1 00:00:05,966 --> 00:00:08,969 [mellow percussive music] 2 00:00:08,969 --> 00:00:12,306 ♪ ♪ 3 00:00:12,306 --> 00:00:15,309 [Camille] No one knows exactly who coined the term 4 00:00:15,309 --> 00:00:17,311 "strong Black woman" 5 00:00:17,311 --> 00:00:19,772 or even exactly when the term originated. 6 00:00:19,772 --> 00:00:23,525 What we do know is the trope is uniquely American 7 00:00:23,525 --> 00:00:26,904 and has been germane from slavery to the present day. 8 00:00:26,904 --> 00:00:29,198 In comparison to white femininity, 9 00:00:29,198 --> 00:00:30,699 which is valued for beauty, 10 00:00:30,699 --> 00:00:31,867 vulnerability, 11 00:00:31,867 --> 00:00:33,452 and maternal softness, 12 00:00:33,452 --> 00:00:36,413 Black women have been valued for their labor, 13 00:00:36,413 --> 00:00:39,708 both literally and figuratively. 14 00:00:39,708 --> 00:00:43,128 A strong Black woman suppresses her emotions, 15 00:00:43,128 --> 00:00:44,838 never letting anyone see her sweat. 16 00:00:44,838 --> 00:00:46,381 She is ambitious, 17 00:00:46,381 --> 00:00:48,133 but still makes time to be supportive, 18 00:00:48,133 --> 00:00:51,094 even carrying her mate, her friends, 19 00:00:51,094 --> 00:00:53,347 and her family when necessary. 20 00:00:53,347 --> 00:00:56,225 Being labeled a strong Black woman 21 00:00:56,225 --> 00:00:58,435 is a rite of passage. 22 00:00:58,435 --> 00:01:00,604 She is resilient, independent, 23 00:01:00,604 --> 00:01:02,356 and capable. 24 00:01:02,356 --> 00:01:04,107 [sighs] 25 00:01:04,107 --> 00:01:05,651 But what if she isn't? 26 00:01:05,651 --> 00:01:09,029 It's been four fucking hours since the doctor has been here. 27 00:01:09,029 --> 00:01:11,240 Do you know what I could do in four hours? 28 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:12,783 We could have binge-watched Roots by now. 29 00:01:12,783 --> 00:01:14,743 - You ever seen Roots? - Mm-mm. 30 00:01:14,743 --> 00:01:16,328 Not even a remake with T.I.? 31 00:01:16,328 --> 00:01:17,412 Definitely not. 32 00:01:17,412 --> 00:01:19,623 Tch, Black people kill me not Blacking. 33 00:01:19,623 --> 00:01:21,124 You seen it? 34 00:01:21,124 --> 00:01:23,335 Nah, but it's still on my DVR. 35 00:01:23,335 --> 00:01:25,003 - [both laugh] - Bitch. 36 00:01:25,003 --> 00:01:27,130 Oh, fuck. 37 00:01:27,130 --> 00:01:29,049 Yo, whatever it is, 38 00:01:29,049 --> 00:01:31,093 it needs to happen quick. 39 00:01:31,093 --> 00:01:33,136 I have my flight to AfroTech in the morning. 40 00:01:33,136 --> 00:01:35,389 You are not getting on a plane in this condition. 41 00:01:35,389 --> 00:01:37,307 Oh, I am not missing AfroTech. 42 00:01:37,307 --> 00:01:39,852 It is the Mecca for Black techies. 43 00:01:39,852 --> 00:01:42,646 And there's gonna be mad, blerd chicks to holla at, 44 00:01:42,646 --> 00:01:43,814 and did we forget... 45 00:01:43,814 --> 00:01:45,732 [both] Your girl is a keynote speaker. 46 00:01:45,732 --> 00:01:48,318 Mm-hmm, but if you do not make your health your focus, 47 00:01:48,318 --> 00:01:50,737 I'm gonna be the keynote speaker at your funeral. 48 00:01:50,737 --> 00:01:53,240 See, this is why I don't tell people when I'm sick, 49 00:01:53,240 --> 00:01:54,408 because it becomes a thing. 50 00:01:54,408 --> 00:01:55,742 And then the next thing you know, 51 00:01:55,742 --> 00:01:57,452 everybody's acting like you got six weeks to live 52 00:01:57,452 --> 00:01:58,912 when it's just a damn runny nose. 53 00:01:58,912 --> 00:02:01,707 A runny nose does not cause you to pass out 54 00:02:01,707 --> 00:02:03,792 on a disgusting subway floor. 55 00:02:03,792 --> 00:02:05,502 By the way, we should probably have them check you 56 00:02:05,502 --> 00:02:09,131 for hepatitis A and B and C. 57 00:02:09,131 --> 00:02:10,924 - Is there a D? - Whatever. 58 00:02:10,924 --> 00:02:12,718 My point is, I don't like to be treated 59 00:02:12,718 --> 00:02:14,386 like I'm weak sauce. 60 00:02:14,386 --> 00:02:16,388 Or petted like a damn dog. 61 00:02:16,388 --> 00:02:17,848 Quinn, you didn't tell anybody, did you? 62 00:02:17,848 --> 00:02:19,892 Oh, my God, for the millionth time, I didn't. 63 00:02:19,892 --> 00:02:21,977 Good, I don't need Camille in here 64 00:02:21,977 --> 00:02:23,186 tracing stomach pain 65 00:02:23,186 --> 00:02:25,898 back to the Middle Passage or some shit. 66 00:02:25,898 --> 00:02:27,107 And Angie would be up in here 67 00:02:27,107 --> 00:02:29,693 stealing hospital supplies as reparations. 68 00:02:29,693 --> 00:02:32,821 Oh, God, the doctor said he would be right back. 69 00:02:32,821 --> 00:02:34,489 I'm gonna fucking lose it. 70 00:02:34,489 --> 00:02:36,992 See, this is why my family doesn't fuck with doctors. 71 00:02:36,992 --> 00:02:38,702 They don't treat us anyway. 72 00:02:38,702 --> 00:02:40,996 The most they do is experiment like Tuskegee. 73 00:02:40,996 --> 00:02:43,040 - The Relf Sisters. - Mississippi Appendectomy. 74 00:02:43,040 --> 00:02:44,416 - Henrietta Lacks. 75 00:02:44,416 --> 00:02:46,043 Well, hello, dear. 76 00:02:46,043 --> 00:02:47,711 So you're anemic. 77 00:02:47,711 --> 00:02:48,754 Let's get you a blood transfusion, 78 00:02:48,754 --> 00:02:50,130 get your numbers back up. 79 00:02:50,130 --> 00:02:52,507 Okay, and what about her back and her pelvic pain? 80 00:02:52,507 --> 00:02:55,427 Ah, that's just Aunt Flo being a tough houseguest. 81 00:02:55,427 --> 00:02:56,803 When your cycle's over in a few days, 82 00:02:56,803 --> 00:02:58,555 the pain will subside. 83 00:02:58,555 --> 00:03:00,682 What if it's been more than a few days? 84 00:03:00,682 --> 00:03:02,935 I've been on my period for 11 days now. 85 00:03:02,935 --> 00:03:04,144 What? 86 00:03:04,144 --> 00:03:05,395 [Doctor] Well, every woman is different. 87 00:03:05,395 --> 00:03:07,648 Well, as a woman, I would say that 11 days 88 00:03:07,648 --> 00:03:09,316 deserves a far more aggressive approach 89 00:03:09,316 --> 00:03:10,943 to her diagnosis than Aunt Flo. 90 00:03:10,943 --> 00:03:13,904 And the Tylenol ain't cutting it for the pain. 91 00:03:13,904 --> 00:03:15,697 Ah, so you're here for drugs? 92 00:03:15,697 --> 00:03:18,659 I'm here because I passed out on a damn subway. 93 00:03:18,659 --> 00:03:20,077 We have a very strict policy against 94 00:03:20,077 --> 00:03:21,954 prescribing opioids in this community. 95 00:03:21,954 --> 00:03:24,289 Well, from what I hear, this community 96 00:03:24,289 --> 00:03:26,124 isn't the one that you need to be worried about. 97 00:03:26,124 --> 00:03:28,377 Now, my friend is in serious pain. 98 00:03:28,377 --> 00:03:30,212 You have not done any ultrasounds, 99 00:03:30,212 --> 00:03:31,713 - Any checks, any... [Doctor] As a doctor, 100 00:03:31,713 --> 00:03:34,800 I have her bloodwork and that tells me all I need to know. 101 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:36,635 Have you tried relaxing, meditation? 102 00:03:36,635 --> 00:03:38,929 This could all just be stress in your head. 103 00:03:38,929 --> 00:03:41,598 I'll have the nurse get started on your blood transfusion. 104 00:03:41,598 --> 00:03:42,641 Ooh. 105 00:03:42,641 --> 00:03:44,434 O negative, universal donor. 106 00:03:44,434 --> 00:03:46,937 You should consider getting on a regular donation schedule. 