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So, how are things in school?Awful.

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I've got this big report
that's due tomorrow.

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They only gave you a day?

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Well, they gave me two weeks.
I gave me a day.

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What's the assignment?

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Interview someone from my real
life I find interesting.

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Oh, yeah. I had to do that
when I was your age.

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You don't happen to have it
lying around, do you?

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I don't think a report
on Miley Cyrus

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is what your teacher's
looking for.

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You knew Miley Cyrus?

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Nope. That's why I got a "D."

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Well, you're in luck,
Hazelnut.

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I got lots of stories.

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Who says Hazel's gonna
pick you?

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Why not me?

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I'm a successful
business owner.

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Ah, yes, yes.

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Your grandfather would be
a perfect choice.

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Very interesting man.

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Not that it matters,

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but I am also
an accomplished businessman.

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Did you know I sold
more green onions

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than any other six-year-old
in Kabul?

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We all know. Every time we eat
something with onions in it,

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you tell us that story.

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It's a good story.

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Here's an idea.

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Why don't you write
about your war hero dad?

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Giving you a bad grade
would be unpatriotic.

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Another great choice.

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Your father is very brave.

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I should know.
He fought alongside me.

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Uncle Al, would you like me
to do the report on you?

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Oh, Hazel Jaan, there are
so many good choices

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around this table.

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Well, I guess I could do it...

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I humbly accept.

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If a little girl wants
to get an "A" on a paper,

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who am I to stop her?

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♪

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♪ Oh!

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My name is Awalmir Karimi,
son of Siddiq Karimi,

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grandson of Usman Karimi.

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A native of Kandahar currently
living just outside

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of Columbus, Ohio,

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in the second house
from the right,

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beside the pink house
with the messy lawn.

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And the story of how I got
from Afghanistan to America

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is filled with twists, turns,

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and-- dare I say-- miracles.

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Great. If I talk slow,
that might be all I need.

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Our story begins
on a warm summer day,

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when the mulberries
had just turned red.

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Write down that
he's afraid of owls.

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I'm not afraid of owls,

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I just know that they are
harbingers of death.

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They used to hoot in his ear
while he was sleeping.

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Stop trying to get
into my report.

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Uh, what advice would you
give yourself at age 11?

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Easy. Don't waste time
with the neighbor's daughter.

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She is not into you.
She's into your brother.

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What do you consider
your greatest accomplishment?

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Surviving.What do you mean?

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I lived through three wars
with barely a scratch.

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Ooh, this guy's got
a sixth sense for danger.

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One time we were talking
to this local farmer.

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Seemed like the nicest guy.
He was joking around with us.

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Then Al noticed an antenna
poking out of his pocket.

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He was hiding a walkie-talkie.

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Al warned us. We all got
the hell out of there

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before he could
call in an attack.

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Whoa.

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RILEY [sighs]:I know.

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It was amazing.
Nothing got past him.

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Hazel.

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I don't hear typing.

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The president was so impressed,
he almost named

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an American base after me.

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What? That is not true.

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You don't need to exaggerate.

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It is called the art
of storytelling, Riley.

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The details are not
as important

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as the feeling we are trying to
inspire in these young dreamers.

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Sure. Sure.
Mm-hmm.

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Where do you think
you'll be in five years?

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Probably still sitting here,
telling his story.

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So, would you say you're
afraid of all owls?

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And Al is smart.
He speaks five languages:

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English, Dari, Urdu,
Pashto and French.

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He is brave. He spent six years
serving with the Marines

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and saved many American lives,
including my dad's.

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And he is modest.

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They really wanted to
name a base after him,

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but he thought
it'd be too much work

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to change it on all the maps.

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The end.

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Wonderful.

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Are there any questions
for Hazel?

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What's his favorite thing
about America?

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Me.

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Also Costco and game shows.

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If he's so brave, why didn't
he stay in Afghanistan?

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Because the Taliban
was trying to kill him

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for helping us.

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Okay. Thank you, Hazel.

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Your uncle sounds
like a real hero.

