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[Shekinah] These bottles and the book,
they represent women he's been with in his past.
I'm proud of him, but there's a lot more change
that I need to see from Sarper.
The only way to get past those misunderstandings
is to work together and work individually.
Five, six, oh, yes.
So romantic.
I'm really hoping that we could just put
all our arguing behind us
because Lily's family is coming
to attend the wedding ceremony,
and I want them to see that we're truly happy.
Love you.
-For the interview process to becoming a midwife... -Yeah?
...is that in fully Icelandic?
If I have to give up my dreams of being a midwife,
how happy would I even be staying in Iceland?
[Dempsey] You're just rude to me.
Am I going to get broken up with
while I'm in the middle of a panic attack?
Like, I love life, I enjoy life.
I love the--
I'm begging you to please stop talking about this right now.
No, I won't.
It's too [bleep] much.
Take your [bleep] sweet time. Jesus.
[horn blaring]
Thank God.
I would like to talk about this when we're on land, please.
So this is when you start driving on the American side?
Yeah.
[Statler] Now that we're off the boat, I'm feeling much better.
But all of the energy that I spent
freaking out on the boat
has now transferred to
are we even gonna be together?
I mean, she basically tried to break up with me
on the ferry over.
I'm not thrilled with the way that things went down
on the ferry.
No, me either.
When you do see me reaching
the point of I'm over my limit,
like, maybe not the time to come
and try to talk to me and figure it out.
And I need, like, you to not be offended by it.
But I'm gonna be offended if you're rude to me.
Period. I'm not gonna stand for you
being rude to me all the time
because you're feeling a certain way.
My intention is not to be rude.
I've had anxiety my entire life. I...
I've tried multiple therapists.
I've tried multiple medications,
and I don't have it figured out.
I don't want you feeling anxious.
I would like to help you be able to get,
you know, to be able to get over that,
you know, anxious feeling.
But I can't do that when I'm feeling
[bleep] in myself
because of the way you're speaking to me.
I feel really, really guilty to say it,
but dealing with somebody with such high anxiety
is really, really hard.
And they say the true test of a relationship
is living together
or traveling together, and we're doing both in a van.
I'm usually a really go-with-the-flow person,
but I am really starting to worry
that this could be
one of the worst decisions I've ever made.
Taking away me being rude to you and me working on that
and me being more deliberate with what I'm saying
when I do feel anxious...
...I mean, do you, could you still accept me
as I am with the anxiety?
Because what you said on the boat,
I mean, scared the heck out of me.
How you don't know if you could be with me.
You said you don't know when you're gonna
get past that point, and it's just past that point,
and then you're like, "Everybody, get the [bleep] away from me." Like, I can't,
I don't know. I want to be there for you,
but I don't wanna be there for you when you're being rude.
-Yeah, and that's understandable. -[Dempsey] So--
I just don't want you to ever give up on me
because I'm willing to put in work to
make this relationship a good one.
And I'm sorry for not having my [bleep] together more.
I'm sorry for coming and trying to talk to you
when you were past the point of no return.
I don't wanna fight.
I don't want to fight either.
I also don't wanna have anxiety. [laughs]
I just wanna be happy and free, like you.
It's great that Dempsey gets over conflict really quickly.
But in order for this to work,
I need someone who is going
to be able to handle my panic attacks.
Because my anxiety isn't something
that's just gonna go away.
I need her to be supportive in such a different way,
or else this isn't gonna work out,
she's not my person.
We're in the city of Paris,
and I would love to have a nice day with you.
Me, too.
[Middle Eastern music playing]
[Sarper] Welcome to your home, princess.
Thank you.
-[chuckles] No. Yes. -Check the closet.
Check the closet.
-Oh, my God! -Yes.
-Finally! -Finally.
[Shekinah] Yay.
Oh, my God.
Today is a big day because Shekinah
is moving back to the place
that's where she belongs.
My house, my place.
