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This season on
90-Day Fiance: The Other Way.
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This is my entire life
in 11 suitcases.
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I'm moving
to Colombia to marry
the love of my life.
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Isabel's worth it a 100%.
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You tuck
your hair all in.
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Life in Egypt is hard,
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but, you know,
love conquers all.
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Yee-haw!
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Being in Morocco with Osama,
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it makes me feel like
I'm young again.
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Everybody thinks
I'm crazy, moving to Colombia
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to be with the woman
I've never met.
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Maybe I am.
I don't care.
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Oh, my gosh!
You're really good
with your hands.
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I'm good with
other things also.
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I have a track record
of falling for the wrong guys.
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But then I met Rishi.
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It's wiggly.
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That can't be good.
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Bugs. Bugs.
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I moved mountains
to come over here.
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Now you're telling me
you're not gonna marry me?
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You lied to me.
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I just keep saying
over and over,
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just be honest with me.
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You're a toxic human.
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You don't
want me anymore.
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Because I won't wear the
clothes you want?
you.
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Find somebody else
to pay your bills!
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Get away!
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She is crazy.
Do you look?
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No mail.
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My name is Kris.
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I'm from Haleyville, Alabama.
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I'm 40 going on 20
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'cause that's how I feel.
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Um, I feel like I'm 20.
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And I look like it, too.
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I have tons of onesies.
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Unicorn, of course,
is my favorite.
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Haleyville is a small town
of 3,000 people
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it's considered
the bible belt.
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People are
very, very committed
to the churches.
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If you aren't exactly
like them, you're shunned.
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I've always loved
dressing up in costumes.
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Because I can actually be
more of myself in a costume,
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than I could
in my everyday life.
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I have two children.
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And I have been married twice.
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They both were not
very long marriages.
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I never was happy
in my relationships.
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So I raised my kids
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as a single mother
for a lot of years.
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After my son
graduated high school,
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I've really wanted to find
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that connection that
I've always yearned for.
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So I decided to go online.
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This crazy ad for this
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international dating website
popped up.
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And for some...
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reason, just...
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clicked on it, and...
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I have a soul mate from it.
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Just so happens to be a woman.
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My girlfriend's name is Jeymi.
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She is Venezuelan.
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But she lives in
Bogota, Colombia.
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I was seeking out women
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who have been living
the same type of life
in hiding.
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She is my first
serious relationship
with a woman.
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Hi, love. I miss you.
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I love you so much, baby.
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And I've always
considered myself bisexual.
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But I've always been
attracted to women more.
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Same sex relationships
are nowhere near accepted
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in the small towns
in the south,
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especially in
Haleyville, Alabama.
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So I would sneak off
to Birmingham,
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which is an hour and a half
from where I live,
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to go to a gay bar.
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'Cause I knew there wasn't
anybody there that knew me,
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you know, I knew I wasn't
gonna get in trouble.
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I've only had a couple of
relationships with females.
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And I don't really
call them relationships.
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We were intimate.
It was just that...
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I never went out in public
with them...
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because it was embedded in me
at a very young age,
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you know, this is wrong.
This is wrong.
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And... my fear kept me
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miserable for years.
And I'm finally happy,
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and I would not
change it for anything.
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Oh, yes, well,
I'm trying to get
all my dishes together.
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Yard sale-ing it up.
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Jeymi and I have been
in this long distance
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relationship for one year.
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And we haven't met
in person yet.
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Our relationship has
entirely been over the phone.
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So let's put all these
cake things together.
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I've waited 40 years
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to be openly in a relationship
with a female.
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I don't wanna wait any longer.
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So I have decided
to move to Bogota,
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and I leave in one week.
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Have tons and tons
of cake pans.
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Calling Mr. Beefcake.
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Yeah.
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Who doesn't want
a stud muffin to eat on.
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Well, hello, babies.
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I think we got
enough stuff.
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I am currently living
in my mom's house
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with my two children.
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What y'all think?
Y'all think people will
like my weird taste?
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I was about to say
your taste is unique.
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I got pregnant at 16,
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the very first time I had
an intimate relationship.
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I definitely think we got
enough stuff out here
to sell something.
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I've lived for my children,
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but now it's time for me
to have my own life.
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All right.
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Now, we just have to
sit and wait.
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Luckily, my kids are...
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very open to my relationship,
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but they are still
very nervous about me moving.
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Tell me, what you're
gonna miss the most
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about your fabulous mother?
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- Nothing.
- All right.
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But, uh, I do...
do worry about...
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you know,
you being over there.
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How many days is it between
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when you actually arrive
and when you get married?
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Huh... nine days.
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Even though Jeymi and I have
never met in person,
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Jeymi and I will be
getting married
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nine days after I arrive
in Colombia.
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That's definitely
gonna be wild.
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Not something I'd do.
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We both wanted
to get married
as soon as possible.
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And this was the first date
the venue had...
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I'm not nervous
at all about...
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doing what everybody else
thinks is crazy.
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What if... what if you don't
like the way she sleeps?
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Or the way that she...
she does stuff, you know.
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And then you're like, stuck,
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'cause you don't know
these things about her.
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I get where you coming
from on that.
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But, I know in my heart that
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I want to have her by my side.
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Almost lost her to Covid.
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You know, and I mean...
she was on death door.
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Six months ago...
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Jeymi got Covid.
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And she was hospitalized.
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I knew from that moment...
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that I was coming to her,
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and I was gonna do whatever
I had to to go be with her.
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I wasn't gonna wait...
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for us to do paperwork
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for whatever we needed to do
for her to come here.
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I knew I was gonna go there
to be with her.
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I'm at a point where...
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I wanna follow my heart.
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Because if I don't,
I will regret it
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the rest of my life.
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It's very worrisome
for her to get married
within nine days.
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With someone that she's never
even met in person
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or knows well enough to...
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in my opinion to trust them wholeheartedly.
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- Does seem, like...
- Crazy.
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...a fairytale story.
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I gotta follow my heart
on this one, you know,
I just...
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I think that's where
we're different.
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I'm not much
of an emotional person,
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so I just do the statistics
behind everything and...
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statistics don't look great
on my end.
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This may seem like
a giant leap of faith
to everybody else.
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But it's not to me.
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It feels like, it's what
I'm supposed to be doing.
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I almost lost her once.
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I'm not going to risk
losing her again.
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Sometimes...
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it's worth the risk.
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Bigger the risk...
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can end up being
a big reward, you know.
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Or it could be a disaster.
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The.
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My name is Daniele.
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I'm 42 years old,
and I live in the Big Apple.
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I have a love-hate
relationship with New York.
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I feel like New York
is a toxic boyfriend.
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You can't get away from him,
you love him so much.
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But you know that
he's making your life worse.
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Can I have a large
matcha latte please
with oat milk?
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- Yeah, sure.
- Thank you.
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I love the energy.
I love the people here.
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I love the access
to good skin care.
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- Do you want it iced or hot?
- Hot.
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But I'm also frustrated
by the traffic.
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I'm frustrated by
how dirty it is.
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I'm frustrated by
how expensive it is.
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- This is a large?
- Oh, yes.
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Like everything
is a struggle.
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Yo, bike lane.
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I have lived here
for 15 years,
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and it's been hard the
entire time I've been here.
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I'm just so tired of
the New York city grind,
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and having to work so hard
to just squeak by.
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Press into the mat...
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really feeling
your back open up.
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I'm a high-school
history teacher,
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and I also have a side hustle,
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running a yoga
and wellness business.
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Press into your hands
so that all parts
of your fingers
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are pressing into
the mat evenly.
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I became a single mom at 21.
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I got married at 26,
but we split up
six months later.
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I've had two live-in
boyfriends since then,
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and neither of them
worked out, so,
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I even swore off dating
for a couple of years.
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When you're ready,
you can open your eyes.
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About a year ago,
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I decided I was ready
for love again.
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I decided to take a trip
to the Dominican Republic...
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And that's where I met Yohan,
my prince charming.
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Yohan is 32 years old,
and he was a personal trainer
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at the hotel that
I was staying at.
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And he was
absolutely beautiful.
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We saw each other
from across
the lobby.
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When I saw him,
the first I said was,
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"I'm going to marry this man."
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Like, that's the one.
And I remember pointing.
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We could not be
more different humans,
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he's ten years
younger than me.
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He lives in another country.
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He speaks another language.
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And we literally
can't see eye to eye
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because there's like
a two-foot height difference.
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Like, he's so big
and I'm so little.
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We spent
a couple of days together
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in the Dominican Republic
before I had to go back home.
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Six weeks later I decided
to go back and see him.
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That first morning back
he proposed.
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I knew this was the person
I was supposed to marry.
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Five months later,
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I returned to
Dominican Republic
to marry Yohan.
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But Yohan and I had a lot
of challenges that we faced.
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I need to clear the energy
of this room.
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I practice Ifa,
which is an African
spiritual tradition.
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But Yohan is
an Evangelical Christian,
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and he really
doesn't understand
my spiritual beliefs.
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Come here.
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I don't know
where you've been.
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We struggled
with our finances.
253
00:16:56,896 --> 00:16:58,172
I really could kill you.
254
00:16:59,689 --> 00:17:03,310
Yohan ate, uh,
$200 worth of peanuts.
255
00:17:03,310 --> 00:17:05,275
I don't really know
how that's possible.
256
00:17:05,275 --> 00:17:08,000
Yohan doesn't even take
his wallet out if I'm around,
257
00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:10,068
He just expects that
if we buy something
258
00:17:10,068 --> 00:17:11,793
I'm going to pay for it.
259
00:17:21,689 --> 00:17:24,310
But the biggest
issue we face
is where we're going to live.
260
00:17:25,413 --> 00:17:27,827
So, why are we here?
261
00:17:27,827 --> 00:17:29,275
He really wants
to come to New York,
262
00:17:29,275 --> 00:17:31,586
he doesn't stay here.
I would prefer to come here.
263
00:17:44,827 --> 00:17:46,413
Despite all of that,
we're still got married.
264
00:18:05,482 --> 00:18:08,793
Divine light in me
honors the divine light
in each of you.
265
00:18:08,793 --> 00:18:10,000
Thank you.
266
00:18:11,068 --> 00:18:12,586
I would've loved
to stay with Yohan
267
00:18:12,586 --> 00:18:15,172
in Dominican Republic
after our wedding,
268
00:18:15,172 --> 00:18:16,275
but it wasn't
an option for me,
269
00:18:16,275 --> 00:18:17,586
I had to go back to my job.
270
00:18:18,310 --> 00:18:20,068
Thank you
for coming to class.
271
00:18:20,068 --> 00:18:21,896
- Thank you for having it.
- It was lovely.
272
00:18:21,896 --> 00:18:23,896
Um, I just wanted
to let you know
273
00:18:23,896 --> 00:18:25,413
that was my last class.
274
00:18:27,620 --> 00:18:28,896
I didn't wanna say it
in the whole group,
275
00:18:28,896 --> 00:18:30,000
because I don't want people
to freak out.
276
00:18:30,896 --> 00:18:33,000
- What?
- Why?
277
00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:35,586
Um, yeah, I have like chills
saying this right now.
278
00:18:35,586 --> 00:18:37,793
Um, I'm moving
to the Dominican Republic.
279
00:18:41,172 --> 00:18:43,413
- Daniele.
- I know.
280
00:18:43,413 --> 00:18:45,793
- Really?
281
00:18:45,793 --> 00:18:47,517
- Yeah.
- Wow, that's a lot.
282
00:18:47,517 --> 00:18:48,689
That's a lot.
283
00:18:50,482 --> 00:18:52,379
Yohan would really love
to move to the U.S.
284
00:18:52,379 --> 00:18:55,275
but it's gonna take a while
for him to get a visa.
285
00:18:55,275 --> 00:18:56,689
And I don't want
to maintain this
286
00:18:56,689 --> 00:18:58,379
long distance relationship.
287
00:18:58,379 --> 00:18:59,827
So I'm moving
to the Dominican Republic.
288
00:19:01,103 --> 00:19:02,413
You're actually,
actually moving?
289
00:19:02,413 --> 00:19:04,689
I'm actually,
actually moving.
290
00:19:04,689 --> 00:19:06,482
My husband's there
and I just...
