1 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:09,000 [somber melodic music plays] 2 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:11,840 [birds chirping] 3 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:15,800 [bell ringing] 4 00:00:15,880 --> 00:00:19,160 [woman] The first moment that I tried to pull away from him, 5 00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:22,240 he just grabbed me by my throat 6 00:00:23,640 --> 00:00:25,520 and squeezed so hard, 7 00:00:27,080 --> 00:00:28,560 and I was terrified. 8 00:00:33,480 --> 00:00:37,040 I knew that there was only one way for it to end. 9 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:40,360 And, uh... 10 00:00:41,120 --> 00:00:44,440 I wasn't willing to let it end with me dead. 11 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:49,400 [tense instrumental music plays] 12 00:01:05,960 --> 00:01:08,000 I just knew, like, I had to... 13 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:10,320 I had to fight back. 14 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:23,840 [cryptic music plays] 15 00:01:33,840 --> 00:01:36,840 [somber melodic music plays] 16 00:01:39,320 --> 00:01:40,920 [birds chirping] 17 00:02:16,480 --> 00:02:19,360 I always saw my parents being very loving. 18 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:28,120 I can remember, you know, my dad kissing my mom good morning in the kitchen, and... 19 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:30,400 I always wanted that. 20 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:36,200 My name is Jema Donahue. 21 00:02:37,680 --> 00:02:40,800 I was sentenced to ten years in the Department of Corrections. 22 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:44,160 [upbeat music plays] 23 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:46,160 I was born in Berlin, Germany. 24 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:49,200 My father was in the military. 25 00:02:50,640 --> 00:02:52,520 I was the baby of the family. 26 00:02:54,600 --> 00:02:56,600 You know, everybody says the baby is spoiled, 27 00:02:56,680 --> 00:02:59,280 but that wasn't the case in, in, uh, my household. 28 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:01,320 I didn't get away with anything. 29 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:04,240 Like, I was almost punished before it ever even happened. 30 00:03:06,320 --> 00:03:10,080 We didn't really have friends because we moved every, like, five years. 31 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:14,640 So, we just really loved and embraced each other as a family. 32 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:17,720 [somber instrumental music plays] 33 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:35,200 I was homeschooled from second grade until sixth grade. 34 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:42,320 And then my mother decided to enroll my brother and I in public school. 35 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:47,720 The children were a lot more advanced than I was. 36 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:51,760 They just knew more about the world around them, 37 00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:57,080 whereas I feel that we were kind of kept in a bubble. 38 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:03,680 My last year in middle school was really hard. 39 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:21,240 After the assault, I had begged my mom not to call the police 40 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:23,400 because I just wanted to act like 41 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:26,240 nothing had ever happened. 42 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:30,080 And she promised me that she wouldn't, and then she did. 43 00:04:31,360 --> 00:04:32,680 [birds chirp] 44 00:04:32,760 --> 00:04:36,320 I do remember law enforcement was trying to deter my mom 45 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:38,200 as far as pressing charges, 46 00:04:38,280 --> 00:04:41,640 which, of course, my mother, she's a mama bear, 47 00:04:41,720 --> 00:04:45,400 so she was like, "No, she's gonna continue this." 48 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:11,920 I experienced a lot of bullying. 49 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:15,360 I had to leave the school district. 50 00:05:17,640 --> 00:05:19,720 I blame my mother, um... 51 00:05:21,240 --> 00:05:25,360 for a lot that happened, um, when I was a teenager. 52 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:27,000 [car horn blares] 53 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:29,360 She became so protective. [sharp inhale] 54 00:05:29,440 --> 00:05:32,320 I really wasn't allowed to have friends. 55 00:05:32,400 --> 00:05:33,400 [birds chirp] 56 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:36,120 My mom would do background checks on everybody. 57 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:39,280 So I stayed at home a lot. 58 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:45,560 [sirens wailing] 59 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:52,280 [somber melodic music plays] 60 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:59,920 Everybody around me was telling me that, you know, that I ruined my life. 61 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:02,360 And the day that I gave birth to my son 62 00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:04,320 and looked in his eyes... 63 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:05,400 [gasps] 64 00:06:05,840 --> 00:06:06,840 ...I knew 65 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:11,480 there was nothing I wouldn't do... [chokes up] 66 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:12,560 ...for my children. 67 00:06:24,360 --> 00:06:25,800 There's nothing in the world 68 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:29,160 like coming home from a hard day at work and... 69 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:31,960 walking through that door 70 00:06:32,040 --> 00:06:36,080 and your children just running up to you and wrapping their arms around you. 71 00:06:36,160 --> 00:06:37,280 [gasps] 72 00:06:38,600 --> 00:06:39,600 [sighs] 73 00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:44,240 [gasps] I need a moment. 74 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:56,600 [moody instrumental music plays] 75 00:07:12,520 --> 00:07:15,160 We were introduced from a mutual friend. 76 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:18,240 Javon had went to prison, 77 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:20,600 so he was being released from prison. 