I am emotionally and mentally relieved
because after she left my house,
the house was so empty.
I'll get this one.
[Shekinah chuckles] Oh, God.
Yeah, take it off, baby. Feel comfortable.
Okay.
Sarper destroying the bottles,
getting rid of the black book,
going to therapy,
all of those things are what helped me
decide to go back.
He's shown me that he's really willing
to make a change, so I'm giving him another chance.
And let's see how this goes.
You missed me?
Look how happy he is, huh?
I don't want you... To see you always
unpacking, packing, unpacking.
I don't.
Just unpack once and stay here forever,
-for good. -Yeah, that's what I wanna do.
But do you feel like when we went to therapy,
like, it helped you understand?
-I like it. Therapy works, you know? -Really?
[Sarper] Mmm-hmm.
You know that one time is not enough,
like, we have to keep going.
Did you do anything while I was gone,
like, to make steps towards doing that?
[Sarper] Yeah.
I arranged a schedule for my therapy,
next therapy.
-You scheduled your next therapy? -Mmm-hmm.
-For yourself or for us together? -For myself. For myself.
Did you, really?
Yeah.
Okay.
I just think it's weird
that you didn't tell me that, like,
if it was me, I would have been like,
"This is what I've done."
Because I'm doing it for myself.
I call [bleep] on this.
Anytime that Sarper feels like he's done something good,
he can't wait to tell me, but he didn't tell me
that he made this appointment.
So I really don't believe him.
Did you really make a therapy appointment?
No.
No?
-Babe, wait. -Wow.
Okay, now we have a whole different problem.
Now you're lying to me.
[sighs]
A lie... A lie is a lie.
[Sarper speaking]
Because afterwards,
if she didn't realize that, after that,
the first thing, I will go to my laptop
and make an appointment.
Um, so whose fault is that?
When... When I'm not sorry,
-I get mad and I become the guilty one. -No, no. Whose fault is that?
Whose fault is that?
I mean...
-That is not true. -[Sarper speaking]
You are pressing on me too much about everything.
Don't do that.
-Don't let-- -[Shekinah] I'm not doing anything wrong.
I'm just not letting you get away with stuff, that's all.
You're not used to being held accountable.
So that's the problem here.
Sarper has seen that I can be
this submissive, loving person.
Yes, I like when a man takes charge,
but I'm also gonna speak up
when I don't like something that's happening.
Sarper has gotten away with a lot in his life,
and a lot of women have allowed him to.
I am not gonna be that person,
and he's going to have to behave
completely differently if he wants to be with me.
Why does this always happen?
When I get here with my suitcases,
something happens, and I don't want to unpack.
I'm just over it.
I'm ready to do everything.
That's why I lied to you right now,
and that's why I just confessed.
But now I have a whole new issue to think about.
He lies to me.
Oh, my gosh.
-Hey, hey! -[Jarod] Hi!
I'm hoping my brother Jarod
will be able to kind of
help our relationship a little bit.
We need to figure out how to speak to each other
without offending the other person.
It's been that way. It's been a cycle.
I mean, you're not worried about it
not working out, are you?
Basically, she said, I wouldn't be able
to start. At best, like, a year and a half.
[Ingi chuckles]
I don't think he realizes how much
I'm questioning my choices
that have led me to this moment.
I think I'm running out of patience.
[oriental music playing]
[Josh] This came today.
[Lily] Let me see.
-Carpet? All right. -Our carpet, yeah.
So I'll take this upstairs.
My brother Jarod, he's arriving today,
and he's gonna enjoy some time with us
before the wedding ceremony.
-Where does this go? -Oh.
-Is this a bed? -Bed.
Bed, yeah.
[Lily chuckles]
Jarod and I have a wonderful relationship.
We understand each other's humor.
He's always there for me. I'm always there for him.
And it's nice to have someone from my family here.
[knocking on door]
-Hey, hey! -[Lily] Wow!
