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I don't know about you, but I'm
the kind of person that can get

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99 positive comments and
then 40,000 negative ones

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and only focus on those.

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Why are we like that?

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[music]

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This is The Premise.

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I hope you enjoy it and if not,
I'm sure you'll know what to do.

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This is, "The Commenter."

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[music]

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[birds chirping]

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You're exactly where
you're supposed to be.

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Keep your eyes closed...

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and focus on your breath.

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No other thoughts
enter your mind.

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[dog barking]

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The only sound you hear is
the sound of your breath.

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Breathe‐‐

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in for four,

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[wind chimes]

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out for four,

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and that's all you have to do.

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That's all you ever have to do.

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Now take your time.

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And when you're ready,
open your eyes.

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Congratulate yourself on
a meaningful practice today.

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Namaste.

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If you enjoyed your practice
please follow me on Instagram

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at craft your morning
with a sip of yoga.

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[camera sound]

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Bang bang.

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[laughs]

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Hey, what are you doing?

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I'm teaching Bear to play dead.

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Bang, bang.

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Yay. Good Bear!

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With bang bang, Bear.

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[laughs]

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Seriously?

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Why are steel‐cut oats
healthier than other oats?

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I mean, how do
the oats even know

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what they're being cut with?

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I don't know,
but I think you're funny.

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[chuckles]

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But for real,
what is the difference?

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Mm‐hmm.

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What's this?

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[chuckles]

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Steel‐cut toast.

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Because you are‐‐

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Miss Generational Inspiration
and you deserve to be

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celebrating yourself
and who you are.

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‐ No, no, no.
‐ Absolutely...

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‐ Every single day.
‐ I'm so gross and sweaty now.

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Oh, it's not even a real award.

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They just gave it
to me for fundraising.

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Shhh...

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Can't I just love you?

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Just listen to your toast,
you are the fucking best.

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[laughs]

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I will see you tonight
with the girls, okay?

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Okay.

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You go change some lives.

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Have a good day.

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Bye. I love you.

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Je t'aime...

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All right, listen up ladies.

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I want you to close
your eyes because

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I'm about to blow your minds.

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Now keep your eyes closed...

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[laughs]

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and I want you to try
and scare yourself.

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Come on try.

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[chuckles]

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See, being scared of
yourself makes no sense.

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You just have to listen
to your inner voice.

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Now, when you write
this week's exercise,

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I want you to remember that

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there is no such thing
as perfect.

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There is only perfectly you.

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Let's show our appreciation.

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Huh?!

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We show! (clap) our! (clap)
great appreciation!

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for the heroes! (clap) who help!
our strength in education!

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[camera sound]

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[applause]

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[music]

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[notification sounds]

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To Cleo.

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[applause]

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Also, to Naomi for
getting into her

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first choice medical school.

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‐ Come on.
‐ Killing it!

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[applause]

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To Beth who spent all last
weekend giving checkups

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to rescue dogs, pro bono.

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[laughter]

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But, most importantly to my
beautiful girlfriend Allegra or

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shall I say,
"Miss Generational Inspiration."

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[applause]

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Also, I got us a table at the
Arts Alliance gala,

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so we could go watch
Allegra accept her award.

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Who would I be
without you guys?

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[laughter]

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Right.

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Okay, hang on.

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Smile like you mean it.

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[camera sound]

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[laughter]

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Oh, I look terrible.

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You look great.

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[chuckles]

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I really want to go to the‐‐

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So, it's at the
New Orleans Jazz Museum.

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It's like creative
black tie or whatever,

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so no need to dress,
you know, any fancier.

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Okay, cool.

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[music]

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Hello.

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Ah, I'm so sorry.

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What?

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Oh, what.

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[crosstalk]

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We need to go...

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Avec toi?

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Where?

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[speaking French]

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[television]
Take it easy man, okay?

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What are you doing, that is not
his blood, that's so obvious.

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You're going to have to go
back to detective school

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young man.

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It's so dumb.

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Come on.

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What's happening?

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She's going to get it but her
partner is slowing her down,

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that's really annoying.

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What are you doing?

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Oh, no, come on.

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So, you saw it?

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Yes.

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Who do you think it is?

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Who cares, just block them.

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No, you're not supposed
to block them,

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that just stirs them up.

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Just ignore it then.

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You have the best smile.

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Sometimes I worry it's
like a grownup version

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of a school photo.

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[chuckles]

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It's perfect.

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I love that it's
a little crooked.

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It's my favorite.