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He is. And I know it's
really important to him

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that I get a good grade.

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Is Al short for al-Qaeda?

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You're kidding.

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Aw, man, okay.
I'll be right there.

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Is everything okay?

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We got to meet Vanessa
at school.

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Hazel punched a kid.

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What? Why would she do that?

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I don't know.
She was a biter in preschool.

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But who wasn't?

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The rules are
very clearly stated

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in the student handbook.

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What's going on?She's suspended.

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She punched a kid,
and now she's suspended.

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We have a zero-tolerance policy
for violence.

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Danny has a black eye.

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What were you thinking?

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It's his fault.
He was being a jerk.

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He called Uncle Al
a terrorist.

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Oh, Hazel Jaan,
I have been called

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much worse than that.

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One of the things about
speaking five languages

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is I've been called terrible
things in five languages.

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That doesn't make it okay
for some twerp

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to say it to my daughter.

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Is this Danny kid suspended,
too?

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We are handling that
separately.

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Great. Will you be
suspending him separately?

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We are not here
to discuss Danny.

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Hazel, I'll see you
in one week.

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I hope you learned
a lesson.

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Oh, we'll make sure
she does.

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Come on, we're going
to go apologize

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to that boy right now.

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She can apologize
when he does.

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Or maybe they do it
at the same time.

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I'm not in charge of Danny,

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but I'm in charge of Hazel,
and she needs to be punished.

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She is being punished.
She's suspended.

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Wait, what does it mean
that she is suspended?

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She's not allowed
to go to school.

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That is a punishment here?
Interesting.

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Thank you, Mrs. Ro.

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And you are grounded.

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No screens, no friends, no fun.

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Says who?

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Her mother.

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I'm her dad.
Don't I get a say?

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[quietly]:
Okay... what are you doing?

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Maybe I don't want
to ground her

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for something I would
have done, too.

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Okay, then,
what do you want to do?

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I'll talk to her.
That's it?

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That's not good enough.

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Well, it's my night.
Come on, Hazel, let's go.

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I'm gonna punish
you with pizza.

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Are you kidding me?

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I will speak to him.

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I'm so sorry about this.It's a shame.

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Because until that incident,
it was a wonderful report.

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They almost named a base
after you?

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Oh, good, that made it in.

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How's it coming?

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It's coming.
It's, uh, definitely coming.

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Dad, you're so good
at so many things.

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It's okay if you don't know
how to fix a dishwasher.

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I didn't know how
to fix a roof

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until I got up there
and did it.

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You fell off the roof.

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Learned a lot.

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Hey, what are you doing
home so early?

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I got suspended.

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Relax, I'm handling it.

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I disagree he's handling it,
but don't worry,

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I'm handling it.

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Riley,

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I think we need to have
a talk about your parenting.

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No, we don't.

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I agree, Dad.
You're killing it.

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I'm gonna go ride my bike.

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Have fun.
Make good choices.

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When it comes to Hazel,

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you and Vanessa must
speak with one voice.

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Yeah, one voice sounds great.
I choose mine.

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You are disrespecting
her mother.

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Vanessa's wrong.

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Hazel had your back.

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She stood up for what
she thought was right,

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which happens to be
what I think is right.

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That's all good dad stuff.

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But you are confusing her.

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She cannot be punished
at her mother's house

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and pampered here.

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And what makes you
such an expert on children?

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I share a room with one... you.

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You are the child.

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That guy's way too young
to be a staff sergeant.

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And look, his
insignia's upside down.

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Drives me crazy.

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He's been shooting for an hour,
he hasn't reloaded once.

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Why do you guys even watch
this movie?

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Oh, it's a classic.It's the best.
It's great.

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Hey.
Guys.

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Wow. Movies, brownies.

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Really bringing the pain,
aren't you, Riley?

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Hazel knows violence
is wrong. Right?

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That is not how you use
a bayonet.

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Okay. Well, playtime's over.

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We're going to Danny's
to apologize.

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I think I want to
stay here tonight.