291
00:19:06,482 --> 00:19:09,310
I don't want to be separated
from him anymore.
292
00:19:09,310 --> 00:19:11,310
Oh... let me
get this straight.
293
00:19:12,310 --> 00:19:14,689
You met a man
while on vacation.
294
00:19:15,758 --> 00:19:18,172
You spent a couple of days
with him, got engaged.
295
00:19:18,172 --> 00:19:19,620
Are now married,
296
00:19:19,620 --> 00:19:22,000
and you're leaving everything
to go be with him.
297
00:19:23,000 --> 00:19:24,000
That is accurate.
298
00:19:24,689 --> 00:19:26,172
That's an accurate statement.
299
00:19:26,172 --> 00:19:28,275
As you repeat it back to me
it sounds really crazy,
300
00:19:28,275 --> 00:19:29,896
but it doesn't feel
crazy to my body.
301
00:19:29,896 --> 00:19:31,172
Just a little,
just a touch.
302
00:19:32,482 --> 00:19:34,896
I'm a little skeptical.
303
00:19:34,896 --> 00:19:37,172
The fact that they only spent
a couple of days together,
304
00:19:37,172 --> 00:19:38,620
and then he proposed
305
00:19:38,620 --> 00:19:40,517
and then they got married
so quickly.
306
00:19:41,827 --> 00:19:44,793
It just makes me
a little nervous,
and afraid.
307
00:19:45,689 --> 00:19:48,310
Have you ever heard...
of the term...
308
00:19:51,896 --> 00:19:52,965
I have.
309
00:19:52,965 --> 00:19:55,379
As soon as I met Yohan
I told one of my friends,
310
00:19:55,379 --> 00:19:57,275
he's like, "Oh, my God
you're bringing home
a Sanky Panky."
311
00:19:59,482 --> 00:20:02,172
I'm afraid that
he's a Sanky Panky.
312
00:20:02,172 --> 00:20:06,103
A Sanky Panky
is a man who works
in a resort
313
00:20:06,103 --> 00:20:09,172
and is looking for a tourist
to come and, you know,
314
00:20:09,172 --> 00:20:12,000
provide them with money
and goods and visas,
315
00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:14,172
and take care of them
and their families.
316
00:20:14,172 --> 00:20:15,689
That's my biggest fear.
317
00:20:17,482 --> 00:20:19,000
That's a huge
leap of faith, Daniele.
318
00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:20,379
- Yeah.
- Are you ready?
319
00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:23,896
Um, I don't know.
320
00:20:29,896 --> 00:20:32,689
I'm excited for you.
I'm so happy for you,
321
00:20:32,689 --> 00:20:34,206
but I'm scared.
322
00:20:35,724 --> 00:20:38,586
I am taking
a big risk for the future
that I want.
323
00:20:38,586 --> 00:20:41,000
I'm giving up my career,
I'm giving up my home.
324
00:20:41,000 --> 00:20:44,000
But I am confident that
I'm making the right decision.
325
00:20:45,172 --> 00:20:46,310
Gonna miss you.
326
00:20:46,310 --> 00:20:48,689
Gonna miss
our classes together.
327
00:20:48,689 --> 00:20:50,689
I ma gonna miss
you guys so much.
328
00:20:50,689 --> 00:20:52,310
You have no idea.
329
00:20:52,310 --> 00:20:55,000
Oh... you're making me cry.
330
00:20:57,068 --> 00:20:58,172
Piggy, piggy, piggy.
331
00:20:59,724 --> 00:21:01,896
It's hard to pinpoint...
332
00:21:01,896 --> 00:21:05,103
exactly what made me
fall for Rishi.
333
00:21:05,103 --> 00:21:07,896
But I knew he was the one.
334
00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:12,000
And within a month
of us meeting, he proposed.
335
00:21:12,689 --> 00:21:14,068
Good boy.
336
00:21:16,586 --> 00:21:18,103
I'm happy for you, bro.
337
00:21:18,103 --> 00:21:20,103
The best for you in Colombia.
338
00:21:20,103 --> 00:21:22,793
I will be coming
to that bachelor party.
339
00:21:22,793 --> 00:21:24,689
I'm moving to Colombia
in under a week,
340
00:21:24,689 --> 00:21:27,586
to marry the love
of my life, Isabel.
341
00:21:29,068 --> 00:21:30,689
Her parents,
they love me so much.
342
00:21:30,689 --> 00:21:32,517
I feel so bad
because it's like...
343
00:21:32,517 --> 00:21:33,724
- You feel you're hiding
something from them.
- I know.
344
00:21:33,724 --> 00:21:34,586
Exactly.
345
00:21:57,482 --> 00:21:58,896
Organic coconut oil.
346
00:22:45,620 --> 00:22:46,482
Okay.
347
00:22:50,379 --> 00:22:51,413
My name is Rishi.
348
00:22:51,413 --> 00:22:54,275
I'm 32 years old,
and I'm from Jaipur, India.
349
00:22:55,206 --> 00:22:57,172
Hold the tire like this
and up.
350
00:23:00,793 --> 00:23:03,482
Yeah. Yeah, yeah.
You can do it. Whoa.
351
00:23:41,793 --> 00:23:43,862
Yeah. Quick, quick.
352
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:46,482
Superb. Superb.
353
00:23:46,482 --> 00:23:48,758
People in my gym
told me every time that
354
00:23:48,758 --> 00:23:50,793
you have the potential
and the good face
355
00:23:50,793 --> 00:23:52,931
with a good body to be model.
356
00:23:57,379 --> 00:23:59,758
It was not my dream.
357
00:23:59,758 --> 00:24:02,103
People wanted from me
and they pushed me,
358
00:24:02,103 --> 00:24:04,310
and I tried it once
and it's boom.
359
00:24:13,896 --> 00:24:15,103
Hold yourself.
360
00:24:16,586 --> 00:24:17,482
Yeah.
361
00:24:17,482 --> 00:24:19,172
Very good.
362
00:24:19,172 --> 00:24:21,482
Being a model
and a fitness trainer
363
00:24:21,482 --> 00:24:23,689
I have a lot of attention
from the women.
364
00:24:25,103 --> 00:24:28,000
- Feeling exhausted?
- Yeah.
365
00:24:33,413 --> 00:24:34,379
Swing.
366
00:24:34,379 --> 00:24:35,379
Just swing.
367
00:24:35,379 --> 00:24:36,896
Use your glutes.
368
00:24:36,896 --> 00:24:39,896
And that is how
I met my fiance Jen.
369
00:24:54,103 --> 00:24:56,103
Y'all are hungry.
370
00:24:56,103 --> 00:24:57,517
I'm Jen.
371
00:24:57,517 --> 00:25:00,758
And I'm 46 years old,
and I live in
Stilwell, Oklahoma.
372
00:25:02,379 --> 00:25:04,413
Let's go! Let's go.
373
00:25:04,413 --> 00:25:06,586
I am staying
on my family's farm,
374
00:25:06,586 --> 00:25:09,172
with my mom
and my brother Charles,
375
00:25:09,172 --> 00:25:10,482
and my sister in-law Tara.
376
00:25:11,103 --> 00:25:12,586
Come on, piggy!
377
00:25:12,586 --> 00:25:14,275
Hey! Come on!
378
00:25:14,896 --> 00:25:16,586
Piggy, piggy, piggy.
379
00:25:19,275 --> 00:25:20,379
Good boy.
380
00:25:20,379 --> 00:25:22,103
I am a bit of a nomad.
381
00:25:23,586 --> 00:25:24,896
I lived in New Orleans,
382
00:25:24,896 --> 00:25:27,068
until I graduated
from high school.
383
00:25:27,068 --> 00:25:30,931
Then I lived in about five
or six major cities.
384
00:25:33,206 --> 00:25:35,413
His tusks are getting big.
385
00:25:36,172 --> 00:25:39,689
I'm not gonna do
the 2.0 kids,
386
00:25:39,689 --> 00:25:41,103
and live in a house
in the suburbs.
387
00:25:41,103 --> 00:25:43,103
That's just not me.
388
00:25:43,103 --> 00:25:47,206
Oh, I just stepped
in the big pile.
389
00:25:47,206 --> 00:25:50,172
I have a track record
of falling for the wrong guys.
390
00:25:52,172 --> 00:25:55,000
I would choose guys
who were good looking,
391
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:57,000
and very charismatic,
392
00:25:57,000 --> 00:26:00,275
but in terms
of a long term partner...
393
00:26:00,275 --> 00:26:03,000
they were not what I needed.
394
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:07,482
And then I met Rishi.
395
00:26:14,482 --> 00:26:16,793
Rishi is 32 years old,
396
00:26:16,793 --> 00:26:19,275
and he's a personal trainer
and model.
397
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:21,275
I know. Oh, my gosh,
398
00:26:21,275 --> 00:26:22,896
it's sounds...
it's such a cliche.
399
00:26:26,862 --> 00:26:28,862
But I met Rishi
in a hotel lobby
400
00:26:28,862 --> 00:26:31,172
while I was on a solo trip
to India.
401
00:26:32,689 --> 00:26:35,896
He was at the hotel
for a modelling job.
402
00:26:35,896 --> 00:26:37,517
We just started talking.
403
00:26:37,517 --> 00:26:40,275
And he started showing me
modelling photos.
404
00:26:40,275 --> 00:26:44,379
And I just immediately
went to... hard pass.
405
00:26:46,620 --> 00:26:49,000
I was not interested
in him at all.
406
00:26:49,862 --> 00:26:52,172
I thought he was kind of...
407
00:26:52,172 --> 00:26:54,310
a douchebag, for a lack
of a better way to say it.
408
00:26:55,517 --> 00:26:57,206
But a couple days later
409
00:26:57,206 --> 00:26:58,896
we started hanging out
as friends.
410
00:27:00,103 --> 00:27:03,103
We saw each other
four or five times.
411
00:27:03,758 --> 00:27:06,172
And it's hard to pinpoint
412
00:27:06,172 --> 00:27:08,758
exactly what made me
fall for Rishi.
413
00:27:09,896 --> 00:27:12,000
But I don't know,
I just...
414
00:27:12,758 --> 00:27:14,275
I knew he was the one.
415
00:27:16,689 --> 00:27:19,413
Aw, yeah. Do that again.
416
00:27:19,413 --> 00:27:22,172
And within a month
of us meeting, he proposed.
417
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:31,862
It was completely
out of the blue.
418
00:27:31,862 --> 00:27:33,586
We hadn't discussed
the future,
419
00:27:33,586 --> 00:27:36,068
we hadn't discussed
me leaving or staying,
420
00:27:36,068 --> 00:27:37,862
or anything like that.
421
00:27:37,862 --> 00:27:42,172
But I did not hesitate at all
before saying yes.
422
00:27:42,172 --> 00:27:43,896
It just felt right.
423
00:27:51,620 --> 00:27:53,758
I'm gonna get some,
probably some coffee.
424
00:27:53,758 --> 00:27:56,482
- Do you want coffee or tea?
- Uh, tea is good.
425
00:27:56,482 --> 00:27:58,103
All right, I'll be right back.
426
00:27:58,103 --> 00:28:01,482
After Rishi and I got engaged,
I left India,
427
00:28:01,482 --> 00:28:04,172
but planned on moving there
as soon as possible.
428
00:28:04,172 --> 00:28:06,206
Unfortunately Covid hit,
429
00:28:06,206 --> 00:28:08,275
and I haven't seen
Rishi since.
430
00:28:10,620 --> 00:28:12,379
All right.
431
00:28:12,379 --> 00:28:16,000
After waiting two years
for the border to open,
432
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:19,689
I'm finally moving to India
in one week.
433
00:28:19,689 --> 00:28:23,482
But I think my brother feels
like it's huge mistake.
434
00:28:23,482 --> 00:28:26,103
And just one of the many
mistakes that I've made
435
00:28:26,103 --> 00:28:28,103
over the course of my life.
436
00:28:28,103 --> 00:28:29,413
Did you get everything
done for today?
437
00:28:29,413 --> 00:28:32,689
I'm waiting to...
weather to clear up
so I can weld.
438
00:28:34,103 --> 00:28:37,896
So I know that you had
expressed some concern before
439
00:28:37,896 --> 00:28:39,482
about me moving.
