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Okay, Calvin, I know
you're not a craft beer man,

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but I think
you might like this one.

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It's locally brewed.

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Wow.

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[chuckles]:
Wow, not bad. Who makes it?

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Me. Right upstairs
in my bathtub.

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Okay, all right.
Come on, Tina, let's go.

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Dave just made me
drink his bathwater.

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Calvin, come on.
Stop. No.

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I-I haven't finished
my wine yet.

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Dave didn't make this
in your toilet, did he?

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No, this is French.

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If anything,
it was made in a bidet.

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Well, I like it.

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Why don't you bring over
another bottle tomorrow night

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and we can hang out?

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I'd love to, but Dave and I
have a date night.

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Yeah, that's right. Tomorrow,
I'll be drinking your bathwater.

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Well, you two seem
extra in love tonight.

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Yeah, knock it off.

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[laughs]

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Yeah, well, we're always
a little extra lovey-dovey

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after we see
our couples therapist.

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Oh, I didn't know
you two went to therapy.

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Y-Yeah, yeah.
Sorry to hear that.

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If they get a divorce,
you get Dave.

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[mouths]

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Don't worry, we're totally fine.

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We just go every now and
then for a little tune-up.

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Dr. Chen is great.

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She's really helped us
communicate.

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It's breathed new life
into our marriage.

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Yeah, uh, speaking
of breathing life,

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I could use some
mouth-to-mouth right now.

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[trills]

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Okay, all right,
I-I don't know if it's them

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or Dave's bath beer,
but I got to throw up.

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♪ Welcome to the block,
welcome to the neighborhood ♪

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♪ Welcome to the hood.

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Hey, boys.Oh, hey.

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Hey, how was y'all night
at the Johnsons'?

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Tina, can I tell them?No. That's none of y...

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Dave and Gemma see a therapist.

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Calvin.

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I'm sorry, babe,

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Dave's funky-ass beer
went straight to my head.

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Oh, wait. Dave and Gemma
see a therapist?

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I didn't know theywas having problems.

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Dave and Gemma are fine.

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I actually have never
seen them so in love.

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It was gross.

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Well, I think it's wonderful.
And I'm thinking,

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in fact, maybe you and I
should give it a try.

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You know? We could always
communicate better.

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What? Babe,we communicate just fine.

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Dad, seriously?

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She just told you not to tell us
about Dave and Gemma,

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and you did it anyway.

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That's different.I heard her, I just ignored it.

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Well, guess what. We're going.

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No, I just said
that I don't want to go.

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I heard you, I just ignored it.

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Hey, honey,
how's it going up there?

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The movie starts
in a half an hour.

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GEMMA: I know. Almost ready.Okay, you know

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we still have to drop offGrover at his sleepover, right?

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I know. Almost ready.Okay.

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And you know I-I hate
to miss the previews.

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She knows. She's almost ready.

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Okay, all ready.Okay, great. Let's go.

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I just need to put on my shoes,touch up my makeup

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and transfer all my stuff
into my tiny purse.

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Well, then,
why'd you come downstairs?

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To tell you that I'm ready.

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I can't believe
I let you drag me in here.

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Come on, Calvin,
keep an open mind.Nah, Tina.

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You know what happens
when you keep an open mind?

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New stuff gets in there.

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Hi, there.

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Sorry to keep you waiting.

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I'm Dr. Chen.Hi.

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I'm Tina Butler. This
is my husband Calvin.

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Hello.

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Okay, then. If you're ready,
how about we jump in?

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How long have you guys
been married?

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31 years.

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And after
all that time together,

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how would you describe
your intimacy?

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[chuckles]:Oh, it's freaky.

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Yeah, at least, you know,
three or four times a week.

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[chuckles]Five if it's slow at the shop.

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[laughs]

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Actually, I was talking about
your emotional intimacy,

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not your physical intimacy.

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But damn.

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Well, uh, what do you mean
by emotional intimacy?

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I mean, how often
you guys sit down

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and connect with each other?

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You know,
talk about your feelings,

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share your vulnerabilities.

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Isn't the point
of getting married

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so you don't
have to do that?

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Well, h-honestly, I don't
remember the last time

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we did that sort of thing.

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Well, in that case,
it sounds like you're using

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physical intimacy
as a substitute

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for connecting
on a deeper level.

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I'd like to suggest
an exercise for couples

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who need to rekindle things
emotionally.

