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♪ Been through it all
But we came out clean ♪
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♪ They said we walked through hell
And made it back again ♪
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♪ So come on, come on… ♪
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-[tablet chiming]
-[Antoni] Neon.
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-Sit. No, no, no.
-Oh.
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Hey, guys. We've got a new hero.
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Make room for Tanny.
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[Karamo] Really?
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-Yeah!
-[Jonathan] Yay.
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-[Antoni] Give Tan space.
-[Tan] Come on.
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-Come on. Can I sit down?
-Good girl.
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Thank you, sweetheart.
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-Don't bite.
-All right, guys.
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Our hero this week,
his name is Chris Baker.
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"He is 36 years old,
and he lives here in Austin, Texas."
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I would describe myself as a tattooed,
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no-good, potty-mouthed
humanitarian. [chuckles]
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"He is an advocate for the homeless."
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-Wow, good.
-Yeah.
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-[Karamo] Nice.
-Such important work.
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And we have a little clip.
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[woman] The Other Ones Foundation
gives the homeless a living wage
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to clean various parts of the city.
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Chris Baker is the executive director.
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The sense of community, the sense
of belonging, the sense of dignity
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is really where the magic happens.
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I am the founder and executive director
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of a homelessness service nonprofit
called the Other Ones Foundation.
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We believe that housing is a human right.
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How's the showers going?
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This was broken before,
but we actually fixed it up,
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and now water is flowing smoothly.
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We offer hygiene facilities
and food access
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to help give them a dignified existence
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as they sort of make that journey
out of homelessness.
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You know, to be able to help these people
get their dignity back is a huge thing.
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I cannot wait to meet Chris.
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This is awesome.
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[Bobby] All right, peoples.
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"Our hero is a dedicated dad.
He is married to Elizabeth."
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-"They have two children, five and eight."
-[Tan] Cute.
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[Bobby] "And he was nominated by Liz,
Chris' wife."
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He is one of the most compassionate
and kind people that I know.
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At the same time, I don't think
he gives himself that same kindness.
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"Chris has been insecure
about his weight his entire life,
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and recently received
gastric bypass surgery."
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"But hasn't bought clothes
to match his new shrinking body."
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Okay.
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[Chris] It was just four months ago
that I was, like, almost 400 pounds.
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So, like, nothing I have really fits me.
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Hmm.
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[Bobby] "Chris spends
about 18 hours a day working."
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"He never dresses professionally
for meetings with investors
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and is self-conscious that
it prevents him from finding more funds
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to help the deprived community he serves."
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It's nothing that
a French tuck cannot fix.
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-[playing rock tune]
-Hey… ready. One, two, ready, and… G.
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[Bobby] "Chris fears
nothing he does is ever enough."
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"His wife worries that if he doesn't take
better care of himself, he will burn out."
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[Liz] He cares so deeply
for the organization and the people
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that he really struggles
to peel himself away.
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[Karamo] What I think
is important for anybody
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who works
in any social services-type jobs,
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you have to remember that
there has to be a work-life balance,
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or you're gonna
start seeing yourself drifting away
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from things that you love outside of work.
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My mom, who died about
five years ago, said to me,
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"The only true measure
of a successful person
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is how they make
the people around them feel."
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That really became
really deeply ingrained in me.
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Chris' mom's passing
was extremely difficult.
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We had purchased the house,
and me, Chris and the kids had moved in,
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and then she came home
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and was here
for five days before she passed.
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That was a really difficult way
to start out our time here in this house,
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and I know that Chris
really didn't want to be here.
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At the end of the week,
Chris has a really big event going on.
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He is presenting
in front of a bunch of people
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to get donations to raise
$6 million for his organization.
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It'll be a big kickoff
with lots of people.
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And the goal right now is to get funding
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for the 200-unit
transitional shelter complex
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that we're building
at the Esperanza Community.
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But if we don't get the funding,
then everything falls apart.
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[Liz] I think Chris needs help now
more than any other time
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because there's all of this pressure
around this event.
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He needs to have that self-confidence
and feel good about himself.
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So, our mission this week, guys.
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-Yep.
-Yeah?
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"Let's help this unconfident
housing advocate
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give back to himself for a change."
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[all shouting] Yeah!
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-Yeah!
-Yeah!
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[all yelling]
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[Bobby screams]
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-[Jonathan] Girl.
-[Tan laughing]
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[theme music playing]
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♪ Better
All things just keep getting better ♪
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[upbeat pop music playing]
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You know that building we built,
we've been calling it "the kitchen"?
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We closed it off
so that Free Lunch can start
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coming out there
and cooking meals every day.
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Hearty, healthy meals.
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-[Tan] Is this it?
-[Bobby] Yeah, this is it.
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-Yeah.
-Okay. Yay!
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So, one of the problems,
like, in my opinion,
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is that, like, maybe that
emergent need has passed.
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[Bobby] We're here!
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-Hello.
-Hello.
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-[Bobby] Hey, how's it going, guys?
-[cheering]
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-Wow.
-[Tan] Chris, nice to meet you. I'm Tan.
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-Hey!
-Lovely to meet you.
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-Yeah.
-Gimme a hug.
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-Hey, great to meet you.
-[Jonathan] Oh, my God.
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Oh, thank you. What is your name?
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Chris literally has absolutely
no idea what the hell is going on.
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Has no idea how this operates,
no clue what we do.
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I could tell him that Tan is gonna be
remodeling his office.
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He would be like, "Great, let's go!"
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What are we doing here?
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So, this is one of our offices.
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This is where we run
our Workforce First program out of.
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Put about anywhere from,
like, 60 to 70 people
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that are experiencing homelessness
into jobsites every day.
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-Wow!
-[Chris] So that's what happens here.
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You're doing so much good.
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-[Chris] Oh, thank you.
-Yes.
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-Well, we--
-[woman] He is.
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One of the things that sticks out about
the community space, it's quite empty.
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For a space
that's welcoming people in every day,
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I think it's a little unwelcoming.
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I wanna help change that.
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We would love to hear from some of you
who actually work with Chris.
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Why does he deserve our help?
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Why do we love Chris,
and what he needs help with?
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Get him a suit for the fundraising event.
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-I like that.
-We need this guy looking sharp.
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[man] And I think
for someone like Chris, like,
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we're all here because of this message
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that Chris has kind of, like,
birthed and started, right?
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[Karamo] Yeah.
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[Jared] That message is the fact that,
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like, we just believe that
all persons are inherently valuable.
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And for Chris, he deserves and ought
to be a person who can step out boldly
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with confidence,
to be able to share that message.
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-Love! Do you wanna join our crew?
-[Antoni] So well said.
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-[laughs]
-[Tan] That's so nice.
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Is it hard for you to hear people
talking about how amazing you are?
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-Uh, yeah.
-[all laughing]
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All right, I'm gonna, like, fan you off,
queen. Is that okay. Oh, my God.
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Chris seems nervous because I can tell
he is not used to being in the spotlight.
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But this week, it is all about Chris,
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because Chris is
the man in front of it all,
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and we want to make Chris think of himself
the way everybody else thinks of him.
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Shall we get a little tour?
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-[Chris] Yeah, so, uh, here's our kitchen.
-[Bobby] Kitchen.
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-I like the '50s cabinets. [chuckles]
-[Chris] Yep.
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So, fortunately, we're not, like,
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trying to use this place
to cook Thanksgiving dinner.
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It's really just because
we provide lunches.
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So, all that's really happening is we're
putting together sandwiches, assembling--
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So you need easy assembly in here.
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-Correct. Yeah.
-[Jonathan] Okay.
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Is this the coffee maker that makes
coffee for all these people?
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-Isn't that so crazy?
-[Tan] Oh, my God.
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I thought I bought another coffee maker.
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One of the chief complaints that we get
is that there's never enough coffee here.
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Can people come donate food if they want?
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Like, at locations or…
I'm sure we'll talk about…
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-Yeah.
-[Jonathan] I know we have subjects--
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We gotta get to his house.
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Yeah, we'd love to see
your house next, please, if you could.
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-You wanna go to my house? Okay.
-[Bobby] Absolutely.
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-[Jonathan] Your house is gorgeous.
-[Chris] Oh, thank you.
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All right. Here it is.
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-[Jonathan] Look at this cuteness.
-[Bobby laughs] Oh, my--
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-[Chris] Liz is home!
-[clamoring]
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-Hey, hi.
-Hi!
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-[Tan] Hi!
-[Bobby] I'm Bobby. Nice to meet you.
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[Jonathan] You are slaying
the food prep game.
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-That means you're doing really well.
-Yes.
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-[laughing]
-[Tan] How old are you?
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Eight. Uh eight. Yeah.
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And you're helping Mom prepare dinner?
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-[daughter] Mm-hmm.
-[Tan] That's nice.
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[Jonathan] Oh, my gosh! You guys
have such a cute couple cuddle.
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I'm sorry. I just had to say it.
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You fit in his nook so well, so cute.
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Anyway, I'm sorry.
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-No, that's okay.
-Sorry!
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-[laughing]
-[Bobby] So, do you wanna show us around?
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-[Chris] Sure. Walk… walk this way.
-[laughing]
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-[Chris] This is our living room.
-[Bobby] Nice.
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[Chris] We painted this, this color
because it was real into the ocean.
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[Bobby] So, the focal point
of the room is the blue wall.
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But the blue has got to go.
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-[playing notes]
-[Karamo] Wow.
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-[Chris] Yeah.
-Dad's a musician.
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-[Tan] Can I play on this?
-[Chris] Sure, no problem.
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[Karamo] Wow. So music is a passion
outside of the advocacy work that you do.
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Yes, but we're so busy
with The Other Ones Foundation,
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I don't get to spend much time here.
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[Jonathan] Cover your ears, queen.
It's about to get loud.
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-Five, six, five, six, seven, eight.
-[scatting]
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Girl, the five of us together
can do a lot of things.
