[Nicole] Previously on 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way...
Yeah.
I found the right person that suits my personality.
I'm 67 years old.
I'm moving to Morocco to marry Oussama.
He's 24 years old.
But I love him.
How do you know he's not scamming you?
In all this time, he has never asked for money.
Not yet.
He has nothing to lose, you have nothing to lose.
Are you nervous to come out to her family?
Most definitely.
One of my ex-girlfriends' family would not even acknowledge me.
If Isabel's family doesn't accept me,
I think it's gonna be even worse this time.
[Kris] I can have night terrors.
Hallucinations.
So, you might end up getting karate kicks in the sleep.
I have dreamt about seeing her for the first time.
But there is so much that can go wrong.
Now I'm nervous. Damn it.
Bye-bye, Oklahoma. Hello, India. Can't believe it, I'm here.
My family doesn't know about Jen and our relationship.
[Shimla speaking Hindi]
I was hoping that this kind of stuff wouldn't start
the minute that I landed, but it did.
Hopefully, coming back here wasn't a mistake.
[playing pungi]
I arrived in India last night and I'm getting ready to get in a taxi
to go six hours to Jaipur where I'll finally see my fiance, Rishi.
It's been a long two years being apart.
And honestly, in my past relationships,
it's been a lot of chemistry, in the beginning.
And then, it's just faded.
What if I'm not as attracted to him as I thought I was or I was previously.
What if he's not attracted to me anymore?
That would be probably the worst case scenario.
[Jen] Okay.
Do you drive to Jaipur a lot?
-Yeah. -[Jen] Yeah? Nice.
I'm going to live there.
I have a fiance there.
We're gonna get married. Hopefully.
I don't know. Feeling a little bit scared and nervous to see him. It's been so long.
So...
Do you think it's crazy that I'm marrying an Indian guy
that I haven't seen in two years?
Yeah.
-Is it crazy? -Yeah.
-Yeah, yeah. It's crazy. Oh, ho, ho. -[driver] Yeah.
Oh, my gosh.
It is crazy, isn't it? Okay, I'm kinda freaking out now.
[Rishi] Good morning.
Good morning.
Jen is arriving to Jaipur today and I'm... [sighs]
I'm so excited to just like grab her, after two years.
[Shimla speaking Hindi]
[Rishi speaking Hindi]
[Shimla speaking]
[Rishi speaking English]
[Rishi speaking Hindi]
[Shimla speaking Hindi]
[in English] I haven't told about my and Jen relationship because
she will not understand
because there's a cultural difference, language barrier
and the age difference.
[Rishi speaking Hindi]
[Rishi speaking English]
It makes me feel bad, I lied to my mother.
But, uh, I need some time to figure out how to tell her about my and Jen relationship.
Because I'm not ready.
[Isabel speaking Spanish]
[Isabel continues in Spanish]
[Gabriel in English]
I'm ready to say hello to my lady.
[Isabel speaking Spanish]
[Sara speaking Spanish]
[Isabel speaking]
[Gabriel speaking Spanish]
[Isabel speaking]
[Gabriel speaking]
[Isabel speaking]
[Gabriel speaking]
[Sara speaking]
[Gabriel speaking]
[Isabel speaking]
[in English] My whole life, I was just like, wanting to fit in.
When I came out to my mom,
her main concern was that I was gonna be alone.
And that nobody's gonna love me. That I wasn't gonna find a family.
She thought that because I'm trans, that my life is going to be harder.
[Gabriel speaking Spanish]
[in English] But here I am, with a whole freaking family.
And, like, they just love me.
They don't see me as a trans person, just like...
I'm just Gabriel, that's it. And it feels good.
[speaking Spanish]
[laughing]
[Isabel speaking Spanish]
[Gabriel speaking Spanish]
[Isabel speaking]
[Gabriel speaking]
[in English] I feel really, really, really happy to settle down with Isabel and the kids.
But it's like, I feel this
huge pressure because I only have 94 days left on my tourist visa for this year.
And I have so much to do in such little bit of time, so I could stay in the country.
I have to propose to her.
I have to get her family's blessing.
But before I do that, I have to tell them that I am trans.
So, I kind of feel like,
literally my future is depending on what Isabel's parents are gonna say
and if they accept me.
[Isabel speaking Spanish]
Talking about finances is something that we
definitely have to do together.
Okay.
[in Spanish]
[in English] You didn't think about that because you've never done that before.
Okay, thank you.
Have you been able to like, make friends since you've been here?
All of my problems haven't gone anywhere, they've waited for me in Egypt.
I'm here and so are they.
[Jeymi chuckles softly] Good morning.
[Kris] Good, good morning.
First good morning.
Very, very first amazing morning.
Yesterday, I moved to Colombia to finally be with my
soon-to-be wife, Jeymi.
And it has been everything I imagined and more.
I'm so happy
that I'm finally here.
That was a long time waiting to be right here, in your arms.
[Jeymi] I feel so good right now.
Last night was absolutely amazing.
Jeymi and I have had so many moments
through text and video chatting
but you never know what to expect in person.
So I was nervous about whether our
sexual chemistry was going to be great or not.
But we had no problem with that.
[laughs]
I don't want to get up today. I just want to stay in the bed.
