Previously on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
You want me to go back to the States?
Uh, yep.
You lied to me.
Yohan still has a long way to go
when it comes to having a mature, adult relationship.
It's really stressing me out right now
because I need to tell her parents that I'm trans.
I'm very concerned that they are going to not accept me.
I still don't know how to tell Mahmoud
that I'm questioning my faith
because I feel like my marriage will be over.
The lawyer said that it is a single-entry visa.
and I don't know how long it's gonna be
before I can come back.
It's the very worst thing going in my mind,
"Do I need to, like, wait again for years?"
I'm sorry.
Leave me the [bleep] alone right now.
You know what you [bleep] did.
I don't want to talk to you anymore.
Like, I just want you to leave me alone.
I will.
Hi, sweetheart.
I was just finishing my breakfast.
I'm okay.
Yeah.
Last night, when we got back from Mahmoud's uncle's house...
we agreed to just stop talking about our problems for now
because we're exhausted.
So today we're going to try and just have a better day, I guess.
Are you gonna teach me, like, what you say during the prayer
or, like, the motions or what you do?
Yeah, I'd like to learn how to pray, honey.
Okay.
I love you too, honey.
Though I'm struggling with my faith right now, I think that
actually, maybe prayer is what I need.
I haven't taken the time necessary to fully learn how to do it...
and there's a lot I don't know.
So, I think it takes a lifetime to kind of learn how to practice
and then the rest will come later.
I don't know, right?
Like, maybe the answer to this crisis is prayer.
On the hands?
What exactly are you doing?
I know, no. What are you doing with your nose?
Like, in there?
It's, like, a little bit hard, actually. Okay.
You tuck your hair all in?
You can't show... Not at all, okay.
You do?
He starts saying, like, the prayer
in the most beautiful voice and I've never heard it before.
And it was just moments like these
that just remind me how much I love him
and he's always so full of surprises.
I think it's beautiful to be that devoted to something.
I actually feel really close to him in this moment.
Are you thanking God or are you praying for something?
I love you.
Doing this, it reminds me, you know, how much I do appreciate Islam
and involving God in your life.
I'd probably maybe be further along.
It's okay. It's okay, honey.
We both made mistakes.
Mmm-hmm.
Okay. That would be good.
Okay.
Is there, like, a special way you have to fold these carpets?
Okay.
It's really hot.
You want to go swimming?
Can I wear my bikini?
I'm just kidding, honey.
You know how I feel about that.
Okay.
One of my favorite things is swimming.
I really like to be near the water and in the water.
That's really been an issue because of the swimsuit that...
Mahmoud makes me wear.
You know, you're the only person I would do this for?
Okay. Do you have to wear...
I mean, this is a weird question.
Do you have to wear something under it?
Do you?
What?
You don't know?
Well, I need to know.
Mahmoud?
What did I do now?
Just get ready? You seem to be kind of mad.
Are you sure?
All right, well...
Okay.
I think Mahmoud's mad because I asked if...
I need to wear something under the swimsuit.
I get so tired of him always getting so mad at me.
It's like he really resents me for being American, I think.
But he chose me.
I'm ready. Let's go.
Hi, baby.
Bunuelo?
- Bunuelo. What is it? - Yes.
- It is for cheese. - Cheese?
- It tastes like a donut. - Yes, it's similar.
- But it's cheese? - Yeah.
- It looks like bread. - It is cheese, yes.
That's weird.
- Mmm-hmm. - How are you feeling?
I feel better than I did yesterday.
Yesterday, baby, you saw me at probably my worst.
I... am so grateful that you were here to take care of me.
You know, you forced me to drink stuff.
You forced me to eat.
"Do it!" You know, regardless, you never gave up.
Do you know anything about the court?
Star messaged me about court.
This is what she said.
"Hey. They are going to try to do court without you at the moment."
Great!
- This is very good news! - Yes, baby.
Nothing is gonna stop us from going glamping today.
- Yeah! - I'm so excite about that.
It's my fifth day here in Colombia
and it just so happens to be mine and Jeymi's anniversary.
A year ago today...
is when me and Jeymi started talking for the first time.
You need this...
because it's a long, long travel.
This will help me a lot.
- I like it. It's good. - It's sexy.
- Oh, yeah. - Yeah! So sexy!
I need to pack it for Zoe.
