[narrator] Previously on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way...
Let's rock and roll.
I'm on the road to Morocco.
I'm scared something bad might happen.
Nothing bad is gonna happen.
He's young, Mom.
[Oussama speaking]
[Mahmoud speaking]
[speaking Arabic]
[Mahmoud speaking]
I'm already really homesick.
[Jen] So, did you start
looking for a match for him?
[speaking Hindi]
[Jen] I am disgusted.
They've been looking for a fiance for him for the past two years.
Hello, he gained a fiance two years ago.
[Kris] Can I see this knife right here?
[Jeymi speaking Spanish]
[Jeymi in English] Oh, my God, I'm nervous right now.
[speaking Spanish]
He's not taking ownership of the fact
that he has been dishonest.
You're a toxic human.
[speaking Spanish]
[Dheer speaking]
Hey, Jen.
I'm so happy to see you.
[Jen] So happy to see you, too.
-[Dheer] Come on. Yes. -[Jen] Late as usual.
[Dheer speaking]
Yesterday was painful.
I found out that Rishi has been lying to me,
and that his family has been looking
for wife for him for years.
Jen, let's do the warmup, move your shoulder.
[Jen] I'm still confused
and a little bit horrified about
everything that happened yesterday.
I need to get out of my head and into my body.
So today I'm taking a fitness class taught by my friend Dheer.
So are you ready guys?
Whoo! Yes.
One, two, three, four.
Three more, Jen! Two, three, four.
[Jen] Before COVID, when I was in Jaipur,
I was looking online for a fitness class,
and I found Dheer,
whose studio happened to be in my neighborhood.
I would take his classes at 8.30 every morning.
Somedays, I would stay after class
and talk to Dheer,
and little by little, we became friends.
Come on!
One, two. Love your energy, guys!
-Three. -[exaggerated laughing]
[chanting]
-[chanting] -Some more energy, guys.
[chanting]
[exaggerated laughing]
-[Jen sighing in exhaustion] -Thank you, guys. Bye. Thank you.
-Here, sit. -Ah, thank you.
-So-- -I haven't see you in so long.
-I've been wanting to, like-- -Yeah, it's been two years.
-I know! -Yes, yes, yes.
I didn't think I was ever gonna, like, make it back here
-with all the COVID stuff. -I'm so happy.
Great class, thank you.
-[all] Bye. -See you later, see you soon.
See you later, bye-bye. Bye.
Dheer is a great listener,
and he gives good advice,
he's helped me several times
over the last few years.
I mean, I've cried on his shoulder
on more than one occasion.
And he's given me really valuable cultural perspective,
and I need that.
How have you been?
Too good.
How are you? And what's happening?
-So you know I'm back in India because I got engaged. -Yes.
You remember that guy that I was dating when I was here?
I do remember, yes.
-I know you remember. -Yes, yes, yes, yes, I remember.
'Cause I was, like, I would come to class,
and I, one day I'd be, like, [imitates crying] so sad.
-You were crying, I remember. -Right?
Yes, yes, yes.
-There was lot of, like-- -And you showed me some picture.
Yes.
It was, like, the chemistry was like [imitates explosion]
like, there were so much chemistry.
And what about the chemistry? Is it still same?
The relation is still same?
It's confusing because now,
I mean, there's chemistry,
but I think because I don't trust him
-for, about certain things that... -Mmm-hmm.
...I won't let myself feel that as much attraction.
I, I think I'm more doubting him.
We've been engaged for two years,
and
he didn't tell his family.
-Oh, really? -Yeah.
I mean, does that sound reasonable to you or--
It doesn't.
You are his
-fiance, not girlfriend. -Right.
I know a lot of people are doing more love marriage,
-but it's a lot of, mostly... -Mmm-hmm.
-...still, would you say, a lot of arranged. -Still, yeah.
Yeah.
I've been to his family's house,
and he's introduced me as a friend,
and I understood,
but his mom and his uncle were saying,
"We been looking for a wife for him
for the last year and a half."
Wow.
Later, I had a conversation with him about,
"Just tell me the truth, be honest."
You lied to me about
-them, like, trying to set up a match. -Yeah.
-There's nothing else I'm gonna find out. -There's nothing else.
Nothing else.
-I'm not gonna find out anything else. -Yeah.
-No more surprises. -No more surprises.
I think about, like, my brother,
and I'm like, "He would kick a [bleep] door down for his wife."
But, I'm, like, is that just, like, an American thing?
It's so hard, I don't know what's--
But I also, like, I don't wanna be the one to push him to it.
What do you think?
That you are afraid he won't tell his family
or you are afraid he won't...
...get married to you, like, what's bothering you inside?
-You know me, like, so well. -I know you very well. Yes.
But let's say, for example, he tells them.
Do you think, honestly, that they would accept me?
I'm not gonna be offended if you're, like, "No."
-It all depends on him. -Yes.
She has been traveling
from one country to another, only for him.
His family should know everything.
She deserves that respect, at least.
[Dheer talking]
Marriage is all about, like,
you feel secure.
Be very strong.
Go, ask him to sit,
right?
And just tell him everything.
"Are you sure enough?"
"Do you wanna get married with me or not?"
You got it?
Promise yourself.
I want you to understand that this is not all about
one month, two month, one year.