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Okay. W-What is it?

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Abstain from sex for a month.

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[laughs loudly]

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You serious?

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Y-Yes.

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See, Tina? This is why
I keep my mind closed.

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I know it sounds
challenging,

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but it's helped
a lot of my patients.

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You can read
more about it in my book.

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[chuckles]

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You read it.
I'll wait for the movie.

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Excuse me. Sorry. Excuse me.

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Sweetie, slow down.
I'm in heels.

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Well, just kick them off.
The floor is barely sticky.

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[exhales]

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See, Dave?
The movie's just started.

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We didn't miss anything.

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Well, that's not true.
We missed the previews,

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and I didn't have time
to go to the bathroom

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or get my jumbo pretzel.

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[shushes]

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Sorry.

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Sweetie, it's not a big deal.

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If you want a pretzel,
I'll go get it for you.

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Give me your wallet.

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I couldn't fit mine
in my tiny purse.

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Just forget about it.
Let-Let's just sit down.

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It's fine. I don't mind missing
a few minutes of the movie.

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Well, you say that,
but then when you come back,

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you're gonna ask me
what you missed,

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and then we'll be talking
during the movie,

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and I don't want
to be those people.

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Too late, you already are.Sorry.

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Look, I'm sorry
we missed the previews,

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but we're here now
and the movie's just started.

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Can you please
not ruin date night?

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Me? I didn't ruin date night.

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You're the one
who made us late.

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Maybe you should give her
the silent treatment.

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Well, excuse me for wanting
to look nice on our night out.

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Oh, yes, of course.

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'Cause what's more
important than looking nice

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while you're sitting
in a dark movie theater?

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You guys don't
need to see a movie,

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you need to see a therapist.

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BOTH:
We did.

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Can you believe it?

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We just paid $30 for a book

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that's going
straight in the trash.

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[stammers]
Don't throw that out.

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Oh, you know what? You're right.

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Dave's got a birthday coming up.

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Look, Calvin,
I know that you think

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going to see Dr. Chen
was a waste of time,

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but I think she really might
be on to something

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with that abstinence stuff.

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Not have sex for a month?

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People could die from that.

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Seriously, Calvin.

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When was the last time
we just held hands

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and talked about our feelings?

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Okay, you know what?
I can do that.

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I feel...

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that we should go to the bedroom
and do the wild thing.

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Oh, Calvin. No.

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See? Dr. Chen was right.

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We can't even have
a real conversation

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about our emotions without you
going straight to sex.

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Now, c-come on.
I was just playing.

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I mean, of course, unless you
gonna change your answer to yes.

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Calvin, I know
this is gonna be difficult,

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but we have to do this
for the good of our marriage.

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Okay. All right, we can try.

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But I think we both know
you can't go without all this

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for a whole month.

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No. No.

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No!

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I gave up Diet Coke cold turkey.

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I think I'll be just fine.

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This ain't no Diet Coke.

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This is real sugar, baby.

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All right, Marty,
let's hit the gym.

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All right, hold on, let me
just finish this chapter.

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Uh, why are you reading
Mom and Dad's therapy book?

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Because, Malcolm,
our relationship is broken,

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and I, for one, want to fix it.

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You wonder why I tell people
at the gym we not related.

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Now, see?
That's your problem right there.

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According to Dr. Chen, when
it comes to sibling dynamics,

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the older one often feels
entitled to humiliate

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and ridicule
the younger sibling.

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[laughs]:
Yeah, that's fun stuff, huh?

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No, man,
it's highly dysfunctional

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and detrimental
to my self-esteem.

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I'm an adult now,

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and it's time you started
treating me like one.

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Oh, you're an adult?

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Tell that
to your Star Warspajamas.

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Dad, hasn't Malcolm

209
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been picking on
me my whole life?

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Yeah. It's some fun stuff, huh?

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[laughs]

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Man, let's go.

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Fine. But for the record,
it wasn't Star Warspajamas,

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it was loungewear.

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Morning.

216
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Hey. Morning, babe.

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How'd you sleep?
Fine.

218
00:09:06,633 --> 00:09:08,635
Even with you trying
to seduce me all night.

219
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What? Me?

220
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[chuckles] I have no idea
what you talking about.

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Oh, please.

222
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Singing Barry White
in the shower,

223
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wearing your silk boxers to bed.