I can this.
-That's a good idea. -[laughs]
The sex is amazing. Really?
[laughs]
We're going to have to go to a pharmacy today.
The airport threw away my toothpaste.
[laughs] I have got to go get toothpaste.
I'm allergic to mint.
So I can't have any toothpaste that has mint in it.
-Oh, my God. -So I have to use specific toothpaste.
Well, probably here I'll have to find kids' toothpaste.
[laughs] Oh, my God. So funny.
I know. [laughs]
-Welcome to my life. -[both laugh]
It's been amazing being together.
Yay! Gotta unpack, gotta unpack.
Find my stuff.
Okay.
These are yours.
Your white shoes you wanted.
[laughs]
You love them? Yes.
So they'll work?
It's perfect.
Yeah, and see, I have your dress, too
and you haven't seen it yet, either.
Yeah. [laughs]
I wanted to pay for your dress and your shoes and stuff like that.
You were having to pay for moving and an apartment.
But, you know, I think one of our biggest tasks is going to be uniting
-and making decisions together instead of on our own. -Yes.
Just like with the apartment.
You know, like, when you got this one, and then after you got it,
you told me that it was $500 a month instead of $400.
You know, I was like, you know, that's something we need to discuss together,
'cause it's finances.
Yeah.
I told Jeymi that since I was selling my home,
that I would make sure that the bills were covered.
So I had set the rent to a certain amount that I was comfortable with.
Then Jeymi calls me all excited saying that she found an apartment.
She is moving in tomorrow.
And this apartment was $100 more a month in rent,
so I was pretty pissed. [laughs dryly]
I am older, you know, and I've been in marriages before.
That's why we, you know, I wanted to have that discussion with you
because, you know, talking about finances is something
we definitely have to do together if we're going to make decisions,
you know, big decisions.
[speaking Spanish]
[in English]
[in Spanish]
[in English]
We're going to be fine covering bills for a while.
We can just use the money that I have to pay bills
and us focus on, you know, what we want to do from here on.
Okay. Thank you.
[Kris] I am happy to pay all the bills,
but I really hope since Jeymi got an apartment
that is more than what I budgeted for,
that we can still make things work and it not be too tight.
[Mahmoud speaking]
[Nicole] I've just arrived in Cairo
and Mahmoud's cousin, Ibrahim, is going to drive us to Mahmoud's house.
-Is that him? -Yeah.
Part of me is so happy to be here with my husband to start our life together,
really, this time,
and the other part of me is just annoyed.
Like, within the first five minutes, he complained about my clothes.
I'm really angry with Mahmoud,
but I'm just trying to hold it in
because I don't want to have a huge fight at the airport, or in front of his cousin.
[in English]
Just put that away.
Why do you need on your phone?
What?
What do you need to check?
[Nicole] Who's going to be at the house when we get there?
Well, I'm really excited to see your mom and your family
but it's going to be really weird
because, you know, for, like, the last ten years I've lived by myself.
So we have to kind of like figure out if we are going to get an apartment.
Yeah.
[Nicole] Right now, Mahmoud lives with his mother.
And he decided that I will live there, too.
But Mahmoud's mom is the matriarch of the family
and so everyone's always coming over to visit her.
Sometimes it sounds like there are 700 people in your apartment.
His brother lived upstairs with his wife and three kids
and they come down almost every day.
And then he has another brother
who has a wife and they have three kids.
Then he has a sister too, and she has a bunch of kids.
They're all so kind and loving and wonderful
but I just need a little more space
where I can just be myself.
[Nicole] You got it?
-I know. -You know?
I'm trying, my love.
[Mahmoud speaking]
Yes.
[in other language]
[Mahmoud in English]
-How are you? -Good, how are you?
-I missed you. -I missed you, too.
-You cut your hair? -Mmm-hmm.
[Ahmed speaking in other language]
[mother speaking in other language]
[Mahmoud speaking in other language]
[mother speaking in other language]
[in English]
[Nicole] I don't have a return ticket.
[Mahmoud speaking]
[in other language]
[in English]
So sweet.
[in other language]
[in English]
After a long day, it can be extremely overwhelming for me,
a person who's, like, very introverted
and used to living alone in a quiet environment,
to have really loud all of the time.
The kids are talking, the adults are talking
and they're, like, all just talking
and I don't know who's talking to who sometimes.
It's just like, whoa.
[in other language]
[in English] And then, of course, they bring out a plate of fried potatoes.
In Egypt, they eat a lot of fried food.
And every time I come here, I just get really sick
from every day eating fried things,
though it tastes wonderful.
It's just a lot for me.
[Mahmoud speaking]
[Nicole] Okay.
[Ahmed speaking]
[in other language, then English] Thank you so much.
Yeah.
Everything.
I hope so. Yeah, like Fatima.
[Nicole] My sister-in-law Fatima, she is from China
and she's adjusted so much better than I have.
She covers her body, she wears a hijab
and she lives like an Egyptian.
I've always been curious as to how she's been able to do that so easily.
I'm trying, I think every time I come, it gets a little bit better.
Have you been able to, like, make friends, since you've been here?
In the US, we always just go out and, like, meet people
and they, like, sort of become our family, so that's why I was asking.
