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Previously
onBob Hearts Abishola...

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Your husband is coming
to America.What?

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Tayo wants to pick
Dele up from school.

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Ah, he could not
get the lioness.

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And now he set his
sights on the cub.

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Dele is my son.

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That is true.

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But do not forget.

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I am the one raising him.

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That reminds me,
I could use a new steamer.

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I will send you a photo
of the one I want.

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For your birthday?

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For Dele to bring.

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What are you talking about?

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When he comes to visit Nigeria
with his father.

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Nobody talked to me about this.

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Well, Tayo talked to me.

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It is not his decision.

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Hey, you don't want Dele to come
see his own grandmother?

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You want a stranger
to bring my steamer?

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I will tell your father
that you do not want to go.

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But I do.

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What?

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I want to go with my dad.

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Please, Mum.

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It's only for the summer.

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This is really what you want?

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Yes, Mum.

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I see.

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UNCLE TUNDE:
Who is it?It's Bob.

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Is there anyone else with you?

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No, just me.

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Are you sure?
I didn't see you check.

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I am the only one
in the hallway.

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I'll let you in, but be quick.

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Can you open the door
a little more?

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What is going on?

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I am not to let anyone in

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who could be a relative of Tayo.

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Do I look like
a relative of Tayo?

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You will regret coming here.

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You can cut the tension
with an obe.

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Obemeans knife.

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Got it.

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I don't think you do
"got it."

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Because you are
still here.

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Does this have anything to do

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with Dele going to Nigeria?

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It is about him not
going.

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Abishola has gone
against his father's wishes

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and forbidden it.

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Well, she is his mother.

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And Tayo is his father.

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And you're his uncle.
What are we doing?

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Oh, it's not good, Bob.

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The families are upset.

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Olu is upset.
My stomach is upset.

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Well, how's Dele?

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Who cares?

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All I know is
that Abishola

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was short with Olu.

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And that is tempting
the devil.

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And if you say
I called Olu the devil,

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I will call you a liar.

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I'll go talk to Abishola.

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Oh, be careful.

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Sometimes when we try to help,

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we are adding petirolu
to the fire.

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Petirolumeans fuel.

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Got it.

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He doesn't got it.

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Hey there.

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Hello.

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Smells delicious.

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Thank you.

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So, uh, small question...

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Dele is not going to Nigeria.

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My decision is final.

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Okay.

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I have raised him by myself,
and his father cannot just

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swoop in and take him away.

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Right.

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All of this happened because you
forced me

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to let Dele have
a choice in things.

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Well, I don't know
that I forced you--

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You're right.

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It's all my fault.

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I am his mother.

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And I know what is best for him.

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Not Tayo.

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Not Auntie.

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Not Dele.

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Got it.

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Do you still have a question?I do not.

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Good.

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I'll be out there.

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By the way,
you look beautiful tonight.

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All right.

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["Ifanla" by Sola Akingbola
playing]

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Well, you know dinner's good
when everybody's quiet.

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[chuckles]

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Real good.

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Any more of that wine,
Tunde?

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Nope.

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Glad you liked it.

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I stopped tasting it
three glasses ago.

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I never even got
a chance to taste it.

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It's not very good.

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Why are you not eating
your food?

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I'm not hungry.

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I made this food
and you will eat it.

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I'm not hungry.

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Just because you are upset
about Nigeria

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does not mean you will be
disrespectful to me.

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Eat your food.

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No, thank you.

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[both gasp]

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I'll take some more peas.[clears throat]: Uh-uh.

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You will do as I say.

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[both gasp]

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What's going on?

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Open rebellion.

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Since you do not want
to eat your food,

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I will throw it in the garbage.

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Ah-ah! Give it here.

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You will sit there

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and suffer
while I eat your portion.

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I'm sorry you
had to see this.

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I don't even know
what I'm watching.

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Right here's fine.
I figure

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she'll calm down soon and want
Dele to have his things back.

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What did her son do?

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Didn't eat dinner.

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That she prepared?Yeah.