224
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You had so much cocoa butter on,

225
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I thought I was sleeping
next to a dolphin.

226
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Well, uh, instead
of fighting it,

227
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why don't you let me
butter youup

228
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and we get all SeaWorld
up in here?

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You know what?
I've got a better idea.

230
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How about we sit down
and have breakfast together,

231
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and enjoy
a meaningful conversation?

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Sorry, I-I can't, babe.
I don't have the time.

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I, uh, I got so much stuff
to fix around the house.

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You know.

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Which must be hard on you,

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because, uh, I know
how you love a man

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that can swing his hammer.

238
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You're ridiculous.

239
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Am I?

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[shouting]

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00:10:18,748 --> 00:10:22,491
Come on, Tina. I know
you want... [grunting]

242
00:10:22,534 --> 00:10:23,753
Tina? Oh! Whoa.

243
00:10:26,713 --> 00:10:28,845
I'm gonna have to ease up
on the cocoa butter.

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00:10:34,634 --> 00:10:37,375
Morning.What are you doing here?

245
00:10:37,419 --> 00:10:39,421
I thought you were picking up
Grover from his sleepover.

246
00:10:39,464 --> 00:10:41,292
What are you talking about?
Pickup's not for another hour.

247
00:10:41,336 --> 00:10:43,338
Yeah, but I want you
to have enough time.

248
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I know if you're even a minute
late, your whole day is ruined.

249
00:10:50,345 --> 00:10:51,868
Well, that's very
thoughtful of you.

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I can use
that extra time

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to try on five different outfits

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and transfer my stuff
into my tiny wallet.

253
00:11:00,703 --> 00:11:02,487
Why are you being
such a jerk about this?

254
00:11:02,531 --> 00:11:03,924
It was one movie.

255
00:11:03,967 --> 00:11:05,926
No, no, it's not just one movie.

256
00:11:05,969 --> 00:11:07,928
Okay? It's every time we have
a dinner reservation,

257
00:11:07,971 --> 00:11:10,844
or go see a concert,
or have to be at the airport.

258
00:11:10,887 --> 00:11:13,194
Dave, we have never once
missed a flight because of me.

259
00:11:13,237 --> 00:11:14,804
Yes, that is because I have
never once given you

260
00:11:14,848 --> 00:11:15,805
the correct departure time.

261
00:11:18,416 --> 00:11:20,680
Look, Gemma,
the point is,

262
00:11:20,723 --> 00:11:24,553
is that Dr. Chen said that we
need to take each other's needs

263
00:11:24,596 --> 00:11:27,512
into consideration, and I don't
always feel like you do that.

264
00:11:27,556 --> 00:11:30,124
Oh, like you're any better?

265
00:11:30,167 --> 00:11:32,953
[scoffs]
I'm the most
considerate person I know.

266
00:11:32,996 --> 00:11:35,085
I say "bless you"
to people who sneeze,

267
00:11:35,129 --> 00:11:37,435
cough, even yawn.

268
00:11:37,479 --> 00:11:39,699
Okay, then why do I always
have to ask you

269
00:11:39,742 --> 00:11:41,004
to put the toilet seat down?

270
00:11:41,048 --> 00:11:43,485
Or stop drinking juice
from the carton?

271
00:11:43,528 --> 00:11:45,269
Or the thing I
hate the most:

272
00:11:45,313 --> 00:11:47,663
you never squeeze out
the kitchen sponge.

273
00:11:47,707 --> 00:11:51,101
I always squeeze out the sponge.

274
00:11:51,145 --> 00:11:52,799
Oh, really?

275
00:12:00,676 --> 00:12:04,636
Okay, I forgot one time.

276
00:12:04,680 --> 00:12:06,247
[scoffs]

277
00:12:06,290 --> 00:12:10,425
Not that time
means anything to you.

278
00:12:10,468 --> 00:12:12,949
Well, then I guess neither of us
is as considerate

279
00:12:12,993 --> 00:12:15,822
as we think we are. Which is
why I don't feel bad doing this.

280
00:12:20,043 --> 00:12:22,567
Sponges live
in the ocean, Gemma!

281
00:12:22,611 --> 00:12:24,395
They're supposed to be wet!

282
00:12:28,617 --> 00:12:30,358
Oh, hey, Calvin.

283
00:12:30,401 --> 00:12:32,447
Don't "hey, Calvin" me.

