. 804 00:35:38,470 --> 00:35:41,891 Well, that's great to hear. I'm glad you feel that way about her. 805 00:35:42,266 --> 00:35:46,187 [Cameron] I've been anxiously anticipating meeting Lauren's mom. 806 00:35:46,270 --> 00:35:48,647 I'm the first white man that she's dated. 807 00:35:49,064 --> 00:35:53,652 And also I'm the first man that she's ever introduced to her parents. 808 00:35:53,736 --> 00:35:56,822 But, you know, I'm gonna give her the old Cameron charm, 809 00:35:56,906 --> 00:35:58,199 and we'll see... [chuckles] 810 00:35:58,282 --> 00:36:00,618 We'll see if that wins her over. 811 00:36:00,701 --> 00:36:03,037 So, Ma, what questions do you have for Cameron? 812 00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:04,163 [Cameron] Yeah, lay them on me. 813 00:36:04,246 --> 00:36:06,874 How did you feel when you met her for the first time you saw her? 814 00:36:06,957 --> 00:36:08,500 -[Cameron] Physically? -Yeah, physically. 815 00:36:08,584 --> 00:36:10,085 I mean, I was blown away. 816 00:36:10,169 --> 00:36:11,003 [Pamela] Oh... 817 00:36:11,086 --> 00:36:12,713 -I was very stunned. -[Pamela] Really? 818 00:36:12,796 --> 00:36:14,757 Yeah, she is the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. 819 00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:16,425 Oh, thank you! 820 00:36:16,508 --> 00:36:19,637 She's saying, "She looks like me. Mm, thank you." 821 00:36:19,720 --> 00:36:21,847 [Cameron] No, I'm very serious. 822 00:36:21,931 --> 00:36:24,225 Yeah, she looks like a lot of my pictures when I was at her age. 823 00:36:24,308 --> 00:36:26,602 I noticed, yeah. She showed me some of the photo albums. 824 00:36:26,685 --> 00:36:27,937 -[Pamela] Really? -Yeah. 825 00:36:28,020 --> 00:36:30,022 -Definitely the smile. -Yeah. 826 00:36:30,105 --> 00:36:31,941 -And a lot of the... -[Pamela] Yeah, somewhere in there. 827 00:36:32,024 --> 00:36:33,567 -Yeah. -That's my mama. 828 00:36:34,610 --> 00:36:36,528 [Pamela] Well, I heard something. 829 00:36:36,612 --> 00:36:39,823 [laughing] She said that you were in a rap group at one time. 830 00:36:40,199 --> 00:36:43,327 Yeah, back in college, I used to do a lot of... 831 00:36:43,410 --> 00:36:46,121 I was in a hip hop group, and we performed a little bit. 832 00:36:46,205 --> 00:36:47,414 Do you remember any? 833 00:36:47,498 --> 00:36:48,666 [Pamela and Lauren laughing] 834 00:36:48,749 --> 00:36:51,585 -You want me to do that? -Yeah, why not? 835 00:36:51,669 --> 00:36:52,544 Sure. 836 00:36:53,754 --> 00:36:55,005 [laughs] 837 00:36:55,089 --> 00:36:56,924 [rapping] ♪ I'm feeling like a kid with you ♪ 838 00:36:57,007 --> 00:36:59,385 ♪ You're my main chick Those other girls are previews ♪ 839 00:36:59,468 --> 00:37:00,636 ♪ Hop in the back Rolling up ♪ 840 00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:01,845 ♪ Then we're free to cruise ♪ 841 00:37:01,929 --> 00:37:04,640 ♪ I drop the top down Feeling like we can't lose ♪ 842 00:37:04,723 --> 00:37:07,434 ♪ I'm living in the dream And those haters wonder why ♪ 843 00:37:07,518 --> 00:37:10,271 ♪ Why I'm so high up I feel like I can fly ♪ 844 00:37:10,354 --> 00:37:12,022 ♪ So we throw our hands up ♪ 845 00:37:12,106 --> 00:37:14,608 ♪ No concern for those lames That desert us ♪ 846 00:37:14,692 --> 00:37:16,151 ♪ They don't deserve us ♪ 847 00:37:16,235 --> 00:37:18,696 ♪ Blast off The course is like a crash collision ♪ 848 00:37:18,779 --> 00:37:21,240 ♪ 'Cause every choice we make Is like a rash decision ♪ 849 00:37:21,323 --> 00:37:23,242 ♪ But the truth is hard to swallow ♪ 850 00:37:23,325 --> 00:37:25,911 ♪ We're the leaders, baby And they just hope to follow ♪ 851 00:37:25,995 --> 00:37:28,205 -All right! -Yay! 852 00:37:28,289 --> 00:37:29,123 That was great. 