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I hate that there are
these faceless weirdos on

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the internet that try to
ruin people's happiness.

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It's crazy, you have like 99
beautiful, positive comments

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and you choose to focus
on the one negative one.

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The one that's like,
stupid baloney.

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Don't do it.

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Thank you.

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I will protect you.

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Check my email.

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You have 22 unread
messages from Dermstore.

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Who gave you permission
to be this beautiful?

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Delete.

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From Ayanna M.,
I love all these ideas.

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Mark as unread.

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Open those new
messages for me.

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New text from Sarah,

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meeting Tinder girl after
dinner, eyes emoji.

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Sarah has changed
the name of the group to,

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excuse me, ma'am,
this is a Whataburger.

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[chuckles]

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Check those new comments.

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New comment from C101011,
posing with little black kids

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so everyone knows I'm a good‐‐

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Am I doing this right?

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These hashtags, is she
teaching them to write,

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or are they teaching her?

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[music]

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Hi.

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Excuse me, we have an
open‐door policy in this house.

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I just need one second, sorry.

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[music]

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[chuckles]

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That's a beautiful smile.

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You have a beautiful smile,
plus the light, oops...

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I like that one
from your account.

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‐ How do I unlike it?
‐ Oh, just tap it again.

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Isn't this supposed to be how
I feel about the comments,

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not whether you think
the comments

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are objectively right?

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How do you feel
about the comments?

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That they are objectively right.

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[chuckles]

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That's a thought, not a feeling.

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I feel...

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Um...

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seen‐‐

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and respected.

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You feel respected by these
comments, these comments?

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00:09:04,833 --> 00:09:06,837
I feel like I'm being
taken seriously, yes.

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00:09:08,239 --> 00:09:10,043
You have a loving partner.

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You have an incredible
supportive group of friends.

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You have all these students
that love and adore you,

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yet you feel that a random
stranger on the internet

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is the one person telling you
the truth about yourself?

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Yeah.

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Do you think you might
be too close to all of this?

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Sure, of course.

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But they're not.

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They're far from it, right?

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If they don't know me?

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Exactly.

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So, I'm too close to it and
they're too far from it.

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Correct.

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So, who am I supposed
to listen to?

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You listen to your heart.

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I am listening to my heart
but when I tell you

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what my heart is saying,

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you're telling me
that I'm wrong.

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[laughs]

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You don't know the intentions
of this source.

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Well, what if they're good?

223
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What if they're bad and
they're still right?

224
00:10:02,013 --> 00:10:04,051
People listen to
all kinds of things.

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00:10:04,084 --> 00:10:06,723
Religion, horoscopes,
tarot cards.

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00:10:06,756 --> 00:10:08,025
Nobody judges them.

227
00:10:08,059 --> 00:10:09,161
This speaks to me.

228
00:10:09,194 --> 00:10:10,764
Why can't I listen to it?

229
00:10:11,800 --> 00:10:14,171
I know you feel
you're struggling

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00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:17,144
but you're doing
wonderful work here.

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00:10:17,377 --> 00:10:19,716
and you're exactly
where you should be.

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00:10:23,055 --> 00:10:24,759
Can I have my
phone back, please?

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00:10:24,793 --> 00:10:27,164
[music]

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00:11:08,379 --> 00:11:09,147
Hey!

235
00:11:09,816 --> 00:11:11,452
Ooh, wow, hello.

236
00:11:11,485 --> 00:11:14,024
Look at this runway model.

237
00:11:14,224 --> 00:11:15,360
It's not too much?

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00:11:15,393 --> 00:11:16,930
No, we love.

239
00:11:16,963 --> 00:11:18,032
No, no, never.

240
00:11:18,065 --> 00:11:18,901
You look good.

241
00:11:20,470 --> 00:11:22,407
What would I do
without you guys?

242
00:11:22,440 --> 00:11:23,242
Hi.

243
00:11:23,276 --> 00:11:24,278
Ah, girl.

244
00:11:25,313 --> 00:11:26,783
Do you really like it?

245
00:11:27,985 --> 00:11:31,192
Listen, you were perfect and
now, you're just perfecter.

246
00:11:31,793 --> 00:11:32,260
Look at her.

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00:11:32,294 --> 00:11:33,797
Allegra 2.0.

248
00:11:33,830 --> 00:11:35,200
That's my girl.

249
00:11:35,433 --> 00:11:36,368
Look at her.

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00:11:37,003 --> 00:11:38,005
That's mine.

251
00:11:40,878 --> 00:11:41,813
Oh, Okay.