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[scatting continues]
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♪ Queer Eye… ♪
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But harmonizing is not one of them.
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I quit this band.
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-[cymbal crashes]
-[Chris] Yeah!
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-[Jonathan] Let's go upstairs.
-[Chris] Are we going?
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You cannot have
chicken nuggets without ketchup.
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[chuckling]
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[Bobby] Not afraid of color in this house.
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-Okay.
-[Tan] It's a massive room. Beautiful.
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Bobby is stressed out about--
I feel it. It's fine, Bobby.
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Well, because red is a color
that actually causes anxiety and stress.
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-[imitates whirring, laughs]
-Stop.
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[Antoni] Oh, my gosh,
so many nutrition shakes.
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[camera shutter clicks]
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We're what my therapist refers to
as pathologically codependent.
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[boy] Smile.
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-Okay. So, what's this story?
-[camera shutter clicks]
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-Oh, that's from dyeing my hair.
-Ooh!
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We were adventurous, hunty.
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-[Chris] Yeah.
-Let's see what's going on.
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-Okay. So, there's the whispers.
-Yeah.
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Are we vibing the bleach and tone?
Do you like it?
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I'd like for it to go away, probably.
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Oh, your hair is quite salt-and-pepper.
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Okay. So, show me your stuff.
What happened?
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-[Tan] Can I intrude?
-[screams]
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-I will rip your top off you.
-I just--
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-[laughing]
-[Antoni] Thank you so much.
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Althea, would you like some ice cream?
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I'm surprisingly full, but I can't say no.
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I feel you. I understand you. I see you.
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So, how has it changed since
his procedure, like, having meals?
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What do you, like, typically-- I see,
like, there are smoothies on the counter.
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Is that, like,
a big part of his daily diet?
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Yeah, breakfast especially
has been the protein shakes.
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But he's really not eating with, I think,
like, the regularity that's recommended,
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which is, like, these teeny-tiny meals.
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-Which is tough.
-[Liz] Yeah.
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So, you have lost
a lot of weight recently.
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Are you feeling
more confident in your skin
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now you've gotten down to a closer weight
that you wanted to be at?
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Um, yeah, I mean, I think I still
have kind of a long way to go.
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Okay, so I would like to know,
what do you wanna look like?
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-I know that's a hard question to answer.
-Yeah.
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I wanna look like
a person who's capable…
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and able to do what I do.
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Because it's clear you already are
that person who's capable,
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'cause you are killing shit out there.
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-You're doing an incredible job.
-Yeah.
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But we're launching a fundraising campaign
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to build a very innovative
shelter complex.
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-Great.
-And let's just be honest.
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Some people are gonna
look at me and they're gonna be like,
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"Whatever organization that guy runs
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is not the organization
I'm gonna donate a million dollars to."
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So, like, how do we find that balance?
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-That's maybe something to think about.
-Yeah. Absolutely.
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-[rock music playing]
-♪ I'm making a change ♪
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♪ I send out prayers… ♪
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The thing about their house,
you can tell it's lacking some TLC.
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There's some cabinet doors
that are missing.
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There's wires hanging out
of some appliances.
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♪ We're making a change ♪
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Who's Chris at work,
and who's Chris at home?
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I like to think that
they're fundamentally the same.
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-Mm-hmm.
-But it's something that Liz brought up.
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I have this big, long list
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of important things that need
to be taken care of all the time.
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And I tend
to be the very last thing on that list.
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Yeah. So, this week, it's okay
for it just to be about you.
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[Chris] That's one of the nicest things
that anybody's ever said to me.
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-Thank you for that.
-You're welcome.
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So, how long have you been putting
yourself at the bottom of your list?
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[sighs] You know,
there's, like, a point in my history
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when I was experiencing, like,
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varying degrees of substance use disorder.
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-I've had that as a part of my past.
-Yeah.
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And we naturally, in that condition,
put ourselves before everything else.
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And so I deal with a lot of, like,
shame and regret from that,
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and that's very difficult.
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Like, just saying that is, like,
very hard for me to acknowledge that.
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Yeah, I appreciate that vulnerability.
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Substance abuse
does make you feel inherently
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like everything you're doing is selfish.
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But what I do also know
about, like, addiction is that
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it also helps you to escape.
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Sure.
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If you don't mind sharing,
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what were some of the things
you were trying to escape?
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[chuckles] I feel like I'm belaboring
this point every time I talk to somebody,
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but, like, this house was the product
of my mom being sick.
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And so we bought this house with
the plan of all of us living together.
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Yeah.
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But her cancer
metastasized into her brain.
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She went into the hospital,
and then that was it.
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The only time then she ever lived
in this house was under hospice care,
303
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and she was completely out of it.
And then the nurses come and they go,
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"Here's a half gallon bottle
of liquid morphine. Here you go."
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"Then you take this and crush the pills up
and then you pour the morphine in,
306
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and then you take that out
and you treat those symptoms…"
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"Death may be a side effect of that,
but you treat those symptoms."
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But there's always been this little voice
in my head calling me a murderer for it.
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-Yeah.
-So, I'm going through this process.
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As I'm doing it, all of these drugs
are getting into my system too.
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A little for me, a little for you.
A little for me, a little for you.
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And that morphine…
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the Ativan, the Xanax,
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that shit completely came
to completely ruin my life…
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Yeah.
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…for a good period of time
after that, man.
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So… [clears throat]
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-Where the guilt and shame come from.
-Yeah.
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Yeah, I understand.
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There's guilt and shame wrapped around it,
just like being a big, fat guy, like…
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-It just is.
-Yeah.
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So…
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There's that too.
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So, it makes sense to me.
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-Yeah.
-Like, thank you for sharing that.
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It helps me to understand where you are
in your life and what you've been through
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and also hearing that story
about the house that we're in now,
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a lot of that is attached to this house.
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So, every day you walk in this house,
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you feel and experience
all those things unconsciously.
331
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-Oh, yeah.
-Can I have a hug?
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-Oh. I appreciate you.
-Thanks, man.
333
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-[Karamo] We're gonna have fun.
-Thank you, again.
334
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[Karamo] You're welcome.
335
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-[Chris] I'm glad we're getting to meet.
-Yeah, me too.
336
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Chris, thank you so much
for spending time with us today.
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I think we've
all really found an opportunity
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to understand what it is
that we can help you with.
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-All right.
-[Bobby] I got a few projects.
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-[Tan] Shall we get on with our week?
-Yes.
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-Wonderful! All right!
-[laughing]
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Let's get out of here. Let's do this!
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[Karamo] I just love that you have
no idea what's going on.
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I have no… idea. Like…
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-[laughing]
-That's the best. We love that.
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We really do.
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-You ready?
-[Chris] Let's go do it.
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[pop music playing]
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♪ Maybe we are just the same… ♪
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Unfortunately, we still live in a world
where people judge us by the way we look.
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So, I wanna empower Chris with
different looks, different vibes, like,
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level up the style game so that we can
also level up our fundraising game.
353
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[Tan] My main goal for Chris is that
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I want him to see how his new body looks
in clothes that actually fit him.
355
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I want Chris
to see himself the way I see him.
356
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Chris doesn't necessarily
have the information
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as to vitamins and the amount
of protein that he should be having.
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I wanna make sure that he's getting
what his body actually needs right now.
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Chris and Liz have spent
so much time helping others
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that they haven't really had time
to make their house a home.
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But in order for him
to keep helping people,
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he needs a place where he can recharge
with his amazingly wonderful family.
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Chris doesn't think that he's worthy
to take the time for himself.
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That's why he's always focusing
and trying to help everyone else.
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But I want Chris to understand,
it's okay to take time for you.
366
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That's when you start
to get a balanced life.
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-[pop music playing]
-♪ It's just beginning ♪
368
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♪ A brand-new day ♪
369
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[Bobby] Those tomatoes look delicious.
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-What do you want me to do?
-You can check on the toaster.
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I just want them lightly toasted.
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[Bobby] Lightly.
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So, I got some deli turkey.
We have some provolone.
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-I have a bit of pesto and mayo.
-Mmm!
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And then I got some really nice
organic bread. I love a good sandwich.
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Me too. It reminds me of home.
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00:17:31,301 --> 00:17:34,513
Are you gonna bring these to Chris
and all of the residents of Esperanza?
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I am gonna go help
build one of their shelters.
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-Nice!
-And I am gonna bring some sandwiches too.
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[Antoni] Who are you gonna tell them
made the sandwiches?
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[Bobby] Me.
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-And Antoni. [laughs]
-Yeah.
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[Chris] Okay, so right now
we're going to the main encampment.
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As you can see,
lots of services still needed here.
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This is where people
are mostly tent camping
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and living in built structures
like these ones you see over here.
387
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Accumulation of garbage is a major issue.
388
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[Bobby] How many people
at any given time live here?
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It fluctuates between, like,
160 and maybe, like, 190, 200.
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00:18:11,049 --> 00:18:13,510
[Bobby] What was it
that inspired you to do this?
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Liz was a social worker,
and she worked with this population,
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and I brushed up against
being a member of this population
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at one time in my life.
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Same.
395
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I think if more people took
the time to actually realize
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the problem isn't the people,
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the problem is
a lot of things in our society.
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This is not like,
poof, this just happened.
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Right.
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This is the inevitable result
of a great many societal problems.
401
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[Bobby] If this pandemic
has taught us anything,
402
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it's that there so many people
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that are literally one check away
from homelessness.
404
00:18:43,331 --> 00:18:44,291
Oh, 100%.
405
00:18:44,875 --> 00:18:47,711
Here is the beginnings
of a shelter complex back here.
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[Bobby] This is what you're doing
the fundraising for?
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[Chris] Yeah, yeah, for 200 of those.
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The only work out here that wasn't done
by residents was the electrical install.
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[Bobby] The residents
are actually the ones that are--
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They're getting paid to do so, right?
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00:18:58,722 --> 00:18:59,764
-Correct.