853 00:37:29,206 --> 00:37:32,668 [Lauren] I definitely think that Cameron, uh, won my mom over. 854 00:37:32,751 --> 00:37:35,296 I saw her soften up right before my eyes. 855 00:37:35,379 --> 00:37:38,924 I mean, she's all laughing at Cameron's jokes. 856 00:37:39,008 --> 00:37:42,428 I do think that my mom was impressed by Cameron's rapping. 857 00:37:42,511 --> 00:37:44,471 I think he gained some extra points. 858 00:37:44,555 --> 00:37:47,516 So it's like we're opposites, 859 00:37:47,599 --> 00:37:49,059 but we have a lot in common. 860 00:37:49,143 --> 00:37:50,519 We have a lot in common, yeah. 861 00:37:50,936 --> 00:37:55,107 And I'm sure Lauren's told you by now that my parents are also Pam and Bill. 862 00:37:55,649 --> 00:37:57,401 Yeah. Isn't that... [laughs] 863 00:37:57,484 --> 00:37:59,153 -[Lauren] That's crazy. -It's so weird. 864 00:37:59,528 --> 00:38:01,447 -[Pamela] So weird. -[laughs] 865 00:38:01,530 --> 00:38:02,823 [Pamela] Did you tell your dad? 866 00:38:02,906 --> 00:38:05,075 -Yeah, I told him. -[Pamela laughs] 867 00:38:05,242 --> 00:38:07,328 -He's just like, "What?" -[Cameron laughs] 868 00:38:07,411 --> 00:38:09,663 -Wait till you meet him. -[Cameron] Oh, yeah. 869 00:38:10,205 --> 00:38:12,624 -Looking forward to it. -[Pamela] Yeah. 870 00:38:12,708 --> 00:38:16,920 He's really crazy about his daughter, his one and only daughter. 871 00:38:17,004 --> 00:38:19,965 -Right. -And he'll probably tell you... 872 00:38:20,758 --> 00:38:23,719 Take no offense at this. "I will kill for her." 873 00:38:23,802 --> 00:38:26,180 -[Pamela] But I mean, that's just... -I mean, even literally... 874 00:38:26,263 --> 00:38:27,431 He won't kill you. 875 00:38:27,973 --> 00:38:29,808 -He will kill you. -[Pamela laughs] 876 00:38:29,892 --> 00:38:33,937 I mean, he would be just in doing that if I did something, you know... 877 00:38:34,021 --> 00:38:34,855 [laughs] 878 00:38:34,938 --> 00:38:37,733 [Pamela] When Lauren's dad meets Cameron, 879 00:38:38,317 --> 00:38:42,446 I would love to be a fly on the wall, because... 880 00:38:42,529 --> 00:38:47,659 he's just always wanted our kids to marry within our race. 881 00:38:48,118 --> 00:38:48,952 So... 882 00:38:49,787 --> 00:38:51,372 I don't know how he'll handle that. 883 00:38:52,331 --> 00:38:54,083 You guys make a cute couple. 884 00:38:54,166 --> 00:38:57,044 That means a lot to me, to hear you say that. 885 00:39:03,258 --> 00:39:05,594 [Barnett] My family, like, they had this party phase, 886 00:39:05,677 --> 00:39:07,388 and now they're not there anymore. 887 00:39:07,471 --> 00:39:10,349 So, literally, I'm the only one that drinks in my family. 888 00:39:10,724 --> 00:39:12,101 [Amber] Oh, God! 889 00:39:12,184 --> 00:39:13,060 Oh, Lord! 890 00:39:13,435 --> 00:39:16,605 [Barnett] Amber's personality, with my family, makes me nervous, 891 00:39:16,688 --> 00:39:19,525 because they are more on the conservative side. 892 00:39:19,983 --> 00:39:22,027 I think one of the biggest things in my life is 893 00:39:22,111 --> 00:39:25,489 I've always wanted to do what my family thinks is best, I guess. 