- Yes, we've got to pack Zoe's bag. - Yeah.
When I saw these glamping bubbles...
outside of Bogota and I showed a picture of it to Jeymi
and she got real excited about it
'cause she had seen them before and never been.
- All right! - Go.
I knew immediately that's where I wanted to go.
I just wanted it to be the perfect romantic setting and spoil her.
I'm excited for glamping.
It'll be nice to destress a little bit and just relax
- as you deserve to be pampered. - Yeah.
This is the best part.
Yeah, you being pampered is the best part. Absolutely.
We are here, baby.
Yay!
So pretty! I like this!
So, you check in?
- Okay. Go Zoe? - Yeah, I'll take Zoe.
Let's go. Let's go. Come on.
Oh, wow.
I love it!
Oh, man!
Oh, wow!
Oh, it's so perfect.
Even though I asked Jeymi to marry me a month after we started talking,
that was through the phone.
I really wanted a traditional proposal.
So I asked the people at the glamping resort to help me out...
so that I could pull off an amazing proposal.
I'm so excited.
I'm not so excited about my heart-making skills right now.
I'm nervous that she won't say yes...
'cause she's scared
because I have a very, very hectic life.
Now she's seen it all up close and personal
within the first few days of being here.
Look, guys, so shaky. So nervous.
Oh, man.
That doesn't look like a question mark at all.
I don't even know if she can read it...
'cause it's not in Spanish.
Okay, and done!
Jeymi!
- Jeymi? - Yeah?
I'm around here.
Yeah.
Caw-caw!
- Hi! - Go get your mama.
- Hi. - Be careful.
It's slick right here.
Here?
Yes, you are here.
- Oh! - It's so cool.
Oh, my God!
What is this?
- It's all for you, baby. - Oh!
Can you read...
English?
in English?
Do you see what it says?
- Marry me? - Mmm-hmm.
Will you marry me?
Oh, my God!
It's really...
- It fits perfect. - Yes.
- I love you. - I love you.
I have a ring.
I love everything. It's perfect.
I was nervous that she wouldn't say yes
because the last few days were so stressful
and she could have said no and I wouldn't have blamed her for saying no.
I'm no saying no.
I'm saying yes all day...
for my life.
That's all I want.
He said he wanted me to go back to the States.
It's hard for me to believe
you misunderstood my intentions.
This is a freakin' nightmare right now.
My heart is dropping right now.
because is she still gonna be with me,
or is she just gonna go with her family's views?
I have really bad ADD, so, like, I, like, start packing a box
and then I, like, see something over there
and I'm like, "Oh, I don't want to lose that."
And then I grab the thing and I forget about the box I was packing
and I, like, start packing another thing.
It's really not easy to be me.
I came back from the Dominican Republic a month ago...
because I had to wait for the school year to end before I moved officially...
and now I am giving up my entire life
in the United States in exactly two days and I have so much to do.
I'm definitely stressed that I'm not gonna get it done in time.
I have to hand in my keys tomorrow by five o'clock,
which means everything has to be out of here and, like, clean
and I don't know how that's gonna happen.
It's frustrating. This is really hard to have to do all by myself.
I haven't had time to, like, stop and, like,
actually process the fact that I'm leaving.
But, I think, you know, as I'm going through, like, all the yearbooks,
that was really impactful because the thought that, like, this is gonna be
the first year in 19 years that I'm not gonna be teaching high school.
So, that was hard.
But, otherwise, it's been... It's felt really good to let go.
But I'm super excited.
I don't have to be away from my husband anymore.
I don't have to do 95,000 jobs.
Like, I can just be at peace for a minute
and I'm really looking forward to that.
Earlier today, me, Isabel and the kids, we came
to their hometown of El Carmen to spend the night with their family,
spend the weekend.
Honestly, it's the worst feeling in the world
to feel that somebody does not like me just because of who I am...
and right now her dad genuinely loves me, her mom genuinely loves me.
So I'm stressing and I'm afraid that they'll see me a different way
than how they do now...
especially because I hope to get their blessing to marry Isabel.
Hmm.
My heart is dropping right now because...
she just told me that she doesn't know who she would pick,
me or her family.
And...
I did not expect that.
Like, in the back of my head, I thought that no matter what
that we were gonna be together.
It makes me feel like our relationship isn't as solid as I thought it was.
