Previously on 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way.
I want to take Armando out of his comfort zone.
Oh my God.
I want to show him that Mexico City has a lot to offer.
What is happening with your bed?
What's wrong with my bed?
Everything.
Sarper told me that he had been with about 2,500 women,
so we need to have a fresh mattress.
I'm not going to sleep there until you get a new one.
Applying for a green card
requires an unbelievable amount of commitment and trust
and I don't feel like we are in a place in our relationship
where we really have that 100% right now.
You have to decide if it's an immigrant visa
or if it's a non-immigrant visa.
I've given up everything to marry the love of my life
and he breaks up with me at 2:00 in the morning.
Oh my God. Babe?
What's the matter?
'Cause of the couch?
It was a dream night. I mean, she is so hot
and I missed her too much.
I mean, even on that couch.
I think that we're the most sexually compatible
I could ever imagine.
It's passion, it's electric.
Neighbors are complaining because of the noise.
- Where does your back hurt? Where does it hurt? - Yeah. There.
- Back here? - Yeah.
I said, "We are not watching."
- It was so difficult to sleep there. - Okay, well--
It is so small, you know? I'm a big guy.
You should have got a bed before I got here.
I thought that you were joking about that.
It's not even funny.
There's been so many people in that bed, which is disgusting to me.
I want to sage this whole place, actually.
What's that?
You burn sage and it gets rid of all the bad energy
and, like, whatever was in here before me.
Saging and like, metaphysical things are pretty big in LA
so this seems like a very appropriate time
to get rid of all those evil spirits and bring in new vibes.
Now we can sage the whole house.
I actually want to sage you first.
No need for that.
Babe, you need to be saged.
- I'm going to sage you. - Oh my God.
I think you should pull your pants down.
- Really? - Yeah. We need a lot of sage right here.
- No. - Please.
I didn't just do that so that we could sleep in the bed.
It's not going to help.
Sleep on me. I will lay down on the bed and sleep on me.
- I'm okay with that. - That's ridiculous.
- Yes. - No.
That's crazy.
- Do I want you to weigh me? - Yeah.
You know your target.
- What was it? - 128.
When Sarper asked me what my weight was while I was still in the US,
I kind of brushed it off.
I felt like, you know, he's just a personal trainer.
He's just asking that 'cause he probably asks all of his clients that
but it's a whole another story now that I'm in Tuürkiye.
He's actually weighing me.
I'm just starting to wonder if this is, like, something I should be concerned about.
Is this going to be a daily thing?
I don't know.
Come on. Let's see.
- Wait. - Ooh.
- Sixty kilograms. - How much is that in pounds?
- 132. - That can't be right.
It is right.
- It keeps changing. It's not right. - Yeah.
- 132? - Four pounds off.
Oh my God.
She loves to be muscular.
I mean, I don't like women to be muscular
and I put a target for her
because I know if she comes to that target,
she will have the physique that I want.
Well, I'm going to go get ready.
What will you wear?
- So I have this skirt, right here. - What's that?
And then I have this leather top.
No, no, no. Too short, babe.
This dress is long, though. Maybe you'll like this.
Oh my God.
- It's pretty long. - Yeah, that's cool. That's cool. I like it.
Okay.
I like it, but it can be a little cold, so you have to take--
Oh, I have a couple of jackets.
I could wear this one with it or this one.
Which one do you like?
Put it there. Let me see.
That one or this metallic one.
- The lighter. - The lighter?
- Yeah. - Okay.
Okay, so I'll wear that.
One of the first times that I noticed
Sarper had an eye for, like, all things beauty-related
was when we were staying in the hotel together.
It was really surprising, because he actually, like, had a vision for me.
- He knew I would look better with lighter hair. - Mmm-hmm.
Longer hair. He always untucks this side.
It needs to be untucked at all times.
And I just thought it was so cute. I actually loved it.
Because you are my dream girl and I want to make it perfect.
I love that.
But sometimes, she's not listening to me.
- Well, babe, I-- - I have complaints about that.