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He will not be seeing
these things again.

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She even took his Air Jordans.

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Oh, it is better than what
my mother did with my shoes.

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She would throw them at me.

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You're kidding.
No.

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One time, I was standing
at a bus stop,

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she drove past and hit me

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right between the eyes
with one of my loafers.

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A drive-by shoeing.

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My mother

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would punish me by making me
sleep on the roof

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and wear my sister's clothes
to school.

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Boy, that makes a shoe to
the face feel like an upgrade.

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It wasn't all bad.
I developed a love for astronomy

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and found out I could wear
the hell out of a pencil skirt.

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These experiences helped us
learn and become better people.

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So you do that kind
of thing with your kids?

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Of course not.
It is child abuse.

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Ah!

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Dele was such a good boy.

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He was.

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And now I have lost him.

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You have.

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Child, listen,
you can't blame yourself.

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I do not.

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Okay then.

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The boy was silent and obedient

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before his father arrived.

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It could be that.

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Or just that you've got yourself
a teenager now.

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I did not raise him
to be a teenager.

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Did you think
he was gonna skip it?

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Go from obedient child

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straight to obedient doctor?

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That is what I told him to do.

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You know,
my eldest was

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very stubborn--
I blamed his father.

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But then when
my husband died,

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the two younger ones
were even worse.

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And that's when I realized

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the problem was them.

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I do not even recognize Dele.

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Oh, yeah,
suddenly they start

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talking back to you.

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Having opinions.

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When my James was 14,

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he started hanging out
with the wrong crowd,

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skipping school,
even got caught drinking.

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Your child
sounds like a criminal.

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He was a teenager.

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Okay.

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Teenage criminal.

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Grilled cheese? Hell yeah.

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This is for Dele.

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Abishola brought
him to work

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to keep an eye on him and I
figured he could use a little

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comfort food and a check-in

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from his Auntie Christina.

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You're gonna be an awesome aunt.

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You think?

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Yeah. You're quirky, you're
out of touch with reality.

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All you need now is a cat
you dress up

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and wheel around in a stroller.

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Aw. [chuckles]

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And you're gonna
be a fun uncle.

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"Funcle" Doug.

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I don't hate that.

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I'm clearly not ready
to be a parent,

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but I have a lot
to offer as a funcle.

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Shall we?

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Hey, don't bring
up your therapist.

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Why would I bring up
my therapist?

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'Cause you always bring
up your therapist.

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Hey, buddy.

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Having a tough time?

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Oh, no, um,
I'm okay.

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Well, this is in case
you're hungry.

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And these are in case you
want to talk.

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Thanks, but my mum told me
not to bother you.

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[groans]
"Mums," right?

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Can you not tell my mum
I'm eating this?

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Oh, mum'sthe word.

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That's a funcle joke.

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Stay in your lane.

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You know,

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I get scolded for not knowing
enough about my Yoruba culture,

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yet I'm forbidden to visit
the place where I'm from.

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Ooh, been there.

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I'm supposed

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to become a successful man.

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But I'm not allowed to make
a single choice.

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How does that prepare me
for life?

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[clicks tongue]

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You know,
I have a great therapist.

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What did I say?

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I'm sorry.

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You know your son's just
testing your authority, right?

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I know.

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You got to be careful though.

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Every kid handles these kinds
of moments differently.

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I will manage.

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Why don't we try doing
the table circles?

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[groans] Fine.

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Bob was easy.

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When he acted out,
all it took was a little guilt,

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and he'd snap to.

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"Oh, Bobby,
when you don't make your bed,

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Mommy just wants
to kill herself."

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All right, maybe a lot of guilt.

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Try using both arms equally.

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Douglas was trickier.

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You had to let him
think he'd won.

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Stick a couple of M&M'S
underneath his spinach,

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that sort of thing.

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Let's do counterclockwise now.

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But Christina.

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Oh, she was like a top-heavy
SUV on a mountain road.

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You handle her wrong,
and suddenly,

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she's catching fire
and taking out a school bus.