78 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:23,640 And the same mutual friend had asked me 79 00:07:23,720 --> 00:07:26,560 if I would let him use my address as a home plan. 80 00:07:27,400 --> 00:07:28,240 And I said yes. 81 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:30,560 [bell ringing] 82 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:33,920 [metal squeals] 83 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:39,760 I remember, um, just being so curious about his childhood 84 00:07:39,840 --> 00:07:42,600 because it was so different from mine, um... 85 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:46,440 He bounced around a lot and, um... 86 00:07:47,400 --> 00:07:50,040 that was new to me, 87 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:51,640 and it was almost tragic. 88 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:55,720 He was previously, um, incarcerated 89 00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:59,000 for manufacturing and distribution of drugs. 90 00:07:59,560 --> 00:08:02,200 But I believed that he had been rehabilitated 91 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:04,120 and changed his life around. 92 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:08,320 So, from the very beginning, I just had this... 93 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:13,280 longing, like I needed to protect him. 94 00:08:15,440 --> 00:08:18,800 We never really established that we were going to be together. 95 00:08:19,280 --> 00:08:21,240 It just kind of sort of happened. 96 00:08:28,840 --> 00:08:32,120 I was going to University of Central Missouri. 97 00:08:34,960 --> 00:08:37,880 And he would stay at home with the kids. 98 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:42,080 And that spoke volumes to me 99 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:45,600 that he could be trusted with my children. 100 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:51,920 [cryptic music plays] 101 00:08:55,720 --> 00:08:57,320 [birds chirping] 102 00:08:58,160 --> 00:09:00,640 The officer at the time said to me 103 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:05,280 Javon was a well-known crack cocaine dealer in that county. 104 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:07,800 And I was just floored 105 00:09:07,880 --> 00:09:13,840 because I had never heard or seen anything like that. 106 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:16,520 And that was like the first 107 00:09:17,840 --> 00:09:19,520 instance I ever realized 108 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:22,000 that maybe there were things going on behind my back 109 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:24,200 that I wasn't exactly aware of. 110 00:09:29,560 --> 00:09:31,240 I was angry with Javon. 111 00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:34,520 And I was like, "You just need to go. Leave us alone." 112 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:39,960 And he just grabbed me by my throat and squeezed so hard 113 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:42,320 and was, like, choking me. 114 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:45,840 I remember to the point that I couldn't breathe and I was terrified. 115 00:09:45,920 --> 00:09:48,960 And he was telling me, like, "You're never gonna leave me." 116 00:09:49,440 --> 00:09:54,120 "The only way that you'll ever leave me is if I kill you, bitch." 117 00:09:54,200 --> 00:09:57,080 [ominous music plays] 118 00:09:57,160 --> 00:10:00,080 I remember saying to him, like, "I love you." 119 00:10:00,560 --> 00:10:02,280 "Why are you doing this to me?" 120 00:10:03,720 --> 00:10:04,960 And he would tell me, 121 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:07,880 "Fear lasts longer than love." 122 00:10:07,960 --> 00:10:10,200 Like he never wanted to hear... 123 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:11,320 [deep inhale] 124 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:13,000 ...um, that I loved him. 125 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:24,520 [grim instrumental music plays] 126 00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:34,000 I would tell myself that if I could just help him 127 00:10:34,080 --> 00:10:35,680 or get him away from the drug scene 128 00:10:35,760 --> 00:10:37,760 that our marriage would be better. 129 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:41,040 [birds chirping] 130 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:45,680 But the abuse with Javon continued throughout our marriage. 131 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:49,640 I learned really early on 132 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:54,200 that the less that I struggled during a strangulation, 133 00:10:54,280 --> 00:10:56,120 the quicker I would pass out. 134 00:10:56,880 --> 00:10:58,600 And that made things easier. 135 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:01,960 I do believe 136 00:11:03,520 --> 00:11:06,240 that Javon loved me. 137 00:11:08,040 --> 00:11:12,000 But the only way he knew how to show me was through violence. 138 00:11:12,080 --> 00:11:13,360 [birds chirping] 139 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:14,840 It was just... 140 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:17,040 a nightmare, 141 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:19,440 but I think that also is what made 142 00:11:20,560 --> 00:11:21,960 the good times so good, 143 00:11:22,040 --> 00:11:24,840 because they were so far and few in between... [chokes up] 144 00:11:24,920 --> 00:11:26,200 ...and we cherished them. 145 00:11:26,280 --> 00:11:27,600 [sniffles] 146 00:11:27,680 --> 00:11:29,240 [birds chirping] 147 00:11:36,920 --> 00:11:40,040 [somber melodic music plays] 148 00:11:52,480 --> 00:11:54,120 [birds chirping] 149 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:07,600 [birds chirping] 150 00:12:07,680 --> 00:12:11,200 I didn't really want anyone to know how bad it was, 151 00:12:11,680 --> 00:12:15,840 so I just tried to keep it under wraps and appease him. 152 00:12:15,920 --> 00:12:17,080 [inhales deeply] 153 00:12:17,560 --> 00:12:22,960 But then he was closer to his old friends and started using drugs again, 154 00:12:24,600 --> 00:12:25,760 and it just got ugly. 155 00:12:26,320 --> 00:12:28,200 [birds chirping] 156 00:12:28,280 --> 00:12:30,680 He locked me in the room. 157 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:32,040 [sighs] 158 00:12:32,520 --> 00:12:34,000 Beat me with a belt. 159 00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:35,720 Um... 160 00:12:36,520 --> 00:12:42,040 Held knives and screwdrivers to my neck as he would sexually assault me. 161 00:12:44,240 --> 00:12:46,120 And he would be just telling me, 162 00:12:46,200 --> 00:12:49,160 "I will kill everybody. I have nothing to lose." 163 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:50,360 And I believed him. 164 00:12:52,960 --> 00:12:54,920 I knew, at this point... 165 00:12:57,480 --> 00:12:58,840 something had to change 166 00:12:59,720 --> 00:13:01,560 because now it wasn't about me. 167 00:13:01,640 --> 00:13:05,360 He wasn't just hurting me. He was threatening to hurt everybody. 