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Okay, Calvin, I know
you're not a craft beer man,

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but I think
you might like this one.

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It's locally brewed.

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Wow.

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[chuckles]:
Wow, not bad. Who makes it?

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Me. Right upstairs
in my bathtub.

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Okay, all right.
Come on, Tina, let's go.

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Dave just made me
drink his bathwater.

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Calvin, come on.
Stop. No.

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I-I haven't finished
my wine yet.

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Dave didn't make this
in your toilet, did he?

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No, this is French.

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If anything,
it was made in a bidet.

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Well, I like it.

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Why don't you bring over
another bottle tomorrow night

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and we can hang out?

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I'd love to, but Dave and I
have a date night.

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Yeah, that's right. Tomorrow,
I'll be drinking your bathwater.

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Well, you two seem
extra in love tonight.

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Yeah, knock it off.

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[laughs]

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Yeah, well, we're always
a little extra lovey-dovey

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after we see
our couples therapist.

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Oh, I didn't know
you two went to therapy.

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Y-Yeah, yeah.
Sorry to hear that.

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If they get a divorce,
you get Dave.

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[mouths]

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Don't worry, we're totally fine.

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We just go every now and
then for a little tune-up.

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Dr. Chen is great.

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She's really helped us
communicate.

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It's breathed new life
into our marriage.

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Yeah, uh, speaking
of breathing life,

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I could use some
mouth-to-mouth right now.

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[trills]

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Okay, all right,
I-I don't know if it's them

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or Dave's bath beer,
but I got to throw up.

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♪ Welcome to the block,
welcome to the neighborhood ♪

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♪ Welcome to the hood.

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Hey, boys.Oh, hey.

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Hey, how was y'all night
at the Johnsons'?

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Tina, can I tell them?No. That's none of y...

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Dave and Gemma see a therapist.

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Calvin.

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I'm sorry, babe,

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Dave's funky-ass beer
went straight to my head.

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Oh, wait. Dave and Gemma
see a therapist?

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I didn't know theywas having problems.

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Dave and Gemma are fine.

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I actually have never
seen them so in love.

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It was gross.

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Well, I think it's wonderful.
And I'm thinking,

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in fact, maybe you and I
should give it a try.

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You know? We could always
communicate better.

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What? Babe,we communicate just fine.

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Dad, seriously?

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She just told you not to tell us
about Dave and Gemma,

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and you did it anyway.

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That's different.
I heard her, I just ignored it.

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Well, guess what. We're going.

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No, I just said
that I don't want to go.

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I heard you, I just ignored it.

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Hey, honey,
how's it going up there?

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The movie starts
in a half an hour.

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GEMMA: I know. Almost ready.Okay, you know

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we still have to drop off
Grover at his sleepover, right?

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I know. Almost ready.Okay.

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And you know I-I hate
to miss the previews.

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She knows. She's almost ready.

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Okay, all ready.Okay, great. Let's go.

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I just need to put on my shoes,
touch up my makeup

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and transfer all my stuff
into my tiny purse.

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Well, then,
why'd you come downstairs?

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To tell you that I'm ready.

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I can't believe
I let you drag me in here.

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Come on, Calvin,
keep an open mind.Nah, Tina.

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You know what happens
when you keep an open mind?

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New stuff gets in there.

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Hi, there.

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Sorry to keep you waiting.

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I'm Dr. Chen.Hi.

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I'm Tina Butler. This
is my husband Calvin.

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Hello.

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Okay, then. If you're ready,
how about we jump in?

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How long have you guys
been married?

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31 years.

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And after
all that time together,

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how would you describe
your intimacy?

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[chuckles]:Oh, it's freaky.

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Yeah, at least, you know,
three or four times a week.

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[chuckles]Five if it's slow at the shop.

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[laughs]

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Actually, I was talking about
your emotional intimacy,

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not your physical intimacy.

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But damn.

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Well, uh, what do you mean
by emotional intimacy?

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I mean, how often
you guys sit down

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and connect with each other?

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You know,
talk about your feelings,

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share your vulnerabilities.

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Isn't the point
of getting married

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so you don't
have to do that?

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Well, h-honestly, I don't
remember the last time

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we did that sort of thing.

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Well, in that case,
it sounds like you're using

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physical intimacy
as a substitute

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for connecting
on a deeper level.

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I'd like to suggest
an exercise for couples

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who need to rekindle things
emotionally.

