1 00:00:05,672 --> 00:00:09,843 ♪ tender ethereal music ♪ 2 00:00:09,884 --> 00:00:12,721 Most couples therapies are around crises, 3 00:00:12,762 --> 00:00:16,015 and helping a couple unpack a certain... 4 00:00:16,016 --> 00:00:18,351 pattern that they got stuck in. 5 00:00:24,524 --> 00:00:26,735 It can become like a vortex, 6 00:00:26,776 --> 00:00:30,238 around which the couple revolves. 7 00:00:33,450 --> 00:00:38,246 So what I try to do is figure out what else is there. 8 00:00:41,416 --> 00:00:43,501 And that scares people. 9 00:00:45,086 --> 00:00:48,256 But there's a saying in the couples therapy world that to do 10 00:00:48,298 --> 00:00:51,009 real work, you have to block the exits, 11 00:00:51,051 --> 00:00:52,594 and stay in. 12 00:00:52,635 --> 00:00:53,386 Hi! - Hi! 13 00:00:53,428 --> 00:00:54,763 Hello! - Yay! 14 00:00:54,804 --> 00:00:57,264 So you have to tolerate a lot of messy, 15 00:00:57,265 --> 00:01:01,394 confusing, scary, and inappropriate things. 16 00:01:03,063 --> 00:01:04,522 Otherwise, you're not... 17 00:01:04,564 --> 00:01:06,441 touching new material. 18 00:01:21,581 --> 00:01:22,372 Okay. 19 00:01:22,373 --> 00:01:23,416 Bye, guys! - Thank you. 20 00:01:23,458 --> 00:01:24,793 Bye. - Bye. 21 00:01:24,834 --> 00:01:26,461 Thank you. 22 00:01:31,341 --> 00:01:32,801 So we have a little bit of a... 23 00:01:32,842 --> 00:01:36,137 puzzle to solve here with Boris and Jessica. 24 00:01:36,179 --> 00:01:37,304 Yeah. 25 00:01:37,305 --> 00:01:40,475 I did not expect what they came in with, 26 00:01:40,517 --> 00:01:42,560 basically saying, you know, like, 27 00:01:42,602 --> 00:01:43,478 a fairytale. 28 00:01:43,520 --> 00:01:45,105 With a prince and a king, even. 29 00:01:45,146 --> 00:01:46,815 - Yeah, right! 30 00:01:46,856 --> 00:01:47,607 Yeah. 31 00:01:47,649 --> 00:01:49,484 Boris is saying that he actually, 32 00:01:49,526 --> 00:01:52,111 in the background, was planning this whole... 33 00:01:52,112 --> 00:01:53,947 birthday party for her, 34 00:01:53,988 --> 00:01:56,323 and then somehow, in the way he did this, 35 00:01:56,324 --> 00:01:59,285 he managed to kind of really turn things around... 36 00:01:59,327 --> 00:02:00,578 Mm-hm. 37 00:02:00,620 --> 00:02:03,790 Which, in turn, made her suddenly able to listen to his 38 00:02:03,832 --> 00:02:05,625 plight completely differently... 39 00:02:05,667 --> 00:02:06,251 Mm-hm. 40 00:02:06,292 --> 00:02:08,795 And that's all she needed. 41 00:02:08,837 --> 00:02:10,255 No cannonballs! 42 00:02:11,005 --> 00:02:12,465 Whoo! 43 00:02:16,719 --> 00:02:17,804 Again! 44 00:02:17,846 --> 00:02:20,014 My thought is that 45 00:02:20,056 --> 00:02:22,142 his partner asked him to leave... 46 00:02:22,183 --> 00:02:23,101 Mm-hm. 47 00:02:23,143 --> 00:02:24,977 And he didn't. 48 00:02:24,978 --> 00:02:28,523 And maybe that already demonstrated something about 49 00:02:28,565 --> 00:02:30,358 his commitment. 50 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:33,486 So you're saying maybe him not leaving was the 51 00:02:33,528 --> 00:02:34,821 therapeutic agent? 52 00:02:34,863 --> 00:02:36,823 At least the beginning of something. 53 00:02:36,865 --> 00:02:37,866 Mm-hm. 54 00:02:37,907 --> 00:02:40,493 But do you think the story continues that way? 55 00:02:40,535 --> 00:02:42,203 This Happy-- Happyland? 56 00:02:42,245 --> 00:02:43,163 I think... 57 00:02:43,204 --> 00:02:44,080 Ye-- yeah! 58 00:02:44,122 --> 00:02:45,331 I think there's a good chance because... 59 00:02:46,374 --> 00:02:50,170 She initiated the tragic end of the story, 60 00:02:50,211 --> 00:02:51,879 and he refused. 61 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:52,797 That's my-- 62 00:02:52,839 --> 00:02:54,382 I get where-- you know, it's significant. 63 00:02:54,424 --> 00:02:56,717 I think it's-- it was an important thing that happened. 64 00:02:56,718 --> 00:02:59,512 But I just am too much of a skeptic and believe in patterns, 65 00:02:59,554 --> 00:03:00,221 like... - Mm. 66 00:03:00,263 --> 00:03:01,347 This is gonna come back again. 67 00:03:01,389 --> 00:03:02,223 Yeah. 68 00:03:02,265 --> 00:03:04,058 None of you are buying their story. 69 00:03:04,100 --> 00:03:05,685 Are you buying their story? 70 00:03:05,727 --> 00:03:08,021 Maybe they wanted to take control of the narrative. 71 00:03:08,062 --> 00:03:09,063 Yes. 72 00:03:09,105 --> 00:03:10,397 And why shouldn't they? 73 00:03:10,398 --> 00:03:12,025 It doesn't make it fake! 74 00:03:12,066 --> 00:03:12,901 No. 75 00:03:12,942 --> 00:03:15,068 But I don't think it's the full story. 76 00:03:15,069 --> 00:03:16,403 It's real right now, 77 00:03:16,404 --> 00:03:19,699 but my thing is that I get worried when couples think, 78 00:03:19,741 --> 00:03:20,574 "We're cured!" 