440
00:28:39,482 --> 00:28:42,758
I feel like I'm finally...
441
00:28:42,758 --> 00:28:44,896
in a place where I found
somebody that
442
00:28:44,896 --> 00:28:47,620
I'm ready to stay
somewhere with.
443
00:28:48,620 --> 00:28:50,000
I really love
this guys and...
444
00:28:53,931 --> 00:28:55,103
What do you mean?
445
00:28:57,275 --> 00:28:59,103
You're not concerned
that he's tried to...
446
00:28:59,103 --> 00:29:01,172
dodge you, contacting you.
447
00:29:03,862 --> 00:29:06,206
I seem to recall
you talking about
448
00:29:06,206 --> 00:29:09,000
- him not responding...
- Yeah. Yeah, yeah.
449
00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:11,482
I did. I went through
some insecurity
450
00:29:11,482 --> 00:29:13,793
at the beginning
when we were apart.
451
00:29:16,206 --> 00:29:18,172
You're not wrong about that.
452
00:29:19,310 --> 00:29:21,620
After I first moved back
to the States,
453
00:29:21,620 --> 00:29:24,000
I kind of spun out
a couple times,
454
00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:27,379
if he didn't call me,
like at a certain time.
455
00:29:27,379 --> 00:29:30,517
I've thought the relationship
is over and...
456
00:29:30,517 --> 00:29:32,206
I've sent him
a couple of videos...
457
00:29:33,172 --> 00:29:35,517
I'd love to be
wrong about this, but...
458
00:29:35,517 --> 00:29:37,000
I just have a feeling...
459
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:38,862
I have a feeling that
you're distancing yourself,
460
00:29:38,862 --> 00:29:40,793
and that maybe
you're not all in.
461
00:29:40,793 --> 00:29:42,689
Oh, I'll always love you.
462
00:29:43,413 --> 00:29:45,172
You're like, my first love.
463
00:29:46,379 --> 00:29:49,517
Um, but I can let go.
464
00:29:49,517 --> 00:29:52,586
Because I have to
love myself and...
465
00:29:53,620 --> 00:29:55,517
I don't like feeling
like I'm...
466
00:29:56,482 --> 00:29:57,689
chasing you.
467
00:29:59,310 --> 00:30:01,896
He didn't ghost me or anything
but the contact wasn't
468
00:30:01,896 --> 00:30:03,862
as consistent as it was.
469
00:30:03,862 --> 00:30:06,482
And so, we definitely
went through a period
470
00:30:06,482 --> 00:30:09,206
where I... I've had
a lot of doubts.
471
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:12,206
Jennifer,
I don't know
472
00:30:12,206 --> 00:30:14,172
that you've spent enough time.
473
00:30:14,172 --> 00:30:16,517
How many total days
have you spent with him?
474
00:30:17,758 --> 00:30:21,482
So, we met and I spent...
475
00:30:21,482 --> 00:30:25,620
like, roughly around
45 days with him and...
476
00:30:25,620 --> 00:30:27,758
Two months, is that
what we're talking about?
477
00:30:27,758 --> 00:30:30,000
- Yeah, a little less
than two months.
- Whooo!
478
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:33,379
It seems like a lot of risk
to go to another country.
479
00:30:33,379 --> 00:30:35,275
You know, you have more
support system
480
00:30:35,275 --> 00:30:37,000
that works on
your benefit here,
481
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:38,172
but you're choosing to
482
00:30:38,172 --> 00:30:39,689
make it difficult on yourself.
483
00:30:41,758 --> 00:30:44,172
You know, that does
worry me sometimes because
484
00:30:44,172 --> 00:30:47,379
this is like where I come
when I'm upset.
485
00:30:47,379 --> 00:30:49,000
This is one of
your escape places.
486
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:49,931
Yeah.
487
00:30:50,413 --> 00:30:51,448
And so...
488
00:30:51,448 --> 00:30:53,379
Now, you'll be in India
with nowhere to go.
489
00:30:55,793 --> 00:30:57,793
I don't really know
anything about Rishi
490
00:30:57,793 --> 00:31:00,896
other than he does
some kind of modeling,
491
00:31:00,896 --> 00:31:03,413
and he's into
physical fitness,
492
00:31:03,413 --> 00:31:05,862
which doesn't say anything
to me about his character.
493
00:31:06,586 --> 00:31:08,172
Jen definitely does not
494
00:31:08,172 --> 00:31:10,482
pick the right men
historically, or hasn't.
495
00:31:11,413 --> 00:31:13,206
Being on the other side
of the world,
496
00:31:13,206 --> 00:31:15,517
having a track record
that she does,
497
00:31:15,517 --> 00:31:17,379
I think it's a big risk.
498
00:31:19,275 --> 00:31:22,482
I will admit, I have not
had the best
499
00:31:22,482 --> 00:31:26,000
compass for finding
the right men.
500
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:27,758
I don't think that's
the case this time.
501
00:31:31,172 --> 00:31:33,379
I didn't really know
what I wanted
502
00:31:33,379 --> 00:31:34,620
in a relationship
503
00:31:35,413 --> 00:31:37,793
until I met Rishi.
504
00:31:37,793 --> 00:31:41,517
His whole persona
and just his energy
505
00:31:41,517 --> 00:31:42,689
is very different
506
00:31:42,689 --> 00:31:44,931
than anyone I've ever dated.
507
00:31:45,862 --> 00:31:47,586
But at the same time,
508
00:31:47,586 --> 00:31:49,862
I have to admit,
I do have doubts.
509
00:31:50,620 --> 00:31:52,000
What if I'm wrong
510
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:54,379
and what if this is
another mistake?
511
00:31:55,482 --> 00:31:57,482
I'm gonna keep an open mind,
512
00:31:57,482 --> 00:31:58,620
let me just say that.
513
00:31:58,620 --> 00:32:01,000
I'll keep an open mind,
but I'm skeptical.
514
00:32:01,482 --> 00:32:02,620
But we'll see.
515
00:32:07,068 --> 00:32:08,896
We're gonna make
lots of penises.
516
00:32:08,896 --> 00:32:10,000
Penis.
517
00:32:12,172 --> 00:32:14,068
You can see, it's already
starting to puff up.
518
00:32:14,896 --> 00:32:16,379
I created a brand.
519
00:32:16,379 --> 00:32:17,517
It is underwear
520
00:32:17,517 --> 00:32:19,862
that already have
a bulge in them.
521
00:32:19,862 --> 00:32:22,000
Bada-bing bada-boom,
you have a bulge right there.
522
00:32:42,586 --> 00:32:44,275
We're gonna make
lots of penises.
523
00:32:44,275 --> 00:32:45,482
Penis.
524
00:32:47,586 --> 00:32:50,068
So welcome
to my cooking show.
525
00:32:50,068 --> 00:32:52,068
I'm gonna make
a penis forms.
526
00:33:04,172 --> 00:33:05,896
Once I feel it
getting thicker,
527
00:33:05,896 --> 00:33:06,965
then I know it's ready.
528
00:33:06,965 --> 00:33:09,034
And then I just pour it in.
529
00:33:09,896 --> 00:33:10,965
My name is Gabriel.
530
00:33:10,965 --> 00:33:12,172
I'm 32 years old
531
00:33:12,172 --> 00:33:13,379
and I'm from Margate, Florida.
532
00:33:19,793 --> 00:33:22,482
I created a brand called
Get More Proud wear,
533
00:33:22,482 --> 00:33:25,275
it is underwear for
female-to-male
transgender people
534
00:33:25,275 --> 00:33:27,896
who have not had
their bottom surgery yet,
535
00:33:27,896 --> 00:33:31,586
which is swapping out
what genitalia you have.
536
00:33:31,586 --> 00:33:35,068
So my underwear,
they already have
a bulge in them.
537
00:33:36,137 --> 00:33:38,689
If you look at a guy's crotch
wearing shorts,
538
00:33:38,689 --> 00:33:40,689
you're not going to see
a bulge, barely ever.
539
00:33:40,689 --> 00:33:42,275
But if you're a trans guy,
540
00:33:42,275 --> 00:33:43,862
just knowing that
there's nothing there
541
00:33:43,862 --> 00:33:45,482
and there's nothing under,
it's...
542
00:33:46,379 --> 00:33:47,172
it sucks.
543
00:33:48,758 --> 00:33:50,275
So a trans person,
544
00:33:50,275 --> 00:33:52,000
female to male,
they have to wear
545
00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:55,689
a packer, which is like
a fake limp penis.
546
00:33:55,689 --> 00:33:57,379
And then they have to
wear a harness
to hold it in place
547
00:33:57,379 --> 00:33:58,965
and they have to put
their underwear on.
548
00:33:58,965 --> 00:34:00,758
And that is a lot of work
and it's heavy.
549
00:34:02,655 --> 00:34:04,586
And then, you can see,
it's already starting
to puff up.
550
00:34:06,137 --> 00:34:08,758
I came up with the idea
for my business because
551
00:34:08,758 --> 00:34:10,000
packers fall out of pants.
552
00:34:13,896 --> 00:34:16,241
One day, when I was younger,
553
00:34:16,241 --> 00:34:18,000
I was actually swimming,
554
00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:20,344
and lo and behold, guess what?
555
00:34:20,344 --> 00:34:22,000
I am swimming this way
556
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:24,068
and my sock
is swimming that way.
557
00:34:24,068 --> 00:34:25,689
And I'm like, "Oh, crap."
558
00:34:25,689 --> 00:34:27,482
So I'm just like,
"Oh, that's not mine."
559
00:34:27,482 --> 00:34:29,551
I'm like, I'm not...
we're not doing this today.
560
00:34:31,034 --> 00:34:32,758
And ta-da!
561
00:34:33,586 --> 00:34:35,551
It's nice and right.
562
00:34:35,551 --> 00:34:38,344
I love the feedback
that I get from customers.
563
00:34:38,344 --> 00:34:41,034
A lot of people,
they'll write to me saying,
564
00:34:41,034 --> 00:34:42,689
"I love your underwear
so much,
565
00:34:42,689 --> 00:34:44,034
"you make me
so much more confident."
566
00:34:45,103 --> 00:34:47,586
The final product looks
like this. It has
567
00:34:47,586 --> 00:34:48,655
a bulge in it.
568
00:34:49,793 --> 00:34:51,551
Bada-bing bada-boom,
you have, like,
569
00:34:52,172 --> 00:34:53,551
a bulge right there.
570
00:34:53,551 --> 00:34:55,758
Like, I actually made
a product that
571
00:34:55,758 --> 00:34:57,586
people wear
on a regular basis.
572
00:34:58,689 --> 00:35:00,344
Sometimes, not all of them
come out.
573
00:35:00,344 --> 00:35:02,068
Which sucks, because this...
574
00:35:02,068 --> 00:35:04,793
foam is very, very expensive.
575
00:35:04,793 --> 00:35:06,344
I make the packers myself
576
00:35:06,344 --> 00:35:07,965
and I sew them
into the underwear,
577
00:35:07,965 --> 00:35:10,172
but I do get
the underwear manufactured.
578
00:35:12,172 --> 00:35:14,000
About a year ago,
I went to Columbia
579
00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:15,275
to look for a new supplier.
580
00:35:17,862 --> 00:35:20,482
While I was in Colombia
looking for somebody to...
581
00:35:20,482 --> 00:35:22,586
sell my under pants,
I met Isabel.
582
00:35:33,137 --> 00:35:35,172
We met at a mutual
friend's house,
583
00:35:35,172 --> 00:35:38,482
and I was like, "Dang, girl,
she's fine."
584
00:35:38,482 --> 00:35:41,241
Like, she is so beautiful
that I'm like...
585
00:35:41,241 --> 00:35:42,862
like my heart
is melting.
586
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:47,896
We definitely had
an immediate chemistry.
587
00:35:47,896 --> 00:35:50,000
Like, I felt like our heart
was like a boom,
588
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:51,758
like there was a string,
you know it was like,
589
00:35:51,758 --> 00:35:54,034
you don't have to say anything
but it's like you're...
590
00:35:54,034 --> 00:35:55,896
you feel like your chest
just wants to be like...
591
00:35:55,896 --> 00:35:57,379
all the way to them.
592
00:35:57,379 --> 00:35:58,793
That's how exactly how I felt.