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Okay. W-What is it?

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Abstain from sex for a month.

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[laughs loudly]

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You serious?

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Y-Yes.

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See, Tina? This is why
I keep my mind closed.

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I know it sounds
challenging,

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but it's helped
a lot of my patients.

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You can read
more about it in my book.

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[chuckles]

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You read it.
I'll wait for the movie.

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Excuse me. Sorry. Excuse me.

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Sweetie, slow down.
I'm in heels.

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Well, just kick them off.
The floor is barely sticky.

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[exhales]

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See, Dave?
The movie's just started.

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We didn't miss anything.

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Well, that's not true.
We missed the previews,

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and I didn't have time
to go to the bathroom

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or get my jumbo pretzel.

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[shushes]

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Sorry.

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Sweetie, it's not a big deal.

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If you want a pretzel,
I'll go get it for you.

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Give me your wallet.

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I couldn't fit mine
in my tiny purse.

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Just forget about it.
Let-Let's just sit down.

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It's fine. I don't mind missing
a few minutes of the movie.

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Well, you say that,
but then when you come back,

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you're gonna ask me
what you missed,

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and then we'll be talking
during the movie,

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and I don't want
to be those people.

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Too late, you already are.Sorry.

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Look, I'm sorry
we missed the previews,

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but we're here now
and the movie's just started.

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Can you please
not ruin date night?

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Me? I didn't ruin date night.

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You're the one
who made us late.

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Maybe you should give her
the silent treatment.

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Well, excuse me for wanting
to look nice on our night out.

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Oh, yes, of course.

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'Cause what's more
important than looking nice

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while you're sitting
in a dark movie theater?

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You guys don't
need to see a movie,

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you need to see a therapist.

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BOTH:
We did.

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Can you believe it?

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We just paid $30 for a book

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that's going
straight in the trash.

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[stammers]
Don't throw that out.

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Oh, you know what? You're right.

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Dave's got a birthday coming up.

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Look, Calvin,
I know that you think

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going to see Dr. Chen
was a waste of time,

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but I think she really might
be on to something

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with that abstinence stuff.

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Not have sex for a month?

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People could die from that.

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Seriously, Calvin.

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When was the last time
we just held hands

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and talked about our feelings?

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Okay, you know what?
I can do that.

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I feel...

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that we should go to the bedroom
and do the wild thing.

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Oh, Calvin. No.

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See? Dr. Chen was right.

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We can't even have
a real conversation

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about our emotions without you
going straight to sex.

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Now, c-come on.
I was just playing.

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I mean, of course, unless you
gonna change your answer to yes.

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Calvin, I know
this is gonna be difficult,

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but we have to do this
for the good of our marriage.

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Okay. All right, we can try.

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But I think we both know
you can't go without all this

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for a whole month.

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No. No.

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No!

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I gave up Diet Coke cold turkey.

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I think I'll be just fine.

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This ain't no Diet Coke.

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This is real sugar, baby.

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All right, Marty,
let's hit the gym.

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All right, hold on, let me
just finish this chapter.

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Uh, why are you reading
Mom and Dad's therapy book?

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Because, Malcolm,
our relationship is broken,

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and I, for one, want to fix it.

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You wonder why I tell people
at the gym we not related.

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Now, see?
That's your problem right there.

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According to Dr. Chen, when
it comes to sibling dynamics,

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the older one often feels
entitled to humiliate

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and ridicule
the younger sibling.

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[laughs]:
Yeah, that's fun stuff, huh?

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No, man,
it's highly dysfunctional

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and detrimental
to my self-esteem.

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I'm an adult now,

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and it's time you started
treating me like one.

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Oh, you're an adult?

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Tell that
to your Star Warspajamas.

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Dad, hasn't Malcolm

209
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been picking on
me my whole life?

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Yeah. It's some fun stuff, huh?

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[laughs]

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Man, let's go.

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Fine. But for the record,
it wasn't Star Warspajamas,

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it was loungewear.

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Morning.

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Hey. Morning, babe.

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How'd you sleep?
Fine.

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Even with you trying
to seduce me all night.

219
00:09:03,128 --> 00:09:05,087
What? Me?

220
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[chuckles] I have no idea
what you talking about.

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Oh, please.

222
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Singing Barry White
in the shower,

223
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wearing your silk boxers to bed.