168 00:13:12,200 --> 00:13:15,760 [eerie instrumental music plays] 169 00:13:21,200 --> 00:13:23,720 [music intensifies] 170 00:13:28,120 --> 00:13:29,720 [music crescendos] 171 00:13:30,680 --> 00:13:32,600 Which brought us to Good Friday, 172 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:36,440 which would have been April 14th of 2017. 173 00:13:37,480 --> 00:13:39,160 [birds chirping] 174 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:41,640 I just remember being really anxious 175 00:13:42,800 --> 00:13:47,640 because it was gonna be the first time since obtaining the order of protection 176 00:13:47,720 --> 00:13:51,400 that I was going to be alone in the house. 177 00:13:51,480 --> 00:13:54,960 [tense instrumental music plays] 178 00:13:57,280 --> 00:13:58,960 I went downstairs. 179 00:14:00,920 --> 00:14:03,400 And when I opened up the family room door... 180 00:14:03,480 --> 00:14:04,880 [music intensifies] 181 00:14:06,160 --> 00:14:07,960 ...Javon was standing there. 182 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:14,720 He flew forward at me, grabbed me by my throat. 183 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:18,200 He started dragging me up the stairs, um... 184 00:14:19,560 --> 00:14:20,400 [gasps] 185 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:21,560 ...um, by my neck. 186 00:14:22,320 --> 00:14:25,160 The scariest thing in the world is to know that somebody else... 187 00:14:25,240 --> 00:14:26,280 [inhales sharply] 188 00:14:26,360 --> 00:14:28,520 ...is holding your life in their hands. 189 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:34,120 He started checking the windows and the doors, 190 00:14:34,200 --> 00:14:35,880 making sure they were all locked. 191 00:14:37,920 --> 00:14:40,760 He went back downstairs. 192 00:14:42,680 --> 00:14:43,680 And then, 193 00:14:44,480 --> 00:14:46,000 I heard him call my name. 194 00:14:47,440 --> 00:14:51,040 And... I went downstairs. [chokes up] 195 00:14:51,120 --> 00:14:52,600 [music intensifies] 196 00:14:54,000 --> 00:14:57,080 [quavers] And when I stepped into the bedroom... 197 00:14:58,880 --> 00:15:00,200 he was holding a gun. 198 00:15:01,320 --> 00:15:02,960 And he pulled the trigger. 199 00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:07,200 And the gun jammed. It didn't go off. 200 00:15:07,280 --> 00:15:08,680 [ragged breath] 201 00:15:08,760 --> 00:15:12,560 So he became angry that the gun was, like, not working 202 00:15:12,640 --> 00:15:14,720 and he hit me over the head with it. 203 00:15:15,200 --> 00:15:17,600 And whenever he did, um, 204 00:15:17,680 --> 00:15:19,000 it fell to the ground. 205 00:15:19,880 --> 00:15:23,040 So I picked it up, and I just remember, like... 206 00:15:24,920 --> 00:15:27,680 aiming it at him, and, um... 207 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:32,160 I told him, "I want... Just leave. Just get out." 208 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:35,640 And he didn't want to. 209 00:15:35,720 --> 00:15:37,360 So he stepped forward, 210 00:15:37,440 --> 00:15:40,480 and whenever he made that forward motion, I just pulled the trigger. 211 00:15:41,160 --> 00:15:42,480 [gunshot echoes] 212 00:15:44,920 --> 00:15:47,480 I hit him about right here in his left shoulder. 213 00:15:48,800 --> 00:15:51,480 And, um, he screamed, 214 00:15:51,560 --> 00:15:53,040 like, "Ah! You hit me!" 215 00:15:53,880 --> 00:15:56,440 And then lunged forward at me again, um, 216 00:15:56,520 --> 00:15:57,840 grabbed me by my wrists. 217 00:15:57,920 --> 00:15:58,920 [swallows] 218 00:15:58,960 --> 00:16:01,160 So my hands were kind of up like this, 219 00:16:01,240 --> 00:16:02,960 and he had both my wrists, 220 00:16:03,040 --> 00:16:04,720 and I pulled the trigger again. 221 00:16:05,200 --> 00:16:08,800 And he was flinging me around and slamming me to the ground. 222 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:11,200 And in that motion, I pulled the trigger again. 223 00:16:11,280 --> 00:16:12,280 [inhales sharply] 224 00:16:12,320 --> 00:16:13,320 Um... 225 00:16:13,720 --> 00:16:16,840 When he landed on top of me, 226 00:16:17,560 --> 00:16:20,160 like as we were coming down on the ground, 227 00:16:20,240 --> 00:16:23,680 he said, "Fuck it. We're gonna die together, bitch." 228 00:16:23,760 --> 00:16:24,800 [sharp inhale] 229 00:16:24,880 --> 00:16:28,400 And he laid his head right next to my head 230 00:16:28,480 --> 00:16:33,280 and he grabbed the back... handle, like the butt of the gun, 231 00:16:33,360 --> 00:16:35,640 and aimed it towards his left ear. 232 00:16:35,720 --> 00:16:39,960 And I just wrapped my finger around to grab control of the handle 233 00:16:40,600 --> 00:16:41,800 and pulled the trigger. 234 00:16:42,280 --> 00:16:43,760 And, um... 235 00:16:45,400 --> 00:16:48,400 I just remember that last final shot. 236 00:16:48,480 --> 00:16:52,160 Just feeling the weight of him on top of me. 237 00:16:52,800 --> 00:16:54,360 Everything was black. 238 00:16:54,440 --> 00:16:55,600 [music crescendos] 239 00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:01,720 I never realized my eyes were closed. 240 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:05,520 [quavers] Like, I thought it was black because I was, like, dead. 241 00:17:05,600 --> 00:17:06,640 I thought it was... 242 00:17:08,160 --> 00:17:09,160 [gasps] 243 00:17:09,520 --> 00:17:10,760 [hoarsely] And then, um... 244 00:17:11,440 --> 00:17:16,160 I just kind of crawled out from under him when I realized, 245 00:17:16,240 --> 00:17:19,560 like, "Okay, it's over. I'm not... I'm not dead." 246 00:17:22,200 --> 00:17:23,600 [birds chirping] 247 00:17:23,680 --> 00:17:25,480 [somber music plays] 248 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:27,520 My mom pulled up from work... 249 00:17:27,600 --> 00:17:29,560 [phone ringing] 250 00:17:29,640 --> 00:17:31,240 ...and the phone was ringing. 251 00:17:32,240 --> 00:17:33,240 [ringing continues] 252 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:36,520 And it's saying, like, Johnson County on the caller ID. 253 00:17:37,080 --> 00:17:38,560 [ringing continues] 254 00:17:39,400 --> 00:17:43,760 I have no recollection of calling 911, but I remember that I did call 911. 255 00:17:45,120 --> 00:17:46,720 And I handed her the phone. 256 00:17:46,800 --> 00:17:48,000 [ringing] 257 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:50,240 And I was, like, shaking my head no. 258 00:17:50,320 --> 00:17:51,680 I was like, "Please." 259 00:17:52,360 --> 00:17:55,960 I just felt like, in that moment, 260 00:17:56,040 --> 00:17:59,840 my best decision of protecting my family and my children 261 00:18:00,320 --> 00:18:01,760 was to not... 262 00:18:04,160 --> 00:18:05,320 let anybody know. 263 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:09,600 My mom answered the phone. 264 00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:11,520 [muffled clicking] 265 00:18:12,680 --> 00:18:17,040 And, um, she said it was a mistake. "We didn't mean to call." 266 00:18:18,600 --> 00:18:21,240 The dispatch then said to her, um... 267 00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:25,600 [inhales] "We're gonna send somebody out there anyways." 