79 00:03:20,575 --> 00:03:21,534 Yeah. 80 00:03:21,576 --> 00:03:24,537 But he did something to avert that immediate-- 81 00:03:24,579 --> 00:03:25,704 Very tragic end. 82 00:03:25,705 --> 00:03:26,705 Yeah. 83 00:03:26,706 --> 00:03:29,250 Maybe it's still coming, but he did postpone it. 84 00:03:29,292 --> 00:03:30,877 Mm-hm. 85 00:03:31,794 --> 00:03:33,754 I think I would say that... 86 00:03:33,755 --> 00:03:38,760 the key to unlock the misery is to break out of narcissism-- 87 00:03:39,135 --> 00:03:42,388 is to, like, put yourself outside of yourself towards 88 00:03:42,430 --> 00:03:43,388 another person. 89 00:03:43,389 --> 00:03:44,390 Yes. 90 00:03:44,432 --> 00:03:46,100 And that act of generosity, like, 91 00:03:46,142 --> 00:03:48,728 made it possible for her to see him. 92 00:03:48,770 --> 00:03:49,437 Yeah! 93 00:03:49,479 --> 00:03:50,687 ♪ upbeat tender music ♪ 94 00:03:50,688 --> 00:03:54,441 I was happy for them that they got to a better place, 95 00:03:54,442 --> 00:03:56,402 but the truth is, they... 96 00:03:56,444 --> 00:03:58,571 did the opposite of therapy. 97 00:04:00,156 --> 00:04:03,243 It was not about talking for them. 98 00:04:04,953 --> 00:04:09,916 ♪ chill funky music ♪ 99 00:04:18,466 --> 00:04:21,386 I just really appreciate you unlocking this for me... 100 00:04:21,427 --> 00:04:23,096 Mm-hm. - And kinda... 101 00:04:24,973 --> 00:04:27,308 giving me the space to open it up... 102 00:04:27,350 --> 00:04:28,935 Mm-hm. - And talk. 103 00:04:31,354 --> 00:04:34,607 The whole experience revolved around my shame 104 00:04:34,649 --> 00:04:38,778 and some abstract fear about masculinity, 105 00:04:38,820 --> 00:04:42,489 and then that lived with me for 20 or 25 years and has been 106 00:04:42,490 --> 00:04:44,284 eating me up. 107 00:04:45,326 --> 00:04:46,660 But... 108 00:04:46,661 --> 00:04:50,999 I feel like this is not a big deal [chuckles] in many ways. 109 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:55,628 All my friends will support me, my family will support me, 110 00:04:55,670 --> 00:04:57,964 and the more I talk about it, the more it's... 111 00:04:58,006 --> 00:04:59,632 minimized. 112 00:05:04,971 --> 00:05:07,181 So how are you two? 113 00:05:08,558 --> 00:05:09,475 Pretty good. - Pretty good. 114 00:05:09,517 --> 00:05:11,352 I think we had a stressful morning, so... 115 00:05:11,394 --> 00:05:12,854 Mm-hm. - Um... 116 00:05:12,895 --> 00:05:14,022 just... 117 00:05:14,063 --> 00:05:15,857 in-car fight, but we're okay. 118 00:05:15,898 --> 00:05:16,941 "In-car fight?" 119 00:05:16,983 --> 00:05:18,651 Yeah, just small, but we're okay. 120 00:05:18,693 --> 00:05:19,986 Uh-huh. - Yeah. 121 00:05:20,028 --> 00:05:23,196 But I do think that we're bouncing back from things... 122 00:05:23,197 --> 00:05:24,031 Mm-hm. 123 00:05:24,032 --> 00:05:24,824 Better. 124 00:05:24,866 --> 00:05:26,326 Yeah. 125 00:05:26,367 --> 00:05:28,994 You know, we had an argument-- a pretty big argument-- 126 00:05:28,995 --> 00:05:30,663 the other day, and... 127 00:05:30,705 --> 00:05:33,333 I hadn't told her something about... 128 00:05:33,374 --> 00:05:35,500 this thing, and she'd found out about it and it was, like, 129 00:05:35,501 --> 00:05:38,212 a breach of trust, and she was really angry at me. 130 00:05:39,380 --> 00:05:40,798 Um... 131 00:05:40,840 --> 00:05:43,968 Do you wanna talk about that, what happened? 132 00:05:44,552 --> 00:05:46,179 Yeah. - Do you think it's useful? 133 00:05:46,220 --> 00:05:47,221 Yeah, like, I mean-- 134 00:05:47,263 --> 00:05:48,348 Then let's just talk about it. 135 00:05:48,389 --> 00:05:49,681 Whatever. 136 00:05:49,682 --> 00:05:51,184 Um... - C'est la vie. 137 00:05:52,727 --> 00:05:54,145 Um... 138 00:05:54,187 --> 00:05:56,855 I mean, I took in the mail the other day, 139 00:05:56,856 --> 00:06:00,692 and I-- there was a tax return from FanDuel, 140 00:06:00,693 --> 00:06:03,905 which is a online sports gambling, 141 00:06:03,946 --> 00:06:06,699 and, um, there was a large amount of money 142 00:06:06,741 --> 00:06:07,867 in the tax return... 143 00:06:07,909 --> 00:06:08,868 Mm-hm. 144 00:06:08,910 --> 00:06:10,078 As earnings. 145 00:06:10,119 --> 00:06:11,371 Mm-hm. 146 00:06:11,412 --> 00:06:13,164 And, um... 147 00:06:14,040 --> 00:06:15,750 I-- I confronted him; I was like, 148 00:06:15,792 --> 00:06:17,043 "What is this?" 149 00:06:17,085 --> 00:06:17,709 Mm-hm. 150 00:06:17,710 --> 00:06:19,670 "Have you been gambling?" 151 00:06:19,712 --> 00:06:21,213 And, um... 152 00:06:21,214 --> 00:06:23,216 he said, "Yes." 153 00:06:23,257 --> 00:06:24,592 And... 154 00:06:24,634 --> 00:06:26,259 you didn't tell me about this, so obviously, you knew... 155 00:06:26,260 --> 00:06:28,096 - That this was something... 156 00:06:30,098 --> 00:06:31,224 You shouldn't be doing... - Mm-hm. 157 00:06:31,265 --> 00:06:32,474 Because you would've told me. 158 00:06:32,475 --> 00:06:34,602 Meaning it's risky for you. I mean, it's risky for anyone... 159 00:06:34,644 --> 00:06:36,896 It's risky because, you know, he's in recovery... 