Yeah, I've got a few friends. Yeah.
[Nicole] I, personally, would like to make friends here.
It's really important to me.
And I'm worried because it's clear to me that all of my problems
when I left Egypt the first time, things like my clothes
and the noise and chaos of living with his family,
they haven't gone anywhere. They've waited for me in Egypt.
I'm here and so are they.
Mahmoud, I think I'm getting pretty tired.
[Nicole] I don't think I can feel at home here
without immediately starting to address some of our issues.
Because if we just continue to pretend that we're just happy
sitting there with the family drinking tea, nothing ever changes.
Nice to see everybody, see you again.
Nice to see you, too.
This guy is very manipulating. He's already manipulated my mom to move over there.
I trust a lot of things. I don't trust Oussama.
Not one bit.
Suppose this happens like a fairytale, which I anticipate.
-Okay. -Well, you anticipated that with two other husbands.
You ready for this?
Ready.
-Looks like a storm's coming. -Mmm-hmm.
[Debbie] I'm moving to Morocco in a week
and I plan on marrying Oussama when I get there.
Well, you know. I feel better with you going with me to the attorney's office.
No, I really need to just drop you off at this retirement home up here.
Yeah.
You can go live and paint pictures all you want over there.
You and what army are going to do that?
My son, Julian, he's afraid Oussama's after me for my money.
So I decided to get a prenup prior to going to Morocco.
-See? There's a sign. A thunderstorm. -Like I told you before.
Mainly I'm going to the attorney
because I want my children provided for.
But also so they don't think Mom's running off on a wild hair,
and decided to run off to Morocco
and marry some guy I don't know nothing about.
It's not like that.
I want you to know I've got your best interests first and foremost in my mind.
If you want my best interests
you wouldn't go over there and get married in the first place.
You're taking unnecessary risk. That's what you're doing.
Look, why do you think I'm getting the prenup?
This is going to make you feel a lot better when you talk to my lawyer.
Your lawyer's not going to convince me that you should marry this guy.
[Debbie] Julian's very protective of me,
except he's a little rough around the edges.
You know, always the jokester.
You know, he might say the most insulting, mean things
but he does it because he loves me.
He doesn't want to see me hurt.
And I can understand that.
-Hi, Debbie, how are you? Nice to see you again. -Hello. Hi.
-I'm Gina. -Julian, nice to meet you.
Come on in.
[Debbie] Thank you.
Julian, your mom and I talked briefly on the phone
and we thought it would be good if we all met together
to discuss a prenuptial agreement.
-And I'm sure you both know what that is. -[Debbie] Yeah.
To protect her rights for this subsequent marriage
that she's about to enter into.
And the prenuptial agreement is going to basically say in a nutshell,
what your mother has is hers and only hers
and what Oussama has is his and only his.
My biggest question is,
how do we know that that country is going to honor our, you know, contract
to make sure that she is protected over there if she got a divorce?
-If she... -[Gina] Right.
If there is some kind of issue that happened over there.
[Gina] Right. I understand.
Well, any contracts that I write up
will be construed under the laws of the state of Georgia.
So that is the best that we can do.
But sometimes internationally,
the other countries have different rules and regulations.
But if her assets are here,
I think they can be protected.
It would be wonderful if I could bring Oussama to the U.S.
But, you know, they are gonna look at my date of birth,
and his date of birth.
You know, it's gonna be almost impossible for him to get a visa.
But this love has landed in my lap.
I'd be crazy to stay here.
You do have some assets, we talked about that.
-Yes. Mmm-hmm. -[Gina] You own a house here,
and you have some money in the bank.
-[Debbie] Yes, ma'am. -How about your future husband?
Does... Does he have anything?
No, he's, he's just a farm person.
-He is a kid. He has nothing. -He is not a kid.
He has nothing.
What does he have? A skateboard?
What did you... What did you have when you were 24?
A-ha, I... at least I had a full time job.
How old is he?
-He is 24 years old. -Twelve.
[Debbie] Ugh.
Well, I'm not your typical 67-year-old woman.
Gina, obviously, this guy is very manipulating.
He has already manipulated my mom to move over there.
What's to say that he doesn't manipulate her to transfer money,
and items later on. How is that protected?
We hope that we don't do that ever because you need to protect your future.
It flies in the face of us trying to do what we are doing with the prenuptial agreement,
which is to protect her assets.
Right.
[Gina] Debbie contacted me a few weeks ago.
I am surprised, uh, to discover that Debbie's fiance is only 24 years old.
That is quite an age difference.
Personally, I feel that there are some red flags in this situation.
Debbie is traveling halfway across the world
to marry a man that doesn't have any assets.
She has all the assets.
And she could stand to lose everything she worked for,
if they're not protected.
[Debbie] Suppose, this happens like a fairy tale
with a wonderful happy ending for me,
and say I'm married to Oussama,
10 years down the road, 15 years down the road,
-and he is everything and more than I ever hoped he could be. -Right.
What if I wanna drop a little money on him then?
What do you suggest?
You know, if everything has a happily ever after to it.
-[Gina] Right. -And which I anticipate this time.
-Okay. -[Julian] We anticipated that with two other husbands.