I always say, don't use that pink stuff on your eyelashes.
- It's just eye shadow. - I don't like it.
Here we go. This is what you chose.
Perfect.
- You like it? - Yeah.
Okay.
Turn around.
Oh my God.
- You look gorgeous, you know? - Thanks.
You look sexy, babe.
Babe, what about makeup?
What about it?
Don't touch it.
You look so pale.
A little blush, huh?
- A little. - I cannot believe you.
Even when it kind of gets annoying
that Sarper's telling me every little detail
about how I should dress or look,
I just let it go and I let him have those things
because we have bigger issues to deal with.
There's a few things I told Sarper he needed to do once I moved here
and since he completely disregarded one of them,
which was getting a new bed,
I want to make sure that he's willing to do the other things
that we talked about.
- Get your keys. - My princess.
I, you know, would love to have a child with Kenny
and if it's not going to happen, I just want to know now,
so I can stop having hopes.
I was leaning towards no.
I promise I can do this.
TJ, you're everything to me.
- All right, let's get this stuff and take it. - Let's get going.
I think, yeah. Take this. Ready?
We've been in Mexico City for the last six weeks
and now it's time to head back home to La Mision.
That's fine.
I am surprised at how quick these last weeks went.
Uh, time flew, we had a lot of fun and I really enjoyed myself.
When we were coming to Mexico City,
I had this idea that Mexico City was dangerous all around
so I was pleasantly surprised to feel safe in the areas we were
and I leave happy.
Well, now that we're leaving, I guess I'm kind of, I'm feeling it.
I had a good time.
You're kind of on board, now.
I, I am.
I mean, I admit I liked it.
I guess I've just got to step out of, you know,
just being in my closed little world
and, you know, give it a chance.
And I did a lot of thinking and said, do you know what? Just go for it.
It's an experience. He's been right about a lot of things.
- A lot of things? Most. - Yes. Well, most.
It was a good little trial, you know.
Yay. See how you came along?
My strategy on a trial run totally worked.
I'm super excited that we're going to be moving here to Mexico City.
We're just waiting for Hannah's school year to end
and then we're going to have everything packed up and we're moving.
I never in my life would have dreamed
that I would be living in Mexico City.
I never thought I'd be living in Mexico and here I am.
I, you're right on that.
The things you do for love.
- True. - Right?
Yes.
I just talked to Taylor not long ago.
- I had a video call. - The last call you had, yeah.
And I told her about
the surrogacy
and that I was leaning towards no.
Yeah.
I know for Kenny, it's harder, the idea of pursuing surrogacy
because he has grown children and he's far past that.
And I understand where Kenny's coming from when it comes to his age,
but I get very excited
and I, you know, would love to have a child with Kenny
and if it's not going to happen,
I just want to know now so I can stop having hopes
and not continue being hurt.
Have you changed your thoughts on surrogacy?
Um, I kind of had sort of like an epiphany or something.
If I wasn't my age, it would be without a question that we would have a baby.
I wouldn't even question it.
We probably would have already had one by now.
So the epiphany is kind of, is
why should I say no?
Because I want to do it.
I want to do it deep in my heart
and I can't let the age be a factor,
because I can't foresee the future. I don't have a crystal ball.
I want your dreams to be fulfilled.
I want every dream to be fulfilled that is possibly possible.
And if I can do that,
then I want to do it for you.
Oh my God. Just makes me so, so happy. You have no idea.
I came to the decision about surrogacy in the middle of the night.
I was really up all night thinking about it
and I told Armando I would have an answer for him
by the time we left Mexico City.
I...
Um...
I've never let anything in my life stop me before.
I never let unknowns or hurdles get in the way of something.
It's scary as hell,
but I know I can do anything.
And having Armando by my side with this,
it's possible
and I want to fulfil that for him and us,
so I want to go through with surrogacy.
There's a lot of unknowns with this, I know,
and I am very nervous,
but I'm excited to start this journey with you
and we're going to have the cutest baby, the cutest family.
So this is it?