-That's awesome.
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[Chris] Here we are. Oh, look,
everyone's here. This is exciting.
413
00:19:04,644 --> 00:19:06,813
-Hello!
-Hey, how's it going?
414
00:19:06,897 --> 00:19:08,231
-Welcome.
-[Bobby] Good to see you.
415
00:19:08,315 --> 00:19:10,650
-Welcome to Esperanza.
-Hi, guys.
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00:19:10,734 --> 00:19:13,028
It's good to see you, brother.
This is looking good.
417
00:19:13,111 --> 00:19:14,487
[Jared] Our foreman here. Enrique.
418
00:19:14,571 --> 00:19:16,990
Enrique, how long does it take
to put one of these together?
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About six hours.
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That's not bad. Six hours for a house.
What can I do to help?
421
00:19:21,745 --> 00:19:23,580
The shelters are not permanent housing.
422
00:19:23,663 --> 00:19:25,832
Like, they were built for, like, refugees,
423
00:19:25,916 --> 00:19:30,712
and this is the first time these shelters
have ever been used in America.
424
00:19:30,795 --> 00:19:33,673
Which says a lot about
where America is right now.
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Got it. Thank you, Enrique.
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[Enrique] You gotta
put the bracket in there.
427
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[Bobby] But that's
why Chris wants to do even more
428
00:19:40,222 --> 00:19:42,766
by raising almost $6 million
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to make more permanent structures
for this community.
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We'll be able to build 200 of those
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and then have neighborhoods
of 50 shelter units,
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and then bathrooms and showers
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and a place to prepare food
and, like, a gathering space in each node.
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A community where they can thrive
and that they can raise themselves up.
435
00:20:02,744 --> 00:20:04,204
-There you go.
-Gonna take these.
436
00:20:04,287 --> 00:20:06,623
-An Antoni special.
-[laughs] Oh, awesome.
437
00:20:06,706 --> 00:20:10,085
For people like Chris out there
who have said, "Enough is enough,"
438
00:20:10,168 --> 00:20:12,545
and they're doing whatever they can…
439
00:20:12,629 --> 00:20:17,217
God, we need thousands of Chrises
because these people deserve a home.
440
00:20:17,300 --> 00:20:18,551
All right!
441
00:20:18,635 --> 00:20:21,012
-Good job. Look at all those brackets!
-[laughs]
442
00:20:21,096 --> 00:20:23,556
-[rock music playing]
-♪ You're gonna be all right ♪
443
00:20:23,640 --> 00:20:26,726
-♪ Ooh-hoo! ♪
-♪ Everything is gonna go your way ♪
444
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[Neon barks]
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-[Antoni] After you.
-[Chris] Ah.
446
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[Antoni] I'm excited.
This is a great spot.
447
00:20:32,649 --> 00:20:33,984
[Chris] Let's do it.
448
00:20:34,067 --> 00:20:35,485
-Okay.
-Mmm.
449
00:20:35,568 --> 00:20:37,070
[Antoni] The goal is to kind of, like,
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figure out how
we can get a lot of nutrients
451
00:20:39,322 --> 00:20:41,658
and vitamins and all the stuff
that your body actually needs,
452
00:20:41,741 --> 00:20:44,244
but in, like, very compressed,
like, concentrated amounts
453
00:20:44,327 --> 00:20:45,996
without irritating your body.
454
00:20:46,079 --> 00:20:49,124
Chris physically can't consume
as much food as he used to
455
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because of this procedure.
456
00:20:50,583 --> 00:20:54,045
But right now, liquids are
very easy for his body to process.
457
00:20:54,129 --> 00:20:56,548
There are many reasons
why I make my own protein drinks.
458
00:20:56,631 --> 00:20:57,924
It's really not that complicated.
459
00:20:58,008 --> 00:21:00,302
So, that's kind of
what I'm, like, here to show you.
460
00:21:00,385 --> 00:21:03,847
I wanna teach him new ways of doing
the same thing that he's been doing.
461
00:21:03,930 --> 00:21:05,932
[Chris] I've been stuck on
one kind of protein shake.
462
00:21:06,016 --> 00:21:07,934
It doesn't start off
looking anything like this.
463
00:21:08,018 --> 00:21:11,229
So how do you tolerate nut butters?
Do you eat peanut butter or almond butter?
464
00:21:11,313 --> 00:21:13,940
-I love peanut butter.
-Oh, great. Let's use peanut butter then.
465
00:21:14,024 --> 00:21:16,526
Yeah, I mean,
I would like to try the almond butter.
466
00:21:16,609 --> 00:21:17,569
So, we can try it.
467
00:21:17,652 --> 00:21:18,528
This is your smoothie.
468
00:21:18,611 --> 00:21:20,655
-Let's get crazy.
-Let's get crazy!
469
00:21:20,739 --> 00:21:21,906
Um, all the nut butters.
470
00:21:21,990 --> 00:21:24,909
This is literally
how I start every single morning.
471
00:21:24,993 --> 00:21:26,411
I start out with a bit of nut milk.
472
00:21:26,494 --> 00:21:28,038
-[Chris] Okay.
-This stuff I love to use.
473
00:21:28,121 --> 00:21:29,831
I'm obsessed with pistachio milk.
474
00:21:29,914 --> 00:21:32,334
It's a little salty, a little sweet.
475
00:21:32,417 --> 00:21:33,752
And then a banana.
476
00:21:34,502 --> 00:21:38,089
I use a plant, like,
a pea-based protein, as opposed to whey.
477
00:21:38,173 --> 00:21:40,467
And then some kind of a nut butter.
So, almond butter.
478
00:21:40,550 --> 00:21:42,594
-And you can scoop all of that in there.
-Okay.
479
00:21:43,845 --> 00:21:44,721
It's thick.
480
00:21:44,804 --> 00:21:48,975
[Antoni] Yep. I personally put, um,
an offensive amount of cinnamon.
481
00:21:49,059 --> 00:21:50,602
-How do you feel about cinnamon?
-Get it.
482
00:21:50,685 --> 00:21:52,020
Okay, let's put a lot.
483
00:21:53,313 --> 00:21:55,523
So, this is protein powder,
but it's pea-based protein.
484
00:21:55,607 --> 00:21:59,027
So it's completely vegan, and this
is the stuff that I use. I really love it.
485
00:21:59,110 --> 00:22:01,196
-Does it have as much protein?
-It really does.
486
00:22:01,279 --> 00:22:04,657
Typically, he uses whey protein,
which is milk-derived,
487
00:22:04,741 --> 00:22:07,869
and that can be hard to digest
for people who've had gastric sleeve.
488
00:22:07,952 --> 00:22:10,330
This is not your packaged smoothie.
489
00:22:10,413 --> 00:22:12,582
I wanna keep everything
as healthy and clean as possible.
490
00:22:12,665 --> 00:22:13,750
Simple as that.
491
00:22:14,834 --> 00:22:15,877
Perfect.
492
00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:17,879
And then we're gonna set this up.
493
00:22:18,463 --> 00:22:20,382
-I start low.
-[whirring]
494
00:22:20,465 --> 00:22:23,551
You don't save time by making
your own smoothie from scratch,
495
00:22:23,635 --> 00:22:26,179
but the fact is it's a lot less expensive,
496
00:22:26,262 --> 00:22:28,848
and you have an awareness
of what you're putting into your body.
497
00:22:28,932 --> 00:22:30,141
Perfect.
498
00:22:30,225 --> 00:22:33,645
And my hope is that once he gets
the hang of it, it becomes as automatic
499
00:22:33,728 --> 00:22:35,355
as already grabbing that, like,
500
00:22:35,438 --> 00:22:37,982
prepackaged protein smoothie out
of a bottle.
501
00:22:38,066 --> 00:22:39,067
Cheers.
502
00:22:40,693 --> 00:22:41,611
Mmm.
503
00:22:44,989 --> 00:22:46,408
Oh, my God, that is so good.
504
00:22:48,201 --> 00:22:51,037
[Antoni] It's seriously the smoothie
I make every single morning.
505
00:22:51,121 --> 00:22:52,789
It's like gingerbread or something.
506
00:22:52,872 --> 00:22:55,083
-It's so good.
-Yeah, it's the cinnamon in there.
507
00:22:55,166 --> 00:22:57,252
Oh, my God, it tastes like Christmas.
508
00:22:57,335 --> 00:22:59,295
It's like a nice--
It tastes like Christmas!
509
00:22:59,379 --> 00:23:00,213
[chuckles] So good.
510
00:23:00,296 --> 00:23:02,298
-In the heat of the summer.
-You just, like, changed…
511
00:23:02,382 --> 00:23:03,508
-[chuckles]
-Oh, my goodness.
512
00:23:03,591 --> 00:23:05,593
[upbeat music playing]
513
00:23:12,225 --> 00:23:13,768
[Tan] Okay, Chris. Ready to shop?
514
00:23:13,852 --> 00:23:15,145
-[Chris] Let's do it.
-[Tan] Good.
515
00:23:20,066 --> 00:23:22,819
Okay, when was the last time
you came shopping?
516
00:23:22,902 --> 00:23:26,489
Um… it has been years.
517
00:23:26,573 --> 00:23:29,117
Outside of, like,
going to Walmart to find the thing
518
00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:30,577
big enough to go on me. [scoffs]
519
00:23:30,660 --> 00:23:34,122
Was that up until the point
where you had the gastric sleeve?
520
00:23:34,205 --> 00:23:35,540
-Yes.
-Okay.
521
00:23:35,623 --> 00:23:37,208
I wanna explain something quick,
522
00:23:37,292 --> 00:23:40,712
'cause I know that anyone
who's actively trying to lose weight
523
00:23:40,795 --> 00:23:44,424
is concerned about buying new clothes
when you think, "Well, I might lose more."
524
00:23:44,507 --> 00:23:47,093
-Right.
-But you are drowning in your clothes.