-I would rather you not amend the prenup at all. -Mmm-hmm.
I would suggest putting money in a joint account so that you have control over it still.
Okay.
[Julian] Stupidest thing I've ever heard in my entire life.
[Debbie] You better watch what you are calling stupid.
-This is stupid. -[Debbie] Sometimes stupid turns into genius,
-you know? -No.
[Julian] I'm very afraid that once my mom is there,
that she wouldn't hesitate of transferring all her American funds and money
in to an account that he has an access to.
And the way that she is talking about supporting him in the future,
tells me already that she has supported him
and she is keeping stuff from us.
I trust a lot of things, I don't trust Oussama.
Not one, one bit.
That's all we can do is hope for the best.
I mean who, who, who's promised tomorrow?
Nobody.
Here you go talking about death again. Here we go--
Well, I'm being realistic.
[Debbie] Do you have boys?
I have one girl.
I'll tell you, boys are a handful.
I was actually thinking like,
are you okay with waiting until we are married to have sex?
"Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?"
[Jen] I'm here.
Well, I mean, I'm not here, here.
I'm like, about five, maybe ten minutes away, depending on traffic.
See you soon.
I'm almost back in Jaipur and I feel so many different things.
I don't know, it's been two years since I've been here.
And I don't know if it will have changed,
what's gonna be the same, what's gonna be different.
It's nerve-racking. [chuckles softly]
[Rishi speaking]
But this woman does like, uh, more special for me.
Uh, which I don't want to ruin it because it will not come again.
Where are you, baby?
Oh, my gosh. So nervous.
Hey. [laughs]
Oh, my God. Oh, my God.
♪ Your love it spreads Like a fire ♪
♪ And it's burning in me ♪
♪ We'll face the moment Getting stronger ♪
♪ You're everything I need ♪
[Jen] Missed you a lot too.
[Jen whispering] Oh, God.
Magic just happened now.
That was next level.
That was a next level kiss. I was like, "Wow!"
Maybe he did miss me a little.
Mmm-mmm.
-Let's get in, huh? -Okay. Yeah.
[both] Yeah.
[Rishi] I hope you like the apartment which I just--
[Jen] Yeah. I hope so too.
[both laughing]
[door opens]
[Jen] Oh, my gosh. I'm gonna take my shoes off.
-This looks so nice. -No. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
-I don't wanna mess up these floors. -No. No. No. No.
-[Jen laughs] -You can place here.
-Oh, this is so nice. -This place will become comfortable.
Walking into the apartment, and I absolutely love what I see.
It's high ceilings, it's got a kitchen.
It's got a living area, that's already furnished.
[Jen] Oh, my gosh.
It's lot more than what I was expecting.
This is your room.
Oh, my God. Oh. That's so sweet.
Oh, my... That's so romant... Like, where did you get that idea?
Oh. I love it. Oh, this is great.
I'm in total disbelief.
He is not the romantic type.
So, this feels very sweet and special.
-I would love to change. I've been like... -[Rishi] Yeah.
-...in these jeans all day, um... -[Rishi] Yeah.
While I get ready, could you maybe go get some adult beverages?
Sure, sure, sure, sure, sure, sure.
Okay, cool.
-You just change and, uh, feel comfortable. -Okay.
-Okay. I know. -Love the apartment. So cute.
[Jen] I'm overwhelmed with everything.
And I'm definitely still attracted to him. No doubt.
-Uh, to... -[Rishi] Cheers.
...finally seeing each other.
[Jen] Mmm.
-Mmm. -[Jen] Nice.
[Jen] Aw.
I really am just so impressed with this apartment.
This is huge.
Yeah.
Why do you keep looking at your watch?
[Jen] No, I mean, it's...
I would love to have you here but at the same time, like,
I was actually thinking, like, I'm...
Maybe I'm not quite ready for you to spend the night yet.
Because...
Kind of, wanna take things a little...
Little more slowly.
Kind of,
get familiar again, like,
I don't... [exhales]
Even though it's been two years,
and Rishi is really good looking. I'm really attracted to him.
Some of the doubts that my friends and family have expressed
have started creeping in.
So, I need some time to make sure we're on the same page
before I jump back into bed with him.
I mean, great sex can cloud your judgement.
Are you okay with waiting until we're married to have sex?
So, when, when we met, uh,
-two years before, uh... -[Jen] Mmm-hmm.
We intimate at that time, so, what's difference?
Nothing's different. Um...
I just don't wanna have to worry about, like,
what if you get too comfortable?
You know, spending the night here and us hooking up,
and you thinking like, "Well, why do we need to get married?"
Like...
"Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?"
[laughs] You know what I mean?
Like it would be so much simpler, right?
Yeah. Yeah Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
[Jen] Uh, so...
[Rishi speaking]
[Rishi] We spend, uh, already two years,
toh, yeah, we can wait a little more.
Like, how long do you think it would be until we got married?
Um...
You become friendly for them or they become friendly for you.
Okay.
My visa is only good for four months.
I know.
[Jen] Yeah.
Okay.
[Jen] Love marriages are rare here,
and Rishi has got a lot of family and society pressure on him.
So, I'm gonna follow his lead.
But I only have four months on my visa,
so the clock is ticking.
