[narrator] Previously on 90 Day Fiance The Other Way.
I wish I could bring you to Iceland with me.
I'm moving to Iceland because I don't wanna be apart from Ingi.
-Good morning, babe. -Good morning.
But there is a part of me that is like,
"Is this the right decision?"
How do you feel about
I think about it too hard and makes, like, my stomach fall out of my butt.
But, like, love makes you crazy [bleep].
I recently quit my job to move to China,
but in China I am not allowed to legally work.
So there's that fear that I'm gonna wake up one day
and Lily's gonna say, "I don't want to be with you."
[Lily speaking]
Are you ready to move?
It's just a lot. I feel overwhelmed.
I have anxiety about living in a van.
We really don't know each other all that well,
and I don't know what will happen between us
if she can't handle life on the road.
She's just a worrier all the time.
Is that a bit of a red flag?
[Sarper] Your new home. Are you ready?
Go. Yes.
Honestly, I'm not happy to walk in and see that still here.
The first thing I see are the bottles,
and it really pisses me off.
I know. I know. You don't like it.
-Give it time. -I hate it.
It's not that I don't like it. I literally hate it.
♪ Go. Yeah
♪ One time like this
♪ Yeah. Go ahead and clap for me ♪
♪ Can you say it, run it back for me ♪
♪ Put it back, back
♪ Go ahead and clap for me ♪
♪ Yeah, make it look good Go ahead, clap for me ♪
♪ Clap for me. Clap, clap, clap, for me ♪
♪ Make it look good. Clap, clap, clap for me ♪
[Corona] Okay. Shoes, shoes, shoes, shoes.
In a shoe, I look for obscurity,
something that I don't think anyone else would have.
Ingi's got no choice but to, like, deal with my style.
There better be enough closet space.
I'm moving to Iceland today, which is insane.
I'm going to freeze my ass off,
but I will be with my Viking love mate. [chuckles]
-[meows] -[Corona] I know.
It will 100% be a big shift to actually move to Iceland
and know, like, I'm staying this time.
There is a lot of anticipation on the what ifs and the unknowns,
but I think majority, it's just excitement.
Holy [bleep]. Saying this out loud
really just made me realize how real all this is.
Knock, knock. I got kitties.
Whoa!
-[cat meows] -[Corona] We got beef.
[Kristina] Hello.
-Hi. They're beefing. -[Leo] Oh, no.
Iceland has very strict rules on bringing pets from America.
And so my babies have to go through vigorous tests.
So they actually can't come with me for a couple months.
You're gonna miss me. Yeah.
You can't even focus right now.
-[meowing] -[Kristina chuckles]
Okay.
She's never been this upset.
I'm very sad to be leaving them behind.
But luckily, Leo and Kristy said that they would take care
of my four-legged babies while I'm gone,
until I can get them, which will be soon.
And we're off.
-Can Iceland handle Corona? -[chuckles]
Corona can handle Iceland.
Yeah, I think I can handle Iceland. Can Iceland handle me?
We're gonna find out.
-It's a big change... -[Kristina] It's still a big move.
-...and it's like... -It is a big move.
And it's gonna be very cold
and quite white.
That is, like, one thing that I worry,
that I won't be able to make, like, a diverse friend group in Iceland.
Like, I wanna be able to, like,
-I don't know, find my people. -Yeah.
But also, I am quite nervous about meeting his family.
Like, oh my God, "What if they don't like me," you know?
[Kristina speaking]
No.
Growing up as a Black woman in America
has been tough as is,
and going to somewhere where I will be even more of a minority
is something that I worry about.
But also, like, Ingi's never been in a relationship before,
so I'm not only the first girlfriend
that they're meeting of Ingi's,
I'm also quite possibly the first Black person that they've met in real life.
So I feel so much pressure to make a good impression,
not only for, like, me and my relationship, but
for any other Black people who may don their doorstep in the years to come.
That's a lot of weight on my shoulders. [chuckles]
Let's not get ran overs.
Everybody make it.