-Ah! -[Lily] Wow!
-[Jarod] Hey. -Oh, my goodness.
This is for your housewarming.
-Give me a hug. Good to see ya. -[Lily speaking]
[Jarod] I'm glad to see you, too.
-[Lily] Come on, come on. -[Jarod] What's going on, my friend?
-[Josh] Let me get your bag. -[Jarod] Okay.
-Wow, look at this. -[Lily speaking]
[Jarod] Wow.
Your home is beautiful.
[Lily] Yes.
[Lily speaking other language]
[Josh] All right, you get to the elevator.
[Jarod] Really?
-Okay. -[Lily speaking English]
-[Jarod] Okay. -[Lily laughs]
[Jarod] Look at this. You've got five storeys to choose from.
[music playing in elevator]
-This is it... This is adorable. -[Josh] Listen.
[Jarod] There's music in the elevator.
This is not real.
It's a little overwhelming to think this is my brother's new home.
The idea that I can't just hop on over to his house,
if he needs me, that part's still settling with me.
But the house is gorgeous.
It's beautiful.
Wow.
[Lily speaking]
[Jarod] Look at this.
Oh, my goodness.
I feel like Josh has found a secret recipe, right?
I mean, like, there's... I'm sure there's a dozen guys out there,
if not hundreds, who would love
to have somebody take me away,
bring me to their house
that's five storeys, uh, with a glass elevator
and just take care of me, you know what I mean?
I don't know, it seems like a pretty good situation for him.
A lot of this doesn't make sense yet... [laughs]
...so we're still putting the pieces together.
-[Jarod] Wow. -[Lily speaking]
This is plenty big.
Yes. New...
Wow. Okay.
[Lily speaking]
[Jarod] Sure. This is awesome.
[Josh] And then this room.
[Jarod] Nice.
[Josh] So that bed downstairs,
me and you are gonna move it up.
[Jarod] Oh.
[Lily chuckling]
-Okay, so we'll carry up a mattress. -Yeah.
My brother sits back and watches me
in every relationship I have.
He sees my mistakes, and he tells me about 'em.
[Jarod] You want this mattress?
-[Josh] Third floor. -Third floor.
Mmm. Think you could do it?
Nope. We'll give it a try.
Here we go. I'm gonna go first.
I'm hoping that he'll be able to kind of help
our relationship a little bit.
He may be able to explain things to Lily that I can't
and Jarod may open my eyes to Lily's views
that I don't see.
[exhales] It's good for now.
Nice. Okay, take a break.
Okay.
Thanks for helping. That was a big help.
Oh-ho! That's gonna be feeling in the morning.
[Josh chuckles]
So you, uh, you guys doing good?
Yeah. I mean, we've always had our ups and downs.
The other day, we had an argument.
She said, "Oh,
you know, I keep doing this for you.
I spend this much money on you."
And it's a touchy subject for me.
Because I can't work.
So when she keeps saying it, it does hurt.
I replied back saying, "Well, if you're in love with me,
you wouldn't say it," which in turn hurts her.
It's been that way. It's been a cycle.
-Yeah. -And that's the problem.
Do you think she's making those comments to remind you
you're not contributing, so you don't get a say,
or do you think it's just maybe a language barrier?
I think it's, like, her way of communication.
She's very straightforward.
Well, dude, I mean, you guys gotta be overwhelmed.
She has... This has to be stressful for her.
It has to be stressful for you.
This is not a normal pathway to any relationship, and--
Plus we were married and then separated for
-eight months. -Yeah, eight months.
That's nuts.
Yeah. We need to figure out how to speak to each other
without offending the other person.
I'm not shocked to hear about any struggles.
This is nothing new.
I think what's new is the way he's reacting
to those arguments.
In previous relationships, when the going gets tough,
sometimes Josh would get going, in the past.
My parents and I, myself,
we don't want him to have another relationship
that doesn't work out.
There's some things that might need to settle.
