1 00:00:34,577 --> 00:00:35,453             Chuck is bi?             2 00:00:35,495 --> 00:00:36,913        -So you guys are okay?                       -Yeah.                3 00:00:36,954 --> 00:00:38,164             -We're fine.                           -Ida B.!               4 00:00:38,206 --> 00:00:42,001        Oh, uh, this is Hattie.          She is an amazing young writer.  5 00:00:42,043 --> 00:00:44,045               [Hattie]                          It hurt, don't it,         6 00:00:44,087 --> 00:00:45,755             getting rejected                   by somebody you like?        7 00:00:45,797 --> 00:00:47,173              I can't be                     your shoulder to cry on       8 00:00:47,215 --> 00:00:48,800         every time she breaks                     your heart.             9 00:00:48,841 --> 00:00:50,718     [Ben] I know "Cocoa's Butter"               is a good show,           10 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:53,012       but at some point, you're             gonna have to move on.        11 00:00:53,054 --> 00:00:55,598           -Move on to what?                        -Movies.               12 00:00:55,640 --> 00:00:56,682      I'm tired of being in shit      13 00:00:56,724 --> 00:00:58,017       when I don't really know                    what it is.             14 00:00:58,059 --> 00:01:00,686       I know we could just keep              playing these games,         15 00:01:00,728 --> 00:01:04,482      but at the end of the day,                 I'm gonna lose.           16 00:01:09,946 --> 00:01:12,907                 [Nia]                            Grand arriving!           17 00:01:12,949 --> 00:01:14,909                 Show me                      what you working with        18 00:01:14,951 --> 00:01:16,911          Show me what you got       19 00:01:16,953 --> 00:01:19,205             Hey, everybody.                         [giggles]              20 00:01:19,247 --> 00:01:22,583             Did you remember                     to meditate today?         21 00:01:22,625 --> 00:01:23,709               [giggles]              22 00:01:23,751 --> 00:01:26,671       Get ready for a good time     23 00:01:26,712 --> 00:01:28,756              Are you ready                      for a good time?          24 00:01:28,798 --> 00:01:29,799              Ooh, mango.             25 00:01:29,841 --> 00:01:31,259           [Jamaican accent]                    Jamaica, Jamaica.          26 00:01:31,300 --> 00:01:33,511            [normal voice]                    Fruit as fresh as me.        27 00:01:33,553 --> 00:01:35,304              Crank it up            28 00:01:35,346 --> 00:01:36,931                  Oh.                               [giggles]              29 00:01:36,973 --> 00:01:39,725         Won't you turn it up?       30 00:01:39,767 --> 00:01:40,935                                    31 00:01:40,977 --> 00:01:44,147         Won't you crank it up?      32 00:01:44,188 --> 00:01:47,817             If you're ready                     for a good time           33 00:01:47,859 --> 00:01:49,193              A good time            34 00:01:49,235 --> 00:01:51,362              Work with me,                      work with me now          35 00:01:51,404 --> 00:01:52,864              Work with me           36 00:01:52,905 --> 00:01:54,240                  Ah!                 37 00:01:54,282 --> 00:01:56,033             Oh, thank God                  your screen didn't crack.      38 00:01:56,075 --> 00:01:58,452            Are you talking                      to your phone?            39 00:01:58,494 --> 00:02:00,663              Oh, my God.             40 00:02:00,705 --> 00:02:02,123               Tristan!                     What are you doing here?       41 00:02:02,165 --> 00:02:04,041            I wanted to try                    this guy's edibles.         42 00:02:04,083 --> 00:02:06,085     Oh, so you can just buy drugs             on the street now?          43 00:02:06,127 --> 00:02:09,088          Oh...[laughs] Yeah.                     It is legal.             44 00:02:09,130 --> 00:02:12,008               -I know.                            -[chuckles]             45 00:02:12,049 --> 00:02:13,968          So how've you been?         46 00:02:14,010 --> 00:02:15,052     I don't know why you askin'.     47 00:02:15,094 --> 00:02:16,762            You know you be                   all up in my stories.        48 00:02:16,804 --> 00:02:18,681              -I do not.                     -I see your name pop up       49 00:02:18,723 --> 00:02:20,683             in the views,                     like, all the time.         50 00:02:20,725 --> 00:02:22,768               -[laughs]                    -I need a burner account.      51 00:02:22,810 --> 00:02:25,479             [both laugh]             52 00:02:25,521 --> 00:02:26,772            So how are you?           53 00:02:26,814 --> 00:02:28,816      I mean, you follow me, too.            Don't you already know?       54 00:02:28,858 --> 00:02:31,611      -I know you got a new gig.                  -Yeah, I do.             55 00:02:31,652 --> 00:02:32,737           I'm proud of you.          56 00:02:32,778 --> 00:02:34,947         I'm glad you stopped              talking about your purpose      57 00:02:34,989 --> 00:02:37,533      and started walking in it.      58 00:02:38,451 --> 00:02:41,495      Since when did your purpose           lead you to social media?      59 00:02:41,537 --> 00:02:42,538             [both laugh]             60 00:02:42,580 --> 00:02:43,581         When we were dating,         61 00:02:43,623 --> 00:02:44,874         you didn't even have                     a flip phone.            62 00:02:44,916 --> 00:02:48,002         Now you're going live                every other Thursday?        63 00:02:48,044 --> 00:02:50,338         I realized my choice                  not to have a phone         64 00:02:50,379 --> 00:02:51,088          was a selfish one.          65 00:02:51,130 --> 00:02:52,757               -Finally.                            -[laughs]              66 00:02:52,798 --> 00:02:54,926      And I got somethin' to say.             Know what I'm sayin'?        67 00:02:54,967 --> 00:02:57,220    I'm tryin' to spread a message             of love and peace.          