So it's like, if they don't accept me,
is she still gonna be with me?
Or is she just gonna go with her family's views?
So that's what really scares me that everything can be taken away from me
with our relationship because of somebody else.
Last night, I arrived in Morocco
and me and Oussama got in a huge fight.
He said he wanted me to go back to the States after a month or two.
This isn't what I came over here for.
I don't want a fiance that's not sure if they want to marry me.
I didn't come over here to be disrespected like that.
What about our plans?
What happened to that?
Someone tell me I'm dreaming...
'cause this is a freaking nightmare right now.
That out...
- Who is it? - It's me.
Okay?
Thank you.
Because of Moroccan law, we're sleeping in different rooms,
so I haven't seen him since our big blowup yesterday.
Not really well.
It was a really tough night.
I still got a lot to think about, Oussama.
- I know. - You have to understand that that was like...
slapping me in the face with a different Oussama.
Oussama, I was really freaked out.
Did you not know I was moving over here permanently?
It's hard for me to believe you misunderstood my intentions
and our plans.
I guess.
Last night, you said...
you said that...
Just say it. It's okay.
Sorry.
- Look at me. - It's like, I would have never...
- Look at me. - I would have never...
had come had you told me that
and you said, "Well, that's why I didn't tell you."
And it's like, you took something away from me yesterday
and, you know, I need to feel trust again.
- I know, yeah. - Okay?
Yeah, 'cause that wasn't the Oussama I know and love.
But you know I have to protect myself and my kids
and I want you to be sure about me.
Yeah, and I respect your traditions,
but you need to help me to believe in Oussama again.
And you can prove that you love me?
Well, let's just take it easy and slow.
- I want peace and I want to feel secure. - I want peace too, yeah.
Okay, good. That's something that we can start on.
Yeah.
You know, I want to trust you.
I want to feel that feeling we had.
I want that security, that safety.
So, there's no more misunderstandings.
Yeah.
He's being so apologetic
and you know me, it's like, I'm thinking, "Okay, you know, let me cut him some slack.
Maybe it was miscommunication."
And it's like, you know, I didn't come all the way here and then just hurry up
and fly back home.
No, I've got to see this to fruition,
you know, to see if he's gonna man-up and be my Oussama.
But, you know, it's hard work to rebuild trust.
And, you know, it's like, "I don't know if he can or not."
So, you do feel all right now?
- I feel better. - Yeah.
Lord have mercy, it's been a lot.
I'm going back to the U.S.
I don't even know when I'll be able to come back.
You are committed to making this work
while I'm gone, right?
My gosh, I have so much stuff!
Today is my final day on my tourist visa in India
and I'm going back to the US.
The worst part is that we were just starting to make progress
on spending time together,
getting closer to telling his family about our relationship.
And now I don't even know when I'll be able to come back.
I have to apply for another visa and just wait.
- Hi. - Hi.
Wow, you look so pretty.
Thank you.
I know.
Like, you are committed to making this work while I'm gone, right?
I know. I'm gonna apply as soon as I can.
It's just, everything seems so unsure.
It really sucks to be leaving Rishi again
because we've waited two years.
And now, after 30 days, we're being ripped apart again.
I just want you back as soon as possible.
I'm completely heartbroken right now.
I don't know when I will see Jen again in person.
- A surprise? - Uh-huh.
Will you marry me?
Oh, my gosh!
Yes!
Of course I will! Oh, my gosh!
Oh, look at that!
Oh, my gosh.
I feel really happy and, like, overwhelmed.
I'm just...
Like, I did not expect this to happen.
This was a total surprise.
You like?
I love it. I love it!
You cannot lose this one.
I will not lose this one. I will hold on tightly to this one.
I just want to propose again to her,
give or show my commitment to her.
- This was a great final gift to leave me with. - Uh-huh.
It's so bittersweet to be leaving Rishi right after he proposes again.
I have all these, like, happy, excited, wonderful emotions
and then on the other hand, it's like,
I can't help but feel worried...
that the other shoe is gonna drop.
Something's gonna happen to prevent me from being with Rishi.
There have been so many roadblocks with our relationship,
but they say love is worth fighting for...
and I'm willing to put up the good fight.
I still have a lot of anxiety about wearing the swimsuit today,
but I'm doing this for Mahmoud.