I [bleep] up a lot.
I'm not going to say I don't. I do.
I just, I wanted you to understand how I felt in that moment.
And I'm sorry if I made you feel like this wasn't salvageable.
I'm sorry.
I love you. Like, from the bottom of my heart.
TJ, I don't want to end this
because of some stupid fights.
You're the only one I'll ever want to marry.
You're the only one I can see my future with.
I, I know.
And I'm sorry I didn't treat this relationship better.
Honestly, I didn't think you would break up with me
because every time I tried to run,
you'd be like, it's up to you.
You do what you want. It's up to you.
So I guess I figured subconsciously
that you would never break up with me.
You touched me, like, in a way that
I can't do anything without having your influence in it.
You taught me that I could believe in myself
and TJ, you're everything to me.
When I say that you're everything, you're everything.
I want to give this a fair shot and I don't think I have.
And if you can forgive me at some point in the future,
I'd really like to prove to you that I can do this.
I can do this.
I promise I can do this.
Okay.
So there's a future?
- Okay. - Yeah.
I don't know what I would do if I lost TJ at this point,
'cause all of the futures I see are me and him together.
So I feel like there's so much that I would do just to keep him around.
And if that means sucking up to his family,
I'll do it.
I love you, um, and I guess we'll see you in a little bit.
I smile every time I look at your face.
I've dealt with this exact thing.
- Guys wanting my account private - With whom?
and not wanting me to post the relationship.
You don't want certain women to see me.
I've dated controlling guys.
They always want to hide relationships
so they can continue to be players on the side.
So I'm not going to fall for this.
You're being shady. This is player behavior.
Oh, my God.
I'm so excited.
It is Shekinah's second day living in Istanbul
and I'm taking her to Grand Bazaar.
Babe, you like it?
I love it. It's so amazing.
Wow.
- Look at the detail. - Yeah.
It's incredible.
The Grand Bazaar is just full of different smells,
different, like, textures.
There's all these handmade items.
There's so many Turkish delights.
It's just such a melting pot of different--
- I am your Turkish delight. - You are.
The most delicious.
Oh my God. This is so beautiful.
- We have to get a picture here, babe. - Okay.
Okay. Let's get a cute picture.
Kiss me.
- Yeah. - So cute.
- I love it. - I love it.
I am just going to edit this 'cause I want to post it.
You're going to post it?
All right. Yeah, I want to post one.
Don't do that, please.
After Sarper and I started dating,
I wanted to post pictures or videos of us on social media.
He told me, "Wait until we're together."
"Things are going to happen once you post that."
"Women are going to come forward and say certain things."
"And I just want to be with you when it happens."
He says he's trying to protect me, but I just don't buy it.
To me, that seems shady.
And it just makes it look like he's not taking this seriously.
I don't know why you are obsessed with posting anything.
I don't know why you're obsessed with not posting.
- Right. - Okay.
- What's wrong with that? - Everyone can see you.
So when you post something,
someone can say something about that.
- Who is someone? - I don't know.
It sounds like you know.
- It sounds like you have someone in mind. - No-one in particular.
There are a lot of girls, you know that.
This is getting me really, like, triggered right now.
- Why? - 'Cause I've dealt with it a lot, with this exact thing.
- Guys wanting my account private. - With whom?
And not wanting me to post the relationship.
I know exactly what it means.
You don't want certain women to see me.
This has happened to me before.
I've dated controlling guys.
They want, you know, your account private
so no girls can creep on your page.
They can't see, you know, that they're liking your stuff.
They always want to hide relationships
so they can continue to be players on the side.
I mean, he's slept with thousands of women,
so I'm not going to fall for this.
It sounds like you're leaving doors open
and you need to be closing all those doors.
- It's so weird. - Babe, I'm trying to protect you.
- Not myself. - From what?
- About you. - What are you afraid they're going to say?
That they were with you, like, last week?
- No. No, not like this. Not like that. - Like what?
Do they think they're in a relationship with you?
Yeah, in past.
Not relationship.