68 00:02:57,261 --> 00:02:58,721            And your phone                     helps you do that?          69 00:02:58,763 --> 00:03:00,431        Yeah. Sometimes I have        70 00:03:00,473 --> 00:03:02,183        over a thousand people               in the room at a time.        71 00:03:02,225 --> 00:03:05,311     And they'll just be in there,            listening to me talk.        72 00:03:05,353 --> 00:03:07,980     And even though I'm in a room          sittin' there by myself,       73 00:03:08,022 --> 00:03:10,691       when I'm talking to them,               I don't feel alone.         74 00:03:10,733 --> 00:03:12,276     Sometimes I feel like I have     75 00:03:12,318 --> 00:03:15,154    more support from my followers             than my own family.         76 00:03:15,196 --> 00:03:17,406              Your family                     ain't got your back?         77 00:03:17,448 --> 00:03:18,366          They don't get it.          78 00:03:18,407 --> 00:03:22,119         My sister has, like,               a real job and a husband.      79 00:03:22,161 --> 00:03:23,329                -Okay.                    -So I look like the daughter     80 00:03:23,371 --> 00:03:24,872            that can't get                     her life together.          81 00:03:24,914 --> 00:03:27,041        And even though I'm not             exactly where I wanna be,      82 00:03:27,083 --> 00:03:28,209    at least I know I'm on my way.    83 00:03:28,251 --> 00:03:29,669               -Mm-hmm.                      -You know what I mean?        84 00:03:29,710 --> 00:03:30,836     I know exactly what you mean.    85 00:03:30,878 --> 00:03:32,838          I'm the black sheep                  of my family, too.          86 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:34,590               -[laughs]                            -Really?               87 00:03:34,632 --> 00:03:37,343       Yeah. Damn. Look at that.      88 00:03:37,385 --> 00:03:40,471      Another way of associating            Black with something bad.      89 00:03:40,513 --> 00:03:41,305                  Mm.                 90 00:03:41,347 --> 00:03:43,808             What's wrong                      with a black sheep?         91 00:03:43,849 --> 00:03:46,894          A black sheep sound                   kinda cool to me.          92 00:03:46,936 --> 00:03:50,314      So, instead of saying that,            I'ma just start saying,       93 00:03:50,356 --> 00:03:52,984            "I don't fit in                     with my family."           94 00:03:53,025 --> 00:03:54,819             I like that.             95 00:03:54,860 --> 00:03:58,489          I'm gonna say that                    from now on, too.          96 00:03:58,531 --> 00:03:59,782              Oh, Nia...              97 00:03:59,824 --> 00:04:01,993            [both laughing]           98 00:04:02,034 --> 00:04:04,787              You, uh...              99 00:04:04,829 --> 00:04:06,956             you wanna go                      on a hike with me?          100 00:04:06,998 --> 00:04:09,667             I don't know.                Are you gonna ghost me again?    101 00:04:09,709 --> 00:04:11,377               -[sighs]                            -[laughing]             102 00:04:11,419 --> 00:04:14,005      I promise to not ghost you                   ever again.             103 00:04:14,046 --> 00:04:17,842      No more Casper. I promise.      104 00:04:17,883 --> 00:04:18,968                 Okay.                105 00:04:19,010 --> 00:04:21,971              upbeat music           106 00:04:22,013 --> 00:04:23,973         Is that a yes or...?         107 00:04:24,015 --> 00:04:25,266                                    108 00:04:25,308 --> 00:04:26,934         Won't you turn it up?       109 00:04:26,976 --> 00:04:29,103     You ain't even got my number.                 What's up?              110 00:04:29,145 --> 00:04:31,480         Won't you crank it up?      111 00:04:31,522 --> 00:04:34,108              Work with me,                      work with me now          112 00:04:34,150 --> 00:04:35,818           [thunder rumbles]          113 00:04:36,694 --> 00:04:39,780              mellow music           114 00:04:39,822 --> 00:04:45,161                                    115 00:04:45,870 --> 00:04:47,830                [Idina]                     Flower's better for you.       116 00:04:47,872 --> 00:04:50,124                                    117 00:04:50,166 --> 00:04:52,335       Yo, you followin' me now?      118 00:04:52,376 --> 00:04:55,046                Please.                      I put you on this spot.       119 00:04:55,087 --> 00:04:57,840      [Hattie scoffs] You right.             You right. That's true.       120 00:04:57,882 --> 00:04:59,550           So what happened                     the other night?           121 00:04:59,592 --> 00:05:02,470       Oh, so you're just gonna              come right out and ask?       122 00:05:02,511 --> 00:05:04,680         You know I don't like                   playing games.            123 00:05:04,722 --> 00:05:06,891                                    124 00:05:06,932 --> 00:05:09,393        Well, I, uh, I told her       125 00:05:09,435 --> 00:05:13,230          I wasn't gon' keep               bein' her little plaything.     126 00:05:13,272 --> 00:05:16,734            I also told her                  that I needed a break.        127 00:05:16,776 --> 00:05:19,487                [Idina]                           Good for you.            128 00:05:20,196 --> 00:05:22,865       How you feelin' about it?      129 00:05:22,907 --> 00:05:24,784        Honestly, I feel good.        130 00:05:24,825 --> 00:05:27,370      I mean, I was a little sad,     131 00:05:27,411 --> 00:05:32,541      but I feel like I'm getting              back to the old me.         132 00:05:32,583 --> 00:05:34,210          I like the old you.         133 00:05:34,251 --> 00:05:38,839                                    134 00:05:38,881 --> 00:05:41,550               Yo, you--                     you wanna go on a date?       135 00:05:41,592 --> 00:05:43,719                                    136 00:05:43,761 --> 00:05:44,970                 What?                137 00:05:45,012 --> 00:05:48,516        I asked if you wanna go                on a date with me.          138 00:05:48,557 --> 00:05:50,768             I heard you.             139 00:05:50,810 --> 00:05:51,852      I guess I'm just surprised      140 00:05:51,894 --> 00:05:54,188            to hear you say                    what you just said.         141 00:05:54,230 --> 00:05:58,526          I mean, look, we--                  we got a vibe, right?        