There's no one on earth that I would choose to, like, derail my current plans
and take an alternate route to my dreams than Ingi.
I was actually not looking for love in the slightest.
And here comes Ingi,
bulldozing into my frickin' life, changing everything.
-Bye! -Bye!
Now we're group hugging this.
-Oh, group hug. -Group hug.
-[vocalizes excitedly] Okay. -[chuckles]
-Bye-bye. -[Kristina laughs] Bye.
[Corona] I'd actually given up on dating.
I came pretty content with the fact that I'm gonna be alone forever.
And now I'm thinking, like, "I am very ready
to start my forever life with my person,
and get married and have kids and just do the whole thing."
♪ Well, dream on, dream on
But there's so many unknowns in this journey.
How we're going to learn to mesh with each other
and how we're gonna grow together.
And what the future looks like for us.
Like, the ground underneath me is not as solid as it once was,
and I'm falling through the clouds now.
The only thing that I do know is that I love him.
Falling in love is freakin' scary.
Like, they don't tell you about this in the romance novels.
♪ Dream on
[Statler] Stay in the frickin' lines, buddy.
Learn to drive. [chuckles]
I do get road rage. I am a rager.
[Bleep] you, you [bleep] idiot!
That's why your car's all [bleep] up
'cause you have bad karma.
What the [bleep]?
Any day. Any day.
Take a snail's pace here.
All right. Everyone's passing me.
I know you're angry. I'm angry too. Oh, thank you.
Whoo.
Driving is stressful.
It's gonna be 10 times more stressful in another country.
I'm moving across the pond in less than a week
to live in a van with Dempsey.
And our plan is to just travel around Europe and not have a home base.
Yikes.
I'm driving to a used car lot to potentially sell my car.
I feel like this kind of thing is really hard for me, though,
because I've established a relationship with the vehicle.
So I feel like I'll be abandoning her.
Aspen is my car's name.
If I sell her, and I don't want her to feel abandoned.
When we came up with the campervan idea,
it felt like it was gonna be a cheap way of living.
We weren't going to have rent.
I think it will eventually feel like we're saving money.
We're just not in that place right now because
I have taken out a $20,000 loan
to pay for my part of the campervan.
I'm definitely feeling a lot more stressed out
than she is, financially speaking.
Dempsey has quit her job because she can't work remote.
And so, I will be the sole breadwinner
for the unforeseeable future.
[Muhammed] Hello.
Hi. Hello.
-Hi. Hi. -Hi. How you doing?
Hi. Um,
I wanna to sell my car.
-Yeah. I just... -[Muhammed] You have a beautiful car.
-Yes, it's beautiful, yeah. -What year it is?
2017.
-2017? -Yeah.
[Muhammed] So you wanna trade in the car, or you just want to sell it?
-Sell it, yeah. I'm... -Just wanna have the money, the cash, right?
Yeah. I would want the money because I'm leaving the country.
-Gotcha. All right. -Yeah.
So let me go in the office
-and get the appraisal value up for you. -Okay.
-And then you can decide you want to give us or not. -Yeah.
-Okay. All right. -[Muhammed] Hold on.
The idea of parting ways with this thing
that I've kind of had a relationship with
for longer than I've known Dempsey,
breaks my heart. [chuckling]
So it's kind of hitting me that I'm gonna be
leaving everything behind.
[sighs]
This is awkward. Um...
It literally is not you.
It's me.
Just going in a different direction.
You've taken care of me and kept me safe.
And I appreciate that.
[Muhammed] All right, Miss Statler.
-Hello. Yes. -Here's your offer.
-Here's my offer. -Yeah.
It's, like, uh,
we gonna give you $18,500.
-Whoa, I was not expecting that. Wow. -Yeah.
[Statler] Oh. Okay.
This is a big decision.
You know, I... I'm leaving because I'm going into a relationship
and we bought a campervan.
So we're gonna be living in the van.
Oh, wow.
I'm kind of more of a cautious person,
so I don't... I like to have a backup plan,
which is why I might wanna keep it
so I can have money later on if things don't work out.