I don't wear hijab.
I'm not going to wear a hijab and I won't wear a hijab.
I don't cover my hair.
I don't think I knew exactly what dressing modestly actually truly meant
until the first time that I wore the swimsuit
that I would need to wear.
And it was a very profound moment for me
because, like, the reality of it became very clear...
and very fast.
Not long after I married him...
Mahmoud and I were at the Red Sea
and there were a lot of tourists wearing bikinis
or just like a one-piece suit, whatever, just normal.
I remember feeling jealous,
like, that was how I used to be
and then I've been kind of taken from that life and then...
this is my new life and I'm just not used to it and I don't like it that much.
You know, I don't like to wear that.
I still have a lot of anxiety about wearing the swimsuit today,
but I'm doing this for Mahmoud.
I'm choosing not to wear the hijab part of this
bathing swimsuit because...
I don't wear a hijab.
I'm not going to wear a hijab and I won't wear a hijab.
I don't cover my hair.
Yeah.
Yeah, it's weird.
And, like, the top is a little...
I get to look so cute in everything.
In my hooded bathing suit.
Yeah.
I think you should try to wear it and see how it feels, actually.
You can borrow this one.
Okay.
Yeah, just so you know.
Yeah.
My husband is crazy.
I wish I knew.
You think that, like, a little bit of compromise
will go a long way, and, like,
it doesn't have to be just
your way or just my way,
usually it's just your way.
Right, honey, but that's what I'm saying
is, like, to compromise means it, like, it hurts a little,
like, it hurts a little to do that,
you have to move
a little bit more towards the center.
Like what things?
Okay, you will think.
Okay.
I'm not sure if...
...Mahmoud will ever compromise with me,
but I'm not ready to give up
hoping that that will happen.
No, why do you need to take that off?
Oh, well, if it's not allowed,
then I guess you will have to take it off,
When we're just being ourselves
with no criticizing, no fighting,
just hanging out,
that's when we're really, really happy.
And that's why I need him to meet me in the middle,
and not make me feel bad about it.
Mahmoud.
No, my love.
You started that, okay?
Can you explain to me what all this is?
- Blood sausage maybe. - Yes.
I'm not eating that!
I don't know what it is, it sounds gross.
no [clicks tongue], not doing it.
I'm really nervous about living with Yohan.
I think that our life together might not be as easy as our vacations together.
But I'm moving towards love.
Now that I have shipped all of the boxes and handed in the keys to my apartment,
I slept my last night in New York in a hotel.
I feel like this is my entire life in 16 cajas
and 11 suitcases?
How many suitcases do I have? One, two, three, four, five, six, seven,
eight, nine, ten. Ten suitcases.
A lot of suitcases.
This last week, I think, has been one of the most stressful weeks of my life.
Help.
It's gonna roll on me.
I'm leaving behind my job
and I'm leaving behind a really solid community that I've built.
Teaching is my life, it's my passion,
and giving up my career for the last 19 years,
to move to a foreign country
is one of the hardest things about my move.
But I'm moving towards love,
I'm moving towards, hopefully, some more peace in my life,
I'm moving towards a partnership.
So, I'm moving towards all the things that I know
are going to make my life better,
but I don't think that necessarily makes it easy
to leave behind the life that I've created in New York.
Now that my bags are all checked
and I'm just sitting at the gate, waiting for my plane,
I feel like this is the final moment where I'm actually like,
"Okay, I'm actually doing this. I'm moving to another country. Here we go."
I'm really nervous about living with Yohan.
I think that a couple of things came up on my last trip
that were indicators that our lives together
might not be as easy as our vacations together.
I made a huge amount of sacrifices,
I'm sacrificing my career,
I'm sacrificing my community
of supportive friends.
I'm taking a lot of risk by moving down there
without fully knowing whether everything's gonna work out.
Okay, baby, I think its
good idea for cheers
for us, for the rest of your life.
- For this amazing day, thank you so much. - Thank you.
Tonight, Kris proposed me marriage,
and said yes.
Okay, so can you explain to me
what all this is?
Okay,
here is very traditional in Colombia.
Asado.
-"Asalo?" - Asado.
Is veal, chicken,
and chorizo.
Chorizo.
And here is a fritanga.
What does that mean?
It's...
- Blood sausage maybe. - Yes.