252
00:11:55,941 --> 00:11:56,910
What?

253
00:11:57,410 --> 00:11:58,346
This...

254
00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:00,116
This sleaze tilt.

255
00:12:00,483 --> 00:12:02,822
If you want private
phone time, no problem.

256
00:12:02,855 --> 00:12:04,224
You just go like this.

257
00:12:04,258 --> 00:12:05,426
This is legit.

258
00:12:05,460 --> 00:12:06,930
This is sleazy.

259
00:12:08,099 --> 00:12:09,434
Oh, great.

260
00:12:09,468 --> 00:12:11,272
Legit. Valid.

261
00:12:13,476 --> 00:12:14,478
[chuckles].

262
00:12:17,417 --> 00:12:21,258
Hey, I really want to do this
thing together that I read.

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00:12:21,292 --> 00:12:22,427
On Goop?

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00:12:22,460 --> 00:12:23,797
Not on Goop.

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00:12:24,231 --> 00:12:25,466
Something like Goop.

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00:12:26,335 --> 00:12:29,408
It's called a burn ceremony
where you write down

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all your fears and everything
you want to let go of and

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then you burn it in
a fire together and

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let go of everything.

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00:12:36,856 --> 00:12:38,459
What if I don't want to
burn my fears?

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00:12:39,161 --> 00:12:39,929
Why?

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00:12:41,866 --> 00:12:42,802
Did I only choose my job

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because I want to seem
like a good person?

274
00:12:46,408 --> 00:12:48,814
Where is this coming from?

275
00:12:49,147 --> 00:12:50,183
I don't know.

276
00:12:51,285 --> 00:12:53,022
Is this that troll talking?

277
00:12:53,055 --> 00:12:54,859
Are you still reading that shit?

278
00:12:55,594 --> 00:13:00,303
Allegra, you're literally
about to get an award.

279
00:13:00,537 --> 00:13:02,073
Miss Generational Inspiration.

280
00:13:02,107 --> 00:13:02,942
Yeah‐‐

281
00:13:04,177 --> 00:13:05,848
What is that even?

282
00:13:05,881 --> 00:13:07,283
Were there other nominees?

283
00:13:07,317 --> 00:13:08,820
Did I lose it last year?

284
00:13:08,854 --> 00:13:11,258
Why do you let this
voice get into your head?

285
00:13:12,327 --> 00:13:14,899
Your life is amazing.

286
00:13:14,932 --> 00:13:16,503
Everything is going so great.

287
00:13:16,536 --> 00:13:18,306
They're obviously just jealous.

288
00:13:20,376 --> 00:13:21,245
I know.

289
00:13:22,515 --> 00:13:23,449
I know.

290
00:13:23,482 --> 00:13:25,821
[music]

291
00:13:38,245 --> 00:13:41,218
Hey, I don't know who you are
and why you're writing to me but

292
00:13:41,251 --> 00:13:44,291
I wanted to reach out and say,
you're clearly in pain and

293
00:13:44,324 --> 00:13:45,360
contrary to your beliefs,

294
00:13:45,393 --> 00:13:48,332
I am a very happy person
with a very fulfilling and

295
00:13:48,366 --> 00:13:53,042
satisfying life and I hope
whatever you're looking for,

296
00:13:53,075 --> 00:13:54,344
you find it.

297
00:13:57,651 --> 00:13:59,922
[background music]

298
00:14:43,109 --> 00:14:44,912
I truly feel sorry for you.

299
00:14:46,081 --> 00:14:49,121
You feel sorry for yourself,
as you should.

300
00:14:52,595 --> 00:14:54,398
Why are you obsessed
with me?

301
00:14:57,203 --> 00:14:59,040
Why are you obsessed
with me?

302
00:15:02,046 --> 00:15:04,886
You want me to seriously
engage with that question?

303
00:15:07,157 --> 00:15:09,060
I doubt you're capable of it.

304
00:15:10,363 --> 00:15:13,670
Obviously, it's because
I'm seeking validation.

305
00:15:15,507 --> 00:15:17,511
You get validation everywhere.

306
00:15:17,545 --> 00:15:19,314
You're not seeking
that from me.

307
00:15:19,615 --> 00:15:24,257
Think harder, if you can do it,
which I don't know if you can.

308
00:15:30,604 --> 00:15:34,377
Okay, I'm seeking an escape
from mindless validation.

309
00:15:35,581 --> 00:15:37,217
Oh, all right.