They want to know what I am doing.
Okay, she is right. I slept with over 2,500 girls.
Most of them were one night stands. Nothing serious, you know?
But some of them are connected too much
with the man that they slept with.
Why should I have to change my account
because you can't make it clear to people that you're in a relationship?
- You need to post our relationship, actually. - Want to understand me.
Because this is not okay.
What do you want?
Just a picture of us. Just to show you're in a relationship with me.
Why?
Because there's people that think that they have a chance with you.
If you want me to trust you, you need to do that.
I moved here for you.
I know.
And you can't even make a post for me.
- Is it that important for you? - Yes.
'Cause it makes me feel like you're not honest.
I don't want to be a secret. I don't want to be hidden.
You are not.
I feel like if you're with me, you should be proud to be with me.
And his resistance to it just raises alarms in my head.
Like why does he want to look single on his social media?
I just want to protect you, babe. That's the point.
- I don't need you to-- - I just want to protect you from other girls.
- I can handle myself. - That's going to harm you.
That can say something bad about me
that can harm our relationship with you,
because I'm so scared to lose you sometimes.
But what if you lose me because you didn't make the posts?
You need to think about that, too.
It's a minor thing, babe.
To lose me is a minor thing?
No, no, no.
It's not a reason to lose such a relationship, such a unique one.
If it's such a minor thing, then why can't you do it?
I had no serious relationship, okay?
I'm getting used to it.
You know what? I would be fine with that
if there wasn't this other issue
of you being afraid of all these women
that are going to reach out to me.
You're being shady. This is player behavior.
Buying a car with $30,000 is not a sound financial decision.
If Yohan thinks that he has an American wife who's going to support him,
then he's picked the wrong American.
It's not your [bleep] money.
You ready?
Yohan's kind of had an attitude lately about how we live.
He would much prefer to own everything
and he thinks that I waste a lot of money on renting.
I understand that we need a car,
I just wonder if it's, like, more financially responsible to rent
and, like, save money for something else that we want.
Today, we're going to go check out a car that Yohan wants to buy.
I feel like it's not the first thing
that we should be investing our money in.
But I am always going to go and look at the things he wants to look at.
And who knows.
Like, maybe we'll find a really good deal on a car
and we'll find something that we want.
$29,000.
It doesn't start.
But it's a good car.
$32,000.
I really like my cars with batteries.
Is this guy really serious trying to sell me a car that doesn't turn on?
Like, you think I'm going to hand you $30,000
and not tell you to turn the car on?
Like, maybe you can get someone else to fall for this, but not me. I'm from New York.
It costs us $30 a day to rent a car in the Dominican Republic.
We don't need a car every day,
so if we have that money,
we should use that to invest in a house or an egg donor.
This is not the best way to use that money.
There's an expression that your eyes are bigger than your stomach.
I feel like Yohan's eyes are bigger than his bank account.
I make sound financial decisions at this stage in my life.
And buying a car with $30,000 that I don't have
is not an example of a sound financial decision.
You think it's a sound financial decision
because it's not your money.
When it's your money, you think differently.
You don't even want to pay for light.
You run around the house turning the air off and we [bleep] die
because you don't want to pay for electricity.
You think it's too expensive.
Let's be real.
Are you going to buy Amazon?
Like, what the are you going to do
that you think you're going to pay for everything with no English?
With no English.
You're out of your mind.
If Yohan thinks that he has an American wife
who's going to completely enable him and support him,
then he's picked the wrong American.
I am not interested in having a kept man. I've made that very clear.
I don't even know what else to say.
Like, you're crazy.
No, I am not paying for everything here.
No, we're not going to go to the United States.
Neither of those are possible, so come up with a different idea.
You're pushing a lot. I don't know.
- You're the one suggesting that. - If you do it, yeah.
My friends and family told me to look out for red flags
and right now, Sarper looks like a giant red flag.
Like, the sign could not be more clear.
He's not ready to commit.
I did not think that Sarper was going to fight me this much
about posting on social media.