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Oh, no, you're not.
Riley, tell her.

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It's okay with me
if she wants to stay here.

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Thanks, Dad.You're welcome, sweetheart.

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Oh, my God, grow up
and be a parent.

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I'm a better
parent than you.

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Uh-oh.

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[TV shuts off]

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Okay, okay,
let's put the pin

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back into the grenade
and talk it out.

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Hazel, go to the garage.

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Uh, she really shouldn't
be out there alone...

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Please, Mr. Art, you stay.
This is a family problem,

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and the family must
solve it together.

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Lizzie, we need you, too.

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Hazel, why are you still here?

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And no brownies.

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All the way.

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All the way,
and shut the door.

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[door shuts]What's going on?

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Lizzie, please sit.
Join us.

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This family is in crisis.

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[sputters]
What else is new?

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I would like to make
a suggestion.

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Back home, when there was
a problem,

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we'd hold a meeting
known as a jirga.

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What's that? It is where allmembers of the family gather

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to express opinions

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and offer solutions.

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Oh, an intervention.

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Okay, cool. I've been
on both sides of those.

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Respected members
of the jirga,

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we are here to help Hazel.

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God is watching us and
expects nothing but honesty.

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That's a lot of pressure.

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AL:I think

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we all agree that Hazel
cannot have one set of rules

255
00:09:56,334 --> 00:09:58,467
at her mother's house
and another set of rules

256
00:09:58,510 --> 00:09:59,816
at her father's.

257
00:09:59,860 --> 00:10:01,644
You mean norules
at her father's

258
00:10:01,688 --> 00:10:02,906
and rules at mine?

259
00:10:02,950 --> 00:10:04,342
I have rules.AL: The point is,

260
00:10:04,386 --> 00:10:06,649
we agree it's a problem, yes?

261
00:10:06,693 --> 00:10:08,782
Yes.

262
00:10:08,825 --> 00:10:11,480
Now, who wants
to share their wisdom

263
00:10:11,523 --> 00:10:13,438
with this poor couple?

264
00:10:19,662 --> 00:10:23,231
We all know the Browns game
starts soon, right?

265
00:10:26,408 --> 00:10:28,149
All right, I'll start.

266
00:10:28,192 --> 00:10:29,672
Thank you.

267
00:10:29,716 --> 00:10:32,893
Thank you for including me
in this important, uh...

268
00:10:32,936 --> 00:10:34,895
I forgot the word already.

269
00:10:34,938 --> 00:10:37,375
Jirga.Jirga.

270
00:10:37,419 --> 00:10:40,596
Anyway, I think that these
are two terrific parents

271
00:10:40,640 --> 00:10:42,598
who love their daughter
differently

272
00:10:42,642 --> 00:10:44,905
but in the same way.

273
00:10:45,906 --> 00:10:48,038
Why does Freddy get a say?

274
00:10:48,082 --> 00:10:50,084
I'm not sure
he's saying anything.

275
00:10:51,085 --> 00:10:54,915
All right, you guys have
got to get it together,

276
00:10:54,958 --> 00:10:57,221
'cause this is a mess,
and she's only 12.

277
00:10:57,265 --> 00:11:00,224
It's going to get worse.
That's basic biology.

278
00:11:00,268 --> 00:11:02,139
Thank you, Lizzie.
That is a very good point.

279
00:11:02,183 --> 00:11:04,446
And this one knows what
she's talking about.

280
00:11:04,489 --> 00:11:07,841
She was a beast
from, like, 13 to 30.

281
00:11:07,884 --> 00:11:09,277
I am 27.

282
00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:12,019
Well,
30 can't get here quick enough.

283
00:11:12,062 --> 00:11:15,457
Is this 'cause I want to call
someone to fix the dishwasher?

284
00:11:15,500 --> 00:11:18,765
A repairman is a thief
with a wrench instead of a gun.

285
00:11:19,766 --> 00:11:21,593
Okay, show of hands,

286
00:11:21,637 --> 00:11:24,771
who thinks Dad has no idea
how to fix the dishwasher?

