1 00:00:01,931 --> 00:00:03,620 Previously on 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way. 2 00:00:05,724 --> 00:00:08,344 I want to take Armando out of his comfort zone. 3 00:00:08,448 --> 00:00:10,000 Oh my God. 4 00:00:10,103 --> 00:00:13,172 I want to show him that Mexico City has a lot to offer. 5 00:00:19,482 --> 00:00:21,137 What is happening with your bed? 6 00:00:22,137 --> 00:00:23,586 What's wrong with my bed? 7 00:00:23,689 --> 00:00:25,275 Everything. 8 00:00:25,379 --> 00:00:30,206 Sarper told me that he had been with about 2,500 women, 9 00:00:30,310 --> 00:00:33,068 so we need to have a fresh mattress. 10 00:00:33,172 --> 00:00:34,827 I'm not going to sleep there until you get a new one. 11 00:00:45,724 --> 00:00:47,103 Applying for a green card 12 00:00:47,206 --> 00:00:49,965 requires an unbelievable amount of commitment and trust 13 00:00:50,068 --> 00:00:52,862 and I don't feel like we are in a place in our relationship 14 00:00:52,965 --> 00:00:55,379 where we really have that 100% right now. 15 00:00:55,482 --> 00:00:57,965 You have to decide if it's an immigrant visa 16 00:00:58,068 --> 00:00:59,965 or if it's a non-immigrant visa. 17 00:01:02,379 --> 00:01:06,275 I've given up everything to marry the love of my life 18 00:01:06,379 --> 00:01:08,862 and he breaks up with me at 2:00 in the morning. 19 00:01:39,689 --> 00:01:42,137 Oh my God. Babe? 20 00:01:43,206 --> 00:01:44,655 What's the matter? 21 00:01:49,965 --> 00:01:51,000 'Cause of the couch? 22 00:01:54,137 --> 00:01:57,827 It was a dream night. I mean, she is so hot 23 00:01:57,931 --> 00:01:59,896 and I missed her too much. 24 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:02,758 I mean, even on that couch. 25 00:02:04,206 --> 00:02:07,586 I think that we're the most sexually compatible 26 00:02:07,689 --> 00:02:09,172 I could ever imagine. 27 00:02:09,275 --> 00:02:11,689 It's passion, it's electric. 28 00:02:11,793 --> 00:02:14,206 Neighbors are complaining because of the noise. 29 00:02:15,827 --> 00:02:18,448 - Where does your back hurt? Where does it hurt? - Yeah. There. 30 00:02:18,551 --> 00:02:19,344 - Back here? - Yeah. 31 00:02:24,068 --> 00:02:25,344 I said, "We are not watching." 32 00:02:32,344 --> 00:02:34,931 - It was so difficult to sleep there. - Okay, well-- 33 00:02:35,034 --> 00:02:38,068 It is so small, you know? I'm a big guy. 34 00:02:38,172 --> 00:02:40,034 You should have got a bed before I got here. 35 00:02:40,137 --> 00:02:42,344 I thought that you were joking about that. 36 00:02:42,448 --> 00:02:44,379 It's not even funny. 37 00:02:44,482 --> 00:02:47,931 There's been so many people in that bed, which is disgusting to me. 38 00:02:48,034 --> 00:02:50,137 I want to sage this whole place, actually. 39 00:02:50,758 --> 00:02:51,931 What's that? 40 00:02:52,034 --> 00:02:54,034 You burn sage and it gets rid of all the bad energy 41 00:02:54,137 --> 00:02:56,034 and, like, whatever was in here before me. 42 00:02:57,310 --> 00:03:01,103 Saging and like, metaphysical things are pretty big in LA 43 00:03:01,206 --> 00:03:04,034 so this seems like a very appropriate time 44 00:03:04,137 --> 00:03:10,000 to get rid of all those evil spirits and bring in new vibes. 45 00:03:10,103 --> 00:03:12,586 Now we can sage the whole house. 46 00:03:12,689 --> 00:03:14,275 I actually want to sage you first. 47 00:03:15,275 --> 00:03:16,344 No need for that. 48 00:03:16,448 --> 00:03:18,344 Babe, you need to be saged. 49 00:03:18,448 --> 00:03:20,793 - I'm going to sage you. - Oh my God. 50 00:03:20,896 --> 00:03:22,448 I think you should pull your pants down. 51 00:03:22,551 --> 00:03:24,551 - Really? - Yeah. We need a lot of sage right here. 52 00:03:38,827 --> 00:03:41,034 - No. - Please. 53 00:03:41,137 --> 00:03:43,275 I didn't just do that so that we could sleep in the bed. 54 00:03:43,379 --> 00:03:44,551 It's not going to help. 55 00:03:44,655 --> 00:03:47,827 Sleep on me. I will lay down on the bed and sleep on me. 56 00:03:47,931 --> 00:03:49,172 - I'm okay with that. - That's ridiculous. 57 00:03:49,275 --> 00:03:50,413 - Yes. - No. 58 00:03:51,068 --> 00:03:52,103 That's crazy. 59 00:03:58,034 --> 00:03:59,068 - Do I want you to weigh me? - Yeah. 60 00:04:00,137 --> 00:04:01,206 You know your target. 61 00:04:03,068 --> 00:04:04,965 - What was it? - 128. 62 00:04:07,517 --> 00:04:11,655 When Sarper asked me what my weight was while I was still in the US, 63 00:04:11,758 --> 00:04:12,896 I kind of brushed it off. 64 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:15,517 I felt like, you know, he's just a personal trainer. 65 00:04:15,620 --> 00:04:18,793 He's just asking that 'cause he probably asks all of his clients that 66 00:04:18,896 --> 00:04:22,310 but it's a whole another story now that I'm in Tuürkiye. 67 00:04:22,413 --> 00:04:24,137 He's actually weighing me. 68 00:04:24,241 --> 00:04:28,068 I'm just starting to wonder if this is, like, something I should be concerned about. 69 00:04:28,172 --> 00:04:29,827 Is this going to be a daily thing? 70 00:04:30,689 --> 00:04:31,655 I don't know. 71 00:04:32,206 --> 00:04:33,862 Come on. Let's see. 72 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:37,241 - Wait. - Ooh. 73 00:04:37,344 --> 00:04:39,620 - Sixty kilograms. - How much is that in pounds? 