310
00:15:37,250 --> 00:15:39,922
That's the intelligent Allegra
I wanted to talk to.

311
00:15:41,659 --> 00:15:43,262
Your life still sucks though.

312
00:15:45,466 --> 00:15:47,370
You're all doing perfect.

313
00:15:48,305 --> 00:15:50,042
You can do better than that.

314
00:15:50,577 --> 00:15:54,986
Breathe and release anything
that does not serve you.

315
00:15:55,587 --> 00:15:58,225
I'm trying to see if I actually
exist underneath

316
00:15:58,259 --> 00:15:59,394
all this validation.

317
00:15:59,427 --> 00:16:01,599
You're out of mind,
by yourself.

318
00:16:01,633 --> 00:16:02,735
Oh, see?

319
00:16:02,768 --> 00:16:05,741
You're so much smarter
when you're actually challenged.

320
00:16:05,774 --> 00:16:08,379
Self‐love isn't selfish,
it's important.

321
00:16:08,412 --> 00:16:09,447
You know what?

322
00:16:09,481 --> 00:16:11,351
Validation isn't a bad thing.

323
00:16:11,385 --> 00:16:14,090
No one would ever be able
to do anything worthwhile

324
00:16:14,124 --> 00:16:16,228
without encouragement
and support.

325
00:16:17,297 --> 00:16:19,367
People would kill for
friends like these,

326
00:16:19,401 --> 00:16:23,142
for a partner like this,
for a support system like this.

327
00:16:24,512 --> 00:16:26,448
Sit, sit, sit.

328
00:16:26,481 --> 00:16:28,219
Why do you care about me?

329
00:16:28,252 --> 00:16:29,722
Are you someone I know?

330
00:16:29,755 --> 00:16:31,024
I don't care.

331
00:16:31,058 --> 00:16:32,495
It's easy to be honest when

332
00:16:32,528 --> 00:16:34,130
you don't care about somebody.

333
00:16:34,164 --> 00:16:37,170
And you know, unless you abandon
your need for validation,

334
00:16:37,203 --> 00:16:39,675
you will never become who
you're supposed to become.

335
00:16:39,709 --> 00:16:42,280
Allegra, we have
a little trick for you.

336
00:16:42,313 --> 00:16:45,019
You will never be free to
be who you want to be,

337
00:16:45,052 --> 00:16:46,154
who you could be.

338
00:16:47,090 --> 00:16:48,593
You could be saying
this to anyone.

339
00:16:49,294 --> 00:16:52,367
I was bored and went
back on all your posts,

340
00:16:52,568 --> 00:16:54,672
way back when you
wanted to be a writer.

341
00:16:55,172 --> 00:16:56,743
What happened to that, Allegra?

342
00:16:57,243 --> 00:16:59,314
Before you just wrote, "#Goals"

343
00:16:59,347 --> 00:17:02,120
you actually had goals and
wrote in full sentences.

344
00:17:02,387 --> 00:17:03,222
Okay.

345
00:17:03,255 --> 00:17:05,059
Every word you write,
ask yourself,

346
00:17:05,092 --> 00:17:05,961
"Am I full of shit?

347
00:17:05,994 --> 00:17:08,232
Do I even have an
inner voice or am I just

348
00:17:08,265 --> 00:17:10,571
an echo chamber for
other empty people?"

349
00:17:10,604 --> 00:17:13,777
all of us looking for as
many people as possible to say

350
00:17:13,810 --> 00:17:15,781
something nice about
us before we die.

351
00:17:20,624 --> 00:17:23,496
Who are you posting for
anyway, before I came along?

352
00:17:24,532 --> 00:17:26,235
I wasn't posting for anyone.

353
00:17:27,237 --> 00:17:29,040
Everybody posts for somebody,

354
00:17:29,341 --> 00:17:31,078
consciously or unconsciously.

355
00:17:31,278 --> 00:17:32,748
There's someone
you hope sees it.

356
00:17:34,484 --> 00:17:36,488
You can't post without
picturing someone.

357
00:17:37,190 --> 00:17:38,526
It's like coming.

358
00:17:38,560 --> 00:17:41,431
[background music]

359
00:17:48,212 --> 00:17:50,316
You know,
what's fucked up is that

360
00:17:50,349 --> 00:17:52,086
I read all these
self‐help books.

361
00:17:52,120 --> 00:17:52,888
That is fucked up.

362
00:17:52,922 --> 00:17:54,424
That's wonderful,
you're searching.

363
00:17:54,457 --> 00:17:56,596
No, what's fucked up
is even they'll tell you

364
00:17:56,629 --> 00:17:57,631
that you're already great.