160 00:06:36,938 --> 00:06:38,523 Yeah, yeah. - From gambling, and... 161 00:06:38,564 --> 00:06:40,608 I was like, "What's going on?" 162 00:06:40,650 --> 00:06:42,235 Like... - Mm-hm. 163 00:06:42,276 --> 00:06:43,903 - Um... 164 00:06:43,945 --> 00:06:46,238 I was just really angry, and I fel-- I also felt like, 165 00:06:46,239 --> 00:06:48,199 you know, we've been doing all this work around trust and, 166 00:06:48,241 --> 00:06:51,244 like, we've been coming here and, like... 167 00:06:51,285 --> 00:06:52,954 and you still didn't tell me? 168 00:06:52,995 --> 00:06:53,579 You know? 169 00:06:53,621 --> 00:06:54,664 Like, what is that about? 170 00:06:54,705 --> 00:06:57,458 And it's a few days before, like, our last session. 171 00:06:57,500 --> 00:06:58,918 Like... - Mm-hm. 172 00:06:59,669 --> 00:07:02,213 You know, you've had plenty of opportunities to tell me you 173 00:07:02,255 --> 00:07:05,299 were doing this, and that I have to find out by opening a piece 174 00:07:05,341 --> 00:07:07,426 of mail that, like... 175 00:07:07,427 --> 00:07:09,303 If I hadn't seen that, he never would've told me, 176 00:07:09,345 --> 00:07:11,431 and I never would've known. 177 00:07:11,973 --> 00:07:15,977 And he was very apologetic, but then sort of was like, 178 00:07:16,018 --> 00:07:18,438 "Well, your shopping addiction is the same thing." 179 00:07:18,479 --> 00:07:19,605 Mm-hm. 180 00:07:19,647 --> 00:07:21,441 It became that... 181 00:07:21,482 --> 00:07:23,067 Comparison. - Comparison thing... 182 00:07:23,109 --> 00:07:24,819 Yeah. - That, like, I hate. 183 00:07:24,861 --> 00:07:26,737 Well, I mean, forget the comparisons; 184 00:07:26,779 --> 00:07:28,322 it never goes anywhere. 185 00:07:28,364 --> 00:07:29,740 No. 186 00:07:29,782 --> 00:07:31,950 But then, he-- he shifted a little bit... 187 00:07:31,951 --> 00:07:33,619 Mm-hm. - And he was like... 188 00:07:33,661 --> 00:07:35,746 started talking about... 189 00:07:36,247 --> 00:07:41,252 I guess the place where he comes from that makes him wanna do it. 190 00:07:41,419 --> 00:07:42,753 Yeah. 191 00:07:43,045 --> 00:07:46,465 Just to clarify all of that-- 'cause I think it needs to be 192 00:07:46,466 --> 00:07:49,135 clarified-- like, in the past with gambling, 193 00:07:49,177 --> 00:07:50,677 it was, like, addictive, like... 194 00:07:50,678 --> 00:07:51,721 Mm-hm. 195 00:07:51,762 --> 00:07:54,181 "I need to... be playing--" like, "I need to win, 196 00:07:54,182 --> 00:07:55,975 and then it's all gonna solve everything," 197 00:07:56,017 --> 00:07:57,643 and then I would do it and I would go back. 198 00:07:57,685 --> 00:08:00,354 And this is-- this is, like, literally... 199 00:08:00,396 --> 00:08:04,025 spending like 30 dollars on Sundays to win a million-dollar 200 00:08:04,066 --> 00:08:04,650 tournament... - Mm-hm. 201 00:08:04,692 --> 00:08:06,694 With 400,000 people in it, 202 00:08:06,736 --> 00:08:08,654 and I happened to come in fifth place. 203 00:08:08,696 --> 00:08:09,655 Mm-hm. 204 00:08:09,697 --> 00:08:10,823 And so it's sort of like an alcoholic saying, 205 00:08:10,865 --> 00:08:11,991 "I can have one drink!" - Mm-hm. 206 00:08:12,033 --> 00:08:14,326 I know you're not really supposed to, like, go there, 207 00:08:14,327 --> 00:08:16,704 but it is very much... 208 00:08:16,746 --> 00:08:17,746 that. 209 00:08:17,747 --> 00:08:21,000 And so for me, it has been that sort of, like... 210 00:08:21,042 --> 00:08:22,375 "That would solve everything." 211 00:08:22,376 --> 00:08:23,503 Mm-hm. 212 00:08:23,544 --> 00:08:24,378 You know? 213 00:08:24,420 --> 00:08:25,630 Um... - Yeah. 214 00:08:25,671 --> 00:08:28,673 That, I understand, and that, the two of you will keep talking 215 00:08:28,674 --> 00:08:29,759 about it and... - Yeah. 216 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:31,636 Living with and having your relationship with that. 217 00:08:31,677 --> 00:08:32,678 I'm... - Yeah. 218 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:35,306 For our purposes, I'm more interested in what-- 219 00:08:35,348 --> 00:08:37,016 how the conversation goes... - Right. 220 00:08:37,058 --> 00:08:39,060 On this. - Right, right, right. 221 00:08:39,101 --> 00:08:42,021 I think I was surprised, when we laid down the next night and 222 00:08:42,063 --> 00:08:43,022 talked about it... - Mm-hm. 223 00:08:43,064 --> 00:08:45,191 I was surprised at how she didn't say anything, 224 00:08:45,233 --> 00:08:46,400 and she just... 225 00:08:46,442 --> 00:08:48,694 listened. - Mm-hm. 226 00:08:48,736 --> 00:08:52,406 The ability to give me the room to do that was, like-- 227 00:08:52,448 --> 00:08:54,700 I was super grateful for that. 228 00:08:54,742 --> 00:08:56,536 And I feel like... 229 00:08:56,577 --> 00:08:59,079 that's what I need. 230 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:02,208 I mean, in many ways, I feel relieved 231 00:09:02,250 --> 00:09:03,583 that Katherine found that... - Mm-hm. 232 00:09:03,584 --> 00:09:05,545 And that, like, we're just... 233 00:09:05,586 --> 00:09:06,921 talking about it, because, I don't know, 234 00:09:06,963 --> 00:09:10,216 I just think it's really healthy that, like... 235 00:09:10,258 --> 00:09:12,385 this stuff is out in the open and, like... 236 00:09:12,426 --> 00:09:14,053 Mm-hm. 237 00:09:14,095 --> 00:09:15,888 I mean, now we really don't have any secrets, I guess. 