1 00:00:24,378 --> 00:00:27,548 [Sandy] Good afternoon, everybody. Thank you so much for coming. 2 00:00:28,466 --> 00:00:33,763 If you're wondering why we're doing this in a, uh, nondenominational chapel 3 00:00:33,846 --> 00:00:35,806 instead of a synagogue with a rabbi… 4 00:00:36,432 --> 00:00:39,769 [chuckles] …it's because Norman, he wanted it that way. 5 00:00:42,104 --> 00:00:44,732 Just before he died, he said to me, 6 00:00:44,815 --> 00:00:49,320 "Sandy, you wanna stick me in a rowboat, push it into the LA River, 7 00:00:49,403 --> 00:00:51,238 set it on fire, that's fine." 8 00:00:51,989 --> 00:00:54,658 "Just spare everybody the religious claptrap." 9 00:00:54,742 --> 00:00:55,659 [chuckles] 10 00:00:57,536 --> 00:01:00,122 Religious claptrap. 11 00:01:01,707 --> 00:01:05,669 As you might guess, Norman belonged to the reform school of Judaism. 12 00:01:07,713 --> 00:01:11,467 I've been trying to figure out how to pay homage, uh, to this man. 13 00:01:12,009 --> 00:01:15,012 And then I remembered one of his favorite sayings, 14 00:01:15,679 --> 00:01:18,265 "The truth is a good fallback position." 15 00:01:18,349 --> 00:01:22,895 [chuckles] So that's what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna fall back on the truth. 16 00:01:26,357 --> 00:01:28,651 [quivering] It was tough being Norman's friend. 17 00:01:29,401 --> 00:01:32,905 But for over 50 years, that's what I was. 18 00:01:34,490 --> 00:01:37,660 Fifty years of him giving me a hard time 19 00:01:38,661 --> 00:01:42,248 about the women I dated, the women I married, 20 00:01:43,249 --> 00:01:46,752 the divorces I suffered through, the money I lost, 21 00:01:46,836 --> 00:01:48,295 money I never had, 22 00:01:49,338 --> 00:01:51,257 even the booze I drank. 23 00:01:52,550 --> 00:01:56,095 He found fault in just about every aspect of my life. 24 00:01:56,762 --> 00:01:58,597 Homage, Dad. Pay homage. 25 00:01:58,681 --> 00:02:03,060 He lent me money when I was in trouble, but he never let me forget it. 26 00:02:03,144 --> 00:02:04,854 No. No, no, no. 27 00:02:04,937 --> 00:02:08,023 My nose got rubbed in it over and over again. 28 00:02:08,732 --> 00:02:11,652 When I went through that whole cancer deal last year, 29 00:02:11,735 --> 00:02:13,988 I was scared out of my mind. 30 00:02:15,281 --> 00:02:18,409 My best friend, my good buddy, 31 00:02:19,618 --> 00:02:22,329 he kept joking about how I should save my hair 32 00:02:22,413 --> 00:02:23,914 when it falls out 33 00:02:23,998 --> 00:02:26,417 and use it to make a tea cozy. 34 00:02:26,500 --> 00:02:27,459 [laughs] 35 00:02:27,543 --> 00:02:28,961 A tea cozy. 36 00:02:29,712 --> 00:02:32,006 Well, fuck you very much, good buddy. 37 00:02:32,089 --> 00:02:34,550 I didn't lose one strand. Not one. 38 00:02:35,593 --> 00:02:36,552 Not one. 39 00:02:37,678 --> 00:02:39,013 But I did lose you. 40 00:02:40,139 --> 00:02:42,766 And I don't know how I'm gonna get through that. 41 00:02:42,850 --> 00:02:47,771 I-- I don't know how I'm just supposed to go about my business without you. 42 00:02:47,855 --> 00:02:48,689 [sighs] 43 00:02:50,900 --> 00:02:52,693 And-- And for the record, you know, 44 00:02:52,776 --> 00:02:57,406 I did call the City of LA about setting you on fire in a rowboat, 45 00:02:57,489 --> 00:03:01,577 but I couldn't get a permit for a Viking funeral. 46 00:03:02,578 --> 00:03:05,915 [sniffs] You know, maybe in Ventura County but not here. 47 00:03:13,255 --> 00:03:14,089 Thank you. 48 00:03:18,093 --> 00:03:19,678 I did not see that coming. 49 00:03:21,138 --> 00:03:22,890 [theme music playing] 50 00:03:27,144 --> 00:03:32,233 We are here today to mourn the passing of my grandfather's meat body. 51 00:03:32,983 --> 00:03:38,447 But that decaying collection of cells is not who or what he was. 52 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:45,371 My grandfather was an immortal spirit who has lived countless millions of lives. 53 00:03:45,955 --> 00:03:46,830 Scientology? 54 00:03:46,914 --> 00:03:48,999 [Robbie] And like all immortal spirits, 55 00:03:49,083 --> 00:03:53,420 he has roamed the universe for eons in search of a game. 56 00:03:53,921 --> 00:03:55,673 For that is what we do. 57 00:03:56,257 --> 00:03:57,841 We play games. 58 00:03:57,925 --> 00:04:01,679 And the biggest game that we play is to forget our true identity 59 00:04:01,762 --> 00:04:04,181 so that we can play hide-and-seek with ourselves. 60 00:04:04,265 --> 00:04:06,934 And when the day comes that we find ourselves, 61 00:04:07,017 --> 00:04:11,272 that we know with absolute certainty that we are static awareness 62 00:04:11,355 --> 00:04:15,234 senior to matter, energy, space, and time, 63 00:04:15,943 --> 00:04:16,986 then we win. 64 00:04:17,069 --> 00:04:17,987 [sighs] 65 00:04:18,070 --> 00:04:22,658 I know that to be true for myself, and now my grandpa knows it too. 66 00:04:23,534 --> 00:04:28,080 Although, without having crossed LRH's bridge of total freedom, 67 00:04:28,622 --> 00:04:32,293 he will quickly be sucked back into the hellish merry-go-round 68 00:04:32,376 --> 00:04:33,585 of birth and death. 69 00:04:35,087 --> 00:04:35,921 Thank you. 70 00:04:40,718 --> 00:04:42,553 My father never gave up on me. 71 00:04:43,595 --> 00:04:44,513 He should have, 72 00:04:46,223 --> 00:04:47,141 but he never did. 73 00:04:48,851 --> 00:04:54,231 Time after time, I let him down, but he just refused to give up. 74 00:04:56,400 --> 00:05:00,487 So, as part of my amends to him, 75 00:05:00,571 --> 00:05:03,824 my sponsor and I decided that I should pay him back 76 00:05:03,907 --> 00:05:06,618 for all the rehabs and therapists 77 00:05:06,702 --> 00:05:08,912 and wilderness retreats that he sent me to. 78 00:05:09,913 --> 00:05:15,044 [sighs] Not counting inflation, that came to a little over $900,000, 79 00:05:15,127 --> 00:05:17,880 and that doesn't include the 300 grand in… in legal fees 80 00:05:17,963 --> 00:05:20,507 to… to beat that bogus intent-to-sell bust. 81 00:05:20,591 --> 00:05:23,552 Like I would ever be stupid enough to sell my own stash. 