[Kris] Oh, nice.
Look at that.
[Jeymi] Oh, look at this.
-It's pretty. -Yeah.
Those things we can get later.
First we need to find
tables,
couch, a table next to the bed,
-for sure. -Yes.
I can't believe
I've already been in Colombia for three days.
Being here with Jeymi makes me feel like home,
but our apartment definitely need some help.
[Jeymi] I like this, but I don't like the yellow.
[Kris] I like that table, too.
But I like the yellow chairs. [laughs]
Kris and I have
different styles, very different.
Look at this.
[Kris] I'm not a big fan of the couch.
-Are you? -[Jeymi] I like it.
I like it
all modern
and very class.
[Jeymi speaking]
[Kris] Do you like this?
[Jeymi] Yes, I like it.
More is more. [crowd laughs]
And
I better prop up more,
my narcolepsy, I might fall asleep,
and you won't get me up out of this bed.
Okay, I need to buy pillow for the house.
So...
I need to talk to you about something.
Mom messaged me a little bit ago
saying that I was served papers to go to court...
...in order to prosecute
the man who stole my rare motorcycle.
And
I may have to leave
and go
back to Alabama.
In one week.
I may have to fly back
the 19th and come back on the 21st.
That means, we would have to change our wedding date.
Well...
Many month ago
a man broke into my garage
and stole my rare motorcycle
that my dad had given me right before he passed away.
I planned on
selling my rare bike
to have that money
to further our future together here in Colombia.
You are the only person that I would ever even
remotely think about selling that bike for.
Yeah.
You know, so it was really, really hard
to have it taken from me.
I can't not put this man in jail
for what he did.
I understand, but right now, I feel so, so bad.
I don't wanna go back to Alabama,
and I surely don't wanna leave you.
I never, never in a million years
thought that this would happen
because they told me I didn't have to go to court.
And as much as I don't like it,
if I go,
they make him pay for what he did.
I mean, that's $50,000
that I lost from that, that I was gonna
have here,
so I can't just let this man walk free.
And it kills me to even have to talk about it.
I don't wanna change our wedding.
I, I don't know.
I don't know what to say, I don't know.
[speaking Spanish]
[Jeymi speaking English]
Eight months ago
Kris was supposed to come see me
for my birthday,
but she got cold feet
and didn't come.
She disappeared for one month.
She no tell me nothing, and I think maybe
the relationship is over.
I hurt you when I ghosted you, I know this...
...but you hurt me, too,
-by breaking my trust. -Yes.
I know.
-I'll tell you-- -So I've got past that,
and I'm here.
I ghosted Jeymi
on her birthday.
I became overwhelmed
with her neediness, and I ghosted her.
But at this point, I've left my children behind,
I've left my mother, I've left everything behind
to be here, I can't
possibly do anything else to show...
...Jeymi that I'm 100% committed to our relationship.
You can't think, honestly,
that I'm gonna go back to Alabama
and not come back here.
When I've...
...risked everything to be here.
It's, it's too much for me right now.
I'm so sad
Everything change.
Hopefully,
I won't have to go back, I don't know yet.
I'll know Monday.
Okay.
[Jeymi speaking Spanish]
I'm excited to see my man, Oussama.
I'm about to step into my whole new life.
This is my happily ever after.
It's Oussama.
I shouldn't be sleeping alone without my husband
while he stays at his parents' house.
Yohan still clearly has
a long way to go when it comes to
having a mature adult relationship.
[Daniele speaking Spanish]
I just can't contain myself, It's, like,
this is real.
I'm starting to get so nervous,
I can't even speak straight.
Yeah, this, this is, this is big.
It's been a year since I've been in Morocco.
I left my home,
and I'm just a mix
of all kinds of emotions,
and I'm nervous,
but I'm excited to see my man,
Oussama.
I wanna run, I wanna break into a run, sprint.
See, Debbie, the new Olympian.
I just can't wait, and it's,
it's a magical moment that
I've been waiting for my whole life.
Come on, just a little bit longer.
Little ways to go.
[Oussama speaking]
[Debbie] I'm about to step into my whole new life.
Now, Morocco is my home.
Naturally, I have concerns.
You know, with my son, Julian, nagging me,
constantly he plants all those seeds in me.
There is a part of me that's very insecure,
and I want Oussama
to say, "Debbie, it's gonna be okay no matter what."
I need that.
I want to give Oussama
the lead as far as when we're gonna go get married,
but I like to get married in about a month.
♪ Feeling like we owe it to ourselves ♪
It's Oussama.
[laughs] He looks handsome.
♪ Can we dive back into love, love, love, love ♪
hey, Oussama.
Did you miss me?
♪ Feeling like we owe it to ourselves ♪
[Oussama speaking]
♪ And maybe we have work too hard... ♪
You look so handsome.
Oh, golly, Oussama.
It seems like a dream, doesn't it?
Yes, yes.
Our strange connection.
Only you and me now.
Yes.
You're my strange beautiful.
Aw, thank you.
Thank you, Oussama.
I, I love that.
I feel like I'm in a dream like trance.
Almost like I can't stop myself
from staring at him
and coming to him like a magnet.
It's like a force that
[Debbie] I know.
Aw, that's so sweet.