238 00:09:15,930 --> 00:09:16,722 Now it's done! 239 00:09:16,764 --> 00:09:17,890 I mean, there's nothing left. 240 00:09:17,932 --> 00:09:19,767 - There's no... 241 00:09:19,809 --> 00:09:22,061 there's no more. 242 00:09:23,437 --> 00:09:24,605 Yeah. - Is there? 243 00:09:24,647 --> 00:09:26,732 No. - I'm just kidding. 244 00:09:28,985 --> 00:09:30,570 So how are you leaving? 245 00:09:30,611 --> 00:09:33,281 How has this whole experience... 246 00:09:33,322 --> 00:09:35,241 been for you? 247 00:09:36,284 --> 00:09:38,119 Really hard. 248 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:39,078 Mm-hm. 249 00:09:39,120 --> 00:09:40,454 Yeah, like, I mean, I think coming in, like, 250 00:09:40,496 --> 00:09:45,084 I knew that we just have been stuck in, like... 251 00:09:45,960 --> 00:09:48,212 these patterns and... 252 00:09:48,254 --> 00:09:52,133 I feel us, like, opening up out of those patterns 253 00:09:52,174 --> 00:09:54,760 and, like, I-- I think we've... 254 00:09:54,802 --> 00:09:56,470 become much closer. 255 00:09:56,512 --> 00:09:57,597 Mm-hm. 256 00:09:57,638 --> 00:09:59,307 I mean, I think we're both kind of like, 257 00:09:59,348 --> 00:10:00,099 "What now?" 258 00:10:00,141 --> 00:10:01,601 Like, "How do we continue?" 259 00:10:01,642 --> 00:10:03,144 Mm-hm. 260 00:10:03,185 --> 00:10:04,604 I mean, it's a lot of things for me. 261 00:10:04,645 --> 00:10:07,315 I f-- I feel like... 262 00:10:07,356 --> 00:10:08,774 it's just the beginning... - Mm-hm. 263 00:10:08,816 --> 00:10:11,152 And, like, "Okay, let's get [chuckles] started" 264 00:10:11,193 --> 00:10:12,653 in a lot of ways. - Yeah. 265 00:10:12,695 --> 00:10:13,737 What did you say? 266 00:10:13,738 --> 00:10:15,488 What kind of therapy were you recommending for me? 267 00:10:15,489 --> 00:10:16,991 You need to get into psychoanalysis. 268 00:10:17,033 --> 00:10:18,034 Psychoanalysis. - Psychoanalysis. 269 00:10:18,075 --> 00:10:18,784 That is, like... - That's gonna happen. 270 00:10:18,826 --> 00:10:19,785 For sure. 271 00:10:19,827 --> 00:10:20,786 I'm very-- 272 00:10:20,828 --> 00:10:21,871 That, you're getting a referral. 273 00:10:21,912 --> 00:10:23,247 I'm curious and excited about that opportunity and-- 274 00:10:23,289 --> 00:10:25,333 Yeah, you're gonna love it. 275 00:10:25,374 --> 00:10:27,125 It's gonna be super interesting for you. 276 00:10:27,126 --> 00:10:28,794 Yeah, yeah. 277 00:10:28,836 --> 00:10:30,003 Yeah. 278 00:10:30,004 --> 00:10:32,005 I feel like the one thing that I'll walk away with is, like, 279 00:10:32,006 --> 00:10:33,424 being able to just be like, 280 00:10:33,466 --> 00:10:35,009 "Hey, I'm going through something hard. 281 00:10:35,051 --> 00:10:36,135 Can you give me a hug?" - Mm-hm. 282 00:10:36,177 --> 00:10:37,470 Like, "This is what's happening to me right now," 283 00:10:37,511 --> 00:10:39,472 and, like, just that simplicity of, like, 284 00:10:39,513 --> 00:10:41,973 finding the words for what we need. 285 00:10:41,974 --> 00:10:43,142 Yeah. 286 00:10:43,184 --> 00:10:46,479 But it seems to me like you're both very good at hearing... 287 00:10:46,520 --> 00:10:49,648 when the other person speaks from that place. 288 00:10:49,649 --> 00:10:50,775 Mm-hm. - Mm-hm. 289 00:10:50,816 --> 00:10:53,486 You have plenty of goodwill to offer each other, 290 00:10:53,527 --> 00:10:54,694 plenty of real love. 291 00:10:54,695 --> 00:10:56,197 Mm-hm. 292 00:10:56,238 --> 00:10:57,698 And, like, that's so... 293 00:10:57,740 --> 00:10:59,033 simple. 294 00:10:59,075 --> 00:11:00,618 Yeah, but it's big. 295 00:11:00,660 --> 00:11:01,993 But it's big. - Yeah. 296 00:11:01,994 --> 00:11:02,995 Yeah. 297 00:11:03,037 --> 00:11:03,829 So-- 298 00:11:03,871 --> 00:11:05,538 It's a very different way of living. 299 00:11:05,539 --> 00:11:06,832 Yeah. 300 00:11:06,874 --> 00:11:08,209 It is. 301 00:11:08,250 --> 00:11:13,297 ♪ mellow synth music ♪ 302 00:11:23,724 --> 00:11:26,727 Sometimes there's a glass ceiling on what you can do 303 00:11:26,769 --> 00:11:28,854 as a couples therapist because there's, like, 304 00:11:28,896 --> 00:11:31,899 serious individual work that needs to happen, 305 00:11:31,941 --> 00:11:34,568 either with both people or just one. 306 00:11:35,736 --> 00:11:40,032 For Nick, he ended with this feeling that his own journey 307 00:11:40,074 --> 00:11:42,368 is-- is just beginning... - Just begun. 308 00:11:42,410 --> 00:11:44,035 And, over the course of our work, 309 00:11:44,036 --> 00:11:47,581 became quite interested and excited about the possibility of 310 00:11:47,623 --> 00:11:48,833 more individual therapy. 311 00:11:48,874 --> 00:11:50,084 That's great. 312 00:11:50,126 --> 00:11:51,836 So I feel a little win on that. 313 00:11:51,877 --> 00:11:53,421 - Totally. 