525
00:23:47,177 --> 00:23:49,846
It does the opposite of what
you probably want your clothes to do.
526
00:23:49,929 --> 00:23:50,763
[Chris] Yeah, right.
527
00:23:50,847 --> 00:23:54,309
So, instead of buying a bunch of
new clothes, obviously that's expensive.
528
00:23:54,392 --> 00:23:59,731
I just take it to the tailor, which I know
seems bougie. I promise it's not.
529
00:23:59,814 --> 00:24:02,442
But you want your clothes
to show off your incredible results.
530
00:24:02,525 --> 00:24:04,402
And right now, it's hiding everything.
531
00:24:04,486 --> 00:24:06,946
Chris is still thinking
that he needs to wear
532
00:24:07,030 --> 00:24:11,451
things that are five sizes too big
to hide the weight that he no longer has.
533
00:24:12,076 --> 00:24:14,913
So, is there a certain look
that you would like?
534
00:24:15,747 --> 00:24:18,333
To be honest, like,
what I would really love,
535
00:24:18,416 --> 00:24:22,629
I wanna be able to put on just,
like, a white T-shirt and a pair of jeans
536
00:24:22,712 --> 00:24:24,047
and go out in the world like that,
537
00:24:24,130 --> 00:24:26,341
which is something that
I've never been able to do.
538
00:24:26,424 --> 00:24:28,968
No, sorry. Why?
It's a white T-shirt and a pair of jeans.
539
00:24:29,052 --> 00:24:32,847
Because it's I don't know, white.
It makes me look like a marshmallow,
540
00:24:32,931 --> 00:24:36,059
and, like, it's more of
a weight-loss thing than a fashion thing.
541
00:24:36,142 --> 00:24:39,646
It's a terrifying thought to, like, put on
a white T-shirt and go out into the world.
542
00:24:39,729 --> 00:24:41,814
Hate the thought of that,
that you feel even restricted
543
00:24:41,898 --> 00:24:44,526
to buy the thing that we use
as the most basic piece.
544
00:24:45,109 --> 00:24:47,487
So, I'm hoping that
by the end of this week,
545
00:24:47,570 --> 00:24:51,324
when you walk into this event
and Liz sees you, that she's like,
546
00:24:51,407 --> 00:24:52,367
"We've got ten minutes."
547
00:24:52,951 --> 00:24:54,160
[laughing]
548
00:24:54,244 --> 00:24:56,287
-So, should we try clothes?
-Let's do it.
549
00:24:56,371 --> 00:24:58,289
-Good.
-I can't promise I'll like it.
550
00:24:58,373 --> 00:24:59,499
But I will try anything.
551
00:24:59,582 --> 00:25:02,627
-I've got some things in the fitting room.
-Okay.
552
00:25:02,710 --> 00:25:06,631
I want Chris
to understand clothes matter.
553
00:25:06,714 --> 00:25:08,299
The way you style yourself matters.
554
00:25:08,383 --> 00:25:10,969
It really can be the tipping point
555
00:25:11,052 --> 00:25:14,806
of how you view yourself
and whether you view yourself kindly.
556
00:25:15,390 --> 00:25:17,267
-Chris, you ready?
-Ready.
557
00:25:18,351 --> 00:25:21,521
[Tan] Oi! I don't know who this guy is.
558
00:25:21,604 --> 00:25:23,231
[chuckles] I don't know who this guy is.
559
00:25:23,314 --> 00:25:25,275
Come take a look
at yourself in the mirror.
560
00:25:26,192 --> 00:25:27,360
And you'll stop…
561
00:25:27,443 --> 00:25:28,486
Wow!
562
00:25:29,237 --> 00:25:31,406
-[Tan] Um, Chris.
-Yes.
563
00:25:31,948 --> 00:25:33,491
[Tan] What do you think?
564
00:25:33,575 --> 00:25:34,659
[Chris] I like it.
565
00:25:34,742 --> 00:25:35,994
It's very different.
566
00:25:36,786 --> 00:25:38,204
-I, uh--
-Different good?
567
00:25:38,288 --> 00:25:41,124
-[Chris] Oh, yeah. I really like this.
-Good.
568
00:25:41,207 --> 00:25:44,586
-I thought this would've felt too small.
-Yeah.
569
00:25:44,669 --> 00:25:46,713
Now that I'm looking at myself,
it looks awesome.
570
00:25:47,297 --> 00:25:49,048
-It's not tight at all.
-It looks great.
571
00:25:49,132 --> 00:25:50,133
I like these colors.
572
00:25:50,216 --> 00:25:52,844
-And I like the layered look.
-Yeah.
573
00:25:52,927 --> 00:25:55,221
-Can I explain why I've done the layered?
-Yes.
574
00:25:55,305 --> 00:25:59,225
When I layer, nobody can really see your
shape underneath 'cause this just grazes.
575
00:25:59,309 --> 00:26:01,936
It gives you some shape,
but hides a little as well.
576
00:26:02,645 --> 00:26:06,316
So, this is for outside of work.
577
00:26:06,399 --> 00:26:09,277
I'm not saying that
this is your look for investors.
578
00:26:09,360 --> 00:26:11,404
It's still very casual.
579
00:26:11,487 --> 00:26:13,031
When you go and meet investors,
580
00:26:13,114 --> 00:26:17,327
I've got other options for you
that I'm gonna put in your cl-- [laughs]
581
00:26:17,410 --> 00:26:19,537
-Stare! I want you to look at yourself!
-Yeah, yeah.
582
00:26:19,621 --> 00:26:21,748
[Tan] I want you to feel
the things that you're feeling.
583
00:26:21,831 --> 00:26:22,707
I don't hate it.
584
00:26:22,790 --> 00:26:24,626
-Is it nice?
-It is nice.
585
00:26:24,709 --> 00:26:28,004
-Do you wanna continue to feel like this?
-Let's continue to feel like this.
586
00:26:34,844 --> 00:26:36,095
All right.
587
00:26:38,264 --> 00:26:39,140
[Chris] I like it.
588
00:26:39,766 --> 00:26:41,017
It's very rock and roll.
589
00:26:41,517 --> 00:26:43,770
-Yeah, it is!
-[laughs]
590
00:26:43,853 --> 00:26:45,146
[Tan] Yes, confidence!
591
00:26:45,229 --> 00:26:48,149
[Chris] Sorry. I've never had, like,
a pair of high-topped shoes before.
592
00:26:48,232 --> 00:26:52,487
Yeah. So, it's a jean. It's a T-shirt.
593
00:26:52,570 --> 00:26:53,738
-Mm-hmm.
-And it's a shirt.
594
00:26:53,821 --> 00:26:58,076
-Right.
-Nothing fancy. So, do you feel sexy?
595
00:27:00,328 --> 00:27:02,789
-I-- [laughs]
-[Tan chuckles]
596
00:27:02,872 --> 00:27:03,706
Maybe.
597
00:27:03,790 --> 00:27:07,585
I know you won't say it. You look
like a sexy guy. Effortlessly cool.
598
00:27:07,669 --> 00:27:08,795
Wow.
599
00:27:08,878 --> 00:27:12,090
I want you to have the confidence
that you seem to be displaying now.
600
00:27:12,757 --> 00:27:16,052
-Right on.
-[laughs] Yeah. Yes, please.
601
00:27:16,135 --> 00:27:18,346
-You pose however you wanna pose.
-[laughs]
602
00:27:18,429 --> 00:27:20,390
-[rock music playing]
-♪ Ooh! ♪
603
00:27:21,057 --> 00:27:24,310
-♪ Ooh! Ooh! ♪
-♪ Hold on! ♪
604
00:27:24,936 --> 00:27:28,314
-♪ Ooh! Ooh! ♪
-♪ Hold on! ♪
605
00:27:28,898 --> 00:27:29,732
♪ Ooh… ♪
606
00:27:29,816 --> 00:27:32,276
-[Chris] Oh, my goodness. All right.
-[Karamo] You see that?
607
00:27:32,360 --> 00:27:34,153
What are you saying "Oh, my God" for?
608
00:27:34,237 --> 00:27:36,656
[Chris] I just saw him.
He was like Spider-Man over there.
609
00:27:36,739 --> 00:27:38,616
-Andy, you scared my friend.
-[Andy] Sorry.
610
00:27:38,700 --> 00:27:40,410
-Andy, Chris. Chris, Andy.
-[Andy] What's up?
611
00:27:40,493 --> 00:27:41,619
-Nice to meet you.
-Welcome.
612
00:27:41,703 --> 00:27:43,663
-Thanks, man.
-All right!
613
00:27:44,539 --> 00:27:46,457
-[Karamo] What do you think of this spot?
-Wild.
614
00:27:46,541 --> 00:27:48,584
It's like a big jungle gym.
My daughter would love it.
615
00:27:48,668 --> 00:27:51,546
[Karamo] Yeah… I'm bringing Chris
to this gym to help him to understand
616
00:27:51,629 --> 00:27:55,550
that because of his self-esteem issues
and the guilt and shame he's holding onto,
617
00:27:55,633 --> 00:27:58,052
he's afraid to face up to things
that are going on in his life.
618
00:27:58,136 --> 00:27:59,762
So, he just focuses on work.
619
00:27:59,846 --> 00:28:03,057
But it's causing him
to have a lack of balance.
620
00:28:03,141 --> 00:28:06,310
When we had talked,
one of the main things was,
621
00:28:06,394 --> 00:28:08,771
there's no balance
happening in your life right now.
622
00:28:08,855 --> 00:28:10,815
-I would largely agree with that, yeah.
-Yeah.
623
00:28:10,898 --> 00:28:14,777
Do you think you deserve forgiveness?
624
00:28:15,778 --> 00:28:19,407
I… I don't know.
It's hard to say. I mean, I, um…
625
00:28:19,490 --> 00:28:23,870
I… I mean, intellectually, I think so.
Emotionally, it's much harder.