107 00:03:46,937 --> 00:03:48,397 A lot of people could really use your help. 108 00:03:48,397 --> 00:03:50,357 I'm sorry, did you just tell her 109 00:03:50,357 --> 00:03:52,109 that she needed a blood transfusion 110 00:03:52,109 --> 00:03:54,194 and then asked for her shit back in the same breath? 111 00:03:54,194 --> 00:03:56,154 I can see we're a little upset. 112 00:03:56,154 --> 00:03:57,155 I'm gonna go. 113 00:03:57,155 --> 00:03:59,574 The nurse will be by. 114 00:03:59,574 --> 00:04:01,660 We're upset? 115 00:04:01,660 --> 00:04:03,036 Shit. 116 00:04:03,036 --> 00:04:04,871 Thank God you can go home after this transfusion, 117 00:04:04,871 --> 00:04:07,499 but 11 days, Tye? 118 00:04:07,499 --> 00:04:10,335 Why you ain't tell me? 119 00:04:10,335 --> 00:04:11,962 I don't wanna lose you. 120 00:04:11,962 --> 00:04:14,131 Lose me, Quinn? 121 00:04:14,131 --> 00:04:16,466 Wow. 122 00:04:16,466 --> 00:04:19,428 Wow. Great work, Camille. 123 00:04:19,428 --> 00:04:21,722 Of course it is, Nora. 124 00:04:21,722 --> 00:04:23,724 And that's "Dr. Parks." 125 00:04:23,724 --> 00:04:26,560 Well, since Dr. Pruitt asked you to assist me, 126 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:28,729 I thought we were more colleagues. 127 00:04:28,729 --> 00:04:31,481 And remind me, where did you get your PhD? 128 00:04:31,481 --> 00:04:34,151 Like I said, Dr. Parks. Thanks. 129 00:04:34,151 --> 00:04:36,987 Do you know a Dr. Amina Reynolds? 130 00:04:36,987 --> 00:04:38,196 I know of her. 131 00:04:38,196 --> 00:04:39,448 Well, I met her earlier today 132 00:04:39,448 --> 00:04:41,908 after she interviewed with Dr. Pruitt. 133 00:04:41,908 --> 00:04:43,660 She seems really nice. Who knows? 134 00:04:43,660 --> 00:04:46,830 Maybe next year I'll get to take her class. 135 00:04:46,830 --> 00:04:50,333 She was interviewing for the associate professor's position? 136 00:04:50,333 --> 00:04:53,336 Not sure, but probably. 137 00:04:53,336 --> 00:04:55,213 Well, have a good night, Dr. Parks. 138 00:04:59,176 --> 00:05:00,302 [sighs] 139 00:05:00,302 --> 00:05:01,803 [whispers] Fuck. 140 00:05:01,803 --> 00:05:04,848 [phone ringing] 141 00:05:07,642 --> 00:05:09,686 Hey, hey, hey, beautiful, I was just about to text you. 142 00:05:09,686 --> 00:05:11,646 I'm thinking Zoma or Pisticci tonight. 143 00:05:11,646 --> 00:05:13,648 [Camille] I'm sorry, babe, I can't do dinner tonight. 144 00:05:13,648 --> 00:05:15,525 I just found out that Dr. Pruitt is interviewing 145 00:05:15,525 --> 00:05:17,736 outside candidates for the associate professor position. 146 00:05:17,736 --> 00:05:19,196 [Jameson] For tenure track? 147 00:05:19,196 --> 00:05:21,740 - I thought that was all you. [Camille] So did I. 148 00:05:21,740 --> 00:05:24,910 Now, I need to update my CV, gather my materials, 149 00:05:24,910 --> 00:05:26,119 and compose my mission statement 150 00:05:26,119 --> 00:05:28,413 to present it to Dr. Pruitt, like, yesterday, 151 00:05:28,413 --> 00:05:29,873 and you know it's gotta be tight. 152 00:05:29,873 --> 00:05:31,291 [Jameson] And it will be. Look, you got this. 153 00:05:31,291 --> 00:05:33,085 And if, you know, if we have time, 154 00:05:33,085 --> 00:05:34,503 we can meet up later for a nightcap. 155 00:05:34,503 --> 00:05:37,047 Okay, wait, you wanna hear something funny? 156 00:05:37,047 --> 00:05:39,633 So in middle school, I used to think that 157 00:05:39,633 --> 00:05:42,761 nightcap was slang for condom 158 00:05:42,761 --> 00:05:45,138 'cause you put it, like, on your head, get it? 159 00:05:45,138 --> 00:05:48,308 I do get it, um, but don't tell anybody else that. 160 00:05:48,308 --> 00:05:51,478 - [line beeps] - Hold on. 161 00:05:51,478 --> 00:05:53,438 Oh, shit, um, I need to get this. 162 00:05:53,438 --> 00:05:55,148 It's my therapist, but I will see you later. 163 00:05:55,148 --> 00:05:57,567 [Jameson] All right. 164 00:05:57,567 --> 00:05:59,528 Rebecca, hi. 165 00:05:59,528 --> 00:06:01,780 I am so sorry that I missed our session earlier. 166 00:06:01,780 --> 00:06:03,031 I got caught up at work and... 167 00:06:03,031 --> 00:06:04,241 [Rebecca] This is the third session 168 00:06:04,241 --> 00:06:05,867 - you've missed this month. - Yeah. 169 00:06:05,867 --> 00:06:07,702 [Rebecca] If you don't wish to continue your therapy... 170 00:06:07,702 --> 00:06:10,205 No, no, no. I do, I do. 171 00:06:10,205 --> 00:06:12,332 Do you have anything tomorrow? Please? 172 00:06:12,332 --> 00:06:15,460 I will work with whatever you have available. 173 00:06:15,460 --> 00:06:17,003 [Rebecca] 1:30. - Okay. 174 00:06:17,003 --> 00:06:20,507 1:30. I will be there. 175 00:06:20,507 --> 00:06:23,510 Yes. 176 00:06:23,510 --> 00:06:24,886 [quietly] Yes, okay. 177 00:06:24,886 --> 00:06:26,304 [mellow music] 178 00:06:26,304 --> 00:06:28,890 [exhales] Mission statement. 179 00:06:28,890 --> 00:06:30,350 [exhales] 180 00:06:30,350 --> 00:06:33,019 [singer] ♪ Things always getting in the way ♪ 181 00:06:33,019 --> 00:06:35,522 ♪ Finding things hard enough to say ♪ 182 00:06:35,522 --> 00:06:38,275 ♪ I want you but the feeling ain't the same ♪ 183 00:06:38,275 --> 00:06:41,528 ♪ I try but I fight with myself ♪ 184 00:06:41,528 --> 00:06:43,613 ♪ I be everything you need, yeah ♪ 185 00:06:43,613 --> 00:06:46,032 ♪ Sun go down, I can't even sleep, yeah ♪ 186 00:06:46,032 --> 00:06:47,325 ♪ You make me weak, yeah ♪ 187 00:06:47,325 --> 00:06:48,827 ♪ I can't even sleep, yeah ♪ 188 00:06:48,827 --> 00:06:50,120 ♪ Make me weak, yeah ♪ 189 00:06:50,120 --> 00:06:51,413 ♪ Got something over me, yeah ♪ 190 00:06:51,413 --> 00:06:53,748 ♪ On and on ♪ 191 00:06:53,748 --> 00:06:56,751 ♪ Keep going, we just let the feeling keep going ♪ 192 00:06:56,751 --> 00:06:59,171 ♪ On and on ♪ 193 00:06:59,171 --> 00:07:02,257 ♪ Keep going, we just let the feeling keep going ♪ 194 00:07:02,257 --> 00:07:04,676 ♪ On and on ♪ 195 00:07:04,676 --> 00:07:07,637 ♪ Keep going, we just let the feeling keep going ♪ 196 00:07:07,637 --> 00:07:10,098 ♪ On and on ♪ 197 00:07:10,098 --> 00:07:13,727 ♪ Keep going, we just let the feeling keep going ♪ 198 00:07:13,727 --> 00:07:16,563 ♪ Party calling lately I've been feelin' it ♪ 199 00:07:16,563 --> 00:07:18,982 ♪ Might be what I want but I don't need it ♪ 200 00:07:18,982 --> 00:07:21,651 ♪ I just hope that I'm not misleading ♪ 201 00:07:21,651 --> 00:07:24,779 ♪ 'Cause you and I have something to believe in ♪ 202 00:07:24,779 --> 00:07:29,034 ♪ And I'm sorry that I am not down for no settling ♪ 203 00:07:29,034 --> 00:07:31,786 ♪ Got too much already invested in ♪ 204 00:07:31,786 --> 00:07:34,080 ♪ It's evident ♪ 205 00:07:34,080 --> 00:07:36,875 [upbeat piano melody] 206 00:07:36,875 --> 00:07:39,252 ♪ My white liberal parents ♪ 207 00:07:39,252 --> 00:07:41,838 ♪ Have the right liberal stance ♪ 208 00:07:41,838 --> 00:07:45,175 ♪ They would've voted for Obama for a third term ♪ 209 00:07:45,175 --> 00:07:46,885 ♪ If they had the chance ♪ 210 00:07:46,885 --> 00:07:48,720 ♪ They always listen to Lizzo ♪ 211 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:51,264 ♪ Not just "Juice," like every song ♪ 212 00:07:51,264 --> 00:07:52,807 ♪ My family's great ♪ 213 00:07:52,807 --> 00:07:54,267 ♪ We celebrate ♪ 214 00:07:54,267 --> 00:07:57,145 ♪ Black history month like all year long ♪ 215 00:07:57,145 --> 00:07:58,813 Yeah, pretty much from the age of six, 216 00:07:58,813 --> 00:08:01,149 I could tell you that the traffic light and peanut butter 217 00:08:01,149 --> 00:08:03,068 were both invented by Black men. 218 00:08:03,068 --> 00:08:05,820 Also how about that Harriet Tubman? 