Uh, hopefully, I can help them do that.
I mean, you're not worried about it
not working out, are you?
[Josh] I don't know.
We're stuck in this battle.
Is our relationship gonna grow,
or is it just gonna just remain the way it is
and just be unhappy?
[Corona speaking]
[Ingi chuckles]
[Ingi speaking]
-[Corona] One thing at a time, babe. -[Ingi] All right.
Today I'm taking Corona to a...
And we're gonna do a little cold plunge.
[Corona] Oh, my God, my poor toes.
[Ingi speaking]
And also, just the feeling afterwards,
it's just really good, and...
So, yeah, Corona might die here today. [laughing]
I'm jumping in. Are you coming?
Ingi was built for this kind of [bleep].
He's a Viking.
He's built for cold, I'm built for hot.
Oh, hell!
Black people aren't supposed to do this.
Yeah. Okay. Okay.
[screaming]
Okay. Okay! Heck!
Okay.
Oh, my God.
-[screaming] -[Ingi laughing]
It is gross.
[Ingi] It's refreshing, babe.
-Ooh. -[squeals]
No.
Oh, my God, I really can't feel my legs.
Holy [bleep]!
Sea swimming is not for Black people.
No. No.
That was a [bleep] up thing to make me do.
Don't ever ask me again.
That was a mistake.
I'm not sure if I love you anymore.
[Ingi laughing]
Ooh!
[Ingi speaking]
I mean, sea swimming is just like, you know...
I'm not trying to become a Viking.
You know, I don't need to assimilate that hard.
I don't need that.
Yeah.
You feel your toes. You're back to normal.
-Yes. -They're all there.
Should we do a head count?
Like, okay, one, two, three, four, five.
One, two, three, four. Look.
-Oh, oh. -[both exclaiming]
-Silly. -The hot tub is nice, right?
-The hot tub is nice. -Yeah.
-This is nice. -Yeah.
Uh, how'd it go in the university?
-It went. -"It went"?
Basically, she said I wouldn't be able
to start, at best, like, a year-and-a-half.
But most likely, like, two-and-a-half years
until I can start the program.
And I think she was stressing
the importance of me needing to know the language.
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. But you know what I mean,
you're well on your way to get the language, but like--
But I'm, like, not.
And, ultimately, I just worry
that, like, all this would affect my mood
in a way that would start to affect your mood and our relationship.
I am really surprised that she would have to wait two-and-a-half years.
But, like, then again, like, I think we haven't, like, explored all avenues.
Like, I mean, she just moved here.
I still see a way that this can all work out.
But, like, what does he say about, like,
work at the hospital as a nurse?
Like, doing some other nurse stuff.
I can do other nurse stuff.
-Sure. -Yeah, yeah.
But that's not in my field.
And that's not, like, my passion.
-That's not what I've busted my ass for. -Oh, yeah, yeah.
I mean, sometimes you have to...
[speaking Icelandic]
[in English] Or good things happen slowly.
Yeah.
[sighs] I mean, I also feel like
I've been waiting for this for so long already.
Like, it's not like I got in the first time I applied
-in the States. -Yeah, right.
[Corona] It took me years to get in.
I think I'm running out of patience.
There is a thin line between coming off
very, like, chill and confident that things will work out
and just not giving a damn.
I don't need him to just tell me everything is gonna be okay.
I need him to tell me how it's gonna be okay.
What plans can we make? What can we do?
Because, like, there is no version of my future
where I would be happy and fulfilled in life and not be a midwife.
I guess.
I feel like you're making it seem like it's really casual,
but it's actually, like, a really big deal.
I don't think he realizes how much I'm questioning my choices
that have led me to this moment,
because, right now, I feel like
I'm more into this relationship than he is,
and it's now biting me in the ass.
I've had a very specific goal...
-[Ingi] Yeah, yeah. -...for my entire life.
Yeah.
I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place,
and all my options kind of suck.