626
00:28:23,953 --> 00:28:26,289
I guess maybe I deserve it
as much as everybody else does.
627
00:28:26,372 --> 00:28:27,457
[Karamo] You guess?
628
00:28:27,540 --> 00:28:28,791
Yeah, I mean…
629
00:28:28,875 --> 00:28:32,920
I know. It's, like, my mantra in life,
is that every person deserves that.
630
00:28:33,004 --> 00:28:36,048
Yeah, you're right. You do deserve that.
631
00:28:36,924 --> 00:28:39,719
Why is it harder for you
to forgive yourself emotionally?
632
00:28:39,802 --> 00:28:41,804
[emotional music playing]
633
00:28:43,723 --> 00:28:45,933
What's the guilt you're holding onto?
634
00:28:47,310 --> 00:28:50,521
At the end of my mom's life, I was
giving her the medication that we knew
635
00:28:50,605 --> 00:28:53,566
would ultimately lead
to her heart stopping.
636
00:28:53,649 --> 00:28:57,737
And then when this really was like,
"Oh, this is gonna happen,"
637
00:28:57,820 --> 00:29:00,072
so much family came and stuff
and, like, friends.
638
00:29:00,656 --> 00:29:04,410
But I was, like,
left to deal with this piece of it,
639
00:29:04,494 --> 00:29:07,205
and I was surrounded by family,
640
00:29:07,288 --> 00:29:10,750
but I was completely alone
in dealing with that part of it.
641
00:29:11,584 --> 00:29:15,338
And I fell asleep in the bed.
642
00:29:16,672 --> 00:29:17,673
On the drugs.
643
00:29:19,008 --> 00:29:23,513
And slept probably six hours…
644
00:29:24,430 --> 00:29:27,225
[scoffs] …next to a dead body.
645
00:29:28,935 --> 00:29:30,019
This shit is… up, man.
646
00:29:30,102 --> 00:29:32,230
-None of that was your fault.
-Yep.
647
00:29:33,231 --> 00:29:35,566
And I know you keep
saying "yep" intellectually.
648
00:29:35,650 --> 00:29:36,859
Yeah, yeah.
649
00:29:36,943 --> 00:29:39,237
[Karamo] But you have to
start receiving this.
650
00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:41,030
It wasn't your fault.
651
00:29:41,113 --> 00:29:43,616
So you need to accept
and forgive your past
652
00:29:43,699 --> 00:29:47,620
so that you can be joyful
and present right now.
653
00:29:47,703 --> 00:29:49,789
Because connection
with your wife and your family
654
00:29:49,872 --> 00:29:51,874
and with yourself
is what's most important.
655
00:29:51,958 --> 00:29:53,668
-It's time.
-It's time.
656
00:29:53,751 --> 00:29:55,378
It's time that's gonna take.
657
00:29:55,461 --> 00:29:56,796
This is the first step.
658
00:29:57,463 --> 00:29:58,589
Well done.
659
00:29:59,173 --> 00:30:02,301
But with me,
I also like to have a little fun.
660
00:30:02,385 --> 00:30:03,511
-So…
-Yeah.
661
00:30:04,220 --> 00:30:05,972
-I invited somebody here.
-Oh, gosh.
662
00:30:06,055 --> 00:30:07,682
-I'm gonna be right back.
-Oh, no.
663
00:30:07,765 --> 00:30:09,100
[Karamo] What? Don't feel bad.
664
00:30:09,183 --> 00:30:10,518
It's good.
665
00:30:11,227 --> 00:30:14,105
[hums fanfare]
666
00:30:14,188 --> 00:30:17,608
-It's your baby mama!
-Hey!
667
00:30:17,692 --> 00:30:18,693
Hello!
668
00:30:19,694 --> 00:30:20,778
Oh!
669
00:30:20,862 --> 00:30:22,613
-How are you?
-[Liz] I'm good. How are you?
670
00:30:22,697 --> 00:30:24,699
-It's good to see you. Good.
-You too.
671
00:30:24,782 --> 00:30:27,451
-So, you still gotta have fun.
-[Chris] Yeah.
672
00:30:27,535 --> 00:30:29,370
And you've taken the time out of your day.
673
00:30:29,453 --> 00:30:32,915
So, I was like, why don't you two
get to spend some time here together?
674
00:30:32,999 --> 00:30:34,250
Finding balance, but having fun.
675
00:30:34,333 --> 00:30:35,418
Let's have a good time.
676
00:30:35,501 --> 00:30:37,336
-So we'll start with this one.
-All right.
677
00:30:37,420 --> 00:30:40,214
I'm here. In case you need it. Ready?
678
00:30:41,132 --> 00:30:43,175
-Nice. You're doing it.
-No.
679
00:30:46,304 --> 00:30:47,722
[grunts]
680
00:30:47,805 --> 00:30:50,266
[Karamo] None of us
are our worst decisions.
681
00:30:50,349 --> 00:30:52,685
We all have
the opportunity to grow and be better
682
00:30:52,768 --> 00:30:55,062
and to create a life
that we're happy with.
683
00:30:56,939 --> 00:30:58,524
-[all shouting]
-[Chris] Oh, hey!
684
00:30:58,608 --> 00:30:59,734
[laughing]
685
00:30:59,817 --> 00:31:02,820
I want Chris to understand that
he is worthy of taking time for himself
686
00:31:02,904 --> 00:31:04,697
so that he can get the balance in his life
687
00:31:04,780 --> 00:31:07,241
and start to connect
with the people he loves.
688
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:10,036
-[Liz] Love you.
-[kisses] I love you too.
689
00:31:16,876 --> 00:31:20,212
[Bobby] I can tell that Chris feels guilty
getting any help from us
690
00:31:20,296 --> 00:31:23,883
or any love from us because
of what he sees on a daily basis.
691
00:31:23,966 --> 00:31:27,929
Chris deserves a wonderful, happy home
692
00:31:28,012 --> 00:31:31,724
because he gives back so, so much.
693
00:31:31,807 --> 00:31:34,226
This week, it's all about Chris.
694
00:31:34,310 --> 00:31:35,937
[rock music playing]
695
00:31:41,108 --> 00:31:44,445
♪ Better than ever, never the same… ♪
696
00:31:44,528 --> 00:31:45,821
[Jonathan] You having a fun day?
697
00:31:45,905 --> 00:31:48,324
[Chris] So far, this has been
the best day yet. This is so fun.
698
00:31:48,407 --> 00:31:49,825
-Come on in.
-[Chris] All right.
699
00:31:50,368 --> 00:31:52,620
-Hi, Aroutin, Santiago. How are you?
-How are you?
700
00:31:52,703 --> 00:31:54,330
Welcome to Shed.
701
00:31:54,413 --> 00:31:55,873
-[Chris] Thanks.
-Yeah, definitely.
702
00:31:55,957 --> 00:31:57,833
[Jonathan] Yes, yes, yes!
703
00:31:57,917 --> 00:31:59,919
-Can I take your hat off?
-[Chris] You may.
704
00:32:00,753 --> 00:32:03,255
-Okay.
-[Chris] There's a lot going on, huh?
705
00:32:03,339 --> 00:32:05,508
-There's just a couple things.
-[Chris laughs]
706
00:32:05,591 --> 00:32:08,010
Not that much stuff.
707
00:32:08,094 --> 00:32:10,012
[Chris] After all the conversations
I had today,
708
00:32:10,096 --> 00:32:14,100
I think what I've realized is that, like,
the bleaching and the dyeing and the blue
709
00:32:14,183 --> 00:32:18,771
was all, like, part of an attempt
to pull focus away from other things.
710
00:32:18,854 --> 00:32:20,940
-I think I'm over it.
-Me too!
711
00:32:21,524 --> 00:32:22,733
So what my goal is today
712
00:32:22,817 --> 00:32:27,071
is to land the hair color correction
triple Axel that is
713
00:32:27,154 --> 00:32:29,073
making someone's hair look salt-and-pepper
714
00:32:29,156 --> 00:32:32,201
that has, like, done
this sort of thing to their hair.
715
00:32:32,284 --> 00:32:35,162
I'm ready to single-foot this landing.
I think it's gonna be really fun.
716
00:32:35,246 --> 00:32:37,331
And we're gonna
make your hair look natural and gorg.
717
00:32:37,415 --> 00:32:40,251
-Give you salt-and-pepper zaddy realness.
-Nice.
718
00:32:44,171 --> 00:32:46,424
Chris just needs to have
the confidence that says,
719
00:32:46,507 --> 00:32:49,510
"Yeah, I know how to deal
with housing insecurity."
720
00:32:49,593 --> 00:32:52,555
"I know how
to deal with advocating for folks
721
00:32:52,638 --> 00:32:55,641
in a gorgeous, confident, kind way."
722
00:32:55,725 --> 00:32:57,476
So, we're gonna help him do that.
723
00:32:57,560 --> 00:32:59,645
What do you do after,
like, a really hard week?
724
00:32:59,729 --> 00:33:01,689
Is it fair to say that
you have a hard time,
725
00:33:01,772 --> 00:33:03,524
like, stopping to take care of yourself?
726
00:33:03,607 --> 00:33:06,485
Yeah. It's so funny
'cause I'm like, even doing this,
727
00:33:06,569 --> 00:33:08,529
I'm still trying to,
like, coordinate things.
728
00:33:08,612 --> 00:33:10,239
"Can I help? Is there something I can do?"
729
00:33:10,322 --> 00:33:13,868
Right. I do think
when you see so much suffering,
730
00:33:14,452 --> 00:33:16,579
it makes you constantly feel guilty.
731
00:33:16,662 --> 00:33:20,624
Like, there's so much violence
against the trans non-binary community.
732
00:33:20,708 --> 00:33:22,668
And so, because I am aware of this,
733
00:33:22,752 --> 00:33:25,755
it makes me feel like
I could always be doing more.