314 00:11:54,714 --> 00:11:57,717 I think it will make a huge difference for them. 315 00:12:18,112 --> 00:12:19,946 You wanna go for walks? 316 00:12:19,947 --> 00:12:21,907 You wanna go to Orna's? 317 00:12:35,463 --> 00:12:37,465 What are ya thinkin'? 318 00:12:37,506 --> 00:12:38,924 You wanna meet Nico? 319 00:12:38,966 --> 00:12:40,467 You wanna? 320 00:12:40,468 --> 00:12:41,969 And Orna? 321 00:12:42,011 --> 00:12:43,471 You do? 322 00:12:47,349 --> 00:12:49,143 Hello! - Orna, this is Peanut! 323 00:12:49,185 --> 00:12:50,436 Hi! - Peanut, meet Nico! 324 00:12:50,478 --> 00:12:51,729 They just walk right by. 325 00:12:51,771 --> 00:12:53,104 Hi! 326 00:12:53,105 --> 00:12:54,064 Okay? 327 00:12:54,106 --> 00:12:54,940 What are ya thinkin'? - Aw! 328 00:12:54,982 --> 00:12:56,108 Yeah? 329 00:12:56,150 --> 00:12:57,276 I think we're good! 330 00:12:57,318 --> 00:12:58,486 Nico's wagging. 331 00:12:59,820 --> 00:13:01,946 She's like, "I can't believe this is happening!" 332 00:13:01,947 --> 00:13:03,657 - "Finally, something for me!" 333 00:13:03,699 --> 00:13:05,326 You've got some company. 334 00:13:05,785 --> 00:13:06,744 So... 335 00:13:08,162 --> 00:13:09,497 How are you two? 336 00:13:09,538 --> 00:13:11,998 Um, I don't-- I guess I haven't-- not had much time to 337 00:13:11,999 --> 00:13:14,126 kind of digest, but it was pretty heavy last week. 338 00:13:14,168 --> 00:13:15,002 Mm-hm. 339 00:13:15,044 --> 00:13:16,462 We touched some pretty serious issues. 340 00:13:16,504 --> 00:13:17,838 Yes. 341 00:13:17,880 --> 00:13:20,632 It's hard to know how to be present... 342 00:13:20,633 --> 00:13:22,176 to someone dying or... 343 00:13:22,218 --> 00:13:22,802 Mm-hm. 344 00:13:22,843 --> 00:13:24,512 Anything else. 345 00:13:24,553 --> 00:13:27,681 I thought that was really important. 346 00:13:28,140 --> 00:13:29,516 I wanna be present. - Mm-hm. 347 00:13:29,517 --> 00:13:31,435 'Cause you lo-- you miss so much... 348 00:13:31,477 --> 00:13:32,352 Yeah. - By not being present. 349 00:13:32,353 --> 00:13:33,312 Exactly. 350 00:13:33,354 --> 00:13:36,148 But I really, honestly have to tell you, 351 00:13:36,190 --> 00:13:37,483 this has really... 352 00:13:37,525 --> 00:13:39,985 made a huge, huge change. 353 00:13:40,027 --> 00:13:41,028 Mm-hm. 354 00:13:41,070 --> 00:13:43,823 I didn't realize how much help we needed. 355 00:13:44,323 --> 00:13:46,700 I didn't realize how much... 356 00:13:46,742 --> 00:13:48,160 we hurt each other. 357 00:13:48,202 --> 00:13:49,662 Mm-hm. 358 00:13:50,746 --> 00:13:52,206 So... 359 00:13:52,248 --> 00:13:55,960 I think it's important for you to... 360 00:13:56,001 --> 00:13:58,170 fully take in-- which I think you have, 361 00:13:58,212 --> 00:14:01,549 over the course of our work-- that... 362 00:14:01,590 --> 00:14:04,677 your jumping in... 363 00:14:04,718 --> 00:14:07,220 is blocking Rod from 364 00:14:07,221 --> 00:14:08,514 expressing himself. 365 00:14:08,556 --> 00:14:09,849 Mm-hm. 366 00:14:10,057 --> 00:14:13,560 That does not absolve Rod... 367 00:14:13,561 --> 00:14:16,981 of understanding that you're relying on that 368 00:14:17,022 --> 00:14:18,524 and hiding in that. 369 00:14:18,566 --> 00:14:19,984 Mm-hm. 370 00:14:20,109 --> 00:14:23,696 And it's very easy for you to invite Alison to do that for 371 00:14:23,737 --> 00:14:26,866 you, and bypass your own work. 372 00:14:26,907 --> 00:14:28,200 Mm-hm. 373 00:14:28,576 --> 00:14:31,036 You know, I need to take that, like, 374 00:14:31,078 --> 00:14:33,914 obsession and obsessiveness... - Mm-hm. 375 00:14:33,956 --> 00:14:36,250 Away from things that are out of my control. 376 00:14:36,292 --> 00:14:37,042 Mm-hm. 377 00:14:37,084 --> 00:14:38,002 It's... 378 00:14:38,043 --> 00:14:40,713 the unknown, and I never was able to, like, 379 00:14:40,754 --> 00:14:42,548 be okay with that. 380 00:14:43,132 --> 00:14:44,216 It was a control thing! 381 00:14:44,258 --> 00:14:45,551 Mm-hm. - No, it's true. 382 00:14:45,593 --> 00:14:47,094 You can be overpowering. 383 00:14:47,136 --> 00:14:48,929 The fact you know so you can take a deep breath is gonna 384 00:14:48,971 --> 00:14:51,223 allow me, maybe, to open my mouth somewhat. 385 00:14:51,265 --> 00:14:52,474 I'm not criticizing you, I'm praising you. 386 00:14:52,516 --> 00:14:53,893 But what-- no, no, no, but I'm not-- but I'm not criticizing 387 00:14:53,934 --> 00:14:54,810 you either but... - Yeah. 388 00:14:54,852 --> 00:14:57,271 Why does it have to be what I'm doing... 389 00:14:57,313 --> 00:14:58,939 dictates how you're gonna be? 390 00:14:58,981 --> 00:15:00,774 It-- it makes me angry... 391 00:15:00,816 --> 00:15:01,817 Mm-hm. 392 00:15:01,859 --> 00:15:04,737 To, like, almost wanna say something back to you. 393 00:15:04,778 --> 00:15:08,574 First of all, wonderful that you're not just reacting but 394 00:15:08,616 --> 00:15:09,450 you're reflecting. 395 00:15:09,491 --> 00:15:10,909 Mm-hm. 396 00:15:10,910 --> 00:15:13,913 That's very different. 