82 00:05:24,636 --> 00:05:28,223 Anyway, I owe my papa a million two. 83 00:05:29,141 --> 00:05:33,562 And I'm gonna use part of my inheritance to pay him back. 84 00:05:33,645 --> 00:05:36,440 Well, not him, obviously, because, you know. 85 00:05:37,608 --> 00:05:41,779 I am gonna pay him back by building a drug rehab 86 00:05:43,280 --> 00:05:45,032 in the Galápagos Islands, 87 00:05:45,824 --> 00:05:49,078 where drug addicts and alcoholics 88 00:05:49,161 --> 00:05:53,332 and people with eating disorders can turn their life around 89 00:05:53,415 --> 00:05:57,669 while learning about Charles Darwin and evolution. 90 00:05:57,753 --> 00:05:58,587 Hmm. 91 00:05:58,670 --> 00:06:02,966 So, in honor of my father, the man who never gave up on me, um, 92 00:06:03,050 --> 00:06:06,553 the rehab will be called The Suite Surrender, 93 00:06:07,054 --> 00:06:11,600 because, in sobriety, you have to surrender to win, 94 00:06:11,683 --> 00:06:15,145 and "suite" will be spelled S-U-I-T-E, 95 00:06:15,229 --> 00:06:18,857 because all the rooms will be junior suites or better. Thank you. 96 00:06:18,941 --> 00:06:20,067 [sighs] 97 00:06:20,150 --> 00:06:22,528 When I lost my husband, I thought, 98 00:06:22,611 --> 00:06:24,321 "That's it. I'm alone now." 99 00:06:25,739 --> 00:06:28,867 [sighs] But miracle of miracles, I ran into a man 100 00:06:29,535 --> 00:06:34,498 with whom I'd had a hot and heavy fling way back in 1967. 101 00:06:35,124 --> 00:06:35,999 [chuckles] 102 00:06:36,083 --> 00:06:39,586 That man was your dad and your grandpa. 103 00:06:40,254 --> 00:06:43,090 Well, I mean, first we assumed that, uh, 104 00:06:43,173 --> 00:06:45,717 the relationship this time would be merely platonic. 105 00:06:46,427 --> 00:06:49,263 You know, old friends holding hands, 106 00:06:49,763 --> 00:06:51,390 taking a walk in the park, 107 00:06:51,932 --> 00:06:53,350 sharing meals. 108 00:06:54,017 --> 00:06:55,853 But that's not what happened at all. 109 00:06:57,312 --> 00:06:59,857 With a little encouragement from me and, uh, 110 00:07:01,108 --> 00:07:03,110 a little pharmaceutical assistance, 111 00:07:03,652 --> 00:07:08,740 Norman quickly turned into the voracious stud that ravaged me 112 00:07:08,824 --> 00:07:10,200 all those years ago. 113 00:07:10,868 --> 00:07:12,161 It was wonderful. 114 00:07:12,828 --> 00:07:17,416 And his lust was gentle but demanding. 115 00:07:17,499 --> 00:07:18,959 And punctual. 116 00:07:19,042 --> 00:07:20,961 Oh, you could set your watch by it. 117 00:07:21,044 --> 00:07:21,962 [giggles] 118 00:07:22,629 --> 00:07:27,092 7:30 a.m. on Wednesdays and Sundays. 119 00:07:27,801 --> 00:07:31,013 After a cup of coffee and a quick visit to the bathroom, 120 00:07:31,096 --> 00:07:36,059 he would take me from behind and make me quiver and shake 121 00:07:36,143 --> 00:07:38,061 like a… like a 16-year-old girl 122 00:07:38,145 --> 00:07:42,399 who's been rebelling against her overly religious parents. 123 00:07:43,442 --> 00:07:46,737 Wednesday and Sunday mornings, 124 00:07:47,779 --> 00:07:50,991 Norman Newlander loved me like no other man. 125 00:07:51,700 --> 00:07:53,744 Wednesday and Sunday mornings. 126 00:07:54,995 --> 00:07:57,789 At 7:30 to 7:45. 127 00:07:58,457 --> 00:07:59,958 I'm a little horny right now. 128 00:08:03,253 --> 00:08:06,173 [crying] I was Norman's assistant 129 00:08:06,965 --> 00:08:08,634 for 22 years. 130 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:14,306 I, um, arranged his work schedule, his personal schedule, 131 00:08:14,389 --> 00:08:16,850 his travel plans, his vacations. 132 00:08:17,809 --> 00:08:22,397 I made sure he had regular medical, dental… 133 00:08:23,065 --> 00:08:27,069 [sobbing] …dermatology, and ophthalmology. 134 00:08:28,111 --> 00:08:28,946 Um… 135 00:08:29,446 --> 00:08:31,031 I… [exhales] 136 00:08:31,114 --> 00:08:34,117 I-- I also took care of all of his lunch and dinner reservations, 137 00:08:34,201 --> 00:08:38,121 always reminding the restaurants how important he was 138 00:08:38,205 --> 00:08:40,040 so that he had a nice table. 139 00:08:40,624 --> 00:08:42,209 Classic Homo sapien. 140 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:48,799 I also made sure his wife and daughter got birthday cards and flowers. 141 00:08:48,882 --> 00:08:50,133 Same for Valentine's Day. 142 00:08:50,217 --> 00:08:54,054 And, um, eight times I made arrangements for his daughter 143 00:08:54,137 --> 00:08:55,973 to go to the very best rehabs. 144 00:08:56,890 --> 00:08:58,058 [crying softly] 145 00:08:58,642 --> 00:09:00,477 But in-- [sighs] 146 00:09:00,561 --> 00:09:02,396 But in all that time… 147 00:09:05,357 --> 00:09:08,485 I never told Norman how much he meant to me. 148 00:09:10,862 --> 00:09:13,991 [sobbing] How making him happy made me happy. 149 00:09:14,074 --> 00:09:17,119 How… how his welfare was my first thought in the morning 150 00:09:17,202 --> 00:09:19,705 and my last thought before I went to sleep. 151 00:09:20,956 --> 00:09:22,541 [sobs] Um… 152 00:09:24,710 --> 00:09:25,752 Uh, thank you. 153 00:09:28,255 --> 00:09:31,091 -[screaming] No. No! -[all gasp] 154 00:09:31,174 --> 00:09:33,051 [screaming] Don't leave me! 155 00:09:34,261 --> 00:09:36,597 I have so much more to give! 156 00:09:36,680 --> 00:09:39,182 -No! -No, Jeanine. Jesus. Jeanine… 157 00:09:39,266 --> 00:09:40,559 What's she hanging onto? 158 00:09:44,438 --> 00:09:47,274 God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, 159 00:09:47,357 --> 00:09:49,776 the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. 