219 00:08:05,820 --> 00:08:10,408 ♪ My white liberal parents hit the right liberal notes ♪ 220 00:08:10,408 --> 00:08:13,912 ♪ Their Oprah's Book Club faves are Maya Angelou ♪ 221 00:08:13,912 --> 00:08:15,705 ♪ And Ta-Nehisi Coates ♪ 222 00:08:15,705 --> 00:08:19,834 ♪ They'll want your opinions, you're a real life POC ♪ 223 00:08:19,834 --> 00:08:22,963 ♪ Share your ruminations or apparitions ♪ 224 00:08:22,963 --> 00:08:25,298 ♪ Spill that diversity ♪ 225 00:08:25,298 --> 00:08:27,425 ♪ They'll want your P-O-V ♪ 226 00:08:27,425 --> 00:08:31,721 ♪ And, oh, when football's on TV ♪ 227 00:08:31,721 --> 00:08:33,682 ♪ The anthem plays ♪ 228 00:08:33,682 --> 00:08:35,725 ♪ They take a knee ♪ 229 00:08:35,725 --> 00:08:38,061 ♪ They take a knee, they take a knee ♪ 230 00:08:38,061 --> 00:08:40,313 ♪ We're with you, Cap, my ♪ 231 00:08:40,313 --> 00:08:44,484 ♪ White liberal parents have the right liberal view ♪ 232 00:08:44,484 --> 00:08:46,987 ♪ They love the Blacks and have their backs ♪ 233 00:08:46,987 --> 00:08:50,407 ♪ They've marched like 20 times with you ♪ 234 00:08:50,407 --> 00:08:53,034 ♪ Not to mention our pug is black ♪ 235 00:08:53,034 --> 00:08:54,703 ♪ My dolls were brown ♪ 236 00:08:54,703 --> 00:08:55,912 ♪ An invite to the cook out? ♪ 237 00:08:55,912 --> 00:08:58,039 ♪ They'd be totally down ♪ 238 00:08:58,039 --> 00:09:00,917 ♪ Look, I get you're frightened ♪ 239 00:09:00,917 --> 00:09:03,044 ♪ Of limelight ♪ 240 00:09:03,044 --> 00:09:06,298 ♪ But they support BLM ♪ 241 00:09:06,298 --> 00:09:10,051 ♪ You'll blend right in this family ♪ 242 00:09:10,051 --> 00:09:12,304 ♪ Your family ♪ 243 00:09:12,304 --> 00:09:14,556 ♪ My Black hot-as-fuck boyfriend ♪ 244 00:09:14,556 --> 00:09:16,266 ♪ Her very articulate boyfriend ♪ 245 00:09:16,266 --> 00:09:18,393 ♪ With my white liberal parents ♪ 246 00:09:18,393 --> 00:09:20,895 ♪ White, white, white liberal parents ♪ 247 00:09:20,895 --> 00:09:23,023 ♪ My Black hung-as-fuck boyfriend ♪ 248 00:09:23,023 --> 00:09:25,567 ♪ With my white liberal parents ♪ 249 00:09:25,567 --> 00:09:27,986 ♪ And me! ♪ 250 00:09:27,986 --> 00:09:29,237 ♪ Wakanda forever ♪♪ 251 00:09:29,237 --> 00:09:30,613 [all] Yeah! 252 00:09:30,613 --> 00:09:31,823 Ugh, seriously? 253 00:09:31,823 --> 00:09:34,492 [Mark] And, scene. Kate, you okay? 254 00:09:34,492 --> 00:09:36,077 This marking tape is so ghetto. 255 00:09:36,077 --> 00:09:37,412 It's like barely stuck to the floor. 256 00:09:37,412 --> 00:09:39,205 [Mark] Hey, okay. We'll take care of it. 257 00:09:39,205 --> 00:09:40,915 No, Mark. It's not just the tape. 258 00:09:40,915 --> 00:09:43,168 Like, what is up with this whole ghetto set design? 259 00:09:43,168 --> 00:09:45,045 Is she pronouncing "Get Out" weird, 260 00:09:45,045 --> 00:09:46,629 or calling everything ghetto? 261 00:09:46,629 --> 00:09:48,715 Kate, to be honest, you were a little late on your mark. 262 00:09:48,715 --> 00:09:51,676 Yeah, no shit, Mark, but how am I supposed to tell? 263 00:09:51,676 --> 00:09:53,303 I'm so over this ghetto production. 264 00:09:53,303 --> 00:09:55,597 Kay, why do you keep saying "ghetto?" 265 00:09:55,597 --> 00:09:58,350 - What? - You keep saying "ghetto." 266 00:09:58,350 --> 00:10:01,102 - What do you mean by that? - [laughs] 267 00:10:01,102 --> 00:10:02,812 Are you calling me racist? 268 00:10:02,812 --> 00:10:05,815 Depends on how you answer the question. 269 00:10:05,815 --> 00:10:07,275 [scoffs] 270 00:10:07,275 --> 00:10:09,861 - Oh, my God. - White girls gonna white. 271 00:10:09,861 --> 00:10:11,279 Mark, can we move on to a number 272 00:10:11,279 --> 00:10:14,240 featuring those of us without a ghetto work ethic? 273 00:10:14,240 --> 00:10:15,742 - Kate! - Good. 274 00:10:15,742 --> 00:10:17,410 Those of us in the "Sunken Place" number, 275 00:10:17,410 --> 00:10:18,578 front and center. 276 00:10:18,578 --> 00:10:20,914 Ain't nobody got time for that today. 277 00:10:24,292 --> 00:10:26,669 [grunts] Mm. 278 00:10:26,669 --> 00:10:28,004 This is the second time I've stayed the night 279 00:10:28,004 --> 00:10:29,422 at your house, 280 00:10:29,422 --> 00:10:33,343 and the second time you've stayed up all night working. 281 00:10:33,343 --> 00:10:35,178 I'm sorry. Sorry. 282 00:10:35,178 --> 00:10:37,347 There's just never enough time to get everything done, 283 00:10:37,347 --> 00:10:39,682 but I promise that I will make time for us. 284 00:10:39,682 --> 00:10:41,059 Don't apologize. 285 00:10:41,059 --> 00:10:42,727 Most people just talk about going hard, 286 00:10:42,727 --> 00:10:45,271 but you, you actually do it. [laughs] 287 00:10:45,271 --> 00:10:48,358 Yeah, well, while y'all sleep, I grind. 288 00:10:48,358 --> 00:10:49,984 I love that. 289 00:10:49,984 --> 00:10:53,738 Yeah, but even the grind can't outrun time. 290 00:10:53,738 --> 00:10:55,657 I think I'm gonna have to cancel my class so that 291 00:10:55,657 --> 00:10:57,617 I can get everything done for this meeting with Dr. Pruitt. 292 00:10:57,617 --> 00:11:00,453 Cancel your class? You might as well cancel your tenure. 293 00:11:00,453 --> 00:11:01,496 Cam, how are you going to show 294 00:11:01,496 --> 00:11:03,039 you can be a tenure track professor 295 00:11:03,039 --> 00:11:04,999 if you cancel class every time you need a few extra minutes? 296 00:11:04,999 --> 00:11:06,709 Damn, you're right. You're right. 297 00:11:06,709 --> 00:11:08,628 I know it's tough. 298 00:11:08,628 --> 00:11:11,965 But remember pressure is what turns coal into diamonds, 299 00:11:11,965 --> 00:11:14,759 and you, my dear, are a diamond. 300 00:11:14,759 --> 00:11:16,719 You know, I'm so used to the men in my life 301 00:11:16,719 --> 00:11:20,181 always saying that I take everything so seriously. 302 00:11:20,181 --> 00:11:21,766 It's kind of dope having someone 303 00:11:21,766 --> 00:11:23,810 that pushes me to be my best. 304 00:11:23,810 --> 00:11:25,728 I mean, come on, as the great poets once said, 305 00:11:25,728 --> 00:11:28,731 "You and I gots to do for you and I." 306 00:11:28,731 --> 00:11:30,150 Exactly. 307 00:11:30,150 --> 00:11:32,944 [singer] ♪ Let's just try to win ♪ 308 00:11:32,944 --> 00:11:34,487 [upbeat music] 309 00:11:34,487 --> 00:11:35,738 [Quinn] Hey, Mom. 310 00:11:35,738 --> 00:11:39,242 I need you to take in this dress 2 inches. 311 00:11:39,242 --> 00:11:41,244 Three weeks on keto. 312 00:11:41,244 --> 00:11:43,663 - You look good. - I look outstanding. 313 00:11:43,663 --> 00:11:46,040 Maybe you should try keto. 314 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:47,417 Mm. 315 00:11:47,417 --> 00:11:48,960 Busy as usual. 316 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:53,381 Actually, I am designing a wedding dress. 317 00:11:53,381 --> 00:11:56,009 For $25,000. 318 00:11:56,009 --> 00:11:59,512 [Patricia] I love this color, lilac. 319 00:11:59,512 --> 00:12:01,598 And she's recommending me to all of her friends. 320 00:12:01,598 --> 00:12:03,975 [Patricia] What you call that pink color? 321 00:12:03,975 --> 00:12:05,435 - "Mohv"? - Mauve. 322 00:12:05,435 --> 00:12:07,937 And after getting the deposit, 323 00:12:07,937 --> 00:12:09,814 the store is officially in the black 324 00:12:09,814 --> 00:12:11,858 for the very first time. 325 00:12:11,858 --> 00:12:13,693 [gasps] 326 00:12:13,693 --> 00:12:17,030 I think you're gonna have to come in 3 inches. 