[Debbie] Aw!
[chuckles]
You make me feel good.
So shall we go now?
Oh, where are we goin'?
Rabat? Okay, I'm ready!
-Oh, good. -Yeah.
Okay.
I'm just, like, in a surrealistic other world.
And I'm really looking forward to starting our life.
It's like this is my happily ever after.
The moment I've waited my whole life for.
-[Oussama grunts] -[Debbie] Oh, you need help?
-[Oussama] We are a team. -[Debbie] Oh, we made it, we made it.
[Daniele] Last night, Yohan and I had a huge argument
about a half story he told me about a girl he was with in the past who got pregnant.
When I asked him to tell me the truth,
he got very defensive and started yelling at me
but never actually gave me the full story.
This is the first time I've slept alone in the Dominican Republic
since I met Yohan.
I... I was hoping that he would come with me
so that we could continue this conversation.
Um, but that did not happen.
It made me feel sad.
This isn't just, like, a boyfriend-girlfriend situation,
this is a husband, like, this is my husband.
And I shouldn't be sleeping alone without my husband
while he stays at his parents' house.
That feels ridiculous.
Yohan called this morning to say that he was on his way over so that we could talk.
I hope that Yohan is able to understand that,
first of all, the most important thing to me is honesty.
And if we don't have honesty in this marriage,
we don't have a marriage.
And I also want him to understand that, if there's conflict,
it's our responsibility to resolve it.
You know, even if it's not in the immediate moment,
but there has to be a commitment to resolution.
[knocking on door]
[Yohan in Spanish]
[Daniele] I've been better.
[Yohan in Spanish]
Thank you.
[in Spanish]
[Daniele in English] So...
...first of all, thank you.
[in Spanish]
[in English] We are married.
[in Spanish]
[Daniele in English] We've made a lot of progress today,
but Yohan still clearly has a long way to go
when it comes to having a mature, adult relationship
[in Spanish]
[Daniele] But once I move down here
and we start building a life together,
that's when we'll really know how much trust we have for one another
and whether we're building a life on a solid foundation.
[in Spanish]
[giggles]
[Gabriel in Spanish]
The last time that I went to the doctor,
he said that he didn't believe me
that I was transgender.
[in Spanish]
[Gabriel speaking in Spanish]
[in Spanish]
[Gabriel in English] I've been here in Colombia for about a week.
And today we're meeting with a plastic surgeon
because I hate these things. Look at this.
They're little, but I got, like, little milk jugs.
And I'm very uncomfortable with what I have.
Because for me to know that I was a woman,
it's... it's like it's... it's stuck on me.
[in Spanish]
[in English] The last time that I went to the doctor,
I did not have a good experience.
He said that he didn't believe me that I was transgender.
It made me feel bad because why would I lie about this.
[phone translating into Spanish]
I actually had a consultation to have top surgery...
...in Florida.
And the doctor didn't believe that I was trans.
I was like, "Yeah, I had bottom surgery."
And he was like, "Oh, well your ID, it's... it's a male."
And I'm like, "Yeah." I'm like...
"Why do I have to convince you?" You're a doctor, like...
...we exist.
And so I actually showed him my scars,
and he was like, "Oh, okay.
All right, well yeah, let's... let's see what we can do."
I'm like, "Bro, like, I don't wanna be here with you anymore."
Like, how uncomfortable is that?
That I had to explain to a doctor that I'm trans,
and then I had to show him proof?
[Isabel in Spanish]
I hope my experience is better here in Colombia.
But I don't know how accepting they are of trans people.
[in Spanish]
Okay.
[Isabel in Spanish]
[doctor speaking in Spanish]
[Isabel speaking in Spanish]
[doctor speaking]
[Gabriel and Isabel speaking]
[Isabel speaking]
[Dr. Cardona speaking]
[Isabel speaking]
[Dr. Cardona] Okay.
[in English] Um, so I'm transgender.
So my chest it's still... feminine.
So I didn't have surgery yet, but it's...
...it makes me feel uncomfortable.
Okay.
[Dr. Cardona speaking in Spanish]
My surgery? I had bottom surgery.
[in Spanish]
Si, phalloplasty.
Um, ALT.
[in English] Okay, an ALT.
[in Spanish]
About five years ago, the procedure that I got is called ALT phalloplasty.
The doctor takes a layer of skin from a part of the body.
Either here, um, your thigh,
or you can use this area right here,
to create the penis.
I had a complication.
Because first, I wanted to use this leg,
but then they took it off
and I don't have enough nerves.
And so they had to put it back here.
-Okay. -And so after they had to use this leg for it here.
[in Spanish]
[in English] What they do is they hook up...
...the nerves to the clitoris to the new phallus.
And so if you don't have good nerves in your thigh,
or whatever donor site that you use,
you're not gonna have any tactile sensation.
So, when I woke up from surgery, I didn't have anything.
All I had was a ball sack.
My leg's bandaged up, but I don't have a penis.
So then we had to reschedule and use the other leg,
six or seven days later.
I was in the hospital...
[in Spanish]
-Si. -Okay.
[in Spanish]
-Mmm. -Or no?
[Gabriel in Spanish]
[in English] ...I have another complication.
My urethra closed.
And so, I had to have another surgery three months later.