74 00:04:39,724 --> 00:04:42,068 - 132. - That can't be right. 75 00:04:42,172 --> 00:04:43,241 It is right. 76 00:04:43,344 --> 00:04:45,793 - It keeps changing. It's not right. - Yeah. 77 00:04:45,896 --> 00:04:47,862 - 132? - Four pounds off. 78 00:04:47,965 --> 00:04:48,827 Oh my God. 79 00:04:48,931 --> 00:04:51,034 She loves to be muscular. 80 00:04:51,137 --> 00:04:53,482 I mean, I don't like women to be muscular 81 00:04:53,586 --> 00:04:56,068 and I put a target for her 82 00:04:56,172 --> 00:04:58,793 because I know if she comes to that target, 83 00:04:58,896 --> 00:05:01,241 she will have the physique that I want. 84 00:05:10,137 --> 00:05:11,551 Well, I'm going to go get ready. 85 00:05:11,655 --> 00:05:13,275 What will you wear? 86 00:05:13,379 --> 00:05:16,000 - So I have this skirt, right here. - What's that? 87 00:05:16,896 --> 00:05:19,724 And then I have this leather top. 88 00:05:19,827 --> 00:05:22,103 No, no, no. Too short, babe. 89 00:05:22,206 --> 00:05:24,275 This dress is long, though. Maybe you'll like this. 90 00:05:24,379 --> 00:05:25,724 Oh my God. 91 00:05:25,827 --> 00:05:28,206 - It's pretty long. - Yeah, that's cool. That's cool. I like it. 92 00:05:28,310 --> 00:05:29,620 Okay. 93 00:05:29,724 --> 00:05:31,551 I like it, but it can be a little cold, so you have to take-- 94 00:05:31,655 --> 00:05:32,896 Oh, I have a couple of jackets. 95 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:34,862 I could wear this one with it or this one. 96 00:05:34,965 --> 00:05:35,896 Which one do you like? 97 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:38,862 Put it there. Let me see. 98 00:05:38,965 --> 00:05:41,551 That one or this metallic one. 99 00:05:41,655 --> 00:05:42,862 - The lighter. - The lighter? 100 00:05:42,965 --> 00:05:44,034 - Yeah. - Okay. 101 00:05:44,137 --> 00:05:46,206 Okay, so I'll wear that. 102 00:05:46,310 --> 00:05:48,172 One of the first times that I noticed 103 00:05:48,275 --> 00:05:51,103 Sarper had an eye for, like, all things beauty-related 104 00:05:51,206 --> 00:05:54,000 was when we were staying in the hotel together. 105 00:05:54,103 --> 00:05:58,137 It was really surprising, because he actually, like, had a vision for me. 106 00:05:58,241 --> 00:06:01,344 - He knew I would look better with lighter hair. - Mmm-hmm. 107 00:06:01,448 --> 00:06:04,482 Longer hair. He always untucks this side. 108 00:06:04,586 --> 00:06:06,379 It needs to be untucked at all times. 109 00:06:06,482 --> 00:06:09,344 And I just thought it was so cute. I actually loved it. 110 00:06:09,448 --> 00:06:13,379 Because you are my dream girl and I want to make it perfect. 111 00:06:13,482 --> 00:06:14,655 I love that. 112 00:06:14,758 --> 00:06:16,965 But sometimes, she's not listening to me. 113 00:06:17,068 --> 00:06:20,448 - Well, babe, I-- - I have complaints about that. 114 00:06:20,551 --> 00:06:23,896 I always say, don't use that pink stuff on your eyelashes. 115 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:25,103 - It's just eye shadow. - I don't like it. 116 00:06:28,482 --> 00:06:30,275 Here we go. This is what you chose. 117 00:06:30,379 --> 00:06:31,344 Perfect. 118 00:06:31,448 --> 00:06:32,689 - You like it? - Yeah. 119 00:06:32,793 --> 00:06:33,689 Okay. 120 00:06:33,793 --> 00:06:34,965 Turn around. 121 00:06:35,068 --> 00:06:35,931 Oh my God. 122 00:06:36,827 --> 00:06:38,275 - You look gorgeous, you know? - Thanks. 123 00:06:38,931 --> 00:06:40,172 You look sexy, babe. 124 00:06:40,275 --> 00:06:42,965 Babe, what about makeup? 125 00:06:43,068 --> 00:06:45,000 What about it? 126 00:06:45,103 --> 00:06:46,448 Don't touch it. 127 00:06:46,551 --> 00:06:48,448 You look so pale. 128 00:06:48,551 --> 00:06:50,827 A little blush, huh? 129 00:06:50,931 --> 00:06:52,758 - A little. - I cannot believe you. 130 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:55,310 Even when it kind of gets annoying 131 00:06:55,413 --> 00:06:57,137 that Sarper's telling me every little detail 132 00:06:57,241 --> 00:06:59,241 about how I should dress or look, 133 00:06:59,344 --> 00:07:01,931 I just let it go and I let him have those things 134 00:07:02,034 --> 00:07:04,965 because we have bigger issues to deal with. 135 00:07:05,068 --> 00:07:08,620 There's a few things I told Sarper he needed to do once I moved here 136 00:07:08,724 --> 00:07:11,620 and since he completely disregarded one of them, 137 00:07:11,724 --> 00:07:13,034 which was getting a new bed, 138 00:07:13,137 --> 00:07:15,275 I want to make sure that he's willing to do the other things 139 00:07:15,379 --> 00:07:16,344 that we talked about. 140 00:07:17,379 --> 00:07:18,344 - Get your keys. - My princess. 141 00:07:18,448 --> 00:07:19,620 - Get your keys. - My princess. 142 00:12:10,379 --> 00:12:13,931 I, you know, would love to have a child with Kenny 143 00:12:14,034 --> 00:12:16,103 and if it's not going to happen, I just want to know now, 144 00:12:16,206 --> 00:12:17,482 so I can stop having hopes. 145 00:12:18,172 --> 00:12:19,655 I was leaning towards no. 146 00:12:22,862 --> 00:12:23,965 I promise I can do this. 147 00:12:25,103 --> 00:12:26,724 TJ, you're everything to me. 148 00:12:55,793 --> 00:12:58,793 - All right, let's get this stuff and take it. - Let's get going. 