327 00:12:17,030 --> 00:12:19,866 Oh, keto, where have you been all my life? 328 00:12:19,866 --> 00:12:22,994 Uh, Mom, did you hear what I just said? 329 00:12:22,994 --> 00:12:24,370 Yes, but talk to me 330 00:12:24,370 --> 00:12:26,206 when you can go more than 30 days 331 00:12:26,206 --> 00:12:29,167 without asking me and your father to keep the lights on. 332 00:12:29,167 --> 00:12:31,878 Mom, all businesses operate at a deficit in the beginning. 333 00:12:31,878 --> 00:12:33,630 But yours remain there-- 334 00:12:33,630 --> 00:12:35,423 the juice bar, the spa. 335 00:12:35,423 --> 00:12:37,217 Well, this is different. 336 00:12:37,217 --> 00:12:39,385 This is what I was supposed to be doing all along. 337 00:12:39,385 --> 00:12:42,805 Mom, I've been trying really hard to turn a profit. 338 00:12:42,805 --> 00:12:44,682 The least you could do is acknowledge that. 339 00:12:44,682 --> 00:12:46,518 Acknowledged. 340 00:12:46,518 --> 00:12:49,229 And you should acknowledge that one wedding dress 341 00:12:49,229 --> 00:12:51,981 does not a successful business make. 342 00:12:51,981 --> 00:12:53,942 What size do you think I am now? 343 00:12:53,942 --> 00:12:55,777 I don't know. Six? 344 00:12:55,777 --> 00:12:59,572 I am 10 cauliflower pizzas away from a four. 345 00:12:59,572 --> 00:13:02,951 Then you'll be my size. 346 00:13:02,951 --> 00:13:05,703 Interesting, considering 347 00:13:05,703 --> 00:13:08,122 I have had two children. 348 00:13:08,122 --> 00:13:11,125 [♪ St. Panther: "Highway"] 349 00:13:11,125 --> 00:13:13,127 ♪ ♪ 350 00:13:13,127 --> 00:13:16,005 [singer] ♪ All right ♪ 351 00:13:16,005 --> 00:13:18,550 ♪ Please don't tread on me ♪ 352 00:13:18,550 --> 00:13:24,514 ♪ ♪ 353 00:13:24,514 --> 00:13:25,848 [clears throat] 354 00:13:28,226 --> 00:13:30,687 Kate is asking for a little more time 355 00:13:30,687 --> 00:13:32,105 before she can rehearse. 356 00:13:32,105 --> 00:13:35,316 See, this that 53% of white women bullshit right here. 357 00:13:35,316 --> 00:13:36,609 We better still get paid for this. 358 00:13:36,609 --> 00:13:39,571 - Okay? - I want us all to remember 359 00:13:39,571 --> 00:13:42,282 that we are a family when we're all on this stage. 360 00:13:42,282 --> 00:13:45,201 When one of us makes an insensitive comment to another, 361 00:13:45,201 --> 00:13:46,744 it hurts the production as a whole. 362 00:13:46,744 --> 00:13:48,663 Mm, say that. 363 00:13:48,663 --> 00:13:50,456 We have to be careful with our words. 364 00:13:50,456 --> 00:13:53,793 That's right. Watch your mouths up in here. 365 00:13:53,793 --> 00:13:55,628 ...because words can hurt. 366 00:13:55,628 --> 00:13:57,547 I mean, I wasn't really hurt. 367 00:13:57,547 --> 00:13:59,007 More like, "What the fuck?" 368 00:13:59,007 --> 00:14:00,300 But I get what you mean. 369 00:14:00,300 --> 00:14:02,010 Shit wasn't cool. 370 00:14:02,010 --> 00:14:03,428 - Angie. - I ain't like it. 371 00:14:03,428 --> 00:14:05,555 Can I see you for a moment? 372 00:14:05,555 --> 00:14:07,015 Sure. 373 00:14:08,266 --> 00:14:09,726 Okay, good luck. 374 00:14:11,311 --> 00:14:13,938 I need you to apologize to Kate. 375 00:14:13,938 --> 00:14:15,898 Ex-fucking-scuse me? 376 00:14:15,898 --> 00:14:17,817 She should be apologizing to me. 377 00:14:17,817 --> 00:14:19,485 Shit, to all of us. 378 00:14:19,485 --> 00:14:22,030 She says something fucked up nearly every day. 379 00:14:22,030 --> 00:14:23,740 Look, she's really upset 380 00:14:23,740 --> 00:14:24,991 and she won't come back to rehearsal 381 00:14:24,991 --> 00:14:26,159 until you apologize. 382 00:14:26,159 --> 00:14:28,202 I guess you need to cast another Rose then. 383 00:14:28,202 --> 00:14:30,872 I know some talented white girls who know how to act. 384 00:14:30,872 --> 00:14:32,040 You want me to make some calls? 385 00:14:32,040 --> 00:14:34,208 - Angie, come on. - Why? 386 00:14:34,208 --> 00:14:36,044 Why am I the one who has to come on? 387 00:14:36,044 --> 00:14:38,713 She over here making some offensive-ass comments 388 00:14:38,713 --> 00:14:40,256 and somehow she's the victim. 389 00:14:40,256 --> 00:14:42,008 Come the fuck on with that shit. 390 00:14:42,008 --> 00:14:44,427 Angie, you basically said that she was racist, 391 00:14:44,427 --> 00:14:45,637 and we both know that isn't true. 392 00:14:45,637 --> 00:14:48,097 One, if it looks like a microaggression 393 00:14:48,097 --> 00:14:49,515 and talks like a microaggression, 394 00:14:49,515 --> 00:14:51,643 then it's fucking racism. 395 00:14:51,643 --> 00:14:53,811 Two, nigga, who is "we?" 396 00:14:53,811 --> 00:14:55,688 You can cape for Kate all you want to, 397 00:14:55,688 --> 00:14:56,981 but leave me the fuck out of it. 398 00:14:56,981 --> 00:14:59,150 Angie, you know, I feel you, girl, 399 00:14:59,150 --> 00:15:02,028 but sometimes you gotta be Michelle Obama 400 00:15:02,028 --> 00:15:03,696 and go high when they go low. 401 00:15:03,696 --> 00:15:05,239 When they go low, I go basements. 402 00:15:05,239 --> 00:15:06,783 She's ignorant, Angie, 403 00:15:06,783 --> 00:15:08,284 and we have to teach ignorant people. 404 00:15:08,284 --> 00:15:11,204 I am tired of niggas forgiving racist shit. 405 00:15:11,204 --> 00:15:12,914 To what end? 406 00:15:12,914 --> 00:15:14,666 'Cause racist motherfuckers ain't sorry. 407 00:15:14,666 --> 00:15:17,710 Okay, obviously, tensions are running a bit high. 408 00:15:17,710 --> 00:15:20,880 I think we could all use a break to cool off. 409 00:15:20,880 --> 00:15:22,465 Let's reconvene after lunch! 410 00:15:22,465 --> 00:15:23,883 Wait, till my girls hear about this shit. 411 00:15:23,883 --> 00:15:25,968 If she can knock it over, I can knock it over, too. 412 00:15:25,968 --> 00:15:27,470 Equality, bitch! 413 00:15:31,224 --> 00:15:32,517 Come in. 414 00:15:34,519 --> 00:15:35,853 You're early. 415 00:15:35,853 --> 00:15:37,480 How refreshing for you? 416 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:39,399 Well, I told you that I am usually on time. 417 00:15:39,399 --> 00:15:40,983 What can I do for you? 418 00:15:40,983 --> 00:15:42,694 Well, prior to you taking over 419 00:15:42,694 --> 00:15:44,821 as chair of the department, which, may I add, 420 00:15:44,821 --> 00:15:46,489 I think is the best decision... 421 00:15:46,489 --> 00:15:49,450 Camille, less brownnosing. 422 00:15:49,450 --> 00:15:51,035 Right, um, 423 00:15:51,035 --> 00:15:53,788 so when Dr. Goodman was the chair, 424 00:15:53,788 --> 00:15:55,581 she was planning to endorse me 425 00:15:55,581 --> 00:15:57,291 for the associate professor position. 426 00:15:57,291 --> 00:16:00,545 And so I just wanted to request your support. 427 00:16:00,545 --> 00:16:02,880 Here's a copy of my CV, 428 00:16:02,880 --> 00:16:04,757 my transcripts from undergraduate 429 00:16:04,757 --> 00:16:05,758 through doctorate. 430 00:16:05,758 --> 00:16:07,260 Here's all my published articles, 431 00:16:07,260 --> 00:16:08,386 and my mission statement. 432 00:16:08,386 --> 00:16:09,721 And this is a presentation 433 00:16:09,721 --> 00:16:12,515 highlighting my social media presence. 434 00:16:12,515 --> 00:16:15,268 And I know that we initially got off on the wrong foot, 435 00:16:15,268 --> 00:16:16,894 which is 100% my fault. 