284
00:12:32,490 --> 00:12:35,929
Because of you,
Tina doesn't want to have sex.

285
00:12:35,972 --> 00:12:39,019
What? Even with that tool belt?

286
00:12:41,412 --> 00:12:43,371
Your stupid therapist

287
00:12:43,414 --> 00:12:46,156
says that we're having
intimacy problems

288
00:12:46,200 --> 00:12:48,158
and now she's
cutting me off for a month.

289
00:12:48,202 --> 00:12:50,682
I remember when Dr. Chen
made us do that, too.

290
00:12:50,726 --> 00:12:52,859
It really put the "no"
in November.

291
00:12:54,382 --> 00:12:55,818
Wait a minute.

292
00:12:55,862 --> 00:12:57,254
So you knew about this

293
00:12:57,298 --> 00:12:58,778
and you recommended her anyway?

294
00:12:58,821 --> 00:13:00,214
Well, I had to.

295
00:13:00,257 --> 00:13:01,606
Gemma was sitting right there,

296
00:13:01,650 --> 00:13:03,217
and she loves
going to see Dr. Chen.

297
00:13:03,260 --> 00:13:04,609
Oh, and you don't?

298
00:13:04,653 --> 00:13:06,089
Are you kidding?
No sex for a month?

299
00:13:06,133 --> 00:13:07,047
That could kill a guy.

300
00:13:08,657 --> 00:13:10,485
I know.
I'm already going crazy.

301
00:13:10,528 --> 00:13:12,008
I saw two melons on the counter

302
00:13:12,052 --> 00:13:13,836
and I almost had to
take a cold shower.

303
00:13:17,231 --> 00:13:20,277
Yeah, the worst part is,
is Gemma and I got into a fight

304
00:13:20,321 --> 00:13:22,279
and now she wants us
to go back today.

305
00:13:22,323 --> 00:13:24,804
Well, if you don't want to go,
then don't.

306
00:13:24,847 --> 00:13:27,719
You don't have to do something
just because she wants you to.

307
00:13:27,763 --> 00:13:29,896
You know what? You're right.

308
00:13:29,939 --> 00:13:33,203
And just like you
shouldn't let Tina bully you

309
00:13:33,247 --> 00:13:35,379
into talking about your feelings
if you don't want to.

310
00:13:35,423 --> 00:13:38,818
You're right. Nobody forces me
to be a good husband.

311
00:13:40,471 --> 00:13:41,690
Yeah.

312
00:13:41,733 --> 00:13:44,606
Exactly. You know, what our...

313
00:13:44,649 --> 00:13:47,174
[quietly]:
what our wives
need to understand is,

314
00:13:47,217 --> 00:13:49,916
is that our needs are just
as important as theirs.

315
00:13:49,959 --> 00:13:51,265
Damn straight.

316
00:13:51,308 --> 00:13:53,354
Yeah. And until they do,

317
00:13:53,397 --> 00:13:55,791
no matter how mad they get,

318
00:13:55,835 --> 00:13:59,447
or how cold and lonely
the nights may be,

319
00:13:59,490 --> 00:14:02,015
you and I will always be there
to keep each other warm.

320
00:14:06,584 --> 00:14:10,545
I was wrong.
You just forced me.

321
00:14:12,547 --> 00:14:14,636
[knock on door]

322
00:14:14,679 --> 00:14:15,680
Hi, Dr. Chen.

323
00:14:15,724 --> 00:14:16,856
Hey, guys. Come on in.

324
00:14:16,899 --> 00:14:19,162
Sorry we're late.

325
00:14:19,206 --> 00:14:21,556
For some reason, I can't
seem to be on time

326
00:14:21,599 --> 00:14:23,819
for anything these days.

327
00:14:23,863 --> 00:14:25,603
That's okay.
It's no big deal.

328
00:14:25,647 --> 00:14:27,127
Are you sure?

329
00:14:27,170 --> 00:14:28,389
Because I'd hate
for those 32 seconds

330
00:14:28,432 --> 00:14:30,043
to ruin your whole day.

331
00:14:31,958 --> 00:14:35,526
Okay. This is the kind of stuff
that bought me my boat.

332
00:14:35,570 --> 00:14:39,095
Why don't you guys go ahead
and tell me what's going on.

333
00:14:39,139 --> 00:14:41,663
Gemma doesn't take my
feelings into consideration.