287
00:11:25,902 --> 00:11:28,644
You're gonna eat
those words.

288
00:11:28,688 --> 00:11:30,820
Yeah, well, I'm gonna eat 'em
off a paper plate!

289
00:11:30,864 --> 00:11:32,387
AL:
Okay,

290
00:11:32,430 --> 00:11:34,128
I understand
this is everyone's first jirga,

291
00:11:34,171 --> 00:11:36,043
and it is easy to be tempted

292
00:11:36,086 --> 00:11:38,045
to talk
about very unrelated things,

293
00:11:38,088 --> 00:11:40,047
but we are here to talk
about Hazel.

294
00:11:40,090 --> 00:11:42,005
Why is everyone acting
like I don't punish her?

295
00:11:42,049 --> 00:11:43,877
I punish her all the time.

296
00:11:43,920 --> 00:11:46,140
Do you hear that?
This is pointless.

297
00:11:46,183 --> 00:11:47,445
Trust the process.

298
00:11:47,489 --> 00:11:49,752
There comes a time
in every jirga

299
00:11:49,796 --> 00:11:51,754
where someone says,
"This is pointless."

300
00:11:51,798 --> 00:11:53,930
Yes, it is earlier
than I thought,

301
00:11:53,974 --> 00:11:55,976
but that means it is working.

302
00:11:56,977 --> 00:11:58,021
It doesn't matter
what anyone else thinks

303
00:11:58,065 --> 00:11:59,414
'cause Riley
holds all the cards.

304
00:11:59,457 --> 00:12:00,763
No, I don't.

305
00:12:00,807 --> 00:12:02,373
She worships you.

306
00:12:02,417 --> 00:12:04,767
She wants to be a Marine
because of you.

307
00:12:04,811 --> 00:12:06,595
She craves your approval,

308
00:12:06,638 --> 00:12:09,337
and when we disagree,
you're gonna win.

309
00:12:09,380 --> 00:12:11,252
So, it's my fault
she looks up to me?

310
00:12:11,295 --> 00:12:13,254
No, it's not your fault.
It's just the truth,

311
00:12:13,297 --> 00:12:15,430
and it's not fair.

312
00:12:21,001 --> 00:12:23,786
Silence is also a natural part
of this process.

313
00:12:23,830 --> 00:12:26,223
It does not reflect poorly
on the jirga.

314
00:12:27,659 --> 00:12:29,705
Great word.

315
00:12:33,665 --> 00:12:35,667
[door opens]

316
00:12:36,668 --> 00:12:40,585
They still fighting?Yep.

317
00:12:40,629 --> 00:12:43,023
What are you doing in here?

318
00:12:43,066 --> 00:12:45,112
Fixing the dishwasher.

319
00:12:47,288 --> 00:12:48,811
Do you think
I did the wrong thing,

320
00:12:48,855 --> 00:12:50,291
punching that kid?

321
00:12:51,292 --> 00:12:52,859
Okay, I'll tell you,

322
00:12:52,902 --> 00:12:54,556
but you have to promise
to keep it to yourself.

323
00:12:54,599 --> 00:12:55,949
Promise.

324
00:12:57,733 --> 00:13:00,823
I punched a lot of kids
for dumber reasons than that.

325
00:13:00,867 --> 00:13:02,390
Like what?

326
00:13:02,433 --> 00:13:04,348
In... a long time ago,

327
00:13:04,392 --> 00:13:07,656
a friend of mine got
the first Led Zeppelin album.

328
00:13:07,699 --> 00:13:09,179
I heard it was great.

329
00:13:09,223 --> 00:13:11,442
So I begged him
to let me borrow it,

330
00:13:11,486 --> 00:13:14,750
and I played it all night,
scratched it up good.

331
00:13:14,794 --> 00:13:17,013
So I punched him.

332
00:13:18,014 --> 00:13:20,060
That makes no sense.