224
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You had so much cocoa butter on,

225
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I thought I was sleeping
next to a dolphin.

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Well, uh, instead
of fighting it,

227
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why don't you let me
butter youup

228
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and we get all SeaWorld
up in here?

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You know what?
I've got a better idea.

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How about we sit down
and have breakfast together,

231
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and enjoy
a meaningful conversation?

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Sorry, I-I can't, babe.
I don't have the time.

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I, uh, I got so much stuff
to fix around the house.

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You know.

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Which must be hard on you,

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because, uh, I know
how you love a man

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that can swing his hammer.

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00:10:04,363 --> 00:10:05,669
You're ridiculous.

239
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Am I?

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[shouting]

241
00:10:11,762 --> 00:10:15,505
Come on, Tina. I know
you want... [grunting]

242
00:10:15,548 --> 00:10:16,767
Tina? Oh! Whoa.

243
00:10:19,727 --> 00:10:21,859
I'm gonna have to ease up
on the cocoa butter.

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00:10:27,648 --> 00:10:30,389
Morning.What are you doing here?

245
00:10:30,433 --> 00:10:32,435
I thought you were picking up
Grover from his sleepover.

246
00:10:32,478 --> 00:10:34,306
What are you talking about?
Pickup's not for another hour.

247
00:10:34,350 --> 00:10:36,352
Yeah, but I want you
to have enough time.

248
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I know if you're even a minute
late, your whole day is ruined.

249
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Well, that's very
thoughtful of you.

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I can use
that extra time

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to try on five different outfits

252
00:10:48,364 --> 00:10:51,672
and transfer my stuff
into my tiny wallet.

253
00:10:53,717 --> 00:10:55,501
Why are you being
such a jerk about this?

254
00:10:55,545 --> 00:10:56,938
It was one movie.

255
00:10:56,981 --> 00:10:58,940
No, no, it's not just one movie.

256
00:10:58,983 --> 00:11:00,942
Okay? It's every time we have
a dinner reservation,

257
00:11:00,985 --> 00:11:03,858
or go see a concert,
or have to be at the airport.

258
00:11:03,901 --> 00:11:06,208
Dave, we have never once
missed a flight because of me.

259
00:11:06,251 --> 00:11:07,818
Yes, that is because I have
never once given you

260
00:11:07,862 --> 00:11:08,819
the correct departure time.

261
00:11:11,430 --> 00:11:13,694
Look, Gemma,
the point is,

262
00:11:13,737 --> 00:11:17,567
is that Dr. Chen said that we
need to take each other's needs

263
00:11:17,610 --> 00:11:20,526
into consideration, and I don't
always feel like you do that.

264
00:11:20,570 --> 00:11:23,138
Oh, like you're any better?

265
00:11:23,181 --> 00:11:25,967
[scoffs]
I'm the most
considerate person I know.

266
00:11:26,010 --> 00:11:28,099
I say "bless you"
to people who sneeze,

267
00:11:28,143 --> 00:11:30,449
cough, even yawn.

268
00:11:30,493 --> 00:11:32,713
Okay, then why do I always
have to ask you

269
00:11:32,756 --> 00:11:34,018
to put the toilet seat down?

270
00:11:34,061 --> 00:11:36,499
Or stop drinking juice
from the carton?

271
00:11:36,542 --> 00:11:38,283
Or the thing I
hate the most:

272
00:11:38,327 --> 00:11:40,677
you never squeeze out
the kitchen sponge.

273
00:11:40,721 --> 00:11:44,115
I always squeeze out the sponge.

274
00:11:44,159 --> 00:11:45,813
Oh, really?

275
00:11:53,690 --> 00:11:57,650
Okay, I forgot one time.

276
00:11:57,694 --> 00:11:59,261
[scoffs]

277
00:11:59,304 --> 00:12:03,439
Not that time
means anything to you.

278
00:12:03,482 --> 00:12:05,963
Well, then I guess neither of us
is as considerate

279
00:12:06,007 --> 00:12:08,836
as we think we are. Which is
why I don't feel bad doing this.

280
00:12:13,057 --> 00:12:15,581
Sponges live
in the ocean, Gemma!

281
00:12:15,625 --> 00:12:17,409
They're supposed to be wet!

282
00:12:21,631 --> 00:12:23,372
Oh, hey, Calvin.

283
00:12:23,415 --> 00:12:25,461
Don't "hey, Calvin" me.