I was scared.
-I was very, very, very scared. -[Dr. Cardona in Spanish]
[Gabriel in English] Because I had complications, I couldn't pee outta my penis.
I couldn't pee outta the hole.
I had a catheter coming out my stomach.
I had three surgeries...
...for my bottom.
So it was a very, very painful experience.
[in Spanish]
[Gabriel] Hmm.
No.
[Dr. Cardona speaking in Spanish]
-[Isabel speaking] -[Gabriel speaking]
[in English] I think my penis is a good size.
And I can have sex also,
so I honestly don't want any implant at all.
It's a lotta complications.
There's two types of implants for the erection that you can get.
There's one that's a rod,
and it's comparable to a pipe cleaner.
You know how a pipe cleaner you can do [clicks tongue]
like, put in whatever direction?
It's kinda like that.
So it's down...
So if you just wanna get it on? Bam.
You just...
Just move it up.
The other implant, it is inflatable.
Where it's, like, you squeeze the balls,
[imitates air pump] and it erects.
But there's such a high risk of complication
because a lot of bodies reject it.
And I don't wanna go through that.
[Dr. Cardona speaking in Spanish]
[in English] I felt that it was more important for me
-because my chest it's okay, it's not real big, so it's... -Okay.
So I always said, "Oh, later, later."
And I'm...
With my chest, I'm concerned that maybe I'll have a big scar like this,
because it's... I scar bad.
[in Spanish]
[Gabriel] Si.
[Dr. Cardona speaking]
[in English] I wish this could all be easier.
I wish that scars didn't exist, you know?
[in Spanish]
Si.
[in Spanish]
[Dr. Cardona] Si.
[Isabel speaking in Spanish]
[Gabriel] Mmm-hmm.
[Dr. Cardona] Okay.
[Gabriel] The scars I had for my legs are really bad.
So I think that's why I'm a little up in the air and concerned
about having top surgery.
Maybe I'm gonna have big scars,
or maybe I'm gonna have a big complication.
And then it's like, "Wow, well, I was better off before I had surgery."
But it's gonna be a lot cheaper in Colombia, rather than in the U.S.
So yeah, I don't know.
How much?
[in Spanish]
I just wanna kinda talk about me going to your house.
Right before we went there,
you surprised me with the fact that they'd been
trying to match-make you.
They were... They were in talk.
Why didn't you tell me that?
Please just be honest!
[yelling] Just tell me!
There are so many things that I wanna talk to Rishi about today,
and really get some clarification on.
And it... it might be kinda painful
to get that out of him. I'm gonna be honest.
It's... It has been...
Uh, It has been very difficult to get straight answers from him.
After talking to my friend Dheer yesterday...
...he's made me realize that I really need to push Rishi,
and get the answers that I deserve.
When is he gonna tell his family?
Is he gonna tell his family?
Why are they looking for a bride for him?
And what does that mean for us?
I just wanna lay it all out on the line.
[knocking at door]
[Rishi] Babe.
-[Jen] Hey! -[Rishi] Hi!
-Come in. -How's you?
[Jen] Not good. How are you?
What'd you bring?
[Rishi] Today's the kite festival.
[Jen] Okay.
[Rishi speaking]
-So many kites now. -Oh, my gosh!
[Rishi] Yeah.
[Jen exclaims] This is so cool!
[Rishi speaking]
[Jen] I love it.
-Shaping it? -Yeah, shaping it.
-Do... Can I do the shaping part first? -I... No, no, no, no.
It's terrible.
-[laughs] What's terrible? -You just place one hand here.
Just give a base, yeah.
This is a family tradition.
So I want to introduce her more about my culture.
[Jen] Oh, my gosh!
Okay, look.
-[Jen] Wow, it's, like, a lotta work. -Yeah.
Oh, my god. I think... I think we have a battle.
-[Jen] Oh, you think somebody's trying to get it. -[Rishi] Yeah, yeah.
[man yells]
-Did they get out kite? -Oh, one is gone.
-[laughs] -[Jen gasps]
-Somebody cut it and it's gone. -[Rishi] Yeah.
Yeah, it's gone.
[speaking Hindi]
[man yelling]
[in English]
Yeah!
So is your family doing this today too?
Yeah, they are they are also celebrating, uh, this festival.
I kinda, before...
like, I just wanna kinda talk about me going to your house.
You said, "They need time to get to know you."
Like, how many visits is it gonna take...
...for you to feel comfortable, like,
"Okay, they've gotten to know you."
Uh, whenever they ask about you by themselves.
So, "Where is she?" and "How she is doing?"
So, it's, like, when I go home they will ask me, like, uh...
uh, "Where is your friend?"
Uh, "You should have come with her."
It has to get to the point that I'm over there so often...
...that if I'm not there, it's weird,
and they're like, "Where's that girl?"
[laughs awkwardly] No, but--
Yes, I think that's what you're saying.
It's awkward to me.
And I feel like I'm deceiving them.
Do you understand that?
It didn't work out nicely for me
that right before we went there you... [sputters]
surprised me with the fact that they'd been trying to matchmake you.
Why didn't you tell me that?
I just keep saying over and over,
"Just be honest with me. Just be honest! Tell me, I won't be made."
Now I'm getting really mad, I'm sorry.