365
00:17:57,665 --> 00:18:01,104
Believing in yourself
is an essential part‐‐

366
00:18:01,338 --> 00:18:04,110
Shouldn't there be two sections
in the bookstore, like,

367
00:18:04,545 --> 00:18:06,649
"How To Be A Badass Bitch"
and the sequel is‐‐

368
00:18:06,683 --> 00:18:08,252
"You Are A Badass Bitch".

369
00:18:08,285 --> 00:18:09,522
You're funny.

370
00:18:09,555 --> 00:18:11,291
Anyone ever tell
you you're funny?

371
00:18:11,325 --> 00:18:12,695
[chuckles]

372
00:18:12,728 --> 00:18:14,464
Everyone tells me everything.

373
00:18:15,801 --> 00:18:18,740
Sometimes you caption your
photos like you're deathly

374
00:18:18,773 --> 00:18:21,111
afraid someone's going
to tell you're pathetic.

375
00:18:21,144 --> 00:18:23,449
Did you realize you're not
fooling anyone when you

376
00:18:23,482 --> 00:18:25,252
pose in yoga gear,
full makeup, and‐‐

377
00:18:25,286 --> 00:18:27,123
The fact that you
captioned a selfie,

378
00:18:27,156 --> 00:18:29,427
"I stand with my AAPI
brothers and sisters,"

379
00:18:29,461 --> 00:18:30,831
kind of makes me
think you don't have

380
00:18:30,864 --> 00:18:31,933
any AAPI brothers and sisters.

381
00:18:31,966 --> 00:18:33,737
Everyone's doing that
above angle that's supposed

382
00:18:33,770 --> 00:18:34,905
to be flattering‐‐

383
00:18:34,939 --> 00:18:38,145
And, every time you talk about
destroying capitalism you

384
00:18:38,178 --> 00:18:39,882
usually buy something
online later that day.

385
00:18:39,915 --> 00:18:42,220
Why were you a better
writer on LiveJournal at 16

386
00:18:42,253 --> 00:18:43,188
than you are now?

387
00:18:44,925 --> 00:18:46,562
See you Monday, Ms. Allegra.

388
00:18:51,572 --> 00:18:53,777
You made me ask
questions I'd never asked,

389
00:18:53,810 --> 00:18:55,847
pointed out things
no one had told me.

390
00:18:55,881 --> 00:18:58,620
How come no one told me
any of these things before,

391
00:18:58,653 --> 00:19:00,323
because they couldn't
see them or

392
00:19:00,356 --> 00:19:01,693
because they couldn't say them?

393
00:19:01,726 --> 00:19:02,695
Which is worse?

394
00:19:02,728 --> 00:19:05,333
Hey, Meredith just texted and
said you quit.

395
00:19:05,366 --> 00:19:07,938
It's so weird that it's you
who's doing this to me.

396
00:19:07,971 --> 00:19:11,311
Everyone would think I'm crazy
listening to some hater online.

397
00:19:11,579 --> 00:19:14,351
I don't think you'd be listening
to me unless you had to.

398
00:19:14,384 --> 00:19:15,353
What do you mean?

399
00:19:15,386 --> 00:19:17,624
You see someone rooting
around in the trash,

400
00:19:17,658 --> 00:19:19,595
you don't ask, "What are
you looking for?"

401
00:19:19,628 --> 00:19:21,365
You ask, "What did you lose?"

402
00:19:23,536 --> 00:19:24,538
Mmm‐‐ toss.

403
00:19:27,276 --> 00:19:28,145
Toss.

404
00:19:33,489 --> 00:19:34,525
Donate?

405
00:19:35,594 --> 00:19:37,430
So someone else
can throw it out?

406
00:19:42,306 --> 00:19:44,945
Oh, I actually like
that transparent bag.

407
00:19:44,979 --> 00:19:46,214
Yeah, that's legit.

408
00:19:46,448 --> 00:19:47,651
I have the same one.

409
00:19:57,303 --> 00:19:59,441
[music]

410
00:20:10,797 --> 00:20:13,703
My love,
the first time I met you,

411
00:20:13,737 --> 00:20:14,538
the first‐‐

412
00:20:18,412 --> 00:20:20,382
the first time
I heard you speak,

413
00:20:20,951 --> 00:20:23,489
I felt like I was hearing
music for the first time.

414
00:20:23,523 --> 00:20:26,228
Like the way it feels
when you're 12 and

415
00:20:26,729 --> 00:20:30,269
you hear a song that instantly
makes you into an adult.