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Okay, that is
it for today.

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I'm doling out some gems.

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You could at least
pretend to listen.

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I'm sorry, but I think Dele
is different from your children.

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Different how?

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Behind their backs,
you call Douglas and Christina

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"Tweedle Dee
and Tweedle D-minus."

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That's not true,
I said it to their face.

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Well, in Nigeria,

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raising a child is about respect

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and discipline.

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I'm just saying,
nobody's got it all figured out.

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There's no right answer.

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Well, my answer is more right.

268
00:11:05,752 --> 00:11:08,189
Oh, really?Mm-hmm.

269
00:11:08,232 --> 00:11:09,843
And your mother raised you
the same way?

270
00:11:09,886 --> 00:11:11,932
Yes.And how often
do you talk to her?

271
00:11:11,975 --> 00:11:13,455
She calls every day.

272
00:11:14,369 --> 00:11:17,154
And I answer once a week.

273
00:11:17,198 --> 00:11:20,636
Well, I talk to my kids
morning, noon and night.

274
00:11:20,680 --> 00:11:23,378
Beneath all that bickering,
there's love.

275
00:11:24,988 --> 00:11:26,076
That's why
they're not 8,000 miles away,

276
00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:27,817
dodging my phone calls.

277
00:11:27,861 --> 00:11:29,863
They live with me,
they work with me.

278
00:11:29,906 --> 00:11:33,257
Wherever I turn, there they are.

279
00:11:33,301 --> 00:11:34,955
That's nice.

280
00:11:34,998 --> 00:11:37,827
They haunt my dreams, Abishola.

281
00:11:53,843 --> 00:11:55,192
Here.

282
00:11:57,325 --> 00:11:58,805
What is this?

283
00:11:58,848 --> 00:12:00,458
A dancing video game.

284
00:12:00,502 --> 00:12:02,373
I got it from Bob's garage.

285
00:12:02,417 --> 00:12:04,724
Oh. Thank you.

286
00:12:06,377 --> 00:12:08,336
Since you like both
dancing and video games.

287
00:12:08,379 --> 00:12:09,903
This is a combination
of the two.

288
00:12:11,687 --> 00:12:13,776
I'm familiar with it.

289
00:12:13,820 --> 00:12:15,909
Your father does not
like you dancing.

290
00:12:15,952 --> 00:12:18,738
And neither do you.

291
00:12:18,781 --> 00:12:20,957
But I let you,
and when we get home,

292
00:12:21,001 --> 00:12:22,306
I'll let you play
this video game.

293
00:12:23,307 --> 00:12:24,787
I can't.

294
00:12:24,831 --> 00:12:26,658
Do not argue with me.

295
00:12:26,702 --> 00:12:28,486
You will dance,
and I will watch.

296
00:12:30,053 --> 00:12:33,230
No, I want to play
the game, but I can't.

297
00:12:33,274 --> 00:12:34,797
I don't have
the console.

298
00:12:36,538 --> 00:12:38,409
You cannot just
plug this in the VCR?

299
00:12:38,453 --> 00:12:40,368
No, it doesn't
work that way.

300
00:12:40,411 --> 00:12:42,936
Then why do we have the VCR?

301
00:12:42,979 --> 00:12:45,721
I really don't know.

302
00:12:45,765 --> 00:12:49,725
But, um... thanks
for thinking of me.

303
00:12:49,769 --> 00:12:51,988
I'm always thinking of you.

304
00:12:56,471 --> 00:12:57,951
So now will you eat?

305
00:12:57,994 --> 00:12:59,300
Can I go to Nigeria?

306
00:12:59,343 --> 00:13:01,476
No.Then I'm not hungry.

307
00:13:03,391 --> 00:13:04,522
Give me that.

308
00:13:09,484 --> 00:13:11,225
[knocking]

309
00:13:11,268 --> 00:13:13,314
[knocking continues]

310
00:13:16,839 --> 00:13:17,884
[sighs]

311
00:13:22,976 --> 00:13:24,020
Tayo.