334
00:14:41,706 --> 00:14:44,927
Oh, please. He's the one who
doesn't consider my feelings.

335
00:14:44,971 --> 00:14:47,930
Seriously? Just because I
forgot to squeeze out a sponge

336
00:14:47,974 --> 00:14:49,236
one time?

337
00:14:49,279 --> 00:14:50,759
One time, huh?

338
00:14:50,802 --> 00:14:52,326
So when you cleaned up
after lunch today,

339
00:14:52,369 --> 00:14:53,327
you squeezed it out?

340
00:14:53,370 --> 00:14:55,764
Every last drop.

341
00:14:57,026 --> 00:15:00,856
Okay, then, uh,
what's this?

342
00:15:03,598 --> 00:15:06,427
Great, now you bring
your big purse?

343
00:15:07,645 --> 00:15:09,604
Okay, obviously
you two are having

344
00:15:09,647 --> 00:15:11,388
some communication issues.

345
00:15:11,432 --> 00:15:14,870
Gemma, you're unhappy about
that... disgusting sponge.

346
00:15:16,306 --> 00:15:18,700
Dave, what's something
you're unhappy about?

347
00:15:18,743 --> 00:15:21,094
Okay, I'll tell
you something.

348
00:15:21,137 --> 00:15:22,834
I hate that you make me
come to therapy.

349
00:15:22,878 --> 00:15:25,098
What do you mean,
you hate coming to therapy?

350
00:15:25,141 --> 00:15:26,969
That's right. I've hated it
since the beginning.

351
00:15:27,013 --> 00:15:28,449
The only reason I agree
to come here

352
00:15:28,492 --> 00:15:29,972
is because
it's important to you.

353
00:15:30,016 --> 00:15:32,061
Important to me?
The only reason I come here

354
00:15:32,105 --> 00:15:33,889
is because I thought it was
important to you.

355
00:15:33,933 --> 00:15:36,544
Wait. So, you don't
like it either?

356
00:15:36,587 --> 00:15:39,112
Are you kidding?
30 days without sex?

357
00:15:39,155 --> 00:15:40,591
That could kill a girl.

358
00:15:40,635 --> 00:15:42,419
Okay.
[chuckles]

359
00:15:42,463 --> 00:15:44,291
Loving the communication,

360
00:15:44,334 --> 00:15:45,596
but let's not lose sight
of the fact

361
00:15:45,640 --> 00:15:47,076
that you were 32 seconds late.

362
00:15:49,339 --> 00:15:51,907
I feel like such a
jerk for freaking out

363
00:15:51,951 --> 00:15:53,256
over those dumb previews.

364
00:15:53,300 --> 00:15:54,910
You feel like a jerk?

365
00:15:54,954 --> 00:15:57,957
I smuggled a dirty sponge
into our therapy session.

366
00:16:00,089 --> 00:16:02,918
I even added
extra water to it.

367
00:16:02,962 --> 00:16:05,007
Gem, I'm so sorry.

368
00:16:05,051 --> 00:16:06,313
Me, too, sweetie.

369
00:16:07,836 --> 00:16:10,491
Look at that.

370
00:16:10,534 --> 00:16:13,189
Another happy couple who
can see that coming here

371
00:16:13,233 --> 00:16:15,061
is definitely worth the money.

372
00:16:15,104 --> 00:16:18,629
When can we schedule
your next session?

373
00:16:18,673 --> 00:16:20,980
Actually, I think
we're good.

374
00:16:21,023 --> 00:16:23,156
In fact, I think
we should go home

375
00:16:23,199 --> 00:16:25,201
and start making up
for that month we missed.

376
00:16:25,245 --> 00:16:28,683
Right behind you.

377
00:16:28,726 --> 00:16:30,946
And you call yourself a doctor?

378
00:16:30,990 --> 00:16:32,165
People could have died.

379
00:16:37,518 --> 00:16:39,085
Hey, babe.

380
00:16:39,128 --> 00:16:41,304
Hey.

381
00:16:41,348 --> 00:16:44,307
Look, uh, I was thinking,

382
00:16:44,351 --> 00:16:48,529
if you really want to
try that intimacy thing,

383
00:16:48,572 --> 00:16:50,661
I'm willing to give it a shot.

384
00:16:50,705 --> 00:16:53,316
Really?

385
00:16:53,360 --> 00:16:56,189
Aw, thank you, baby.Whoa, whoa, whoa, babe.