593
00:36:03,068 --> 00:36:05,241
That night we went out...
594
00:36:05,241 --> 00:36:07,137
we was kissing,
we was dancing,
595
00:36:07,137 --> 00:36:08,655
we was hugging,
it was a great night.
596
00:36:08,655 --> 00:36:10,896
And Isabel told me
that she didn't have sex
597
00:36:10,896 --> 00:36:14,482
on the first night.
Which, I was kind
of relieved because...
598
00:36:14,482 --> 00:36:16,379
she did not know
that I was trans.
599
00:36:21,689 --> 00:36:22,793
Today's gonna be a fun day.
600
00:36:29,448 --> 00:36:31,896
I'm going to have
a one-man pride parade.
601
00:36:32,896 --> 00:36:35,000
Whoo! Let's go, baby!
602
00:36:41,862 --> 00:36:43,758
I'm trans. Once upon a time
I was a girl,
603
00:36:43,758 --> 00:36:45,482
and... now I'm a whole man.
604
00:36:46,862 --> 00:36:49,655
A whole man, 'cause I already
got my surgery, yeah.
605
00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:55,896
Yes!
606
00:36:59,448 --> 00:37:01,000
It's what I'm talking about,
big daddy.
607
00:37:02,103 --> 00:37:03,241
Big daddy Gabe.
608
00:37:04,275 --> 00:37:06,586
Yes, yes, yes!
609
00:37:06,586 --> 00:37:07,689
That's what I'm talking about.
610
00:37:07,689 --> 00:37:08,896
I love doing my parades.
611
00:37:08,896 --> 00:37:11,586
I do them when
I feel prideful.
612
00:37:11,586 --> 00:37:13,000
I've been doing it
for two years now.
613
00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:14,344
Happy pride month!
614
00:37:15,586 --> 00:37:18,448
I first started the one-man
flash pride parade
615
00:37:18,448 --> 00:37:20,965
because Covid
locked down everything.
616
00:37:22,482 --> 00:37:24,793
All of the pride parades,
all the festivals,
617
00:37:24,793 --> 00:37:26,068
they were now cancelled.
618
00:37:26,068 --> 00:37:27,758
And I felt like,
619
00:37:27,758 --> 00:37:29,896
people just needed
a pick-me-up, you know,
620
00:37:29,896 --> 00:37:31,275
something to smile about.
621
00:37:31,275 --> 00:37:33,275
Yes! That's what
I'm talking about!
622
00:37:37,448 --> 00:37:39,275
It's a very hard life
being trans.
623
00:37:40,482 --> 00:37:42,758
It's not like, one day
you just wake up, you're like,
624
00:37:42,758 --> 00:37:44,275
"Oh, you know what,
I'm trans."
625
00:37:44,275 --> 00:37:47,000
No, it's a feeling that
you feel you're entire life.
626
00:37:48,896 --> 00:37:50,586
When I was younger,
I want to say
627
00:37:50,586 --> 00:37:52,758
in... kindergarten.
628
00:37:52,758 --> 00:37:56,034
My cousin had a friend
that dressed like a boy.
629
00:37:57,586 --> 00:37:58,965
Once I found out that,
you know,
630
00:37:58,965 --> 00:38:00,275
girls can wear boy clothes.
631
00:38:00,275 --> 00:38:02,275
I started with
basketball shorts.
632
00:38:02,275 --> 00:38:04,379
And I just wore
basketball shorts
every single day.
633
00:38:06,379 --> 00:38:10,275
When I was 16 years old,
I came out as lesbian.
634
00:38:10,275 --> 00:38:12,689
Because I didn't know that
you can change your gender.
635
00:38:12,689 --> 00:38:13,655
I didn't know
anything like that.
636
00:38:13,655 --> 00:38:15,482
All I know was,
"Oh, I feel like a boy."
637
00:38:15,482 --> 00:38:17,275
But you know what?
I date girls.
638
00:38:17,275 --> 00:38:18,793
Oh, um... that...
639
00:38:18,793 --> 00:38:20,689
when I was little
that's what I thought
it was, you know.
640
00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:24,241
And then when I was
22 years old,
641
00:38:25,379 --> 00:38:27,896
I saw a video, and this guy
was transitioning,
642
00:38:27,896 --> 00:38:29,689
he used to put up videos
about that.
643
00:38:29,689 --> 00:38:31,448
And so I was like,
"Wow, that's crazy."
644
00:38:31,448 --> 00:38:33,655
So I watched
all his videos in like,
645
00:38:33,655 --> 00:38:35,068
back-to-back in like,
that whole night.
646
00:38:36,758 --> 00:38:39,689
After that I was like,
"All right. I gotta do this."
647
00:38:39,689 --> 00:38:41,862
I knew. Like I didn't have
no doubts in my mind.
648
00:38:44,758 --> 00:38:48,103
There isn't a written rule
or unwritten rule
649
00:38:48,103 --> 00:38:49,172
when it comes
to tell somebody,
650
00:38:49,172 --> 00:38:51,172
even like somebody
that you're dating.
651
00:38:51,172 --> 00:38:55,000
But the morning after
I met Isabel,
652
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:57,103
I'm like,
"Oh, I have to tell her.
I have to tell her."
653
00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:03,896
So, I ended up telling her
through text messages...
654
00:39:04,793 --> 00:39:06,241
and she tells me,
655
00:39:06,241 --> 00:39:08,275
"It's okay, 'cause I just
see you as a man."
656
00:39:14,137 --> 00:39:15,379
And at that point I was like,
657
00:39:15,379 --> 00:39:18,103
oh, yes, like, this is like,
it couldn't have worked out
658
00:39:18,103 --> 00:39:20,241
in my favor like any better.
659
00:39:23,379 --> 00:39:25,344
A couple months after we met
660
00:39:25,344 --> 00:39:27,758
I started renting
an apartment
in Medellin, Colombia.
661
00:39:32,896 --> 00:39:34,465
And that's when Isabel
662
00:39:34,465 --> 00:39:37,379
moved out of her
family's house
and in with me in Medellin.
663
00:39:37,379 --> 00:39:39,275
I've been going back
and forth ever since,
664
00:39:39,275 --> 00:39:41,068
but now I'm gonna
move there permanently.
665
00:39:41,655 --> 00:39:43,000
And I'm proposing to her
666
00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:45,586
because I cannot be away
from this woman.
667
00:39:46,586 --> 00:39:47,689
I love Isabel.
668
00:39:49,965 --> 00:39:51,103
Hey, yo, Kion.
669
00:39:52,241 --> 00:39:54,448
- Yo! What is up, bro?
- Kion, what are you doing?
670
00:39:54,448 --> 00:39:56,275
- Hi, hi, hi!
- Why you
on my block?
671
00:39:56,275 --> 00:39:57,896
One-man parade.
672
00:39:57,896 --> 00:39:59,551
Kion is my best friend.
673
00:39:59,551 --> 00:40:00,586
Yo, waasup?
674
00:40:00,586 --> 00:40:02,482
I met him a couple of
years ago,
675
00:40:02,482 --> 00:40:03,896
from a transgender
support group.
676
00:40:03,896 --> 00:40:06,241
- Happy pride!
- Happy pride!
677
00:40:06,241 --> 00:40:08,448
- Are you hungry?
'cause I'm hungry.
- Yes!
678
00:40:08,448 --> 00:40:09,896
He loves the idea
of my parades,
679
00:40:09,896 --> 00:40:11,482
so sometimes
he decides to join.
680
00:40:15,586 --> 00:40:17,482
I feel a little naked
out here, ain't gonna lie.
681
00:40:17,482 --> 00:40:19,689
I'm letting your
legacy live on.
682
00:40:19,689 --> 00:40:21,241
- There you go.
- A one-man parade,
683
00:40:21,241 --> 00:40:24,551
'cause somebody decided
to really go to Colombia.
684
00:40:24,551 --> 00:40:27,000
I'm making it official, bro,
like, my sewing machines,
685
00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:28,758
everything is coming
with me now.
686
00:40:28,758 --> 00:40:30,034
- Here you go, guys.
- Thank you, thank you so much.
687
00:40:30,034 --> 00:40:32,275
I'm happy for you.
As long as you happy,
I'm happy.
688
00:40:32,275 --> 00:40:33,896
I'm gonna have to come and...
689
00:40:33,896 --> 00:40:35,793
come down there
for the one-man parade...
690
00:40:37,275 --> 00:40:38,344
So, how is it out there?
691
00:40:38,344 --> 00:40:40,586
They... they're
trans friendly, like,
692
00:40:40,586 --> 00:40:43,068
you know, especially
with transitioning going
693
00:40:43,068 --> 00:40:44,482
- to a whole another country.
- For sure.
694
00:40:44,482 --> 00:40:46,103
It's like, I'm not the only
trans person over there,
695
00:40:46,103 --> 00:40:47,172
in Colombia, not at all.
696
00:40:47,172 --> 00:40:48,379
You've met other guys?
697
00:40:48,379 --> 00:40:50,896
Well, I never meet
any guys here. You...
698
00:40:50,896 --> 00:40:53,586
- Try go to Colombia
to replace me?
- Whoa, whoa...
699
00:40:53,586 --> 00:40:57,000
I'm gonna... you got
a best friend that
will fly down there,
700
00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:59,793
cause I will come outside,
no one taking my place.
701
00:40:59,793 --> 00:41:02,137
No, no. I'm telling you,
even down here,
702
00:41:02,137 --> 00:41:03,965
what you see more trans men
or trans women?
703
00:41:05,137 --> 00:41:07,655
- Trans women.
- They're like... everywhere.
704
00:41:07,655 --> 00:41:09,137
It's like the same thing
in Colombia like...
705
00:41:09,137 --> 00:41:11,482
But you know, at the same time
you can't clock us,
706
00:41:11,482 --> 00:41:12,482
so it's not like...
707
00:41:12,482 --> 00:41:14,275
Exactly. Exactly.
708
00:41:14,275 --> 00:41:16,137
Is that one of the
brother's of brotherhood?
709
00:41:16,137 --> 00:41:17,482
- Exactly.
- Oh, no.
710
00:41:18,655 --> 00:41:21,241
I'm more than happy for him
that he's going to Colombia,
711
00:41:21,241 --> 00:41:22,482
but at the same time,
712
00:41:22,482 --> 00:41:24,448
I just wanna make sure
he's okay.
713
00:41:24,448 --> 00:41:25,896
He's being, you know
what I'm saying,
714
00:41:25,896 --> 00:41:27,379
accepted as who he is.
715
00:41:27,379 --> 00:41:28,965
He's not being mistreated,
716
00:41:28,965 --> 00:41:30,344
being anything of the sort,
717
00:41:30,344 --> 00:41:32,482
even if somebody finds out
his situation.
718
00:41:33,689 --> 00:41:36,448
So what about like,
the family, you around?
719
00:41:36,448 --> 00:41:38,758
Any questions,
anything like that?
720
00:41:38,758 --> 00:41:40,172
Her mom and dad,
they don't know.
721
00:41:42,689 --> 00:41:44,965
And I'm trying to marry
their daughter.
722
00:41:44,965 --> 00:41:47,586
So, like, what would you do?
And how would you phrase it?
723
00:41:47,586 --> 00:41:49,275
Do you really want her parents
to know that?
724
00:41:49,275 --> 00:41:50,793
- Yeah, they need to know.
- It's really bothering you?
725
00:41:50,793 --> 00:41:53,482
They gotta know 'cause
they accepted me like...
726
00:41:53,482 --> 00:41:56,344
like, they're...
they love me...
they love me so much.
727
00:41:56,344 --> 00:41:57,586
and I feel like,
every time I see them
728
00:41:57,586 --> 00:41:59,758
I'm like damn, I feel so bad,
'cause it's like...
729
00:41:59,758 --> 00:42:02,000
- You feel you're hiding
something from them?
- They need to know. Exactly.
730
00:42:05,379 --> 00:42:08,068
I don't make a point
to tell everybody that
I'm trans.
731
00:42:08,068 --> 00:42:09,482
I even have
friends that like,
732
00:42:09,482 --> 00:42:10,689
some of them don't know.
733
00:42:12,689 --> 00:42:14,172
But with her parents
I feel like it's different
734
00:42:14,172 --> 00:42:16,379
because I'm becoming
a part of this family now.