397 00:15:14,622 --> 00:15:15,956 Mm-hm. 398 00:15:15,998 --> 00:15:18,250 Like, in that, you hold... 399 00:15:18,292 --> 00:15:21,962 a lot of power to change a lot of the dynamic between the two 400 00:15:22,004 --> 00:15:22,922 of you. - Thank you. 401 00:15:22,963 --> 00:15:24,924 It's great. - Thank you. 402 00:15:25,466 --> 00:15:27,801 I can't do this alone. 403 00:15:27,927 --> 00:15:29,094 So I need for y-- 404 00:15:29,136 --> 00:15:30,136 No, I don't wanna-- I don't wanna-- 405 00:15:30,137 --> 00:15:31,430 I don't need for you. 406 00:15:31,472 --> 00:15:32,932 Nice. 407 00:15:32,973 --> 00:15:34,600 'Cause that's you going-- looking at me going-- 408 00:15:34,642 --> 00:15:36,060 giving me eyeballs like... - Mm-hm. 409 00:15:36,101 --> 00:15:37,101 "Don't start." 410 00:15:37,102 --> 00:15:37,811 Mm-hm. 411 00:15:37,853 --> 00:15:39,563 "Don't tell him what you need." 412 00:15:39,605 --> 00:15:41,148 Mm-hm. 413 00:15:41,482 --> 00:15:42,441 'Kay. 414 00:15:45,694 --> 00:15:47,946 Where are you, Rod? 415 00:15:47,947 --> 00:15:50,616 No, I respect what Alison said; it makes sense. 416 00:15:50,658 --> 00:15:52,992 I do sometimes project... 417 00:15:52,993 --> 00:15:55,120 on her to maybe deflect from me. 418 00:15:55,162 --> 00:15:56,205 Mm-hm. 419 00:15:56,246 --> 00:15:58,290 Last week, you were feeling it, and all of a sudden, 420 00:15:58,332 --> 00:15:59,959 you let your guard down. 421 00:16:00,000 --> 00:16:01,125 I liked that. 422 00:16:01,126 --> 00:16:02,461 Good. 423 00:16:02,628 --> 00:16:04,797 The more you let your guard down, 424 00:16:04,838 --> 00:16:07,800 the less Alison will need to come after you. 425 00:16:07,841 --> 00:16:11,804 The less you fill in, the more you'll have space to... 426 00:16:11,845 --> 00:16:12,763 Do your thing. - Speak. 427 00:16:12,805 --> 00:16:14,807 Mm-hm. - Do your thing. 428 00:16:15,641 --> 00:16:16,892 Yeah, it does-- it does feel like, 429 00:16:16,934 --> 00:16:19,812 in our apartment and our life, it does feel like there's a new 430 00:16:19,853 --> 00:16:22,189 level of calmness, which is-- which is great. 431 00:16:22,231 --> 00:16:23,648 Yeah. - Absolutely. 432 00:16:23,649 --> 00:16:25,693 But we have to maintain it, 'cause we're gonna have relapse. 433 00:16:25,734 --> 00:16:27,194 We know that; last weekend we did, 434 00:16:27,236 --> 00:16:29,863 and it's been-- it's be-- but the fact we're conscientious of 435 00:16:29,905 --> 00:16:31,824 it is so important. 436 00:16:32,658 --> 00:16:36,870 That's good, but what if we take what you just said... 437 00:16:36,912 --> 00:16:39,540 and try to translate it back into you? 438 00:16:39,581 --> 00:16:40,790 Mm-hm. 439 00:16:40,791 --> 00:16:43,460 If we work with the assumption that you're partial to using 440 00:16:43,502 --> 00:16:45,712 Alison to find something in yourself... 441 00:16:45,713 --> 00:16:47,131 Right. 442 00:16:47,589 --> 00:16:48,214 What is it? 443 00:16:48,215 --> 00:16:49,466 Let's go back into you. 444 00:16:49,508 --> 00:16:50,843 What are you saying with that? 445 00:16:50,884 --> 00:16:54,221 Maybe I was, you know, hiding behind grief with anger as well, 446 00:16:54,263 --> 00:16:55,263 or... 447 00:16:55,264 --> 00:16:57,349 buffering grief. - But are you saying that... 448 00:16:57,391 --> 00:16:58,392 because it sounds right, 449 00:16:58,434 --> 00:16:59,351 or do you-- - No, I-- 450 00:16:59,393 --> 00:17:00,352 Do you connect with what you're saying? 451 00:17:00,394 --> 00:17:01,562 No, I'm saying it 'cause it sounds right. 452 00:17:01,603 --> 00:17:02,521 I don't-- I don't know, I'm just kinda... 453 00:17:02,563 --> 00:17:03,480 Yeah. 454 00:17:03,522 --> 00:17:04,273 Articulating, talking out loud right now, 455 00:17:04,314 --> 00:17:05,064 so I don't know. - Yeah. 456 00:17:05,065 --> 00:17:05,733 I-- - So... 457 00:17:06,984 --> 00:17:08,861 What-- what if you took a minute and tried to see if 458 00:17:08,902 --> 00:17:10,361 what you said about Alison... 459 00:17:10,362 --> 00:17:11,071 Mm-hm. 460 00:17:11,113 --> 00:17:13,032 Pertains to you? 461 00:17:13,282 --> 00:17:15,200 I think maybe I-- maybe I've suppressed my feeling in 462 00:17:15,242 --> 00:17:16,702 general... - Mm-hm. 463 00:17:16,744 --> 00:17:19,705 Without-- - Get curious about them. 464 00:17:19,747 --> 00:17:21,206 Mm-hm. 465 00:17:23,208 --> 00:17:25,044 I keep on dabbling with the idea of meditation. 466 00:17:25,085 --> 00:17:26,419 I mean, I've done that in the past. 467 00:17:26,420 --> 00:17:27,546 Mm-hm. 468 00:17:27,588 --> 00:17:28,672 And in my mind, it's like, "I should and I need to." 469 00:17:28,714 --> 00:17:31,258 I-- I haven't, but it's something I'm very conscious of. 470 00:17:31,300 --> 00:17:32,134 Yeah. - I'll do it with you! 471 00:17:32,176 --> 00:17:32,760 I'll go. - On these days that-- 472 00:17:32,801 --> 00:17:33,719 Let's go! 473 00:17:33,761 --> 00:17:34,677 But let's-- - You don't have to go anywhere, 474 00:17:34,678 --> 00:17:35,763 you can-- you don't have to go anywhere-- 475 00:17:35,804 --> 00:17:36,805 No, but I'm just saying, like, I would even go to-- 476 00:17:36,847 --> 00:17:37,389 You can just sit on the toilet and do it-- 477 00:17:37,431 --> 00:17:38,390 Alison. 