149 00:12:58,896 --> 00:13:01,275 I think, yeah. Take this. Ready? 150 00:13:02,965 --> 00:13:05,206 We've been in Mexico City for the last six weeks 151 00:13:05,310 --> 00:13:07,379 and now it's time to head back home to La Mision. 152 00:13:08,724 --> 00:13:10,206 That's fine. 153 00:13:10,310 --> 00:13:12,758 I am surprised at how quick these last weeks went. 154 00:13:12,862 --> 00:13:15,620 Uh, time flew, we had a lot of fun and I really enjoyed myself. 155 00:13:18,275 --> 00:13:19,620 When we were coming to Mexico City, 156 00:13:19,724 --> 00:13:23,793 I had this idea that Mexico City was dangerous all around 157 00:13:23,896 --> 00:13:27,724 so I was pleasantly surprised to feel safe in the areas we were 158 00:13:27,827 --> 00:13:29,000 and I leave happy. 159 00:13:37,655 --> 00:13:41,275 Well, now that we're leaving, I guess I'm kind of, I'm feeling it. 160 00:13:41,379 --> 00:13:42,931 I had a good time. 161 00:13:43,034 --> 00:13:44,206 You're kind of on board, now. 162 00:13:44,310 --> 00:13:46,620 I, I am. 163 00:13:46,724 --> 00:13:48,586 I mean, I admit I liked it. 164 00:13:48,689 --> 00:13:51,172 I guess I've just got to step out of, you know, 165 00:13:51,275 --> 00:13:54,000 just being in my closed little world 166 00:13:54,103 --> 00:13:55,620 and, you know, give it a chance. 167 00:13:55,724 --> 00:13:59,551 And I did a lot of thinking and said, do you know what? Just go for it. 168 00:13:59,655 --> 00:14:03,482 It's an experience. He's been right about a lot of things. 169 00:14:03,586 --> 00:14:07,310 - A lot of things? Most. - Yes. Well, most. 170 00:14:07,413 --> 00:14:09,344 It was a good little trial, you know. 171 00:14:10,310 --> 00:14:12,965 Yay. See how you came along? 172 00:14:14,413 --> 00:14:17,448 My strategy on a trial run totally worked. 173 00:14:17,551 --> 00:14:20,517 I'm super excited that we're going to be moving here to Mexico City. 174 00:14:21,620 --> 00:14:23,862 We're just waiting for Hannah's school year to end 175 00:14:23,965 --> 00:14:26,724 and then we're going to have everything packed up and we're moving. 176 00:14:28,896 --> 00:14:30,551 I never in my life would have dreamed 177 00:14:30,655 --> 00:14:32,862 that I would be living in Mexico City. 178 00:14:32,965 --> 00:14:35,862 I never thought I'd be living in Mexico and here I am. 179 00:14:35,965 --> 00:14:38,103 I, you're right on that. 180 00:14:38,206 --> 00:14:39,586 The things you do for love. 181 00:14:41,896 --> 00:14:43,000 - True. - Right? 182 00:14:43,931 --> 00:14:44,965 Yes. 183 00:14:58,689 --> 00:15:00,862 I just talked to Taylor not long ago. 184 00:15:00,965 --> 00:15:04,034 - I had a video call. - The last call you had, yeah. 185 00:15:04,137 --> 00:15:06,344 And I told her about 186 00:15:09,137 --> 00:15:10,655 the surrogacy 187 00:15:10,758 --> 00:15:13,931 and that I was leaning towards no. 188 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:16,000 Yeah. 189 00:15:17,517 --> 00:15:22,551 I know for Kenny, it's harder, the idea of pursuing surrogacy 190 00:15:22,655 --> 00:15:25,551 because he has grown children and he's far past that. 191 00:15:25,655 --> 00:15:29,413 And I understand where Kenny's coming from when it comes to his age, 192 00:15:29,517 --> 00:15:32,172 but I get very excited 193 00:15:32,275 --> 00:15:35,689 and I, you know, would love to have a child with Kenny 194 00:15:35,793 --> 00:15:36,896 and if it's not going to happen, 195 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:39,655 I just want to know now so I can stop having hopes 196 00:15:39,758 --> 00:15:41,448 and not continue being hurt. 197 00:15:45,206 --> 00:15:49,689 Have you changed your thoughts on surrogacy? 198 00:15:55,793 --> 00:16:01,275 Um, I kind of had sort of like an epiphany or something. 199 00:16:03,275 --> 00:16:07,482 If I wasn't my age, it would be without a question that we would have a baby. 200 00:16:07,586 --> 00:16:08,689 I wouldn't even question it. 201 00:16:08,793 --> 00:16:10,758 We probably would have already had one by now. 202 00:16:12,931 --> 00:16:14,551 So the epiphany is kind of, is 203 00:16:16,379 --> 00:16:17,862 why should I say no? 204 00:16:17,965 --> 00:16:19,448 Because I want to do it. 205 00:16:19,551 --> 00:16:21,758 I want to do it deep in my heart 206 00:16:21,862 --> 00:16:23,620 and I can't let the age be a factor, 207 00:16:23,724 --> 00:16:28,344 because I can't foresee the future. I don't have a crystal ball. 208 00:16:30,827 --> 00:16:32,724 I want your dreams to be fulfilled. 209 00:16:32,827 --> 00:16:36,689 I want every dream to be fulfilled that is possibly possible. 210 00:16:36,793 --> 00:16:38,068 And if I can do that, 211 00:16:39,206 --> 00:16:40,931 then I want to do it for you. 212 00:16:45,103 --> 00:16:48,344 Oh my God. Just makes me so, so happy. You have no idea. 213 00:16:51,689 --> 00:16:55,034 I came to the decision about surrogacy in the middle of the night. 214 00:16:55,137 --> 00:16:57,620 I was really up all night thinking about it 215 00:16:57,724 --> 00:16:59,655 and I told Armando I would have an answer for him 216 00:16:59,758 --> 00:17:01,586 by the time we left Mexico City. 217 00:17:02,931 --> 00:17:03,827 I... 218 00:17:07,034 --> 00:17:08,448 Um... 219 00:17:08,551 --> 00:17:11,137 I've never let anything in my life stop me before. 