160 00:09:49,860 --> 00:09:52,070 God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, 161 00:09:52,154 --> 00:09:54,489 the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. 162 00:09:54,573 --> 00:09:55,949 God, grant me the serenity… 163 00:09:56,033 --> 00:09:59,453 -Should we be worried about her? -I'm more worried about him. 164 00:10:03,707 --> 00:10:06,460 He'll be okay. Just gotta give him time. 165 00:10:06,543 --> 00:10:08,170 -[sighs] I hope so. -Yeah. 166 00:10:08,670 --> 00:10:11,214 A couple of years ago, my… my best friend in the world 167 00:10:11,298 --> 00:10:12,799 passed away unexpectedly. 168 00:10:12,883 --> 00:10:14,009 Stevie Chartokoff. 169 00:10:14,092 --> 00:10:15,385 -I ever tell you about him? -No. 170 00:10:15,469 --> 00:10:16,428 Great guy. Great guy. 171 00:10:16,511 --> 00:10:18,555 We were pals since, like, third grade. 172 00:10:18,639 --> 00:10:20,682 And I'll tell you, when he died, 173 00:10:21,642 --> 00:10:23,727 I didn't feel anything. I was numb. 174 00:10:24,561 --> 00:10:25,604 That's awful. 175 00:10:26,104 --> 00:10:27,105 No. [chuckles] 176 00:10:27,189 --> 00:10:30,859 See, that's the-- I think it's actually a… a… a survival mechanism. 177 00:10:30,942 --> 00:10:34,905 It's like-- It's like nature's way of being compassionate. 178 00:10:34,988 --> 00:10:36,031 What do you mean? 179 00:10:36,114 --> 00:10:38,116 Well, 'cause when it happened, 180 00:10:38,909 --> 00:10:41,703 I could-- The pain was too much. 181 00:10:41,787 --> 00:10:47,042 But over time, you know, I was able to feel the grief more and more and more, 182 00:10:47,125 --> 00:10:50,379 till it just became, uh, a part of who I am, you know? 183 00:10:50,462 --> 00:10:54,341 [splutters] It's like it morphs into acceptance, which 184 00:10:55,258 --> 00:10:57,427 is, I guess, a sort of a wisdom. 185 00:10:58,011 --> 00:11:00,347 -That's actually pretty comforting. -[chuckles] 186 00:11:01,264 --> 00:11:03,433 -You are wise. -[chuckles] 187 00:11:04,267 --> 00:11:07,979 I remember one… one time in high school, we must have been 14 or 15, 188 00:11:08,063 --> 00:11:12,859 me and Stevie smoked a joint, and we decided to… to light our farts on fire. 189 00:11:13,443 --> 00:11:14,820 That's a real thing? 190 00:11:14,903 --> 00:11:17,864 Oh yeah. You lie on your back with your legs up in the air, 191 00:11:17,948 --> 00:11:19,866 and you hold a lit match in front of your ass. 192 00:11:19,950 --> 00:11:23,078 You let one rip, and a big blue flame shoots out. [laughs] 193 00:11:23,161 --> 00:11:26,873 Anyway, somehow the pubes on Stevie's balls caught fire, 194 00:11:26,957 --> 00:11:28,792 and he was screaming. 195 00:11:28,875 --> 00:11:30,794 He was crying and screaming for me to pat it out. 196 00:11:30,877 --> 00:11:33,380 He said, "Pat it out! Pat it out!" I'm not gonna touch his balls. 197 00:11:33,463 --> 00:11:34,798 So, long story short, 198 00:11:34,881 --> 00:11:38,301 his mother had to drive him to the emergency room. [laughs] 199 00:11:38,385 --> 00:11:40,971 She did not wanna touch those balls either. Trust me. 200 00:11:42,848 --> 00:11:44,683 So, your wisdom came later in life. 201 00:11:44,766 --> 00:11:46,518 It was after that. Yes. 202 00:11:52,941 --> 00:11:53,775 [sighs] 203 00:11:54,860 --> 00:11:56,319 [seagulls mewing] 204 00:11:56,403 --> 00:11:57,863 [Norman] Boy, what a deal. 205 00:11:57,946 --> 00:11:59,614 You're crazy not to get one. 206 00:11:59,698 --> 00:12:00,532 I'm okay. 207 00:12:01,867 --> 00:12:03,201 The churro is delicious. 208 00:12:04,244 --> 00:12:05,537 [smacking lips] 209 00:12:09,249 --> 00:12:10,876 I would like to say something. 210 00:12:11,585 --> 00:12:13,086 Can't I just enjoy this? 211 00:12:13,170 --> 00:12:14,588 No, you need to hear it. 212 00:12:15,464 --> 00:12:18,508 Sandy, I'm very grateful for our friendship, 213 00:12:18,592 --> 00:12:22,220 and I want you to know how happy I am to have you in my life. 214 00:12:22,304 --> 00:12:25,098 -[Robbie] How are you holding up? -Hmm? What? 215 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:28,977 Oh, I'm-- I'm fine, thank you. 216 00:12:29,060 --> 00:12:30,562 -Good. -Mmm. 217 00:12:36,318 --> 00:12:37,652 You-- You need something? 218 00:12:38,820 --> 00:12:40,197 I just wanted to remind you 219 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:43,825 that I am a Flag-trained Class VIII Auditor, 220 00:12:43,909 --> 00:12:46,161 and I can help you process your grief. 221 00:12:46,244 --> 00:12:48,872 I don't need any help, but thank you. [chuckles] 222 00:12:48,955 --> 00:12:52,584 Suppressed emotional pain can manifest as a physical ailment. 223 00:12:52,667 --> 00:12:53,919 I'm fine, Robbie. 224 00:12:54,002 --> 00:12:55,837 [whispers] Malignant tumors are not uncommon. 225 00:12:55,921 --> 00:13:01,134 Robbie, I'm glad Scientology has helped you, uh, be all you can be. 226 00:13:01,843 --> 00:13:03,595 No, that's the Marines. Um… 227 00:13:03,678 --> 00:13:05,931 Either way, just leave me the fuck alone. 228 00:13:06,014 --> 00:13:07,599 Okay, see, that's anger, 229 00:13:07,682 --> 00:13:09,768 which is a little higher on the emotional tone scale-- 230 00:13:09,851 --> 00:13:10,685 Beat it! 231 00:13:16,775 --> 00:13:17,609 [glass thuds] 232 00:13:18,109 --> 00:13:18,944 [sighs] 233 00:13:24,741 --> 00:13:28,119 I remember my first biopsy. It's very unpleasant. 