894 00:39:26,031 --> 00:39:29,201 And... I'm scared of disappointing them. 895 00:39:29,284 --> 00:39:32,037 I'm scared of doing something wrong in their eyes. 896 00:39:32,287 --> 00:39:33,747 I think Amber is gonna be fine, 897 00:39:33,831 --> 00:39:37,584 but I'm still scared that they're gonna ask her lots of questions and... 898 00:39:38,460 --> 00:39:40,963 try to figure out real quick who she is. 899 00:39:41,797 --> 00:39:43,465 So, this is my home, 900 00:39:44,133 --> 00:39:45,884 or where I lived for a long time. 901 00:39:46,427 --> 00:39:47,302 [Barnett sighs deeply] 902 00:39:47,386 --> 00:39:49,513 -[Amber] I don't wanna get out yet. -[Barnett] No? 903 00:39:49,596 --> 00:39:52,099 -[Amber] I'm nervous. -[Barnett] We can wait here a sec. 904 00:39:52,391 --> 00:39:55,477 I know I can be a lot to take in. 905 00:39:55,561 --> 00:39:56,895 It's a lot of personality, 906 00:39:56,979 --> 00:40:00,941 and I'm just a little scared I'm gonna say the wrong thing. 907 00:40:01,859 --> 00:40:03,444 -What's up, guys? -Hey! 908 00:40:03,527 --> 00:40:04,653 [Barnett] This is Amber. 909 00:40:04,736 --> 00:40:06,155 Hi. It's so nice to meet you. 910 00:40:06,238 --> 00:40:08,615 I'm sorry. I'm freaking out a little. I'm shaking a little. 911 00:40:08,699 --> 00:40:10,492 -Hey, guys. -Hey. 912 00:40:10,576 --> 00:40:12,578 -We're here together. -[Amber] Oh, my gosh! 913 00:40:12,953 --> 00:40:13,996 -Hi. -I'm Debra. 914 00:40:14,079 --> 00:40:15,289 -I'm Amber. -This is my mom. 915 00:40:15,372 --> 00:40:16,457 So nice to meet you. 916 00:40:16,540 --> 00:40:18,333 -Oh, my God! I'm like... -[Deb laughs] 917 00:40:18,417 --> 00:40:19,418 Holy crap! 918 00:40:19,501 --> 00:40:20,544 [Deb laughs] 919 00:40:20,627 --> 00:40:21,879 -I'm Danny. -This is my brother, Danny. 920 00:40:21,962 --> 00:40:24,006 Hi, Danny. I'm Amber. Nice to meet you. 921 00:40:24,089 --> 00:40:25,674 Nice to meet you, Amber. It's okay. 922 00:40:25,757 --> 00:40:27,426 I'm freaking out. What is this? 923 00:40:27,509 --> 00:40:29,970 -Chillax. -Hi, how are you? 924 00:40:30,888 --> 00:40:32,598 Oh, gosh! [laughs] 925 00:40:32,931 --> 00:40:33,932 How's it been? 926 00:40:34,016 --> 00:40:35,392 It's been a lot. 927 00:40:35,809 --> 00:40:37,352 [Danny] How have you handled the stress? 928 00:40:38,687 --> 00:40:40,105 -Beer? -Salud. 929 00:40:40,189 --> 00:40:41,106 [Danny] Yep. 930 00:40:42,691 --> 00:40:43,775 [exhales loudly] 931 00:40:45,277 --> 00:40:46,612 Shh. No, I'm kidding. 932 00:40:47,154 --> 00:40:48,322 [laughs] 933 00:40:48,906 --> 00:40:50,616 She's been more stressed out than I have. 934 00:40:50,991 --> 00:40:52,826 [laughs, snorts] 935 00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:55,996 [David] So, what what's the worst thing that you've learned of Matt? 936 00:40:56,580 --> 00:40:59,458 Besides the fact that he's totally okay with farting on me? 937 00:40:59,541 --> 00:41:02,211 -[David] If that's the worst thing-- -That wasn't that bad. 938 00:41:02,294 --> 00:41:04,296 -[Amber and Danny laughing] -[Barnett] It caught me off guard, too. 939 00:41:04,379 --> 00:41:05,881 So.. [laughs] 940 00:41:06,340 --> 00:41:07,674 [snorts] Oh, my God! 941 00:41:07,758 --> 00:41:10,761 [Barnett] My parents, they seemed a little uncomfortable. [chuckles] 942 00:41:10,844 --> 00:41:12,513 Maybe shell-shocked is a good word for it. 943 00:41:13,472 --> 00:41:14,932 Yeah, very spur-of-the-moment. 944 00:41:15,015 --> 00:41:17,851 [Amber] Matt, once we got further along in the process, 945 00:41:17,935 --> 00:41:20,103 I realized it's really hard to get him to open up. 946 00:41:20,187 --> 00:41:22,064 It's like pulling teeth. He's very stubborn. 