220 00:17:12,551 --> 00:17:17,448 I never let unknowns or hurdles get in the way of something. 221 00:17:18,000 --> 00:17:19,172 It's scary as hell, 222 00:17:20,379 --> 00:17:22,448 but I know I can do anything. 223 00:17:22,551 --> 00:17:25,965 And having Armando by my side with this, 224 00:17:26,068 --> 00:17:27,862 it's possible 225 00:17:27,965 --> 00:17:31,000 and I want to fulfil that for him and us, 226 00:17:31,103 --> 00:17:32,448 so I want to go through with surrogacy. 227 00:17:35,137 --> 00:17:36,965 There's a lot of unknowns with this, I know, 228 00:17:37,068 --> 00:17:39,344 and I am very nervous, 229 00:17:39,448 --> 00:17:42,689 but I'm excited to start this journey with you 230 00:17:42,793 --> 00:17:44,758 and we're going to have the cutest baby, the cutest family. 231 00:18:02,344 --> 00:18:03,344 So this is it? 232 00:18:58,137 --> 00:18:59,137 I [bleep] up a lot. 233 00:19:00,103 --> 00:19:03,275 I'm not going to say I don't. I do. 234 00:19:03,379 --> 00:19:07,793 I just, I wanted you to understand how I felt in that moment. 235 00:19:07,896 --> 00:19:12,344 And I'm sorry if I made you feel like this wasn't salvageable. 236 00:19:12,448 --> 00:19:13,482 I'm sorry. 237 00:19:14,482 --> 00:19:16,965 I love you. Like, from the bottom of my heart. 238 00:19:38,965 --> 00:19:40,965 TJ, I don't want to end this 239 00:19:42,724 --> 00:19:44,689 because of some stupid fights. 240 00:19:46,827 --> 00:19:48,758 You're the only one I'll ever want to marry. 241 00:19:48,862 --> 00:19:50,793 You're the only one I can see my future with. 242 00:20:11,206 --> 00:20:12,965 I, I know. 243 00:20:13,068 --> 00:20:15,586 And I'm sorry I didn't treat this relationship better. 244 00:20:16,896 --> 00:20:19,448 Honestly, I didn't think you would break up with me 245 00:20:19,551 --> 00:20:21,896 because every time I tried to run, 246 00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:23,724 you'd be like, it's up to you. 247 00:20:23,827 --> 00:20:25,241 You do what you want. It's up to you. 248 00:20:25,344 --> 00:20:27,241 So I guess I figured subconsciously 249 00:20:27,344 --> 00:20:29,931 that you would never break up with me. 250 00:20:34,620 --> 00:20:37,827 You touched me, like, in a way that 251 00:20:37,931 --> 00:20:42,551 I can't do anything without having your influence in it. 252 00:20:42,655 --> 00:20:44,793 You taught me that I could believe in myself 253 00:20:44,896 --> 00:20:47,172 and TJ, you're everything to me. 254 00:20:47,275 --> 00:20:49,931 When I say that you're everything, you're everything. 255 00:20:52,620 --> 00:20:55,551 I want to give this a fair shot and I don't think I have. 256 00:20:57,068 --> 00:21:00,310 And if you can forgive me at some point in the future, 257 00:21:00,413 --> 00:21:02,862 I'd really like to prove to you that I can do this. 258 00:21:04,310 --> 00:21:05,206 I can do this. 259 00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:11,344 I promise I can do this. 260 00:21:57,448 --> 00:21:58,862 Okay. 261 00:21:58,965 --> 00:22:00,655 So there's a future? 262 00:22:12,517 --> 00:22:14,000 - Okay. - Yeah. 263 00:22:25,965 --> 00:22:28,586 I don't know what I would do if I lost TJ at this point, 264 00:22:28,689 --> 00:22:33,413 'cause all of the futures I see are me and him together. 265 00:22:33,517 --> 00:22:39,517 So I feel like there's so much that I would do just to keep him around. 266 00:22:39,620 --> 00:22:42,827 And if that means sucking up to his family, 267 00:22:43,827 --> 00:22:44,655 I'll do it. 268 00:22:50,758 --> 00:22:54,310 I love you, um, and I guess we'll see you in a little bit. 269 00:23:00,862 --> 00:23:02,965 I smile every time I look at your face. 270 00:23:08,379 --> 00:23:10,551 I've dealt with this exact thing. 271 00:23:10,655 --> 00:23:13,172 - Guys wanting my account private - With whom? 272 00:23:13,275 --> 00:23:15,448 and not wanting me to post the relationship. 273 00:23:15,551 --> 00:23:18,000 You don't want certain women to see me. 274 00:23:18,103 --> 00:23:20,000 I've dated controlling guys. 275 00:23:20,103 --> 00:23:21,931 They always want to hide relationships 276 00:23:22,034 --> 00:23:24,758 so they can continue to be players on the side. 277 00:23:24,862 --> 00:23:27,034 So I'm not going to fall for this. 278 00:23:27,137 --> 00:23:29,689 You're being shady. This is player behavior. 279 00:23:57,586 --> 00:23:58,413 Oh, my God. 280 00:24:00,068 --> 00:24:01,068 I'm so excited. 281 00:24:02,793 --> 00:24:05,241 It is Shekinah's second day living in Istanbul 282 00:24:05,344 --> 00:24:07,758 and I'm taking her to Grand Bazaar. 283 00:24:10,344 --> 00:24:11,827 Babe, you like it? 284 00:24:11,931 --> 00:24:13,793 I love it. It's so amazing. 285 00:24:24,827 --> 00:24:25,620 Wow. 286 00:24:25,724 --> 00:24:28,206 - Look at the detail. - Yeah. 287 00:24:28,310 --> 00:24:29,344 It's incredible. 288 00:24:30,586 --> 00:24:33,689 The Grand Bazaar is just full of different smells, 289 00:24:33,793 --> 00:24:35,275 different, like, textures. 290 00:24:35,379 --> 00:24:36,896 There's all these handmade items. 291 00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:39,586 There's so many Turkish delights. 292 00:24:39,689 --> 00:24:42,379 It's just such a melting pot of different-- 293 00:24:42,482 --> 00:24:44,448 - I am your Turkish delight. - You are. 294 00:24:45,241 --> 00:24:46,482 The most delicious. 