416
00:20:30,504 --> 00:20:32,975
Have we been watching
Garden State?

417
00:20:33,008 --> 00:20:35,714
That cuts straight through
everything else

418
00:20:36,281 --> 00:20:37,450
right to your heart.

419
00:20:37,818 --> 00:20:40,524
That one song that shows
you who you are and

420
00:20:40,557 --> 00:20:41,626
what you want.

421
00:20:45,366 --> 00:20:46,569
You know what's funny?

422
00:20:48,573 --> 00:20:49,842
You know what's funny?

423
00:20:50,977 --> 00:20:52,981
Hey, you know what's funny?

424
00:20:55,854 --> 00:20:57,423
You know what's funny?

425
00:20:59,662 --> 00:21:00,964
You know what's funny?

426
00:21:06,709 --> 00:21:08,913
[music]

427
00:21:23,342 --> 00:21:24,545
It's a loser.

428
00:21:24,845 --> 00:21:25,680
Who?

429
00:21:26,949 --> 00:21:28,285
You know who?

430
00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:31,893
It's some 300‐pound loser,
sorry to fat shame,

431
00:21:31,926 --> 00:21:33,328
in their mother's basement.

432
00:21:33,362 --> 00:21:34,698
Sorry to income shame.

433
00:21:34,732 --> 00:21:36,502
Gross, ugly, random, like‐‐

434
00:21:37,436 --> 00:21:38,573
No, she isn't.

435
00:21:39,842 --> 00:21:41,311
Male loser.

436
00:21:41,344 --> 00:21:42,514
What the fuck?

437
00:21:42,948 --> 00:21:45,554
Who do you think is sick
in the head enough

438
00:21:45,587 --> 00:21:47,089
to do something like this?

439
00:21:47,123 --> 00:21:48,693
Don't insult her.

440
00:21:50,664 --> 00:21:51,632
What?

441
00:21:53,770 --> 00:21:54,839
So what?

442
00:21:54,872 --> 00:21:58,680
You think it's some super hot,
cool, sexy, awesome,

443
00:21:58,713 --> 00:22:00,517
smart lesbian, and then what?

444
00:22:00,550 --> 00:22:02,821
You're going to move in
together and have babies?

445
00:22:04,558 --> 00:22:05,392
Seriously?

446
00:22:07,865 --> 00:22:08,900
What if she's straight?

447
00:22:08,933 --> 00:22:10,002
It's not about that.

448
00:22:10,035 --> 00:22:11,739
It's about being
taken seriously.

449
00:22:11,772 --> 00:22:13,108
It's about being challenged.

450
00:22:13,141 --> 00:22:14,612
It's about being understood.

451
00:22:14,645 --> 00:22:16,983
It's about being told
the truth, finally.

452
00:22:18,753 --> 00:22:19,822
By a stranger?

453
00:22:19,855 --> 00:22:20,690
Yes.

454
00:22:22,861 --> 00:22:23,963
That's fucked up.

455
00:22:23,997 --> 00:22:26,836
What's fucked up is that
it had to be a stranger, Beth.

456
00:22:27,838 --> 00:22:29,508
All you do is gas me up.

457
00:22:29,542 --> 00:22:31,378
You just tell me
how perfect I am.

458
00:22:31,411 --> 00:22:33,482
Is that all you're capable of,

459
00:22:33,516 --> 00:22:35,520
or is that how honest
you can be, which?

460
00:22:36,956 --> 00:22:38,726
There's a lot
I could say right now.

461
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:39,929
Oh, baby.

462
00:22:39,962 --> 00:22:41,464
Lay it on me.

463
00:22:41,666 --> 00:22:43,703
Tell me something
mean and true.

464
00:22:43,736 --> 00:22:44,705
Try.

465
00:22:45,907 --> 00:22:48,680
You're not as smart
as you think you are.

466
00:22:48,713 --> 00:22:51,586
You have like
this intellectual style.

467
00:22:52,554 --> 00:22:53,488
Yeah, you're clever.

468
00:22:53,523 --> 00:22:55,426
You're just‐‐ What?

469
00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:56,862
So sorry.

470
00:22:56,896 --> 00:22:59,835
It's just like watching
a little girl play dress‐up.

471
00:23:02,741 --> 00:23:03,910
I love you so much.

472
00:23:05,045 --> 00:23:07,116
I love you so fucking much.