947 00:41:22,147 --> 00:41:23,065 Notice the ring. 948 00:41:23,148 --> 00:41:25,484 That ring is on there because he kept changing his mind 949 00:41:25,567 --> 00:41:26,985 between me and another girl. 950 00:41:28,237 --> 00:41:29,404 -And I was like-- -[Deb] What? 951 00:41:29,488 --> 00:41:30,906 [Andy] He likes to keep his options open. 952 00:41:30,989 --> 00:41:33,659 [Amber] Well, I told him, "Hold up. Give me your hand. 953 00:41:33,909 --> 00:41:34,910 Put this on. 954 00:41:34,993 --> 00:41:36,662 You're not changing your mind again. You're stuck. 955 00:41:36,745 --> 00:41:38,038 You're not going nowhere." 956 00:41:38,121 --> 00:41:39,873 [Deb] Amber's personality... 957 00:41:39,957 --> 00:41:42,000 Very friendly, very outspoken. 958 00:41:42,084 --> 00:41:43,126 Knows what she wants. 959 00:41:43,210 --> 00:41:45,295 I can see why Matt would be attracted to her. 960 00:41:45,796 --> 00:41:49,174 I'm may worry that's lust. It's not really love. 961 00:41:49,633 --> 00:41:50,676 [Danny] Why marriage, though? 962 00:41:50,759 --> 00:41:52,928 What I'm trying to say is that you start out in a... 963 00:41:53,011 --> 00:41:54,096 In a lust mode. 964 00:41:54,179 --> 00:41:55,722 You have a spark, 965 00:41:55,806 --> 00:42:00,143 and, and in that spark, you do everything to make the other person happy, 966 00:42:00,227 --> 00:42:02,771 but after ten years of marriage, things get real. 967 00:42:02,854 --> 00:42:07,234 When I tell you the way that we match up is unrealistic. 968 00:42:07,317 --> 00:42:09,570 -It doesn't make any sense. -It's unrealistic. 969 00:42:09,653 --> 00:42:13,490 And I'm a huge weirdo, and I am all over the place, 970 00:42:13,574 --> 00:42:17,786 and, like, every time I jump from one kind of crazy to another, 971 00:42:17,869 --> 00:42:20,414 just the oddness, Matt's right there with me. 972 00:42:20,497 --> 00:42:24,376 And I feel like there's enough differences that we get to learn from each other. 973 00:42:24,459 --> 00:42:25,544 It won't get boring. 974 00:42:25,627 --> 00:42:28,297 But also we're so similar in so many of the ways that matter 975 00:42:28,380 --> 00:42:30,632 that it just makes sense. 976 00:42:30,716 --> 00:42:31,925 [Barnett] You guys know me. 977 00:42:32,009 --> 00:42:37,389 I wouldn't make this decision unless I was 100% sure, because-- 978 00:42:37,472 --> 00:42:38,515 [Danny] Were you, though? 979 00:42:38,599 --> 00:42:40,434 You went back and forth, from what we're hearing. 980 00:42:40,517 --> 00:42:41,852 So, so, so... Hold on. 981 00:42:41,935 --> 00:42:46,398 Because she was so passionate and so, like, into me. 982 00:42:46,481 --> 00:42:47,441 And I was like... 983 00:42:47,774 --> 00:42:50,027 Like, I knew how our relationship would be, 984 00:42:50,110 --> 00:42:51,820 and we got along so well. 985 00:42:51,903 --> 00:42:55,907 But I just knew that I would be loved the way that I wanted to be loved, 986 00:42:55,991 --> 00:42:58,410 and I think that was kind of what sold me. 987 00:42:59,369 --> 00:43:02,497 I know my brother, and, like, he thinks I'm crazy. 988 00:43:02,581 --> 00:43:05,125 He's not saying it. He's not saying... 989 00:43:05,667 --> 00:43:07,628 Yeah, but he thinks I'm crazy. 990 00:43:08,003 --> 00:43:10,380 You take one side of the table. I'll take the other. 991 00:43:11,089 --> 00:43:14,343 -Can I just get under it? -[laughs] If that's what you wanna do. 992 00:43:14,885 --> 00:43:17,638 I don't think he understands it. He's never seen me act like I'm acting. 993 00:43:17,721 --> 00:43:20,599 He's never seen me certain about anything like that before. 