[Sarper whistles] My princess.
[Shekinah] You look so handsome, honey.
I have been [bleep] up everything.
And, right now, she's not trusting,
but she is so possessive.
I just want one thing from you.
[Sarper sighs]
[Shekinah sighs] So many stairs.
Go slower. [chuckles]
[Sarper speaking]
[Shekinah] There's been plenty of fighting
since I moved back into the apartment,
and Sarper and I still have a lot of issues to work through.
But today, I want to just try to have some fun.
-[speaking Turkish] -[Sarper in English] Hello.
[Shekinah] Oh, my God!
Wow.
[Sarper] You want me to dress you up?
-[Shekinah] Yes. -[speaking Turkish]
[Shekinah in English] Thank you.
So Sarper is taking me to this incredible photo-shoot studio.
It has beautiful views of the city,
and it has all of these traditional garments that you can wear for the photos.
And I'm hoping that this is a good opportunity to get out and reconnect.
My God. All the colors.
[saleswoman speaking]
[Sarper] I like red for you, babe.
-You go and dress. -Okay.
[Sarper] I like traditional things in Turkey,
and I just wanted Shekinah to experience that.
[saleswoman] Okay, please.
-[Sarper whistles] -[Shekinah] Wow.
You look so elegant.
[Sarper wolf whistles] Gorgeous, babe.
Do you have that expression in US?
-[Sarper wolf whistles] -Sure do.
-[Shekinah] Wow. -Look at this. My princess.
You look so handsome, honey.
What is a "sultan"? What do they do?
-Oh, they command? -Yes.
Perfect for you. [chuckles]
-You were born for this role. -Yeah.
Which crown you choose?
Back in LA, I love to get dressed up and have photo shoots,
but I feel like I'm stepping back in time to put on these garments.
So stunning.
I would never usually have this many clothes on.
This is your color, babe.
Would you look here, please?
[cameraman speaking]
[Shekinah] What happened?
Did you fall from your throne for a short time?
You'll get back up there.
I hope.
[Shekinah] You will.
I'm going to switch my camera, and I will be back for you.
-[Sarper] Okay. Thank you. -[Shekinah] Sounds good. Thank you.
[Sarper] I brought you here to change our mood.
Yeah.
[Shekinah] Mm. Mm.
-Look at you, correcting. -Yeah.
That's good.
It's helping.
I just want one thing from you.
I have been [bleep] up everything.
And right now, she's not trusting.
But she is so possessive,
and that bothers me.
So I just want to talk with her.
Maybe she can learn to trust me 100%.
[sighs] You know you are so possessive, right?
About what?
About me, about everything.
Well, of course. I think it's better than being jealous.
Being jealous is when you want something that's not yours,
and possessive is when you want to protect what's already yours.
-And I feel like you're mine... -[stuttering]
...so I want to protect what we have.
[Shekinah] Okay.
-[Shekinah] Mm-hm. -[Sarper] And just trust me.
Do you understand that my trust got broken because of what happened?
-Because of how you treated me. -I can understand.
Yes, yes.
Yes. But just believe in my good intentions and my trying.
Everything will be fixed.
-You will see. -[Shekinah] Mm-hm.
-You are so cute. -Thank you.
Sarper is really showing me that he is trying
-and that he can make changes. -Mm-hm.
[Shekinah] Mm-hm.
-Yeah. -[Sarper speaking]
[Shekinah] I'm so glad.
[Sarper] But if you want to help me, you have to trust me.
I mean, even if you find a girl, a real girl in the closet,
you have to trust me.
[Shekinah] Um, no, I don't.
I have to trust my intuition.
[chuckles] I hope you do.
Mm-hm. Okay. That's good.
[Shekinah chuckles]
-I deserve them sometimes. -You have to earn it.
You are my treat.
-[Shekinah] Okay, good. -Okay.
Just stop talking.
[Shekinah] Mm-hm.