436 00:16:16,894 --> 00:16:19,981 I just wanted you to know why I am perfect for this job. 437 00:16:19,981 --> 00:16:22,358 No. 438 00:16:22,358 --> 00:16:23,609 What? 439 00:16:23,609 --> 00:16:25,319 No. 440 00:16:25,319 --> 00:16:27,488 I will not endorse you for this job. 441 00:16:30,199 --> 00:16:32,118 Okay. 442 00:16:36,289 --> 00:16:40,793 Camille, aren't you the least bit curious as to why not? 443 00:16:40,793 --> 00:16:42,754 I just don't think you're ready. 444 00:16:42,754 --> 00:16:45,590 Well, Robin thought I was ready. 445 00:16:45,590 --> 00:16:47,425 Matter of fact, she thought I was great. 446 00:16:47,425 --> 00:16:50,928 Yes, well, a seven shines in a room of fives. 447 00:16:50,928 --> 00:16:52,930 Doesn't make her a ten. 448 00:16:52,930 --> 00:16:56,768 This is the Ivy league, and we're Black women. 449 00:16:56,768 --> 00:16:59,353 There's not that many chances for us. 450 00:16:59,353 --> 00:17:02,064 So if you should fuck this up, 451 00:17:02,064 --> 00:17:04,984 it's gonna reflect badly on not just us, 452 00:17:04,984 --> 00:17:06,819 but everybody behind us. 453 00:17:06,819 --> 00:17:08,488 Yeah, but what if I don't fuck this up? 454 00:17:08,488 --> 00:17:10,740 I'm not willing to take that chance. 455 00:17:12,116 --> 00:17:14,786 But it's... 456 00:17:14,786 --> 00:17:16,204 that's it? 457 00:17:18,206 --> 00:17:19,916 It's just over? 458 00:17:19,916 --> 00:17:22,668 Look, Camille, I really do 459 00:17:22,668 --> 00:17:24,587 want you to succeed. 460 00:17:24,587 --> 00:17:26,589 I think it's great that you have 461 00:17:26,589 --> 00:17:29,008 a presence on social media. 462 00:17:29,008 --> 00:17:31,761 And I think it's great that all of your classes 463 00:17:31,761 --> 00:17:33,221 have waitlists, 464 00:17:33,221 --> 00:17:35,556 but your field work is lacking. 465 00:17:35,556 --> 00:17:40,144 You have the minimum amount of research possible. 466 00:17:40,144 --> 00:17:44,315 Now, you have articles in popular publications, 467 00:17:44,315 --> 00:17:46,818 but only two in academic journals. 468 00:17:46,818 --> 00:17:50,613 So if I was going to endorse someone, 469 00:17:50,613 --> 00:17:52,156 I would endorse somebody 470 00:17:52,156 --> 00:17:54,242 who I knew could swim with the sharks. 471 00:17:54,242 --> 00:17:56,953 And everything I saw that you've done 472 00:17:56,953 --> 00:18:01,040 tells me you're barely swimming with the guppies. 473 00:18:01,040 --> 00:18:03,376 So no, Camille. 474 00:18:03,376 --> 00:18:05,419 You are not ready for this. 475 00:18:05,419 --> 00:18:08,422 [somber music] 476 00:18:08,422 --> 00:18:11,300 ♪ ♪ 477 00:18:11,300 --> 00:18:13,177 Is there something else, Camille? 478 00:18:13,177 --> 00:18:14,804 No, there's nothing else. 479 00:18:14,804 --> 00:18:16,639 ♪ ♪ 480 00:18:16,639 --> 00:18:18,933 [Tye] Brad, I just made it to the airport. 481 00:18:18,933 --> 00:18:20,268 I feel fine. 482 00:18:20,268 --> 00:18:22,395 Listen, make sure you build my schedule 483 00:18:22,395 --> 00:18:24,063 around the top players at all times. 484 00:18:24,063 --> 00:18:26,148 I'm talking blue checkmarks, 485 00:18:26,148 --> 00:18:29,527 100,000 followers and up. 486 00:18:29,527 --> 00:18:32,196 Okay, okay, I'll call you when I get to the gate. 487 00:18:32,196 --> 00:18:34,031 Shit. Fuck! 488 00:18:37,076 --> 00:18:43,291 ♪ ♪ 489 00:18:43,291 --> 00:18:46,168 117 over 92. 490 00:18:46,168 --> 00:18:49,547 Pretty good, dearie. 491 00:18:49,547 --> 00:18:51,257 Did I miss AfroTech? 492 00:18:51,257 --> 00:18:54,719 I don't know what that is, but probably. 493 00:18:54,719 --> 00:18:57,430 You had a ruptured ovarian cyst. 494 00:18:57,430 --> 00:18:59,432 The doctor had to do an emergency surgery, 495 00:18:59,432 --> 00:19:01,434 but everything went well. 496 00:19:01,434 --> 00:19:03,936 He'll be by to check on you during his rounds. 497 00:19:08,774 --> 00:19:11,193 Do you know where my phone is? 498 00:19:11,193 --> 00:19:14,322 [percussive music] 499 00:19:14,322 --> 00:19:16,574 [singer] ♪ Don't stop it, babe ♪ 500 00:19:16,574 --> 00:19:18,075 [Angie] They got me fucked up. 501 00:19:18,075 --> 00:19:20,703 I hate that white fragility shit. 502 00:19:20,703 --> 00:19:22,496 I mean, they just always try to be oppressed. 503 00:19:22,496 --> 00:19:24,123 How do you do it, Cam? 504 00:19:24,123 --> 00:19:25,625 You're the only one out of us 505 00:19:25,625 --> 00:19:27,668 who's managed to work for somebody else all these years. 506 00:19:27,668 --> 00:19:29,128 Well, it definitely takes a toll. 507 00:19:29,128 --> 00:19:30,713 Mm, I don't do tolls. 508 00:19:30,713 --> 00:19:32,465 So I should just half-bake that shit, right? 509 00:19:32,465 --> 00:19:34,926 It's like, "Fuck you, fuck you. Fuck you! 510 00:19:34,926 --> 00:19:37,511 You're cool. Fuck you. I'm out," right? 511 00:19:37,511 --> 00:19:40,139 Yeah, but the fact that you're even asking the question 512 00:19:40,139 --> 00:19:41,307 says that you know the answer. 513 00:19:41,307 --> 00:19:43,267 And yes, it sucks unwashed ass, 514 00:19:43,267 --> 00:19:45,686 but sometimes you have to apologize to keep your job. 515 00:19:45,686 --> 00:19:48,439 You don't have to mean it. You just have to say it. 516 00:19:48,439 --> 00:19:50,399 See, this is why I don't like working for people. 517 00:19:50,399 --> 00:19:51,943 Bitch, you don't like working period. 518 00:19:51,943 --> 00:19:53,861 [laughs] She ain't wrong. 519 00:19:53,861 --> 00:19:56,572 Okay, but, Angie, look at the big picture. 520 00:19:56,572 --> 00:19:58,783 Is blowing all this up right now 521 00:19:58,783 --> 00:20:01,619 worth sacrificing why you took this play to begin with? 522 00:20:01,619 --> 00:20:03,871 I know it's just a stupid play 523 00:20:03,871 --> 00:20:06,415 and I would get paid more working fast food, 524 00:20:06,415 --> 00:20:08,668 but I really do love getting up every day 525 00:20:08,668 --> 00:20:10,753 to sing professionally. 526 00:20:10,753 --> 00:20:13,464 And I gotta say it, Ang, you have been happier 527 00:20:13,464 --> 00:20:16,592 in these last few weeks than I have seen in a while. 528 00:20:16,592 --> 00:20:18,552 Probably since you had that record deal. 529 00:20:18,552 --> 00:20:21,514 So to get a chance to sing in a dumbass play, 530 00:20:21,514 --> 00:20:24,392 I gotta eat some shit that's not even my fault? 531 00:20:24,392 --> 00:20:26,435 Who came up with this brand of bullshit? 532 00:20:26,435 --> 00:20:28,771 - Welcome to being an adult. - Exactly. 533 00:20:28,771 --> 00:20:31,065 When you've got bills to pay and goals to reach, 534 00:20:31,065 --> 00:20:32,483 sometimes you gotta eat shit. 535 00:20:32,483 --> 00:20:34,276 And yeah, that shit is not fucking fair 536 00:20:34,276 --> 00:20:35,486 and nobody has your fucking back 537 00:20:35,486 --> 00:20:37,113 and it is all the way fucked up. 538 00:20:37,113 --> 00:20:38,531 Ain't that the truth. 539 00:20:38,531 --> 00:20:41,325 I mean, I just hate having to ask my mom for money. 540 00:20:41,325 --> 00:20:44,120 I mean, she's always throwing that shit back in my face. 541 00:20:44,120 --> 00:20:45,496 Girl, I wish asking my mom for money 542 00:20:45,496 --> 00:20:46,789 was my biggest problem. 543 00:20:46,789 --> 00:20:49,375 Hell, I wish my mom even had money to loan me. 544 00:20:49,375 --> 00:20:51,502 No, it's bigger than the money because it's... 545 00:20:51,502 --> 00:20:52,837 And you know how I was supposed to be 546 00:20:52,837 --> 00:20:54,839 getting that promotion to associate professor? 