268 00:18:25,680 --> 00:18:27,080 So I went and sat outside... 269 00:18:27,160 --> 00:18:28,160 [birds chirping] 270 00:18:28,240 --> 00:18:30,480 ...and waited for the police. 271 00:18:32,840 --> 00:18:38,080 [inhales] I remember my mom coming out to the front step 272 00:18:38,160 --> 00:18:41,240 and kind of tapped me on my shoulder, rubbed me, and said, 273 00:18:41,800 --> 00:18:44,480 "Come inside, Jem. No one's coming." 274 00:19:10,680 --> 00:19:13,680 [cryptic music plays] 275 00:19:13,760 --> 00:19:16,120 [traffic passes] 276 00:19:18,400 --> 00:19:20,160 [indistinct chatter] 277 00:19:20,240 --> 00:19:22,840 [steam hissing] 278 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:26,200 My name is Margaret Heffernan, 279 00:19:26,760 --> 00:19:29,200 and I'm the mother of Jema Donahue. 280 00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:41,160 [Margaret] Jema is the youngest of three of my children. 281 00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:48,400 I can remember her as, um, an infant sitting on my lap, 282 00:19:48,480 --> 00:19:50,400 and I said, "You'll never be too old." 283 00:19:53,600 --> 00:19:55,640 She excelled in school. 284 00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:59,200 [somber melodic music plays] 285 00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:01,800 Things were going in the right direction 286 00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:06,960 until she was sexually assaulted at the age of 13 by a 21-year-old man. 287 00:20:12,840 --> 00:20:15,840 [tense discordant music plays] 288 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:24,760 I was given the excuse that they couldn't locate him. 289 00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:28,720 I was very surprised. 290 00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:41,480 So I told my son to go to school. 291 00:20:42,520 --> 00:20:44,960 First one that could tell me where he is, 292 00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:47,920 I would give them a hundred dollars. 293 00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:51,360 And in 15 minutes, that phone rang 294 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:53,560 and I was told where he was. 295 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:54,800 And I went out 296 00:20:55,760 --> 00:20:57,840 and sat in the car 297 00:20:57,920 --> 00:21:00,320 and waited for him to come out to his 298 00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:01,480 and followed him. 299 00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:08,480 He started coming towards me and swearing at me. 300 00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:11,960 It's like a switch went off on me. 301 00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:16,000 And I drove straight for him. 302 00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:19,480 I was going to hit him. 303 00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:22,400 [music intensifies] 304 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:25,120 And the individual jumped over hedges. 305 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:32,680 I lost common sense, I guess you could say. 306 00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:34,640 [birds chirping] 307 00:21:35,120 --> 00:21:38,480 I had the sheriff's department come out to my house. 308 00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:40,400 [somber melodic music plays] 309 00:21:40,480 --> 00:21:41,840 [Margaret sighs] 310 00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:43,360 They said, um... 311 00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:46,920 well, possibly, if I don't press charges against him, 312 00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:49,600 they won't press charges against me. 313 00:21:50,120 --> 00:21:52,240 And I said I would not drop the charges. 314 00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:54,240 [birds singing] 315 00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:56,760 Jema was very angry with me 316 00:21:57,400 --> 00:22:01,640 for contacting, um, the police. 317 00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:04,320 She felt that I betrayed her, 318 00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:07,720 and, um, our relationship, I would say, 319 00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:11,680 was damaged through her teenage years because of that. 320 00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:17,240 [quavers] You want to protect your child. 321 00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:22,600 And you want to be able to handle a situation. 322 00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:23,840 [inhales sharply] 323 00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:25,520 And it was out of my hands. 324 00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:39,080 [grim instrumental music plays] 325 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:46,320 [music intensifies] 326 00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:54,800 I questioned him, 327 00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:58,760 and I said, "Did you put your hands on my daughter?" 328 00:22:59,360 --> 00:23:00,720 And he didn't answer me. 329 00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:04,920 And I told him, "You just answered me by saying nothing." 330 00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:08,840 I says, "Promise me you will never lay your hands on her again," 331 00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:11,160 and he wouldn't say the words. 332 00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:18,440 I'm angry that he hurt my daughter repeatedly. 333 00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:25,800 Especially, you know, when I asked him, "Please don't." 334 00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:33,440 She's a survivor of domestic violence. 335 00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:36,240 It was self-defense. 336 00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:43,320 Nobody knows what they're going to do until they're in the situation, 337 00:23:44,280 --> 00:23:45,400 and... 338 00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:48,720 and it's done. 339 00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:53,800 [moody instrumental music plays] 340 00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:55,600 [birds chirping] 341 00:23:57,600 --> 00:23:58,840 [music crescendos] 342 00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:21,360 [birds chirping] 343 00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:25,080 My name's Aaron Brown, and I'm a major here 344 00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:27,560 with the Johnson County, Missouri Sheriff's Office. 345 00:24:30,120 --> 00:24:31,880 I got a call from a... a source. 