I want to lick you so bad right now.
Okay.
He loved it.
[Sarper speaking]
[Shekinah] Mm-hm.
What's the goal you're headed towards?
-With you? -Yeah.
Marriage.
[Statler] Marriage?
I feel safe when I'm with you.
Are you proposing?
[Statler] So, we're in Paris right now.
[Dempsey] Paris.
[in English] I'm stoked.
-So many people would kill for this lifestyle. -I know.
[indistinct]
[Dempsey] Wow.
-This is nice. -[Statler] It is nice. Oui.
You see that thing?
Maybe the Notre-Dame, something or other.
Dempsey and I are in Paris for a couple of days.
So we're gonna take in the sights before I have to start work again.
Ooh, they have crepes.
I'd [bleep] love a crepe right now.
I feel like we're definitely in France now.
Hello, pigeon.
-Hi. -[artist] Hi.
Could we please get a caricature?
Yeah. You can sit.
Okay.
Do we have to stay really still?
Yeah. You can talk a little bit. Not so much.
[both] Okay.
-I'll start with you. -Okay.
It's really awkward, isn't it?
Just sitting here.
[artist speaking]
Uh, this, caricature.
-No. -[Dempsey] Yeah.
It's the first fun thing we've done so far.
[Statler] Some of this has been hard,
but I feel like we're headed towards a goal.
-Yeah. -What's the goal you're headed towards?
-With you? -Yeah.
-[Statler] Marriage? -[Dempsey] Yeah, eventually.
That's surprising.
[Dempsey] I feel like the adjustments
of getting to where we are now have been hard.
But I think that, you know, we've got through it.
You know, nothing gets blown out of proportion too bad,
and we always, like, make up pretty quickly.
Yeah.
Like, eventually, what timeline are you looking at?
[Dempsey] A year sounds good.
Like, a year until we get engaged
or a year until we get married.
Yeah, at least a year until we get married.
[Dempsey] Yeah.
-Or three, or five or ten. -Yeah.
I'm just kidding.
Don't be putting any ideas in her head.
[Dempsey] I have always wanted to have this nice life of,
you know, settling down at some point.
I would marry Statler if she asked me.
Our love for one another has got us this far.
And the problems that we've had, we worked through it.
I'm not ready to put plans into place.
But yeah, I would like to get married.
[Statler] This is the fun part.
This, with you, is the fun part.
-And you as well. -[artist] Excuse me?
[Statler chuckles]
-Is that your French laugh? -[Statler] Mm-hm.
Oui.
[Dempsey] You know one of the reasons why I do really love you?
-Why? -You make me laugh a lot.
Interesting. That's good.
And I feel safe when I'm with you.
Are you proposing?
I'm not proposing. No.
I'm just telling you how I feel.
-[Statler] Oh, okay. -I love you.
[Statler] I love you,
even though you're making me sit through this drawing.
And I love you more for sitting with me through this drawing.
-I like to make you happy. -I know.
[Statler] I was 100% ready to propose to Dempsey
when I visited her the first time.
It's reassuring to hear that Dempsey is excited about marriage.
But it's also a lot to think about
because, you know, we are having some speed bumps.
And so I just want to be sure that this is the right move,
and we actually get along when we're together.
Because I want forever love, and I hope it's with Dempsey.
I ask you to say one, two, three in French.
-Okay. -[both] Un, deux, trois.
-Voila. -[Statler] Ah.
-[Dempsey] Oh. -[Statler] Holy [bleep].
No. Oh, no. Oh, no.
-That's beautiful. It's so good. -[artist] Just look at this.
And the croissant.
[Statler] Wow. Wow, those teeth are [bleep].
I appreciate that. Thank you.
I think I'm gonna go crawl in a ditch
and [bleep] kill myself.
That was nice. I appreciate that. Thank you.
[Dempsey laughing]
[Statler] If that doesn't give me a complex, I don't know what will.
Oh, no.