547 00:20:54,839 --> 00:20:56,632 Yes, girl, give me good news. 548 00:20:56,632 --> 00:20:59,260 - Not happening. - What? Why? 549 00:20:59,260 --> 00:21:00,594 Evidently, as a Black woman, 550 00:21:00,594 --> 00:21:02,596 I have to come out the gate already as the best. 551 00:21:02,596 --> 00:21:04,598 Meanwhile, there's white boys walking around 552 00:21:04,598 --> 00:21:06,892 with half my resume who already have tenure. 553 00:21:06,892 --> 00:21:08,310 I just don't understand 554 00:21:08,310 --> 00:21:10,062 why can't I grow into the role like everyone else? 555 00:21:10,062 --> 00:21:12,773 See, I've been saying that this whole Black excellence movement 556 00:21:12,773 --> 00:21:14,233 was a tool of oppression, 557 00:21:14,233 --> 00:21:15,609 but y'all don't listen to Angie. 558 00:21:15,609 --> 00:21:18,863 And yes, yes, okay, so I had a few missteps, 559 00:21:18,863 --> 00:21:22,074 but now that defines my career, defines me? 560 00:21:22,074 --> 00:21:23,576 I just don't understand why someone else 561 00:21:23,576 --> 00:21:25,161 gets to tell me what I am ready for. 562 00:21:25,161 --> 00:21:26,829 I mean, it's so fucking unfair. 563 00:21:26,829 --> 00:21:28,164 My mom does that same shit to me. 564 00:21:28,164 --> 00:21:29,582 I can't even... 565 00:21:29,582 --> 00:21:31,625 And it's like, I don't even understand how everything 566 00:21:31,625 --> 00:21:32,960 went so bad so quick. 567 00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:34,920 It was fine just a month ago. 568 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:37,590 Now I'm playing second fiddle to a frigging undergrad. 569 00:21:37,590 --> 00:21:40,134 And my ex is walking around with his fiancée, 570 00:21:40,134 --> 00:21:41,343 flaunting her in my face. 571 00:21:41,343 --> 00:21:43,095 And no sooner than I get in a relationship, 572 00:21:43,095 --> 00:21:44,305 he go and text me talking about, 573 00:21:44,305 --> 00:21:45,848 "Are we making a mistake?" 574 00:21:45,848 --> 00:21:47,600 How the fuck am I supposed to know? 575 00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:49,643 Breathe, Camille, breathe. 576 00:21:49,643 --> 00:21:51,520 We got you, okay? You gonna get through this. 577 00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:54,356 Damn, Cam, I wish I had some answers for you, 578 00:21:54,356 --> 00:21:57,401 but this is some "Iyanla, Fix My Life" level shit. 579 00:21:57,401 --> 00:21:59,779 You need a professional, babe. 580 00:21:59,779 --> 00:22:01,113 Oh, shit. 581 00:22:01,113 --> 00:22:02,740 Oh, shit. I'm late for therapy. 582 00:22:02,740 --> 00:22:03,824 Oh, whoa, wait, wait, 583 00:22:03,824 --> 00:22:04,950 I didn't even get to tell you about my mom 584 00:22:04,950 --> 00:22:06,118 and what she's... 585 00:22:06,118 --> 00:22:07,453 Girl, we all know Mrs. Pat don't hold back. 586 00:22:07,453 --> 00:22:09,121 I got to go too. Thanks for lunch. 587 00:22:09,121 --> 00:22:11,749 [somber pop music] 588 00:22:11,749 --> 00:22:14,293 ♪ ♪ 589 00:22:14,293 --> 00:22:16,921 [singer] ♪ Yeah ♪ 590 00:22:16,921 --> 00:22:18,714 Thanks. 591 00:22:18,714 --> 00:22:21,717 [men vocalizing] 592 00:22:21,717 --> 00:22:25,137 ♪ ♪ 593 00:22:25,888 --> 00:22:27,139 I have 10 minutes left in my session 594 00:22:27,139 --> 00:22:28,682 and I'd like to use it. 595 00:22:28,682 --> 00:22:31,227 I'm surprised to see you. 596 00:22:31,227 --> 00:22:33,187 [clears throat] I'm sorry that I'm late 597 00:22:33,187 --> 00:22:35,064 and that I missed my last few appointments. 598 00:22:35,064 --> 00:22:36,857 It's been more than a few, but who's counting? 599 00:22:36,857 --> 00:22:39,443 - Other than your insurance. - Right. 600 00:22:39,443 --> 00:22:42,738 It's just work has just been so crazy 601 00:22:42,738 --> 00:22:44,573 and I had to sacrifice something. 602 00:22:44,573 --> 00:22:47,368 Have you ever considered sacrificing work for therapy? 603 00:22:47,368 --> 00:22:48,786 Or do you only take care of yourself 604 00:22:48,786 --> 00:22:50,121 when your work schedule permits? 605 00:22:50,121 --> 00:22:53,415 Well, I thought that I could handle everything. 606 00:22:53,415 --> 00:22:54,708 Tell me about everything. 607 00:22:54,708 --> 00:22:56,293 [sighs] 608 00:22:56,293 --> 00:22:58,212 It's just, 609 00:22:58,212 --> 00:23:00,673 this is not how I pictured my life. 610 00:23:00,673 --> 00:23:02,758 I thought by now I'd be a renowned, 611 00:23:02,758 --> 00:23:04,301 tenured anthropologist that little Black girls 612 00:23:04,301 --> 00:23:05,928 will want to dress like for Halloween. 613 00:23:05,928 --> 00:23:07,972 I figured that Ian and I would be married, 614 00:23:07,972 --> 00:23:09,932 living in a single family brownstone. 615 00:23:09,932 --> 00:23:11,809 And I'd be enjoying two more years before having kids, 616 00:23:11,809 --> 00:23:13,227 but none of that has happened. 617 00:23:13,227 --> 00:23:15,771 And yes, there's this new guy, Jameson, 618 00:23:15,771 --> 00:23:18,107 and he's smart and nerdy. 619 00:23:18,107 --> 00:23:19,692 And he really pushes me, but then Ian, 620 00:23:19,692 --> 00:23:21,068 who I'm finally over-- 621 00:23:21,068 --> 00:23:23,195 I'm just helping him put together his restaurant-- 622 00:23:23,195 --> 00:23:26,407 he sends me this text. 623 00:23:26,407 --> 00:23:28,534 "Are we making a mistake?" 624 00:23:28,534 --> 00:23:32,079 That--that is a part of no plan. 625 00:23:32,079 --> 00:23:33,956 So now I'm just left with a bunch of confusion, 626 00:23:33,956 --> 00:23:35,666 my edges, a rent-controlled apartment, 627 00:23:35,666 --> 00:23:37,459 and a bunch of student loan debt. 628 00:23:37,459 --> 00:23:39,170 When did you come up with your life plan? 629 00:23:39,170 --> 00:23:41,714 [sighs] 18. 630 00:23:41,714 --> 00:23:44,508 Yeah, my entire adult life dedicated to a plan 631 00:23:44,508 --> 00:23:46,260 that has fallen completely apart. 632 00:23:46,260 --> 00:23:48,804 Would you say that you're the same person you were at 18? 633 00:23:48,804 --> 00:23:50,681 Well, no. 634 00:23:50,681 --> 00:23:51,891 [Rebecca] So you've changed. 635 00:23:51,891 --> 00:23:55,811 So maybe it's okay for your plan to change too. 636 00:23:55,811 --> 00:23:56,979 But to what? 637 00:23:56,979 --> 00:23:59,148 To whatever you want. 638 00:23:59,148 --> 00:24:01,192 Or here's an idea: no plan at all. 639 00:24:01,192 --> 00:24:03,068 Just take life as it comes. 640 00:24:03,068 --> 00:24:05,279 Either you can play the hand you're dealt 641 00:24:05,279 --> 00:24:06,906 or mourn the one you've lost. 642 00:24:06,906 --> 00:24:10,284 Different doesn't always mean bad. 643 00:24:10,284 --> 00:24:11,827 [sighs] 644 00:24:13,162 --> 00:24:15,372 You're good. You should be a therapist. 645 00:24:15,372 --> 00:24:17,625 [chuckles] 646 00:24:17,625 --> 00:24:20,044 You should show up more. 647 00:24:20,044 --> 00:24:21,754 Yeah. 648 00:24:21,754 --> 00:24:23,464 Angie, 649 00:24:23,464 --> 00:24:24,965 you have something you want to say to Kate? 650 00:24:30,137 --> 00:24:32,014 Yeah, I do. 651 00:24:38,771 --> 00:24:42,066 Fuck you, Kate. 652 00:24:42,066 --> 00:24:44,735 Fuck your microaggressions. 653 00:24:44,735 --> 00:24:46,862 Fuck your white tears that you use as a weapon 654 00:24:46,862 --> 00:24:49,657 to distract from your racism. 