142 00:05:58,567 --> 00:06:01,487      And ever since you gave me                that whole speech          143 00:06:01,529 --> 00:06:03,906       about not judging a book                   by its cover,            144 00:06:03,948 --> 00:06:06,492          I've been wondering                 what it would be like        145 00:06:06,534 --> 00:06:09,120          to get to know you                     in a real way,            146 00:06:09,161 --> 00:06:12,081        in a--in a deeper way,                       in a...               147 00:06:12,123 --> 00:06:14,458          more intimate way.          148 00:06:14,500 --> 00:06:17,878           Hattie, if you're                     askin' me out,            149 00:06:17,920 --> 00:06:20,214           you gotta be able                 to really handle that.        150 00:06:20,256 --> 00:06:21,674             I know. I am.            151 00:06:21,715 --> 00:06:24,093          I'm not just a toy              you can pick up and play with    152 00:06:24,135 --> 00:06:26,470         'cause you got tired                   of your old one.           153 00:06:26,512 --> 00:06:29,181       That's not what this is.                    I promise.              154 00:06:29,223 --> 00:06:31,392           I-I really wanna                  get to know you better.       155 00:06:31,434 --> 00:06:35,271               -[sighs]                        -Give me a chance.          156 00:06:35,312 --> 00:06:39,984                                    157 00:06:40,025 --> 00:06:42,319                 Okay.                158 00:06:42,361 --> 00:06:43,904         You can take me out.         159 00:06:43,946 --> 00:06:45,030                 Okay.                160 00:06:45,072 --> 00:06:47,199         But, damn, you gonna               make me work for it, huh?      161 00:06:47,241 --> 00:06:49,785          And you gonna keep                  workin' for it, too.         162 00:06:49,827 --> 00:06:51,036                 Okay.                163 00:06:51,078 --> 00:06:52,496              All right.              164 00:06:52,538 --> 00:06:55,583              Well, look,                show me where the good weed at.  165 00:06:55,624 --> 00:06:57,042          I don't work here.          166 00:06:57,084 --> 00:06:58,919     But you might as well, right?    167 00:06:58,961 --> 00:07:00,337     -Get you a little part-time.               -It's over here.           168 00:07:00,379 --> 00:07:01,672          You be here enough.         169 00:07:01,714 --> 00:07:04,133               soft music            170 00:07:04,175 --> 00:07:06,302                                    171 00:07:06,343 --> 00:07:09,054        Black-chinned sparrow.        172 00:07:09,096 --> 00:07:11,765          Which way you think               it's coming from, though?      173 00:07:11,807 --> 00:07:14,768                                    174 00:07:14,810 --> 00:07:17,062             What's wrong?            175 00:07:17,104 --> 00:07:20,900           I'm just getting                some not-so-nice comments.      176 00:07:20,941 --> 00:07:23,903           Who would be mean                      to you, Nia?             177 00:07:23,944 --> 00:07:27,448     Apparently @PutGodFirst1987.     178 00:07:28,782 --> 00:07:30,951      Okay. That's kind of crazy.     179 00:07:30,993 --> 00:07:32,912            Just ignore it.           180 00:07:32,953 --> 00:07:35,623     What kind of advice is that?     181 00:07:35,664 --> 00:07:38,501            You can't give                    negativity attention.        182 00:07:38,542 --> 00:07:41,545     Whatever you pay attention to                 will grow.              183 00:07:41,587 --> 00:07:43,172                 Hey.                 184 00:07:43,214 --> 00:07:46,383         How are you this Zen                     all the time?            185 00:07:46,425 --> 00:07:48,802               [Tristan]                        Silent retreats.           186 00:07:50,763 --> 00:07:52,723                [sighs]               187 00:07:53,349 --> 00:07:55,976            Hey, you good?            188 00:07:56,018 --> 00:07:57,353           People are saying                      my character             189 00:07:57,394 --> 00:07:59,688          on "Cocoa's Butter"                     is offensive.            190 00:08:01,357 --> 00:08:04,109     She is a little over the top.    191 00:08:04,151 --> 00:08:05,194          It's a soap opera.          192 00:08:05,236 --> 00:08:07,363             It's supposed                     to be over the top.         193 00:08:07,404 --> 00:08:10,533       White people soap operas              are over the top, too.        194 00:08:11,367 --> 00:08:13,452             True, but...             195 00:08:13,494 --> 00:08:17,206              Black folks                    are only on TV so much.       196 00:08:17,248 --> 00:08:20,751      I guess we gotta be mindful                 of our image.            197 00:08:20,793 --> 00:08:25,214       I'm finally on a TV show,         and I'm being attacked for it.    198 00:08:25,256 --> 00:08:26,507         Nia, no one ever said        199 00:08:26,549 --> 00:08:29,718        walkin' in your purpose                was gonna be easy.          200 00:08:30,928 --> 00:08:32,930           How much farther                       are we going?            201 00:08:32,972 --> 00:08:35,140          We can turn around                      if you want.             202 00:08:35,182 --> 00:08:38,352        -No, we can keep going.                  -Okay, look...            203 00:08:38,394 --> 00:08:41,647     I'm working on being honest,     204 00:08:41,689 --> 00:08:45,234        and now is a good time             to put that into practice.      205 00:08:45,276 --> 00:08:46,652         People you don't know        206 00:08:46,694 --> 00:08:51,615      are commenting on decisions           you made about your life,      207 00:08:51,657 --> 00:08:55,202    and their opinions are starting          to affect your mood.         208 00:08:55,244 --> 00:08:57,413              We are here                    to spend time together,       209 00:08:57,454 --> 00:09:00,207      and now that precious time              is being interrupted         210 00:09:00,249 --> 00:09:02,167     by people we don't even know.    211 00:09:02,209 --> 00:09:03,419     Now your energy is negative,     212 00:09:03,460 --> 00:09:04,587           and I don't want                     to be around it,           213 00:09:04,628 --> 00:09:07,256       so if it's cool with you,              I'd like to head back        214 00:09:07,298 --> 00:09:09,925     so I can take you to the car              and take you home.          215 00:09:09,967 --> 00:09:13,512         -Okay. Take me home.                        -Okay.                216 00:09:13,554 --> 00:09:16,765          upbeat hip-hop music       217 00:09:16,807 --> 00:09:19,226                                    218 00:09:19,268 --> 00:09:21,478               [Tristan]                          God, help me.            219 00:09:22,271 --> 00:09:25,774              mellow music           220 00:09:25,816 --> 00:09:29,987                                    221 00:09:31,488 --> 00:09:33,032         [loud knock on door]         222 00:09:33,073 --> 00:09:37,828                                    223 00:09:37,870 --> 00:09:39,288       [loud knocking continues]      224 00:09:39,330 --> 00:09:40,497              Who is it?              225 00:09:40,539 --> 00:09:42,333               [Vanessa]                 It's your sister, silly goose.    226 00:09:42,374 --> 00:09:43,542               Vanessa?               227 00:09:43,584 --> 00:09:45,210        What, were you napping?       228 00:09:45,252 --> 00:09:47,588       What are you doing here?            Why'd you bring me flowers?     229 00:09:47,630 --> 00:09:49,006           Well, it is nice                     to see you, too.           230 00:09:49,048 --> 00:09:50,049         I didn't bring those.        231 00:09:50,090 --> 00:09:51,342           They were waiting                   at your front door.         232 00:09:51,383 --> 00:09:52,343             Oh, my gosh.             233 00:09:52,384 --> 00:09:54,219           Well, your career                     is in shambles,           234 00:09:54,261 --> 00:09:56,513      but at least your love life                 isn't boring.            235 00:09:56,555 --> 00:09:58,265     My career is not in shambles,    236 00:09:58,307 --> 00:10:00,059    and my love life is a hot mess.  237 00:10:00,100 --> 00:10:01,769      So then who are those from?     238 00:10:01,810 --> 00:10:04,021          Um, my friend Ben.          239 00:10:04,521 --> 00:10:07,274         Ooh, nice penmanship.                 That's a good sign.         240 00:10:07,316 --> 00:10:08,400           I can't date Ben.          241 00:10:08,442 --> 00:10:09,777         Why wouldn't you want                   to date someone           242 00:10:09,818 --> 00:10:11,737      that would give you flowers                for no reason?            243 00:10:11,779 --> 00:10:14,323          Because he's corny             and he has this weird obsession  244 00:10:14,365 --> 00:10:15,991          with making movies                     everyone likes.           245 00:10:16,033 --> 00:10:17,493          I like him already.         246 00:10:17,534 --> 00:10:20,037              I love you,                 but what are you doing here?     247 00:10:20,079 --> 00:10:21,246     Mommy and Daddy are worried.     248 00:10:21,288 --> 00:10:22,706     You didn't have to drive here              to tell me that.           249 00:10:22,748 --> 00:10:24,708       They sent me here to just            talk some sense into you.      250 00:10:24,750 --> 00:10:27,753       I'm finally on a TV show.             I'm doing what I love.        251 00:10:27,795 --> 00:10:30,214            Acting was cute                    when you were five.         252 00:10:30,255 --> 00:10:31,632        It's not a real career.       253 00:10:31,674 --> 00:10:34,051     Vanessa, this is my purpose.     254 00:10:34,093 --> 00:10:35,636        Your purpose is to get                     a real job,             255 00:10:35,678 --> 00:10:37,262      get married, have children,     256 00:10:37,304 --> 00:10:38,597    and be a respectable daughter.    257 00:10:38,639 --> 00:10:40,557              That is it.                     I'm not you and Mom!         258 00:10:40,599 --> 00:10:43,977              I'm sorry!                  I'm just not built that way.     259 00:10:44,019 --> 00:10:45,104          You're a Baptiste.          260 00:10:45,145 --> 00:10:47,064        You were bred that way.       261 00:10:47,106 --> 00:10:50,317                Great.                      You've given me the talk.      262 00:10:50,359 --> 00:10:51,527          You can leave now.          263 00:10:51,568 --> 00:10:54,446      Well, I'm actually staying               for a little while.         264 00:10:54,488 --> 00:10:56,323         Uh, Hattie's staying                  with me right now.          265 00:10:56,365 --> 00:10:57,574             -Oh, she is?                        -[Hattie] Nia!            266 00:10:57,616 --> 00:10:59,493            Guess who's got                    a hot date tonight.         267 00:10:59,535 --> 00:11:01,537               [Vanessa]                      Well, look who it is.        268 00:11:01,578 --> 00:11:03,122               -Vanessa!                            -Hattie.               269 00:11:03,163 --> 00:11:05,541     Yo, it's so good to see you!     270 00:11:05,582 --> 00:11:07,835       Mm. What you doin' here?       271 00:11:07,876 --> 00:11:09,920         I'm staying with Nia                  for a little while.         272 00:11:09,962 --> 00:11:13,215    I was sent here by our parents          to help her get her life.      273 00:11:13,257 --> 00:11:15,259      Well, shit, can you help me                with mine, too?           274 00:11:15,300 --> 00:11:18,345       I can, but first you need          to find a new place to live.     275 00:11:18,387 --> 00:11:19,430                -What?                              -Mm-hmm.               276 00:11:19,471 --> 00:11:21,014             What the hell                     she talkin' about?          277 00:11:21,056 --> 00:11:23,142       I can do one houseguest,                     not two.               278 00:11:23,183 --> 00:11:24,518           [mouthing words]           279 00:11:24,560 --> 00:11:27,271       I was just gettin' comfy!      280 00:11:27,312 --> 00:11:30,149        -How long you staying?                -As long as it takes.        281 00:11:30,190 --> 00:11:31,358           Damn, that long?           282 00:11:31,400 --> 00:11:34,153    Where am I supposed to go now?    283 00:11:34,194 --> 00:11:39,074                                    284 00:11:39,116 --> 00:11:41,118         Welcome home, roomie.        285 00:11:41,160 --> 00:11:42,870        This is only temporary.       