295 00:24:47,413 --> 00:24:50,931 Oh my God. This is so beautiful. 296 00:24:51,034 --> 00:24:52,965 - We have to get a picture here, babe. - Okay. 297 00:24:53,068 --> 00:24:55,068 Okay. Let's get a cute picture. 298 00:24:55,724 --> 00:24:56,724 Kiss me. 299 00:24:59,034 --> 00:25:00,482 - Yeah. - So cute. 300 00:25:00,586 --> 00:25:01,586 - I love it. - I love it. 301 00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:05,206 I am just going to edit this 'cause I want to post it. 302 00:25:06,482 --> 00:25:08,034 You're going to post it? 303 00:25:08,137 --> 00:25:10,206 All right. Yeah, I want to post one. 304 00:25:10,310 --> 00:25:11,379 Don't do that, please. 305 00:25:12,896 --> 00:25:14,862 After Sarper and I started dating, 306 00:25:14,965 --> 00:25:19,137 I wanted to post pictures or videos of us on social media. 307 00:25:19,241 --> 00:25:21,517 He told me, "Wait until we're together." 308 00:25:21,620 --> 00:25:23,448 "Things are going to happen once you post that." 309 00:25:23,551 --> 00:25:25,827 "Women are going to come forward and say certain things." 310 00:25:25,931 --> 00:25:28,000 "And I just want to be with you when it happens." 311 00:25:28,103 --> 00:25:32,827 He says he's trying to protect me, but I just don't buy it. 312 00:25:32,931 --> 00:25:34,689 To me, that seems shady. 313 00:25:34,793 --> 00:25:38,448 And it just makes it look like he's not taking this seriously. 314 00:25:39,827 --> 00:25:43,241 I don't know why you are obsessed with posting anything. 315 00:25:43,344 --> 00:25:45,344 I don't know why you're obsessed with not posting. 316 00:25:48,275 --> 00:25:49,931 - Right. - Okay. 317 00:25:50,034 --> 00:25:51,103 - What's wrong with that? - Everyone can see you. 318 00:25:52,137 --> 00:25:54,517 So when you post something, 319 00:25:54,620 --> 00:25:57,000 someone can say something about that. 320 00:25:57,103 --> 00:25:59,034 - Who is someone? - I don't know. 321 00:26:00,758 --> 00:26:02,068 It sounds like you know. 322 00:26:02,172 --> 00:26:05,000 - It sounds like you have someone in mind. - No-one in particular. 323 00:26:05,103 --> 00:26:07,551 There are a lot of girls, you know that. 324 00:26:07,655 --> 00:26:10,000 This is getting me really, like, triggered right now. 325 00:26:10,103 --> 00:26:13,793 - Why? - 'Cause I've dealt with it a lot, with this exact thing. 326 00:26:13,896 --> 00:26:16,517 - Guys wanting my account private. - With whom? 327 00:26:16,620 --> 00:26:18,620 And not wanting me to post the relationship. 328 00:26:18,724 --> 00:26:20,034 I know exactly what it means. 329 00:26:21,068 --> 00:26:22,793 You don't want certain women to see me. 330 00:26:26,551 --> 00:26:28,103 This has happened to me before. 331 00:26:28,206 --> 00:26:29,620 I've dated controlling guys. 332 00:26:29,724 --> 00:26:31,827 They want, you know, your account private 333 00:26:31,931 --> 00:26:33,931 so no girls can creep on your page. 334 00:26:34,034 --> 00:26:37,241 They can't see, you know, that they're liking your stuff. 335 00:26:37,344 --> 00:26:39,344 They always want to hide relationships 336 00:26:39,448 --> 00:26:41,862 so they can continue to be players on the side. 337 00:26:41,965 --> 00:26:44,103 I mean, he's slept with thousands of women, 338 00:26:44,206 --> 00:26:46,448 so I'm not going to fall for this. 339 00:26:46,551 --> 00:26:48,551 It sounds like you're leaving doors open 340 00:26:48,655 --> 00:26:50,758 and you need to be closing all those doors. 341 00:26:50,862 --> 00:26:53,793 - It's so weird. - Babe, I'm trying to protect you. 342 00:26:53,896 --> 00:26:55,137 - Not myself. - From what? 343 00:26:55,241 --> 00:26:57,379 - About you. - What are you afraid they're going to say? 344 00:26:57,482 --> 00:26:59,206 That they were with you, like, last week? 345 00:26:59,310 --> 00:27:03,137 - No. No, not like this. Not like that. - Like what? 346 00:27:03,241 --> 00:27:04,896 Do they think they're in a relationship with you? 347 00:27:06,379 --> 00:27:07,413 Yeah, in past. 348 00:27:07,517 --> 00:27:08,965 Not relationship. 349 00:27:09,068 --> 00:27:10,206 They want to know what I am doing. 350 00:27:19,896 --> 00:27:24,310 Okay, she is right. I slept with over 2,500 girls. 351 00:27:24,413 --> 00:27:28,689 Most of them were one night stands. Nothing serious, you know? 352 00:27:28,793 --> 00:27:31,827 But some of them are connected too much 353 00:27:31,931 --> 00:27:33,620 with the man that they slept with. 354 00:27:49,413 --> 00:27:51,034 Why should I have to change my account 355 00:27:51,137 --> 00:27:55,758 because you can't make it clear to people that you're in a relationship? 356 00:27:55,862 --> 00:27:58,137 - You need to post our relationship, actually. - Want to understand me. 357 00:27:58,241 --> 00:28:00,068 Because this is not okay. 358 00:28:00,172 --> 00:28:01,689 What do you want? 359 00:28:01,793 --> 00:28:04,896 Just a picture of us. Just to show you're in a relationship with me. 360 00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:06,413 Why? 361 00:28:06,517 --> 00:28:09,103 Because there's people that think that they have a chance with you. 362 00:28:11,103 --> 00:28:13,275 If you want me to trust you, you need to do that. 363 00:28:14,689 --> 00:28:15,862 I moved here for you. 364 00:28:15,965 --> 00:28:16,827 I know. 365 00:28:16,931 --> 00:28:18,689 And you can't even make a post for me. 366 00:28:20,620 --> 00:28:22,275 - Is it that important for you? - Yes. 367 00:28:24,793 --> 00:28:26,896 'Cause it makes me feel like you're not honest. 