478 00:17:38,432 --> 00:17:39,725 Sorry. 479 00:17:39,767 --> 00:17:41,226 Right. - It's a personal thing. 480 00:17:41,268 --> 00:17:42,770 Why are you going in there? 481 00:17:42,811 --> 00:17:43,604 I don't know. 482 00:17:45,230 --> 00:17:48,108 It's just I see it all, which, I guess, 483 00:17:48,150 --> 00:17:49,610 frightens me right now. 484 00:17:49,651 --> 00:17:52,571 And the fear is...? 485 00:17:53,947 --> 00:17:57,408 Being able to come out on the other side and be... 486 00:17:57,409 --> 00:17:59,953 content what the other side is. 487 00:17:59,995 --> 00:18:00,579 I don't know! 488 00:18:00,621 --> 00:18:01,455 I don't know. 489 00:18:01,497 --> 00:18:02,623 Is-- is that okay too? 490 00:18:02,664 --> 00:18:03,457 Yeah. 491 00:18:03,499 --> 00:18:04,583 Like, the unknown right now? 492 00:18:04,625 --> 00:18:05,751 Mm-hm. 493 00:18:05,793 --> 00:18:08,294 I think everything that I've learned in all these weeks of 494 00:18:08,295 --> 00:18:10,589 therapy and everything, 495 00:18:10,631 --> 00:18:12,091 this has come full circle, 496 00:18:12,132 --> 00:18:13,425 and now I'm sitting here with my husband, 497 00:18:13,467 --> 00:18:15,219 where I know... 498 00:18:15,260 --> 00:18:16,594 that we're gonna be okay. 499 00:18:16,595 --> 00:18:17,970 Mm-hm. 500 00:18:17,971 --> 00:18:18,972 I think maybe I should go sit on-- 501 00:18:19,014 --> 00:18:20,307 like, over here. 502 00:18:20,349 --> 00:18:21,308 Should I give you a kiss? 503 00:18:21,350 --> 00:18:21,934 That's it. 504 00:18:21,975 --> 00:18:22,934 We're done. - Great! 505 00:18:22,935 --> 00:18:24,144 We gave each other a kiss! 506 00:18:30,192 --> 00:18:35,155 ♪ upbeat chill music ♪ 507 00:18:55,175 --> 00:18:56,426 Nice. 508 00:18:56,468 --> 00:18:58,470 Turn around. 509 00:18:59,221 --> 00:19:00,472 Very nice. 510 00:19:14,736 --> 00:19:16,822 Did we tell you the story of our first date? 511 00:19:16,864 --> 00:19:17,698 Mm-mm. 512 00:19:17,739 --> 00:19:19,867 So, we had a great date, but then, 513 00:19:19,908 --> 00:19:22,202 we winded up falling asleep, 514 00:19:22,244 --> 00:19:25,163 and I woke up at, like, three or four in the morning, 515 00:19:25,164 --> 00:19:27,374 and I decided to leave. 516 00:19:27,416 --> 00:19:29,168 But I didn't say goodbye. 517 00:19:29,209 --> 00:19:30,377 I just left. 518 00:19:30,419 --> 00:19:31,127 Mm-hm. 519 00:19:31,128 --> 00:19:34,548 And I left because I thought, 520 00:19:34,590 --> 00:19:36,049 "Wow, this is too good to be true. 521 00:19:36,091 --> 00:19:37,634 Surely, he'll come to his senses." 522 00:19:37,676 --> 00:19:39,051 Mm-hm. 523 00:19:39,052 --> 00:19:41,221 "I should probably just... 524 00:19:41,263 --> 00:19:42,389 end it now." 525 00:19:42,431 --> 00:19:43,348 Slink away. 526 00:19:43,390 --> 00:19:44,223 Yeah. 527 00:19:44,224 --> 00:19:46,351 And I just remember getting in the cab, 528 00:19:46,393 --> 00:19:48,854 and I was like, "What the fuck was that?" 529 00:19:48,896 --> 00:19:49,937 Like... 530 00:19:49,938 --> 00:19:52,191 just one of those perfect, beautiful first dates, 531 00:19:52,232 --> 00:19:53,399 just... 532 00:19:53,400 --> 00:19:56,361 too good to be true, stuff that you literally see in films. 533 00:19:56,403 --> 00:19:58,362 I-- I just thought, "This is impossible! 534 00:19:58,363 --> 00:20:00,532 How did that-- how did that happen?" 535 00:20:00,866 --> 00:20:03,702 And then I went home and I fell asleep, 536 00:20:03,744 --> 00:20:07,206 and I woke up, and he had sent me this really long text 537 00:20:07,247 --> 00:20:09,750 message, and basically, it said, 538 00:20:09,791 --> 00:20:12,043 "I was sad when I woke up and you weren't there. 539 00:20:12,044 --> 00:20:13,754 Please don't ever do that to me again. 540 00:20:13,795 --> 00:20:15,088 When can I see you again?" 541 00:20:15,130 --> 00:20:17,216 I was upset. 542 00:20:17,257 --> 00:20:18,091 Mm-hm. - I was upset. 543 00:20:18,133 --> 00:20:19,343 I was like, "I just had a great night. 544 00:20:19,384 --> 00:20:20,927 Now you're leaving me too?!" 545 00:20:20,928 --> 00:20:21,887 Mm-hm. 546 00:20:21,929 --> 00:20:23,263 Like, the "abandonment." 547 00:20:23,305 --> 00:20:24,723 And I was like, "I'm not doing this. 548 00:20:24,765 --> 00:20:27,392 I'm not gonna not say anything." 549 00:20:27,809 --> 00:20:29,602 Yeah. - That's great. 550 00:20:29,603 --> 00:20:33,440 So, any thoughts about our last session? 551 00:20:33,482 --> 00:20:34,566 Yeah. 552 00:20:34,608 --> 00:20:37,401 Prior to coming here, our relationship has been good. 553 00:20:37,402 --> 00:20:38,403 Mm-hm. 554 00:20:38,445 --> 00:20:40,906 But now, leaving here, I feel much more... 555 00:20:40,948 --> 00:20:43,533 Absolutely, a hundred percent. - Grounded, confident... 