386
00:16:56,232 --> 00:16:57,929
If you don't want to
ride the rocket,

387
00:16:57,973 --> 00:16:58,756
don't light the fuse.

388
00:16:58,800 --> 00:17:00,541
[laughs]

389
00:17:00,584 --> 00:17:04,240
So, I was looking
through Dr. Chen's book

390
00:17:04,284 --> 00:17:06,416
and I think we should start off

391
00:17:06,460 --> 00:17:08,636
with an exercise called
"Soul Gazing."

392
00:17:08,679 --> 00:17:10,072
Okay, what's that?

393
00:17:10,116 --> 00:17:11,769
Well, it's simple.
It's where we

394
00:17:11,813 --> 00:17:14,424
look deep into each other's eyes
without talking.

395
00:17:14,468 --> 00:17:16,296
It's supposed to open up

396
00:17:16,339 --> 00:17:18,950
new lines of
nonverbal communication.

397
00:17:18,994 --> 00:17:21,562
All right, okay,
let's do it.

398
00:17:21,605 --> 00:17:24,086
All right, let's go.
All right.
[sighs]

399
00:17:24,130 --> 00:17:25,131
Here we go.

400
00:17:29,874 --> 00:17:31,876
Okay. Okay.

401
00:17:31,920 --> 00:17:33,965
That-That's good, baby.

402
00:17:34,009 --> 00:17:36,142
Uh, but a little more
loving gaze

403
00:17:36,185 --> 00:17:38,622
and less creepy staring contest.

404
00:17:38,666 --> 00:17:40,102
Okay. You know,
I'm not feeling this one.

405
00:17:40,146 --> 00:17:42,409
Uh, let-let's try
a different one.

406
00:17:42,452 --> 00:17:45,325
All right. Well, let's try...

407
00:17:45,368 --> 00:17:48,067
Oh. "Uninterrupted Listening."

408
00:17:48,110 --> 00:17:50,373
It's where we each take turns

409
00:17:50,417 --> 00:17:52,332
talking about our feelings
for five minutes

410
00:17:52,375 --> 00:17:55,770
while the other listens
supportively.

411
00:17:55,813 --> 00:17:57,859
Okay. That sounds easy.

412
00:17:57,902 --> 00:17:59,687
All right. You go first.

413
00:17:59,730 --> 00:18:03,343
Oh. Oh, well, oh, all righty.

414
00:18:03,386 --> 00:18:06,085
Um... well...
[clears throat]

415
00:18:06,128 --> 00:18:07,303
I love you.

416
00:18:07,347 --> 00:18:10,219
Okay.And I love

417
00:18:10,263 --> 00:18:12,439
loving you.

418
00:18:12,482 --> 00:18:14,571
And...

419
00:18:14,615 --> 00:18:17,270
I feel...

420
00:18:17,313 --> 00:18:20,229
like that's been about
five minutes.

421
00:18:20,273 --> 00:18:21,622
Really, Calvin?

422
00:18:21,665 --> 00:18:23,450
Seriously?

423
00:18:23,493 --> 00:18:24,973
We've been together
all this time

424
00:18:25,016 --> 00:18:26,279
and that's all you got?

425
00:18:27,628 --> 00:18:30,283
Do you know how hurtful that is?

426
00:18:30,326 --> 00:18:32,415
You want to talk about hurtful?

427
00:18:32,459 --> 00:18:35,026
How about finding out
after 31 years

428
00:18:35,070 --> 00:18:36,767
your wife doesn't think
your marriage

429
00:18:36,811 --> 00:18:38,639
is as perfect as you do.

430
00:18:38,682 --> 00:18:41,032
What are you talking about?
I love our marriage.

431
00:18:41,076 --> 00:18:42,904
Then why'd you make us
go to that couples therapy?

432
00:18:42,947 --> 00:18:46,386
I mean, we have the best
marriage of anyone I know,

433
00:18:46,429 --> 00:18:48,866
but after one minute
with that doctor,

434
00:18:48,910 --> 00:18:51,217
she made you believe
that we don't.

435
00:18:51,260 --> 00:18:54,524
I just thought that it might
bring us closer together.

436
00:18:54,568 --> 00:18:56,657
Well, I don't think
we can be any closer.

437
00:18:56,700 --> 00:19:00,226
Okay, I may not be able to
"gaze into your soul,"

438
00:19:00,269 --> 00:19:04,186
but when you walk into a room,
I can't take my eyes off you.