It's beautiful. It's really nice.
[Josh] Here we go again.
She wants to bring up money.
This time, in front of my brother.
We'll go enjoy our evening.
-Okay? -[Jarod] So excited.
[Josh] Is this a grocery store?
What is this market we're going to?
[Josh] Food?
-Like, street food? -[Lily speaking]
[gasps]
Snacks.
-Snack. -[Josh] Snack food.
-Snack food. -Yeah. Yeah, yeah.
There's a big difference, snack and snake.
Oh, snack, snake.
Uh, Jarod...
Yeah. You know, I think they're a little concerned.
You know, if you've never been to China,
I could see where it might be easy
to think of it as, uh, you know, different, strange or unsafe.
But this is super safe.
I think there's a misconception.
Well, at least you can bring comfort, you know.
-You've been here, so that's the nice thing. -Oh, yeah.
[Lily] Jarod, uh...
Mm.
Yes.
But...
But why--
First night taking my brother out to China,
this is how you want to talk about it?
[speaking Mandarin]
[Lily in English]
"Text who?"
Then Josh...
[Josh] No, we were in the restaurant--
-Phone is take. Hurry to table. -I put my phone down.
Very dramatic.
[Lily] So... [sighs]
Actually, the messaging happened before we actually sat down to eat.
And I was texting you, Mom, Dad.
I tried talking to her after--
After, you know, we sat down, and I sent just a couple of messages,
she ignored me. I said, "Here. You want some meat?"
And she's ignoring me. So I said, "You know what?
If I'm gonna sit here, talk to myself,
I'm gonna go ahead and continue messaging."
And then she gets up from the table and leaves.
Fifteen minutes goes by. I found out she's in the car.
She left the restaurant.
You know, it's not normal behavior.
[Jarod] It sounds like she's upset.
[Josh] Well, she gets upset easily for no reason.
I know you love talking how much money you spent.
Push-- No.
[Josh] That's all you talk about, money.
Money, money, money.
-Yes. And you-- -[Lily speaking]
The problem, Lily, is I'm not like you.
I don't try living in the past
and creating fights or sabotage a relationship.
What I try to get you to understand is you need to say,
"Okay, you told me what you felt.
Last night was over with.
So, you know what? Let's be happy today."
You like to just focus on the past.
Here we go again.
She wants to bring up money.
No matter how many times I tell her
how it makes me feel like a burden,
makes me feel worthless.
She's still bringing it up.
And this time, in front of my brother.
It is incredibly frustrating,
and it needs to stop.
You focus on making sure everyone in the world knows
you are right all the time.
You always create arguments. You sabotage our relationship.
[Lily speaking]
-[Josh] Yeah. See this is-- -[Lily] Yes.
Like, this is what she does.
-It's just always a repeat. -[Lily sighs]
But we can never move forward.
We're stuck in the same situation,
the same arguments, the same feelings.
And I wonder, are they ever going to get resolved?
I don't know how much more I can take.
But I do thank you for ruining Jarod's night tonight, sweetie.
[Statler] Next time on 90-Day Fiance: The Other Way...
-He has a vision for what he wants my nose to look like. -[man] Mm.
I will be the one who will see that every day,
so let me do it.
Uh, you will bother us.
[James] Try to help your dad on with banana chips.
And is that helping us make money? No.
Try a little harder.
[James] I left the United States, came here all for her.
I feel like it counts for nothing.
Those are the things I'm trying to figure out right now.
And if I can't, then I don't belong here.
[boy] Who do I have now?
If you're not here,
-something happens with Jesse in school. -Right.
It's really just gonna be me, I feel like.
If you don't want me to move,
-then you might say that. -I feel like it's a lose-lose situation here.
He doesn't want to know about how much you're paying
because he feels bad that he can't contribute.
I truly believe we can move forward.
Jarod, he's not gonna be here with me forever.
I can't live a life of always arguing and living in the past.