Previously on 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way...
What is that?
When I asked your grandparents
to use the room with you, they were like,
"No funny business."
My grandparents want me to wait to have sex
until we get married.
I'm not ready yet.
Okay.
- I love you. - I love you too, honey.
I've disappointed Sophie in the past
by staying in relationships
that weren't healthy for too long.
So this relationship with Sarper,
it has to work out.
As Yohan gets more confident,
he is gonna put his foot down about things,
and I think if he's like, "Nope, this is how it is,"
what is she gonna do?
Why are you just telling me this now?
I trusted you with, like, everything.
Why don't you trust me back on the same level?
I feel really hurt that he concealed
his financial situation from me.
The days leading up to my wedding
should be the best time of my life,
and it's not, because of all this.
- Oh, hi! - Hi!
My dad and stepmom have just arrived in Jaipur.
They're here to celebrate something special, and I'm like,
I don't even know if I wanna be here anymore.
If it's not gonna work,
we could get it taken back.
I'm heading to the airport to pick Shekinah,
and I'm feeling so great, and a little anxious.
I used to get many girls, of course.
Eh, two, three per day sometimes, but...
With her, everything is changing.
One by one, we turn.
Something like that, I mean...
But it happened.
Never say never.
I am well aware that I don't have everyone's support.
But I truly believe in my heart
that Sarper is the one for me.
And I can't wait to start something so special
and new and exciting with him.
My love is coming right now.
The love of my life. I can say that.
We are so close.
I'm really little shivering,
I have to confess.
For me, Shekinah is precious.
I mean, from outside, she's like a sex bomb,
but soft inside.
That's the thing that I love about her.
I mean, two different sides.
And also she loves to take care of people.
I mean, when she loves something, someone,
she's so protective, and I like that.
I like that side of her.
Everything is so special for me.
Just changed in the bathroom.
Feeling so much better. That was such a long flight.
So excited to see Sarper.
Just a few more minutes.
Oh, my God!
Babe!
You look so handsome.
You look great. You look great.
- Aww! - Oh, my God.
You know when you see some movies,
there are some reuniting scenes,
people meet again, hug each other in slow-mo?
It is like that, you know?
It is charming, it is perfect, it is unique.
My English is not enough to describe it, you know?
Did you buy me flowers?
Yeah.
You never bought flowers before!
- That's the first time. - Babe!
So sweet.
Thank you, baby.
I finally found my love.
- Aww. - I finally hug my love.
And kiss my love.
- Hold me. - They're so pretty.
- Kiss me. - Mmm.
You're so handsome.
- Really? - Mmm-hmm.
- It feels so good. - Yeah, how is it?
So good to be in his big, strong arms.
Have his arms round me.
I feel like this is where I belong.
- Yeah, you do. - Yes.
You look so good, babe.
- So good. - Thank you, baby. For you.
- So good. - For you, for you.
I'm keeping my form for you.
Thank you. I'm so lucky.
Yeah, perfect.
- Yeah. - Yes.
Mmm.
Oh!
Let's go!
Let's go.
I'm so excited to finally be here,
but I'm well aware that this is
Sarper's first real relationship.
Since most of our relationship has been through text,
we haven't talked about real issues.
So, you know, now that I'm here,
I'm ready to talk about them
and I hope that he is, too.
Oh, guys. I'm scared about
TJ meeting you guys for the first time
with all this drama going on.
My dad and stepmom want me to postpone the wedding.
But I know that TJ is the love of my life,
and I want to marry him.
So I'm really nervous
about how this conversation's gonna go with TJ and them,
because they're very worried about what's been going on
with his family.
- Oh. - Hi, TJ.
- Hi. - Hi!
- How are you? - How you doing?
- Hi. - Hi.
Welcome. Yes. Give me a hug.
Oh...
We're still trying to recover.
Yeah.
So, how are you doing?
That's very good.
Yeah, so...
Well, I've gotta bring up some things.
Earlier today, Kim was, uh, talking about
some of this issues that came up with Yash,
and is feeling uneasy about her place in the home.
So I'm concerned for her happiness
in that situation.