655 00:24:49,657 --> 00:24:51,909 Fuck the history of white women like you 656 00:24:51,909 --> 00:24:55,246 who got people who look like me harmed or killed 657 00:24:55,246 --> 00:24:57,206 because you were too weak 658 00:24:57,206 --> 00:25:00,292 to admit your own fucking shortcomings. 659 00:25:00,292 --> 00:25:02,878 Fuck you for being another Black man 660 00:25:02,878 --> 00:25:07,132 complicit in some racist bullshit against a Black woman. 661 00:25:07,132 --> 00:25:11,553 Fuck you for engaging in respectability politics, 662 00:25:11,553 --> 00:25:17,101 which we all know has never and will never get us to equality. 663 00:25:17,101 --> 00:25:19,395 You cool, sis. 664 00:25:19,395 --> 00:25:23,023 And fuck you for asking me to forgive this shit. 665 00:25:23,023 --> 00:25:26,902 Does anybody ask Jewish people to forgive the Nazis? 666 00:25:26,902 --> 00:25:30,864 No, because the Nazis were fucking wrong-ass, 667 00:25:30,864 --> 00:25:32,825 vile-ass pieces of shit. 668 00:25:32,825 --> 00:25:34,785 So fuck all y'all! 669 00:25:34,785 --> 00:25:37,997 Fuck this bullshit production! 670 00:25:37,997 --> 00:25:39,623 I'm out! 671 00:25:39,623 --> 00:25:41,792 Angie, 672 00:25:41,792 --> 00:25:44,295 you have something you want to say to Kate? 673 00:25:54,471 --> 00:25:55,931 Sorry. 674 00:25:55,931 --> 00:25:59,476 Oh, I forgive you. 675 00:25:59,476 --> 00:26:02,730 [sighs] It's what Buddha would want. 676 00:26:02,730 --> 00:26:03,856 Mm. 677 00:26:05,983 --> 00:26:09,403 See, and that is what "Get Out" was all about. 678 00:26:09,403 --> 00:26:10,738 No, it wasn't, like, at all. 679 00:26:10,738 --> 00:26:12,156 Did you even see-- you know what? 680 00:26:12,156 --> 00:26:13,782 I got to go. 681 00:26:13,782 --> 00:26:15,617 We still have two hours left. 682 00:26:15,617 --> 00:26:18,495 I've just got a text and my friend is in a hospital. 683 00:26:18,495 --> 00:26:22,041 [softly] I want this job. I want this job. 684 00:26:22,041 --> 00:26:23,208 I need this job. 685 00:26:26,628 --> 00:26:28,339 [phone dings] 686 00:26:29,465 --> 00:26:31,050 Oh, shit. 687 00:26:31,050 --> 00:26:34,345 My friend really is in a hospital. 688 00:26:34,345 --> 00:26:37,931 I have to be more careful with what I say 689 00:26:37,931 --> 00:26:40,059 or intentional. 690 00:26:40,059 --> 00:26:45,147 My friend is going to be okay. 691 00:26:45,147 --> 00:26:47,524 I have a million dollars. 692 00:26:47,524 --> 00:26:50,736 I have a loyal, rich boyfriend with a big ass dick. 693 00:26:50,736 --> 00:26:52,905 Ooh, I have a bomb-ass natural hair wig 694 00:26:52,905 --> 00:26:54,448 made with 4-C human hair. 695 00:26:57,618 --> 00:26:59,703 Tye, I'm so sorry. 696 00:26:59,703 --> 00:27:01,330 I was in therapy. I just got your message. 697 00:27:01,330 --> 00:27:03,415 Oh, no worries. It's all good. 698 00:27:03,415 --> 00:27:05,751 You're in a hospital bed. It is not all good. 699 00:27:05,751 --> 00:27:07,711 I cannot believe that she needed surgery 700 00:27:07,711 --> 00:27:09,213 when that asshole doctor 701 00:27:09,213 --> 00:27:11,507 wouldn't even give her a fucking pain pill yesterday. 702 00:27:11,507 --> 00:27:13,175 Yesterday? 703 00:27:13,175 --> 00:27:15,344 [crying] 704 00:27:15,344 --> 00:27:17,763 - No, no, no. - Oh, damn. 705 00:27:17,763 --> 00:27:20,557 You know it's bad when Tye is crying. 706 00:27:20,557 --> 00:27:22,393 Never thought I'd see the day. 707 00:27:22,393 --> 00:27:23,644 I'm sorry, y'all. 708 00:27:23,644 --> 00:27:25,854 I'm trying to be strong, but this shit is scary. 709 00:27:25,854 --> 00:27:27,106 [Quinn] Oh, honey. 710 00:27:27,106 --> 00:27:29,566 Why you trying to be strong in a hospital bed? 711 00:27:29,566 --> 00:27:32,277 Yeah, being strong is so overrated. 712 00:27:32,277 --> 00:27:34,029 - [sobbing] - Oh. 713 00:27:34,029 --> 00:27:37,199 - [sobs] [all] Oh, no! 714 00:27:37,199 --> 00:27:38,450 Sorry. 715 00:27:38,450 --> 00:27:40,285 There's just-- there's a lot going on. 716 00:27:40,285 --> 00:27:42,621 Everybody, stop apologizing. 717 00:27:42,621 --> 00:27:44,373 [Tye] Yes. 718 00:27:44,373 --> 00:27:46,625 [crying] Why do we always have to be the ones 719 00:27:46,625 --> 00:27:50,337 who apologize when we're hurting? 720 00:27:50,337 --> 00:27:52,589 I am sick of this shit, y'all. 721 00:27:52,589 --> 00:27:55,592 [all sobbing] 722 00:27:55,592 --> 00:27:57,219 Thank you, Quinn. 723 00:27:57,219 --> 00:27:59,096 You're the only one of us who's not a mess. 724 00:27:59,096 --> 00:28:00,264 [Quinn] That's not true. 725 00:28:00,264 --> 00:28:02,015 I am a mess. 726 00:28:02,015 --> 00:28:04,059 [all] Oh! 727 00:28:04,059 --> 00:28:07,771 But I'm just not allowed to talk about it. 728 00:28:07,771 --> 00:28:10,649 Y'all think I'm whining every time I talk about anything 729 00:28:10,649 --> 00:28:12,943 just because I come from money. 730 00:28:12,943 --> 00:28:15,028 But fuck that money. 731 00:28:15,028 --> 00:28:16,655 That money obviously couldn't buy me 732 00:28:16,655 --> 00:28:19,533 a decent relationship with my mom. 733 00:28:19,533 --> 00:28:22,202 And I know it's not the same as, like, having a surgery 734 00:28:22,202 --> 00:28:23,829 or losing a job 735 00:28:23,829 --> 00:28:26,373 or putting up with white tears, 736 00:28:26,373 --> 00:28:28,792 but it still hurts. 737 00:28:28,792 --> 00:28:30,752 And I don't want to pretend that it doesn't 738 00:28:30,752 --> 00:28:33,589 just because it doesn't seem like a big deal to y'all. 739 00:28:33,589 --> 00:28:34,882 No, you don't have to pretend. 740 00:28:34,882 --> 00:28:37,342 - I'm still talking, Camille. - Sorry. 741 00:28:37,342 --> 00:28:40,220 I will always be here for you guys, 742 00:28:40,220 --> 00:28:43,056 but maybe check in on me too sometimes. 743 00:28:43,056 --> 00:28:44,266 Yes. 744 00:28:44,266 --> 00:28:45,392 I'm sorry, Quinn. 745 00:28:45,392 --> 00:28:47,227 I apologize on behalf of all of them 746 00:28:47,227 --> 00:28:50,230 'cause I always ask about you, babe. 747 00:28:50,230 --> 00:28:52,399 I'm sorry, Quinn. 748 00:28:52,399 --> 00:28:55,486 You've been by my side during this whole ordeal. 749 00:28:55,486 --> 00:28:57,613 See, it's like I always say. 750 00:28:57,613 --> 00:28:59,948 "You've got to check in on your strong friends." 751 00:28:59,948 --> 00:29:02,784 Wait, you didn't make that up. 752 00:29:02,784 --> 00:29:04,786 That's like on 95% of the internet. 753 00:29:04,786 --> 00:29:06,705 Right, but I always like it and retweet it, 754 00:29:06,705 --> 00:29:08,081 - so it's the same. - Oh, gosh, Angie. 755 00:29:08,081 --> 00:29:09,583 No. 756 00:29:09,583 --> 00:29:10,959 - I got you, my baby. [Tye] Stop it. 757 00:29:10,959 --> 00:29:12,377 What--what are doing? 758 00:29:12,377 --> 00:29:14,296 I am trying to hook you up. 759 00:29:14,296 --> 00:29:16,006 She's in a hospital bed, Angie. 760 00:29:16,006 --> 00:29:17,591 You ain't got to look like what you've been through. 761 00:29:17,591 --> 00:29:19,885 - I'm just saying. - [all chuckle] 762 00:29:19,885 --> 00:29:22,262 [Camille] While the "strong Black woman" insignia 763 00:29:22,262 --> 00:29:25,182 charades as a compliment, 764 00:29:25,182 --> 00:29:27,017 it really pardons the rest of the world 765 00:29:27,017 --> 00:29:28,393 of their responsibility 766 00:29:28,393 --> 00:29:31,355 to view the Black woman as vulnerable, 767 00:29:31,355 --> 00:29:33,565 able to experience pain, 768 00:29:33,565 --> 00:29:35,234 capable of weakness, 769 00:29:35,234 --> 00:29:36,902 worthy of support, 770 00:29:36,902 --> 00:29:40,155 and unconditionally lovable. 