[Muhammed speaking]
It's good to take risk.
-It's better to play safe, you know? -[Statler] Uh-huh.
-So play safe. -[chuckles] You think Play it safe.
-Play it safe, yeah. -Yeah.
I'm torn because, yes, I could have the money now,
and it could go to paying off the loan now.
But also,
maybe I want something to fall back on.
I feel kind of like bad about that
because Dempsey really is giving up everything.
But she's also kind of like that.
She's just a crazy, free in the wind, kind of...
...hippie type, and I am not.
So it's, like, she's staying true to herself.
Should I stay true to myself?
I... I think I need to.
I do need to take some time to think about it.
-It's a big decision. Let us know. -Yeah.
Okay. I appreciate your help.
-Thank you, Miss Statler. -Thank you.
You have a good one. -Thank you. Goodbye.
I wish I could be as carefree and just go with the flow as Dempsey is.
But I'm overwhelmed by constant fear and anxiety.
My biggest fear is that Dempsey and I won't do well on the road
and we'll break up immediately.
And then I'll be on the other side of the world
with a ton of debt and nothing to fall back on.
I'm sorry I put you through that.
It was a bit traumatic, yes.
Um, I don't think I'm gonna sell you, though.
So, I think we're good.
[sighs and chuckles]
Yeah.
Here we go.
This is definitely one of the craziest things that I have done.
I love you guys.
But I need to learn from my previous mistakes,
because this is my third marriage.
I'm coming home, Lily.
How would you feel if I had a whole case full of things
that remind me of other guys?
It's disrespectful for him to tell me that I'm his everything,
yet hold on to these things from his past.
-Make peace with it. -You make peace with this.
A love letter that my ex-boyfriend wrote me.
[Josh] Today's the day. I am moving to China.
I feel like that, you know,
a little overweight seven-year-old boy bouncing at the table
as he sees that big chocolate cake coming towards him.
That's how excited I am.
I can't wait to be there.
You know, the food I'm excited about. The people I'm excited about.
-Guys, ready to go? -All right.
[Josh] I'm full of mixed emotions.
I cannot wait to be reunited with Lily.
You know, eight months is a very long time to be apart.
But I'm gonna be in a whole new country without the things I enjoy.
My drones, my remote-controlled cars.
You know, I'm not gonna be able to access television, websites
or social media, that I could in the US.
So I'm just curious to see how I adapt to it.
Okay, here we go.
I'm kind of excited for you on one hand, but
we will worry about you. There's no doubt about it.
[Josh] Yeah, I'll miss you guys.
But I'll be back. Just living a little bit further away.
-[chuckles] -That's all.
It's a lot further away.
[Jim] All right. I'm gonna let you out here.
[Liz] Josh is making a huge sacrifice.
He's leaving a job.
He's going to a country he's never been.
Rules are different.
Everything is different.
Josh is a grown man, but we just worry 'cause
you know you never stop being a parent.
Right.
[Liz] Oh, hun...
...I'm gonna miss you so much.
-You know what? Make this a journey. Have fun. -[Jim] Yeah.
Yeah, it will be.
-And you always have a home. -[Jim] Yeah, always.
-But I do, I love you with all my heart. -You'll be good.
[Liz] I love you so much.
-I love you. -[Liz] I love you too.
It's not easy saying goodbye.
Um, I like to kinda hold everything in.
So when I say goodbyes, it gets me pretty emotional.
-Love you. -I love you guys.
All right.
-Yeah, allergy season, right? -All right.
-Yeah. See you later. -[Liz] Okay.
This is definitely one of the craziest things that I have done,
to go to a country I've never been,
where I can't work,
where I only know my wife.
Have no family there.
But if I don't go to China,
it would be a mistake, and I would regret it for the rest of my life.
So I have to follow what my heart tells me to do.
Pretty excited.
So long, USA, and hello, China.
This is my third marriage,
and I wanna make sure I do this right.
I need to learn from my previous mistakes.
Take accountability for my actions.