473
00:23:08,553 --> 00:23:11,157
I wish I could tell you what
was it like to make you happy,

474
00:23:11,191 --> 00:23:12,426
but it's not.

475
00:23:12,961 --> 00:23:14,063
I can't help it.

476
00:23:15,533 --> 00:23:17,103
I think you're the best.

477
00:23:17,136 --> 00:23:21,378
I think you're the smartest,
the most beautiful,

478
00:23:22,113 --> 00:23:24,618
the most exquisite person.

479
00:23:26,121 --> 00:23:27,958
You're one in a million.

480
00:23:27,991 --> 00:23:29,895
You're one in like 10 billion.

481
00:23:32,634 --> 00:23:34,805
You want to know how
many times I've played out

482
00:23:34,838 --> 00:23:36,809
you leaving me for
someone better than me?

483
00:23:37,143 --> 00:23:38,011
All the time.

484
00:23:38,478 --> 00:23:40,416
But for someone who hates you?

485
00:23:41,051 --> 00:23:42,186
That's fucked up.

486
00:23:42,921 --> 00:23:45,860
You can feel however
you want about me.

487
00:23:46,829 --> 00:23:50,670
Don't treat my love like
this because that's unfair.

488
00:23:51,505 --> 00:23:54,912
Please just stop punishing
me for loving you.

489
00:23:55,947 --> 00:23:57,651
I can't help it.

490
00:23:58,519 --> 00:23:59,588
What am I doing?

491
00:24:02,594 --> 00:24:04,565
Hey, hey, hey, come here.

492
00:24:07,638 --> 00:24:08,673
I'm sorry.

493
00:24:09,875 --> 00:24:10,944
I'm so sorry.

494
00:24:25,674 --> 00:24:27,844
Hey, you are the best.

495
00:24:35,092 --> 00:24:36,161
It's fine.

496
00:24:36,762 --> 00:24:37,998
No, it's a little burnt.

497
00:24:38,031 --> 00:24:41,772
I like it when it's more golden
and then it goes like this.

498
00:24:44,310 --> 00:24:48,720
Okay, I am letting go of
my guilt over the animals of

499
00:24:48,753 --> 00:24:51,859
Hurricane Laura that
I couldn't save.

500
00:24:53,128 --> 00:24:57,504
I am letting go of my need
for external‐‐

501
00:24:58,105 --> 00:24:59,173
validation.

502
00:25:05,252 --> 00:25:09,027
I am letting go of my little
OCD around the house,

503
00:25:09,060 --> 00:25:10,029
[laughter]

504
00:25:10,062 --> 00:25:12,801
no offense to anyone
who has OCD, of course.

505
00:25:13,870 --> 00:25:18,111
I am letting go of the fear...

506
00:25:18,913 --> 00:25:20,215
that there is...

507
00:25:21,051 --> 00:25:25,159
someone I should be or
something I should be doing

508
00:25:25,192 --> 00:25:29,535
that isn't in the here and now.

509
00:25:35,179 --> 00:25:36,114
Yes!

510
00:25:36,147 --> 00:25:37,283
[laughter]

511
00:25:38,886 --> 00:25:39,955
Um...

512
00:25:43,195 --> 00:25:45,867
[background music]

513
00:25:45,900 --> 00:25:47,571
I want to give you something.

514
00:25:55,653 --> 00:25:56,922
What is this?

515
00:26:02,768 --> 00:26:04,738
It's the commentor...

516
00:26:04,772 --> 00:26:05,305
Um...

517
00:26:05,339 --> 00:26:06,341
After I blocked them,

518
00:26:06,374 --> 00:26:09,748
I hired this shady hacker
to track them down and

519
00:26:09,782 --> 00:26:11,685
find where they were
logging in from.

520
00:26:11,719 --> 00:26:13,656
So, that's their location.

521
00:26:14,725 --> 00:26:17,964
Just a random person in
a random office building

522
00:26:17,998 --> 00:26:19,200
in Dallas.

523
00:26:21,070 --> 00:26:22,206
[chuckles]

524
00:26:24,277 --> 00:26:25,880
You got them blocked?

525
00:26:27,349 --> 00:26:28,285
Yeah.

526
00:26:31,424 --> 00:26:32,894
You did that for me?

527
00:26:32,928 --> 00:26:33,796
Of course.

528
00:26:34,665 --> 00:26:36,134
I'll do anything for you.

529
00:26:40,810 --> 00:26:42,346
[music]

530
00:26:46,856 --> 00:26:49,761
[notification sounds]

531
00:26:55,239 --> 00:26:57,042
Smart people make
you feel smart,

532
00:26:57,309 --> 00:26:59,648
crazy people
make you feel crazy.