Please just be honest, [yells] just tell me!
[sighs]
Let's say your family finds you a match,
like, today, tomorrow, while I'm here.
Are you gonna have to go meet with her?
No.
Definitely not.
Why not?
'Cause it's not my choice.
I guess I'm kind of confused about that too,
because they didn't say that to me.
Like, "We're lookin' but Rishi said,
he's gonna find a wife for himself.
So we're gonna back off."
But they told me...
They told me, uh, already, like, uh,
"If you find a girl, just, uh...
...tell us, once."
So, realistically...
...what are the chances that your family will ever accept me?
I will give... give them a choice.
Like, uh...
Either you go with her,
or I will not marry with anyone.
I'm not satisfied with that.
[Rishi] So, the thing is I know,
because they... they want... they want that I will get married,
because, according to them, my age is running.
So they will definitely go with my choice.
So that sounds to me like you're saying you're 100% sure.
Yeah.
So then, why are we waiting to tell them?
[sighs]
Let's see, I just... I just want a little...
...little time.
So are you saying you want me to live with your family?
Yeah.
I think it would be great like if... if you moved to my house.
It's also, like, a very normal thing in this culture.
So, how do you feel about it?
It's not that I don't want to compromise and do...
...some things for you, but...
...the idea of living in a joint family, for me,
I feel like that's gonna be an issue.
Rishi and I didn't get into specifics about where we would live
after we were married.
We were more concerned about when we would...
...get to see each other again in person.
Go for it, have experience, and then you make the decision.
But I can't...
...move in with a joint family and experience it until we're married.
You see how that doesn't work?
It's just not practical.
I have an idea, like, I can take you
one of my friend's family.
So you can, uh, go and you can
just spend a little time over there
so you can just have the experience, uh, of a joint family.
Is this, like, wife training?
You can say, uh, the responsibility of a wife
means, um, as a wife, as a daughter,
as a daughter-in-law or, like, uh, so many relations.
Like in a joint family.
I knew Rishi lived with his family
and had obligations to take care of the family in every way.
But I thought that these were things that he could do from our...
...family home or apartment.
I had no idea that he feels that he needs
for us to continue living in the joint family home after we're married.
You can just get an idea of it.
A very small and tiny experience.
Okay.
I'm never gonna change my mind about it.
Because I didn't know.
[Mahmoud speaking]
[Nicole] Mahmoud!
[Mahmoud speaking]
[Nicole] Can you help me, please?
Uh, I can't light the stove.
I need to make some tea.
[Mahmoud speaking]
I know, my love, but like, I can't even see which one.
Like, what are all these for? There's not that many burners.
[Mahmoud speaking]
-[Nicole] Okay. -[Mahmoud speaking]
[Nicole] I've been in Egypt for a few days,
And things have really been a struggle so far.
[snap]
Oh, [bleep].
-Don't kill it. -Excuse me.
What?
Mahmoud's home doesn't yet feel like my home.
I'm definitely feeling a little discouraged
from making friends outside of the family.
And it's been especially hard being alone at the apartment
while Mahmoud goes to work.
There's just, like, nothing for me to do.
Nothing. Nothing. Like, just nothing.
Uh, I wanna make some tea first and then pray.
And do what later?
Okay. I love you.
I converted to Islam
before Mahmoud and I got married.
But in LA I was experiencing doubts and wondering if it's right for me.
And I need to have that conversation with Mahmoud,
'cause it's a big topic, it's very important to me.
But we're already fighting,
and the timing needs to be perfect for this one.
Hi, sweetheart.
[Mahmoud speaking]
Should we ask him, you know, like, how best to get started?
Or, like, what do you--
Well, when women try and go to shop for things
that are, like, actually stylish and modest, it's really difficult.
I came up with this idea at a time where I was preparing for a trip to Egypt,
and going store to store.
And then, uh, finding something that looks like it's fully modest,
but then you turn it around and the whole back is cut out of it.
And I'm supposed to have no skin showing
from the neck to the ankles.
So, I decided that, since I have a background in fashion design,
that, perhaps, Mahmoud and I could start a family business
making clothes that I actually like and that are modest.
You think I should change my clothes before we go to your uncle's?
Mmm-hmm.
[giggles]
Well, that was the first time I've ever heard those words come out of your mouth.
"You can wear whatever you want!"
I'm not covering my hair, ever.
You're giving me my time about that? Is that what you just said?
I will never do it again, no.
I wore a hijab for maybe a year.
It's really, really, really hot,
uncomfortable.
And Mahmoud wouldn't let me go outside the house without it on properly,
or even if one hair was poking out.
I felt like I betrayed myself.
And there's, honestly, no worse feeling than that.
Well, I mean, I think they are beautiful, like, I really do.
I just don't like... it's really uncomfortable for me.
That's not true.
No.
You have also went back on your promises.
Because at... at one point, like, when we were first together,
you decided, at least when I'm in America,
that I could wear a short sleeve.
I... No, you said, like, here.
And even all the times we video chatted,
in the summers when I was in LA and stuff.
I would have short sleeves on and you know that.
Yes, you did.
Yes!
No, that's not true.
I would be wearing short sleeves.
Yes, I did.
Yeah.