734
00:33:25,838 --> 00:33:29,091
A lot of times when
you're really rooted in advocacy,
735
00:33:29,175 --> 00:33:31,927
all of the things that
you get to enjoy in your life,
736
00:33:32,011 --> 00:33:33,763
it has a different impact when you realize
737
00:33:33,846 --> 00:33:35,765
that so many
other people don't have those joys.
738
00:33:35,848 --> 00:33:38,476
But I think that at some point,
like, you have to turn off.
739
00:33:38,601 --> 00:33:43,105
Because if you expect yourself
to, like, cure, like, the systemic issues,
740
00:33:43,189 --> 00:33:44,565
you're gonna be in a world of hurt,
741
00:33:44,648 --> 00:33:46,901
not able to keep doing
what you're so passionate about.
742
00:33:46,984 --> 00:33:48,402
-You're gonna burn out.
-Yeah.
743
00:33:48,486 --> 00:33:52,031
If you don't take care of yourself,
you can't show up for other people
744
00:33:52,114 --> 00:33:53,449
as much as you want to.
745
00:33:53,532 --> 00:33:58,370
I definitely have felt moments
of compassion fatigue.
746
00:33:58,454 --> 00:34:01,499
I wonder if that's 'cause you don't feel
like you have compassion for yourself.
747
00:34:01,582 --> 00:34:02,833
[Chris] Ha ha!
748
00:34:10,466 --> 00:34:11,884
-You okay?
-I'm okay.
749
00:34:11,967 --> 00:34:14,553
[Jonathan] Why are you
looking at your hands?
750
00:34:14,637 --> 00:34:17,181
Honestly, I'm trying to, like,
make sure that I'm not just,
751
00:34:17,264 --> 00:34:19,225
like, in a dream, kind of, like…
752
00:34:19,308 --> 00:34:21,685
-Aww, hunty, it's real.
-It's just-- This is so…
753
00:34:21,769 --> 00:34:23,521
-I'm your fairy godparent.
-[laughs]
754
00:34:23,604 --> 00:34:26,065
And I'm here to tell you, you are hot as…
755
00:34:26,148 --> 00:34:31,237
and you deserve your own time
and space to nurture yourself.
756
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:34,156
[humming]
757
00:34:37,451 --> 00:34:40,121
Um, can I just get a slow clap
for this hair color?
758
00:34:40,204 --> 00:34:43,290
Like, I opened a can
of whoop-ass on this hair color.
759
00:34:48,546 --> 00:34:50,589
-Yay!
-[staff shouting]
760
00:34:50,673 --> 00:34:51,924
[laughing]
761
00:34:55,636 --> 00:34:57,555
-Chris, are you ready?
-I'm ready.
762
00:34:57,638 --> 00:35:00,141
[Jonathan] Don't look quite yet
'cause I wanna emphasize,
763
00:35:00,224 --> 00:35:03,018
you didn't need to change
how you physically look
764
00:35:03,102 --> 00:35:05,813
for people to take you seriously
as an activist
765
00:35:05,896 --> 00:35:09,692
and as someone that is really a pillar
of their community who is doing good.
766
00:35:09,775 --> 00:35:13,445
So, just know that.
The still gorgeous, the still stunning…
767
00:35:14,113 --> 00:35:15,281
Here you are.
768
00:35:20,119 --> 00:35:21,328
What do you think?
769
00:35:29,628 --> 00:35:33,299
-Can't believe how hot you look?
-[laughing]
770
00:35:35,718 --> 00:35:37,511
No, it's good. It looks great.
771
00:35:37,595 --> 00:35:38,596
-Doesn't it?
-I--
772
00:35:41,056 --> 00:35:42,391
I can't… I don't know.
773
00:35:42,474 --> 00:35:44,560
-Get up in it. You can get all up in it.
-All right.
774
00:35:45,269 --> 00:35:48,272
It's… crazy.
This is, like, a totally different--
775
00:35:48,355 --> 00:35:49,815
It's like a totally different person.
776
00:35:49,899 --> 00:35:51,066
He's kind of…
777
00:35:52,818 --> 00:35:54,570
-He's pretty good-looking.
-Isn't he?
778
00:35:55,154 --> 00:35:59,074
This is the hair that says, "I fundraise
$6 million for people who need it."
779
00:36:02,077 --> 00:36:04,371
You're the best.
780
00:36:04,455 --> 00:36:06,665
♪ Here's to the ones
That keep the faith ♪
781
00:36:06,749 --> 00:36:09,543
♪ Here's to the ones that never break ♪
782
00:36:09,627 --> 00:36:15,216
♪ Here's to the ones who keep on fighting
Even though they are afraid ♪
783
00:36:15,299 --> 00:36:18,177
♪ Here's to the ones
That are on the edge ♪
784
00:36:18,260 --> 00:36:20,971
♪ Here's to the ones with no regret ♪
785
00:36:21,055 --> 00:36:23,974
♪ Here's to the ones
Who keep their heads up high… ♪
786
00:36:24,058 --> 00:36:24,934
[Tan] Come on, lovely.
787
00:36:26,143 --> 00:36:28,229
Oh, they're here!
788
00:36:28,979 --> 00:36:29,980
[Tan] Ready?
789
00:36:30,648 --> 00:36:32,107
[Bobby] You look really good, man.
790
00:36:32,191 --> 00:36:33,817
[Karamo] Oh, my gosh!
791
00:36:33,901 --> 00:36:38,739
You look so handsome and sexy!
Oh, my gosh!
792
00:36:38,822 --> 00:36:41,116
-[gasps]
-I was in complete shock.
793
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:42,743
-[laughing]
-There we go!
794
00:36:42,826 --> 00:36:45,955
[Jonathan] Yes, you better give
a good warrior one pose.
795
00:36:46,038 --> 00:36:49,291
I just knew it.
Don't you love? Look at this place.
796
00:36:50,709 --> 00:36:52,503
[Chris] This is so beautiful.
797
00:36:53,712 --> 00:36:58,259
[Bobby] We got you new furniture.
We got you new computers, workstations.
798
00:36:58,968 --> 00:37:00,219
[Chris] That's just so nice.
799
00:37:04,890 --> 00:37:06,558
[Karamo] Aww, you saw the quote?
800
00:37:06,642 --> 00:37:08,978
-Aww, it's okay.
-[Tan] Aww.
801
00:37:09,061 --> 00:37:10,562
[Jonathan] Aww.
802
00:37:10,646 --> 00:37:12,147
[Antoni] We know. We know.
803
00:37:12,773 --> 00:37:15,150
-Yas, queen.
-[Fab Five laughing]
804
00:37:15,859 --> 00:37:17,903
[Bobby] On lighter notes,
industrial coffee maker.
805
00:37:17,987 --> 00:37:19,571
[Chris] Yes! Coffee!
806
00:37:19,655 --> 00:37:22,950
They were making coffee for,
like, 70 people in one little pot.
807
00:37:24,451 --> 00:37:26,328
What kind of computers are those?
808
00:37:26,412 --> 00:37:28,706
-Those are new Macs from Apple.
-No way!
809
00:37:28,789 --> 00:37:29,748
[Bobby] Yeah.
810
00:37:29,832 --> 00:37:32,001
-Those are the new iMacs.
-Holy… Oh, my gosh!
811
00:37:32,084 --> 00:37:33,669
[Bobby] And there's still more.
812
00:37:34,169 --> 00:37:36,714
-[Chris] Oh, look at this!
-[Bobby] Look at that!
813
00:37:36,797 --> 00:37:40,843
[Jonathan] Oh, my God, we need to surround
you in our gorgeous LGBTQ love.
814
00:37:40,926 --> 00:37:44,346
So, I thought that I'd invite
some friends over to enjoy this with you.
815
00:37:44,430 --> 00:37:46,557
-Stay behind us.
-Back there. Yeah.
816
00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:47,891
[Bobby] Come on in.
817
00:37:48,475 --> 00:37:50,102
-What?
-I know, right?
818
00:37:50,185 --> 00:37:52,187
[Max] Is it a spa or something in here?
819
00:37:52,271 --> 00:37:53,397
Oh, my gosh.
820
00:37:54,815 --> 00:37:56,650
[Karamo] If you think it's beautiful
in here,
821
00:37:56,734 --> 00:37:59,153
let me show you
something else that's beautiful.
822
00:37:59,903 --> 00:38:02,239
[all shouting]
823
00:38:02,323 --> 00:38:03,532
Holy crap!
824
00:38:04,158 --> 00:38:07,578
Wow, you look amazing!
825
00:38:08,579 --> 00:38:11,040
-[Chris] Thanks you. That's so nice.
-[woman] Wow, look at you!
826
00:38:11,123 --> 00:38:13,083
Can we handle? Give me your hand.
827
00:38:13,167 --> 00:38:15,294
Look, look, look!
828
00:38:15,377 --> 00:38:18,088
-You look incredible.
-You're so much more relaxed.
829
00:38:18,172 --> 00:38:20,257
-Aww.
-Like, you just seem chill.
830
00:38:20,341 --> 00:38:24,011
Well, the biggest thing
is that they made me decide
831
00:38:24,094 --> 00:38:26,221
that it's time to start
caring about myself.
832
00:38:26,305 --> 00:38:28,807
It's not the haircut or the clothes.
It's that.
833
00:38:28,891 --> 00:38:30,559
-[Jonathan] Yeah.
-Absolutely.
834
00:38:30,642 --> 00:38:32,519
Can you say "I deserve it"
in front of people?
835
00:38:32,603 --> 00:38:34,063
-I deserve it.
-Good job.
836
00:38:34,146 --> 00:38:35,606
-[people shouting]
-[Chris] I love it.
837
00:38:35,689 --> 00:38:36,940
[Jonathan] Yes!
838
00:38:37,024 --> 00:38:38,734
-[Chris] I earned it.
-[Karamo] Yes, you did!
839
00:38:38,817 --> 00:38:40,778
[all cheering]
840
00:38:40,861 --> 00:38:43,489
Speaking of things you deserve,
are you ready to go see your house?