- Never had it. Yeah. - It's new?
Our celebratory dinner...
consists of a huge platter of meats.
I'm a really picky eater,
and I'm like, "Oh, heck no,
I'm not eating that."
I don't know what it is, it's sounds gross,
no [clicks tongue], not doing it.
But I'll pretend to eat,
and, and make the moment perfect.
So...
Yes.
Uh, the wedding planning call me...
- Yeah? - ...because I need ask question maybe.
The wedding, your family coming?
I think my daughter, Starr, is going to come.
- Okay. - What about your family?
Will anybody in your family be able to come?
You don't think your mom would want to come to the wedding?
No.
My mother,
she don't know marry you.
And she don't know I'm lesbian.
Right now, it is too much for me, for my family,
and it's no easy to say, "Hi, I'm lesbian."
I don't feel...
...ready for this, you know.
Why do you think it's too much
to tell your mom?
Okay.
It's sad to me that
she hasn't really sat down and discuss any of this...
...with her mom.
As a mother, I would be hurt
knowing that
my child isn't feeling comfortable enough
to come to me and talk to me about something
and had to lie to me
for a long time.
I just, I would be devastated by that,
and I worry that her mother is gonna be devastated
when she finds out.
I waited a long time to come out because I feared,
you know, mainly, my mom's reaction, you know,
and she was a lot
cooler about it than I thought she would be,
you know, it kinda made me wish
I would've come out sooner.
So,
you know...
...you never really know
how they're gonna react, you know.
Do you think there will be any time later that you will tell your mom?
Maybe few months.
Few years, I don't know.
I wish Jeymi would say something to her family
before we marry.
But I can't be mad at Jeymi because...
...took me till now
to say something to my mom.
Only Jeymi's gonna know
when she's ready to talk to her mom
about us.
But I wish it was different.
I'm happy right now.
I'm so happy, don't worry for this.
My family is part of me, yes,
but it's my moment,
um, I need happy.
Look at me, I'm on a camel.
- Hey! - Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
When I'm out in public with Oussama,
you know, we get a lot of looks.
I'm thinking, "He might be a little embarrassed to be seen with me."
He didn't think to mention that
they were trying to arrange a marriage for him?
He didn't tell me about that
because he thought that he might lose me.
And you believe him?
Oh, wow.
- Oh, it is my heaven. - Yeah.
Look at how beautiful.
Earlier today, Oussama and I cleared the air,
and this is my first full day in Morocco.
At this point, I just wanna hit
the reset button and start over,
and Oussama said, "Hey, let's go to the beach."
I claim this beach for Debbie.
Yup.
This is Debbie's beach.
The ocean is just so healing for me,
and it's exactly what we need.
Maybe this is the start
of everything going right.
Oh, God, it doesn't get any better than this.
- Look at the sun coming down, this is beautiful. - Yup, yup.
- Oh, look, look, look, look, look, look. - Ah, yup.
- Oh, my God. - Gosh.
Hey, hey.
- Do you want to ride a camel? - Can I touch the camel?
Oh, my God.
I see the camel,
I've always wanted to ride a camel.
Hi, Mister Camel.
Are you nice, boy?
- Oh. - Be careful with the camel.
I love you, camel.
- Can I, can we please, please, please. - Yup, yup, you can.
Yup, yup, yup, yup.
Do they got a seat belt?
- What? - A seat belt?
He's big and he's thick and,
and he's bend down on his knees,
and I'm thinking, "How can I get up over him?"
And so, I'm saying to myself, I'm willing myself,
"I am getting on this camel come hell or highwater,
and I'm going for a camel ride on the beach in Morocco."
- Help me up, Oussama. - Do it carefully.
Look at me, I'm on a camel.
- Hey! - Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
Oh, Oussama, you're too skinny to hold on to,
Don't worry, don't worry.
Don't let me go nowhere.
- Oh, my Gosh, look at-- - Don't worry.
Wild camel ride!
Whoo-hoo!
Whoo-hoo. Yee-haw!
Yee-haw!
I'm on a camel!
The camel ride, I thought it would be kinda like riding a horse,
but, Lord have mercy,
it's like you're on a teeter-totter
of something very unstable.
I'm hanging on to Oussama,
who is no, no bigger than a tooth pick,
I'm clinging to him for dear life,
but I'm not getting off the camel, man,
it's, like, "I'm going on my camel ride."