312
00:13:24,064 --> 00:13:25,805
I'm sorry to impose.

313
00:13:25,848 --> 00:13:27,067
I'm sorry, too.

314
00:13:27,110 --> 00:13:28,068
If you came here
thinking you could

315
00:13:28,111 --> 00:13:29,417
change my mind about Dele going

316
00:13:29,460 --> 00:13:30,940
to Nigeria, you are mistaken.

317
00:13:30,984 --> 00:13:32,420
I just came here
to ask your permission

318
00:13:32,463 --> 00:13:34,857
to take him to school.
Nothing else.

319
00:13:34,901 --> 00:13:37,120
My permission?

320
00:13:37,164 --> 00:13:39,557
You're his mother.
I defer to you.

321
00:13:39,601 --> 00:13:43,474
Unless school is too far for a
child to travel with his father.

322
00:13:43,518 --> 00:13:44,867
Don't be ridiculous.

323
00:13:44,911 --> 00:13:47,043
I was under
the impression

324
00:13:47,087 --> 00:13:48,740
you didn't want me
to see him at all.

325
00:13:48,784 --> 00:13:50,655
That is not true.

326
00:13:50,699 --> 00:13:53,789
Good. Because the more you try
to keep your children close,

327
00:13:53,833 --> 00:13:55,530
the more they push you away.

328
00:13:55,573 --> 00:13:59,751
Mm. I'm sure you know a lot
about pushing people away.

329
00:14:03,364 --> 00:14:05,932
Dele! Get your things.

330
00:14:05,975 --> 00:14:07,324
You are going to school
with your father.

331
00:14:07,368 --> 00:14:08,325
Thank you.

332
00:14:08,369 --> 00:14:09,892
Bye, Mum.

333
00:14:09,936 --> 00:14:11,633
And no gallivanting.

334
00:14:11,676 --> 00:14:12,852
Come straight home after school.

335
00:14:12,895 --> 00:14:14,897
Yes, Mum.

336
00:14:17,508 --> 00:14:19,423
[door closes]I am a fool.

337
00:14:19,467 --> 00:14:20,729
UNCLE TUNDE:
No, no.

338
00:14:20,772 --> 00:14:22,818
He is just smarter than you.

339
00:14:27,736 --> 00:14:29,085
I am impressed.

340
00:14:29,129 --> 00:14:31,044
It took him
very little time

341
00:14:31,087 --> 00:14:33,307
to destroy your
relationship with Dele.Mm-mm.

342
00:14:33,350 --> 00:14:34,961
Tayo cannot come
between us.

343
00:14:35,004 --> 00:14:36,484
He's just taking him
to school.

344
00:14:36,527 --> 00:14:38,486
I'm sure Tayo will spend
the whole drive talking

345
00:14:38,529 --> 00:14:40,923
about how
wonderful you are.

346
00:14:40,967 --> 00:14:42,707
He cannot poison
my son against me.

347
00:14:42,751 --> 00:14:44,492
Because your son
will not eat.

348
00:14:45,754 --> 00:14:48,931
He would rather starve himself
than listen to his mother.

349
00:14:48,975 --> 00:14:52,152
Oh, my friend, I hate
to see you so upset.

350
00:14:52,195 --> 00:14:54,937
This is the problem with
only having one child.

351
00:14:54,981 --> 00:14:57,026
What?I would say

352
00:14:57,070 --> 00:14:58,419
you have put all of
your eggs in one basket,

353
00:14:58,462 --> 00:15:00,116
but you only
have the one egg.

354
00:15:00,160 --> 00:15:02,031
Me? Hmm.

355
00:15:02,075 --> 00:15:05,208
I have a stupid son,
a lazy daughter.

356
00:15:05,252 --> 00:15:08,472
But my youngest boy is
a successful lawyer.

357
00:15:08,516 --> 00:15:10,213
He's the one I love.

358
00:15:10,257 --> 00:15:13,782
Kemi, you love
all your children.

359
00:15:13,825 --> 00:15:16,654
Eh. It's a numbers game.