♪ Oh, oh, oh
I just wanna make her happy.
♪ I don't care if you're hearing what I say ♪
♪ It don't bother me when you don't hear ♪
♪ Miss another shot down with the games I play ♪
♪ Said your last words
♪ But you don't really mean 'em ♪
[Shekinah] That shelf. Three and a half months
that you could have dealt with it.
I've just arrived back in Istanbul,
and it feels disappointing and hurtful.
Oh, my God, babe.
This place is wrecked.
It almost looks like you weren't expecting me.
It looks trashed,
and the bottles are still on the shelves. I don't know.
I don't know why he's holding onto them so tightly.
It shows me how kind of careless he is
and his lack of respect for me.
I'm just feeling all kinds of things right now,
and none of them are good things.
Babe, I told you to clear this room out
'cause I want to make this my, like, closet.
And where's my wardrobe rack?
So I guess I'll just not unpack
'cause there's nowhere to hang my clothes.
I don't know. I just feel like I came back and nothing's changed.
It's the same.
I better not see that book of yours.
Are you crying for this?
I'm just tired of this.
[Sarper] I can't understand.
It's very simple.
-[Sarper] It's not very simple. -It is very simple.
How would you feel if I had a whole case full of things
that remind me of other guys, and I don't wanna get rid of them?
It reminds me, the places that I visited, not the girls.
That's a lie because it's about women,
so don't try to reframe it now.
[Sarper speaking]
Of course, she understood that.
I mean, I drank with girls.
[bleep] I have to stop sometimes.
I don't understand anything.
I mean, I can't believe that you came with this mood.
-[Shekinah] I didn't come with this. -For... For [bleep] bottles.
-Because of these bottles. -I'm not in this mood
because of the things I've seen once I got here.
Then because of the [bleep] bottles
and a notebook that...
-I said you that we will talk... -It's not just a notebook.
-...face to face. -Don't try to play like that.
We will talk face to face about this.
Well here we are, talking face to face.
So fun. It's going great.
Do you want me to show the book to you?
-Huh? Do you want to see it? -No, I don't.
Don't you dare bring that in front of me.
-Why? -Because that's so disrespectful.
-It's not being... To show you it's nothing important. -It is so disrespectful.
-Really? Okay. -[Sarper] It's nothing.
You think that it's not rude to show me your little black book, right?
-[Sarper] It's not rude, yeah. -Why do you think that's not rude?
Why is that okay?
Because for you to make peace with it.
-It's not a big deal. -[Shekinah] Make peace with it?
-[Sarper] Yes. -You make peace with this.
This is 143 pages of a love letter
that my ex-boyfriend wrote me, 143-page letter.
-You keep it. -Make peace with it.
-[Sarper] You keep it. -Yeah.
It's no big deal.
-Why did you brought it here? -Why not? It's just a book.
It's just a book.
I actually didn't even know when I was gonna bring this letter out,
or even if I really would.
But I am so mad right now that I'm just gonna show it to him right now.
On my first night here.
Okay. I don't wanna talk anymore.
I'm sure you don't.
I just feel like it's disrespectful for him to
tell me that I'm his future and his everything,
yet hold on to these things from his past.
And then he also has a double standard where he can have these things
and he can talk about his past so much.
But I can't talk about mine.
It's making me question why I even came back to Turkey,
and if I wanna stay.
[Sarper speaking]
We just started dating.
I definitely don't have a... have a ring in my pocket.
♪ This is how we drop it. I'm the one ♪
♪ Come on, let's do it
-[producer] Go for it, Ingi. -Ingi interview, take one.
Because here in Iceland, like, we are more related to one another
than, uh, probably anywhere in the world.
[laughing]
♪ You make me wanna brighten
She also, like, took a nap.
[laughing]
[both laughing]
Everything about Corona has been, like, so easy to fall in love with.
She's super smart, sexy, and, like, she's not afraid to express herself.
♪ There you were
♪ And it all changed
and super excited.
But at the same time, I'm like, "This is a really big step for me."
This is the first time that I'm gonna be living with a partner.