556 00:20:43,575 --> 00:20:44,826 Mm-hm. 557 00:20:44,868 --> 00:20:47,204 I feel like, also, we've kind of shared some of the stuff that 558 00:20:47,246 --> 00:20:47,955 we both had. 559 00:20:47,996 --> 00:20:48,622 Mm-hm. - Yeah! 560 00:20:48,664 --> 00:20:49,748 Right? Like... 561 00:20:49,790 --> 00:20:52,751 I had the overbearing kind of, like, 562 00:20:52,793 --> 00:20:54,044 over-worry... 563 00:20:54,086 --> 00:20:55,128 Mm-hm. - Right? 564 00:20:55,170 --> 00:20:57,923 Now, I've given him a little bit of the worry... 565 00:20:57,965 --> 00:21:01,134 to think about, wherein now, I'm also taking some of the freedom 566 00:21:01,176 --> 00:21:02,803 that he's enjoying. - Yeah. 567 00:21:02,844 --> 00:21:03,762 Nice. - Right? That he wants. 568 00:21:03,804 --> 00:21:05,472 I'm seeing us exchanging... - Mm-hm. 569 00:21:05,514 --> 00:21:07,557 That's allowing this balance to happen, 570 00:21:07,599 --> 00:21:09,726 that I hope... 571 00:21:10,352 --> 00:21:13,105 I hope we can keep that up in that-- and-- and... 572 00:21:13,146 --> 00:21:15,147 build it from that place. 573 00:21:15,148 --> 00:21:17,985 'Cause I think, from there, then I think we should be able to 574 00:21:18,026 --> 00:21:19,069 understand each other. 575 00:21:19,111 --> 00:21:20,279 Mm-hm. - Mm-hm. 576 00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:22,823 I hear him, and I hear a much more responsible person now. 577 00:21:22,864 --> 00:21:24,448 Mm-hm. 578 00:21:24,449 --> 00:21:25,284 Thank you. 579 00:21:25,325 --> 00:21:26,743 Yeah. 580 00:21:27,160 --> 00:21:30,830 One of the many things that bonds the two of you 581 00:21:30,831 --> 00:21:32,499 is that... 582 00:21:32,541 --> 00:21:35,961 I think you give each other the feeling that you're intelligible 583 00:21:36,003 --> 00:21:39,131 to each other-- that you make sense to each other-- 584 00:21:39,172 --> 00:21:42,134 in a way that you didn't have growing up. 585 00:21:42,175 --> 00:21:43,468 Mm. 586 00:21:43,969 --> 00:21:47,139 I totally see it, because there's also been moments where 587 00:21:47,180 --> 00:21:49,640 Kyle and I have referred to our inner child... 588 00:21:49,641 --> 00:21:51,101 Mm-hm. - The-- the young inner child. 589 00:21:51,143 --> 00:21:52,643 Like, his is "Kalushu"... - Kalushu. 590 00:21:52,644 --> 00:21:53,437 Mm-hm. 591 00:21:53,478 --> 00:21:54,313 Armandito. - Mine is "Armandito" 592 00:21:54,354 --> 00:21:55,063 Mm-hm. 593 00:21:55,105 --> 00:21:56,064 So in a way, when you said that, 594 00:21:56,106 --> 00:21:57,858 I almost saw the two kids... - Yeah! 595 00:21:57,899 --> 00:21:59,483 Playing! - Yes! 596 00:21:59,484 --> 00:22:00,484 Like, those are the two kids! 597 00:22:00,485 --> 00:22:01,987 You guys are like, "I see you." - Mm-hm. 598 00:22:02,029 --> 00:22:03,613 Yeah. - Mm-hm. 599 00:22:04,156 --> 00:22:06,033 We recognize each other. 600 00:22:06,074 --> 00:22:08,160 You recognize each other, yeah. 601 00:22:08,201 --> 00:22:09,953 Yeah, yeah. 602 00:22:10,829 --> 00:22:12,289 Yeah! 603 00:22:15,083 --> 00:22:17,711 Two little kids lost. 604 00:22:18,879 --> 00:22:21,380 And if we were to find each other, 605 00:22:21,381 --> 00:22:22,883 the world wouldn't be so lonely. 606 00:22:22,924 --> 00:22:24,468 Right. 607 00:22:24,760 --> 00:22:26,303 It's beautiful. 608 00:22:29,056 --> 00:22:30,182 That's... 609 00:22:30,223 --> 00:22:32,809 It's so cheesy and beautiful and-- and perfect 610 00:22:32,851 --> 00:22:34,061 in so many ways. - It's not cheesy at all! 611 00:22:34,102 --> 00:22:35,354 It's cheesy, but it's-- - It's not. 612 00:22:35,395 --> 00:22:37,522 No, it's cheesy in a cute way, but still. 613 00:22:38,732 --> 00:22:40,566 ♪ upbeat synth music ♪ 614 00:22:40,567 --> 00:22:41,860 Yeah. 615 00:22:43,862 --> 00:22:45,739 Thank you, Orna. - Thank you. 616 00:22:46,948 --> 00:22:48,367 Thank you. 617 00:22:48,408 --> 00:22:50,160 Thank you. 618 00:22:51,453 --> 00:22:54,081 See you soon. - See you soon. 619 00:22:54,122 --> 00:22:55,165 Ready? 620 00:22:55,207 --> 00:22:56,249 That's it, we're cured? - Yeah, we're cured. 621 00:22:56,291 --> 00:22:57,376 We're cured, we're good, we're cured. 622 00:22:57,417 --> 00:22:58,209 Yup. 623 00:22:58,210 --> 00:23:00,545 ♪ We're all goin'♪ 624 00:23:01,088 --> 00:23:03,715 ♪ Where we won't come back ♪ 625 00:23:05,467 --> 00:23:07,427 ♪ Take your foot ♪ 626 00:23:08,762 --> 00:23:10,722 ♪ Off the gas ♪ 627 00:23:12,140 --> 00:23:14,893 ♪ I wanna get lost ♪ 628 00:23:15,769 --> 00:23:17,270 ♪ Along the way...♪ 629 00:23:17,312 --> 00:23:19,064 Happy, happy puppy? 630 00:23:19,106 --> 00:23:20,190 Wanna kiss Mommy? 631 00:23:20,232 --> 00:23:24,111 ♪ We're gonna make it there one day ♪ 632 00:23:34,996 --> 00:23:37,207 ♪ Early in the morning ♪ 633 00:23:37,999 --> 00:23:40,585 ♪ When the light is blue...♪ 634 00:23:41,628 --> 00:23:45,965 I cannot wait to begin this new life journey with you... 635 00:23:45,966 --> 00:23:47,759 as your husband... 636 00:23:47,801 --> 00:23:50,595 and forever ever your twin flame.