360
00:15:16,698 --> 00:15:18,656
Every mother
gets a few duds.

361
00:15:18,700 --> 00:15:20,180
Dele is not a dud.

362
00:15:20,223 --> 00:15:22,008
Okay. You're right.
You're right.

363
00:15:23,618 --> 00:15:26,534
He's certainly
your most successful child.

364
00:15:32,801 --> 00:15:33,976
I knew I didn't throw it out.

365
00:15:34,020 --> 00:15:35,238
Here are the dance mats,

366
00:15:35,282 --> 00:15:36,892
the game system,

367
00:15:36,936 --> 00:15:40,374
and one of these
is the power cord.

368
00:15:40,417 --> 00:15:42,028
Thank you.

369
00:15:42,071 --> 00:15:44,378
Uh, I can figure out
which one if you want,

370
00:15:44,421 --> 00:15:47,163
but I felt like making Dele
earn it was more your style.

371
00:15:47,207 --> 00:15:49,818
Okay.
I never throw
these things out.

372
00:15:49,861 --> 00:15:51,211
I guess you could say
I'm a "corder."

373
00:15:52,603 --> 00:15:54,301
A... corder.

374
00:15:55,955 --> 00:15:57,565
I understood your
unfunny joke.

375
00:15:57,608 --> 00:15:59,741
Okay, just making sure.

376
00:15:59,784 --> 00:16:02,004
Look, I've never
raised a kid,

377
00:16:02,048 --> 00:16:04,093
but from an outsider's
perspective,

378
00:16:04,137 --> 00:16:06,095
you're doing a hell
of a job.

379
00:16:06,139 --> 00:16:07,967
You'll get through this,

380
00:16:08,010 --> 00:16:09,925
and I'm happy to help
in any way I can.

381
00:16:09,969 --> 00:16:13,059
You'd make a good father.You think?

382
00:16:13,102 --> 00:16:16,192
Mm-hmm. You are supportive,
a good provider.

383
00:16:16,236 --> 00:16:19,065
Your jokes are old
and not humorous.

384
00:16:19,108 --> 00:16:20,936
I'll take that as a compliment.

385
00:16:22,111 --> 00:16:23,983
Did you ever want children?

386
00:16:25,201 --> 00:16:26,420
[sighs]

387
00:16:26,463 --> 00:16:28,161
I did for a long time,

388
00:16:28,204 --> 00:16:30,598
but with Lorraine,
things were complicated.

389
00:16:30,641 --> 00:16:32,078
Ah.

390
00:16:32,121 --> 00:16:34,602
She struggled with infertility
due to endometriosis.

391
00:16:37,561 --> 00:16:40,129
I was her nurse.
I saw her files.

392
00:16:40,173 --> 00:16:42,349
It's funny, I kind of
gave up on the whole idea.

393
00:16:42,392 --> 00:16:45,308
But now, with you,

394
00:16:45,352 --> 00:16:47,093
yeah, I think
I'd be up for it.

395
00:16:47,136 --> 00:16:48,659
I mean, assuming you are.

396
00:16:48,703 --> 00:16:51,227
I already have a child.Right, obviously.

397
00:16:51,271 --> 00:16:53,012
I'm not just going to have
another one to replace him.

398
00:16:53,055 --> 00:16:54,143
I wasn't saying that.

399
00:16:54,187 --> 00:16:55,753
Right now, I need
to focus on Dele.

400
00:16:55,797 --> 00:16:57,842
You brought it up.Maybe one day, we can talk

401
00:16:57,886 --> 00:16:59,714
about having children,
but today is not that day.

402
00:16:59,757 --> 00:17:02,673
Again, youbrought it up!

403
00:17:06,547 --> 00:17:08,201
[door opens]

404
00:17:09,419 --> 00:17:10,768
Kaale,Mum.

405
00:17:10,812 --> 00:17:12,596
[scoffs]
This is how you fold the shirts?

406
00:17:16,557 --> 00:17:18,776
When my mother sees this,

407
00:17:18,820 --> 00:17:20,387
she will think
I did not raise you properly.