284
00:12:25,504 --> 00:12:28,943
Because of you,
Tina doesn't want to have sex.

285
00:12:28,986 --> 00:12:32,033
What? Even with that tool belt?

286
00:12:34,426 --> 00:12:36,385
Your stupid therapist

287
00:12:36,428 --> 00:12:39,170
says that we're having
intimacy problems

288
00:12:39,214 --> 00:12:41,172
and now she's
cutting me off for a month.

289
00:12:41,216 --> 00:12:43,696
I remember when Dr. Chen
made us do that, too.

290
00:12:43,740 --> 00:12:45,873
It really put the "no"
in November.

291
00:12:47,396 --> 00:12:48,832
Wait a minute.

292
00:12:48,876 --> 00:12:50,268
So you knew about this

293
00:12:50,311 --> 00:12:51,792
and you recommended her anyway?

294
00:12:51,835 --> 00:12:53,228
Well, I had to.

295
00:12:53,271 --> 00:12:54,620
Gemma was sitting right there,

296
00:12:54,664 --> 00:12:56,231
and she loves
going to see Dr. Chen.

297
00:12:56,274 --> 00:12:57,623
Oh, and you don't?

298
00:12:57,667 --> 00:12:59,103
Are you kidding?
No sex for a month?

299
00:12:59,147 --> 00:13:00,061
That could kill a guy.

300
00:13:01,671 --> 00:13:03,499
I know.
I'm already going crazy.

301
00:13:03,542 --> 00:13:05,022
I saw two melons on the counter

302
00:13:05,066 --> 00:13:06,850
and I almost had to
take a cold shower.

303
00:13:10,245 --> 00:13:13,291
Yeah, the worst part is,
is Gemma and I got into a fight

304
00:13:13,335 --> 00:13:15,293
and now she wants us
to go back today.

305
00:13:15,337 --> 00:13:17,818
Well, if you don't want to go,
then don't.

306
00:13:17,861 --> 00:13:20,733
You don't have to do something
just because she wants you to.

307
00:13:20,777 --> 00:13:22,910
You know what? You're right.

308
00:13:22,953 --> 00:13:26,217
And just like you
shouldn't let Tina bully you

309
00:13:26,261 --> 00:13:28,393
into talking about your feelings
if you don't want to.

310
00:13:28,437 --> 00:13:31,832
You're right. Nobody forces me
to be a good husband.

311
00:13:33,485 --> 00:13:34,704
Yeah.

312
00:13:34,747 --> 00:13:37,620
Exactly. You know, what our...

313
00:13:37,663 --> 00:13:40,188
[quietly]:
what our wives
need to understand is,

314
00:13:40,231 --> 00:13:42,930
is that our needs are just
as important as theirs.

315
00:13:42,973 --> 00:13:44,279
Damn straight.

316
00:13:44,322 --> 00:13:46,368
Yeah. And until they do,

317
00:13:46,411 --> 00:13:48,805
no matter how mad they get,

318
00:13:48,849 --> 00:13:52,461
or how cold and lonely
the nights may be,

319
00:13:52,504 --> 00:13:55,029
you and I will always be there
to keep each other warm.

320
00:13:59,598 --> 00:14:03,559
I was wrong.
You just forced me.

321
00:14:05,561 --> 00:14:07,650
[knock on door]

322
00:14:07,693 --> 00:14:08,694
Hi, Dr. Chen.

323
00:14:08,738 --> 00:14:09,870
Hey, guys. Come on in.

324
00:14:09,913 --> 00:14:12,176
Sorry we're late.

325
00:14:12,220 --> 00:14:14,570
For some reason, I can't
seem to be on time

326
00:14:14,613 --> 00:14:16,833
for anything these days.

327
00:14:16,877 --> 00:14:18,617
That's okay.
It's no big deal.

328
00:14:18,661 --> 00:14:20,141
Are you sure?

329
00:14:20,184 --> 00:14:21,403
Because I'd hate
for those 32 seconds

330
00:14:21,446 --> 00:14:23,057
to ruin your whole day.

331
00:14:24,972 --> 00:14:28,540
Okay. This is the kind of stuff
that bought me my boat.

332
00:14:28,584 --> 00:14:32,109
Why don't you guys go ahead
and tell me what's going on.

333
00:14:32,153 --> 00:14:34,677
Gemma doesn't take my
feelings into consideration.