234 00:13:28,203 --> 00:13:30,330 Scissors up your asshole, that's never good. 235 00:13:30,413 --> 00:13:33,625 Yeah. At least afterwards, when there's blood in your stool, 236 00:13:34,209 --> 00:13:35,961 you know where it's coming from. 237 00:13:36,628 --> 00:13:37,963 Always a joy. 238 00:13:38,588 --> 00:13:39,673 Anything else? 239 00:13:40,924 --> 00:13:41,758 Yes. 240 00:13:42,342 --> 00:13:45,178 In your professional opinion, what is your finest ham? 241 00:13:46,012 --> 00:13:49,641 -I don't know. They're all good. -All right, let's put it in story form. 242 00:13:49,724 --> 00:13:52,769 It's your last meal before you're executed by the state. 243 00:13:52,853 --> 00:13:54,980 What ham do you add to your turkey sandwich 244 00:13:55,063 --> 00:13:57,941 before they inject you with a cocktail of death? 245 00:13:59,860 --> 00:14:00,777 Honey glazed. 246 00:14:01,736 --> 00:14:05,073 Mr. Deli Man, a half a pound of honey glazed, please. 247 00:14:07,409 --> 00:14:10,161 I would've bet a million bucks he would've said Virginia ham. 248 00:14:10,245 --> 00:14:12,372 [Madelyn] He was a wonderful man. 249 00:14:13,623 --> 00:14:14,457 Oh… 250 00:14:14,541 --> 00:14:15,750 Yeah, he was the best. 251 00:14:15,834 --> 00:14:16,668 Hmm. 252 00:14:17,168 --> 00:14:19,087 The cat's pajamas. [chuckles] 253 00:14:19,170 --> 00:14:20,714 The bee's knees. 254 00:14:22,841 --> 00:14:25,176 You know, we were talking about getting married. 255 00:14:26,052 --> 00:14:28,513 No, I didn't know that. I'm so sorry. 256 00:14:29,514 --> 00:14:31,725 There was also talk about us having a baby. 257 00:14:31,808 --> 00:14:32,767 [laughs] 258 00:14:33,727 --> 00:14:34,561 Yeah. 259 00:14:34,644 --> 00:14:35,687 What's so funny? 260 00:14:37,564 --> 00:14:38,481 You're serious? 261 00:14:39,065 --> 00:14:40,400 As a heart attack. 262 00:14:41,776 --> 00:14:43,987 Oh, okay. 263 00:14:47,949 --> 00:14:51,286 Now, when you say "having a baby," you mean, like, adopting? 264 00:14:51,453 --> 00:14:53,705 No, I mean, like, having a baby. 265 00:14:56,666 --> 00:14:58,335 Right. Right. 266 00:14:58,418 --> 00:15:02,255 Of course, we had to put it on hold until I was off my medication. 267 00:15:02,339 --> 00:15:05,175 We didn't want Norman Jr. having three heads and a tail. [laughs] 268 00:15:05,258 --> 00:15:07,510 [chuckles] No. No, we wouldn't, no. 269 00:15:11,014 --> 00:15:12,557 I don't mean to pry, 270 00:15:12,641 --> 00:15:15,560 but what kind of medications are we talking about? 271 00:15:15,644 --> 00:15:17,520 -For depression. -Oh yeah. 272 00:15:18,146 --> 00:15:20,190 -And bipolar. -Mmm, that too, huh? 273 00:15:20,273 --> 00:15:21,775 And a little schizophrenia. 274 00:15:21,858 --> 00:15:23,818 Wow. That's… that's the hat trick. 275 00:15:23,902 --> 00:15:26,696 -Excuse me? -[splutters] Ignore me. 276 00:15:26,780 --> 00:15:28,531 I'm just fraught with grief. 277 00:15:32,786 --> 00:15:36,247 In the meantime, you're a beautiful, vivacious woman. 278 00:15:36,331 --> 00:15:39,834 And I'm sure you'll meet someone special, and you'll have that baby. 279 00:15:40,418 --> 00:15:41,378 What are you suggesting? 280 00:15:42,796 --> 00:15:44,547 Nothing. I'm just wishing you the best. 281 00:15:44,631 --> 00:15:46,216 Please tell me you're not coming on to me 282 00:15:46,299 --> 00:15:48,885 when the second love of my life is still warm to the touch. 283 00:15:48,969 --> 00:15:50,136 No! No, of course not! 284 00:15:50,220 --> 00:15:53,682 I don't feel safe right now. I am going to walk away. 285 00:15:56,017 --> 00:15:57,102 Keep walking. 286 00:15:57,185 --> 00:15:58,728 Jesus Christ. 287 00:16:01,898 --> 00:16:04,192 [Norman] When I was going through the whole prostate deal, 288 00:16:04,275 --> 00:16:07,404 I convinced myself I could turn things around by Kegeling. 289 00:16:07,487 --> 00:16:09,239 -Well, did it help? -No. 290 00:16:09,781 --> 00:16:12,826 But it gave my anus confidence, and that's half the battle. 291 00:16:17,330 --> 00:16:19,582 -Are you doing it now? -[straining] Yeah. 292 00:16:20,583 --> 00:16:21,751 I'll join you. 293 00:16:24,212 --> 00:16:26,047 -[squealing] -[chuckles] 294 00:16:27,090 --> 00:16:29,592 -What, is that-- That's your Kegel sound? -Mm-hmm. Yeah. 295 00:16:29,676 --> 00:16:32,512 -Hey. -Now what? 296 00:16:32,595 --> 00:16:34,723 I was just coming to see if you're ready to go. 297 00:16:34,806 --> 00:16:36,141 -Oh yeah. -Come on. 298 00:16:36,725 --> 00:16:39,269 -Did you see they got sushi from Nobu? -Mmm. 299 00:16:39,352 --> 00:16:40,186 Yeah. 300 00:16:40,270 --> 00:16:43,023 This is unbelievable. He's got baked crab and miso cod 301 00:16:43,106 --> 00:16:45,025 and yellowtail, the whole deal. 302 00:16:45,108 --> 00:16:46,484 -That's nice. -[chuckles] 303 00:16:46,985 --> 00:16:49,279 Nobody knows how to mourn like the Jews, huh? 304 00:16:49,362 --> 00:16:51,281 Practice, practice, practice. 305 00:16:51,364 --> 00:16:52,657 -[door opens] -[chuckles] Yeah. 306 00:17:04,127 --> 00:17:06,421 -Thanks for driving. -[Martin] Hey, happy to do it. 307 00:17:06,504 --> 00:17:10,133 Well, you know, not… not happy, but, you… you know. 308 00:17:11,176 --> 00:17:13,553 I wish you'd reconsider. We have plenty of room. 309 00:17:14,596 --> 00:17:15,722 I'm fine, honey. 310 00:17:15,805 --> 00:17:19,267 Yeah, of course you're fine. It's just, why be alone right now? 311 00:17:19,350 --> 00:17:20,685 'Cause that's what I want. 312 00:17:20,769 --> 00:17:23,354 Come on, spend the night. It'll be fun. 313 00:17:23,438 --> 00:17:25,690 We'll have, like, a… a… a family game night. 314 00:17:26,274 --> 00:17:29,194 Martin, I just lost my best friend. I don't wanna have fun. 315 00:17:29,778 --> 00:17:30,612 You sure? 316 00:17:31,112 --> 00:17:33,656 We could smoke a doobie, play a little Jenga. 