408
00:17:20,430 --> 00:17:22,215
Excuse me?

409
00:17:24,826 --> 00:17:26,610
You are going
to Nigeria this summer.

410
00:17:26,654 --> 00:17:29,091
I am?You will behave

411
00:17:29,135 --> 00:17:31,093
and represent
this family well.

412
00:17:31,137 --> 00:17:34,575
You will also
call me every day.Of course.

413
00:17:34,618 --> 00:17:36,925
Before the plane takes off,
after it lands.

414
00:17:36,968 --> 00:17:40,407
Before, during
and after every car trip.

415
00:17:40,450 --> 00:17:41,625
Yes, Mum.

416
00:17:42,887 --> 00:17:43,975
It does not matter

417
00:17:44,019 --> 00:17:46,065
how things are
with your father and me.

418
00:17:46,108 --> 00:17:47,762
This trip will
be good for you.

419
00:17:47,805 --> 00:17:49,720
That is what matters.

420
00:17:49,764 --> 00:17:51,461
Thank you, Mum.

421
00:17:51,505 --> 00:17:53,594
And I will never be against you.

422
00:17:53,637 --> 00:17:56,901
Never. Do you understand?

423
00:17:56,945 --> 00:17:59,252
I know that.

424
00:18:01,297 --> 00:18:04,953
I do not care that I only have
one egg in my baskets.

425
00:18:04,996 --> 00:18:09,044
I love that egg,
and I am proud of it.

426
00:18:09,088 --> 00:18:10,132
Excuse me?

427
00:18:10,176 --> 00:18:12,352
I will not say it again.

428
00:18:12,395 --> 00:18:14,658
It's almost time
for dinner.

429
00:18:14,702 --> 00:18:16,965
I'm starving.
I'll go wash up.

430
00:18:17,008 --> 00:18:19,489
Ah-ah, finish folding
these clothes.

431
00:18:19,533 --> 00:18:20,751
And make it quick.

432
00:18:20,795 --> 00:18:22,362
Uncle Tunde is already
eyeing your portion.

433
00:18:33,199 --> 00:18:36,158
♪ Bai ding ba doli party,
bamm bing ba doli party ♪

434
00:18:36,202 --> 00:18:38,813
♪ Breding ba doli party,
party pop ♪

435
00:18:38,856 --> 00:18:40,684
[pop]♪ Oh, I'm a gummy bear

436
00:18:40,728 --> 00:18:43,078
♪ Yes, I'm a gummy bear

437
00:18:43,122 --> 00:18:47,126
♪ Oh, I'm a yummy, tummy,
funny, lucky gummy bear ♪

438
00:18:47,169 --> 00:18:50,520
♪ I'm a jelly bear,
'cause I'm a gummy bear ♪

439
00:18:50,564 --> 00:18:53,958
♪ Oh, I'm a movin', groovin',
jammin', singin' gummy bear ♪

440
00:18:54,002 --> 00:18:56,004
♪ Oh, yeah... That's it, Bob.

441
00:18:56,047 --> 00:18:58,049
We are headed
for the high score.

442
00:18:58,093 --> 00:19:00,878
I hope we get there before
I have another heart attack.

443
00:19:00,922 --> 00:19:02,315
If you'd like a break,
I could play.

444
00:19:02,358 --> 00:19:04,230
Hang on!

445
00:19:04,273 --> 00:19:07,146
We are doing so well,
we can't stop now!

446
00:19:07,189 --> 00:19:09,365
The game's on "easy."

447
00:19:09,409 --> 00:19:10,714
Go to your room.

448
00:19:10,758 --> 00:19:11,976
♪ Gummy, gummy, gummy, gummy

449
00:19:12,020 --> 00:19:13,848
♪ Gummy bear

450
00:19:13,891 --> 00:19:16,764
♪ Gummy, gummy, gummy, gummy,
gummy bear. ♪

451
00:19:22,639 --> 00:19:25,338
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453
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