346 00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:36,920 [indistinct radio chatter] 347 00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:39,760 They advised that, um, Javon Donahue 348 00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:44,160 was, in fact, shot and killed by his wife Jema. 349 00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:47,920 Um... And during the process of that, 350 00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:51,520 um, the body was taken to the farm and buried on the farm. 351 00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:54,000 [music intensifies] 352 00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:01,360 [eerie discordant music plays] 353 00:25:01,440 --> 00:25:03,920 We went out to the residence, uh, the farm. 354 00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:07,160 But Johnson County is, is a rural county. 355 00:25:08,120 --> 00:25:11,400 It's a cattle-grazing, uh, farms area. 356 00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:13,680 Um, so just merely driving down a road, 357 00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:16,840 uh, you're not able to see terribly much, just the house. 358 00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:27,600 We needed a helicopter or a plane to go overhead to look at this property. 359 00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:40,440 [cryptic melodic music plays] 360 00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:45,960 At this point, it is a crime scene. 361 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:47,880 So we tape it off, 362 00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:51,680 uh, we begin coordinated interviews with everybody that was on the property 363 00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:52,760 or in the house. 364 00:25:54,360 --> 00:25:57,640 And during a conversation with one of the individuals at the farm, 365 00:25:58,160 --> 00:26:01,800 they advised that they knew where Javon was buried at on the property. 366 00:26:03,560 --> 00:26:05,040 And they led us to Javon. 367 00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:11,240 We dug up the body, 368 00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:16,000 wrapped in a white tarp with rope around, uh, the tarp. 369 00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:20,240 [passing traffic] 370 00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:27,200 [grim melodic music plays] 371 00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:33,920 We needed to locate those individuals 372 00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:36,120 and conduct interviews with them immediately. 373 00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:41,000 And, uh, one of those happened to be Jema's mom. 374 00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:55,920 Just shut it off. 375 00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:59,480 Just shut it off and I'll talk to you. 376 00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:05,520 [birds chirping] 377 00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:08,640 [dog barking] 378 00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:24,720 [birds singing] 379 00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:30,600 [Margaret] I told them I saw Jema standing outside, dazed. 380 00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:34,200 She said, "Javon is in the house." 381 00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:37,480 I says, "We need to call the police." 382 00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:39,520 "No, he's dead." 383 00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:42,080 I said, "Are you sure he's dead?" 384 00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:44,120 And she says, "He's dead." 385 00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,360 [eerie music plays] 386 00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:48,080 [phone ringing] 387 00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:52,400 [ringing continues] 388 00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:56,880 She had dialed 911 and hung up. 389 00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:57,960 [ringing continues] 390 00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:01,120 911 called back. 391 00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:02,920 [ringing] 392 00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:06,040 She's throwing the phone at me. She's shaking her head no, 393 00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:08,360 back and forth, but no words. 394 00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:09,640 [receiver clicking] 395 00:28:10,120 --> 00:28:13,000 And I told them, "I'm sorry to bother you," 396 00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:14,520 that I made a mistake. 397 00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:20,280 And he said, "Unfortunately, we still have to send somebody out." 398 00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:22,480 And I said, "I understand." 399 00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:27,960 [quavers] I remember saying to her, 400 00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:30,240 "When the cops come, Jema, 401 00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:33,280 please let me tell them I did this." 402 00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:34,920 [smacks lips] 403 00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:37,200 "I lived my life." 404 00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:40,400 "You have children to raise." 405 00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:48,000 She said, "No, Mom. I will not." 406 00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:53,720 But it's what I wanted to do. 407 00:28:55,760 --> 00:28:58,400 [somber melodic music plays] 408 00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:00,840 I let Jema down when she was 13, 409 00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:02,560 and I felt 410 00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:05,720 I can't do that again to her. 411 00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:12,200 I remember our relationship just being undone 412 00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:14,600 overnight. 413 00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:16,640 I didn't want to go through that again. 414 00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:26,520 [birds chirping] 415 00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:30,240 We were probably out there a good 45 minutes, and they never came. 416 00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:36,560 And I told myself maybe this is the way it's supposed to be. 417 00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:44,720 When the police didn't show up at the house was the turning point 418 00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:47,800 that we'll take matters into our own hands. 