I have a lot to learn, uh, about being in a relationship.
Yeah. [sighs]
[Ingi speaking]
We've been playing since we were like, I don't know, 16.
All right.
[all laughing]
[laughs]
[Guomundur speaking]
[Ingi speaking]
[all laughing]
[Guomundur speaking]
Ingi hasn't had, like, a ton of past relationships.
I don't think I've ever met anyone that he's been, like, really serious with.
And I've known him since he was, like, six years old.
It feels like they're, um, like, doing this pretty quickly,
and I'm not 100% confident
that he knows exactly what he's going into.
So, yeah, it's gonna be [chuckles] very interesting to see.
[all laughing]
Mmm.
I'm definitely ready to move in with Corona,
but our relationship is progressing quickly
'cause, like, we've basically just known each other
from being on vacation together.
And also, you know, we just started dating.
This being my, uh, like, first serious relationship, uh,
I definitely don't have a... have a ring in my pocket.
Is it common for men in China not to work?
[chuckles]
[speaking in Chinese]
Last night, the flight was canceled due to weather,
so I'm tired, a little bit longer day,
but eventually I'll be with my wife.
That's where I will live.
And fly in to Shanghai.
Soon I will be with Lily.
We have landed.
I can't wait to get off this plane.
Once I get my luggage, I will take a taxi to Lily's house,
which is about maybe three-hour drive.
[Lily speaking in Chinese]
Lily was actually looking forward to picking me up.
But I wanted to show her I can do this myself,
so she doesn't always have to worry about me.
I have a translator app.
[translator speaking in Chinese]
And plus, I'm actually relieved to see
that these signs here are in Chinese and English,
so it makes it so much easier to navigate.
I am just surprised that I'm not stressed out.
As soon as I arrived here, I felt like at peace.
And this is my new home.
[Lily speaking in Chinese]
[Josh] Being here in China, you know, this is Lily's country.
Lily's, you know, house that she invested into.
So I will rely heavily on her.
I have always been the type that wanted to take the lead.
Now I have to adjust myself.
I've always worked since I was 15 and a half years old.
So, me not being able to work here in China
is gonna be a struggle for me.
And I don't wanna be judged by her family and friends
for something I can't control.
Are you married?
[translator speaking in Chinese]
[speaking in Chinese]
[translator speaking in English] Yes, 65 years old,
-has retired. -Wow.
Is it common for men in China not to work
while the wife provides the income?
[translator speaking in Chinese]
[chuckles]
[speaking in Chinese]
[chuckles]
[translator speaking in English]
What advice would you have for a foreign man
living in China?
[translator speaking in Chinese]
[speaking in Chinese]
[translator speaking in English]
[bleep]
Dempsey texted me just now and said,
"We can't afford the van."
We have to come up with all this extra cash,
and I'm supposed to get on a plane tomorrow,
and I don't wanna be homeless when I get to England.
It's just too much. It's just too much.
[Statler] What am I doing? What am I doing? Think.
Things are definitely getting real.
Everything is gonna go.
I'm putting some of my stuff in storage.
I'm giving some of it away.
I'm trashing some of it because tomorrow,
I'm leaving for England.
Today, I'm moving out of my apartment,
but with my ADHD, I kind of just,
like, put everything off until the very last second.
I have zero organization when it comes to this.
I'm doing like five different things at once.
And there's not enough space in the van for a bunch of stuff.
So whatever I can fit in these two suitcases is what's coming with me.
This is as a team, so I have to pick...
...who's gonna make varsity.
I don't know if y'all gonna make the cut. I'm gonna be honest with you.
I know this one. This is my actual favorite shirt.
So this is going, for sure.
Oh, God. Okay. And I haven't even done my underwear.
Um...
Staying in Dempsey's caravan was a bit uncomfortable for me.
There's, like, less space than I'm realizing.
I wanna take a shower, but I can't just, like, hop into the shower.
Doesn't have hot water.
I gotta take a dump at some point.
Like, I'm hoping I don't have to take when all she's gone
or she's gonna walk back and see me squatted in a field.