How can you guarantee that
Kimberly has a place, and everyone accepts her?
Okay.
It doesn't seem like it.
But she's feeling uncomfortable.
Actually, I did not.
Yash used the word... Yash used the word "liberty."
- That didn't come out of my mouth. - Okay.
Yeah, what's wrong with the word?
I don't know exactly what he was talking about,
because he said I said it.
He was probably talking about, um, freedom.
I want freedom.
I like that I feel free
whenever I'm in the United States,
and whenever I'm here I feel compressed
because I have to abide by all of these rules,
- so I feel constricted. - Okay.
I don't want Yash to think, like,
he can talk to me any kind of way.
I had no intention of moving in with you guys
at any point last year.
No.
I know you said that that's how custom shows.
But that was never what I wanted.
So is it just what you want
in this relationship?
That's not what I'm asking you.
I'm asking you if my opinion's gonna matter.
No! Don't tell me don't do something.
I'm asking you a specific question
and you're avoiding it.
Are you not...
Listen, you're not being respectable of me
in front of my parents.
Can you please drop your attitude?
I just asked you a question,
and you should have just answered the question.
She is snapping at me, she is interrupting.
And whenever I say something,
she lashes out on me.
So the answer to the question was no?
- What was the question? - The question was,
"Is my opinion or my wants and needs
going to matter in this relationship?"
Thank you for answering the question.
They want to see Kimberly and me happy.
What is this place?
You enter at your own risk?
Wayne has told me that he has a surprise for me and my mom.
But the day before my wedding
is not a good time to do any of this.
Oh, he looks horrified!
Babi?
Hold on, I'm almost done.
I've been living here in the Philippines
with Mary for three-and-a-half months now.
Things just got a lot more complicated.
So, where we going now?
I'll give you a clue.
Oh, we're going to see your family? I'm just kidding!
- Mom, really? - Uh-oh.
I said I'd behave today. Sorry.
It's the day before the wedding,
and Wayne has told me that
he has a surprise for me and my mom.
Hold on tight, okay?
This may get bumpy.
The past couple days have not been easy.
It's been very stressful finding out
the financial situation he's in,
so I think this is his way
of trying to do something nice for us.
What is this place?
You enter at your own risk?
I appreciate that he's put a lot of effort into planning something.
But the day before my wedding
is not a good time to do any of this.
I'm just really stressed out because I have so much to do.
Oh, it's Rose.
Hey!
Fine, how are you?
Good. You can jump on the vehicle.
- Thank you so much. - Okay.
This looks so fun. I've never done this before.
We in, we in.
So the thing is, me and Holly's mom
is, like, tight, right?
We like each other, we love each other,
but up to a point, you know?
I don't know why, but he doesn't want me
staying with them on their wedding night.
Gee, Mom, I wonder why?
Oh, he looks horrified.
Are we ready to go?
- We're ready! - Yeah, we're ready.
This is gonna be fun.
Oh, wow.
Zebras.
On the other side of the fence,
there are some lions sleeping there.
Look at them. Oh, wow.
We have to remember,
lions are very, very territorial.
Oh, my goodness.
- Check this guy out. - Oh...
They're fine. You're fine.
Bye-bye, guys.
I have a really good relationship with Wayne's sister Rose.
When I was in the US, we were talking back and forth
about certain things that were important
to me for the wedding.
So I really wanna talk to her,
because there's still a lot of things
on my end that I need to get done,
and she's a huge support system for me.
She's basically my only friend in South Africa.
Oh, wow.
- It's pretty. - Very.
Wayne and I are very close,
and I am very excited about him getting married
to Holly, because I can just see the difference
between him and Holly
and him and his previous relationships.
I totally love her to bits.
They're just like the perfect match.
- This is pretty. - Ah! Look how pretty it is.
- How's Wayney treating you? - Good.
- You excited for the wedding tomorrow? - Yeah.
What do you still need to get done for the wedding,
and what can I do?
Um, I need to check on the flower...
I haven't seen the bouquets at all.
We still have to pick up the cake.
The dress is ready?
No, not at all.
Okay, that's a problem.
We're gonna have to finish that.
Our wedding's not big.