Everything that's happened today was beyond my expectations.
It's almost, uh, 9:30. So, I think I have to leave.
-Okay. -For now, yeah.
[Jen] Rishi and I are finally together again.
I'm still attracted to him.
I'm really excited to start my life here.
But we still have to face his family
and get them to approve our relationship before my visa is up.
-[Jen] All right. Bye. -Bye.
This is what my doctor in America told me to get
-when my neck started hurting really bad here. -Okay.
[speaking Spanish]
[in English] At this moment, I don't know
what to think about this.
[Jeymi speaking Spanish]
-[man] Bueno. -[in English] Thank you.
Welcome Bogota. In the...
date, but first day.
No. Not in my town.
[Jeymi] How you is Alabama?
My town doesn't have any big buildings.
Just houses and a couple of apartments.
Two grocery stores, a movie theater, only one, that's it.
[chuckles] Okay.
[Kris] No city life at all.
[Jeymi chuckles]
-[Kris] It's funny. -[Jeymi] It's so funny.
[both laughing]
[man yells in Spanish]
[in English] Listen. He say love is love.
Awesome.
Yes.
[Kris] Yeah, I definitely was excited to move here
knowing that we could be in public and not be afraid
of what would be said or done.
You know, where I'm from, we couldn't do this right here
without somebody saying something inappropriate.
[Jeymi speaking]
[Kris] Awesome.
-That makes me happy. -[Jeymi] It's true.
-For sure. -Yes.
[Jeymi] Yeah.
[Jeymi speaking Spanish]
-[Jeymi in English] Yes? -[Kris] Yes.
Okay. It's funny.
I have little kid toothpaste.
[Kris] That's gonna be bubblegum so it's not gonna have mint.
[Jeymi in Spanish]
-[in English] Will they take... -No.
-...American cash? -[Jeymi] No. No. No. No. No. No.
It's okay.
-[Kris sighs] It's expensive. -[Jeymi] It's okay. Don't worry.
I have a really bad neck and a bad back.
I broke my neck in a car accident,
and seven days later I was rear-ended again going home from hospital.
So, I deal with pain on a daily basis.
But the flight here is just taking a toll.
And it is really, really bad.
[Kris] Yay.
This is what my doctor in America told me to get when my neck started hurting
-really bad here. -Okay.
Are you hurt right now? Or it's for...
Oh, I've dealt with my neck for years. It just got worse from the plane here.
-Oh. Okay. -Yeah.
-You know, I need surgery but I chose not to have it. -Okay.
So, I have to deal with significant pain in my neck.
I've been dealing with chronic neck pain for 21 years.
And every year, I get closer and closer to needing the surgery.
I refuse to have it until I absolutely cannot turn my head
dealing with the pain.
Why you no for surgery?
Surgery?
To fix my neck,
they have to put a metal bar around here and screw it into my head.
-Okay. -And then bars down like this
to hold my neck in place for a year.
Okay.
It's a big, big surgery.
We're talking over $100,000 for that surgery.
This is the first time Kris tell me about the surgery.
She tell me, few times,
I have too much pain in my neck
or my back,
but I no have idea too much serious is this.
Eventually, I won't be able to do this.
I will have to have that surgery.
But right now, we won't mess with it.
[Jeymi speaking Spanish]
[in English] In this moment, I don't know what to think about this.
[continues in Spanish]
Over the last couple of years when we've been apart,
have you hooked up with somebody? Like, just tell me.
To trust somebody that is thousands of miles away is really hard.
You've not hooked up with anybody in the last two years.
So my first night at the apartment was
good. I'm not going to say great.
The apartment is beautiful. I absolutely love the apartment.
But there are still some standard provisions that are still really lacking.
Necessary things like heat and a blanket.
Maybe more than one blanket.
Because right now, in Jaipur,
it is a lot colder than I had remembered it being this time of year.
That combined with the fact that there's no toilet paper in the bathroom
and towels. I have no towels.
Even though Rishi was supposed to make sure everything was here,
just the basics, just the basics,
um, he didn't get them.
[Rishi] Last night, Jen arrived in India
and it was an amazing thing for me.
It was something that I'm missing from last two years
that she complete me, totally.
[both] Hi.
How's you?
-Cold. -Cold. Yeah.
Mmm.
Do you have something for me?
Yeah, I bring whatever you want.
You text me before and this is...
Okay, um, loving this, thank you.
I'm so happy that you brought this heater
'cause I was freezing my ass off last night.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Spending the night without a blanket and a heater was not good.
I actually didn't sleep very much.
There's a few more things that I think I'm going to need.
There's, like, nothing here.
I didn't buy it before because I don't know what you like it.
So whatever you like, we will buy, day by day, and we'll place here.
Okay.
So you can, like, remove your jacket and all
and we'll go to the upstairs and do some warmup and do some yoga poses.
-So I'll meet you on the roof? -Yeah, yeah, yeah.
-Okay. -Cool.
All right.
I'm a little frustrated that Rishi's just sweeping this under the rug.
I wish he was a little more empathetic to what I'm saying,
instead of prioritizing yoga right now.
But I know it's something that he's been wanting to show me for a while,
so for the time being, I'm letting it go.
Ooh...