419 00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:52,160 I thought, "Okay, we can do this." 420 00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:54,720 "We can get away with this." 421 00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:05,960 [eerie discordant music plays] 422 00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:11,480 We placed Javon's body 423 00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,160 in an area that he dug. 424 00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:17,240 And he says, "I don't want you to know where I'm gonna bury him." 425 00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:19,280 "I have two other holes dug." 426 00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:23,440 And I thought, "Well, that's good that I... I won't know." 427 00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:35,680 I... I prayed that Jema was gonna be strong enough 428 00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:38,560 to keep her mouth shut 429 00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:41,640 and not share this with anybody. 430 00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:44,880 That we would have to go to our grave 431 00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:47,320 knowing what we did. 432 00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:03,040 [somber melodic music plays] 433 00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:48,200 [sirens wailing] 434 00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:57,720 [downbeat instrumental music plays] 435 00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:06,160 My name is Dr. Lisa Witcher. 436 00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:15,080 And I was a state-appointed forensic examiner, um, for Jema's case. 437 00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:32,520 When we're looking at battered spouse syndrome, 438 00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:36,280 we're looking for the cycle of violence. 439 00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:43,160 Part one is this tension-building phase. 440 00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:45,440 [grim music plays] 441 00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:50,360 So where you start seeing the perpetrator of the abuse 442 00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:55,080 becoming triggered by either you or the environment around them. 443 00:32:58,400 --> 00:33:02,360 The second phase is the acute or crisis phase. 444 00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:06,040 That is when violence occurs. 445 00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:11,760 After that, the honeymoon phase, 446 00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:16,200 when the batterer promises 447 00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:18,120 to never let that happen again. 448 00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:22,120 And then the cycle starts over again. 449 00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:30,400 [Jema] There was an incident. 450 00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:32,040 We were in a motel room. 451 00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:37,160 And Javon raped me, sodomized me, 452 00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:39,760 and afterwards, he called his friend 453 00:33:40,520 --> 00:33:43,240 and was kind of laughing and making jokes, 454 00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:48,800 saying, "How long is it gonna take her to stop, like, bleeding?" 455 00:33:48,880 --> 00:33:50,920 Like, from my rectum. And... 456 00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:55,280 Just anything to humiliate me or degrade me. 457 00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:01,480 [Lisa] You know, calling and bragging about beating a woman... 458 00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:09,200 It's either a twisted call for somebody to come intervene 459 00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:13,400 or it's truly despicable. 460 00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:18,720 It's truly someone who believes that they have 461 00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:20,960 done what's right 462 00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:25,280 and taken what's theirs. 463 00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:32,000 I am surprised that Jema made it as long as she did. 464 00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:36,720 And that she is alive at the end of this story. 465 00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:41,320 Had he not come to the house that day, 466 00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:45,040 I don't think he would have stopped pursuing her. 467 00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:50,840 She meets all of the factors 468 00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:52,920 that we look for, um, 469 00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:56,880 and that research has shown is tied to women who become 470 00:34:57,840 --> 00:34:59,200 battered spouses. 471 00:35:01,240 --> 00:35:04,920 [tense discordant music plays] 472 00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:14,560 [sirens wailing] 473 00:35:19,600 --> 00:35:20,720 [man] To my knowledge, 474 00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:25,680 battered spouse as a self-defense 475 00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:28,120 has not been successful yet in Missouri. 476 00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:32,600 It's been here a while, but it has not really ever been a successful defense. 477 00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:36,000 Okay, come on. 478 00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:39,480 But the question wasn't whether or not 479 00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:41,960 she suffered from battered spouse syndrome. 480 00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:46,320 It was whether or not she used deadly force 481 00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:48,720 justifiably under the circumstances. 482 00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:55,600 A slap to the face doesn't justify someone shooting someone. 483 00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:00,040 My name is Rob Russell, 484 00:36:00,720 --> 00:36:04,680 and I was the attorney who prosecuted Ms. Jema Donahue 485 00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:06,800 for the homicide of Javon Donahue. 486 00:36:09,480 --> 00:36:12,680 [Jema] As we were coming down on the ground, he said, 487 00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:15,520 "Fuck it. We're gonna die together, bitch." 488 00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:19,120 And he laid his head right next to my head 489 00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:21,160 and he grabbed the butt of the gun 490 00:36:21,240 --> 00:36:23,800 and aimed it towards his left ear. 491 00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:25,840 And I just wrapped my finger around 492 00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:27,840 and pulled the trigger. 