317 00:17:33,740 --> 00:17:34,824 I'll pass. 318 00:17:35,825 --> 00:17:37,202 I hate when you use that word. 319 00:17:37,786 --> 00:17:40,205 What, "doobie"? What's the matter with "doobie"? 320 00:17:40,705 --> 00:17:42,290 Makes you sound like an old man. 321 00:17:42,373 --> 00:17:43,583 He is an old man. 322 00:17:43,666 --> 00:17:44,709 Don't help. 323 00:17:45,752 --> 00:17:48,213 -All right. We'll take you home. -[Sandy] Yeah. 324 00:17:51,508 --> 00:17:53,635 You know, I wasn't gonna say anything, but 325 00:17:53,718 --> 00:17:57,055 when we were trying to drag that girl off the coffin, she bit me. 326 00:17:57,764 --> 00:17:59,933 What? That's terrible. Let me see. 327 00:18:00,016 --> 00:18:03,144 Yeah. Didn't break the skin but still hurts like the dickens. 328 00:18:04,229 --> 00:18:05,563 The dickens? 329 00:18:06,064 --> 00:18:08,274 Okay, "dickens" and "doobie." Got it. 330 00:18:08,358 --> 00:18:09,442 [chuckles] 331 00:18:11,778 --> 00:18:12,612 [sighs] 332 00:18:15,990 --> 00:18:18,368 It was a pretty nice turnout, I thought, huh? 333 00:18:18,451 --> 00:18:20,286 Norman would have been pleased. 334 00:18:20,787 --> 00:18:22,497 Norman was never pleased. 335 00:18:22,580 --> 00:18:25,917 [chuckles] Yeah, well, he wa… he was certainly tough on you, huh? 336 00:18:27,544 --> 00:18:28,586 What are you talking about? 337 00:18:28,670 --> 00:18:31,214 In your eulogy, you were saying how he was tough on you. 338 00:18:31,297 --> 00:18:32,340 That's not what I said. 339 00:18:33,675 --> 00:18:37,053 -I'm pretty sure that's what you said. -We were tough on each other. 340 00:18:37,637 --> 00:18:39,764 -Okay. -That's just how we were. 341 00:18:39,848 --> 00:18:42,225 -[Martin] Right. -Don't be telling me what I said. 342 00:18:42,976 --> 00:18:44,769 Got it, sorry. My bad. 343 00:18:44,853 --> 00:18:45,728 [chuckles] 344 00:18:47,105 --> 00:18:50,191 -What? -No one says "my bad" anymore. 345 00:18:51,234 --> 00:18:54,279 Well, excuse me. I didn't get the fucking memo. 346 00:18:55,655 --> 00:18:57,615 -Take it easy. -Okay. 347 00:18:59,159 --> 00:18:59,993 Memo. 348 00:19:00,076 --> 00:19:02,620 ["It Never Entered My Mind" playing] 349 00:19:06,166 --> 00:19:07,208 [lock clicks] 350 00:20:01,512 --> 00:20:02,388 [music continues] 351 00:20:08,937 --> 00:20:09,771 Thanks. 352 00:20:13,024 --> 00:20:13,942 [sighs] 353 00:20:23,952 --> 00:20:25,245 -[music ends] -[glass clinks] 354 00:20:25,328 --> 00:20:29,415 Jack Daniel's and Diet Dr. Pepper. 355 00:20:29,499 --> 00:20:30,500 Thank you, Alex. 356 00:20:31,000 --> 00:20:34,796 I was very sorry to hear about Mr. Newlander. 357 00:20:35,713 --> 00:20:36,547 Yeah. 358 00:20:37,048 --> 00:20:40,843 [Alex] I had the bar make a martini in his honor. 359 00:20:44,138 --> 00:20:44,973 Thank you. 360 00:20:46,307 --> 00:20:48,351 He was a kind and generous man. 361 00:20:48,434 --> 00:20:50,270 Yeah, I'll give you generous. 362 00:20:50,353 --> 00:20:51,187 Yeah. 363 00:20:51,771 --> 00:20:53,982 I'll be back in a moment to take your order. 364 00:20:59,821 --> 00:21:00,697 [sighs] 365 00:21:04,951 --> 00:21:05,868 [exhales] 366 00:21:13,960 --> 00:21:15,044 Cheers, buddy. 367 00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:41,529 [woman shouting] Irving! 368 00:21:43,406 --> 00:21:44,741 Irving! 369 00:21:45,867 --> 00:21:47,035 -Irving! -What? 370 00:21:50,496 --> 00:21:51,331 Oh. 371 00:21:55,376 --> 00:21:56,586 [woman shouting] Irving! 372 00:21:57,086 --> 00:21:58,212 [Sandy] Hello! 373 00:22:00,548 --> 00:22:02,508 I think I found your dog. 374 00:22:03,009 --> 00:22:04,886 -Hello? -[in Russian accent] Oh, thanks God. 375 00:22:04,969 --> 00:22:06,429 Thank you so much. 376 00:22:07,013 --> 00:22:07,889 Oh, no problem. 377 00:22:07,972 --> 00:22:09,766 I was freaking the fuck out. 378 00:22:12,101 --> 00:22:14,103 -[sighs] -His name is Irving? 379 00:22:14,187 --> 00:22:17,023 Yeah. The gate was left open, and he just took off. 380 00:22:17,940 --> 00:22:19,567 -Really? -[woman sighs] 381 00:22:19,650 --> 00:22:20,610 Irving. 382 00:22:20,693 --> 00:22:22,195 Yeah. Why? 383 00:22:27,283 --> 00:22:28,534 It's-- It's not important. 384 00:22:28,618 --> 00:22:31,496 You just-- You don't hear that name much anymore. 385 00:22:32,997 --> 00:22:35,333 Let me get my pocketbook. I'm gonna give you a reward. 386 00:22:35,416 --> 00:22:36,834 Ooh, no. No, no, no, no. 387 00:22:36,918 --> 00:22:39,796 -I'm just-- I'm being a good neighbor. -[woman chuckles] 388 00:22:41,589 --> 00:22:42,757 You're a great neighbor. 389 00:22:44,967 --> 00:22:45,802 [chuckles] 390 00:22:46,594 --> 00:22:48,763 -Yvette. -Sandy. 391 00:22:49,931 --> 00:22:52,475 Uh, I live, uh, down the street on the corner. 392 00:22:52,558 --> 00:22:54,602 -Uh, the one that's for sale? -Mmm. 393 00:22:54,685 --> 00:22:55,520 Did you buy it? 394 00:22:55,603 --> 00:22:58,439 No. It's a 3,000-square-foot hole of shit. 395 00:22:58,523 --> 00:23:00,108 -[chuckles] -Shithole. 396 00:23:00,191 --> 00:23:02,985 Yeah. I'm house-sitting for my cousin and her husband. 397 00:23:03,069 --> 00:23:05,279 Oh, that… that… that's nice. 398 00:23:05,363 --> 00:23:07,365 If I lost their dog, I don't know what I would do. 399 00:23:07,448 --> 00:23:11,244 I would have to jump off the balcony and hope the coyotes eat me. [laughs] 400 00:23:11,327 --> 00:23:13,663 Yeah. They'd be crazy not to. 401 00:23:15,289 --> 00:23:16,958 [sighs] Okay. 402 00:23:18,418 --> 00:23:20,336 Uh, good night. Good night. 403 00:23:23,423 --> 00:23:27,885 Can I at least offer you a glass of wine? Or I make a mean margarita. 