771 00:29:40,155 --> 00:29:42,324 Until the Black woman is allowed to reject 772 00:29:42,324 --> 00:29:43,951 this demand for strength, 773 00:29:43,951 --> 00:29:48,288 she'll never truly experience her own humanity. 774 00:29:48,288 --> 00:29:51,625 Oh, good to see you awake and in good spirits, Tyesha. 775 00:29:51,625 --> 00:29:53,544 Ooh, not the full government name. 776 00:29:53,544 --> 00:29:54,962 Tye is fine. 777 00:29:54,962 --> 00:29:57,589 I had the surgery, so I'm all good, right? 778 00:29:57,589 --> 00:29:59,883 I mean, I know there's gonna be recovery time. 779 00:29:59,883 --> 00:30:01,718 Unfortunately, not quite. 780 00:30:01,718 --> 00:30:03,887 That cyst was just the tip of the iceberg. 781 00:30:03,887 --> 00:30:06,640 You have several medium and large 782 00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:09,893 fibroids and polyp on your uterine lining. 783 00:30:09,893 --> 00:30:13,772 The good news is that we can take care of everything at once 784 00:30:13,772 --> 00:30:15,148 with a hysterectomy. 785 00:30:15,148 --> 00:30:16,441 Whoa, whoa, whoa. 786 00:30:16,441 --> 00:30:18,318 Damn, that's a bit drastic, don't you think? 787 00:30:18,318 --> 00:30:19,987 Of course it is. 788 00:30:19,987 --> 00:30:21,863 Well, I get the feeling 789 00:30:21,863 --> 00:30:23,740 you're not interested in giving birth, 790 00:30:23,740 --> 00:30:26,577 and it really is the easiest and most effective treatment. 791 00:30:26,577 --> 00:30:28,287 [scoffs] Easiest for who? 792 00:30:28,287 --> 00:30:30,664 Just because I'm masc doesn't mean I'm not a woman. 793 00:30:30,664 --> 00:30:32,624 And nobody asked you for your feelings. 794 00:30:32,624 --> 00:30:34,501 [pager beeps] 795 00:30:34,501 --> 00:30:37,254 That would be the rest of your labs, hang on. 796 00:30:37,254 --> 00:30:39,548 I am so sorry, Tye. 797 00:30:39,548 --> 00:30:41,508 I hate to be the voice of reason, sweetheart, 798 00:30:41,508 --> 00:30:44,678 but maybe this is something that we should all discuss 799 00:30:44,678 --> 00:30:46,638 before we rule it out completely. 800 00:30:46,638 --> 00:30:49,057 I know I said I don't want to have kids, 801 00:30:49,057 --> 00:30:52,102 but there's a difference between not being able 802 00:30:52,102 --> 00:30:54,479 to have a baby and not wanting to. 803 00:30:54,479 --> 00:30:56,148 True, and you know what? 804 00:30:56,148 --> 00:30:57,858 Who knows what the future holds? 805 00:30:57,858 --> 00:31:00,110 You don't have to make a decision 806 00:31:00,110 --> 00:31:01,320 with how you'd like to resolve 807 00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:02,571 the rest of the issues right away, 808 00:31:02,571 --> 00:31:04,489 but sooner is better. 809 00:31:04,489 --> 00:31:07,743 Your labs look good enough so I'm going to release you 810 00:31:07,743 --> 00:31:11,038 with some medication and post-op instructions. 811 00:31:11,038 --> 00:31:13,999 Why don't you go home and talk it over with your husband 812 00:31:13,999 --> 00:31:15,542 and get back to me in a week or so? 813 00:31:15,542 --> 00:31:18,253 - This nigga. - It is not 1950, okay? 814 00:31:18,253 --> 00:31:20,422 A woman does not need to talk it over with a man 815 00:31:20,422 --> 00:31:23,300 when it comes to making a decision about her body. 816 00:31:23,300 --> 00:31:25,719 I'm her husband. Now what, asshole? 817 00:31:25,719 --> 00:31:26,970 Uh, you know what? [chuckles] 818 00:31:26,970 --> 00:31:28,388 I am more her husband. 819 00:31:28,388 --> 00:31:30,641 Bitch, please, you're my wife, and everyone knows this. 820 00:31:30,641 --> 00:31:31,767 Then who's husband am I? 821 00:31:31,767 --> 00:31:33,226 - Girl... - I'm sorry. 822 00:31:33,226 --> 00:31:37,230 I don't want to mis-pronoun anyone. 823 00:31:37,230 --> 00:31:39,566 Who is Brandon Jones? 824 00:31:39,566 --> 00:31:40,984 Nobody. 825 00:31:40,984 --> 00:31:42,944 That's the name that's listed here on her HIPAA form 826 00:31:42,944 --> 00:31:46,031 and who gave us permission to proceed with the surgery 827 00:31:46,031 --> 00:31:47,282 - while she was unconscious. - What? 828 00:31:47,282 --> 00:31:48,575 What? Oh, okay. 829 00:31:48,575 --> 00:31:50,661 So y'all are mixing up paperwork now? 830 00:31:50,661 --> 00:31:52,454 I'm gonna have to call my dad's attorney. 831 00:31:52,454 --> 00:31:54,414 This shit about to be called Tye Memorial. 832 00:31:54,414 --> 00:31:56,249 Well, no, "Memorial" is like when you're dead, 833 00:31:56,249 --> 00:31:57,668 - so maybe not that. [Tye] Thank you, Camille. 834 00:31:57,668 --> 00:31:59,378 Don't undermine my point in front of company. 835 00:31:59,378 --> 00:32:01,088 [knock on door] 836 00:32:04,508 --> 00:32:06,385 Hi, Tye. 837 00:32:06,385 --> 00:32:08,053 It's been a while. 838 00:32:08,053 --> 00:32:10,180 Huh, but who this, woman? 839 00:32:10,180 --> 00:32:11,848 Hi, Brandon. 840 00:32:11,848 --> 00:32:16,853 Uh, Brandon, these are my friends. 841 00:32:16,853 --> 00:32:21,650 Friends, this is Brandon Jones, 842 00:32:21,650 --> 00:32:23,068 my husband. 843 00:32:23,068 --> 00:32:25,987 [hip-hop music] 844 00:32:25,987 --> 00:32:28,490 [singer] ♪ All my life they making me crazy ♪ 845 00:32:28,490 --> 00:32:31,201 ♪ All my life they calling me baby ♪ 846 00:32:31,201 --> 00:32:33,954 ♪ All my life they wanna come save me ♪ 847 00:32:33,954 --> 00:32:36,456 ♪ All my life ♪ 848 00:32:36,456 --> 00:32:39,167 ♪ Men ♪ 849 00:32:39,167 --> 00:32:41,837 ♪ Men ♪ 850 00:32:41,837 --> 00:32:44,256 ♪ Men ♪ 851 00:32:44,256 --> 00:32:47,801 ♪ Fuck men ♪ 852 00:32:47,801 --> 00:32:50,637 ♪ We comin' for their throats like what ♪ 853 00:32:50,637 --> 00:32:53,098 ♪ Now you wanna gloat like what ♪ 854 00:32:53,098 --> 00:32:55,934 ♪ Thought you was a gold boy, sure ♪ 855 00:32:55,934 --> 00:32:58,228 ♪ We don't need a man like you ♪ 856 00:32:58,228 --> 00:33:00,397 ♪ Insecure, insecure, insecure ♪ 857 00:33:00,397 --> 00:33:03,066 ♪ Go check on that bitch, ego drip like a click ♪ 858 00:33:03,066 --> 00:33:05,819 ♪ Selfish, secretive, obsessive, condescending ♪ 859 00:33:05,819 --> 00:33:08,989 ♪ Even when I come, I'm pretending ♪ 860 00:33:08,989 --> 00:33:11,491 ♪ I'm not crazy, you was cheating ♪ 861 00:33:11,491 --> 00:33:14,119 ♪ You not famous, you a fetus ♪ 862 00:33:14,119 --> 00:33:16,705 ♪ You checked in on me like you Jesus ♪ 863 00:33:16,705 --> 00:33:18,790 ♪ Don't they make you wanna keep us? ♪ 864 00:33:18,790 --> 00:33:20,167 Ah! 865 00:33:20,167 --> 00:33:21,877 ♪ All my life they making me crazy ♪ 866 00:33:21,877 --> 00:33:24,463 ♪ All my life they calling me baby ♪ 867 00:33:24,463 --> 00:33:27,174 ♪ All my life they wanna come save me ♪ 868 00:33:27,174 --> 00:33:30,051 ♪ All my life ♪ 869 00:33:30,051 --> 00:33:32,554 ♪ Men ♪ 870 00:33:32,554 --> 00:33:35,140 ♪ Men ♪ 871 00:33:35,140 --> 00:33:37,476 ♪ Men ♪ 872 00:33:37,476 --> 00:33:40,479 ♪ Fuck men ♪ 873 00:33:40,479 --> 00:33:43,148 ♪ Oh, you wanna leave him but you can't get past it ♪ 874 00:33:43,148 --> 00:33:44,775 ♪ Oh, you wanna tell him, well, you should ♪ 875 00:33:44,775 --> 00:33:46,485 ♪ Just shove it ♪ 876 00:33:46,485 --> 00:33:48,779 ♪ Why you keep believing that he's gonna change from it? ♪