It's about 15 guests.
And we're having, like, a package deal
planned by the wedding venue.
It looks like a fairytale.
You always wanted a fairytale wedding,
so now you're getting one.
But there's still some things
I need to get done for the wedding.
So as the day continues,
I'm becoming more and more stressed.
My anxiety level is at a 10.
So there's a lot still to do.
Mmm-hmm. But you're gonna be...
Yeah, you're gonna be fine.
Yeah, it's the truth.
And I think you and Wayne are gonna be...
happy ever after, forever and ever.
And I'm so excited to have
- a brand new sister. - Yeah, me too.
Yeah, and I couldn't have asked for a better one.
Me too.
When you get married, you're supposed to have
your closest friends and family with you.
So I think it's very hard for her
being here just with her mom.
So we have to really go out of our way
to make it extra-special for her.
You're gonna be fine.
It's gonna be awesome.
You just have to look like a beautiful bride,
- like a real princess. - Yeah. Uh-huh.
This wind is getting crazier.
Let's... let's go back.
We'll get blown over here.
Then there's nothing left of us.
How's it going in there?
Babi?
Hold on. I'm almost done.
Okay.
I've been living here in the Philippines
with Mary for three-and-a-half months now.
So far, I'm enjoying my time here.
For the past couple months,
Mary's grandfather has been working in Manila,
which is a totally different island.
So we've been able to have some privacy.
Yeah.
Ready?
Okay.
Let's see.
Don't worry, I wipe it.
- It's both positive, see? - Yeah.
This is the new one.
Yeah.
We're having a baby now.
Come here.
Last night, I take my first pregnancy test,
and I found out that I'm pregnant.
And it's a blessing, so I'm happy for it.
I'm just done showering, and I took a pregnancy test
and it came out positive!
I'm so happy.
Brandan is sleeping right now,
so I can't tell him.
Um, I'm very happy
and I'm so excited.
I'm sure we'll be good parents, you know?
Yeah, of course.
I just decided to do another pregnancy test
when he's awake so I can show it to him
and make sure that I am pregnant.
So, how you feeling?
Um...
I don't know how I'm feeling. I just can't believe you're pregnant.
- So are you happy or... - I am happy.
Let's just let me process this.
Well, it happened, so the baby is here now in my tummy, so...
I know that I want to wait until marriage before having sex,
but I changed my mind because when Lolo is gone I feel so confident.
And Brandan is here now in person, and I really love him, and...
You know, we're humans.
I'm happy because I'm having a baby fever
so that's why I'm being crazy,
- and I really want a baby. - Right.
I know we were trying but...
...it's different when you're trying
compared to, like, when it actually happens
and you're like, "Okay, hold on."
Like, I thought it would take longer.
Yeah.
We already knew that we were gonna get married
and we're gonna have kids at some point.
And I've been waiting over two years
to be with this woman and be intimate with her.
So when she made the choice to kind of, like, pop the cherry
I was fully on board.
And then she's like, "You know, I just really, really want a baby."
And I thought trying to make a baby
will help us become a better couple.
Now that she's pregnant, I'm like, "Oh this is really happening."
Like, what?
Things just got a lot more complicated now.
You know, like, I'm excited,
but I'm also just really, really nervous and anxious.
I'm nervous, too.
Lolo always said marriage before having a baby or sex.
That's a big deal because of our culture here in the Philippines.
- I get it. - I don't know what to do when he finds out,
- but I know that we will get married someday. - Yeah.
I know we've talked about it for a long time.
I'm just nervous about, like, what kind of future we're gonna have.
So many different things can go wrong.
Yeah, hold on. I'm gonna throw up.
Oh...
Oh, man. Morning sickness.
You know, I felt really confident
and I felt like I was ready to have a baby,
but now that it's actually happening
I'm thinking to myself, like,
where did my confidence come from?
I'm starting to have doubts.
I just really hope that we can handle everything that's on our plate.
Sorry. He peed on me.
I know. You're so excited.
Yohan and I are meeting with an immigration lawyer today
to talk about the different options that we have for visas
so that Yohan can travel to New York.
Hello.
Gizmo.