334
00:14:34,720 --> 00:14:37,941
Oh, please. He's the one who
doesn't consider my feelings.

335
00:14:37,985 --> 00:14:40,944
Seriously? Just because I
forgot to squeeze out a sponge

336
00:14:40,988 --> 00:14:42,250
one time?

337
00:14:42,293 --> 00:14:43,773
One time, huh?

338
00:14:43,816 --> 00:14:45,340
So when you cleaned up
after lunch today,

339
00:14:45,383 --> 00:14:46,341
you squeezed it out?

340
00:14:46,384 --> 00:14:48,778
Every last drop.

341
00:14:50,040 --> 00:14:53,870
Okay, then, uh,
what's this?

342
00:14:56,612 --> 00:14:59,441
Great, now you bring
your big purse?

343
00:15:00,659 --> 00:15:02,618
Okay, obviously
you two are having

344
00:15:02,661 --> 00:15:04,402
some communication issues.

345
00:15:04,446 --> 00:15:07,884
Gemma, you're unhappy about
that... disgusting sponge.

346
00:15:09,320 --> 00:15:11,714
Dave, what's something
you're unhappy about?

347
00:15:11,757 --> 00:15:14,108
Okay, I'll tell
you something.

348
00:15:14,151 --> 00:15:15,848
I hate that you make me
come to therapy.

349
00:15:15,892 --> 00:15:18,112
What do you mean,
you hate coming to therapy?

350
00:15:18,155 --> 00:15:19,983
That's right. I've hated it
since the beginning.

351
00:15:20,027 --> 00:15:21,463
The only reason I agree
to come here

352
00:15:21,506 --> 00:15:22,986
is because
it's important to you.

353
00:15:23,030 --> 00:15:25,075
Important to me?
The only reason I come here

354
00:15:25,119 --> 00:15:26,903
is because I thought it was
important to you.

355
00:15:26,947 --> 00:15:29,558
Wait. So, you don't
like it either?

356
00:15:29,601 --> 00:15:32,126
Are you kidding?
30 days without sex?

357
00:15:32,169 --> 00:15:33,605
That could kill a girl.

358
00:15:33,649 --> 00:15:35,433
Okay.
[chuckles]

359
00:15:35,477 --> 00:15:37,305
Loving the communication,

360
00:15:37,348 --> 00:15:38,610
but let's not lose sight
of the fact

361
00:15:38,654 --> 00:15:40,090
that you were 32 seconds late.

362
00:15:42,353 --> 00:15:44,921
I feel like such a
jerk for freaking out

363
00:15:44,965 --> 00:15:46,270
over those dumb previews.

364
00:15:46,314 --> 00:15:47,924
You feel like a jerk?

365
00:15:47,968 --> 00:15:50,971
I smuggled a dirty sponge
into our therapy session.

366
00:15:53,103 --> 00:15:55,932
I even added
extra water to it.

367
00:15:55,976 --> 00:15:58,021
Gem, I'm so sorry.

368
00:15:58,065 --> 00:15:59,327
Me, too, sweetie.

369
00:16:00,850 --> 00:16:03,505
Look at that.

370
00:16:03,548 --> 00:16:06,203
Another happy couple who
can see that coming here

371
00:16:06,247 --> 00:16:08,075
is definitely worth the money.

372
00:16:08,118 --> 00:16:11,643
When can we schedule
your next session?

373
00:16:11,687 --> 00:16:13,994
Actually, I think
we're good.

374
00:16:14,037 --> 00:16:16,170
In fact, I think
we should go home

375
00:16:16,213 --> 00:16:18,215
and start making up
for that month we missed.

376
00:16:18,259 --> 00:16:21,697
Right behind you.

377
00:16:21,740 --> 00:16:23,960
And you call yourself a doctor?

378
00:16:24,004 --> 00:16:25,179
People could have died.

379
00:16:30,532 --> 00:16:32,099
Hey, babe.

380
00:16:32,142 --> 00:16:34,318
Hey.

381
00:16:34,362 --> 00:16:37,321
Look, uh, I was thinking,

382
00:16:37,365 --> 00:16:41,543
if you really want to
try that intimacy thing,

383
00:16:41,586 --> 00:16:43,675
I'm willing to give it a shot.

384
00:16:43,719 --> 00:16:46,330
Really?