735
00:42:16,379 --> 00:42:18,758
When we get married,
they're now my family.
736
00:42:19,758 --> 00:42:21,137
I don't wanna have
any secrets,
737
00:42:21,137 --> 00:42:23,586
and I don't want them
to find out from
somebody else.
738
00:42:25,862 --> 00:42:27,482
Do I tell them
I'm trans first,
739
00:42:27,482 --> 00:42:29,344
or do I ask him
to marry is daughter?
740
00:42:29,344 --> 00:42:31,172
So the point of you asking
for his permission
741
00:42:31,172 --> 00:42:32,793
let him know
he accepts you as a whole.
742
00:42:32,793 --> 00:42:34,172
So let him know...
743
00:42:34,172 --> 00:42:35,655
- Listen, I'm gonna
let you know about me.
- Before or after?
744
00:42:35,655 --> 00:42:36,793
No, let him know before.
745
00:42:36,793 --> 00:42:39,137
He's giving you his blessings
to marry his child.
746
00:42:39,137 --> 00:42:41,586
So let him know,
"Listen, this is what
I've got going on with me."
747
00:42:41,586 --> 00:42:43,275
You know what I'm saying,
"I want you to still
748
00:42:43,275 --> 00:42:45,586
accept me as who I am."
749
00:42:45,586 --> 00:42:47,551
You think it should be
like in one conversation?
750
00:42:47,551 --> 00:42:49,172
Yes. Of course. Of course.
751
00:42:51,689 --> 00:42:54,379
I understand Gabe's fear
of telling them that
752
00:42:54,379 --> 00:42:56,034
we're a person
of trans experience,
753
00:42:56,034 --> 00:42:58,241
because you can't control
what people think
754
00:42:58,241 --> 00:42:59,793
or how people feel.
755
00:42:59,793 --> 00:43:03,275
You never know
what the consequences are.
756
00:43:03,275 --> 00:43:04,758
I should just do it
all in one like,
757
00:43:04,758 --> 00:43:07,137
I wanna marry your daughter,
but this is who I am before,
758
00:43:07,137 --> 00:43:09,275
and I don't wanna lie to you,
I don't wanna hide anything.
759
00:43:09,275 --> 00:43:11,068
Yeah.
760
00:43:11,068 --> 00:43:14,379
I'm very worried
about me coming out
to her family,
761
00:43:14,379 --> 00:43:15,965
and them rejecting me,
762
00:43:15,965 --> 00:43:18,793
because Isabel is very,
very close with her family.
763
00:43:20,241 --> 00:43:23,137
I've given up everything
in the States to be with her.
764
00:43:23,137 --> 00:43:25,551
And if her family doesn't
approve of this relationship,
765
00:43:25,551 --> 00:43:28,448
I don't know how it'll affect
my relationship with Isabel,
766
00:43:28,448 --> 00:43:31,275
and that is the most
scariest part of this
whole thing.
767
00:43:32,137 --> 00:43:33,586
Well, I'm happy for you, bro.
768
00:43:33,586 --> 00:43:35,379
The best for you in Colombia,
769
00:43:35,379 --> 00:43:36,586
I will be seeing you.
770
00:43:36,586 --> 00:43:38,689
I will be coming to that
bachelor party.
771
00:43:39,758 --> 00:43:40,896
Congratulations.
772
00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:46,586
You were fantasizing
about this life
773
00:43:46,586 --> 00:43:47,586
you're gonna have
in DR,
774
00:43:47,586 --> 00:43:49,793
how are you gonna afford it?
775
00:43:50,482 --> 00:43:51,965
I'm gonna manifest it.
776
00:43:54,655 --> 00:43:57,034
She wants to leave the chaos
of New York City
777
00:43:57,034 --> 00:43:59,103
but I think
she's walking into chaos
778
00:43:59,103 --> 00:44:00,137
and she doesn't even
realize it.
779
00:44:00,137 --> 00:44:02,172
Life is more than
just sundresses,
780
00:44:02,172 --> 00:44:03,896
and walking barefoot
on the beach.
781
00:44:28,482 --> 00:44:31,275
Before I move
I have to finish off the
school year.
782
00:44:31,275 --> 00:44:33,758
But I'm going to
Dominican Republic next week.
783
00:44:33,758 --> 00:44:35,586
So that I can get everything
lined up for my move.
784
00:44:38,241 --> 00:44:39,448
- Hi!
- Ooh!
785
00:44:39,448 --> 00:44:41,896
What's wrong with you?
Oh, my...
786
00:44:41,896 --> 00:44:43,965
Who enters like that?
787
00:44:46,241 --> 00:44:48,241
Because I'm travelling
so much back and forth
788
00:44:48,241 --> 00:44:49,896
to the Dominican Republic
I rarely have time
789
00:44:49,896 --> 00:44:51,586
to catch up with my friends.
790
00:44:51,586 --> 00:44:53,551
Based on the last time
I spoke to Lizzette
and Sandra,
791
00:44:53,551 --> 00:44:55,896
I'm sure they're gonna have
a lot of questions.
792
00:44:55,896 --> 00:44:58,000
I think we're getting
married next week.
793
00:44:58,000 --> 00:44:59,896
No! No, no, no...
794
00:44:59,896 --> 00:45:02,275
- No, no, no.
- What is she so happy about?
795
00:45:03,689 --> 00:45:05,137
- Hello, there.
- Hi.
796
00:45:05,137 --> 00:45:06,275
Some bread.
797
00:45:06,275 --> 00:45:08,137
- Thank you.
- Thank you.
798
00:45:08,137 --> 00:45:09,379
Can I ask you a question?
799
00:45:10,068 --> 00:45:11,379
So what's the deal? Are you...
800
00:45:11,379 --> 00:45:13,482
Is he coming here?
Are you going there?
801
00:45:13,482 --> 00:45:15,000
Like, what's the...
802
00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:16,689
So I'm going down
to DR a week.
803
00:45:16,689 --> 00:45:19,551
and then use this trip
to set up all the logistics.
804
00:45:19,551 --> 00:45:22,896
And I'm moving there,
like, permanently.
805
00:45:24,482 --> 00:45:27,655
Okay, so the idea is you're
giving up your apartment,
806
00:45:27,655 --> 00:45:29,172
you're getting rid
of all your stuff,
807
00:45:30,379 --> 00:45:31,482
and you're bringing one...
808
00:45:34,896 --> 00:45:36,275
To DR...
809
00:45:36,275 --> 00:45:37,241
and this is it.
810
00:45:38,172 --> 00:45:39,379
- Forever.
- Yeah.
811
00:45:40,241 --> 00:45:41,689
What are you gonna do there?
812
00:45:47,137 --> 00:45:49,965
I like to be at the beach,
you know me.
813
00:45:49,965 --> 00:45:52,344
- Okay...
- We know you like
to be at the beach
814
00:45:52,344 --> 00:45:53,793
- but not forever.
- You gonna live a life
at the beach?
815
00:45:55,586 --> 00:45:57,793
And financially
you're gonna be doing...
816
00:45:58,482 --> 00:45:59,793
I'll eat mangoes.
817
00:46:01,379 --> 00:46:03,275
At the beach forever.
818
00:46:04,655 --> 00:46:06,379
You can't tell me that
the beach is gonna be
819
00:46:06,379 --> 00:46:08,172
that fulfilling
every single day.
820
00:46:08,172 --> 00:46:10,586
I can teach yoga class
on the beach.
821
00:46:10,586 --> 00:46:13,275
- I can...
- That's one day, okay,
the other six days?
822
00:46:13,275 --> 00:46:16,482
I can teach
my Zoom classes online,
823
00:46:16,482 --> 00:46:17,689
I can do lots of things.
824
00:46:17,689 --> 00:46:19,379
I mean, when I'm there
I have a great time!
825
00:46:19,379 --> 00:46:22,103
- Because you're on vacation.
- You're on vacation.
826
00:46:22,103 --> 00:46:23,379
It's not living there.
827
00:46:25,379 --> 00:46:26,793
Can we focus here?
828
00:46:28,275 --> 00:46:29,689
You were fantasizing
about this life
829
00:46:29,689 --> 00:46:30,862
you're gonna have in DR,
830
00:46:30,862 --> 00:46:33,379
- how are you
going to afford it?
- Pay for it.
831
00:46:33,379 --> 00:46:34,275
How?
832
00:46:35,689 --> 00:46:36,793
I'm gonna manifest it.
833
00:46:42,275 --> 00:46:44,344
Daniele's answer is,
"I will manifest it."
834
00:46:44,344 --> 00:46:46,379
That is not how I live.
835
00:46:46,379 --> 00:46:48,896
She wants to leave
the chaos of New York City,
836
00:46:48,896 --> 00:46:50,896
but I think
she's walking into chaos
837
00:46:50,896 --> 00:46:52,689
- and she doesn't
even realize it.
- Mm.
838
00:46:53,379 --> 00:46:55,172
Marrying Yohan is one thing,
839
00:46:55,172 --> 00:46:58,000
but she's giving up
everything to go over there.
840
00:46:58,689 --> 00:47:00,482
Everything.
841
00:47:00,482 --> 00:47:03,655
And I don't know
if she's fully grasped
842
00:47:03,655 --> 00:47:05,344
what that means.
843
00:47:05,344 --> 00:47:06,793
This time
you're going for real,
844
00:47:06,793 --> 00:47:08,275
you're not going to vacation.
845
00:47:08,275 --> 00:47:10,793
You have to see what life,
the ins and out of...
846
00:47:10,793 --> 00:47:12,793
you know, life with Yohan,
847
00:47:12,793 --> 00:47:14,068
in the Dominican Republic.
848
00:47:14,068 --> 00:47:16,068
Life is more than
just sundresses
849
00:47:16,068 --> 00:47:17,896
and walking barefoot
on the beach, right?
850
00:47:17,896 --> 00:47:19,379
Just prepare yourself.
851
00:47:21,103 --> 00:47:24,344
All the concerns that
my friends are raising are...
852
00:47:24,344 --> 00:47:25,655
in the what-if category.
853
00:47:25,655 --> 00:47:27,586
And I don't really worry
about the what-ifs.
854
00:47:27,586 --> 00:47:29,689
I just want to enjoy
my life with
855
00:47:29,689 --> 00:47:32,000
the love of my life
in a slower pace
856
00:47:33,172 --> 00:47:34,448
near the ocean.
857
00:47:35,275 --> 00:47:36,655
What does Yohan think?
858
00:47:36,655 --> 00:47:38,344
So, Yohan thinks that
859
00:47:38,344 --> 00:47:39,689
we're gonna live in
the Dominican Republic
860
00:47:39,689 --> 00:47:41,689
until this visa interview
is scheduled
861
00:47:41,689 --> 00:47:42,793
and his visa is approved.
862
00:47:42,793 --> 00:47:43,793
And then we're gonna
come to the U.S.
863
00:47:43,793 --> 00:47:45,448
when he gets his green card,
864
00:47:45,448 --> 00:47:48,103
that's like the plan
in his head.
865
00:47:48,103 --> 00:47:49,689
I haven't applied
for the visa yet.
866
00:47:50,896 --> 00:47:51,896
Does he know that?
867
00:47:52,482 --> 00:47:53,896
Yes. I think so.
868
00:47:53,896 --> 00:47:56,000
- Like, he has...
- No, no. Does he know that?
869
00:47:56,000 --> 00:47:57,862
I... yes. He knows that.
870
00:47:57,862 --> 00:47:58,758
I think he knows that.
871
00:47:58,758 --> 00:48:01,103
No, no. I think so
it's not a yes.
872
00:48:02,689 --> 00:48:04,068
I haven't said to him,
"By the way,
873
00:48:04,068 --> 00:48:05,344
I haven't applied
for the visa yet,"
874
00:48:05,344 --> 00:48:06,379
but I also haven't
said to him,
875
00:48:06,379 --> 00:48:07,448
"Oh, I just applied
for the visa."
876
00:48:09,586 --> 00:48:12,137
My plan is to just
keep it moving, and...
877
00:48:12,137 --> 00:48:13,482
unless he fights.
878
00:48:14,896 --> 00:48:16,896
I mean, if I don't apply
for a visa,
he can't go anywhere.