404 00:23:28,678 --> 00:23:30,096 Something to say thank you. 405 00:23:32,056 --> 00:23:34,767 [Sandy grunting] Aha! Ah! 406 00:23:35,476 --> 00:23:36,894 Ah, thank you. 407 00:23:37,645 --> 00:23:38,938 You were showing off. 408 00:23:39,605 --> 00:23:40,982 -Yeah. -[sips] 409 00:23:41,816 --> 00:23:43,401 Hey, look what I can do. 410 00:23:43,484 --> 00:23:44,360 [Sandy] Yeah. 411 00:23:44,444 --> 00:23:47,196 [sips] Did you think I wouldn't know how old you are? 412 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:49,907 [huffs] Yeah. 413 00:23:49,991 --> 00:23:53,161 It's not enough to act your age. You also have to fuck your age. 414 00:23:53,244 --> 00:23:54,078 [sighs] 415 00:23:55,037 --> 00:23:55,872 Yeah. 416 00:23:57,039 --> 00:23:58,749 I'm gonna get you more vegetables. 417 00:24:01,752 --> 00:24:03,504 -[exhales] -[dog barks] 418 00:24:07,341 --> 00:24:08,676 [whispers] Norman, is that you? 419 00:24:11,471 --> 00:24:12,513 Oh. 420 00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:16,559 -[doorbell chiming] -[Sandy groaning] 421 00:24:21,814 --> 00:24:22,690 [grunts] 422 00:24:24,066 --> 00:24:24,984 Good morning. 423 00:24:26,277 --> 00:24:27,111 What's happening? 424 00:24:27,778 --> 00:24:30,781 Your lovely daughter sent me over with healthy fruit smoothies. 425 00:24:30,865 --> 00:24:32,533 Aw, that's… that's nice. 426 00:24:32,617 --> 00:24:35,453 I don't have to tell you she's worried about her old pop. 427 00:24:35,536 --> 00:24:36,996 [dog barks, growls] 428 00:24:39,540 --> 00:24:40,374 He's okay. 429 00:24:40,458 --> 00:24:41,626 [grunts] 430 00:24:41,709 --> 00:24:42,919 He's okay. 431 00:24:43,753 --> 00:24:46,631 -Who's this? -This is Irving. 432 00:24:46,714 --> 00:24:47,632 Irving. 433 00:24:48,216 --> 00:24:49,425 Hi. Hi. 434 00:24:49,509 --> 00:24:52,220 I have a half a Vicodin if your back still hurts. 435 00:24:52,845 --> 00:24:55,181 Oh! Sorry, I didn't know you had a guest. 436 00:24:57,975 --> 00:24:59,644 -Here. -What? 437 00:25:00,353 --> 00:25:02,396 -Cover. -[Yvette] Oh, sure. 438 00:25:02,480 --> 00:25:04,357 Uh, Martin, this is Yvette. 439 00:25:04,982 --> 00:25:06,400 Yvette, this is Martin. 440 00:25:07,193 --> 00:25:08,694 -Hello. -Hello. 441 00:25:09,570 --> 00:25:11,030 -Russki? -Da. 442 00:25:11,113 --> 00:25:13,991 -[chuckles] -Uh, I go to use your shower? 443 00:25:14,075 --> 00:25:15,993 -Yeah, sure. -Okay. Come, Irving. 444 00:25:16,077 --> 00:25:17,245 Uh… 445 00:25:17,328 --> 00:25:18,329 [chuckles] 446 00:25:18,412 --> 00:25:19,288 Dosvedanya! 447 00:25:21,791 --> 00:25:23,251 -[Sandy gulps] -[pills rattle] 448 00:25:23,793 --> 00:25:25,169 -[sighs] -Holy shit! 449 00:25:25,253 --> 00:25:26,212 Yeah. 450 00:25:26,295 --> 00:25:27,588 How does that happen? 451 00:25:27,672 --> 00:25:29,507 I mean, I drop you off here last night, 452 00:25:29,590 --> 00:25:31,551 I was afraid you'd stick your head in the oven. 453 00:25:31,634 --> 00:25:33,135 Well, I stuck my head in something. 454 00:25:33,219 --> 00:25:35,930 Again, how does that happen? 455 00:25:36,013 --> 00:25:38,766 Tell me. Tell me everything. And go slow. 456 00:25:38,849 --> 00:25:40,601 There's nothing to tell. 457 00:25:40,685 --> 00:25:42,770 Well, no, no, there… there is something. 458 00:25:44,313 --> 00:25:46,399 Her dog's name is Irving. 459 00:25:47,233 --> 00:25:49,151 I understand. You… you introduced us. 460 00:25:50,069 --> 00:25:52,029 That's Norman's middle name. 461 00:25:52,613 --> 00:25:53,531 All right. So? 462 00:25:53,614 --> 00:25:55,324 So it's spooky, right? 463 00:25:55,408 --> 00:25:57,410 Is it? Maybe it's just a coincidence. 464 00:25:57,493 --> 00:25:59,954 Only the same day that I bury my best friend, 465 00:26:00,037 --> 00:26:04,333 this beautiful young woman comes into my life with a dog that has his name? 466 00:26:04,417 --> 00:26:05,751 Middle. Middle name. 467 00:26:05,835 --> 00:26:08,087 At best it's like a Stephen King novella. 468 00:26:08,170 --> 00:26:10,673 See, I was thinking maybe like Twilight Zone. 469 00:26:10,756 --> 00:26:14,427 -Yeah. Maybe. It's a stretch. -[grunting] 470 00:26:14,510 --> 00:26:16,178 Speaking of which, when you hurt your back, 471 00:26:16,262 --> 00:26:19,307 what were you doing? You were thrusting? You were lifting? Tell me, tell me. 472 00:26:19,390 --> 00:26:20,933 Use your imagination. 473 00:26:21,017 --> 00:26:23,561 See, I am, but it's not what it once was. 474 00:26:23,644 --> 00:26:27,148 -Don't say anything about this to Mindy. -Mindy who? Finish your story. 475 00:26:27,231 --> 00:26:29,150 -Oh. Yeah, the dog. -Irving. 476 00:26:29,233 --> 00:26:31,861 So it's actually not her dog. She's house-sitting. 477 00:26:31,944 --> 00:26:35,489 Long story short, he got out, I found him, and, uh, she thanked me. 478 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:37,617 [chuckles] 479 00:26:38,618 --> 00:26:40,411 Did you say "you're welcome"? 480 00:26:41,787 --> 00:26:42,830 In my way. 481 00:26:43,706 --> 00:26:44,790 What does she do? 482 00:26:44,874 --> 00:26:45,875 I don't know. 483 00:26:45,958 --> 00:26:47,168 What's her last name? 484 00:26:47,251 --> 00:26:48,711 I don't know. 485 00:26:50,463 --> 00:26:52,340 What does she want with an alte kaker like you? 486 00:26:52,423 --> 00:26:54,800 Well, actually, that's something that I do know. 487 00:26:55,468 --> 00:26:58,179 A lot of young women are attracted to older men 488 00:26:58,262 --> 00:27:00,598 because we're, uh… we're more sophisticated, 489 00:27:00,681 --> 00:27:02,850 more worldly than guys their own age. 490 00:27:02,933 --> 00:27:04,518 -So you don't know. -I don't know. 491 00:27:06,354 --> 00:27:09,982 I will tell you one thing, there's more going on here than just a coincidence. 492 00:27:10,566 --> 00:27:13,527 Really? Like what? A… a message from beyond? 493 00:27:13,611 --> 00:27:14,695 No, I don't know. 494 00:27:15,196 --> 00:27:16,072 Maybe. 