994 00:43:20,682 --> 00:43:23,977 I always compare myself to him and what he has. 995 00:43:24,061 --> 00:43:28,482 I'm nervous that he's not gonna be accepting of what I'm doing. 996 00:43:28,565 --> 00:43:32,861 It's, it's hard to explain it, I guess, in a way that makes sense. 997 00:43:34,237 --> 00:43:36,114 I'm... I rush into relationships. 998 00:43:36,490 --> 00:43:37,324 I have. 999 00:43:37,407 --> 00:43:39,076 This is something different. 1000 00:43:39,660 --> 00:43:40,494 It's like... 1001 00:43:41,161 --> 00:43:43,121 She is... She's cooler than me. 1002 00:43:43,205 --> 00:43:45,791 She, she understands me, my humor. 1003 00:43:45,874 --> 00:43:51,630 I can literally say anything, do anything, and be myself 100% around her, 1004 00:43:51,713 --> 00:43:53,507 and I've never once felt like... 1005 00:43:55,884 --> 00:43:57,803 She loves it. Like, it's so crazy. 1006 00:43:57,886 --> 00:44:01,306 I don't want you to be jumping into something 1007 00:44:01,390 --> 00:44:04,267 because of how you guys met. 1008 00:44:04,351 --> 00:44:09,564 So many other things that are involved when saying you want to marry someone, 1009 00:44:09,648 --> 00:44:13,860 because marriage is the hardest fucking thing I've ever done in my life. 1010 00:44:13,944 --> 00:44:14,820 Right? 1011 00:44:15,237 --> 00:44:17,030 -And I think-- -And it took me... 1012 00:44:17,864 --> 00:44:20,325 two to three years to even get married, 1013 00:44:20,409 --> 00:44:22,411 much less two to three weeks. 1014 00:44:23,870 --> 00:44:27,249 You don't even realize how difficult it really, really gets. 1015 00:44:27,749 --> 00:44:30,627 Marriage is about stopping... Forgetting about yourself, 1016 00:44:31,169 --> 00:44:34,214 and making sure that you put that other person before your needs 1017 00:44:34,297 --> 00:44:35,424 in everything that you do. 1018 00:44:35,507 --> 00:44:38,468 Are you willing to give up everything for this person? 1019 00:44:39,761 --> 00:44:40,887 Everything? 1020 00:44:48,311 --> 00:44:50,731 [Lauren] This is the moment we've been talking about for a long time. 1021 00:44:50,814 --> 00:44:51,648 Are you nervous? 1022 00:44:51,732 --> 00:44:55,360 You know, of course, I want him to like me 1023 00:44:56,069 --> 00:44:57,821 and to approve of us. 1024 00:44:57,904 --> 00:44:58,739 Yeah. 1025 00:45:02,284 --> 00:45:05,370 There's definitely been a lot of build-up leading to today. 1026 00:45:05,454 --> 00:45:08,665 Because today is the day that Cameron's going to meet my father. 1027 00:45:09,458 --> 00:45:11,793 [sighs deeply] Okay. 1028 00:45:11,877 --> 00:45:16,757 My dad is also very vocal about the black community 1029 00:45:16,840 --> 00:45:20,886 and, um, you know, keeping the black family structure strong. 1030 00:45:21,386 --> 00:45:22,637 So I just... 1031 00:45:22,721 --> 00:45:24,473 You know, I don't know what to expect. 1032 00:45:24,556 --> 00:45:27,350 I'm hoping that everything goes smooth, but I know... 1033 00:45:28,810 --> 00:45:33,648 that Papa Speed is ready to grill Cameron. 1034 00:45:34,357 --> 00:45:37,486 Very high anxiety, very high anticipation. 1035 00:45:37,569 --> 00:45:41,281 It is truly and honestly the craziest set of emotions 1036 00:45:41,364 --> 00:45:42,699 that I've ever felt in my life. 1037 00:45:42,783 --> 00:45:46,703 It would be nice to find some common ground with your father. 1038 00:45:47,204 --> 00:45:48,497 Don't look so nervous. 1039 00:45:48,580 --> 00:45:50,123 [Cameron] You think I look nervous? 1040 00:45:50,582 --> 00:45:51,917 [Lauren] Just relax. 