841
00:38:43,572 --> 00:38:45,199
-Hell, yeah. I'm ready.
-[Bobby] All right.
842
00:38:45,282 --> 00:38:46,367
Let's do it.
843
00:38:46,450 --> 00:38:50,037
♪ Every day is a new way
To find my way again ♪
844
00:38:50,120 --> 00:38:53,165
[Tan] Get excited, my love, because
you're about to see something epic.
845
00:38:53,832 --> 00:38:56,377
[Bobby] Fully close your eyes.
Come on. Yep. Step.
846
00:38:57,294 --> 00:38:59,296
-Don't peek.
-[Tan laughs]
847
00:38:59,380 --> 00:39:01,382
[Chris sighing] Okay.
848
00:39:02,383 --> 00:39:03,675
And look.
849
00:39:08,972 --> 00:39:10,849
You live in a designer home now.
850
00:39:12,976 --> 00:39:14,603
-Is he gonna pass out?
-[Tan laughing]
851
00:39:14,686 --> 00:39:17,064
[Chris] This is sick. I am stoked!
852
00:39:18,524 --> 00:39:20,150
[Bobby] And then
a new chandelier up there.
853
00:39:20,234 --> 00:39:21,944
[Chris] I live here? Is this where I live?
854
00:39:22,027 --> 00:39:23,028
Is this my…
855
00:39:25,489 --> 00:39:26,615
[Jonathan] Aww.
856
00:39:28,242 --> 00:39:30,077
[Bobby] Whole new island.
Whole new island!
857
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:32,496
[Chris] Oh, my God.
Okay. This is a new house.
858
00:39:32,579 --> 00:39:33,789
[Bobby] It kind of is.
859
00:39:35,082 --> 00:39:38,377
-This is so sick!
-[laughs]
860
00:39:39,128 --> 00:39:42,631
Look, you have a new hood.
There's no more bare wires.
861
00:39:42,714 --> 00:39:43,674
What's that?
862
00:39:44,258 --> 00:39:46,927
-[Bobby] Juicer.
-Oh, yes!
863
00:39:47,010 --> 00:39:48,929
-My guy!
-[laughs]
864
00:39:49,513 --> 00:39:53,058
[Chris] Oh, my God! This is so amazing!
865
00:39:53,142 --> 00:39:55,644
Where's Karamo? I deserve this, don't I?
866
00:39:55,727 --> 00:39:57,146
Yes, you do deserve this.
867
00:39:57,229 --> 00:40:00,482
You do deserve this! Yes, you do!
868
00:40:00,566 --> 00:40:02,151
[Chris] I get to live here now.
869
00:40:02,234 --> 00:40:04,695
-[Bobby] Ready?
-[Antoni] Ooh, I like this bench.
870
00:40:04,778 --> 00:40:07,322
Whoa!
871
00:40:08,699 --> 00:40:10,993
-[Bobby] Right?
-[Jonathan] Romance!
872
00:40:11,076 --> 00:40:12,744
This is a story of texture.
873
00:40:12,828 --> 00:40:14,329
[Chris] Oh, my gosh. Oh, my gosh!
874
00:40:14,413 --> 00:40:16,707
[Jonathan] It's like a full-on proper
adult home, queen.
875
00:40:16,790 --> 00:40:21,003
These are the most beautiful
nightstand side tables I've ever seen.
876
00:40:22,337 --> 00:40:23,714
[Chris] Oh, my God! Look at those!
877
00:40:23,797 --> 00:40:25,966
See some cute pictures I found?
878
00:40:26,049 --> 00:40:27,426
[Fab Five laughing] Aww.
879
00:40:29,178 --> 00:40:31,555
[Chris] I'm sorry, this is so beautiful.
880
00:40:31,638 --> 00:40:34,099
-[Tan] Yeah, we'll take that.
-[Bobby] That's nice.
881
00:40:34,183 --> 00:40:35,142
[Jonathan] Yeah, queen.
882
00:40:35,726 --> 00:40:37,936
[Chris] Look at this place that we're in.
883
00:40:38,020 --> 00:40:40,898
[Karamo] You talked to me a bit about
the trauma that this house held.
884
00:40:40,981 --> 00:40:42,316
The house is different.
885
00:40:42,399 --> 00:40:46,528
I want you to purposefully make
new memories in those spaces
886
00:40:46,612 --> 00:40:49,114
to remind yourself that
those things weren't your fault.
887
00:40:49,198 --> 00:40:52,409
Don't hold guilt around it. That's part of
the practice of knowing what you deserve.
888
00:40:52,493 --> 00:40:55,537
But you have to do the work
to love yourself more and heal yourself.
889
00:40:55,621 --> 00:41:00,209
I don't know that I've ever had
such a profound moment
890
00:41:00,292 --> 00:41:03,754
of celebration of self
ever before in my life.
891
00:41:03,837 --> 00:41:06,089
-Yeah, it's gonna take practice.
-I know.
892
00:41:06,173 --> 00:41:09,885
That's what's gonna change you from having
unhealthy boundaries and connections
893
00:41:09,968 --> 00:41:13,347
to having really healthy ones,
because you know what you deserve.
894
00:41:13,430 --> 00:41:14,431
I believe in you.
895
00:41:15,098 --> 00:41:15,933
So do I.
896
00:41:16,850 --> 00:41:18,727
-[scoffs]
-I believe in me.
897
00:41:18,810 --> 00:41:20,312
-My guy.
-We can do this.
898
00:41:22,731 --> 00:41:24,066
We're gonna take a quick look…
899
00:41:24,149 --> 00:41:27,819
-Oh, my God.
-…in your closet.
900
00:41:28,570 --> 00:41:30,822
I want you to still feel
a little bit rocker.
901
00:41:30,906 --> 00:41:33,158
That is your vibe
that I don't wanna take away from you.
902
00:41:33,242 --> 00:41:36,328
So, we got you a gorgeous leather.
903
00:41:36,411 --> 00:41:39,665
Something that's gonna make you
feel like the real you. Isn't that nice?
904
00:41:39,748 --> 00:41:41,583
Oh, that is nice.
905
00:41:41,667 --> 00:41:44,711
I just want you to see
the version of you that I see
906
00:41:44,795 --> 00:41:46,338
when you're asking for donations.
907
00:41:46,421 --> 00:41:49,049
-And so, I wanna see you in a suit.
-All right.
908
00:41:49,132 --> 00:41:50,801
We're gonna start with a white tee.
909
00:41:50,884 --> 00:41:53,720
This has been
almost like a nemesis for you. [chuckles]
910
00:41:54,263 --> 00:41:55,180
-Yeah.
-So…
911
00:41:55,264 --> 00:41:57,724
I'm going to get you to wear this, please.
912
00:41:57,808 --> 00:41:58,642
Okay.
913
00:41:58,725 --> 00:42:02,062
We got you a beautiful blue suit,
914
00:42:02,145 --> 00:42:03,730
and I'm just gonna to give you a sneaker.
915
00:42:03,814 --> 00:42:05,774
-That's it.
-Okay, sounds great.
916
00:42:07,150 --> 00:42:08,402
Okay, kids. Are we all ready?
917
00:42:08,485 --> 00:42:11,530
-Yeah!
-Okay, great. Come on out, Chris.
918
00:42:11,613 --> 00:42:13,574
-Oh!
-Handsome!
919
00:42:13,657 --> 00:42:15,951
-[Bobby] I want to give you my money!
-[Antoni] A suit!
920
00:42:16,034 --> 00:42:17,494
Love!
921
00:42:17,578 --> 00:42:19,329
-Oh, my!
-[Jonathan] Wow!
922
00:42:19,413 --> 00:42:21,498
So handsome! So dapper!
923
00:42:21,582 --> 00:42:23,500
-[Antoni] Yep.
-[Bobby] It's just perfect for you.
924
00:42:23,584 --> 00:42:26,795
He's never been able to wear
a white T-shirt because he sees that as
925
00:42:26,878 --> 00:42:29,631
not looking right on a person of his size.
926
00:42:29,715 --> 00:42:33,760
And so, I wanted you to see that
you can wear this and feel comfortable
927
00:42:33,844 --> 00:42:37,556
and not see it as a challenge anymore,
'cause there's no reason for it to be.
928
00:42:38,140 --> 00:42:40,475
-[Antoni] Yeah.
-Yeah! How do you feel?
929
00:42:40,559 --> 00:42:42,519
[Chris] I feel like
930
00:42:43,145 --> 00:42:45,689
my sexy ass is about
to be, like, a world leader, darling.
931
00:42:45,772 --> 00:42:47,357
-[Karamo cheering]
-[Tan laughing]
932
00:42:47,441 --> 00:42:49,735
[Jonathan] That came out of left field,
but I'm into it.
933
00:42:49,818 --> 00:42:51,612
Oh, my God.
934
00:42:51,695 --> 00:42:53,030
[Antoni] Your hair looks killer.
935
00:42:53,113 --> 00:42:58,493
You have been one of the most
receptive heroes I've ever worked with…
936
00:42:58,577 --> 00:43:00,287
-Yes, agree.
-…quite honestly, on our show.
937
00:43:00,370 --> 00:43:02,789
And that's because
you trusted us immediately.
938
00:43:02,873 --> 00:43:04,916
And the way you're
carrying yourself is beautiful.
939
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:08,045
And so from the bottom of my heart,
I wanna say thank you, truly thank you.
940
00:43:09,004 --> 00:43:11,590
Aww, thank you. Aww.
941
00:43:11,673 --> 00:43:12,966
-We love you.
-Oh, love you.
942
00:43:13,050 --> 00:43:14,968
[Jonathan] It's your house,
and you live here.
943
00:43:15,052 --> 00:43:17,471
-[Chris] I live in this place.
-Yes, you do.
944
00:43:17,554 --> 00:43:19,056
I live in this resort, queen.