533
00:27:00,382 --> 00:27:02,821
I need to know who you
are to know who I am.

534
00:27:03,890 --> 00:27:06,027
[background music]

535
00:27:41,765 --> 00:27:44,337
Her smile is as
fake as her life.

536
00:27:44,738 --> 00:27:47,142
Her smile is as
fake as her life.

537
00:27:51,284 --> 00:27:53,856
Her smile is as
fake as her life.

538
00:28:05,178 --> 00:28:07,918
[music ends]

539
00:28:12,226 --> 00:28:14,096
Hey, is there a bathroom?

540
00:28:25,319 --> 00:28:26,187
[screams]

541
00:28:26,454 --> 00:28:28,191
I knew it, I knew it.

542
00:28:28,225 --> 00:28:30,028
I knew it would be worth it.

543
00:28:30,062 --> 00:28:31,498
I knew I would find
you here and

544
00:28:31,532 --> 00:28:34,270
I knew you weren't just
a loser in a basement.

545
00:28:36,474 --> 00:28:38,445
Did you ever think
this would happen?

546
00:28:40,950 --> 00:28:41,785
No.

547
00:28:48,833 --> 00:28:50,803
Can I ask you just one question?

548
00:28:51,371 --> 00:28:52,339
Okay.

549
00:28:54,878 --> 00:28:56,481
What should I do with my life?

550
00:28:59,153 --> 00:29:02,192
You want me, a stranger you
just met in the bathroom

551
00:29:02,226 --> 00:29:04,096
to tell you what
to do with your life?

552
00:29:05,098 --> 00:29:05,934
Yeah.

553
00:29:08,138 --> 00:29:09,908
Are you listening to yourself?

554
00:29:14,851 --> 00:29:17,524
That's a great question.

555
00:29:19,427 --> 00:29:20,462
I just feel‐‐

556
00:29:20,496 --> 00:29:23,468
I don't care what you meant,
I care what I heard.

557
00:29:23,970 --> 00:29:25,405
Let me just look at you.

558
00:29:25,439 --> 00:29:26,240
What?

559
00:29:31,184 --> 00:29:32,186
What?

560
00:29:34,925 --> 00:29:36,327
You look like a troll,

561
00:29:36,895 --> 00:29:38,231
like a pretty little troll.

562
00:29:38,264 --> 00:29:40,503
But whatever else you
think you are you're not.

563
00:29:40,536 --> 00:29:43,375
Your whole life is just a sad
reflection of the people you

564
00:29:43,408 --> 00:29:45,913
choose to obsess over.

565
00:29:45,947 --> 00:29:47,216
Thank you.

566
00:29:47,617 --> 00:29:49,286
I needed to hear that.

567
00:29:56,067 --> 00:29:57,236
I'm going to go now.

568
00:29:57,269 --> 00:29:57,937
Okay.

569
00:29:57,971 --> 00:29:59,808
I'll never forget you and um‐‐

570
00:30:01,277 --> 00:30:02,279
thank you.

571
00:30:03,883 --> 00:30:04,951
Fuck you.

572
00:30:06,354 --> 00:30:07,423
I love you.

573
00:30:10,429 --> 00:30:11,498
I love you.

574
00:30:14,036 --> 00:30:16,040
[music]

575
00:30:21,919 --> 00:30:23,254
I'm ready for a new job.

576
00:30:23,488 --> 00:30:25,125
I don't really like kids.

577
00:30:25,493 --> 00:30:27,998
I want to be a writer but
I'm not that good at it.

578
00:30:28,198 --> 00:30:30,168
I think I'll start
a vintage store.

579
00:30:30,202 --> 00:30:31,905
It's lame, but I don't care.

580
00:30:31,939 --> 00:30:35,445
Beth is beautiful and sexy,
but I'm sick of her.

581
00:30:35,646 --> 00:30:36,481
I'm hungry.

582
00:30:36,515 --> 00:30:38,619
Maybe there's a Sonic
on the way back.

583
00:30:38,652 --> 00:30:41,024
I love fast food on the highway,
It always tastes better.

584
00:30:41,057 --> 00:30:42,927
I wonder why? Huh.

585
00:30:43,596 --> 00:30:45,465
That's what my inner
voice sounds like.

586
00:30:45,500 --> 00:30:47,436
It's a little boring.

587
00:30:48,471 --> 00:30:50,409
[music]