I mean, I do recognize all the changes he has made for me,
but given Sarper's past, it makes him totally look like he's hiding something.
No, go ahead.
Are you just going to be on your phone, like the whole boat ride?
Are you that mad?
You're just so mad, you're just not going to talk to me?
I'm not mad, babe.
She is not trusting me about girls.
Believe me, I don't have anything to hide.
That's ridiculous. That's ridiculous.
Are you okay?
- What? - Are you okay?
- Am I okay? - Uh-huh.
I'm fine. Are you okay?
Yeah.
Check your phone.
Why? You just sent me a message?
Check your phone. Check your stories.
- My stories? - Yeah.
Okay.
So you put a picture of us in your stories.
Yeah.
Is this relationship like a 24-hour relationship?
'Cause that's how long a story is.
- Oh my gosh. - Just wondering.
Oh my gosh, Shekinah.
Stories are for, like, moments.
They're for, like, short little moments in your life.
- Yeah. - That aren't lasting. They're just fleeting.
If you want to make a statement
and say this is something real and--
- I feel like you decided. - In a short time--
- And you decided to do a story. - Yeah.
- That's not the decision I would hope you would make. - Be happy with it.
It is better than nothing.
I decided to make a surprise for her.
And I shared a photo of us and I put a heart.
I mean, it is an announcement, a public announcement of our love, to everyone.
And you are saying that no, I don't want.
I want post.
What the [bleep]?
I can't make you happy.
- Yes you can. I've told you how. - I can't make you happy.
- I'm doing something for you. I'm trying a lot. - That is so crazy.
- Okay. That, to me, is not trying a lot. - I'm striving.
Moving to a different country for somebody is trying a lot.
Okay, yours is a big sacrifice. I accept that.
But if you compare my life with your past,
the things that I do is more than yours.
- Are you seriously going to bring that up right now? - In my life. You know it.
Yeah.
Yeah?
That does not make me feel special. That makes me sick.
Really?
Yeah, really.
She doesn't really realize what kind of changes or transformation
I am having for her.
I really thought in the beginning it was a one night stand
and look in what condition we are in right now.
She is living with me in Tuürkiye.
I'm improving day by day. And it's so fast.
I want to be more appreciated.
But she's not giving it, unfortunately.
What do you want, babe?
Tell me. You want to go back to your country or something like that,
to leave me?
You're pushing a lot. I don't know. You're the one suggesting that.
I was expecting thank you, love. Thank you, baby.
What a nice photo.
That was our favorite picture.
I was expecting a post.
My friends and family told me to look out for red flags
and right now, Sarper looks like a giant red flag.
He literally has this red blanket wrapped around him
it's blowing in the wind.
Like, the sign could not be more clear.
If he can't do this one small thing for me
after I've moved all the way across the world for him,
then clearly he's not ready to commit.
Still to come on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
It just seems like a fairy tale coming true.
I'm gonna be with the man
I want to spend the rest of my life with.
♪ Everybody wants to
What are you doing?
♪ Na-na, Na-na!
Oh my god.
♪ Too bad you look so good!
Did I satisfy you?
Oh, stop it!
I need to know these things.
We've been looking to see if you can have
a brother or sister.
I don't want her to be upset, especially because
she's gonna be affected the most.
- Hey, mom. - Hi.
- You got a buggy! - Hey, hugs.
I'm really concerned
about my mom coming to the Philippines.
Well, this is Mary.
As far as me and Mary
having some sort of good relationship...
Hug, hug!
...that's not happening.
Yohan.
My husband wants to leave me
at the happiest time of the year.
No, no, no, no, no, you're not going anywhere
with my dog, Yohan.
Yohan, you're not--
Yohan, you're not going anywhere with my dog.
Give me the dog, give me the dog!
I want you out of my house now, get out, get out!
I'm trying to tell you how I'm feeling.
If you feel alone, you can go back to U.S.
What do you expect from me?
Maybe give me a [bleep] hug, and say I'm sorry!
I know, you never will!
God damn it!