368 00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:33,517 I don't want to be a secret. I don't want to be hidden. 369 00:28:33,620 --> 00:28:35,034 You are not. 370 00:28:35,137 --> 00:28:37,482 I feel like if you're with me, you should be proud to be with me. 371 00:28:37,586 --> 00:28:41,310 And his resistance to it just raises alarms in my head. 372 00:28:41,413 --> 00:28:45,137 Like why does he want to look single on his social media? 373 00:28:45,241 --> 00:28:47,896 I just want to protect you, babe. That's the point. 374 00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:51,413 - I don't need you to-- - I just want to protect you from other girls. 375 00:28:51,517 --> 00:28:53,413 - I can handle myself. - That's going to harm you. 376 00:28:53,517 --> 00:28:55,862 That can say something bad about me 377 00:28:56,965 --> 00:28:59,344 that can harm our relationship with you, 378 00:28:59,448 --> 00:29:05,000 because I'm so scared to lose you sometimes. 379 00:29:05,103 --> 00:29:07,379 But what if you lose me because you didn't make the posts? 380 00:29:09,482 --> 00:29:10,931 You need to think about that, too. 381 00:29:11,034 --> 00:29:12,034 It's a minor thing, babe. 382 00:29:12,137 --> 00:29:13,241 To lose me is a minor thing? 383 00:29:13,344 --> 00:29:14,793 No, no, no. 384 00:29:14,896 --> 00:29:20,344 It's not a reason to lose such a relationship, such a unique one. 385 00:29:20,448 --> 00:29:22,482 If it's such a minor thing, then why can't you do it? 386 00:29:26,620 --> 00:29:28,931 I had no serious relationship, okay? 387 00:29:29,034 --> 00:29:30,517 I'm getting used to it. 388 00:29:30,620 --> 00:29:32,620 You know what? I would be fine with that 389 00:29:32,724 --> 00:29:34,586 if there wasn't this other issue 390 00:29:34,689 --> 00:29:36,793 of you being afraid of all these women 391 00:29:36,896 --> 00:29:38,103 that are going to reach out to me. 392 00:29:38,206 --> 00:29:40,379 You're being shady. This is player behavior. 393 00:29:46,172 --> 00:29:50,103 Buying a car with $30,000 is not a sound financial decision. 394 00:29:55,241 --> 00:29:59,517 If Yohan thinks that he has an American wife who's going to support him, 395 00:29:59,620 --> 00:30:01,000 then he's picked the wrong American. 396 00:30:01,724 --> 00:30:02,965 It's not your [bleep] money. 397 00:30:29,137 --> 00:30:30,034 You ready? 398 00:30:33,448 --> 00:30:36,517 Yohan's kind of had an attitude lately about how we live. 399 00:30:36,620 --> 00:30:38,827 He would much prefer to own everything 400 00:30:38,931 --> 00:30:40,896 and he thinks that I waste a lot of money on renting. 401 00:30:42,034 --> 00:30:43,551 I understand that we need a car, 402 00:30:43,655 --> 00:30:50,551 I just wonder if it's, like, more financially responsible to rent 403 00:30:50,655 --> 00:30:52,931 and, like, save money for something else that we want. 404 00:30:54,655 --> 00:30:58,034 Today, we're going to go check out a car that Yohan wants to buy. 405 00:30:58,137 --> 00:31:00,482 I feel like it's not the first thing 406 00:31:00,586 --> 00:31:02,931 that we should be investing our money in. 407 00:31:03,034 --> 00:31:07,000 But I am always going to go and look at the things he wants to look at. 408 00:31:08,206 --> 00:31:09,344 And who knows. 409 00:31:09,448 --> 00:31:11,586 Like, maybe we'll find a really good deal on a car 410 00:31:11,689 --> 00:31:13,000 and we'll find something that we want. 411 00:31:52,137 --> 00:31:53,241 $29,000. 412 00:32:26,103 --> 00:32:27,068 It doesn't start. 413 00:32:36,241 --> 00:32:37,206 But it's a good car. 414 00:32:43,310 --> 00:32:44,517 $32,000. 415 00:32:45,275 --> 00:32:46,310 $32,000. 416 00:32:47,689 --> 00:32:49,551 I really like my cars with batteries. 417 00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:55,000 Is this guy really serious trying to sell me a car that doesn't turn on? 418 00:32:55,103 --> 00:32:56,655 Like, you think I'm going to hand you $30,000 419 00:32:56,758 --> 00:32:58,482 and not tell you to turn the car on? 420 00:32:58,586 --> 00:33:01,862 Like, maybe you can get someone else to fall for this, but not me. I'm from New York. 421 00:33:08,758 --> 00:33:12,206 It costs us $30 a day to rent a car in the Dominican Republic. 422 00:33:12,931 --> 00:33:14,517 We don't need a car every day, 423 00:33:14,620 --> 00:33:16,137 so if we have that money, 424 00:33:16,241 --> 00:33:19,793 we should use that to invest in a house or an egg donor. 425 00:33:19,896 --> 00:33:21,482 This is not the best way to use that money. 426 00:33:55,172 --> 00:33:57,827 There's an expression that your eyes are bigger than your stomach. 427 00:33:57,931 --> 00:34:01,137 I feel like Yohan's eyes are bigger than his bank account. 428 00:34:16,172 --> 00:34:19,862 I make sound financial decisions at this stage in my life. 429 00:34:19,965 --> 00:34:23,827 And buying a car with $30,000 that I don't have 430 00:34:23,931 --> 00:34:27,206 is not an example of a sound financial decision. 