[Mahmoud speaking]
[door slamming]
Mahmoud, like, you know that!
[Mahmoud speaking]
-[Nicole] I did! -[Mahmoud speaking]
I did
Short sleeves, yes. This? Yes, yes.
Yes.
[Nicole] Yes.
[Nicole] Yes, yes, yes, always.
-Yeah, you did, yeah. -[Mahmoud speaking]
Yes.
No way what?
I'm never gonna change my mind about it, either.
Before we were married? Because I didn't know.
[Mahmoud] So...
If you can't be with me, you can't be with me.
But don't have me come here,
and, like, work really hard,
and then just be, like, "Blech.
I don't wanna be with you because you can't..."
I'm done.
Okay, good.
[door slams]
[Nicole] Every single time,
I'm like, "Okay, maybe we can compromise."
This conversation goes exactly like this.
I just feel, like, all alone.
Right? Like... 'Cause when we pulls away from me,
and it's like it's just... just me.
[Mahmoud speaking]
I don't feel like it has to get the implant
because its rigid enough for penetration.
[in Spanish]
-No. -No?
-[Isabel laughs] -[laughs] Bien.
[waiter speaking in Spanish]
[in Spanish]
Hmm.
[in Spanish]
-[sighs] -[Isabel speaking]
[Google assistant beeps]
[Gabriel in English] So, when you have phalloplasty...
...you can use your arm or you can use your leg.
If you use your arm,
it's gonna be very skinny.
But if you use your leg, it's gonna be thicker.
[phone translating into Spanish]
Si. Hmm.
[phone translates in Spanish]
[in Spanish]
-Okay. -Okay. [laughs]
[in Spanish]
[Google assistant beeps]
[in English] So right now, because I used my leg,
I don't feel like it has to get the implant
because it's rigid enough for penetration.
I wouldn't say that my penis is [bleep] all the time.
I will say it's rigid, and so I don't have a problem penetrating.
Like, there's no, you know... [imitates splat]
...floppies over here.
It's... It's ready, all the time.
But, in real life, it's not uncomfortable for me.
Like, I can walk. I can pee.
But, I'm not gonna lie, if I wear sweatpants,
I have to put 'em, like, a little bigger
because it kinda just likes to make, like, a... a tent right in the middle.
So I'm like "Oh, my gosh."
I kinda have to like...
...tuck it, a little bit.
If you have the implant, it'll be erect.
But it's gonna be more--
[phone translates into Spanish]
But it's gonna be bigger,
and it's going to still poke out more.
Mine is like this.
It will be more like this, out more.
Okay.
[phone translates into Spanish]
[Isabel giggling]
No. [coughs]
Okay. [laughs]
[laughs]
[in Spanish]
-[laughs] -Okay, bien.
No. [chuckles]
[laughs heartily]
[chuckles]
[Gabriel] Si. Oi.
[Isabel speaking in Spanish]
Hmm.
[Gabriel in Spanish]
[in English] I was so scared.
[in Spanish]
[sighs aggravatedly]
[in Spanish]
[laughs]
[gags]
[giggles] No!
-[sighs in relief] -[giggles]
[in English] And translate.
[Google assistant beeps]
My first time I thought my penis was gonna fall off.
[phone translates into Spanish]
[Isabel laughs]
[both speaking]
[in Spanish]
[laughs]
[Gabriel speaking]
-[Isabel] Si? -Si.
Oi.
Si.
[both speaking]
Si?
[in Spanish]
[In English] It's...
It's because the nerves, it's connected.
Mmm-hmm?
[clears throat]
Ah.
[in English] Translate, okay.
[Google assistant beeps]
It's the same liquid that comes out of you.
I have the same because I was a female.
And so it's the same, but it comes out, like...
It takes a longer...
[phone translates into Spanish]
[Gabriel] Si. Mmm-hmm.
So it's not... [imitates a water jet]
[in Spanish]
[in English] Both female and male bodies
have the potential to excrete, you know, fluid from the genitals.
And the way that my surgeon did my surgery,
I am still able to.
And so it comes out, it just has a long way to...
...go, because my urethra is longer.
So that's why I...
...still have fluid comin' out.
Um, this is a lot of penis talk.
Oh, my gosh, I'm so sorry to my mom, to my grandma!
Oh, my gosh.
I'm sorry, family!
[Isabel in Spanish]
[in Spanish]
[both laugh]
[in English] I went through this long, traumatic experience
with all these surgeries, you know, transitioning.
Everything is really hard.
And it just feels good to be with somebody that accepts me,
and she's... she's very comfortable with me.
I love Isabel because she makes me feel normal.
It feels good to not feel defective.
Si?
[in Spanish]
[Isabel speaking]
[In English] I hope Isabel's parents are as accepting as she is,
because I would never wanna lose her.
[in Spanish]
[laughs heartily]
[Gabriel] Si.
[both laughing]
[Rishi speaking]
[woman speaking in Hindi]
-Early in the morning. -Uh, early in the morning.
So, um, what is your expectation?
What do you want me to learn about being a wife?
[Rishi speaking]
Okay.
So, wife training.
[sighs] Uh, yeah, kind of.
Okay.
Jen called this "wife training",
but according to me, it's, uh,
learning responsibility in a joint family.
[Jen] Okay, this is gonna be interesting.