286 00:11:42,911 --> 00:11:44,580            Uh, I hope not.           287 00:11:44,621 --> 00:11:46,582    Living alone has made me weird.  288 00:11:46,623 --> 00:11:48,083        Living alone did that?        289 00:11:48,125 --> 00:11:49,918               [laughs]               290 00:11:49,960 --> 00:11:51,462          You're funny. Okay.         291 00:11:51,503 --> 00:11:54,548     So I'm thinking...spa night.     292 00:11:54,590 --> 00:11:55,674                 -Mm.                               -[gasps]               293 00:11:55,716 --> 00:11:59,303      We'll do each other's toes,           braid each other's hai--       294 00:12:01,930 --> 00:12:03,724           My gosh, Vanessa,                I am so happy to see you.      295 00:12:03,766 --> 00:12:05,434           -[Vanessa laughs]                -Your skin looks amazing.      296 00:12:05,476 --> 00:12:07,644    [Vanessa] Facials twice a week.             I swear by it.            297 00:12:07,686 --> 00:12:09,146               [Hattie]                    Yo, how are the fur babies?     298 00:12:09,188 --> 00:12:10,856           Coco and Chanel,                      they are great.           299 00:12:10,898 --> 00:12:14,026     They're keeping their father          company until I come home.      300 00:12:14,067 --> 00:12:16,236     And when will that be, again?    301 00:12:16,278 --> 00:12:17,404            Don't rush me.            302 00:12:17,446 --> 00:12:19,740           Well, I, for one,               am very happy you're here.      303 00:12:19,782 --> 00:12:21,617       I've been trying to talk             some sense into these two      304 00:12:21,658 --> 00:12:22,826        for the last few years        305 00:12:22,868 --> 00:12:24,495             and, clearly,                I'm not making much progress.    306 00:12:24,536 --> 00:12:25,913                 -Wow.                     -I know you ain't talking.      307 00:12:25,954 --> 00:12:29,666      What? My career is steady,         and I'm engaged to be married.    308 00:12:29,708 --> 00:12:31,376           But are you ready                      for marriage?            309 00:12:31,418 --> 00:12:33,295                -Right.                   -Oh, that's a good question.     310 00:12:33,337 --> 00:12:35,339     -[Hattie] Mm-hmm. It's true.               -Of course I am.           311 00:12:35,380 --> 00:12:36,799          We're in premarital                    counseling now.           312 00:12:36,840 --> 00:12:39,426        Well, y'all gonna need             more than that to make it.      313 00:12:39,468 --> 00:12:42,554            See, that's why               I'm waiting on my soul mate.     314 00:12:42,596 --> 00:12:44,306               [Vanessa]                 Let me tell you all something.    315 00:12:44,348 --> 00:12:45,724       Soul mates are overrated.      316 00:12:45,766 --> 00:12:48,393       What you need is someone          that you can make it work with.  317 00:12:48,435 --> 00:12:49,937         So many people spend                      their lives             318 00:12:49,978 --> 00:12:51,647            waiting to find                    this magical person         319 00:12:51,688 --> 00:12:53,774        that's gonna make love               to them all night long        320 00:12:53,816 --> 00:12:55,901     and that it has to be someone           that your friends like        321 00:12:55,943 --> 00:12:57,653         and that your parents                     approve of,             322 00:12:57,694 --> 00:12:58,904    and they've got to be gorgeous,  323 00:12:58,946 --> 00:13:01,490       and they have to like all          of the things that you like.     324 00:13:01,532 --> 00:13:04,535         But it doesn't exist,            and it's never gonna happen.     325 00:13:04,576 --> 00:13:06,620           You need someone                 that you can travel with       326 00:13:06,662 --> 00:13:08,872     and that's willing to put up               with your family.          327 00:13:08,914 --> 00:13:10,749            And if you have                a similar sleeping pattern,     328 00:13:10,791 --> 00:13:12,876          that's even better,            but, ladies, please don't waste  329 00:13:12,918 --> 00:13:15,712       your time waiting to fall             head over heels in love       330 00:13:15,754 --> 00:13:17,714          or to be swept off                      of your feet,            331 00:13:17,756 --> 00:13:19,633     because it is a long journey,    332 00:13:19,675 --> 00:13:21,885         and you need someone                  you can depend on.          333 00:13:21,927 --> 00:13:24,471        I don't want to depend                     on anybody.             334 00:13:24,513 --> 00:13:27,224         [scoffs] Yes, you do.        335 00:13:27,266 --> 00:13:29,685           What you wanna do                is get a solid teammate.       336 00:13:29,726 --> 00:13:31,895       I promise you, your life             will be so much happier.       337 00:13:31,937 --> 00:13:34,565     Yo, that might be the saddest           thing I've ever heard.        338 00:13:34,606 --> 00:13:37,276          Better learned now,              little sisters, than later.     339 00:13:37,317 --> 00:13:38,443                 [Nia]                        Don't listen to her.         340 00:13:38,485 --> 00:13:40,529      She's just mad she's stuck              in a boring marriage.        341 00:13:40,571 --> 00:13:43,323          At least I'm stuck                      in something.            342 00:13:44,658 --> 00:13:47,411          I'm just gonna eat                    my food 'cause...          343 00:13:49,288 --> 00:13:50,622     ...feel like a family thing.     