495 00:27:16,155 --> 00:27:17,907 Aha? Okay, what-- 496 00:27:17,990 --> 00:27:21,202 I can't believe I'm asking you this. What would that be? 497 00:27:21,786 --> 00:27:23,287 I'm not sure. Um… 498 00:27:23,371 --> 00:27:28,000 Embrace life, keep my heart open to new experiences. 499 00:27:28,584 --> 00:27:30,670 Sandy, we have a problem. Come quick. 500 00:27:34,590 --> 00:27:36,759 [in Russian accent] Boris, we must kill squirrel. 501 00:27:38,719 --> 00:27:39,679 [slurps] 502 00:27:39,762 --> 00:27:41,013 Fuck! 503 00:27:41,514 --> 00:27:42,431 Fuck! Ah! 504 00:27:42,515 --> 00:27:44,141 -What? What? What? What happened? -Fuck! 505 00:27:44,225 --> 00:27:45,726 -Fuck! -[Martin] What happened? 506 00:27:45,810 --> 00:27:47,353 Irving took a shit in my bed. 507 00:27:49,063 --> 00:27:50,439 Keep an open heart. 508 00:28:00,783 --> 00:28:01,617 [tires screech] 509 00:28:17,550 --> 00:28:18,592 -Hey. -Hey. 510 00:28:19,343 --> 00:28:22,179 -Thanks for the smoothie. [grunts] -You're welcome. 511 00:28:22,263 --> 00:28:23,973 -[groans] -What's going on with your back? 512 00:28:24,056 --> 00:28:28,144 Oh, I just tweaked it putting on my socks, if you can believe it, you know. 513 00:28:28,227 --> 00:28:29,395 You're kidding. 514 00:28:29,478 --> 00:28:32,523 I think it's time to get one of those, uh, plastic thingies 515 00:28:32,606 --> 00:28:33,774 that put 'em on for you. 516 00:28:33,858 --> 00:28:36,193 [chuckles] That is so sad. 517 00:28:36,277 --> 00:28:37,570 Tell me about it. 518 00:28:39,697 --> 00:28:42,241 You know, if you ever want to talk about what you're going through, 519 00:28:42,324 --> 00:28:43,492 I'm here for you. 520 00:28:43,576 --> 00:28:45,327 What do you think I'm going through? 521 00:28:45,911 --> 00:28:48,748 You lose somebody that's been such a big part of your life, 522 00:28:48,831 --> 00:28:51,709 there's got to be lots of feelings, emotions. 523 00:28:51,792 --> 00:28:53,753 Ugh. Not as many as you'd think. 524 00:28:53,836 --> 00:28:54,754 Dad… 525 00:28:55,254 --> 00:28:58,758 You know how many of my friends have died in the last couple of years? 526 00:28:59,258 --> 00:29:01,427 -No. -Me neither. I've lost count. 527 00:29:01,510 --> 00:29:04,430 Well, still, it's important that you talk to somebody about it. 528 00:29:04,513 --> 00:29:06,640 Why? Who says we have to share how we feel 529 00:29:06,724 --> 00:29:09,143 about every fucking thing that happens to you? 530 00:29:09,226 --> 00:29:11,771 'Cause keeping it inside is not healthy. 531 00:29:11,854 --> 00:29:13,981 Yeah, well, maybe I don't want to be healthy. 532 00:29:14,064 --> 00:29:15,232 Oh, very mature. 533 00:29:15,316 --> 00:29:17,693 Mindy, I am 75 years old. 534 00:29:17,777 --> 00:29:20,446 I think that gives me certain rights and privileges 535 00:29:20,529 --> 00:29:22,448 as to what constitutes maturity. 536 00:29:22,531 --> 00:29:23,866 No, it doesn't. 537 00:29:23,949 --> 00:29:25,159 Says you. 538 00:29:27,411 --> 00:29:28,287 [sighs] 539 00:29:32,333 --> 00:29:33,667 [phone unlocks, beeps] 540 00:29:37,213 --> 00:29:38,881 Martin, when you saw my father this morning, 541 00:29:38,964 --> 00:29:40,716 did he say anything about Norman? 542 00:29:42,426 --> 00:29:44,470 I don't know. Did he open up to you? 543 00:29:45,054 --> 00:29:46,639 Was he acting weird at all? 544 00:29:48,516 --> 00:29:49,642 Why are you giggling? 545 00:29:50,142 --> 00:29:53,521 So we do these exercises to free up our emotions, 546 00:29:53,604 --> 00:29:57,733 because all our lives we've been taught that some of them are not acceptable 547 00:29:57,817 --> 00:29:59,652 and thus need to be suppressed. 548 00:30:00,194 --> 00:30:01,487 For instance, uh, men, 549 00:30:01,570 --> 00:30:06,158 they learn at an early age, usually in a playground, to not show fear. 550 00:30:06,242 --> 00:30:09,078 And if you do, you're weak. You're a punk. 551 00:30:09,161 --> 00:30:12,289 And for women, the message you get over and over again 552 00:30:12,373 --> 00:30:14,875 is that it's not ladylike to express anger. 553 00:30:14,959 --> 00:30:17,044 You're immediately labeled a bitch 554 00:30:17,127 --> 00:30:19,338 if you have a strong opinion about something, 555 00:30:19,421 --> 00:30:22,550 or, God forbid, you raise your voice. 556 00:30:24,552 --> 00:30:28,639 But what kind of an actor can you be if those emotions are denied to you? 557 00:30:29,557 --> 00:30:31,225 And not just anger and fear. 558 00:30:31,308 --> 00:30:34,728 What about, uh, apathy? Exhilaration? 559 00:30:34,812 --> 00:30:37,606 Murderous rage? Abject grief? 560 00:30:38,274 --> 00:30:40,067 -Yes. -How do I get an agent? 561 00:30:41,694 --> 00:30:42,528 [sighs] What? 562 00:30:42,611 --> 00:30:46,240 If I don't have an agent, I can't audition, and if I can't audition, 563 00:30:46,323 --> 00:30:48,868 what the fuck difference does it make if I got suppressed emotions? 564 00:30:48,951 --> 00:30:50,953 I'm guessing you don't have a problem with anger. 565 00:30:51,036 --> 00:30:52,496 No, I do not. 566 00:30:52,580 --> 00:30:54,915 Well, you'll make somebody a great ex-wife. 567 00:30:55,499 --> 00:30:58,085 What do you say we just stick with the emotion exercise 568 00:30:58,168 --> 00:30:59,211 for the time being? 569 00:31:00,087 --> 00:31:01,672 Anybody want to give it a try? 570 00:31:02,673 --> 00:31:05,509 I have a manager, but I really don't know what he does. 571 00:31:06,093 --> 00:31:07,928 I mean, I know what he's supposed to do. 572 00:31:08,512 --> 00:31:12,308 He's supposed to network with producers and directors and get me work. 573 00:31:12,933 --> 00:31:15,227 But I think he mostly just sells them cocaine. 574 00:31:15,311 --> 00:31:16,562 There's grief. 575 00:31:17,271 --> 00:31:18,981 Anybody want to do the exercise? 