431 00:34:27,310 --> 00:34:28,931 You think it's a sound financial decision 432 00:34:29,034 --> 00:34:31,034 because it's not your money. 433 00:34:31,137 --> 00:34:33,896 When it's your money, you think differently. 434 00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:36,068 You don't even want to pay for light. 435 00:34:36,172 --> 00:34:38,689 You run around the house turning the air off and we [bleep] die 436 00:34:38,793 --> 00:34:40,034 because you don't want to pay for electricity. 437 00:34:40,137 --> 00:34:41,551 You think it's too expensive. 438 00:34:41,655 --> 00:34:42,724 Let's be real. 439 00:35:34,758 --> 00:35:35,931 Are you going to buy Amazon? 440 00:35:36,034 --> 00:35:37,379 Like, what the are you going to do 441 00:35:37,482 --> 00:35:39,034 that you think you're going to pay for everything with no English? 442 00:35:39,482 --> 00:35:40,827 With no English. 443 00:35:42,793 --> 00:35:43,931 You're out of your mind. 444 00:35:47,482 --> 00:35:50,310 If Yohan thinks that he has an American wife 445 00:35:50,413 --> 00:35:53,275 who's going to completely enable him and support him, 446 00:35:53,379 --> 00:35:55,413 then he's picked the wrong American. 447 00:35:55,517 --> 00:35:58,413 I am not interested in having a kept man. I've made that very clear. 448 00:36:02,034 --> 00:36:03,758 I don't even know what else to say. 449 00:36:03,862 --> 00:36:05,379 Like, you're crazy. 450 00:36:05,482 --> 00:36:07,517 No, I am not paying for everything here. 451 00:36:07,620 --> 00:36:09,344 No, we're not going to go to the United States. 452 00:36:09,448 --> 00:36:12,517 Neither of those are possible, so come up with a different idea. 453 00:36:19,689 --> 00:36:21,482 You're pushing a lot. I don't know. 454 00:36:21,586 --> 00:36:23,586 - You're the one suggesting that. - If you do it, yeah. 455 00:36:23,689 --> 00:36:26,413 My friends and family told me to look out for red flags 456 00:36:26,517 --> 00:36:30,793 and right now, Sarper looks like a giant red flag. 457 00:36:30,896 --> 00:36:33,413 Like, the sign could not be more clear. 458 00:36:33,517 --> 00:36:35,206 He's not ready to commit. 459 00:37:04,344 --> 00:37:06,931 I did not think that Sarper was going to fight me this much 460 00:37:07,034 --> 00:37:08,655 about posting on social media. 461 00:37:10,482 --> 00:37:14,448 I mean, I do recognize all the changes he has made for me, 462 00:37:14,551 --> 00:37:19,103 but given Sarper's past, it makes him totally look like he's hiding something. 463 00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:25,896 No, go ahead. 464 00:37:36,620 --> 00:37:39,068 Are you just going to be on your phone, like the whole boat ride? 465 00:37:43,586 --> 00:37:45,034 Are you that mad? 466 00:37:45,137 --> 00:37:46,758 You're just so mad, you're just not going to talk to me? 467 00:37:46,862 --> 00:37:47,724 I'm not mad, babe. 468 00:37:53,965 --> 00:37:56,379 She is not trusting me about girls. 469 00:37:56,482 --> 00:37:58,241 Believe me, I don't have anything to hide. 470 00:37:59,551 --> 00:38:01,517 That's ridiculous. That's ridiculous. 471 00:38:03,551 --> 00:38:04,931 Are you okay? 472 00:38:05,034 --> 00:38:06,413 - What? - Are you okay? 473 00:38:06,517 --> 00:38:07,551 - Am I okay? - Uh-huh. 474 00:38:09,827 --> 00:38:11,241 I'm fine. Are you okay? 475 00:38:11,344 --> 00:38:12,344 Yeah. 476 00:38:13,137 --> 00:38:14,103 Check your phone. 477 00:38:15,793 --> 00:38:18,068 Why? You just sent me a message? 478 00:38:18,172 --> 00:38:19,896 Check your phone. Check your stories. 479 00:38:21,482 --> 00:38:23,310 - My stories? - Yeah. 480 00:38:27,758 --> 00:38:28,758 Okay. 481 00:38:31,034 --> 00:38:33,379 So you put a picture of us in your stories. 482 00:38:35,172 --> 00:38:36,448 Yeah. 483 00:38:36,551 --> 00:38:39,758 Is this relationship like a 24-hour relationship? 484 00:38:39,862 --> 00:38:41,137 'Cause that's how long a story is. 485 00:38:42,896 --> 00:38:44,724 - Oh my gosh. - Just wondering. 486 00:38:44,827 --> 00:38:46,655 Oh my gosh, Shekinah. 487 00:38:46,758 --> 00:38:49,551 Stories are for, like, moments. 488 00:38:49,655 --> 00:38:52,068 They're for, like, short little moments in your life. 489 00:38:52,172 --> 00:38:54,724 - Yeah. - That aren't lasting. They're just fleeting. 490 00:38:54,827 --> 00:38:56,689 If you want to make a statement 491 00:38:56,793 --> 00:38:58,896 and say this is something real and-- 492 00:39:02,862 --> 00:39:04,862 - I feel like you decided. - In a short time-- 493 00:39:04,965 --> 00:39:08,103 - And you decided to do a story. - Yeah. 494 00:39:08,206 --> 00:39:10,931 - That's not the decision I would hope you would make. - Be happy with it. 495 00:39:11,034 --> 00:39:12,000 It is better than nothing. 496 00:39:15,310 --> 00:39:17,965 I decided to make a surprise for her. 497 00:39:18,068 --> 00:39:22,413 And I shared a photo of us and I put a heart. 498 00:39:22,517 --> 00:39:28,275 I mean, it is an announcement, a public announcement of our love, to everyone. 499 00:39:28,379 --> 00:39:30,965 And you are saying that no, I don't want. 500 00:39:31,068 --> 00:39:32,172 I want post. 501 00:39:34,413 --> 00:39:35,482 What the [bleep]? 502 00:39:36,586 --> 00:39:38,931 I can't make you happy. 503 00:39:39,034 --> 00:39:41,103 - Yes you can. I've told you how. - I can't make you happy. 