344 00:13:50,664 --> 00:13:53,917              [laughter]              345 00:13:54,751 --> 00:13:58,547              mellow music           346 00:13:58,589 --> 00:14:03,260                                    347 00:14:03,302 --> 00:14:04,469              Hey, babe.              348 00:14:04,511 --> 00:14:08,056                                    349 00:14:08,098 --> 00:14:09,391               I'm home.              350 00:14:09,433 --> 00:14:12,269                                    351 00:14:12,311 --> 00:14:13,562               You here?              352 00:14:13,604 --> 00:14:16,773                                    353 00:14:16,815 --> 00:14:20,110            I can't understand                    what I'm doing           354 00:14:20,152 --> 00:14:23,030             Don't understand                   where we're goin'          355 00:14:23,071 --> 00:14:26,825            Please understand                 where I'm comin' from        356 00:14:26,867 --> 00:14:32,205                Understand                     that it's all in me         357 00:14:32,247 --> 00:14:33,874                                    358 00:14:33,916 --> 00:14:37,210          But not plain to see       359 00:14:37,252 --> 00:14:39,671                                    360 00:14:39,713 --> 00:14:44,009            Please understand                   that we're strong          361 00:14:44,051 --> 00:14:47,054             And I understand                   where we're going          362 00:14:47,095 --> 00:14:50,057               I understand                      life be flowing           363 00:14:50,098 --> 00:14:54,019            Please understand                   that we're strong          364 00:14:54,061 --> 00:14:57,648             And I understand                   where we're going          365 00:14:57,689 --> 00:15:00,150               I understand                      life be flowing           366 00:15:00,192 --> 00:15:05,238                 Dreamin'                    as you be talking to me       367 00:15:05,280 --> 00:15:07,783          About where we'll be       368 00:15:07,824 --> 00:15:12,621                                    369 00:15:12,663 --> 00:15:15,123         I'm wearin' your gold       370 00:15:15,165 --> 00:15:18,919              You whisperin'                      that it's over           371 00:15:18,961 --> 00:15:21,296             To yourselves           372 00:15:21,338 --> 00:15:25,133        Creepin' up my shoulder      373 00:15:25,175 --> 00:15:26,677                                    374 00:15:26,718 --> 00:15:31,723          Ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh        375 00:15:31,765 --> 00:15:34,309                                    376 00:15:34,351 --> 00:15:39,481           Oh, oh, I understand              where we're coming from       377 00:15:39,523 --> 00:15:41,858         Understand my devotion      378 00:15:41,900 --> 00:15:44,736             Don't understand                    what we're doin'          379 00:15:44,778 --> 00:15:48,365               I understand                   that it's plain to see       380 00:15:48,407 --> 00:15:50,283              I'm Jason.              381 00:15:51,368 --> 00:15:53,161                Chuck.                382 00:15:53,203 --> 00:15:54,871                Chuck.                383 00:15:56,123 --> 00:15:59,334          I feel like this is             your first time in a gay bar.    384 00:15:59,376 --> 00:16:00,544        That would be correct.        385 00:16:00,585 --> 00:16:03,255               [laughs]                    Well, don't look so scared.     386 00:16:03,296 --> 00:16:04,631            We don't bite.            387 00:16:04,673 --> 00:16:08,677                                    388 00:16:08,719 --> 00:16:10,303          What you drinking?          389 00:16:10,345 --> 00:16:13,515            -Uh, Cabernet.                         -Oh, okay.              390 00:16:13,557 --> 00:16:15,100        Can I buy you another?        391 00:16:15,142 --> 00:16:16,893              Oh, uh, no.             392 00:16:16,935 --> 00:16:18,395         I gotta pace myself.         393 00:16:18,437 --> 00:16:20,772         If I drink too fast,                   I start singing.           394 00:16:20,814 --> 00:16:24,026           And I'm in a room                   full of strangers.          395 00:16:24,067 --> 00:16:28,488         And first impressions                    are lasting.             396 00:16:28,530 --> 00:16:30,866           So you don't want                     to sing for me?           397 00:16:30,907 --> 00:16:32,743                                    398 00:16:32,784 --> 00:16:34,411             Not tonight.             399 00:16:35,704 --> 00:16:38,707           But at some point                     in the future?            400 00:16:38,749 --> 00:16:41,084                                    401 00:16:41,126 --> 00:16:42,586                Maybe.                402 00:16:43,879 --> 00:16:46,882            [knock on door]           403 00:16:46,923 --> 00:16:49,092        Well, hello, handsome.        404 00:16:49,134 --> 00:16:49,885               Oh, hey.               405 00:16:49,926 --> 00:16:51,386               [Vanessa]                       How can I help you?         406 00:16:51,428 --> 00:16:52,637         I'm looking for Nia.         407 00:16:52,679 --> 00:16:55,474            You must be Ben                with the great penmanship.      408 00:16:55,515 --> 00:16:57,434             [laughs] Nah.            409 00:16:57,476 --> 00:17:00,645             I'm Tristan,                   the hippie with no phone?      410 00:17:00,687 --> 00:17:02,105     Although I have a phone now.     411 00:17:02,147 --> 00:17:05,734              Huh? Okay.                       I-I'll go get her.          412 00:17:05,776 --> 00:17:07,277                -Okay.                                -Hmm.                413 00:17:09,446 --> 00:17:11,448               [knocks]               414 00:17:11,490 --> 00:17:12,991    There's a Tristan at the door.    415 00:17:13,033 --> 00:17:15,911             Oh, my gosh.                   What did you say to him?       416 00:17:15,952 --> 00:17:17,370    I hope you didn't embarrass me.  417 00:17:17,412 --> 00:17:19,456           Who knew you had                     so many suitors?           418 00:17:19,498 --> 00:17:21,958               -[groans]                             -Okay.                419 00:17:26,338 --> 00:17:28,090                 -Hey.                                -Hey.                420 00:17:29,925 --> 00:17:34,012               So dudes                     sending you flowers now?       421 00:17:34,054 --> 00:17:36,389        Yeah. Don't be jealous.       422 00:17:36,431 --> 00:17:38,433       Oh, I don't do jealousy.       423 00:17:38,475 --> 00:17:40,310       That's a wasted emotion.       424 00:17:40,352 --> 00:17:43,396              mellow music           425 00:17:43,438 --> 00:17:47,609                                    426 00:17:47,651 --> 00:17:49,653           Um, now that you                      have a phone...           427 00:17:49,694 --> 00:17:50,695                Mm-hmm.               428 00:17:50,737 --> 00:17:52,197         ...please call before                   you come over?            429 00:17:52,239 --> 00:17:56,284        Ahh, I'll remember that                    next time.              430 00:17:56,326 --> 00:18:00,705          Look, I came by...          431 00:18:00,747 --> 00:18:04,543           to say I'm sorry                about what I said earlier.      