576 00:31:19,064 --> 00:31:20,649 You're lucky your guy slings dope. 577 00:31:20,733 --> 00:31:23,402 Mine's always trying to take pictures of me in his Jacuzzi. 578 00:31:23,485 --> 00:31:24,612 And we're back to anger. 579 00:31:24,695 --> 00:31:27,072 -Are you with Arnie Breedlove? -Yeah. 580 00:31:27,156 --> 00:31:29,783 Me too. He sells those, you know? You should get a commission. 581 00:31:29,867 --> 00:31:30,910 Oh, dear God. 582 00:31:30,993 --> 00:31:31,911 That fucker! 583 00:31:32,536 --> 00:31:33,829 I should just kill him. 584 00:31:33,913 --> 00:31:36,040 Drown him in his Jacuzzi. 585 00:31:36,123 --> 00:31:37,833 That would be poetry justice. 586 00:31:37,917 --> 00:31:38,834 [both laugh] 587 00:31:38,918 --> 00:31:42,129 Poetic. It's poetic justice. 588 00:31:42,212 --> 00:31:44,089 And let's not be killing anybody, hmm? 589 00:31:44,173 --> 00:31:47,009 -She'd make it look like an accident. -[Sandy] No, no. 590 00:31:47,092 --> 00:31:50,387 Look, I understand your frustration. I-- I have been there. 591 00:31:50,471 --> 00:31:53,599 And for what it's worth, I was planning on having a friend of mine 592 00:31:53,682 --> 00:31:55,893 come here to speak with you on this very subject. 593 00:31:55,976 --> 00:31:57,186 Is he an agent? 594 00:31:57,770 --> 00:31:58,729 He was an agent. 595 00:31:58,812 --> 00:32:00,773 -What is he now? -Dead. 596 00:32:00,856 --> 00:32:03,025 [clicks tongue] I can't catch a break. 597 00:32:03,108 --> 00:32:07,613 Okay, I promise we'll discuss the agent situation at a later date. 598 00:32:07,696 --> 00:32:10,616 But for now, acting exercises, 599 00:32:10,699 --> 00:32:13,077 freeing up suppressed emotions. Who wants to-- 600 00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:16,288 What happens when you feel something so deeply, 601 00:32:16,372 --> 00:32:18,874 so powerfully, you're afraid to express it? 602 00:32:19,458 --> 00:32:22,586 Feelings can't hurt you, Mindy. 603 00:32:22,670 --> 00:32:26,590 Sometimes it seems like they can, but the truth is they can't. 604 00:32:27,383 --> 00:32:30,803 -So there is nothing to be afraid of. -Good to know. 605 00:32:30,886 --> 00:32:31,887 [inhales deeply] 606 00:32:31,971 --> 00:32:34,306 Okay. Who wants to give it a go? 607 00:32:34,390 --> 00:32:36,225 -I will. -Okay, Jude! 608 00:32:38,394 --> 00:32:40,187 Okay, what emotion do you want to work with? 609 00:32:40,270 --> 00:32:42,356 Um… grief? 610 00:32:42,439 --> 00:32:43,565 Good choice. 611 00:32:45,776 --> 00:32:48,529 There's several techniques to help express grief. 612 00:32:48,612 --> 00:32:50,072 One of the simplest 613 00:32:50,155 --> 00:32:53,242 is to think about something that happened in your life that made you sad… 614 00:32:53,325 --> 00:32:54,159 Mmm. 615 00:32:54,243 --> 00:32:57,788 …and then you just let those feelings come out in your performance. 616 00:32:57,871 --> 00:33:00,124 Is there something that made you sad recently? 617 00:33:00,207 --> 00:33:02,126 You made your point, Mindy. Okay? 618 00:33:02,209 --> 00:33:03,043 Leave it alone! 619 00:33:05,421 --> 00:33:06,588 Jude, you wanna try? 620 00:33:06,672 --> 00:33:07,506 Yeah, sure. 621 00:33:09,508 --> 00:33:10,718 Whenever you're ready. 622 00:33:11,301 --> 00:33:13,429 [breathes deeply] 623 00:33:15,806 --> 00:33:16,932 [inhales deeply] 624 00:33:19,101 --> 00:33:20,477 [sighs sharply] 625 00:33:21,353 --> 00:33:22,813 [Sandy] Tell me what's happening. 626 00:33:22,896 --> 00:33:25,858 [quivering] I'm remembering a real sad thing. 627 00:33:27,526 --> 00:33:28,360 [Sandy] Okay. 628 00:33:28,902 --> 00:33:31,030 All right. Just stay with it. Stay with it. 629 00:33:31,989 --> 00:33:33,073 [crying] Oh, God. 630 00:33:34,116 --> 00:33:35,242 You're doing great. 631 00:33:35,325 --> 00:33:36,326 [crying] 632 00:33:36,910 --> 00:33:37,995 [sniffles] 633 00:33:38,078 --> 00:33:41,665 This is, like… it's really upsetting. 634 00:33:43,500 --> 00:33:45,627 Can you tell us what the memory is? 635 00:33:48,964 --> 00:33:52,509 I let Arnie Breedlove take pictures of me in his Jacuzzi. 636 00:33:52,593 --> 00:33:53,844 [sobbing] 637 00:33:53,927 --> 00:33:56,180 ["Zombie" by Fela Kuti playing] 638 00:34:02,895 --> 00:34:04,021 [music continues] 639 00:34:10,569 --> 00:34:12,488 Oh, Robbie, what are you doing? 640 00:34:12,988 --> 00:34:13,906 [knocking at door] 641 00:34:14,448 --> 00:34:15,282 [sighs] 642 00:34:16,075 --> 00:34:16,950 [grunts] 643 00:34:20,120 --> 00:34:21,288 Oh! Hi. 644 00:34:21,371 --> 00:34:23,665 I bought you new sheets, a blanket, and a duvet. 645 00:34:23,749 --> 00:34:25,209 You didn't have to do that. 646 00:34:25,292 --> 00:34:27,544 Yes, I did. Okay, goodbye. 647 00:34:27,628 --> 00:34:28,712 Uh, wait, wait. 648 00:34:29,213 --> 00:34:31,840 Don't you want to, you know, hang out? 649 00:34:34,176 --> 00:34:37,012 First time I thank you for finding him is free. 650 00:34:37,679 --> 00:34:38,514 [inhales] 651 00:34:38,597 --> 00:34:40,057 Second time is $2,000. 652 00:34:41,350 --> 00:34:42,184 Oh. 653 00:34:42,684 --> 00:34:44,770 Of course, you know, that's fine. 654 00:34:44,853 --> 00:34:47,314 [inhales] Uh, let me just, uh… 655 00:34:47,397 --> 00:34:48,482 Oh! [grunts] 656 00:34:50,442 --> 00:34:51,360 [exhales] 657 00:34:54,071 --> 00:34:55,114 Goodbye, Irving. 658 00:34:55,697 --> 00:34:57,533 -[whimpers] -I'm gonna miss you. 659 00:35:03,038 --> 00:35:03,872 Bye. 660 00:35:04,373 --> 00:35:06,291 -[footsteps receding] -Come on, Irving. 661 00:35:06,834 --> 00:35:07,668 [sighs] 662 00:35:08,168 --> 00:35:09,002 Bye-bye. 663 00:35:12,047 --> 00:35:13,006 Two grand? 664 00:35:13,090 --> 00:35:14,049 Holy shit! 665 00:35:14,133 --> 00:35:15,551 ["Zombie" continues playing]