-Oh, hi. -Hi.
I'm so ready to do this.
I'm glad it's not freezing.
All right.
Just do a little warmup and then we'll start.
I want to spend my first morning with Jen doing the yoga session
because it's another way to build trust over your partner.
So she can just rely on me and believe on me that okay,
he will hold me in any way.
So I found a pose. I'll show you.
It's a partner yoga.
Partner yoga. This is not some, like, tantra [bleep], is it?
[laughs] No, it's called acroyoga, basically.
-Okay. -I found this pose.
I'll support you during the pose.
[Jen] Oh, hell no. No.
[both laugh]
-I don't know if I trust you that much yet. -[laughs]
[Jen] Like, I don't want to die.
-No, it's easy. Just try, let's just try. -All right.
So, you can come here.
-You can come here. -Okay.
Little bit lower.
Or you can lie on it.
Just place your body on my knee.
-I'm heavy! You don't think... -I know, I know.
Yeah.
-Are you going to be able to hold me? -Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So you just, you just, yeah.
Do this, do this. Yeah.
Yeah, yeah. Hold yourself.
Hold yourself, yeah.
Look how easy it is.
-Oh, my God. [grunts] -[laughs]
You did it.
Yay.
She was a little afraid that she is very heavy,
but I said, "Okay, you just do it. I'll hold you."
Just go slowly. Yeah.
Just believe on me and she did it.
Nice.
-Yeah? -Yeah.
It's a very intimate form of yoga, I think.
Um,
it's not about the intimacy.
It's not like you are intimate to the other person.
You are just freefall
and you are, like, enjoying that exercise, basically.
So, um,
wow, I don't really know how to, like, introduce this subject,
but,
last night when we were talking about
reasons for wanting to, like, abstain from sex before marriage,
I didn't bring this up, 'cause it's kind of awkward for me, at least.
Um, I'm just wondering, over the last couple of years when we've been apart,
have you hooked up with somebody?
Like, just tell me. Like, you're a good looking dude.
You're, like, a [bleep] personal trainer.
Like, it's such a cliche.
Like, who does the rich housewife hook up with? The personal trainer.
Every single time.
My friends definitely got in my head.
They had a million concerns
about why he could potentially be cheating on me
or hooking up with other girls
and to trust somebody that is thousands of miles away is really hard.
I didn't address it with him last night
because we just saw each other after two years of being apart.
The vibe was really good. We were having a good time.
I didn't want to ruin things, but today, I need to address it.
I bring this up because faithfulness and honesty are really important to me.
-As I told you-- -So you would tell me if you had.
-Okay. -Yeah.
But I just want to make sure, like, for the record,
you've not hooked up with anybody in the last two years.
You haven't chat with people that potentially, you could hook up with.
But not trying to, like, come in a relationship or something, like,
it was a healthy conversation between two people.
Right, right.
So, just like that.
[Jen] I do trust Rishi.
I don't see any reason not to trust him.
Unless something happens,
like some girl comes and knocks on my door and says,
"Why are you with my man?"
I'm fine. I feel like things are moving forward.
There's nothing that's making me doubt that he is still committed
and things are on the right track.
I trust you but I want you to trust that if I find out
that you're lying to me, we can't be together
because I'm, like, giving you an opportunity to be 100% honest,
and if I found out you're not, like,
that is probably worse than you having had sex with somebody else.
Okay.
It hurts me that Jen asked me about, like, my honesty,
my integrity, because I was really faithful from the past two years.
But I can't, like, tell her right now,
because it will ruin everything
and she just came here.
You'd better not [bleep] lying, I'll kill you.
-Yeah. -[laughs]
[in Spanish]
[Gabriel] If her parents don't accept me then it's like,
is this going to be a reason why she doesn't want to be with me?
Mazamorra!
[in Spanish]
[Isabel continues in Spanish]
[in English] It's wiggly.
[continues in Spanish]
-[in English] Intestine. -Intestines.
[in Spanish]
[Gabriel in English] I knew it was going to be something weird,
because it smells weird.
And it's very wiggly on your tongue and it's like...
I don't know. It's... It's...
It's pretty gross.
[continues in Spanish]
[in English] Isabel and the kids left their town
about an hour and a half outside of Medellin,
so of course she sacrificed a lot for this relationship,
but I moved to, like, a whole dang country for you.
[continues in Spanish]
[in English] I'm very shocked
because Sara acts like,
like, we don't talk about it. It's not a factor in me and her relationship.
So I feel happy because she doesn't treat me bad, you know?
[in Spanish]
[speaking Spanish]
[Gabriel speaking Spanish]
[Gabriel in English] Even though me and Isabel's parents,
we have a very good relationship.
I've been worried that they may not accept me.
This is the first time that I'm hearing
that they might have a problem with me being trans
and it's... I feel like it's pretty scary at this moment.
[speaking Spanish]
[in English] I am very, very invested in this relationship
and I want to marry Isabel,
but if her parents don't accept me, then it's like,
is this gonna be a reason why she doesn't wanna be with me?
But the rules are just so rigid.
[Nicole] Well, I mean I've always admitted that I made a mistake.
I said yes to things I thought I could handle.
And I realized I'm not being true to myself
having said yes to those things.