1041 00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:53,835 [Cameron] I think when you're dating someone, 1042 00:45:53,919 --> 00:45:56,338 you really have to impress both parents, 1043 00:45:56,421 --> 00:46:01,092 and, for Lauren, her dad is absolutely her role model. 1044 00:46:01,176 --> 00:46:04,513 So, I know how important it is to impress him. 1045 00:46:05,013 --> 00:46:06,681 Lauren has told me many times 1046 00:46:06,765 --> 00:46:09,309 that she feels like me meeting her father 1047 00:46:09,976 --> 00:46:12,145 was one of the biggest things 1048 00:46:12,229 --> 00:46:15,232 on her list of potential roadblocks 1049 00:46:15,315 --> 00:46:18,860 on our path to being husband and wife. 1050 00:46:19,778 --> 00:46:22,239 She wanted to make sure that everything went smoothly, 1051 00:46:22,322 --> 00:46:25,075 and that her father really approves of me. 1052 00:46:27,327 --> 00:46:30,080 -[Lauren] Let's go meet Papa Speed. -[Cameron] All right, let's do it. 1053 00:46:31,164 --> 00:46:33,875 [Lauren] I know that my dad is concerned, 1054 00:46:33,959 --> 00:46:37,879 and I definitely value his opinion. 1055 00:46:38,880 --> 00:46:41,800 So if he doesn't like Cameron, 1056 00:46:42,133 --> 00:46:43,635 I don't know what I'm going to do. 1057 00:46:43,844 --> 00:46:45,971 [Bill] Let me call you back, man. Bye bye. 1058 00:46:46,555 --> 00:46:47,389 Hi, sweetheart. 1059 00:46:47,472 --> 00:46:48,473 Hi, Dad. 1060 00:46:49,391 --> 00:46:50,559 [moans affectionately] 1061 00:46:52,477 --> 00:46:53,562 -Hi. -[Bill] This is Cameron. 1062 00:46:53,645 --> 00:46:54,479 [Cameron] This is me. 1063 00:46:54,563 --> 00:46:55,897 -[Lauren] This is Cameron. -Okay. 1064 00:46:56,231 --> 00:46:58,316 -Finally, you know, we get to meet. -[Bill] Well... 1065 00:46:58,400 --> 00:46:59,317 Yeah. 1066 00:46:59,818 --> 00:47:00,652 Hmm. 1067 00:47:04,197 --> 00:47:05,574 I got a million questions. 1068 00:47:07,617 --> 00:47:10,078 Um, I mean, I-- I want to put your mind at ease 1069 00:47:10,161 --> 00:47:11,121 as much as I can. 1070 00:47:11,705 --> 00:47:12,622 Really? 1071 00:47:13,456 --> 00:47:15,542 What kind of life do you intend to give my daughter? 1072 00:47:15,625 --> 00:47:18,712 I want us to be equal partners in our marriage... 1073 00:47:18,795 --> 00:47:19,713 [Bill] Mm-hmm. 1074 00:47:19,796 --> 00:47:22,883 ...and I want to do everything that I can to make her happy. 1075 00:47:25,594 --> 00:47:27,137 [clears throat] Well... 1076 00:47:31,224 --> 00:47:32,267 I don't really know you. 1077 00:47:32,350 --> 00:47:33,685 -I have to get to know you. -[Cameron] Sure. 1078 00:47:33,768 --> 00:47:36,187 -[Bill] You know what I'm saying? -[Cameron] I want you to know me. 1079 00:47:36,271 --> 00:47:37,439 -Okay. -[Cameron] Yeah. 1080 00:47:43,695 --> 00:47:45,989 [Bill] The fact that she has chosen you... 1081 00:47:47,782 --> 00:47:49,242 It's not gonna be a gauntlet. 1082 00:47:49,326 --> 00:47:51,453 But until I feel absolutely comfortable... 1083 00:47:52,913 --> 00:47:54,164 [dramatic music escalates] 1084 00:47:54,539 --> 00:47:55,957 [dramatic music crescendos] 1085 00:47:57,626 --> 00:47:59,085 ["I Am the Diamond" playing] 1086 00:47:59,169 --> 00:48:00,712 ♪ I am the diamond ♪ 1087 00:48:01,004 --> 00:48:03,298 ♪ I am the diamond ♪ 1088 00:48:04,507 --> 00:48:06,176 ♪ You’ll never find me ♪ 1089 00:48:06,259 --> 00:48:09,095 ♪ All that you find is lost ♪ 1090 00:48:10,513 --> 00:48:13,266 ♪ Oh I am the diamond ♪ 1091 00:48:14,559 --> 00:48:16,978 ♪ I am the diamond ♪ 1092 00:48:18,229 --> 00:48:19,898 ♪ You’ll never hide me ♪ 1093 00:48:19,981 --> 00:48:22,859 ♪ Keep me from shining on ♪