945
00:43:19,139 --> 00:43:22,643
-You really do. It is a resort, queen.
-Love you. Enjoy.
946
00:43:23,226 --> 00:43:25,729
-Thanks, brother. Had a great time.
-[Bobby] Me too.
947
00:43:26,688 --> 00:43:28,482
-[Jonathan] Love you.
-Thank you.
948
00:43:28,565 --> 00:43:30,359
Bye! Yas, queen!
949
00:43:30,442 --> 00:43:31,735
-Yas, queen!
-Bye!
950
00:43:31,818 --> 00:43:33,362
-[rock music playing]
-♪ Whoa-oh-oh-oh! ♪
951
00:43:33,445 --> 00:43:35,572
♪ 'Cause I'm about to go down swinging ♪
952
00:43:35,656 --> 00:43:38,950
♪ Won't hit the ground
Till the bell stops ringing ♪
953
00:43:39,034 --> 00:43:40,952
♪ And you can try to make my day ♪
954
00:43:41,036 --> 00:43:43,121
♪ Doesn't matter what you say ♪
955
00:43:49,044 --> 00:43:50,045
[Althea shouts]
956
00:43:50,128 --> 00:43:54,132
Yes! You ready to see how
our house has totally crazy changed?
957
00:43:54,216 --> 00:43:57,678
Oh, my God. You look amazing.
958
00:43:57,761 --> 00:43:58,720
So do you.
959
00:43:59,388 --> 00:44:00,389
[Althea] Oh!
960
00:44:00,472 --> 00:44:04,351
[laughs] Children got ahead a little.
Wait, Althea, wait, wait, wait.
961
00:44:04,434 --> 00:44:06,478
All right, here we go.
962
00:44:06,561 --> 00:44:07,813
-[son grunting]
-Whoa!
963
00:44:07,896 --> 00:44:09,189
Whoa! Yeah!
964
00:44:09,272 --> 00:44:11,692
-[Liz] Oh, my God.
-[son] This is amazing!
965
00:44:11,775 --> 00:44:13,610
-[Chris] Come see.
-[Liz] Oh, my God!
966
00:44:13,694 --> 00:44:15,195
[son] The living room.
967
00:44:15,278 --> 00:44:18,407
-[Chris] Look at the size of this island.
-[Liz] Oh, my God!
968
00:44:18,490 --> 00:44:20,909
Come up here! Look at your room!
969
00:44:20,992 --> 00:44:23,995
-So cool, right?
-[son] In here! In here! In here!
970
00:44:24,746 --> 00:44:28,625
Holy smokes! Oh!
971
00:44:28,709 --> 00:44:31,211
[Althea] Oh, my gosh!
972
00:44:31,294 --> 00:44:35,757
This week was in the top three
most intense weeks of my entire life.
973
00:44:35,841 --> 00:44:38,218
To bed! [grunts]
974
00:44:38,301 --> 00:44:39,928
It was worth every second of it.
975
00:44:40,011 --> 00:44:43,223
-I have some nice fresh basil here too.
-I would love some basil.
976
00:44:43,306 --> 00:44:44,891
I'm gonna give you some basil.
977
00:44:44,975 --> 00:44:49,479
All of a sudden, I feel as valuable
as anyone else, and it's just such a joy.
978
00:44:50,063 --> 00:44:52,315
I feel very happy and confident.
979
00:44:52,399 --> 00:44:55,152
-Your new look is super, super sweet.
-Nice.
980
00:44:58,613 --> 00:45:00,115
Chris is an angel.
981
00:45:00,198 --> 00:45:02,492
People look up to him. People respect him.
982
00:45:02,576 --> 00:45:06,455
And moving forward, I want him
to respect and look up to himself too.
983
00:45:08,081 --> 00:45:09,082
[Fab Five] Hey!
984
00:45:09,166 --> 00:45:10,375
How's it going?
985
00:45:11,168 --> 00:45:13,462
-Do you miss us?
-Yeah!
986
00:45:13,545 --> 00:45:14,880
'Cause we miss you!
987
00:45:14,963 --> 00:45:16,256
Who do you miss the most?
988
00:45:16,923 --> 00:45:21,011
-Tan.
-Yeah! That makes me so happy!
989
00:45:21,094 --> 00:45:25,140
I hope Chris can really
see how amazing he is
990
00:45:25,223 --> 00:45:28,351
and what a difference
he is making in so many people's lives.
991
00:45:28,435 --> 00:45:31,855
Chris, how you feel about your event?
You think you're gonna reach your goal?
992
00:45:31,938 --> 00:45:34,566
-I know we're gonna reach the goal.
-Yeah! There you go.
993
00:45:34,649 --> 00:45:36,443
[Bobby] Confidence, I love it.
994
00:45:36,526 --> 00:45:37,444
[Jonathan] Yes.
995
00:45:38,487 --> 00:45:41,740
Oh, my God. I've heard so much about you.
It's so nice to meet you. Yeah.
996
00:45:44,409 --> 00:45:46,995
-Hey, Alex, Chris Baker. Nice to meet you.
-[Alex] Nice to meet you.
997
00:45:48,872 --> 00:45:50,791
-You're awesome. [laughs]
-Oh, thanks, brother.
998
00:45:50,874 --> 00:45:53,960
Tonight, it's my pleasure
to introduce you to my friend,
999
00:45:54,586 --> 00:45:58,298
the executive director of
The Other Ones Foundation, Chris Baker.
1000
00:45:58,381 --> 00:46:00,383
[crowd cheering]
1001
00:46:01,635 --> 00:46:04,971
The thing that I love the most
about this evolution of Chris is that
1002
00:46:05,055 --> 00:46:07,432
you can finally see that his inside,
1003
00:46:07,516 --> 00:46:10,894
the beauty, the love,
matches what's going on, on the outside.
1004
00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:15,148
I'm so grateful and so happy
to be here with all of you.
1005
00:46:15,232 --> 00:46:17,234
He looks like a new man.
1006
00:46:17,317 --> 00:46:20,320
This is the first day
of the rest of his life.
1007
00:46:20,403 --> 00:46:26,576
We here in Austin, Texas, we are
going to continue to be part of a solution
1008
00:46:26,660 --> 00:46:28,328
to get people off of the street.
1009
00:46:28,954 --> 00:46:30,497
Next Wednesday, we're gonna go
1010
00:46:30,580 --> 00:46:33,416
and sign the state of Texas
to take full control of the property.
1011
00:46:33,500 --> 00:46:35,377
[crowd cheering]
1012
00:46:35,460 --> 00:46:39,089
He truly sees every single person
as equal, and he's helping his community.
1013
00:46:40,257 --> 00:46:41,466
He's a true hero.
1014
00:46:41,550 --> 00:46:42,968
Thank you, everybody, for being here
1015
00:46:43,051 --> 00:46:45,428
and for your willingness
to contribute to solutions.
1016
00:46:45,554 --> 00:46:47,681
-I love you.
-[crowd cheering]
1017
00:46:47,764 --> 00:46:49,224
[Tan] He's such a good guy.
1018
00:46:49,307 --> 00:46:50,600
-I like him so much.
-So cute!
1019
00:46:50,684 --> 00:46:52,853
Can we just give it up
one more time for Chris?
1020
00:46:52,936 --> 00:46:53,854
Cheers to Chris!
1021
00:46:53,937 --> 00:46:54,980
[all] To Chris!
1022
00:47:01,236 --> 00:47:05,323
Found an item of clothing that you
absolutely love, but don't love the fit?
1023
00:47:05,407 --> 00:47:06,366
Alter it yourself.
1024
00:47:06,449 --> 00:47:10,161
If you can learn one simple stitch,
the running stitch,
1025
00:47:10,245 --> 00:47:12,497
you can make your own alterations.
1026
00:47:12,581 --> 00:47:15,250
A sewing machine will
set you back around about $100.
1027
00:47:15,333 --> 00:47:19,296
But it will save you hundreds,
if not thousands on alterations.
1028
00:47:19,379 --> 00:47:20,714
I'm gonna snip it.
1029
00:47:24,634 --> 00:47:27,095
See? Alterations made easy.
1030
00:47:27,178 --> 00:47:29,306
-[Chris] Yes.
-[strumming folk tune]
1031
00:47:33,435 --> 00:47:36,271
♪ We made a whole lot of friends ♪
1032
00:47:36,354 --> 00:47:39,024
-♪ Key grips and cameramen ♪
-[Karamo laughs]
1033
00:47:39,107 --> 00:47:42,986
♪ Steady, friends
We got an awful lofty goal ♪
1034
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:47,449
♪ Take a whole lot of magic ♪
1035
00:47:48,408 --> 00:47:50,368
♪ A couple pieces of fabric ♪
1036
00:47:50,452 --> 00:47:51,870
[laughing]
1037
00:47:51,953 --> 00:47:55,916
♪ Pair of scissors
And a ride around town ♪
1038
00:47:58,043 --> 00:48:02,923
♪ To make a man feel wanted
Like he's not forgotten ♪
1039
00:48:04,341 --> 00:48:07,552
♪ But there's some value left
In that old one-track soul ♪
1040
00:48:10,180 --> 00:48:13,642
♪ And when it's all been done
And seamed ♪
1041
00:48:16,561 --> 00:48:18,980
♪ There's one phrase that it all mean ♪
1042
00:48:21,775 --> 00:48:25,070
♪ Yas, queen ♪
1043
00:48:25,153 --> 00:48:27,489
-[Tan] Oh!
-[laughs]
1044
00:48:27,572 --> 00:48:32,369
♪ Yaaassss, queen! ♪
1045
00:48:33,620 --> 00:48:35,205
-[Tan] Oh!
-[Jonathan] That was amazing!
1046
00:48:35,288 --> 00:48:36,539
-[applauding]
-[Karamo] Oh!
1047
00:48:36,623 --> 00:48:39,834
[Jonathan] Honey, your next show's
gonna be The Voice after that.