Okay, so,
tell me a little bit about you.
So, we were married in November.
Um, and now I'm here, living here permanently,
and I want to be able to travel to the US,
and I want him to be able to come with me.
The goal is that we're able to live here
and travel to the US when we want to.
That's the goal for me.
He might have a different goal,
but my goal is that.
This is home base and, like, we can go wherever we want.
Okay.
You have to decide - Yeah.
which kind of visa,
if it's an immigrant visa
or if it's a non-immigrant visa,
- in order for you to start. - Okay.
For right now, I feel like it makes more sense
to apply for the tourist visa
because I think applying for a green card
requires an unbelievable amount
of commitment and trust from the both of us.
And I don't feel like we are at a place in our relationship
where we really have that 100% right now.
I also feel like Yohan has never been to the United States,
so why would you commit to living somewhere that you've never visited?
Sorry.
He peed on me.
I've raised a child so I've had things pee on me before.
I've also raised a lot of drunk men.
It's a little dog pee.
It's not gonna kill me.
All right, so I feel like I know the path in my brain.
I feel like I'm willing to do a tourist visa.
So, you have further questions for today?
No, that was really helpful.
Babe, what is happening with your bed?
What's wrong with my bed?
Everything.
Sarper told me that he had been with about 2,500 women,
so we need to have a fresh mattress.
That's gross. I'm not going to sleep there.
Finally, finally, finally.
Go in, go in, go in.
Yeah.
Wow, it looks really clean in here.
- Really? - Yeah.
- You like it? - Yeah.
Shekinah just landed to Istanbul,
and we are now arriving to my place.
Or it is better to call to our place from now on.
It's a little bit of a bachelor pad.
- You know that, right? - Yeah.
What if I want to make some little, like,
changes here and there?
- Really? Like what? - And just, yeah, like, the...
Change the art or furniture, or I don't know yet,
but I'm starting to think about things that we could do.
I came to Sarper's apartment the second time that we met up.
But, you know, I was really focused on him
and I didn't really look at his apartment too much.
So I'm looking at this place totally differently this time because now I live here.
This is my Playstation room.
You play video games? - Yeah.
You never told me that.
- I don't like when guys play video games. - Really?
- No. - Why not?
It's so annoying.
Is it better to go and play with something else?
Yeah, your girlfriend.
Of course.
I kind of saw this room the last time that I was here,
but the lights were off and it was just dark in there.
So I didn't realize it was a gaming room.
Gaming is fine if you're, like, in your 20s
and you just moved out of your parent's house maybe,
but when in your 40s, no, not okay.
This makes me realize that I don't know everything about Sarper.
I mean, I've just walked in and already discovered that he's a closet gamer,
so I'm worried about what else I might discover.
I'm so tired and you're so tired.
- Let's go and sleep. - Okay.
- My lady. My lady.
I'm waiting that moment. Oh, my God.
Here.
What is happening?
No, I just clean that you didn't see.
Babe, what is happening with your bed?
That is still your old bed.
Before I came here, I said, "Please get a new bed
- because I don't want to sleep in a bed - I don't...
- that other women have slept in." - I'm so happy
with my bed, baby.
Why are you happy with this bed?
- What is there to be happy about? - I'm sleeping there
for ten years, baby.
And so it's so comfortable. I sleep well.
- My God. - I wake up well.
- No, honey. This is not okay. - What's the matter? What's the matter?
About a month before I moved to Turkey,
Sarper told me that he had been with about 2,500 women,
and I thought it was a typo.
I'd never even heard of anyone being with half that many people.
I just really hate the mental image
of wondering what caused the headboard to look the way that it does.
So we need to have a fresh start and a fresh mattress.
That's gross. I'm not going to sleep there.
- So what's wrong with my bed? - Everything.
There's, like, been a lot of women that have slept in this bed,
and it's rotting.
It's, like, falling apart. - It's normal.
- What? Who cares? - It's not normal.
Okay, I admit it, it is old.
It is 12 years old and used a lot.
But we have a lot of other things.
We are planning to share our life together. I mean, what is bad?
I came all this way - Without me.
to sleep on the couch, I guess.