Not gonna lie, I'm a little offended
that Rishi thinks that I need to be trained
to learn how to be a wife.
I'm an independent woman
who can think for herself and support herself financially.
[speaking in Hindi]
[Surendra speaking in Hindi]
-Hi, nice to meet you. -[Surendra speaking]
I'm taking Jen to my friend's family house,
his name is Surendra.
I know this family for a very long time, and, um,
my friend's wife, she's a nice girl.
[all greeting]
[Rishi] She also understand a little bit English, so,
I think this place is going to give Jen
more comfortable time to learn
to take care of others in the house
in a joined family.
[in Hindi]
[in English]
[Jen] Okay.
[in Hindi]
[Rishi speaking]
[all laughing]
[Jen] Oh, okay. Namaste.
[Seeta speaking]
-[Jen] Oh, sister. -[Neeta in English] Big sister.
[Jen] Oh, okay.
Can you come in and help me translate?
[Rishi chuckles]
[in English]
That's why.
Oh, okay.
-So, so it's, like, inappropriate for... -Yeah, inappropriate.
-[Jen] Always? -Always.
[Rishi] All the ladies are standing
in a group, so,
a man cannot walk in between.
That's very interesting.
I've never heard of anything like this before.
And I'm really liking that.
I like the idea that there are some places
that women can go and men can't.
Yeah, I'm good with that.
'Cause right now I'm super irritated with him,
so if he has to stay in the other room,
it's probably for the best.
[Jen] Odhni?
-[laughs] -[Rishi] Wow.
Okay, let's see.
-[Rishi] So pretty. -[woman in Hindi]
-[Seeta] Lovely, lovely. -[Rishi] Yeah.
[Rishi] Ah, this is the way.
-[Jen] It's okay? -[Rishi] Yeah.
-[Rishi] Wow. -Thank you.
It looks pretty.
-Yeah? Okay. -[Rishi] Yeah.
Ready. Training complete.
-[all laughing] -[in English]
All right.
Jen looking beautiful with the veil and with the bindi,
this is something that you need to carry yourself
in the Indian culture.
And it's pretty. [chuckles]
[in Hindi]
[stove clicking]
[Jen] Okay. Like this?
[Seeta speaking]
-Oh, okay. -[Rishi] A little hard.
-[Rishi] Ah, so put now. -Oh, okay.
-[Jen] Put in there? Okay. -[Rishi] Yeah.
[Jen] Okay.
[in English] Two cup.
Yes, okay.
[Seeta in Hindi]
[Jen] Milk? Okay.
-Uh... -[Seeta in English] Early in the morning.
4:00.
She make tea every day
in the morning for her family.
Does your husband ever wake up early
and make chai for you?
[in English] No, no, no.
-[Jen] Never? -Never.
-Never? -[Seeta laughs]
Wow.
[in Hindi]
First they serve to the men's side,
then after that, they will go for it.
-Very traditional. Serve the man. -[Rishi] Serve the man.
So, will you do all these things for your husband?
[Jen] I mean,
it's very hard
to determine
how that will work, because right now,
nothing is for sure.
I'm feeling a little overwhelmed right now,
because this is not how I expected my life to be
after marrying Rishi.
Since we met, he told me how much
he likes the fact that I'm very independent,
so I guess...
...I made the assumption that
Rishi and I are on the same page.
[in Hindi]
I can understand "Follow me", I think.
[Jen] Yes, I'll, I'll wash.
While I respect these women
and their traditions,
and I'm not gonna be rude in their home,
I'm not sure that
serving Rishi's family is the life for me.
[in Hindi]
I don't have two Master's degrees so I can go
be a maid for your family. I'm sorry.
If that's who he thinks I am, he doesn't know me at all.
And this makes me question our whole relationship.
How are you feeling?
I'm in a lot of pain.
I am really worried that I'm pushing Jeymi away.
Baby,
I don't think I can get out.
[upbeat music playing]
-Thank you, baby. -[Jeymi] Ira, come.
[Kris] It's my fourth day here in Colombia,
and things aren't going the way I hoped.
I found out yesterday that I may have
to go back to Alabama
to take care of a court case.
It ended up causing me and Jeymi to fight,
because she doesn't believe that I'll come back.
You wanna talk for maybe go to Alabama?
I don't know until tomorrow, but I'm not...
I don't even wanna worry about Alabama right now,
I just want us to enjoy our day.
Yeah. How are you feeling?
I'm in a lot of pain.
We had a lot to do today, but...
...I feel I'm gonna be limited
-in what I can do today. -Yeah, I know.
[Jeymi speaking]
maybe, um...
...um, look and see a few minutes.
[Kris] Absolutely.
[Kris] I don't know if it's normal,
if it's because of the altitude difference,
or if it's just from the plane ride here, I don't know.
I just have severe, severe pain.
I broke my neck in a car accident.
And I deal with pain
on a daily basis,
but my pain has been increasing just
from the flight,
to riding on rough roads
and everything all together,
is just causing it to get worse and worse.
But with all the physical ailments
I've been dealing with,
I'm really worried that
I'm pushing Jeymi away.
So I am definitely pushing myself
more than I should be
to try to make Jeymi happy.
[breath trembling]
[crying softly]
[Jeymi] Baby.