493 00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:33,800 And, um, I just remember that last final shot. Just... 494 00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:37,080 feeling the weight of him on top of me. 495 00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:39,640 Well, 496 00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:45,480 her story doesn't match up with the injuries suffered by Mr. Donahue. 497 00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:50,840 There are four bullets in his body. 498 00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:55,440 One is in the shoulder. 499 00:36:56,320 --> 00:37:00,280 One is through his jaw. 500 00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:02,440 One is in the back of his head. 501 00:37:02,920 --> 00:37:05,520 And one is underneath his chin, straight up. 502 00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:10,240 The shot to the back of the head would have been a fatal shot. 503 00:37:10,720 --> 00:37:14,200 The shot underneath his chin was a fatal shot. 504 00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:17,160 His jaw would have been broken 505 00:37:17,240 --> 00:37:21,560 in such a way that he would not have been able to talk to her 506 00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:23,320 and tell her that he loved her 507 00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:26,760 in this Romeo and Juliet moment, they were both going to die together. 508 00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:29,760 That didn't happen because he couldn't talk. 509 00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:34,840 So, I don't think the jury really 510 00:37:35,760 --> 00:37:39,760 bought into that she was acting in self-defense. 511 00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:45,840 Certainly, when people try to... 512 00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:49,000 hide evidence of homicide, 513 00:37:49,080 --> 00:37:50,800 and certainly hiding the body 514 00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:54,080 tends to give you the impression 515 00:37:54,160 --> 00:37:57,560 that the person who's doing that has a guilty conscience. 516 00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:14,120 If they had accepted the self-defense argument from Ms. Donahue, 517 00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:16,760 she would have been found completely not guilty. 518 00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:22,080 But instead, they found her guilty of manslaughter. 519 00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:39,320 [car horn honking] 520 00:38:42,160 --> 00:38:44,920 [somber melodic music plays] 521 00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:49,880 [Lisa] I think that the decisions that were made after Javon was killed 522 00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:52,000 did put her in prison. 523 00:38:54,720 --> 00:38:57,640 The dedication to burying the body 524 00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:03,160 really stuck in the craw of a lot of the jury members. 525 00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:07,120 [traffic noise] 526 00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:12,520 Her mom certainly could have acted differently. 527 00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:18,080 I don't know if in her mother's mind 528 00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:20,080 that that was really a choice, 529 00:39:23,240 --> 00:39:26,160 but the concealment of Javon's body 530 00:39:26,240 --> 00:39:28,640 made things a lot worse for Jema. 531 00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:35,200 [Jema] I blame my mother, um... 532 00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:40,800 for a lot that happened, um, when I was a teenager. 533 00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:44,880 I really wasn't allowed to have friends. 534 00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:48,200 My mom would do background checks on everybody. 535 00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:50,880 So I stayed at home a lot. 536 00:39:53,280 --> 00:39:56,800 [Lisa] You know, becoming a social pariah 537 00:39:57,400 --> 00:40:00,960 at a very young age for a sexual assault she could not help. 538 00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:03,280 Then the... 539 00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:08,600 the withholding of any type of social relationship. 540 00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:13,400 Essentially, what her mom was doing was holding her hostage. 541 00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:19,480 Holding her in such a safe place, 542 00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:26,080 um, that it went overboard. It went overboard into, quite honestly, 543 00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:28,080 emotional abuse. 544 00:40:28,160 --> 00:40:30,880 Um, not letting your child out of the house ever. 545 00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:35,960 Not letting her socialize in any normal type of way 546 00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:40,160 certainly sets up a sense of learned helplessness. 547 00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:44,600 I don't think there's anything malicious about it. 548 00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:49,640 I just do not believe their relationship has ever been healthy. 549 00:40:49,720 --> 00:40:51,480 [eerie music plays] 550 00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:01,920 [grim music plays] 551 00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:06,960 Jema describes her mother as "an evil, wicked woman 552 00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:09,720 who is controlling and vengeful." 553 00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:13,680 "If she has the chance, she will kill me. I'm sure of it." 554 00:41:14,680 --> 00:41:18,080 "She will bury me like she did my husband." 555 00:41:18,160 --> 00:41:19,720 [music crescendos] 556 00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:23,280 It's very possible that the line, 557 00:41:23,360 --> 00:41:26,320 "She will bury me like she buried my husband," 558 00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:30,440 was Jema's acknowledgement of 559 00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:34,400 "I'm into this even further now because of her involvement." 560 00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:41,520 [birds chirping] 561 00:41:41,600 --> 00:41:43,760 [Jema] During my trial, um... 562 00:41:44,400 --> 00:41:47,120 I had a strained relationship with my parents. 563 00:41:49,120 --> 00:41:50,800 I was drinking. 