I'm on the camel with you, and this is, like,
the most wonderful experience,
I feel my inner child
is finally free.
No, no, no, no, don't worry, don't worry.
Don't worry, don't worry, don't worry, don't worry.
Don't worry.
I wanna ride a camel with you everyday.
Thank you, thank you.
Oh, that was a biggest fun I've ever had in,
- I don't know how long. - Yeah.
Whoo!
Oh,
I'm sorry I was so enthusiastic.
No, no, it doesn't-- No, I want you to be happy.
I just loved it, Oussama.
Thank you for putting up with me.
Don't worry, I told you,
if you're happy, I'm happy, too.
Like, when you ride the camel,
But I want you--
- Were you embarrassed by me? - No.
When I am with you,
You know, when I'm out in public with Oussama,
you know, we get a lot of looks.
And even though he says he doesn't care,
I'm thinking, "He might be a little self-conscious."
And I don't ever want him
to feel ashamed or embarrassed.
- So, you, I didn't embarrass you because-- - No, no, no, you don't.
- I, I don't wanna do that. - Trust me, you don't,
because I want to see you happy.
'Cause I wouldn't never, never want you to be ashamed of me.
I, I'm--
Thank you.
Thank you for, for being strong like that. Thank you.
Oussama is telling me that
he loves me and cares for me,
and we're surrounded by just everything beautiful and wonderful and,
you know, I'm feeling hopeful again.
This is my Oussama, and I wanna move forward with him.
- I'm gonna get my feet in, wet in the water. - Okay, let's go.
And after the fight last night,
I need to make sure me and Oussama stay on the same page
about logistics,
our plans,
so I'm keeping both eyes open.
Wow, such a whirlwind.
After traveling 20 hours,
I finally made it back to Oklahoma
I feel really defeated.
It's devastating.
I didn't want to be back here so soon.
I'm nervous to talk to my family about
just everything,
and I need their support,
but I'm not sure I'll get it.
- Hi. Oh, my gosh. - Hi.
- You brought me boots. - You're gonna need these.
- Look, look how super classy my fashion sense has become. - Yeah.
- Are you ready? Okay. - Yeah.
Let's go.
- I didn't expect you to come home. - Yeah.
I totally screwed up on the visa, I feel so dumb.
I was reluctant to come back
because I was, like, I'm gonna hear it,
"Like, how dumb are you?"
- You-- - happens.
- happens, and it did happen.
So I'm, like, so glad that you picked me up
because I wanted to talk to you first
and I I didn't wanna--
So how was everything?
I haven't had a chance to talk to you.
Like, how was it when you first saw him?
I was really emotional,
and, you know, I'm always the one to cry, right?
Did you get emotional?
A little bit, but I think, not as much because he cried.
- It's-- - Aw.
It was really sweet.
- Aw. - Yeah.
So I know, the last time
when you got back from India, you were talking about how passionate...
- Yes. Yes. - ...your lovemaking was.
Was it as good as last time?
Okay, so, like, when we kissed and stuff,
like, I still felt that same attraction and all that,
but I, I had a conversation with him about,
I wanna feel secure in this relationship,
I wanna feel connected,
so I wanna wait until we actually get married to be intimate.
- So you didn't have sex while you were there? - No. No.
Did he try?
- No, but-- - He respected it?
He respected it.
So did you guys, like, spend time cuddling
- and, like, loving on each other. - Yeah, we did a little--
Yes, we did.
Did he ever get a while you guys were cuddling?
- You know, I'm pretty sure he did. - Yeah.
The prodigal daughter returns.
We've killed the fattened calf.
- Hi. - I love you.
Don't tell anybody in India.
Well, are you ready to eat?
- Well, I guess you can-- - Yes. Yes.
You can give your brother a hug.
I guess.
- Yeah, sure you are. - You look good.
Thank you.
- I loved being cooked for. - Yeah.
So what have you guys been talking about me behind my back?
What have you been saying?
Do you want me to nice or do you want me to be...
Oh, did he? Is it?
He gave you a ring?
- He reproposed in the street. - Huh.
Why did we not hear-- Why didn't--
We didn't hear about this You heard about this?
- Okay. - No.
- Yeah. - You renewed your engagement?
Yeah, we pretty much just renewed the engagement.