879
00:48:16,896 --> 00:48:19,379
So I could just hold on
to this marriage certificate,
880
00:48:19,379 --> 00:48:20,758
and never apply for the visa.
881
00:48:22,172 --> 00:48:24,482
Oh, that's a great way
to start a marriage.
882
00:48:29,275 --> 00:48:32,000
I did tell Yohan
that I would apply
for the spousal visa
883
00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:33,655
so that we can live
in the U.S.
884
00:48:33,655 --> 00:48:35,896
But the more times
I go back and forth
885
00:48:35,896 --> 00:48:36,862
to the Dominican Republic,
886
00:48:36,862 --> 00:48:38,275
the more times I realize,
887
00:48:38,275 --> 00:48:40,137
that I don't want
to be in New York.
888
00:48:40,137 --> 00:48:41,586
Everything is three times
more expensive
889
00:48:41,586 --> 00:48:43,172
than it is anywhere else,
890
00:48:43,172 --> 00:48:44,586
Everything is really hard,
891
00:48:44,586 --> 00:48:45,896
much harder
than it needs to be
892
00:48:45,896 --> 00:48:48,379
and I'm kind of
over at this point.
893
00:48:48,379 --> 00:48:50,965
Like, have you thought
about what you're giving up?
894
00:48:50,965 --> 00:48:53,482
By leaving New York City
and moving...
895
00:48:54,137 --> 00:48:55,482
to Dominican Republic.
896
00:48:55,482 --> 00:48:57,896
You're giving up
community, your friendships,
897
00:48:57,896 --> 00:48:59,965
you're giving up your pension.
898
00:48:59,965 --> 00:49:01,586
Yeah, that's...
that's another thing,
899
00:49:01,586 --> 00:49:03,793
'cause I... I had
a pension consultation,
900
00:49:03,793 --> 00:49:06,758
and they told me that
if I stayed one more year,
901
00:49:06,758 --> 00:49:08,034
it's like this difference
between like,
902
00:49:08,034 --> 00:49:10,068
$15,000 a year or more.
903
00:49:11,103 --> 00:49:12,172
So why is that not even...
904
00:49:12,172 --> 00:49:13,655
why is that not on the table?
905
00:49:13,655 --> 00:49:14,965
Because...
906
00:49:14,965 --> 00:49:17,551
Like an extra $15,000 a year
when I'm 63,
907
00:49:17,551 --> 00:49:19,896
isn't gonna be that
meaningful to me.
908
00:49:19,896 --> 00:49:22,172
And that's the only place
he can be with me right now,
909
00:49:22,172 --> 00:49:23,137
is there.
910
00:49:28,275 --> 00:49:30,068
This is such a big deal.
911
00:49:30,068 --> 00:49:31,103
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
912
00:49:32,068 --> 00:49:33,758
This is such a big deal.
913
00:49:33,758 --> 00:49:34,793
Yeah.
914
00:49:37,172 --> 00:49:38,206
I know that
my friends think
915
00:49:38,206 --> 00:49:40,241
that I'm taking
a really big chance,
916
00:49:40,241 --> 00:49:41,896
making this move
and sacrificing
917
00:49:41,896 --> 00:49:44,482
all these things for Yohan,
but he's the love of my life,
918
00:49:44,482 --> 00:49:46,275
so, of course, I'm gonna...
919
00:49:46,275 --> 00:49:48,655
do whatever I can
to be with him.
920
00:49:48,655 --> 00:49:51,172
I just hope I'm right
because this isn't a decision
921
00:49:51,172 --> 00:49:53,103
that I can just snap
my fingers and undo.
922
00:49:55,586 --> 00:49:57,793
Obviously,
we wish you the best, but...
923
00:49:57,793 --> 00:49:59,551
you know, the whole life
on the beach
924
00:49:59,551 --> 00:50:01,379
eating mangoes,
like... that's...
925
00:50:01,379 --> 00:50:03,172
That sounds like
a cartoon to me.
926
00:50:16,586 --> 00:50:19,793
I am a lesbian
today, tomorrow,
927
00:50:19,793 --> 00:50:21,896
and the next weekend,
and the next year,
928
00:50:21,896 --> 00:50:24,793
and the next month.
I'm sorry, I'm lesbian.
929
00:51:33,275 --> 00:51:37,379
Uh, Venezuela have a problem
for gay relationships.
930
00:51:38,758 --> 00:51:41,482
In Colombia, the people
is more open...
931
00:51:42,103 --> 00:51:43,793
for the idea.
932
00:51:43,793 --> 00:51:46,000
You are lesbian
or you are gay.
933
00:51:47,344 --> 00:51:50,034
So I feel comfortable
in Colombia.
934
00:51:59,241 --> 00:52:02,275
I am a lesbian
today, tomorrow,
935
00:52:02,275 --> 00:52:04,586
and the next weekend,
and the next year,
936
00:52:04,586 --> 00:52:05,689
and the next month.
937
00:52:05,689 --> 00:52:07,862
I'm sorry I'm lesbian.
938
00:52:12,000 --> 00:52:14,034
Bye. Ciao-ciao.
939
00:52:22,689 --> 00:52:26,482
In my past,
I have boyfriends...
940
00:52:26,482 --> 00:52:27,689
but...
941
00:53:09,689 --> 00:53:11,551
I feel I have...
942
00:53:12,896 --> 00:53:13,896
bad in me.
943
00:54:21,689 --> 00:54:23,000
This is not normal.
944
00:54:44,862 --> 00:54:46,103
Gracias.
945
00:55:08,586 --> 00:55:12,172
Yeah, she's pretty.
I like it.
946
00:55:18,793 --> 00:55:21,379
Kris is very,
very special for me.
947
00:55:21,379 --> 00:55:24,896
Her smile is so beautiful...
948
00:55:24,896 --> 00:55:27,172
and say, "Oh, my God."
949
00:55:27,172 --> 00:55:29,241
She is amazing.
950
00:55:29,241 --> 00:55:32,172
She is everything I want
in one person.
951
00:55:49,068 --> 00:55:51,172
Saying, "Really?"
She's saying, "Yes."
952
00:55:53,275 --> 00:55:55,586
And feel happiness
953
00:55:55,586 --> 00:55:57,793
is amazing feeling.
954
00:56:01,896 --> 00:56:04,482
And finally
we meet in person.
955
00:56:15,275 --> 00:56:17,241
Hi, baby.
956
00:56:26,793 --> 00:56:31,068
I know Maria and Andrea
eight years.
957
00:59:48,655 --> 00:59:50,448
Hi!
958
00:59:56,793 --> 00:59:58,448
I have to somehow explain
to Yohan that
959
00:59:58,448 --> 01:00:00,482
we're never
going to New York.
960
01:00:01,137 --> 01:00:02,655
We have a lot to do.
961
01:00:18,965 --> 01:00:20,413
Today,
I'm going to the DR,
962
01:00:20,413 --> 01:00:24,068
and this is my final trip
before my official move.
963
01:00:25,034 --> 01:00:26,482
I'm so excited.
964
01:00:28,137 --> 01:00:30,620
Yohan and I have a lot things
to iron out when I'm there
this week.
965
01:00:31,793 --> 01:00:33,620
We have to figure out
where exactly we wanna live.
966
01:00:33,620 --> 01:00:35,448
How are we gonna
manage our finances.
967
01:00:35,448 --> 01:00:37,034
What are we gonna do
about jobs and children.
968
01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:39,172
But most importantly,
969
01:00:39,172 --> 01:00:41,620
Yohan thinks that we're gonna
move to the United States,
970
01:00:41,620 --> 01:00:43,896
and live there permanently,
and that we're just waiting
for his visa.
971
01:00:46,000 --> 01:00:48,655
I'm a little apprehensive
to tell Yohan that's not...
972
01:00:48,655 --> 01:00:52,241
an accurate belief
because I have no plans
973
01:00:52,241 --> 01:00:54,034
on ever coming back
to New York.
974
01:01:08,482 --> 01:01:10,965
My name is Yohan.
975
01:01:11,620 --> 01:01:14,000
I'm from Dominican Republic.
976
01:01:14,620 --> 01:01:18,793
I am... personal trainer.
977
01:01:22,517 --> 01:01:23,379
I have.
978
01:01:24,655 --> 01:01:28,310
I have... 30... 32...
979
01:01:54,551 --> 01:01:56,586
This is for you.
980
01:04:14,068 --> 01:04:15,206
Oh, thank you!
981
01:04:21,000 --> 01:04:23,793
I feel like
I don't wanna come home
982
01:04:23,793 --> 01:04:26,379
I already know that
and I know it can be hard.
983
01:04:26,379 --> 01:04:28,000
I'm really excited to see him.
984
01:04:28,000 --> 01:04:31,137
I'm really excited to be able
to spend this week together.
985
01:04:31,137 --> 01:04:33,206
I'd like to plan our life.
986
01:04:33,206 --> 01:04:34,655
I'm very much
looking forward to that.
987
01:04:35,586 --> 01:04:37,068
Did you make them
all by yourself?
988
01:04:38,310 --> 01:04:39,586
And like that from the tree?
989
01:04:47,689 --> 01:04:49,172
We have to get
a lot done this week,
990
01:04:49,172 --> 01:04:50,448
we have to find an apartment.
991
01:04:50,448 --> 01:04:51,793
And it's like the most
important thing to me.
992
01:04:52,793 --> 01:04:54,103
I have to somehow
explain to Yohan that
993
01:04:54,103 --> 01:04:56,034
we're never going to New York.
994
01:04:56,689 --> 01:04:58,275
We have a lot to do.
995
01:05:13,034 --> 01:05:14,965
Yohan and I have
had many conversations
996
01:05:14,965 --> 01:05:16,793
about where we going to live
long term.
997
01:05:18,758 --> 01:05:21,517
I told Yohan that I would
apply for the spousal visa
998
01:05:21,517 --> 01:05:23,620
for him to come and live
in the United States.
999
01:05:23,620 --> 01:05:25,310
But I have since
changed my mind.
1000
01:05:28,137 --> 01:05:29,689
I understand that
Yohan really wants
1001
01:05:29,689 --> 01:05:31,241
to come to United States,
1002
01:05:31,241 --> 01:05:33,793
so I'm a little bit
nervous about having
this conversation.
1003
01:05:35,379 --> 01:05:37,413
Yohan is not gonna be happy
once he learns that
1004
01:05:37,413 --> 01:05:39,758
my plan is to live
in the Dominican
Republic forever.
1005
01:05:51,034 --> 01:05:52,137
Sure you wanna do this?
1006
01:05:52,793 --> 01:05:54,482
Yep.
1007
01:05:54,482 --> 01:05:57,000
Were you gonna
get rid of the other
girlfriend's name or...
1008
01:05:58,000 --> 01:06:00,586
Gabe moving to Colombia
1009
01:06:00,586 --> 01:06:03,275
to be with the woman
is stupid decision.
1010
01:06:03,793 --> 01:06:05,172
What about her kids?
1011
01:06:05,172 --> 01:06:07,310
You said that you didn't want
to date someone with kids
1012
01:06:26,965 --> 01:06:28,793
- What's going on, man?
- What's going on?
1013
01:06:28,793 --> 01:06:30,586
- Ready to get this tattoo?
- Let's do it.
1014
01:06:30,586 --> 01:06:32,551
- Why don't you step in?
- All right, cool. cool.
1015
01:06:33,931 --> 01:06:34,965
It's happening.
1016
01:06:35,827 --> 01:06:37,413
I'm moving to Colombia
in under a week
1017
01:06:37,413 --> 01:06:38,965
to be with Isabel.
1018
01:06:38,965 --> 01:06:41,241
I just can't wait to be
with her, to see her,
1019
01:06:41,241 --> 01:06:43,034
to start
our new life together.
1020
01:06:45,000 --> 01:06:46,034
Sure you wanna do this?
1021
01:06:46,827 --> 01:06:47,896
Yep.
1022
01:06:48,862 --> 01:06:50,482
Before I make my move,
1023
01:06:50,482 --> 01:06:53,344
I'm actually gonna get
her name tattooed on me.
1024
01:06:54,551 --> 01:06:56,000
I feel like it's permanent
1025
01:06:56,000 --> 01:06:59,931
And I want to show her that
I'm here and I'm here to stay.