432 00:18:04,584 --> 00:18:08,046    I know I'm practicing honesty,    433 00:18:08,088 --> 00:18:11,508         but that doesn't mean            I have to be brutal about it.    434 00:18:11,550 --> 00:18:14,052                And...                435 00:18:14,094 --> 00:18:18,932       I could have been softer                 with my delivery.          436 00:18:18,974 --> 00:18:22,602        -Yeah, you could have.                   -[scoffs] Yeah.           437 00:18:24,271 --> 00:18:26,690          Look, I appreciate                      your apology,            438 00:18:26,731 --> 00:18:28,358           and I receive it,          439 00:18:28,400 --> 00:18:33,280      but we have very different               experiences online.         440 00:18:33,321 --> 00:18:34,197              We just do.             441 00:18:34,239 --> 00:18:36,950          So you can't judge              how I react to my experience     442 00:18:36,992 --> 00:18:39,411         when you have no idea                 what I go through.          443 00:18:39,452 --> 00:18:42,205                [sighs]                            I get that.             444 00:18:42,247 --> 00:18:43,039                Do you?               445 00:18:43,081 --> 00:18:45,709                [sighs]                     I'll work on being better      446 00:18:45,750 --> 00:18:48,336         about putting myself                    in your shoes.            447 00:18:48,378 --> 00:18:50,297                                    448 00:18:50,338 --> 00:18:52,507          I appreciate that.          449 00:18:52,549 --> 00:18:54,176                 Yeah.                450 00:18:55,427 --> 00:18:58,680       You wanna hang out again?      451 00:18:58,722 --> 00:19:00,932       Mm, I'll think about it.       452 00:19:00,974 --> 00:19:02,100               [Tristan]                          Ah, come on.             453 00:19:02,142 --> 00:19:04,477          Do I gotta buy you                 flowers first or what?        454 00:19:04,519 --> 00:19:07,606                Maybe.                        Okay, I'll text you.         455 00:19:07,647 --> 00:19:09,232               -Finally!                         -Yeah. [laughs]           456 00:19:09,274 --> 00:19:13,403             Oh, my gosh.                   Yeah, thanks for coming.       457 00:19:13,445 --> 00:19:15,780         Yeah. You look good.         458 00:19:15,822 --> 00:19:17,866                I know.               459 00:19:17,908 --> 00:19:19,910               [Hattie]                    Yo, I swear I never thought     460 00:19:19,951 --> 00:19:22,913       I would see the day when          I would order vegan spaghetti.    461 00:19:22,954 --> 00:19:25,373      [chuckles] I never thought              I'd wake up at 3 a.m.        462 00:19:25,415 --> 00:19:26,625        craving a oxtail taco.        463 00:19:26,666 --> 00:19:28,835            [both laughing]           464 00:19:28,877 --> 00:19:30,420            So what got you                       into writing?            465 00:19:30,462 --> 00:19:33,757       Why do first dates always            feel like job interviews?      466 00:19:33,798 --> 00:19:36,760       It's weird, but, I mean,           I gotta ask questions, right?    467 00:19:36,801 --> 00:19:40,513          Yeah, but let's ask                   weird questions.           468 00:19:40,555 --> 00:19:43,099           Okay, like what?           469 00:19:43,141 --> 00:19:45,852           -Like, what if...                        -Mm-hmm.               470 00:19:45,894 --> 00:19:48,313         ...you had to choose               between eating ice cream       471 00:19:48,355 --> 00:19:51,107        or macaroni and cheese             for the rest of your life?      472 00:19:51,149 --> 00:19:53,526       Which one would you pick?      473 00:19:53,568 --> 00:19:56,696     Well, I'm lactose intolerant,    474 00:19:56,738 --> 00:19:59,407              so I guess                  I would just starve to death.    475 00:19:59,449 --> 00:20:00,492              [laughing]              476 00:20:00,533 --> 00:20:01,618      You're lactose intolerant.      477 00:20:01,660 --> 00:20:03,036                -Yeah.                        -That's good to know.        478 00:20:03,078 --> 00:20:06,414               -[laughs]                     -Now ask me something.        479 00:20:06,456 --> 00:20:10,961       What's something you wish              you weren't good at?         480 00:20:11,002 --> 00:20:14,422         I wish I wasn't good                   at givin' advice           481 00:20:14,464 --> 00:20:15,465       'cause then maybe people       482 00:20:15,507 --> 00:20:17,968      wouldn't always come to me              with their problems.         483 00:20:18,009 --> 00:20:19,928                 Ooh.                 484 00:20:19,970 --> 00:20:21,846       Is that shade towards me?      485 00:20:21,888 --> 00:20:24,015             -Not at all.                      -[Hattie] Oh, okay.         486 00:20:24,057 --> 00:20:25,976            I'm just sayin'                 I'm always helpin' people      487 00:20:26,017 --> 00:20:30,105         with their problems,             but when I have a problem...     488 00:20:30,146 --> 00:20:32,607    I don't have anyone to turn to.  489 00:20:32,649 --> 00:20:33,650         Well, you might need                       to start               490 00:20:33,692 --> 00:20:35,568      holdin' folks accountable.      491 00:20:35,610 --> 00:20:38,530          -Oh, is that right?                         -Yes.                492 00:20:38,571 --> 00:20:42,200       And, you know, if people           come to you with their shit,     493 00:20:42,242 --> 00:20:44,828         you should just start            goin' to them with your shit.    494 00:20:44,869 --> 00:20:48,081         What if I don't like                   askin' for help?           495 00:20:48,123 --> 00:20:51,167         [Hattie] Okay, well,                then that's your shit.        496 00:20:51,209 --> 00:20:53,962        I guess it is my shit.        497 00:20:54,004 --> 00:20:56,923           You're also great                   at helping others.          498 00:20:56,965 --> 00:20:59,551      Yeah, I like fixing things.     499 00:20:59,592 --> 00:21:01,261              And people.             