564 00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:55,160 I was abusing drugs. Um... 565 00:41:56,560 --> 00:42:01,200 Do I think today that my mother would kill me or bury me in a field? 566 00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:02,960 No. 567 00:42:05,080 --> 00:42:07,320 We've come so far. 568 00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:10,440 It's not even the same relationship. 569 00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:12,480 Like, we're not even the same people. 570 00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:16,840 I've made great strides, and she's made great strides. 571 00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:19,640 [somber melodic music plays] 572 00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:24,080 [Margaret] I've changed as a parent 573 00:42:24,160 --> 00:42:26,600 realizing that 574 00:42:28,360 --> 00:42:32,320 my ways of being a helicopter mom over an adult was wrong. 575 00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:37,400 It's... It's their life, their choice, their decisions, 576 00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:39,560 and their consequences. 577 00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:46,400 This part of me that always had to be in control and fix problems. 578 00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:50,560 Why give myself more problems than I already have, you know? 579 00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:51,560 It's just, um... 580 00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:54,360 It's not my problem. I don't need to fix it. 581 00:42:57,560 --> 00:43:00,040 Of course, I would do things differently. 582 00:43:02,120 --> 00:43:04,200 I blame the police not showing up. 583 00:43:04,920 --> 00:43:08,800 But ultimately, I, I told them, like, "You don't have to come." 584 00:43:09,720 --> 00:43:10,920 "It was a mistake." 585 00:43:12,760 --> 00:43:15,520 So I started that. 586 00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:19,560 I started that with a lie. 587 00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:25,120 And the day had to come where I had to acknowledge it. 588 00:43:29,600 --> 00:43:31,000 I have learned a lot, 589 00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:34,280 you know, about accountability 590 00:43:35,200 --> 00:43:36,320 and the importance of it 591 00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:39,080 in order for a person to learn by their mistakes. 592 00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:44,640 I have seen such improvement in Jema 593 00:43:46,240 --> 00:43:48,200 since she's been incarcerated. 594 00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:53,800 She lights up when I see her, when I visit her. 595 00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:58,200 And always a big hug, a kiss on the cheek. 596 00:44:00,880 --> 00:44:04,600 That's my daughter. That's the baby that I had. 597 00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:14,560 [birds chirping] 598 00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:33,360 [Jema] When I first came to prison, um... 599 00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:37,040 life was in an uproar. 600 00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:41,960 But once I started to take advantage of the different programs... 601 00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:43,960 I enrolled in, like, women's empowerment. 602 00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:49,480 I was able to kind of see my prison life in a different light. 603 00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:50,760 [birds chirping] 604 00:44:50,840 --> 00:44:53,560 It wasn't so much condemnation 605 00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:56,000 as much as rehabilitation. 606 00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:00,800 Also, in here, 607 00:45:01,480 --> 00:45:03,000 I've learned accountability 608 00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:07,560 because the fact is I still made the choices that I made. 609 00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:13,960 [Rob] The shot to the back of the head would have been a fatal shot. 610 00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:17,360 The shot underneath his chin was a fatal shot. 611 00:45:18,720 --> 00:45:23,800 He would not have been able to talk to her and tell her that he loved her 612 00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:27,400 in this Romeo and Juliet moment, they were both going to die together. 613 00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:29,000 That didn't happen. 614 00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:35,040 There was no Romeo and Juliet moment, where Javon said, "Do you love me?" 615 00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:39,320 He said, "We're gonna die together, bitch. Till death do us part." 616 00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:40,400 Those were his words 617 00:45:40,440 --> 00:45:43,440 as he was flinging me around and slamming me to the ground. 618 00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:47,320 It's a really hard situation to decide, 619 00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:50,640 um... whose life is more important. 620 00:45:50,720 --> 00:45:53,720 Or do you take the chance of fighting for your life? 621 00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:55,880 [sighs] 622 00:45:55,960 --> 00:45:59,040 I hate the fact 623 00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:01,600 that I have to wake up every day... [chokes up] 624 00:46:02,600 --> 00:46:04,880 ...and know that I took somebody's life. 625 00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:09,640 And on top of that, it was someone's life whom I loved. 626 00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:14,160 [Margaret] I remember saying to her, 627 00:46:14,920 --> 00:46:16,520 "When the cops come, Jema, 628 00:46:17,040 --> 00:46:19,480 please, let me tell them I did this." 629 00:46:22,720 --> 00:46:24,200 And she said, "No, Mom." 630 00:46:25,040 --> 00:46:26,160 "I will not." 631 00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:31,520 I admire... 632 00:46:32,680 --> 00:46:33,840 [inhales] 633 00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:38,840 ...what my mother risked in helping me 634 00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:40,360 and trying to save me. 635 00:46:41,680 --> 00:46:44,800 She threw everything away. 636 00:46:45,840 --> 00:46:47,840 And honestly, 637 00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:51,440 I probably would do it for my children as well. 638 00:46:54,080 --> 00:46:56,960 I mean, not go about it like that, but... 639 00:46:57,760 --> 00:47:02,120 we do what we need to to protect and save our... our babies. 640 00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:14,840 This time in our life is almost over, and... 641 00:47:17,080 --> 00:47:19,200 I see all good days ahead for us. 642 00:47:24,960 --> 00:47:28,480 [somber discordant music plays]