439
00:19:04,230 --> 00:19:08,538
And okay, I-I may not be able
to express my feelings

440
00:19:08,582 --> 00:19:10,801
for five minutes,

441
00:19:10,845 --> 00:19:12,499
but that doesn't mean
I'm not thinking about you

442
00:19:12,542 --> 00:19:14,675
every moment of the day.

443
00:19:14,718 --> 00:19:16,329
Really?

444
00:19:16,372 --> 00:19:18,244
Damn right.

445
00:19:18,287 --> 00:19:19,941
And I don't need
some therapist

446
00:19:19,984 --> 00:19:21,290
or a dumb exercise

447
00:19:21,334 --> 00:19:23,379
to tell me how connected
I am to you,

448
00:19:23,423 --> 00:19:26,513
because my heart tells me.

449
00:19:26,556 --> 00:19:28,167
All the time.

450
00:19:29,690 --> 00:19:31,257
See, baby, that's...

451
00:19:31,300 --> 00:19:33,520
that's all
I've been looking for.

452
00:19:33,563 --> 00:19:36,218
[chuckles]
Well, I meant every word.

453
00:19:36,262 --> 00:19:38,960
Mmm. Mm, mm, mm!

454
00:19:39,003 --> 00:19:41,528
[both laughing softly]

455
00:19:41,571 --> 00:19:44,618
You know, maybe this stuff
isn't so bad.

456
00:19:44,661 --> 00:19:46,924
Now that we know
I'm so amazing at it.

457
00:19:46,968 --> 00:19:49,623
[laughing]
All right.

458
00:19:49,666 --> 00:19:51,973
Now that I had my time,
you want your five minutes?

459
00:19:52,016 --> 00:19:54,758
Okay, okay, I just got one more
exercise I want us to do.

460
00:19:54,802 --> 00:19:55,759
What?

461
00:19:55,803 --> 00:19:57,239
Meet me in the bedroom.

462
00:19:57,283 --> 00:19:59,067
Yeah, bring that
cocoa butter.

463
00:19:59,110 --> 00:20:02,418
I want to take a trip
to SeaWorld.

464
00:20:02,462 --> 00:20:05,769
Well, you better put on
your poncho,

465
00:20:05,813 --> 00:20:07,815
'cause you about to be
in the splash zone!

466
00:20:14,169 --> 00:20:17,041
Hey. Let's go, Malcolm.

467
00:20:17,085 --> 00:20:18,391
I've been honking for
five minutes and I am not gonna

468
00:20:18,434 --> 00:20:19,827
be late for Muffin Monday.

469
00:20:21,742 --> 00:20:23,396
Look, I don't care about that.

470
00:20:23,439 --> 00:20:25,267
We need to talk about this
damn therapy book.

471
00:20:25,311 --> 00:20:26,573
Wait, you read it?

472
00:20:26,616 --> 00:20:28,314
Yes, the whole thing.

473
00:20:28,357 --> 00:20:30,272
And there is not a single word
in here

474
00:20:30,316 --> 00:20:32,231
about sibling dynamics.

475
00:20:32,274 --> 00:20:33,623
Yeah, that's 'cause
I made it up.

476
00:20:35,277 --> 00:20:37,845
You say what now?

477
00:20:37,888 --> 00:20:39,542
Well, I just said that
to see if you'd read it,

478
00:20:39,586 --> 00:20:41,588
and since you
did, I know,

479
00:20:41,631 --> 00:20:42,763
no matter how much
you make fun of me,

480
00:20:42,806 --> 00:20:44,243
you care about
my feelings.

481
00:20:46,245 --> 00:20:48,899
Wait, so you tricked me
into wasting five hours

482
00:20:48,943 --> 00:20:50,684
reading this
boring-ass book

483
00:20:50,727 --> 00:20:52,207
just to make yourself
feel good?

484
00:20:52,251 --> 00:20:54,383
Yeah. Fun stuff, huh?

485
00:20:54,427 --> 00:20:56,559
[laughs]

486
00:20:56,603 --> 00:20:59,127
Oh, you know, sometimes
I really hate you.

487
00:21:00,737 --> 00:21:03,958
Yeah, but five hours of reading
says you love me more.

488
00:21:08,179 --> 00:21:10,965
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489
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490
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