500 00:21:02,637 --> 00:21:04,973     But you don't wanna be fixed.    501 00:21:05,015 --> 00:21:07,058             I guess not.                           [laughs]               502 00:21:07,100 --> 00:21:10,103               soft music            503 00:21:10,145 --> 00:21:13,982                                    504 00:21:14,024 --> 00:21:16,985            Do you believe                       in soul mates?            505 00:21:17,027 --> 00:21:19,154            Of course I do.           506 00:21:19,195 --> 00:21:20,363       My friend's older sister       507 00:21:20,405 --> 00:21:24,659            was tellin' us                that soul mates are bullshit.    508 00:21:24,701 --> 00:21:27,120          Damn, that's cold.          509 00:21:27,162 --> 00:21:31,458      But I think both can exist.     510 00:21:31,499 --> 00:21:33,418               [Hattie]                             Say more.              511 00:21:33,460 --> 00:21:37,255         Well, my--my parents              have been together forever.     512 00:21:37,297 --> 00:21:40,967             And some days                   they're madly in love,        513 00:21:41,009 --> 00:21:43,970          and then other days               they feel like roommates.      514 00:21:44,012 --> 00:21:45,430                  Mm.                 515 00:21:45,472 --> 00:21:48,224          But I think that's              what a great relationship is.    516 00:21:48,266 --> 00:21:51,644     It can be passionate one day             and boring the next.         517 00:21:51,686 --> 00:21:53,605                                    518 00:21:53,646 --> 00:21:55,774             I don't know.            519 00:21:55,815 --> 00:21:58,109            I think I need                  some passion in my life.       520 00:21:58,151 --> 00:22:00,111        But you can't have that                   all the time.            521 00:22:00,153 --> 00:22:02,322                                    522 00:22:02,364 --> 00:22:04,491             But, I mean,                    can you really be happy       523 00:22:04,532 --> 00:22:07,494             with somebody                 if you're bored with them?      524 00:22:07,535 --> 00:22:09,829         Things aren't always                  gonna be exciting.          525 00:22:09,871 --> 00:22:13,291            And they aren't                   always gonna be easy.        526 00:22:13,333 --> 00:22:16,878           But you can't run               when the going gets tough.      527 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:19,047                                    528 00:22:19,089 --> 00:22:21,132               [Hattie]                             I guess.               529 00:22:21,174 --> 00:22:22,842             I understand.            530 00:22:22,884 --> 00:22:24,302                                    531 00:22:24,344 --> 00:22:26,179           What do you wish                     you were good at?          532 00:22:26,221 --> 00:22:29,099                                    533 00:22:29,140 --> 00:22:31,101                 Love.                534 00:22:31,142 --> 00:22:32,769        No one's good at that.        535 00:22:32,811 --> 00:22:35,647       I feel like you might be.      536 00:22:35,688 --> 00:22:37,857             Why is that?             537 00:22:37,899 --> 00:22:42,529       I just feel like you got              a lot of love to give.        538 00:22:42,570 --> 00:22:45,698            I've given out                  a lot of love in my life.      539 00:22:45,740 --> 00:22:47,283                                    540 00:22:47,325 --> 00:22:49,702        Now I wanna receive it.       541 00:22:49,744 --> 00:22:51,496                                    542 00:22:51,538 --> 00:22:53,748                Me too.               543 00:22:53,790 --> 00:22:56,626                                    544 00:22:56,668 --> 00:23:00,088              Why, why, why,                   why, why, why, why?         545 00:23:00,130 --> 00:23:01,256                                    546 00:23:01,297 --> 00:23:04,259        You and I were standing      547 00:23:04,300 --> 00:23:09,180                                    548 00:23:09,222 --> 00:23:12,016               [Hattie]                      Why the hell am I nervous?     549 00:23:12,058 --> 00:23:14,978            I've done this                     many times before?          550 00:23:15,019 --> 00:23:18,148        Have you ever made love                   to somebody?             551 00:23:18,189 --> 00:23:20,775               Trust me.              552 00:23:20,817 --> 00:23:23,111         -I ain't new to this.                      -[scoffs]              553 00:23:23,153 --> 00:23:27,157      I know you've had sex, but          when was the last time you...    554 00:23:27,198 --> 00:23:29,617          slept with somebody              who wasn't itching to leave     555 00:23:29,659 --> 00:23:31,661            in the morning?           556 00:23:31,703 --> 00:23:33,079        Girls do tend to bounce       557 00:23:33,121 --> 00:23:35,874      before I can wipe the crust                 out my eyes.             558 00:23:35,915 --> 00:23:38,835           You know we don't                  have to do anything.         559 00:23:38,877 --> 00:23:41,254           Then what are we                      supposed to do?           560 00:23:41,296 --> 00:23:44,007          Well, I would love                       to kiss you             561 00:23:44,048 --> 00:23:45,925           and mess around.           562 00:23:45,967 --> 00:23:47,385           That sounds nice.          563 00:23:47,427 --> 00:23:52,098             Never, ever feel                    the same inside           564 00:23:52,140 --> 00:23:55,143        Always gonna say my name     565 00:23:55,185 --> 00:23:59,147                                    566 00:23:59,189 --> 00:24:01,191                 Mm...                567 00:24:01,232 --> 00:24:02,692       damn, that was beautiful.      568 00:24:02,734 --> 00:24:07,572          You also don't have              to narrate the whole time.      569 00:24:07,614 --> 00:24:08,990                Got it.               570 00:24:09,032 --> 00:24:10,533                 Denial              571 00:24:10,575 --> 00:24:15,246                You and I,                  we stay in denial, denial      572 00:24:15,288 --> 00:24:19,292       Oh, oh, oh, denial, denial   573 00:24:19,334 --> 00:24:24,005              Phantom kisses                      tickling so...           574 00:24:24,047 --> 00:25:22,062