-[Kris exhales] -How are you feeling?
I don't think I can get out to even look
at the flea market right now.
-What happened? -I'm in too much pain.
[Jeymi speaking]
[Kris] I think so.
-Okay. -Okay.
[Jeymi] This is not good, baby.
-[Kris] Mmm-mmm. -I'm very worried.
Don't cry, baby.
I got it.
So, I got a doctor
who will go to the house and check on her.
[crying softly]
[Jeymi crying]
I feel it's so bad.
She feel bad. [sniffles]
[breath trembling]
[in Spanish]
-[Jeymi speaking] -[doctor in Spanish]
[Jeymi speaking]
-Okay? -[Jeymi] Okay.
-[doctor speaking] -[Jeymi in English] Sit.
Who... who is your pain?
I have bulging disks
in my second and third vertebrae.
[in Spanish]
[doctor speaking]
-[Jeymi in English] The accident? -[doctor speaking]
-Uh, I broke it years ago. -[in Spanish]
[doctor] Oh, okay.
[Jeymi speaking]
[doctor speaking]
[in English] In the back.
-[doctor in English] Ah, it's okay. -[Kris] [breath trembling]
-[doctor in Spanish] -[Jeymi] Lay down.
[doctor speaking]
[Jeymi] Listen.
You need a shot.
It's, uh, for relaxing your muscles.
-For relaxants, okay? -[Kris] Okay.
[doctor speaking]
[Jeymi] Relax.
[in Spanish]
-[doctor speaking] -[Jeymi speaking]
-[doctor speaking]
[Nicole] You say you don't want me anymore,
because I won't wear the [bleep] clothes you want? [bleep] you.
See, yeah, there you go again. Just leave.
[Nicole] He takes all the power and leaves.
I've had enough.
Earlier today, Mahmoud stormed off.
Now I'm just here alone with his mom in his house.
I don't know where he is,
he didn't tell me, he just left.
He said he didn't want to be with me anymore.
So all in all, in the past few days since I got to Egypt,
I feel like Mahmoud doesn't want me,
he wants some ideal version
of a wife.
And he wants me to go, and so that's what I'm gonna do.
[Nicole] Where'd you go?
[Mahmoud speaking]
For what?
[Mahmoud speaking]
Like, what's the point? What's the point, now?
I mean, you said you don't wanna be with me.
I'm packing my [bleep] to leave 'cause you told me that's what you want.
No. You don't want me, I'm gone.
I gave up everything, I came here to be with you.
And then now, you say you don't want me anymore,
because I won't wear the [bleep] clothes you want? [bleep] you, like...
[Mahmoud speaking]
What the [bleep], Mahmoud?
I came all this way, you think I don't want you? What...
[Nicole] You won't compromise on anything.
It's your way or no way.
I'm so upset now.
-[Nicole] About what? -About everything.
Now I know for sure, like, that there's, like...
...a pretty big issue, I mean,
I was under the impression that
giving up my apartment,
-giving up everything, -[Mahmoud] Yes, yes.
-and moving all the way to Egypt -[Mahmoud] Yes.
is a pretty big gesture of love for you.
Well, I mean...
...I don't know anything other than that
you told me to go,
so that's what I'm going to do.
[Mahmoud speaking]
Then why the [bleep] did you say it?
Don't do that. Like, don't make me come here
and then tell me you want me to go, and then storm off,
and just leave me here? Do you know what it's like?
I don't know, a different [bleep] person in Egypt, you know?
Stop, like, playing with me.
This is why we never get anything done. You're always just, like,
playing these weird little games.
[Nicole] Now, there you go again. Just leave.
But you get something to fight.
Well, what do you think I'm supposed to do, Mahmoud?
This is not easy for me. I just came from the United States,
my home, to be with you.
And then you just, like, it's whatever.
It's everything on your terms,
whenever you wanna do it or whenever you can do it,
that's when you do it, like,
what about me?
Okay.
Because I'm not ready... you want a fight?
Or you wanna, we can work--
No, I wanna work this out. Like, I'm either gonna go or I'm gonna stay.
-I say I don't want you to go. -I'm not gonna stay under these conditions.
I'm not gonna stay with a [bleeping].
You already [bleeping].
[exhales]
[Nicole] I hate it when he does this,
just not talk about the things that make us fight.
He doesn't know how to handle it 'cause he's so full of emotion.
And he just, like, takes all the power and leaves.
I've had enough.
[woman] Next time on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way...
-I'm trying to propose to her. -What?
[Trey] She's already, like, really possessive.
[Isabel in Spanish]
So, you know, this is usually our spot, bro.
-Oh, shh. -Where you and me hang out.
Uh, do you have a problem with--
Shh.
Got your hands full, buddy.
[Jeymi in Spanish]
[in Spanish]
-[in Arabic] -Yes.
[in Arabic]
[Nicole] Religion is very personal,
and it's nobody's business why I'm not wearing the veil anymore.
You want me to go back to the States.
-Uh, yep. -You lied to me.
Shame on you.
The lawyer said that it is a single-entry visa,
and I don't know how long it's gonna be.
before I can come back.
This news, like...
...ruin everything.
It's the very worst thing going in my mind.
Do I need to wait, like, again, for years?