504 00:39:41,206 --> 00:39:44,068 - I'm doing something for you. I'm trying a lot. - That is so crazy. 505 00:39:44,172 --> 00:39:46,965 - Okay. That, to me, is not trying a lot. - I'm striving. 506 00:39:47,068 --> 00:39:50,068 Moving to a different country for somebody is trying a lot. 507 00:39:50,172 --> 00:39:53,034 Okay, yours is a big sacrifice. I accept that. 508 00:39:53,137 --> 00:39:56,068 But if you compare my life with your past, 509 00:39:57,310 --> 00:39:59,793 the things that I do is more than yours. 510 00:40:03,758 --> 00:40:06,655 - Are you seriously going to bring that up right now? - In my life. You know it. 511 00:40:06,758 --> 00:40:07,689 Yeah. 512 00:40:10,862 --> 00:40:12,137 Yeah? 513 00:40:12,241 --> 00:40:14,724 That does not make me feel special. That makes me sick. 514 00:40:15,275 --> 00:40:16,344 Really? 515 00:40:16,448 --> 00:40:17,827 Yeah, really. 516 00:40:20,896 --> 00:40:25,689 She doesn't really realize what kind of changes or transformation 517 00:40:25,793 --> 00:40:28,137 I am having for her. 518 00:40:28,241 --> 00:40:31,620 I really thought in the beginning it was a one night stand 519 00:40:31,724 --> 00:40:34,586 and look in what condition we are in right now. 520 00:40:34,689 --> 00:40:36,724 She is living with me in Tuürkiye. 521 00:40:36,827 --> 00:40:39,896 I'm improving day by day. And it's so fast. 522 00:40:40,655 --> 00:40:43,620 I want to be more appreciated. 523 00:40:43,724 --> 00:40:46,689 But she's not giving it, unfortunately. 524 00:40:48,137 --> 00:40:49,586 What do you want, babe? 525 00:40:49,689 --> 00:40:51,758 Tell me. You want to go back to your country or something like that, 526 00:40:51,862 --> 00:40:53,275 to leave me? 527 00:40:53,379 --> 00:40:56,068 You're pushing a lot. I don't know. You're the one suggesting that. 528 00:40:59,448 --> 00:41:03,206 I was expecting thank you, love. Thank you, baby. 529 00:41:03,310 --> 00:41:04,275 What a nice photo. 530 00:41:04,379 --> 00:41:06,172 That was our favorite picture. 531 00:41:06,275 --> 00:41:07,137 I was expecting a post. 532 00:41:09,206 --> 00:41:12,068 My friends and family told me to look out for red flags 533 00:41:12,172 --> 00:41:16,758 and right now, Sarper looks like a giant red flag. 534 00:41:16,862 --> 00:41:19,965 He literally has this red blanket wrapped around him 535 00:41:20,068 --> 00:41:21,448 it's blowing in the wind. 536 00:41:21,551 --> 00:41:23,931 Like, the sign could not be more clear. 537 00:41:24,034 --> 00:41:26,172 If he can't do this one small thing for me 538 00:41:26,275 --> 00:41:29,310 after I've moved all the way across the world for him, 539 00:41:29,413 --> 00:41:32,655 then clearly he's not ready to commit. 540 00:41:38,965 --> 00:41:41,517 Still to come on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way. 541 00:41:44,206 --> 00:41:46,586 It just seems like a fairy tale coming true. 542 00:41:46,689 --> 00:41:47,655 I'm gonna be with the man 543 00:41:47,758 --> 00:41:49,517 I want to spend the rest of my life with. 544 00:41:56,620 --> 00:41:58,275 ♪ Everybody wants to 545 00:41:58,379 --> 00:41:59,103 What are you doing? 546 00:41:59,206 --> 00:42:00,724 ♪ Na-na, Na-na! 547 00:42:00,827 --> 00:42:02,000 Oh my god. 548 00:42:02,103 --> 00:42:03,793 ♪ Too bad you look so good! 549 00:42:13,965 --> 00:42:14,896 Did I satisfy you? 550 00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:16,241 Oh, stop it! 551 00:42:16,344 --> 00:42:17,655 I need to know these things. 552 00:42:25,275 --> 00:42:27,448 We've been looking to see if you can have 553 00:42:27,551 --> 00:42:29,275 a brother or sister. 554 00:42:32,448 --> 00:42:34,758 I don't want her to be upset, especially because 555 00:42:34,862 --> 00:42:35,862 she's gonna be affected the most. 556 00:42:42,206 --> 00:42:43,517 - Hey, mom. - Hi. 557 00:42:43,620 --> 00:42:44,896 - You got a buggy! - Hey, hugs. 558 00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:46,034 I'm really concerned 559 00:42:46,137 --> 00:42:48,413 about my mom coming to the Philippines. 560 00:42:49,517 --> 00:42:51,172 Well, this is Mary. 561 00:42:51,275 --> 00:42:52,379 As far as me and Mary 562 00:42:52,482 --> 00:42:54,655 having some sort of good relationship... 563 00:42:54,758 --> 00:42:55,724 Hug, hug! 564 00:42:55,827 --> 00:42:57,000 ...that's not happening. 565 00:43:04,413 --> 00:43:05,586 Yohan. 566 00:43:05,689 --> 00:43:07,000 My husband wants to leave me 567 00:43:07,103 --> 00:43:08,241 at the happiest time of the year. 568 00:43:08,344 --> 00:43:09,689 No, no, no, no, no, you're not going anywhere 569 00:43:09,793 --> 00:43:10,551 with my dog, Yohan. 570 00:43:11,517 --> 00:43:13,000 Yohan, you're not-- 571 00:43:13,103 --> 00:43:16,000 Yohan, you're not going anywhere with my dog. 572 00:43:16,103 --> 00:43:19,206 Give me the dog, give me the dog! 573 00:43:19,310 --> 00:43:22,344 I want you out of my house now, get out, get out! 574 00:43:24,896 --> 00:43:27,551 I'm trying to tell you how I'm feeling. 575 00:43:27,655 --> 00:43:30,034 If you feel alone, you can go back to U.S. 576 00:43:30,137 --> 00:43:31,379 What do you expect from me? 577 00:43:31,482 --> 00:43:34,586 Maybe give me a [bleep] hug, and say I'm sorry! 578 00:43:35,724 --> 00:43:37,310 I know, you never will! 579 00:43:39,172 --> 00:43:40,206 God damn it!