385
00:16:46,374 --> 00:16:49,203
Aw, thank you, baby.Whoa, whoa, whoa, babe.

386
00:16:49,246 --> 00:16:50,943
If you don't want to
ride the rocket,

387
00:16:50,987 --> 00:16:51,770
don't light the fuse.

388
00:16:51,814 --> 00:16:53,555
[laughs]

389
00:16:53,598 --> 00:16:57,254
So, I was looking
through Dr. Chen's book

390
00:16:57,298 --> 00:16:59,430
and I think we should start off

391
00:16:59,474 --> 00:17:01,650
with an exercise called
"Soul Gazing."

392
00:17:01,693 --> 00:17:03,086
Okay, what's that?

393
00:17:03,130 --> 00:17:04,783
Well, it's simple.
It's where we

394
00:17:04,827 --> 00:17:07,437
look deep into each other's eyes
without talking.

395
00:17:07,482 --> 00:17:09,310
It's supposed to open up

396
00:17:09,353 --> 00:17:11,964
new lines of
nonverbal communication.

397
00:17:12,008 --> 00:17:14,576
All right, okay,
let's do it.

398
00:17:14,619 --> 00:17:17,100
All right, let's go.
All right.
[sighs]

399
00:17:17,144 --> 00:17:18,145
Here we go.

400
00:17:22,888 --> 00:17:24,889
Okay. Okay.

401
00:17:24,934 --> 00:17:26,979
That-That's good, baby.

402
00:17:27,023 --> 00:17:29,156
Uh, but a little more
loving gaze

403
00:17:29,199 --> 00:17:31,636
and less creepy staring contest.

404
00:17:31,680 --> 00:17:33,116
Okay. You know,
I'm not feeling this one.

405
00:17:33,160 --> 00:17:35,423
Uh, let-let's try
a different one.

406
00:17:35,466 --> 00:17:38,339
All right. Well, let's try...

407
00:17:38,382 --> 00:17:41,081
Oh. "Uninterrupted Listening."

408
00:17:41,124 --> 00:17:43,387
It's where we each take turns

409
00:17:43,431 --> 00:17:45,346
talking about our feelings
for five minutes

410
00:17:45,389 --> 00:17:48,784
while the other listens
supportively.

411
00:17:48,827 --> 00:17:50,873
Okay. That sounds easy.

412
00:17:50,916 --> 00:17:52,701
All right. You go first.

413
00:17:52,744 --> 00:17:56,357
Oh. Oh, well, oh, all righty.

414
00:17:56,400 --> 00:17:59,099
Um... well...
[clears throat]

415
00:17:59,142 --> 00:18:00,317
I love you.

416
00:18:00,361 --> 00:18:03,233
Okay.And I love

417
00:18:03,277 --> 00:18:05,453
loving you.

418
00:18:05,496 --> 00:18:07,585
And...

419
00:18:07,629 --> 00:18:10,284
I feel...

420
00:18:10,327 --> 00:18:13,243
like that's been about
five minutes.

421
00:18:13,287 --> 00:18:14,636
Really, Calvin?

422
00:18:14,679 --> 00:18:16,464
Seriously?

423
00:18:16,507 --> 00:18:17,987
We've been together
all this time

424
00:18:18,030 --> 00:18:19,293
and that's all you got?

425
00:18:20,642 --> 00:18:23,297
Do you know how hurtful that is?

426
00:18:23,340 --> 00:18:25,429
You want to talk about hurtful?

427
00:18:25,473 --> 00:18:28,040
How about finding out
after 31 years

428
00:18:28,084 --> 00:18:29,781
your wife doesn't think
your marriage

429
00:18:29,825 --> 00:18:31,653
is as perfect as you do.

430
00:18:31,696 --> 00:18:34,046
What are you talking about?
I love our marriage.

431
00:18:34,090 --> 00:18:35,918
Then why'd you make us
go to that couples therapy?

432
00:18:35,961 --> 00:18:39,400
I mean, we have the best
marriage of anyone I know,

433
00:18:39,443 --> 00:18:41,880
but after one minute
with that doctor,

434
00:18:41,924 --> 00:18:44,231
she made you believe
that we don't.

435
00:18:44,274 --> 00:18:47,538
I just thought that it might
bring us closer together.

436
00:18:47,582 --> 00:18:49,671
Well, I don't think
we can be any closer.