[man speaking in other language]
[speaking in other language]
-[Fatima] Bye. -[Nicole] Good night.
-Bye. -[Nicole] Good night.
-[kids groan] -See you tomorrow.
See you tomorrow.
[speaking English] Okay, honey.
[kid speaking in other language]
I think so.
Tonight is my first night back in Cairo with Mahmoud.
The day's been long and arduous.
[Mahmoud speaking]
-Tired. -[Mahmoud speaking]
Yeah, it's been a really long day, yeah.
But at the same time, when I decided to move back to Egypt,
we realized that we had a lot of problems.
But we still loved each other, and that we were gonna try our hardest
to work through those problems.
It's very uncomfortable for me and it's not easy for us,
but that's what we need to do.
I know.
I'm happy to be here with you
and I'm really, really glad that we're trying
to make this work and everything
but you know that Egypt is super overwhelming for me.
-Like, you can hear... -[Mahmoud speaking]
The noise outside and--
Yeah, it's way too much.
-I want-- -How much more stuff are you gonna ask from me?
Like, you know.
No, I'm not asking you to do it,
I'm just saying, like, there has to be, like, some peace, right? Like--
Well, we can, like, find an apartment that's not so noisy.
[Mahmoud speaking]
I just need to live here?
Yeah.
[Nicole] I don't think that's true, but--
[Mahmoud speaking]
Right.
[Mahmoud speaking]
Well, hopefully, we can fight a little less,
like, with the clothing situation?
All of it, all of it.
[Nicole] Well, I mean I've always admitted that I made a mistake.
But the rules are just so rigid.
-Like, just, like so-- they're so firm. -Yeah.
And there's no negotiation about it. And it's--
Yeah.
Very different, yeah.
-I'm still American so-- -[Mahmoud speaking]
You sort of do.
Okay?
But though, Mahmoud, like, my mom and my dad,
it's not like because they're husband and wife,
she has to cover her body. That's ridiculous.
[Mahmoud speaking]
-Okay, well, I'm not meaning to disrespect your religion. -[Mahmoud] Yeah.
But what I'm saying is that I personally
don't believe that I need to do that
-and so, like, the fact that you force me to do it... -I--
...is ridiculous.
You do force me. Yes, you do.
By, like, saying, "I don't wanna be with you
-if you don't." That's ridiculous. -[Mahmoud speaking]
But I... I've never done it before.
Like, how can you ask somebody who's never even
experienced anything like that before?
I said yes to things I thought I could handle.
And I tried so hard and I'm still trying
to fulfill his expectations.
But clothes have always just been a very important
form of personal expression for me.
And once I experienced following the rules,
I realized I'm not being true to myself
having said yes to those things.
No.
Well, you know how the fight would just go away
is if you just said, "Oh, okay, it's not a big deal.
Why don't you wear what you want to wear?"
Well, we... You always say that, "Well, I don't wanna talk about it,
-'cause we're gonna have a fight." Well-- -[Mahmoud speaking]
Hey, you know what? Like, it has to get talked about.
At some point, you're gonna have to do it.
Yeah, we're gonna fix it.
I love you. I--
I was waiting till you finished talking. I love you too.
[Nicole] I respect Mahmoud and his values
and I don't want him to change
as far as what he believes. But now that I'm here,
we need to talk about it and figure out
how to compromise and meet in the middle.
So he can respect who I am and accept who I am.
That's all.
How bad could it be if you introduced me
as your fiancee?
You're telling me your family is gonna keep you under house arrest?
Yeah, maybe.
You let me know when you wanna be honest with your family about us.
-But very soon, but-- -[Jen] Bye.
-[Jen] Didn't we go see a movie there? -[Rishi] Yeah.
[Jen] Oh, cool.
We're almost there?
[Rishi speaking]
We have to check out this place.
[Jen] Today, Rishi and I are going
clothes shopping to pick out an outfit
for me to wear to meet his family tomorrow.
[Rishi] That's a big place.
-[Jen speaking] -[Rishi chuckles]
-[Jen chuckles] -[Rishi] No, it's too much.
-[Jen] Come on. -[Rishi chuckles]
I understand why he hasn't told his family
that we're engaged.
There's a lot riding on it for him
in terms of society and whether his family will be accepting.
-No. No, no, no, no. -[Rishi chuckles]
[Jen] So I agreed to be introduced
to his family as a "friend" for now.
But I just moved halfway across the world
to be with him. So he better not take too long
to tell them the truth.
Hi, guys. How may I help you?
[Rishi] We are looking something, like,
which is Indian, but not too much.
[salesman] For a special occasion, is it?
[Rishi] Uh, yeah, because, uh, I just want her
-to meet my family. -[salesman] Oh, that's great.
-That's a super event. -[Rishi chuckles] Yeah, so...
[Jen] Yeah, I'm super excited.
-[Rishi] Do you have something? -[salesman] Yeah, sure, yes.
It's a very big impactful thing
if she can wear a Indian dress
because according to the family, she's adopting the culture.
I think it's a big impression to my family.
Oh, no.
[salesman] That's a traditional Indian skirt.
And organza fabric dupatta.
I mean, it's beautiful,
-but, like, can I ask you? -Sure.