333
00:13:20,103 --> 00:13:21,409
Yeah. I didn't say,
"You want to hear

334
00:13:21,452 --> 00:13:23,541
something smart I once did,"
did I?

335
00:13:23,585 --> 00:13:25,065
I'll tell you this much.

336
00:13:25,108 --> 00:13:27,458
I never would've sassed my mom
the way you did.

337
00:13:27,502 --> 00:13:29,069
That would not have flown.

338
00:13:30,113 --> 00:13:33,073
Maybe I should go in there?Nah.

339
00:13:33,116 --> 00:13:34,770
They're having a conversation
they need to have.

340
00:13:34,814 --> 00:13:37,033
It's a little about you.
It's a lot about them.

341
00:13:37,991 --> 00:13:39,775
I wish I could
do something.

342
00:13:39,819 --> 00:13:41,690
Well, some things,
you can't fix.

343
00:13:41,733 --> 00:13:44,780
People. Dishwashers.
All sorts of things.

344
00:13:46,390 --> 00:13:47,914
Now scram.

345
00:13:47,957 --> 00:13:49,698
I don't like people watching me
while I work.

346
00:14:04,669 --> 00:14:05,845
What?

347
00:14:06,846 --> 00:14:09,239
I'm sorry I punched you
in the face, okay?

348
00:14:09,283 --> 00:14:11,067
Who told you to say that?

349
00:14:11,111 --> 00:14:12,286
Everyone.

350
00:14:12,329 --> 00:14:14,114
But I do mean it.

351
00:14:14,157 --> 00:14:16,116
Thanks.

352
00:14:16,159 --> 00:14:17,813
You're welcome.

353
00:14:20,424 --> 00:14:24,167
Hey, just so you know,
it was a crummy thing you said.

354
00:14:24,211 --> 00:14:25,690
Truth hurts.

355
00:14:25,734 --> 00:14:26,996
What's that?

356
00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:29,129
You know
the last thing America needs?

357
00:14:29,172 --> 00:14:30,565
No.

358
00:14:31,871 --> 00:14:33,785
Tell me.

359
00:14:39,182 --> 00:14:42,011
I think the problem
with this particular jirga

360
00:14:42,055 --> 00:14:45,841
is that our elder is
in the kitchen drinking.

361
00:14:46,842 --> 00:14:48,539
Would it help
if we all held hands?

362
00:14:48,583 --> 00:14:51,194
Stop asking that.

363
00:14:54,154 --> 00:14:56,373
Hey. Did you get a call
from Danny's mom?

364
00:14:56,417 --> 00:14:57,635
No.

365
00:14:57,679 --> 00:15:00,073
You're about to.

366
00:15:00,116 --> 00:15:02,510
You were supposed to be
in the garage.

367
00:15:02,553 --> 00:15:04,729
I punched Danny again.

368
00:15:04,773 --> 00:15:07,341
Hazel, what the hell? See, thisis because of you.

369
00:15:07,384 --> 00:15:08,908
I-I went over and apologized,

370
00:15:08,951 --> 00:15:10,822
and he was even more
of a jerk, and...

371
00:15:10,866 --> 00:15:12,302
Well, you're all caught up.

372
00:15:14,826 --> 00:15:16,698
I know I'm grounded forever
and you guys are gonna fight,

373
00:15:16,741 --> 00:15:19,396
so I'll just be in the garage
not watching TV.

374
00:15:20,441 --> 00:15:22,747
So, now do you think
this is a problem?

375
00:15:22,791 --> 00:15:24,097
Yeah.

376
00:15:25,315 --> 00:15:26,751
I don't want to be that guy,

377
00:15:26,795 --> 00:15:28,797
but I feel
like we should've held hands.

378
00:15:31,147 --> 00:15:32,453
All right, talk.

379
00:15:32,496 --> 00:15:34,890
I tried. I really,
really tried.

380
00:15:34,934 --> 00:15:36,239
What happened?

381
00:15:36,283 --> 00:15:37,937
Well, you guys
were fighting so much,

382
00:15:37,980 --> 00:15:39,460
I thought if I did
what you wanted, it would stop.