- That's all? - Did he get down on one knee? Did he do that?
- Yeah, he did. Yeah. - Really?
I didn't know they did things like that in India.
When is the wedding?
- Is it soon? - Well...
You guys didn't set a wedding date?
There are still a lot of issues that we need to work out.
Okay.
How did it go with his family?
Um...
Look,
I met the family.
- You did meet the mother? - I did.
- He introduced me as a friend. - What?
And, um, I found out that they have been
trying to arrange a marriage for him.
Really?
His mom and aunt and uncle have been looking
for a wife for him for the last two years.
Did that make you mad?
It would piss me off
if I was you and I heard that,
or I would say something to them myself.
I wanted to say something, and I said,
"No way, he's not getting off that easy."
Because if I say something
- then he doesn't have to tell them. - Mmm-hmm.
I've said it, I've done it for him.
- So you want him to be the one to say it. - Yeah.
He didn't think to mention that they were trying
to arrange a marriage for him?
And he said that he didn't tell me about that
because he thought that he might lose me.
And you believe him?
I do.
I don't believe him.
- You don't believe him. - Mmm-mmm.
After Jennifer moved to India for him,
I would've expected some type of
plan to the next level of commitment,
which I see as marriage.
I think Rishi proposing a second time
without, like, telling his mother
just looks like a tactic of, uh, stalling.
He doesn't sound committed to you,
I'm gonna throw that out there for you.
I do understand that you guys have your doubts,
but after we talked about all these things
that, that he's ready to compromise on,
he said that, um,
he would move out of his mother's home,
which is not gonna go over well at all.
What does that mean? He's going to move out?
Oh, that we will get an apartment together,
that we can live separately from the family,
we don't have to live in a joint family.
After you married him.
Yeah, and so, I think he's committed to this relationship.
I don't believe he's committed
to doing the things that you really need him to do.
I don't think he's gonna leave his mother,
'cause you know that those are traditions that come out of India
that are pretty hard-core. You know?
They can still look for him abroad.
I don't see it.
Hearing my family say they don't trust Rishi,
it's disappointing but it's not surprising.
I don't wanna throw this relationship away
because I feel like there's something there.
But there's nothing more that I can do on my end
other than keep in contact with him
and try to make it work.
I'm really hoping that Rishi and I can manage to stay connected
and not lose any of the momentum that we had going.
I don't think I could handle any more setbacks.
I think that relationships require commitment to trust.
And I will support you in everything you do, like always,
but I'm concerned you'll have your heart broken.
- Oh! - Hi!
I didn't tell Yohan that I had 10 suitcases.
- Oh! - Hi!
I'm so excited to be here.
I feel like I'm so excited to hand off my suitcases.
I'm also very happy to see my husband
and like I never have to be away from him again.
Like, this is it. Like, we're done with that like back and forth stuff.
So that's really lovely.
No.
Yohan doesn't own a car,
so whenever I come to the Dominican Republic,
he rents one from a friend of his.
This is the same car that we always rent when I come here.
I didn't tell Yohan that I had ten suitcases,
but I feel like he should have realized that I was moving here
and that I probably had a lot more stuff with me
than I normally do when I come for two weeks.
So, I'm not surprised that my bags don't fit in the car.
I'm surprised that when Yohan picks me up,
he shows up in a four-door, and not a van.
Yohan has been driving for less than a year
and he's gotten into one accident and gotten one ticket.
He doesn't exactly have the best track record.
We both know that I'm a better driver.
It's not like he thinks he's a better driver.
He knows damn well that I'm a better driver.
But he feels like if anybody saw us on the road
with a woman driving
and a man in the passenger seat with all these suitcases,
they'd like call him a [bleep] or something.
Okay.
I'm too tired to argue with Yohan about who's driving home.
If he really wants to fight this battle and win,
I'll let this be a battle that he wins.
I don't think having a penis impacts your ability to do things.
If anything, it prevents you from being able to do things
with any kind of intelligence or logic,
because the penis is a thinking tool,
but not necessarily an effective one.
Okay.
Growing up in the Dominican Republic,
Yohan is very attached to traditional conservative gender norms.
And he married someone who is not conforming to those gender norms.
If Yohan hasn't figured out at this point
that patriarchy isn't gonna work with me,
then he's been missing a lot of elements of our relationship thus far.