Like, okay, an occasion where you're just meeting someone
casually, 'cause there's, like, no real agenda here.
Don't you think that's too much?
-Dressy? -If it's a casual meeting
-and she's unaware about your status-- -Right. Correct, correct.
Then I think it's a bit over the top.
We can tone it down a little bit.
Yeah? Okay.
I've met Rishi's family once before
at Rishi's sister's wedding two years ago.
But they didn't know that we were in a relationship.
It was only briefly.
So this is gonna be my first chance where I really get to
have a conversation with them.
[salesman] It's a skirt, which is Indian skirt,
with a blouse. But to make it Indo-western, we have a jacket with this.
[Jen] I don't wanna be rude but, like,
it's so not me.
[salesman] I will put this on-- on the guy
-and you have a look how it looks. -[Jen] I mean...
[sighs]
It is absolutely beautiful on him.
-On him? [laughs] -Yes.
Introduce him to your mom.
[Rishi laughs]
If I walk in with that, the mom's like, "Oh, no."
I... I just want a... a little
more graceful impact, uh, of you.
You honestly think that if I show up at your house
tomorrow in the daytime
wearing that, your mom's not gonna think
that I am your girlfriend at least?
Like I'm just a friend?
No, you will, uh, give an impact
because of your dressing sense and, uh,
they're supposed to think about, "Oh, she's looking nice."
This is really confusing to me and I'm used to the confusion,
but you gotta stop 'cause this is a big deal.
She's going to think that we're in a relationship
and that is not what you're trying to do, right?
You're trying to just introduce me as a friend first.
Yeah, I'm introducing you as a friend first,
but in their, uh, style.
[sighs]
I think maybe there's a communication breakdown here because
you want to, like, doll me up
but then you're like, "but just as a friend."
I just want to introduce you, first of all, that you are here.
[Jen] How bad could it be if you introduced me
as your fiancee?
I mean, we've been engaged for, like, two years.
[Rishi speaking]
-They can, uh, push me like-- -[laughs]
-Yeah! -[Jen] Oh, my God, I'm so sorry.
Um, did you just say they're not gonna let you out of the house?
-[Rishi] Yeah. -Like, are they gonna hold you down?
This sounds absurd to me.
I started out already being annoyed with Rishi
about the clothes, him contradicting himself,
not really making sense about what was appropriate,
what he wanted me to wear,
and then I realized what I'm really upset
and angry about is the fact that
we're still having to lie about what our relationship is.
I was cool with it, I tried to be cool with it.
But, at this point, it really bothers me.
Like, you're telling me your family
is gonna keep you under house arrest?
Yeah, maybe.
How are they gonna do that? Explain to me.
Maybe they-- they will push me into a different direction, like, uh,
they will try to force me to go for the arrange marriage or something like that.
-Or they will, uh-- -Good luck with that.
-[Rishi] I know, I meant they-- -Go for it. I don't...
I really, I'm kind of beyond caring right now.
Why don't you are understand this? I can't
be a bad guy. I can't...
-I prefer to-- -Oh, really?
'Cause you kinda seem like an ass[bleep] right now.
You are not getting me.
That... Where... where we can both...
I don't wanna meet your family
anymore.
Honestly, at this point,
I have a visa until X date.
I'll be here until then. You let me know
when you wanna be honest with your family about us.
-But very soon, but-- -[Jen] Bye.
When I first met Rishi, he told me
that he told his family years ago
that he didn't want an arranged marriage
and they had accepted it.
So when Rishi tells me his family might pressure him
into an arranged marriage, I'm thinking
that either he's lying then or he's lying now.
-[Rishi] Why? -I'll talk to you tomorrow.
Honestly, I don't wanna talk anymore about this tonight.
It's very confusing to me.
Like, one minute, you're like, "Oh, I control what happens."
And then the next you're like, "Oh, but they have to like you."
And I'm at the point where, like, I don't really care
if they like me.
It's... it's not like that.
I... I just want the things comfortable
-for everyone. But-- -I just [bleep] left my family
and was like, "You know what, y'all?
-I'm moving to India." -I know, I know.
-[stutters] That's why-- -They're not super happy either.
I know that. I have a family too.
So I understand that.
Definitely.
I just... I... I need to think about it.
Can you just hail me a car?
-Why? -[Jen] Please, please, just... You have to.
[Rishi speaking]
I'm just tired of
the excuses.
I'm kind of worried that I have uprooted my life
and I'm now wondering
if I've sacrificed too much to be...
with him.
[Gabriel] Next time on
90 Day Fiance: The Other Way...
[Kris] Can I see this knife right here?
I have always
carried some sort of weapon.
[Jeymi] Oh, my God. I'm nervous right now.
This is crazy.
[Debbie] Let's go.
Let's rock and roll.
I'm on the road to Morocco.
I'm scared something bad might happen.
Nothing bad's gonna happen.
He's young, Mom.
[Oussama speaking]
[man speaking]
[Jen] Lying, even if it's a lie of omission,
is a bad move.
[speaking Spanish]
He is not taking ownership of the fact
that he has been dishonest.
You are a toxic human.
-[speaking Spanish] -[Yohan speaking]
[Mahmoud speaking]