383
00:15:39,503 --> 00:15:41,201
Then Danny said
a bunch of stuff,

384
00:15:41,244 --> 00:15:42,854
and, I don't know,
everything went blank,

385
00:15:42,898 --> 00:15:45,118
and the next thing I knew,
he was on the ground.

386
00:15:45,161 --> 00:15:46,554
Blank? Really?

387
00:15:46,597 --> 00:15:47,772
Can I?

388
00:15:47,816 --> 00:15:49,905
[sighs]
Sure.

389
00:15:52,560 --> 00:15:55,128
Did you think
you were gonna punch him,

390
00:15:55,171 --> 00:15:56,956
or did you just do it?

391
00:15:56,999 --> 00:15:59,349
I just did it. I wasn't
thinking about anything.

392
00:16:01,743 --> 00:16:03,223
I get it.

393
00:16:03,266 --> 00:16:05,573
Sometimes when I get mad,

394
00:16:05,616 --> 00:16:09,620
it feels like a switch flips
and I'm not in charge anymore.

395
00:16:10,665 --> 00:16:12,797
What do you do
when that happens?

396
00:16:12,841 --> 00:16:15,539
Stupid stuff
I always wish I hadn't done.

397
00:16:17,846 --> 00:16:21,023
I was lucky when your mom and I
were together.

398
00:16:21,067 --> 00:16:23,591
She'd talk me down.

399
00:16:25,593 --> 00:16:28,813
Remember when you kicked me
so I wouldn't punch that guy?

400
00:16:28,857 --> 00:16:30,990
Which time?

401
00:16:34,036 --> 00:16:36,952
She can help you
like she helped me.

402
00:16:41,609 --> 00:16:44,003
And we're still a family.

403
00:16:46,396 --> 00:16:48,137
We got to have one set of rules.

404
00:16:48,181 --> 00:16:49,965
So, if I stay here,
I'm grounded?

405
00:16:50,009 --> 00:16:52,185
Way grounded.
Way worse than your mom's.

406
00:16:52,228 --> 00:16:55,623
The same as at Mom's.The same as at Mom's.

407
00:16:57,581 --> 00:16:59,453
And the next time
you start feeling

408
00:16:59,496 --> 00:17:01,020
like you're gonna lose it,

409
00:17:01,063 --> 00:17:02,978
you call one of us.

410
00:17:03,935 --> 00:17:06,068
Okay.Okay.

411
00:17:06,112 --> 00:17:08,462
So, does that mean
I get an iPhone?

412
00:17:09,463 --> 00:17:12,118
I mean... No.

413
00:17:19,255 --> 00:17:21,431
All right, that should do it.
[dishwasher beeps]

414
00:17:21,475 --> 00:17:23,868
And...

415
00:17:26,567 --> 00:17:28,569
It's quieter than I remember.

416
00:17:30,397 --> 00:17:32,486
Do you give up?Nope.

417
00:17:32,529 --> 00:17:35,184
I've never called a repairman,
and I never will.

418
00:17:35,228 --> 00:17:39,623
However, I will be out
for the rest of the day.

419
00:17:39,667 --> 00:17:41,408
Got errands to do,
people to see.

420
00:17:41,451 --> 00:17:43,410
Definitely enough
to keep me busy

421
00:17:43,453 --> 00:17:47,196
between the hours
of 11:00 and 4:00.

422
00:17:47,240 --> 00:17:48,763
Okay.

423
00:17:48,806 --> 00:17:51,679
I will know
not to expect you home

424
00:17:51,722 --> 00:17:53,942
during that five-hour window.

425
00:17:53,985 --> 00:17:55,291
Yep. See you at 4:00

426
00:17:55,335 --> 00:17:57,119
or whenever you call
and say you miss me.

427
00:17:57,163 --> 00:17:59,165
And your credit card if
I need it for any reason?

428
00:17:59,208 --> 00:18:03,386
On the counter
if you need it for any reason.