1026
01:07:02,448 --> 01:07:04,413
It's about to get
serious for me.
1027
01:07:04,413 --> 01:07:05,586
Kind of
professional love.
1028
01:07:05,586 --> 01:07:07,172
Yeah.
1029
01:07:08,655 --> 01:07:09,896
Hey, Gabe.
1030
01:07:10,551 --> 01:07:11,689
Wassup, Monica?
1031
01:07:11,689 --> 01:07:12,827
Hey.
1032
01:07:15,103 --> 01:07:16,931
I just knew
you were gonna show up today.
1033
01:07:16,931 --> 01:07:19,793
- I knew it.
I felt it in my bones.
- Okay, sweet.
1034
01:07:19,793 --> 01:07:21,689
Do you think
my boyfriend's gonna tattoo
1035
01:07:21,689 --> 01:07:24,620
your girlfriend's name on you
and he's not gonna tell me?
1036
01:07:25,172 --> 01:07:26,689
Really, Malcolm?
1037
01:07:26,689 --> 01:07:28,689
Can't really do much
without letting my boss
know what's happening.
1038
01:07:31,000 --> 01:07:33,620
My relationship
with my sister Monica
is very unique,
1039
01:07:33,620 --> 01:07:35,965
because we fight
and bump heads
1040
01:07:35,965 --> 01:07:38,827
almost every single time
we see each other.
1041
01:07:38,827 --> 01:07:41,482
But I think
it's coming out of love,
1042
01:07:41,482 --> 01:07:43,896
because growing up
it was just the two of us
1043
01:07:43,896 --> 01:07:45,137
living with my mom.
1044
01:07:45,137 --> 01:07:48,896
And we're actually
very, very close.
1045
01:07:48,896 --> 01:07:52,000
Were you gonna
get rid of the other
girlfriend's name or...
1046
01:07:52,000 --> 01:07:54,137
The other name? Yes.
We're gonna black it out.
1047
01:07:54,137 --> 01:07:55,896
Malcolm said he'll black out
the name for me.
1048
01:07:55,896 --> 01:07:58,241
Okay. So, you're getting
this new tattoo,
1049
01:07:58,241 --> 01:08:00,068
is that like...
to prove that
1050
01:08:00,068 --> 01:08:02,172
you love her just as much
as you used to love
1051
01:08:02,172 --> 01:08:03,862
the person on the back
of your neck or what?
1052
01:08:05,448 --> 01:08:07,068
I just... I don't know.
1053
01:08:07,068 --> 01:08:08,724
I just want her name.
1054
01:08:08,724 --> 01:08:10,586
It's like another notch
on the belt, right?
1055
01:08:13,241 --> 01:08:14,793
It's how I express myself.
1056
01:08:15,862 --> 01:08:18,172
This is not my first time
I tattooed a woman's name
1057
01:08:18,172 --> 01:08:19,206
on my body.
1058
01:08:19,206 --> 01:08:22,862
I was 18, 19 years old.
I was impulsive.
1059
01:08:24,344 --> 01:08:26,931
But, because it's on my back,
I don't ever see it,
1060
01:08:26,931 --> 01:08:29,413
so it's out of sight,
out of mind.
1061
01:08:30,724 --> 01:08:32,551
This is very much gay.
1062
01:08:32,551 --> 01:08:34,241
You fall in love after a week,
1063
01:08:34,241 --> 01:08:35,724
and then boom,
you're living with someone,
1064
01:08:35,724 --> 01:08:37,862
you're tattooing
their name on you--
1065
01:08:37,862 --> 01:08:39,413
How many girlfriends
have I lived with?
1066
01:08:39,413 --> 01:08:42,034
You've lived with,
what, like, two or three?
1067
01:08:42,034 --> 01:08:43,413
- But then you also move...
- Two or three?
1068
01:08:43,413 --> 01:08:46,000
...but then you also
move them into
our mom's house.
1069
01:08:47,655 --> 01:08:52,034
You'd think that Gabe
moving to Colombia...
1070
01:08:52,034 --> 01:08:53,482
to be with the woman is...
1071
01:08:53,482 --> 01:08:56,103
a stupid decision.
1072
01:08:56,103 --> 01:08:59,034
But it's just very true
to who he his as a person,
1073
01:08:59,034 --> 01:09:00,172
'cause he's impulsive.
1074
01:09:00,827 --> 01:09:02,068
He has a tendency
1075
01:09:02,068 --> 01:09:03,931
to jump the gun
and rush into things.
1076
01:09:04,482 --> 01:09:06,931
It can get exhausting.
1077
01:09:06,931 --> 01:09:09,275
After your last relationship
you told me that
1078
01:09:09,275 --> 01:09:11,793
you needed to be by yourself
and get some alone time,
1079
01:09:11,793 --> 01:09:13,310
and then, now...
1080
01:09:13,310 --> 01:09:14,586
here you are,
getting a tattoo.
1081
01:09:19,413 --> 01:09:21,000
It's just fate.
It just what happens.
1082
01:09:21,655 --> 01:09:23,275
And so what about her kids?
1083
01:09:23,275 --> 01:09:26,379
You said that you didn't want
to date someone with kids...
1084
01:09:26,379 --> 01:09:28,000
after your last relationship.
1085
01:09:28,000 --> 01:09:30,379
- What?
- You said you'd
never do it again.
1086
01:09:30,379 --> 01:09:32,655
- Yeah, but her kids
are... are big.
- And she has two.
1087
01:09:32,655 --> 01:09:33,655
How old?
1088
01:09:33,655 --> 01:09:35,758
- Sixteen and eleven.
- Okay.
1089
01:09:35,758 --> 01:09:37,413
So, it's... they take care
of themselves.
1090
01:09:37,413 --> 01:09:39,586
So does that mean
this doesn't bother them?
1091
01:09:39,586 --> 01:09:41,206
No, it means that
I don't have to,
1092
01:09:41,206 --> 01:09:42,379
like, babysit them
1093
01:09:42,379 --> 01:09:44,310
Oh, you don't want
to help her with her kids?
1094
01:09:44,310 --> 01:09:46,000
Is that what you're saying?
1095
01:09:46,000 --> 01:09:47,241
I'm not saying
I'm not gonna help.
1096
01:09:47,241 --> 01:09:48,724
Of course I'm gonna help her,
'cause it's like...
1097
01:09:48,724 --> 01:09:50,068
we'll all live together.
1098
01:09:50,068 --> 01:09:52,275
But I'm saying that, she's...
1099
01:09:52,275 --> 01:09:54,482
motherly and provides
for her children.
1100
01:09:55,827 --> 01:09:56,931
But you pay the bills.
1101
01:09:58,862 --> 01:10:00,689
- Yeah.
- So who's providing?
1102
01:10:04,655 --> 01:10:05,965
Isabel has two kids.
1103
01:10:05,965 --> 01:10:07,655
She has a daughter that's 16,
1104
01:10:07,655 --> 01:10:09,413
and a son that's 11 years old.
1105
01:10:10,655 --> 01:10:12,620
My relationship
with Isabel's kids...
1106
01:10:12,620 --> 01:10:13,896
it's very good.
1107
01:10:13,896 --> 01:10:16,344
As soon as
I step into the house,
and they're there...
1108
01:10:17,517 --> 01:10:18,655
It's like great. It's...
1109
01:10:18,655 --> 01:10:21,551
it's awesome.
It feels like a real family.
1110
01:10:21,551 --> 01:10:23,758
Hey, we're done
with the tattoo, man.
1111
01:10:23,758 --> 01:10:24,758
Thanks, Malcolm.
1112
01:10:24,758 --> 01:10:26,413
All right,
I just wanna watch.
1113
01:10:28,448 --> 01:10:30,034
I don't wanna
be the devil's advocate,
1114
01:10:30,034 --> 01:10:32,413
but, like,
I'm concerned because...
1115
01:10:32,413 --> 01:10:33,896
you do have a tendency
1116
01:10:33,896 --> 01:10:36,000
to like jump from
relationship to relationship,
1117
01:10:36,000 --> 01:10:38,827
like, you're going with
these rose colored glasses,
1118
01:10:38,827 --> 01:10:40,827
and like everything's perfect.
1119
01:10:40,827 --> 01:10:43,103
They're the greatest thing
ever, and you're so much more
1120
01:10:43,103 --> 01:10:45,310
different from
the other person, it's like...
1121
01:10:46,379 --> 01:10:48,310
same thing up
and another crazy girlfriend.
1122
01:10:48,310 --> 01:10:49,827
So how do you...
how do you know that.
1123
01:10:50,758 --> 01:10:51,827
This is what
the case here is...
1124
01:10:51,827 --> 01:10:53,000
It's not like
a new relationship
1125
01:10:53,000 --> 01:10:55,000
'cause we've been together
for like, over a year already.
1126
01:10:56,931 --> 01:10:59,827
I just want to be sure that...
1127
01:10:59,827 --> 01:11:03,655
she's just as invested in you
as you are in her.
1128
01:11:03,655 --> 01:11:06,310
I think so, you know,
for her to even trust me,
1129
01:11:06,310 --> 01:11:07,896
like with her kids.
1130
01:11:07,896 --> 01:11:10,000
You know, you're not gonna
just do that with anybody,
1131
01:11:10,000 --> 01:11:11,000
like you just met.
1132
01:11:12,000 --> 01:11:13,827
So you know absolutely
this is the one?
1133
01:11:13,827 --> 01:11:15,241
Yeah.
1134
01:11:17,379 --> 01:11:19,379
In the past
my sister
has seen me go through
1135
01:11:19,379 --> 01:11:21,655
some bad breakups,
and I feel like that's why
1136
01:11:21,655 --> 01:11:24,034
she's very concerned
about me now.
1137
01:11:24,034 --> 01:11:26,310
But Isabel's different.
I know she's different.
1138
01:11:26,310 --> 01:11:28,379
I feel it in my heart
that she's different,
1139
01:11:28,379 --> 01:11:29,793
in my soul, in my brain.
1140
01:11:29,793 --> 01:11:33,379
And... at the end of the day
it's my life and I'm gonna...
1141
01:11:33,379 --> 01:11:34,586
just do what I want.
1142
01:11:36,034 --> 01:11:37,379
And so that's it,
you're just gonna...
1143
01:11:37,379 --> 01:11:40,310
- that's it... you're like
officially moving?
- Yeah.
1144
01:11:41,896 --> 01:11:43,034
I'm gonna miss you.
1145
01:11:43,034 --> 01:11:44,620
Of course,
obviously I love you,
1146
01:11:44,620 --> 01:11:46,103
I want the best for you.
1147
01:11:46,103 --> 01:11:47,517
I love you, too.
1148
01:11:47,517 --> 01:11:51,275
If... if it doesn't work out,
I'll be... I'll be here.
1149
01:11:51,275 --> 01:11:53,137
And you can say,
I told you so.
1150
01:11:58,551 --> 01:12:00,413
I was sending money to her,
1151
01:12:00,413 --> 01:12:02,620
and I found out about her...
1152
01:12:02,620 --> 01:12:04,275
talking to somebody else.
1153
01:12:04,931 --> 01:12:06,379
It is a mother's worry.
1154
01:12:06,379 --> 01:12:06,827
She's gonna say... see ya.
1155
01:12:40,275 --> 01:12:42,103
In just a few days,
1156
01:12:42,103 --> 01:12:44,931
I will be moving
to Colombia...
1157
01:12:44,931 --> 01:12:47,793
to meet and marry
my girlfriend Jeymi.
1158
01:12:49,206 --> 01:12:50,965
Hey, darling.
You in here somewhere?
1159
01:12:51,724 --> 01:12:53,413
Yeah. I'm in...
1160
01:12:53,413 --> 01:12:54,896
what was Starr's room.
1161
01:12:55,413 --> 01:12:56,310
Oh my.
1162
01:12:57,275 --> 01:12:59,241
- Watch.
- Oh, you're making a mess.
1163
01:12:59,241 --> 01:13:01,793
Yeah, but look at how
easy this is coming off.
1164
01:13:03,034 --> 01:13:05,413
Guess that is one
good thing about it.
1165
01:13:05,413 --> 01:13:08,275
Six years ago
I bought my dream home.