Yikes!
Oh, boy, I don't know. I feel like I might be in over my head here.
It was so small.
The campervan we're purchasing is about five times smaller.
[bleep]
Dempsey texted me just now and said,
"We can't afford the van,"
[laughs] and I'm leaving tomorrow.
She's supposed to pick up the campervan tomorrow.
So she's working out the insurance.
She's working out, like, the van purchase.
And, um...
...I guess, we had a miscommunication on how much money we had.
And I think she thought I was going to sell my car,
and then I would get the money from that
and give it to her for the van.
I never told her I was gonna get rid of my car.
But, yeah, um,
I didn't sell my car, so...
...it's just miscommunication,
but it's turning into now, the most stressful thing ever.
And it's, like, I already have so much to do today,
like, move everything.
Take the bed apart. Do, like, it's just a lot.
Last minute. Something this last minute?
Mmm-mmm, no.
It's just too much. It's just too much.
I did not need this extra stress added.
So this morning, it's making me feel even more overwhelmed,
and I am having second thoughts
just coming in my head,
like, "Maybe this is a bad idea.
Maybe this is a sign. Maybe this shouldn't happen."
Hello. How's it going?
[groans] So you can't sell your car?
Well, I mean, I didn't know that
we were depending on that money.
[Dempsey] That's not true.
We... we agreed on the amount of the van.
-We... -We did agree on the amount of the van.
We said that we both had, like, 30,000 between us,
and then your car was gonna pay for the rest.
So, like, you can't just say, "Oh, I forgot,"
-when we spoke about... -I mean, none of that...
Like, there were so many numbers being thrown around,
and it didn't compute.
I just thought I was just bringing the loan to the table and that was it.
No, you didn't.
But I did.
If we need any extra, you was like, "I'm gonna sell the car."
I'll get between four and 6,000 pound for it.
[Statler] Okay.
I understand what you're saying.
I was calculating the full $20,000 of the loan.
I wasn't... I didn't know we were gonna lose, like $5000,
just transferring it from US dollars to pounds.
Like, 'cause I don't really keep my eye on the whole pound thing.
I think the miscommunication came about because
when she was talking pounds, I was thinking dollars.
And so the math, just in math.
I'm sure she did tell me numbers at one point,
but they didn't stick with me.
Honestly, I'm a bit confused still,
uh, but the bottom line is we're 6,000 pounds short.
I didn't sell my car.
And, I mean, now it's, like, kind of too late
to go and sell it and do all the paperwork for it, and, like...
It doesn't matter.
So the issue is that we need the money.
[Dempsey speaking]
Oh, God. Bumpy start.
I haven't even left yet,
and things are already tense between Dempsey and I.
When you look at it, like, factually,
with such different personalities and different needs.
What's gonna happen when we're together twenty-four-seven
and on top of each other and living in the middle of nowhere?
I'll see if I can come up with a couple of thousand.
Yeah.
[Statler] And now, we have to come up with all this extra cash,
and I'm the one who's gonna have to come up with it.
I'm supposed to get on a plane tomorrow,
and I don't wanna be homeless when I get to England.
And I have nowhere to live, no backup plan.
I am [bleep].
[narrator] Next time on 90 Day Fiance The Other Way.
-What do you want? -Come on, let me show you something.
[Shekinah] Anytime that I'm annoyed,
Sarper just turns on the charm,
but I still need him to show me
that he's ready to be in an adult relationship.
Are you ready for a little pain?
[groans]
The wedding Lily and I had in the US was just her and I.
But now we're gonna have this awesome wedding ceremony for her friends, her family.
You said you want a wedding?
So I said, "Okay."
If you say so.
Hmm.
Maybe she's only in it because I can offer her a van life.
All of my fears and insecurities are coming up.
If thing is to go bad,
I'm going to have no home to go back to
and a severely broken heart.
If everything was to go down the drain once I get to Indonesia,
coming back to the States would be traumatizing.
[speaking other language]
Huh? [speaking other language]