'Cause though I might be a little bit tired in this moment,
this isn't something that's gonna fly long-term.
I was born a woman,
and I've been a man for ten years
and I am trans.
Today, me and Isabel
are going to take her parents horseback riding.
Her and her parents do go horseback riding.
So I think that this is gonna be a good bonding experience.
And we left the kids at home today,
because after that, we're just gonna rip the Band-Aid
and tell her parents I'm trans.
I'm so dysphoric right now
just because it's like I'm about to reveal myself to her family.
So it's like, ugh, like, are they gonna start
looking at my body parts a little more
or like-- It's all going through my head.
I don't even know what I'm gonna say.
So I have a lot of anxiety
because the whole outcome of this conversation
is gonna dictate the way that my life is.
And I gave up a lot just to be here
and I don't wanna leave with nothing.
Today was a very good day.
But I have something very important to tell you.
And I don't want you to see me any differently than you do now.
I have to tell you this because I don't want to keep a secret
and I don't wanna lie.
And I don't want you to think that I'm being deceitful to you.
When I was born,
I was born a woman
and I've been a man for ten years
and I am trans.
There's just always something.
I'm tired of it.
All day, I've been working really hard to make Mahmoud happy.
But then, while the cameras weren't rolling,
I walked up to Mahmoud and he was acting funny
And I just-- I'd had enough.
Go find some other [bleep].
Let me go.
I don't wanna talk to you anymore.
Like, I just want you to leave me alone.
There's just always something.
I'm tired of it.
All day, I've been working really hard to make Mahmoud happy.
He taught me how to pray.
I wore the burkini.
But then, when we went to change out of our swimsuits,
while the cameras weren't rolling,
I walked up to Mahmoud and he was acting funny.
And I asked him what's wrong,
and he said something passive-aggressive to me,
like, "Like you care anyway."
I don't know why he said it,
but I think it was totally uncalled for.
And it seems like nothing.
It seems like what he said was sort of like a nothing,
but he had been building.
And I just-- I'd had enough.
And I just snapped.
Leave me the [bleep] alone, Mahmoud.
It's just your whole attitude
and like everything about you.
Everything about you.
Everything about you right now.
You're just always picking at me
and I'm tired of it, Mahmoud.
Just leave me alone.
You know what you did.
You know what you [bleep] did.
No, I'm not ready right now.
Just leave me the [bleep] alone.
I'm tired of you. , I'm tired of it.
Hmm? What?
I don't know. Who cares?
Just leave me alone. I just need you to leave me alone.
I just need you to leave me alone.
I-- No. Let me go.
I'm tired that like every single second,
like, of every day that I've been here so far,
it's just you picking at me.
Like, pick, pick, pick, pick--
Honestly, nothing's not good enough for you ever.
Go find some other [bleep].
Just let me go.
Let me-- I don't wanna talk to you anymore.
Like, I just want you to leave me alone.
I will.
I'm trapped in this craziness.
Every single [bleep] second, picking on me.
Picking, picking, picking, picking at me.
And he says it like behind the scenes,
like so that like no one's paying attention.
And nothing's ever good enough for him.
Like, I've had it.
Had it.
I'm not going anywhere with you.
No.
Uh, I don't wanna be anywhere near you right now.
I'm not gonna make any decisions right now about you.
You don't get to control me anymore, Mahmoud.
I'm tired of your bull [bleep].
I don't give a [bleep]. Whatever you wanna do.
Just go.
I'm not sure how I want to move forward
or if I can move forward or what "forward" means.
I don't know right now.
I mean, until I met him, I was single for like ten years.
And I don't answer to anybody.
So it's really hard for, all the sudden, this like...
He's nine years younger than me or something
and he thinks he can tell me what to do.
And I let him. I let him.
He's texting me.
He says he didn't do anything to me.
Uh, he hopes I find someone right for me.
And if I didn't go with him in the Uber,
then we were gonna be divorced.
I just like don't have anything left in me at the moment. And...
Next time, on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way.
I'm going back to India in a few weeks.
Jen, he sent me a photo of him with his shirt off.
- I love you. - I love you.
So many people have told us we're crazy, we're rushing,
we shouldn't be doing this.
- Ready. Ready. - As good as it's gettin'.
But when you have something wonderful
hold on to it.
Jeymi?
What would you like to know?