1166
01:13:08,275 --> 01:13:10,103
And just two years later,
1167
01:13:10,103 --> 01:13:11,931
it burnt.
1168
01:13:11,931 --> 01:13:13,137
And I lost everything.
1169
01:13:15,965 --> 01:13:19,206
I've always wanted
to rebuild my home.
1170
01:13:19,206 --> 01:13:21,758
And I've been
working on it slowly,
1171
01:13:21,758 --> 01:13:23,344
room by room.
1172
01:13:23,344 --> 01:13:26,241
This house was once
three apartments.
1173
01:13:26,241 --> 01:13:28,103
I planned on making it...
1174
01:13:28,758 --> 01:13:29,896
crazy cool.
1175
01:13:29,896 --> 01:13:33,793
And, uh... renting it out
for extra income.
1176
01:13:35,551 --> 01:13:37,586
So, darling, what you trying
to do or get it done
1177
01:13:37,586 --> 01:13:38,689
before you have to leave.
1178
01:13:40,517 --> 01:13:44,000
I'm not gonna be able to get
this whole apartment ready
1179
01:13:44,000 --> 01:13:47,172
before... I'm trying to get
as much
done as I can.
1180
01:13:47,172 --> 01:13:50,310
I'm really just trying
to get the other
1181
01:13:50,310 --> 01:13:51,896
completely sold.
1182
01:13:53,172 --> 01:13:55,344
Also on the house next door...
1183
01:13:55,344 --> 01:13:57,965
I'm currently selling it
1184
01:13:57,965 --> 01:13:59,827
on a rent-to-own basis.
1185
01:14:01,034 --> 01:14:04,000
That way I know that my rent
is gonna be paid over there,
1186
01:14:04,000 --> 01:14:05,655
I don't have to
worry about it.
1187
01:14:05,655 --> 01:14:07,448
Because, you know,
I'm going over there
1188
01:14:07,448 --> 01:14:09,482
with no job to start out with.
1189
01:14:11,206 --> 01:14:13,689
Until recently I was...
1190
01:14:13,689 --> 01:14:16,517
the manager of a large
shipping company.
1191
01:14:16,517 --> 01:14:21,000
And I also do security
for a school.
1192
01:14:21,000 --> 01:14:23,896
So, to go from two jobs...
1193
01:14:24,379 --> 01:14:26,275
to no jobs...
1194
01:14:26,275 --> 01:14:29,000
It's... absolutely terrifying.
1195
01:14:30,965 --> 01:14:33,172
You know, she's gotta be...
1196
01:14:33,172 --> 01:14:36,655
really, really special
for me to leave...
1197
01:14:36,655 --> 01:14:41,482
my kids and my dream home,
and everything...
1198
01:14:41,482 --> 01:14:44,137
- to be with her.
- I know.
1199
01:14:44,137 --> 01:14:46,000
Someone you've never met
face to face, huh?
1200
01:14:46,000 --> 01:14:48,517
Never met.
1201
01:14:48,517 --> 01:14:49,793
That's a biggie.
1202
01:14:53,724 --> 01:14:56,896
When Kris told me
that she was going to...
1203
01:14:56,896 --> 01:14:59,586
go to Colombia
and marry a lady,
1204
01:14:59,586 --> 01:15:01,551
it was really kind of like
a big surprise
1205
01:15:01,551 --> 01:15:02,931
all at one time to me.
1206
01:15:03,965 --> 01:15:06,517
She never brought a lady
home to meet me.
1207
01:15:06,517 --> 01:15:08,206
Never spoke of it at all.
1208
01:15:09,241 --> 01:15:11,586
I'm a devout member
of the church.
1209
01:15:11,586 --> 01:15:13,206
But I believe...
1210
01:15:13,206 --> 01:15:14,413
it's not our place to judge,
1211
01:15:14,413 --> 01:15:15,793
it's Heavenly Father's place
to judge.
1212
01:15:16,793 --> 01:15:18,896
She's been through
a lot of things.
1213
01:15:18,896 --> 01:15:20,896
And I hope this
will bring her happiness.
1214
01:15:24,724 --> 01:15:27,827
Only thing I worry about...
about going down there is...
1215
01:15:27,827 --> 01:15:28,758
you have...
1216
01:15:28,758 --> 01:15:31,344
your health care issues,
you know.
1217
01:15:31,344 --> 01:15:33,379
Have you and Jeymi
talked about your narcolepsy,
1218
01:15:33,379 --> 01:15:35,862
does she understand
how that affects you
1219
01:15:35,862 --> 01:15:36,965
and what it does to you?
1220
01:15:37,896 --> 01:15:39,413
She says she does.
1221
01:15:39,413 --> 01:15:41,068
But until I'm actually there,
1222
01:15:41,068 --> 01:15:43,275
and she experiences
it first hand,
1223
01:15:43,275 --> 01:15:44,931
she's not really going to.
1224
01:15:50,931 --> 01:15:54,275
Several years ago,
I was diagnosed
with narcolepsy.
1225
01:15:55,413 --> 01:15:58,241
Narcolepsy is
a sleep disorder.
1226
01:15:59,000 --> 01:16:00,103
My brain doesn't know
1227
01:16:00,103 --> 01:16:01,482
when it's night time
or day time,
1228
01:16:01,482 --> 01:16:03,275
and when you're supposed
to sleep and when you're not.
1229
01:16:03,965 --> 01:16:06,310
I have memory problems.
1230
01:16:06,310 --> 01:16:08,517
I have sleep spells.
1231
01:16:09,275 --> 01:16:11,724
I would just fall asleep
1232
01:16:11,724 --> 01:16:13,344
in the middle
of eating dinner.
1233
01:16:14,137 --> 01:16:16,137
Every day is a battle.
1234
01:16:17,965 --> 01:16:19,724
It's very difficult,
you know,
1235
01:16:19,724 --> 01:16:22,655
a lot of times
in relationships
people get mad,
1236
01:16:22,655 --> 01:16:26,379
you know, 'cause they think
you're just not interested
in them or...
1237
01:16:26,379 --> 01:16:28,482
you know, it's just...
in public,
1238
01:16:28,482 --> 01:16:30,034
people look down on me,
1239
01:16:30,034 --> 01:16:31,758
it's hard for somebody
to be with me,
1240
01:16:31,758 --> 01:16:33,482
and have to deal with that.
1241
01:16:34,689 --> 01:16:36,724
So for our relationship
to work,
1242
01:16:36,724 --> 01:16:38,241
- she'd have to be
understanding of it.
- Right.
1243
01:16:39,862 --> 01:16:41,862
I just hope
it's everything that
you hope it's gonna be.
1244
01:16:42,586 --> 01:16:44,344
It is a mother's worry.
1245
01:16:44,344 --> 01:16:48,000
That, you know, that this is
a big masterplan and that
1246
01:16:48,000 --> 01:16:50,517
once everybody's gone,
and you've given her
all the money you've got,
1247
01:16:50,517 --> 01:16:52,827
she's gonna say... "See ya."
1248
01:16:53,344 --> 01:16:54,965
That's a fair concern.
1249
01:16:54,965 --> 01:16:57,034
Especially knowing that
I was sending money
1250
01:16:57,034 --> 01:16:58,551
- to her and...
- I know.
1251
01:16:59,517 --> 01:17:01,172
And then I found out...
1252
01:17:02,034 --> 01:17:03,344
about her...
1253
01:17:04,000 --> 01:17:05,862
talking to somebody else.
1254
01:17:08,724 --> 01:17:11,620
Six months ago, I found out...
1255
01:17:11,620 --> 01:17:14,241
that Jeymi was talking
to a woman from Texas.
1256
01:17:19,586 --> 01:17:22,655
I received a message
from this other woman.
1257
01:17:23,724 --> 01:17:27,137
She found me on social media.
1258
01:17:29,413 --> 01:17:33,206
She told me that
Jeymi was using me for money.
1259
01:17:35,000 --> 01:17:38,000
When Jeymi was sick with Covid
1260
01:17:38,000 --> 01:17:40,275
I did help pay her bills.
1261
01:17:40,275 --> 01:17:44,137
When I confronted her
about it, Jeymi denied it.
1262
01:17:47,586 --> 01:17:51,103
This other woman told me that
1263
01:17:51,103 --> 01:17:55,241
Jeymi had been working
the entire time.
1264
01:17:55,241 --> 01:17:58,379
She told me she was at home
sick with Covid.
1265
01:17:59,896 --> 01:18:01,448
And then you have to
sit back and think,
1266
01:18:01,448 --> 01:18:04,758
"Okay, well, everything
I'm feeling... is this...
1267
01:18:04,758 --> 01:18:06,448
person really feeling
what I'm feeling,
1268
01:18:06,448 --> 01:18:07,827
'cause, how could they?"
1269
01:18:09,000 --> 01:18:11,344
I understand why...
1270
01:18:11,344 --> 01:18:13,896
Jeymi started talking
to this other woman.
1271
01:18:14,620 --> 01:18:16,724
I hurt her by ghosting her.
1272
01:18:17,413 --> 01:18:19,965
So she hurt me.
1273
01:18:19,965 --> 01:18:24,275
Jeymi begged and begged me
to forgive her and...
1274
01:18:24,275 --> 01:18:27,655
she promised o cut all ties
to the woman in Texas.
1275
01:18:28,379 --> 01:18:29,413
She's been...
1276
01:18:30,379 --> 01:18:32,758
really, really trying
to make up for it.
1277
01:18:33,896 --> 01:18:36,793
In my heart, I couldn't stand
the thought of...
1278
01:18:37,551 --> 01:18:39,000
not being able to talk to her,
1279
01:18:39,000 --> 01:18:40,896
not being able to see her,
anything like that.
1280
01:18:43,379 --> 01:18:45,034
I know, I mean that...
1281
01:18:46,137 --> 01:18:47,862
I just know
we're supposed to be together.
1282
01:18:49,862 --> 01:18:52,344
One of my worries
at the beginning...
1283
01:18:52,344 --> 01:18:55,172
was that, you know,
this might just be a scam.
1284
01:18:55,172 --> 01:18:57,000
And that she might be just
trying to get whatever
1285
01:18:57,000 --> 01:18:59,034
she can get from whoever
she can get things from.
1286
01:18:59,965 --> 01:19:02,413
I imagined that
Jeymi has had a much...
1287
01:19:02,413 --> 01:19:04,551
harder life
than we experience here.
1288
01:19:05,655 --> 01:19:08,068
I would like to think
that all would go well.
1289
01:19:08,068 --> 01:19:10,000
But on the other hand...
1290
01:19:10,000 --> 01:19:12,965
if it turns into something
she didn't bank on...
1291
01:19:14,000 --> 01:19:15,275
it's gonna be a big hurt.
1292
01:19:15,275 --> 01:19:16,172
Big fall.
1293
01:19:18,310 --> 01:19:20,448
It's your decision,
it's your life.
1294
01:19:20,448 --> 01:19:22,965
And if she seems like
a little nice lady...
1295
01:19:22,965 --> 01:19:24,862
but you can't know that,
1296
01:19:24,862 --> 01:19:27,551
and I can't know that
until you go and find out.
1297
01:19:28,275 --> 01:19:29,344
So...
1298
01:19:29,344 --> 01:19:31,103
proof is in the pudding
so to speak.
1299
01:20:22,965 --> 01:20:25,275
I've been waiting to tell
Yohan about my new plan.
1300
01:20:25,275 --> 01:20:28,034
To live in
the Dominican Republic
more long term.
1301
01:20:28,034 --> 01:20:30,103
'Cause I think
this is a really
serious conversation,
1302
01:20:30,103 --> 01:20:33,206
and not really appropriate
for text messages.
1303
01:20:33,206 --> 01:20:35,758
But I'm worried
about how Yohan
is gonna react to this
1304
01:20:35,758 --> 01:20:39,137
because he's really
adamant about moving
to the United States.
1305
01:20:49,034 --> 01:20:50,103
Temporary?
1306
01:24:57,482 --> 01:24:59,068
Whether or not
Yohan understands
1307
01:24:59,068 --> 01:25:01,103
this is where we're living.
1308
01:25:01,103 --> 01:25:03,103
Because he can't go
to the United States
without me,
1309
01:25:03,103 --> 01:25:04,931
and if I don't wanna go,
I don't wanna go.