437
00:18:49,714 --> 00:18:53,240
Okay, I may not be able to
"gaze into your soul,"

438
00:18:53,283 --> 00:18:57,200
but when you walk into a room,
I can't take my eyes off you.

439
00:18:57,244 --> 00:19:01,552
And okay, I-I may not be able
to express my feelings

440
00:19:01,596 --> 00:19:03,815
for five minutes,

441
00:19:03,859 --> 00:19:05,513
but that doesn't mean
I'm not thinking about you

442
00:19:05,556 --> 00:19:07,689
every moment of the day.

443
00:19:07,732 --> 00:19:09,343
Really?

444
00:19:09,386 --> 00:19:11,258
Damn right.

445
00:19:11,301 --> 00:19:12,955
And I don't need
some therapist

446
00:19:12,998 --> 00:19:14,304
or a dumb exercise

447
00:19:14,348 --> 00:19:16,393
to tell me how connected
I am to you,

448
00:19:16,437 --> 00:19:19,527
because my heart tells me.

449
00:19:19,570 --> 00:19:21,181
All the time.

450
00:19:22,704 --> 00:19:24,271
See, baby, that's...

451
00:19:24,314 --> 00:19:26,534
that's all
I've been looking for.

452
00:19:26,577 --> 00:19:29,232
[chuckles]
Well, I meant every word.

453
00:19:29,276 --> 00:19:31,974
Mmm. Mm, mm, mm!

454
00:19:32,017 --> 00:19:34,542
[both laughing softly]

455
00:19:34,585 --> 00:19:37,632
You know, maybe this stuff
isn't so bad.

456
00:19:37,675 --> 00:19:39,938
Now that we know
I'm so amazing at it.

457
00:19:39,982 --> 00:19:42,637
[laughing]
All right.

458
00:19:42,680 --> 00:19:44,987
Now that I had my time,
you want your five minutes?

459
00:19:45,030 --> 00:19:47,772
Okay, okay, I just got one more
exercise I want us to do.

460
00:19:47,816 --> 00:19:48,773
What?

461
00:19:48,817 --> 00:19:50,253
Meet me in the bedroom.

462
00:19:50,297 --> 00:19:52,081
Yeah, bring that
cocoa butter.

463
00:19:52,124 --> 00:19:55,432
I want to take a trip
to SeaWorld.

464
00:19:55,476 --> 00:19:58,783
Well, you better put on
your poncho,

465
00:19:58,827 --> 00:20:00,829
'cause you about to be
in the splash zone!

466
00:20:07,183 --> 00:20:10,055
Hey. Let's go, Malcolm.

467
00:20:10,099 --> 00:20:11,405
I've been honking for
five minutes and I am not gonna

468
00:20:11,448 --> 00:20:12,841
be late for Muffin Monday.

469
00:20:14,756 --> 00:20:16,410
Look, I don't care about that.

470
00:20:16,453 --> 00:20:18,281
We need to talk about this
damn therapy book.

471
00:20:18,325 --> 00:20:19,587
Wait, you read it?

472
00:20:19,630 --> 00:20:21,328
Yes, the whole thing.

473
00:20:21,371 --> 00:20:23,286
And there is not a single word
in here

474
00:20:23,330 --> 00:20:25,245
about sibling dynamics.

475
00:20:25,288 --> 00:20:26,637
Yeah, that's 'cause
I made it up.

476
00:20:28,291 --> 00:20:30,859
You say what now?

477
00:20:30,902 --> 00:20:32,556
Well, I just said that
to see if you'd read it,

478
00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:34,602
and since you
did, I know,

479
00:20:34,645 --> 00:20:35,777
no matter how much
you make fun of me,

480
00:20:35,820 --> 00:20:37,257
you care about
my feelings.

481
00:20:39,259 --> 00:20:41,913
Wait, so you tricked me
into wasting five hours

482
00:20:41,957 --> 00:20:43,698
reading this
boring-ass book

483
00:20:43,741 --> 00:20:45,221
just to make yourself
feel good?

484
00:20:45,265 --> 00:20:47,397
Yeah. Fun stuff, huh?

485
00:20:47,441 --> 00:20:49,573
[laughs]

486
00:20:49,617 --> 00:20:52,141
Oh, you know, sometimes
I really hate you.

487
00:20:53,751 --> 00:20:56,972
Yeah, but five hours of reading
says you love me more.

488
00:21:01,193 --> 00:21:03,979
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490
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