- Oh, my God. - Yeah.
- Oh, my God. What? What? - You should have done what I said.
- Oh, my God. - I literally told you, like, three times to get a new bed.
Clearly, he doesn't take it seriously
when I tell him to do something,
so he's gonna find out now.
Okay. Your bed is ready.
And if he wants to sleep in his gross bed he can do that,
or he can join me on the couch.
I don't care.
But all I know is I'm not sleeping in that bed,
and we have to get a new one as soon as possible.
- Oh, my God. You are really serious. - Yeah.
You want to change it because all of the girls I slept with.
Do you want to change my [bleep] too?
Same thing. You can replace my...
Babe, don't be so dramatic. Oh, my God.
It's not dramatic, babe. It's the same thing.
You need a new bed, and I'm not gonna sleep there until you get a new one.
Oh, my God. Okay.
- Step... Step aside. Yeah. - You're gonna sleep here with me?
- Step aside. - Babe.
You really are?
- Step. Yeah. - Stop.
- In your clothes? - Yeah, I will.
No. You can't wear your clothes to bed.
This first night is not how I imagined at all,
but I just want him to realize that when I say I'm not gonna do something
I'm truly not gonna do it,
and he needs to take me more seriously in the future.
I think that you teach people how to treat you, and this is his first lesson.
Let's go.
Hi?
What's going on?
Come in.
Hi, sweetie.
How are you doing this morning?
What's going on?
Have you heard from TJ?
- At all? - Mmm-hmm.
I haven't heard anything from him.
Last night, TJ finally met my parents.
By the end of the evening, I walked away pissed
because I felt like I was being ignored.
All the things that I was wanting weren't really resolved.
So whenever I got back up to the hotel I fired off a bunch of texts,
and TJ and I got into this argument.
I've tried calling him a few times.
I've tried texting him a couple of times as well
but he wouldn't answer.
And...
...I started freaking out.
And he sent this long message
saying how he can't do this anymore
and he needs to cut off his existence in my life.
I've given up everything,
and it's never once waivered in my mind
that he's the man I want to marry.
And he breaks up with me at two in the morning.
How do you know he broke up with you?
Hold on.
This was sent last night when he was in anger or he was in frustration.
He was upset.
And I don't know if that's a break up message or not
because I don't know how he communicates.
That's why I think you need to talk to him
because you don't want him to cease existence in your life.
- No, I want him in my life. - I mean...
- I can't imagine my life without him. - Right.
That's why I'm scared.
Because I thought I was coming over to India to marry the love of my life,
and now I don't know if I'm supposed to be
getting on a plane tomorrow instead.
And I know I can be a bitch, and I know I can be a handful.
Why don't you tell him how you really feel down in your heart?
If you really love him then tell him.
I don't know what's going on.
I think they both say things they don't mean
when they get very upset or very tired.
But I worry about Kimberly.
She's never loved anybody like TJ before.
She wouldn't have gone to India in the very first place
if she didn't know for sure in her heart that he was the one.
It would be a real shame if it didn't work out.
I think I should call him.
- All right. Well, I love you. - I love you.
I'll talk to you in a little bit.
- Let me know what's going on, okay? - Okay.
All righty.
Hello?
Yeah?
Hi?
What's going on? I'm a little bit confused.
Did you not break up with me last night?
TJ, I won't be happy without you.
I don't understand how things got to the way that they are right now.
I feel like I should be able to love you
and still stay true to who I am,
but I'm figuring out how to do that.
Really, I just love you so much, and I don't want to end this.
Like...
So this is it?
Next time on 90 Day Fiancé The Other Way...
It doesn't start.
But it's a good car?
I really like my cars with batteries.
Have you changed your thoughts on doing surrogacy?
I, you know, would love to have a child with Kenny,
and if it's not gonna happen I just want to know now
so I can stop having hopes.
You told me something like that.
- That does not - Only one.
make me feel special.
That makes me sick.
My friends and family told me
told me to look out for red flags,
and right now
Sarper looks like a giant red flag.
Like, the sign could not be more clear.
I promise I can do this.
TJ, you're everything to me. You're everything.